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Dealing with Roommates: Dead beat roommate, one of my best friends, grls
one of my best friends, grls, older woman: Hi Erin Welcome to the club of having had a totally irresponsible and incompatible roommate. It has happened to almost all people who have had roommates over the years. Look at this situation as a MAJOR learning experience. And read some of the postings...

Dealing with Roommates: Deadbeat girl friend with 2 teens, sylvia bergthold, eviction service
sylvia bergthold, eviction service, household expenses: Hi Lawson Give her a WRITTEN 60 day notice to vacate. You will list the children s names on the notice also. You are giving her and her children 60 days instead of 30 because she has been there a long time. I find it hard to believe you have put up...

Dealing with Roommates: Dealing with Roomates, eviction service, good bargains
eviction service, good bargains, sanitary conditions: Hi Donald The first thing I would do is move out. Yes Donald, you have enough to get out of this hellhole, okay? WHY would you want to stay there one more minute let alone 4 months? Take advantage of her outrage and get out ASAP. Get some used furniture...

Dealing with Roommates: Dealing with a roommate, course friends, living with others
course friends, living with others, situation under control: Hi Laura, Wow, both questions I have received today deal with dogs, would you believe? And I am not even a dog person! Well, lets start with that you and your other roommate (let s call her Mary), should have made the roommate with the dog (lets call...

Dealing with Roommates: Dealing with roommates, sylvia bergthold, small claims court
sylvia bergthold, small claims court, court judgement: Hi CK Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city and talk to them about this situation. Take all the paperwork and other documents that relate to this case with you for them to look at. They can best advise you on what your next step is. Perhaps they will...

Dealing with Roommates: Deciding who gets the master bedroom, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, first friends: Hi Marlesa This roommate arrangement between the two of you is already heading for the toilet. First, friends should not roommate together. If you don t believe me, read some of the postings to this column. Second, if you are fighting over who gets...

Dealing with Roommates: Deposit, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, small claims court: Hi Robert Can you prove you gave a deposit? Who did you give the deposit to, your friends or the landlord? Do you have a cancelled check or a receipt for the deposit? And unless you did something really really bad (like not paying your share of the...

Dealing with Roommates: Difficult Roommate, soap scum, mildew
soap scum, mildew, roommates: Hi Andrea, Sometimes we discover that there really are large differences of opinion in how we see small things....like what is clean, as an example. If this sounds like I am trying to go around your problem, I am just pointing out how individuals see the...

Dealing with Roommates: Disrespecful roommate, sylvia bergthold, college roommates
sylvia bergthold, college roommates, apartment manager: Hi Claudine Too Harsh? Not nearly enough! You need to find yourself another place to live ASAP. Give the landlord a 30 day WRITTEN notice that you are leaving, give a copy of it to your roommate and then boogie out of there pronto! This is NOT...

Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent and Utilities, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Molly This type of arrangement is always a problem. I think your idea of square footage (the bedrooms only and attached bath if applicable) and the amount of the rent sounds very fair. The bigger rooms (and bath) would cost more. If two people share...

Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent w/ new addition, air mattress, bedroom apartment
air mattress, bedroom apartment, utility bills: Hi Bob Well as you probably surmised, there really isn t any formula for this. Generally rent is split evenly by rooms (not people) if the rooms are approx size and utilities are split by how many people reside in the place. Sometimes an additional fee...

Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent, cost per square foot, formula for square footage
cost per square foot, formula for square footage, new apartment: Hi Conor I get asked this question often and because it deals with money, nobody is ever happy at the results. Somebody always feels cheated because they are paying more than their roommate. But the rule still stands. It doesn t matter how many people...

Dealing with Roommates: Dividing utilities over the summer, sylvia bergthold, lease period
sylvia bergthold, lease period, utilties: Hi Bridget I personally think all each of you should fork over 1/3 of all the utilities until the lease period is up. It doesn t matter that they left two weeks earlier. The lease isn t up until the 15th. This was the agreement all of you had and you...

Dealing with Roommates: Doh, where did I go wrong?, tiny apartment, apartment building
tiny apartment, apartment building, roomate: Hi Kelly, Well you have a situation where basically nobody is communicating .... in our busy day to day life, I know this is becoming more and more difficult so I sympathize. Here are a few suggestions and also a few questions. Are all three of you signers...

Dealing with Roommates: Don't want to sign lease, roommate survival guide, sleep etc
roommate survival guide, sleep etc, new apartment: Hi Dave Since you are not on the lease, technically you could just give your roommate a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate and give a copy to the landlord. Since you have lived only 5 days together, you might want to date the letter tomorrow for instance and...

Dealing with Roommates: How do I get my dead beat roomate out?, leasing office, new apartment
leasing office, new apartment, cable bill: Hi Krystal Sign her off the lease whatever it takes because it is apparent she is not going to leave. I might cost you a few bucks but it would be worth it. There is no law that states you have to provide free rent for anybody. Or...Is there another...

Dealing with Roommates: deadbeat roommate, leasing agent, apartment manager
leasing agent, apartment manager, malicious actions: Hi again Tre Gosh, what a gigantic mess this turned out to be. I am assuming that you have already spoken with the Fair Housing Agency in your city as I had previously mentioned? They couldn t come up with any solutions? Even after you took a copy of the...

Dealing with Roommates: How to deal and confront a Messy Roommate, messiness, dumping ground
messiness, dumping ground, personal things: Hi Jane Well, it is a fact that some people consider dishes in the sink as okay and others not. Cleanliness is relative. I have found over the years that some people are total slobs and some are neat freaks. You want someone somewhere between the two....

Dealing with Roommates: How to deal with a freaked-out roommate?, bed apartment, angry emails
bed apartment, angry emails, teritory: Hi Nickie Let s all hope she moves out by Sept 1st. If she doesn t, you will have to go to an eviction service to get her out. Your landlord can help you with that, hopefully. And of course it is going to cost you money to do that. Show a copy of the...

Dealing with Roommates: dealing with roommates, second floor apartment, bathroom towels
second floor apartment, bathroom towels, one of my best friends: Hi Deanna Give your ungrateful, irresponsible and incompatible roommate a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. I also don t understand your father s refusal to help but perhaps he wants you to learn how to handle things. You can find samples of the notice on-line,...

Dealing with Roommates: deposit money/cotenant or roommate agreement, roommate agreement, assesed
roommate agreement, assesed, 30 day notice: Hi Sadie Since you are staying in the apartment, the landlord will NOT be returning any part of the deposit because you are still there from the original lease agreement. Deposits go with the apartment, NOT the tenants. Check with the landlord to be...

Dealing with Roommates: "I didn't move in to get ahead", frequancy, bedroom cottage
frequancy, bedroom cottage, friend jim: Hi Jess Let s face it your friend/like a brother roommate is not a very stable guy; He is a flake okay? Let s not mince words here. He is perfectly satisfied with paying his share just to get by. Meanwhile you are fretting about paying your bills on...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting dishes done, nasty things, roommates
nasty things, roommates, roommate: What ever happened to the idea that everyone cleans their own mess ASAP? In this household that means you NEVER leave your dishes in the sink. You immediately wash and dry them (or put them in the dishwasher) right after you eat. The RULE SHOULD BE: clean...

Dealing with Roommates: division of rent, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Brandy You are correct. Rent is split by bedrooms (no matter how many people share it) and all utilities and shared living costs such as cleaning supplies, paper products and staple food items are split by how many people occupy the place. I also...

Dealing with Roommates: I don't want to pay for his air conditioner!, new roommate, arrangement work
new roommate, arrangement work, overprotective mother: Hi Katrina Well, first off, I think you and your roommate (lets call him Fred) will really really have to work hard to make this arrangement work. I see major issues arising already but lets assume that they can be worked out (and hopefully his mother...

Dealing with Roommates: drug use, sylvia bergthold, illegal substance
sylvia bergthold, illegal substance, lease period: Hi Jacob The time to get out of your lease was five months ago when your roommate started using drugs. It is a little late to go through all the stuff you need to go through to break a lease now. In other words, by the time all the i s are dotted, all...

Dealing with Roommates: Electric Bills, roommate survival guide, landlord tenant
roommate survival guide, landlord tenant, electric bills: Hi Shawn The electric bill should be transferred from her name to yours. Be grateful she is at least paying you the rent for the next two months. Check with the Fair Housing Agency in your city to see what other options you have. They should be able...

Dealing with Roommates: ESTABLISHED RESIDENCY, tiny mistake, eviction service
tiny mistake, eviction service, heart in the right place: Hi Elizabeth, I know it sounds hard to believe, but I believe the police are correct. If I were you, rather than attempt to do the eviction process yourself (it can be done but if you make one teeny teeny tiny mistake, it can be several months before you...

Dealing with Roommates: EVICITING ROOMMATE ON LEASE, girls bedroom, neat names
girls bedroom, neat names, verbal agreements: Hi Michelle Please talk to the landlord about this entire situation. Drugs is a bad deal, especially around kids. The landlord should be informed there are druggies on his property and he needs to take action ASAP. And the next time your roommates do...

Dealing with Roommates: EVICTING ROOMMATE, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Shawn Give him a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. He does not have to sign anything. Although there is another notice titled 3 day notice to pay rent or quit, they are more difficult to use and don t always stand up in court. Judges don t like them....

Dealing with Roommates: Evicted and not on the lease agreement, eviction process, lease agreement
eviction process, lease agreement, rental agreement: Hi Michelle The owner of the property has every right to evict you for non-payment of rent or for ANYONE living in his house. It is his property and he needs to re-rent it or sell it; after all he has taxes and insurance to pay on this property. As...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting an alcoholic family member, drunken stupor, drunken behavior
drunken stupor, drunken behavior, alcoholic family: Hi JR There is nothing simple about this case. My first suggestion would be to contact the Fair Housing Agency in your city. Explain the entire situation to them and see what your options are. They know all the latest rules, codes and whatever that govern...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting an ex-boyfriend, eviction attorney, eviction process
eviction attorney, eviction process, illegal eviction: Hi Sandra Why didn t you go to the landlord from the beginning? And explain the whole sorry mess to him? If your bf is NOT on the lease, you and the landlord had the authority to have him removed. GO to the landlord ASAP and see if he can help you. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a former girlfriend, eviction service, eviction process
eviction service, eviction process, 30 day notice: Hi Ms. Vonn Yes, he still needs to issue her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. However, if she gets abusive again, he could probably file a restraining order on her. (in some states it requires more that one altercation for an order to be issued). ...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a former lover..., sylvia bergthold, former lover
sylvia bergthold, former lover, thirty days: Hi Pete This is more like a divorce than evicting a roommate. I say this because I am assuming you both probably contributed to the purchase of some items in the house. If that is the case, that will cause problems. Who gets the toaster and the couch?...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting My grandparents, osceola county florida, sylvia bergthold
osceola county florida, sylvia bergthold, living with relatives: Hi Stephanie Issue your grandparents a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You don t need a reason to do this but if they ask, tell them you cannot afford to keep them. Also that you are all incompatible and the stress of all these arguements is taking its...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a Roomate (HELP!), eviction service, stationary stores
eviction service, stationary stores, eviction notice: Hi Liz Give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You can find this form on line, my book has one, and the stationary stores carry them also. Your landlord can and should refuse to renew HER lease...he does have that option. You might also want to talk...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting A Roommate, sylvia bergthold, different drummer
sylvia bergthold, different drummer, housing agency: Hi Aim Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your community ASAP. Florida confuses everybody because they have their own set of rules and codes they have tacked onto the housing laws, it seems more than any other state. In other words, the state of Florida marches...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a Roommate who isn't on the lease, roommate agreement, new roommate
roommate agreement, new roommate, verbal contracts: Hi Paul Why didn t you give him a WRITTEN 30 day notice? This is considered a legal document in the courts. The Landlord is the one that should have given him a 30 day notice to vacate (IN WRITING)....this is ridiculous and the landlord is passing...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting Roommate not on Lease, sylvia bergthold, roommate problems
sylvia bergthold, roommate problems, period side: Hi Rebeca Whatever you do, DO NOT put him on the lease with you. Do you have any idea how difficult it would be to get rid of him IF he was ALSO on the lease? He would have equal say in leaving or staying. Two people on the lease have equal rights to...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting Roommate whose not on the lease, sylvia bergthold, 30 day notice
sylvia bergthold, 30 day notice, lease agreement: Hi Kristy I believe I have already answered this question but will do so again. You need to give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. If she has been paying rent to you and can prove it (such as cancelled checks) then you need to give her 30 days....

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a Roommate, roommate survival guide, roommate agreement
roommate survival guide, roommate agreement, 30 day notice: Hi Chris To make sure you can evict him (and I think you can), talk to the Fair Housing Agency in your community (usually part of city hall). As I have mentioned many times, each city, county and state have their own little codes they tack onto the housing...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roomate whose NOT on the lease, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, friend move: Hi Patrick Give your roommate a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Ask your landlord if he has the form available. I know you can get one at the library, or even on-line. You might also ask your landlord for advice in how to fill it out properly. And...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roomate, roommate survival guide, eviction service
roommate survival guide, eviction service, rebt: Hi Olivia Give your roommate (lets call her Sue and her sister) EACH a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Give a copy to the landlord. Once Sue is gone (hopefully without a problem), you can try replacing her with another roommate. You NEED to buy...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting roomates on government aid, ultra violet rays, unwanted guest
ultra violet rays, unwanted guest, eviction notice: Hi Ryan Please contact social services ASAP. You need to explain the entire story to them regarding your unwanted guest . You were doing someone a favor and it has backfired big time. Your guest will not leave and is not paying rent. She is not paying...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate, eviction service, lease holder
eviction service, lease holder, 30 day notice: Hi Justin Normally I would say give your roommate a 30 day notice to vacate (you sign it as the landlord and he is the tenant because you are the lease holder), but I think in this case it might be a good idea if you talked to an eviction service. Your...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, sublease agreement: Hi Maylin You can give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. If she asks the reason, tell her she is in violation of a signed contract, which outlines she is to pay rent every two weeks, NOT twice a month. Also she is NOW on a month-to-month rental agreement...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate, fair housing council, legal aid society
fair housing council, legal aid society, eviction service: Hi Jaime The big problem is you live in Florida. They do everything different in Florida and to be honest, you will have to get advice from either the Fair Housing Council (usually part of city hall), an eviction service, your landlord, or an attorney....

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate on a lease, 30 day notice, depost
30 day notice, depost, bad move: Hi Caroline Have you talked to your landlord about this? Since she is on a month-to-month lease, I fail to see the problem. And what do you mean that you cannot give her a 30 day notice? Please talk to your landlord and ask him about issuing her a WRITTEN...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting roommate not on lease, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Michelle You could try taking them to small claims court for what they owe you, including rent and damages. Collecting the money though is a different story, unless you have enough personal information on them so you could get their wages garnished if...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate that is not on the lease, personal computer files, mass hysteria
personal computer files, mass hysteria, private conversations: Hi Cydnie This is a little more complicated that giving someone a 30 day notice to vacate. Because of him going into your personal computer files, this could be considered a form of stalking. First thing I would do is go the the police department...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate who is..., roommate survival guide, county housing agency
roommate survival guide, county housing agency, mediation service: Hi Chris, First, you might want to talk to your landlord and see what he suggests. Does YOUR lease mention anything about having another person living in your place (subletting)? If your lease mentions anything about this you might get help from your landlord.....OR...

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a subleasee, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, new roommate: Hi Adam Your roommate (lets call him John) can give your third roommate (lets call him Frank...the one you want to move out) a 30 day WRITTEN notice to vacate. John will sign the 30 day notice as the landlord because he is acting as a landlord in this arrangement...

Dealing with Roommates: Eviction of a sublessee, sylvia bergthold, disability insurance
sylvia bergthold, disability insurance, motorcycle accident: Hi Billy Give your Roommate a written THREE DAY NOTICE to pay rent or quit. After 3 days (if she doesn t pay) give her a 30 day notice. Do NOT accept partial payment, you need the full amount owing. And tell her she needs to leave before the 30 days are...

Dealing with Roommates: Evictiong Question, laundry detergent, pepper spray
laundry detergent, pepper spray, city of boston: Hi Venus Go to the local office of the Fair Housing Council (usually located in city hall), bring any paperwork with you pertaining to your living arrangement and explain the entire situation to them. In fact, why don t you bring the landlord with you....

Dealing with Roommates: EX needs things out, sylvia bergthold, verbal agreement
sylvia bergthold, verbal agreement, last sunday: Hi Jesse There is a form you need to send her ASAP. It is titled: Notice to Former Tenant of Right to Reclaim Abandoned Personal Property. You can find it on the Internet, in the library, and in my book. Fill it out and put a date she has to come and...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex-Fiance is moving out what can I hold her repsonsible for?, sylvia bergthold, compatible roommate
sylvia bergthold, compatible roommate, car damages: Hi Johnathan Well you can sue her all you want but that doesn t mean she is going to cough up the dough. COLLECTING on a court judgement is totally different than winning that judgement. And if she hasn t paid you for the car damages, she will probably...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex Girlfriend/Roomate has left the home. Landlord took her off the lease, exgirlfriend, pmts
exgirlfriend, pmts, full rent: Hi Michael I think you should talk to the landlord first to find out exactly what is going on with the lease agreement. She might be responsible for rent for the remaining lease period (unless you find a replacement for her), OR...she might have legally...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex refuses to leave, sylvia bergthold, common law marriage
sylvia bergthold, common law marriage, housing agency: Hi Dee You need to see a lawyer. The reason being that you lived together for such a long period of time that in some states you could be considered legally married (common law marriage). Which means that he has rights also regarding property. No matter...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex-roomate and belongings, sylvia bergthold, kittens
sylvia bergthold, kittens, kitty litter: Hi Ashley Boy what a friend THIS turned out to be! You need to get rid of her stuff but do it legally. Give her a form titled: Notice to former tenant of Right to Reclaim Abandoned Personal Property. Fill it out thoroughly before you present it to her...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex-roommate left without paying last month rent and left personal belongings. What should I do?, personal belongings, explicit direction
personal belongings, explicit direction, personal property: Hi Greg Well, the bad new for you is you cannot keep his stuff for back payment of rent and utilities. It is illegal to do it so forget about it. Yes, he can sue you. You should have sent him a form titled: Notice to Former Tenant of Right to Reclaim...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex-roommate will not surrender house keys, window latch, dead bolts
window latch, dead bolts, pin holes: Hi Charles My Roommate Survival Guide goes into depth about all the stuff you have brought up in your letter regarding leases, taxes, insurance, contracts, clearing ALL prospective roommates through a credit clearing agency (you MUST do this), plus a lot...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex roommate will not come get her things, sylvia bergthold, plea bargain
sylvia bergthold, plea bargain, belongings: Hi Jenna There is a form titled: Notice to Former Tenant of Right to Reclaim Abandoned Personal Property.... you need to send a copy to her (in jail with the additional information that her relative will pick up the stuff) and a copy to the relatives that...

