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Dealing with Depression: mom's depression, mental health evaluation, chemical imbalance in the brain
mental health evaluation, chemical imbalance in the brain, nervous breakdowns: Your mom has never resolved what happened to her as a child and this has been an overwhelming influence on her life. She probably should have been in therapy ages ago and on medication. Therapy is far more important. I highly doubt that she has ever gone...

Dealing with Depression: mood changes, dr ivan goldberg, manic bipolar
dr ivan goldberg, manic bipolar, winter depression: Hi Lindsay: Sounds like you may have depression. Do you notice if it is worse in the winter time? Think back that past couple of winters and summers. Felt good in summer and slumped in the winter? Also with your parents separating that can add an emotional...

Dealing with Depression: My mother is very depressed, personal hygiene, tv cook
personal hygiene, tv cook, horror show: Oh, I wish I had know that she has no transportation. That is going to be very, very hard on her. I have a friend who bacame very ill and had no choice but to stop driving. He became unbelievably depressed because he felt that he had lost his freedom. ...

Dealing with Depression: mother's depression, guilt trip, suicide threats
guilt trip, suicide threats, bad habit: Erin, you cannot let your mother run your life. I applaude you for doing what you are doing. Your mother is ill. She isn t sane and you cannot give into her fantasies about what you are doing or what you aren t doing to help her. An ex boyfriend of mine...

Dealing with Depression: no motivation, depression, long periods of time, lifestyle habits
long periods of time, lifestyle habits, real friends: AJ, Depression alone can cause and be a symptom of your motivation. But you’re right; there also could be an issue like ADD or ADHD. However, you’d need to see a doctor to determine either of these claims. Medication would be administered and you’d...

Dealing with Depression: "Natural" mix potential side effects ?, natural cures for depression, l tyrosine
natural cures for depression, l tyrosine, 5 htp: Hi John, You are asking the kind of questions that should be asked to a therapist who is familiar with the particular circumstances of your case. All of us have an individual biochemistry. Although most herbal supplements are compatible with one another,...

Dealing with Depression: Need all of the advice you can give., dallas texas area, great feelings
dallas texas area, great feelings, free experts: Sorry - should have said you can locate local NAMI at www.nami.org If you should write again, I have a couple other questions. One is whether you have any limitations on activity - any disability or physical illesses? The other has to do w/ your isolation...

Dealing with Depression: Need your advice, self help books, thinking thoughts
self help books, thinking thoughts, thougts: Depression comes in waves. About the time you think you have it under control, something happens and you start to go down. There are many things that set off depression and the most common is stress. You are about to enter into one of the most stressful...

Dealing with Depression: Need your Help, self help books, sexual side effects
self help books, sexual side effects, thinking thoughts: I m very sorry that your depression has returned. People are usually advised to go on taking medicine for two years or longer AFTER the medicine has started working and they feel good. I think you are telling me that you were perhaps on your third medicine...

Dealing with Depression: Need your Help, medication, 3 years
medication, 3 years, miracle: It took three years to find the right medication but I took medication along with doing therapy. I have been stable for over 7 years. I know that without the medication I would be depressed and suicidal. I know that without the therapy I would not cope...

Dealing with Depression: Need Help, negative person, financial trouble
negative person, financial trouble, good person: Hi Kevin: Wow, you have a lot going on and you are really down. First of all, it sounds like depression going on besides other things. Since you are in school, can you check into the student health to get assessed for depression and possibly get you on...

Dealing with Depression: Need your Help, sexual side effects, anti depressants
sexual side effects, anti depressants, further study: What happens if you don t get to go to London to continue your studies? After what happened today with the bombings it is going to be harder for people from outside of the country to get visa s. Next, you can fight the meds all you want but if you are...

Dealing with Depression: Need your help again, depession, kind advice
depession, kind advice, sexual relationship: Marriage is very stressful. You are making life changing decision on your future. You are also now responsible for another person. You are now making decisions for two and not for yourself. The first few months of a marriage are critical as far as...

Dealing with Depression: Need help, Not myself anymore., logical idea, treatable illness
logical idea, treatable illness, psychological help: Yes, this has been described in chemical imbalances and depression can cause all of these symptoms as can disorders and illnesses associated with depression. However, have you been to your medical doctor? Have they ruled out any neurological issues, diseases,...

Dealing with Depression: Need help with a breakup..., low self esteem, girl 6
low self esteem, girl 6, moral issues: Hello Pauline, I can quite understand how you feel. Behind these dreadful feelings of jealousy is a very low self-esteem. The origin of a low self- esteem can be explained when you study Transactional Analysis, which is a big word for a simple idea....

Dealing with Depression: Need your help, self help books, consultant psychiatrist
self help books, consultant psychiatrist, improving self esteem: Hi Jay, Sorry for the delay but my computer died and I m now using the one at the library. You are right in that meds and the self help material out there doesn t work as neither are dealing with the REAL issues. The REAL issues regaring emotional...

Dealing with Depression: Negative Thoughts, dr ivan goldberg, symptoms of depression
dr ivan goldberg, symptoms of depression, depression central: Hi Marc: You do seem to be experiencing symptoms of depression. Depression can take away your mastership of your universe. Depression takes away motivation for life, it is difficult to concentrate, to enjoy things, etc. Go to the website of Dr. Ivan Goldberg...

Dealing with Depression: Normal sense and thinking back..., nothing but a lack, trauma movie
nothing but a lack, trauma movie, lack of confidence: dear luthling..., hello..! it s really nice that u r encouraged...,i m happy.. Always remember one thing:the world will let u down if u give them the chance to do it... you r a sincere girl..why r you ever choosing a bad & wrong person to...

Dealing with Depression: Normal, spare minutes, wasting my time
spare minutes, wasting my time, poeple: First, you re not wasting my time. If I thought I could find a better use of a few spare minutes a day than helping others, I wouldn t be on AllExperts, now would I? :) Yes, relapse is quite common. I suggest talking to your doctor, but that s the only...

Dealing with Depression: Nutritional Relief, seasonal affective disorder, independent research project
seasonal affective disorder, independent research project, sad patients: Hi Lauren: Study up on the symptoms of SAD. One is weight gain DUE to craving carbohydrates in the winter months. If you administer a carbohydrate rich diet the results will be weight gain and it does not lessen the effects of SAD because SAD patients...

Dealing with Depression: Nutritional Relief, glucose metabolism, seasonal affective disorder
glucose metabolism, seasonal affective disorder, independent research project: Most depressive disorders are affected by glucose metabolism. It is wise to adopt a low carbohydrate, high protein, plus vitamins and minerals, such as the Hypoglycemic diet (Search our web site). Sunlight therapy also helps There is also an interesting...

Dealing with Depression: I need advice, athletic scholarship, semister
athletic scholarship, semister, major depression: If you want my opinion, go home. There is a certain amount of security in going home. And that will help you feel better. Secondly, you may need to consult a new doctor and try some different meds to deal with your depression. If you are at the point of...

Dealing with Depression: I need guidance, jeprody, trust issues
jeprody, trust issues, different city: Geesh, why would you want crumbs when you can have the whole cake? This is not the right relationship for you. There are too many issues including the fact that she could end up bi and you would spend a lifetime being hurt by her. Or she could end up pregnant...

Dealing with Depression: I need help, all scars, beatings
all scars, beatings, love life: Hi Dasy You say with all scars all over my heart, nobody can touch me cuz i m so scared and hurt, and i can touch nobody too. Yes you have scars on your heart, some put there by others and some by you. You are still looking for others to give you the...

Dealing with Depression: i need help.., time isnt, angry at the world
time isnt, angry at the world, fasts: If depression was so easy to get over, I would not have been on medication for so many years. Time to talk to a school counselor and get to a psychiatrist and get sme medication. You are in the middle of major depression and like all of us with major depression,...

Dealing with Depression: i need help, sliding scales, local churches
sliding scales, local churches, genetic disease: Megan, To me… it sounds like a bit more than depression. There are alternatives to people that can not afford counseling, because, you can not “just deal” with depression alone without professionals and proper care. If you were willing to tell me...

Dealing with Depression: need help dealing with accident, self hatred, feelings of guilt
self hatred, feelings of guilt, there are no coincidences: Hi Tina, There are no coincidences and your step-son chose his transition for whatever reason he had and also to assist you in releasing your feelings of guilt and healing your self-hatred and blame at the loss of what appears to be an innocent soul. This...

Dealing with Depression: i need help with my depression!, personal healing, simple answer
personal healing, simple answer, emotions: Hi Grace, Simple question.. No simple answer. Depression is general word used to describe something that is bothering you that you feel powerless to resolve... In order to heal this or any issue for that matter, you need to be specific and I mean specific...

Dealing with Depression: I need your help plz, self help books, consultant psychiatrist
self help books, consultant psychiatrist, improving self esteem: Hi Jay, That s the problem with meds. They often do not work without the right therapy or therapist. I know that it s frustrating. But, reading the self books did what, what did you learn, thing is what you read is still there, if you found comfort, go...

Dealing with Depression: I need your help..., signs of depression, depression screening
signs of depression, depression screening, symptoms of depression: Gina- It really does sound to me like you re suffering from depression. Things like a death in the family can certainly trigger mental issues such as anxiety or depression. I would suggest looking around online at depression screening sites (try searching...

Dealing with Depression: I need a home, safer side, inconvenience
safer side, inconvenience, honour: Sarah, I wish that I could shelter you. Give you the love and respect you need and deserve. That I could give you the life you long for and the safety that comes with it. It is my wish that you can muster up all the strength you have to get through what...

Dealing with Depression: A need to know..., beck depression inventory, bike shed
beck depression inventory, bike shed, deep emotions: Dear Beth, I am not sure what I going on, but my best advice is to see a doctor, and perhaps be referred to a psychiatrist. I could also recommend that you go on a hypoglycemic diet, as people with mental illness benefit from this diet. But in your...

Dealing with Depression: I need to know what to do., mild depression, thyroid problems
mild depression, thyroid problems, mental illnesses: Start with your family practitioner and have a complete physical. Low or high blood sugar and thyroid problems immitate some of the symptoms of depression. So you need to eliminate those as possible reasons for why you are feeling bad. If everything comes...

Dealing with Depression: i need ur help...., glucose tolerance test, traumatic stress disorder
glucose tolerance test, traumatic stress disorder, signs of depression: dear Gina, That must be awful for you to feel that way. What probably happened is that when you grandmother died, you grieved and was depressed. In grieving or moments of trauma, the body stops producing the happy chemical (neurotransmitter) serotonin,...

Dealing with Depression: nightwork, nervous person, restlessness
nervous person, restlessness, processing time: Thomas, It could be the nightwork, or it may be something in your childhood that s coming back now. Either way one needs down time, processing time to help with these thoughts. My fear is what if you stop working nights, and it stays with you. Can your...

Dealing with Depression: Is this normal?, severe anxiety, lissa
severe anxiety, lissa, good luck: Hey Samantha - Freaking out about dying and being preoccupied with thoughts of death is totally normal . . . if you have anxiety or depression. The average human being fears death, of course, but when all you can do is worry about death, this becomes a...

Dealing with Depression: normal dosage, medications, wellness
medications, wellness: Linda, It was unclear what you were/are taking. But, the amount or dosage of medications depends greatly on the person and the condition being treated. Often times it takes several tries before you find the right fit. You’ll know when you’ve found that...

Dealing with Depression: Is this normal???, girlfriend emily, freshmen year
girlfriend emily, freshmen year, terrible feeling: Hi David - First, examine your reasons for being distraught about being alone. Are you bored? Do you have interests, other friends; how is your family life? If Emily is the only person you hang out with, then it s completely understandable that you...

Dealing with Depression: OCD, cutting, and depression, school psychologist, arent
school psychologist, arent, taking the time: Carly, As for telling your friend. She s sensing something. So I guess the best way is to just say it The hard things are always hard to say. Even with the perfect words it s still going to be hard to say. I think that talking with a school psychologist,...

Dealing with Depression: OCD therapy, inventory questionnaire, serotonin connection
inventory questionnaire, serotonin connection, insulin resistance: Hi Gustav, I am a nutritional psychologist and I feel that any question in regard to medication should be addressed to the prescribing doctor. But I believe the medication prescribed is for depression and OCD is a form of depression. My approach...

Dealing with Depression: Office man, nice spa, mud bath
nice spa, mud bath, concered: I think that was a wonderful gesture. You told him that he was important to all of you and that he is special. I think that you did something that most people would not have done. I am sure he will enjoy it. Pampering is something that most men don...

Dealing with Depression: How to Overcome the lack of will to move on, religious preference, nobodys fault
religious preference, nobodys fault, angel baby: Hi Dina: You have been through so much, loosing your baby is a terribly hard situation to adjust to. With time you will carry on but the first year is the hardest. Have you talked to your doctor about temporary antidepressants? They are not addictive...

Dealing with Depression: Overcoming depression, signs of depression, overcoming depression
signs of depression, overcoming depression, zoloft: Hey Sara, You are absolutely right. Some people find that it is best that they continue their medication for a few months longer in order to see lasting results. We monitor several patients after they have discontinued medication, and I have found that...

Dealing with Depression: online counseling, bulimics, dependency problem
bulimics, dependency problem, antianxiety: Hi Cathy: You do need face2face therapy since you are dealing with so much. I do do online counseling through Mytherapynet.com and they charge by the minute. If interested you would have to sign up and for a therapist you can type in my name: Patricia A....

Dealing with Depression: PAXIL, good answer, paxil
good answer, paxil, weight gain: Terribly sorry this answer is late, and not a very good answer. I am referring you to www.rxlist.com It will show FDA trial results - how many gained wgt, how many dropped out because of wgt gain. I simply don t hear often enough about side effects...

Dealing with Depression: Panic attacks and glycerine, anxiety panic attack, insulin secretion
anxiety panic attack, insulin secretion, stress hormones: Hello Shane, Here in Australia you can buy edible glycerine from a pharmacy. It is best to order one litre. If you go to our web site and search for GLYCERINE and you ll find some google ads for glycerine I believe. Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych),...

Dealing with Depression: Partner Depression, feeling unloved, suffering from depression
feeling unloved, suffering from depression, two and a half years: Hi Jim, Your girl friends depression goes back to her childhood in that she has issues of abandonment, loss and feeling unloved. Her marriage that ended five years ago activated that issue... and although the divorce was relatively swift.. that too was...

Dealing with Depression: Partner depression, recuperation period, jim dear
recuperation period, jim dear, suffering from depression: Dear Jim, At this stage of her condition it is not important that she is indifferent towards you but that she needs some Professional Medical help if she has hought about suicide. Then if and when the depression is eased you can then question your relationship...

Dealing with Depression: Partner depression, recuperation period, suffering from depression
recuperation period, suffering from depression, two and a half years: Hi Jim: Depression actually takes life away from people. It is common not to want to go out socially or even leave the house depending upon how badly the depression is. She sounds like she is getting worse and if untreated, it could lead from the thoughts...

Dealing with Depression: Partner depression, recuperation period, anger issues
recuperation period, anger issues, good drugs: Jim, I agree that most of the problems you are experiencing in your relationship are associated with her depression. What makes it even worse is she doesn t have to feel that way. There are all sorts of good medications out there that will help her. What...

Dealing with Depression: Partner depression, suffering from depression, two and a half years
suffering from depression, two and a half years, history of depression: Dear Jim, Thanks for the answer. Your partner s problem is nothing but INSECURITY..that results in change in behavior and often in depression.. So I can suggest you some tips what make you both comfortable.. These are the general things in...

Dealing with Depression: Passive Agressive Ex boyfriend still has hostility, passive agressive, unattractive woman
passive agressive, unattractive woman, man book: Hello Carol;, It is very difficult to give advice in your complex relationships from a distance. I suggest strongly that you get into a counselling relationship with a professional, because then it is possible to know all the details. If you suffering...

Dealing with Depression: Paxil, best bet, trazodone
best bet, trazodone, paxil: Your best bet: tell/ask the prescribing doctor. That s what s/he s there for: to diagnose and prescribe, but also to take questions about changes in the patient or his symptoms, especially when a dosage or medicine has recently been changed. Please do contact...

Dealing with Depression: Getting of Paxil & boyfriend Problems, boyfriend problems, social anxiety
boyfriend problems, social anxiety, internal debate: Marguerite, I am wondering if there’s not more to this that social anxiety. Are you in counseling? It wasn’t clear; did they take you off the Paxil or just reduce the dose? Did they give you something else to replace the Paxil? Not all medications work...

Dealing with Depression: Paxil, mental health center, community mental health center
mental health center, community mental health center, family support group: I am guessing that the family doc put her on the Paxil. Your daughter needs to be seen by a psychiatrist for evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment. It s possible she has a different or a second diagnosis - at any rate, she needs expert help in choosing...

Dealing with Depression: Persistent depression from a bad experience, persistent depression, phd supervisor
persistent depression, phd supervisor, symptoms of depression: I had the same experience but I was in a work enviroment and my boss broke me. I was doing exactly the same things that you are doing. Crying, sleeping all the time, and I was totally out of control. First of all, although you feel like you have failed,...

Dealing with Depression: Please help me understand?, cardboard man, rehab place
cardboard man, rehab place, mg dose: Debbie, I am concerned that you are with him, if you are having these sorts of feelings. Maybe for the better OF YOU and YOUR children, you should cut ties. I do not know if what he is going through is PARTLY his need to be cared for, but, it would...

Dealing with Depression: Please help me understand?, cardboard man, understanding depression
cardboard man, understanding depression, rehab place: Hello Debbie, Yes depression is very difficult to understand by people who have never been depressed. Even therapists have sometimes difficulties understanding depression. Of course the major symptoms is not being able to be happy regardless of the happy...

Dealing with Depression: Please help me understand?, cardboard man, rehab place
cardboard man, rehab place, mg dose: Debbie, you cannot live in this sort of situation and depression is a very wicked illness. People who suffer from depression push away the people they love. They are cruel, mean and they have no sense of what is really going on. Having said that dump...

Dealing with Depression: Pleasee advice, partial solution, porn link
partial solution, porn link, girl friends: Hi Jon, Your question didn t hurt or offend me... If your question had been about that porn website... then yes, a link might have been necessary, but it wasn t about the site.... but about you and your actions... You can t give what you don t have.......

