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Divorce Issues: Coping with infidelity/future relationships, coping with infidelity, overnight visits
coping with infidelity, overnight visits, custody agreement: Hi, actually I think you re very smart to want to protect your son. I think it s perfectly reasonble to find out as much as you can about someone that will have contact with your son. You can t look at your ex as a cheating spouse rather than the mother of...

Divorce Issues: Coping, pins and needles, divorce proceedings
pins and needles, divorce proceedings, seperately: Hi Joseph, I m afraid I wasn t understanding the difficulties you are having. When there is emotional or physical abuse in a relationship all bets are off. The ideal of changing is a lot more of fantasy than reality. It is hard to gain trust, where trust...

Divorce Issues: Court order, divorce decree, court house
divorce decree, court house, kaufman: Take your divorce decree, with copies of the judgement that states which documents were ordered. At the court house you will be able to file an order to appear. The court clerk should be able to tell you if there is anything else you will need. You can try...

Divorce Issues: Credit Card Settlement in Divorce, divorce lawyer, divorce settlement
divorce lawyer, divorce settlement, credit card debt: Dear Eliza8, I am not an attorney and Texas kind of has it s own set of laws, so my suggestion is that you call the attorney that you used in the divorce and ask him just what your options are. He/she should be able to answer this question quickly and at...

Divorce Issues: Credit Cards, credt card, divorse
credt card, divorse, divorcenet: Dear Brandon, Check out this article http://www.divorcenet.com/states/michigan/protecting_client_credit for information pertaining to Michigan. While it is important for you to speak with you attorney about this you may find yourself footing the expense....

Divorce Issues: Credit issues, separation period, divorce papers
separation period, divorce papers, divorce decree: Hi Frank~ Since you were separated when she did this, no. And it makes it better that she s gotten them in her maiden name. But just to be sure that you aren t stuck with them later. In the divorce papers simply state that any current and outstanding...

Divorce Issues: CUSTODY ISSUES, custody issues, custody battle
custody issues, custody battle, m davis: Hi Maureen~ It s often hard to make peace with an ex, when they want to continuously cause problems with you. You just have make peace with yourself and accept that he s not going to change until he s ready to change. The good news is he can t fight with...

Divorce Issues: CUSTODY, phone conversations, admendment
phone conversations, admendment, temporary custody: Hi Jennifer~ The court had to have good reason to award him custody (even temp custody) of the children. So he or someone convinced them (the court/judge) somehow, that it was in the best interest of the children to be with him. Whatever that I was, I...

Divorce Issues: Custody, divorcing parents, easier this way
divorcing parents, easier this way, attourney: Hi, sometimes it s really hard to find the truth about divorcing parents. You have your ideas but they may not really be whats going on. I think you have a right to see your dad when you want to. Does your dad know that you want to live with him? Did he agree...

Divorce Issues: Custody moving to another state..., home mother, stay at home
home mother, stay at home, family and friends: Hi Geoffrey~ Well it would have to say in the divorce degree that she s not to move out of state. But you as a couple would have to agree to that. Otherwise either one of you are free to live and move wherever you please. Especially while still married....

Divorce Issues: Custody of small children in divorce situtation, optimal development, physical custody
optimal development, physical custody, son and daughter: Thanks for your question, Connie. Joint physical custody can work well for some children, but there are cautions, and they re very important ones. First, the parents must be able to communicate well with each other and cooperate in placing the needs of...

Divorce Issues: Custody Out of state, three kids, injunction
three kids, injunction, tara: Hi Tara~ You can file an injunction in court preventing her from leaving the state with the children, until a court order of custody can be put into place. You can get an emergency temporary order in place by a judge. This way there is an order that states...

Divorce Issues: Custody of step children if sole custodian is unfit?, sole custodian, anger issues
sole custodian, anger issues, sole custody: Hi Elizabeth~ It can be difficult to obtain custody of children that aren t biologically yours (meaning a step-parent). If you can somehow convince your husband to let you adopt them (before you divorce him), then you would have grounds to get sole and...

Divorce Issues: Custody/welfare of child, french psychiatrist, french legal system
french psychiatrist, french legal system, psychological investigation: Hi. Well, you have me stumped. I don t know what to advise you. I am so used to our legal system and its quirks, I for get that it can be even worse in other first world countries. I have been through a custody battle with a Canadian citizen and that system...

Divorce Issues: Custody, future girlfriend, living nightmare
future girlfriend, living nightmare, divorce decree: Hi Chris. My heart goes out to you. You need a lawyer and you probably need a therapist, too. I would imagine you left because of the bullying. Sorry about this. Some times ex s eat up a lot of family money because they hate to lose. The divorce decree...

Divorce Issues: Can i have my cake and eat it too?, friends family, ppl
friends family, ppl, mom: Hi Zachary~ I don t see why not, as long as you are in the same school district. Then there s no problem wanting to do that. It s whatever makes you happy. Not many ppl would be wanting or willing to give up everything they ve known all their live, such...

Divorce Issues: should he call first, daddy and son, foul language
daddy and son, foul language, new twist: There can be many reasons, may be he has someone which he doesn t want your son to meet sometimes. Or may be he feels it s just an obligation to meet his son. Get your son a new dad. Get him all the love and care he needs form some one else who you think...

Divorce Issues: car loan/separation, eachother, car loan
eachother, car loan, piece of paper: Hi Rachel~ If you have a car loan together in both of your names, one of you will have to refinance the car in order to take the loan out of both names. Otherwise, you can t refinance and remove one person from the loan. It has to be refinanced. The...

Divorce Issues: car loan, contempt of court, financial contracts
contempt of court, financial contracts, banking institute: Dear PJ, If the car has already been sold, I would ask an attorney how he was not given the opportunity to take it over, upon repossession. If he knew about it, then that was his choice. He can attempt to get her to collect, but if the bank couldn t get...

Divorce Issues: car loans and divorce, co signer, car title
co signer, car title, relief act: Hi Keith~ If she s a co-signer on the car, then she s entitled to drive the car, just as much as you are. Even though you are paying for it. Unless you can get her name off the loan. You d have to talk to the company that financed the cars and see what...

Divorce Issues: car, court judges, instances
court judges, instances, divorce: Hi Jeff~ If the car is in her name--she can t just come and take it from you. If they were both purchased during the marriage, while you were still residing together--you are legally entitled to a car. And since she did this this isn t going to look very...

Divorce Issues: what are my chances with an convicted abuser?, divorce decree, sole decision
divorce decree, sole decision, sole custody: Hi Michael~ You will have sole decision making if they gave you full and sole custody of the child. Then she has no say so in what you do with your son. You might even petition the court to terminate her rights as well. To prevent her from trying to...

Divorce Issues: change of county after divorce filing, divorce paperwork, divorce petition
divorce paperwork, divorce petition, time span: Hi Karen~ It sounds just like you have court orders for child support and custody issues (sort of like a legal separation). You can refile for a divorce and then proceed with it. That shouldn t be an issue at all. Of course, your lawyer would need...

Divorce Issues: change in divorce decree, divorce decree, granddaughter
divorce decree, granddaughter, 19 years: Hi Ela~ Since he s in another country,it probably won t be a problem in you doing whatever with the house. What you need to do is to check with a lawyer and see what he/she can do for you. You might be able to get the divorce decree revised,and just send...

Divorce Issues: changing custody legally, change of circumstance, long time
change of circumstance, long time: You can contact the state of where the garnishment was taking place but you need to go back to court so there can be a change of circumstance. I think you would either need an attorney to assist because it s out of state or take a long time to do this by yourself....

Divorce Issues: changing my divorce decision, divorce lawyer, lawyer fees
divorce lawyer, lawyer fees, appeal cases: You could go on the internet and look up your county records of appeal cases and check out the names of lawyers who won their cases. Or you could call the Bar Association and ask for referrals. Or ask friends which lawyers they used, and call those offices...

Divorce Issues: changing divorce papers without a lawyer, sole physical custody, divorce papers
sole physical custody, divorce papers, divorce decree: Dear Sherri, I am not an attorney, so I cannot give actual legal advice, but . . . if a divorce is finalized and decreed, that doesn t change. The orders can be amended if there is probable cause, but usually when one party chooses to be absent or relocate,...

Divorce Issues: changing a divorce, divorce paperwork, divorce case
divorce paperwork, divorce case: Hi Jeanen~ There shouldn t be anything you have to do. If you just filed the paperwork, but it hasn t gone to court yet. You don t have to do anything. The divorce paperwork is usually good for a full year from the date it s filed. So even if it turns...

Divorce Issues: cheated, code of ethics, joint custody
code of ethics, joint custody, leg injury: Hi John~ It s not nice to say, but sometimes the system can be in favor of the woman. I m not saying that s right either. It should be based on a case by case and individual situation. In this day and age the father is getting more rights to his child(ren),...

Divorce Issues: cheating, ocations, last affair
ocations, last affair, hind sight: Dear No Name, I am not a doctor, but I will advise you on this situation. You need to simply sit down and tell her NO MORE WEIRD SEX! Tell her you don t know how you feel about her anymore. Since it hasn t happened in the past two years, then maybe she...

Divorce Issues: child contact, cell numbers, contact number
cell numbers, contact number, home address: Hi Samantha~ He can t refuse to give you contact information. What you need to do is to tell your lawyer what he s doing. Your lawyer can tell this to the judge, who can then find him in contempt of a court order. Since in almost all divorce decrees...

Divorce Issues: child custody, joint legal custody, child abandonment
joint legal custody, child abandonment, contempt of court: Hi Michael~ She can t refuse you to see the children. Especially if you have a court order saying so. She can be found in contempt of court by not allowing you to see the children. She can t do that. Don t let her bully you. You have rights as a father,...

Divorce Issues: child custosdy/visitation, high school teacher, paystubs
high school teacher, paystubs, rears: Hi Jeff~ If you can t afford this, then you can take it back to court and appeal the amount of child support; and get it lowered by the judge. I don t see how her lawyer got your incomed based on what you could earn, instead of what you do earn. You...

Divorce Issues: child at his house, red flags, two girls
red flags, two girls, cps: Hi Lisa~ It is your husband s job and duty to protect your son, while he is in his care. I would be extremely concerned if I were you. I would even report them the CPS. This older child, could be doing something more sinster than just pulling down his...

Divorce Issues: my child is in the middle, direct quotation, parenting time
direct quotation, parenting time, psychological stability: Tina, I agree with you. It is important that your daughter have a father who pays some attention to her, because this will increase her self-esteem, sense of identity, and psychological stability. However, it sounds as if their contact needs to be supervised...

Divorce Issues: child porn, reporting child pornography, child porn sites
reporting child pornography, child porn sites, sex addict: Hello. Sounds serious. Go to google and type in the search window: reporting child pornography. It will give you several web pages with specific advice. or Call child protective services locally and ask them what to do and how to work with them. They...

Divorce Issues: child support, divorce paperwork, google
divorce paperwork, google, autistic child: Dear Dan, You may want to contact your local child support agency. The county courthouse or your state bar association should be able to help you find the answer. You could also use google and type in the name of your county + Children Services . They would...

Divorce Issues: child support, earning income, tyring
earning income, tyring, child support: Well then, it looks like you have a reasonable request for a reduction in child support. Keep in mind that although your ex-wife only worked a few hours a night , potentially she could work full-time at the same rate of pay. The judge would evaluate this,...

Divorce Issues: child support, divorce papers, death benefit
divorce papers, death benefit, hi john: Hi John~ Since you ve been separated for 3 yrs (correct me if I m wrong here, please), and b/c it s an inheritance she s not entitled to this at all. Spouses aren t entitled to inheritances. Anything that someone gifts you, inheritances, etc are not split...

Divorce Issues: child support and remarrige, exotic dancing, child support
exotic dancing, child support, obligation: Hi Alane~ No, you can take him back to court and try to amend the original court order. Tell them that you re no longer working that position and making that type of income. You can either get the child support eliminated or you can get it greatly reduced....

