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Divorce Issues: husband doesn't work, counselor, appointment
Divorce Issues: husband doesn't work, counselor, appointment, divorce

Divorce Issues: My husband can't handle the separation, extreme duress, obsessive behavior
Divorce Issues: My husband can't handle the separation, extreme duress, obsessive behavior, restraining order

Divorce Issues: leave husband for his brother, brother
Divorce Issues: leave husband for his brother, brother

Divorce Issues: I am living in the present ..but I still want him back, greiving, fella
Divorce Issues: I am living in the present ..but I still want him back, greiving, fella, 19 years

Divorce Issues: My mom's friendship with my ex is causing me stress!, strong feeling, being friends
Divorce Issues: My mom's friendship with my ex is causing me stress!, strong feeling, being friends, mom

Divorce Issues: no money to get a divorce, but need one., divorce work
Divorce Issues: no money to get a divorce, but need one., divorce work

Divorce Issues: Re-Marriage, custody arrangement, full custody
Divorce Issues: Re-Marriage, custody arrangement, full custody, living arrangement

Divorce Issues: Relationship, mommy and daddy, bachelors degree
Divorce Issues: Relationship, mommy and daddy, bachelors degree, substance abuser

Divorce Issues: Relationship, email, diana
Divorce Issues: Relationship, email, diana, testimony

Divorce Issues: raising teenagers after divorce, guy friend, microscope
Divorce Issues: raising teenagers after divorce, guy friend, microscope, anger

Divorce Issues: relationship after marriage, man need, jesus name
Divorce Issues: relationship after marriage, man need, jesus name, adultery

Divorce Issues: Separation / Mind Games, verbal and emotional abuse, male friends
Divorce Issues: Separation / Mind Games, verbal and emotional abuse, male friends, having an affair

Divorce Issues: StepMother wants to be Real Mommy; manipulative adolescent, alienation of affection, relationship issues
Divorce Issues: StepMother wants to be Real Mommy; manipulative adolescent, alienation of affection, relationship issues, birth mother

Divorce Issues: separation of property, retirement benefits, locks
Divorce Issues: separation of property, retirement benefits, locks, lawyer

Divorce Issues: My short tempered husband, quick temper, childish behavior
Divorce Issues: My short tempered husband, quick temper, childish behavior, loving husband

Divorce Issues: stay or go?, marriage family, unhappiness
Divorce Issues: stay or go?, marriage family, unhappiness, bliss

Divorce Issues: Teenage daughter wants to live with other parent, eldest daughter, crap
Divorce Issues: Teenage daughter wants to live with other parent, eldest daughter, crap, dad

Divorce Issues: talking to a five year old about divorce, outset, feelings
Divorce Issues: talking to a five year old about divorce, outset, feelings, mom

Divorce Issues: trouble with my boyfriend's ex wife, exwife, bf
Divorce Issues: trouble with my boyfriend's ex wife, exwife, bf, stranger

Divorce Issues: Violence after divorce, extreme violence, attribute
Divorce Issues: Violence after divorce, extreme violence, attribute, girlfriend

Divorce Issues: How can I win my husband back ., spell caster, start in my life
Divorce Issues: How can I win my husband back ., spell caster, start in my life, traditional healer

Divorce Issues: my father remarried illegally..., marriage null, marriage certificate
marriage null, marriage certificate, bigamy: Hi Luckie~ If he s married illegally, which means he s not officially divorced from wife #2, he can get into trouble with the law for bigamy (which is being married to more than one woman). Which he could be potentially arrested for. If there is anyway...

Divorce Issues: fathers affair, school counselor, having an affair
school counselor, having an affair, sadness: I m really sorry that this is happening in your life. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do with regards to your father legally. What I DO want to suggest to you is that you go to your school counselor or get some help dealing with your sadness...

Divorce Issues: No fault divorce, pennsylvania divorce, fault divorce
pennsylvania divorce, fault divorce, grounds for divorce: Hi Bill~ What you heard is correct. In PA you have there is a 2 yr waiting period, if a divorce is contested by a spouse. This is the info I found on what you re asking. Referenced from www.divorcenet.com (click on the state of Pennsylvania on the left...

Divorce Issues: no-fault seperation, stay at home mom, retirement accounts
stay at home mom, retirement accounts, separate lives: Hi Brian~ I m a firm believer in that a couple should never stay together for the sake of the children. It never works out in the end. The children usually end up resenting the fact that their parents stayed together, and that they were basically lied...

Divorce Issues: In favor of joint custody but.........., schooling decisions, physical custody
schooling decisions, physical custody, joint custody: Hi Joy~ What kind of custody do you have? It sounds like you have joint physical custody to me. Meaning that you have primary custody but share jointly in the decisions for your son that include health,schooling decisions,etc. With this kind of custody...

Divorce Issues: fear of being alone / broken heart, broken heart, weird thing
broken heart, weird thing, light at the end of the tunnel: Hi Lynn~ It totally normal to experience these sort of feelings. I mean after all you did have someone to lean on when you were going through the divorce. Which may or may not have been a good thing. Just b/c he s a friend of your ex,you both thought...

Divorce Issues: fear of being alone - broken heart, divorce support group, jill morris
divorce support group, jill morris, soft cushion: Dear Lynn, It makes sense that this is hurting more than the divorce in some way. You had a soft cushion to land on with your friend and now you are facing the fear of being alone. Rest assured that none of us are ever really alone. We may feel lonely...

Divorce Issues: I feel my attorney did not do her job, divorce proceedings, exhusband
divorce proceedings, exhusband, retirement account: Hi Christina~ Yes, you could first write her letter stating your issues. Then bring this to her law partners attention (how you re not satisfied how you were represented, etc), state clearly the reasons why in the letters. You can also file a complain...

Divorce Issues: feeling controlled and manipulated by daughter and ex, deepest sympathy, delayed response
deepest sympathy, delayed response, solidity: Hi Anna, Thank you for writing. Please accept my apologies for the delayed response. I was away teaching over the weekend. You do have my deepest sympathy. I wish it were not so, but your situation is quite common. On the other hand, because it is...

Divorce Issues: fighting anger, heart to heart talk, marriage counseling
heart to heart talk, marriage counseling, hugs and kisses: Hi Suzanne~ Unfortunately sometimes ppl do grow apart in a marriage. They can become different ppl. This can particularly happen if a couple has children and they get so involved in work, homelife, raising children, etc. And they don t make time for...

Divorce Issues: How to file a contemp of divorce, county court house, divorce document
county court house, divorce document, divorce decree: There is a very simple solution to this!!! Go down to your county court house and ask at the information desk as to where you go to fill out the forms for garnishment. Once you have arrived in the correct area (with all paperwork between you and your husband,...

Divorce Issues: How to file for Divorce, divorce paperwork, lawyer
divorce paperwork, lawyer, mom: Hi Star~ You can go a lawyer that specialize in family law. He/She can file the proper divorce paperwork for you. Then your husband will be served with the paperwork. After that you can set a court date and it ll proceed from there. Here is a great...

Divorce Issues: can i file a divorce?, irreconcilable differences, filing for a divorce
irreconcilable differences, filing for a divorce, 50 states: Hi Louie~ As long as you ve lived in the US, in whatever state you are living in, for the required amount of time (new residents that move to a new state have a time frame that they must live in the new state, before filing for a divorce). In most states...

Divorce Issues: Where to file, american retirees association, google
american retirees association, google, service member: Dear Andrea, Military divorce has it s own special rules. I would highly recommend that you check out Divorce and the Military II by Marsha Thule and Frank Ault. It is very through and you can find it at the The American retirees Association website (google...

Divorce Issues: filing, escrow account, education money
escrow account, education money, speaking terms: It sounds like you and your husband would be perfect candidates for a mediator rather than lawyers. A mediator will help you and your husband divide up your assets in a fair manner but will only charge a small fraction of what a lawyer would cost. The...

Divorce Issues: filing, escrow account, education money
escrow account, education money, speaking terms: Hi Cheryl, If you re reading the books and searching online you are doing everything you should be doing to find out about divorce. Selling your home now may save you from delaying getting the cash out of the house. I never heard of home sales going into...

Divorce Issues: filing, divorce web, family divorce
divorce web, family divorce, escrow account: Hi Cheryl~ Well, you ve come to the right web site to get advice on divorce. I do give advice on divorce, that s one of my specialities, if you will, since I volunteer in this category. And I know quite a bit about the divorce process, etc. However,...

Divorce Issues: filing for divorce, divorce papers, filing for divorce
divorce papers, filing for divorce, notary: Hi Kristen~ The divorce papers are good for one year from the date you file them. So you have until then to turn the signatures in and then the divorce can be finalized and signed by the judge. I hope this helps answer your question(s). If it goes past...

Divorce Issues: filing for divorce in CA, but we married in the Philippines, support alimony, divorce web
support alimony, divorce web, filing for divorce in ca: Hi Michele~ Yes, you reside in CA, you can file for divorce there (no matter where you got married). You can/should seek spousal support and child support in the divorce. Here is a great divorce web site. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state...

Divorce Issues: filing the divorce while he is incarrcerated., family law lawyer, aaml
family law lawyer, aaml, google: Dear Kandy, You will need to follow the laws of your state and their are a few ways to this- divorcesource.com, speak with a family law lawyer or contact your state bar association (you can find their site using google). I am not a lawyer so I cannot...

Divorce Issues: filing divorce, divorce decree, google
divorce decree, google, state bar association: Dear Lee, Based upon what you wrote, if you want to stop support payments you need divorce decree. With that being said, there are a couple of ways to go. 1. Hire a lawyer to represent you , as you have done in the past. 2. Act Pro se , which is...

Divorce Issues: filing and expiration, time frame, clue
time frame, clue, lawyers: Oh gosh, I haven t a clue. I ll assume that this was done without an attorney? In Missouri, the courts are required to finish a case within one year of filing. Although, not all cases are closed out in that period, the law was made in order to prevent...

Divorce Issues: After filing the paperwork, divorce web, clerk of the court
divorce web, clerk of the court, please answer: Hi Amanda~ He has to set a court date for that, to be seen before a judge. He can ask the circuit clerk in the county that he resides in, how he can go about setting a court date for the divorce. They can point him in the right direction and tell him...

Divorce Issues: filing uncontested divorce, divorce papers, uncontested divorce
divorce papers, uncontested divorce, greensboro north carolina: Hi Stephen~ Yes,you can file for a divorce in the state you currently reside it. All you have to do is go to a lawyer and file for a divorce. As long as you have her current address so that you can have her served with divorce papers properly. A judge...

Divorce Issues: filing, county court house, dallas county
county court house, dallas county, renee: Dear Renee, Thanks for clearing that up for me. If the court house says there was no divorce, then were was no divorce. It sounds to me as if perhaps your boyfriend is not being truthful with you. I would be asking some serious questions if I were you....

Divorce Issues: financial consequences of divorce, consequences of divorce, divorce laws
consequences of divorce, divorce laws, financial consequences: Hi Sam~ Divorce laws vary by state. Here is a great website though on divorce laws. The link is: www.divorcenet.com click on your state and it ll give you divorce laws of your state, along with other info you may find helpful. Now to answer your questions...

Divorce Issues: How do I find out...., county courthouse, filing for divorce
county courthouse, filing for divorce, likelihood: I believe the filing for divorce would need to take place in the county of your marital residence. So, if he was the one who moved, I would check with my own county courthouse. You should also have been served papers if he filed, so if that has not happened,...

Divorce Issues: follow up-what relationship should we maintain, sex with dad, paternal uncle
sex with dad, paternal uncle, remarrying: Hi, For what you tell me, the new marriage of your mother seems to be a bit of convenience, though, I can t tell, I don t know her, I don t know her reasons. But a real husband wouldn t just let her sleep with her ex because that d mean she doesn t love...

Divorce Issues: in forcing divorce degree?, divorce decree, dear ruth
divorce decree, dear ruth, divorcenet: Dear Ruth, Enforcing a divorce decree is done in several ways. The safest way would be to go through your lawyer. You could also take your ex spouse back to court in order for hte judge to enforce it. Judges have the right to garnish wages and even ask...

Divorce Issues: I am four months pregnant...., female roommate, blah blah
female roommate, blah blah, new girlfriend: Amber, I think your boyfriend needs to get on with the divorce as quickly as possible to remove this stress for you. Consulting an attorney will make clearer what his wife can and cannot do. Most states in the USA are no fault divorce and she would not be...

Divorce Issues: My four year old, new spouse ans Ex., emotional spirit, wits end
emotional spirit, wits end, family counseling: Hi Omeena~ She s probably mourning the loss of her father (by loss I mean b/c he s not present nor involved in her life). She s taking this very hard. Usually a divorce doesn t affect a child this age very hard, it s a rarity when it does happen. I would...

Divorce Issues: Going back and fourth., going to the bathroom, mommy
going to the bathroom, mommy, little girl: Hi Leanne~ I can fully respect and totally understand that you don t want to cause problems with your ex. However, you must think of your daughter above everything else. She s the one suffering. This isn t about your ex anymore and making him mad, rocking...

Divorce Issues: freind, angry feelings, drinking and drugs
angry feelings, drinking and drugs, getting a divorce: It doesn t HAVE to cause him to behave differently or develop bad habits just because his parents got a divorce, Luke. However, sometimes teens do go into depression with such a stressor. One of the symptoms of depression is not taking pleasure in the things...

Divorce Issues: friend's wife refuses to get divorce, cocktail waitress, new girlfriend
cocktail waitress, new girlfriend, financial arrangement: Hi Stephen~ Yes, that s correct. Right now there s nothing he can do. He ll need to continue to pay the mortgage loan on the home, so that it doesn t ruin his credit. He ll have to wait for court to see what happens next. I would strongly suggest that...

Divorce Issues: friendly divorced parents and the new spouse, emotional ties, divorce decree
emotional ties, divorce decree, divorced parents: Hi David~ It s always a good thing when you can get along and be civil with an ex-spouse. It s just not worth arguing and fighting over things, as it gets so old and it s stressful too. It s often hard on the second wife to fill the first wife s shoes...

Divorce Issues: friends divorce, retirement account, lori
retirement account, lori, assets: Lori: This is not only possible but probable. In most states, community property is 50/50. Whatever retirement he has accumulated over the course of the marriage, half is hers. As well as any interest from all of the retirement that has accumulated over...

Divorce Issues: GRAND DAUGHTER IN TROUBLE, divorce decree, full custody
divorce decree, full custody, mounth: Hi Sharon~ As a grandparent nothing. Grandparents don t have any rights to grandchildren. Only 11 states have some laws protecting the rights of grandparents. Your son has to be the one to fight for his daughter, and for his rights to see her, etc. ...

Divorce Issues: Granparents Divorce, grandpa and grandma, getting a divorce
grandpa and grandma, getting a divorce, final judgment: I agree with you. He is part of the family history and that’s reason enough. Thirty years is lots of reasons to keep in contact. Half a life span. The cut-off sounds symptomatic of how difficult things were. That’s sad. I can understand the motivation. I’ve...

Divorce Issues: Guilt, welcome to your midlife crisis, meanness
welcome to your midlife crisis, meanness, moneymaker: Hi Jamie, Welcome to your midlife crisis. It sounds like you are doing a good job at learning the new ways you will have to behave in order to have a life that makes you happy. I m sure that for 16 years and more you felt that the best way to handle the...

Divorce Issues: general, six figure salary, divorce child
six figure salary, divorce child, child support: Did you use an attorney for your divorce? Child support is NOT protected by bankruptcy. It also is strange that a man who earns a six figure salary would file bankruptcy rather than lose his job so his credit is not affected in the future. Taking him back...

Divorce Issues: The girlfriend of a man legally separated, trust issue, married men
trust issue, married men, first wife: Dear Stephanie, If he told you he was divorced and he isn t, then you should have a serious trust issue with him. You also use the term first wife which implies a second. I m guessing he hasn t been married again, at this point, so it sounds as if marriage...

Divorce Issues: Should I give up hope?, phone job, racking my brain
phone job, racking my brain, relati: Hi Michael Thanks for writing. I regret having to tell you how much of a mess you have on your hands, although your probably already know this. I ve been doing this work for a long time and almost never does the relationship which was an affair in a marriage...

Divorce Issues: give more time, property settlement agreement, marriage counselling
property settlement agreement, marriage counselling, last two months: Hi Darren..well... so she moved out and theres a property settlement agreement. Feel free at any time to say STOP, I am not ready to divorce you, I still love you. You re right in my opinion.... it makes much more sense to work on a relationship then forge...

Divorce Issues: Was it a good reason that she left and should I take her back when she calls,, counseler, retail location
counseler, retail location, birthday gift: Hi. I am so sorry that you are suffering so mightily. I think this particular kind of break up is one of the very worst. It must be just awful for you. Still and all, things do not sound at all promising for you and this woman. YOu do sound overwhelmed,...

Divorce Issues: have i got a good reason to get the marriage anulled, 25th june, valid reason
25th june, valid reason, good reason: Hi Maureen~ Yes, you have a very valid reason for the marriage to be anulled. The sooner you have it done the better. As long as he agrees to have the marriage anulled, it should take no time at all to get the divorce. And how long the divorce takes...

Divorce Issues: you are good, getting money, one don
getting money, one don, disrespect: YOU ASKED: Dear Philipe: You know what disturbes me: *The fact that I like her but she did not enjoy to be with me. YOU SAY YOU LIKE HER BUT YOU WROTE OF HER WITH DISRESPECT AND HATRED AND YOU WERE MEAN. YOU SAID SHE WAS CHEAPER THAN A WHORE. ...

Divorce Issues: grounds for alimony, music to my ears, joint accounts
music to my ears, joint accounts, legal guardian: Hi Stephanie~ He can file in the current state in which you both reside. If she refuses to sign, the judge can order her to sign or she can get into trouble. Either way the judge can/will grant a divorce, it might take some extra time though. As each...

Divorce Issues: grounds for alimony, military divorce, divorce papers
military divorce, divorce papers, wife family: Hi Kaila~ It makes no difference who files for a divorce really. But if you do it first and claim abandonment (which he did), then you have the better chance of getting what you want in the divorce. So yes, you can still get him for abandonment in the...

Divorce Issues: guilt, feelings of guilt, mother and sister
feelings of guilt, mother and sister, bad man: Hi Jenny, Nobody on the outside can understand what you have gone through in your marriage unless they were walking in your shoes. People are so quick to pass judgment and it s sad. I am sorry that your mother and sister have chosen to hold on to judgment...