Dealing with Depression: PMS, welbutrin, mood swings
welbutrin, mood swings, antidepressants: PMS pulls more Seratonin than you do during the rest of the month. Therefore it makes sense that when you are PMS that you are unable to cope. The Welbutrin get you through on a day to day basis but when you body is demanding more Seratonin, it can t meet...

Dealing with Depression: Possible Depression, self esteem issues, successful relationships
self esteem issues, successful relationships, critical states: Daniel, This sounds more like self esteem issues. Yes, depression is playing its role here. I strongly recommend that you seek counseling. It doesn’t have to be this miserable. You can work through these feelings and these fears and you can have the...

Dealing with Depression: Possible depression ending a relationship?, relationship question, having a great time
relationship question, having a great time, ending a relationship: Chrissy, My experiences have lead to, me always going back, others always staying away. I think that part of this is because pride comes into play. I think that it’s difficult for some people to go back when they’ve realized that they were wrong, and they...

Dealing with Depression: Post-Partum, post partum, thanks a bunch
post partum, thanks a bunch, psychiatrist: i HAVE DEFINATELY BEEN IN YOUR SHOES, AND THE ONLY THING I CAN REALLY SAY IS THAT IF YOU HANG IN THERE AND TRY TO LOOK AT THE OTHER THINGS IN YOUR LIFE THAT ARE MAKING YOU UNHAPPY, IT WILL START GETTING BETTER. YOUR FEELINGS ARE NOT REALLY ABOUT YOUR CHILD,...

Dealing with Depression: Postpartum Depression, post partum depression, self medicate
post partum depression, self medicate, extreme sadness: Depression can make (or cause) anyone to do anything at certain levels. Weather or not she had situational depression caused by moving, ect. I really would have no idea. Some people self-medicate with alchol, over eating, shopping, etc. As far as affairs...

Dealing with Depression: PPD, wet diapers, fustration
wet diapers, fustration, small steps: It is no problem! I certainly know how you feel. It can be very overwhelming, and difficult, and emotional at times. Just keep trying your best. Maybe make one small goal like... I am going to take him to the park once this week, and spend 20 minutes with...

Dealing with Depression: Prengant and very depress, hormone changes, adult conversation
hormone changes, adult conversation, time mother: Hormone changes can cause a sense of sadness. Don t give up your friends because you are having kids. You need them in your life. It s going to be different because most of them will not have children but your friends are essential. Women do better when...

Dealing with Depression: Prozac & weight loss, insulin resistance, hypoglycemic diet
insulin resistance, hypoglycemic diet, grad dip: I really think this should be discussed with your doctor. Antidepressant medication may interfere with the natural production of serotonin, which is also involved with appetite. I would discuss with your doctor the possibility to be treated by natural nutritional...

Dealing with Depression: Prozac and?, major depression, acceptable agreement
major depression, acceptable agreement, anti depressants: I m not the, or a, doctor either. Why does s/he want to add a med? Have symptoms changed, or depression worsened? It certainly isn t uncommon for pts w/ depression to be on more than one med....but honestly I m not sure whether both [if there were 2 meds]...

Dealing with Depression: as a parent of a teen w/depression....what should I expect?, side effects of depression, time and patience
side effects of depression, time and patience, downward spiral: Kathy, First and foremost, please understand that medicine alone will not be enough. He will need the therapy to also help with getting through the depression. Thing with side effects, they tend to be close in the actual side effects of depression....

Dealing with Depression: My partner gets depressive, frustrated and angry, bump in the road, frozen bread
bump in the road, frozen bread, anti depressants: Hi Erica, Wow! there is a lot going on. For starters, I m going to break this down into two main areas and that is.... you and your partner... I can t help your partner and neither can you as only he can help himself... and he needs to see and...

Dealing with Depression: physical side effects, battling depression, leaking toilet
battling depression, leaking toilet, early menopause: Hi Tammy, Lets get two things straight right from the start... 1) You haven t been battling depression for about a month... you have had it all your life... you are now only beginning to notice it. 2) Your hot flashes and nausea problems are related...

Dealing with Depression: physical symptoms with depression, physical symptoms of depression, symptoms of depression
physical symptoms of depression, symptoms of depression, mental health problems: Have you had your thyroid checked as well as your blood sugar? These have similar symptoms that you are describing. Yes, people do have physical symptoms that go with depression. I had headaches and diarrhea. Some people have stomach problems. Being...

Dealing with Depression: Can physical symptoms come from depression?, stomach pains, cchr
stomach pains, cchr, dianetics: Yes the mind has the capability to change the body consciously or unconsciously. She can get rid of the problem easily and with little fuss. Just do a little dianetics with her. Set her down and do as the it is stated in the book and the problem will dissapear....

Dealing with Depression: please explain, mental health worker, st john s wort
mental health worker, st john s wort, old friendships: Hello Dominic, Yes, it does sound like you are depressed. Stop the drug use, it will make things much worse. Get busy exercising, it is the single most important thing you can do for your mood. Get at least 20 minutes of aerobic exercise (running, biking,...

Dealing with Depression: please help, one of those guys, best girl
one of those guys, best girl, einsteins: Hello, Dont Worry....He is upset because of something.. Something really upsets him.. and you should find out why he is upset it could be that he dont know what to do.. Although he is smart, but sometimes, one feels to do something special and one is...

Dealing with Depression: please help, panic and anxiety, dreadful disease
panic and anxiety, dreadful disease, right before my eyes: Marj, Comfort* i hear your fears. Your anxiety seems to be taking over your life. Medication as much a i dislike it, may help to relax you. I think that you have to realize, that we all have to get older. It s better than the alternative. I think that...

Dealing with Depression: please help me, chill pill, pree
chill pill, pree, two families: Assalam o Alaikom Farhan,. I could understand your problem.. I know how bad it looks when someone you are so closed to doesnt pay any attention to you and you feel as if he or she is ignoring you.. I know its bad.. But you know sometimes life has to go...

Dealing with Depression: please help me!, school counsellor, stomach problems
school counsellor, stomach problems, partner projects: I have gone through what you are going through. I went to three different high schools and and it is nothing less than stress central. I hated my senior year and as a result I started having stomach problems. I didn t realize then that it was the begining...

Dealing with Depression: please help me!, cutting wrists, adolescent psychiatrist
cutting wrists, adolescent psychiatrist, anxiety problem: H Lauren: What you are suffering from is depression and for many it gets worse usually in Dec and Jan. You do need to get treatment because you will get worse. Once you have a doctor that understands your feelings you will start to feel lighter . Also,...

Dealing with Depression: can you please help me??, electronic consumer goods, ur throat
electronic consumer goods, ur throat, bachelors degree: Hi, As long as you are wanting to go in the direction you are, there is nothing that I or anyone can really do to help you help yourself... You haven t spoken to your family that hates you for three years and when you took the drugs.. you started to see...

Dealing with Depression: please help, anger issues, lil advice
anger issues, lil advice, family doctor: Sarah, You said you are in college, is it possible to go to the college and see if they offer on site counseling? Many colleges also have clinics, maybe they can help you with medication too? It seems that you need a little extra help right now. In...

Dealing with Depression: please help, suicidal feelings, manic depression
suicidal feelings, manic depression, things computers: Dear Jen, In my personal opinion, I think he does suffer from depression, and with the suicidal feelings also this could be a more severe version e.g. manic depression but a person cannot tell without diagnosis from a psychiatrist. It is amazing that...

Dealing with Depression: pms, pms problems, hypoglycemic diet
pms problems, hypoglycemic diet, google: Hi Padma, Usually we have to ,look at general health to treat PMS problems. The first step is going going on a hypoglycemic diet. What is Hypoglycemia at: http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/what_is_hypo.html Also read: Premenstrual Tension,...

Dealing with Depression: politicians/leaders dealing with depression, dealing with depression, nutritional medicine
dealing with depression, nutritional medicine, leadership positions: Well there are examples of politicians who were depressed. The name that springs to mind is Churchill, (who was struggling with his black dog ) and there are many others as well as several comediens and writers. I myself suffered from depression and iatrogenic...

Dealing with Depression: possessive, co dependency, illnesses
co dependency, illnesses, stems: Meghala, Usually, Possessiveness stems from other illnesses and disorders. Are you aware of any others that you may have? By treating all of them, you ll help with the possessiveness as well. A lot of times possessiveness is also, almost parented with...

Dealing with Depression: my possible depression, girls age, 2 girls
girls age, 2 girls, day job: I think she s doing a great job of taking advantage of you. And her kids are out of control. She isn t exactly parenting them either. I highly doubt it s depression. You would know if it was. I honestly believe that this relationship sounds like it...

Dealing with Depression: possible depression, guidance counselor, school counselor
guidance counselor, school counselor, family practitioner: Get an appointment with a family practitioner. Cutting, depression and lack of an appetite are all symptoms of something much worse. If your mother will not help you, confide in a guidance counselor or a teacher. What you are experiencing is not normal...

Dealing with Depression: post surgical depression, visiting nurses, money problems
visiting nurses, money problems, surgury: Hi Jamie, Well, Yes, it could be post surgical depression. She probably isn t use to having to rely on others, and she probably senses tension and worry. Usually this passes within a month of surgery, and if it doesn t she at that point may need to talk...

Dealing with Depression: post surgical depression, new lease on life, peace and strength
new lease on life, peace and strength, cancer of the lung: Well, hard as it is now, he for whatever reason, needs this distance. can you handle that? You nearly lost him, can you love him enough, to stay even in a break? He ll get through this. Right now, it sounds like you have your own things to heal. Take this...

Dealing with Depression: postpartum depression and fathers, post partum depression, regional men
post partum depression, regional men, hot line: Post Partum depression affects men very seriously. Because the mothers of these babies are so sick, often times the men find themselves caring not only for a newborn but their wife (partner) as well. It s a very difficult time when the wife is leaning heavily...

Dealing with Depression: i am pregant, night mares, pregnant mother
night mares, pregnant mother, bad stuff: What you are experiencing is very common. Talk to your ob/gyn about your dreams. It would also help you to find a chat group or a board for other pregnant mother s to be. I think that you will find a great deal of support and understanding. You might want...

Dealing with Depression: pregnant again, money money, baby steps
money money, baby steps, half year: Just a note, if you aren t ready, then start taking baby steps. Start hording money. Money is power. Stay until after the baby is born. Then join a support group. Any women s group will do. You need somewhere that you can go and talk to other s who are...

Dealing with Depression: problems, beautifull eyes, quiet kid
beautifull eyes, quiet kid, muscular man: Hi Sergio: Being 16 is tough - those high school years are VERY tough and that is when many people are the most sensitive to EVERYTHING in life. You will get through it, but we have to help you get through it a little easier. First of all, your parents...

Dealing with Depression: What product should i try?, st johns wart, st johns wort
st johns wart, st johns wort, paxil cr: Hi Israel: St. Johns Wort is very popular in Germany and other European countries and has gained some popularity here. Research has shown that it is good for mild depression. However, your doctor needs to know if you are interested in taking it and get...

Dealing with Depression: psychological decompression, comitted suicide, anxiety and depression
comitted suicide, anxiety and depression, hypoglycemic diet: Dear Chuck Sholder, I don t know what is meant by psychological decompression and it is best to ask for an explanation from the doctor treating you. The anxiety and depression may be unrelated to Barret s esophagus. It is is possible to have these...

Dealing with Depression: psychotic depression, psychotic depression, extreme depression
psychotic depression, extreme depression, brain chemistry: Hi John: I am so glad prozac is helping you. Everyone s brain chemistry is different and sometimes it takes people a year or more to get on the right medication. BE glad it has worked for you. Genetically, sounds like brain chemistry probems are inherited...

Dealing with Depression: He's pushing me away, credit card debt, out of the blue
credit card debt, out of the blue, space time: Hi Michelle, Sounds to me like you are not the best friends you make yourselves out to be or you wouldn t be writing me. Remember... it takes two be to friends and both need to be open and honest if there is going to be any sort of relationship... ...

Dealing with Depression: He is pushing me away!, soul search, random thoughts
soul search, random thoughts, taking time: G, If you want the relationship to last, respect him and give him the time away. The more you fight this. The more of an issue it will be. If it hurts you that’s all the more reason for you to get counseling, it’s possible for this relationship to heal....

Dealing with Depression: Question, treating depression, paxil
treating depression, paxil, medications: You call your doctor and complain about how you are feeling. Paxil is only one of many drugs that are used to treat depression. Treating depression is not a science. It is a matter of trying drug after drug until you get the right one and the right dosage....

Dealing with Depression: Question, last thing at night, decent money
last thing at night, decent money, terrible feeling: Hi Elle: You are going through situational depression. In other words, a situation happened to you and you have feel let down, depressed. In fact, when one loses a job, there is a grieving process to because what was, is not longer. You need time to...

Dealing with Depression: Questions about antidepressants, frequent urination, loss of sleep
frequent urination, loss of sleep, body chemistry: The only side effect that it would have that you have mentioned is loss of sleep. The others are not mentioned as common side effects of the Lexapro. However, that doesn t mean that with your body chemistry this might not be true. Most side effects do...

Dealing with Depression: question about Zoloft, family doc, negative consequences
family doc, negative consequences, routine visit: With this medication, in the circumstances you describe, stopping all at once will probably not have negative consequences. I am reading between the lines to assume that she was neither bed-bound nor suicidal. Most antidepressants take 3-4 weeks, or longer,...

Dealing with Depression: question about Zoloft, information on zoloft, supportive family
information on zoloft, supportive family, maximum effect: Dear June - It is totally bad to just stop an SSRI like Zoloft or Prozac; especially after only 2-3 weeks. Most SSRIs take up to six weeks to reach maximum effect. If she s refusing to get help, the most you can do, unfortunately, is be a good daughter...

Dealing with Depression: question., dr ivan goldberg, school counselor
dr ivan goldberg, school counselor, fake smile: Hi Sarah: I have a couple of ideas for you since your parents have not made a doctor s appointment for you. First, type in: Dr. Ivan Goldberg and go to his web site regarding depression. There is lots of information. Scroll down to Screening for Depressive...

Dealing with Depression: questions about antidepressants, urinary track infection, frequent urination
urinary track infection, frequent urination, bad hope: Hi Jennifer: Read the label, or look it up on the internet the side effects of lexapro. If the constipation and urination are side effects, they will go away. If not, you may have a urinary track infection and may want to see the doctor. For the constitation...

Dealing with Depression: questions about antidepressants, frequent urination, antidepressant
frequent urination, antidepressant, lexapro: Jennifer, Constipation and the urinary issues, may or may not go away with your body adjusting to the meds . However, in many cases the symptoms and side effects lessen. If you still have problems, in about two weeks check with your doctor. Good Luck,...

Dealing with Depression: quit a sport, psychotherapy course, assertiveness training
psychotherapy course, assertiveness training, conflict situations: Hello luke, I don t know your age, but it seems that you are at an age where your desires are still controlled by other people (ie., parents). Perhaps you could benefit from doing a course in Assertiveness training, teaching you how to be assertive without...

Dealing with Depression: Re:, wickedness, earthquack
wickedness, earthquack, wild waves: Simon, I m not respomsible for what YOU think, feel or do anymore than you are responsible for what I think, feel or do. If you think you can lay a guilt trip on me to make me feel sorry for you, you re talking to the wrong guy. This is the last time I...

Dealing with Depression: Re. getting my life back together, sister mom, suicide attempts
sister mom, suicide attempts, brady bunch: Hello Niamh, Well no doubt you will think that it is all a question of mind over matter , but being a nutritional psychologist I see depression in a different light. Depression is primarily a metabolic disorder caused by hypoglycemia. Hypoglycemia is...

Dealing with Depression: Re:, discrete questions, horse to water
discrete questions, horse to water, waste of my time: Hi Simon, I ve already told you my answer in my first reply to your same question. You like to talk but, you do no listen. You don t listen to me or to the others that you have talked to and have tried to help you. You only listen to yourself and yet you...

Dealing with Depression: Ruining my marriage, mood swings, national alliance
mood swings, national alliance, helplessness: You are not alone. First of all you need to be seeing a psychiatrist and you should be on meds for depression. There are tons of new ones out there and there will be one that will work for you. If you feel alone, contact the base chaplain and ask for...

Dealing with Depression: I have read you now,and hello again,, astral planes, momentary relief
astral planes, momentary relief, simple self: Hi Claudia, Well I must say that this e-mail is totally opposite your first one... as in this one, I feel a feeling of aloofness, coldness and intellectual indifference. In the first email... while you didn t know the how-to connect the pieces, you...

Dealing with Depression: Can you really get better?, letters to my husband, suicide letters
letters to my husband, suicide letters, change doctors: Depression is the sort of illness that takes everything from you. I can t beging to say how much I feel for anyone who is suffering as I have suffered. And the worst part is that it s always there. Even though I am pretty stable, it does take over from...

Dealing with Depression: Can they be right?, loss of appetite, resistant case
loss of appetite, resistant case, anti depressants: Dear Jeannine- I TOTALLY understand about you and your Mom being driven nuts by your Nana. When my Grandma got sick with depression/anxiety, she came to live with US . . . and she drove us ABSOLUTELY crazy! As much as I loved her, I was (and I feel...

Dealing with Depression: Sad, human hair wigs, great personality
human hair wigs, great personality, longer hair: Johnny, Actually, women like confidence. How can you over come these fears? It’s not always about the looks, and it sounds like you have a great personality and its good that you care for your mom and siblings. Yes, some men have longer hair, and...

Dealing with Depression: Sad or Depressed, full blown aids, psychiatric nurse
full blown aids, psychiatric nurse, sadness and depression: You should go get tested if you think you might be HIV positive. It is a simple blood test and you would know right away if you were in full blown AIDS or even if you were HIV. If you have had unprotected sex you should be tested. It will give you some...

Dealing with Depression: Sadness, clinical depression, chemical imbalance
clinical depression, chemical imbalance, exchange student: Allen, It’s common for teens to feel some depression. Clinical depression is depression that lasts for two weeks or more. Also, sometimes depression can be more of a chemical imbalance than it is an issue of “issues”. When you are sad, are you aware...