Divorce Issues: child support, child support calculator, nycsc
child support calculator, nycsc, interactive child: Dear Dale, I think you may find your answer here- http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/intro/child_support_issues.htm Here s the NYS interactive Child Support calculator- http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states/ny/cal/NYCSC.html I hope this was helpful...

Divorce Issues: children, custodial arrangements, dear john
custodial arrangements, dear john, legislation: Dear John, Children are not just property of their mother. If the two of you are still married and there is no custodial arrangements, I think you can make a case to keep them in their comfortable environment to which they are accustomed. If the two of...

Divorce Issues: children of divorce meeting new mate, final divorce decree, new mate
final divorce decree, new mate, thier parents: Hi Charlene~ When that time comes, sit down with them and ask them what they d like to do as a family. Then you can suggest the golf, bowling, movies, dinner, etc. And give them the choice of what to do to spend family time together. It ll take them...

Divorce Issues: children and divorce, affects of divorce on children, children and divorce
affects of divorce on children, children and divorce, teen agers: Negative: -The children get confused and somethings think it was their fault. -They get easily depressed. -They stop making all the activities they used to do and they care less about the things they like. -When their divorced parents discuss a lot...

Divorce Issues: children with divorced parents, children with divorced parents, sadness
children with divorced parents, sadness, emotions: Hi Chelsea~ I have no idea how boys react to divorce, as I don t have any male children myself. I get the impression they all act differently though. Some act out, and some interalize their anger or sadness, depending on how they react with their emotions....

Divorce Issues: children in the middle, final divorce decree, time is on your side
final divorce decree, time is on your side, small moves: Hi Dave, It s not that unusual a problem. I ve coached a few people through this one. The ultimatum is phoney, most likely. One big thing to keep in mind is that the final divorce decree changes a lot. Once it s done and that gavel comes down,...

Divorce Issues: children's problems, mommy and daddy, strange questions
mommy and daddy, strange questions, full custody: Tracy, you asked what you can do to help the kids and yourself. It seems obvious to me that you and their father are contributing to the damage being done to these children by not following the court orders that are already in place to protect them. If the...

Divorce Issues: children will now have a step-mother, constance ahrons, parenting relationship
constance ahrons, parenting relationship, exhusband: The best way she can protect them is to develop a constructive co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband. It is his job to be sure his children are being treated well by their stepmother. I recommend that she get two copies of Constance Ahrons book, The...

Divorce Issues: childs thoughts on reconciliation, marriage counselling, initial separation
marriage counselling, initial separation, special time: Thanks for your question, Murray. Sometimes it is very difficult to know how much to share with children. It occurs to me that your son may seem annoyed when his mother comes around because having this time with you may represent the best and closest time...

Divorce Issues: chils custody, divorce, lawyer
divorce, lawyer: Hi Michael~ It varies by state. It can be anywhere from age 12-14 (even up to 16). You could ask a lawyer in your state what the legal age is for a child to decide where he/she wants to live. Here is a great website on divorce. It is: www.divorcenet.com...

Divorce Issues: who should claim the kids, halloween costumes, divorce decree
halloween costumes, divorce decree, food stamps: Hi Malynda~ What does it say about this in the divorce decree (if anything at all)? Most of the time what typically happens is that the parents will alternate years of claiming the children. Or in the case of having 3 (in my case) children to claim. ...

Divorce Issues: claiming the children, clothes
clothes: Rachel: The children live with you for over 90% of the time. You are the one that pays for food, clothes, takes them to school, gas in the car. You should claim both. You should have been claiming both from the beginning. Just tell him you are going to...

Divorce Issues: clarification/modification order, divorce decree, decree states
divorce decree, decree states, military retirement: Hi Mary~ He needs to contact an actual JAG lawyer (that currently is practicing) and perhaps he/she can tell you what the correct form is, that you need to fill out and file with the DFAS. As a last resort you could ask DFAS what form the mean, b/c you...

Divorce Issues: collaborative law, litigation settlement, ugly divorce
litigation settlement, ugly divorce, process that enables divorcing parties: Hi Tom~ It seems like it could have it s benefits and downfalls both. For example: if you and your spouse can t come to an agreement on something and it becomes contested, then you both must find different lawyers that can come to an agreement for both...

Divorce Issues: collaborative verses traditional, retirement pension, including college
retirement pension, including college, petition for divorce: Hi Carol~ All collaborative means is that he works together with you in the divorce. That s absurd he wants you to date him, tell him absolutely not, you will not date him during nor after the divorce. His request is just ludicrous and ridiculous, that...

Divorce Issues: common law marriage, common law spouse, common law marriage
common law spouse, common law marriage, legal loophole: Hi Pat~ Yeah, that would make it official in a way, legally. I m surprised that the lawyer can t contest that the divorce was official to begin with. Ask the lawyer if he can get the marriage anulled instead of the standard divorce procedure (if they...

Divorce Issues: community property, investment account, separate property
investment account, separate property, marriage: Hi Katherine~ It could. I m not sure exactly on how to advise you on this. You should contact a lawyer, tell him/her of your situation--and find out what your legal rights are on this issue. Since he s put some community property into an investment account...

Divorce Issues: complicated situation, international divorce, working in asia
international divorce, working in asia, local court: Hi D~ Since you re in Asia somewhere. Either one of you can file for a divorce wherever you are (the country you currently reside in), since you re a resident there. You can go to the local court house or magistrates office and file for a divorce. They...

Divorce Issues: concern about young children and supporting them, sole physical custody, stay at home mom
sole physical custody, stay at home mom, parenting time: Hi Debra~ Since you re not having any luck with finding a job on your own. What about going through some temp agencies, they can place you into a job from temp to permanent. That would be a good option for you at this point. As for the spousal support...

Divorce Issues: confused about fiances, second marriage, retirement plan
second marriage, retirement plan, copies of w2: Hi Susan~ You can certainly ask for half of everything since the marriage began. You are entitled to half of everything,particularly since you ve been married for such a long time,and he s been the sole provider for you,and you ve been a homemaker. You...

Divorce Issues: very confused, smooth talkers, long term relationship
smooth talkers, long term relationship, marriage work: Hi Connie~ He s playing games with you. He wants to see how far he can push you and how long you ll stick around before eventually giving in and taking him back. I don t know why some men feel that it s okay to play mind games with women. We tend to...

Divorce Issues: confusion about finalizing divorce, sexual incompatibility, communication issues
sexual incompatibility, communication issues, spending habits: Hi Sue. Thanks for writing. I can see why you are confused. As I read your letter, it sounds like a lot of what happened got going because your relationship bonds crumbled under the stress of being out of work. Although the marriage didn t sound so...

Divorce Issues: confussing divore papers, divorce web, divorce papers
divorce web, divorce papers, divorce support: Hi Cindi~ Yes, divorce papers and termnology is very confusing (why the system does that I don t know). Typically, for the divorce you ll have to list any and all children that you have together (that you re the biological parents of together--step children...

Divorce Issues: consenting, divorce proceeding, contested divorce
divorce proceeding, contested divorce, financial statement: Nope..... you can go ahead and file, A contested divorce takes a longer time and is more money so it would be better for both of you financially if you agreed. You can either go to a court and start your own divorce or hire an attorney and start your division...

Divorce Issues: What constitutes proof of adultery?, divorce web, divorce laws
divorce web, divorce laws, hi mary: Hi Mary Ellen~ In some states like TX (for example), in order to use adultery as grounds for a divorce, you must have proof. Being in the form of pictures, witnesses, video, audio, etc (even hiring a P.I (private investigator)) as proof this took place....

Divorce Issues: Too much contact with ex?Boundries?, custody arrangement, joint custody
custody arrangement, joint custody, earache: Dear Tami, I really do believe that you attempted to simplify this and just give me a couple of examples. To be honest, I think this guy is bad news. He s not divorced, he s not really treating you as a girl-friend or even someone that he s seriously planning...

Divorce Issues: contempt, life insurance policy, comtempt
life insurance policy, comtempt, divorce decree: Hi Sonya~ You would have to take him back to court for his being in comtempt of a court order, or there s really nothing you can do to recoupe the losses, of which he s refuses to pay to you. And that can be expensive to do. Make sure that you keep all...

Divorce Issues: contested divorce, getting my divorce, divorce web
getting my divorce, divorce web, contested divorce: Hi Crystal~ You must petition the court/judge to grant the divorce, even though he refuses to sign. If you have a lawyer you must stay on top of him/her to get this divorce over and done with. The judge can/will grant a divorce even though he refuses...

Divorce Issues: contested divorce, circuit clerks, proper paperwork
circuit clerks, proper paperwork, divorce proceedings: Hi Sarah~ In order for your first relationship to have been a legal and binding marriage, you would ve had to have the appropriate paperwork filed so that it s recognized by the government as a legal marriage. So if you obtained the marriage license from...

Divorce Issues: Going to court after the divorce is final, divorce agreement, dear mary
divorce agreement, dear mary, rate changes: Dear Mary J, I am not an attorney, so I can t tell you whether or not he has a case, but I can help you collect some facts, just in case he does take it to court. He has already gotten cash for him out of his refinancing, so splitting the equity would not...

Divorce Issues: court order, glenda, ulcer
glenda, ulcer, sake: Hi Glenda~ He has to go to the visits with his father, until he s old enough to decide for himself whether he wants to go or not. The age when a child can choose whether he/she wants to go on visits or not, it varies from state to state. Some states it...

Divorce Issues: court orders, future 4, abd
future 4, abd, mediator: Dear Julio, First, let me say that I am not a lawyer. I can however suggest a few options. 1. What is left to decide? Perhaps the decisions can be made between you and your wife with the lawyer there only to file the appropriate paperwork. 2. You...

Divorce Issues: back to court ?, private deal, colledge
private deal, colledge, cruel treatment: Hi Thomas~ There s not much you can do, but to ignore her behavior and comments. There s not anything you can take her back to court for. Unless you can t afford the child support that you re currently paying. If you can t afford the CS, then you take...

Divorce Issues: custodial parent moving out of state, decree states, divorce decree
decree states, divorce decree, family lawyer: Dear Alana, As you have said you have repeatedly contacted him (phone, email, certified letter showing signature of receipt?) I would recommend that you take you list of dates and correspondences to a family lawyer along with your decree to see what paperwork...

Divorce Issues: custody of children, divorce decree, physical custody
divorce decree, physical custody, custody of children: Hi Kim~ If there s nothing (no court ordered paperwork) saying the children can t live with you. Then no, you can keep them and have them live with you, if you wish. He would have to take you to court in order to make them (the children) live with him....

Divorce Issues: custody & home, full time job, divorce web
full time job, divorce web, unhappy marriage: Hi Janine~ You probably wouldn t get the house if you can t afford the mortgage (unless it d paid for) or the upkeep of it. But that shouldn t effect your getting custody of the children (you d have to have a place to live, for them to sleep, and be able...

Divorce Issues: custody/visitation substance abuse, new torch, long periods of time
new torch, long periods of time, hair test: Hi Lisa~ Yes, it has to be the root of the hair follical to be any good (to determine if someones used drugs, and what type of drugs). Otherwise, they could be inconclusive or not fully correct. By doing it by the root, you have DNA proof of what s in...

Divorce Issues: custody, full time job, alcohol tobacco
full time job, alcohol tobacco, nasty games: Judy, I don t think this guy has a prayer of getting full custody. It is very difficult to change custody once it has been established. Usually, it will require proof of abuse or neglect of the child, such that Children s Protective Services would intervene....

Divorce Issues: Dating After Divorce, custody evaluator, serious allegations
custody evaluator, serious allegations, guardian ad litem: Perry: Since hotels are not an option, the second idea would be to see if there is a friend that they can stay with. If that doesn t work, then as long as they are not sleeping in the same room as you, and your daughter is fine with it, don t worry about...