Divorce Issues: Haiti divorce, country of haiti, divorce web
country of haiti, divorce web, divorce decree: Hi Bob~ I wouldn t let that affect your getting married in the future. LOL. Just b/c you had a bad experience in this marriage. I hope you can get your divorce over and done with and soon, so that you can put this in the past and move on with your life...

Divorce Issues: Harassment from ex-spouse?, ridiculous antics, fiance
ridiculous antics, fiance, 9 months: Haley: Harassment is a hard thing to call without knowing details. If she is making accusations, that is not harassment, just spite. If she is calling your home, emailing you, coming over when you have his son and interrupting your lives, that is harassment....

Divorce Issues: Harrassment from an ex spouse, insulting text messages, mail discussions
insulting text messages, mail discussions, false accusations: Hi Bruno~ You can see if you have enough to get a restraining order on her. This way if she were to continue to harass you then you can have her put in jail if she violates the order. Keep documenting her behavior, get it on tape if at all possible. ...

Divorce Issues: HELP!!, beautiful son, drug and alcohol
beautiful son, drug and alcohol, financial ruin: Hi Carisa~ It s probably better to cut your losses and get out now. He can and will ruin your credit if he has bills that go unpaid and begin to pile up. You want to do everything you can to make sure he doesn t put you in financial ruin. It s highly...

Divorce Issues: Help, high school reunion, divorced man
high school reunion, divorced man, personal relationships: Hi Pat, I was the one who initiated my divorce and I thought I really wanted to be me and make my own decisions. It turned out to be one of the most frightening adventures I ever undertook. Most people decide to leave when there is another person waiting...

Divorce Issues: Help, isolina ricci, hhs press
isolina ricci, hhs press, amicable divorce: Ed, Dads are very important people in children s lives. Here s what the U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services has to say: More than a quarter of American children—nearly 17 million—do not live with their father. Girls without a father in their life...

Divorce Issues: Help, occasional conversations, psychological challenges
occasional conversations, psychological challenges, custody evaluation: Hi. Difficult situation. You really asked for legal advice, I think. I know that you have some psychological challenges and it sounds like you are addressing them. Making up your mind about your husband could not have been easy. You are going to have...

Divorce Issues: Help, old girl, divorce
old girl, divorce, living arrangements: Hi Christine~ You can t help who he chooses to live with. And even though you don t agree with it, there s nothing really you can do about it. If your daughter has any questions about her father s living arrangements with this other woman--all you can...

Divorce Issues: Help!, high school reunion, divorced man
high school reunion, divorced man, personal relationships: Pat, love is not about feelings. What you are describing sounds like infatuation, that giddy, uncertain, exciting feeling that is lots of fun, but also doesn t last. Love is a commitment made with heart AND head, that endures through the ups and downs of a...

Divorce Issues: Help, high school reunion, divorced man
high school reunion, divorced man, personal relationships: Hi. Thanks for writing. You are in not position to marry this man and the devastation you will create if you do will make the marriage impossible unless you do something drastic like leave town like a fugitive and start a life somewhere else. Except you...

Divorce Issues: Help, high school reunion, divorced man
high school reunion, divorced man, personal relationships: Hi Pat~ This is kind of a toughie. You must first realize that it s been almost 20 years since you ve seen or heard from him (if I read that correctly). Ppl change a lot in 20 years. He may not really be the man you think he is. And what happens if...

Divorce Issues: Help me, thinking the unthinkable, therapist work
thinking the unthinkable, therapist work, generous response: Confidentiality. Your work is confidential within the system. But there is a good chance that your G. P. can access and also your new therapist can read the files of your previous therapist. And I don t know whom else. Father/daughter love vs. IN LOVE....

Divorce Issues: Help me, full time job, high school reunion
full time job, high school reunion, business stress: Hi Pat~ I ve never agreed with ppl that stay together for the sake of the children. I just don t think it s right. I mean children are going to know something is up,they may not know the whole situation,but they can sense when something is just not right....

Divorce Issues: Help me, full time job, high school reunion
full time job, high school reunion, business stress: Hi, First of all it s very important to ask yourself what does the man you like have that your husband doesn t. What makes you like him and want to marry him and get divorced from your husband. What has your husband done wrong and if it has any solution....

Divorce Issues: Help me, full time job, high school reunion
full time job, high school reunion, business stress: Hi Pat, it dosen t sound to me like you are giving your marriage a true second round. As long as you know there is another man waiting for you, I think it will be very difficult to really work things out between you and your husband. Having and needing...

Divorce Issues: Help with an argumentative ex husband, having the last word, uncontested divorce
having the last word, uncontested divorce, joint custody: As I see it each of you is simply grieving the loss of the marriage. Without speaking to him, I can t have any insight into why he acts such a fool. But I can say, the best way to stop a manipulative game is to abstain from playing. Don t argue. Obey his...

Divorce Issues: Help--my best friend is having a baby with a complete asshole :(, having a new baby, absentee father
having a new baby, absentee father, happy event: Karen, I think your friend needs to consult an attorney as soon as possible. However, be aware that probably nothing can actually be done until there is a baby. Once that happens, she will be asked to name a father at the hospital. Often, in the thrill of...

Divorce Issues: Help on Insecurity, bad decisions, baby on the way
bad decisions, baby on the way, risky behavior: Isabel: It sounds like you want a separation or divorce because you are worried about the house. But, do you love him? Even if you are separated, part of that house is his, and the bank could still go after the house. Unless the house is yours, and in...

Divorce Issues: Help, high school reunion, divorced man
high school reunion, divorced man, personal relationships: Dear Pat, I know this must be an incredibly difficult predicament. The importance of feeling genuine love and passion in life cannot be underestimated. But the things that you list that stop you from divorcing to marry him are very powerful barriers to making...

Divorce Issues: Helping my divorced partners children deal with me being around., belove, second thoughts
belove, second thoughts, psychologist: Dear Ayana, I would need more information. It s very important how intimate you guys were before the divorce. If you were the reason for the divorce, or if he thinks you are, your relationship is in almost impossible trouble. Also, I d need to know...

Divorce Issues: Helping a friend through divorce, long term relationship, violent episode
long term relationship, violent episode, abusive relationship: Hi Again, Now if you answer this one, do it directly at drbelove@datingatmidlife.com and also let me add you to my newsletter mailing list. Okay? If you are uncomfortable, you can still work through allexperts. As to the big bucks. They aren t that...

Divorce Issues: HI MY NAME IS SHENIKA AND..., legal marriage, custody of children
legal marriage, custody of children, marraige: Hi Shenika~ Well their marraige would only be illegal if they are cousins. Beyond that it doesn t matter. So as long as they aren t like 1st cousins their marriage is legal. They d have to check with their family to see how they are related,if they are...

Divorce Issues: Hi!I have a fun social group..., social sorority, divorced women
social sorority, divorced women, social group: Thanks for your invitation, Terri. I have an IT guy who does my website adjustments. He is very busy and works on mine only when he has free time, so I won t be able to do anything immediately. I will keep your invitation in mind for the next time he is able...

Divorce Issues: Hiring a certified divorce planner, divorce planner, central ma area
divorce planner, central ma area, retirement planning: Joyce, I also work out of an office in Dudley MA and am therefore traveling through the central MA area. Perhaps we could arrange something. If you d like to talk by phone to see if you would like to set something up, I can be reached at (617)723-7735....

Divorce Issues: GET OFF MY HOME MORTGAGE, divorce decree, sole ownership
divorce decree, sole ownership, claim deed: Hi Reid~ You may want to talk to a lawyer about this to be sure. But I think that in the divorce decree it was agreed upon to sell the home and she s to give you, your half of the value of the home, which would ve been $10,000 (I pressume) IF she sold...

Divorce Issues: HOUSE, divorce laws, falut
divorce laws, falut, 410k: Dear Garry, How assets are divided depends on the state you live in. Use divorcesource.com to learn the divorce laws of your state. Sometimes divorcing couples live in the same home until the house is sold and the money is divided- this reduces money...

Divorce Issues: Hopeless divorce children issue., louisiana judge, contempt of court
louisiana judge, contempt of court, divorce children: Dear Randy, Here are some things you can do to empower yourself: 1.You may want to join a chat at any of these male/father centered sites: fathers4kids.org, ncfc.net, mensdefense.org, acfc.org. These sites have quite alot of information on fathers rights...

Divorce Issues: The House, palm beach county florida, amicable divorce
palm beach county florida, amicable divorce, palm beach county: Hi Jeff~ You are both right in a sense. Those are the three things that could happen. The judge can award her the home since she s got the children. The judge can order her to buy out your half of the home (whatever the current value is). Or you can...

Divorce Issues: House, legal divorce, property cars
legal divorce, property cars, married couple: Hi Jose~ Since you re common law, you aren t required by law to get a legal divorce. But since you lived as husband and wife, bought a house together, then she s entitled to up to half the value of the home. In a typical standard divorce, this is what...

Divorce Issues: House, quickie divorce, paperwork
quickie divorce, paperwork, lawyer: Hi Mark~ She s only entitled to half of the home if you bought it together, during the marriage. Then it s considered community property, whether her name is on the deed or loan or not. However, if you owned the house prior to the marriage. She is...

Divorce Issues: House, divorce web, divorce papers
divorce web, divorce papers, shay: Hi Shay~ The only way for him to get his name off of the house and mortgage is for him to refinance the house in his wife s name only. Otherwise, if she refuses to pay her half of the house payment, then he s responsible for paying it (since his name is...

Divorce Issues: House bought before marriage, inheritance, proceeds
inheritance, proceeds, divorce: Hi Jen, If this were in my state, you would have to share in the proceeds from the sale of the house. Given that he made the house payments, and you made the down payment, this would be fair. My best advice would be to consult with a lawyer. He could...

Divorce Issues: The House, florida divorce laws, palm beach county florida
florida divorce laws, palm beach county florida, amicable divorce: Dear Jeff, Unfortunately I am not a lawyer so cannot even give you a best guess. A judge can do what he feels is right, which may not be what you or your wife is hoping for. Sorry I couldn t be of maore help. Speak with a lawyer about the possibilities...

Divorce Issues: Hung Up on Boyfriend's Ex, long term relationship, group conversation
long term relationship, group conversation, passing comment: You asked a very big question, too big for a brief answer like this one. Take your misgivings seriously. You have a lot you can learn about yourself and about love. It s a good opportunity for you. As to your boyfriend, many people enjoy being married more...

Divorce Issues: Husband's Conniving Mistress, deer hunting, anonymous emails
deer hunting, anonymous emails, adultry: Hi Lisa~ There s probably not much you can say or do to convince him that you are telling the truth. All you have right now is basically your word against hers. And he has the choice to believe you or not, that s up to him. There s only so much you can...

Divorce Issues: Husband and his kids etc.., social anxiety, sound decision
social anxiety, sound decision, peace of mind: Hi Angie, You are right...this is a mess! It didn t take me anytime at all while reading your letter to see BIG RED FLAGS and a loud bell ringing DING DING DING!! No way on this earth should YOUR HUSBAND move back in with his ex-wife. If he were my husband,...

Divorce Issues: Husband is Unhappy, first daughter, bad luck
first daughter, bad luck, special needs: Hi Kylie, That s hard. And bleak. You don t include a lot in your narrative that shows any promise. I think I d need to hear a lot more to see if there is any opportunity in that story. Maybe your couple counselor has a thought or two, but from everything...

Divorce Issues: Husband won't move out, restraining order, deb
restraining order, deb, asap: Hi Deb~ Your lawyer is correct, since you re still legally married he has every right to live in the marital home just as much as you do. The only way you d be able to get him out is if you got a restraining order on him and then the police and forcibly...

Divorce Issues: how to handle it, unfit mother, marraige
unfit mother, marraige, rude awakening: Hi Diane~ What you need to do is to talk with your mortgage company ASAP! Tell them your situation and find out if there is anything they can do for you,as far as working with you. If his name is on the mortgage then he s responsible for it too! Not...

Divorce Issues: How to handle?, bi polar disorder, bipolar illness
bi polar disorder, bipolar illness, lack ability: Mia, while I don t approve of telling children the dirty details of why parents broke up, I do believe they need some explanation which is appropriate to their developmental level. Issues such as domestic violence and a bipolar illness can be explained to...

Divorce Issues: harassment from ex-spouse, getting a restraining order, threatening phone calls
getting a restraining order, threatening phone calls, unfit mother: Hi Alicia~ He should document everything that she does, including all the threats. I would recommend that he keep a journal as well. This way he can keep track of all the times she threatens, what she says and does, etc. I don t know that a restraining...

Divorce Issues: health insurance, custodial parents, daughter age
custodial parents, daughter age, health coverage: Dear Judy, I am so sorry, divorce can be so ugly. Please make sure your attorney is representing your best interests. I still wouldn t cancel your son s insurance, but it is time to get some sort of legal order regarding shared responsibility. You know,...

Divorce Issues: hello, getting a divorce, clerk of the court
getting a divorce, clerk of the court, local court: Hi Donna~ They are full of hooey. They can do something about it, but they are probably just too laze to do it. Typically you ll have to publish the divorce for up to 4 weeks in the local newspaper. Then a judge can grant your divorce. You don t have...

Divorce Issues: help, burglers, jill morris
burglers, jill morris, dr jill: Dear Pedro, It seems like your psychiatrist is suggesting not to see the woman again. I will have to assume that he is trying to help you and is advising you correctly. I don t think you would be writing if you felt like seeing her again was the right thing...

Divorce Issues: help, divorce paperwork, child ren
divorce paperwork, child ren, alimony: Hi Christine~ Yes, you should be entitled to alimony (aka spousal support). You have a 50% chance of getting it. Also, if he has any IRA s, pension, retirement, etc. You might be entitled to 50% of that too. It doesn t hurt to ask the judge for it,...

Divorce Issues: help, burglers, face the facts
burglers, face the facts, wath: Pedro: You need to be honest with yourself and everyone else in your life. You are obviously not respecting and honoring your marriage. Maybe you need to let it go, after all your wife has a right to be happy as well. Having affairs means that you really...

Divorce Issues: help again, good looking guys, free answer
good looking guys, free answer, follow ups: Hi Pedro. This is the last free answer I can give you. If you want to continue, I think we should work something out. I m sorry, okay. Please forgive me but I have a policy that allows only so many follow ups. We could continue on a cash basis. I could...

Divorce Issues: help, burglers, wath
burglers, wath, cyber cafe: Dear Pedro, You may want to spend some time talking with your wife about what is laking and beneficial about your marriage before you enter into a new relationship with a women you already do not trust. Speak to your therapist about how you can give attention...

Divorce Issues: help, burglers, course women
burglers, course women, wath: Hi Pedro~ She sounds like a con woman to me. Just be very careful about who you talk to and trust these days. There are loads of men and of course women that go around and make a living of conning unaware ppl. Don t have anything to do with her anymore....

Divorce Issues: Can you help us?, residential custody, divorce decree
residential custody, divorce decree, rough life: Hi R~ Since the ex-wife has died. Custody automactically goes to your husband of the 15 yo. The 18 yo is old enough to take care of herself legally,if she chooses to at this time. All he has to do is show a copy of the divorce decree in the county the...

Divorce Issues: help, kind advice, doughter
kind advice, doughter, childre: The four things you said are all good things to present at the meeting. You don t have to promise them anything. Listen carefully to what they have to say. Tell them your four points. Then listen more. Then repeat back to them what you have heard...

Divorce Issues: help with babys mom, new boyfriend, feelings
new boyfriend, feelings, laugh: Hi John~ It s always nice if you can be a family and make it work. If you still love and have feelings for her, it can t hurt to try and make it work. After all you can learn from your mistakes. If I were in your situation, I would sit down and talk...

Divorce Issues: help with babys mom, relationship problems, new boyfriend
relationship problems, new boyfriend, togetherness: Thanks for your question, John. A big question you haven t mentioned is why did you break up in the first place and what was your relationship like back then? What ever went wrong before is likely to go wrong again unless you do something to change the way...

Divorce Issues: What do I do to help my friend, words of encouragement, roller coaster
words of encouragement, roller coaster, rough time: Hi Esther~ All you can really do is just listen to him. Tell him that anytime he needs a friend or someone to just vent or talk to, you ll be more than happy to do that. He s probably going through a roller coaster of emotions right now. There ll be...

Divorce Issues: how do I get help with my kids, parental alienation syndrome, physical altercation
parental alienation syndrome, physical altercation, parenting styles: Paul,thanks for your question. Your children are being deliberately alienated against you through a process of programming or brainwashing called Parental Alienation Syndrome. You can fight back. This site explains the process and what you can do :http://www.breakthroughparenting.com/PAS.htm....

Divorce Issues: help needed, melodie beatty, poor girls
melodie beatty, poor girls, loving partners: Dear Pedro My private email is drbelove@datingatmidlife.com. You can also visit my website at www.datingatmidlife.com. My specialty is helping people at midlife learn what they need to learn about themselves and relationships so they can become wise and...

Divorce Issues: help after seperation, committments, seven years
committments, seven years, hearts: John: From what I understand, you want to get back with your ex after seven years of separation. First of all, you need to see if getting back is really what you want. What are your reasons and hers for getting back together? Did you miss each other,...

Divorce Issues: help for sister, dept of children and families, nothing but time
dept of children and families, nothing but time, enlightment: Hi Crystal~ Then that would explain why she was arrested. Certainly not right by any means. But the officers have to go on proof of marks and each individuals story. I would advice that she also tape record any calls that she has with him. Perhaps she...

Divorce Issues: can i help?, jill morris, emotional wreck
jill morris, emotional wreck, dr jill: Dear Patti, This must be agonizing for you as a parent. Encouraging the help of a doctor and/or counselor is a good idea. Try not to say too much, instead let him talk to you. Be careful about what you say about her or their marriage. You may end up eating...

Divorce Issues: hi, judge orders, good chance
judge orders, good chance, different things: Hi Yom~ Yes, child support can be ordered retroactively. And there s a good chance you ll be able to get it ordered to back pay for CS. Child support and visitation are completely different things. One still has to pay CS even if they don t visit the...

Divorce Issues: Should I hold off dating ?, good heavens, seperation
good heavens, seperation, new partner: Chris, It s probably totally too soon. Check out my website www.datingatmidlife.com and subscribe to the news letter. What usually happens to people in your situation is that they run and rebound into another relationship and get way in too deep and...

Divorce Issues: Should I hold on to hope?, phone job, fews days
phone job, fews days, termoil: Hi Michael, your girlfriend is certainly going through a lot of confusion right now and is putting you through the same termoil. It is very easy to play both ends against the middle. She has a husband to go back to and a boyfriend waiting if things don t work...