Dealing with Depression: Sara, how do you keep it up, good dogs, personal 1
good dogs, personal 1, bipolar: I have never written down the story. Some of it is very personal and with some of it you really have to have experienced depression and mania to understand how it affects your life. I am stable which is why I am able to work. I have times when things...

Dealing with Depression: A Secret, that is Constant Depression for me., bad habbit, best doctors
bad habbit, best doctors, brilliant student: Jules, I am so very sorry. You ve been with this pain 5 years. Jules, it s time to forgive yourself. There is no evidence that your lies killed your father. He had a medical condition, and you didn t know. You couldn t have saved him you have to believe...

Dealing with Depression: Seeing Psychiatrist, clinical nutritionist, depression disorder
clinical nutritionist, depression disorder, grad dip: Unfortunately most psychiatrists use drugs and if you want to be treated without the help of drugs - that is naturally - please ask the doctor for a referral to a Nutritional Doctor or a Clinical Nutritionist. Depression can be treated by nutritional therapy...

Dealing with Depression: Severe depression after breakup, lifetime problems, severe depression
lifetime problems, severe depression, clinical depression: I am not a doctor; I am only a volunteer and a NAMI member. Currently it would seem to be a question of whether to protect your job or your life. I do understand the lifetime problems of ever having been treated for depression re employment, health insurance,...

Dealing with Depression: My Situation, chemical imbalances in the brain, thyroid problem
chemical imbalances in the brain, thyroid problem, least three times: You need to see a doctor and have a complete physical. There are many reasons why you might be feelig this way. It may be depression or you might be diabetic or possibly you have a thyroid problem. All of these things can give you a sense of helplessness....

Dealing with Depression: Slightly Confused, school psychiatrist, emotional breakdowns
school psychiatrist, emotional breakdowns, depression anxiety: Meghan, I am sensing that what you are feeling is depression, anxiety, panic, and abandonment. In part of growing up in what appears to be a home setting of neglect, and abuse. Whether or not your parents hit you, or abused you sexually doesn t matter....

Dealing with Depression: Smoking as a stress reliever?, chemicals in cigarettes, stress reliever
chemicals in cigarettes, stress reliever, relieving stress: It does relieve stress (nicotine is a depressant) but they start smoking because its cool. With 200 unknown chemicals in cigarettes today, a few butts to look cool and fit in is all it takes to completely hook someone into being a regular smoker. Having...

Dealing with Depression: My Social Problems, social anxiety disorder, hermit problem
social anxiety disorder, hermit problem, philosophy of the world: You need to be in therapy. Just because you don t like music or poetry doesn t mean that you are an outcast. It just means that you have different taste. But if you want to become that social person, you have to find out why you aren t that way. People...

Dealing with Depression: Spouse has depression and anger problems, manic bipolar, clinical depression
manic bipolar, clinical depression, psychiatrists: Your husband seems to be borderline manic. Let me share some symptoms of the two. Depression: * Feeling sad or blue * Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities * Significant weight loss or weight gain * Inability to...

Dealing with Depression: SSRI Medication, dr ivan goldberg, depression central
dr ivan goldberg, depression central, family physicians: Hi Niall: I would stick with what you have until your regular GP returns. However, if you are feeling desparate, then I would contact the same GP that increased the dosage for you. You could also call a pharmacist to ask what side affects would be if you...

Dealing with Depression: St. Johns Wort, st johns wort, clinical nutritionist
st johns wort, clinical nutritionist, depression drugs: Hi John, First I suggest that you discuss with your doctor for a withdrawal plan from Prozac. This should not be done without doctor s supervision. St Johns wort has a good reputation but may not be sufficient to stop the depression. Drugs generally...

Dealing with Depression: Starting a Support Group, group administrator, person group
group administrator, person group, personal attention: Wow, you re bitting off a lot. Starting the group was difficult because gaining backing is hard. We visited all the hospitals in our area, tried to get funding to print our brochures, attended new parent baby-fairs at the local Babys-r-Us. Everything we...

Dealing with Depression: Stress, uncontrollable stress, uncontrolled stress
uncontrollable stress, uncontrolled stress, hypoglycemic diet: It is important not to have any uncontrolled stress when dealing with people. However, not many people realize that uncontrollable stress may be due to an abnormal biochemistry, rather than because or psychological factors. Uncontrollable stress may...

Dealing with Depression: Suffering from long time depression, medicine advice, sex addiction
medicine advice, sex addiction, lady doctor: Hi, Well you have a lot going on but I feel there are two main issues, school and sex. Have you considered studying something that you would like to get do that you can do in your native language. Mastering a new language (verbal and written) takes years...

Dealing with Depression: So sad., last moment of clarity, peace and happiness
last moment of clarity, peace and happiness, moment of clarity: Yes you are very ill, and depression has swallowed you up. But death will not bring you peace and happiness. Have you ever thought about counseling? Money doesn t need to be an issue. there are MANY non-profit organizations that can help. Look in your phone...

Dealing with Depression: sad :(, places to have a party, friend doesn
places to have a party, friend doesn, horrible experience: Hi Jade: First of all, your friends not helping you when you were assaulted - well, they are NOT friends. You are not being selfish by being upset that your friends are having a birthday party at the same nightclub. In reality, there are other places...

Dealing with Depression: Very sad..., poor dogs, adorable dogs
poor dogs, adorable dogs, shelter pets: Hi Lisa, While I, in part, agree with you, there is however, more to the story. While you are focused on dogs, as you have an affinity forward them, that doesn t mean that the same type of treatment doesn t go on with other animals. Pigs and cows are just...

Dealing with Depression: seasonal depression, daily chores, seasonal depression
daily chores, seasonal depression, hypoglycemic diet: Hi cheri, This sounds like SAD or sadness occurring when the sun shines less. The best is to sit in the sun every morning for about 15 minutes. Some people buy a special lamp, hat is available on the market. It could also be a sign of hypoglycemia , which...

Dealing with Depression: It's my secret, dealing with depression, perfect lie
dealing with depression, perfect lie, exact age: Steph, You have a right to be sad and depressed. You have a right to feel as you do, and I don’t blame you. It almost sounds like you are dealing with emotional neglect. You are being provided for, but, you need love and nurturing. If you are between...

Dealing with Depression: severe depression, incest national network, recape
incest national network, recape, rape abuse: Simon, I am so sorry to read of your past. Are you receiving any therapy? If not would you consider it? Here is a link. www.rainn.org, they are trained professionals that can help you with your past of abuse. Rainn stands for (Rape Abuse and Incest National...

Dealing with Depression: severe depression, recape, negative emotions
recape, negative emotions, severe depression: Are you in therapy or are you seeing a psychiatrist? If not, you should be. There are medications that can help with the depression and there are medications that can actually help erase bad memories. Don t lay in bed. Call the Samaritans or whoever...

Dealing with Depression: severe depression, dr ivan goldberg, depression central
dr ivan goldberg, depression central, catatonic behavior: HI Jonathan: A diagnosis of servere depression with psychotic features is usually a severe depressive episode with the presence of either delusions or hallucinations, typically auditory, during the current depresive episode. The delusions could be of guilt,...

Dealing with Depression: sex and depression, lack of sex drive, two different things
lack of sex drive, two different things, treating depression: Dear Keith, I don t really know the details of your relationship. But it is true that if one partner is depressed that will affect the sex drive. Depression and sex don t mix, If you want to restore interest in sex, you need to treat the depression first....

Dealing with Depression: shattered dreams, massachussetts institute of technology, standardised tests
massachussetts institute of technology, standardised tests, literature history: Hello Selim You tell me you don t prepare well for exams, research other subjects when you should be concentrating on more sensible sissues such as ... Prepare! You describe feelings of anxiety as indeed fear of failure then ask why is your self-esteem...

Dealing with Depression: sick of depression, bleeding ulcers, crap game
bleeding ulcers, crap game, pain medication: Maybe Hawaii will give you Medicaid. $1600 isn t that much considering housing, food, electric and everything else. Go to their state gov and to their Medicaid pages. Then call someone and see if you will qualify for Medicaid. I wish you all the best....

Dealing with Depression: my sister, mental health disorders, memeory
mental health disorders, memeory, friends place: Helen, some people refuse to get well. They think that they are strong and undefeatable and when something devestating happens, their facade brakes and they never recover. Your sister is a broken human being. She may be taking her meds and not swallowing...

Dealing with Depression: my sister, mental health disorders, memeory
mental health disorders, memeory, friends place: Hi Helen, Well you have a choice.. you aren t going to like what you are about to read, so stop right now.... OK, so you took the red pill... (Matrix Movie #1) All you can do is to talk to your sister and be truthful... not only about her issues,...

Dealing with Depression: How is my situation?, friendship problems, taking medicine
friendship problems, taking medicine, thier lives: Idon t know your situation, but in most cases, depression, doesn t have to take a long time to work out. I think that our therapy team, plays a big role in how we respond. I think that in SOME cases meds are needed to assist in getting well, But just...

Dealing with Depression: How is my situation?, people with mental illnesses, friendship problems
people with mental illnesses, friendship problems, taking medicine: Dear Willy - Your life sounds very difficult and you seem to be very ill. Yes, healthy people get pleasure from their daily lives and hope to live very long lives. Their lives are not a burden to them. But the good news for you is: people with mental...

Dealing with Depression: How is my situation?, friendship problems, taking medicine
friendship problems, taking medicine, life thanks: Well im sorry to say that continuing with any drugs only drives the problem deeper and it will return. I am a dianetic auditor. We see people just like you all the time. Dianetics can handle any mental illness without drugs or hypnosis and it is fast, easy...

Dealing with Depression: six year old, blonde curly hair, emotional child
blonde curly hair, emotional child, dinnertime: Dear Sharon, Have a nice day...! My guess was right. Your child is suffering with Insecurity.. No problem...this is not too much to worry if you take a great care of your little kid...6 year is not a very grown up age when a child can t improve, but you...

Dealing with Depression: I have a slightly... odd problem, death of a pet, best thing in my life
death of a pet, best thing in my life, odd problem: You are suffering from prolonged grief. You had an attachment. it needs to be handled. The best way is with Dianetics, it doesnt use drugs or hypnosis, is easy and fast and lifechanging. You can find it at www.dianetics.org and also contact an auditor or...

Dealing with Depression: smoking as a stress reliever?, real emotions, cause of stress
real emotions, cause of stress, coping mechanisms: Hi mandie, Smoking is a means of covering up the emotions that they feel they can t express or deal with.. Emotions have been given the bum rap of being the cause of stress and so when one says that smoking reduces stress, it s a truth, as denial (smoking)...

Dealing with Depression: Just a social problem?, suffering from depression, metabolic disorder
suffering from depression, metabolic disorder, biopsychology: Hello Amelie, Reading your post I do get the impression that indeed you have depression. As a nutritional psychologist I believe that depression primarily results form a metabolic disorder that can be treated nutritionally. Of course if you have a...

Dealing with Depression: a solution for depression, suicidal feelings, sadness and depression
suicidal feelings, sadness and depression, living in germany: Parminder, My concern is that you are developing an eating disorder as a result of your depression and stress. Are you eating for comfort? Do you over eat? I am wondering if this is how you are coping with your sadness and depression. Your suicidal feelings...

Dealing with Depression: is there any solution to get rid of my depression?, biological problem, sexual affair
biological problem, sexual affair, emotional reaction: Dear Asmaa; First of all, I want you to understand that what you describe is not a clinical, biological problem, but a logical and understandable human emotional reaction to life events that lower your happiness potential. You CAN be happy. But in...

Dealing with Depression: son's depression, power of prayer, mood swings
power of prayer, mood swings, hi mary: Hi Mary: It is hard to talk to adult children, especially when they are depressed and very negative. Once married, plus kids, boundaries are usually set and it is his business and not yours. All you can do is express concern and if he snaps back at you...

Dealing with Depression: son's depression?, tragic car accident, horrible tragedy
tragic car accident, horrible tragedy, younger son: Dear Karen- I m truly sorry to hear of your loss. Stress is a major factor in many, many illnesses; after the blow that your family must have suffered, I d be surprised if your son wasn t having nightmares. However, I do think you should ask what tests...

Dealing with Depression: spouse w/ possible depression/anger, dr ivan goldberg, walking on eggshells
dr ivan goldberg, walking on eggshells, al anon meetings: Hi Kristen: Sound like your husband needs to get evaulated for depression and possibly bi-polar depression. The hard thing is - you can t force anyone to get help if they don t want to. His moods are keeping you on a roller coaster or walking on eggshells...

Dealing with Depression: how do I start dealing and how do i know if i am over reacting?, post partum depression, long distance relationship
post partum depression, long distance relationship, previous partners: In the All Experts forum there are volunteers that take question regarding relationship issues, love, etc. I think your question would be better suited for one of those areas as I am versed in the area of Post Partum Depression only. Good luck and God Bles...

Dealing with Depression: about studying, social person, exam period
social person, exam period, personal problem: So you have a major problem with procrastonation and you want me to solve your problem? How do you motivate someone who would rather sleep or wait until the last minute to complete an assignment. You are looking for immediate gratification and studying...

Dealing with Depression: about studying, social person, exam period
social person, exam period, personal problem: Nick, It sounds like a lot more than boredom. There are conditions called ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)OR ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) Here are some websites that may help: www.add.org www.adhd.com It s possible the cause is...

Dealing with Depression: about stuyding, social person, exam period
social person, exam period, personal problem: Hi Nick: I am wondering if your problem is more of fear rather than boredom. When you have to face a complex task you become fearful and your mind shuts down. The only thing to fear is fear itself. So, the next time you sit down to do a complex task,...

Dealing with Depression: am I suffering from depression, suffering from depression, grand daughter
suffering from depression, grand daughter, wits end: Hi Ruth, It sounds like your life is falling apart... and that s good in that you will be given the opportunity to start a new one... By new life, I mean a life that doesn t include the denials as this present one does... BUT... that is going to be your...

Dealing with Depression: suicide, suicide hotline number, razor blades
suicide hotline number, razor blades, thnk: Hi Lorrie: Ibuprofen can tear up your stomach, cause ulcers, make the stomach bleed - pain, pain pain. Are you alcoholic? Depression is common in alcoholics. Call AA and send ask them to send someone out to do a 12-Step call on you. Ask for someone...

Dealing with Depression: Should I switch doctors, cimbalta, high anxiety
cimbalta, high anxiety, trazodone: Try another doctor. Some doctors are better with depression than others. Effexor is used for bi-polar so it doesn t surprise me that it took you down rather than evening you out. I recently had an EEG done to determine the types of medication I should...

Dealing with Depression: Teens and Depression, dr ivan goldberg, depression central
dr ivan goldberg, depression central, depression inventory: Hi Lynn: Many, many teens do suffer depression it is either on the rise or more understood and talked about more. Parents and doctors have misinterpreted moods of teenagers as growing pains and they miss the signs of true unhappiness , social withdrawal,...

Dealing with Depression: Telling others, major depressive disorder, chemical imbalance in the brain
major depressive disorder, chemical imbalance in the brain, sleep disorder: Very simply, tell them you have a chemical imbalance in your brain that affects the way you feel. Basically that is what Depression is, a chemical imbalance in the brain. So you are telling him the truth without going into detail. Then you can add that...

Dealing with Depression: Theories of depression follow up, drug and alcohol addiction, theories of depression
drug and alcohol addiction, theories of depression, insulin resistance: I am sorry if have upset you with my short answer. This is one of the automatic options given in this program. Perhaps it could have helped if you would have explained yourself. The trouble is that I am flooded with emails and questions and sometimes it is...

Dealing with Depression: Three kids under three...and my life is spinning out of control!, tiny particle, escape artist
tiny particle, escape artist, coffee table: Hi Tanya: There is an excellent book entitled Backtalk by Ricker - it is an oldie but goodie. Next, buy any book that Super Nanny has out - she is excellent. Next, call up the local grade schools and ask if they know where there are parenting...

Dealing with Depression: Tips for day-to-day living, professional demeanor, long term solutions
professional demeanor, long term solutions, overwhelming feelings: Elizabeth, Day-to-day living isn t easy when your mind is in overdrive. In some ways your mind and body may also be trying to force away the efforts you are now taking to have a better future free of these events that slow you down In the meantime,...

Dealing with Depression: Trapped in a dense "fog", guidiance, dense fog
guidiance, dense fog, childhood trauma: Hi Alex, Sleep is the form of escape that your wife discovered as a child. Others use alcohol, smoking, eating, sex, work, you name it, all used to escape what they don t want to remember and feel. In order to escape her childhood trauma and reality where...

Dealing with Depression: Traumatic Event, local rescue, traumatic event
local rescue, traumatic event, side impact: Leave school. Go to your doctor now. Yes, this is a horrible thing to happen to you but everyone who drives will encounter something like this at one time or another. You need to talk to someone about this. Next, you are alright. No one died. Cars...

Dealing with Depression: Treatment Resistant Depression, dr ivan goldberg, treatment resistant depression
dr ivan goldberg, treatment resistant depression, depression central: Hi Sijka: I am sorry I do not know of any recent studies with new drug combinations that help depression. However, please check the web site of Dr. Ivan GOldberg. Just type his name in and a few site will come up, look for the one that says Depression...

Dealing with Depression: Treatment resistant depression (and anxiety), treatment resistant depression, truth serum
treatment resistant depression, truth serum, sodium amytal: Hi Paul Sorry Dr. Goldberg has not replied. He usually is pretty prompt. Keep trying. Meanwhile, check to see if your insurance covers psychiatry and depression. I would ask around for a psychiatrist who majors in hard to treat depression. Pa...

Dealing with Depression: Troubled sis, mom and dad, respectable family
mom and dad, respectable family, would have time: Hi Eve: The difficult thing is that there is nothing you can do to help your sister. No matter what, she is over 18, and legally can make her own decisions, and that is what she is doing right now. However, it is upsetting the whole family. You said...

Dealing with Depression: Can't help my tears, month old baby, bad feelings
month old baby, bad feelings, suffering from depression: I don t like to use the word normal , because what really is normal , but when you read this, what did you feel? What were you thinking and feelings as you read this, and how do those emotions relate to the tears, I think that s what we need to look at...

