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District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Where to live, washington dc area, california right
washington dc area, california right, apartment buildings: That is great that you are planning to move to the Washington DC area. I know that there are many places you can choose from to live at. I would look at the Arlington, Virginia area, on the blue and orange line, which is generally near the pentagon. Living...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Where to live?, term leases, finding an apartment
term leases, finding an apartment, apartment finder: There are many wide various of neighborhoods in Washington DC. And the cost can vary termoudously. The best thing to do is to go to an apartment finder organization which can be easily found on the internet and call them up and discuss what you want your...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Metro service, metro service, huntington station
metro service, huntington station, metro system: I am sorry I don t understand what you mean by doors . However to find out more information on using the metro system you can log-on to www.wmata.com. There you also can map your trip from the starting point to your destination at that website. I hope...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): "Moved" by DC, chevy chase dc, stephen hosmer
chevy chase dc, stephen hosmer, chevy chase: Other area like Potomac, MD which have great neighborhoods are Chevy Chase DC, Cleveland Park, Woodley Park and maybe even Dupont Circle. I would like to make one more suggestion, if you have a growing family you might want to live near a metro station as...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Moving and shaking (okay, just moving), chevy chase, reminder message
chevy chase, reminder message, wealthiest counties: Sorry for taking so long to get back to you! I don t think AllExperts sent me the original copy of your followup question so I didn t know it was waiting until I got the reminder message. First of all, let me mention that our local glossy monthly magazine,...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): mayorofwashingtond.c., sharon pratt kelly, hosmer
sharon pratt kelly, hosmer, mayor of washington d c: Here is a list of all the mayor in Washington DC since home rule came into law back in 1975. Mayor Term Began Term Ended Political Party Walter Washington 1975 1979 Democrat Marion S. Barry 1979 1991 Democrat Sharon Pratt Kelly * 1991 1995 Democrat...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): What means DC in Washington DC?, washington dc dc, columbia district
washington dc dc, columbia district, potomac river: Hi You asked me what does DC Stands for. Washington DC DC stands for the district of Columbia. District: A partial of land laid out as a 10 mile square extending across the potomac river and occupying land ceded in 1791 by virginia and maryland....

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): museum time's, stephen hosmer, smithsonian museums
stephen hosmer, smithsonian museums, metro station: Thank you for writing me. Unless you are near a metro station you are kind of out of luck. Springfield, VA is no where near the smithsonian museums. Most of the museums have hours of 9 to 5pm 7 days a week. If you really want to see something you might...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Name of D.C., district of columbia, nations capital
district of columbia, nations capital: I m sorry, but I don t think that I understand your question. Could you explain it to me a little more. What do you mean by Why or where is District of Columbia used, after Washington. After understand it a little better I will be more than happy to answer...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Overlooked sites, bethesda metro station, international spy museum
bethesda metro station, international spy museum, air space museum: Thank you for writing me. If you want some off beat items I might suggest the following items. The International spy museum, the national zoo, Have lunch and shop at Union station, Friday night dancing at the Bethesda Metro Station, National Archives...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Just who owns Washington Dc, independent district, arguement
independent district, arguement, district of columbia: You are correct. It s, an indepentant area owned by all the citizens of the USA. Techically it s land that was formed in 1791 by land given to the independent district by virginia and Maryland to form the district of columbia of what we know of it as today...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Parking, metro stations, rt 1
metro stations, rt 1, shuttle bus: Did you know that you can leave your car and troubles at home and use a shuttle bus to take you and your family to the airport. If you live in the metro area (I think it does include Springfield, VA) I recommend that you use a company called supershuttle....

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Places To Visit, hosmer, general idea
hosmer, general idea, washington d c: Sorry for not responding to you sooner but I have been away from my computer. Please try to be a little more specific about what you are looking for. What do you mean by all the places to visit in DC Maybe you can start by asking me a general idea of...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Where do people go?, columbia road, adams morgan
columbia road, adams morgan, m street: I am sorry that it took me so long to answer this question, but I thought that I had answered it ! Anyhow most young people like to hang out in an area know as Georgetown, along M Street. They also like to hang out in Adams Morgan at 18th & Columbia Road....

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): plate, stephen hosmer, inner rim
stephen hosmer, inner rim, capsco: Sorry I don t know how valuable it would be. I would assume or guess the best place to go to find out how valuable it is, is to go to a local well known antique dealer in your area and get it apprased. Another way is to get a copy of an antique magazine...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): poisonous snakes, dangerous snakes, poisonous snakes
dangerous snakes, poisonous snakes, poison control: Yes I believe that thier are many dangerous snakes in the rivers in montgomery county. I don t want to scare you or your son but I would definetly think about what the next action you should do. I would definelty call poison control and tell them all and...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Relocating, non profit orgs, public transportation system
non profit orgs, public transportation system, line job listings: New York is the city that never sleeps. DC is NOTHING LIKE New York. I love the city life, but NYC is way too much for me. Have you ever been here? You should come down for a couple of days. As for jobs, in your line of work you should be ok. Go on Washingtonpost.com...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Ronald Regan National Airport, ronald regan national airport, stephen hosmer
ronald regan national airport, stephen hosmer, regan national airport: After searching the internet I found out the following information. Under federal law restrictions flights arrivals and departures can only occur at National Airport between 6:00am-10:00pm, 7 days a week. If you wanted to arrive (by plane) in Washington...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): residing presidents, truman balcony, harry truman
truman balcony, harry truman, trumans: Hi Dolores, I wasn t able to find much about this - pretty much all of the presidents have lived in the White House. You re right that Washington never did. John Adams lived in it while it was partially constructed, but he was only there for a few months....

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Safe Areas of DC, washington dc metro, dc metro area
washington dc metro, dc metro area, nw area: The best places to live in the washington dc metro area depends on what you are looking for and how much you are willing to pay in rent. Generally speaking the NW area is the safest area to live in, in dc. Also another option is many people when they come...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Smithsonian, zoo admission, smithsonian museum
zoo admission, smithsonian museum, baltimore washington international: Mrs. Sherlin, The Smithsonian is actually a collection of fourteen museums, and they are spread out in downtown DC. Most of them are gathered around the Mall, which runs between the Capitol Building and the Washington Monument, but some are a little further...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Special Elegant Event, elegant affair, prater
elegant affair, prater, doing research: There are many places in dc that you can have a special elegant festival as you are planning on having. I would suggest that you look into one of the many venues or museums as all do occasionally offer there space for private parties. But be aware that the...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): WHERE TO STAY, possable, homeless shelters
possable, homeless shelters, hostel: Sure, there are homeless shelters in DC. Visit this website: http://www.nationalhomeless.org/local/districtofcolumbia.html If you are looking for places to stay while you are visiting the city, though, I recommend this hostel: http://www.hiwashingtondc.org/...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Statue of Freedom on Capital Buildin, stephen hosmer, queen of hell
stephen hosmer, queen of hell, statue of freedom: I have never heard of the terminology of Persephone (Queen of Hell) used for the Statue of Freedom. For information about the statue you can go to the US Capitol website at www.aoc.gov and at the search engine, type in statue of freedom. Thanks for asking...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Statue at top of US Capitol Building, stephen hosmer, statue of freedom
stephen hosmer, statue of freedom, capitol building: Yes there is a couple of wonderful pictures of the Statue of Freedom close-up on the www.aoc.gov website. Once you get to the site you need to type in (in the search box) Statue of Freedom. From there a selection of different links will come up showing...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Storing luggage, smithsonian museums, metro stations
smithsonian museums, metro stations, metro station: Alan -- Interesting question.... While I ve never seen a locker in a Metro station (and would be surprisedd to see one, I think), I would certainly expect Union Station, as a working train station, to have lockers. Even better, the Smithsonian museums...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): safe places near DC--Silver springs?, hotel harrington, silver spring md
hotel harrington, silver spring md, metro lines: Glad to here that you will be coming to DC. Silver Spring, MD is a nice area to visit and stay in. However driving in the dc area can be a nightmare. You would probably do better to find yourself a hotel in the district and stay there instead in Silver Spring,...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): where is it safe to stay, rosslyn metro station, stephen hosmer
rosslyn metro station, stephen hosmer, decent area: I know the exact location that you are talking about. The metro is very conviencely located and the area is very safe to stay in. The metro station for the area is the Rosslyn Metro station. If I was going to visit the area I would stay in one of the major...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): my school(outley), rand mcnally maps, washington dc maps
rand mcnally maps, washington dc maps, washington dc community: Here are some interesting facts about Washington DC. I hope that this will help you out. Ancestry and Genealogy: District of Columbia Databases Area: 68 sq. mi. Area Code: 202 Bird: Wood Thrush 50states List Cam World: Live Web Cams City Guides:...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): shopping, fashion center at pentagon city, foggy bottom metro station
fashion center at pentagon city, foggy bottom metro station, foggy bottom metro: Hi Wendi, Your absolute best bet is the Fashion Center at Pentagon City: the metro exit leads directly into the mall! ( Metro is what a DC local calls what everybody else calls the subway.) It s a four story mall and not at all limited to fashion (I...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): side trips to Gettysburg and Williamsburg, amtrak train, smithsonian museums
amtrak train, smithsonian museums, things to see and do in washington dc: I am very glad to see that you will be coming to visit the nations capitol. I do agree with you that thier are a lot of things to see and do in Washington DC. When you are here in Washington DC my two highly recommendations are to visit the smithsonian museums...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): how many states are there, states are there in the united states, electons
states are there in the united states, electons, governmental issues: I am not totally sure why Washington DC is not a state. Washington DC does have a mayor and is run by a city council. I believe it might be governmental issues and Washington DC is the headquarters of the federal government. I am sorry I don t know more....

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): statue on top of Capitol building, e pluribus unum, war jefferson davis
e pluribus unum, war jefferson davis, head feathers: Here is the information that I could find for you about the Statue of Freedom which is on top of the US capitol. I hope you enjoy it. If you have any other questions don t hestinate to allexpert me. The bronze Statue of Freedom by Thomas Crawford is the...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): what does the sword in the..., e pluribus unum, war jefferson davis
e pluribus unum, war jefferson davis, dome photographs: Print Version The Statue of Freedom (28k) The Statue of Freedom on Its Pedestal atop the Capitol Dome (14k) The Head and Helmet of the Statue (26k) 1859 Drawing of the Statue atop the Tholos (28k) The Statue of Freedom...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Tallest Building in Washington DC, stephen hosmer, washington monument
stephen hosmer, washington monument, tallest building: Yes, you are correct when LeFrant designed the city he didn t want anything taller than the US Capitol since he was afraid that would block the beauty of the city which he designed himself. Because of that, their is a regulation which states that nothing...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Things to do away from everybodyelse., stephen hosmer, sound of nature
stephen hosmer, sound of nature, scupture: I am so sorry that this has taken me so long to responsed back to you. I needed a little time to think about the answer to give you the best answer I could think of. So, you ask me where is the best peaceful place to go where you can get away from the...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Trafffic, rush hour, dc area
rush hour, dc area, time of day: The best time to avoid the traffic in Washington DC is during rush hour (M-F) between the hours of appromately 6am and 9am going into the city and 4pm and 7pm going out of the city. Weekends congestion hours can vary depending on where you are going, the...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Travel to DC, hyatt on capitol hill, amtrak station
hyatt on capitol hill, amtrak station, metro station: Hi John, Sorry for taking so long to get back to you! I was on vacation but forgot to tell AllExperts that. It sounds like you ve already figured out HOW to do the transfer, which is great! Personally, if you don t mind the shuttle ride to the Amtrak...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Travel to DC with infant, smithsonian institution museums, things to see in washington dc
smithsonian institution museums, things to see in washington dc, smithsonian institution: I am very glad to see that you will be traveling to Washington DC the nations capitol. Yes thier are a few things which you can do with childern. I think the best place in Washington DC for childern is either the capitol Childerns museum (www.ccm.org) or...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Travel from DC to New York, ronald reagan airport, new york penn station
ronald reagan airport, new york penn station, greyhound terminal: I really don t know what you are looking for but I assume you are looking for the cheapest rate. Going by train you should take the amtrak train to New York Penn station downtown New York which would leave from Union Station, take about 3 hours and cost...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Travel to DC, hyatt on capitol hill, amtrak station
hyatt on capitol hill, amtrak station, shuttle bus: Hi, sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to you. The best way to get from BWI airport to your hotel is to use supershuttle. There website is www.supershuttle.com The shuttle bus (which you can easily pick you up at the airport) will take you...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Trip to D.C., air space museum, smithsonian museums
air space museum, smithsonian museums, smithsonian museum: Hi James, First of all - I have no idea where people got the idea that Baltimore is close to DC - I ve heard this before! Anyone in the area will tell you it s a bit of a drive, and MUCH too far away for sightseeing purposes - sure, you could take a train...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): tall bldgs., marriott wardman park, woodley park metro station
marriott wardman park, woodley park metro station, marriott wardman park hotel: Thank you for writing me. The only high rise that I can think of that you might be talking about is the Marriott Wardman Park Hotel. It sits on a hill next to the Woodley Park Metro station. Is this the one ? If not, can you tell me where about this...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): touring, smithsonian museums, monuments
smithsonian museums, monuments, distances: Yes, you can easily see most of the major attractions and the museums without taking the tourmobile. All the smithsonian museums on the mall are accessible by metro www.wmata.com. Most of all the other museums and monuments are accessible by metro and then...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): tourist, pentagon city mall, smithsonian museums
pentagon city mall, smithsonian museums, best cities in the world: DC is probably one of the best cities in the world for free tourist attractions! All of the Smithsonian museums, including the National Zoo, are completely free. The National Gallery of Art is also free, as is the Holocaust Museum (those are not part of...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): tourist, pentagon city mall, best shopping mall
pentagon city mall, best shopping mall, smithsonian museums: Hi, The best free tourist spots in Washington DC are the 16 smithsonian museums on the mall. I highly recommend theses museums as they have tons of stuff to look at. You can easily spend a day at one of them and still not have seen everything in it. ...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): I am trying to determine if I should finish up my Political Science major in Washington D.C., political science degree, southeast dc
political science degree, southeast dc, upscale area: Hi Caitlin, Are there many different available opportunities for my field? I m not sure what sort of jobs a political science degree would relate to, but there are plenty of jobs with the government...does that help? I have heard that much of...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): U.S. Capital Building, stephen hosmer, statue of freedom
stephen hosmer, statue of freedom, thomas crawford: The broze statue on top of the U.S. Capitol is the statue of Freedom by Thomas Crawford the crown feature of the dome of the United States Capitol. The bronze statue stands 19 feet 6 inches tall and weights approximately 15,000 pounds. Her crest rises 288...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): U S Capitol Building, city of pittsburgh pa, brick maker
city of pittsburgh pa, brick maker, west wings: I think that it would be extremely hard to find out the exact month that both the east wing and the south wing were completed. However on the US capitol website they say that the north wing was completed by 1800. And that the south wing was completed and...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): do u no if there is eny skatparks...
Hi, When you wrote to me and told me you were looking for skatparks in I assume that you mean you are looking for skateboarding parks, right ? I found three very good websites that you can look at and maybe find your answer. They are: www.skatedork.org...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): VIP Passes, national archives and records administration, stephen hosmer
national archives and records administration, stephen hosmer, capitol building: Thank you for writing me. You can get congressional VIP passes for all the different sites in Washington DC by logging on to www.house.gov. Once you get there, go to search all sites. After that type in congressional VIP tickets. You should get a list of...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): vacations to DC, huntington metro station, international spy museum
huntington metro station, international spy museum, corcoran museum of art: Hi Jack! DC is a great place to visit for people without a lot of money, because there are so many free things to see and do! In fact a guy named Brian Butler wrote a book called DC For Free that is $10 on Amazon.com. I checked it out from my library...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): vietnam memorial, vietnam veterans memorial, vietnam memorial
vietnam veterans memorial, vietnam memorial, korea war: There really isn t any hotel which is in walking distance of the Vietnam Veterans Memorial, less than a half mile. I believe that the closet hotel is in the foggy bottom area of Washington DC. It is also known as the GWU area. I believe that, that is the...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): we are visiting washington..., smithsonian museums, charge admission
smithsonian museums, charge admission, spy museum: Hi Sue! I recommend visiting as many of the Smithsonian museums as possible. They are DC s top attraction, they are metro-accessible, and they are all free! This includes the National Zoo. In addition, you might enjoy visiting the Spy Museum, which does...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): WASHINGTON D.C., radisson barcello, hilton embassy row
radisson barcello, hilton embassy row, marble baths: Dave -- My two favorite D.C. hotels are both in Dupont Circle. There s a nice selection of restaurants in the area, ranging from dirt cheap to pricey, and both hotels are within a block or two of the metro stop. The neighborhood feels safe to me, even...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington D. C., smithsonian museums, white house washington
smithsonian museums, white house washington, e g white: Hi Art, Unfortunately, this question is tough to answer because of the currently part. As of right now, the White House is closed, but the Washington Monument is open. Several other buildings are closed for various reasons, but many others (including...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington D.C., martha washington, district of columbia
martha washington, district of columbia, voting rights: Washington DC is NOT a state. It has no voting rights in congress. It is the capitol of the the United States. I am sorry to say after looking on the internet, I was unsuccessfully able to find any websites that would better define this answer for you. ...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): About Washington D.C., mt st helen, congress www
mt st helen, congress www, www google com: Please be aware that Mt. St Helen is located in Washington State and I am located across the country in Washington DC. I don t know anything about Mt St. Helen s. For the pictures of Washington DC. I know that the library of congress (www.loc.gov) has...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington D.C., formal government, district of columbia
formal government, district of columbia, voting rights: Washington DC is NOT a state is a district within it s own terrority. The district is called the District of Columbia. Originally land was taken from Maryland and Virginia to form a square piece of land called the District of Columbia (about 1790).It has...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington D.C. accomodations/kids attractions, smithsonian website, outer suburb
smithsonian website, outer suburb, tourmobile: Thank you for writing me, I am suggest for the easiest way to get around and see all the different sites including Mount Vernon, I recommend that you take the tourmobile www.tourmobile.com It is easy to use and allows you to see all the sites for a one low...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington D.C., stephen hosmer, kids activities
stephen hosmer, kids activities, front desk: When you come to Washington DC their are many things that you can do with your childern. Many of the museums have exhibitions catering to childern. Also you should ask at your hotel front desk about places that tailor to kids activities that are near your...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington DC, potomac river, christopher columbus
potomac river, christopher columbus, virgina: Washington DC is not a state. It is not part of maryland either. Actually it is it s own distict. Here is the defination of Washington DC. What does Washington DC mean ? District A partial of of land laid out as a 10 mile square extending across...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington DC Travel, washington dc travel, sites to see in washington dc
washington dc travel, sites to see in washington dc, concierge desk: First of all I would like to say that I am very sorry that it has taken me so long to get back but I have been busy, I hope that you will forgive me. I think that it is great that you are planning on a trip to Washington DC. Thier is so much to see and...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Washington DC, stephen hosmer, washington dc
stephen hosmer, washington dc, map: Washington DC is not part of maryland. It a partial of land which is a 10 mile square district occupying land ceded in 1791 by Virginia and maryland. However looking on a map some might think that it is located in Maryland but it isn t. Thank you Stephen...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Weather, humid weather, chilly days
humid weather, chilly days, warm weather: The weather in the Washington DC Metropolitan area can vary. In the spring the weather can have beautiful sunny days even through we do occasionally still have chilly days. The summer can be hot with a lot of days with hazy, hot and humid weather. In the...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Weather, washington dc weather, washington dc metro
washington dc weather, washington dc metro, dc metro area: Thank you for writing me I like answering theses kinds of questions. Yes it does snow in Washington DC on average we get 19 inches of snow a year. Washington DC is generally on the boarder line of getting large snowstorm similar to what happen earler this...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): White House, stephen hosmer, staircases
stephen hosmer, staircases, elevators: There are 132 rooms, 32 bathrooms and 6 levels to accommodate all the people who live in, work in, and visit the White House. There are also 412 doors, 147 windows, 28 fireplaces, 7 staircases, and 3 elevators. I hope this information helps you and is...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Whre to stay outside of tourist area, capital holiday inn, alexandria area
capital holiday inn, alexandria area, park your car: Hi Karen, sorry it took me a few days to get back to you! I highly recommend staying along Route 1 outside the beltway. This is the Alexandria area, and it puts you close to metro stops so you can get into the city easily. There are a number of good motels...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Williamsburg to DC, trip to williamsburg, metro subway
trip to williamsburg, metro subway, williamsburg virginia: I believe that your best option is to take Amtrak from Williamsburg, Virginia and then when you get to Northern Virginia you take www.wmata.com metro, to a hotel somewhere on the metro subway line. The farest south metro goes is Springfield, Virginia. Then...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): washington dc, smithsonian museums, metro website
smithsonian museums, metro website, tourmobile: Thank you for writing me, I love answering theses kind of questions. When you come to Washington DC there are many places that you can stay. I recommend that when you come to stay at a chain hotel which is probably your best bet to get the cheapest rate....