Divorce Issues: Not honoring a divorce decree, decree states, divorce decree
decree states, divorce decree, mortgage payments: Hi Sue~ He s in violation of the divorce decree. You ll have to take him back to court for this. But yes, you need to continue to pay the house/mortgage payments so that it doesn t go in to foreclosure and ruin your credit. You can request that the judge...

Divorce Issues: honoring post-divorce family boundaries, cook county illinois, family boundaries
cook county illinois, family boundaries, formal complaint: Hi Michael~ Yes, you can take her back to court for violating the court order. It s different if you ve communicated and make prior arrangements if you can t pick the children up. But she s blatantly doing this to cause problems and to interfere in your...

Divorce Issues: my house, mortgage broker, judge orders
mortgage broker, judge orders, possiblity: Hi Jason~ If you bought the house together after the marriage, then she s entitled to half of the marital home. If you had the home prior to the marriage, then she s not entitled to the home. If she s awarded the house (which may be a very real possiblity,...

Divorce Issues: house, separetly, final decision
separetly, final decision, best interest: Hi Jay~ Of course, it is totally your choice. However, it would be in your best interest if you are able to remain in the marital home. B/c some states if you move out of the home, then you are in a sense forfeiting your rights to continue living in the...

Divorce Issues: house & child support, zero effect, paralegals
zero effect, paralegals, child support: Hi Jeff~ That would be correct, if she pays you the child support you owe, then you turn around and pay her the CS, that defeats the purpose of the child support and her owing you half of the equity of the home. That s why the court won t allow this. ...

Divorce Issues: my house, divorce paperwork, divorce papers
divorce paperwork, divorce papers, divorce decree: Hi Wayne~ No, you do not have to leave your home after your served with divorce papers. You have just as much right to be there as she does, b/c you re still legally married. The only way she could make you move out, is if she had a court order barring...

Divorce Issues: hubby watching porn, pregnant body, 900 numbers
pregnant body, 900 numbers, one nite: Hi Cheri, I know how difficult this is for you. I have been through it myself with an ex-husband. Unfortunately, his porn turned into visiting strip clubs and then on to several affairs that I knew nothing about. That tends to be the progression when men...

Divorce Issues: hurting w/kids, focus on the children, time focus
focus on the children, time focus, rough time: Hi Carrie~ These feelings are totally normal to experience. He told you something very shocking and hurtful. So, of course, it s going to be very depressing to hear and to go through. You have to pull yourself together and try to move on with your life...

Divorce Issues: My husband has abandoned me, abandonment laws, belove
abandonment laws, belove, surger: Hi Emily He probbly can t just walk away. You ll need a lawyer and I can t give you legal advice. Try a woman s center. They may have someone to help you. I m going to guess you have a good case but, as I said, my legal opinions are not worth anything....

Divorce Issues: husband changed locks on my condo, soon to be divorced., legal recourse, emotional issues
legal recourse, emotional issues, personal effects: Hi Lisa~ If you had the condo prior to marriage and you bought it on your own he is NOT entitled to the condo. However, if you bought the condo during the marriage (even if it s in your name only) he is entitled to half of it (50%), and you the other half...

Divorce Issues: My husband left me, and I didn't want this!, good hearted man, trust issues
good hearted man, trust issues, sexy fun: Jennifer: This is a difficult time for you. Now you need to count on yourself and trust your own intuition. Be honest with yourself and see what you really feel now. Is it fear? Love? Confusion? Desperation? Once you can acknowledge your feelings, you...

Divorce Issues: My husband doesn't want to leave me the house, part time jobs, support alimony
part time jobs, support alimony, ira money: Hi Trish~ Yes, getting the home out of your name or his name, either party will have to refinance to put in just their own name. That s the only way. If you leave it as is, then that can present a lot of problems. Such as if you eventually wanted to...

Divorce Issues: husband doesn't work, doormat, doing the right thing
doormat, doing the right thing, hurry: Hi, Treeser, Based on the little you ve told me I think you are doing the right thing. It takes two to stabilize a relationship and one to change it. Sometimes an ultimtum is the only answer. Be generous about it but do it. If you are going to dissolve...

Divorce Issues: husband filed for divorce, hole in the wall, god family
hole in the wall, god family, grieving process: Hi Rachelle, Sorry you have suffer so. When someone you love dies it takes about two years to get through the grieving process. And that s if you were on reasonably good terms. If there is a lot of pain and resentment it can take longer and often involves...

Divorce Issues: -------------------------..., cobra insurance, uncontested divorce
cobra insurance, uncontested divorce, divorce laws: Dear Pam, I do not know the law surrounding accidents and spouses and responsibility. You may want to call the car insurance company to find out if an accident would change your rates. As far as I am aware your husband would be responsible for himself and...

Divorce Issues: my husband has been living..., lawyers fees, divoce
lawyers fees, divoce, adultery: Hi Patricia~ Most courts don t care if there was adultery in the marriage. They just want to know the reason for divorce. You can use that as the reason for wanting the divorce. When you file the paperwork,you need to make sure that you ask for him to...

Divorce Issues: My husband and his mistress, intimate relationship, sad situation
intimate relationship, sad situation, t pay: Dear Glenda, I am so sorry for this sad situation. If she is still wanted by the law, then call the law. Get everything you can into your name only, like bank accounts, etc. It sounds like your husband doesn t work and you are supporting the two of them....

Divorce Issues: Does my husband have the right to hid money from me, bread winner, planning a move
bread winner, planning a move, undisclosed location: Hi Fansalita~ He can t just take all the money and leave you and those children with nothing! If there is a court order that he s to pay you child support, then he s better pay it. If he fails to do so you can get him in contempt of a court order and...

Divorce Issues: My husband smokes marijuana in front of our baby...should I leave him?, divorce separation, momey
divorce separation, momey, smoki: As far as his job is concerned, things happen. So now, you must deal with lower income. You have set a pattern of not being stern about the smoking. From the time you met him, you allowed him to smoke despite the fact you didn t like it. Many other women...

Divorce Issues: My husband can't handle the separation, millionth time, emotional abuse
millionth time, emotional abuse, rest of my life: I m sorry. Your original letter was not clear about the time span which had taken place. No, you should not be tormented over the phone after such a considerable amount of time. Don t answer any more calls. He cannot abuse you unless you allow it....

Divorce Issues: husband walked out, parental custody, custodial rights
parental custody, custodial rights, joint custody: Your husband may be a lousy husband but he may be a great father. Unless you can prove that parental custody is DAMAGING the child, the court would have no reason not to award 50% custodial rights. You will also have custody and you may be the primary parent...

Divorce Issues: husband not wanting divorce, washington state divorce, state divorce laws
washington state divorce, state divorce laws, washington state divorce laws: Dear Lorita67, I apologize for my slow reply but I didn t even know I had a question waiting to answer! Sorry about that. If your husband does not want a divorce than your divorce would be a contested divorce , if you were both willing then the divorce...

Divorce Issues: Im not sure what i should do, getting a divorce, wile
getting a divorce, wile, public housing: Monica: If you want to move on with your life, then you need to get a divorce. You have been legally separated for many years, and it depends on the state you are in, whether or not, that is considered adultery. Because you have a child with your husband,...

Divorce Issues: Im asking on behalf of my mom, hotel charges, wisconsin law
hotel charges, wisconsin law, fair game: I am strongly opposed to parents bringing their children into their divorce arguments. Alienating a child against one parent is wrong. The divorce is between your parents and needs to stay that way. You are entitled to remain a child and to love both...

Divorce Issues: Indefinate Allimony, insurance value, attorney bill
insurance value, attorney bill, trial time: Hi Michael, It seems strange that she would tell a judge that she abused you over the course of your marriage and that she has a drinking problem. Why would she do that? When do you retire? If your salary drops what happens to her alimony? You can and should...

Divorce Issues: Infidelity, abandonment issues, sexual intimacy
abandonment issues, sexual intimacy, addictive relationships: Dear Annak, Thank you for writing me. I could help you but I d need to know more. If you were still in your marriage I would simply tell you to stop now and get out of the affair now. But the six years since changes a lot. Not everything but a lot....

Divorce Issues: Information about divorce, divorce proceedings, getting a divorce
divorce proceedings, getting a divorce, divorce lawyer: Hi Zelda~ Going through a divorce can be very scary if you don t know what to expect when going through one. A divorce can be nice and amicalble or it can be very dirty and ugly,depending on how well the couple involved in the divorce gets along. You...

Divorce Issues: Inheritance, getting a divorce, 5th wheel
getting a divorce, 5th wheel, intitled: When they reach a settlement, he is going to have to give her something. Tell her to say that he can keep the house and give her the equal cash value, or he can pay the house off and she can live in it. Divorce negotiation is a trade off. If he is a jerk,...

Divorce Issues: Inheritance during marriage, inheritance, credit debt
inheritance, credit debt, hurdle: Hi Donna~ No, you re not entitled to any of the inheritance money. That s why it s called inheritance (from his family). However, you could fight for the money that the grandparents put away for the children s future before their death. Sometimes a court...

Divorce Issues: Inheritance Money and Divorce, buying furniture, separate property
buying furniture, separate property, inheritance: Hi Susan~ That is correct. Inheritance money spouses are not entitled to, since it s inherited and it comes from your family. If one chooses to share their inheritance with their spouse, that is their choice to do so. But the spouse isn t legally entitled...

Divorce Issues: Inheritance money used to purchase a house, inheritance, filing for divorce
inheritance, filing for divorce, marriage: Hi William~ If you owned the house before the marriage, your wife is not entitled to it at all. If you bought the house after the marriage it s considered marital and community property; and you re only entitled to 50% of the value of the home; the other...

Divorce Issues: Inheritance, child support payments, net worth
child support payments, net worth, inheritance: Hi Curtis~ I remember you asking a similar question about this (increasing your net worth), from earlier. But you didn t mention that it s b/c of an inheritance. The answer is NO, she can t take you back to court to get more money from you by increasing...

Divorce Issues: Inheritence., divorce court, inheritance
divorce court, inheritance, paperwork: Hi Steve~ No, you re spouse isn t entitled to any inheritance money at all. You can do as you wish with the money, whether you choose to invest or to put it in the bank. She can lay no claim to it, period. Make sure you keep the paperwork on how much...

Divorce Issues: Initiating the divorce, jean answer, fault divorce
jean answer, fault divorce, divorce laws: Dear Jean, If the state he lives in has laws which will give me a better outcome in terms of alimony etc., should I have him do the filing instead of me? The answer to that would be YES. But be aware that may be why he is asking you to file and not...

Divorce Issues: Insurance, divorce papers, family courts
divorce papers, family courts, remarriage: I m sorry but I don t know the answer to that one. Again, you really need to find a lawyer. Go to Legal Aid or maybe try the family courts and see if they have a suggestion. I HAVE heard of alimony being awarded until remarriage or death, but not insurance....

Divorce Issues: International Divorce, pro bono attorneys, international divorce
pro bono attorneys, international divorce, divorce laws: Before you need a pro bono atty you need to find your wife. If money is not an issue you need a private investigator. They will find where she is and then you can contact the courts. Find out which state the papers need to be served from. Look on the internet...

Divorce Issues: International divorce, divorce paperwork, international divorce
divorce paperwork, international divorce, divorce web: Hi Crystal~ You could find out by asking the circuit clerk of the court in the county in which you reside in. He/She should be able to tell you if you have to file any different type of paperwork, with the standard divorce paperwork--and what process you...

Divorce Issues: International vacation, divorce papers, international vacation
divorce papers, international vacation, joint custody: Sorry it to me a while, but I have been dealing with an all consuming case. This is extremely serious. Is your wife from another family or does she have relatives abroad? That will increase the reason to worry. This is considered a very serious breach of...

Divorce Issues: Internet Divorce?, divorce paperwork, better business bureau
divorce paperwork, better business bureau, money back guarantee: Hi Leslie~ I would be a little leary of online divorce sites offering to do your divorce. You should make sure it s a well known site. Preferably recognized by someone like the BBB (better business bureau). You can go to their website at www.bbb.com...

Divorce Issues: adultry, utilties, interrogatories
utilties, interrogatories, arrears: DC: I have found this site, which will give you all the forms, fees and need to know information about filing a contested divorce. http://www.lawlib.state.ma.us/divorce.html. This is specific for Massachusetts. I always think marriage counseling is a...

Divorce Issues: Introducing the boyfriend, long term boyfriend, romantic relationships
long term boyfriend, romantic relationships, 2 girls: The girls will be hurt when they are exposed to a string of men who go in and out of their mother s life. If this current guy ends up being a long term boyfriend and a decent person, then there is no harm. You want the girls to understand that dating if...

Divorce Issues: Introducing a new friend, new lady, custodial parent
new lady, custodial parent, love interest: Hi Kim~ It s totally inappropriate for him to expect you to let the 2 yo meet his new fling/love interest (whatever you d like to call her). The child is too young for one, and is very impressionable, not to mention it would be strange for her and it might...

Divorce Issues: Involving new boyfriend more with my life, christmas cards, christmas dinner
christmas cards, christmas dinner, fishing trip: Hi Sharon~ Maybe he s hesitant b/c he s not sure how to react with the children just yet (or even interact with your ex-husband, perhaps he feels uncomfortable thinking about this situation). And if he s going to be a part of your life he s going to deal...

Divorce Issues: IRA, type of ira, angel dear
type of ira, angel dear, ira contributions: Dear Angel, It may be time to takes some action and educate yourself. Check out divorcesource.com for your state laws surrounding divorce. Depending on the type of IRA she may have claim on it. Next, it was most likely not in your best interest to give...

Divorce Issues: IRS, innocent spouse rule, irs audit
innocent spouse rule, irs audit, first casualty: Dear Jon, I would say in times of divorce it can be beneficial to look at things with a paranoid slant. There are certain things in your story which seem unresolved. You do not indicate the results of the IRS audit of your tax returns. Are you required...

Divorce Issues: inappropriate behavior when son goes to dad's, pee pee, exhusband
pee pee, exhusband, supervised visits: Crissy, the exposure to sex that you are describing can be considered child abuse. I would suggest that you call your local Children s Protective Services office and discuss the situation with them. If that doesn t work, you can represent yourself in court...

Divorce Issues: income tax and children after divorce, getting a divorce, baby sitter
getting a divorce, baby sitter, living expenses: Hi Mitchell~ Tell him that you will not agree to those arrangements. And if he wants to persist on claiming on of the children, that the judge can decide if that s to be the case. You can then plead your case before the judge, on why you don t want him...

Divorce Issues: incontested divorve, us air force, information on divorce
us air force, information on divorce, divorce web: Hi Kristina~ You can still get a divorce granted by a judge even if he refuses to sign the paperwork you sent him. You need to tell your lawyer what s going on. He/She can then advise you of what to do next. The ad in the paper would probably work. ...

Divorce Issues: inevitable divorce, long distance relationship, long distance affair
long distance relationship, long distance affair, 5 months: Hi Sherri~ It s going to take you a while to begin to get over this feelings of betrayal. It takes most ppl a year at the very least to start to get over this emotions. Some ppl never get over them. It took me a year myself to get over the emotions,well...

Divorce Issues: infidelity, feeling unloved, lonely feeling
feeling unloved, lonely feeling, emotional breakdown: Hi. (I hit the wrong button on the experts site and you may get a notice that I m not answering this question. Ignore it. Sorry.) Your situation is very tricky. The lawyer is in trouble of course and could risk censure or worse. I guess you ve decided...

Divorce Issues: Will I inherit his debts?, stay at home dad, game cards
stay at home dad, game cards, loan papers: Hi Christina~ Anything that has your name on a joint account can/will go on your credit. So yes, anything like that would be your debt as well. Since he s a stay at home dad, and has been for a bit. The courts can order him to get a job and then pay...

Divorce Issues: inheritance, warranty deed, separate property
warranty deed, separate property, inheritance: Trecia: If his parents are living, then how is it inheritance? If he bought the house, and you were married, then legally it is half yours. If he bought the house before, he has to prove it. If it was a gift, and he willingly put it in your name, it is...

Divorce Issues: inheritance after divorce, stepfather, joni
stepfather, joni, sibling: Hi Joni~ That is very possible that divorce does severe the will. And she is the very next of kin, so she would/could be entitled to all of his property and inherite it all. It might be worth checking with an attorney that specializes in settling estate...

Divorce Issues: insurance, insurance assistance, enough money
insurance assistance, enough money, child support: I am not an attorney and really can t comment on the lagality of what your ex wife is doing, but it seems to me that if she returns to work then the agreement would remain staus quo as it was before her reducing her hours. She can t arbitrarily change your...

Divorce Issues: insurance on my step Children, parents share, share custody
parents share, share custody, legal terminology: Dear Adam, I am not an attorney, so I cannot give legal advice. Many employers do offer a family package and step children are often included. If the print doesn t say they must live with you, fulltime, then I m guessing you could carry them. Many divorced...

Divorce Issues: insurance, belove, legal question
belove, legal question, health insurance: Hi Phillis, I m not an attorney so this is not legal advice. I think you ve asked a legal question. My sense is that you should be practical and ask for whatever you think you will really need to take care of yourself. MS is not easy, as you know....

Divorce Issues: international divorce, international divorce, divorce papers
international divorce, divorce papers, divorce laws: Hi Larry~ I have no knowledge of the laws of other countries on divorce. I m only familiar with laws in the US. Sorry I couldn t be of much help to you. But I will say this, you should still be able to get a divorce, even if your wife refuses to sign...

Divorce Issues: introducing kids to new boyfriend, life period, custodial parent
life period, custodial parent, new man: Hi Rob, Thanks for your question. The emotional hurt your boys will suffer will be caused far more by the sudden breakup of your marriage than by the presence of this new man. As far as he s concerned, she s probably handling it well. She s doing it gradually...

Divorce Issues: investments in divorce, 401k plan, divorce separation
401k plan, divorce separation, profit sharing: Hi Lori~ I m not familiar with anything to do with 401K s and splitting them, during a divorce/separation process. If you feel you should use a particular date, then go with that. If he wants to draw it out and contest it, then let him do so. I don t...

Divorce Issues: investments in divorce, 401k plan, profit sharing
401k plan, profit sharing, mediator: Dear Lori, Although state laws differ regarding divorce, and I am not an attorney, I can tell you this. The same date will be used in figuring both of your monies. Meeting with a mediator only clarifies the procedure, but probably won t actually set the...

Divorce Issues: irrational ex-spouse/concern for child, stalking laws, full custody
stalking laws, full custody, school purposes: Hi Kelly~ Yes,her behavior is definitely a cause for concern. She s probably just very upset (since going through the divorce recently) and probably even still jealous b/c he s with you. What you all can do is make a call to CPS (child protective services)...