Dealing with Roommates: Ex won't let me remove my belongings, time matt, lease agreement
time matt, lease agreement, can of worms: Hi Matt Gosh, what a mess. I don t know where to start because EVERYBODY made major mistakes here. It all comes down to who is believable and who isn t. Your girlfriend (lets call her Sally) had NO authority to change out the locks without approval...

Dealing with Roommates: Extra Room mate wants deposit back, room mates, room mate
room mates, room mate, subletter: Hi Sam What a mess. You keep using the word they....who are they? You said there is a fourth roommate that is not on the lease. Are you saying roommate #3 paid #4 s deposit? Is this couple the they you are talking about? Does your lease agreement...

Dealing with Roommates: Extremely high utilities bill, electricity usage, small apartment
electricity usage, small apartment, playing video games: Hi Ben The postings to this site are from me and yes, it is true that even though you are gone, you still must pay your FAIR share of the utilities. NO WAY does this ridiculous electric bill sound reasonable. I live in a 1600 sq ft house and NOT EVER...

Dealing with Roommates: What is the most efficient way to handle this?, sylvia bergthold, joint checking
sylvia bergthold, joint checking, financial responsibilities: Hi Eve I do not think it is necessary to open up a separate account. Why pay for a checking account and checks? If later you both want to get a joint checking account, that is okay too but for now, I don t think the expense is worth it. I think you each...

Dealing with Roommates: How to evict drug addict roommate and his Girlfriend?, drug addict, skin head
drug addict, skin head, bedroom apartment: Hi Janae Boy with friends like these two, who needs enemies? I suggest you talk to the landlord and ask what your options are. You didn t mention if your roommate is on the lease or not. Does your landlord know about the girlfriend taking up residency...

Dealing with Roommates: evict family, sylvia bergthold, taking care of mom
sylvia bergthold, taking care of mom, mail: Hi Amy Well this is really a domestic problem, or more specifically, a family problem. If you have brothers and sisters, you need to get together for a family conference and discuss this. Everybody takes turns taking care of mom. She stays at one...

Dealing with Roommates: How do I evict an irresponsible room mate?, being a good friend, catagory 6
being a good friend, catagory 6, new girlfriend: Hi Melissa What a mess. You need to go to the landlord and tell him you are going to use an eviction service to have your friend removed if he doesn t do something NOW. He is NOT on the lease. He is threatening the family and doing illegal drugs on the...

Dealing with Roommates: How do I evict someone who isn't on the lease?, bedroom apartment, housing agency
bedroom apartment, housing agency, rental agreement: Hi Jennifer It has been a YEAR for crying out loud.....NOW?? you are getting tired of all this? In another 15 years he will still be parked on your couch at this rate. Since this is the state of Florida we are talking about, you need to understand something...

Dealing with Roommates: How to evict a roomate, fair housing council, civil matter
fair housing council, civil matter, criminal matter: Hi Karen Your friend (lets call her Mary) needs to go visit the Fair Housing Council in her city (usually located in city hall). She needs to bring all the paperwork pertaining to the lease with the landlord with her and explain the entire situation. They...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a boyfriend not on my lease, sylvia bergthold, thanks a million
sylvia bergthold, thanks a million, blowup: Hi Liz Give your boyfriend a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Keep a copy for yourself and I would also give a copy of the notice to the landlord. Hopefully he will go without a big blowup....he is not on the lease so he has no legal standing as far...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a housemate, temporary restraining order, bath condo
temporary restraining order, bath condo, grace of god: Hi Myoshi You need the help of a lawyer, not a roommate advisor. This is a domestic issue, not just a roommate problem. Seek legal counsel through either an attorney service or the legal aide society. Also check with the Fair Housing Agency in your...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a roommate, county health services, friend lives
county health services, friend lives, hi mary: Hi Mary Your friend (lets call him Bill) needs to visit the Fair Housing Agency (usually part of city hall) in Long Beach ASAP. I suggest you go with him. They can best advise him as to how to handle this situation because they know all the latest legal...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a roommate on a lease, roommate agreement, eviction service
roommate agreement, eviction service, mediation service: Hi Mike This sure could turn out to be a looooooong 11 months. The landlord said the bad one can be removed as long as all parties agree that the bad one be removed. I get this to mean that all parties does NOT include the one you want removed. Well,...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a roommate (i own the home), eviction service, handshake agreement
eviction service, handshake agreement, eviction notice: Hi JMelba If he still owes you rent, you can give him a WRITTEN three day notice to pay rent or quit. You can find the form on line, in the library and in office supply stores. Be prepared for problems however. Giving someone three days to vacate can be...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting roommate, sylvia bergthold, getting a restraining order
sylvia bergthold, getting a restraining order, roommate agreement: Hi Michele I think in your case, I would go to an eviction service and let them handle the whole thing. Explain the threatening stuff and you should inform the police also. Eviction services know what they are doing and because of the threats, time...

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a rude roomate, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, lease holder: Hi Andrea Read your lease agreement and check for a couple of things. Does it allow subletters or other people to reside in the apartment that are NOT on the lease (usually it is against the lease agreement) If one lease holder does not pay their...

Dealing with Roommates: eviction case, sylvia bergthold, tenant problem
sylvia bergthold, tenant problem, stranger things: Hi Sandra Are you living in the condo also? Can I assume you are because you wrote to me (the Roommate Expert) instead of a real estate expert/landlord expert? I don t see how this other person can be allowed to stay if supposedly nobody knows who...

Dealing with Roommates: eviction legal or not legal?, roommate survival guide, probation violation
roommate survival guide, probation violation, housing agency: Hi Greg Why don t you visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city and tell them what happened. You need to know what your rights are along with your roommates and the landlords. Take your copy of the lease agreement with you and discuss any options if any....

Dealing with Roommates: eviction a roomate on the lease, roommate agreement, check criteria
roommate agreement, check criteria, best bets: hi again Jason That is not what I said. If you will read my letter again, I suggested you talk to your landlord, the fair housing authority, and anybody else who will listen. This means you will have to do some research and/or talking to these people...

Dealing with Roommates: eviction of roommate not on lease, lease holder, legal trouble
lease holder, legal trouble, permanent residency: Hi Traci Well one way of getting rid of him of course would be to call the police. If he has a warrant out on him, they probably would be delighted to take him into custody. The other problem of course is that once he is released,(and in today s world,...

Dealing with Roommates: evitchng a roommate, finding a job, nephew
finding a job, nephew, roommate: Hi Desparate You and your mother should NOT have paid all the back rent. You should have allowed the eviction to take place because everybody would have had to move out. Now you are still in this ridiculous mess. I don t know how to help you. Please...

Dealing with Roommates: ex-boy-friend wants belongings, sylvia bergthold, personal belongings
sylvia bergthold, personal belongings, small claims court: Hi Andrea She cannot keep any of his personal belongings, even if he owes her rent or other money. I think he should go to the local police department and tell them his story. It is against the law to keep property belonging to another...technically...

Dealing with Roommates: ex boyfriend refuses to get a subletter, subletter, full rent
subletter, full rent, housing agency: Hi Sara Most lease agreements state that if one tenant does not pay, the other one is fully responsible for the rent. So if you stopped paying rent, the landlord would get the money from your ex-bf. Landlords do not go chasing all over town to get money...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting an ex to move out, sylvia bergthold, free loading
sylvia bergthold, free loading, divorce attorney: Hi Kim Please visit an attorney ASAP. You need to ascertain what your rights are and what his are. He is manipulating you to the nth degree. I would NOT put up with this baloney at all. If you were willing to fork over money 10K?? to get him to move...

Dealing with Roommates: ex roommate unfair?, roommate survival guide, filing a restraining order
roommate survival guide, filing a restraining order, sylvia bergthold: Hi Jennifer Let her sue you. Take to court a copy of the police report, a copy of the threatening note, pictures (if you have them) of all the damage this idiot did to your furniture and anything else you can think of that pertains to this matter. It would...

Dealing with Roommates: ex wont leave, sylvia bergthold, lackadaisical attitude
sylvia bergthold, lackadaisical attitude, beating around the bush: Hi Holly The next time he is not there (whenever that is), call a locksmith and have all the locks changed on the doors. Make sure you have good locks on your windows also. Then photograph all the windows and doors to show they are in a secure shape. ...

Dealing with Roommates: extra roommate, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, overnight guests: Hi Karina Did the landlord talk to YOU before he agreed to this arrangement? Tell the landlord you signed a lease for TWO people. You and your roommate, NOT three people. You need to have the boyfriend removed from the apartment because that was NOT part...

Dealing with Roommates: Fair way to split the rent, roommate agreement, two good friends
roommate agreement, two good friends, master bedrooms: Hi Brian Did you add the private baths square footage into the equation? That might add up to a bit more but generally (not always), the rent is divided by the sq.ft. of bedrooms as long as everyone has access to the rest of the place equally. I know there...

Dealing with Roommates: Feeling used, government quarters, stationary stores
government quarters, stationary stores, unlawful detainer: Hi Sheronda How can you possibly feel guilty in this situation? They have taken advantage of you BIG TIME! They are leeches and are sucking you dry. You are in no position financially or physically to put up with this stuff. Give them a Written 30 day...

Dealing with Roommates: Follow-up, sylvia bergthold, friend move
sylvia bergthold, friend move, roommate: Hi Stan Well, you guys can work out it any way you want to; after all you are the ones debating the issue. You asked me for advice as to how it is done when three people share a two bedroom place. I responded by what the general rule is. It is NOT...

Dealing with Roommates: Forced to move out by roomate, lanlord, friend in california
lanlord, friend in california, friend aaron: Hi Danielle A WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate should have been issued either by the landlord, Aaron, or by you to Aaron. Yes, you could have given him a 30 day notice that you were leaving. No written notices have been given here which is not a good...

Dealing with Roommates: Former Roomate looking for money, small claims court, proper advice
small claims court, proper advice, roomate: Hi Danielle He sure has nerve asking for his money back!! Do NOT give him a dime. He signed a lease for a year. He was supposed to pay rent and utilities for a year. He failed to do both. HE broke his lease agreement. To make sure I am giving you...

Dealing with Roommates: Friends VS Roommates, kayle, janay
kayle, janay, car troubles: Hi Niki Would you believe I had to diagram your whole letter out to understand who was who, who did what to whom, who doesn t want to speak to who, who really doesn t care what who thinks, etc. etc.? And WHO is Kal? I am still attempting to make heads...

Dealing with Roommates: Further information about a previous question, landlord company, question thanks
landlord company, question thanks, deposit money: Hi again Zach As far as I can see, the bad roommate has no standing in this arrangement. He signed a document with your ex-roommate and the landlord doesn t even know about it. Your ex-roommate is gone so it is only you that is left as a signer on the...

Dealing with Roommates: 2 Bedroom Apt - Split Rent 3 Ways, kitchen bathroom, 3 ways
Dealing with Roommates: 2 Bedroom Apt - Split Rent 3 Ways, kitchen bathroom, 3 ways, living space

Dealing with Roommates: 97 yr. young lady needs roommate or assistance:)
Dealing with Roommates: 97 yr. young lady needs roommate or assistance:)

Dealing with Roommates: Bad Roommate, heart god, girlfriend
Dealing with Roommates: Bad Roommate, heart god, girlfriend

Dealing with Roommates: Bad roomate, getting a restraining order, sexual harassment
Dealing with Roommates: Bad roomate, getting a restraining order, sexual harassment, roommates

Dealing with Roommates: Controlling roommates, frineds, sylvia
Dealing with Roommates: Controlling roommates, frineds, sylvia, just friends

Dealing with Roommates: Creepy Roommate, questioner
Dealing with Roommates: Creepy Roommate, questioner

Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent and Utilities, choice room, bedroom houses
Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent and Utilities, choice room, bedroom houses, bidding system

Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent, room space, common room
Dealing with Roommates: Dividing Rent, room space, common room, no doubt

Dealing with Roommates: How to deal and confront a Messy Roommate, dirty dishes, caution
Dealing with Roommates: How to deal and confront a Messy Roommate, dirty dishes, caution, guns

Dealing with Roommates: Getting dishes done, dirty dishes, kitchen counters
Dealing with Roommates: Getting dishes done, dirty dishes, kitchen counters, roomates

Dealing with Roommates: I don't want to pay for his air conditioner!, asthma
Dealing with Roommates: I don't want to pay for his air conditioner!, asthma

Dealing with Roommates: ESTABLISHED RESIDENCY, landlord
Dealing with Roommates: ESTABLISHED RESIDENCY, landlord

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting an ex-boyfriend, landlord, apartment
Dealing with Roommates: Evicting an ex-boyfriend, landlord, apartment

Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate, inconvinance, girl friend
Dealing with Roommates: Evicting a roommate, inconvinance, girl friend, roommate

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a roommate
Dealing with Roommates: evicting a roommate

Dealing with Roommates: evicting a rude roomate, legal options, financial gain
Dealing with Roommates: evicting a rude roomate, legal options, financial gain, single one

Dealing with Roommates: Fair way to split the rent, square footage
Dealing with Roommates: Fair way to split the rent, square footage

Dealing with Roommates: Feeling used, doorstep, locks
Dealing with Roommates: Feeling used, doorstep, locks, money

Dealing with Roommates: A guest who has overstayed her welcome
Dealing with Roommates: A guest who has overstayed her welcome

Dealing with Roommates: gurlfriend/roommate left, ex girlfriend, money
Dealing with Roommates: gurlfriend/roommate left, ex girlfriend, money

Dealing with Roommates: Illegally Gained Funds, proportionate share, dependent children
Dealing with Roommates: Illegally Gained Funds, proportionate share, dependent children, roommate

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate on the lease, hasnt, roommate
Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate on the lease, hasnt, roommate, landlord

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking my roommates out, housing court, big trouble
Dealing with Roommates: Kicking my roommates out, housing court, big trouble, old lady

Dealing with Roommates: how to get out of a lease, bad situation, credibility
Dealing with Roommates: how to get out of a lease, bad situation, credibility, damages

Dealing with Roommates: Moving out early on friends, money in her pocket, lots of money
Dealing with Roommates: Moving out early on friends, money in her pocket, lots of money

Dealing with Roommates: Nightmare roommate, time sarah, unwelcome guest
Dealing with Roommates: Nightmare roommate, time sarah, unwelcome guest, day six

Dealing with Roommates: Noisy Lazy Roommate, roomate, partying
Dealing with Roommates: Noisy Lazy Roommate, roomate, partying, landlord

Dealing with Roommates: Do I owe for utilities I am not using, lease period, proof
Dealing with Roommates: Do I owe for utilities I am not using, lease period, proof

Dealing with Roommates: paid and did not get key, understanding girls, college question
Dealing with Roommates: paid and did not get key, understanding girls, college question, cashier check

Dealing with Roommates: questions to ask when calling references for a potential roommate, full security, security deposit
Dealing with Roommates: questions to ask when calling references for a potential roommate, full security, security deposit, check money

Dealing with Roommates: Rent Grace Period, day grace, city of chicago
Dealing with Roommates: Rent Grace Period, day grace, city of chicago, grace period

Dealing with Roommates: How to Get Rid of a Parasite ASAP, good riddance, drug addict
Dealing with Roommates: How to Get Rid of a Parasite ASAP, good riddance, drug addict, city sheriff

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate's boyfriend stays over all the time, 7 months, roommates
Dealing with Roommates: Roomate's boyfriend stays over all the time, 7 months, roommates, leasing

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate discrimination, 30 day notice, spread sheet
Dealing with Roommates: Roomate discrimination, 30 day notice, spread sheet, 2 women

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate/ Housemate Laws, respectful manner, housemates
Dealing with Roommates: Roomate/ Housemate Laws, respectful manner, housemates, tantrums

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate not paying for utilities, aircon, good faith
Dealing with Roommates: Roomate not paying for utilities, aircon, good faith, showers

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate From Hell..., stupid mistake, smart one
Dealing with Roommates: Roommate From Hell..., stupid mistake, smart one, credit checks

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate moved out early, didn't help us clean, didn't pay utilities, enforceable agreement, code states
Dealing with Roommates: Roommate moved out early, didn't help us clean, didn't pay utilities, enforceable agreement, code states, oral agreement

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate problems, roommate, priority
Dealing with Roommates: Roommate problems, roommate, priority

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate trespassing, small claims court, invasion of privacy
Dealing with Roommates: Roommate trespassing, small claims court, invasion of privacy, spy camera

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate won't do chores, continual basis, roomies
Dealing with Roommates: Roommate won't do chores, continual basis, roomies, chores

Dealing with Roommates: How do I get rid of a bad roommate who IS on the lease?, room mates, lease holder
Dealing with Roommates: How do I get rid of a bad roommate who IS on the lease?, room mates, lease holder, occupants

Dealing with Roommates: how can i get rid of a roommate from hell??, backbone, hell
Dealing with Roommates: how can i get rid of a roommate from hell??, backbone, hell

Dealing with Roommates: roomate is dangerous, law enforecement, scure
Dealing with Roommates: roomate is dangerous, law enforecement, scure, roommate

Dealing with Roommates: My roommate is not on the lease, I want to kick him out, help!
Dealing with Roommates: My roommate is not on the lease, I want to kick him out, help!