Divorce Issues: Dating After Divorce, custody evaluator, serious allegations
custody evaluator, serious allegations, guardian ad litem: Most importantly here is the welfare of Amanda. It is my personal belief that a girl that age will get the understanding that it is okay for a WOMAN(not girl) to sleep at men s homes when getting to know them. She is too young to understand about distance...

Divorce Issues: Dating During a Divirce with children, father visitation rights, physical affection
father visitation rights, physical affection, divirce: Thanks for your question, Kevin. What you are asking about is a bit of a gray area. In most communities in Michigan, dating once one is legally separated and the divorce has been filed is considered morally acceptable by the majority of people. If you are...

Divorce Issues: DELAY DIVORCE AND 401K, certified mail, lawyer service
certified mail, lawyer service, 401k plan: Dear Harry, I am not an attorney and you need one. You may be able to prolong the divorce for your child s senior year of high school, then again, your attorney could ask for custody of the child for you. With what you are dealing with, you really need...

Divorce Issues: Dealing with divorce, dealing with divorce, family meeting
dealing with divorce, family meeting, transition period: Hi. Thanks for the question. It s a good one. (Also, the filby struck me. As a young man that was my nickname. I got it because I signed my name Phil B. What is that about?) As to your question, it s funny that he would think that the kids don t have...

Divorce Issues: Dealing with PAS, getting a divorce, dear kelly
getting a divorce, dear kelly, extremes: Dear Kelly, Unfortunately I have not come across a site that is helpful to second, not-married-yets . There is a site called secondwivesclub.com that may offer some help advice on how to handle this situation. You may also check out saafamilies.com or...

Divorce Issues: Dealing with Pressure, getting a divorce, twelve step programs
getting a divorce, twelve step programs, being a father: Hi. Thanks for writing. I ve helped some others with this situation. It s a hard one and it won t yield easily. It might even make sense for you guys to adjust to the fact that you ll always have her out there wishing you ill and acting on her resentments....

Divorce Issues: Dealing with a two year old child w/o a father, bachelors degree in psychology, step dad
bachelors degree in psychology, step dad, degree in psychology: Thank you for your question, Jessica. This is a heartbreaking situation. Your neice could profit from play therapy with a counselor who is trained and experienced in this specialty. One way to locate such a therapist is to check the Association for Play...

Divorce Issues: Dear Ms. Kessler, parents names, bread winner
parents names, bread winner, car registration: Hi Kristi~ The issue here is the home was originally bought with inheritance money. Spouses are not entitled to any inheritance money. However, she might legally be entitled to something from the home, since they are married and it s consider marital...

Divorce Issues: Debt obligations of ex-wife, lawyer time, divorce decree
lawyer time, divorce decree, exwife: Hi. Scott. It s a legal question and I can t help you. I m a shrink. I can commiserate, for what that s worth. Sounds like your lawyer didn t advise you well on this one. You probably should have transferred it to her name if you were handing it over to...

Divorce Issues: Debt, husbands name, child support
husbands name, child support: If you are married and the property is registered in both you and your husbands name, I believe the answer is yes. I would suggest that you consult an attorney in your state to make sure you receive the right answer according to the laws of your particular...

Divorce Issues: Debts during divorce process, divorce in california, divorce agreement
divorce in california, divorce agreement, collection agencys: Dear Don, Unfortunately I am not a lawyer so I cannot tell you that you can tell the creditors to take a flying leap. The fact is that your wife is receiving medical care, whether voluntarily or involuntary and whoever s name is on the insurance policy...

Divorce Issues: Decree Changes, final decree, initial agreement
final decree, initial agreement, hallway: Hi David~ If you do not agree with the agreement, do not sign it under any circumstances. Tell the judge that you do not agree to these terms and you want it to be revised so that it s fair to you. They can t change and raise the support just like that....

Divorce Issues: Desperate and Terrified, prgnancy, christian mother
prgnancy, christian mother, three kids: Hi Candace, Thanks so much for writing. Right away, I would advise you to stop drinking. Alcohol is a depressant and it really makes people feel worse. I am sorry that you are feeling so badly. It s not easy to be with someone that you don t have feelings...

Divorce Issues: DIVORCE, relationship marriage, abusive relationship
relationship marriage, abusive relationship, sole custody: Hi Gina~ Have you tried to talk to your old boss to possibly get your job back? Perhaps if you tell him/her your situation they ll hire you back. It s worth asking, since you have no income (only what your husband will allow you to have, which probably...

Divorce Issues: DIVORCE, divorce agreement, kidnapping cases
divorce agreement, kidnapping cases, county of orange: This is difficult because it will take a lot of money and attorney fees to get her back. I m not sure but I think you can contact the appropriate authorities in Germany and start the proceedings of possible kidnapping. Your children are still minors and I...

Divorce Issues: DIVORCE LAW, mental institutions, divorce law
mental institutions, divorce law, sign documents: Hi Julie~ There is no paperwork that she can sign that will allow you to marry while he s still going through the divorce process. As long as a person is legally married in the eyes of the law, they can t remarry someone else. So they have to be officially...

Divorce Issues: DIVORCE, office of vital statistics, juarez mexico
office of vital statistics, juarez mexico, lawyer in new york: Hi John, although I have no expertise in this area, I would contact the jurisdiction of where you were divorced. The courts would have a record and would send you a copy of your papers. You don t need an attorney to request a copy. If you know the name of...

Divorce Issues: DIvorce, divorce rules, procedings
divorce rules, procedings, divorce papers: Hi P. Malik~ If he files for a divorce then she ll be served with divorce papers. She ll have 20-30 days to file her response to the paperwork. I would advise her to retain a lawyer so that she gets treated fairly in the divorce. If she wishes you can...

Divorce Issues: DIvorce, melanie jones, divorce proceedings
melanie jones, divorce proceedings, twin boys: Hi Melanie~ You are kinda in between a rock and a hard spot, aren t you? The only thing I can really suggest is to let your husband file, then when you have to file your response, you request that he completely pays for the divorce b/c you are a student...

Divorce Issues: Difficult to contact children, hate mail, typical children
hate mail, typical children, ploy: We spoke before didn t we? PAS is hard, hard, hard. I d be happy to give it some thought but I think the intervention or ploy or whatever you want to call it would have to be well crafted and finely tuned. I think I d need more narrative. Also I d want...

Divorce Issues: Dissolution of Relationship, financial liabilities, domestic relationship
financial liabilities, domestic relationship, relationship question: Hi Patrick. There is no certain way to escape this person without damage, as she is obviously in need of help. However it seems to me that you need to exert tough love , albeit breakup. So my suggestion is to take her to task on her nonsense,as follows:-...

Divorce Issues: Dividing property, dividing property, attorney bill
dividing property, attorney bill, gun collection: Hi Lori~ Yes, whatever you can amicably decide to split up or share equally, then do so. This is one less thing for the judge to have to deal with and decide whom gets what. So yes, your husband would keep his gun collection and you your jewelery, etc....

Divorce Issues: Division of Assets, divorce web, typical case
divorce web, typical case, bank accounts: Hi Sam~ That s the typical case that anything incurred during the marriage is split 50-50. However, since you ve done this from the beginning (keeping separate accounts and you both being rather wealthy). You may or may not have to split everything in...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, clerk of the court, biological father
clerk of the court, biological father, little time: Hi Elsa~ You need to go to the circuit clerk of the court in the county you live in. Tell them your situation and they should be able to advise you of the next steps you need to take. What will probably happen is they will have you file for a divorce,and...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, jeneen, kids act
jeneen, kids act, bad influence: Hi Jeneen~ When a 3 yo is telling you that she doesn t like someone, then it has to be pretty bad for her to live with him. So I would listen to her and hear her out on what she has to say about this. You shouldn t ever argue or be mean to each other...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, constance ahrons, unit thanks
constance ahrons, unit thanks, exwife: Thanks for your question, Brian. I understand it is uncomfortable and difficult for you to attend your son s games with this behavior from his stepfather, but, please, attend anyway. I constantly hear from adults in therapy who are still hurt because their...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce in california, great web site
divorce in california, great web site: Hi Gary~ It varies from state to state. Here is a great web site that has tons of info that will help answer your questions. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on your state and it ll give you divorce laws of your state, along with other info you may find...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, final divorce papers, signature line
final divorce papers, signature line, state bar association: Dear Amy, Because the laws differ form state to state I would recommend that you speak to your lawyer or call your state bar association. Generally speaking unless there is a signature line for a notary, it is not necessary. It doesn t hurt to double check....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, gas station, lawyer
gas station, lawyer, marriage: Hi Mike~ Since she won t return phone calls. My best suggestion is to let his lawyer handle this. B/c then his lawyer can go through her lawyer, that can make things a lot easier and less stressful than arguing back and forth. I wouldn t trust the wife,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, state divorce laws, educational pamphlets
state divorce laws, educational pamphlets, divorce information: Dear Mike, Thanks for your patience. Divorce is hard on a person emotionally, financially and physically. While your brothers divorce started off okay, the tone often changes when you start to move through the process. The best thing your brother can do...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, two girls, state laws
two girls, state laws, two daughters: Hi S~ I m not sure of your state laws on divorce. But you don t need to move out of the marital home in order to file for a divorce (in any state). What about considering a move out of the area to a cheaper location where housing, etc is cheaper to live....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, dating a married man, diamond earrings
dating a married man, diamond earrings, feelings of guilt: Hi Angie~ It s never good to start out in a relationship when you are married to another person. It usually doesn t work out in the end anyway (the odds are stacked way against you). It s a little different had he been already separated and going thru...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, adult relationship, employeement
adult relationship, employeement, single parenting: Hi Michelle, although divorce is painful for all parties involved, children should not control an adults destiny. You are the adult, you know what you can tolerate in your adult relationship with your husband. You need to address the important financial issues...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, retainer fees, emotional divorce
retainer fees, emotional divorce, retainer fee: Dear Michelle, One of the best places to start is to educate yourself on the laws of your state and the divorce process. Most State Bar Associations have a website where the public can view or download information on divorce. Here are a few other sites...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and my 2 yr old, angry teenager, bad temper
angry teenager, bad temper, bit co: Hi, Kori, A version of your question seems to come up a few times a year, if that s any comfort. Here is what usually happens. First of all, you ll have this chaos to live with for the next 15 years and maybe then some. In one situation I ve watched...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, wrong decisions, new insurance
wrong decisions, new insurance, separation agreement: Dear Patty, It sounds like your son made a mistake and is now trying to rectify it. His concern should be to exit the marriage as quickly as possible without hurting his credit or other financial records. He should not be worrying about equity in anything;...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, paycheck to paycheck, masters degree in education
paycheck to paycheck, masters degree in education, paralegal work: If the lawyer pays her in checks then she is depositing them and they are very traceable. I don t know who would be responsible for rent, because that would depend on who could prove higher earnings and income potential. If your wife can prove she has no income...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, paycheck to paycheck, masters degree in education
paycheck to paycheck, masters degree in education, paralegal work: Dear John, Your situation is not uncommon. Many couples have financial and communication difficulties after the first year of marriage. There are a couple of options available. 1. You could see a counselor, on your own, about how to help save your marriage....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, paycheck to paycheck, masters degree in education
paycheck to paycheck, masters degree in education, paralegal work: Hi John~ She s just trying to scare you into believing this. They can t take half of your paycheck, the courts have to leave you something to live off of. She wouldn t be intitled to much since you ve only been married for 1.5 years. Just be thankful...

Divorce Issues: Divorce?, authoritative answers, legal question
authoritative answers, legal question, divorce: This is a legal question. I can give you answers but for authoritative answers you have to talk to a lawyer. Your husband can file buy hr hsd yo notify you. He can t divorce you in secret. There has to be a legal action and if it involves you, you have...