Divorce Issues: irrecon. diff, nasty divorce, separation period
nasty divorce, separation period, supervised visits: Hi Terri~ No, she can t go back and change the reason for the divorce, once it s already been stated why in the papers when first filed. If they were already separated and he then got a GF during the separation period (after he moved out), that s not considered...

Divorce Issues: Joint debt, hassle, money
hassle, money: Rhonda, Although the letter is legally binding that doesn t prevent him from not paying. This would make you go through the hassle of taking him to court. If the house is owned jointly, the payoff check will be made out jointly. I would make it a task...

Divorce Issues: Judgements against my ex on my home, household bills, claim deed
household bills, claim deed, judgements: Hi Joan~ I believe this is just a civil matter. So you could use a lawyer that could get the job done. You obviously don t need a divorce lawyer or a family attorney. You could look in the yellow pages to see what types of attornies are available on...

Divorce Issues: Judgment, divorce case, necessary documents
divorce case, necessary documents, sweet time: Hi Yavor~ There s probably not much you can do besides to petition the court to get on with a court date. They can only reschedule and delay it for so long, or for so many times. Just hang in there, for the duration. Lawyers are notorious for making...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - almost, diamond engagement ring, piece of the pie
diamond engagement ring, piece of the pie, innocent victims: Hi again Jimmy~ If that s what you think it ll take for her to sign the divorce paperwork for you, then I can respect that decision. After all it s up to you and you know your situation better than I do. And I know that you ve been wanting to be rid of...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - almost 2, money asap, humid summer
money asap, humid summer, installment plan: Hi Jimmy~ Perhaps you should tell your wife that you won t give her a lump sum unless she returns the items that you ve requested. Otherwise you are going to give her the money she s wants in installments. Tell her it s her decision, or rather let your...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - almost 2, godiva chocolates, spending spree
godiva chocolates, spending spree, humid summer: Hi Jimmy~ It s good to hear from you! Hopefully your lawyer will get on the ball and get your stbx wife to sign the divorce papers so that you can get on with the divorce and get it finalized. When this does happen you ll feel like the biggest weight...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - almost 2, plutonic relationship, mom and dad
plutonic relationship, mom and dad, romantic flowers: Hi Jimmy~ Be very aware here b/c her parents could be the meddling type of parents. I ve honestly never known anyone that had been only casually dating someone, and their parents called the person (their child was dating) to find out the status of their...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - almost, stero system, hand me downs
stero system, hand me downs, love interest: Hi Jimmy~ Well, if what you re going to do will be for the good of the community, then you should do it. Anytime someone does wrong though it ll come back to them somehow. It s called Karma. I truly believe in that stuff. So they ll get what s coming...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 55, amicable divorce, cell phone number
amicable divorce, cell phone number, kessler: Hi Jimmy~ Do not waver now! You must be strong at this moment in time. It s going to get harder as it goes on. Divorce is a very emotional,sad,trying thing to go through. I agree,don t take to your pastor right now. If at all. You must stay strong...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 56, cell phone number, divorce lawyer
cell phone number, divorce lawyer, follo: Hi Jimmy~ That s great news!!!!!! What are you going to do when/if your mom s house sells? Are you going to get a house together? That was a very good idea to have the check made in your mom s name. Hopefully your wife will just come to terms with what...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 57, divorce lawyer, personal possession
divorce lawyer, personal possession, downpayment: Hi Jimmy~ It s good that you requested that she talk directly to your lawyer. This way she can t start fights with you,etc. The less contact you have with her the better. If it were my situation I wouldn t offer her anything but half the rent (for however...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 58, useless talk, high blood pressure
useless talk, high blood pressure, final goodbye: Hi Jimmy~ Her irrational behavior is unfortunately typical of a desperate person trying to keep ahold of what she is losing. Next time she tries to pull something of this nature head her off at the pass. Tell her that you refuse to let her in again. ...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 59, useless talk, high blood pressure
useless talk, high blood pressure, conflict of interest: Hi Jimmy~ Your lawyer would have to represent you anyway. If you are the one that contacted him first and not your wife,then you have the legal right to continue to use him. I don t think that should be much of an issue especially if she s already gone...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 60, useless talk, conflict of interest
useless talk, conflict of interest, kessler: Hi Jimmy~ Well since she s contacted another lawyer and is going to have a letter drawn up. I d say she s probably going to go with this other lawyer. Don t give up hope. This is when it s really going to get nasty. You have to keep your wits about...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 62, toxic family, strong girl
toxic family, strong girl, kessler: Hi Jimmy~ It s normal to at times feel vunerable in the divorce process. It s not a very easy thing when you have to go through a divorce. You just have to remember the reasons why you are divorcing in the first place. I think it s normal for everyone...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 64, confrontations, remorse
confrontations, remorse, kessler: Hi Jimmy~ No,I don t think you should try and speak to her anymore. I think you should probably just leave well enough alone. Sometimes we have to get ugly b/c a person just won t take no for an answer. It s unfortunate that we have to be this way,sometime...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 66, grounds for divorce, conflict of interest
grounds for divorce, conflict of interest, baloney: Hi Jimmy~ I would just laugh at her lawyer. He obviously doesn t know what he s talking about! For one you have more than enough for grounds of divorce. Irreconsilible differences is what you can put for the reasons of divorce. This means that the marriage...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 67, grounds for divorce, committing suicide
grounds for divorce, committing suicide, bread maker: Hi Jimmy~ Her lawyer sounds like a real nutjob! Stick with your lawyer,and tell him in the response to her lawyer. That getting back with her and staying in this marriage it totally OUT of the question. And there is NO way in hell that will ever happen....

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 68, committing suicide, writing this letter
committing suicide, writing this letter, conflict of interest: Hi Jimmy~ First off I would be very pissed off at your lawyer. Because there is not any reason why he can t represent you anymore. Her lawyer can say all he wants to that it s a conflict of interest. But unless she has paid this other lawyer and she...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 69, divorce agreement, committing suicide
divorce agreement, committing suicide, writing this letter: Hi Jimmy~ Yes,what you did is totally acceptable! It s not your problem that she s running out of money. The worst she can do is sue you for the money for back rent since your name is still on the lease. I would go talk to the landlord and see if he ll...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 69, wasting energy, conflict of interest
wasting energy, conflict of interest, work permit: Hi Jimmy~ Divorce is a tough thing to go through for anyone. We can only hope that she somehow comes to her senses and will peacefully go along with the divorce process. A divorce is not just something that happens. You have to be divorced in a court...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 70, rough patches, separation and divorce
rough patches, separation and divorce, rough patch: Hi Jimmy~ It s normal to be experiencing these emotions and feelings. So don t fret about it. You really,honestly just have to literally take life one day at a time. While it s rough right now,it can and WILL get better. A separation and divorce are...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 70, interest jimmy, divorce situation
interest jimmy, divorce situation, simple hello: Hi Jimmy~ It s great to hear from you again. Life seems to be going pretty well for you,from what it sounds like. And that s great to know you are doing well! Sorry to hear about all the layoffs at your job. That s too bad for those employees and their...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 70, miami life, working visa
miami life, working visa, bad memories: Hi Jimmy~ Wow! I can t believe it s been a year already! Where does the time go,right? sheesh! Hopefully she won t contest it anymore. Her options are running pretty scarce at the moment. Which is in your favor. Don t dwell on the past and the...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 70, separation agreement, greencard
separation agreement, greencard, firs: Hi Jimmy~ They are probably refering to a legal separation. Which is you are still legally married,but any debts and bills that each person incurres (during the time of the agreement),each person is responsible for their own debts and not the other person....

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 71, divorce situation, divorce papers
divorce situation, divorce papers, separation agreement: Hi Jimmy~ I was just thinking about you recently and how you were doing in your divorce situation! It s good to hear from you. Yes,I totally agree with you going through the court system for the divorce. This way she can t talk you into anything. Just...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 71, immigration lawyer, separation agreement
immigration lawyer, separation agreement, greencard: Hi Jimmy~ I think both of your options are more than fair. If I were in your shoes I wouldn t be as nice. Especially the way she has treated you. Just remember that your lawyer works for YOU,and if you aren t please with how he s representing you,you...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 72, divorce situation, divorce papers
divorce situation, divorce papers, bad memories: Hi Jimmy~ I m just happy to see how far you ve come since we ve first started talking. You should be very proud of yourself! :) Answers to your questions ~ It depends on your state on how long the divorce process actually takes. In some states...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 72, separation agreement, kessler
separation agreement, kessler, landlord: Hi Jimmy~ Sorry for taking this long to answer your questions. My computer has been messed up and I ve been unable to answer my questions for over a week. Yes,I believe that s the biggest reason she s asking for a separation agreement. Don t agree...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 73, divorce papers, bad memories
divorce papers, bad memories, drastic measures: Hi Jimmy~ Yes,it s correct,what I told you a while back. You have to have a divorce granted by a judge to be legally divorced. You can ask the judge for anything,but there s only a 50-50 chance it ll be granted. But hey,it can t hurt to ask for them...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 73, immigration lawyer, wise idea
immigration lawyer, wise idea, separation agreement: Hi Jimmy~ Yes,I think that s why she wants the SA. I wouldn t agree to it no way,no how! And yes,you can legally go get anything you want out of the apartment. You re still legally married to her,and your name is on the lease. So you are intitled to...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 74, new memories, new dreams
new memories, new dreams, divorce case: Hi Jimmy~ I was just thinking about you the other day and how you were doing! Glad to hear that you are moving to the new house! I bet that is really exciting for both you and your mother! Congrats on the new place! And may it bring many new memories...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 74, bad memories, drastic measures
bad memories, drastic measures, time deal: Hi Jimmy~ It seems that she s not got much fight left in her. She probably can t afford to keep this on going. I d say that she ll probably cave and will eventually sign for the divorce. I don t think you ve got much to worry about. Keep me posted...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - divorce - part 75, lawyer fee, new memories
lawyer fee, new memories, new dreams: Hi Jimmy~ That s GREAT news! See,I told you to just be patient and bid your time,and things would slowly and eventually work out. It sounds as though things are finally starting to look up for you! And it s about dang time they did,as you certainly deserve...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, court appearance, type of girl
court appearance, type of girl, standstill: Hi again Jimmy~ Hopefully the ordeal with the divorce will hurry along quickly once the new year comes. And just remember to take things slow with the new possible love interest. There is a saying good things come to those who wait. I think that s...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, lawyer costs, lawyer fee
lawyer costs, lawyer fee, apartment lease: Hi Jimmy~ It s good to finally hear from you again! It sounds like you ve got things under control! And I m proud of you, just remember to be patient and stay strong. I know this is a rough thing to go through, but you can do it. Sounds as though you...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, divorce situation, relationship question
divorce situation, relationship question, love interest: Hi again Jimmy~ 1. She asked me when I will start seeing people again and if I consider marrying again. My reply was general as I told her that as time will come even I am emotionally ready to commit now. She s probably just trying to get a feel of...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, greencard, explaination
greencard, explaination, kessler: Hi Jimmy~ You are right, it s been a long time since I ve heard from you. I ve been wondering how things were going with you. It sounds like things are going well in the relationship dept for you. Glad to hear that, taking it slow is a good thing. ...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, greencard, kessler
greencard, kessler, new job: Hi Jimmy~ You re very welcome for all the support. That s what I m here for, right?! It s my pleasure, I m just glad that I can help you out, when I can. My divorce process took close to a year, but that s b/c we were fighting over stuff, and it...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, mental cruelty, complaint letter
mental cruelty, complaint letter, letter states: Hi Jimmy~ Don t stoop to her level and send it to her place of employment, they could use this against you in court. And you don t want this to make you look bad. Just ignore her. A judge isn t going to grant her anything based on these stupid and frivolous...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, mental cruelty, complaint letter
mental cruelty, complaint letter, letter states: Hey Jimmy~ No problem at all! Sometimes it doesn t take much to make a person upset and fly off the hand when it comes to a divorce issue. I ve been there and done that. It s just not worth getting upset or angry over. Just remember you ll back on this...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, denial letter, taking care of mom
denial letter, taking care of mom, ground for divorce: Hi Jimmy~ Your stbx wife is just being petty and stupid over excuses to divorce or not to divorce. Don t worry about them, that s for the judge and the lawyers to deal with. Everything will work out in the end. You just have to remember to keep a level...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, mental cruelty, complaint letter
mental cruelty, complaint letter, letter states: Hi Jimmy~ It seems as though she s getting a taste of her very own medicine doesn t it?! Since you were the one supporting her and her family for the longest time. Now the shoe is on the other foot, and she s having to take care and support them. Karma,...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, right on target, fortune teller
right on target, fortune teller, lawer: Hi again Jimmy~ Your wife is only entitled to what you both accumilated during the marriage, and only the time that you were together. So if you bought the house before the marriage, she s NOT entitled to that. And you need to make sure that you bring...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, lawyer fee, apartment lease
lawyer fee, apartment lease, lawer: Hi Jimmy~ I think your offer is fair at $2,000. I sure as hell wouldn t give her anything over $5,000, but that is me. And that s only if you can really afford to give that much to her. It might be worth it if you do have it, as you said to get her out...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - part 72, kessler, rebound
kessler, rebound, graduate student: Hi Jimmy~ I can assure you that you aren t on the rebound. A rebound is just when you are fresh from getting out of a relationship or marriage,and you haven t even had time for yourself to know what you want out of life. That means you would be ready...

Divorce Issues: jimmy - almost, diamond engagement ring, furnitures
diamond engagement ring, furnitures, kessler: Hi Jimmy~ It s good to hear from you again? How ve you been?! In all honesty I think that you are being WAY too generous by agreeing to give her 10 grand! I still think that the initial 5 grand would be more than fair. But I can understand that you want...

Divorce Issues: KEEPING IN CONTCT WITH CHILDREN, intereference, midweek
intereference, midweek, fella: I can understand that your ex-wife wants this vacation to be a special one-on-one time with the children without outside intereference from friends/family with cell phones. She will have a hotel room and there will be telephone access (just like in the...

Divorce Issues: Kids, heart to heart talk, heart to heart
heart to heart talk, heart to heart, great man: Hi Adria~ You need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him exactly how this is making you feel. He really must know this ASAP. He needs to take you seriously on this subject, as it s affecting you and the relationship. Take it...

Divorce Issues: Kids in different states, school holidays, loving kids
school holidays, loving kids, girl 6: Hi LaurieBurke~ You will not ruin them in any way. Lots of parents have to do this sort of arrangement. As long as you can co-parent in a loving, caring manner together. Then the children will grow up and know that they were well taken care of and very...

Divorce Issues: Kids, professional facilitation, tough stuff
professional facilitation, tough stuff, tanenbaum: Hi. Thanks so much for writing. Also, I appreciate being addressed by name. This is a really difficult situation you ve described. Sounds like you need something a lot less vague, something more specific in terms of a promise. I d like to know what...

Divorce Issues: How to keep the home?, savings insurance, unfit mother
savings insurance, unfit mother, full custody: Hi Larry~ If the home was yours before you married her, then she s not entitled to the home. If you bought the home together (even if it s only in your name), then she s entitled to half of the marital home and half of marital property. If you can...

Divorce Issues: How to keep my house!, twenty five years, maney
twenty five years, maney, alimony: Hi Gina~ If possible you need to file for a divorce or have your husband do it. Whoever can afford to do it. It needs to be done ASAP. You can also ask to receive alimony in the divorce, it s very likely you ll get this since you ve never worked outside...

Divorce Issues: keeping my car after divorce, divorce papers, credit score
divorce papers, credit score, car payments: Hi Jason~ You could ask the judge to do it this way, as long as your wife is in agreement. Otherwise she can request her name be taken off the title, etc. She s taking a big risk by letting you keep the car in her name. Have you tried to put it in both...

Divorce Issues: keeping my house, home equity loan, children of divorce
home equity loan, children of divorce, financial hole: Dear Kim, Thank you for your patience. I was out of town and I let Allexperts know (I see they did not post that I was). It is admirable for you want to keep the house, it maybe however a very expensive and ultimately impossible option. A house has several...

Divorce Issues: keeping the negotiation process moving, atorneys, negotiation process
atorneys, negotiation process, liquid assets: Dear mthannigan, Sounds like a mediator would help immensely here. They are much less expensive and can be a bit of a barrier between you and your spouse. By the way, inheritance is not considered marital property in any state that I know of. To learn more...

Divorce Issues: Did you or anyone you know have a bad, greedy or incompetent divorce lawyer or judge, dana johnston, divorce lawyer
dana johnston, divorce lawyer, divorce case: Hi Dana, attorneys are not that stupid to account for their misrepresentations and greediness. In my circumstance, my attorney failed to tell me about a settlement that my ex and his attorney proposed. That cost me alot of money because the market went south...

Divorce Issues: LAWYERLESS, custody visitation, alimony
custody visitation, alimony, child custody: Hi Jody~ Typically anything that was acquired during the marriage is to be split 50-50. Since by law it s considered community property. You could do a liquidation and then just split the profits from it 50-50 with your wife. You can request to the judge...

Divorce Issues: Lamp sum for spousal support, lump sum settlement, money equivalent
lump sum settlement, money equivalent, alimony: Hi Ben~ Using the figures you ve given me. According to my calculations: If you agree to pay her $3300 per month. That s equals out to exactly $39,600 per year. You were married for 23 years. And at $39,600 per year, that would be a...

Divorce Issues: Laws surrounding spouse entitlement, free initial consultation, central dot
free initial consultation, central dot, belove: Hi I can t help you. THis is a legal question. I m a psychologist and can t give legal advice. Try divorce central dot com. Talk to an attorney. Many will give you a free initial consultation in the hopes of winning your business. Philip Belove, Ed.D...

Divorce Issues: Lawyer Moves, state bar association, spending time
state bar association, spending time, psychologist: Hello Amanda, Strictly speaking this question is beyond my competence as a psychologist. I suggest you give a call to the State Bar Association and speak to their ethics person and get advice. They should be able to help you and also, the call might possibly...

Divorce Issues: Lawyer problems, gunho, google
gunho, google, adultry: Dear Dean, Small communities have their pros and cons and you ve happen to run into a con with your divorce. The best step you can take is to educate yourself on the dviorce laws of South Carolina. Use google.com and search under divorce + South Carolina...

Divorce Issues: Leaving California after a Divorce with Legal and Physical Custody of my child, divorce decree, getting a divorce
divorce decree, getting a divorce, divorce papers: Hi Heather~ You can put in the divorce decree that you and your soon-to-be-ex-husband are in agreeance that you can indeed move to CO (or any other state for that matter). The courts can t make you stay in the state, unless there is a court order forbidding...