Dealing with Depression: I can't tell anyone, attachment disorder, psychiatrist
attachment disorder, psychiatrist, insults: If you choose not to get a proper diagnosis and you choose not to take the drugs that will improve your life, then I cannot make you do it. But I can also tell you that your perceptions of the world are out of whack right now. And they won t change until...

Dealing with Depression: can't get things done, dr ivan goldberg, suffering from depression
dr ivan goldberg, suffering from depression, family physician: Hi Laura: Sounds like you are possibly suffering from depression. Work is a different atmosphere and you have to do things for money plus you are on a schedule. At home, you have no schedule even though you try a to do list. You do not get paid to...

Dealing with Depression: How do I talk to my boyfriend about getting help?, al anon meetings, drugs and alcohol
al anon meetings, drugs and alcohol, credit card debt: Hi Melinda: It sound like your caring and wanting to help is starting to drain you and putting stress on you. It is difficult to see that someone needs help, but they do not go get it no matter what you say. You mentioned he turned to drugs and alcohol...

Dealing with Depression: talking too much, lab co, bad experience
lab co, bad experience, basic questions: Hi Sara, There are two basic questions that you need to look at and while they seem to contradict each other, they are actually the opposite ends or polarity of the same issue. The first question isn t about you zipping your mouth, but about why aren t...

Dealing with Depression: tension, blood sugar levels, low blood pressure
blood sugar levels, low blood pressure, insulin resistance: Dear Raja, From what you write it is not clear what the symptoms are. But it is best to remain in contact with your doctor, who will no doubt be able to help you. Perhaps part of your symptoms are unnecessary anxiety an mood swings. If so, this could...

Dealing with Depression: I think my boyfriend's depressed, vicky, musician
vicky, musician, choices: Hi Vicky, You say that you feel like I m partly responsible for his current crisis but you don t give any details... I m mentioning this only because this is your issue in this relationship... He has choices to make and issues to heal... and while...

Dealing with Depression: I think i have depression, signs of depression, sign of depression
signs of depression, sign of depression, guidance counselor: Hi LJ, Yes,it sounds like signs of depression to me. YOu said you recently moved to another country, a new school and had to leave your family. So, this makes me think that the type of depression you are going through can be in the form of grieving. It...

Dealing with Depression: Now that I think about it, I'm depressed for over 5 years?, second marriage, ups and downs
second marriage, ups and downs, trying to find my way: Hi Shelly: Looking at your past history, it seems you never had an opportunity to develop a trusting relationship as a child. This is important because it helps you to make wiser decisions into adult life. Without a strong background with someone you could...

Dealing with Depression: I think I'm sinking..., earth person, joy in my life
earth person, joy in my life, codependency: Gen, ::comfort:: I know exactly how you are feeling. Do not see a therapist to please someone else. I mean I do think that you need to talk with someone. But if you are not ready there is no reason to force it. Change happens ONLY when we are ready. ...

Dealing with Depression: I think I'm sinking..., support sage, joy in my life
support sage, joy in my life, reactive mind: The reactive mind is neither the conscious or unconscious mind it is a separate entity by itself. There are many minds in a body but the reactive mind is made up of material that is collected when the analyzer is completely or partially shut down. (Attenuated...

Dealing with Depression: I think I'm sinking..., earth person, joy in my life
earth person, joy in my life, codependency: Time to change directions and start working on why you are sad. Depression is very treatable. There are tons of meds out there and one is for you. I realize that insurance is a PIA but you are in therapy. Start talking about your depression instead of...

Dealing with Depression: i think i have a mental problem and i hate it, brick wall, cant trust
brick wall, cant trust, hot wax: Hi Dan, Give yourself a (((BIG HUG))) as even ONE tear is enough, as that means the emotions are starting to move. It s interesting that you mentioned using the hot wax on your arm as I can see and feel how that would also work in that in the moment of...

Dealing with Depression: trying to find happiness, financial situations, tax man
financial situations, tax man, byproduct: Hi Lisa: How do you find happiness? That is a question that people have asked over and over again for centuries. It is a very common question, but no common answer. I read in an book: Happiness is a byproduct of right living. So, it sounds like you...

Dealing with Depression: I am trying hard to get over this depression., deferred adjudication, perfect angel
deferred adjudication, perfect angel, salaried job: Joe, I think that the fact that you did it to begin with says that you were struggling and needed guidance; even now you need compassion and guidance to work through your pain. You need to rebuild your life now Joe, and yes it’s hard and it sucks because...

Dealing with Depression: type A personality, type a personality, dinnertime
type a personality, dinnertime, three kids: Hi Lisa: First of all, you are doing the right thing by telling people you are busy, or have to get up at 5 a.m. or are too tired and need to go to bed, etc. and then NOT invite them in. You are NOT being rude, they are being rude by expecting to be invited...

Dealing with Depression: Unanswerable mental pb., heavy heart, prb
heavy heart, prb, important event: It may be just stress related depression. Not being able to sleep at night is not uncommon for people who are depressed. Not being able to shut your mind off at night so you can sleep is very common. Again, I think you need to consult a doctor. You are...

Dealing with Depression: Unanswerable mental pb., obsessive compulsive disorder, ocfoundation
obsessive compulsive disorder, ocfoundation, visible symptoms: Rimmi, I am not a doctor. But, it sounds like what you MAY be experiencing is along the lines of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)this website may be able to help www.ocfoundation.org Please understand, if this is indeed the problem. It is completelty...

Dealing with Depression: Unanswerable mental pb., heavy heart, infirmities
heavy heart, infirmities, plannings: Dear Rimmi, I have tried to explain why you may have OCD, but ultimately this needs to be discussed in a face-to-face relationship with a counsellor. I can only talk in terms of generalities, but it is very difficult to go into details with you, as I do...

Dealing with Depression: Unhappy, sleep aid, family doctor
sleep aid, family doctor, melatonin: Not sleeping will affect the way you feel and will definately make you sad and make you cry. This is a good place to start. You need to talk to your family doctor about the fact that you are having problems sleeping. Most teenagers sleep endlessly. It...

Dealing with Depression: Unhealthly Talking Too Too Much, bad egg, suicide attempt
bad egg, suicide attempt, personalty: Hi Kurt, This is just about the longest post I worked myself through. I am really sorry to hear that you and your wife are divorced and I acknowledge that this must have been very hard for you. I am also glad that you have found a new goal in life to become...

Dealing with Depression: Unhealthly Talking Too Too Much, bad egg, suicide attempt
bad egg, suicide attempt, personalty: Kurt, I am curious if this has always been an issue? Did you have this “motor mouth” prior to the suicide attempt? Could this be part of your new outlook on life? Is this part of your epiphany? I think that the excessive talking has a lot to do with...

Dealing with Depression: Unhealthly Talking Too Too Much, bad egg, suicide attempt
bad egg, suicide attempt, personalty: Kurt, you need to be seeing a psychiatrist and you need to be in therapy. You have unresolved issues that you are avoiding and you need to get back in touch with happiness again. It isn t that hard but you are going to need to start working again on yourself....

Dealing with Depression: Upset About Situation With Father, clinical depression, metabolic disorder
clinical depression, metabolic disorder, exact problem: Dear heather, This is an awful situation to be in and must make your life very difficult. It is so nice to hear that you are so committed to your father. You said that your father wanted to commit suicide. This may indicate that your father may have...

Dealing with Depression: How do u offer help to a friend with depression with offending them?, hidden motive, personal experiences
hidden motive, personal experiences, off chance: Hi Quennie, You are not going to like what I m going to say, but I don t play games so if you don t want to hear what I have say, stop reading now. You start by saying, I have a married friend who I have heard suffers from depression on and off...

Dealing with Depression: How do u offer help to a friend with depression with offending them?, low blood sugar, low thyroid
low blood sugar, low thyroid, giant step: You probably have not offended him. However, men tend to think that they can will themselves better. They will loose everything they have before they will admit that they have a problem and need help. Your friend is going to be one of those people. Depression...

Dealing with Depression: can u please help??, electronic consumer goods, ur throat
electronic consumer goods, ur throat, bachelors degree: I have no idea how old your letter is as it went to a pool for any counselor to answer but I am going to try to answer this the best that I can I believe you may need to be on medication for awhile...certainly longer than 2 days as it takes at least a week...

Dealing with Depression: unanswerable mental pb., visible symptoms, pb
visible symptoms, pb, neighbor: Time to get some answers. Two years is too long and it s causing pain. IF you are under 18 and live w/ your parents, they will have to be told....illegal to treat you w/o their consent. Ways to get your parents told without telling them: you can tell...

Dealing with Depression: Vitamins for OCD, vitamin b complex, compulsive behaviours
vitamin b complex, compulsive behaviours, stress hormones: There are many herbs dealing with liver function. See: http://www.pfaf.org/database/search_use.php?K[]=Cholagogue _________________________________ Jurriaan Plesman, BA(Psych), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr Editor: HYPOGLYCEMIC HEALTH ASSOCIATION OF AUSTRALIA...

Dealing with Depression: Woolis book?, barnes noble, virtual money
barnes noble, virtual money, family preservation: Author is Woolis. Title is: When someone you love has a mental illness. If you must/do interact regularly w/ someone w/ a mental illness, whether or not they are on meds, and you care about them and about maintaining the relationship and being effective...

Dealing with Depression: Wrists cutting and depression, family practitioner, working with others
family practitioner, working with others, psychiatrist: You need to be speaking to a family practitioner or a psychiatrist. Cutting is a way to release pain but it is also partly a habit. And once you start it isn t easy to stop. You need to be in therapy and you need to be working with others who have cut themselves...

Dealing with Depression: What's Wrong With Me?!, clinical nutritionist, self mutilation
clinical nutritionist, self mutilation, popping pills: Hi Jessica, I understand how frustrating it is that you cannot solve the problem The point is that you are blaming yourself on the way you think, but in reality it is your body that is not producing the right feel good neurotransmitters. So you cannot feel...

Dealing with Depression: I wanna be there for him, but he's pulling me down too!, morning noon and night, destructive path
morning noon and night, destructive path, dark tunnel: Hi Jessica, I m sorry that your friend is struggling. I can understand your thought process of needing to be safe from heading back to that hell . If you fall back into the dark tunnel you can be of no help to him. It s not abandonment to love and...

Dealing with Depression: always want to cry..., fatal mistake, mixed signals
fatal mistake, mixed signals, two and a half years: Ronnie, I am so sorry for your loss. I say loss, because I think that when we are together that long they become a part of our life, and losing them feels like we lose a part of ourselves. So, we grieve. You are grieving. It doesn t matter how long you...

Dealing with Depression: I want to know if I am depressed, heart rule, lack of concentration
heart rule, lack of concentration, outgoing guy: hello Dennis, Hope my words might bring some happiness and chill to your life... Look, we cant go back .. the thoughts, the life we had when we were younger, we cant have them back.. At out 20s we were full of life.. just a new life... in a new way.. we look...

Dealing with Depression: wat can i do?, attempted suicide, aggrevation
attempted suicide, aggrevation, tomorrow is a new day: Ellen, You know what girl? I have felt the exact same way for the past 11 years...since I was raped by my great grandfather at age 8. At age 13, I was put in suclusion for attempted suicide. I can completely understand why you cant believe that tomorrow...

Dealing with Depression: weight issue, loss of concentration, sad symptoms
loss of concentration, sad symptoms, southern hemisphere: Hi Jeanine: I don t know if the extra weight will will come off. Did you read any of the side effects of Mirtizapine and see if that is among them. If, in the winter months, you are more down you probably have some SAD. However, to have SAD symptoms...

Dealing with Depression: women hate me, serial rapists, negative vibes
serial rapists, negative vibes, perfect teeth: Guy, I think a lot of what you are sensing is your perception of how you view yourself being manifested through others. It’s hard to fall in love with someone who hates themselves. Say for instance that someone tells you that you are handsome, and you...

Dealing with Depression: wrist cutting, lost one, medication
lost one, medication, depression: Anyone who is cutting needs to be seeing a doctor and be in therapy. It is one of the worst things you can do to yourself because it can lead to infection and if you cut too deep, you could end up in the hospital. It s more than depression, it s a much deeper...

Dealing with Depression: wrist cutting, old boyfriend, little game
old boyfriend, little game, straight answer: Hi Tara, You are going around in circles, and again you don t give me a straight answer... I m not picking up any feelings or emotions from you, or that you really want help... All that I m picking up is that you want attention... and for me to feel...

Dealing with Depression: wrist cutting, old boyfriend, missing kids
old boyfriend, missing kids, air space: At 13 no one really likes their parents. And everyone is convinced that their parents don t understand. That is why it s so hard to grow up. But you need to tell them that you are cutting. Why? Because cutting is a sign of other problems. If you...

Dealing with Depression: wrist cutting, habit, neighbors
habit, neighbors, sara: If you don t want to tell your mother then find another adult that you can confide in. Cutting can become almost a habit in order to deal with other issues. You know and I know that cutting is dangerous and it is also a sign that something else is wrong....

Dealing with Depression: Is something wrong with me..?, split personality, bad person
split personality, bad person, suicidal thoughts: You could have depression, social anxiety and you might be bipolar. I would definitely contact a psychiatrist and ask for an evaluation. It s the only way you are going to know what is exactly wrong. The ups and downs are very bipolar and the fear of crowds...

Dealing with Depression: Is something wrong with me..?, split personality, bad person
split personality, bad person, suicidal thoughts: Pam, I can not diagnose as I do not have my degree yet. But through experience, I’ve seen that people that have such disorders sabotage any happiness that they feel. They have this irrational thought process and or an all or nothing black and white mind....

Dealing with Depression: Is something wrong with me..?, split personality, bad person
split personality, bad person, suicidal thoughts: Hello Pam, This an awful way to feel. This seems to boil down to a very low self-esteem. A low self-esteem is not always in the mind, but can be caused by an underlying metabolic disorder that can easily be treated by nutritional means: Please read:...

Dealing with Depression: getting through this, excessive stress, life thanks
excessive stress, life thanks, tough battle: Marie, It is completely normal, for some people not to be able to focus on their work after years of excessive stress.. Paxil I know takes a while to work, however, if it is causing anxiety, that may cause your ecovery harm, I would mention this to your...

Dealing with Depression: Me, gay activities, guilt and shame
gay activities, guilt and shame, sexual abuse: Hi Me, Gays or lesbians have an issue of mental, emotional and/or sexual abuse that is rooted in their childhood. Usually Gays are happy being gay but have an issue with others not understanding their situation as they feel they were just born that way....

Dealing with Depression: which one, contrary to popular opinion, stress hormones
contrary to popular opinion, stress hormones, serotonin connection: Hi tasha, It seems to me that this could possibly be depression. Contrary to popular opinion depression is usually a physiological disorder, that may affect the mind and the way we think about ourselves. When you suffer from an underlying metabolic disorder...

Dealing with Depression: which one, low self esteem, tasha
low self esteem, tasha, better life: Hi Tasha, Before I can even begin to help you, you need to help yourself. This is going to sound harsh, but you KNOW... you have a good idea of what is wrong with you and why... I mean you know the details and specific facts that created your reality......

Dealing with Depression: which one, low blood sugar, blood sugar test
low blood sugar, blood sugar test, depression symptoms: I don t know how old you are but I can tell you that you need to get professional help and you may want to go to church and talk to your pastor. You sound like you have classic depression symptoms. Most of the time this can be easily treated with medication...

Dealing with Depression: ??, psychology degree, symptoms of depression
psychology degree, symptoms of depression, social anxiety: Hiya Betsy - You were pretty much right on the money . . . some type of depressions aren t cured, they re treated. People tend to expect healing to be instant, and to just be over that ; but rushing too fast to be better is only going to make you sick...

Dealing with Depression: what's this?, anxiety panic attacks, post partum depression
anxiety panic attacks, post partum depression, brain failure: My expertise is in Post Partum Depression however depression is depression weather it is after the birth of a baby or during any other time in your life. It sure does sound like you have depressive illness. Have you seen a doctor for your symptoms? This...

Dealing with Depression: I have had it, miracle answer, meditation tapes
miracle answer, meditation tapes, forms of depression: Some forms of depression are harder to treat than others. And I know those thoughts that make you feel that it s time to take your life. I have been there myself on more than one occassion. I know that this sounds strange but you need to do some serious...

Dealing with Depression: What can I do?, first diagnosed with depression, symptoms of depression
first diagnosed with depression, symptoms of depression, mood swings: Dear Sean - Yeah, that sounds like depression. Welcome to my world. :D Your doctor may have had your best interests at heart, but typically they do listen and understand if a patient believes they meed medication . . . they ll usually at least...

Dealing with Depression: Why?, depression meds, movie scripts
depression meds, movie scripts, dead end job: Hi Ryan, OK, there s a lot here and what I m going to do is point out the key words or phrases and then lump them all together with comments or questions for food for thought. 1) “I ve been taking anti-depression meds for almost 10 years, give or take...

Dealing with Depression: at last, grad dip, psychological disorder
grad dip, psychological disorder, emotional disorders: Hello aurax, Of course it is difficult to give an opinion without having seen you. All I can say is that when it comes to emotional disorders I tend to see this as a combination of a nutritional and psychological disorder. Thus the first step is to...

Dealing with Depression: not sure, r grossman, emotional survival
r grossman, emotional survival, voicelessness: Hi Claudia, As I read your last paragraph, tears came to my eyes... You got it!!! And yes it is complicated... yet so simple at the same time, once you are aware of denial and how it works. I must say that you are the first person in all the years...

Dealing with Depression: How to get out of it, serotonin connection, insulin resistance
serotonin connection, insulin resistance, biological aspect: Dear dee, That must have been very hard on you. It is difficult to advise from a distance, because really I believe you need a face-to-face counselling relationship to get at the bottom of your problems. It seem to me that you may be suffering from a...

Dealing with Depression: getting through this, loss of appetite, rem sleep
loss of appetite, rem sleep, restful sleep: Three weeks is not enough time to see if this medication is working or not. Most anti-depression medications take 6 to 8 weeks before you will see a difference. And wanting to sleep all day is just a side effect. Depression robs us of good deep REM sleep....