Dealing with Roommates: One roommate wants to break lease, legal question
Dealing with Roommates: One roommate wants to break lease, legal question

Dealing with Roommates: Splitting electric bill, roommate agreement, utility bills
Dealing with Roommates: Splitting electric bill, roommate agreement, utility bills, time period

Dealing with Roommates: My second shadow...the clingy roommate, touchy feely, nice things
Dealing with Roommates: My second shadow...the clingy roommate, touchy feely, nice things, tantrum

Dealing with Roommates: How to split Rent, washer and drier, sq meter
Dealing with Roommates: How to split Rent, washer and drier, sq meter, one person

Dealing with Roommates: splitting rent - 3people, 2 bedrooms, living room, private baths
Dealing with Roommates: splitting rent - 3people, 2 bedrooms, living room, private baths, sq foot

Dealing with Roommates: zRf=-2;
Dealing with Roommates: zRf=-2;

Dealing with Roommates: fair division of vacation rental, world war three, bedroom vacation
world war three, bedroom vacation, vacation home: Hi Linda I will try to answer this but I haven t a clue as to how you would divide rent and utilities with so many people. But since all the people are technically adults (teenagers take up as much space, eat as much food....more actually....use as much...

Dealing with Roommates: family feud, apartmnet, world war three
apartmnet, world war three, cable boxes: Hi Angela The rent and utilities are NOT being paid fairly in the way you have it stated. Everybody needs to sit down and redo this unequal financial burden on your sister-in-law before World War Three starts. She is paying the biggest share of rent and...

Dealing with Roommates: fear losing my lease, ridiculous situation, bedroom apartment
ridiculous situation, bedroom apartment, rough time: Dear pulling my hair out. Are you bald yet??!! You have gotten yourself into a ridiculous situation. I know you were trying to do the right thing for a friend, but I cannot tell you how many letters I get like yours every year. AND....it never works out...

Dealing with Roommates: I feel close to my roomates, but they have to go., roommate agreement, ducks in a row
roommate agreement, ducks in a row, generation gap: Hi Erick Can I assume none of you signed any type of a roommate agreement? It doesn t sound like it in your letter. Whatever living arrangement you make with your roommates, it should always be in writing. When chores are not done, when they don t want...

Dealing with Roommates: financial issues, bad friend, 30 day notice
bad friend, 30 day notice, money issues: Hi Ashley You now understand why one of the basic rules in my book is this: Having roommates is a business FIRST, friendships follow, and rule NUMBER ONE IS: do not have friends as your roommates. Your letter backs up these two rules. Friends feel...

Dealing with Roommates: finding a place, roommate survival guide, compatible roommate
roommate survival guide, compatible roommate, looking for room mates: Hi Ariana Congratulations on your acceptance to SDSU and SFSU...gosh you have a great choice of Universities to choose from. Whichever one you choose, I definitely recommend shared living. San Francisco is very expensive (listed as the 3rd most expensive...

Dealing with Roommates: finding a roomie, sylvia bergthold, roommate services
sylvia bergthold, roommate services, free websites: Hi Leah, Check out my Roommate Services page on my website. There might be a few listed that are free. Usually that means you can place an ad for free but you need to pay a fee to check out perspective roommates or places. Go to Pennysaver.com for some...

Dealing with Roommates: forged lease, basement apartments, electricity bills
basement apartments, electricity bills, basement rooms: Hi Timi Is there a way you can get ahold of the people who rented out the basement apartments? Maybe get a copy of their lease to later show you signed one exacatly lilke that one? You should also go the Fair Housing Agency in your community (usually...

Dealing with Roommates: freeload roomate, step by step directions, stationary stores
step by step directions, stationary stores, social sec: Hi Rachel You are being taken advantage of by a FORMER friend. You don t need friends like this. And you are not in a financial, or emotional position to put up with this. You will give your roommate a written 30 day notice to vacate and tell her you...

Dealing with Roommates: Out of Gas, electricty, boy friends
electricty, boy friends, boarder: Hi Rachel I don t like the sound of any of this. The utilities should have been put in the landlords name (all of them) because it is his house and he is renting out rooms in it. Having roommates put utilities in their names when he doesn t even have a...

Dealing with Roommates: Gave notice, roommate uncooperative & avoidant HELP!, splitting cable, daily basis
splitting cable, daily basis, stupid little things: Hi Kimberly Okay, you tried being nice, talking to her, making the proper arrangements with her and the landlord and she is being totally uncooperative. This is no longer YOUR problem, it is hers. Tell the landlord you are moving out by such and such...

Dealing with Roommates: Girlfriend wants to just kick me out., sylvia bergthold, landlord tenant
sylvia bergthold, landlord tenant, hi tommy: Hi Tommy Your ex-girlfriend needs to give you a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. And she cannot date it back to the first. If she gives it to you today, it has to be dated today. HOWEVER, you need to visit the Fair Housing Agency in LA. which is usually...

Dealing with Roommates: Can I Give My Roomate a 30 Day Notice?, 30 day notice, housing agency
30 day notice, housing agency, joint tenancy: Hi Doug I don t know. As you know Los Angles has many rules and regulations about housing, especially if you live in a rent controlled area. Go speak to your landlord ASAP and tell him the situation. What I suggest might not be correct because my info...

Dealing with Roommates: Given 30 day notice by boyfriend, sylvia bergthold, lease holder
sylvia bergthold, lease holder, landlord: Hi Gwen You might want to talk to the landlord about this whole situation. Just because you have been paying the rent for the last few months, does not necessarily give you more rights to the apartment than the lease holder, which is your ex boyfriend....

Dealing with Roommates: Groceries..., sumo wrestlers, canned meals
sumo wrestlers, canned meals, grocery costs: Hi Corey Ah, the old food situation. Well as you can imagine there are lots of different ways to split grocery costs but you need to figure out what you consider splitable . As an example: All cleaning supplies, paper products and staples such as...

Dealing with Roommates: My girlfriend is kicking me out..., soap opera, right to work state
soap opera, right to work state, commonwealth of va: Hi Maxwell How did you get in this situation again? Can I assume the company you worked for had NO rules regarding dating among employees, let alone with the bosses? Dating, and then LIVING with your boss? Now I have heard everything. This really sounds...

Dealing with Roommates: girlfriend threw my stuff out without notice, apartment lease, friend kelly
apartment lease, friend kelly, front porch: Hi John I am going to assume NO WRITTEN contract, lease, roommate agreement or any other type of document was signed between you and your ex-gf. Therefore you really don t have any rights as far as I can see because you were not paying her anything to...

Dealing with Roommates: Was given a 30day but have found new place early., fair housing council, riverside county california
fair housing council, riverside county california, sylvia bergthold: Hi Christopher You DO NOT have to live there until the 30 day notice expires. You can move out anytime within the 30 days. I doubt you will receive any of your rent money back however. If I was you I would talk to the Fair Housing Council in your...

Dealing with Roommates: giving 3 day & 30 day notice to roommate, eviction service, choice in the matter
eviction service, choice in the matter, finding a job: Hi George Give her a WRITTEN 3 day notice to pay rent or quit, say today. DO NOT accept partial rent. You MUST get the full amount. Then after the three day period has expired, issue her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Tell her you are NOT going to...

Dealing with Roommates: giving roomate stuff back, sylvia bergthold, housing agency
sylvia bergthold, housing agency, fair housing: Hi Craig I don t know, it depends where you live and how you kicked her out, and what state you live in. Go see the Fair Housing Agency in your city to find out what her rights are, and what your rights are. I am going to assume that you kicked her...

Dealing with Roommates: When good friends go bad, place asap, tempertantrum
place asap, tempertantrum, boyfrind: Hi Kyler Find another place ASAP....with friends like this, who needs enemies? Can you imagine living in this totally uncompatible environment? It doesn t matter that Denis gets along with you and your boyfriend. Heath holds all the cards in this...

Dealing with Roommates: government housing roomie, sylvia bergthold, disability office
sylvia bergthold, disability office, mediation service: Hi Mayra I am sorry but I don t know how government housing agencies work regarding this type of situation. It does not sound reasonable that you could not have her removed or that you cannot be be transferred to another unit without her. Contact the...

Dealing with Roommates: A guest who has overstayed her welcome, sylvia bergthold, terminal cancer
sylvia bergthold, terminal cancer, separate ways: Hi Dottie Give your roommate a WRITTEN SIXTY day notice to vacate. (usually they are 30 days). Tell her that you were happy to help her in her time of stress but now it is time for her to move on. You are giving her 60 days rather than the required 30...

Dealing with Roommates: gurlfriend/roommate left, new roommate, eviction notice
new roommate, eviction notice, stupid things: Hi Bill When your ex-girlfriend moved out, WHY didn t you get another roommate to take her place? If you had done that, the new roommate would have been paying their share of the rent and utilities and you wouldn t be in this mess. I really don t know...

Dealing with Roommates: Harrassing Roommate, blah blah, having a bad day
blah blah, having a bad day, long letters: Hi Amalia Well, it does sound like your roommate has some type of medical/psychological problem....maybe bi-polar also known as manic depressive??? I would be concerned that this came on rather sudden like. Can you sit and talk with her about her change...

Dealing with Roommates: Help?!, 30 day notice, toilet paper
30 day notice, toilet paper, arguement: Hi Jen Is this non-productive roommate on the lease in any way? What you might want to do is talk to the owners of the house and find out what your legal rights are as far as who lives in the house, etc. From what you say, you are in total charge...

Dealing with Roommates: Help, letter in the mail, roomate
letter in the mail, roomate, forwarding address: Hi Jenni Gosh, what a mess! I don t know if I can help you either. Normally I don t advocate not paying the landlord, but in this case I would take a chance and let him take you to court for the money HE SAYS you owe him. Here is the reason. The...

Dealing with Roommates: Hi, I am living on campus..., roommate survival guide, new roommate
roommate survival guide, new roommate, language habits: Hi Denise, The first rule in my Roommate Survival Guide is NEVER roommate with a friend, start with a stranger and work from there. As you noted, your friend (and former roommate), left you to live somewhere else and you were then left by yourself. Although...

Dealing with Roommates: Hi Sarah, how are you? I'm..., vocational school in toronto, room mate
vocational school in toronto, room mate, awkwardness: Be yourself is the most important thing. Offer your room-mate a cup of tea and get to know them. Be confident and say hi, shake them by the hand and introduce yourself. Conversation will follow rapidly and remember they feel as awkward as you do. The best...

Dealing with Roommates: HORRIBLE ROOMMATE, previous question, small claims
previous question, small claims, soley: Hi again Angela I am sorry you have such a mess on your hands. And you are probably correct in thinking the landlord doesn t want to get into trouble with a possible discrimination lawsuit. As I previously suggested, you NEED to go the Fair Housing...

Dealing with Roommates: HOUSE TO SHARE, roommate survival guide, prospective roommate
roommate survival guide, prospective roommate, permanant resident: Hi Anna, All the questions you have asked can be answered in my Roommate Survival Guide. I urge you to purchase it especially as this is your first time at renting and you don t want to end up with a messy situation. It has a list of 25 questions to...

Dealing with Roommates: House sharing/boarders, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Wayne You need to buy my Roommate Survival Guide BEFORE you start looking. I can tell already you are going to get yourself into trouble with foggy thinking. I will state right now that in my house I have had a long standing rule (it is part of...

Dealing with Roommates: harrassing roommate, sylvia bergthold, clean freak
sylvia bergthold, clean freak, gentelman: Hi Ann This is not really a roommate problem as much as domestic problem. Your husband/roommate is violent, let s face it. And he needs a restraining order put on him ASAP by you AND the other roommates. The police can t do anything if you don t file...

Dealing with Roommates: health hazardous roommates, roommate agreement, dear sylvia
roommate agreement, dear sylvia, second hand smoke: Hi Mikey You have a real problem on your hands and I don t know if I can help you or not. Does your roommate smoke throughout the apartment or just your room? Is the TV in a common room or just your room? Can I assume there are no rules set up in the...

Dealing with Roommates: help, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, roommate services: Hi Kim Your roommates behavior is very dangerous, let alone being totally disrespectful of you and your living environment. Try this: Post an ad in the local college housing bulletin board saying you want a roommate to share an apartment. The both...

Dealing with Roommates: hi can you send me some form..., sylvia bergthold, legal technicalities
sylvia bergthold, legal technicalities, housecleaning: Hi Enes There is a lot of stuff you need to pay attention to when you share your house. There is no way I can give you all the information you need to help you. Go to my website, look it over and then determine if you still want to do this. If you...

Dealing with Roommates: horrid roommate (possibly dillusional), cigarette butts, kitchen knives
cigarette butts, kitchen knives, stealing food: Hi Mary You and the other THREE roommates go to the landlord ASAP and explain this entire scenario to him. Also tell him that if he doesn t evict Courtney, ALL four of you are finding another place to live like yesterday. If he thinks one roommate leaving...

Dealing with Roommates: My house, boyfriend and bestfriend not getting along..., sw fl, realationship
sw fl, realationship, realtionship: Hi Kati This is not a good environment to get to know your boyfriend better ....you have no privacy, the bills are really not divided equally and you should never have had a friend (especially a best friend) roommate with you. I dont know how you...

Dealing with Roommates: Illegal Room sharing?, fellow graduate student, sylvia bergthold
fellow graduate student, sylvia bergthold, landlords rights: Hi Aerik Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city. Bring with you any documents regarding your situation and explain in detail what the circumstances are. If you have receipts and cancelled checks, that would also be helpful to them to determine your...

Dealing with Roommates: Illegally Gained Funds, proportionate share, dependent child
proportionate share, dependent child, property law 235 f: Hi again Chris Again, as I mentioned in my first letter, I don t know the laws in every state and as you are also aware, housing laws change constantly. I am familiar with California laws but that as far as I go. That is another reason I state up front...

Dealing with Roommates: Illgal activity of roomates., sylvia bergthold, illegal drug activity
sylvia bergthold, illegal drug activity, friends and neighbors: Hi Rob Can I assume that you have a lease on this apartment as does your roommate? And does the lease agreement state there are to be no drugs on the premises? If yes to the above questions, here are some choices to make. Tell the landlord that YOU are...

Dealing with Roommates: Illness Etiquette, couch pillows, community quilt
couch pillows, community quilt, rule of thumb: Hi Kalley Well, none of us like to be sick (with the exception of hypocondriacs) but I think when we are, we should definitely take in consideration others that we share our space with. I personally think it is a good idea to isolate oneself as much...

Dealing with Roommates: Im having surgery / lead removal in apt, sylvia bergthold, gall bladder
sylvia bergthold, gall bladder, old paint: Hi Sarah You CANNOT put a lock on your door without the landlord s permission....he HAS to have a key to all doors in his building ... THAT is the law. It deals with FIRE CODES. Calling the police will not help you at all...in fact, you could be arrested...

Dealing with Roommates: Imposter on my couch, expensive clothes, supportive friend
expensive clothes, supportive friend, bedroom apartment: Hi Nexus You have been MORE than a supportive friend, you have been literally financially supporting this friend. Let s call her Sue for now. It is time for you to get off YOUR duff and take control of YOUR OWN place. Did it ever occur to you WHY...

Dealing with Roommates: Interviewing tennants, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, prospective roommates: Hi Amy My Roommate Survival Guide has a list of 25 questions to ask all prospective roommates. Obviously I will NOT list all of them here. They are all very important but a couple of the most important ones are: Why are you moving from your present...

Dealing with Roommates: illigal sublet?, housing agency, thet
housing agency, thet, tipe: Hi Lorenzo Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city. Usually they are located in City Hall, or somebody in city hall can guide you to the correct department. Explain the entire situation to them and see if they can assist you. I am sure that if the owner/landlord...

Dealing with Roommates: infrequent roommate, adt security system, roommate survival guide
adt security system, roommate survival guide, roommate agreement: Hi Karen I agree with your assessment of the utilities. The set ones are non-negotiable. The others are. If she argues about the amount you want to charge her, tell her that renting out a room in YOUR house was suppose to help you pay for the mortgage...

Dealing with Roommates: Yet another issue regarding utilities., slamming doors, utter chaos
slamming doors, utter chaos, single guy: Hi Dana Well I had to read your letter several times to keep all these people straight; who was hating who, who was loving who, who left for good, who is still staying there, who intended to move but stayed, who actually left but keeps returning, who is...

Dealing with Roommates: Jealous Roomate driving me nuts, dear sylvia, casual relationships
dear sylvia, casual relationships, psychology student: Hi again Celine, If you can keep it like a business relationship, go for it. Having a roommate really is a business FIRST, then friendships follow (or not)... If everybody can agree to this type of arrangement, I don t see a problem. Don t be surprised...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting Keys back., fair housing council, sylvia bergthold
fair housing council, sylvia bergthold, garage door opener: Hi again Jesse Well since she left willingly, I don t see how you evicted her do you? Does it matter? Did you give her a written notice to leave? Although she is gone, it really doesn t matter at this point. You said you had a verbal agreement but did...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicked roommate out, now what?, time and trouble, final straw
time and trouble, final straw, three friends: Hi Jessica Let s take one problem at a time okay? 1. You will NOT white out anything on the lease (that is tampering with a legal document). You don t need this kind of trouble, believe me. This lease is no longer valid. 2. You will go down to the...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicked out by roommate, sylvia bergthold, roomate
sylvia bergthold, roomate, roommate: Hi Anthony Call her and make arrangements to pick up your stuff. You already got a months free rent out of the deal so you should be grateful. Your ex-roommate is the one that has signed a lease with the landlord, not you. It was up to her if she wanted...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out Roommate, roommate agreement, garbage bags
roommate agreement, garbage bags, daily basis: Hi Maria I don t know how you are going to remove him either. He has no incentive to leave as you three are doing all the cleaning, and sharing the cost of the other expenses that come up on a daily basis. You might have made up a roommate agreement...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate, sylvia bergthold, housing agency
sylvia bergthold, housing agency, roommate: Hi Meghan I haven t a clue. Depends on the way the lease is written up, who paid what, and how the landlord feels about the whole thing. Talk to your landlord and see if he can come up with a solution to this dilemma. He technically cannot get involved...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate, new roommate, bath apartment
new roommate, bath apartment, eviction notice: Hi again Connie Take all copies of the paperwork involved in this mess, including the 30 day notice, the lease agreement with the landlord, receipts of payments and anything else, and go to the Fair Housing Council in your city. It is usually located in...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate on a lease, roommate agreement, lease holder
roommate agreement, lease holder, loud parties: Hi Billy I would suggest you talk to your landlord and see what he suggests. I am a little confused as to on the lease vs. lease holder. Are you the one responsible for paying all the rent directly to the landlord and are the utilities in your name...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate on the lease, household bills, insufficient funds
household bills, insufficient funds, roommate: Hi Danielle You have a real mess on your hands here. I suggest you immediately go to the landlord, explain the whole problem regarding your absolutely flaky roommate and ask for suggestions. Tell him you want to stay in the apartment and would like to...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking out a roommate, sylvia bergthold, citizens arrest
sylvia bergthold, citizens arrest, eviction services: Hi Diane, I am going to assume this person has not signed any type of agreement with you like a roommate month-to-month agreement. Your landlord (if you are not the owner) can help you here. You or the landlord give this roommate a 30 day WRITTEN notice...