Divorce Issues: Divorce?, local court, court house
local court, court house, divorce: Dear Diana, Thank you for your patience. I had informed Allexperts that I would not able to answer questions for the last 5 days. Sorry! The answer is yes, he can file for divorce. When a spouse files for divorce a notice is sent to you informing you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, dear sir or madam, georgieva
dear sir or madam, georgieva, police record: Lora, go to another attorney. You don t need to prove your husband is an alcholic to divorce him. Also consider contacting abused women shelters and leave your premises. Look on the internet for shelters in your area. You also can have him locked out of the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, dear sir or madam, georgieva
dear sir or madam, georgieva, police record: Hi Lora~ First off you need to get away from him. Can you temporarily live with a friend or family member. I would suggest that you go to your local DFS office (division of family services) and ask if they can help you (once you move out). Then get the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, physical custody, joint custody
physical custody, joint custody, child ren: Hi Jessica~ Since you ve been separated for almost a full year, the children would remain with you, and you would be granted primary physical custody of them. He can still have his rights to the children as in seeing them, visitation, etc. But it s highly...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce papers, divorce decree
divorce papers, divorce decree, soley: Hi Jun~ When you file the divorce papers, make sure that you state she s responsible soley for HER debts that she s incurred during the marriage. This way if it s in the divorce decree you ll be protecting yourself from her debts. If they are only in HER...

Divorce Issues: Divorce after 3 years/ me disabled male, legal guidance, sponcer
legal guidance, sponcer, waist down: Hi Tim, Your situation is very complicated and unfortunately I do not know enough to help you. I would suggest seeking legal guidance as soon as possible. You need to learn what your legal obligations of sponsoring your wife s son is and how that may...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, legal divorce, clerk of the court
legal divorce, clerk of the court, public records: Hi Jeannette~ She would have to start with the last known county,in the state that he lived in,in the public records dept (probably start with the circuit clerk of the court). If he filed for a divorce there,then it would be on record. If all else fails...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, financial connections, separation agreement
financial connections, separation agreement, 8 years: Hi Joetta~ The divorce process should be rather quick and simple for you then. It ll vary by state law. It could be a few weeks to several months. Here is a great divorce website. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state where you reside. It will...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, short end of the stick, uncontested divorce
short end of the stick, uncontested divorce, divorce settlement: Hi Rolanda~ Are you sure the divorce was a legit and legal one? How can he file for an uncontested divorce and you not receive anything from the martial property?! In a divorce you re to receive papers that you have to sign in order to get the divorce,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce paperwork, divorce papers
divorce paperwork, divorce papers, audacity: Hi Trina~ He probably just did the divorce paperwork, but didn t have you served with the divorce papers. The paperwork is good for a full year when filed. After that if it doesn t go to court for a divorce, then the paperwork becomes null and void. ...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, irreconcilable differences, sherif
irreconcilable differences, sherif, time student: Hi. This is a very difficult situation. Based on the little you ve said in this letter, I don t think there is any hope for your marriage. He seems to have great contempt for you and the marriage. YOu are correct to feel insulted. What he has done was somewhat...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, best bet, legal aid service
best bet, legal aid service, legal aid services: I do not have any legal training, so I m unable to answer that question. Your best bet is to seek legal help whether through a legal aid service, or a mediator, or a lawyer. The cost of doing so will vary by which one you choose. If money is an object,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, belove, financial question
belove, financial question, health benefits: Hi. I can t help you on this one. It s a legal/financial question and my expertise is psychology. Good luck, Philip Belove, Ed.D. Psychologist Specializing in Midlife Relationships drbelove@datingatmidlife.com www.datingatmidlife.com Telecounseling,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce petition, divorce laws
divorce petition, divorce laws, childeren: Hi Gail~ Since you have no property together and no children. It should be a fairly simple divorce. If you re still friends, that s good too. You could even use the same lawyer to save money (although I generally don t recommend it). As long as the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce,, divorce web, divorce laws
divorce web, divorce laws, grandma: Hi Jennifer~ She can still file for a divorce and a judge can grant it for her. Even if she s unable to locate him. Each states law varies on divorce. Here is a great divorce web site. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state in which she resides....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, international divorce, alcaholic
international divorce, alcaholic, divorce laws: Hi Cindy~ I m in the USA, so I m not familiar with divorce laws in other countries, including Israel. But I did a search on a site that I know of (international-divorce.com) and this is what I came up with. Just click on this link. It might help you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, judge grants, petitioner
judge grants, petitioner, respondent: Hi S~ No, it doesn t stop the divorce process. It could possibly prolong the divorce and drag it out that much longer. However, if a party refuses to sign then it s considered defaulting on the divorce. And the person that asked for what they wanted...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, offensive words, filing for divorce
offensive words, filing for divorce, co worker: Hi Naomi~ You can file for a divorce. He can live in the house until he is order out of it by the judge. Since you are still legally married he has just a much of a right to live there until ordered out by the court. That why I suggest filing now,this...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, married life, kbid
married life, kbid, filing for divorce: You will want to file in the county in which you spent your married life. Since you have already divided everything, and you are positive that you do not want any other portion of your joint assets, you can probably use one of the on-line forms by Nolo. ...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, credit card bills, household expenses
credit card bills, household expenses, divorce papers: Hi Camille~ Your attorney is incorrect. Since you owned the home prior to the marriage, the home is solely yours, and your husband isn t entitled to it. Even if you refinanced with him on the loan/mortgage, that doesn t matter, it s not considered community...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, sexual relations, affection
sexual relations, affection, resentment: Dear Tammie, You do have your hands full. You probably don t realize how bitter and resentment you ve become. It happens when you start to feel worn out and that you are still expected to give more. If he s saying he wants more sex he also really means...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, belove, divorces
belove, divorces, fiance: Hi There are lots of divorces where only one party wants one. It s not uncommon. You ll need a lawyer. Do an initial consult with one but don t hire her/him. Just be completely ready to, Then you tell him that you ve made up your mind and there is no...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce paperwork, divorce papers
divorce paperwork, divorce papers, two different things: Hi Ramona~ This is usually two different things you re talking about. You can get your local Sheriff s dept to serve your spouse with divorce papers. Or there are companies that you can actually hire and they will find him and serve him for you. You...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, marion county florida, child support amount
marion county florida, child support amount, filing for divorce: Hi Glen~ You can go to any lawyer and find out how much she s supposed to pay in child support. Each state has a chart they go by. How this is decided; is by two factors. #1 How much she makes annually (gross pay, not net). #2 How many children you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, reservation of rights, garage roof
reservation of rights, garage roof, home improvements: I don t know what a reservation of rights are. Your husband fixed a roof on a house that he doesn t own and therefore has no rights to shares of the proceeds even if it were to sell. If the house is in your name via gift there is no way you can lose it. In...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, bryana, clerk of the court
bryana, clerk of the court, state of virginia: Hi Bryana~ He needs to check in the county where his wife resides in NY. He can call the circuit clerk of the court there at the courthouse, and they will be able to tell him if the divorce is finalized. Or if it s even been filed with the county. If...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce packet, divorce papers
divorce packet, divorce papers, uncontested divorce: Hi Theresa~ All you can do is file the divorce papers, have him served and see if he s going to contest it. If he does end up contesting it, then it s going to take that much longer to get the divorce and to decide how things are going to be split up....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, stephanie moore, many different things
stephanie moore, many different things, term marriage: Dear Stephanie Moore, I am not an attorney and state laws do differ. Although the county clerk cannot give legal advice, they can probably tell you what the state statutes are regarding divorce. Some states do have the year waiting period, but something...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce kits, divorce support
divorce kits, divorce support, divorce papers: Hi Michael~ It is much cheaper to do a divorce yourself. But a lot of ppl don t do it. As long as her husband is not going to contest the divorce or fight over child custody,property,etc. Then it s probably okay for her to do her divorce papers herself....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, rapid execution, escrow account
rapid execution, escrow account, lawyers fees: Hi Dave~ I m not familiar with the arbitration process, since I went through the courts with my divorce (and it still took me nearly a year from start to finish). In order to get the divorce to proceed you must stay on your lawyer. Otherwise, they will...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, newborn baby girl, bookstore chain
newborn baby girl, bookstore chain, physical custody: Hi Carey~ What kinds of questions do you mean? I don t have enough info to be more detailed. All you can do is answer his questions with as much honesty as you can. However, do NOT go into details with him, as a child doesn t need to know that their...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, abusive situation, full disclosure
abusive situation, full disclosure, half my life: Hi, Conflict adverse might be the core issue with you, your baggage. We might find that it has influenced most of your major relationship decisions and that there were times when you needed to be able to stand up for yourself and instead you slithered...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, good taste, spending time
good taste, spending time, old girl: I am so sorry. I know that this has to be emotionally hard on you. Once divorced, you lose control over with whom your ex has a relationship. Your best hope is that he has good taste and that your daughter enjoys spending time with the new interest ....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, baggage check, trust issues
baggage check, trust issues, something in the way: Depends a lot on what you mean by take it slow and what he means by all or nothing. My guess at this point is that there are a few things that you have misgivings about and are afraid to bring up. You definitely should give up your other dating...

Divorce Issues: Should I get a Divorce?, gut instincts, text messenging
gut instincts, text messenging, should i get a divorce: Hi Jodi~ Have you asked him why he s in contact with these women; by texting, emailing, etc? If not, then perhaps you should and see if he gives you a reason as to why he s doing this. Either way it s inappropriate that he s constantly staying in contact...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, stay at home mom, payroll checks
stay at home mom, payroll checks, physical scars: Hi Karen~ He can t do that to you. He s keeping you a virtual prisoner in your own home. It s a control issue for him, by giving you access to nothing; such as the car or money; he s got you where he wants you. Since you re not close to any family or...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, judith wallerstein, effects of divorce
judith wallerstein, effects of divorce, second chances: Hi. There s been a lot of research on the topic. I suggest you start with Judith Wallerstein and her book, Second Chances. There can be good that comes out of a divorce. A lot depends on the reasons for the divorce and how the divorce itself is handled....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, pastor kim, pastoral counseling
pastor kim, pastoral counseling, read ephesians: Hi Jack, There are so many issues to address here...and I can t possibly give you the advice and help you need without digging down to the roots and working on issues one at a time. These are spiritual issues that require spiritual answers. You need some...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, italian citizen, american citizen
italian citizen, american citizen, foreigner: Melissa: You need to get an attorney and get a professional opinion, but I believe, that whether or not he is a US citizen or not does not matter. If you were married in the United States, than the laws of divorce apply to your divorce, because it will...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, problem relationships, imago therapist
problem relationships, imago therapist, scary place: There is a new type of therapy that is used for couples that teach skills in coping and dealing with each other and with their differences. It s called IMAGO therapy, Do some research on the internet and see if there is an Imago therapist in your area. Maybe...