Divorce Issues: Leaving/legally, personal laptop, calling me names
personal laptop, calling me names, everyday of my life: You can file a restraining order against your husband without physical bruises. He is mentally, emotionally, and physically abusing you. The judge will hear your side of the story and make a judgement. Your husband would not know unless the judge grants...

Divorce Issues: Leaving a marriage without being so costly, abusive relationship, manic depressive
abusive relationship, manic depressive, old mother: Hi LaToya~ You need to tell the judge that you ve had it with your husband being a no show all the time. And you just want the divorce process to end. The judge can grant a judge with or w/o your husbands consent. If you have a lawyer stay on him about...

Divorce Issues: Leaving the state with children/ Minnesota, belove, custody evaluation
belove, custody evaluation, legal question: Hi, You ve asked a legal question. I m a psychologist with expertise in how couples develop themselves. I can t give you legal advice. It does sound like your plans to leave will make it difficult for her children to see her and that, in turn, will stress...

Divorce Issues: Legal Fees, lawyer fees, upfront
lawyer fees, upfront, assets: Hi Bill~ The legal fees do not come out of the property or assets. Unless they are sold and then you pay your lawyers from that. Most lawyers expect the money upfront,and as the process goes along. Almost every lawyer will do nothing unless he s paid...

Divorce Issues: Legality of Divorce, final decree, no worries
final decree, no worries, divorce: Hi Chris~ No, it won t affect your divorce or current marriage. But you should check into seeing if they can correct this error on the decree. Sometimes misspellings occur in documents. And although it s very unprofessional on their part, it in no way...

Divorce Issues: Liability in paying off joint loans, divorce agreement, divorce decree
divorce agreement, divorce decree, will most likely need: Dear Janice, First, let me say that I am not a financial advisor and I suggest you speak to one, as well as yoru lawyer. Most likely your name is also on the loan. While he was responsible for paying it, according to the decree, your name was never removed....

Divorce Issues: Life after divorce, divorce proceedings, life after divorce
divorce proceedings, life after divorce, abusive marriage: I understand that is a tough situation to be in, especially depending on where you live, a person s religious beliefs and the kind of society you live in. However, that said, lets focus on you. Nobody owns you! You are the sole protector of your body and...

Divorce Issues: Live-in boyfriend still won't divorce his ex, sexual text, daugter
sexual text, daugter, getting a divorce: Hi Karen, Thanks for your question. I m afraid you are in the mistress position and unless that is exactly what you want and all you want (and it is for some women) that s a terrible place to be. It s not good for you, for him , for anyone. So you have...

Divorce Issues: Living arrangments, household bills, 4 months
household bills, 4 months, 8 years: Hi Lorrie~ Each state is different in their laws. But in some states you can put the spouse out of the house, if they refuse to leave and the divorce is in the process. Most states though you can t put the spouse out until there s a court order that states...

Divorce Issues: Loneliness/Empty Nest, divorce support group, snail mail
divorce support group, snail mail, lunch dates: Hi Michele~ Have you thought about joining a divorce support group? I have a link to one, that you might find helpful. It is: www.divorcesupport.com. You might be able to find other ppl who are going through the same thing that you are. Other suggestions...

Divorce Issues: Long expensive divorce, post nuptial agreement, happy relationship
post nuptial agreement, happy relationship, unfortunate experience: Hi Dennis, I sure can relate! I had an unfortunate experience with my attorneys. I found that they were far more interested in keeping my divorce going then settling things between my ex and me. My ex had proposed a settlement that my attorneys didn t bother...

Divorce Issues: Lost, belove, clinical experience
belove, clinical experience, hopelessness: Dear Tim, I think I just answered this, but I ll answer again. If you are feeling hopeless is because her continued contact with her affair partner is a very bad sign as far as the future of your marriage is concerned. So much depends on whether...

Divorce Issues: Lost, hurt and don't know what to do..., espacially, peop
espacially, peop, booze: Hi Randy, sorry to hear about your situation.......it sounds like you are a really together guy who acknowledges issues and stands up to the challenge of change. HOWEVER, it sounds like your wife thinks she can do what she wants and still have your undying...

Divorce Issues: Lost, light after the darkness, calm after the storm
light after the darkness, calm after the storm, relationhips: Barb: Your intuition is correct, you cannot stay with someone who lies and cheats. Of course there is going to be pain, because there was love and other feelings and emotions attached, however pain is a great catalyst for growth. Pain is a call...

Divorce Issues: Loveless Marriage, loveless marriage, marriage counselor
loveless marriage, marriage counselor, going through the motions: Hi Wendy, Your marriage is still in crisis mode and this is always painful and frightening. People who have affairs justify them and the main thing that happens is that the philanderer, in his mind, remembers the worst parts of the marriage instead of...

Divorce Issues: leagal issues, getting a divorce, legal separation
getting a divorce, legal separation, alimony: Hi Derick~ She can t get alimony until the divorce goes to court. She can get a temp order for child support and vistation for you though. So I honestly suggest that you file for a divorce and have her served, asking for custody of the child, that you...

Divorce Issues: should i leave or not, egg shells, married at 19
egg shells, married at 19, smoking pot: Hi Georgia~ I m a Christian too. And I do NOT agree with what your pastor and his wife told you to do. He s violated the marriage vows time after time. You should never stay in a marriage that s unhealthy, God understands that. Sometimes you have to...

Divorce Issues: Do I have to be the one to leave?, marriage counseling, boyfreind
marriage counseling, boyfreind, emotional support: Hi Sheila~ You can t force him to leave, unless he s abusive. Under those circumstances you could get a protective order and then call the police and they can forcibly remove him from the home. Otherwise, he s got just as much right to live there as you...

Divorce Issues: Should I leave Completely?, relationship work, great relationship
relationship work, great relationship, self discovery: Michael: It takes two to make a relationship work. You need to know what is happening with her and what she really wants. Tell her what you feel and be honest about needing more certainty in your relationship. Be prepared to listen to her, and then decide...

Divorce Issues: leave the home, teenager girls, attick
teenager girls, attick, three girls: Hi Vita~ I m not sure to be honest. When you are legally married you can t force a spouse to leavem,and vice versa. You can however,change the locks on the house the next time he leaves. That would be one way to get him out. That s the only thing I...

Divorce Issues: leave husband for his brother, abusive situation, calling me names
abusive situation, calling me names, domestic violence: Ashely: I don t think you should be afraid of what anyone will think. You are in an abusive situation, and you need to move on. The real question is this: Are you leaning on his brother because of the abuse you are enduring and have endured, which could...

Divorce Issues: should I leave, marriage counseling, sounding board
marriage counseling, sounding board, sentences: Hi Yolanda, I would certainly love to help you and be here for a sounding board. I really need to have more details on your marriage. It s hard for me to give advice based on a few sentences. Could you please tell me more? What kind of a drug problem? Why...

Divorce Issues: leaving the state with children/Minnesota, divorce situation, divorce agreement
divorce situation, divorce agreement, divorce decree: Hi Ryan~ This could get tricky here. It would honestly be a bad idea to leave the state when she s currently going through a divorce situation. It would be better to wait until the visitation and all that is worked out and both parties can agree on it....

Divorce Issues: legal issues, ugly divorce, 2 girls
ugly divorce, 2 girls, legal options: Hi Dave~ The thing is if her name is on the financing you ll have to get her signature off of it, and the only way you can do that is if she ll agree to sign. If she simply refuses, then you might have to fight it out legally. Are you sure that refinancing...

Divorce Issues: legal ownership of house, worse case scenario, legal divorce
worse case scenario, legal divorce, new mortgage: Hi Paul~ You made a verbal agreement with her to do this. And now she s reneging on the deal. She may or may not have a case though. It can really go two ways here, when it goes to court and you obtain a legal divorce and finalize it. You need to...

Divorce Issues: would I have legal problems?, mexican citizen, arizona divorce
mexican citizen, arizona divorce, getting a divorce: Hello Alex, Arizona divorce laws are very different then the state that I live in. First you would have to know the divorce laws of the state your sister lives in. Then you would have to find out about her rights as a US citizen and I would have no legal...

Divorce Issues: legal seperation, legal seperation, wonderful guy
legal seperation, wonderful guy, adultery: Torn: If he is legally separated, then there is not a problem. Adultery takes place if he is living together, and being legally separated, there is no reason that you would be called in front of the judge. You and he have done nothing wrong, and he can...

Divorce Issues: life after divorce, life after divorce, frustation
life after divorce, frustation, seperated: Hello, I got your email. Thanks. I m traveling today and tomorrow and I ll be in LA on Wednesday and perhaps we can talk then but meanwhile, I m grabbing chances to answer mail in airports. It s late Tuesday and I have your direct letter and I ll answer it...

Divorce Issues: This is literally killing me....., freshmen year, alcohol problems
freshmen year, alcohol problems, mom and son: Hi Erica~ You must not, I repeat, you must NOT go back to Nathan. Tyically once an abuser always an abuser. Especially since he was raised this way. It can almost seem normal to him. Do you not see how both of you coming from very abusive backgrounds,...

Divorce Issues: I am living in the present ..but I still want him back, prague apartment, sized woman
prague apartment, sized woman, making love: If you want him back, sure you can have him back but the question is do you want to live a limited life ? There is more to life if you open your eyes. You don t need to wait 5 yrs to get him back you can get him back now if you want by talking to him in...

Divorce Issues: loans and accounts, sighned, checking savings
sighned, checking savings, forgery: Hi Shannin~ He has no legal authority to remove your name from the truck that you own together. Or to close out the account with your name on it. He can t just take the money and leave you with nothing. You are entitled to half of everything in the divorce...

Divorce Issues: loans in default/divorce, default divorce, voluntary repo
default divorce, voluntary repo, car title: Hi Sheila~ Did you voluntarily sign off of the car title and give it to him? If not, then he can t just take your name off the title! That s forgery. What you need to do is get a copy of the title and see if he signed your name off on the title and then...

Divorce Issues: how long?, divorce papers, time limit
divorce papers, time limit, child support: Hi Tearra~ Barring that he doesn t contest the divorce, it should be relatively quickly, that the divorce can be finalized by the judge. I m guessing as little as 2-3 months. I ve even seen divorces become final as quickly as 30 days after the divorce...

Divorce Issues: How long for the divovrce to be complete, default judgement, disolution of marriage
default judgement, disolution of marriage, time nancy: Hi Nancy~ It depends on what state you live in. Generally speaking though it can take 3-4 months, to even a year for a divorce to be through and finalized. If it s an uncontested divorce, it ll go that much quicker. If they told you Sept 06, it should...

Divorce Issues: How long can I get married again?, clerk of the court, first wife
clerk of the court, first wife, time period: Hi Johnard~ Congrats on becoming a new father soon! How exciting! Each state is different on how long you are able to remarry after a divorce. It s typically 30 days after the divorce is finalized. You should be able to ask your lawyer this. If you...

Divorce Issues: How long before the pain is gone?, egg shells, divroce
egg shells, divroce, female relatives: Greg: The pain you are going through right now is not an easy load. It will get better. However, you have two options one, leave it to time (maybe a long time) or take control of your healing process and heal as fast as you can. Healing doesn t mean...

Divorce Issues: How long, divorce settlement, divorce papers
divorce settlement, divorce papers, settlement date: Hi Jez, the obvious answer to your first question is........ the minute your divorce is finalized by a judge. The second question is a bit more complicated. The length of time a divorce takes depends on a few factors: 1) the complexity of your assets and...

Divorce Issues: what all will I loose, custodial parent, child support
custodial parent, child support, whole time: Hi B~ If you bought the house before your marriage, then the house would stay with you. If you bought it together, even if it s in just your name, then it would be considered marital property. And she would be entitled to half of it, and anything else...

Divorce Issues: will i lose my house?, custodial parent, maintainance
custodial parent, maintainance, alimony: Hi Beatrice~ It s unlikely that you ll be forced to leave the marital home. Typically the custodial parent keeps the house and gets the children. And since you have two houses, they will probably just order one house for each of you to live in. Not to...

Divorce Issues: lots of questions on divorce, clerks office, library article
clerks office, library article, residency requirements: Stephanie: It depends on if you are considered a residence of Arizona or New York. And, that depends on how long you have lived there. Here is one link to look at: http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/divorce-timeframe-and-residency-requirements.html...

Divorce Issues: Maiden Name, social security card, divorce decree
social security card, divorce decree, maiden name: Hi again Angela~ Divorce decree or paperwork should be all that you d need or even, social security card with your current name on it, drivers license, a bill that shows your current address; addressed to you in your name. Basically anything that is proof...

Divorce Issues: Marital Assets, lunchtime seminars, marital assets
lunchtime seminars, marital assets, state divorce: Dear Julie, Unfortunately, I do not know what state you live in so I cannot direct you to specific state resources but I can suggest the following so you may locate them yourself. 1. Visit your state bar assoications website. Many states have online...

Divorce Issues: Marital Home, judge orders, surroundings
judge orders, surroundings, profits: Hi Lynn~ It doesn t matter if her name is or isn t on the deed of the home. If it was purchased during the marriage at any time, she s entitled to half of it (as long as they bought it as a couple). Meaning they weren t separated and then it was bought....

Divorce Issues: Marital home, wifes name, rental apartment
wifes name, rental apartment, lease ends: Dear Joe, I have yet to fathom how you could be joint owners of a Property and only have it in your wife s name. This is asking for big trouble.You say there is no abuse involved but she says No way to you moving back in there. You will soon discover...

Divorce Issues: Marital Separation, emotional affair, marital separation
emotional affair, marital separation, messy situation: Dear Martina, It sounds like a pretty messy situation. I am guessing that you have remorse about the affair and it has ended. Since no one has moved yet, and the two of you have had years of not getting along, but staying together for the children, then...

Divorce Issues: My Marriage, old girlfriends, painful choices
old girlfriends, painful choices, addiction problems: Hi. Thanks for your question. Your situation is very complex and you have some painful choices ahead. The self-doubting is a good sign. Usually as people start to mature into the next stage at midlife. they start by seriously questioning some of their...

Divorce Issues: Marriage, sole physical custody, false allegations
sole physical custody, false allegations, legal input: Perry, It all boils down to one important thing that I believe will help you in the long run. Be very sensitive to your daughter s needs and sensitivites around your new partner. Make the introduction filled with gifts and frolick. Dont let the child feel...

Divorce Issues: Marriage before divorce, alimony child support, subject matter jurisdiction
alimony child support, subject matter jurisdiction, personal jurisdiction: Dear Sarah, A divisible divorce is noted in the link as away for for soon-to-be-ex to remarry. http://www.gottrouble.com/legal/family/divorce_remarry.html You should speak with your attorney about whether or not yoru spouse can marry another woman...

Divorce Issues: Married 23 years, feel betrayed, time homemaker, nasty divorce
time homemaker, nasty divorce, marriage breakdown: Hi Kay, This is a sad, sad story you have to tell. And you are in some trouble too. First, for support, you want to find a 12 step group. There are a couple that could be right for you. You do have to stop drinking because alcohol, while it does distract...

Divorce Issues: Married 25 years and want out, child support obligations, stay at home mom
child support obligations, stay at home mom, rare instances: Hi Hal~ Each state has a chart that determines how much child support and spousal support is paid. For child support they go by how many children and how much a person makes gross annually. I presume it s the same way for spousal support. Spousal...

Divorce Issues: Married man and me, nut shell, daughter lives
nut shell, daughter lives, trying to have a baby: Hi Kathy, I think it s great that you have a wonderful relationship with this guy. I also think that best friends can share everything that concerns them without feeling like they will be hurt or judged. You need to find out why divorcing isn t a priority...

Divorce Issues: Meaning Of reason For Separation / Divorce, cheerful voice, rational person
cheerful voice, rational person, space and time: Hi Dan~ Without my sounding to forward it seems to me that she might perhaps be cheating on you. Or in the very least is interested in someone else. It sounds as if she wants you to do what she s doing with someone else. Otherwise, what normal, sane...

Divorce Issues: Mediation/Financial settlements, divorce support groups, american academy of matrimonial lawyers
divorce support groups, american academy of matrimonial lawyers, lawyer referral service: Dear Ida, There are quite a few resources on the internet that can help you through this process. Here s a list to get you going: 1. Equalityinmarriage.org- they have a great section entitled When Divorcing which goes over everything from what to do...

Divorce Issues: Medical expenses with divorce, divorce decree, full custody
divorce decree, full custody, custodial parent: Hi Matt~ If it states in the divorce decree that she s responsible for the other 1/2 of their medical bills, then she s responsible for them. As long as you pay your half you have nothing to worry about. If you want to do something about it, you d have...

Divorce Issues: Mexican Divorce Laws, mexican divorce, international divorce
mexican divorce, international divorce, mexican citizen: Dear Angela, You can obtain a divorce in state in which you reside, as long as you are a citizen of the U.S. If you are not a U.S. citizen then I believe you have to divorce in you the country in which you are a citizen. As you noted you are a Mexican citizen...

Divorce Issues: Mexican marriage, dear kelly, proper authorities
dear kelly, proper authorities, decemeber: Dear Kelly, From what you stated in your question- you would not be required to pay alimony until either she remarries or December of 2005- which ever comes first. Try this link http://www.mexicotravelnet.com/Travel_Tips/embassies.htm Perhaps the...

Divorce Issues: Mexican marriage, decemeber, step daughter
decemeber, step daughter, lay person: Hi Kelly, Thanks for your question. It s a legal question and as a psychologist I have to say that my answer carries absolutely no authority. I m just guessing. However, I m guessing that you might be right. If you decide to stop payments, better get...

Divorce Issues: Mid-life affair, mid life crisis, woamn
mid life crisis, woamn, advice column: Hi Ian, It s not that I am on a woman s side, so to speak, but it s just that I deal with women more so I feel comfortable being an expert for this advice column. I know for a fact that men often experience the same pain, but they are usually much more...

Divorce Issues: Middle man in my parents divroce, middle person, middle man
middle person, middle man, hard time: Hi Mary~ Just tell them that you refuse to be in the middle of their arguments and fights about anything. You simply will not do it any longer. If they have something to say to one another, then they can do it themselves. You are staying out of it from...

Divorce Issues: Military Retirement Benefits after Divorce, military retirement benefits, divorce proceedings
military retirement benefits, divorce proceedings, duty army: Hi Kimberly~ Your retirement should be completely safe. If he didn t ask for it during the divorce proceedings then he can NOT come back and ask for it at a later time (this is the same with alimony). Make sure that you can tell this to the judge...