Dealing with Roommates: Kicking my roommates out, fair housing council, sylvia bergthold
fair housing council, sylvia bergthold, landlord: Hi Daisy If she isn t on the lease and not paying rent, she is trespassing. Go to the landlord ASAP and ask him to help you. Explain to him that you have a woman living in your apartment that has no rights to be there. She has NOT paid any money and...

Dealing with Roommates: Kinda messy roommie, roommate agreement, living arrangement
roommate agreement, living arrangement, eveything: Hi Sarah I love the title of your letter kinda messy roommie ... let s face it here Sarah, you are your roommates maid and your roommate is a slob. Let s not mince words! And of course you mind, otherwise you would not be writing to me. Please explain...

Dealing with Roommates: how do i kick my roommate out???, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, housing agency: Hi Sedat HOW did you try and kick him out? Did you give him a WRITTEN 30 day notice to leave? or...Did you just toss him bodily out the door? Even in New York there are legal ways to remove a NON-PAYING tenant which is what he is. Why haven t you gotten...

Dealing with Roommates: how to kick a roommate out, sylvia bergthold, windows screens
sylvia bergthold, windows screens, 30 day notice: Hi Savannah Is this couple also on the lease? If so, that is a totally different story. She will have to speak to the landlord about this whole matter. If they are NOT on the lease, she needs to give this couple a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Can I kick her out?, sylvia bergthold, girl move
sylvia bergthold, girl move, girl right: Hi Mo Give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate....there are several types of these forms on the internet. I am assuming you did not sign any type of agreement with this girl, right? Do not mistake the 30 day notice to vacate with the 30 day notice...

Dealing with Roommates: She kicked me out mid-month..am I entitled to the pro-rated amount of the rent?, small claims court, court judgement
small claims court, court judgement, entertainment unit: Hi Sarah Give her a letter (in writing) stating the terms you listed above and the date you want full payment of the entertainment unit and the rent money she owes you. Because she did not give you a 30 day notice to vacate, she has to refund the unused...

Dealing with Roommates: kicked him out, section 8 housing, disability payments
section 8 housing, disability payments, park bench: Hi again Deanna You need to go to home supportive services and tell them you are no longer taking care of him. That his family will not take him in. He sounds mentally unbalanced on top of being physically disabled. This problem is way beyond being...

Dealing with Roommates: kicking a roomate out eventhough you have given he notice, eviction service, civil matter
eviction service, civil matter, criminal matter: Hi Alex You don t say WHY she has to be out by the 14th, aside from the fact that she has paid rent until the 14th. Why can t you charge her a daily rate until after she graduates? Take her monthly rental rate and divide it by 30 to get the daily rent....

Dealing with Roommates: kicking a roomate out who has signed., sylvia bergthold, breaking a lease
sylvia bergthold, breaking a lease, sliding doors: Hi Monique What you need to do is talk this whole situation over with the landlord. Explain that your roommate is destroying the apartment and you do NOT want to be responsible for damages. The cost of repairs will come out of ALL your security deposits....

Dealing with Roommates: kicking out a roommate, sylvia bergthold, credit reporting agencies
sylvia bergthold, credit reporting agencies, unlawful detainer: Hi Brian Can I assume you gave him a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate? You don t mention if you rent or own your own place. Give him a written 3 DAY NOTICE TO PAY RENT or QUIT. And explain to him the following: You will file a Unlawful Detainer against...

Dealing with Roommates: kicking out a roommate, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, civil matter: Hi Crystal You need to give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You can write and date it tomorrow. She has to be out by December 5, 2006 if you give it to her tomorrow. It doesn t matter that she is NOT on the lease, 30 day notices to vacate are...

Dealing with Roommates: kicking roommate out of house, sticky situation, housing agency
sticky situation, housing agency, rental agreement: Hi Becky Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city and ask what your options are. As you know, each city, county and state tack on their own little rules to the housing codes, so they have the latest info pertaining to your city. Since you still owe...

Dealing with Roommates: kicking out my roommate, roommate survival guide, notice to vacate form
roommate survival guide, notice to vacate form, sanitary napkins: Hi again Lisa I think in this case I would first talk to the landlord and explain the whole situation. I know you don t want to get anybody else involved, but in this case you need to apprise the landlord of what is going on. After all, it is his building....

Dealing with Roommates: LANDLORD/OWNER, lease sign, whole scenario
lease sign, whole scenario, seperat: Hi again Michelle The first thing you should do is visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city (ususally part of city hall) and bring your lease agreement with you. Be sure to tell them that each of the renters are on separate lease agreements. Also tell...

Dealing with Roommates: WHAT CAN A LANDLORD/OWNER DO???, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, agreement period: Hi Michelle How about giving me more info? Does the landlord live in the dwelling also? Is he renting out rooms in his house? Do the other renters have signed contracts/leases? Who has been trying to get out? Who wants them out? The new...

Dealing with Roommates: Landlady Going into my Room - Update, small claims court, payroll direct deposit
small claims court, payroll direct deposit, employeer: Hi again Andy In my reply to your first letter I stated you should go visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city for advice. I assume from THIS letter, you failed to do this. I cannot help you Andy if you do not take my advice. Now please go visit...

Dealing with Roommates: Landlady Going into my Room, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, verbal agreement: Hi Andy She does NOT have the right to go through your things, even if she owns the house and you are not on the lease. And you cannot put a lock on your door because she has to have a key (fire code laws) so that would not solve your problem. And...

Dealing with Roommates: Landlord holding pet hostage, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, household items: Hi Mollie Well, I think it is generous of you to offer to do the yard sale bit. It is still up to the landlord to approve the deal. He might go for it or not. There might also be local ordinances against he having a yard sale on the property so be prepared...

Dealing with Roommates: Laptop Broken Computer, sylvia bergthold, rental purposes
sylvia bergthold, rental purposes, broken computer: Hi Jen Well it would be pretty hard to prove that she was the one that damaged your computer. If she was showing the apartment to potential renters for example, one of them might have damaged it. If you have renters insurance you might check with...

Dealing with Roommates: Late partial rent, when can 3 day be given?, sylvia bergthold, legal options
sylvia bergthold, legal options, hassle: Hi George Issue her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate and date it tomorrow. You really don t need a reason to issue this notice. You are basically telling the person they have to be out of your place in 30 days from the date on your letter. I wouldn...

Dealing with Roommates: Later Move-in Date, how to split rent, new apartment, month of august
new apartment, month of august, july 31st: Hi Lisa The day you move in ANY of your stuff is the day you figure you start living there, even if you are not. So to prevent paying for days you are unable to be there, do NOT move any of your things in until the 12th of August. That might be inconvenient...

Dealing with Roommates: Can I LEGALLY hold his stuff as collateral for nonpayment?, sylvia bergthold, personal possessions
sylvia bergthold, personal possessions, housing agency: Hi Lindsey The ONLY legal way you can keep his stuff as collateral is IF he signs a document describing all his stuff in detail, afffixing a price to it, and that he is giving it to you to hold as collateral until he pays the money he owes you, and it is...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease, sylvia bergthold, taking medicine
sylvia bergthold, taking medicine, apartment: Hi Joan To be honest, I am not sure if this is possible because what and who defines a mental problem? Does this person have a certifiable mental condition? Is this person taking medicine or drugs for this condition? Have other people determined that...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, girlfriend lives: Hi Erick Your girlfriend has more clout than the other roommates but that does not mean she has carte blanche to do whatever she wishes. And it depends on how the landlord, the city, the county and the state defines occupant is the real issue. Generally...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease, sylvia bergthold, lease holder
sylvia bergthold, lease holder, subletter: Hi Jay I have no idea. Why don t you ask the landlord? After all, he should know if your friend is a subletter, an equal lease holder or something else. If you don t understand what he says,or doesn t make it clear to you, go to the Fair Housing...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting of Lease, fair housing council, lease holders
fair housing council, lease holders, eviction notice: Hi Suzette Go to the Fair Housing Council in your city (usually part of city hall), bring a copy of your lease agreement with you and ask their advice. You need to determine what your rights are. My info is generic and each city, county and state tack...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease agreements- sharing utilities, florist shop, floral business
florist shop, floral business, rental houses: Hi Jamie, It sounds like a really great set up but you are right about the utilities. This is going to be a little tricky because you don t know what the utilities will run for the florist shop until it is up and running. Also depending how many people...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease-holder Disappears, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, lease holder: Hi Jill I think I would call his (lets call him John) parents stating you are really concerned because you haven t heard a word since he left. John had made arrangements to pay for the rent until you found someone but all your calls have gone unanswered....

Dealing with Roommates: Lease issue, interpersonal conflicts, lease issue
interpersonal conflicts, lease issue, homeless population: Hi Ryan, I am a little confused here so if you can clarify a few things. Are you all listed on the lease individually? Each of you gave the landlord your share of the security deposit, and you each signed the lease agreement? Did she give you (or...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease Renewing Issues, horror stories, addendum
horror stories, addendum, landlord: Hi again Matt I don t know if they can sue you for NOT turning in the document to the landlord. You might want to visit the Fair Housing Agency in your community and check with them Explain the whole mess to them (do not leave anything out) and see what...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease and Security Deposit, roommate survival guide, security deposit
roommate survival guide, security deposit, landlord: Hi Lindsey You can t send her her share of the deposit if you don t know where she is. AND you don t know if the replacement roommate paid her a deposit so she could get hers back from the landlord. Do nothing at this point and see what the landlord...

Dealing with Roommates: No Lease, want roommate out., roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Amy I don t see how either of you can make demands on the other. I suggest you both sit down and talk about what you BOTH want to do. Then go talk to the landlord. I can almost guarantee however that the landlord will NOT get involved with this as...

Dealing with Roommates: Lease, ms mrs, lease agreement
ms mrs, lease agreement, roommates: Hi Gene Well, first I have to ask why you would want to continue living in a place where you are not wanted? For Roni to ask you to leave, there must be some friction and/or incompatibility between you or the other roommates. This alone is grounds for...

Dealing with Roommates: Leaving a lease with roommates, small claims court, one of these girls
small claims court, one of these girls, living in hell: Hi Sarah I want you to take this entire letter you sent me, print it out and take it to court with you IF they sue you. They don t stand a chance in Hell of winning. They are trying to extort more money out of you. Do not fall for this baloney. Get WRITTEN...

Dealing with Roommates: Leaving a roommate, sylvia bergthold, new roommate
sylvia bergthold, new roommate, great news: Hi Jackie Since you are not going back to that school, you have an easy answer. Fill in the names and there you have it. great news, (your ex-roommate name here): I got accepted to (YOUR NEW SCHOOL HERE) in (WHERE IT IS LOCATED). I know you are really...

Dealing with Roommates: Leftover property, nyc apartment, court judgment
nyc apartment, court judgment, civil code section: Hi Again Robert Okay, so your landlord is basically putting the ball in your court.... How long has your former roommate been missing ? Did you file a police report when he stole your money? (you didn t mention this in your first letter).Did you ask...

Dealing with Roommates: Legal issues of moving out, felony warrants, rent charges
felony warrants, rent charges, legal counsel: Hi Dena Wacky doesn t even cover this. It is ridiculous. Make an appointment with the landlord AND the police department to move your stuff out of there. Get a bunch of friends together to help you do it and if there are a few really really big intimidating...

Dealing with Roommates: Liability, sylvia bergthold, small claims court
sylvia bergthold, small claims court, unwanted furniture: Hi James You need to see what your rights are as a tenant and what liablity you incurred as a roommate not on a lease. Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city (usually part of city hall) and bring any paperwork pertaining to this situation, including...

Dealing with Roommates: Lies and Abuse, room mate, open invitation
room mate, open invitation, total chaos: Hi Sylvie You do have a problem on your hands, that is for sure. Here are a few suggestions. I feel the stress of moving out would be even worse than what you are going through right now. And with finals having to study for on top of that, you just...

Dealing with Roommates: Live in Boyfriend, sylvia bergthold, winter park florida
sylvia bergthold, winter park florida, nicole weber: Hi Nicole Since you have a child together, that does complicate matters a wee bit. This is a domestic problem, NOT a roommate problem. See an attorney, preferably a divorce attorney. That s is my advice. Good Luck Sincerely Sylvia Bergthold www.aroommatesurvivalguide.co...

Dealing with Roommates: Locks/Roommate moving, sylvia bergthold, storage fee
sylvia bergthold, storage fee, personal property: Hi Elizabeth If he moves out ALL his stuff before the 30 day period is up, you can change the locks because he has no reason to return. And yes, if he moves out and leaves stuff behind past his 30 day period, you can charge him a storage fee. You also...

Dealing with Roommates: Looking for a place, roommate agreement, new landlord
roommate agreement, new landlord, compatibility problem: Hi Anthony As a potential roommate, you need to be sure that your new landlord runs a security/credit check on all applicants. That might sound strange to you but you want to be assured that other people/roommates living in the house are trustworthy and...

Dealing with Roommates: Lying roommate and Landlord!, sylvia bergthold, first mistake
sylvia bergthold, first mistake, housing agency: Hi Nicole Talk to the landlords and see if they have any options for you. Also you might want to contact the Fair Housing Agency in your community (usually part of city hall) and explain to them what has happened. Bring a copy of the lease agreement with...

Dealing with Roommates: landlord unwilling to evict roommate, sylvia bergthold, eviction service
sylvia bergthold, eviction service, new roommate: Hi Matt Ask the FHA if you can have the landlord change out the locks on day 31 after his notice has expired. He has already been issued a 30 day notice by the landlord. It is a legal document. But as I mentioned earlier, you really need to talk to the...

Dealing with Roommates: Too late for a roommate agreement?, roommate agreement, new roommate
roommate agreement, new roommate, personal belongings: Hi Nich I don t think you need to get a camera, and I am not sure the legality of it anyway. Forget the roommate agreement too! Ask the landlord if you can put a lock on your bedroom door and keep ALL your valuables locked up. Or take jewelry, checkbooks,...

Dealing with Roommates: Are there laws on splitting a security deposit?, sylvia bergthold, person credit
sylvia bergthold, person credit, equal share: Hi Beth Why don t you visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city and ask them the same question you asked me? As you know, my info is generic and housing rules are different in every city, county and state. They can tell you if you can LEGALLY withhold...

Dealing with Roommates: how to get out of a lease, physical altercation, housing agency
physical altercation, housing agency, lease agreement: Hi Tanya Have your son visit the Fair Housing Agency in his city and take a copy of the lease agreement with him. They might come up with some options on how to get out of this mess. Each city, county and state have their own codes and laws they throw in...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting off a lease, eviction notices, first mistake
eviction notices, first mistake, doctrine of impossibility: Hi Steve Well your first mistake was going to live with a friend. Second mistake was going against your intuition and signing a lease. Third mistake was moving in a place where you HAD to sign a lease. NOW...It was up to you to HELP her find...

Dealing with Roommates: lease agreement, roommate agreement, legal ramifications
roommate agreement, legal ramifications, voice mail: Hi again JoAn, Your son seems to have gotten himself into a bit of a bind. First of all, is he the ONLY one out of the five that signed a lease with the manager? Did he sign a separate roommate agreement with his roommates? Why are they not paying their...

Dealing with Roommates: lease contract, sylvia bergthold, separate checks
sylvia bergthold, separate checks, legal boundaries: Hi Pearson You don t want to place a stop payment on the check because it might backfire on you. What you DO need to do is go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city (usually part of city hall) and tell them what is going on. You signed a contract...

Dealing with Roommates: Does being on the lease oblige me to pay utilities every month?, roommate survival guide, unexpected family
roommate survival guide, unexpected family, subletter: Hi Sam You are still obligated in paying the utilities whether you are there or not. If you lived by yourself in an apartment and you were called out of town for a few months, you would still have to pay rent and utilities. By the time you had them unconnected...

Dealing with Roommates: No lease Tx Evicting roomate, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, eviction service: Hi Steve Well, Texas does seem to march by a different drummer so I would suggest you go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city and talk to them before you do anything. They know all the city, county and state laws that govern landlord and tenant matters....

Dealing with Roommates: no one on lease want to kick roomate out, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, landlord tenant: Hi Deirdre I am a little confused here. WHO signed the lease with the landlord, the guy you want to move out? And do you have a separate roommate agreement between the three of you? This is where your landlord has to take control of the issue because...

Dealing with Roommates: In a lease and want out, slam doors, roommate agreement
slam doors, roommate agreement, dead bolt: Hi Michelle Talk about roommates from HELL, gosh, this sounds like Dantes Inferno. Carry a tape recorder with you at all times and everytime someone threatens you, turn it on. Carry pepper spray or Mace and learn how to use it. Go to the Fair Housing...

Dealing with Roommates: no lease, how do I get her out, eviction service, eviction process
eviction service, eviction process, x girlfriend: Hi Wayne Give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to leave. You might mention to her at the time you give it to her that if you had to have an eviction service do it, her name would be placed in the flake data base that all landlords and most homeowners use when...

Dealing with Roommates: leftover property, sylvia bergthold, certified mail
sylvia bergthold, certified mail, furniture books: Hi Sarah Send her via registered or certified mail the following document which you will fill out. Notice to Former Tenant of RIght to Reclaim Abandoned Personal Property....basically it tells her to come and get her stuff or you will sell it at a public...