Divorce Issues: After Divorce, divorce, state to state
divorce, state to state: Hi Riza~ It will vary from state to state. Typically it s 30 days after the divorce is finalized before a person can remarry. In a few states it s 90 days before one can remarry. Also it will vary greatly when a divorce is finalized. This depends on...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, school graduations, graduated college
school graduations, graduated college, woman one: Hi Beth, First, congratulations on moving out. The marriage was incredibly abusive and you are indeed on the road to recovery. CODA is an excellent start. Excellent. And you are right. You do need help along the way. You ve started a journey that will...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce battle, divorce web
divorce battle, divorce web, ugly divorce: Hi Leslie~ If she s currently in an ugly divorce battle, the last thing she needs to do is to leave the state. That certainly wouldn t look very good on her in court and it might even be used against her. She should probably listen to her lawyer and try...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, genuine acceptance
opiate abuse, genuine acceptance, being a father: Truthfully, blending a family typically takes three years. I was amazed to hear your children took to him or the idea of him being a father figure so quickly. Well, now that they are being honest about how they feel, you can mark this as year one of blending...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, genuine acceptance
opiate abuse, genuine acceptance, abusive relationship: Linda: This is going to sound harsh, so I apologize up front...you have been a mother for 23 years, and in an abusive relationship for much of that time. It is time for you to think about you. Your children are grown and too old to manipulate you like this....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, living hell, wee hours
living hell, wee hours, police station: Hi S~ You might check with your local police station to see if it s legal for you to change the locks when he leaves. If it is,then you might consider doing that. And then filing for a divorce. If you can t then there s nothing else you ll be able to...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, christmas eve
opiate abuse, christmas eve, genuine acceptance: Hi, It s the day after Christmas so this answer will be late and I apologize. I didn t check any mail after 3 on Christmas eve. But... I hope you just went to your kids neutral Christmas and let it go, temporarily. That would have been my advice....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, genuine acceptance
opiate abuse, genuine acceptance, three kids: Hi Linda~ Your children are now grown and can take care of themselves and make their own adult decisions in their lives. However, they can not and do not get to tell you how you run your own life. And even though they may not like Bob (which isn t the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, genuine acceptance
opiate abuse, genuine acceptance, three kids: Hi Linda, This is terribly unfair of your children. If they can t give you a reason for their dislike, then they probably are just jealous and lamenting the fact that you and their dad are no longer together. It is hard on children, no matter what age,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, genuine acceptance
opiate abuse, genuine acceptance, time kids: Linda, relationships needs to be nurtured so they can become stronger. Not sure how much time kids spend with bob physically and what activities they did together. If they did then kids behavior towards Bob would have shown that they like him because you like...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, opiate abuse, genuine acceptance
opiate abuse, genuine acceptance, dear linda: Dear Linda, My husband, Bob, and I married after divorce and many years of being single and each of us had an adult child. So, I m going to tell you something that may sound a bit stern, but we found it to be reality. Our children don t ask our opinions...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, divorce paperwork, respondant
divorce paperwork, respondant, divorce papers: Hi Ibeahim~ What you will do is obtain a lawyer, I highly recommend that you do this, even though the divorce will be uncontested, and she s going along with it. It s better to hire a lawyer and do a divorce this way. What he ll do is he ll draw up the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, referral number, state of depression
referral number, state of depression, bad decisions: Dear Ron, There are a few different approaches you can take. The approach of making bad decisions is not one that will help you. 1. You could speak with a lawyer about your rights. You can ask them how you can delay the process (in most states you do...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/Abandoment, worst case scenario, child abandonment
worst case scenario, child abandonment, personal possessions: Hi Carolyn~ No worries, it s not against the law to leave your spouse or your house and move in with your mother. He can t get your for abandonment, period. The only way he could claim that is if you up and moved out of the house w/o any warning or discussion...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Abroad., 401k plan, dom rep
401k plan, dom rep, divorces: Cruz: That is probably true. You could possibly go to the court house and ask a clerk what to do. Show them the paperwork and ask the quickest way to get it done here in the states. You were married in the states, and your divorce has to be in the states...

Divorce Issues: Divorce: Assets and Equitable Distribution, state divorce laws, parents name
state divorce laws, parents name, dear linda: Dear Linda, As every state divorce laws are different I would recommend you speak with an attorney in your state. Before doing so there are actually many sites that can help educate you as to what your property rights are as well as other information pertaining...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Assets, personal belongings, vehicles engines
personal belongings, vehicles engines, credit background: Dear Marcie, It is certainly not uncommon for assets to vanish when one spouse wants a divorce. Unfortunately you are now facing this issue and it doesn t come free. I ll do my best to address each of questions: 1. Spousal Maintenance is dependent on...

Divorce Issues: Divorce absent husband, month old baby, absent husband
month old baby, absent husband, domestic violence: Hi Susan~ It s rather simple, if he knows the court date and he doesn t show. The judge will still grant you a divorce. It will be what s called a divorce by default. All that means is that b/c he didn t show up in court, you get your divorce granted...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, assets, and attorney withdrawal, divorce agreements, legal recourse
divorce agreements, legal recourse, messy divorce: Hi MAH~ The lawyer can find just about any excuse if he/she suddenly decides they want to drop him and choose not to represent him anymore. Which only makes it that much harder for your brother to continue with the divorce process. What the lawyer may...

Divorce Issues: Divorce assets-Nevada, cash bonds, nevada law
cash bonds, nevada law, gc: George, Yes, you are correct. If the cash/bonds have always remained in your name alone and you now buy a home with it titled in your name alone, the asset remains yours. Remember to keep the rental income in an account also with your name alone. ...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and his bills, co signer, responsiblity
co signer, responsiblity, mortgage payment: Hi Julia~ Seriously, you should just laugh at him. You had an oral agreement that you would each be responsible for your own bills. That will stand up in court before the judge in your favor. Tell him you aren t paying for crap that the bills he charged...

Divorce Issues: Divorce; Cheating Wife, getting a divorce, assett
getting a divorce, assett, assests: Hi RMH~ The courts will nothing about the adultery. To the courts it s only an excuse to get a divorce. You can go to the courts and tell them what you d like to have property wise (if there s anything to split up). That would include any debts incurred...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Children, custodial parents, custodial parent
custodial parents, custodial parent, grudges: In my opinion, it is very important for children to keep contact with both parents. For one thing, the child has not issues with the non-custodial parent. The child wants the relationship with the non-custodial parent. Children who want a relationship with...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/Children, divorce children, marriage problems
divorce children, marriage problems, good answer: You do have a difficult situation on your hands. As I read your letter I hear a lot of dissatisfaction on you part and a willingness to divorce. You do not trust him and have not enjoyed being married to him. Without going into details you strongly hint that...

Divorce Issues: Divorce-Christian-, pastor kim, google
pastor kim, google, violent man: Dina, You are asking me a legal question which I am not qualified to answer and the feedback left for me was not called for, as I gave you an honest answer. I do not know how to get results when the answers need to come from an attorney. There are many sites...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Credit Cards, giving me a hard time, divorce decree
giving me a hard time, divorce decree, counseling service: Dear Patricia, When in doubt do two things put it in writing and ask for the next person in charge. Send a letter by certified mail identifying yourself as the owner of the account and state that you want your name removed from the account. OR cancel...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Credit Cards, cc company, divorce decree
cc company, divorce decree, contempt: Hi Sheila~ He s not responsible for her debt on the credit cards even if his name is on them. He needs to contact the CC company and complain to them big time. He needs to demand that his name be removed from the CC s immediately! He can provide them...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/Custody/what are my rights, anger management classes, divorce custody
anger management classes, divorce custody, full custody: You will definitely need a local attorney is Arizona to file for divorce to take the children out of state. You could ask for custody in divorce papers, if you get custody then maybe you can move the kids as long as that does not interfere with whatever visitation...

Divorce Issues: Divorce & Custody, divorce custody, full custody
divorce custody, full custody, divorce in texas: Hi Sharon~ That s what I thought but I wasn t for sure. She needs to see if there s something she can do to protect herself,and be able to keep custody of the children,if he were to suddenly show up and want them back. Since he legally has custody then...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and car loan, georgia laws, credit history
georgia laws, credit history, car loan: Dear Marcus, I am not an attorney, and I m not familiar with specific Georgia laws regarding divorce, but . . . if the car does not have a free and clear title, then technically, it isn t yours to give away. Although since it was purchased in the marriage,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, child, assets, credit cards bills, child abandonment
credit cards bills, child abandonment, home owners insurance: Hi Gary~ You can get her for child abandonment. Since she up and moved out of the marital home for another man. And you have her 99% of the time. You probaby would have no problem getting full custody of your daughter. After all she s with you all the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce with child, welfare dept, mommy and daddy
welfare dept, mommy and daddy, full custody: Hi Tasha~ If you qualify you should be able to obtain an attorney through Legal Aid. It s only a matter of a phone call to them. You can go to your local welfare dept and get a toll free number to talk to Legal Aid. Make sure to tell them that physical...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/children, state divorce laws, loveless marriage
state divorce laws, loveless marriage, marriage retreats: Dear Vince, Believe me when I say you are not alone! So many men and women find themselves exactly where you are. There is help and I m going to list several sites and resoruces below to help you move past this loveless marriage to either a better marriage,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce on children, lack of sexual desire, romantic novels
lack of sexual desire, romantic novels, divorce papers: Hi Rod~ I am a product of divorced parents. I was about 6 at the time. My mother divorced my father due to his alcholism. My sister and I grew up very well rounded and we adjusted quit well infact. About a year after the divorce,I was about 7 at the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce with children, household furniture, quick divorce
household furniture, quick divorce, getting a divorce: Hi Mike~ You would file in the state where you reside. You would go by your state laws since you are the one filing. I would say it d be a pretty easy and quick divorce. What you have to do is check into it and go from there. I would recommend that...

Divorce Issues: Divorce with children, financial chaos, getting a divorce
financial chaos, getting a divorce, hard fight: Hi. It might be hopeless. It sure sounds very difficult. It s a decision you have to make yourself and you will have to live with it. As I said, no matter what you do, you will have those people very involved in your life. If your MIL calls HRS for...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and custody, parenting plan, emotional trauma
parenting plan, emotional trauma, biological children: Hi Erb~ Yes, you are mostly correct here. The step-children are no relation to you, only by marriage. The reason your lawyer may be agreeing to visitation with them, could be b/c when you re bio-children go on a visit, the other children may feel left...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and custody, divorce papers, physical custody
divorce papers, physical custody, joint custody: Hi Kelly~ Since she s got primary physical custody, yes. She can ultimately have the last decision, as to whether or not she wants to send her or not to any visit. But if this becomes a regular occurance (denying his visitations), your husband can take...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Dating, worse case scenario, high school sweetheart
worse case scenario, high school sweetheart, belove: Hi J.T. I think you guys should wait for a year or more. It s hard to tell since you ve left a lot out of your story just where the trouble spots will be. Only one month divorced and a two year old? Was there a long separation? Was there an affair...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Decree, divorce decree, state of north carolina
divorce decree, state of north carolina, days thanks: Hi Jackie~ He did what s called a divorce by publication which is when you don t know the whereabouts of your spouse. And you advertise for X amount of weeks in the paper, thus giving the spouse time to reply to the divorce. But you should be able to...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Decree, final divorce decree, bi polar disorder
final divorce decree, bi polar disorder, income tax returns: Hi Jennifer~ Yes, you should be able to take him back to court and get him in contempt of a court ordered divorce decree. A judge can either make him pay up (by garnishing his wages, income tax returns, etc) or he could even throw him in jail. You should...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Decree is not being honored, contempt of court, divorce decree
contempt of court, divorce decree, part time job: Hi Katrina~ Your daughter is responsible for her car,as it s a luxury item,not a necessity. If I were in your situation I would make her pay as much as she could. And if she wasn t making the effort to repay me for it,then she d lose use of the car,until...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Decree, divorce settlement, divorce decree
divorce settlement, divorce decree, lawyer fees: Hi Andrew~ When a party in a divorce refuses to sign, it just prolongs the divorce case. Which costs more money for both parties in lawyer fees, etc. However, the judge in some instances can/will order that the party sign the decree or else. It s really...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and dating, spoilt brats, therepy
spoilt brats, therepy, grown man: Hi Kelly~ You do know that this has nothing to do with you at all. It s about their parents divorcing. That s what all this is about. They re just using you as a scapegoat. And they are acting like stupid, spoilt brats. And it s completely and utterly...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/deadbeat husband on deed, gift tax purposes, divorce proceedings
gift tax purposes, divorce proceedings, real estate taxes: Hi again Kerri~ I would have to say that any debt at the time of marriage is considered marital debt (such as house mortgage,car payments,credit cards,etc). Anything that you acquire after the separation isn t marital debt but personal. You need to check...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and debt, lionel trains, financial viability
lionel trains, financial viability, non contested divorce: Dear Ursula, One of the first steps would be to speak to your lawyer about your options. 1. Can you live with friends or relatives until you are given the go to locate a new home? 2. Can you afford to rent an apartment with working utilities until...

Divorce Issues: Divorce decree change 10 years later., irs refund, divorce decree
irs refund, divorce decree, refund money: Hi Carol~ Yes,you can kick him out of the house now that his name is off of the house. You are not married to him and he has no right to the house. So you can kick him out and change the locks legally if you d like. The divorce decree is good indefinitely...