Divorce Issues: Military Retirement Pay as Joint Asset, civilian retirement, 401k 403b
civilian retirement, 401k 403b, retirement pay: Hi Pebbie~ I don t have much in the way of experience on this. But I know you re entitled to 50% of his retirement pension (as long as you ve been married for the required amount of years, see, in each state you must be married a certain number of years...

Divorce Issues: Missing my children..., residential custody, fighting depression
residential custody, fighting depression, going back to florida: Hi Angela~ I m going through the same type of problems as you. As I do not have custody of my oldest three children (from a previous marriage), the ex-husband does. In your current agreement what does it say the visitation schedule is to be? For mine,...

Divorce Issues: Missing Spouse Divorce, xyz street, anytown usa
xyz street, anytown usa, john l smith: Hi Cindy~ You can go to the paper and tell them what type of ad your wanting to place (which in your case is a divorce by publication). They can help you to choose the proper wording for your ad for the divorce notification. Here in general is something...

Divorce Issues: Money earned during separation, divorce agreement, separation period
divorce agreement, separation period, financial situation: Hi Bob~ No, once you separate she s not entitled to any more money you may earn. Once you start living separately it s considered moving on with your life and starting anew. If this becomes an issue, then you show your proof that this was earned separately...

Divorce Issues: My Mother Vs. My Morals, sara sara, divorce papers
sara sara, divorce papers, moral base: Sara, I m about to travel and will be pre-occupied for the next 36 hours. I can answer you on wednesday. I think I d like to know what the secret is, or the lie, and I think I d like you to tell me privately at my professional email, drbelove@datingatmidlife.com...

Divorce Issues: Move on or wait?, mid life crisis, having an affair
mid life crisis, having an affair, big trouble: Hi Ian~ It is what it is, right now. It was her decision to leave the marriage. Her decision to cheat on you with another man. There s no denying there is big trouble in the marriage. The only way you re going to try and salvage it is if you can convince...

Divorce Issues: Moving on, lack of affection, perfect marriage
lack of affection, perfect marriage, fish out of water: Hi Chris, well it s only been 3 months! I felt that way for 3 years. It takes time and lots of it. You lost a dream of a perfect marriage. You re in a place where you really don t want to be and you feel like you can t go back and you can t move forward. Give...

Divorce Issues: Moving in with a boyfriend after divorce, single parents, strong woman
single parents, strong woman, step at a time: I just wanted to add that your concern for your family is a beautiful thing. You are a strong woman to survive a divorce and raise to young ladies. I ask you to continue in the same fashion, taking things one step at a time. Enjoy your girls. Enjoy the...

Divorce Issues: Moving in with a boyfriend after divorce, pet peeves, two girls
pet peeves, two girls, hard time: Although you did not tell me how long you were separated prior to the divorce, personally I don t think anything under two years is enough time for children to accept another man in their home. One of my pet peeves is divorced women, who are so scared...

Divorce Issues: Moving with my child after divorce, notary of public, dead beat dad
notary of public, dead beat dad, divorce decree: Hi Devon~ Just take him back to court. The worst thing that can happen is that the judge says no. You have a 50-50 chance of actually being granted an amendment to your divorce decree. All you have to do is plead your case to the judge and tell him why...

Divorce Issues: Moving after divorce, divorce papers, divorce decree
divorce papers, divorce decree, order of protection: Hi Karen~ Since it s not specified and not stated that you can t move to another state with your children, in the divorce decree. You can legally move. Before you move you could speak to the judge that s handling the order or protection, and see if there...

Divorce Issues: Moving out of state, books for men, breach of contract
books for men, breach of contract, exwife: Dear David, Yes, your sons ex wife can take him back to court to modify the visitation/ custody arrangements. If she takes the children without consent under the current agreement then she would be in breach of contract and he could take her to court....

Divorce Issues: Moving to another state, birth certificate, state of new york
birth certificate, state of new york, presumption: Dear Victoria, By no divorce, I m guessing there was no marriage. You are not married to this man are you? I will answer this question under the assumption that the two of you co-habitated and had two daughters, then broke up. If this presumption is incorrect,...

Divorce Issues: Moving out of state, full custody, brandi
full custody, brandi, child support: Hi Brandi~ No, since you re not married, and there is no court order prohibiting you from moving out of state with your son. You have full custody of your child, he can t tell you what to do, or where to live with your son. You have the ultimate say-so...

Divorce Issues: Moving out of state, notary of public, contempt of court
notary of public, contempt of court, divorce decree: Hi Wendy~ You must abid by your divorce decree. If you don t then you will be in contempt of court. And your ex-husband could use this against you. Your daughter is old enough to decide where she wants to live now. Check your state laws to see what...

Divorce Issues: Moving on, anxiety problem, long term relationship
anxiety problem, long term relationship, pep talk: Starting over is always scary but now with experience in your back pocket, your life will be an improvement over what was. You are correct that the end of a long term relationship is very much like a divorce. Being the founder of a national group for divorced...

Divorce Issues: With Mr Right but think about Mr Wrong, mr wrong, castelli
mr wrong, castelli, 4 months: Kayrin: You seem to be clear about what you want. However, sometimes when the past is not fully healed it can come back to haunt us until we heal it fully. I invite you to read this article at http://extreme.urbantex.com/breakuprescue.html I think...

Divorce Issues: With Mr Right but think about Mr Wrong, high school sweethearts, long term relationship
high school sweethearts, long term relationship, mr wrong: First loves are hard to let go of, especially if they were high school sweethearts. What you have is an issue of letting go . There are so many reasons for which we hold onto memories and feelings, that it would be impossible for me to figure out what his...

Divorce Issues: With Mr Right but think about Mr Wrong, verbal abuse, good conversation
verbal abuse, good conversation, daydream: HI. That worked out very well didn t it. I m not surprised. The best way out of a triangle is to drop the secrecy. Show the letter you plan to write to your current partner and pass along this advice: My general advice is to keep it as brief as possible....

Divorce Issues: i'm in new york can child..., arbitration support, child support payments
arbitration support, child support payments, marriage and divorce: Hello, child support is determined sometime before your divorce agreement is finalized. In between that point is arbitration.Support is given to the primary custodian of the child. If support has been in arrears then it is retroactive to the date support stopped....

Divorce Issues: i'm in new york can child..., welfare payments, central dot
welfare payments, central dot, professional ethics: Hi. These are legal questions and I m a psychologist and my professional ethics don t allow me answering them. Go to Divorce Central dot com and you might find links there and help. A lot of people with little or no $ find that a good resource. Also, if...

Divorce Issues: Can i have my maiden name back?, divorce paperwork, divorce papers
divorce paperwork, divorce papers, left hand side: Hi Maria~ The divorce paperwork is only good for a year from the date it s filed and served. So your papers would be null and void, and you are still legally married, unless you ve gone to court and got a divorce finalized by a judge in court. So you...

Divorce Issues: maiden name, social security office, legal name change
social security office, legal name change, birth cert: Dear Jill, I am not an attorney. If a return to your maiden name was in your divorce decree, then simply go into all the offices and get the paper work started. If it was not included in your divorce decree, then I think, in many states, it s a legal name...

Divorce Issues: maiden name, divorce decree, clerk of the court
divorce decree, clerk of the court, m 46: Hi Susan~ If the judge agreed to it, then it should ve been listed in the divorce decree. Find out how much it is to change your last name to your maiden name. In some states it s a small fee (plus the court costs), it will vary by state. You can ask...

Divorce Issues: maiden name, teenage daughters, maiden name
teenage daughters, maiden name, pros and cons: Hi Jen~ I would say keep your married name. This way there won t be any confusion at your daughters school as to what your last name is. You could drop the Mrs and use Ms. I don t know of any link or any place where you could get the pros or cons of...

Divorce Issues: making divorce final finally, dear victor, divorce case
dear victor, divorce case, retirement plans: Dear Victor, If you remember where you filed the petition for divorce 4 years ago you can contact the same court house and see if they still have the paperwork for it. If they do, ask them what the next step is. If they do not then you will need to resubmit...

Divorce Issues: Am I making the right decision?, heavy drinker, racial prejudice
heavy drinker, racial prejudice, marriage work: Dear Sharon, Obviously, this is a decision that only you can make, as only you will have to live with whatever your decision is. The right thing is to weigh this matter seriously. I can offer two things. If your gut reaction on your wedding day is run...

Divorce Issues: Am I making the right decision, priorities change, case scenarios
priorities change, case scenarios, attitude adjustment: Hi Sheri, ugh I can certainly relate to that indecisive what am I doing feeling. Lets put some things into perspective. Divorce is EXPENSIVE and it is totally immoblizing if you don t know exactly what you re getting into. As we age and reenter the dating...

Divorce Issues: My man visit his kids and stay overnight with his former women, commit adultery, new woman
commit adultery, new woman, 2 women: Tara: I think that Mr. K and Mrs.A need some help. Remember, Mrs. A is putting up with this, so don t make her problem your problem. Next...a father should be as close to his kids after divorce as he was before divorce, and yes the kids should know that...

Divorce Issues: the man he was, copeing, dismay
copeing, dismay, ppl: Hi Mandy~ Sometimes much to our dismay ppl change. It s best to try and remember the good times over the bad that you shared. That s the best copeing technique that I could suggest to you. Just remember that you can t control how ppl act or react to...

Divorce Issues: How to manage my divorce process, marital assets, state divorce
marital assets, state divorce, monthly expenses: Dear Dedee, Here are some sites you may want to check out to gain more information on the divorce process: divorcesource.com, equalityinmarriage.org, womansdivorce.com, divorcenet.com and divorcemag.com. Each of this sites has helpful info on divorce. ...

Divorce Issues: marital home, wifes name, rental apartment
wifes name, rental apartment, free consultations: Hi Joe, as far as I know you have the right to move into your condo in spite of your wifes refusal. I have a few thoughts though. There is (in my state) an abandoncy law that says if you leave the marital residence for a certain amount of time the courts...

Divorce Issues: marriage of 9yrs and 8 mos., social security benefits, marriage retreat
social security benefits, marriage retreat, marriage work: Dear Anna, I am not a lawyer, but as far as I am aware the only 10 year mark there is, is that both of you, after 10 years have the rights to a portion of each other s social security benefits. VERY RARELY does someone receive lifetime alimony- it s only...

Divorce Issues: marriage / divorce, marriage divorce, relationship marriage
marriage divorce, relationship marriage, sexual relationship: Hi Rajivfundu~ No,none of these things you ve listed above are crimes in any shape,form or way. It is nice though to have some form of sexual relationship with your spouse during marriage though. And communication is a huge part of a relationship/marriage....

Divorce Issues: marriage and kids, marriage and kids, divorce decree
marriage and kids, divorce decree, visitation schedule: Hi Chad~ If there is nothing stating that she can t move out of state with the children, or that the ex-husband must agree to it. Then there s no binding contract keeping her in TX, and she s free to move where she wishes. This will affect their visitation...

Divorce Issues: marriage laws, marriage laws, consistencies
marriage laws, consistencies, bigamist: Dear Katrina, I am not an attorney, but I do know the United States of America does have certain laws that are consistent throughout the country. Recognizing marriage is one of those consistencies. The divorce is not solely your responsibility, and he knew...

Divorce Issues: marriage, credit cards bills, immigration judge
credit cards bills, immigration judge, usa immigration: Hi Chris~ It very well could. All you can do is to plead your case to the INS and ask them for an extension to stay in the US. The divorce process usually takes a while anyway (from a few months to a full year). You should be okay, since you re still...

Divorce Issues: got married while in middle of divorce, marriage license, divorce
marriage license, divorce, marriage: Hi David~ There are two issues here. The current marriage isn t legal (which I m sure you probably already know by now), so it s null and void. The second issue is that in all states in order to remarry after a divorce has been finalized you have to...

Divorce Issues: I married a thief - noww is ripping me apart, citizenship interview, expensive clothes
citizenship interview, expensive clothes, illegal alien: If you knew you were marrying a criminal then what did you expect? You married a thief and now your upset that she s a thief? If your attorney feels that you need to compensate her, then either I would seek other counsel if you disagree, or listen to your...

Divorce Issues: married ¬ on trust deed, quitclaim form, quitclaim deed
quitclaim form, quitclaim deed, mortage payments: Dear Orlean, I am sorry this man is so untrustworthy. If the house is in foreclosure, then there will be no equity, anyway. This may not be what you want to hear, but don t put your name on any of their financial mess. Don t try to tie up his loose ends....

Divorce Issues: Is there a max timelimit in a No-fault divorce, dear sylvia, lawyer check
dear sylvia, lawyer check, fault divorce: Dear Sylvia, As you may know the divorce laws differ from state to state. You had noted in your question that the 90 WAIT period is over. A wait period is usually put into place to see if the couple wishes to reconcile. This being the case it has most likely...

Divorce Issues: maximum time before divorce MUST be finalized in uncontested divorce in Texas, divorce paperwork, uncontested divorce in texas
divorce paperwork, uncontested divorce in texas, divorce papers: Hi Judy~ From the time you file the divorce paperwork, the paperwork is good for a full year. In other words, you can file and have him served with divorce papers and they are good for a year from the date he s served. Now, if you have the divorce already...

Divorce Issues: mediation and psych eval, high school teacher, belove
high school teacher, belove, arrangment: Hi Jeff, Sounds like you really don t like the current arrangment and you think you are giving away way too much and that it s very unfair to you. You ve only described the story selectively but the points you make are good ones. Maybe you need a lawyer...

Divorce Issues: mediation, off chance, mediator
off chance, mediator, kessler: Hi Tom~ I, in all honesty, would suggest that you do invest in a lawyer. Just on the off chance that it could get ugly at anytime. That s just how divorces can be though. It could go well, but then again, it can change quickly. It s really better to...

Divorce Issues: medical payments, divorce decree, proper channels
divorce decree, proper channels, medical payments: Hi Amy~ He s only require to pay half of her medical bills. And she s responsible for the rest of it. What does it say about this in the divorce decree? All of that should be clearly written in what your husband is required to pay for. As for the timely...

Divorce Issues: mentally tired and weary, separation and divorce, abusive man
separation and divorce, abusive man, irreconcilable differences: Hi Dee~ The separation and divorce process is hard to go through. Since you are vunerable at this point in time it s wise to keep little to no contact with your husband. This way you can get used to being out on your own and being w/o him. Little by...

Divorce Issues: What a mess, intense affair, apartment 6
intense affair, apartment 6, couples therapy: Hi Ian, There might be a few things you can do. The making you a villain is a common move by people who cheat. I see it more in men than women. They cheat and then feel guilty and so to ease their guilt they concoct a set of reasons to justify the cheating....

Divorce Issues: mia for court, divorce proceeding, recieved letters
divorce proceeding, recieved letters, court dates: If he has hired an attorney this will delay the divorce. I doubt the court will readdress the issues that the court already ruled on. However, his attorney might be able to attempt to argue it. The whole divorce proceeding will now cost more money because...

Divorce Issues: military retirement, civil service job, social security benefits
civil service job, social security benefits, military retirement: Hi Steve~ Since the difference isn t that much. It s not likely she ll receive any alimony aka spousal support (which is hard to get anyway). However, there is a 50-50 chance she ll get it. You can plead your case to the judge, as to why she shouldn...

Divorce Issues: missing spouse, divorce web, correct steps
divorce web, correct steps, time period: Hi Cindi~ You ll have to first file for a divorce. Then you tell your lawyer or the judge that you don t know the whereabouts of your husband. Ask about doing a divorce by publication (these laws vary from state to state on what you have to do). After...

Divorce Issues: missing spouse, douglas county ga, divorce paperwork
douglas county ga, divorce paperwork, lacy springs: Hi John~ You file for divorce in the county that you currently reside in. If you aren t able to locate your spouse to serve her with divorce papers. You can do what s called a divorce by publication. Each state has certain procedures they follow for...

Divorce Issues: My mom's getting divorced!, getting a divorce, hunting trips
getting a divorce, hunting trips, generous person: Hi Brittany~ All she can do at this point to file for a divorce and get rid of him. It s unfortunate that he s doing this to her. It s totally dispicable when a man cheats on his wife. The ultimate betrayal in a marriage. Your mom needs to try and move...

Divorce Issues: My mom's friendship with my ex is causing me stress!, minimum interaction, school functions
minimum interaction, school functions, previous life: Hi, I think that any relationship that a grandparent maintains with their grandchildren after divorce is a good thing. I know you re upset that your mother is not listening to your wishes, but in this case I would seriously consider why this relationship bothers...

Divorce Issues: mom of multiples wanting divorce, stay at home mom, marriage counseling
stay at home mom, marriage counseling, willing participants: Hi Karen~ I know the feeling you re going through right now. I was once in the same boat, and with 3 small children at home, being a stay at home mom, too. I had the support of my parents. I had to go back home and be with them for a while. It actually...

Divorce Issues: money, worth alot, divorce laws
worth alot, divorce laws, google: Dear momepp40, The best step you can take is to educate yourself on the divorce laws of your state. Use google.com and search under divorce + name of your state . Divorcesource.com also has state by state laws. Generally buying a home ends up costing a...

Divorce Issues: money, lottery winnings, gross wage
lottery winnings, gross wage, divorce laws: Hi again Tom~ Every state literally has a chart that they go by. And on this chart it will show the wages (they go by gross wage amount) and how many children you have. That s how each state decides what you pay in CS each month. If you have, say a reduction...

Divorce Issues: No money for divorce, divorce paperwork, contested divorce
divorce paperwork, contested divorce, getting a divorce: Hi Brian~ The only thing that I can remotely even suggest to you is to file some sort of Bancruptcy to protect your assets and from going into further debt. Then you can file for a divorce and make her pay for all the debts she s racked up in your name....

Divorce Issues: No money for divorce, contested divorce, getting a divorce
contested divorce, getting a divorce, step group: Hi Brian, As a psyschologist I can t give legal advice. And if it did anyway, it wouldn t be worth much. But I do know some resources. Go to a debtors anonymous meeting. It s a 12 step group and these people have a lot of lore in how to deal with...

Divorce Issues: No money for divorce, divorce attorneys, contested divorce
divorce attorneys, contested divorce, divorce issues: Hi Brian, divorce attorneys will answer some questions you have regarding your divorce issues for a non fee consultation but you have to do your homework and find them. The internet is also a good way for you to get information in your state. You don t need...

Divorce Issues: No money to get a divorce lawyer, retainer fee, divorce lawyer
retainer fee, divorce lawyer, legal aid: Hi Anon~ The benefits of having a lawyer are: someone to represent you (so that you don t have to talk to your soon-to-be-ex), someone that has your best interests at hand, he/she knows the laws and your rights (in order to protect them, basically so you...