Dealing with Roommates: legality between subletting and, sylvia bergthold, daily basis
sylvia bergthold, daily basis, sam laws: Hi Raphael You should visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city to determine if what you are doing is legal. As I have mentioned many times, my info is generic. All city, county and states insert their codes into the housing laws and it seems they change...

Dealing with Roommates: Can I get out legally?, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, dear sylvia: Hi again Melissa I have to assume by your letter that your roommate also signed a one year lease. So now, the two of you are stuck together and are miserable....what a mess. Go talk to the landlord first and ask what options you have. Please bring up...

Dealing with Roommates: My live boyfriend will not move out of my home that I own, sylvia bergthold, eviction service
sylvia bergthold, eviction service, unlawful detainer: Hi Melinda I think he is trying to intimidate you big time. If the house belongs to you, and the mortgage is in your name, he has no say so about this. YOU ARE THE BOSS. Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city and tell them what is going on. They...

Dealing with Roommates: live in boyfriend, new landlord, divorce attorney
new landlord, divorce attorney, oil tank: Hi Alice Of course your BF won t go, he is getting a free ride in life. He would be an idiot to turn down this cushy situation. And to be honest, I don t know HOW you are going to get him to leave if he doesn t want to go. He is on the lease, same as you...

Dealing with Roommates: living situation, bitchy girlfriend, thai girlfriend
bitchy girlfriend, thai girlfriend, grumpy old man: Dear Taelyn, I can certinaly hear the frustration in your voice. If you are certain that you and your boyfriend can actually rent a house or apartment for the same amount of money that you are spending on rent now, and you are sure you cannot live...

Dealing with Roommates: How do I lose a roommate without losing a friend, coke cans, lunch meat
coke cans, lunch meat, ground turkey: Hi Sara You and especially your husband need to take control of this situation. Your incompatible, flaky and totally irresponsible roommate has now total control of your lives, financially,(he doesn t contribute his share of money); emotionally (he needs...

Dealing with Roommates: Making sure roomate leaves, roommate survival guide, roommate agreement
roommate survival guide, roommate agreement, eye openers: Hi Ben Boy, you can count yourself very very lucky to have gone this long without a problem. I went almost 25 years before I ran into a major mess. That is when I re-evaluated the whole thing and came up with my Roommate Survival Guide, and writing up...

Dealing with Roommates: Master bedroom & extra rent, vanity mirror, electricity bill
vanity mirror, electricity bill, wall mirror: Hi PeeDee I see trouble in this arrangement already and you haven t even moved in yet. You guys better sit down and discuss a whole lot of stuff before signing on the dotted line. Why don t you ask the landlord for advice on how roommates usually divide...

Dealing with Roommates: Messy room mates., personal belongings, room mates
personal belongings, room mates, messy room: Hi Michelle You didn t mention if this is a house or apartment. Also who is on the lease if anyone is. Is this your place and they moved in or is it her place and you moved in? And how is the rent and utilities being split up? Is it three ways now instead...

Dealing with Roommates: Moving out, sylvia bergthold, pepper spray
sylvia bergthold, pepper spray, hink: Hi Lillian Issue him a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. On day 31 he is trespassing. You will call the police and do a citizens arrest. Then change the locks on all your doors and if you have to, file a restraining order against him. Because of your...

Dealing with Roommates: Moving, don't want roommate to come too, new roommate, renting an apartment
new roommate, renting an apartment, renting a room: Hi Audrey Well as I see this picture, it really isn t up to you to make the decision if roommate #3 moves into your friends house. (Lets call her Ann). Ann needs to set the boundaries for her own house. I see problems already if she can t make a simple...

Dealing with Roommates: Moving out early on friends, etiquette questions, cable bill
etiquette questions, cable bill, hotwater: Hi Again Jon, Yes, it would only be fair and honorable to still pay your percentage of the utilities. Look at it this way. You originally made the committment to pay 1/4 rent, 1/4 expensenses; just because you left before the committment period was...

Dealing with Roommates: Moving out, sylvia bergthold, loud parties
sylvia bergthold, loud parties, bad idea: Hi Rosie Why don t you ask the landlord if he will be putting a negative comment in your file? If you are all moving out at the same time, paying the fees and have given them a written 30 day notice that you are moving, I don t see a problem. If you...

Dealing with Roommates: Must I find a replacement?, fair housing council, 1yr lease
fair housing council, 1yr lease, few suggestions: Hi Nick, I don t know if I can help you but I will make a few suggestions. I think (but am not possitive) that Brentwood has rent control laws which are a little different than your ordinary rental laws. However, it does not make sense to me that the landlord...

Dealing with Roommates: I'm not on the lease....and now the landlord is kicking me out, california state law, memo portion
california state law, memo portion, change the locks: Hi Shane You need to go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city NOW! This situation is a gigantic mess. There have been all types of rules broken by EVERYBODY, including you. The deposit is NEVER used for your last months rent. So that was a no no on...

Dealing with Roommates: major roomate problems, boyfriends name, unwanted guest
boyfriends name, unwanted guest, poor decision: Hi again Natalie Well it sounds like you did absolutely everything possible to legally get out of this arrangement, including talking to the landlord. At least you made him aware of what is going on which is good. And let s hope he will write up a letter...

Dealing with Roommates: making sure a roommate leaves, sylvia bergthold, apartment lease
sylvia bergthold, apartment lease, undue stress: Hi Gene In most states, all that is required is a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Hopefully you kept your copy of the notice plus his response. To make sure of your rights and your roommates rights, check with the Fair Housing Agency in your city. Some...

Dealing with Roommates: making sure a roommate leaves, change the locks, eviction service
change the locks, eviction service, 30 day notice: Hi Sue First of all, you should have given her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to move. It is your word against hers at this point. Second: IF she does move out, she has to turn in her keys. Then I would have the landlord change the locks (ONLY after she leaves)....

Dealing with Roommates: I might be evicted, other search engines, nsf fee
other search engines, nsf fee, google: Hi Danielle You have got yourself a real irresponsible roommate who is so self-centered she doesn t care what happens to you. I wish I could give you some good advice, but at this point I don t think I can. Give your roommate a WRITTEN 3 day notice to...

Dealing with Roommates: How to get back my money from roommate not in lease, roommate survival guide, prospective roommates
roommate survival guide, prospective roommates, roommate agreement: Hi Abhishek Your very first priority is to get another roommate ASAP. You need to replace this deadbeat you call a roommate for one that is responsible and compatible. Buy my Roommate Survival guide to help you as it will take you step by step in how...

Dealing with Roommates: How do I get my last month's rent from a roomate? I moved out earlier than expected., simplicity sake, roomate
simplicity sake, roomate, forwarding address: Hi Michael Depending how much money is involved here is how you will want to proceed. Hiring a PI is very expensive. Whatever the guy owes you (lets call him Joe for simplicity sake) will be eaten up by PI fees. Did you try going to the landlord where...

Dealing with Roommates: Can they make me move out of my room?, college apartment, apartment room
college apartment, apartment room, current college: Hi Laura I am very confused by your letter. You say you have lived in this college apartment room for three years, and signed up for a fourth year. If you signed up for a fourth year, I assume you can produce the paperwork or the lease agreement stating...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting them to move out, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, everyday problems: Hi Sheri You will sit down with your husband and basically tell him has has to make a choice. If he insists on allowing his daughter to live there, he needs to write up a contract outlining rules, payments for rent AND utilities AND her share of groceries...

Dealing with Roommates: I moved out never sign lease, old roommate wants to take me to court what do I do, verbal agreement, monthes
verbal agreement, monthes, utilties: Hi Jason You were never on the lease (you didn t sign anything), and the utilities you used were for two weeks. Big deal! How much can 2 weeks of electricity, water and cable add up to? Have him send you a copy of all the utilties for October, divide...

Dealing with Roommates: moving out early, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, housing agency: Hi Brandi Whether you were on a lease(or not), or a roommate agreement (or not), you should have given your friend a WRITTEN 30 day notice that you were leaving. Unless your friend wants to be real generous, I don t think you qualify to get your rent...

Dealing with Roommates: moving out after falling out with flatmates, sylvia bergthold, apirl
sylvia bergthold, apirl, behavoir: Hi David Usually the outgoing roommate (that s you) helps your roommates find a replacement for you. That is what the landlord is talking about, otherwise your roommates will have to pick up your share of the rent. Not good! So I suggest you quietly...

Dealing with Roommates: moving out before lease is up, small claims court, locked storage
small claims court, locked storage, storage unit: Hi Brian, I can only offer a few suggestions: I do think you might want to talk to an attorney also. Suggestion number one: talk to the landlord, explain the entire situation to him/her and ask for suggestions. Sometimes it is amazing what landlords...

Dealing with Roommates: moving out, leaving roommate, sylvia bergthold, restraining order
sylvia bergthold, restraining order, fiance: Hi Sarah Who has a restraining order against who? Her fiance against her or her against her fiance? Whatever the details, I suggest your neighbor go to the Fair Housing Authority and explain the situation. There should be one in your community, probably...

Dealing with Roommates: Name not on lease-can I move out?, pots and pans, physical stress
pots and pans, physical stress, horror story: Hi Cait I am a little confused. If your name is not on the lease, why can t you just leave? You are not responsible for rent if you are not listed on the lease signed with the landlord. SHE signed a lease with the landlord until August, not you. If...

Dealing with Roommates: I NEED MY ROOMMMATE OUT, trevor dawn, girl helen
trevor dawn, girl helen, bedroom apartment: Hi Victoria It is still a mess,and getting worse by the minute, even with the new info you gave me. Your incredible shared living experiences have come to a screeching halt. In essence you are telling me that one roommate (Helen) moved out, another...

Dealing with Roommates: Need My Apartment Back!, time college student, productive lifestyle
time college student, productive lifestyle, givers and takers: Hi Fiona The big question is: when does helping people become you enabling them to keep leading a non-productive lifestyle? As I have mentioned several times in these letters, the world is made up of basically two types of people. Givers and takers....

Dealing with Roommates: Need out of my lease, decent guy, judge judy
decent guy, judge judy, housemate: Hi again Lulu If it makes you feel more secure (without creating world war three), I would do option #2 as your letter states: Or do I just state that I ve tried for 4 months to find him a roommate, have paid fees to join online roommate searches, paid...

Dealing with Roommates: Need a Roommate to GO!, roommate survival guide, first mistake
roommate survival guide, first mistake, verbal agreements: Hi Christine No, it is NOT legal. Give him a WRITTEN 3O day notice to vacate. I wouldn t even bother with the 3 day notice to pay rent or quit since you want him out anyway. The notice will have the exact date he has to be out and I find it always looks...

Dealing with Roommates: Neighbors, female roommate, nosy neighbors
female roommate, nosy neighbors, music parties: Hi Rachel Well your main problem is not really the nosy neighbors (although they are very intrusive) but your roommate. When people own a house and pay property taxes, they expect certain things from the city. A quiet and safe neighborhood, and not a lot...

Dealing with Roommates: New Apartment application was denied, because of old roommate! How can I change this?, roommate survival guide, prospective landlord
roommate survival guide, prospective landlord, roommate agreement: Hi Brandy I am sorry you are having so much trouble renting because of your flakey ex-roommate s irresponsible behavior. It wouldn t hurt to go to the prospective landlord and show him all the paperwork regarding your old case. It at least shows that...

Dealing with Roommates: New Roomate, roommate situation, albuquerque new mexico
roommate situation, albuquerque new mexico, new girlfriend: Hi Lucas I am sorry for the end of your friendship with your roommate and formally your best friend. Unfortunately, this type of thing happens when a third party enters the picture and in this case, it is his new girlfriend. There is no way he will make...

Dealing with Roommates: Nightmare Roomate, sylvia bergthold, dear sylvia
sylvia bergthold, dear sylvia, roommate agreement: Hi Adora Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city and tell them what you have told me. Since you are the only person on the lease, she technically is a subletter. Sure she has established occupancy, but that does not mean you cannot evict her. You just...

Dealing with Roommates: Nightmare roommate, property management company, sylvia bergthold
property management company, sylvia bergthold, eviction service: Hi Rachel Well since you were NOT suppose to sublet the apartment and you did it anyway, you have a problem. Try contacting the Fair Housing Authority (Agency) in your city and maybe they can come up with a solution. I would also recommend going...

Dealing with Roommates: Noisy Lazy Roommate, sylvia bergthold, hard drugs
sylvia bergthold, hard drugs, playing music: Hi Again Noah I thought perhaps I had misinterpreted your letter when you answered me back. So I went back and reread what you wrote to me in your first letter. Well, according to your letter he has people over during the week and they stay up playing...

Dealing with Roommates: Notice to Quit, sylvia bergthold, certified mail
sylvia bergthold, certified mail, eviction service: Hi Claire Rather than issuing a 3 day notice and altering it (a very bad idea unless you are a lawyer and also very iffy if you have to appear in court), issue him a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. (You should be able to find the form on line also). Send...

Dealing with Roommates: Do I need to put down a deposit?, roommate agreement, roommate services
roommate agreement, roommate services, new roommate: Hi Hannah You need to give the ex-roommate her share of the security deposit, since you are the third roommate. When you move out, the incoming new roommate will give it back to you. Security deposits go with the apartment, NOT the people living in...

Dealing with Roommates: need to move, roomates causing problems, african grey parrot, full time job
african grey parrot, full time job, rental history: Hi Jennifer Gosh, with friends like this, who needs enemies? It is obvious that for their own reasons, they are NOT going to cooperate with you in any way to replace you. Here are a few suggestions. 1. Talk to the roommates one more time and tell them...

Dealing with Roommates: Do I need to notify landlord of new roommate?, roommate agreement, new roommate
roommate agreement, new roommate, necessary thanks: Hi Sadie I think you should pay a visit to the Fair Housing Agency in your city (usually part of city hall) ASAP. Bring any documents pertaining to the apartment including the lease agreement with you. The reason I urge this is that each city, county and...

Dealing with Roommates: I need support but how can I get it?, software quality engineer, roommate agreement
software quality engineer, roommate agreement, legal ramifications: Hi Vicci When is the lease up on the apartment? A year? Six months? Month to month? That is the main issue. Can I assume that each of you signed the lease with landlord OR...are you the primary tenant and the other two a type of subletter? And if you all...

Dealing with Roommates: My neighbor, apartment building, strange woman
apartment building, strange woman, neighbor: Hi Leslie, Wow - this is a tough one. I was going to tell you to just not answer the door but since you ve already tried that, we ll have to come up with something else. I think if I were you I would tell her that I am starting to take classes and...

Dealing with Roommates: new roommate taking over home, become like second mom, new roommate, dirty dishes
new roommate, dirty dishes, back porch: Hi Kate You have lost control of the WHOLE situation. The first time you lost it was when your ex-roommate placed her there without your approval. The second time was NOT writing up any type of agreement. Now you hightail yourself down to the landlords...

Dealing with Roommates: nice guy.... bad move., hi shan, strict rule
hi shan, strict rule, 30 day notice: Hi Shan Nice guy....bad move. This doesn t even cover it Shan. Get real here okay? Did it ever occur to you this person (let s call her Ann for now) is a MAJOR con-woman? FIVE months FREE rent? Moving in her dead beat boyfriend? Giving her the bigger...

Dealing with Roommates: non lease evictions, state labor board, roommate agreement
state labor board, roommate agreement, pay stubs: Hi Darlene I think you are in deep deep trouble. I find it completely unbelievable that you have no pay stubs, no signed lease or roommate agreement, no receipts for monies paid out, and that you would work for free in this day and age...2006! Go...

Dealing with Roommates: non paying/lying roommate, household bills, work move
household bills, work move, 30 day notice: Hi Diana Give your roommate a THREE day notice to pay rent or quit. (you should be able to find the forms on-line or in the library) Then issue him a 30 day notice to vacate if he doesn t pay the rent in three days. And keep repeating every month this legal...

Dealing with Roommates: OK Roommate but Bad Boyfriend, domestic violence charges, legal standpoint
domestic violence charges, legal standpoint, bad boyfriend: Hi Kylie Well your statement that the replacement is a very nice girl (lets call her Sue) is not quite accurate according to my book. When Sue refused to abide by your wishes with the boyfriend, she is no longer a nice girl. She is totally disrespectful...

Dealing with Roommates: Old apartment, sylvia bergthold, old apartment
sylvia bergthold, old apartment, eviction notice: Hi Chris How about asking the landlord of the apartment? The only way it would show up on your credit report is the following: A. He did NOT remove your name from the lease when you told him you no longer lived there B. He had to EVICT your ex for...

Dealing with Roommates: Can I Make It On My Own?, room mate, responsible adult
room mate, responsible adult, bad situation: Hi L.A. You didn t state your age but I am assuming you are at least 18. Otherwise most apartments will NOT rent to minors unless a responsible adult signs the lease. Nor will many other places such as private homes renting out rooms. I would NOT recommend...

Dealing with Roommates: Owner rights when renting a room, roommate survival guide, butte county california
roommate survival guide, butte county california, legal restraints: Hi Butte It is not correct. You still are required to give a 30 day WRITTEN notice for someone to leave. On day 31 if they are still there, you can make a citizens arrest and have the Sheriff remove them. On rare occasions you can use a 3 day notice but...

Dealing with Roommates: old boyfriend wont leave, sylvia bergthold, pepperspray
sylvia bergthold, pepperspray, tape recorder: Hi Brandi You need to discuss this with the landlord. I am assuming that you are on the lease and not your boyfriend? Or is it the other way around? Or are you BOTH on the lease?This makes a difference in how to handle your problem. I know that every...

Dealing with Roommates: orders, sylvia bergthold, legal dependents
sylvia bergthold, legal dependents, mediation service: Hi Marcos No, your orders only apply to you or your legal dependents. It is too bad that both of you signed the lease. She either has to come up with the monthly rent, or find another roommate. Tell her to buy my book and follow it step by step. IF...

Dealing with Roommates: Do I owe for utilities I am not using, lease period, housing agency
lease period, housing agency, gas water: Hi Angela When you signed a lease, you signed on for the entire duration of the lease period (I assume a year). When you walked out, you were still required to pay the rent and possibly the utilities (it depends on what your agreement says) but you definitely...

Dealing with Roommates: i own a house and want to kick out room mate's, eviction service, eviction services
eviction service, eviction services, cant move: Hi Mark Go immediately to the Fair Housing Agency in your city, usually located in city hall. Take any papers pertaining to the house with you. Explain the entire situation to them. They need to explain to you what rules regulate tenants, roommates and...