Divorce Issues: Divorce decree violation, contempt case, parenting agreement
contempt case, parenting agreement, court clerks: People are compelled to defend themselves (in pro per) all the time due to lack of money. Sometimes its a bad idea, and especially in a contempt case, it may be prejudicial not to have an attorney. However sometimes it is good to be in pro per, because it...

Divorce Issues: Divorce decree violation and plan simple mean behavior., decree states, divorce decree
decree states, divorce decree, food clothing: Hello John, I m not sure what would be helpful to you. YOu said you wanted an opinion. Well, it sure sounds like your rights have been trampled on. YOu make a strong case. I haven t heard her side. Sometimes there are two sides to these things.At the same...

Divorce Issues: Divorce decree, rough divorce, divorce decree
rough divorce, divorce decree, daycare: Hi Erik~ There s not really much you can do about how she spends the child support. As long as she s providing for the children s needs. You can take her back to court to modify the divorce decree and lower the original court order for child support....

Divorce Issues: Divorce delay, marriage counciling, going to hawaii
marriage counciling, going to hawaii, christmas eve: Hi Jackie~ He s probably already made up his mind that he wants a divorce. He s probably being hesitant b/c he s afraid of the divorce process. It can be hard goin through a divorce, not one wants to go through one really. There s not much you can do...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and drug tests, monterey county california, false allegations
monterey county california, false allegations, taking drugs: Hi Jason~ The courts could court order a drug test to prove that you aren t taking drugs. Even though this is a huge pain in the rear to endure and go through. If you look at it this way, it s really a very small price to pay if you are awarded custody...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/drug use, smoking pot, negative mood
smoking pot, negative mood, future path: Dear Jessica, It s hard to argue with the notion that the lack of money, boredom, etc. are symptoms of marijauna abuse. Another person really can t cause these problems. Although I am generally reluctant to offer direct advice regarding staying married or...

Divorce Issues: Divorce: the effect on the children, single parent families, judith wallerstein
single parent families, judith wallerstein, average age of marriage: Hi Zachary, Could you please continue this dialog with me directly at drbelove@datingmidlife.com and not through the allexperts site? I do get a lot of homework type questions and it is the policy of this site to refuse them, but I ll help you a bit. It...

Divorce Issues: Divorce & effects later in life on my child and myself, zoloft dosages, marriage work
zoloft dosages, marriage work, marriage issues: Hi. Hard to say in general. In general divorce is hard on kids and the younger they are down to about 4, the harder it is. Yours sounds like he s closer to mom than he is to you and that he comforts her and worries about her and he doesn t trust you, or...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Final 3 Years ago - Now being threatened to go back to court for more money, christmas schedule, retirement money
christmas schedule, retirement money, parenting plan: A great many more facts and viewing the Court documents and agreement would be necessary to give you a decent answer. I suggest you do a one time consult with an attorney who knows how the local Judges rule. There are a lot of questions in this paragraph...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Finance., council tenant, mortagage
council tenant, mortagage, finace: As you may or may not know, divorce differs from state to state and country to country. I have very little experience with European divorces and will assume you are from England/ U.K. Here are some sites/resources that may be of some help to you: 1....

Divorce Issues: Divorce fees., divorce papers, payment arrangement
divorce papers, payment arrangement: Hi C~ Yes, they should go ahead with serving your spouse with the divorce papers (if that s what you mean). If you re having financial problems, you could ask them to work with you on a payment arrangement (where you can pay as much as you can to them,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce in Germany, divorce in germany, german citizenship
divorce in germany, german citizenship, police station: Hi Adriana~ I would say that he needs to find out if there are any laws that state that he can t remain in Germany after the divorce. He should be able to find out very easily what the laws over there in Germany are pertaining to a divorce and remaining...

Divorce Issues: Divorce grounds, divorce grounds, unreasonable behaviour
divorce grounds, unreasonable behaviour, adultery: Hi Alison~ No,he can t use adultery as the reason for the divorce. Since the relationship was started after separation. What you can put for the reason is irreconsiable differences. Which simply means that the bond of marriage has been broken and damaged...

Divorce Issues: Divorce: What happens to the truck?, divorce court, legal consultation
divorce court, legal consultation, horrible situation: Dear Randi, Get it in writing. If he s willing to give you the truck, then simply get that in the paperwork. I m guessing the judge or divorce court would look at the history and realize you both have contributed to the ownership of two vehicles. I am...

Divorce Issues: Divorce - house to be sold, divorce decree, own mortgage
divorce decree, own mortgage, monies: Hi Ali~ What she said makes sense to me. Since the house was refinanced into only your name, then that would make you responsible for the home now. It d be just like you selling the home and buying another one. Once you sold the old marital home, that...

Divorce Issues: Divorce , pension and 401k, divorce web, quity
divorce web, quity, hi mike: Hi again Mike~ Yes, it s possible that you are entitled to half of her pension and 401K. In most states you must be married a certain number of years in order to be entitled to it. As a general rule it s typically 10 years (of marriage), but not always....

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Immigration, divorce papers, deppression
divorce papers, deppression, i 130 petition: Hi Sean~ How long have you been married? You might be able to file for an annulment in your state. Turn in the appropriate paperwork to see if you can get her deported, especially since she s here on an expired visa. You just have to do what you have...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/Inheritance, divorce papers, money stock
divorce papers, money stock, stock account: Hi U~ If that s the case (they are all only in his name), you may not be entitled to it. All you can do is to request that you get half of these things. The worst the judge can say is no. But it certainly can t hurt to see if you are indeed entitled...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Inheritance, sum of money, married couple
sum of money, married couple, inheritance: Hi Doug~ Since you invested the money into community property (and community property is anything you purchase together as a married couple, homes, car, possessions, etc), she s entitled, but only to 50% of the value of the home. Otherwise, no spouses...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Issues, mid life crisis, seoul korea
mid life crisis, seoul korea, divorce issues: Hi Rick~ Maybe you are having a mid-life crisis. Some ppl go through one in their life time. Have you considered talking to a counselor of some sort? You aren t the only person I ve heard this from. I don t really have any wonderful advice to give you....

Divorce Issues: Divorce issue, mr sharma, second marriage
mr sharma, second marriage, legal question: Hi. I m sorry for the delay this time. I don t know why it took so long for me to get the question. I really can t answer your question because it seems to be a legal question. Your ex can try to cause trouble for you, that s for sure. But you can also ignore...

Divorce Issues: Divorce issues, divorce issues, divorce laws
divorce issues, divorce laws, dwi: Hi BJK~ You can only split what you accumilated during the duration of the marriage. And it can only be split 50-50, unless the parties agree mutally otherwise. As for your inheritance that you spent on him, it can t be recouped in the divorce. Unless...

Divorce Issues: Divorce issues, lawyer check, divorce issues
lawyer check, divorce issues, arrangment: Hi Crystal, I m not sure how to answer. I m a psychologist not a lawyer. Check out www.divorcecentral. com The issues may be different for separation than for divorce although some couples get a separation agreement. I think, however, that separation...

Divorce Issues: Divorce while in Jail, divorce papers, getting a divorce
divorce papers, getting a divorce, 4 months: Hi Crystal~ He has a couple of options here. He can either hire a lawyer and file for the divorce (which his wife will then be served with divorce papers. Or he can have her file and she can serve him with the divorce papers in jail. Once the divorce...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/kids/Ex-remarrying, open relationship, remarrying
open relationship, remarrying, physical custody: Hi Matt~ Talk to her about your concerns about is how he is with them, how he s going to treat them, does he love them as his own, has he had a chance to bond with them, etc. And anything else that comes to mind that pertains to him and the children that...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and kids, adult issues, critical remarks
adult issues, critical remarks, critical comments: Telling the children about the divorce should be done by both you and your husband together, with both of you reassuring the kids that the divorce is not their fault (they didn t cause the arguments, even if they know they were about them), and that both of...

Divorce Issues: Divorce laws for Virginia, divorce laws, financial matters
divorce laws, financial matters, connie: Hi Connie~ He can get a divorce granted whether you give him permission or not. All a judge has to do is grant one. Here is a great website that has more info for you. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state where you reside. It will give you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce legalities, extramarital relationship, gut instinct
extramarital relationship, gut instinct, myside: Hi Rob~ This might help you get custody of your son (due to her mental capacity, and being under the care of a mental health professional). You can plead your case to the judge saying you fear for the safety and well-being of your son. Thus why you re...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Marital property, inheritances, safe side
inheritances, safe side, sum of money: Hi Lynne~ In all states in the US, spouses are not entitled to any inheritances. With that said, I would suggest that when she inherits it, that she put it in a separate account in her name only. So that the spouse has no access to it, just to be on the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce with MIA spouse, legal divorce, divorce papers
legal divorce, divorce papers, consultation fee: Wow Stephanie...what took so long? Since you don t know where he is this might be difficult since you have limited financial resources. I would start with the internet. See if you can find him through reverse.com or google find missing persons. It might cost...

Divorce Issues: Divorce in Nevada, legal answers, good luck
legal answers, good luck, marriage: Hi George, Nevada has very different statutes then the state that I live in. if money given to you prior to a marriage has been used to purchase a home that was in both parties names, the house in my state would be a shared asset. If the house is in your name...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and my new Boyfriend, separate lives, custodial parent
separate lives, custodial parent, twin daughters: Hi Kim~ No, he has no say so in how you live your life, or whom you live with in your home. Even while you re still married (living separate lives). So the answer is no married or not, he has no recourse in saying who lives with you or what you do with...

Divorce Issues: Divorce with non-resident, creidt cards, playing video games
creidt cards, playing video games, court appearance: I really don t see a question here, but I have some insights for you. When you re married your credit or lack of credit belongs to BOTH of you. Whether you pay the bills or your husband pays the bills, it amounts to the same money. There is no division, so...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Options, divorce options, lawyer involvement
divorce options, lawyer involvement, uncontested divorce: Dear Al, One of the best steps you can take to making the process a bit less stressful is to educate yourself. Divorce hurts no matter what age no matter if you are a daughter a son or a spouse. Recognizing the hardship that everyone will go through is...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Papers Filed - When Can House Be Put On Market?, divorce papers, exact answer
divorce papers, exact answer, proceeds: Hi Charles~ It depends on your states law. You could probably go ahead and list it, but you possibly can t officially sell it until closer to the divorce being finalized or having her sign off on the deed to the house (assuming she s agreed to sell the...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Petition, divorce paperwork, divorce petition
divorce paperwork, divorce petition, differant: Hi Jennifer~ It might be worth the extra money to pay to have him served at work. If that s the only way you can catch him. You do have to sign for divorce paperwork when your served, this way it s on record that the person was served with the paperwork....

Divorce Issues: Divorce Preparation, divorce laws, wife works
divorce laws, wife works, divorce preparation: Hi Bradley~ Divorce laws vary by state. At this website you will find divorce laws of all states. The link is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state where you reside. It will give you divorce laws of your state,along with other info you may find helpful....

Divorce Issues: Divorce Process, belove, unusual story
belove, unusual story, lawer: Hi Jess, Unusual story. usually it s the woman who kicks the man out of the house and the woman whose lawyer demands that the man provide tax returns and so on. If, of the two of you, you are the one with the assets, you d better get a good lawyer and...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Property Settlement, american academy of matrimonial lawyers, state divorce laws
american academy of matrimonial lawyers, state divorce laws, divorce property settlement: Dear Tom, Unfortunately, I am not a lawyer so I cannot give her legal advice, but I can give her some sites where she may learn more to empower herself. Divorcesource.com- (state by state divorce laws and great articles written by professionals in every...

Divorce Issues: Divorce papers, divorce paperwork, divorce papers
divorce paperwork, divorce papers, separation agreement: Hi Robin~ Once the divorce papers have been filed with the court, they are good for one full year. If a divorce hasn t been granted then, the papers become null and void and you must refile for a divorce. Yes, you re divorce can be granted w/o your...