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): wheather, transportation, metro website, tourist sites
metro website, tourist sites, public transportation: Hi Lisa, The weather here at the end of March is usually nice. It tends to be in the 60s - no promises though! As for public transportation, you will want to use Metro - it gets you to pretty much all of the major tourist sites. You can find out more...

District of Columbia (WashingtonD.C.): Why, sock puppet, allexpert
sock puppet, allexpert, place where people: You know I have been thinking about this question and the question you asked me is very rude. Don t you have any respect for others. I don t see anything wrong with my questions and I think that asking questions is fine. Others don t seem to have a problem...

Divorce Issues: 1- I visit my father twice..., universal human experience, dr jill
universal human experience, dr jill, two occasions: Dear Samuel, The mind is very powerful. And our beliefs can often create an expected outcome. The three things you mention are cultural in nature. This means that the beliefs are related to the cultural context and not necessarily from universal human experience....

Divorce Issues: Access to children, emotional effect, contact family
emotional effect, contact family, wiil: Dear Barbara, I am not an attorney and am not familiar with UK family law. If he attempting to access the children by legal means, then perhaps this is where your concerns can be voiced and hopefully heard. If he is as unstable as you indicate, that will...

Divorce Issues: Answering the 'Why' questions about divorce from our 3 yo, oncoming changes, mommy and daddy
oncoming changes, mommy and daddy, vibes: Louise: I had this same issue with my daughter. My ex did NOT participate. I told her that mommy and daddy weren t going to be living together, and she was going to be lucky to have two homes. Mommy and daddy will always love her, but just not each other...

Divorce Issues: Never see my adult children, open heart surgery, pre nup
open heart surgery, pre nup, millionaire husband: Hi Melissa~ They are still angry and resentful of the divorce. This isn t uncommon to happen in children this age. And they may never get over the fact that you divorced their father. That s a choice that they are making not you. These are circumstances...

Divorce Issues: annullment, grooms family, annulment
grooms family, annulment, having an affair: Dear Debkayec, Gifts are just that, gifts. There are no strings of return attached. If the groom s family wants their gifts, they need to discuss that with the groom. An annulment doesn t usually involve any property or anything. The protocol is simply...

Divorce Issues: Baby's mother is harrassing and threatening me, month old baby, life hell
month old baby, life hell, hatered: Hi Joseph, Protection From Abuse (PFA) Order :: A Protection From Abuse Order (PFA) is a civil court action intended to bring about an end of the abuse toward you and/or your minor children. Do contact your attorney and he will do the needful. Now you...

Divorce Issues: Beginning divorce with no money, daycare, abusive situation
daycare, abusive situation, dear mary: Dear Mary, Although your friend s husband is making statements, there is no reason your friend needs to do anything about her husband s statements. He doesn t have to move and neither does she. I know it may be difficult for her to put up with his rejection,...

Divorce Issues: Boyfriend involved with my children, separate lives, separate rooms
separate lives, separate rooms, father figure: Hi Debbie~ Let me get this straight, you ve been with him almost 2 yrs and he just recently filed for a divorce?! I can understand him being separated and estranged from his wife for a brief period of time, but why did it take so long for him to file for...

Divorce Issues: My b/f ex-wife keeps in contact..., small stuff, phone conversation
small stuff, phone conversation, aspects of life: ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF THESE THINGS BEFORE MOVING IN WITH OR MARRYING SOMEONE. The ex-wife is not the problem. Your boyfriend s behavior is the problem. He needs to put his foot down in this matter. Open your eyes and see if there are other aspects of life...

Divorce Issues: Having a boyfriend, divorce, sleep
divorce, sleep, court order: Hi Grace~ As long as there isn t a court order in place stating that you can t have him over. Then yes, it s perfectly fine to do this. While it might be immoral in some eyes, it s certainly not illegal to have your BF stay or even live with you. You...

Divorce Issues: Child and ex-husband poor judgement, free hotline number, poor judgement
free hotline number, poor judgement, divorce papers: Hi Carol~ She needs to take him back for violating a court order! If possible she ll need to take proof back to the judge of what he s doing. The judge can order him to jail or to stop this behavior when he s got his visitation with the child. What you...

Divorce Issues: cant live with other parent, mom and dad, marital status
mom and dad, marital status, paperwork: Dear Price, Your parents are still your parents, regardless of their marital or non marital status, and they have apparently made this agreement throughout your life. If your dad says you are to stay there, then that s what is expected. I m not sure the...

Divorce Issues: children being around a live in girlfrend!!!, divorce papers, christmas day
divorce papers, christmas day, recourse: Gina: You can try, but unless you can prove that it is detrimental, or that the woman is abusive or neglectful to your children, you will not get that granted. Most courts only take that away if there is a serious issue with that other person living in the...

Divorce Issues: claiming children, divorce decree, tax deductions
divorce decree, tax deductions, alimony: In your divorce decree, it should have outlined who gets to claim the children as tax deductions. If it does not state specifically, then it is generally given to whichever parent has the children the majority of the time. Tax deductions are a very good...

Divorce Issues: contempt of divorce decree, change of circumstance, divorce decree
change of circumstance, divorce decree, step kids: A lawyer can take a lot of money and make promises that they can t really follow up on. The lawyer can also make you miserable, and ask a lot of questions and try to get information. Sometimes an ex wife can take you back to court for change of circumstance....

Divorce Issues: creative custody suggestions, leaving california, custody issues
leaving california, custody issues, small boys: Sara, I am sorry about your circumstances. I think that it will be very tough on your kids, at that age, to have a schedule where they do not see either parent for such huge chunks of time. Also if your husband cannot keep a roof over your heads and you have...

Divorce Issues: Dating during divorce, path of least resistance, passport application
path of least resistance, passport application, boyfriend jason: Jason: He is the father. If he doesn t provide documentation to say she is allowed to take the daughter, then the daughter doesn t go. If it isn t in temporary orders that she can t take her out of the country, then she can take her. This is not about...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, warrington cheshire, abuja
warrington cheshire, abuja, private investigator: I would hire a private investigator to find your spouse. After finding his whereabouts you would need to contact the courts of your country and the courts of his country to find out which jurisdiction needs to serve him. An attorney might have a different...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, fault divorce, credit consolidation
fault divorce, credit consolidation, con man: Dear Amy, I am so sorry. You could ask the lawyer what other suggestions he has, but the reality is . . . even if the debt were divided, the credit card company can find you and your wages. They wouldn t even bother looking for him. I don t usually recommend...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, legal entanglements, dilemma
legal entanglements, dilemma, good luck: Go down to your local courthouse and tell the women in the family services division your dilemma. They are TERRIFIC in showing you low cost means of accomplishing certain legal entanglements without the help of a lawyer. Good luck. You are lucky that...

Divorce Issues: Divorce- Babies&Work, alimony child support, divorce mediation
alimony child support, divorce mediation, staying at home: Hi Chuck~ No, he can t demand that she stop caring for the children, home, etc and drop everything to start work. He ll have to pay her alimony anyway. Since she left her previous job to have children and to care for them at home. Only the judge can...

Divorce Issues: Divorce by publication, legal divorce, lawyers fees
legal divorce, lawyers fees, newspaper ad: Hi Carey~ A divorce by publication is usually done when can t find and do not know the whereabouts of your spouse and you want a legal divorce. Each state has procedures that you have to follow. What you need to do is go file for a divorce as usual. ...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and substance abuse, drug addict, daycare
drug addict, daycare, character issues: Well maybe you have to get a little real here. Your husband is NOT recovering if he slips once in awhile and then says he has no interest in stopping. When someone is on drugs how do they know if they are jeopardizing their children and what are the kids seeing?...

Divorce Issues: Divorce w/property, t rush, divorce cases
t rush, divorce cases, custodial parent: Dear Erika, I am not an attorney. Most states base child support on the non-custodial parent s income, rather than the custodial parent s expenses. If the mother has custody, the father will be assessed child support based upon his income. Considering...

Divorce Issues: Divorced w/ shared custody living in 2 different States, out of the blue, paycheck
out of the blue, paycheck, school year: Yavonne: You saved the email in which he made the request? Then you have nothing to worry about. You have it in writing, which is the same as a contract. He can t have you arrested, you didn t run off with the children. He is just trying to intimidate...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing and separated. Can I live with my boyfriend?, bf, no worries
bf, no worries: Hi Marylu~ It s fine if you live with your BF. There aren t any laws that prevent this and it s not illegal. Just like it s not illegal to have and affair when you re married. It might be considered immoral, but certainly neither one is illegal in the...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing and trying to move on!!, divorce paperwork, divorce petition
divorce paperwork, divorce petition, divorce papers: Hi Valerie~ Being that he s in an entirely different state than you. It s highly unlikely he s get the standard every other weekend visits b/c travel isn t practical (especially if it s a good distance to go). And with the baby being so young, he s not...

Divorce Issues: dating, exes, brother and sister
exes, brother and sister, outlaws: Are you really willing to put your children through a lifetime of being cousins and siblings? The answer to that will tell you just how far you would go to have someone to date. Your consideration of such a dating situation may prove you are still in a phase...

Divorce Issues: My daughter and divorce, divorce laws, emotional balance
divorce laws, emotional balance, stepdad: Hi June~ When is planning on moving to NY. I know for sure in NY that you can t get a divorce for 2 years, as they ve made it mandatory to have a 2 yr waiting period before a party can file for a divorce and legally go through with it. This could be in...

Divorce Issues: divorce, court attorney, innocent spouse
court attorney, innocent spouse, interrogatories: I truly feel for you, because I felt similarly when I had my divorce. Please read up on Interrogatories, because If you produce a case information statement you don t have to answer them They are expensive and a waste of time. You won t find a family court...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce paperwork, getting a divorce
divorce paperwork, getting a divorce, divorce papers: Hi Angela~ If he has friends on the outside then he could have someone track her down and see if she even still resides at that address. If in fact she still does live there. Then he has to somehow file for a divorce and then have her served with the...

Divorce Issues: divorce, part time jobs, doctor boyfriend
part time jobs, doctor boyfriend, merit scholar: Hi there. What an amazingly complex situation you are dealing with here. It s hard to grasp the whole of it. I think we start with your husband, this unfortunate soul. He carries much shame and he brought it with him. The shame comes from his family...

Divorce Issues: divorce or not?, internet port, firm believer
internet port, firm believer, sake: Hi Zonalynn~ You ll just know it in your heart of hearts when you can t take it any more. You ll feel a heavy burden and it ll feel like you just can t go on living like this anymore. And you ll want to give up b/c you re so sick and tired of trying and...

Divorce Issues: Getting over divorce, getting over divorce, books on forgiveness
getting over divorce, books on forgiveness, pastor kim: Hi Jonathan, If you do not have a personal relationship with Jesus, then that is what I first recommend. The promises in the Word are for believers and there are over 5000 promises in His Word... Make sure that you never speak badly about his mother....

Divorce Issues: divorce, sherriff, restraining order
sherriff, restraining order, locks: Hi Liz~ No, b/c you re still legally married he can NOT kick you out of the marital home (and vice versa). The only way that can happen is if there is a court order saying you must vacate the home. This can only be done two ways. 1) Being he gets a restraining...

Divorce Issues: divorce, procedural questions, filing for divorce
procedural questions, filing for divorce, legal advice: Dear Tiffany, I am not an attorney, but I think I do know the next step. Check with the county clerk where you filed the divorce. Ask if there is a procedure for having someone served . . . meaning someone in the sheriff s department, someone hired, or...

Divorce Issues: divorce and claiming a dependent, sole legal custody, irs agent
sole legal custody, irs agent, divorce decree: Hi Amber~ This can be a tricky situation. You actually should go back to court and have an amendment made to the divorce decree. Otherwise, if you claim your son you risk getting into trouble since it was not officially your year to claim him (even if...

Divorce Issues: divorce out of country, italian courts, usa embassy
italian courts, usa embassy, permanent residence: This is a question of which Court will have jurisdiction to grant you a divorce. I do not think any USA court can do it - unless you are planning on coming back and consider the County in USA to be your permanent residence. You usually need to be living...

Divorce Issues: divorce in prison, indiana state prison, support obligation
indiana state prison, support obligation, local court: There are missing facts to answer this fully. For example what state is your boyfriend living in? However this is what you need to do. Each State is different with regard to packages and process for divorce. Then each county has its own local rules of...

Divorce Issues: divorce and tax issues, tax fraud, late fees
tax fraud, late fees, irs: Hi Sara~ He can t do that! You ll have to end up taking him back to court and getting him in contempt of a court order. He can get into trouble for that with the judge/court and even the IRS. So you need to report him to the IRS too, since that s tax...

Divorce Issues: I don't know what to do first, pennsylvania license, state divorce
pennsylvania license, state divorce, divorce papers: Oh boy. You have a complicated situation, don t you? I really wish that I could offer you some advice, but this is WAY out of my area of expertise. Given the short period of time that you were married, it would seem like a simple procedure, but I believe...

Divorce Issues: Enforcing Court Order, divorce proceedings, enforcing court
divorce proceedings, enforcing court, divorce decree: Dennis you have been mistreated - but even worse - she has mistreated the Court too. This is what is open to you, Because she is no longer your wife you can bring fraud charges at the police on the quitclaim. You can ask the Judge for a contempt of Court on...

Divorce Issues: Ex Husband, divorce papers, t pay
divorce papers, t pay, child support: I find it interesting that you want to go to back to court to get the visiting schedule changed. You don t have to pick the kids up. If the father can t pick up and return them, don t let the kids go until better arrangements are made. The ex hasn t...

Divorce Issues: Ex-wife mentally abusing children and abusing drugs, abusing drugs, marital debt
abusing drugs, marital debt, getting a divorce: Trisha: This is not the boys fault. I am sure they are torn in their loyalty. You need to get a better attorney than the one you had. If the ex is using drugs, then your husband s attorney was terrible. She would have lost the kids, except for supervised...

Divorce Issues: ex husband issues, priceless cargo, divorce lawyer
priceless cargo, divorce lawyer, exhusband: Hi Melissa~ Yes, due to her past convictions and record, it certainly is possible for you to get a judge to grant you an order that states she s not to be around the minor children for their protection. After all judges are most interested in what s in...

Divorce Issues: ex wife with new relationship, heart to heart talk, poor choices
heart to heart talk, poor choices, divorce decree: Hi Jeff~ While you certainly may not agree with the way she s going about this (and you have every right to be upset about this). What she does in her own home is beyond your control (as long as the children aren t being abused or neglected) and you don...

Divorce Issues: exhusband's girlfriend, ill feelings, holloween costumes
ill feelings, holloween costumes, cordial relationship: Hi. I ll give you some suggestions and ask that you stay in touch with me as you do these things and let me know how they work. Your letter is brief and so I don t have as much to go on as I would like so if I m way off, bear with me. Also it s hard...

Divorce Issues: FINDING AN OUT OF STATE ATTORNEY, divorce web, divorce papers
divorce web, divorce papers, court dates: Hi Tammy~ I did a search online and found a pretty good site for lawyers and info that might be of some assistance and help to you in a search for a lawyer. I m going to copy and paste the link here. Just copy and paste it to your browser in the url link....

Divorce Issues: I don't know what to do first, divorce decree, irreconcilable differences
Divorce Issues: I don't know what to do first, divorce decree, irreconcilable differences, filing for divorce

Divorce Issues: Enforcing Court Order, fmv, police dept
Divorce Issues: Enforcing Court Order, fmv, police dept, fraud

Divorce Issues: Happily remarried but dealing we are dealing with my husbands x wife, counciling, loving parent
Divorce Issues: Happily remarried but dealing we are dealing with my husbands x wife, counciling, loving parent, parenting

Divorce Issues: Overnight Visitation, separation anxiety, style environment
Divorce Issues: Overnight Visitation, separation anxiety, style environment, caregiver

Divorce Issues: my family keepsakes, family keepsakes, getting a divorce
family keepsakes, getting a divorce, parenting classes: Angie, seems he is not honest and getting the truth and the stuff seems unlikely. Nonetheless here are some suggestions:- 1. You have not said if you are married and getting a divorce? If you are then you need to ensure the things you want are in your petition...