Dealing with Depression: Yes,me again,hello John, torment, perceptions
torment, perceptions, paragraph: Hi Claudia, I have healed a lot since I ve began my journey.. but there is still more to heal, on many levels... Once I started in earnest and I began to see what I had not seen before, I became even more curious. Later when I began experiencing the different...

Dealing with Depression: ZOLOFT WITHDRAWLS, electrical shock, emotional issue
electrical shock, emotional issue, anti depressants: Hi Alicia, I don t think that the electrical shock sensation is a withdrawal only from Zoloft. But, yes, I know what it is you re talking about. It s very scary. Is it possible to go off the zoloft but still be on an anti-depressant? There are a lot of...

Dealing with Depression: Zoloft effexor, celexa or synthroid?, self help books, cognitive behavioral therapy
self help books, cognitive behavioral therapy, major depression: Terribly sorry, but I am not a doc so am not intimately familiar w/ details of specific anti-depressants. Also, tho I am sometimes bold in my suggestions and recommendations, I would never, never think of advising someone how/when/whether to taper off [or...

Dealing with Depression: Zoloft side effects with all Natural Lithiem, zoloft side effects, therapeutic value
zoloft side effects, therapeutic value, lithium: Don t take anything without consulting your psychiatrist. Lithium can cause you to go into a deep depression or go manic. You have no way of knowing how much or how little you need and the therapeutic value of Lithium has a very small window where it s effective....

Dealing with Depression: Zoloft withdrawl, zoloft withdrawl, regimine
zoloft withdrawl, regimine, anti depressants: Hi Randy, I am so sorry this took so long to get back to you. Yes these symptoms are synonomous with withdrawel off anti-depressants. Please talk to a certified Psychologist and they can help you adjust your meds in such a way that you will feel better....

Dealing with Depression: Zoloft, sexual side effects, absolute horror
sexual side effects, absolute horror, having my baby: I had very little side effect when I took Effexor because I went from Prozac which is a similar drug to Effexor. I will say that it may have some sexual side effects but I personally did not find that to be true. And you will be thirsty. Other than that,...

Dealing with Employees: 1st Amendment, 1st amendment rights, work situation
1st amendment rights, work situation, sales position: Leigh, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Employee couching, personal cell phone, work performance
personal cell phone, work performance, cell phone use: Linda -- Thanks for writing. My first question is, do you have any authority over these two off-site employees? Because if you don t, I really don t see how you can effectively manage their behavior or work performance. My second question is, does...

Dealing with Employees: Gen Y employee, Gen X supervisor, screw ups, eyed innocence
screw ups, eyed innocence, case ive: Dear Ms. Savage, It helped me to have a mentor at work; a fellow supervisor who I trusted and respected. When faced with difficult personnel issues, such as the one you described, I would role play with that mentor what I was going to say, and he would...

Dealing with Employees: Good book for new manager?, aubrey daniels, book outlets
aubrey daniels, book outlets, congratulations on your promotion: Dear Jeff: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: human resources, progressive discipline, performance feedback
progressive discipline, performance feedback, ongoing training: First, assuming this is a valuable employee with recent performance problems, I d have a frank and honest meeting with him and try and find out what is really going on with him and what we could do about it. If things didn t improve after that, I would...

Dealing with Employees: Mandatory overtime, excessive and disruptive, time college student, mandatory overtime
time college student, mandatory overtime, work overtime: BARBARA, Based on your brief, -you have a good chance of finding a solution. -draft a neat little letter outlining *situation as it stands. *problems you are facing *your desire to continue your good work *your proposed...

Dealing with Employees: Problems with employees, blind carbon copies, cable bills
blind carbon copies, cable bills, move funds: Dear Christine: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: problem employee, last question, phone calls
last question, phone calls, good luck: Perhaps I misunderstood your first question. Sorry about that. I read that the people who work for you feel like they are lying when they say that you are unavailable. If they perceive that what they are saying is false, they will feel uncomfortable doing...

Dealing with Employees: A problem subordinate, collaborative style, team morale
collaborative style, team morale, subordinates: Hi Allan: I have been in a similar situation and bottom line, this director is not respecting you as their supervisor and I think this is a control issue for the director as well. And the fact that his peers don t like working with this individual is cause...

Dealing with Employees: Respect, congratulations on your promotion, dear jennifer
congratulations on your promotion, dear jennifer, work effort: Dear Jennifer: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Upcoming management monsters, good management, better luck
good management, better luck, new jobs: Dear Rosa: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Upper management seems to ignore me., previous district, first encounter
previous district, first encounter, district managers: Rosa -- You re right that going over your boss head probably isn t a good idea. There must be something going on here that isn t apparent. I d recommend that you set up a meeting with your boss to discuss your work. Begin by thanking her for her time...

Dealing with Employees: anamosity in the salon, hair stylist, negative environment
hair stylist, negative environment, bad decisions: Dear Lisa, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: bosses, minor case, concrete reasons
minor case, concrete reasons, undivided attention: Dear Debbie, Thank you for your question. Frankly, the only one who can answer this question is your friend because she is the only person who can know whether these men are evil or simply domineering managers. If your friend knows of some illegal activity...

Dealing with Employees: Coworker issues, wacky wednesday, halloween decorations
wacky wednesday, halloween decorations, professional manner: A huge Congrats Karen!!! Thanks a lot for the update. You are exactly on the right path - making steady progress - the way it is supposed to be. The bonus you might have already noticed is that you are also changing for the better rather than using a temporary...

Dealing with Employees: Dealing with extracurricular activities in the workplace, impact performance, lefrancois
impact performance, lefrancois, company time: Dear Gabriel, There is no right or wrong answer to this question. It depends on the organization. Some organizations are very rigid about the type of non-business activities that their employees engage in during work hours. They view these activities as...

Dealing with Employees: question on views youths had on working in a restaurant
Dealing with Employees: question on views youths had on working in a restaurant

Dealing with Employees: Gameroom policy, pool billiards, billiards table
pool billiards, billiards table, billiard room: Dear Jonimae, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Lying CoWorker, leaving a job, allexperts
leaving a job, allexperts, enjoying life: Dear Ginger, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: I lost my temper, least three times, office job
least three times, office job, hot head: Hi Geri Thanks for writing in. I totally understand your concern. But rest assured, you don t need to worry at all. Two month is long enough to form a first impression which is based on how you really are rather than your one time outburst and short...

Dealing with Employees: question on views youths had on working in a restaurant, fast food restaurants, immediate gratification
fast food restaurants, immediate gratification, adult world: Any of us who are parents already know the answer to this question. Young people seem like they re forced to grow up much more quickly these days. They re exposed to an adult world sooner than they have ever been. Unfortunately, they are not adults. Their...

Dealing with Employees: Terminology for Industrial relations, individualism and collectivism, homework question
individualism and collectivism, homework question, union rep: Hi Jameel, My gut tells me this is a homework question as a true union rep would know the answer to this query or where to go to get the answers. Assuming I am wrong, and you are a newly appointed union rep, there must be a contract that clearly outlines...

Dealing with Employees: Change Transition, sr management, negative time
sr management, negative time, education facility: Dee, Thank you for the clarification. This is going to be a lengthy answer. As the new leaders you will face the same challenges as you did in your other position, but you will also have to contend with a few special issues. Friends and colleagues have...

Dealing with Employees: Employer Forbids Contact, governmental contracts, dear brian
governmental contracts, dear brian, governmental agencies: Dear Brian, Technically, an employer should not be able to dictate what you do in your personal life. However, in some states there are two classifications of employers. One is a Just Cause employer and the other is an At will employer. A Just Cause...

Dealing with Employees: Employers Rights to Privacy, e mail account, poor judgment
e mail account, poor judgment, employers rights: Hi Marie: I guess what clarification I needed is what is your position with the company. And you state in the previous question that the employee is at the managerial level and did have permission to access your email account. In the second question you...

Dealing with Employees: Morale, sure what type, punching bag
sure what type, punching bag, call centre: Dear Chad, Nobody likes to get dumped on for something that is out of their control. It s easy to feel sorry for ourselves when this happens and demonstrate anger and frustration. However, it can also offers us an opportunity and challenge. The goal of...

Dealing with Employees: managment, new boss, lingham
new boss, lingham, job description: S, BASED ON YOUR BRIEFING, -your boss can change the allocation of tasks and change the job description. -it is within his/her responsiblity. WHAT HE/ SHE HAS DONE IS NOT QUESTIONABLE, BUT, PERHAPS, THE WAY ...

Dealing with Employees: Poor Attitude Employee, poor attitude, awkard
poor attitude, awkard, tricky situation: Jaenne -- It s a tricky situation. You sort of created a monster here, but unfortunately it s not responding to your directions. I suggest you have a friendly talk with her -- maybe over coffee. Chat a little about how she s doing and say you can see...

Dealing with Employees: Problem Employee, time cards, finding a job
time cards, finding a job, family business: Stephanie, I know your question is about dealing with this difficult person, but I wanted to spend a minute or two on the actual incident first. The reason that companies use time cards is to make sure that people are getting paid accurately for the time...

Dealing with Employees: Promoted, but have to work with an unhappy candidate, conduct performance reviews, company policies and procedures
conduct performance reviews, company policies and procedures, performance behavior: Clive, This is always a tough situation. Your relationship has changed not only with this person, but the rest of the team. Based on the information that you have given me, treat this person no different than the others. First you need to establish yourself...

Dealing with Employees: Upset Employee, grain of salt, brainer
grain of salt, brainer, right decision: Dee, Please take what I tell you here with a grain of salt. I m not real sure if this is exactly what you should do, but it is what I would do in your situation. I would pull this person aside and tell her two things. First, I d let her know that the...

Dealing with Employees: Confrontational underperformer, communication gap, shouting match
communication gap, shouting match, uncomfortable environment: PATRICK, This is a common feature at the most workplaces. There could be communication gap between yourself and MR. B. MY SUGGESTION, -keep talking to MR.B informally. -explain the ways, you want the job done. -give him a...

Dealing with Employees: employee tardiness, controlling absenteeism, morning appointments
controlling absenteeism, morning appointments, christmas bonus: Dear Sharon, If you are asking me to justify your employer s policy, I can t. First, I have not read the complete policy and make no pretense that I understand their reasoning. However, my experience in helping companies address the problem of absenteeism...

Dealing with Employees: What to do about employees who constantly ask for their pay early?, salary payments, hr guidelines
salary payments, hr guidelines, lingham: DAVID, There is nothing to worry about this. Bring them to your office and make it very clear -salary payments are guided by company policy. -salary payments are administered according to HR GUIDELINES. -THIS POLICY...

Dealing with Employees: Late in comming of employee
Dealing with Employees: Late in comming of employee

Dealing with Employees: Late in comming of employee, salary deduction, silly reasons
salary deduction, silly reasons, money terms: Hi Sarfaraz Thanks for writing in. I know how frustrating this can be. Before I go ahead, I assume a few things to be already in place: 1. You are punctual yourself 2. There are no random leniencies made for some people based on their work, friendship...

Dealing with Employees: low paid multi national employees, different cultures, value stream
different cultures, value stream, cultural differences: Dear Noor, From the information you have provided me it s difficult for me to fully understand your situation. I don t know what kind of work they are doing or if something has happened recently to bring on this boredom. As a general rule when employees...

Dealing with Employees: Recent promotion, congratulations on your promotion, providing excellent customer service
congratulations on your promotion, providing excellent customer service, economic state: Hi Jenn: Congratulations on your promotion! And you are in somewhat of a challenging situation but this happens very frequently, employees being promoted into supervisory positions and having to supervise their friends/peers. One thing that is very effective...

Dealing with Employees: Resident Manager, residential manager, approched
residential manager, approched, nature of the job: Hi Sharon Thanks for writing in. I understand the apprehension when you are told about the bad time ahead - when you are all revved up to do a great job at a new place!! :-) So step one would be: In case your informers are not offering you any solutions...

Dealing with Employees: Termination, personal belongings, lingham
personal belongings, lingham, personal equipment: JAMES, The owner s behavior is totally unacceptable / unethical. Within two weeks, the owner should have returned all your belongings. He should have called you to come and pick it up. Talk to a legal counsel and ...

Dealing with Employees: termination rights, vacation accrual, workforce innovation
vacation accrual, workforce innovation, personal belongings: James, I would recommend that you contact the local police authorities about getting your personal equipment back. I don t know why you were fired and I also don t know Florida law. However, I cannot imagine your employer has any right to keep your personal...

Dealing with Employees: termination rights, vacation accrual, termination policy
vacation accrual, termination policy, termination rights: Hi James: I am very sorry that this happened to you. I am afraid that this really is outside of my expertise and I think you should be consulting with a lawyer of some type (such as a Labor and Employment attorney). I don t see why you shouldn t get your...

Dealing with Employees: Alternative Work Arrangement, flex schedules, work arrangement
flex schedules, work arrangement, increase productivity: Hi Robert, Alternative work schedules are up and coming strategies designed to fit the needs of today s employees and increase productivity for employers. There are many advantages to offering alternative work schedules; I will list a few and you can research...

Dealing with Employees: Behaviour towards a difficult customer, customer service rep, difficult customer
customer service rep, difficult customer, rude behavior: Tariq, The employee title, customer service, speaks for itself. When a customer calls, the customer service rep is expected to conduct her/himself in a professional manner at all times. However, this does not mean you allow yourself to be personally...

Dealing with Employees: employee undermining direct supervisor, meaningful issues, precident
meaningful issues, precident, two choices: Dear Mohrgal, As I see it, you have two choices. Your first choice is to sit down with your supervisor and explain to them why this practice undermines your credibility with your employees and limits your effectiveness in managing them. Tell them in a calm,...

Dealing with Employees: Manager Position, honest respect, architecture firm
honest respect, architecture firm, work progress: Dear Heather, You have answered your own question in the next to last sentence in your inquiry... I still feel inadequate to manage employees and check on work progress . Until you feel completely comfortable that you can do the job it would be difficult...

Dealing with Employees: manager, architecture firm, work progress
architecture firm, work progress, managerial position: Hello and thank you for the question! I think you have already gained a significant amount of respect for working at your father s company for eight years. That is a significant amount of time and I wonder how long the two employees have been there at the...

Dealing with Employees: problem attitude, smile on her face, grocery chain
smile on her face, grocery chain, top performer: Hi Tami, I ve never been a union worker, so I lack knowledge about the ins and outs of employee discipline involving union workers. On the other hand, I ve had considerable experience with unmotivated, lackadaisical employees, so I ll share some strategies...

Dealing with Employees: Separating church and state, swinging lifestyle, organization deals
swinging lifestyle, organization deals, separating church: Dear Jackie, I m pleased to see that you are sensitive to the possibility of making this employee defensive. The approach that I would use is to tell her that because you are a government organization it is inappropriate to sign her e-mail with any statement...

Dealing with Employees: Starting Run Father's Company, change attitude, attitude change
change attitude, attitude change, architecture firm: HEATHER, Thanks for your brief. I can understand your situation. It is a difficult one and tricky too, =================================================== Based on your brief, -the current employees have worked with your dad for a time,...

Dealing with Employees: Employee Job Abandonment, member attorney, job abandonment
member attorney, job abandonment, bar member: Hi Clayton, I m sorry you are having such a difficult time with this former employee. I could give you an opinion on this, but I m not an attorney, and i believe that a legal opinion is what you really need. If the amount of the draw covered periods...

Dealing with Employees: Being fired because the boss doesn't like me..., crap
Dealing with Employees: Being fired because the boss doesn't like me..., crap

Dealing with Employees: Being fired because the boss doesn't like me..., amy thanks, fire ed
amy thanks, fire ed, hi amy: Hi Amy Thanks for taking the time and effort to write in to me. Choosing to do something about your problem rather than ranting about it, is the biggest step in solving it. Whatever is being done to you is surely discrimination. That the other employees...

Dealing with Employees: Can this help avoid future litigation, employee timesheet, exempt employees
employee timesheet, exempt employees, timesheets: Hi Linda! I am assuming you are referring to non-exempt employees as you don t have to track exempt employees time? But good question, and I would actually make it mandatory for your employees to record their lunches on their timesheets. Regarding a disclaimer,...

Dealing with Employees: Invasion of privacy, office supervisor, privacy question
office supervisor, privacy question, privacy violation: Hi Trish: I believe that board member is right. I looked into this further and don t see that there are any laws prohibiting the disclosure of that information. You might, however, consult with a Labor and Employment attorney (I think we have a Lawyers...

Dealing with Employees: Letter for Probation extension to employee, duty assignment, hr representative
duty assignment, hr representative, lingham: D HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ============================== DATE: To: From: (Name of HR Representative) (Employing Unit) Subject: Extension of Probationary Period This is a request for a three-month extension...

Dealing with Employees: Tardiness, tardiness, absenteeism
tardiness, absenteeism, corrective action: Hi Kim: You are in a tough spot! BUT, as manager of the department, you are charged to run the department and supervise the employees the way you see fit. It is unfortunate that other employees in the company aren t being disciplined for their tardiness...

Dealing with Employees: team leadership, operational continuity, organizational resistance
operational continuity, organizational resistance, mission direction: SHIMENE, THE IMPLICATIONS --IF THE MANAGER HAS WEAK TEAM LEADERSHIP AND INTERPERSONAL SKILL ARE THE FOLLOWING: 1.THERE WILL BE A LACK OF VISION FOR THE TEAM. 2.THERE WILL BE A LACK OF MISSION DIRECTION FOR THE TEAM. 3.THERE...

Dealing with Employees: waitress rights/innappropriate customers, dear alice, midnight shifts
dear alice, midnight shifts, n park: Hi Cara, I can understand your frustration with this situation, and I am sorry it has created such difficulty for you. I m wondering if you have talked to your manager about this situation. If you haven t, it s time to do so. Let your manager know...

Dealing with Employees: Absenteeism, vocal recognition, poker games
vocal recognition, poker games, attendance records: Dear John, All of our research on absenteeism has been done in the United States. I don t how much of it, if any, can be applied to a third world economy. Very briefly, what we have found is that neither the reward or punishment systems work. We have found...