Divorce Issues: Divorce papers vs. Loan agreement, divorce papers, exhusband
divorce papers, exhusband, attorney costs: Dear Sheila, I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. This is unfortunately a tricky situation. The debt collector that contacted you should offer you the documentation as well as the offer. This way you can confirm that this is for real and that...

Divorce Issues: Divorce papers, divorce petition, working in spain
divorce petition, working in spain, divorce papers: Dear T, Moving away will not make your marriage go away or end it. You have to legally dissolve it. By hiring a solicitor you can end your marriage faster (as she is refusing to speak to directly) and you may do better in the end. A solicitor can ensure...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and prenup, remarrying, prenuptial agreement
remarrying, prenuptial agreement, irreconcilable differences: I would take my original of the prenuptial and put it in a safety deposit box AFTER making a copy of it. Then I would immediately go see a lawyer with the copy. (I am not able to offer legal advice.) Thank God that you have a pre-nup!! It sounds like...

Divorce Issues: Divorce processes, divorce web, financial obligation
divorce web, financial obligation, contemplating divorce: Hi Stacey~ As long as you re on the deed and the mortgage loan, you will be responsible for the loan and house payment, just as much as your husband is (since you re both on it). So if he refuses to pay for the home, and you don t/can t pay for it, then...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and property issues, childrens sake, sure what type
childrens sake, sure what type, consultation fees: Hi Gina, I hate to say this, but you chose him as a mate. So if he is abusive and an alcholic now, he is your problem until he s not. You may have to buy him out of your residence, but I don t have enough information. Is his income substantially greater than...

Divorce Issues: Divorce by publication and A very bad Lawyer, bad lawyer, state of georgia
bad lawyer, state of georgia, little girl: Hi Chatorah~ You need to get on his back and stay on it until he give you the results that you are wanting. You may he to get ugly with this lawyer. They are notorious for playing games with ppl. Just remember that he works for YOU. That is what you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce by publication and a very bad lawyer, bad lawyer, state of georgia
bad lawyer, state of georgia, little girl: Dear Chatorah, I know you are frustrated and rightfully so. There is help and it can come from a variety of places. Here are some suggestions. 1. Because you are preganant and are concerned for your immediate health, perhaps asking a friend to help you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Question, anger issues, marriage counseling
anger issues, marriage counseling, divorce papers: Hi Michael, I am so sorry about this. I know the feeling quite well of being served with divorce papers and not wanting to sign them. My first husband filed for a divorce and later I found out because he was seeing another woman. I remember how horrible...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Question, bible abuse, what the bible says about marriage
bible abuse, what the bible says about marriage, grounds for divorce: Hi Nagesh~ The reason why I divorced my first husband was for several reason. Reason number one he was abusive. Reason number two he was cheating on me, which I do not stand for. Both are grounds for divorce in the bible (abuse and adultery), to which...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Questions, divorce questions, divorce settlement
divorce questions, divorce settlement, divorce papers: Hi Denise~ All his debts that you had BEFORE you were married are strictly his and NOT yours. So he ll be the one paying for any debt on his CC s that was wracked up (whether by you or by him, it doesn t matter). He s stuck with having the pay them, not...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Questions, final divorce decree, child support money
final divorce decree, child support money, divorce petition: Dear Ron, 1.) Yes, you can fire your attorney and represent yourself (it s called acting pro se ). Some states offer information online via the state bar association, on how to act pro se. You may consider asking your attorney to step back and let you...

Divorce Issues: Divorce question, full time work, local court
full time work, local court, having an affair: I m sorry. I answered this question a couple of days ago, but apparently my reply did not go through!! I would go to the Family Services department of your local court house and ask for information about legal aid or any other resources they might be aware...

Divorce Issues: Divorce question, divorce proceedings, sole proprietorship
divorce proceedings, sole proprietorship, marriage and divorce: Dear Mouncif, Because your business is fairly young and only in your name? you may not have to share future interest in the company with your soon to be ex. For the fastest answer you should speak with a qualified attorney in your area. You can also find...

Divorce Issues: Divorce/Real Estate, attorney fee, mortgage payment
attorney fee, mortgage payment, financial responsibility: Dear Andy, If your sister is already working with an attorney, this is definitely a question for him/her. I think, and I am only offering an opinion here, as I am not an attorney; if her name is not on the mortgage, she is not responsible for making the...

Divorce Issues: child custody ( New York), child abandonment, sole custody
child abandonment, sole custody, child custody: Hi Al~ Since she left you it can be considered child abandonment (with her leaving the children in your care and she moved out and didn t take them), you should have no problem asking for and receiving custody of those children. Yes, you should ask for...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Reconciliation, divorce paperwork, divorce web
divorce paperwork, divorce web, divorce documents: Hi Christie~ I m not familiar with online filing of divorces. I do know that the divorce paperwork is good for a full year (in most states, some as little as 6 months--depending on that particular states divorce law). And you shouldn t have to do anything...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and Remarry, kessler, marriage
kessler, marriage, big mistake: Hi Nikki~ No,he probably won t ever find out unless you tell him. If you got the marriage anulled then it technically didn t exist anyway. But if you got a traditional divorce,then you are divorced. Either way I don t think it makes any difference b/c...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Rights, seperation divorce, divorce maryland
seperation divorce, divorce maryland, state divorce: Dear Simone, The best advice I can give you is to educate yourself on the divorce laws of your state. Check out these sites: divorcesource.com, aaml.org, nolo.com, womansdivorce.com, and equalityinmarriage.org. Use google.com to search for divorce information...

Divorce Issues: Divorce but remain living together, support alimony, financial matters
support alimony, financial matters, child support: Hi Cindy~ I normally don t suggest this; but perhaps you should stay married. If you stay married, you have rights to the marital money, which is community money while you re still legally married. And if you divorced, you would only be entitled to child...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Settlement, divorce proceedings, divorce settlement
divorce proceedings, divorce settlement, quitclaim deed: Dear Pamela, Before you do anything that involves legally transferring property you should seek the advice of a professional attorney. Learn what a Quit claim deed is and how much you lose or gain by turning over a Quitclaim deed. visit:http://homebuying.about.com/cs/realestateglossary/g/quitclaim_deed.htm...

Divorce Issues: Divorce & Stocks, gold medallion, stock banks
gold medallion, stock banks, stock situation: Dear Valerie, I am always sorry to hear about a divorce. The stock situation can be tricky, but doesn t have to be. The determination of the value of the stock, according to separation or actual decree will probably be up to the judge. The other option...

Divorce Issues: Divorce seems to be the only option, school psychology program, sole supporter
school psychology program, sole supporter, polygraph: Hi Lynn, Thanks for writing. Well you do have your hands full. I m going to make a bunch of guesses here and they are guesses. I don t know enough to say much for sure. And there is lots of chaos here. But that s good. Chaos means that the situation...

Divorce Issues: Divorce or seperate/still live together, support alimony, legal separation
support alimony, legal separation, financial matters: Dear Cindy, State laws differ and I am no attorney, but in our culture, people do not have to be married to live together. To obtain a divorce would be a matter of settling the assets, and basically assigning obligatory responsibility regarding child support,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce or seperation, divorce web, smoke pot
divorce web, smoke pot, destructive behavior: Hi Mark~ She s not going to be able to get those orders changed that are already in place (even if they are temp). A judge will see that she s still not cleaned up her act, etc. It s very hard to get a court order changed, even if it s a temporary one....

Divorce Issues: Divorce or seperation -saving the marriage, michele weiner davis, marriage and family counselors
michele weiner davis, marriage and family counselors, marriage retreats: First, let me say that you are not alone. Many marriages find themselves at an impass and they don t know what they can possibly do to repair the damage or answer those unanswerable questions. There is help and it comes a few different ways- marriage counselors:...

Divorce Issues: Divorce settlement, divorce settlement, divorce decree
divorce settlement, divorce decree, settlement terms: You re lucky to have found a family lawyer to offer a flat fee divorce. Paying an hourly doesn t ensure a better divorce settlement. Of course getting another job would help in paying monthly commitments, thats the only way you can do that. For the $40,000....

Divorce Issues: Divorce and sole custody, sole custody, visitation rights
sole custody, visitation rights, equitable distribution: Hi Mercedes, I give you a lot of credit for trying to do this by yourself. I think it would be wise for you to see an attorney for the reasons you stated above. I don t know what will happen if he doesn t show up for his court appearence. I would imagine it...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and sole custody, sole custody, visitation rights
sole custody, visitation rights, equitable distribution: It doesn t sound like he has any interest in an active role with his daughter. I would just ask for sole custody - both physical and legal. I would be concerned to leave custody so open ended with him. One never knows what might happen in the future and...

Divorce Issues: Divorce and sole custody, full custody rights, divorce case
full custody rights, divorce case, sole custody: Hi Mercedes~ If he doesn t show up in court. Then it ll go in your favor, and the court will give you what you ask for (within reason) in the divorce case, including full custody rights to your child. You really don t have much to worry about really....

Divorce Issues: Divorce, when to start?, metro detroit area, getting a divorce
metro detroit area, getting a divorce, uncontested divorce: Hi Wallace~ It is better if you wait until the house closes and it s finalized before she file for a divorce. This way they can t hold the closing of the house due to a divorce pending, etc. Just one less thing to worry about. It would be in the best...

Divorce Issues: Divorce out of state, legal seperation, legal separation
legal seperation, legal separation, divorce laws: Jennifer: He needs to consult with an attorney to find out where he should file. Legal separation only counts depending on the state you actually file in. There are many states that do not require a legal separation. He can probably file in Florida, and...

Divorce Issues: Divorce or stay?, heart to heart talk, marriage counseling
heart to heart talk, marriage counseling, bad temper: Hi Jennifer~ You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk. He needs to know exactly how this is affecting you. He needs to know what you re willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. Perhaps you can come to a compromise...

Divorce Issues: Divorce support, marriage counselors, divorce support
marriage counselors, divorce support, divorce attorney: Dear Julie, Joining a supoort group is one of the best ways to help you begin to the divorce process. There s a lot of stuff to deal with- financially, emotionally and legally. You will get through this with the love and support of friends and family...

Divorce Issues: Divorce Tapes, phone conversations, invastion
phone conversations, invastion, state laws: Hi Jill~ It depends on what the laws are regarding taping phone calls. All state laws vary on this. Some states it s illegal and it s not admisable in court. Other states it s perfectly legal as long as one party knows that the conversation is being...

Divorce Issues: Divorce in Texas, divorce decree, reaching the point
divorce decree, reaching the point, divorce in texas: Hi Carolyn~ They can agree to go by the first divorce decree. Or they could agree upon something new. It s much easier for them to mutually agree to something, than to fight over it, and then have the judge to decide for them. It always works out better,...

Divorce Issues: Divorce time issue., irs gov, divorce costs
irs gov, divorce costs, divorce index: Dear Chris, As you may know divorce costs you emotionally and financially, even with living apart for one year. Timing is ultimately up to you but here are some articles that may help you decide what you would like to do. 1.http://emotional.lifetips.com/subcat/67389/the-d-words-death-divorce-destruction/talking-about-divorce/index.html...

Divorce Issues: Divorce w/ Children, separation and divorce, fancy term
separation and divorce, fancy term, unfit mother: Hi Sarah~ I would just laugh at him. No judge in his/her right mind will rip a child from her mother. And since you ve had custody of the child from birth until now. It s highly unlikely he ll get anthing more than visitation rights to her. He might...

Divorce Issues: Divorce, new apartment, public defender
new apartment, public defender, wks: Hi Kamilah~ He can t legally claim you if you are not living together,nor if you don t give your constent. Since most ppl claim themselves. That is probably where he messed you up with the school among other things. Go to the immigration thing,they are...