Divorce Issues: no money to get a divorce, but need one., stay at home mom, marriage and divorce
stay at home mom, marriage and divorce, divorce forms: Dear Jamie, One of the best places to start is to use the internet to gain more informaiton. Many states have free, downloadable divorce forms. There is usually a small fee to file the petition for divorce. I encourage you to educate yourself on the laws...

Divorce Issues: No money to divorce, marital situation, dear brian
marital situation, dear brian, contested divorce: Dear Brian, As you noted she new full well she was racking up the bills- with this being said you may want to go back in your day planner or what ever you may use - calender and note when this happened. List everything she bought that may appear to be ...

Divorce Issues: money and home, marital issues, rental agreement
marital issues, rental agreement, mail: Dear Mark, I am so sorry. I think you are wise in recognizing that the marriage will not likely recover. If she had the rental agreement put in her name only, then you are probably not responsible directly for the rent, but as a father of two small children,...

Divorce Issues: money & sanity, arbitration mediation, legal aid society
arbitration mediation, legal aid society, practice case: Dear Patricia, There are many ways to end a marriage. Taking each other to court is only of several. Visit equalityinmarriage.org for more info on arbitration, mediation, collaborative law, etc. If you think you divorce amicably then you may only need...

Divorce Issues: money, inheritence, living trust
inheritence, living trust, executor: Angie, I have seen inheritance go both ways in a divorce so there is no clear cut answer. If you do want to prevent that scenario from happening, I would suggest you have your lawyer draw up a living trust in addition to the will. In a living trust you...

Divorce Issues: mortgage, divorce settlements, deep pockets
divorce settlements, deep pockets, mortgage company: I m not an attorney and you re asking a legal question. I would call the mortgage company and ask them directly. I believe once you are divorced you are no longer responsible for your exes debt however if there are still jointly held loans or liens it seems...

Divorce Issues: mortgage and divorce, marital difficulty, divorce decree
marital difficulty, divorce decree, breadwinner: Dear Rob, I am sorry about your marital difficulty, but I am not sure I understand what you are asking of her. She is living at her mother s with the child. Are you paying child support? I am not an attorney, but I believe the equity and mortgage, etc....

Divorce Issues: mother in laws divorce, alimony laws, minute consultation
alimony laws, minute consultation, tax situation: Dear Peggy, I am not an attorney and alimony laws are certainly interpreted differently in different venues. The fact that your mother-in-law has waited for over 10 years to receive these things is problematic. I don t know if she can collect back alimony...

Divorce Issues: How do I move on?, one of the girls, new woman
one of the girls, new woman, married man: Dear Jeany Thomas, I am so sorry. Obviously this answer isn t going to change everything, but I do have a couple of things that might help you change your perspective. You are not the problem, here, other than you were too forgiving when you were dating...

Divorce Issues: Can I move in with my boyfriend before my divorce is final?, ugly divorce, personal decision
ugly divorce, personal decision, hh: Hi Elaine~ Sure, you re free to move in with him anytime you wish. But just beware that it might not be a very good idea while the divorce process is going on. It doesn t look good to already be living with another person when the divorce process is going...

Divorce Issues: How to move on, having an affair, old baby
having an affair, old baby, 9 months: Dear Leslie, Thanks for sharing. I m sure these are thoughts you ve been carrying for a long time. I ll do my best for you here. First, why do you forgive him and still love him. I don t know in your case. I d need to do a diagnostic interview -- which might...

Divorce Issues: moving, divorce decree, wife lives
divorce decree, wife lives, pro baseball: Hi Carlos~ If there are no court orders saying she can t leave the state, then she s free to move wherever she likes. The only reason she d have to have permission would be if there is a divorce decree that says she can t move out of her current state...

Divorce Issues: moving, joint legal custody, divorce decree
joint legal custody, divorce decree, nursing home: Hi Donna~ As long as it doesn t say you can t move to another state in your divorce decree. Then you re free to move to another state. It d also be good to make sure that your ex still gets his once per month visitation for 2 hrs. If you have any further...

Divorce Issues: moving children, divorce decree, joint custody
divorce decree, joint custody, guardianship: Dear Julie, I am not an attorney and state laws do vary. Considering you are in a different state than the children, there are now two state s laws to deal with, but here is my idea. She may not be able to afford anything, which may be why there is no phone...

Divorce Issues: moving on from divorce, best of both worlds, mixed feelings
best of both worlds, mixed feelings, infedility: Hi Paula, You want me to tell you you are not crazy. I have mixed feelings about that. I think what you are doing is understandable and also a little crazy. My specialty is midlife singles and I ve been working with midlife singles for about 12 years. You...

Divorce Issues: moving in with fiance, 13 year old boys, cross bridges
13 year old boys, cross bridges, abusive relationship: I sense that you feel overpowered by your ex, however, I think you are anticipating something that may never happen. Your ex felt entitled to walk into your home because it was yours. The new home will be your fiances, too. I don t think your husband will...

Divorce Issues: moving out of state wiyh children, child visitation rights, joint legal custody
child visitation rights, joint legal custody, visitation two: I can t imagine why you would take a verbal agreement on something so important. You have to abide by what your agreements are in your divorce decree. You can t just arbitrarily change your agreement verbally. You need to go through the courts and have it...

Divorce Issues: moving out, denise thanks, difficult transition
denise thanks, difficult transition, legal matter: Hi Denise. Thanks for writing. Good luck . This will be a difficult transition. Don t be too hard on yourself and take it easy. You might want to check my website www.datingatmidlife.com when you get around to reentering the dating world. As to your...

Divorce Issues: mtg and separation, financial futures, right moves
financial futures, right moves, business decision: Hi Michele, If he is on the title and the loan, then he is obligated to pay half of the mortgage. If the mortgage is defualted then you both will have your credit ruined. It is very important to make sure this doesn t happen. At this point you both need...

Divorce Issues: Name Off Mortgage, claim deed, mortgage company
claim deed, mortgage company, mortgage loan: Hi Jenn~ I m not completely sure. You need to talk to your mortgage company and see if there s a way you can get your name off of the home loan. Then you should be able to be free and clear of owing anything on the home. If all else fails, then I highly...

Divorce Issues: I NEED A PLAN, promising piece, dalliance
promising piece, dalliance, intuitions: Hi. It was a little difficult to tell what came from you and what was just a duplicate of what I sent. Also, apologies for the typos. You described how it developed and said he doesn t share feelings and he knew it was wrong. Okay on first point. I...

Divorce Issues: I NEED A PLAN, mid life crises, promising piece
mid life crises, promising piece, dalliance: Hi Barbara, I hope I can come up with something. I tried to find Kessler s answer but couldn t. I am curious what it was. So here s mine. Your assessment is promising. He doesn t want a divorce and doesn t want to marry the other woman. Another...

Divorce Issues: WHAT TO DO NEXT, child welfare agency, alimony child support
child welfare agency, alimony child support, partying: If there has been an award of alimony/child support then there has also been a division of property. I don t believe that this is a serious question. Nonetheless, whoever was given the home in the settlement is the one who gets to live there. If she is...

Divorce Issues: Necessary Paperwork and Filing, necessary paperwork, divorce papers
necessary paperwork, divorce papers, timely responses: Hi Larry~ It s her right to fire her attorney for any reason and w/o explaination to him. So she doesn t really have to bother with a formal letter or anything. She can just tell him she s firing him, period. Then she s free to represent herself in court....

Divorce Issues: Need Appeal Attorney, baldwin county, check ups
baldwin county, check ups, new insurance: You will need to move quickly...I don t know what the statute of limitaions are for an appeal. Ask around as to which appeal lawyer has had the most wins in the appeals court. This particular practice of law requires great expertise as the lawyer must persuade...

Divorce Issues: Need some divorce advice, stay at home dad, health care company
stay at home dad, health care company, school part time: Dear Jason, There is quite a bit of information on the internet that will help you become more educated on the divorce process in your state. 1. Educate yourself on divorce- aaml.org, divorcesource.com (state by state divorce laws and articles written...

Divorce Issues: Need help, exhusband, definite answer
exhusband, definite answer, best interest: Dear Jack, It may be in your mother s best interest to contact the lending company and inform then, in writing, that she and her spouse are divorcing. This may be helpful to a judge in considering the division of debt and assets in this case. She may also...

Divorce Issues: Need a Plan, divorce litigation, divorce web
divorce litigation, divorce web, lawyer: Hi Bill~ Everyone needs a good plan of action during the divorce process, when possible. You should sit down and make a list of things you want to address during the divorce process--also of things that you want to discuss with your lawyer, anything of...

Divorce Issues: Need Spiritual Guidance...., son noah, volleyball player
son noah, volleyball player, huddle house: Hi Amanda, Wow, what a remarkable young woman you are! I applaud your efforts. You have it more together than a lot of older adults. God will certainly reward your tenacity and your son is blessed to have you as a mother. I wish I could give you the...

Divorce Issues: Needing direction, high school education, mid thirties
high school education, mid thirties, travel trailor: He cannot let you go because, in his own way, he loves you and is afraid of being alone. It sounds like you have been very sympathetic towards him and have tried to make the marriage work. It is time to stop beating yourself up and to start thinking...

Divorce Issues: Neither of us are sure?, marriage retreat, marriage counseling
marriage retreat, marriage counseling, marriage work: Dear Peg, There is a way to change your marriage and it starts with a commitment to make it change. Staying in limbo creates resentment. I invite you to check out the Revitalize Your Marriage page in the During Marriage section of equalityinmarriage.org....

Divorce Issues: The New Fiance Says I Should Back Off, step mom, loving relationship
step mom, loving relationship, smooth transition: Out of respect for marriage, yes you have to back off. He can visit the city, stay in a hotel and have the kids live with him in the hotel. They can do their own thing all week long. It is best that the kids get to know your ex as a married man with a whole...

Divorce Issues: New family of my ex and my child, daddy lives, week of pregnancy
daddy lives, week of pregnancy, independent character: Victoria, I know you won t want to hear this, but I think you should tell your daughter about the divorce and her father s remarriage. She has probably already picked up on many clues that tell her things are different. She has to be wondering what s going...

Divorce Issues: New Life, likes and dislikes, alcoholic husband
likes and dislikes, alcoholic husband, 18 years: Hi Michelle~ It s not uncommon for a woman/mother to devote herself totally and selfishlessly to her family. Often making others come before herself. You just have to find the things that you like and interest you. It may take some time to reacquint...

Divorce Issues: New Wife/Child Support, relationship question, relationship questions
relationship question, relationship questions, step mom: I can only answer relationship questions. The relationship question you posted is about whether you have any say over how much money is spent on his kids. The answer is no. You have not right to restrict your husband from caring for his children. Now that...

Divorce Issues: New Wife or Kids, wife and marriage, marriage counselor
wife and marriage, marriage counselor, control freak: Hi Art~ Your children come before your wife and marriage. They are of your blood and flesh. She has absolutely no right to tell you what to do with YOUR children. She needs to stop this control freak issue. Or it s going to drive a deep wedge between...

Divorce Issues: Non payment of Alimony, bad actor, alimony
bad actor, alimony, arrears: Ed: Get a good attorney. First of all, you don t have to take any offer from him, and then take him to court to make sure you get the alimony which is due your daughter, and is in the decree. He HAS to pay it. If he wants to settle, then he has to pay...

Divorce Issues: Just need advice, amicable divorce, family feelings
amicable divorce, family feelings, belove: Hi. Sounds like a situation where you guys ought to get a mediator. Also it sounds like things really aren t all that amicable. . Seems a shame to split up the family and my first words would be to work it out for the sake of the four kids. That s a...

Divorce Issues: need answers, financial ties, washington state
financial ties, washington state, twenty years: Just make sure that the courts will do that. You may have to find him in order for the courts to serve him. They aren t going to look for him. You can start looking for him on the internet. Use his social security number if you know it. If you are not having...

Divorce Issues: Do I need an attorney?, forensic accountants, divorce web
forensic accountants, divorce web, divorce laws: Hi Ken~ No, it s not absolutely necessary for you to have an attorney. But sometimes it s good to have one so that you re legal rights are protected (since an attorney can inform you of what your right are). But it s not completely necessary, no. If...

Divorce Issues: I need a DIVORCE, getting a divorce, relationship questions
getting a divorce, relationship questions, annulments: Most people who handle a divorce on their own, don t have assets to lose and they don t want to take anything from their spouse and they are not interested in child support or alimony. If you ONLY want to get away from your spouse, you could just file for...

Divorce Issues: need divorce, domestic violence center, law offices
domestic violence center, law offices, local area: The best thing you should do is get help from your local area. Contact a lawyer for information on how to get a divorce when you don t have money. Keep call differnt law offices until you get a complete answer. Also contact your local domestic violence center...

Divorce Issues: do I need to get a divorce, kaufman county, second job
kaufman county, second job, seperation: Hi Jennifer~ Since you re legally not married, you don t need a divorce. The only thing that common law marriage does is protect the children, so that they are entitled and get child support. Since the house is in both your names, you would have to have...

Divorce Issues: What do I need to do so that I can be a functional person again., separation papers, autistic son
separation papers, autistic son, cardiac problems: Hi Heather. Thanks for writing. First, my apologies. I had this letter written last night and couldn t get on to allexperts for some reason. So it s a day late. It is hard to read that letter and not get completely furious at him. Didn t someone once...

Divorce Issues: need help, cell phone bills, quiz data
cell phone bills, quiz data, professional counselor: Dear Maia, Unfortunately, I do not have the exact information you are looking for. But perhaps you may be interested in looking into the following: 1. Talk to a professional counselor about how to handle your suspicions. Perhaps there is another reason...

Divorce Issues: i need help, state bar associations, family lawyers
state bar associations, family lawyers, husban: Dear Maria, One of the best places to start is to get copies of everything legal and financial showing ownership and account balances. Interview a few family lawyers (visit your state bar associations website). A lawyer will be able to tell you how to move...

Divorce Issues: need some help, peculiar way, marriage family
peculiar way, marriage family, personal business: Dear Bappa, Tell the cook, he doesn t work for her. Not being terribly familiar with your cultural traditions, I do not want to come across as rude or insensitive. I would suggest that you and your father and whomever else is in the house not make your...

Divorce Issues: need help, vital statistics, public record
vital statistics, public record, attorneys: Go to vital statistics in the area where you were married and check with the courts in your area. Getting divorced is a filed document which is a public record. Did you use an attorney during your separation? Did your wife have an attorney? I am sure if you...

Divorce Issues: I need help, son joshua, welfare office
son joshua, welfare office, legal aid: Hi Felicia~ He s trying to intimidate you by scaring you! Try not to let him get to you. You should be very proud of yourself first of all for getting the courage to leave this coward. Have you filed for a divorce yet? This is what I would advice you...

Divorce Issues: We need to know the next step, witness sign, assests
witness sign, assests, legal separation: Hi Jess~ You don t have to use a lawyer, you can use a mediator instead, if you wish. They are a little cheaper than a lawyer, yet can still get the job done for you. You could also do a legal separation, which simply states that any debts you agree to...

Divorce Issues: need to know, divorce procedure, paperwork
divorce procedure, paperwork, lawyer: Hi Crystal~ Yes, once the papers have been filed, they are good for one full year. You have 20-30 days (it ll state how long on the paperwork) to file a response to the papers you were served with. If the paperwork isn t acted upon (taken to court and...

Divorce Issues: I need to modify a court order., legal aid societies, pro bono lawyers
legal aid societies, pro bono lawyers, state divorce: Dear Sharon, Many states offer free seminars or phone-in lines for those who cannot afford an attorney. Also, many states have legal aid societies to help give low income individuals legal assistance. To find out more info on what services are offered in...

Divorce Issues: new to divorce, easy job, penitence
easy job, penitence, writing a book: Hi Michelle. Thanks for writing. No simply answer here, sorry. I d need to have a conversation with you and then I might be able to tell you more specifically. Guilt is a call of the soul, I think, and part of midlife maturity. A divorce is a pretty...

Divorce Issues: new loves, strange beings, men in my life
strange beings, men in my life, swing of things: Hi Claudia~ It really depends on the person and what they are going through at the moment. Someone that s recently divorced or going through a divorce is having a rough time. It will take some time for them to get back into the swing of things (so to...

Divorce Issues: The new person after divorce, boyfriend girlfriend, adult children
boyfriend girlfriend, adult children, new boyfriend: You are right. Often the trouble is started by someone in the old family. Either the ex-spouse, adult children, other family members or friends can start the problems. BUT the new boyfriend, girlfriend or fiance needs to let them handle all that drama....

Divorce Issues: My new and real identity, paranoid personality disorder, personality disorders
paranoid personality disorder, personality disorders, apreciation: Hello JOse, I responded through allexperts so I do not know why you did not receive it. CBT is extremely useful and is valuable for all personality disorders. Essentially is a social skills training program and everyone should know all the skills in it....

Divorce Issues: new wife benifitrs, retirement nest egg, military retirement
retirement nest egg, military retirement, drug addict: He loves his exwife and children. They are his family. Of course he wants them to do well. You should want a man who is that caring. As far as you paying a portion of the rent. If the two of you were married, you would help pay bills, so why not start...

Divorce Issues: in new york under what ocnditions..., child support enforcement, commonlaw
child support enforcement, commonlaw, preganancy: Dear Yom, There are two sites that I think will be very helpful to you in answering your questions: 1. http://www.ocfs.state.ny.us/main/becs/ 2. https://newyorkchildsupport.com/publications.html- check out this page for free publications on child support...

Divorce Issues: in new york under what ocnditions..., child support enforcement, mess on your hands
child support enforcement, mess on your hands, commonlaw: Hi. You ve asked a legal question and I m a psychologists and my answers can not be taken authoritatively. You ll have to check with a lawyer. In my state women can collect child support if they can prove paternity and they can collect retroactively and...

Divorce Issues: in new york under what ocnditions..., child support amount, common law marriage
child support amount, common law marriage, child support enforcement: Hi Yom~ A woman can collect child support only after the baby is born,and no sooner. The only way that child support enforcement will be able to collect is once a child support amount is set in court,they can then go after you if you are in arrears (which...

Divorce Issues: too noisy to me?, bum bum, noisy neighbor
bum bum, noisy neighbor, assertiveness: It s normal. A noisy neighbor is very annoying. At the same time you have some real distortions in how you operate just in general and apparently you haven t found a therapist to help you get a perspective. The Prozac will help and at the same time, you will...