Divorce Issues: Should I file for separation or not?, part time jobs, neat freak
part time jobs, neat freak, part time job: Hi Amy, Wow. It s hard to know where to begin. My first reaction was that you need more than a simple written answer. You are making one of those major life decisions and it deserves some careful thought and a soul searching conversation. That s what counseling...

Divorce Issues: Happily remarried but dealing we are dealing with my husbands x wife, educational updates, full custody
educational updates, full custody, family christmas: Tandra: Getting full custody is difficult on a good day. I am going through something similar, but this is with my ex and he is the non communicator. Keep records of everything. All emails etc... Get a good attorney. You will need to get your stepson...

Divorce Issues: Health insurance with a signed Property Division Agreement, health plan administrator, benefit administrator
health plan administrator, benefit administrator, delaware county: Hi Michele, What a nightmare this must have been. Unless there is something in the marital code of PA, stating you have an obligation to him for medical insurance, I do not see why you have to keep him on insurance. In a lot of States it is actually a requirement...

Divorce Issues: help..., head lice, one of the boys
head lice, one of the boys, divorce papers: Brandy: Your husband is doing what he has to do, as per decree, which is great. He does get his children. There is nothing you can do about those things, except for buy them new shoes and clothing. Head lice is not always a function of being dirty, in...

Divorce Issues: INHERITANCE, family inheritance, home remodel
family inheritance, home remodel, divorce situation: Hi Gabrielle~ No. A spouse isn t entitled to anything from an inheritance. Only if the spouse wants to share it with them. However, if the inheritance is used in something such as a home remodel or home improvement some states might let the spouse (in...

Divorce Issues: Involving boyfriend more with my children, separate lives, separate rooms
separate lives, separate rooms, father figure: Hi Debbie, Thanks for including me in your panel of experts. Your question is a good one and a common one. Yes, I do think just ask is a good policy in general. However, don t expect a simple answer, expect an interesting conversation. If you aren...

Divorce Issues: Involving boyfriend more with my children, separate lives, separate rooms
separate lives, separate rooms, father figure: Debbie, You want your boyfriend to take more of an active role in your children s lives. You boyfriend probably believes this would only be appropriate in a family situation. You are not married and thus not a family. He will not be involved in raising...

Divorce Issues: how do i keep my vehicle during a divorce, high mileage, alimony
high mileage, alimony, financial position: Dear Stephanie, I am not an attorney, but I do recommend that you not sign or agree to anything without adequate representation. There is a great deal at stake here. As far as I know, if the two cannot agree, every state still has judges for determining...

Divorce Issues: what kind of baggage, misleading term, personal inventory
misleading term, personal inventory, breakups: Yes, I figured you were intrigued because you thought it applied to you. I am curious about how this plays out for you and would really appreciate hearing more. At the same time, I do telecouseling and would be more than happy to dialog with you. My inclination...

Divorce Issues: Leaving the house, kindergarten teacher, best interest
kindergarten teacher, best interest, 4 months: Hi Kenneth~ No, as long as your still legally married to her you don t have to leave the home, barring a court order (would be the only thing to make you have to leave the marital home). If she isn t working how she s supposed to pay the mortgage and house...

Divorce Issues: Lost, free legal aid, domestic assault
free legal aid, domestic assault, electrical union: Laurie~ The first thing you need to do is to take your money out of a joint account and into an account only in your name (and hide this info from him). This way he can t drain your account and spend all your money, and you have some means to support yourself...

Divorce Issues: what about my life is none of her buisness?, manipulative behavior, damn business
manipulative behavior, damn business, girl friends: Hi Thomas~ She can t suddenly decide that she s going to come and now ask for child support, when the original agreement was made in the divorce decree. It s very hard to come back and change an original divorce decree. So she s probably doing this to...

Divorce Issues: living with boyfriend, legal closure, divorce decree
legal closure, divorce decree, angie: Dear Angie, I am not an attorney. I m not terribly familiar with a divorce granted while property is still pending. Chances are the property will be divided according to the agreement in the divorce or based upon the information at the time of the divorce....

Divorce Issues: living seperately, divorce case, april 1978
divorce case, april 1978, dob: There really isn t a question here. Have you had any communication with your wife? Does she give you any signs that she would like to come back? You have to answer this question for yourself because you didn t give me any information to even attempt a response...

Divorce Issues: lying about assets, small bussiness, concrete proof
small bussiness, concrete proof, silent partner: Hi Angie~ He can get into trouble with the court system for lying about his assets. I would strongly advise you to hire a P.I (private investigator) for this. P.I s can get info that a regular civilian can t. Such as financial records, he can be watched...

Divorce Issues: Military Retirement Benefits and Divorce, military retirement benefits, employee stock option plan
military retirement benefits, employee stock option plan, employee stock option: Hi Frank~ The divorce is over and done with, the decree is final. She can t come back and change it now 4 years later. It s not going to happen. It said in the decree that all decisions made in it were final. So no matter how hard she tries she s not...

Divorce Issues: Mortgages... mortgages... mortgages..., financial hardships, mortgage companies
financial hardships, mortgage companies, finance charges: In answer to your question, yes...mortgage companies will help someone out rather than foreclose on the property. Especially in todays times. If he would have a hard time paying one mortgage on the house then, you should pay off the second loan, ask the primary...

Divorce Issues: How to move on when spouse can provide no answers, new experiences, remarrying
new experiences, remarrying, single life: Your searching for a particular type of answer may be just your way of avoiding moving on with life. There is no reason for you to get an explanation from your ex. Most marriages end with no clear explanation of how the divorce could have been avoided. ...

Divorce Issues: moving forward..., physical closeness, father of my children
physical closeness, father of my children, hard feelings: Hi. Across the street really does sound too close. It doesn t sound like there are any hard feelings between you, just a sadness and an acceptance. Still, you probably will have an easier time moving on and so will he if you guys are not in each other...

Divorce Issues: Newly Separated, initial shock, one day at a time
initial shock, one day at a time, day at a time: Hi Lila~ It can sure make it very uncomfortable and even awkward since you still work together. You have to come to terms with this some time too. I can imagine that it s still shocking that he left in the first place, especially if he didn t give you...

Divorce Issues: I need out, custody battle, military wives
custody battle, military wives, 11 years: Dear Jo, I am not an attorney, but I do know this. Many military wives remain in the state where the couple married or made their residents, rather than relocate every time the husband is stationed and relocated. The children are your children, so kidnapping...

Divorce Issues: I need help, divorce papers, getting a divorce
divorce papers, getting a divorce, time limit: Alicia: Your mom needs to find out if it is a no contest state. If he leaves, and your mother files for divorce, then the divorce will be granted if it is no contest, and in most states, if it is a contested state, then there is a time limit and then the...

Divorce Issues: the new girlfriend and why there are no boundries, emotional relationship, baseball practice
emotional relationship, baseball practice, new girlfriend: Nicole, this is, of course, one of the most common problems in midlife dating: the status of the ex- in the formation of a step family. It s huge. There are lots of ways to work out the answer but it will have to be worked out between the two of you and for...

Divorce Issues: Is this normal?, pool league, new couple
pool league, new couple, month and a half: Hi, I do think you are right about the affair having been in process for a long time already. That is often the case. Your question is about your surprising calm about this new couple. As you said, you care for him but don t love him anymore. That s probably...

Divorce Issues: Overnight Visitation, kc children, separation anxiety
kc children, separation anxiety, kc mo: It sounds like you are a good father and I would not worry about bringing your son to KC. Children adjust very well to new schedules if both parents are co-operative. I think perhaps it is your ex-wife who is having separation anxiety which is perfectly...

Divorce Issues: Overnight Visitation, kc mo, mo area
kc mo, mo area, overnights: Jeff: It is a tough adjustment for a child that age. I understand what she is going through, as I had a similar situation with my youngest. If the orders state that you can have your son, then you need to take those overnights, because you need to maintain...

Divorce Issues: opinion on finalizing divorce, divorce papers, girls ages
divorce papers, girls ages, three girls: Karen: Good for you for taking positive actions for you and your children. It is never good to be an enabler. If he wants help, there are anger management, groups that he can meet with weekly, similar to AA, and also he needs some psychiatric help. But,...

Divorce Issues: not paying judgment, divorce decree, angie
divorce decree, angie, contempt: Hi Angie~ In order to get the money from him you ll have to take him back to court. You can get him in contempt of violating a court order (divorce decree). The judge can probably even order a wage garnishment so that you ll start receiving the court...

Divorce Issues: pending, accurate answer, lones
accurate answer, lones, grown man: As stated in my profile, I am not a lawyer and do not answer legal questions. I answer questions about relationships. For an ACCURATE answer to your question consult a LOCAL lawyer. As far as relationships go here, never put a grown man s credit in...

Divorce Issues: personal things, personal belongings, bitter divorce
personal belongings, bitter divorce, equitable settlement: Dear Angie, Maybe you should try a different approach. Ask your attorney to ask if these items are no longer in the home. Did you leave the house under duress or fear of threat? I am not an attorney, but as far as I know, you can still have a divorce trial...

Divorce Issues: please help, child support payments, new girlfriend
child support payments, new girlfriend, physical custody: The best person who really knows the law and what past court responses have been... is an attorney. They have had all the scenarios before. Another good method of ascertaining information is to go to free consultations. When you talk to the attorney be clear...

Divorce Issues: Question regarding separation, separation requirement, separation period
separation requirement, separation period, initial paper: Natalie: Try this link to find out about the separation requirement in Indiana. I don t know for sure, but most states do not have one. http://www.myparentingportal.com/divorcebystate.html As far as taxes go, as long as your married at year end,...

Divorce Issues: reconciliation after filling, summary dissolution, divorce papers
summary dissolution, divorce papers, petitioner: Dear Ginger, I am not an attorney and I have no idea what the specific laws are for your state. In some states, no response from the respondent simply allows the petitioner s form to stand, but I don t want you to overlook something, so I would recommend...

Divorce Issues: What are my rights in this divorce?, marriage counselors, disability retirement
marriage counselors, disability retirement, retirement check: Dear Karen, I am not an attorney, but nine years of this does entitle you to a few things, I m sure. There is no reason for you to leave empty handed, although I do see why you are making plans to leave. My advice to you would be to consult an attorney...

Divorce Issues: Seeking Divorce, australian citizen, divorce cases
australian citizen, divorce cases, mr sharma: Deepak, you really need to contact an attorney. I am more of relationship counselor who can help couples if they are together and have differences. Yours is more of a legal matter and not an emotional issue. I am sure if you have the right lawyer everything...

Divorce Issues: Separated for 13 years now divorcing, Is she entitled to my inheritence/., divorce center, getting a divorce
divorce center, getting a divorce, inheritence: Bob: Inheritance is not ever community property, so that will not have to be split. If you both agree to not worry about the assets, then it is not a problem. If you have nothing to split, then there is nothing to fight over. Just get the divorce and be...

Divorce Issues: Separation: mother now a monster., ira retirement, responsible adults
ira retirement, responsible adults, foster parents: Hi Christopher~ As a parent she can t just give the children up to foster care again, or put them in a home or make them a ward of the state. The courts and law will not allow her to do this. She can t wake up and suddenly decide after all these years...

Divorce Issues: Seperated in Pennsylvania, sex act, seperated
sex act, seperated, pfa: Hi Kim~ He can t get you for abandonment unless you have children in common and you moved out leaving the children with him. Then he might be able to do that in court. However, if you don t have any children together, then no he can t get you for abandonment....

Divorce Issues: Single mom needs help!!, child support checks, single mom
child support checks, single mom, professional representation: Hi Stephanie~ I got your ratings and I didn t think it was very fair to rate me a 5 at all. As it looks very bad on my rating when other look at it. And it makes me look incompetent in the knowledge section. I almost refused to answer the question b/c...

Divorce Issues: Step Parent, divorce issues, parenting style
divorce issues, parenting style, driving time: Hi Rhonda, I think you have it right when you say that he has no empathy. This man has very little regard for other people s feelings and he doesn t have much compassion. We are to be like Jesus, who had compassion... Your husband may be reading the Word,...

Divorce Issues: second marriage, doctor boyfriend, merit scholar
doctor boyfriend, merit scholar, second marriage: Dear Sujata, I am so sorry for all you have gone through. I, of course, am not thoroughly aware of all the details of the culture of India, but have a general knowledge. The main concern, is of course, for your daughter and honesty is the best policy. ...

Divorce Issues: second marriage, doctor boyfriend, merit scholar
doctor boyfriend, merit scholar, second marriage: Hi Sujata, The counsel that I give comes from the Bible and the promises in the Word are for those who have made Jesus the Lord of their lives. So for me to tell you to seek the Lord Jesus Christ for His wisdom would be pointless. You are in a very...

Divorce Issues: second marriage, doctor boyfriend, merit scholar
doctor boyfriend, merit scholar, second marriage: In your situation, I suggest remaining with your parents. It s the least harmful situation. You shouldn t go back to your husband because he makes trouble and you have another man s baby. You should not go with your boyfriend because he could cheat on you...

Divorce Issues: separated 2 1/2 yr with 4 yr old, no support, child support enforcement, classic co
child support enforcement, classic co, mild case: Hi Mardi, I am glad you are keeping your sense of humor!! It s the best approach to your situation. Good for you... The one thing that concerns me is the gun to the head situation. Did you file a restraining order about this? Are you concerned at all...

Divorce Issues: separation/divorce, beautiful little girls, husband dean
beautiful little girls, husband dean, local police department: Well, at least it sounds like you ve had a break through and you ve broken away from that terrible situation. I can t give you legal advice but I do think there is a good chance you can get supervised visitation. You ll have to tell the court, through your...

Divorce Issues: seperated from my husband(not legaly though), time wounds all heels, time heals all wounds
time wounds all heels, time heals all wounds, dear tracey: Dear Tracey, I am truly so very, very sorry for what you are going through and for the pain you are feeling regarding your daughter. It sounds like your friends are trying very hard to support you, yet be honest. Please know they care a great deal. It...

Divorce Issues: soon-to-be ex wife moving out of state, lawyer cases, professional reasons
lawyer cases, professional reasons, joint custody: Hello to you:- Custody is a very serious issue and what you read on line may be accurate but should not be a substitute for legal advice- specific to you and all the facts that apply to you. You will need a lawyer and perhaps you can go down to court and...

Divorce Issues: state for publishing on missing spouse, state spouse, divorce papers
state spouse, divorce papers: Hi Ummtalibah~ You would want to publish it in the state where he is, in the county/city that you last knew that he lived in. This way it gives him a chance to respond to your divorce papers. And if he doesn t the judge will grant you a divorce by absentia...

Divorce Issues: step children, medical bills, different story
medical bills, different story, marriage: Hi Brian~ No, you re not responsible for any step-children or their medical bills, coverage, etc. If you adopted them that would be a different story, then you might have to keep coverage on them. Unless there is some reason that the judge would order...

Divorce Issues: step father, divorce web, biological child
divorce web, biological child, custody rights: Hi Hayley~ He s only entitled to some type of custody of your biological child together. He has no rights to the step-children, unless he s legally adopted them as his own and there is paperwork to prove this has happened. If he hasn t legally adopted...

Divorce Issues: Telling men I'm newly divorced, non sequitur, brief summary
non sequitur, brief summary, real reason: First off anybody you meet will be thrown off if your divorce is one of the first things you mention to them. Save that for later, if you two start a gripe session about ex s or if you two get serious or if he asks. You can answer the questions about why...

Divorce Issues: taxes and divorce, divorce web, back taxes
divorce web, back taxes, debts: Hi Joy~ Since it was before you got married, then no, you shouldn t be responsible for any of this debts. Now, if you accumulated them together, then yes, you d be responsible for them. But since that s not the case, you shouldn t have anything to worry...

Divorce Issues: how to transfer a divorce to different a county, divorce decree, current county
divorce decree, current county, legal document: Hi Tanya~ I ve never heard of transferring a divorce, when it s already finalized and done. You shouldn t have to do such a thing. Why would you need to transfer it anyway? I guess I don t understand the concept of wanting to transfer it to the new county...

Divorce Issues: uncontested divorce, uncontested divorce, different man
uncontested divorce, different man, biological father: Your wife can sign an affidavit stating that you are not the baby s father. The fact that she is married to you has no bearing on the facts. You should contact an attorney regarding the divorce since you both reside in separate states now. There are free...

Divorce Issues: visitation, divorce decree, situtation
divorce decree, situtation, sleepovers: Hi Charlene~ What does it state in your divorce decree about this? Most of the time it s required to put in place in the decree, stating that at all times both parties must provide each other with a phone number and physical address as to where they are...

Divorce Issues: How is this going to work, court paperwork, divorce issues
court paperwork, divorce issues, what this means: Dear Ed, I am not an attorney and states do vary regarding divorce issues. If the division of property results with you receiving and maintaining the house, that can have three different possibilities that I can think of, off hand. You may have to refinance...

Divorce Issues: my boyfriend of three years is still married, taking responsibility, piece of paper
taking responsibility, piece of paper, limbo: I m looking at his behavior in general and not specifically your situation. I see some bad signs for you. 1. He does not take care of his own children. He s not interested in taking responsibility for them. 2. He is keeping his ex, himself and...

Divorce Issues: boyfriends divorce, signs of stress, getting a divorce
signs of stress, getting a divorce, custody arrangements: Heartbreaking indeed. The ex sounds vindictive and dangerous. I might be exaggerating but she is asking a 6 and 8 year old to handle an interpersonal situation because she can t deal with it and what does that say about her? Scary for the kids to see that...

Divorce Issues: Child Support issue from previous marriage, child support money, family expenses
child support money, family expenses, legal question: Do you have an attorney? This is a legal question and I think you have to be very careful when there are children involved. Courts do not take kindly to parents throwing minors out of a house. You need to talk to an attorney so your wife can be made to contribute...

Divorce Issues: children of divorced parents and name change, children of divorced parents, sole support
children of divorced parents, sole support, accurate answer: You will have to consult a lawyer to get an accurate answer for your question. On the other hand, you should give money monthly just to support your children. They are getting to an age where they can judge you for themselves and that judgment could be negative...

Divorce Issues: Out of country property, property question, getting a divorce
property question, getting a divorce, deed of trust: A United States court would not hear your case. The house was purchased in Columbia and therefore you would have to show the courts in Columbia that the house was purchased while you were married. Laws are different in different countries. How do you know...