Dealing with Employees: Busines Problem, accounting book, payroll taxes
accounting book, payroll taxes, bank charges: Andres, Unfortunately, the only thing to do is either increase the revenue coming in or let some people go. If your parents don t do one or both of these things, then everyone working there will lose their job and your parents will lose their livelihood...

Dealing with Employees: Busines Problem, small business administration, salary issues
small business administration, salary issues, firing employees: Hi Andres, THis is a complicated and sensitive issue. When you start talking about firing employees, that involves employement legal issues; I am not an employment attorney. Every State has laws and guidelines regarding firing employees. Does the salon...

Dealing with Employees: Dealing with untruthfull employees, pipeline construction industry, blue collar workers
pipeline construction industry, blue collar workers, social stature: Dear Carl: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: difficult subordinate, recommended remedy, swinging mood
recommended remedy, swinging mood, mood swings: Kathryn, There is not a quick fix solution, but I will give you some tips. First, do you have a policy manual- job descriptions and expectations; these serve as guidelines for intervention/ Mood swings can indicate a deeper issue (clinical) that I...

Dealing with Employees: HRM query, functions of personnel management, infrastructure requirements
functions of personnel management, infrastructure requirements, selection decisions: WELDIE, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM =========================================== COMPENSATION POLICY A. POLICY The intent of this policy is to provide an available, concise source of information concerning the compensation...

Dealing with Employees: Managing Office, congratulations on your promotion, managing office
congratulations on your promotion, managing office, people of integrity: Hi Lisa, Congratulations on your promotion. This is a difficult but not unsurmountable situation. The former supervisor, from your description, was popular and seemingly respected by the employees, so, you have some big shoes to fill, and you are right...

Dealing with Employees: Organisational behavior, motivation programs, teamwork team
motivation programs, teamwork team, business turnover: SITHOLE, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ======================================== 1.what are the implications of globalisation on organisational behavior IMPACT ON THE DEPENDENT VARIABLES -productivity [EMPHASIS IS ON PRODUCTIVITY...

Dealing with Employees: Preformance Process, mental attitude, work effort
mental attitude, work effort, organizational goals: Dre, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Spat with Co-Worker Comes Back to Bite, latest victim, co worker
latest victim, co worker, target: Thanks for writing. I had a similiar incident with a supervisor a number of years ago, and I know how unfair it feels. I recommend that you schedule a time to talk with your supervisor. Start out by thanking him/her for the time, and saying you feel a bit...

Dealing with Employees: Teaching low income workers ethics, workplace ethics, carrot stick
workplace ethics, carrot stick, rewards system: ANGELA, I fully understand your situation. It is often common among the unskilled/ uneducated workers. My suggestions -online courses are not effective at all. -ethics is such a subject, it can interpreted many ways. ...

Dealing with Employees: Trng, muscular strength and endurance, stability balls
muscular strength and endurance, stability balls, functional strength: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ============================================== 1. What is the scope of functional training. with suitable examples? Many people perform functional strength training to help THEM improve...

Dealing with Employees: Trng, behavioral science research, functional behavioral assessment
behavioral science research, functional behavioral assessment, audience participants: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ======================================================== 1.What are the factors do you consider while using technology to manage performance? Think about cost, ease of use etc. THE NUMBER...

Dealing with Employees: Trng need, new information system, negative attitude
new information system, negative attitude, lingham: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================================= What is a training need TRAINING NEEDS ARE ELEMENTS LIKE -skills -knowledge -attitude -aptitude -abilities -competencies -behaviors WHICH...

Dealing with Employees: Trng techniques, block lettering, audience questions
block lettering, audience questions, suitable examples: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ===================================================== ELECTRONIC WHITE BOARDS, with color markers. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------...

Dealing with Employees: trng eval, summative evaluations, performance behavior
summative evaluations, performance behavior, lingham: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM =========================================== 1. Explain any 2 models of evaluation. The levels 3 [ behavior ] and 4 [ results] go together. THE EVALUATIONS ARE MOSTLY TRACKED ...

Dealing with Employees: trng program, scholastic records, time budget
scholastic records, time budget, size layout: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ================================== BEFORE YOU START THE DESIGN, YOU NEED TO -review the vision/ mission statements -review the corporate plan -review the corporate objectives -review...

Dealing with Employees: Workplace, audience questions, lingham
audience questions, lingham, flip charts: DEEPTI, HERE ARE SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM =========================================== The question of what to use and how to choose is an excellent one. The below given list will help you answer this question by identifying the advantages...

Dealing with Employees: Workplace, knowledgeable workforce, continual challenges
knowledgeable workforce, continual challenges, industry clusters: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM =================================== How has the workplace changed in the past 10 years according to you? What is the impact of these changes on training and development functions? THE WORKPLACE...

Dealing with Employees: employee resignation, letter of resignation, bad feelings
letter of resignation, bad feelings, illwill: Dear Sonia: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: finanacial Vs managerial accounting, business cash flow, cash flow statement
business cash flow, cash flow statement, assets and liabilities: SENAY, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================================== FINANCIAL ACCOUNTING Financial accounting is one branch of accounting and historically has involved processes by which financial information about...

Dealing with Employees: Generational gap, retirement age, phone time
retirement age, phone time, long weekends: Dear Faith, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: to give me hint of fixed assets, paper punchers, pocket calculators
paper punchers, pocket calculators, fixed assets: SENAY, STOCK means = merchandise units of any items. EXAMPLE -----100 staplers. ================================= STOCK ITEMS means items bought for putting on the store shelf. EXAMPLE -------bought 100 staplers to keep in store....

Dealing with Employees: nonbusiness organisations, lingham, colleges and universities
lingham, colleges and universities, tax payers: WELDIE, PEOPLE, WHO HAVE NO KNOWLEDGE/ UNDERSTANDING OF THESE UTILITIES WOULD MAKE SUCH REMARKS. THIS IS NOT TRUE. 1.HOSPITALS -are owned by the government, which is elected by the people. -which is run by an administrator,...

Dealing with Employees: procedure of staffing components, recruitment and selection training, criminal background checks
recruitment and selection training, criminal background checks, compensations and benefits: SENAY, THIS IS THE RECRUITMENT AND SELECTION PROCESS WITH THE PROCEDURES OUTLINED IN THE SEQUENCE. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PROCESS ELEMENTS FOR ALL POSITIONS ...

Dealing with Employees: procedure Vs process, appointment letter, logical series
appointment letter, logical series, repetitive activities: SENAY, PROCESS COMES FIRST, THEN THE PROCEDURE FOLLOWS. LIKE IN BUSINESS, WE SET UP THE BUSINESS PROCESS FIRST, THEN WE DEVELOP THE BUSINESS PROCEDURES. A process can be defined as a logical series of related transactions...

Dealing with Employees: Books which deals with accounting,investment,management,in the form of pdf, financial statement analysis, free online books
financial statement analysis, free online books, investments management: SENAY, I have not used many e-books. BUT I WILL PROVIDE THE SOURCE. www.free-ebooks.net/ www.gutenberg.org/ www.e-book.com.au/freebooks.htm www.ebookdirectory.com etext.virginia.edu/ebooks/ www.ebooklobby.com/ www.diesel-ebooks.com/cgi-bin/category/free_download...

Dealing with Employees: cheating co worker, unjust situation, minute lunch
unjust situation, minute lunch, darling wife: Dear Linda, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: clocking, labor law attorney, government fraud
labor law attorney, government fraud, double shift: Hi Ronda, I ll give you my two cents worth; however, I m not a lawyer, so you might want to pose this question to a labor law attorney or discuss the matter with your HR folks. Generally, time sheets require an employee s signature as a means of certifying...

Dealing with Employees: An employees Fear of flying, hi lauren, plane accident
hi lauren, plane accident, library technology: Hi Lauren Good to know that you are deeply concerned about your subordinates. Thanks for writing in. As for the answer, somebody else can RECEIVE the award on his behalf,right? A family member, or even you maybe! Or maybe a friend who stays closer to...

Dealing with Employees: First day, first day, new job
first day, new job: Hi Dimitrz HEARTY CONGRATULATIONS on getting the job!!! Hmm. The first day - thrilling as well as scary. But its ok. There s always a first day. Though the others would suggest a lengthy motivational speech with we can do this together!! and big...

Dealing with Employees: HR issues, human resource management in a business context, human resources management
human resource management in a business context, human resources management, human resource management: WELDIE, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM. ====================================== In the normal practice in HR, -the values are decided first. [VALUES ARE BELIEFS / FAITH WHICH THE BOARD MEMBERS BELIEVE IN] -BASED...

Dealing with Employees: HR policy, sample hr policies, e learning management
sample hr policies, e learning management, human resource information system: SENAY, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ====================================== HRM PROCESSES -HR AUDITING -HR BUDGETING -Strategic HRM Planning -HR Strategies and Policies. -HR and change management. -Competency-based...

Dealing with Employees: HR policy, human resource issues, human resource managers
human resource issues, human resource managers, equal employment opportunity: SENAY, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ====================================== The objective of Human Resources is to maximize the return on investment from the organization s human capital and minimize financial risk. It is the...

Dealing with Employees: New manager into an established team, new journey, new boss
new journey, new boss, managing a team: HI- I answered the first part before. Ask them what they expect from you- The one to one meetings is a good plan- don t make it confrontational- try to have it in a comfortable room- do not sit behind your desk- you want this to be a conversation- Elly...

Dealing with Employees: next generation work force, content consumption, human resources policy
content consumption, human resources policy, generation work: SENAY, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================================== SUCCESSION PLANNING SUCCESSION planning is an element of career management process. It is an outcome of -corporate strategic planning...

Dealing with Employees: "Supervisor" with a grudge, lack of education, company time
lack of education, company time, utmost respect: Kate -- I think this woman is probably feeling rejected and frustrated at the company for not formally promoting her to a position she was holding informally. If you can understand that she may feel betrayed and inadequate, it will help you see why she...

Dealing with Employees: Trouble with ex-employee, time clients, legal expert
time clients, legal expert, existance: Hi Lizbeth: I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you. Unfortunately, I think a legal expert would be of greater help to you as I am not as qualified to answer this type of question. I do think you have some rights; but I defer to another legal...

Dealing with Employees: Asset Classification, steady customers, favorable location
steady customers, favorable location, sheet c: SENAY, Assets may be classified in many ways. In a company s BALANCE SHEET certain divisions are required by generally accepted accounting principles (GAAP), which vary from country to country. a. Favorable location THIS HAS NO REAL VALUE...

Dealing with Employees: Books which deals with accounting,investment,management,in the form of pdf, financial statement analysis, free online books
financial statement analysis, free online books, investments management: SENAY, I have not used many e-books. BUT I WILL PROVIDE THE SOURCE. www.free-ebooks.net/ www.gutenberg.org/ www.e-book.com.au/freebooks.htm www.ebookdirectory.com etext.virginia.edu/ebooks/ www.ebooklobby.com/ www.diesel-ebooks.com/cgi-bin/category/free_download...

Dealing with Employees: Employees benefits, employment law attorney, performance bonuses
employment law attorney, performance bonuses, legal implications: Mostafa- Employee benefits should never be related to performance; bonuses or revenue sharing maybe. It would be better if you contacted someone in All Experts who is an employment law attorney. This is a better question for them as it seems as though...

Dealing with Employees: ERP/Enterprise resources management, enterprise resources management, enterprise resources planning
enterprise resources management, enterprise resources planning, superannuation trust: SENAY, THE HRM MODULE IN AN ERP PACKAGE INCLUDES: I DON T KNOW/ OR HAVE ANY TECHNICAL SPECIFICATION. GENERAL 1.CONFIGURATION -templates of various forms like *application *appraisal form etc 2.STORAGE AND SEGMENTATION...

Dealing with Employees: ERP for finance speification, supply change management, supply chain management
supply change management, supply chain management, hr human resources: ONEE, MANY MAJOR TELECOM COMPANIES LIKE -AT&T OTHERS USE SAP ERP SOFTWARE WHICH HAS MODULES LIKE -supply chain management. -project management -financial management -CRM -HR management -manufacturing ...

Dealing with Employees: HR issues, productive work experience, health safety environment
productive work experience, health safety environment, quality of work life qwl: SENAY, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ===================================================== 1.Can we say employee safety and security policy or health and wellness or are they intermingled each other and what is the concept of this...

Dealing with Employees: Motivation and short/long term career choices, self actualization, research orientation
self actualization, research orientation, personal priorities: MELISSA, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ================================================= THERE IS A STRONG RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CAREER CHOICES, both long short term and long term as well as motivation. They are...

Dealing with Employees: multi jobs and one pay, waitress job, assistant management
waitress job, assistant management, hostess: Well, there s nothing illegal about what he s doing. He seems to be doing what he needs to do to keep his business running. The alternative might be, if the business isn t profitable he may have to close down altogether and then you wouldn t have any job....

Dealing with Employees: Procedure Template for Human resources., computer misuse policy, ucl policy
computer misuse policy, ucl policy, hr policies and procedures: SENAY, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIALS. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================================== I UNDERSTAND YOUR REQUIREMENT. LET ME TELL YOU AT FIRST, -there is no standard template for HR POLICIES. -each policy is different...

Dealing with Employees: payroll, human resources department, market surveys
human resources department, market surveys, administration work: SENAY, QUESTION 1 Is the function of payroll under finance departement or the human resources department?the reason/logic behind being grouped under one of the deparments? The payroll has two elements in it. 1.COMPENSATION -developing the...

Dealing with Employees: payroll, human resources department, market surveys
human resources department, market surveys, lingham: SENAY, The payroll has two elements in it. 1.COMPENSATION -developing the total compensation package development for each job position---say, the sales manager. which includes items like -base pay -sales commission. -bonus...

Dealing with Employees: THE TALENT MANAGEMENT PROCESS, talent management, project coordinator
talent management, project coordinator, writing skills: Dear Vinod, I do not do school related issues. My best advice is to talk to your professor or advisor and ask for his/her help with your project. In the final analysis, it is your advisor or project coordinator you have to please with your topic, so his/her...

Dealing with Employees: Weak Managment Style, shaun belding, servant leadership
shaun belding, servant leadership, respect honesty: Russ -- You can be a strong, assertive (and nice) boss without being overbearing. Treat your people with fairness, respect, honesty, and be clear in your expectations for them. Get to know them as individuals, not just as part of the office group. Take...

Dealing with Employees: Difficult employee, Motivation, Leadership
Motivation, Leadership, communication: Dear Raj, There is a guiding principle that I believe is important to remember when leading or motivating other people. Quite simply stated... No one does anything that they don t perceive to be in their own best self-interest at the time they do it ....

Dealing with Employees: Difficult employee, collaboration team, abc report
Dealing with Employees: Difficult employee, collaboration team, abc report, team cooperation

Dealing with Employees: human resource information systems, tata motors india, wipro india
tata motors india, wipro india, infosys india: ADAMU, THESE ARE THE COMPANIES WHICH USES HRIS EXTENSIVELY WITHIN THE ORGANIZATION. 1.Coca-Cola 2.Microsoft 3.IB M 4.GE 5.Nokia 6.Toyota 7.Intel 8.McDonald’s 9.PEPSICO 10.UNILEVER [ UK ] 11.PROCTOR GAMBLE 12.HEWLETT ...

Dealing with Employees: Invasion of Privacy?, email computer, violation of privacy
email computer, violation of privacy, invasion of privacy: My apologies, I just got back from vacation and am trying to play catch up! This is a great question. The answer actually is no, it is not a violation of privacy. Most companies have some kind of internet and email/computer policy (most will make you sign...

Dealing with Employees: Invasion of privacy at work, personal phone number, mobile telephone numbers
personal phone number, mobile telephone numbers, invasion of privacy: Hi Alexa: This is an excellent question. Unless your company has indicated that they were going to release phone numbers of employees to your entire office and everyone agreed or signed off on this to be done, in my opinion, it is a violation of privacy....

Dealing with Employees: co-worker annoying eating habit, eating habit, lingham
eating habit, lingham, whose butt: PATTY, The options for you, are -have an informal chat with the young lady and explain to her in nice terms. -give a week or so. if the situation shows no improvement -have a discussion with your boss,...

Dealing with Employees: how much control can a boss have over you?, private phone, case report
private phone, case report, personal life: JULIA, Is there a line between boss and employee? [THERE IS A CLEAR CUT LINE BETWEEN THE BOSS AND THE EMPLOYEE, WHEN IT COMES TO THE INDIVIDUAL PRIVACY.] ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------...

Dealing with Employees: difficult team member, messy divorce, art manager
messy divorce, art manager, art team: Dear Rose, If you have already talked to your manager about what your authority is, and your manager did not offer helpful guidelines, it may be wise to talk to the manager again and ask for further clarification of what exactly you can and can t do in...

Dealing with Employees: Employee Conflicts, employee conflicts, tattle tale
employee conflicts, tattle tale, billing mistakes: Dear Karen, I am sorry work is being so difficult for you. I can tell by your lengthy post, written on a day when you felt the need to get away from work, that this situation is taking up way too much of your time and is impacting your personal life as...

Dealing with Employees: Employment, employment question, french kiss
employment question, french kiss, sensitive woman: Hi Peter I thank you for caring to follow up for your friend s sake. And I apologize for the delay in my response Peter, I see two things happened to Felisa here: - She being involved forcibly to talk about/discuss something that she was not at all...

Dealing with Employees: HRD sussystem, human resource development, organizational relationships
human resource development, organizational relationships, memory structure: DEEPTI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM =========================================== HRD HUMAN RESOURCE DEVELOPMENT IS A MAJOR INTERVENTIONIST TOOL IN THE ORGANIZATION DEVELOPMENT. HR DEVELOPMENT includes ...

Dealing with Employees: Jealous principal, untrue rumors, productive manner
untrue rumors, productive manner, program improvement: Dear Cecelia, I would be very honest and straight forward with this individual. In a calm, firm manner I would tell him that in order to achieve the goals and objectives that will benefit the school district you need a team that can work together in a positive...

Dealing with Employees: New young supervisor, supervisor position, security field
supervisor position, security field, dilemna: Hi Isaac: Thanks for your question. And I see that this is a dilemna for you. I am wondering, why were the two other supervisors fired? Do you know? Was it due to their work performance or due to the OT that some of the other workers were getting that...