Dealing with Roommates: Parting ways and splitting the cost of furniture, roommate survival guide, goodwill store
roommate survival guide, goodwill store, few suggestions: Hi Julie This is a major problem when roommates decide to furnish a place in this manner. Women do this more often then men. Men just pick up stuff at the Goodwill Store or garage sales and don t have this to deal with when they go their separate ways....

Dealing with Roommates: Not Paying Roommate, tenant landlord act, tenant landlord laws
tenant landlord act, tenant landlord laws, new roommate: Hi Sam First you need to go to the local Fair Housing Agency (usually part of city hall) for the latest updates on tenant/landlord laws, rules, etc. They also have an mediation department for people who are having difficulties living in a shared housing...

Dealing with Roommates: Personal Property, sylvia bergthold, mail
sylvia bergthold, mail, charitable institution: Hi Sarah There is a form titled: Notice to Former Tenant of Right to Reclaim Abandoned Personal Property.... it basically says come get your stuff by such and such a date or I am auctioning it all off or giving it to a charitable institution. Send it to...

Dealing with Roommates: Personality changes in my roomate, personality changes, psychological reasons
personality changes, psychological reasons, stressful situation: Hi Kate It sounds as if something traumatic affected her during the Christmas break (or triggered it) and it is influencing her behavior now. How about both of you going out to a restaurant, sitting down quietly and discuss what the problem is? Just...

Dealing with Roommates: PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!, furniture appliances, full security
furniture appliances, full security, toilet paper: Hi Mary You need to personally give your horrible roommate a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Make sure it has a move out date on it. AND unless there is another person living in the apartment, the rent and utilities should have been split in HALF, not...

Dealing with Roommates: Potential Roommate, roommate agreement, person sign
roommate agreement, person sign, lease agreement: Hi Gaurav I would go ahead with accepting him as your roommate if you feel comfortable about it. I am assuming your landlord will okay his living there as a subletter. WRITE up a roommate agreement outlining when and how much he should pay every month....

Dealing with Roommates: Pricing for the bigger room, sylvia bergthold, square footage
sylvia bergthold, square footage, roommates: Hi Emily Well the person with the bigger room usually pays a little more rent than the other. How you decide to divide it is up to you. In New York where space is at a premium, I can see why they do that and generally, the landlord sets the price of...

Dealing with Roommates: Problem ith property manager, old newspapers, empty bags
old newspapers, empty bags, fresh paint: Hi Hannah My advice is you and the other 3 girls need to find another place to live like yesterday! He sounds like he has an obsessive complusive disorder and will not change. He is set in his ways and that is not going to change either. Check with...

Dealing with Roommates: Problem living with Porperty Manager, old newspapers, empty bags
old newspapers, empty bags, fresh paint: Here is the advice again Hannah Hi Hannah My advice is you and the other 3 girls need to find another place to live like yesterday! He sounds like he has an obsessive complusive disorder and will not change. He is set in his ways and that is not going...

Dealing with Roommates: Problem with a renter moving in his girlfriend.., roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi FcMusic I am going to assume you did NOT write up any type of agreement with your roommates; if you had he would be in violation of several rules in the agreement. Please buy my Roommate Survival Guide, read it thoroughly and then read it again. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Problems with Roommates Dogs, deep freezer, pet contract
deep freezer, pet contract, sanitary conditions: Hi again Lindsey PLEASE call the Health Department ASAP....this is a major horror story....gosh, I half expect you to write me to tell me there is a dead body in that freezer in the shed. I guess I have been watching too many CSI shows. Seriously, you...

Dealing with Roommates: Problems with roommate that gave 30 day notice, unlawful detainer, previous notice
unlawful detainer, previous notice, prospective tenants: Hi Ely You definitely DO NOT HAVE to accept his retraction letter. After all, you have attorneys for the landlord basically saying the same thing, don t you? Tell the landlord that you also are not accepting his retraction notice and he must be out...

Dealing with Roommates: Prorated rates, verbal agreement, roommate
verbal agreement, roommate, personal space: Hi Joyce I am not sure I understand the term prorated rates when it comes to rent and utilities, at least I have never heard of it used for this. Here is the way it works: You pay your monthly rent whether you live in the place or you are on fun...

Dealing with Roommates: paid and did not get key, 4th of july holiday, mid aug
4th of july holiday, mid aug, subletter: Dear hurt beyond belief I am totally confused by your letter. Are you the Girl #4 mentioned in this letter? If you are, why didn t you just say so? Who did the three girls sign a lease with? A homeowner? A landlord? A housing service? WHO? When they...

Dealing with Roommates: parents as renters, roommate survival guide, cable internet service
roommate survival guide, cable internet service, informal contract: Hi again Wendy Thanks for clarifying the whole arrangement. Since you will really be living in two separate places (okay, big deal you have a shared stairway and share the laundry and yard) I think you will find you will not be running into each other...

Dealing with Roommates: one party moving before lease expires, while other wants to remain, sylvia bergthold, lease agreement
sylvia bergthold, lease agreement, new lease: Hi Niki She goes to the landlord and tells him she wants to move. That the male will now take over the entire amount of the rent. That the lease needs to be rewritten with him as the primary renter, not as the roommate and she needs her name taken off....

Dealing with Roommates: paying Utilities, roomates, writing a check
roomates, writing a check, utility payments: Hi Margaret Who paid for the utilities before now? Were they in your roommates names? They were writing a check directly to the utility companies after receiving everybody s share? And no, I do NOT think you are being unreasonable to ask for the utility...

Dealing with Roommates: How to get people who sign lease for apartment to pay their rent?, roommate survival guide, eviction service
roommate survival guide, eviction service, small claims court: Hi Ken Well, I know you were trying to help your son but you totally went about it the wrong way....in fact many ways. But I guess you already know that now. I am assuming that YOU are the only signer on the lease with the landlord, the others are probably...

Dealing with Roommates: pet damage, sylvia bergthold, small claims court
sylvia bergthold, small claims court, pet damage: Hi Jen I don t know if you should buy her a new couch. Since she knew you had a cat when you moved in, and she failed to tell you about the visiting dog, she was partly to blame for this. This is the reason why I would never rent a room to someone with...

Dealing with Roommates: phone access, roommate survival guide, eash
roommate survival guide, eash, augest: Hi Carol Since the rent will be increased in Aug now is the time for your son to move out of the place before a new lease is in effect. Have him give the landlord a WRITTEN 30 day notice he will be moving out by August 15 or thereabouts. And make sure...

Dealing with Roommates: possible roommates, housekeeping service, mess on your hands
housekeeping service, mess on your hands, problem questions: Hi Cat First, getting a roommate is a business and has to be handled like one. Giving you a list of questions is only part of the picture. And you are correct in wanting to do it wisely so as not to end up with a gigantic mess on your hands. You need...

Dealing with Roommates: problem of deposit back, pg and e, proper notification
pg and e, proper notification, 30 day notice: Hi Fred The problem is you DID NOT give him a 30 day notice you were leaving, you told him 18 days before your last day there. So you can try suing but it won t do you any good. Your agreement was to notify 30 days ahead of your move out date. You...

Dealing with Roommates: problem with roommate, rommmate, room mate
rommmate, room mate, dear sarah: Yep I think you re being too nice. If she is causing a problem you are probably better off without her in the flat. Nobody needs the stress of a bad room-mate especially when their friends are also creating problems. Time to shed the Mr Nice guy and get...

Dealing with Roommates: problems finding a third roommate, roommate survival guide, verbal agreements
roommate survival guide, verbal agreements, time problem: Hi Dave Well as you have probably figured out by now, the real problem is you have nothing in writing about anything. Verbal agreements are worthless as far as I am concerned because of situations just like this. The other big problem I see is there...

Dealing with Roommates: questions to ask when calling references for a potential roommate, party person, credit background
party person, credit background, personal references: Hi Fayth I am happy to hear that you have done a credit and background check.....good for you! So many people fail to do this very important task before they get a roommate. Personal References: Questions Former Landlord(s) use at least the last...

Dealing with Roommates: Raving Lunatic wont Leave, bath robe, police escort
bath robe, police escort, subsidized housing: Hi Heidi What a gigantic mess! And you have more than one problem here, believe me. Problem One: Since you are the one that broke YOUR agreement with the landlord this is now going to be a major problem for you. Subsidized housing specifically states...

Dealing with Roommates: Recovering rent from roomate who's moving, roommate survival guide, prospective roommates
roommate survival guide, prospective roommates, roommate agreement: Hi Constance First you have every right to screen potential roommates. After all this person will be part of your household and obviously it should be someone who is compatible with the rest of you. She has broken the lease agreement (a legal document),...

Dealing with Roommates: Refrigerator food, sylvia bergthold, community meals
sylvia bergthold, community meals, bulemia: Hi Bob Here are a couple of suggestions: DO NOT FIX community meals as you are ending up on the short end of the stick. Why should you pitch in with money and food, only to end up with nothing? His Bulemia is HIS PROBLEM, not yours (although it has...

Dealing with Roommates: Remove roomates or break lease and run?, new roommate, hostile place
new roommate, hostile place, dramatic decrease: Hi Liz You have gotten yourself into a GIGANTIC mess. And I see no easy way out of this. It is going to cost you big bucks anyway you do it. But I see your safety as the main issue. My choice would be this. Move out like yesterday, put all your stuff...

Dealing with Roommates: Removing an ex-girlfriend from rental, sylvia bergthold, share costs
sylvia bergthold, share costs, 30 day notice: Hi I feel he needs to hire an attorney because this is not just a roommate issue, it is a domestic issue. Since his girlfriend is very unstable, is stealing stuff and vindictive, he cannot trust her to just leave after issuing her a 30 day notice to vacate....

Dealing with Roommates: Rent, roommate survival guide, roommate agreement
roommate survival guide, roommate agreement, bath duplex: Hi Johnna There is a formula for doing this which I will add to this response. My real concern here however is that you are all friends and moving in together. I council against this in this column and repeat if often in my book. There are many many reasons...

Dealing with Roommates: Rent Grace Period, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate situation: Hi Rita Call or visit the Fair Housing Agency in your community (usually part of city hall) and ask them about the grace period. Each city, county and state have their own laws, codes and rules governing housing matters. My info is generic and you need...

Dealing with Roommates: Rent, sylvia bergthold, landlord and tenant
sylvia bergthold, landlord and tenant, apartment manager: Hi Mary You could visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city (part of city hall) and talk to them about it. Bring the lease agreement with you along with your roommates email. They would know the legality of both documents, the lease agreement and your...

Dealing with Roommates: Rental agreement with roommates, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Jackie I think he has the right idea regarding getting roommates. However, he doesn t want to get into a big mess with irresponsible and uncompatible roommates, or end up in front of a judge because of legal problems. Please visit my website, purchase...

Dealing with Roommates: Renter/GF on the lease, sylvia bergthold, household bills
sylvia bergthold, household bills, best bet: Hi Chris Go to the landlord and see if he has any suggestions. I know parts of LA are rent controlled which adds other problems to the equation. Also call or visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city. Tell them what you have related here and ask them...

Dealing with Roommates: Renting 4bdrm. How is utilities split if one room is 2kids sharing room?, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, wage earner: Hi Christina Generally teenagers are counted as adults and small children are counted as 1/2 a person. So in your situation the utilities should be split 4 ways. Each of your adult roommates would pay one fourth and you of course would be paying the other...

Dealing with Roommates: Renting/roommates, mediation service, unhealthy environment
mediation service, unhealthy environment, city halls: Hi Chris Well, it wouldn t hurt to try the doctor s note bit; it might actually work, who knows? I think the first thing you should do is talk to the landlord, explain the situation and see if he would re-write the lease (preferrably without you on...

Dealing with Roommates: HOW DO I GET RID OF HER, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, rental aggrement: Hi Christina Give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. IF she asks why you are giving it to her, you tell her she broke the terms of the original rental agreement. And since she signed it, it doesn t matter what type it was, it is still a valid document....

Dealing with Roommates: How to Get Rid of a Parasite ASAP, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, lead abatement: Hi Shawn What a nightmare. How about getting written statements from all your neighbors regarding her behavior? How about taking pictures of the messes she leaves? How about taking pictures of all her guests that she entertains on your dime? And...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting Rid of Roommate NOT on Lease, roommate agreement, eviction service
roommate agreement, eviction service, disrespectful behavior: Hi Tom I think the first thing you should do is look at your lease agreement with the landlord. Does it say anything about subletting, allowing roommates, or how many occupants can live in the apartment ? That should determine how the management feels...

Dealing with Roommates: Getting Rid of Roommate, proper paperwork, apartment manager
proper paperwork, apartment manager, two and a half years: Hi Bridget Take your copy of the original lease down to the landlords office and point out you never signed any paperwork adding your boyfriends coworker (lets call him Sam) to the lease. According to your copy of the lease, no modification of this lease...

Dealing with Roommates: Rights of Living Partner, sylvia bergthold, household bills
sylvia bergthold, household bills, communication problem: Hi Erika All living expenses including rent should be divided evenly between the two of you. She pays half the rent and utilities and other living expenses that you both share and you pay the other half of these expenses. There shouldn t be a problem about...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMATE WITH DRUGS( SORRY FOR GRAMAR) NO GOOD ENGLISH, roommate survival guide, medicann
roommate survival guide, medicann, medical marijuana: Hi Polo Give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. Just tell her that her lifestyle is not compatible with your family life and she must move out or else you will contact the authorities. Although she might be on medical marijuana (she needs to show...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMATE INSISTS ON OVERNITE GUESTS, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement: Hi Sheila It is your roommate that is not respecting YOUR rights. You own this townhouse and she is just a subletter. If she insists on having people over against your wishes, then you need to issue her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You do not...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMATES, sylvia bergthold, lanlord
sylvia bergthold, lanlord, big deals: Hi Kevin, First, talk to the landlord and see what your rights are. He might give you suggestions or he might say it is your problem and he will not deal with it. Second, WHY would you want to stay in a place that you are not wanted....life could become...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATE ON LEASE WITH BOYFRIEND NOT ON LEASE, eviction process, confusing situation
eviction process, confusing situation, storage unit: Hi Michelle As I have mentioned previously, visiting the Fair Housing Agency in your city is always a good idea when you run across problems with housing matters. They know the latest rules and codes and EVERY city, county and state set up their own additional...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATE WILL NOT MOVE OUT, sylvia bergthold, del rey california
sylvia bergthold, del rey california, landloard: Hi Nadira This is more than a roommate problem. You need to see a lawyer like yesterday. You do not want your credit destroyed because of your ex-boyfriend. This is his way of getting back at you. I hope you are going to take your exboyfriend to court...

Dealing with Roommates: MY ROOMMATE MOVED OUT WITH 1-DAY NOTICE, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, state of louisiana: Hi Vanessa Go to the Fair Housing Agency in your city and bring the lease with you. Explain the whole situation to them. Because each city, county and state tack on their on codes to the housing laws, I can only give out generic information. The general...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATE IS A NUISSANCE, sylvia bergthold, eviction service
sylvia bergthold, eviction service, slamming doors: Hi Natasha Tell your roommate that you are pregnant and do not want her smoking anywhere near the apartment. Then give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You can find them on line, in stationary stores and sometimes at the library. This is a LEGAL...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATE HAS NOT SIGNED PAPERWORK, roommate survival guide, citizens arrest
roommate survival guide, citizens arrest, mailbox etc: Hi Shell You should be very afraid. You did everything wrong from the beginning. She sounds exactly like a roommate I had years ago (BEFORE I wrote my Roommate Survival Guide). She ended up being the roommate from Hell. But when I went over the whole situation...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATE USING DRUGS, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, smoking marijuana: Hi Robert Well, you don t mention in your letter if all of you are on a lease, or if this is a private home with rooms being rented out. And are there other roommates sharing this house/apartment? That makes a big difference in how to handle this situation....

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATES BOYFRIEND MOVED IN, sylvia bergthold, life hell
sylvia bergthold, life hell, green earth: Hi Sabrina Look at your lease agreement and see if it allows sub-letters. Technically that is what he would be and it might be against the lease agreement. If the landlord finds out, you ALL will be evicted. If there is nothing in the lease regarding...

Dealing with Roommates: ROOMMATES, room mate, roomates
room mate, roomates, seperate: Hi Michelle, Yes where there are three seperate leases signed you are all on seperate contracts and these can be terminated individually. As far as I know this applies regardless of area. The landlord must give 30-60 days written notice (depends on state...

Dealing with Roommates: Rommate is friend but I want to live alone, college semester, sensitive guy
college semester, sensitive guy, bluegill: Hi Clifton Actually your subject line says it all. Roommate is friend but I want to live alone. There is nothing wrong with wanting to live alone although many people in our society kind of look at you as if you re antisocial. I admire you wanting...

Dealing with Roommates: Rommate problems after 30 day notice, prospective roommates, small claims court
prospective roommates, small claims court, dodge neon: Hi Josh Gosh, with friends like this, who needs enemies? Can I assume you kept a copy of the 30 day notice? I sure hope so. Also, you didn t mention if they are on the lease with you. Did the landlord know they moved in? And WHY can t you take them...

Dealing with Roommates: Room mates, empty pizza, room mates
empty pizza, room mates, pizza box: Hi BR Well your situation is another example of not putting stuff in writing. If you had written and all signed a roommate agreement, you wouldn t be in this mess now. A lease and a roommate agreement are two separate things. And since there was nothing...

Dealing with Roommates: Room Rental, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, mail: Hi Russell First thing you have to do is gather all the cancelled checks you wrote to the guy for rent (which supposedly included utilities). It is obvious that he pocketed all the rent money because if his parents did not know he was renting out rooms...