Divorce Issues: Divorce After 37 years, beer cans, state of shock
beer cans, state of shock, woma: First of all, you have my sympathy. It s a terrible shock. Also very cruel to you. 37 years is a long time and I agree, he owes you better than that. He owes himself better. He put in the 37 years also. Beyond that, there are a few guesses we can make...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, Kids, and moving on, grounds for divorce, parenting time
grounds for divorce, parenting time, band concerts: Dear Ann-Marie, I can t really answer your question, as you know, you must make this decision alone. As you are the one that will have to live with it. I would never encourage a mother to give up custody of her children. On the other hand, if you believe...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/New Relationships, long distance relationship, emotional infidelity
long distance relationship, emotional infidelity, message inbox: Hi It s a tricky bit of diplomacy isn t it. I think first you have to say that you don t trust what s going on between him and his wife. Say that emotional fidelity is as important to you as he says it is to him. Tell him that you are suspicious of...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/New relationships, dealing with depression, romantic relationship
dealing with depression, romantic relationship, good relationship: You want her out of the way so your relationship can be what you imagined. I just don t see that happening soon. Many non-custodial parents feel it necessary to help the mother of their children. Also, he was with her for so long, it s difficult to break...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/New relationships, dealing with depression, acceptable policies
dealing with depression, acceptable policies, acceptable policy: Hi. I ve copied your response and will try to respond: BUT if she has a boyfirend and a family consisting of brothers, sisters, mother etc....shouldn t she be looking to them for support .... True, but it s also true that she s dysfunctional and that...

Divorce Issues: divorce, annulment, dissolution
annulment, dissolution, lawyer: Check with a lawyer and see if you qualify for an annulment. That would be your easiest route. I would not think your husband could gain half of your home for such a short marriage, but again, please consult a lawyer. The expense for a dissolution should...

Divorce Issues: divorce, alimony, filing for divorce
alimony, filing for divorce, paperwork: A simple divorce can take as little as 3 months if it s not contested and there s nothing to fight about. Contact the court and ask them to send you the paperwork to file for a divorce. Even a two year marriage has acquired stuff. You need to sit down and...

Divorce Issues: divorce and eviction, generous parents, divorce case
generous parents, divorce case, equitable distribution: This is very tricky. You probably need to consult with a lawyer, but I would not buy into his eviction papers until you see them in black and white. Even if he serves you with eviction papers, you have - in some states - 4 months to leave. I found this...

Divorce Issues: am i divorced, applying for ssi, social security
applying for ssi, social security, divorce: Dear DeeDee, I am not an attorney, but I think I have a legal point you may want to consider. If your husband left and there was no divorce, and he is now deceased, you may be eligible to draw his social security, depending upon your age. I think it would...

Divorce Issues: ex wife issues, single mom, memo line
single mom, memo line, trust issues: Thank you Mary. I appreciate hearing that you liked my approach. I think you are in that situation of having an issue you wish you didn t have. Whether you have a right to be upset or not is probably the wrong question. I think you want a relationship...

Divorce Issues: I want my husband back, 48hours, good man
Divorce Issues: I want my husband back, 48hours, good man, testimony

Divorce Issues: frusrated husband, CODA, giving too much
CODA, giving too much, won't go to counseling: Hi Mark. Thanks for the feedback. It does sound worse and worse. Some thoughts and questions: When you said, ad letting my family down. Not only the kids, but the rest of our family as well. Who else were you referring to? Is there a lot of...

Divorce Issues: Garnished child support, but children live w/ us, private courts, child support
private courts, child support, modify: The Court order for support must be changed before a State will stop taking the support. You are right that the fact she has moved to your town is helpful as far as jurisdiction is concerned, because the State the custodian reside in with the kids has jurisdiction...

Divorce Issues: health and alimony benefits., long term health, divorce documents
long term health, divorce documents, maintenance money: With regard to insurance, you will need to get your own once you are divorced; however, there is a COBRA policy which gives you six months in which to find a provider. You can negotiate as to whom will be responsible for payment. I am not a lawyer, nor...

Divorce Issues: health and alimony benefits., social security benefits, long term health
social security benefits, long term health, divorce documents: Dear Angie, All these questions are legal and I am not an attorney. I can tell you this. Ten years of marriage does qualify a woman to be eligible for the ex-husband s social security benefits when she is old enough to collect and if she s not remarried....

Divorce Issues: health and alimony benefits., long term health, divorce documents
long term health, divorce documents, maintenance money: Hi Angela, benefits are a negotiable asset, so he can keep you on his benefits if he elects to, but if not, you are entitled to cobra which is 36 months of continued benefits under his plan. Your marriage would be considered a long term marriage over 10 years,...

Divorce Issues: house- domicile, restraining order, domicile
restraining order, domicile, there some kind: Hi Beth, how is he getting in if you changed the locks? After 2 years in most states he would be considered to have abandoned the property and is no longer allowed to enter at free will. If you changed the locks and he is still walking in to your property,...

Divorce Issues: How do I introduce a 5 year old boy to his biological father whom left him at birth?, sudden appearance, face of the earth
sudden appearance, face of the earth, biological father: Dear Farah, I think you have the right to tell your ex, you will need some time to address this matter. If he gives you any problems with that decision, you could mention the amount of back child support to be discussed. You have a good life going on now...

Divorce Issues: Jut not in love with marriage anymore, financial principles, fires of hell
financial principles, fires of hell, weekend dad: I d like to email with you several times so we can think this through. I believe that if you look around, you will find businessman whose wives don t mind them traveling or participating in hobbies that keep them busy. It is possible that your wife is...

Divorce Issues: Looking for answers from a long ago divorce, introverted personality, happy marriage
introverted personality, happy marriage, financial circumstances: Hi David. All I can do is speculate along with you so please understand that, absent some more detailed conversations with you or her, all that follows is speculation based on my range of experience with these kinds of situations. At the same time, every...

Divorce Issues: Loveless Marriage, loveless marriage, contemplating divorce
loveless marriage, contemplating divorce, strong woman: Sounds so bad. Not good. This little response will not be as much support as you need right now. I ll do my best. First of all, as furious, punitive, (moments of hate), pained and sick and tired as you are, keep this in mind: he feels more or less exactly...

Divorce Issues: life after divorce, hindu marriage law, intense anger
hindu marriage law, intense anger, life after divorce: Dear Sid First I appreciate hearing from you. Affairs are common all over the world. It s generally more common between married men and unmarried women than between married women and unmarried men. When married men cheat they often look for some adventure...

Divorce Issues: So lost, man in my life, private person
man in my life, private person, 8 years: Dear Lost Angel, I do not ever recommend adultery for finding Mr. Right, but I can also tell you I am absolutely certain the husband you are with is not who you are supposed to be with. My advice would be to go ahead and protect your two older children....

Divorce Issues: Mom demanding acceptance of someone she's dating, slob, hot seat
slob, hot seat, bad habits: Hi, This is a complex issue. I m very sorry you have to struggle with this. It would help me a lot if I knew how old you and your sister are and how independent. The bad news is that your mother is out of control and, as you expect, headed for...

Divorce Issues: I'm thinking of moving on...I'm afraid to start!, kidney failure, daycare
kidney failure, daycare, angry all the time: Getting your degree will be a great start to becoming self-sufficient. There are counselors at school who can guide you through the process of obtaining a job after you graduate. Good luck to you. I am sorry that your baby is having so many difficulties...

Divorce Issues: mortgage & home equity loc, home equity loc, home equity line
home equity loc, home equity line, divorce agreement: Dear Carol, Check the paperwork carefully. Signing over the deed is not the same thing as being absolved of debt from the mortgage. If you signed the mortgage contract then you are considered legally liable for the debt. Your name could be removed through...

Divorce Issues: Non-Custodial Step-Children and gifts, fishing pole, culdesac
fishing pole, culdesac, game systems: You are not being silly. You are not being unreasonable. I think your strategy is a good one. I would want you both to acknowledge the deep pain the divorce causes him, especially when it has to do with his relationship with his children. However,...

Divorce Issues: Pregnant with second child husband leaving, attension, risk manager
attension, risk manager, unborn baby: Hard situation. I m sorry. You asked what could get his attention and so much depends on whether you keep the baby. If you do and he gets a divorce then he will have to support you and the two children until the children are grown. He will probably have...

Divorce Issues: My parents divorce, court appointed attorneys, divorce lawyer
court appointed attorneys, divorce lawyer, divorce court: Dear Melissa, A person s inheritance is usually viewed by the courts to belong to only them, not always, but in most cases a spouse would not take an inheritance from the other side of the family. I guess that would simply be a matter of conscience, and...

Divorce Issues: prenups, prenup, prenuptial
prenup, prenuptial, married man: Hi. That s lawyer stuff. I m a psychologist. you need to talk to a lawyer. If your assets are valuable, the money you spend will be worth it. As a shrink, though, I am hoping that you and your wife are able to speak candidly about these plans. Otherwise,...

Divorce Issues: ridiculously long process!, marriage settlement, medical decisions
marriage settlement, medical decisions, settlement agreement: Hi, yes you can do this by yourself but it takes time. If your wife has primary custody of the kids then how can t she have control/say over the kids medical. That makes no sense. I would contact the court clerk and explain the situation. Find out what forms...

Divorce Issues: starting divorce, divorce cause, perfect mate
divorce cause, perfect mate, 7 months: When anniversaries come up it s normal to feel sad. You are missing what you had and although there are events that happen which lead to divorce, you were once in love. It s probably a good thing not to talk so you and your ex can move on. I think you should...

Divorce Issues: I want my husband back, september 19th, daily basis
september 19th, daily basis, waiting period: He won t cooperate with counseling but he ll still sleep with you while living with this other woman? WOW thats what I call having your cake and eating it too. Your husband is having fun at your expense. I m not sure what kind of a relationship you now have....

Divorce Issues: what can they do, rattler, fiance
rattler, fiance, love life: I have a friend who bothers her ex and his fiance. The ex got engaged only a month ago. But my friend has been harassing the fiance for months. The funny thing is that my friend only does it when she s bored or when her love life has slowed down. It s...

Divorce Issues: 3 years and I want a divorce, sanctity of marriage, anger problem
sanctity of marriage, anger problem, spiritual perspective: Dear Shellyann, I value marriage from a spiritual perspective, but I do not have a traditional view of what most call the sanctity of marriage. I believe that when a couple that G~D ordained to be together are married, the two become one, but if the couple...

Divorce Issues: Abandonment of property:, abandonment laws, possessive emotions
abandonment laws, possessive emotions, separation and divorce: Dear Ginger, Although I am not an attorney, I do realize in the cases of separation and divorce that possessive emotions do run high. I realize Texas has a legal system that is pretty unique, but I don t think you are looking at a case of abandonment at...

Divorce Issues: Affect father's behavior has on daughter., steady girlfriend, stable relationship
steady girlfriend, stable relationship, joint custody: Well you are right that it will make an impression on her, as did the divorce. Seven is young and she might find this confusing. At seven she will find the whole idea of divorce confusion and that permeate her thinking. But confusing is probably inevitable....

Divorce Issues: ammedning my divorce, home equity line, waiting times
home equity line, waiting times, legal representation: Dear Lori, I am not an attorney, but I do know in several states there is a 30 day period to contest the decree. I don t know if Michigan is one of the states or not. Here is my recommendation. If your attorney will not call you back, then call the county...

Divorce Issues: BOY FRIENDS EX WIFE, volley ball games, relationship work
volley ball games, relationship work, boy friends: Sorry to hear about you difficulties They are quite common in situations like yours and maybe that s small comfort. Doesn t really solve the problem. I d need to know more in order to help you. Write a follow up and tell me a few more things. ...

Divorce Issues: Common Law Marriages, poor eye sight, common law marriages
poor eye sight, common law marriages, abusive man: If he had a will and named you as a beneficiary you would, otherwise no. You would need to sue his estate for compensation. Your not entitled to half his house, bank accounts or whatever money he has because your not married. You would have to sue him and...

Divorce Issues: child custody, emotional responsibility, exhusband
emotional responsibility, exhusband, custody fight: Hard to say. Certainly it s not a call anyone could make without interviewing them and others in the family. In general, the eleven is probably, the 8 very much on the edge but also very attached to the 11. So if you take them as a pair, the answer is...

Divorce Issues: confused, supervised visits, spending time
supervised visits, spending time, confusion: My main advice is that you both get therapy. Therapy with the right person will address your confusion. It is not just the situation that has you confused. It s probably relationships in general. You ve made a lot of moves that you later regretted. Consider...

Divorce Issues: contested divorce in PA, divorce attorneys, contested divorce
divorce attorneys, contested divorce, retirement money: Both of you would still be responsible for each others debt and subtracted from assets at the time of divorce. Divorce attorneys will always bleed you dry and will make a contested divorce worse. What exactly does your husband want? I would try to work it...

Divorce Issues: My Daughter wants to live with me (Dad), visitastion, custody
visitastion, custody, monir: usually in most States the court/judge will listen to what a 17 year old wants - remember she attains majority at 18 and that is not long to go. However she is still a monor and a judge may want more detail. The best way to handle it is to ask her mother...

Divorce Issues: Divorce-Ex-wife and family, insightful answers, family politics
insightful answers, family politics, delicate situation: Hi Ken, This is a very difficult and delicate situation. No you are not wrong to think your family could be more sympathetic or understanding. We could talk about that if you wanted to. I don t think that is the immediate issue, however. You ve...

Divorce Issues: divorce, cause of divorce, irreconcilable differences
cause of divorce, irreconcilable differences, sure what your question: I m not sure what your question is. Are you asking whether he can cite adultery as the reason for divorce? Usually reasons for divorce are irreconcilable differences. I don t know where you live, but the cause of divorce in the U.S. is usually not the focus...

Divorce Issues: divorce, jack monroe, legal advice
jack monroe, legal advice, paperwork: Dear Jack Monroe, I am not an attorney and I have no idea whether you are in a no-fault state or not, but here are a couple of suggestions. If the paperwork is already filed, then you can simply file a response and that would at least put her in a position...

Divorce Issues: divorce, final divorce decree, limt
final divorce decree, limt, state assistance: In your final divorce decree you can state that he has to pay 1/2 for daycare, but there is nothing to say he will no matter what is written. That s because if he doesn t comply with the divorce decree, your only recourse is to take him back to court. That...

Divorce Issues: divorce, child support, goverment
child support, goverment, wanda: Dear Wanda, I hope you have a very good job to cover that sort of day care expense. As for the daycare payments, this is my guess. I am not an attorney, but most states have a percentage to figure child support and that is to be used to cover expenses...

Divorce Issues: dont know where he is, adderess, scam company
adderess, scam company, legitimate company: It s easy to find people on the internet now. Different sites are different costs and be careful to choose a legitimate company. Do your research to make sure the company is nt a scam company. If you would like, I can try to search for a good person finder...

Divorce Issues: ex, married man, alcoholism
married man, alcoholism, common law: Don t kid yourself, alchoholics don t change. They can alter their behavior but without intensive lifelong help, it doesn t go away. It has been a long time that you left your husband. You should look ahead. I think you re rebounding that your ex, found...

Divorce Issues: ex won't stop talking in front of kids, fabulous relationship, fragile children
fabulous relationship, fragile children, small boys: Dear Natalie, Some women just absolutely must control their ex-husbands and cannot let go of the control even after the divorce. Unfortunately they will even use the children to maintain their control. The best thing you can do is to just be yourself and...

Divorce Issues: Re calculating support when alimony ends, lasgna, lavish lifestyle
Divorce Issues: Re calculating support when alimony ends, lasgna, lavish lifestyle, alimony

Divorce Issues: Guilt about divorce, zoloft alcohol, desperate attempts
zoloft alcohol, desperate attempts, fabulous kids: No easy answers. If there were, you ve have found them by now. So maybe we need better questions. That s about all I can do given how little I understand. To your main question, no, I don t think it s okay to leave just because you want to, although...

Divorce Issues: inheritance /divorce, inheritance, mu
inheritance, mu, profits: That would depend on the inheritance and how the money was handled when it was cashed. Generally inheritances are not joint assets. If he kept the money in a separate account and never used the money for anything other than investment, then you probably do...

Divorce Issues: how to know when its time to move on, dating, midlife
dating, midlife, starting over: Hi. I don t know what I could add. You sound like you ve done and are doing The Work. There comes a time when you have do something rather paradoxical and this is you have to commit to maybe. You ve learned to say No, without feeling guilty or...

Divorce Issues: leave the house?, extreme pressure, religious beliefs
extreme pressure, religious beliefs, dismay: Dear Steeve, I don t usually give a lot of personal details, but I will share this. My ex-husband and I stayed together for the kids and within days of the youngest graduating, he left. We eventually did divorce and he remarried an old high school flame....

Divorce Issues: Manipulation, power weather, new girlfriend
power weather, new girlfriend, power game: Who issued the current visitation? How old are the kids and do they like your girlfriend? That s a lot of time that you spend with your kids. I would imagine having the kids all the time is beneficial to your ex too. Your posing a really tough question because...

Divorce Issues: Marrige Settlement Paperwork, life insurance policy, step mom
life insurance policy, step mom, financial disclosure: Your question went from somewhat understandable to completely incomprehensible. Why are you sending the paperwork to his step mother? What does claiming head of household have anything to do with signing the settlement agreement? To answer the latter question,...

Divorce Issues: Meaning of a word, strange idioms, market bottoms
strange idioms, market bottoms, belove: Hi Janice, First, thanks for the kind and gratifying feedback. I m not sure what he means. Usually when a market bottoms out it means it s gone as far down as it can go and is starting to recover. When addicts bottom out it means the same thing, that...

Divorce Issues: How to move on.., custody solution, happy kids
custody solution, happy kids, alimony: Let me explain debt to you, it doesn t matter whether your name is on his credit cards, or whether it s his business, you are responsible for 1/2 of his debt. If they can t get it from him they will come after you. It doesn t make sense that a judge would...

Divorce Issues: pre marital property divorce, certain age, divorce
certain age, divorce, bonus: How long has she been out of the house? Did she take the children with her? She wouldn t get the house, she would have been able to stay there until the kids were a certain age. The house at that point would be sold and divided. Since she left, you can sell...

Divorce Issues: preliminary hearing, preliminary hearing, finished basement
preliminary hearing, finished basement, hubby: Yes, you can sell at auction but I m not sure what happens if your husband contests the sale. If you have an attorney I would have something in writing that this is an agreed method of sale between you and your ex. Since he s destroying the property and value...

Divorce Issues: property, elses name, mortgage amounts
elses name, mortgage amounts, someone elses: Unfortunately when you decide to fund a home that is deeded in someone elses name that is not usually compensable. Liens are used by workers who weren t paid for work they did, or from a lender who isn t repaid. At the time that you were paying for her mortgage,...