Divorce Issues: Obligated to pay mortgage, home expenses, divorce
home expenses, divorce, obligation: Dear Manny, Usually the length of the marriage is a determining factor for obligation, but when there is a divorce, the judge will determine what is to be done. If the mortgage is in both names, you would certainly want to protect your equity. Another thing...

Divorce Issues: Only been married 1 year, mental abuse, teenage children
mental abuse, teenage children, mediator: I am really not able to answer your question, but would advise you to see legal help. If you and your husband are on friendly terms, you could use a mediator which would be much less costly (usually runs about $2-5000). If your relationship is acrimonious,...

Divorce Issues: Ordered to leave your home, ugly divorce, home thanks
ugly divorce, home thanks, statute of limitations: Typically, the house is sold and proceeds are divided equitably, or, in some cases, the woman keeps the home for the children s sake and sells at a later time with the proceeds divided between both parties. However, I have heard where the man keeps the...

Divorce Issues: Ordered to leave own home, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress
traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder: Hi Anita, Tricky question for me to handle. I m sure there are stories within stories within stories here. Let me give a long prologue and forgive me for it. Then I ll give advice. I ve been doing couple counseling since 1978. There is never one good...

Divorce Issues: obsessed husband?, cell phone bills, personal emails
cell phone bills, personal emails, mind games: Hi Christine~ Your husband is playing mind games with you. Men like to try and attempt to control women when they don t get their way. Anything that they can try and use against you they will,for leverage,b/c they know that most women will believe what...

Divorce Issues: old debt, phone contract, phone co
phone contract, phone co, civil court: Hi James~ Yes, anytime you put anything in your name, you re responsible for making sure it s paid. Even if you have an agreement with your ex-wife. If she doesn t pay it, then you ll have to. Otherwise, your risk ruining your credit. With that said,...

Divorce Issues: overseas dirvoce, international divorce, divorce web
international divorce, divorce web, permanent vacation: Hi Holly~ Have you filed for a divorce? Your options would be you could file in Tel Aviv or in India (but you d have to go back to India and probably stay there for the divorce process). Or you can just file in the country you live (Tel Aviv) and have...

Divorce Issues: owed medical expenses, income tax refund, getting braces
income tax refund, getting braces, possiblities: Hi Kim~ If he gets too far behind in CS then they can garnish his wages and or his income tax refund and give you your CS owed. If he doesn t have a job, the judge will order him to find another one. And it s possible he ll lower the CS payments. As...

Divorce Issues: Paperwork, divorce decree, divorce papers
divorce decree, divorce papers, gain custody: Hi Christina~ Then that should be all that you need. Whenever it goes to court have it addes to the divorce decree before the divorce is finalized. You can do that, you know, add it to the divorce decree by revising it and adding it in there. That way...

Divorce Issues: Parenting plan, parenting plan, custodial parent
parenting plan, custodial parent, time commitment: There is no set age. I always suggest that a parent make a child give the visiting parent a fair chance. The child should be strongly encouraged to open his/her mind and develop a rapport with the visiting parent. Until the child has made a great effort...

Divorce Issues: Parenting time, xmas eve, divorce agreement
xmas eve, divorce agreement, parenting time: Hi Lisa~ You can be a little flexible about him taking them on the weekend,in other words when he says he can t take them or come get them b/c he s busy. I wouldn t worry much about his taking them or showing up. But if he did t bring them back at the...

Divorce Issues: Parents in two different states, sad ones, single mother
sad ones, single mother, nursing school: Ouch. You really do have a difficult call to make, don t you. My immediate reactions to your story are sad ones. I feel bad for your husband. A vibrant three year old is such a source of joy. It s a great age and they are so much fun and so sweet. And to think...

Divorce Issues: Parents "using" children through divorce, biblical verses, male friend
biblical verses, male friend, little girls: Hi Dawn~ If he was a true christian as he claims,then he would know that threatening/or even wishing to harm another man is a sin. And a Christian doesn t do that. Discipline is the utmost important when raising a child,especially in this day and age....

Divorce Issues: who Pays, pay stubs, filing for a divorce
pay stubs, filing for a divorce, lawyer: I don t know the answer to that question because I am not familiar with the agency. If you and your wife are amicable, you might consider both using the same lawyer at this service. HOWEVER, if this is unfriendly, I strongly advise you to look for other...

Divorce Issues: PENSION, military pension, final decree
military pension, final decree, time factor: Dear Darlene, Rather than send an auto response that says I can t answer this question, I am going to advise you, as to what you should do. I can t answer this question, but an attorney can. I don t know if you can go back to court over this or not. State...

Divorce Issues: PENSION, life insurance policy, adult kids
life insurance policy, adult kids, divorce decree: Hi Debbie~ You ve been married a long time. In court the judge may grant you some of his pension indeed. It s your call if you want to pursue it in court or not. The worst the judge can say is no, right? You ll only get a percentage of the whole amount...

Divorce Issues: Pennsylvania Divorce, pennsylvania divorce, fault divorce
pennsylvania divorce, fault divorce, desertion: Hi Kelly~ There s probably nothing more that needs to be filed, paperwork wise. In states where adultery is used as the primary reason for a divorce. They want proof of it, in the way of pictures, video--some sort of evidence in the way of cheating. ...

Divorce Issues: Pension/Retirement Assets, retirement assets, age differences
retirement assets, age differences, little chance: I think your attorney would know the judges involved and if your attorney is stating in her/his opinion that the judge would order everything split 50/50 then I would assume thats the answer. I am not familiar with Maryland pensions but I think you can find...

Divorce Issues: Pension/Retirement, retirement fund, compromise
retirement fund, compromise: Hi John~ It depends. If you can come to a compromise together, that s the best. And you can go by whatever that agreement is. Typically the courts go by how long you ve been married, how much is in the retirement (in both accounts), and what they parties...

Divorce Issues: Plaintiff has no attorney, state bar associations, divorce proceedings
state bar associations, divorce proceedings, legal professional: Dear Debra, You can end your marriage with out a lawyer. Most State Bar Associations have online publications on how to obtain a divorce. You may want to sit down with a new lawyer for consultation only to see what the next step would be. You asked...

Divorce Issues: Please Help I'm Divorced what next!, divorce decree, wags
divorce decree, wags, garnish: Hi Shay~ You first have to locate him to serve him with papers to appear in court. You ve have to take him back to court, since he s in contempt of a court order (the divorce decree). You can then ask the judge to garnish his wages in order to pay what...

Divorce Issues: Please help, online divorce, filing for divorce
online divorce, filing for divorce, support group: Actually it is his home too and he does have the right to come and go as he pleases. I know you think this behavior is not good for the kids but you can only be responsible for your behavior. Your children will have to make up their own minds as to whether...

Divorce Issues: Please help me, full time job, high school reunion
full time job, high school reunion, business stress: Let me get this straight, Pat. You have known this other man only a few months, you have never been free to date him openly,let alone spend gobs of time getting to know each other, but you are considering throwing out an eighteen year marriage to rush into...

Divorce Issues: Please, we need help!, residential custody, custodial parents
residential custody, custodial parents, fathers and children: Dear R, Here are some places to start contacting: 1. Children s Rights Council www.vix.com/crc/, 202-547-6227 2. National Congress for Fathers and Children www.ncfc.net, 1-800-733-3237. 3. National Association of Custodial Parents www.cphelp.org/natassn.html...

Divorce Issues: Please tell me how?, relationship partner, adult issues
relationship partner, adult issues, lovely life: Hi. You have my sympathies. First of all, to get right to your last question, it isn t right. In the book of Job the question is asked why is it that the righteous should suffer and the wicked prosper? There is no answer. It seems to be the way of the...

Divorce Issues: Post Divorce, asset valuation, settlement agreement
asset valuation, settlement agreement, investment properties: Please do not think that I was judging you. I was only sending out a warning signal! Your situation is very complicated, and I am not sure that I understand it completely, but it appears that the deposits/expenses were 50/50 on the investment properties,...

Divorce Issues: Pre-divorce move, getting a divorce, state statutes
getting a divorce, state statutes, state laws: Dear Maitee, I am not an attorney, and you need one. If the paperwork has been started make sure the attorney knows of his intent. State laws do differ, but can t you get something filed, so that at least establishes the circumstances? Please, obtain counsel...

Divorce Issues: Pre-nup, prenup, trust issue
prenup, trust issue, absolute authority: Dear Steve, I am not an attorney, and state laws differ. I have never been married or divorced in California, so I can t speak with absolute authority on the case, but this I can say. If someone feels the need for a pre-nup, perhaps there is already a trust...

Divorce Issues: Process of Divorce, divorce in california, divorce papers
divorce in california, divorce papers, support thanks: Hi Trippis~ It would be to your benefit to file for a divorce in California since you reside there. You wouldn t be able to file in India if you don t live there. And you wouldn t have to pay spousal support if she were in India. The judge would decide...

Divorce Issues: Process to fire divorce lawyer, non contested divorce, divorce lawyer
non contested divorce, divorce lawyer, court secretary: Hi Jessica~ I m not sure why your lawyer is taking so long. The divorce is finalized once both parties and their lawyers (if they had counsel representing them), the judge and the court secretary sign all the finalized paperwork, it s then filed with the...

Divorce Issues: Property, Alimony, 401K, Help!, time consultation, alimony
time consultation, alimony, peace of mind: Dear Vickie, I am not an attorney and state laws do differ, but I can give you some general information that may be of help. The two of you are married and if the property was purchased through your marriage, many states would consider that community or...

Divorce Issues: Property, Alimony, 401K, alimony, 8 years
alimony, 8 years, 10 years: Hi Vickie~ I m not sure about the property in OH. You may or may not be entitled to it at all. You would have to check with a lawyer to see what your rights are. If you could prove that he had you sign the papers and lied to you about why (getting you...

Divorce Issues: Property Determination, hard time, sake
hard time, sake, marriage: Hi Larry~ Yes, if it remained untouched, then yes, all of the money you are entitled to back. But if you both used it equally and freely, then you ll have a hard time getting back the money from any judge, as it would ve been considered community property...

Divorce Issues: Property before marriage, personal property law, marriage capital
personal property law, marriage capital, capital improvements: Dear Margaret, I am not an attorney, and even if I were, Texas law is a brand all of it s own. Usually the law does not recognize an engaged couple, other than the engagement ring as a gift. I am sorry, but it sounds like your husband has this all figured...

Divorce Issues: Property Question, property question, legal options
property question, legal options, belongings: Hi Reed~ That would be right up until the 12 month agreement. So she s well within her limits (per your agreement) to leave her stuff there until the 21 of November. If it s any later than that, then she d be over the agreement. And you could have her...

Divorce Issues: Property Settlement Pennsylvania, property settlement, finalization
property settlement, finalization, filing for a divorce: Dear Mark, I am not an attorney and I cannot address individual state laws, but I can tell you that some years ago, my ex-husband and I signed a financial agreement without filing for a divorce and when the divorce was actually filed and decreed, it overrode...

Divorce Issues: Property settlement, marriage partners, uncontested divorce
marriage partners, uncontested divorce, real estate partners: Hi. I can only answer the psychology part of your question, which appears to be mainly a legal and financial question. I know of several couples who have parted amicably and for the sake of their children and each other maintained an estate of jointly held...

Divorce Issues: Property settlement, dear amelia, marital assets
dear amelia, marital assets, separation time: Dear Amelia, Generally speaking assets aquired during the marriage (including the marital home) are marital assets. However, because of the length of separation time you may be able to convince the judge that he has no rights to it any longer. You should...

Divorce Issues: Property, nicholas nicholas, separate property
nicholas nicholas, separate property, psychologist: Nicholas, This question is outside my expertise. You might want to talk to an attorney. You might also be able to get an answer from the people who are holding your loans. Either way I would guess it will cost you some money and I am curious about how much....

Divorce Issues: Protecting Property, divorce web, own accord
divorce web, own accord, restraining order: Hi David~ It s her home (even though she left of her own accord) and she has the right to break into it, and take whatever property is her s. However, she s not entitled to take everything from the home. She s only entitled to 50% of what was incurred...

Divorce Issues: Providing health insurance, lawyers fees, custody arrangements
lawyers fees, custody arrangements, poverty line: Dear CJ, While I am not a lawyer, I do have some ideas on what you could do. 1. Contact your ex-wife and ask her to find out how much it would cost her to put the children on her health insurance. Whatever this amount is- you would put it in writing...

Divorce Issues: pain pain pain, anti depressants, cheating husband
anti depressants, cheating husband, nice man: I m not sure why you consider a cheating husband that causes you so much pain ....a nice man, whom you love dearly. I think people are so fearful of their future and the unknown that they fantasize their partners are warm, loving and caring people. When you...

Divorce Issues: How did you get through the pain of rejection?, work partner, grieving process
work partner, grieving process, pain of rejection: Hi James, I am sorry to hear about your pain and it s certainly understandable. I felt an enormous amount of pain for most of my marriage and it was me who decided to leave my marriage. I am a different person today. I am more independant and less willing...

Divorce Issues: parental alienation, parental alienation, full custody
parental alienation, full custody, mmpi: Cynthia, it sounds like you have been living a nightmare. You might also try contacting your congressman for help. I have seen a number of cases in which they have been helpful.Have you taken a parenting class? It gives you one more professional person who...

Divorce Issues: parenting plan, parenting plan, visiting time
parenting plan, visiting time, true thanks: Emily: It is not only possible, but if you went to court, and he petitioned for more time, he would probably get it. Generally, the courts are always in favor of the father wanting more time and grant it, unless for some reason it can be proved that there...

Divorce Issues: my parents are getiing divorce!!, getting a divorce, different paths
getting a divorce, different paths, need money: Hi Johan, people change as they get older and see things differently as their lives take different paths. Unfortunately the ones who suffer for their parents decisions are the children. I am sure in your country as well as mine divorce is the norm these days....

Divorce Issues: my parents are getiing divorce!!, getting a divorce, emotional person
getting a divorce, emotional person, classmates: Hi Johann, I can understand how you feel. But any mom will tell same thing when they get divorce. They are getting divorce because things change in life sometime. But you need not worry much, divorces do happen and later all kids also get settled down. You...

Divorce Issues: passive stalking, contempt of court, supervised visits
contempt of court, supervised visits, temporary custody: Karen, do you have a temporary order saying you have exclusive use of the residence? If not, you will need one. If no order exists, he is within his rights to come into the house because it still belongs to both of you. You will need a temporary custody...

Divorce Issues: passports, missing school, airfair
missing school, airfair, full deck: Hi Michele~ What does your gut instincts tell you to do about the passports? Trust it, it s there for a reason. If you think that canceling their passports is in their best interest (so he can t run off with them), then by all means cancel them. This...

Divorce Issues: paying lawyer fees, dear elaine, lawyer fees
dear elaine, lawyer fees, emotional time: Dear Elaine, Thank you for your leter. 3 years is a long time to wait for a divorce which has yet to be finalized. Sadly there are lawyers out there who exploit people during this emotional time and try to get as much cash out of them as possible. I would...

Divorce Issues: pension/divorce, divorce papers, statute of limitations
divorce papers, statute of limitations, missing something: Whatever was decreed in the divorce papers is what you are entitled to; however, I do not understand why your lawyer has not entered the order. I would ask him to complete the divorce process immediately. I m not sure if I am missing something by the fact...

Divorce Issues: pension, old job, lori
old job, lori, lawyer: Hi Lori~ That s hard to say. You could see if your lawyer could figure that information out for you, by contacting the former employer on your behalf. Maybe he can make a phone call and get that info for you. It s worth inquiring about. I hope this...

Divorce Issues: personal items, free legal help, trash day
free legal help, trash day, legal question: Hi Shawna You ve asked a legal question. My legal advice is worth no more than any other non-lawyer s opinion. My guess is that you won t be in trouble. Your husband sounds difficult to work with. Do what you need to do to survive and take care of...

Divorce Issues: no place to go, mom dad, belove
mom dad, belove, roomates: Hi Richard, That is a very difficult situation. I think you ll have to work it out with her and ask for her cooperation and help. You ll have to be very clear and persistent and also kind and that could be difficult. It will be sort of humiliating for her,...

Divorce Issues: at what point am I divorced?, uncontested divorce papers, final decree
uncontested divorce papers, final decree, stamp of approval: You pay a lot of money for an attorney and he/she is basically your employee, so please do not ever feel that you should be embarrassed to ask a question! Nonetheless, you are not divorced until you receive the final decree. In Missouri, judges have 90...

Divorce Issues: possible divorce and keeping the home, retirement check, divorce papers
retirement check, divorce papers, contemplating divorce: Hi Patricia~ In order to keep the house you would have to have an income to pay for it. That means you d probably have to get out and get a job ultimately. And that s if you could afford it. You would indeed have to buy your husband out of his half of...

Divorce Issues: possible divorce, marriage counseling, alot
marriage counseling, alot, marriage: Hi Dennis~ If she refuses to work on the marriage or even talk to you about anything, what else can you really do? You can t make her do something she doesn t want to do. You can only do so much in the marriage, she has to work with you, not against you...

Divorce Issues: powerless over ex-wife during divorce proceedings, divorce support group, divorce proceedings
divorce support group, divorce proceedings, george rice: Hi George, Unfortunately there is no easy answer to this. Divorce is a painful immobilizing process that we all go through. However, the sooner you realize that there is alot at stake here, the better your financial future will be. It is imperative that you...

Divorce Issues: pregnant and divorcing, joint checking, consulting training
joint checking, consulting training, 7 months: Hi Sherry~ You CAN take your children out of state. As long as either of you are still legally married,you can take the child(ren) out of state. And there isn t a court order preventing you from this. You don t have to ask his permission or anything,you...

Divorce Issues: pregnant / florida / divorce, divorce paperwork, divorce in florida
divorce paperwork, divorce in florida, florida divorce: Hi Jamie~ In some states you can t while pregnant. But in all states you may file the divorce paperwork, so that it ll be all filed and then you can get the divorce finalized after you have the baby. The place to contact and find out what your state laws...

Divorce Issues: previously sent question, private question, comfirmation
private question, comfirmation, short time: Hi. I can t remember which question was yours and I don t remember how I answered it. It seems like I did answer it though. Would you be willing to contact me directly at drbelove@datingatmidlife.com and ask me again? Or, if you wish to remain anonymous,...

Divorce Issues: in process of divorce, merriage, devorce
merriage, devorce, campare: Hi Serina~ The courts will pro-rate his salary. They can even do it based on what he s earning potential was from last years salary. As for discussing anything with him. Don t worry about it anymore. Tell him you ll see him in court and you can decide...