Dealing with Roommates: Room secured, sylvia bergthold, landlord and tenant
sylvia bergthold, landlord and tenant, renting a room: Hi Willette, As in all things, nothing is guaranteed but this is my suggestion. When you have put down money for a room, been given the key etc. you must have this transaction in writing. In other words, a signed lease or rental agreement (there are...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate asked me to leave, leasing office, food bills
leasing office, food bills, christmas card: Hi Donavan Get yourself removed off that lease like yesterday. Your friend certainly is no friend. She has used you badly and I hope you have removed her off your Christmas Card List. With friends like this, who needs enemies? Go to the leasing...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate and My Boyfriend, text messages saying that, toliet
text messages saying that, toliet, roomate: Hi Kelly, Sorry to hear you re having problems with your room-mate. I will start off by saying one thing - she is absolutely right that you shouldnt be letting your boyfriend hang out at the house while you re out at work. He has his own home to go to and...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate's boyfriend stays over all the time, bedroom apartment, own tv
bedroom apartment, own tv, roomate: Hi Monique Why don t you get mad at her!! She has literally taken over the apartment with no consideration for you. And she is also breaking the lease agreement by having her boyfriend over all the time. How about YOUR privacy? Isn t that important also?...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Contracts, leo zodiac, roommate agreement
leo zodiac, roommate agreement, safe deposit box: Hi Loren I am confused as to why you would turn over your entire paycheck every week to this Leo . I have NEVER heard of such a thing among roommates. You should be giving him a set amount every month for rent only. You buy your own food and meals. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate compatability, roommate survival guide, problem roommate
roommate survival guide, problem roommate, sylvia bergthold: Hi Carl Check with your local branch of the Fair Housing Agency to see what the rules are regarding this. Generally the master tenant (or lease holder) can issue a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate without having to give a reason. And the master tenant...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate who'd rather pay than do chores, housekeeping services, utilities bill
housekeeping services, utilities bill, roomates: Hi Tracy NOBODY likes doing chores and the idea that because your the female, you should do more is totally ridiculous and sexist. This is the 21st Century for crying out loud! I had a similar problem about 25 years ago. There was four adults in the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate discrimination, landlord tenant law, virginia landlord tenant law
landlord tenant law, virginia landlord tenant law, private possession: Hi Alex I am going to attempt to answer your problem reasonably and logically without getting emotional about this. However, it will be extremely difficult on my part. I will explain. And I might add here you being a student of law KNOWS that what...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate got me evicted, days thanks, judge judy
days thanks, judge judy, carelessness: Hi Brandon First, please explain to me how in the world you could NOT KNOW your roommate had pets....did you not talk to each other BEFORE moving in together? I hate to act like Judge Judy here but this whole thing is ridiculous. No, I don t think you...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate fell short on her share.., nasty surprise, red flags
nasty surprise, red flags, roomates: Hi Chris From your letter I think your roommate has a BIG problem; Maybe it is drugs, alcohol, gambling, obsessive shopping, unable to manage her finances, whatever it is, it has spilled over to be you and your other roommates problem. I am also going...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate/ Housemate Laws, dear sylvia, eviction service
dear sylvia, eviction service, added stress: Hi Daniel Define not fit to be their roommate ... Just because you pay rent does not mean they should ignore some bad habits of yours (assuming that is the problem) or a lack of communication on your part (or theirs). Are you argumentative with them?...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate who hasnt paid his debt, small claims court, roomate
small claims court, roomate, bank charges: Hi Teresa You can take him to small claims court to try to recover everything he owes you including bank charges for bounced checks, late fees and damages to the apartment. However, collecting on a court ordered judgement (assuming you win your case) is...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate help, sylvia bergthold, light bills
sylvia bergthold, light bills, deposit money: Hi Jamie Well, by this point even I am confused. You say your roommate is gone. I assume by this that all her stuff has been removed from the apartment, she is nowhere around and basically has disappeared. In other words, she abandoned the place. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Issues, communal room, toilet roll
communal room, toilet roll, confrontational manner: Hi Sara Sorry to hear you are having a problem. I think the point has come to take more drastic action! I would put one roll out and then tell them in a non-confrontational manner that as you have bought toilet roll for the rest of the year you will not...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate issues, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, there some kind: Hi Julie Give your roommate/friend a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You should be able to find the form in the library, on the Internet, and your landlord probably has the form also. Talk to your landlord regarding this matter because he can tell...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate in jail, cable internet connection, letter of authorisation
cable internet connection, letter of authorisation, change locks: Hi Santiago Let him sue you. He is attempting to scare you into taking him back or you paying him for his stuff. It is not going to happen. Beside, you have an excellent case against HIM! You have all the paper work regarding his not paying rent, not paying...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Lease, sylvia bergthold, studio apartment
sylvia bergthold, studio apartment, 30 day notice: Hi Alberto Talking to the landlord should be the first thing you do. Explain to him you want to move into a studio apartment next month (does he have any available might help also). I am sure the landlord will require a 30 day notice that you are leaving,...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Leaving before lease is up, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, compatible roommate: Hi Deanna Now you know why her credit was bad. She is a number one A flake and I doubt very very much you will ever see another dime out of her. You can try suing her in court but I can tell you now, don t waste your time and money. This type of individual...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate moved boyfriend in and I want out.. How?, sylvia bergthold, 30 day notice
sylvia bergthold, 30 day notice, lease agreement: Hi Colbie Go to the landlord ASAP and explain exactly what you have written here. Tell the landlord that your roommate (let s call her Ann for easier reference) boyfriend moved in and you want out. That was NOT part of the lease agreement. In fact did...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate moved out...failure to pay his share, small claims court, termination fee
small claims court, termination fee, lease agreement: Hi Carly I suggest you contact him again and have him meet you in the landlords office. STRESS THIS POINT. Have him pay the fee for breaking the lease and then you can all go on with your lives. OTHERWISE....tell him you will take him to small claims...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate moved without paying rent, small claims court, decemeber
small claims court, decemeber, 2 girls: Hi again Jesse I think we can safely assume you are screwed out of $750 in this deal Jesse. Unless you had a WRITTEN agreement with BOTH girls detailing exactly how and when and to who they were to pay the rent, and for how long a period, it will be pretty...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate moving out early, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, compatible roommate: Hi Dylan Yes, you have to pay your roommates share since he is refusing to do so. Most leases have a clause stating that if one person on the lease does not pay, the other one is totally responsible for the rent. So it wouldn t matter Dylan if your friend...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Needs To Get Out, mess on your hands, front porch
mess on your hands, front porch, cleaning product: Hi Amelia You have a real mess on your hands. I think I definitely would talk to the landlord and tell him what is going on with this roommate. I would think the landlord would not like someone living in his building that has to have the police called...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Owes Money and Left Items, sylvia bergthold, sticky wicket
sylvia bergthold, sticky wicket, civil code section: Hi Jordan There is a legal form titled NOTICE TO FORMER TENANT OF RIGHT TO RECLAIM ABANDONED PERSONAL PROPERTY BELIEVED WORTH $300.00 OR MORE. Do a search on line under legal forms. Also check with your local city hall and or police department as to...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Problems, semester units, lease agreements
semester units, lease agreements, straight answer: Hi Arya First: your error was in having him sign a year lease. If you live by a university, they are on semester units and you should write up your lease agreements around that time period, not a year. Second: you cannot MAKE him find a replacement....

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Problems, eviction service, roommate agreement
eviction service, roommate agreement, lease period: Hi Michael You both signed the lease agreement with the landlord? Do you have a separate Roommate Agreement that you both have signed? Is there a time limit on your lease? 1 year? 6 months? month to month? First of all if you are both on the lease...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate not paying for utilities, few good friends, summer approaches
few good friends, summer approaches, electricty: Hi Travis Well I understand your predicament, I really do. However the verbal agreement you all made regarding the utilities was NOT realistic by any stretch of the imagination. Just because you are on vacation for several months does not absolve...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate not pitching in, sylvia bergthold, housecleaning service
sylvia bergthold, housecleaning service, dirty dishes: Hi Marvin Suggestion #1: I have found this really works. You pick up all the offending roommates stuff he has left all over the apartment including his dirty dishes he left in the sink and deposit everything smack dab into the middle of his bed (that too...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate problems, yr lease, missing money
yr lease, missing money, housing agency: Hi Alex I have to admit this is a new type of problem. I think the first thing you should ALL do is go the the local Fair Housing Agency and talk to them. Bring a copy of the lease agreement with you because it depends on exactly HOW it was written as...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate property, sun glasses, pupy
sun glasses, pupy, legal obligations: Hi Katie You are right and I appologize for the comments about the dog. You do sound like a very good caretaker of your dog and I commend you for that. And I agree he certainly sounds like he is being treated better than many children. Perhaps the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate rights (please help), 30 day notice, mid aug
30 day notice, mid aug, housing agency: Hi Q You should do a couple of things. Go to the landlord and explain the situation. Since you are on the lease and he is not, I don t see where HIS lawyer gets off with the statement that YOU don t have the right to give him a 30 day notice. Ask the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate does not share cost of rent, roommate survival guide, compatible roommate
roommate survival guide, compatible roommate, con artist: Hi Kathy First rule in my Roommate Survival Guide is DO NOT ROOMMATE WITH A FRIEND....now you know why. Go ASAP to the landlord and explain the entire situation to him. You cannot afford to live there with a roommate who is not sharing the cost of the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Trouble, witness testimony, premesis
witness testimony, premesis, aj: Hi AJ Do you have proof that he is taking you to court? Is he trying to scare you in paying him for the rent? Were you paying it directly to him (as a subletter), or were you paying it directly to the landlord? If he really is taking you to court, it is...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate turned out to be a prostitute, jumping to conclusions, selling drugs
jumping to conclusions, selling drugs, verbal agreement: Hi Anonymous Well I have arrived at the same conclusion you have if that makes you feel any better....no I don t think you are jumping to conclusions. Go to the landlord and explain the entire situation to him. It might be embarrassing but trust me,...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate Won't Leave!!!, crazyness, storage facility
crazyness, storage facility, apartement: Hi Kelly Well, the good news is he is physically out of the apartment and CAN T get in because the landlord changed the locks. Now you need to get rid of his stuff which might be a little harder. The landlord again might be able to help you as he might...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate who does not want to finish lease?, roommate survival guide, compatible roommate
roommate survival guide, compatible roommate, living with strangers: Hi Erica Your options are as follows. 1. You and your present roommate BOTH move out by signing a document releasing you from the present lease. You need to do it together.....or..... 2. REPLACE your present roommate with another one. And Erica...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate wants to break lease, my dad owns property, problem roommate, small claims court
problem roommate, small claims court, coldwell banker: Hi Rob PRAY that your obnoxious roommate wants to break the lease and moves out. Why would you want this type of person around? Here is my question: Is it more important to get the last 3 months rent out of this yoyo or allow him to move out quietly...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate wants to get a new roomate, sylvia bergthold, roommates
sylvia bergthold, roommates, roommate: Hi Anna I think you and your roommate better take the time to sit down together and communicate. It is obvious that is not being done here. Perhaps she has someone in mind to replace you? Perhaps she feels that you are not compatible as roommates?...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate won't move out, roommate agreement, happy nation
roommate agreement, happy nation, 30 day notice: Hi Lil Are you saying that you BOTH signed a month-to-month lease with the landlord? Just because you have been there longer doesn t mean you have more clout. And since the agreement between you and the landlord was verbal, I don t hold too much hope on...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate that wont leave, sylvia bergthold, household furniture
sylvia bergthold, household furniture, eviction service: Hi Michael You don t state in your letter how long she has been living there and if she contributed to rent, utilities, appliances, household furniture, decorative items, etc. If she only contributed her share of the utilities and gave you a rent payment...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomate wont pay deposit!, sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement
sylvia bergthold, roommate agreement, lease holder: Hi Jennifer Give them a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. I am assuming you also have no WRITTEN roommate agreement with them and since you are the lease holder, it is your choice if they go or stay. You will sign the 30 day notice as the Landlord, and...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates fighting over a room, apartment hunting, little sarah
apartment hunting, little sarah, flatmates: Hi Sorry to hear you are having problems. You need to lay this down now before you all move in. Talk to your other flatmates in private without Jason there and then the two of you need to sit him down and tell him straight out how its going to be. Just...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates doing illegal drugs, sylvia bergthold, illegal drugs
sylvia bergthold, illegal drugs, drug habits: Hi Jessica I wouldn t give this roommate one red cent. Because of her behavior, you all now have an eviction on your credit reports. Let her sue you....then forget to pay her if she wins in court (I don t think I would worry about this either). ...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates moving out early, petty girl, final decisions
petty girl, final decisions, roomate: Hi Jessica Boy, this letter reads like a soap opera. I am having a little problem following the plot, especially regarding the money factors. From what I can see, the real problem here is the roommate that moved out didn t give you a notice that she...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates parents want me to leave, sylvia bergthold, mediation service
sylvia bergthold, mediation service, situation visit: Hi Sadie I don t see how they can force you to leave. You are a legal signer on the apartment along with their daughter. They might have paid the deposit but you and your roommate have been paying the rent to the landlord. Go to the landlord Sadie and...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates / Utility bill payment, utility bill payment, roommates
utility bill payment, roommates, extra money: Hi Ryan I know exactly how you feel believe me! But look at it another way. Right now you KNOW the bills are being paid on time and not racking up late charges or even worse, the utilities being shut off for non-payment. And I know it becomes a real drag...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates are withholding my personal belongings (TX), sylvia bergthold, landlords rights
sylvia bergthold, landlords rights, giving me a hard time: Hi Susan The Fair Housing Agency has a mediation service that gets all bickering parties together to discuss the problem. Go to them. They are usually located in your city hall. They know what your rights are, what your roommates rights are and the landlords...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomates, eviction service, legal proceeding
eviction service, legal proceeding, mess on your hands: Hi Christoper Well, that is always a roommates/landlords worst nightmare. The offending roommate refusing to leave. I think in this case, since she has done this before, I would go to an eviction service and have the 30 day notice done all very legal...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomie q's, sylvia bergthold, monthes
sylvia bergthold, monthes, heat water: Hi Ryan Why don t you both compromise and do this: You pay 2/3 and he pays 1/3. Here is how I see this whole picture. Utilities are always on , whether you are there or not. If you lived in an apartment and you were gone for a few months, you would...

Dealing with Roommates: Roomie runs A/C 27/7!!!, desert area, arctic cold
desert area, arctic cold, wits end: Hi again Monica I think it is a good idea to inform the landlord on what is going on for the simple reason it is the fair thing to do for everybody. One of the big problems I have with this whole set-up however is that you all pay one price for the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate, wisconsin state statute, apartment unit
wisconsin state statute, apartment unit, definite period: Hi Erin Well, I am interpreting this the same way you are. Have you spoken to the landlord regarding this matter? What does he say? Was Kelsey added to the lease or not? And what does it mean adding somebody to the property list? That is a new term for...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate, oregon state law, sam holmes
oregon state law, sam holmes, landlord tenant: Hi Tina I have NEVER heard of being able to keep your stuff stored for seven years. No landlord would allow that in the first place. Landlords run apartment buildings, not storage facilities. Call him again and set an appointment for him to get his...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Left Me, upperhand, full rent
upperhand, full rent, work schedules: Hi Shannon Do these things in this order: 1. Go to my website and buy my Roommate Survival Guide to find yourself a responsible and compatible roommate ASAP. Read it thoroughly and follow the guide, step by step. DO IT like yesterday. THIS IS YOUR...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Abandoned Apartment, roommate survival guide, personal belongings
roommate survival guide, personal belongings, bedroom apartment: Hi Paul You should be grateful he is gone. Your next move is to replace him if you need the money for rent every month. Use my Roommate Survival Guide BEFORE you do this however because you do NOT want a repeat performance of this disaster. And there were...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate abandoned apartment - Landlord Helped., claims suit, company lawyers
claims suit, company lawyers, physical manner: Hi Adam Landlords need paying tenants, that is their right, that is why they are called landlords. Tenants need to pay rent on time, as outlined in their lease agreement, and if they break that lease agreement, they have to move. Landlords are not in...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate and her Boyfriend, roommate survival guide, compatible roommate
roommate survival guide, compatible roommate, roommate agreement: Hi Jessica I think you can forget about getting any money from the bum. The reason is there was no written contract between you and your roommates outlining division of rent and utilities, other shared living expenses and a set of rules and guidelines...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Breaking the Law, illegal cable, stealing cable
illegal cable, stealing cable, concience: Hi Rachel First of all I want to commend you for being an honest person. You did the right thing. Of course you are correct. Was the landlord aware that she was getting free cable? Because as the owner of the house, he would be the one getting in big...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Broke Lease Agreement, new roommate, lease contract
new roommate, lease contract, childhood friend: Hi Wayne Well, there are a couple things you can do. Here is my number one suggestion: REPLACE your former best friend roommate with another roommate. Talk to the landlord and tell him you would pay the fee for all potential roommates to be run through...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate's "bail" on lease, roommate survival guide, compatible roommate
roommate survival guide, compatible roommate, worth zip: Hi Heather I don t understand your dilemma here, honest I don t. Your roommate gave you FOUR MONTHS to find someone. It is NOT like she is walking out on all of you tomorrow. Are you telling me you can t find a roommate in four months? In todays rental...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate becoming violent, sylvia bergthold, stealing cable
sylvia bergthold, stealing cable, volatile situation: Hi Rachel Take the recording to the police and ask them if you can call them the next time she threatens you. Ask them if you have enough evidence to put a restraining order against her righ NOW. It is very important that the police are aware of this situation....