Divorce Issues: Real property, divorce decree, punitive damages
divorce decree, punitive damages, civil matter: Shauna, A divorce decree does not nullify a previous contract signed by both parties. Actually, after the divorce, the two of you were still joint owners, at least as far as the mortgage company was concerned. I don t know if taking it back over is an option...

Divorce Issues: Recently divorced and Uncertain, midlife transition, adult life
midlife transition, adult life, critical questions: Hi Angela, I think you are asking yourself good questions. Interesting to me that at 26 your write me, my specialty being the midlife transition and how it effects dating, and that your questions are the critical questions people have to ask themselves...

Divorce Issues: refinance, estate economy, divorce decree
estate economy, divorce decree, s real estate: Dear Paul, You said decree but then there is a court date. If the divorce is not yet granted, then it s still open to negotiations. I am not trying to suggest anything questionable here, but since the real estate market is devalued at this point, you...

Divorce Issues: seeing a possible soon to be divorced lady, inevitable effect, rule of thumb
inevitable effect, rule of thumb, smooth road: HI. I got your number and I ll call later. I sent you a short note. AS to what you can do. Do your own therapy. Be ready for the challenges. Appreciate the challenges. The rule of thumb is that the affair relationship is rarely more functional than the...

Divorce Issues: Getting served for divorce while living far away from court, attorney, agreement
attorney, agreement, spousal support: Hi Wendy; I am presuming that because you have been separated for that long that there are very few issues between you remaining. I could be wrong cause you did not provide details. If you have NO issues between you pertaining to children/ support/...

Divorce Issues: Wife very likely wants to divorce., high school sweetheart, lack of affection
high school sweetheart, lack of affection, final decisions: Hi. I had a number of reactions reading your letter. In the first paragraphs where you talked about what good father you were and how your wife travels, I thought, Oh, oh, he s going to tell me she s had an affair. The friend on the last trip. And...

Divorce Issues: Will he want a divorce?, attitude change, rest of our lives
attitude change, rest of our lives, good answer: Your whole approach to this question and answer experience is strange. This entire mailing is available for public view. I suggest you take that into consideration when you present mental health issues on a forum designated for working out arguments...

Divorce Issues: 30 year marriage; 25 year infidelity, marriage counceling, marriage counseling
marriage counceling, marriage counseling, personal journey: Wow, thats a sad story.We never know the people closest to us. For starters I would run as fast as I can and get every disease test available. You want to be amicable? if I were you, I would want to know what this man did to you because if he gave you any...

Divorce Issues: children's sleeping arraingments, step dad, parents room
step dad, parents room, stepdaughters: Once the step son and his daughter get familiar and like each other as siblings, they can share a room. The main thing with that age group is that they not hurt each other physically or emotionally. Soon, the step daughter will have to sleep in her own room...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, maricopa county area, utah board
maricopa county area, utah board, domestic violence: Hi Lonnie, I am shocked that an attorney would allow the mother to leave the state with your sons child. That s really wild. What I would do is contact the Bar association in Utah. See if her actions were legal. Based on what they tell you, would be your next...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Attorney Issues, aggressive attorney, divorce attorney
aggressive attorney, divorce attorney, writing a letter: If he isn t doing the job then I think you re doing the right but costly thing. I would threaten by letter to the attorney that if he doesn t respond to your questions then you will take this to the ethics committee of the BAR association. You need to be...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/remarry with kids, christmas scenes, court appearance
christmas scenes, court appearance, poor idea: Hi. I would love to answer your question but I am not sure I understand it. Here are the points of my confusion. Sounds like you have been divorced for 1.5 years and you met a woman who had two children, one 20 and one a teenager. You dated her...

Divorce Issues: Divorced boyfriend, rule of thumb, gracious host
rule of thumb, gracious host, real person: Interesting story. Your feelings of jealousy are natural and unavoidable. However, the fact that he s bringing you there and that the two of you will be sharing a bed in their house, and that his ex will be your gracious host suggests that you have little...

Divorce Issues: dating after divorce and having teens, doing the right thing, 9 months
doing the right thing, 9 months, senor: First off, your children should not be so busy that you don t get much time with them. Security in your newly blended family will be based on the security in there relationship with you. Spend more time with them one on one. They are saying it feels like...

Divorce Issues: EXEMPTION FOR CHILD OF DIVORCED, child support, support
child support, support, modification: Hello Caroline, This is a tough one to answer and the best would be to seek a local attorney and give him/her the Florida order to read. Usually child support is always modifiable, and nothing can change that; but do once an order was granted regarding...

Divorce Issues: Ex fiance, whole 9 yards, friend cause
whole 9 yards, friend cause, suicide attempt: Hi. Sounds serious. A suicide attempt is major and, really, more than you can handle without the help of professionals. You re dealing with some serious disturbance. Something really strange is up and if the situation seems nuts, maybe it is. If you are...

Divorce Issues: empty beer bottle, empty beer bottle, paraphenilia
empty beer bottle, paraphenilia, school buddies: Dear Mark, I m going to assume you are referring to a child in this question. I do believe that exposure to anything does tend to desensitize a person, and he may associate beer with sports, but anyone watching a game on TV sees all the beer ads, anyway....

Divorce Issues: 30 year marriage; 25 year infidelity, womanizer, adult children
Divorce Issues: 30 year marriage; 25 year infidelity, womanizer, adult children, shock

Divorce Issues: Husband who won't work, doing housework, divorce papers
doing housework, divorce papers, stable job: Hi Michele, I have more questions than answers at this stage, in this respect I m like you...and you have huge questions to deal with here. Your situation is already pretty much of a disaster and it is only waiting to get worse. He dares you file for...

Divorce Issues: incompetent lawyer, dear michael, paperwork
dear michael, paperwork, money back: Dear Michael, Now that he has finally turned over the request, you may have trouble. I am not an attorney and there are different requirements in the various states, but lawyers protect their best interests, always. Lawyers, naturally, cover themselves...

Divorce Issues: Moving with my child..., move away cases, custody
move away cases, custody, pusical custody: Move away cases are extremely complex and a lot will depend on the case law in your state. In matter such as this there is no quick easy advice to be given. You will have to find an expert in move away cases in your county, before you move. You may have...

Divorce Issues: money, paycheck to paycheck, credit card debt
paycheck to paycheck, credit card debt, first mortgage: I thought I responded to you before, but I ll respond again. Debt like assets are SHARED. You will both have to pay your debts.Because you make more money the courts may have you pay a larger percent because you earn more. If he needs to sell the house to...

Divorce Issues: Negativity around the children, parent alienation syndrome, family legacy
parent alienation syndrome, family legacy, horror stories: Hi Glenn, You have a serious problem here. I know you probably don t need someone to tell you that but I want you to know that this stuff often gets quite worse. Check out Parent Alienation Syndrome on the web and read other s horror stories. You...

Divorce Issues: Newborn Son, maternal instincts, exhusband
maternal instincts, exhusband, newborn son: Dear Natasha, I realize your maternal instincts are in gear. I also realize your ex-husband has moved on, but I m guessing is still interested in his responsibilities as a father. My suggestion would be this. He and his wife are a couple and as much as...

Divorce Issues: needing help to stop dwelling on my ex husband, intense feelings, new girlfriend
intense feelings, new girlfriend, new woman: Judy I can completely understand all the emotions you re going through. Although you can t stand them, what you need to understand is, in order to really put your ex husband, your divorce and his new life past you, it s IMPERATIVE that you go through the stages....

Divorce Issues: passive aggressive ex hubby has manipulated both kids to live with him, step mom, hubby
step mom, hubby, child support: Dear Amy, It s very difficult in a divorce situation to not allow the kids to make too many of the decisions. It seems for the sake of the children, the parents really become over accommodating. I think your children need to know where you stand and what...

Divorce Issues: ready to move on, goat business, court decree
goat business, court decree, adultry: Dear Heather, I don t know if you live in a no-fault state or not, but absolutely do not go to bed with the new man, while either of you are still married. As for the house and property, get an attorney to protect your interests. If the house was purchased...

Divorce Issues: Steps of Anger through Divorce, baseball games, nantucket
baseball games, nantucket, detriment: You didn t separate from your ex in 2006 if he left you for 6 months at a time. He emotionally walked out on you a long time ago. Through all his garbage and disrespect you stayed in a dysfunctional marriage for a long time. You probably have enough anger...

Divorce Issues: separation, midlife transitions, final divorce papers
midlife transitions, final divorce papers, classic situation: Hi. Classic situation isn t it. So much depends on what he does (and what it means to him) to find himself. I would say he owes you a few things and this might be difficult for him. I think I d want him to be talking to a therapist who had...

Divorce Issues: My son., support alimony, christmas visit
support alimony, christmas visit, special occasions: Dear Jim, You are absolutely right in realizing life moves on and in being honest with your son. I have just a couple of suggestions for getting through this. First, next time you visit him for the week-end, be sure to tell him you still try to call every...

Divorce Issues: tension, parenting relationship, family atmosphere
parenting relationship, family atmosphere, relaxed atmosphere: You may be trying to control the situation too much. Educate your boyfriend on what is necessary to create a good family atmosphere for your children and hold him up to the challenge of helping create it. If he can t or he refuses, then he may not be the...

Divorce Issues: UNWELCOME VISITS FROM NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT, sole physical custody, parental visitation
sole physical custody, parental visitation, surprise visits: In the above described scenario I commend you for being an excellent father. It must be really hard for you and you did the tough and right thing for your kids. It doesn t sound like your ex is mentally well but how does the kids feel about her visiting? Would...

Divorce Issues: the young adult and the divorcing parents, midlife crisis, exotic dancer
midlife crisis, exotic dancer, divorcing parents: The first thing you have to do is find other things to think about. Focusing on what makes you sad will only make you feel worse. It is okay to think about problems. But don t think about things you can not change for a long periods of time. As you go...

Divorce Issues: 2 year old and divorce., convenience, divorce
convenience, divorce, desire: Hi Parris~ Even though he s very inconsistent to let him see her at his convenience, she still needs her father in her life when she can get the opportunity to see him. As long as you feel comfortable and be flexible with that arrangement then continue...

Divorce Issues: 4-year old and anxiety, emotional presence, family counselor
emotional presence, family counselor, principle source: Hi Tiffany, Thanks for your questions and your concerns. I guess I ll start with your disappointment with the counselor. That seems to have prompted your question. It s hard for me to know what to think about this counselor. This particular kind of therapy...

Divorce Issues: Alimony, money issue, vertebras
money issue, vertebras, getting a job: Hi Julie, sorry to hear about your issues. I don t think your question of Is $300.00 ok the real question here. I would sit down and really make out a financial monthly budget. What exactly are your medical bills, attorney fees, therapy, food costs and...

Divorce Issues: Automobile Insurance for Teen Driver, car insurance policy, automobile insurance
car insurance policy, automobile insurance, daughters name: Hi Debbie~ I m confused here. If it it titled in your older daughters name and your ex-husband s why is your name still on the car insurance? If I understood this right, please correct me if I m wrong here. If your name is on the insurance policy, you...

Divorce Issues: How to answer 30 day, term marriage, custody issues
term marriage, custody issues, disagreements: Dear Lois, I m not an attorney. Keep in mind this attorney works for her, so his advice is for her convenience. If it was a short term marriage and they have no children or community property, there is little need to contest it. If your son has assets...

Divorce Issues: BF scared to marry after divorce, happy relationship, monogamous relationship
happy relationship, monogamous relationship, changes over time: I think counseling can help, will help. He is raising some serious objections but he does not seem to be able to find the words to describe exactly what it is he is concerned about. I think that is where I would start if I were working with you. Perhaps...

Divorce Issues: Biomom harrassment, parental alienation, derogatory manner
parental alienation, derogatory manner, joint custody: Sue: I sympathize and understand. I had a similar situation with my ex s first wife, and his children were terrible to me, as they were just following what their mother had told them. There is only one thing you can do, other than turn the other cheek,...

Divorce Issues: boyfriend's belongings in ex's house, amicable divorce, dear philip
amicable divorce, dear philip, s young: Paula, It s a good question and I get many versions of this question. I have a few thoughts. First of all, that accusation about you being insecure. Well, what if you are? I think it s part of the challenge of being single at midlife. Don t apologize...

Divorce Issues: brother relationships, outer personality, negative influence
outer personality, negative influence, e mail: I can understand what you are going through for years in your heart. What exactly you want to achieve ? Do you want your brother to go your way ? Not possible. Can you go his way ? Not possible. means liking , lifestyle, thinking .... etc. Don...

Divorce Issues: Children and dating, disrespect, single parent
disrespect, single parent, taint: Leave the boyfriend alone. Your children and family come first. Choose your children over him. Anything otherwise will seriously damage your relationship with our children. Choosing your boyfriend over them may also may taint their outlook on relationships...

Divorce Issues: Custody / Suicide Attempt, suicide sleeping pills, suicidal attempts
suicide sleeping pills, suicidal attempts, psych department: WOW, thats heavy stuff! Given her history I would go so far as to fear she may well be a danger to the child as well. You absolutley cannot let her take him. Take your lawyers advice and go to Court and try and get an order in advance of her going either...

Divorce Issues: car, divorce settlement, new car
divorce settlement, new car, bad credit: Dear Frank, I am not an attorney, but I can tell you this. The only way a bank will remove someone from a loan obligation is if the vehicle is refinanced. I don t know of any situations in which the bank simply took a name off the loan. If she wants to...

Divorce Issues: claiming children, military obligation, divorce decree
military obligation, divorce decree, legal answer: I m not a tax expert and I think you could probably find one on this site but I ll do my best. Claiming the children usually is taken every other year alternating the claim. I don t know of any legal stipulation other than is what is in the divorce decree....

Divorce Issues: claiming children, military obligation, legal answer
military obligation, legal answer, tax question: Hi Bryan, It s a little outside my expertise and I think it s a legal/accounting/tax question. I do know of one instance where the right to claim a deduction was in question and one of the parties spoke to the IRS. They said that the person who has the right...

Divorce Issues: controlling relationships, controlling relationships, second opinion
controlling relationships, second opinion, contempt: Well, you weren t kidding about treating all men with contempt. I stand by your suggestion that you get yourself a second opinion because your very good therapist, after seven years, has not addressed that concern of yours. You say that you understand...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and 401K, divorce settlement, head of household
divorce settlement, head of household, free question: I think you should explain your circumstances and offer a payment plan until the amount is paid back or maybe you can get creative with her tax deductions claiming head of household for a few years and get the tax benefits. I m not a tax expert but it would...

Divorce Issues: Divorce necessary within state of marriage, divorce record, state of california
divorce record, state of california, public records: May: Anything is possible, but I would think if she DID file, it would be in the state they were married, or the state that she lived in at the time she filed. Can he try to find her? Also, did you look throughout the state of CA, or just the county? Try...

Divorce Issues: Divorce time frame, new girlfriend, forward address
new girlfriend, forward address, custody visitation: Tough position. What State are you in. You and your ex can enter into an agreement to bring it to an end. If your ex is agreeable, she can fire her attorney whether or not he can be found and she can self represent to get it done. You can both go down to...

Divorce Issues: devorce, habitual drunkenness, gross neglect
habitual drunkenness, gross neglect, fraudulent contract: Robert: Ohio law permits the granting of a divorce only upon a finding by the court that there are statutory grounds to terminate the marriage. There must be testimony by the plaintiff and a corroborating witness (or an admission by the other spouse) as...

Divorce Issues: divorce, retirement pensions, divorce web
retirement pensions, divorce web, divorce papers: Hi Deborah~ It depends. In a lot of states you have to be married a certain number of years, usually 10 is the magic number; in order to be entitled to half of or a portion of 401K and retirement/pensions. Other than that you re entitled to 50% of...

Divorce Issues: divorce contempt, garnishment, contempt
garnishment, contempt, sheila: Hi Sheila~ Yes, he s in contempt of a court order. You ll have to take him back to court. You can see if it s possible if the judge will order a garnishment of his wages to keep paying for the credit cards. If not, then you re will responsible for paying...

Divorce Issues: divorce and house, getting a divorce, divorce papers
getting a divorce, divorce papers, divorce decree: Dear Gina, Be sure that he refinances or it could come back on you. Include it in the divorce papers and make sure it is on the decree. I suppose if he cannot refinance, you could do some sort of owner finance, but make sure you do not remove your name...

Divorce Issues: who has to see the divorce papers?, divorce papers, divorce decrees
divorce papers, divorce decrees, divorce decree: First of all, a person never has to show the entire divorce decree to anyone. There is one paper that has a date, when it was filed and the judge granting the divorce. That would be what is needed to prove they are divorced. Employers do not read divorce decrees...

Divorce Issues: Friends with ex's g/f, mature adults, divorces
mature adults, divorces, out of the blue: Michelle, this is appears to me to be a boundary issue for you. With every encounter, we either demonstrate that we ll protect what we value or that we ll give ourselves away. Healthy boundaries preserve our integrity. I would strongly suggest that you...

Divorce Issues: Frustrated with my ex, little girl, lon
little girl, lon, kiss: Amy: You aren t going to like this answer, but here goes. First, you are still separated, and not yet divorced, which is a factor here. So, if I were you, I would not leave my daughter with my boyfriend. I wouldn t tell him who you are leaving her with,...

Divorce Issues: Friends with ex's g/f, support tool, true friends
Divorce Issues: Friends with ex's g/f, support tool, true friends, divorces

Divorce Issues: moving on, going through the motions, sweat pants
Divorce Issues: moving on, going through the motions, sweat pants, clear signal

Divorce Issues: Husband's X-wife right to demand more money, legal perspective, girls soccer
legal perspective, girls soccer, visitation schedule: Hello Kendra, As hard as this is for you both, it is not a unique situation. The history is of no relevance in the California Courts when it comes to child support. Please note also that without seeing the actual agreement/s and orders my suggestions...

Divorce Issues: home mortage in my name....STILL!, marital settlement agreement, couple fall
marital settlement agreement, couple fall, home mortage: Hi Damion- Sorry you in this awful position. It would be easier to answer the question if I had a copy of the divorce decree for exact reading and any Marital settlement Agreement that may be incorporated into the Court s judgment. That said, to be really...

Divorce Issues: my house, ulterior motives, getting a divorce
ulterior motives, getting a divorce, bad feelings: Hi Charlie~ If you have any bad feelings or hesitation about her intentions don t be afraid to kick her to the curb. Even great looking ppl have ulterior motives when it comes to money, possessions, using ppl, etc. It s always better to be safe than sorry...