Dealing with Employees: Power hungry employee, arrogant attitude, recent promotions
arrogant attitude, recent promotions, human resources manager: Dear Anne, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: my boss shares confidential information about coworkers, hr manager, good relationship
hr manager, good relationship, staff staff: Hi Gemma: I have been trying to think of other avenues you could take to be proactive but am so surprised that your HR Manager took sides with your supervisor especially after you have been there 9 years!! I would continue to do the best you can, day in...

Dealing with Employees: difficult team member, messy divorce, art manager
messy divorce, art manager, art team: Dear Rose, If you have already talked to your manager about what your authority is, and your manager did not offer helpful guidelines, it may be wise to talk to the manager again and ask for further clarification of what exactly you can and can t do in...

Dealing with Employees: my boss shares confidential information about coworkers, personal phone, performance issues
Dealing with Employees: my boss shares confidential information about coworkers, personal phone, performance issues, outburst

Dealing with Employees: Can I be fired for bringing an issue to HR's attention?, e mail account, internet usage policy
e mail account, internet usage policy, right of privacy: First, please understand That I haven t read your company policy. And, while I m sure you have generally given me an accurate picture of it, I don t feel comfortable commenting on it. Secondly, I have no idea of what your boss has said in his emails and cannot...

Dealing with Employees: SSE, employee salaries, lingham
employee salaries, lingham, promotion costs: URVI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM -================================== Nature of Product or Service 1.A WIDE RANGE OF PRODUCTS/SERVICES COULD BE PRODUCED BY SSE, WHICH INCREASES EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITIES 2.PARTS...

Dealing with Employees: site selection, interstate highways, typical categories
interstate highways, typical categories, determinates: URVI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ==================================================== BUSINESS LOCATION Why do firms locate where they do? There is no single answer—different firms choose their locations for different reasons....

Dealing with Employees: Abuse of office telephones, office telephones, work improvement
office telephones, work improvement, disciplinary procedure: Hi Mariska, This is a difficult situation, particularly, since your supervisor is modeling that it s okay to abuse the phone. Here s what I suggest. Start the formal disciplinary procedure. The employee has not responded to nice-guy conversations and...

Dealing with Employees: Accounting and Finances, abc ltd, accounting book
abc ltd, accounting book, current liabilities: PRAVEEN, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. Q2/Q4 ARE NOT PART OF MY EXPERTISE. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ================================== 1.What do you mean by accounting ? Explain the various concepts of accounting and the need for having accounting...

Dealing with Employees: difficult staff, tattle tales, complainers
tattle tales, complainers, time thing: Karen -- My first thought is, how is your senior management handling these tattle-tales? Are they listening to them, or refusing to listen, thereby sending the complainers back down to you and backing you up? It s very difficult to manage a situation like...

Dealing with Employees: Employee behavior on my nerves!, operational emergencies, dear emma
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Dealing with Employees: FRUSTRATED GM, management trainees, nick dear
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Dealing with Employees: hr keeping info confidential, drinking on the job, regional managers
drinking on the job, regional managers, hr manager: Hi Priscilla: I apologize, I was on vacation and had put that I was unavailable but for some reason it wasn t captured by AllExperts ! So I apologize for the delay in getting back to you !! I understand your frustration and don t blame you one bit. A...

Dealing with Employees: labor law, illinois state department of labor, accurate statements
illinois state department of labor, accurate statements, illinois labor: Linda, Sorry for the delay in answering your question. I was out of the country and just returned. While, I don t know everything about Illinois Labor law, meetings are work and must be paid. If you have any confusion. Call the Illinois state department...

Dealing with Employees: office administration, office administration, software company
office administration, software company, business development: Dear Kaniyoor, This is a little too broad of a question. I would be happy to try and answer a more specific question about a specific concern or problem. Please give me as much detail as possible so I don t have to answer in general theory terms. Thanks...

Dealing with Employees: Problem employee, 3 strikes, slamming doors
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Dealing with Employees: Problem Managing my Team, added emphasis, organization chart
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Dealing with Employees: probationary letter, employee assistance plan, probation supervisor
employee assistance plan, probation supervisor, supervisor signature: MEL, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================================= SAMPLE ONE---EMPLOYMENT PROBATION LETTER Date: _____________________________________________ Employee: _________________________________________...

Dealing with Employees: return of investment in HR, labor turnover, innovation seminar
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Dealing with Employees: sensitive payroll issue...., state of connecticut, independent contractor
state of connecticut, independent contractor, professional manner: Paul -- Your original contract with the company should have spelled out how you are to be compensated, including when invoices have to be submitted and paid. If that isn t included, then modify the contract next time it renews. Do you know where the...

Dealing with Employees: touchy payroll issue, labor law attorney, state of connecticut
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Dealing with Employees: CO-Workers, employee behaviors, unsigned letter
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Dealing with Employees: A complacent veteran, merchandising department, 17 years
merchandising department, 17 years, gentleman: Hi Sarah- Have action items to which he is held accountable What action took place after he did not do well on the previuos reveiw? Were there consequences associated with not meeting expectations? What does your company policy say about this- and HR?...

Dealing with Employees: Defensive employee, star employees, work effort
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Dealing with Employees: Difficult Staff, egg shells, staff offices
egg shells, staff offices, vacation time: Hi Heather Thanks for writing in. I just corrected some typos. I understand how difficult it can be do deal with some kinds of behaviour. Nevertheless, it is important to be objective and isolate the performance from the behaviour. You said that...

Dealing with Employees: Employee not being apart of the team, defensive attitude, fri
defensive attitude, fri, straight to the point: Stacie -- Unfortunately, you may have to keep on having the weekly meetings with her -- especially if her slacker attitude is affecting your paycheck. When you have the meetings, or reviews, make sure you stress the things she is doing well, then go...

Dealing with Employees: Motivating employees, moving in the right direction, resource design
moving in the right direction, resource design, motivational talks: Terry Marie, Realize first that the reason that you are in the leadership position and they are not is that you have the drive and determination that they lack. Don t expect them to be perfect, but when you catch them moving in the right direction, praise...

Dealing with Employees: Talking with a boss who brags and embelishes, financial consulting, consulting business
financial consulting, consulting business, constructive criticism: Dear Allen, I think you can do both. Say something like... I realize ___ can be a bit over bearing at times. He is aware of how he is perceived sometimes and is trying to change. However, he possesses (define the strengths he brings to the business) that...

Dealing with Employees: Boss, employee assistance program, eap counselors
employee assistance program, eap counselors, employee assistance program eap: Hi Lori, First, it was not wise of you to post any comments about your job on Facebook. Employees have been fired for writing negative comments or posting unprofessional photos. Bosses do check facebook and like sites, as you now are aware. I m sorry...

Dealing with Employees: How to deal with my secretary, performance improvement plan, hr person
performance improvement plan, hr person, successful relationship: Hi Esam: This is a difficult one and I am sure frustrating for you. What I would suggest and what I have recommended to other executives is that you sit down with her and let her know your expectations. List them for her, have them typed out and give her...

Dealing with Employees: Employee caught going through my desk and e-mail, desk drawers, computer drive
desk drawers, computer drive, secret meeting: Hi Ann: I agree, it sounds like there is no reason that your employee should be going through your desk, personal folders, etc. Did you say anything to this employee when you caught them in your desk? I am wondering just what this employee is looking for...

Dealing with Employees: employee tardiness, minute grace period, phone traffic
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Dealing with Employees: follow up question-, labor law attorney, litigious world
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Dealing with Employees: Key Emplyoyee, solution paths, faith and trust
solution paths, faith and trust, base salary: Dear Robert: Thank you for your question. I recognize that yours is a very difficult circumstance. Given that your company debt is increasing as a direct result of this key employee’s compensation requirements, you have little choice but to take some...

Dealing with Employees: Boss Asks Employees to Complain to HR About Co-Workers, mob mentality, lynch mob
mob mentality, lynch mob, dramatic consequences: Laura, I m with you. Totally agree with you. Sounds like the writing is already on the wall, so it probably doesn t really matter one way or the other what you do. I always find that a good thermometer is your conscious. If you feel uncomfortable speaking...

Dealing with Employees: Chronic Tardiness, chronic tardiness, delicate situation
chronic tardiness, delicate situation, 19 months: Hi Sandra, It is a delicate situation but not one that can t be resolved if you are willing to do what needs to be done. You say she is 3-15 minutes late every day, and though you ve dealt with her unofficially, the tardiness continues. So your unofficial...

Dealing with Employees: Confidentiality/Privacy Violation, subjective thoughts, hr person
subjective thoughts, hr person, privacy violation: Hi Erin: I sincerely apologize. For some reason your question didn t get into my email inbox so I am just seeing this now. Again, I apologize for the delay. You raise an excellent question and I am very sorry that the statement of your conversation was...

Dealing with Employees: confused, pep talk, innate talent
pep talk, innate talent, t management: Hi Lacey, It s a joy to know that a suggestion really helped someone. Am happy for you. All the best for your future! For questions that fit very well into the Dealing with Employees category - I would still prefer to use allexperts as the medium,...

Dealing with Employees: email/co documents, client appointment, template letters
client appointment, template letters, customer query: KEMI, I think, you have a valid case here. You need to put these things in writing- in sequence. Then,sit down, with the manager and explain logically the sequence of events. Often,in the heat of the moment, the verbal...

Dealing with Employees: Gossip/rumors/morale, leadership and self deception, gossip rumors
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Dealing with Employees: New Hire drinking on the job, zero tolerance policy, alcohol consumption
zero tolerance policy, alcohol consumption, drinking on the job: Hi Dixie; Wow, this is not a great way for this employee to start a new job!! Is he aware of the zero tolerance policy of no drugs/no alcohol? What I would do is sit down with him today and explain that policy to him once again, ask him to sign a copy...

Dealing with Employees: Problem me or my team?, partial responsibility, hr person
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Dealing with Employees: privacy violations at work, labor law attorney, age discrimination employment act
labor law attorney, age discrimination employment act, privacy violation: Hi Derrick, I am not a labor law attorney, so you should check with one of those experts for a second opinion. My opinion is, for workers under 40, unless the employer is giving out your age in a way that is derogatory or reflects negatively on you,...

Dealing with Employees: Just promoted to an existing team, improving customer service, open management
improving customer service, open management, employee conduct: Karen, Tell them that you hope to have an open management style. That you want them to feel free to make suggestions that will improve the operation by eliminating waste and improving customer service. Tell them so they will know what to expect from you,...

Dealing with Employees: What should I do to become a good supervisor, logistics management, selection areas
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Dealing with Employees: Economic and Social Environment, transition stages, current stages
transition stages, current stages, management movement: POONAM, HERE IS THE ANSWERS FOR Q1/Q3. WITH OTHER QUESTIONS, I CANNOT HELP AS I AM NOT CLOSE TO THE INDIAN SCENE. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ======================================= 1. For Management Movement to develop it is essential...

Dealing with Employees: Employee KPI's, category managers, barnesandnoble
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Dealing with Employees: Key players performance affected on my team, employee assistance program eap, employee assistance program
employee assistance program eap, employee assistance program, office romances: Hi Tesla, Office romances are often a cause for frustration and angst for many managers. The key to successfully managing a problem of this sort is to focus on performance not the relationship. Talk to each employee privately. Provide specifics of...

Dealing with Employees: Negative info made public, kirstine, hr manager
kirstine, hr manager, manager director: Hi Frankie: This is really unfortunate and I do think unprofessional of your direct supervisor. How did you find out that the negative information is on her outlook calendar? Irregardless, what I would do is go to your HR Manager, Director or a supervisor...

Dealing with Employees: Non-financial reward system, financial rewards, expertize
financial rewards, expertize, financial reward: Hi Thanks for writing in Some examples of non financial rewards are: - Verbal and written appreciation acknowledging the specific contribution made and how it was different. This is the best amd most genuine form of reward - Sending certificates to...

Dealing with Employees: organisational design, statistical analysis methods, organizational diagnosis
statistical analysis methods, organizational diagnosis, change initiatives: ANOUSHKA, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATKERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ============================================= define organisational diagnosis. discuss different methods of organisational analysis and cite how it is carried out in your organisation or...

Dealing with Employees: Power strugle at work, trust, power struggle
trust, power struggle, management skills: Kenny, Respect doesn t come from a title. It is earned through character, hard work, and the development of trust. I suspect that since you are pretty new in the position, they haven t been able to identify where you stand in their eyes with any of these...

Dealing with Employees: Problem Employee, aggressive attitude, aggressive behaviour
aggressive attitude, aggressive behaviour, admin assistant: Hi Helen Thanks for writing in. Sometimes, simply a colleague s behaviour can make us tensed up and make the workday suddenly seem like a burden. First of all, I assume that since she is assistant admin the work that you delegate to her is really part...

Dealing with Employees: Re: CEO Work, ford motors, expansion opportunities
ford motors, expansion opportunities, uk clients: KEVIN, I UNDERSTAND YOUR SITUATION. 1.IF IT IS A VERY LARGE ORGANIZATION, LIKE FORD MOTORS , THE CEO FOCUSES ON CORPORATE STRATEGIES AND NOT SPECIALIZES IN ANY AREA, EVEN IF HE COMES FROM A BACKGOUND OF FINANCE ...

Dealing with Employees: Bad bad egg in my team, bad egg, employee response
bad egg, employee response, professional problem: Missy, You are very fortunate that your boss has given you the okay to make a choice. This means that he wants you to take care of it. In addition, you have the luxury of her being a contract employee. It s a perfect situation for instaneously improving...

Dealing with Employees: co-workers going through my backpack, personal belongings, co worker
personal belongings, co worker, backpack: Nancy -- It is absolutely unacceptable for a co-worker to go through your personal belongings. You need to tell her, in a polite but firm way, that you are upset and angry over their violation of your privacy and you expect an apology from them and a promise...

Dealing with Employees: Dealing with co-workers, flex schedule, kim kim
flex schedule, kim kim, co workers: Kim -- Frankly, I don t think it s your responsibility to tell your co-workers to stop yakking and get back to work. But since your boss has put it back on you, what I d suggest is the next time they start talking and interrupting your work, pop your head...

Dealing with Employees: Employee Hygeine, personal hygiene, delicate issue
personal hygiene, delicate issue, offensive odor: Hi Pat, I m assuming you are the supervisor for this person since others have come to you to seek help with the problem. I would suggest that you talk to the employee privately. Let the employee know how very fond everyone is of him/her and how pleased...

Dealing with Employees: fines and withhold pay, employee checks, lingham
employee checks, lingham, legal counsel: MELISSA, LEGALLY AND ETHICALLY THE EMPLOYER CANNOT HOLD UP THE PAY-CHECK FOR ANY REASONS. -being late for work ----is a discipline matter. -not signing a document --=-is again a discipline matter. HENCE BOTH THESE...

Dealing with Employees: Management of public enterprises, liberalization policy, urban improvements
liberalization policy, urban improvements, feasibility studies: SOMANATH, AS I AM NOT CLOSE TO THE INDIAN SCENE, I CANNOT HELP YOU WITH Qs [1-4] HERE IS THE ANSWER FOR Q5. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================================= Project Planning Process Project Development Process The project...

Dealing with Employees: Organizational design development and change, classical approach to management, scalar principle
classical approach to management, scalar principle, 7s model: 3.write an essay on the process of change and enumerate how it is carried out in an organisation you are familiar with. briefly describe the organisation you are referring to. What is change management? Change management is a set of ideas, strategies,...

Dealing with Employees: social processes and behavioral issues, socialization process, attitudes and values
socialization process, attitudes and values, personal transformation: MANOJ, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ======================================= Describe the emerging scenario of organizations. Explain the steps to be taken by management into bring in the mindset of employees conducive to changing...

Dealing with Employees: social processes and behavioural issues, types of organizational culture, helping relationship
types of organizational culture, helping relationship, problem performance: MANOJ, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ===================================================== A] Explain the different type of organizational culture? Describe the type of actions managers have to take to change organizational culture...

Dealing with Employees: staff, false assumptions, workplace situation
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Dealing with Employees: terminated while on medical leave, disability payments, union boss
disability payments, union boss, disability insurance: Dear Karen, Thank you for your question. I will give you an answer based upon my experience in the U.S. Typically, there are three options for employees who encounter medical leave. 1) If you signed up for disability insurance upon becoming employed...

Dealing with Employees: attitude, change behaviors, delivery driver
change behaviors, delivery driver, behavior changes: Dear Rona, If a staff member doesn t respond to a request to change behavior It s because they don t see the urgency to change or are not clear about your expectations. It s impossible for me determine what this staff member s motivation, or lack of it,...

Dealing with Employees: co-worker conflict and weak boss issue, magna cum laude, interior design office
magna cum laude, interior design office, voice mail: Hi Lorraine I totally understand what you might be going through. Reading through your message itself made me feel heavier :-) The stress might be too much and I am sure in some way or the other it might be taking a toll on your health. Thanks for...

Dealing with Employees: Employee Behavior, spouse job, behavior question
spouse job, behavior question, aging parents: Ok thanks! If this is a general issue then start with a workshop in communication styles- we are in tough times so maybe everyone s behavior has changed slightly- people work from their own point of view and frame of reference- how they see and view the world....

Dealing with Employees: Employee Disrespect, employee disrespect, real communication
employee disrespect, real communication, escalate: Stacey, Trust me, there is a reason for her behavior, but the lead is oblivious to what he/she has done. The best way to handle it is for the lead to just go to the person in a non-threatening, friendly way and just ask what he/she did that got the admin...

Dealing with Employees: Employee Disrespect, passive aggressive behavior, inappropriate relationship
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Dealing with Employees: Employee Disrespect, undesired behavior, types of behaviors
Dealing with Employees: Employee Disrespect, undesired behavior, types of behaviors, corrective action

Dealing with Employees: Habitually late employees & abuse of companie's policies and procedures, role management, middle management
role management, middle management, breaking the rules: Debbie- Relaxed or not- there are policies and procedures to be followed. There should not be sensitivity to the matter- either there is a policy or not. Frankly, your middle management should be held accountable to address this behavior- are they involved...