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate's boyfriend staying too long..., verbal confrontations, polite communication
verbal confrontations, polite communication, level communication: Hi Ian Well, I am a big believer in verbal communication....calm and polite communication as a start.... and if all goes well it stays in that category and doesn t escalate into verbal confrontations. Lets hope you and your roommate keep it on a nice,...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate breaking lease, roommate survival guide, compatible roommate
roommate survival guide, compatible roommate, sylvia bergthold: Hi Patrick Find another roommate ASAP to takeover his share of the lease. Your landlord can assist you with the legal stuff necessary to do this. Your roommate however is responsible for the rent payments until you find someone. And yes Patrick, you...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate broke lease, I, inturn broke lease, $10000 being asked for by management, new roommate, curtins
new roommate, curtins, bedroom apartment: Hi Jennifer This is no longer a roommate problem, it is a legal problem. Your parents need to see a lawyer ASAP and get this mess resolved. And I would also take all this information including copies of the lease agreement, the emails, this letter you...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate brought home a puppy..., puppy training, 30 day notice
puppy training, 30 day notice, pet deposit: Hi Stan Take your roommates dog to a shelter or another type of facility (such as an Adopt a Pet Place), that will keep the dog (for a fee) for so many days or months. Do it ASAP! Start adding up all the costs this dog added to your finances (keep...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate compability issue, personality conflicts, personality defects
personality conflicts, personality defects, paper towels: Hi Keith, Can you now understand how some people totally flip out and beat up (or murder) their live-in, whether it is spouses, roommates, or friends? First of all, stop being nice and sooooo tolerant. He needs to be told exactly what you told me. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Dilemma - Update, roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold
roommate survival guide, sylvia bergthold, prospective roommates: Hi again Rachel I have found through the years that age has nothing to do with maturity. Some people at age 20 are very mature and responsible. Others in their 50 s act so irresponsible and immature you wonder what planet they grew up on....they think...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Dilemma, smoke pot, seperate room
smoke pot, seperate room, toilet paper: Hi Rachel First: The biggest problem I have with this whole scene is that there is NO WRITTEN CONTRACT. What kind of landlord and/or estate agent would do this? Second: What you verbally agreed to in this arrangement did NOT include four people using...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate demanding portion of rent back, refund check, financial arrangement
refund check, financial arrangement, 30 day notice: Hi Michael First he did give you a 30 day notice. He said he would be out BY June 10th. He moved out earlier than that but that was because YOU told him to move out. It doesn t matter if his name does not appear on any of the bills, he has been paying...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate demanding more rent, initial member, verbal agreement
initial member, verbal agreement, one of the girls: Hi Netti The fault lies with you as I see it. You are the one that changed the terms of the verbal agreement you all had. Originally you all decided to split the rent evenly no matter what size of the rooms. However YOUR room had an attached bathroom...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate doesnt pay rent/ security deposit/ bills, claims suit, extra fee
claims suit, extra fee, security deposit: Hi again Michael Your ex-roommate might owe the money to the landlord but unless YOU come up with the total monthly rent amount YOU will be evicted. He walked out on a legal contract and it was his obligation to pay the rent, etc. monthly. If he doesn...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate eviction, new roommate, 30 day notice
new roommate, 30 day notice, rent control: Hi James Because of the LA Rent Control laws governing your area, it does make for a sticky situation. However, I really have to partially fault the landlord here because he allowed T to move in without the security deposit, the last month s rent and...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate eviction, sylvia bergthold, new roommate
sylvia bergthold, new roommate, household bills: Hi Laura Give your roommate a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. She has broken your rental agreement. Give a copy of the notice to your landlord explaining the reasons you are getting her out. Then use his clearing services for all new roommate applicants....

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate that was formerly on lease, sylvia bergthold, new roommate
sylvia bergthold, new roommate, eviction service: Hi Lana First, the real estate office and the landlord has to get involved because they are the ones telling you the paper she signed is a legal document. She should also have been issued a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate when she refused to leave....

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate/girlfriend left w/o notice, verbal agreement, full rent
verbal agreement, full rent, money time: Hi Joey Well as you probably have now figured out, this is more of a domestic problem than a roommate problem. You and your gf split...okay, unfortunately that happens. Let s assume she is NOT coming back, so here are your options. Stay and pay...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate From Hell..., new landlord, bedroom apartment
new landlord, bedroom apartment, spilled milk: Hi Katrina I cannot believe you put up with this crap all this time. You have a serious problem Katrina and it is not being nice....it is you are much too passive and easily manipulated. I would suggest STRONGLY you seek counseling and learn how to stand...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Help, 30 day notice, ozomatli
30 day notice, ozomatli, lease agreement: Hi Ozomatli Well, first you didn t mention how long the lease agreement is for....month to month or six months, etc. How many more months does he have on the lease agreement? And if he is on the lease, then technically the landlord is the one to give...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Issues, paying on time, petty differences
paying on time, petty differences, closest friend: Hi Larry Well you certainly have an unhealthy situation ...and you are correct I think in your assessment of the reasons. Losing one s job is always a VERY depressing situation and it does alter the way we look at EVERYTHING....from our long time friends,...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Issues, cigarette butts, smoking pot
cigarette butts, smoking pot, bedroom apartment: Hi Michelle Can I assume it is written in the lease there is no smoking inside the building? If there isn t such a rule, there certainly is one concerning drugs and the last time I checked pot was still illegal in most states. Three months is a long...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate issue from a landlord's perspective, landlord tenant laws, landlord tenant law
landlord tenant laws, landlord tenant law, work stress: Hi John You need to visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city (usually part of city hall). They know all the details of landlord/tenant laws that pertain to your city, county and state. Unfortunately each city has their own little codes they insert in...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Kicking me out Because Ex Girlfriend back in town, male roommate, landlord
male roommate, landlord, last friday: Hi Betty I am so sorry you are going through this nightmare. There are several things you need to do ASAP. First: Go to the landlord and explain what is going on. Tell him how you think your roommate (let s call him Fred) conned you into thinking he...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate & Landlord, local police department, san diego california
local police department, san diego california, 30 day notice: Hi Donna, Our biggest nightmare, the roommate not leaving. Been there. I just read an article pertaining to this issue. According to this letter, Civil Code 1946.5 provides for the removal of a tenant pursuant to Section 602.3 of the Penal Code. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Not on Lease/Liable for Damages?, landlord tenant laws, apartment furniture
landlord tenant laws, apartment furniture, case hi: Hi Jane If I was Pam I would let them go ahead and try suing me in court for damages. First of all she was not on the lease. In fact the only person technically responsible for paying for the damage is the mother as she signed the papers for everyone to...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate/No Lease/Moving, roommate, 5 months
roommate, 5 months, credit check: Hi Rana I see this whole situation as a communication problem and misinterpreting what is said (and NOT said). Generally, here are a few RULES that might clarify shared living environments: GUESTS: If they stay more than 3 days, they should start...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate on Lease - Want to give 30-day Notice, roommate survival guide, lease agreement
roommate survival guide, lease agreement, strict rules: Hi Amber If he smokes in the house he is breaking the terms of the lease (providing this is a written lease agreement and not just a verbal one). You all said there would be no smoking IN THE HOUSE. His bedroom and bathroom are in the house. What does...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Not on Lease Won't Pay Rent, roommate agreement, court summons
roommate agreement, court summons, county court house: Hi Lisa You have a real mess on your hands. Try calling the police department and explain the entire situation to them, especially what the court told you regarding not having to have a court summons. State to them that she is trespassing because she...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate left while on lease., apartment management, old apartment
apartment management, old apartment, financial mess: Hi Sean You have several problems here as I see it. First: you signed a lease with your cousin who was a total flake. Didn t you do any checking up on the guy? Did he tell you of his financial mess with the landlord? Second: the apartment management...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate who is on lease, is kicking me out, in Texas.., robbing peter to pay paul, internet hookup
robbing peter to pay paul, internet hookup, housekeeping service: Hi again Ken You need to pay for the month that you will still be living there unless you paid the last months rent upfront when you moved in (you know, first and last month). I would NOT pay her for the utilities however until she shows you all the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate not on lease moving out, roommate agreement, small claims court
roommate agreement, small claims court, lease period: Hi Addison It is going to depend on how legal that piece of paper you all signed is. Can I assume it spells out in detail the length of the lease period, the amount each person pays, the rules you all decided to live by and that you must give a 30 day...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate not on the lease, apartment landlords, credit reporting agency
apartment landlords, credit reporting agency, eviction service: Hi Erin Give her a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You should be able to find the form on line, or in stationary stores. I would suggest you also discuss this with your landlord. Since she is NOT on the lease, he might be able to help you, although...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate leaving early, sylvia bergthold, leasing office
sylvia bergthold, leasing office, mess on your hands: Hi Aviva I would immediately get in touch with the landlord and explain the situation to him. The lease is under your name and your roommates name, is that correct? That means that the landlord probably ran a credit check on the two of you before you...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate being MOM !!!!, roommate agreement, fire laws
roommate agreement, fire laws, overnight guests: Hi Ree This is a muliple question so I will answer one at a time. The Lease: he is not on the lease so he has no say so on the rules the leasee (his roommate) set up. If she wants no overnight guests, than that is the rules. I also agree with her and...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Moved Out--Now Wants Deposit, sylvia bergthold, new roommate
sylvia bergthold, new roommate, verbal agreement: Hi Jeff Your ex-roommate cannot get her deposit money back until YOU MOVE OUT. Deposits go with the place, not the tenants. In other words, until everybody on the original lease has moved, nobody gets their deposit back. The only way out of this...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Moving Out Before Lease Ends, credit card accounts, brand new car
credit card accounts, brand new car, mess on your hands: Hi Jared You have got a real mess on your hands and Florida is NOT the place to live with this type of roommate. I am going to attempt to suggest some things. Maybe the landlord can help you also. You need him on YOUR side here okay Jared, so handle...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate mess, neat freak, objective point
neat freak, objective point, heavy heart: Hi Molly First let me reassure you that you didnt do anything wrong - in fact it sounds like you ve gone out of your way to accomodate your roommate s lack of cleaning habits and even left her a note on her door rather than disturbing her. My gut guess...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate moved out early, didn't help us clean, didn't pay utilities, dear sylvia, internet washer
dear sylvia, internet washer, bedroom apartment: Hi Adriana Isn t it amazing how people can justify bad behavior on their part?....in this case your roommate saying she was the perfect roommate . Not in my book, she wasn t. First thing: you three SHOULD have done (but I am sure you didn t)....WRITE...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate moving out of the country... HELP, roommate survival guide, roommate agreement
roommate survival guide, roommate agreement, new roommate: Hi Jamie You are in a real dilemna because there is no way you would be able to collect rent from her if she is out of the country. And as far as demanding the full rent on the balance of the lease before she leaves, I don t know the answer to that. Depending...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate moving out during lease, sylvia bergthold, boyfriends name
sylvia bergthold, boyfriends name, roommate: Hi Nikkie It might be a good idea for you and your roommate (lets call her Sue) to go to the landlords office and have her sign OFF the lease. In some states this is okay and some require a fee. Other places don t allow it at all. And still others require...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate moving out and unfrair deposit holding, miserable luck, year one
miserable luck, year one, person sign: Hi Jeremy Lets take one problem at a time. The latest one regarding the former friend/roommate. Let s call him Fred. Fred CANNOT dictate who will be your new roommate. He cannot find someone to move in because that would be subleasing and it is against...

Dealing with Roommates: Law on rental increase, oceanside city hall, sylvia bergthold
oceanside city hall, sylvia bergthold, california landlords: Hi Henry Some cities or parts of some cities are under rent control and therefore come under a different set of rules or guidelines regarding raising rents. And not all cities under rent control play by the same rules as to rent increases. Some is a yearly...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate needs to go!!!!, electricity bills, injuction
electricity bills, injuction, lease agreement: Hi Nate Gosh what a mess! I am assuming maybe the electricity was turned on early at the landlords request. It probably is against some health and landlord/tenant laws to have it shut off because the unit is still occupied (this is a guess on my...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate in owners home, eviction, roommate
eviction, roommate, roommates: not sure about the message board, i dont use it and its probably my settings that questions posed to me dont get put on the message board for that reason, i only deal with questions by email. It should be somewhere in your contract that you can give either...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Problems, passive aggressive behavior, roommate problems
passive aggressive behavior, roommate problems, givers and takers: Hi Nick Can you NOW understand why my number one in my book is NEVER roommate with friends (and relatives)? Nick, you have lost complete control of your living arrangement (and your life).... you allowed all of this to happen. Your leech of a roommate...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Problems, roommate problems, disociative disorder
roommate problems, disociative disorder, room mates: Hi Sean, Gosh, it seems perfectly reasonable that you d be a bit nervous about room mates after what has happened - or nearly happened - to you. I think anyone would be apprehensive about a new room mate who had gone through what you did. Well, if...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate never paid last month of rent, roommate agreement, small claims court
roommate agreement, small claims court, legal recourse: Hi Lou Now you know why it is so important to have everything in writing. I really stress written roommate agreements because they spell out in detail what everybodys responsibilities are. When you signed the joint lease, it basically says that if one...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate did not pay rent, sylvia bergthold, eviction process
sylvia bergthold, eviction process, 30 day notice: Hi Mike It sounds like you want both ends in the middle here okay? You don t specify if YOU are the only signer on the lease with the landlord or if he is also. If all of you are on the lease, that means that if one of you doesn t pay, the rest of you have...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate not paying cable or internet bill anymore, cable internet service, roommate agreement
cable internet service, roommate agreement, apartment lease: Hi Sarah Hopefully you can prove (with cancelled checks or photocopies of your deposit....get from the bank if necessary) that up to this point, she was paying for cable/internet service. Although verbal agreements are iffy in court, if you can prove...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate not paying rent, roommate agreement, eviction service
roommate agreement, eviction service, leasing office: Hi Becky Why did you wait all this time before you decided to do something about this? Six months of flakey payments is way beyond what I would have put up with. Go to the landlord, explain the whole situation, that you cannot keep the apartment if your...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate problem, roommate survival guide, underage drinker
roommate survival guide, underage drinker, lodger: Hi Adrian Well, I am sure you NOW know finding the perfect roommate is impossible, especially when you go about it the way you did. Please go to my website and buy my Roommate Survival Guide BEFORE you try this endeavor again. You will learn all the...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate problem, dirty dishes, contract states
dirty dishes, contract states, two doors: Hi Bill, Unfortunately, there is not much you can do at this point. Short of posting a guard to make sure everything is locked up when he leaves, basically for three weeks you pray alot. I am assuming he gave her a cleaning deposit when he moved in?...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate problems.., roommate survival guide, roommate problems
roommate survival guide, roommate problems, new roommate: Hi Anthony I am going to assume from your letter that the new roommate (let s call her Sue) is also on the lease? IF she is that was a big mistake on your part. Only one person should be on the lease with the landlord. See some of the previous postings...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate problems, living room furniture, roommate problems
living room furniture, roommate problems, king size bed: Hi Jennifer First thing you learned from this experience. NEVER roommate with a friend. That is the number one rule in my Roommate Survival Guide, now you know why. Second thing: Just because she is/was your friend, does NOT mean you are compatible...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Refusing to Pay Rent, small claims court, leasing office
small claims court, leasing office, breaking a lease: hi again Alison You absolutely DON T want an eviction on your record. It shows up on your credit report and when a potential landlord does a credit check on you, there is this eviction in glaring letters. No one in his right mind would rent an apartment...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Restraining Order??, sylvia bergthold, verbal threats
sylvia bergthold, verbal threats, eviction notice: Hi Jessica I am very confused by your letter. Explain to me why you think this handwritten eviciton notice from your landlord is unlawful. It might not have had all the i s dotted or the t s crossed but if in essence it told you all to move out of...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Rights, household expenses, new lease
household expenses, new lease, lease agreement: Hi Alessandre Well I see several problems here. They deal with trust on everybody s part. 1. Do you trust the landlord to renew the lease with just you and L and not include G? 2. Under what legal rule can the landlord deny G renewing the lease...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate refusing to remove me from lease, apartment office, city authorities
apartment office, city authorities, drug addict: Hi Ruthie Visit the Fair Housing Agency in your city and ask them for advice. Bring a copy of the lease agreement with you and see what your options are. Stress that the landlord will NOT help you in this situation and it has become totally unsafe for...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate(s) won't pay bills, small apartment, one of my best friends
small apartment, one of my best friends, moving expenses: Hi again Zach Thank you for clearing up some of my questions regarding your arrangement. I do find it odd that you never signed any type of a lease with the landlord but then again, perhaps he feels it is not necessary. I am sure they do things differently...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate has serious spending issues, cell phone bills, personal credit card
cell phone bills, personal credit card, loan proceeds: Hi Revetta Wow, what a mess! My Roommate Survival Guide has three major rules that your situation has broken. 1. Having a roommate and sharing your environment is a BUSINESS FIRST....friendships follow...which leads to rule #2... 2. NEVER roommate...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate sits to close to tv?, sylvia bergthold, room mate
sylvia bergthold, room mate, isten: Hi Shawn Well it could be for several reasons. Maybe he needs glasses? Maybe he is partially deaf and needs to be closer to the screen to read lips? Do you have closed captioning on your TV? Turn it on. Maybe he really wants to get radiated...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate sublet, new roommate, compatible person
new roommate, compatible person, subletter: Hi Mike No you cannot just find anyone to take over your lease. If you think about it a little more from your current roommates perspective, it should be clear to you why he needs to agree with anyone before this replacement moves into HIS environment....

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate went away for summer and wont pay bills, cox cable, renting an apartment
cox cable, renting an apartment, cable bill: Hi Holly You really can t withhold any of his belongings and of course you already know you can t change the locks. You can talk to him ONE MORE TIME. However, since he doesn t want to play by the rules, this is what you now have to do. Oh, you might...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Tension, loud speaker, thin wall
loud speaker, thin wall, tv volume: Hi Melandia My first question to you is - do any of the other room mates feel the same way you do about her? Specifically, could all of you sit down together and talk out your differences? If so, great - do it. If not, read on: It sounds like she...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Trouble, lease period, bedroom apartment
lease period, bedroom apartment, lease agreement: Hi again Neha Well, you are not the only one that doesn t understand your lease agreement... I sure don t either. Take a copy of your lease agreement to the Fair Housing Agency in your city (usually part of city hall) and ask them what is going on. ...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate Trouble, orange county california, sylvia bergthold
orange county california, sylvia bergthold, exact code: Hi EJ Give your roommate a WRITTEN 30 day notice to vacate. You do not have to have a reason. Have the landlord sign it for good measure if he will do it (some will, some won t). Also give him a copy of the notice. At the same time check with him about...

Dealing with Roommates: Roommate has threatened to kill me., physical altercations, breaking a lease
physical altercations, breaking a lease, dining room table: Hi Dustin I love your last sentence I don t see what this will accomplish . Dustin, how about saving your life? Do you want to live with a guy that threatens you? Gets physically violent? Breaking a lease is the LEAST of your worries. Of course you...