Divorce Issues: Infidelity in Alabama, fault divorce, retirement account
fault divorce, retirement account, separate property: Will: As far as the retirement account. The judge takes this into consideration if you have been married for 10 years or more, and she is not entitled to more than 50% of it. Of course, at the judges discretion, he can award her some it, but not all of...

Divorce Issues: joint legal custody and child support, american judicature society, joint legal custody
american judicature society, joint legal custody, garnish wages: The American Judicature Society is a reference by State which gives you some information about acting Pro Se in court. You can check on that site for the forms you need. You also can call your court and tell them what you would like to do and ask them for...

Divorce Issues: The kids want us to leave, rocky marriage, smart mouth
rocky marriage, smart mouth, cuts like a knife: Hi Amy~ He s not going to changed he s already proven that to you. It doesn t seem to be in his character or personality to really want to change for the better to improve and be a better person, husband and father to those children. And really you re...

Divorce Issues: Marrying & relocating a divorced mother of three, parenting plan, divorce decree
parenting plan, divorce decree, sole custody: Hi Jim~ No, this still wouldn t change anything, unless he objected to this move and he had a major problem with it. So unless her ex has a problem with it, then it the new move shouldn t be a problem, as long as they follow the divorce decree as it states...

Divorce Issues: Moving out of state with a child during a separation?, formal arrangement, scary situation
formal arrangement, scary situation, abandonment: Jen, It sounds like you are on top of this. Power addiction is very common in his line of work. Since he has given this a time limit, you have plenty of time to take care of matters from Memphis. I wish you well and please, if you have a chance, let me...

Divorce Issues: maiden name, better business bureau, robert shapiro
better business bureau, robert shapiro, document specialists: It would have been easier if you did it at the time of divorce. I sent you a site for legal information including name changes. Once you have legally changed your name you have to notify all establishments such as the IRS All banks Federal agencies...

Divorce Issues: marrying a man w/kids, tolerant relationship, single motherhood
tolerant relationship, single motherhood, misery loves company: Hi Lynda~ Maybe she s just jealous that he s getting remarried and she s complaining about everything b/c she s unhappy with herself and her current life. There s probably nothing you can say or even do to make her stop complaining and to let up. You...

Divorce Issues: moving on, knight in shining armor, first attraction
knight in shining armor, first attraction, dear mary: Dear Mary, His comment about flare I think refers to a certain way he wants you to be, or a certain trait he found in his mistress. I wish I could tell you something was going to change, but I think the best thing you can do is move on. I am still living...

Divorce Issues: new husband has problem with divorce terms, divorce terms, homefires
divorce terms, homefires, contiguous counties: Dear Jodie, I am sorry for the circumstances. I guess, I could offer this, if your husband knew of your restrictions when he married you, then he agreed to the arrangements when the two of you said I do. I really think that American divorce just doesn...

Divorce Issues: Pregnant and divorcing, divorce decree, paperwork
divorce decree, paperwork, lawyer: Hi Sarah~ I m in MO and in the state of MO you can not get a divorce finalized when you are pregnant. You have to inform the court that you are indeed pregnant and once you ve had the baby, you can then get the divorce finalized. I know this is a fact...

Divorce Issues: pregnant and divorcing, full custody, tender side
full custody, tender side, time mothers: Hi. You ll need to speak to an attorney but my guess is that with a new born you ll have a lot of say so. They seem to tend to give full custody to mothers when children are under six. With newborns you ll probably only have to let him come and see the...

Divorce Issues: probs with ex- hubbys new wife, mother and grandmother, soap opera
mother and grandmother, soap opera, constant thing: Hi Charisse, Not an easy situation for you....so sorry you are going through this! It is a nightmare for some parents to have to deal with the new spouse. It all boils down to immaturity. This woman needs to grow up!! She is jealous and therefore wants...

Divorce Issues: question, grounds for divorce, alaska law
grounds for divorce, alaska law, wa state: In the case of divorce, you can apply for the divorce in the State where you live and in your case Alaska; if you qualify under the domicile requirements. The court that has jurisdiction for you to file is the one where you are domiciled or have lived,...

Divorce Issues: question, couple divorces, question question
couple divorces, question question, false hope: Hi Becky~ Well, if what he s saying is true. And let s give him the benefit of doubt and say he s telling you the truth here. Then while you and I might not agree with how he s doing and handling this. If it works for them, then more power to them (as...

Divorce Issues: who has to read the divorce papers?, divorce papers, divorce decree
divorce papers, divorce decree, marriage license: Hi Sally~ Well, that was certainly rude and uncalled for the comment that that man made. Why did he even need to see the divorce papers at all?! When we did our divorce and even we still had to file married (even though we were separated and in the nearing...

Divorce Issues: relationship with ex- spouse and vacationing, mommy and daddy, rules of thumb
mommy and daddy, rules of thumb, belove: HI Nina, Great story, great question. I think your boyfriend s offer was wise and what I would have recommended. There are two rules of thumb. First rule: They can be as close as they want as long as his ex acknowledges and honors your place...

Divorce Issues: sleeping arrangements, sole legal custody, wholesome environment
sole legal custody, wholesome environment, step brother: Dear Susan, I have no idea as to the age of the children, but if your different gendered children have been sharing a room, then I m guessing once their father s wife and step-son move in, all the arrangements will change anyway. If it s only a 2 bedroom,...

Divorce Issues: am I still married?, superior court of california los angeles, superior court of california
superior court of california los angeles, superior court of california, office hope: Hi Janie; Actually it should not be difficult to find out. My suspicion is that you are probably not divorced, because if you were,you would have received a copy of the Judgment papers from Court; as long as your Husband had a valid address for you. He...

Divorce Issues: strange attitude, loveless marriage, marriage model
loveless marriage, marriage model, strange attitude: Carol: Only he knows what is going on with himself, but the real question is, how well did you know him before you married him? Is he similar to your first husband? It is said that if we do not correct the reasons we married the wrong person the first time...

Divorce Issues: Taxes and children after divorce, military obligation, divorce court
military obligation, divorce court, divorce decree: Yes, I would ask the IRS for their rules if there is no mention of who gets to claim the deduction in the divorce decree. Generally, it goes to the parent with primary custody, which sounds like it is you. In which case, you would claim two. I would not...

Divorce Issues: How to tell my child that the ex has remarried, remarrying, simple answer
remarrying, simple answer, 8 years: Hi. There really isn t a simple answer to this question and there is a lot more I d need to know. I have a couple general thoughts which I will share with you. First of all, 14 is probably old enough to be told and to know what s going on. The largest...

Divorce Issues: unsure in california, 9 months, paperwork
9 months, paperwork, assets: Dear Anthony, I am not an attorney and I am not sure if California is the state you were married, but I d start with where the two of you began this marriage. Call the county in the state you were married and make enquiry. If you were in the military when...

Divorce Issues: Visitation Rights., visitation rights, legal document
visitation rights, legal document, escalation: Hi. If you want a legal document, you ve got to get a lawyer. If you feel things are getting a little tricky...well first try to work it out and see why she s getting weird. Could be in response to something that can be dealt with. Otherwise you ll have to...

Divorce Issues: Visitation w/ Father, own two feet, divorce papers
own two feet, divorce papers, divorce decree: Hi Stacy~ Yes, you most certainly can put in the divorce papers that he s to have a place for the children to sleep, have their clothes, etc. You ll have to get that put into the divorce decree. As for him not returning the clothes, etc. Tell him you...

Divorce Issues: Voiding a divorce, petition for divorce, waiting period
petition for divorce, waiting period, petitioner: Dear Lisa, I am not an attorney. I am unclear as to whether this is Nov. 07 or scheduled for 08. In our state, a divorce must be contested within 30 days or it stands as it reads. Some states may have a longer waiting period. If the divorce has not...

Divorce Issues: Voluntary Seperation Agreement, seperation agreement, maryland laws
seperation agreement, maryland laws, divorce decree: If you had attorneys witness the separation agreement, I would confer with them on whether the agreement actually separates assets. It s important to find out whether you have claims to the assets or not. I could not tell you Maryland laws nor what you have...

Divorce Issues: 1/2 retirement pay, retirement pay, military retirement
retirement pay, military retirement, divorce decree: Dear Kathy, I m not sure I m tracking the time line properly, here. If this was part of the divorce decree or agreement and now your ex-husband has retired, or if this is something that was not included nearly 15 years ago. So, I ll just offer the general...

Divorce Issues: 8 year old girl who is SCARED of step-dad, child support payments, school psychologist
child support payments, school psychologist, messy rooms: Anne: There is no choice. She is your daughter, and you need to speak to your husband about the way he speaks to her. She could view it as demeaning, and self esteem at her age is vital. He should also watch how he is with your child together. Being strict...

Divorce Issues: alimoney, no fault states, part time job
no fault states, part time job, dear bill: Dear Bill, I don t know how long the two of you have been married, but if the youngest child is 24 and belongs to both of you, then your wife may be entitled to some alimony. Just because she is asking for $1,000 doesn t mean you have to agree or that a...

Divorce Issues: boyfriends exwife, sour face, joint custody
sour face, joint custody, rest of my life: You have a classic step family situation. In other cases like yours the ex had manipulated not only the husband but has also manipulated the kids. It s really complex. The man is a package deal and you will be dealing with him and his ex-wife for years...

Divorce Issues: Custody in Massachusetts, custody move, contempt of court
custody move, contempt of court, divorce decree: Hi Stan~ Divorce can vary very greatly from state to state. So here is a great divorce website on divorce. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state where you reside. It will give you divorce laws of your state, along with other info you may find...

Divorce Issues: How can I change?, time text, bible studies
time text, bible studies, midlife crisis: Gosh Laurel, what a hard story you have to tell. My practice usually has someone in it with a story similar to yours. So start thinking about getting into therapy for yourself if you can afford it. You are in a very difficult financial situation right...

Divorce Issues: changing divorce papers without a lawyer`, legal jargon, divorce papers
legal jargon, divorce papers, negotiation process: Alex: You can always make changes without signing, which is what the negotiation process and keeping it out of court is all about. Generally, you have an attorney who will go back and forth to make those negotiations, but I don t see why you can t do it...

Divorce Issues: custody of my 1 1/2 year old, new girlfriend, custody agreement
new girlfriend, custody agreement, fianc: Regina: Thank you for such a concise explanation. First of all, you do not have any legal recourse over who watches your son when he is with your husband. As long as he is with a responsible adult. Look at it this way. If things change, for instance,...

Divorce Issues: custody, emotional behavior, full custody
emotional behavior, full custody, emotional changes: Jessica: This is an issue you need to take back to court. You need a better attorney than the one you had before. Explain that financially and emotionally it will be better for both you and your son. You don t want to deny the father s rights, but if can...

Divorce Issues: custody of son, nebraska court, temporary custody
nebraska court, temporary custody, half brother: Michelle, i am sorry you are in this awful position. There are many questions that need to be answered to truly assess you case. The simple answer is yes, there is always hope. Did the judge in TX give a reason as to why s/he ordered the custody for him?...

Divorce Issues: Desertion, dining room table and chairs, large screen tv
dining room table and chairs, large screen tv, personal possessions: Hi Rhonda~ I don t personally know about the state of PA, but I ll give you a generalization of what most states do/require. Since they aren t married and HE left her she s not obligated to give him anything else, including the furniture or anything else...

Divorce Issues: Developing Boundaries with an ex wife, angry messages, negative attention
angry messages, negative attention, little distance: She is not thinking rationally. It will be very difficult to get her to behave rationally. You could create a little distance in order to prevent her from doing all this. You could have a relative go into her house to pick up your child or pick up your...

Divorce Issues: Devorced for 2 years remarried and have joint custody with 1st marriage, individual health insurance, marriage help
individual health insurance, marriage help, devorced: Aulani: It depends on what it says in the decree as to who is to carry the health insurance. If you can t be covered by your company, and your ex is covered, it should not be an issue for him to put your son on his health insurance, in fact, it is quite...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Property, property question, having an affair
property question, having an affair, financial responsibility: Hi Terry~ You should be able to do that (keep it there for a while) and you can hold his stuff hostage until you can recoup your losses that he took of your property. All you need to do is plead your case to the judge. Tell him that he took your wedding...

Divorce Issues: Divorce for seniors, disability checks, social security check
disability checks, social security check, disability pension: Dear Gigih, I am not an attorney, but I would say, your mother should have quite a case. I recommend that you obtain a consultation with an attorney. Often the first one is free and just see what her options are. If the rental income is in both names or...

Divorce Issues: divorce, pastor kim, sleeping in my car
pastor kim, sleeping in my car, military pension: Hi Kristine, I think it s disgraceful how your husband is treating you. You need to contact an attorney asap. Contact one and see if they can give you a free consultation. You should be getting child support and you should get part of his military pension....

Divorce Issues: divorce with a 4 year old, 9 months, sake
9 months, sake, zoo: Hi Juliana~ It should be fine for you to go to the zoo with her and your ex. As long as she knows (and you make it clear to her) that you and the ex aren t getting back together. This way she won t get her hopes up. But if it s possible it s perfectly...

Divorce Issues: divorce decree, daughter graduates, divorce document
daughter graduates, divorce document, divorce decrees: I don t know what can be done but to hire an attorney and look at the divorce decree for loopholes. Lawyers love to leave divorce decrees open ended so you will need them at a later point to finalize what was agreed to. Such as, supposing in your divorce document...

Divorce Issues: divorce and kids, childrens welfare, divorce papers
childrens welfare, divorce papers, grocery shops: How did your ex wife get your minor children to another state without your consent? You have visitation to visit them in your state or theirs? Minor children cannot determine their rights, the courts do that to determine who will make decisions for the kids.Your...

Divorce Issues: divorce and pregnancy, extra marital affair, getting a divorce
extra marital affair, getting a divorce, dupage county: Theresa: There is no law that prevents it, but you have to be separated for 2 years, or mutually agreed upon 6 months. Other than that, no. Your husband can file for divorce under the grounds of an extra marital affair, and the divorce will be granted sooner....

Divorce Issues: estranged daughter/stepdaughter, masters in psychology, constant reminder
masters in psychology, constant reminder, great relationship: I m sorry that I took so long to answer your question! I saw it but then it disappeared from the system when I signed on to answer it!! Strange. I, too, am a psychology major and I also was alienated from my father for YEARS. It was not until I had children...

Divorce Issues: 8 year old girl who is SCARED of step-dad, differance, hard time
Divorce Issues: 8 year old girl who is SCARED of step-dad, differance, hard time, good luck

Divorce Issues: estranged daughter/stepdaughter, stepdaughter, suffering
Divorce Issues: estranged daughter/stepdaughter, stepdaughter, suffering

Divorce Issues: How to file a divorce w/ no money, state divorce laws, lifetime decision
state divorce laws, lifetime decision, nevada residency: Please look at the link I have provided as well as the excerpt below. You can read online all the information you need to file for divorce. The ideal situation for filing without an attorney is when the plaintiff knows her rights and what she wants from the...

Divorce Issues: Girlfriend, divorce decree, and2
divorce decree, and2, affidavit: Hi Carrie~ Unfortunately the court is right, he s free to do as he wishes (within reason, of course, as long as he doesn t endanger the children or abuse them) in his own home while the children are visiting him on his time with them. There have been...

Divorce Issues: girlfriend says it's over, we have two kids, allexperts, those kids
allexperts, those kids, half year: Jason: You need to get some counseling to help you through this. Yes, you should move. It is easier for you to move yourself, then for your girlfriend to move her and two children. Ask her for some help financially if you can t afford it. Do what she...

Divorce Issues: Harrassment/Emotional Abuse, joint legal and physical custody, mail letters
joint legal and physical custody, mail letters, phone conversations: Melinda: You are doing everything you can. But, filing a motion may cut down on his visitation and perhaps even only allow him access with someone else present, but you will not get his access taken from him. Generally, the courts will only modify if you...

Divorce Issues: To leave/not to leave, narrow perspective, roommates
narrow perspective, roommates, 8 years: Hi Complex problem you have. Not unusual to have in-law problems in the early years. Most marriages are marriages of families. Your mom s reaction seems to point to a very complex story and I do wonder what that is about and why she first wanted you...

Divorce Issues: Mortgage, e mail address, legal responsibility
e mail address, legal responsibility, thousands of dollars: Hello Adam, Actually there are circumstances, depending on many factors, where banks are required to take one spouse (ex) off mortgage pursuant to the court order/ agreement / interspousal transfer as the case may be; The best thing to do is to call the mortgagor/...

Divorce Issues: negative comments to our 4 year old, sole custody, poor behavior
sole custody, poor behavior, order of protection: A four year old girl needs her mother s protection from the psychological abuse that is being inflicted on her. You don t say why your husband was tasered, but it would suggest that he is also physically abusive. Take your lawyer s advice. If your husband...

Divorce Issues: negative comments to our 4 year old, aggression children, order of protection
aggression children, order of protection, sole custody: Children who are split from divorce display a host of issues. I would certainly take advice from my attorney and if an order of protection is necessary than don t fool around with that. You re not in control of what will elevate his aggressiveness. You need...

Divorce Issues: negative remarks about me to our 4 year old, marital dispute, horror story
marital dispute, horror story, negative remarks: Hi Shannon. Sounds like a horror story. If you are afraid to get a restraining order because you are intimidated, or afraid it will only increase his level of aggression, then you should definitely get a restraining order and explain that to the judge...

Divorce Issues: Question on Taxes, devorced 2 years, remarried and have Joint Custody with 1st marriage, marriage help, joint custody
marriage help, joint custody, physical custody: Aulani: I am not 100% sure, and it is best to consult an accountant, but if you have been claiming your son over the past two years, then yes, you can still claim him as your dependent. Because you are receiving support, you are probably the one that has...

Divorce Issues: Right of First Refusal, parenting time, magnet school
parenting time, magnet school, first right of refusal: Alyson: I am actually in court right now over similar things and winning, so keep the hope and the faith. Public schools do not like to admit to needing things such as testing, because then they have to pay for it. Test him privately, get your results and...

Divorce Issues: Separation agreement New York law - 1 year with notarized doc, separation agreement, abandonment
separation agreement, abandonment, syl: Syl: If he signs the agreement and it is notarized, then after the year, you only have to file with the separation agreement, and the divorce will be granted. If he doesn t agree to sign, you can t state abandonment if you leave, only if he does. If you...