Dealing with Employees: Harassment at work and Jealousy, financial management company, harassment at work
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Dealing with Employees: rumers and tention in the work place, work atmosphere, rumers
work atmosphere, rumers, lingham: VALERI, As per your brief, -the problem seems to be lack of awareness of the rules. -the lack of effective enforcement by the boss. YOU BEING, THE BLUE SHIRT, IS CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------...

Dealing with Employees: Temporary Worker, personal mail, personal errands
personal mail, personal errands, lunch hour: Hi Sheil, Sorry I m late in answering your question. I was out of the country for a week. Now to your question. I would not say anything to this individual. You don t even know what really happened. The information you received was second-hand. You ve based...

Dealing with Employees: Difficult employee, defensive attitude, successful relationship
defensive attitude, successful relationship, serious conversation: Hi Meg: What a frustrating situation for you! And it sounds like you have been doing a good job of mentoring your assistant and you have been patient, so maybe it is time that you have a serious conversation with her. I take it you are her supervisor and...

Dealing with Employees: discrimination, nerve deafness, reasonable accommodation
nerve deafness, reasonable accommodation, labor attorney: Dear James: It is clear that your question is one that requires a legal interpretation. Unfortunately, I am not an attorney; therefore, I cannot anwser your question. I suggest you consult a labor attorney or find a labor law expert on this website to...

Dealing with Employees: Employee Mistakes, labor attorney, correct terminology
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Dealing with Employees: employee behavior issue, cube walls, employee behavior
cube walls, employee behavior, personal things: Lisa, it s okay to say something specific about an incident when it happens if you use good people skills and don t try to embarrass her. However, don t expect her to change. It will just frustrate you more. There is a good chance that even if you bring...

Dealing with Employees: so im prettty? boss didnt like me. fired me, employment lawyer, title vii
employment lawyer, title vii, coworkers: Dear Theresa, if what you re telling me is true, I m sorry. What recourse you have against your employer depends on the state you work in and wheather your employer is an At Will or Just Cause employer. Some states require employers to declare betweet...

Dealing with Employees: Key Employee - started a side business, niche industry, environmental testing services
niche industry, environmental testing services, team atmosphere: Hi Julian: I apologize, I didn t see this in my inbox and so I didn t get to read until this morning! Apologies for the delay in responding to your question! You have a legitimate concern here and I think you need to sit down with this employee immediately...

Dealing with Employees: Layed Off- Fired After 6 Months, warner music group, universal music group
warner music group, universal music group, lingham: RICO, BASED ON YOUR BRIEF, -if the company signed you up for 2 year contract. -if they are laying off [ whatever the reason ] THEY HAVE TO PAY YOU OFF, FOR THE BALANCE OF THE PERIOD LEFT [ 23 MONTHS ] You should take...

Dealing with Employees: problem behavior, loud conversations, workplace decorum
loud conversations, workplace decorum, cube walls: Dear Claudia: Thank you for your question and your kind words. Regarding your employee challenge, every workplace has an established decorum for employee behavior. Your comment that “we sit in a very quiet location” indicates that your new employee is...

Dealing with Employees: work privacy violations, better business bureau, hr program
better business bureau, hr program, person info: Hi Jackie: I am very sorry to hear this and I agree, personal information should only be looked at by management and not staff members. Really, there isn t an agency I know of that you can report it to other than the Better Business Bureau and I am not sure...

Dealing with Employees: Accounting, lingham, organization need
lingham, organization need, business employees: URVI, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ===================================== WHAT IS ACCOUNTING? Quite simply, accounting is a language: a language that provides information about the financial position of an organization. When...

Dealing with Employees: bad vibe with new employee, bad vibe, branch management
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Dealing with Employees: Employee who calls out frequently, medical condition, thanks in advance
medical condition, thanks in advance, emma: Emma -- I d sit down with the employee and ask him/her for suggestions on how best to handle things. There may be some things that would be better served if you (or someone else) filled in for, and some things that could (and should) wait for this employee...

Dealing with Employees: Employee threats?, hostile work environment, bad attitude
hostile work environment, bad attitude, hr person: Joe, let me first give the disclaimer that I am not an employment attorney nor an HR person, so I have no idea about the legal implications of any part of the conversation (from either you or the employee). It sounds to me as though the employee is the one...

Dealing with Employees: employees' office policy, office drama, leadership values
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Dealing with Employees: your recommended readings?, pearls of wisdom, dear emma
pearls of wisdom, dear emma, nuts and bolts: Dear Emma, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Termination due to associate discount?, corporate human resources, loss prevention
corporate human resources, loss prevention, winter breaks: Stan I really don t know if you will be terminated. If the action was truly just an oversight on your part- not reactivating your account, then it most likely will be a corrective action. The company needs to follow policy and procedures. Ask what you can...

Dealing with Employees: discrimination, gifts store, exact words
gifts store, exact words, hard case: Hi Chanel, I am sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, I don t know of any law that holds one accountable for rudeness and shabby customer service. Whether you have a claim as to discrimination (discrimination against you because you re a teenager),...

Dealing with Employees: False Accusations, false accusations, fellow employee
false accusations, fellow employee, hr department: Dear Steve, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Human Resources, mergers and acquisition, takeover target
mergers and acquisition, takeover target, merger and acquisition: ASMEE, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. Q4 IS OUT OF MY EXPERTISE. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ======================================= 1. Explain the concept of mergers and acquisition. Describe the role of agencies in the formation of mergers and acquisitions....

Dealing with Employees: managing change in the organisation, organization development program, systematic data collection
organization development program, systematic data collection, group cohesiveness: RANJEET, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ========================= Explain the concept of intervention. Describe the interventions which have been used in an organization you are familiar with. Give reasons for using them. Briefly...

Dealing with Employees: Office Romance, full time job, office romance
full time job, office romance, new girlfriend: Hi Mandy, Yours is a difficult situation. The job is not your life. It is a stepping stone to the rest of your life. It is preparing you with the necessary means you will need in retirement to live your dreams. That being said, you must recognize...

Dealing with Employees: Problem Employee, boss lady, constructive manner
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Dealing with Employees: Q, interpreter and translator, master sergeant
interpreter and translator, master sergeant, first cav: Dear Sam: Thank you for your question. Your letter appears factual and objective. The only suggestions I have for it are in two areas. In your list of accomplishments, you should specifically quantify or describe the benefits you translations and...

Dealing with Employees: Q, interpreter and translator, master sergeant
interpreter and translator, master sergeant, first cav: Sam, I think you ve done a very good job of documenting your case. I would have your letter checked for grammatical errors however. You should have someone proof-read it for those errors. It is a bit awkward and could be tightened up. That s not an area...

Dealing with Employees: new employee, new employee, gossip at work
new employee, gossip at work, talk behind back: Dawn, I m really sorry for the delay in answering your question. I must have missed the request when it came in. You should absolutely consider the first month or two of someone s employment as part of the job interview. Whatever negative behavior that...

Dealing with Employees: Question about how to deal with an opposite sex co-worker who seems to dislike me without a clear reason., university of guelph, compassionate employees
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Dealing with Employees: staff can not trust, good relationship, titbits
good relationship, titbits, management style: Sunny -- It s very difficult to manage a situation like this when you don t have the backing of your higher-ups. I d suggest that you first set up a meeting with the CEO and address your concerns from the point of view of the job. Tell her you are very...

Dealing with Employees: talking, management challenges, workers talking during work time
management challenges, workers talking during work time, business consulting: Shawn, If the problem really is that a few bad apples are chatting too much, then you might be able to get the group together, explain the problem and the difficult situation that you are being placed in, and see what the group comes up with as a solution....

Dealing with Employees: Webinars on how to get along in the workplace, employer resource institute, allexperts
employer resource institute, allexperts, fellow employees: Laura, You are most welcome. I m sure your HR professionals will find the content of my upcoming book, Natural Born Manager, quite informative and useful. Please send your contact information to nbmworld@peoplepc.com. Once received, I ll forward my...

Dealing with Employees: Workplace threats, seeming indifference, avoidance behavior
seeming indifference, avoidance behavior, dangerous employee: Dear Michelle, ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Workplace violence issue, costly lawsuit, workplace violence
costly lawsuit, workplace violence, abusive husband: Dear Aly, I do a lot of seminars on the topic of workplace violence. It is the #2 killer of women on the job. Unless there is training by companies and safeguards in place to help prevent it, workplace violence is a real potential threat to every business....

Dealing with Employees: Difficult employee, training in interpersonal skills, tam members
training in interpersonal skills, tam members, attitude problem: CHARLES, I understand your situation. There are two factors are hurting your business. -impact on the customer relationship. -lack of teamwork / morale. =================================== MY SUGGESTION -take him to the...

Dealing with Employees: Disruptive Employee on my team, blind copies, dear ann
blind copies, dear ann, evaluation time: Dear Ann: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: Ethical Consideration on my employee, white cement, new engineer
white cement, new engineer, power god: Hi Cindy Thanks for writing in. Yes, it is indeed a difficult dilemma. But I would want you to think about this: 1- What was the expectation set when he was hired? Was it to to research on how Mixer ABC is to be best USED? Or to decide whether ABC...

Dealing with Employees: Ex-employee Threats, acts of violence, workplace violence
acts of violence, workplace violence, physical threats: Dear Kinita, First of all I m sorry for the delay. You must not have gotten my earlier answer. It must have gotten lost in cyberspace. To answer your question, yes, in most situations you should have been notified. Most companies don t know how to properly...

Dealing with Employees: False Accusations, false accusations, conspiracy theories
false accusations, conspiracy theories, memebers: Hi Mitchell For now, I would suggest that you wait and watch. The actual problem seems to be a non issue since you were just told to provide a written statement of your version. Some procedures are inevitable. Once your manager and direct supervisor...

Dealing with Employees: infighting and underming authority, hornets nest, superintendent principal
hornets nest, superintendent principal, star employees: Dear Robert: Thank you for your question and thank you for your service to our next generation of citizens. Yours is a very important job. The answers to your questions are relatively easy to produce. However, the execution, as you would expect, is challenging,...

Dealing with Employees: Mobbing, managerial capabilities, dear linda
managerial capabilities, dear linda, disrespect: Dear Linda, Thank you for your question. Your situation is quite common. A new manager goes into an organization to improve performance. The existing employees pushback on the manager because they don t like CHANGE. Why? Because they were taking advantage...

Dealing with Employees: Office Manager with two sets of rules, feeble excuses, bad attitude
feeble excuses, bad attitude, lingham: JANA, BASED ON YOUR BRIEF, MY SUGGESTION IS, -all the four assistants should go and meet the big boss [ office manager s boss] -give him a complete brief. -then give him 4 weeks to work out a solution. -if there...

Dealing with Employees: Small Scale Enterprises, supportive climate, scale entrepreneurs
supportive climate, scale entrepreneurs, ball bearings: SUDHARSAN, HERE IS SOME USEFUL MATERIAL. REGARDS LEO LINGHAM ============================== 4.a. What is the importance of the training functions in the small state sector? Explain. It helps the participants become motivated to learn. Helps the...

Dealing with Employees: Subordinate supervisor thinks he knows best, management aspirations, line supervisor
management aspirations, line supervisor, star employees: Dear Matthew: ************************JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW**************************************** My NEW book NATURAL BORN MANAGER is available at ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ WWW.NBMWORLD.NET +++++++++++++++++++++++++++...

Dealing with Employees: authority, disciplining employees, inparticular
disciplining employees, inparticular, breaking rules: Hello Jo Anne and thank you for your question. Do not allow an employee threat of going to human resources keep you from doing your job as a supervisor. Find out if human resources has established a policy and process for disciplining employees. If there is...

Dealing with Employees: Drinking on Job, legal risk, different cultures
legal risk, different cultures, employees health: Dear Brittany, I Don t know what your position is with your company nor what the jobs are of the managers who are drinking at lunch. You also have not told me why you object to the drinking. However, let me make some general observations. Obviously, if...

Dealing with Employees: New Boss Making One Sided Judgement About Me
Dear Sam: Thank you for your question. Don t panic! This is only the blustery behavior of new manager trying to establish his authority. The downside is only that he is obviously a poor manager. Good managers don t address problem situations this way....

Dealing with Employees: Performance Outcomes, performance questions, performance outcomes
performance questions, performance outcomes, newsletter article: Mahlasti, Performance questions are based on the expectations and measures that are in place (up front) with the job description. If the manager did not discuss at the beginning of the year or if there are no expectations and measures built into the job...

Dealing with Employees: privacy, work purposes, violation of privacy
work purposes, violation of privacy, legitimate claim: Bri; I can only offer assistance if you enter a position of negotiation or an impasse prior to or after your seek proper legal assistance. When I worked for the government, and to my present knowledge of corporate/employee.contractor privacy there are...

Dealing with Employees: Taking a team over, career growth opportunities, culture in india
career growth opportunities, culture in india, team expectations: Raja, This is an exciting opportunity- embrace it! To answer your questions. 1. Yes the Director should formally transition you to the team- set expectations. I would discuss with him/her your concerns. 2. Ground work would be to find out what the...

Dealing with Employees: Books for helping Managers transition into a new department., time leadership, understanding leadership
time leadership, understanding leadership, cumulative knowledge: Erica; There are so many books (everyone short of my mother has written one) and they range in value from excellent to ridiculously poor and I would need to ask several questions to get a positive lock on your specific needs. The question you asked is...

Dealing with Employees: Employees attitude, one of the boys, reservation manager
one of the boys, reservation manager, subordinates: Dear Katrina: Thank you for your question. Yours is a very common problem to new managers. The problem is that you cannot be an effective manager if your priority is to maintain your friendships with your subordinates. I know this is difficult to accept...

Dealing with Employees: Late Employees, verbal judo institute inc, verbal judo institute
verbal judo institute inc, verbal judo institute, george j thompson: Gary; Because the nature of your question is regarding a legal position I am unqualified to respond properly. I am not an attorney and wish to defer to one of the experts with such qualfication. There are several on the AllExperts site and they will answer...

Dealing with Employees: Lying Staff, rearranging furniture, personal conversations
rearranging furniture, personal conversations, arranging furniture: Wendy -- I apologize for the delay in answering this -- I never got a notice that I had a question and just happened to log in to the account and see your note. You are in a difficult situation. If the board isn t going to back you up, there s not a...

Dealing with Employees: Non comunicating employee, customer service rep, service warehouse
customer service rep, service warehouse, critical task: Sherry; Let’s see if we can sort through the hard stuff and work out the details of your concerns. As I read your question(s) I note of several issues: 1. The employee in question treats you with indifference or a lack of respect for your position,...

Dealing with Employees: Upsetting/Tense Situation., legal avenues, jumping to conclusions
legal avenues, jumping to conclusions, working relationships: Dianne -- It is a difficult situation. I don t know what legal avenues there may be (especially in the UK), so I can t offer any advice about what is legal and what isn t. If you have a personnel manual, and if it addresses disclosure of company information,...

Dealing with Employees: Bonus vs. Pay Increase, new boss, hi ed
new boss, hi ed, lay offs: Dear Jackie: Thank you for your question. Well, you are in luck in that I ve had very similar experiences throughout my career. What did I learn? First, if you are going to work with the payroll system, exposed to all of the human foibles that go into...

Dealing with Employees: Final warning - write up, quality control check, disciplinary issues
quality control check, disciplinary issues, final warning: Dear Coalette: Different companies handle their discipline proceedures differently. There is no real right or wrong way. Some companies address issues separately as you ve indicated. Others lump everything together as a general performance issue. Most companies...

Dealing with Employees: HEELLLP!, receptionist, new job
receptionist, new job, workload: Mari You have a couple of things going on here. Everyone is going through a tough time now-let s see how you can make the best of this situation. The main thing is that you stop - step back- take a deep breath- then tackle the situation. Prioritize...

Dealing with Employees: How to handle paranoid Boss and a Power Hungry Coworker, payroll accountant, payroll supervisor
payroll accountant, payroll supervisor, payroll manager: Michelle: Thank you for your questions. RE: Controller bypassing your boss. It is the Controller s perogative and authority to go directly to anyone in his department no matter their level. Your Payroll Manager is paranoid about being replaced by...

Dealing with Employees: Management turnover as an elected official, star employees, bad apples
star employees, bad apples, leadership change: Dear Lynn: Thank your for your question and CONGRATULATIONS on your victory. Just a note of pragmatic counsel to start the discussion. Many managers spend untold hours continually trying to rehabilitate PROBLEM employees rather than spending this time...

Dealing with Employees: Power Hunger Coworker and A Paranoid Boss, payroll accountant, payroll supervisor
payroll accountant, payroll supervisor, payroll administrators: Michelle -- 1) Paranoid boss. Your boss may be paranoid, or a micro-manager, or have issues with the Comptroller that you aren t aware of. So, start letting your boss know about every contact the Comproller has with you. Either send your boss an email telling...

Dealing with Employees: PRINCIPLES & PRATICE OF MANAGEMENT, clerk typist, life insurance company
clerk typist, life insurance company, typical pool: Piety; The issue is more personal and psychological for Ms. Renu and only behavioral for Mrs. Kahn. When people receive advanced degrees there will always be the expectation of being employed in work that challenges their education and intelligence. This...

Dealing with Employees: Probation Letter, progressive discipline, unemployment claim
progressive discipline, unemployment claim, discipline policy: The kind of letter you seek wouldn t necessarily be a letter of probation, not unless you have already followed a progressive discipline policy and you are working on a final warning. If you have not documented this employee before, I would start there. This...

Dealing with Employees: Do the right thing, payroll supervisor, payroll accountant
payroll supervisor, payroll accountant, w4 form: Dear Michelle: Welcome back! Let s answer each question separately. However, before I do this, I need to say to you that you are no longer a vibrational match to this company. I don t want you to quit your job right away, but you need to make a plan to...

Dealing with Employees: Dealing with employees, social services director, interpersonal problems
social services director, interpersonal problems, effective system: Dear Deloris: Thank you for your questions. Congratulations on your new position! Sounds like you are off to a very normal start. Your assistant director situation is quite normal. She s been running the operation for 2 years her way. Now you show...