Divorce Issues: Spousal support/child support, stay at home mom, special needs children
stay at home mom, special needs children, food stamps: Hi Rhonda~ Since you already have a temp order in place. The chances are in your favor of him being ordered to keep paying you this support. Either way he WILL be forced to pay child support at the very least, and it ll be based on his annual gross income....

Divorce Issues: Statue of LImitations, statue of limitations, remarrying
statue of limitations, remarrying, time note: No, its not true and Statute of limitations would be the wrong code in any event. In Texas neither party may marry a third party before the 31st day after the date the divorce is decreed. However, the former spouses may marry or remarry each other at any...

Divorce Issues: My son and daughter in law, legal separation agreement, law question
legal separation agreement, law question, montell: Dave: Mediation is essentially when you hire someone to work out all the issues between the parties. Each party sits in a separate room, tells the mediator what they want, and then the mediator goes to each party to see if an agreement can be worked out....

Divorce Issues: Trying to relocate with child, degree papers, divorce decree
degree papers, divorce decree, answe: Hi Annie~ If your decree says you are allowed to leave the state and take your son and there is no time frame. Then there is absolutely nothing holding you back and nothing saying you can t pick up and move to another state to relocate, say, tomorrow if...

Divorce Issues: In trouble, child support amount, andrea andrea
child support amount, andrea andrea, divorce papers: Andrea: First off, without a lawyer, your father in law is in deep trouble. If he got some kind of settlement that went into her account and the money has been spent, there is no recovering it. But, if you live in a community property state, then half of...

Divorce Issues: Vacation, domestic violence issues, physical custody
domestic violence issues, physical custody, joint custody: If he agreed one minute why did he change his mind the next. It seems to me that you don t trust someone who you have a restraining order on and domestic violence issues. Why would you trust someone like that? I certainly would NOT leave my kids if they were...

Divorce Issues: Vehicle Rights, texas divorce law, anniversary gift
texas divorce law, anniversary gift, ghost: Dear Ghost, I am not an attorney and it seems that Texas has it s own laws, anyway. Now about this car . . . I smell a rat. I m guessing his high dollar vehicle is in his name only? At any rate, this other vehicle that was never paid for is, technically...

Divorce Issues: won't sign, mediator, paperwork
mediator, paperwork, judgment: Hi Candy~ He can only stall and prolong the divorce for so long before the judge will become ticked off. You need to get on to your lawyer to get the papers signed so that the divorce can be finalized. You can also plead your case to the judge and ask...

Divorce Issues: ?, boyfriends, 35 years
boyfriends, 35 years, 18 years: Gabby: Were you married to him or did you just take his last name as if you were married? If you were legally married, with papers, then yes, you would need to get a divorce from him, and your current marriage would not be legal. If you were never legally...

Divorce Issues: what to do?, parental alienation, sole custody
parental alienation, sole custody, order of protection: Shannon: Welcome to most women s lives when they leave the husband. I go through this with my ex. It only hurts them. Just keep your chin up and keep doing the right thing. In the end, you will win out. He is angry at you and taking it out on your daughter....

Divorce Issues: Do x-husbands need to help pay for college, marital settlement agreements, orange county ca
marital settlement agreements, orange county ca, smile 2: Hi Marianne, I know that putting a child through college is a daunting task. Some divorcing parties try and take care of a child s college in their marital settlement agreements; others are too contentious to get that far into the future or to even deal with...

Divorce Issues: Alimony - Permanent Support, temporary custody, alimony
temporary custody, alimony, child support: Sam: It depends on the state you live in. If your wife is not impaired in any way, the court will take that into consideration, and then the alimony will be doled out accordingly. You can also ask the court to consider alimony for a short period of time,...

Divorce Issues: Better Life, auto accidents, terrific children
auto accidents, terrific children, full custody: Hi Tom~ This can t go on a moment longer, the longer you remain with her the more your children are in danger of her drinking and driving with them, etc. And you just can t keep putting your children at risk. You d never forgive yourself should something...

Divorce Issues: My Bipolar ex raising my child, stable relationship, meal time
stable relationship, meal time, hard stuff: You re in a very difficult situation. I am not familiar with the problems associated with bipolar disorder directly but I do know people who are. What was told to me is that people with bipolar are ok as long as they stay on their medication.. but... they...

Divorce Issues: Breaking up while pregnant, baby talk, 3 years
baby talk, 3 years, priority: Hi Nicole, You only have 7 yrs of history together with him. (or is it more ?, and let s say 2 years of intense love relationship ? let s not count from the first day you were intimate, rather from the day when you felt that you won t see any one else besides...

Divorce Issues: child support change, florida dept of revenue child support, florida child support
florida dept of revenue child support, florida child support, florida child support guidelines: I do not know Florida court procedure. You may not need an attorney if the child s right to support has ended due to his attaining majority. BUT you should go to your local child support office and ask how they formalize the ending of child support. Should...

Divorce Issues: Division of marital property, legal recourse, household property
legal recourse, household property, uncontested divorce: Dear Richard, I am not an attorney, but I think you have a couple of options here. Check with the attorney that filed the divorce, if there was one and see what it determined. The other idea would be to send your ex-wife a certified letter reminding her...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/Custody - Anticipating a move out of state, divorce custody, divorce papers
divorce custody, divorce papers, sole custody: Hi Melissa~ As long as it doesn t stipulate that you can NOT move out of state with your daughter, then you re free to move out of state whenever you want. However it d be much easier if you waited until the divorce was finalized then you don t have to...

Divorce Issues: Divorce-co signer on car loan, temporary restraining order, storage place
temporary restraining order, storage place, co signer: Hi Angela, a temporary restraining order will not help because it s the company that will be on your property, not your husband. As far as what can be done regarding the car, you can move the car and keep it at a safe place. Keep it where he wouldn t know...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Petition Filed by me, divorce petition, matrimonial advertisement
divorce petition, matrimonial advertisement, government servant: Dear Rajeev, I understand your position and harassment done to you, but this is totally a legal case now, Because of police and lawyers involved. Any counselor advice would have been only helpful if you had contacted counselor when first time you saw any...

Divorce Issues: division of marital assests, divorce lawyer, family divorce
divorce lawyer, family divorce, divorce laws: Dear Marilyn, I am not an attorney and this is definitely a legal question. I don t want to ill advise. Of course, the degree belongs to the person that obtained it, as does the license. If there is a situation of income differences that the license has...

Divorce Issues: divorce/child support, divorce proceedings, getting a divorce
divorce proceedings, getting a divorce, divorce child: Hi Susan~ That s simply untrue. If he chooses to keep paying the house payments that his personal choice. But by law he s obligated to pay child support if so ordered by a judge. And it would look awfully bad on him in court if he suddenly stopped paying...

Divorce Issues: divorce question, full time job, twenty four years
full time job, twenty four years, insurance laws: Dear Colleen, I am not an attorney and I do not know the insurance laws of Pennsylvania. I hope you give this idea more thought. Twenty-four years is a great deal of time invested. Your children are nearly grown. If there is abuse or unfaithfulness, that...

Divorce Issues: divorce/visitation, drug and alcohol abuse, divorce visitation
drug and alcohol abuse, divorce visitation, alchoal: Terra: Unless you have temporary orders that state you have physical custody, then custody is joint, and he has every right to take your kids to visit the girlfriend out of town. It will be hard to get a judge to not allow your children to travel with your...

Divorce Issues: divorced parents and are kids entitled, sole custodian, wonts
sole custodian, wonts, divorced parents: Well, then that s new, because that isn t the way it works in Texas. In Texas, you can make anyone the trustee to money that is intended for children. After all, it is his mother and the inheritance doesn t go to her. So, that doesn t make any sense...

Divorce Issues: divorse, divorse, whiting
divorse, whiting, time limit: If he does not file a response within the time, you can go to Court to file a default for Judgment for divorce. You will need to fill out all the forms, which differ for each State. You can go down to court to pick up the forms. Make sure you put in the documents...

Divorce Issues: ex and son, doing the right thing, alcoholism
doing the right thing, alcoholism, 17 years: I think what would be most helpful for you (if you haven t done this) is to go to at least six meetings of Alanon. It is the 12 step program for people who are spouses and partners of alcoholics. What will happen is that you will hear many people, mainly...

Divorce Issues: ex-wife, heart to heart talk, heart to heart
heart to heart talk, heart to heart, ppl: Hi Nancy~ No, this definitely isn t normal for her to do at all. In fact, I ve heard of very few ppl thinking that this is normal and it s certainly not. However, if your BF is comfortable doing this, then I suppose you have to respect his decision to...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Petition Filed by me, situation 5, earning money
Divorce Issues: Divorce Petition Filed by me, situation 5, earning money, facts of life

Divorce Issues: Meeting husband tomorrow & he wants divorce, lucky star, high time
Divorce Issues: Meeting husband tomorrow & he wants divorce, lucky star, high time, 8 years

Divorce Issues: Do not not want to be married anymore., arse, whore
Divorce Issues: Do not not want to be married anymore., arse, whore

Divorce Issues: filing child support modification and amendment, child support modification, divorce decree
child support modification, divorce decree, time and money: Hi LaShelle~ Yes, you can file both at the same time. This will save you time and money (including court fees) in the long run. I don t know the answer to your other question. Sorry I wasn t able to answer it b/c I honestly have no clue about that. ...

Divorce Issues: fornication, recovering drug addict, divorce decree
recovering drug addict, divorce decree, onething: Hi Lisa~ Yes, you sure can put these stipulations into the finalized divorce decree. And you should be very insistent on doing so. You have in your favor that he s a recovering drug addict. And that your children are put at risk of being in harms way...

Divorce Issues: do I give up now, reconcilable differences, ups and downs
reconcilable differences, ups and downs, amazing kids: Hi Bruce, Yes, lots of thoughts. First thought is a book by Shirley Glass called Not Just Friend : Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity. That will give you lots to think about. And you do have a lot of sorting out to do. ...

Divorce Issues: HUSBAND LEAVES FAMILY FOR SISTER-IN-LAW, sole provider, help centers
sole provider, help centers, full custody: Firstly he is a bully. Scondly you need to go down to the local Court and get child support for the 2 year old, aliimony for you and expenses money fpr the baby until you need him to provide support for the new child as well. The Court in your County will...

Divorce Issues: Immigration and divorce, marriage annulled, divorce paperwork
marriage annulled, divorce paperwork, mr rodgers: Hi Jeff~ If you ve been married less than a year, then you can get the marriage annulled. If it s been more than a year, then you ll have to go through a traditional divorce. In which you ll have to serve her with the divorce paperwork, go to court, etc....

Divorce Issues: Marital Property, private mediator, assets and liabilities
private mediator, assets and liabilities, independent legal advice: California law is clear on the subject of community property (CP). It is not always clear when separate property is transmuted or commingled, which makes it possibly community property. There is a myriad of case law on the subject so to answer the question...

Divorce Issues: Meeting husband tomorrow & he wants divorce, 5 months, wits
5 months, wits, counselor: Here s the thing. You simply must be prepared for the worst. If you are not, you will not be able to do anything constructive. I can t stress this enough. It s why you got into the trouble you got into. You really don t ever want to feel that you have only...

Divorce Issues: A married man misled me for 14 years, lies and deceptions, palimony
lies and deceptions, palimony, married man: Well... what can I say here? You always run the risk of someone lying and being deceitful if you don t marry the person. Even if you are married there s always the possibility of someone having more than one wife. It happens. But at least with a marriage...

Divorce Issues: military hubby wants out of marriage, career in real estate, strengh
career in real estate, strengh, medical benefits: Hi Jody. Quite a roller coaster you are on, and very unpleasant for you. You are in shock. Somewhere inside you must have seen this coming. Lot of people do when they feel all is lost. I can tell you that over the next several years, whether you guys...

Divorce Issues: I need help !, full time work, german citizen
full time work, german citizen, drunk person: Hi Claudia~ As long as you are married to him you can go anywhere you wish, including back to Germany with the children. And you can file for a divorce back in Germany. However, doing this in two different countries can be tough and tricky to divorce,...

Divorce Issues: Phone Calls, share custody, hinderance
share custody, hinderance, occasions: Rod: You can t tell her not to call, but you can get your decree amended to say that she can only call during certain days and times if it is harassing or disruptive to you and the kids during your time. Talk to your attorney and see if you they can get...

Divorce Issues: Problems w/divorce attorney, divorce judgment, divorce agreement
divorce judgment, divorce agreement, uncontested divorce: Hi Judy, where is this hearing scheduled? Who says you have to attend and will you be charged for this hearing? Some attorneys actually have the nerve to charge for grievance hearings. What would happen if you don t attend? Since it already has gone this far,...

Divorce Issues: Do I have to pay for any college?, stay at home dad, ivy league schools
stay at home dad, ivy league schools, divorce court: Dear Keith, I think, and I am not an attorney and have no idea what New Jersey family laws are, but I do think non-custodial parents continue paying the designated support decreed by the divorce court, through the college years. The tuition is another matter....

Divorce Issues: property settlement before divorce, temporary custody papers, traffiking
temporary custody papers, traffiking, lawyer fees: He should address this situation with his attorney. I would be very concerned with who she has affiliations with, rather than whether she can get half of his half. Once there is a signed agreement I believe that s a contract and it would require her to enforce...

Divorce Issues: re ex husband and sister, blood is thicker than water, sensitive subject
blood is thicker than water, sensitive subject, inner peace: Hi Trudy~ Well, if you have a strong suspicion that this might actually happen down the road. Then, yes, you would be justified in loving her, but keeping her at a distance. It s whatever you re most comfortable with doing. Even though it ll be tough...

Divorce Issues: Getting remarried and moving with kids, custody schedules, divorce decree
custody schedules, divorce decree, agreeable solution: interesting. I would have thought that he would have said he wanted them to live with him! I didn t realize that he would want them to stay in a city with no mother, no father. Makes no sense at all. There are two trains of thought: 1. The best defense...

Divorce Issues: our rented home, hays county texas, divorce proceedings
hays county texas, divorce proceedings, texas lawyer: Dear Michelle, I am not an attorney, state laws vary, and it seems that Texas has it s own laws, altogether. I think you need to ask an attorney what your options are. If your husband drinks, is there any danger of him getting angry over a divorce and hurting...

Divorce Issues: Spousal maintainance in NY, social security disability, disability retirement
social security disability, disability retirement, chronic fatique syndrome: Hi Jim~ She s not legally entitled to any inheritance that you may ever receive. Only if you wish to share that with her during the marriage. She s mistaken at that, there are laws in place that protect the inheritor from this type of thing happening....

Divorce Issues: Still love exhusband, first cousin, exhusband
first cousin, exhusband, share responsibilities: I would be very honest and tell him that you feel that you have made a mistake, that you still love him, that if he feels the same way too - and can find it in his heart to forgive you and move on - you would like to try and work things out. You may be...

Divorce Issues: stuck in kansas, rhode island
rhode island: Hi Shannan~ Since you re not married, you can leave the state at any time. In order for him to say you can t he has to get a court order saying that you re not to leave the state to go back home to RI. Other than that you can go and do whatever with your...

Divorce Issues: Telling our 4 year old, mommies and daddies, young ones
mommies and daddies, young ones, fun things: From the little you ve told me I can t tell. But in these kinds of situations it s often hard to tell. Just keep watching and stay steady. The fallout will happen eventually. It has to. Divorces are quite hard on kids, especially very young ones....

Divorce Issues: I want my marriage to survive., skeletal dysplasia, time mother
skeletal dysplasia, time mother, bed rest: Hello, First of all, I extend my sympathies and condolences. Sorry about your loss. It s very sad. There are a couple good reasons for you guys to try and work things out and you ve not mentioned them. The children will do much much better with a mom...

Divorce Issues: Do not not want to be married anymore., civil service position, fort irwin ca
civil service position, fort irwin ca, airborne training: Hi. You re a brave and conscientious man. Thanks for the question. There IS a lot at stake here and it s not just the marriage but also the kids and their need to have their mom and dad together. Still, at some level you really do sense that this...

Divorce Issues: 25 years later, wonderful father, anwser
wonderful father, anwser, baby daughter: Your prior husband left his rights to your daughter and her children a long time ago. If you and your daughter have no interest in persuing a relationship with this man, then I would simply ignore him. Don t answer his phone calls, his e mails, his letters,...

Divorce Issues: alimony, pay stubs, doctorate degree
pay stubs, doctorate degree, marital assets: The fact that you choose to remain in the house will not reduce your alimony obligation. Why are you still in the house? Since she has an inheritance and is commingling this with marital assets you can use this to reduce alimony, but where were you when the...

Divorce Issues: should I assume she is thinking clearly, mother and wife, callousness
mother and wife, callousness, d day: Hi Brian~ She s the one that made the decision to be in this current position that she s in. Now, she has to live with that choice. This isn t something that you did or contributed to, she has to become responsible for her OWN poor choices in life, and...

Divorce Issues: Broken Relationship, probate court system, broken relationship
probate court system, broken relationship, arguement: Dear Lynn, There are two ways to consider this. One, your will is nobody s business until you die, and you re the mom, so you don t answer to your son. The other way to consider this situation is to simply state it as is, and there will be no argument,...

Divorce Issues: boyfriend and his ex are "best friends", doctorate degree, exwife
doctorate degree, exwife, wonderful man: Dear Johnna, You have a right to your feelings, whatever they are. And yes, you absolutely have a right to feel hurt. If it s still like this after 5 years, affairs, and dating, these two just have some sort of deal that they are choosing to hurt others...

Divorce Issues: My boyfriend has reservations about my kids, initial concerns, taking the risk
initial concerns, taking the risk, cold feet: I wouldn t be so rough on him. He was being honest and expressive - both great qualities. If he has never been married and does not have any children of his own, I think he is being very mature to look realistically at the situation prior to getting seriously...

Divorce Issues: Change divorce decree out of state, divorce decree, voluntary child
divorce decree, voluntary child, child support: Hi Jenelle~ You have about a 50-50 chance of getting the decree changed. It might be a bit difficult to do since it s from another state. But it shouldn t be impossible to do. You would need to file a motion to change the divorce decree with the family...

Divorce Issues: Child Support Arrears, davidson county tennessee, child support arrears
davidson county tennessee, child support arrears, divorce decree: Wow! Dear Coal, this is indeed quite a situation. I am so sorry about the passing of your child and cannot imagine how hard that is. I am not sure from your question if your ex is trying to get back child support (CS) or not? It is not clear from your question...

Divorce Issues: child custody amendment, change of circumstance, stay at home mom
change of circumstance, stay at home mom, divorce agreement: Hi Amy, I don t know the laws in Arizona, but it s possible the state that you live in will not reopen a settled divorce. However, in some states you can take your ex back to court for change of circumstance. You have a few things going against you........

Divorce Issues: child support, child support money, income tax returns
child support money, income tax returns, child support enforcement: Hi Judy~ She has to inform the court that he s refusing to pay his child support. They can find him in contempt of a court order and put him in jail if necessary. But she has to go back to court to do this, otherwise, he s going to skate free and get...

Divorce Issues: clean cut divorce in California, divorce in california, divorce papers
divorce in california, divorce papers, pain in the butt: Hi Melanie~ No, it s not necessary that you have a lawyer, it s just a good idea, but not required at all. You should still be able to get a hearing in front of a judge w/o a lawyer. But you d have to probably schedule a court date to get the paperwork...

Divorce Issues: custody, custody agreement, physical custody
custody agreement, physical custody, disagreement: Dear Brenda, I am not an attorney. If the agreement in Missouri was not altered, then it still stands, but if there was any clause about you moving or anything, that could be an issue. As far as the age of the children deciding, each state is different,...

Divorce Issues: DIVORCE - CHILDREN & INHERITANCE, divorce children, divorce decree
divorce children, divorce decree, bridge tunnel: Dear Dominick Lasaponaro, You need to consult an attorney. State laws vary regarding inheritance and divorce. If your state is a no-fault state, then probably the divorce will take place, regardless of your feelings, religion, or choice. As far as custody,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce or not???, emotional risk, rough shape
emotional risk, rough shape, kingdom of heaven: Hi Jim, Let me first say that adultery is wrong, wrong, wrong. God denounces it and He is quite clear that adulterers will not enter the kingdom of heaven. Adultery carries all kinds of consequences. It is far reaching... Your wife needs to repent before...

Divorce Issues: Divorce / home?, Divorce Division of property pension mediatio
Divorce Division of property pension mediatio: Hi Bella, Tough situation, but seems the law is on your side. Do not give up to any bullying and make sure TO ASK YOUR ATTORNEY as much as you would like to know. It is a great idea to educate yourself so you can pursue your attorney with good questions....

Divorce Issues: Divorce question., grievance committee, divorce agreement
grievance committee, divorce agreement, necessary paperwork: Yes, you can go the courts and file for divorce. They can give you the necessary paperwork. My question is did you pay the attorney to draw up a divorce agreement? You should write a letter to the attorney stating that if he doesn t respond to your inquiry...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/re-married, social security number, sheer joy
social security number, sheer joy, last known address: I don t really have enough information to help you here. Did you live in the same state when she filed for divorce? If she used a social security number, you can check with the courts, you can check with vital statistics, you can check with the IRS and if...

Divorce Issues: Divorse Payment, daytona 500 race, mail letter
daytona 500 race, mail letter, certified mail: Hi Chris~ You can try to take her back to court w/o the aid of an attorney, just explain to the judge why you didn t have legal counsel with you, due to financial reasons, most of the time they ll understand. Lawyers just add more to the cost of taking...

Divorce Issues: dating during separation, legal question, legal document
legal question, legal document, alimony: Hi Mark, This is too important. Also it s a legal question. I don t know anything about it because I m a psychologist. Surely you must have a lawyer handling your divorce. if you are legally separated you should a legal document describing the...

Divorce Issues: dating during separation, adultery, alimony
adultery, alimony: Hi Mark~ Once you are separated from the official separation date, it s considered moving on with your life. And being involved with another person doesn t legally constitute adultery. So, no, she can t come back and later say that you ve been cheating...

Divorce Issues: dating during separation, waiting periods, divorce decree
waiting periods, divorce decree, married man: Dear Mark, I am not an attorney, but the states that do have waiting periods for divorces tend to keep tighter rules in regard to the separation. Technically, in any state until there is a divorce decree, you are a married man. Of course, complications...

Divorce Issues: dating during separation, fault divorce, separation papers
fault divorce, separation papers, attorn: How and why would you lose your home if she is no longer on the deed. If you completely separated assets then I can t see how you could lose your house. I would certainly go to Legalguru.com and ask an attorney in your state this question. He will be able...

Divorce Issues: death after divorce, social security office, social security benefits
social security office, social security benefits, dumb question: Yes, you are divorced not widowed; however, depending on how long you were married and your age, you may be entitled to some social security benefits. You might want to contact the Social Security Office, your local Family Court division, or your lawyer....

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce paperwork, divorce web
divorce paperwork, divorce web, divorce papers: Hi Ronda~ You don t have to have a lawyer to file a response to his paperwork. It s good to have, if you can afford one, but not required or even necessary to file your response. You MUST file a response to his divorce paperwork or he ll be granted everything...

Divorce Issues: divorce/custody, divorce custody wife husband ex
divorce custody wife husband ex: Hi Dan, It is absolutely unconscienable on te part of your ex to involve your children on this age. They are still impressionable and this really sets them up for unhealthy relationships of their own n the future. I do not think she will succeed in getting...

Divorce Issues: divorce and family realtionships after, exhusband, family fued
exhusband, family fued, graduation party: Hi, I think it was very appropriate for you and your children to decide how you deal with any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. I personally would have done the same thing if my feelings and my kids feelings weren t taken into consideration. I...

Divorce Issues: divorce and selling assets, foreclosure proceedings, getting a divorce
foreclosure proceedings, getting a divorce, household bills: Dear Jenni, I am not an attorney and you do have one, so I can t really give any legal advice, but I can offer this. If he s been ordered to maintain all assets and you go to court in 2 1/2 weeks, take all the evidence that you have shared with me. Even...

Divorce Issues: divorced sister, devout catholic, sponser
devout catholic, sponser, immaturity: Hi Jen, You are walking a fine line because you risk hurting either of them if you tell them they shouldn t come to the party. I think your sister needs to do some growing up. It s a sign of immaturity for your sister to get upset with your choice of...

Divorce Issues: divorse, divorce situation, guilt trip
divorce situation, guilt trip, mortgage deed: Hi Karen~ It sounds like he s trying to guilt trip you into not filing for a divorce. So he s going to tell you and try to convince you otherwise. Everyone is affected by a divorce, the spouses, the children, etc. It can be devastating financially, mentally...

Divorce Issues: doubting relationship, finace, spiritual connection
finace, spiritual connection, stand by me: It sounds to me like you are an orthodox jew and there are many traditions/rules by which you will want to live. Do you think she will bend to these or will she feel that they are too mandatory and restrictive? Such as, you are afraid that she wants to break...

Divorce Issues: doubting relationship, finace, spiritual connection
finace, spiritual connection, stand by me: Hi Michael, I think you have some serious issues to work through and I would suggest putting this marriage on hold until you get them resolved. With this many doubts before the wedding, it would be wise to take a breath and put things into perspective....

Divorce Issues: doubting relationship, finace, spiritual connection
finace, spiritual connection, stand by me: Hi Michael, from what you re telling me, you know your answer. It s very painful I think, to come to a realization so late in the game, but I think you did. You need to be honest with your fiancee and tell her exactly what you think. You should be discussing...

Divorce Issues: doubting relationship, finace, spiritual connection
finace, spiritual connection, stand by me: Hi Michael, First, how lovely for you to be in Jerusalem and to be studying there. You guys are going to have to work this one out and it is not about whether or not she loves you. She wouldn t marry you at all if that were the case. It is as much...

Divorce Issues: doubting my relationship, finace, spiritual connection
finace, spiritual connection, stand by me: Hi Michael~ Then that certainly is a huge problem and it should be a big deal to you. Marriage is a serious commitment to a person that you re supposed to spend the rest of your life with and be partners with to support and trust one another, etc. Unfortunately...

Divorce Issues: Engagment after divorce, family crises, hard feelings
family crises, hard feelings, grown daughters: Hi Heart~ Divorce is tough to accept for a lot of children, young or older (even when they are on their own and have their own family). It s devastating for everyone involved, the whole immediate family. And it s something that they have to learn to cope...

Divorce Issues: Financial Harassment and Blackmail, sba loan, single mother
sba loan, single mother, child support: Hi Lilly~ I don t see how he can do this to her. If they papers are officially signed and notarized then he has no say so in where or when she buys her new home. He s just trying to bully her into a decision another attempt to control and influence her....

Divorce Issues: Child Support Arrears, divorce fathers rights, parenting plan
Divorce Issues: Child Support Arrears, divorce fathers rights, parenting plan, physical custody

Divorce Issues: Potential "Walk Away Wife" needs HELP :(, time in my life, ouch
Divorce Issues: Potential "Walk Away Wife" needs HELP :(, time in my life, ouch, 6 years

Divorce Issues: Grandparent question concerning divorce, mom dad, wonderful mother
mom dad, wonderful mother, sinking feeling: Gena: You have a right to be concerned, and yes, children of all ages can be manipulated, but they do not make things up. Since Tate trusts you, you need to get him to tell you what his step parents do that is mean and why he doesn t want to go home. Believe...

Divorce Issues: Immature ex/fiance, divorce decree, finance job
divorce decree, finance job, visitation time: Hi Dee~ You could check with a case/social worker and see if there is anything you can do about this. The only other thing would be to stop visitation with their father. And if/when he takes you back to court (which he d have to do) about the visitation...

Divorce Issues: insurance, marital assets, divorce decree
marital assets, divorce decree, lifelong problem: You are not divorced. A decree are the papers that are drawn and agreed to, regarding marital assets, division of assets, debt, what is owed and what is owned. What you will pay for child support and alimony or what she has to pay. If the divorce wasn t finalized...

Divorce Issues: kids hate me, first man in her life, heart to heart talk
first man in her life, heart to heart talk, heart to heart: Hi Tom~ This behavior is totally normal and very typical of children this age, when it involves a single parent. However, you re GF has to stop letting the kids control and dictate who she dates and has in her life. They don t get a vote in this (of course,...

Divorce Issues: Marriage problems worried headed for divorce, marriage problems, nut shell
marriage problems, nut shell, weekend retreat: Dear Lee, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I understand, all to well, what it does to a woman to discover he s just not interested. However they say it . . . it basically is the same. The change is up to the woman if she wants the marriage,...

Divorce Issues: Martial Separation -- Need Advice, marriage difficulties, christ loved the church
marriage difficulties, christ loved the church, family background: Hi Paul, The book you mentioned should really help you. There are 2 books, part 1 and 2 so make sure to get both. They also have audio and video tapes. The one thing that women need from a man is to know that she is first in his life, after God....

Divorce Issues: He is married to me and another woman!!at the same time!, polygamy
polygamy: This would require someone familiar with international law. I am not able to answer your question; however, you can start (without spending any money) by going to your local court house and asking the women in the Family Services Division. They are most...

Divorce Issues: moving out of state w/ kids, divorce, job
divorce, job: Michelle: There is no right answer. The judge will not allow you to move with your children and uproot them from school and friends and their father. Then you have the issue of the father finding another job in a new town. If you move now, the judge can...

Divorce Issues: Who needs to keep the house, bread winner, divorce laws
bread winner, divorce laws, 22 years: Dear Joyce, Please see an attorney. Divorce laws vary from state to state and since you have been the primary bread winner, you don t want to be cheated. If he s lived off of you this long, I m afraid he will try to have you support him even after you leave....

Divorce Issues: Old seperation and he wont cooperate, divorce paperwork, separation papers
divorce paperwork, separation papers, filing bankruptcy: Hi Renae~ He can t refuse to give you a divorce, you can still obtain a divorce w/o his consent, you don t need his permission to divorce. A judge can and will grant you a divorce, and a judge can force him to sign the divorce paperwork. The judge can...

Divorce Issues: Physical Custody, soccer basketball, physical custody
soccer basketball, physical custody, evidence in court: Hi Michele~ Tell your son that you don t expect him to choose parents, b/c that s just not fair to put him in that type of a position to do so. But rather that you want what s best for him and what s in his best interest. And that you will not be upset...

Divorce Issues: Potential "Walk Away Wife" needs HELP :(, caravan road, wild oats
caravan road, wild oats, christian household: Hi Micheline, I do hear your frustration and I also appreciate that you have a little sense of humor about it. Thatís a good sign. You are young with an awful lot to think about. Itís hard to know which way to go, right? Your marriage might actually...

Divorce Issues: Reconciliation after affair?, emotional risk, rough shape
emotional risk, rough shape, sensible solution: The extreme would be Divorce and Move On. The most moderate and foolish would be to just pretend it didn t happen. Then, less moderate and more sensible is to acknowledge it and deal with the root causes. The More Sensible Solution probably will require...

Divorce Issues: relationshps, softball games, ring of truth
softball games, ring of truth, soccer games: Hi. Great question. Thanks. They re still working out their divorce. You said it yourself: The ex has said several times that my boyfriend walked away from his family but in reality she left him, the house and the obsessions behind. I know know...

Divorce Issues: Separation/kids & stbx's new gf & kids, retirement equity, 2 girls
retirement equity, 2 girls, youngest daughter: Hi, You know I can t really answer your question about being unreasonable based on such little information. At the same time, on the surface of it (and I emphasize on the surface of it ) it does seem like you are being unreasonable and on the surface...

Divorce Issues: Spouse wants to be employed, marriage, God
marriage, God, Christian: Hi Jolene, It sounds as if your husband is showing a pattern of behavior and his last wife didn t want to put up with it. Now it s in your lap, and if I were in your shoes, I don t think I would want to either... Did you jump into this marriage too...

Divorce Issues: separation or divorce, separation and divorce, buying a new car
separation and divorce, buying a new car, banking accounts: Hi Gina~ The quicker you can get a divorce the better you ll end up. What you ll want to do it to get something drawn up in court saying that since the separation you re solely responsible only for your debt and not his. You can also publish an ad in...

Divorce Issues: my son, unfortunate situation, sympathies
unfortunate situation, sympathies, spoils: This is an extremely unfortunate situation and you have my sympathies and your son has my sympathies. I imagine this is quite shocking to you still. However, you and your boyfriend seem to have missed an important part of the story. Either that or I have...

Divorce Issues: support, child support obligation, question thanks
child support obligation, question thanks, support question: Well, if he isn t willing to set up a payment plan, then you can always get an attorney and go to court and explain that you can t pay. The judge can order a payment plan. Perhaps if you tell him you will do that, he will be more reasonable. Of course,...

Divorce Issues: TALKING WITH YOUR EX, belove, deeper meaning
belove, deeper meaning, passions: It is a discipline but you have to master it. It is necessary in order to set a certain standard for the conversation that is to follow. You have to establish that no matter what you are able to be civil, pleasant and engaging and really present. As this is...

Divorce Issues: thinking about calling it off, finace, spiritual connection
finace, spiritual connection, stand by me: Dear Michael, Culture clash is a difficult issue in a relationship, but spiritual differences are nearly insurmountable, especially if you know before hand. If you have doubts, you better voice them now or be prepared to forever hold your peace. I was already...

Divorce Issues: Wanting to get divorced in the state of Arkansas, state of arkansas, good chance
state of arkansas, good chance, intuition: If things are as you say, you need a lawyer. I m a psychologist. If he s mean and abusive then your fear ...and your intuition is right...you will probably have a fight on your hands when he figures things out. Better prepare for it. He will have his lawyer....

Divorce Issues: He won't let our children meet each other, better sense, widower
better sense, widower, 7 months: Well I think you ve gotten to the key issue. the pessimistic scenario is that it s all him and his guardedness and there s nothing you can do. The optimistic scenario is that there is something in your approach that is making things worse and you could...

Divorce Issues: put adult child's name on premarriaged deed after remarried, states real estate, sole owners
states real estate, sole owners, drug abuser: Dear Brenda, I think an attorney could give a better answer than I, but there are two things I am aware of that may shed some light on this. In many states, real estate law is such that a married person cannot change the ownership of the deed without consent...

Divorce Issues: adultery and it's affects., easter this year, coworker
easter this year, coworker, new jobs: I am SO sorry. I thought I answered this question! This is what I think. I might be wrong, but try it on and let me know if it fits : Your husband was having an affair. He wanted a divorce but he didn t want the guilt. So, he brought you home ...

Divorce Issues: bitter ex-wife and angry adult stepdaughter, spoiled brat, mom and daughter
spoiled brat, mom and daughter, fine shape: You don t mention Geo in any of this except that he takes the passive role of not answering the phone. He actually needs to step up to the plate and tell the daughter that she has no right to speak to you in a disrespectful manner. He needs to own her anger...

Divorce Issues: custody issues, divorce papers, exparte
divorce papers, exparte, child answer: Okay, I again come up against your attorney s view. And I am psychologist, not an attorney and my opinions have no expertise behind them. Your attorney s position is that the case should be made by the daughter not by you. If she is reluctant to write...

Divorce Issues: Dad wants daughter to live with him, control freak, step mom
control freak, step mom, added expenses: Hi Melissa, I think you have done your job here, by explaining to your daughter what you believe will be the best solution for her. NOW LET IT GO. If your daughter wants to live with her dad and step mom, I think she should. Let s understand a few things...

Divorce Issues: My Daughter's Divorce, abusive husbands, legal question
abusive husbands, legal question, last september: This is a legal question which is outside of my expertise. I would suggest consulting with a lawyer. Having said that, I want to tell you that women who leave abusive husbands have this happen to them often. It is part of the abuse. Not only did she...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and My Depression, marriage, divorce
marriage, divorce, parenting: Hi Ella, It s not your fault your parents got divorced. It s never kids fault in any marriage rather kids get emotional pain like you are getting and they feel it s their fault. It s normal you feel this way but soone or later as you grow older and undersand...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and a rental home, counterclaim, new boyfriend
counterclaim, new boyfriend, reading pa: There is a saying possession is nnine thenths of the law . That would be the case here. It is unlikely that the landlord would give the house to her above him. Your BF needs to go to the Landlord and tell him she abandoned the premises, he has continued...

Divorce Issues: divorce or not, social security number, records of vital statistics
social security number, records of vital statistics, greenwood sc: I would want to see some papers that verify what he s saying. If you have his social security number, you can call up your state records department and see if there are any papers that were filed with the state. You can also contact your court and find out...

Divorce Issues: divorce, child support calculator, getting a divorce
child support calculator, getting a divorce, conflict of interest: Hi Darrin, I think you need to keep looking for a lawyer who will take this back to court and get your child support decreased. The child support is based upon your income and your wife s income and the number of days that the child spends in both homes....

Divorce Issues: Going through a divorce, indianola iowa, custodial time
indianola iowa, custodial time, fact c: This does not sound right: 1. Because who ever is drafting the papers is under an obligation to do exactly what you and your ex request them to do. This is your mutual agreement. Now that said, Iowa law may require guideline support ; ( I will check this...