Divorce Issues: Divorced?, clerk of the court, private investigator
clerk of the court, private investigator, public record: Hi Bonnie~ You would call the circuit clerk of the court in the county in which she last resided. Divorces are public record. So if you could find out where she last lived, that s probably where it was filed. And it would be on record available for you...

Divorce Issues: Divorced- When should I date?, steady relationship, friends with benifits
steady relationship, friends with benifits, serious relationship: Hi Michael~ There s certainly nothing wrong with being career oriented. However, it shouldn t interfere with your personal life. And that s what it seems to be doing, or at least the excuse your making when it comes to a steady or committed relationship....

Divorce Issues: Divorced Friend, ducks in a row, rules of thumb
ducks in a row, rules of thumb, abusive relationship: Hi. Thanks for writing. Interesting question. I can give you some rules of thumb. My basic take is that it sounds like you two have handled your relationship rather well so far and that he s done a lot of his work. I m especially encouraged by the fact...

Divorce Issues: Getting Divorced in Maryland child visitation question, custody dispute, child visitation
custody dispute, child visitation, new woman: Philly: On the one hand, you are right. The new woman should have been introduced when they two of them were very serious and thinking of marriage. Your son is confused because he is still young, but there is nothing you can do as far as special rules...

Divorce Issues: Divorced, and moving on, but SHE won't!, criminal background checks, wife trading
criminal background checks, wife trading, new girlfriend: Hi Dennis~ She s overreacting. You must tell her and make it crystal clear to her that whether she likes it or not you must have communication with your ex-wife. And that if she can t control herself and her emotions then you re not going to permit her...

Divorce Issues: Divorced - NCP Out of State, visitation guidelines, divorce decree
visitation guidelines, divorce decree, airfare: Hi, the real question is, would he take you back to court to have the divorce decree complied with. It takes money and time to do that. If he does take you to court at that time you can plea with the judge and explain why you feel your daughter can t fly...

Divorce Issues: Divorced?, ft hood texas, divorce papers
ft hood texas, divorce papers, medical reasons: Hi Emily~ If he claims to have divorced you, then there would be record of the divorce somewhere. Most likely it would be on record where he currently resides. So if it s Blackfoot, Idaho, then that s probably where you ll need to look, in that city and...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing with Children when one parent is an addict, financial ramifications, relationship marriage
financial ramifications, relationship marriage, unhealthy relationship: Hi Patricia~ I m against staying together in a marriage for the sake of the children, when it obviously won t work. Now, if your in counseling trying to work things out and actually making some progress, then that s understandable. Children can sense...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing someone from a different state, child custody issues, divorce web
child custody issues, divorce web, spokane washington: Hi Kenneth~ Yes, you just file for a divorce in the state where you reside. And you can send her the papers to sign, etc. Here is a great divorce web site. It is: www.divorcenet.com click on the state where you reside. It will give you divorce laws...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing an incarcerated husband, necessary legal documents, legal decisions
necessary legal documents, legal decisions, legal transactions: Go to www.divorce-support-help.com and check out the on-line forms to get you started. A Power of Attorney is a legal instrument that is used to delegate legal authority to another. The person who signs(executes)a Power of Attorney is called the Principal....

Divorce Issues: Divorcing in maryland child vistation issues, divorce decree, new woman
divorce decree, new woman, disapproval: Hi Philly~ You have every right to be upset and concerned over what your son is saying (and how he s reacting to this). You can have something written up in the divorce decree where the child isn t to become involved in the middle of this, etc. What you...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing status, 9 months, 8 years
9 months, 8 years, attempts: Dear Chris, I am not an attorney, and I cannot begin to advise on international law. The only thing you can do to know for sure is to consult an attorney that specializes in family law or international law. You may be able to check with the consulate or...

Divorce Issues: Divorcing with step children, getting a divorce, equitable distribution
getting a divorce, equitable distribution, s child: Quite the opposite. I said that in an equitable distribution state ANYTHING can happen due to the individual circumstances. The sale of the home or the house being awarded will be strictly up to the parties. Unless it goes to court where the Judge may...

Divorce Issues: Divorse, 91st psalm, praying the word
91st psalm, praying the word, false accusations: Hi Darryn, So sorry for your troubles. I would say that you need a really good attorney right now. The fact that she is suicidal should weigh in your favor for a petition for full custody of your child. Your wife needs help and I pray that she gets it. You...

Divorce Issues: Don't know what to do!, legal recourse, children job
legal recourse, children job, false statements: Hi Devin~ Yes, this is considered to be slander and also defamation of character by her making outrageous false accusations about you. This would be a civil matter. So you d have to take her to civil court and file a lawsuit against her. Espeically if...

Divorce Issues: Don't want to sell the house!, worst case scenario, 7 months
worst case scenario, 7 months, final decision: Hi Lynda~ You shouldn t have to sell the home. In fact, you should be able to keep living in the current home and get custody of your son. Judges do not like to uproot and move children when they are accustomed to being in a certain home, going to school,...

Divorce Issues: I d not want a divorce, physical confrontation, sex offenses
physical confrontation, sex offenses, pfa: Hi Tiffany, I am so sorry for your situation. You say it has been a year and he doesn t want to come back?? You know, there comes a point where sometimes we just have to let people go and move on.We can t change their free will. Perhaps you can have...

Divorce Issues: is my dad hiding money, forensic accountants, adult problems
forensic accountants, adult problems, hiding money: This is not your problem!!! Your mother is capable of hiring a lawyer to take care of her and who will see to it that a financial analyst is employed to check out your dad s finances. You are still a child. Please enjoy this time and leave adult problems...

Divorce Issues: My darling step child, parenting time, parents rights
parenting time, parents rights, bad friend: Mari, the kindest, most humane thing to do for this child is to set up a formal, legal plan in which you will get regular visitation with her after the divorce, just as you will have parenting time with your other two. You have been her psychological mother...

Divorce Issues: date of separation, twin mattress, family lawyer
twin mattress, family lawyer, state separation: Dear Cheri, The date of separation varies from state to state. You did not happen to mention what state you live in so I will do my best to include some information regarding your question. 1. The best person to ask would be a family lawyer in your area/...

Divorce Issues: dating during divorce, mutual disgust, emotional relationship
mutual disgust, emotional relationship, tender age: Hi Kelly First of all, my sympathies to you. It s a shame and will be very difficult for your three year old. This going to be more than he can grasp. Three is a very tender age for a divorce. It s hard to know whether it s too soon for your son to...

Divorce Issues: dating ex-husband, marriage divorce, fringe benefits
marriage divorce, fringe benefits, destructive behavior: Hi Paula. Thanks for the follow up. I am disturbed to hear that you couldn t pull up my web site. Thanks for telling me. I ll check it out. I do remember your letter very well. This business about fringe benefits is quite elaborate. He s more or less...

Divorce Issues: dating & Kids, bitter divorce, pouring water
bitter divorce, pouring water, new boyfriend: Hi David~ Yes, you re right. She really should be keeping the children s contact with this new boyfriend to a minimum or no contact at all; until she knows where this relationship is going, and if he s going to be a steady fixture in her life. However,...

Divorce Issues: dating again +kids, new partner, kids ages
new partner, kids ages, good year: Hi George~ It s still early for you in the divorce process. It takes a good year for the emotions to really start to heal. Some ppl never get over a divorce. All these emotions and still having feelings for your wife is totally normal. You need time...

Divorce Issues: dating, dating tips, poms
dating tips, poms, lnx: Dear Eric, I have never heard of judge barring someone from seeing someone else after divorce, unless of course, there is a restraining order. In many states there is a waiting period before one can remarry after the divorce, http://policy.ssa.gov/poms.nsf/lnx/0200305165...

Divorce Issues: ddivorce, divorce decree, emergency appeal
divorce decree, emergency appeal, mental hospital: Hi Amanda~ The divorce probably isn t final yet. It usually takes a few months for the divorce to happen from start to finish. At the very minimum 2-3 months (depending on which state you live in). Besides when the divorce is finalized you ll sign and...

Divorce Issues: dead beat husband and father, divorce proceedings, county court house
divorce proceedings, county court house, nasty divorce: Because he is mentally abusing her and the child, I would suggest that she go to the county court house nearby and see if she qualifies to file a restraining order as well as ask about filing charges for false police reports (domestic violence)/felony actions...

Divorce Issues: how to deal with anger, david and goliath story, licenced professional counselor
david and goliath story, licenced professional counselor, allergy medicine: First get yourself a counselor. You will need the professional support. This is a David and Goliath story and he has bullied you and has shown that he is dangerous. You will need someone on your side. You actually may need to do this in a professional setting...

Divorce Issues: How do we deal with the pain?, marital separation agreement, separation agreement form
marital separation agreement, separation agreement form, month old baby: Hi Dereck~ All of these emotions and feelings you re experiencing are completely normal. It s devastating when a spouse cheats on you. It s the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. You lose any respect you one had for her, not to mention that the trust is...

Divorce Issues: debating divorce, goals in life, free spirit
goals in life, free spirit, wonderful person: Hi Paige~ Some ppl just went meant to marry and settle down with a family, etc. Perhaps that s where you are at this point in your life. Who knows maybe down the road you could change your mind, that s yet to be seen (and not something you really have...

Divorce Issues: debts together, loan company, different places
loan company, different places, personal loan: Hi Beth~ It s possible to get his name of the loan. What you need to do is talk to the loan company that you have the loan through. Tell them your situation and they should be able to advise you of what needs to be done to take the process of gettig his...

Divorce Issues: degrading exhusband, parental alienation, best revenge
parental alienation, best revenge, exhusband: Tammy: I understand where you are coming from. Being harassed after marriage is terrible. You got out of the marriage you would not have to be harassed. Tell him in a nice email, that if he continues, you will block his email address. Tell him that...

Divorce Issues: desiring divorce(I think), profuse apologies, alanon meetings
profuse apologies, alanon meetings, parallel track: Hi Steve. It s a therapy issue. It s something you will need to talk over and think your way through. You ve been around enough Alanon meetings to know that people who are partnered with alcoholics take their responsibilities very seriously and that, for...

Divorce Issues: devastated he left, center of my world, empty shell
center of my world, empty shell, glimse: I think you re feeling very angry and can t see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. It WILL take time before you start to feel a little better. It DOES get better, but not before you go through many different stages. Anger, betrayel, numbness, immobilization,...

Divorce Issues: devorce, divorce decrees, devorced
divorce decrees, devorced, louisiana: You need to call a local law office and ask them where to get that information. I doubt you can see divorce decrees online for free. Some state or county websites offer an opportunity to order that information. But the best place to start is with a law...

Divorce Issues: dialogue, scratches on your back, dialogue question
scratches on your back, dialogue question, none of my friends: Ok I understand a little more about it. I think if you KNOW the guys a creep move on. Whatever his reasons are for lying to you, it s not going to get better. Once a liar, always a liar and I think it gets worse as the relationship gets older. I think you...

Divorce Issues: dialogue, scratches on your back, none of my friends
scratches on your back, none of my friends, sweet heart: I really can t tell which of you is right. I can see that you actually do want him to suffer. There is a line from the Broadway show, Pal Joey, in which the rejected guy says, If she knew what she was missing she d slit her throat. Revenge is sweet and...

Divorce Issues: diivorcing a drug addict, drug addict, virtual prisoner
drug addict, virtual prisoner, aone: Hi Adriene, I don t have enough information to answer your questions. Does your aunt work? If your aunt makes a substantial income over her husband then she might have to pay alimony. In the state that I live in, a house belongs to who it is deeded to but...

Divorce Issues: dissolution of marriage in ohio, divorce paperwork, dissolution of marriage
divorce paperwork, dissolution of marriage, dissolution of marriage in ohio: Hi Kathy~ Do both parties have to be in court for the divorce?, typically yes. But not always, an attorney can represent either party. It looks better if both parties are present at the time of divorce. Yes, the court will notorize the divorce paperwork....

Divorce Issues: divorce, domestic abuse hotline, abuse counselor
domestic abuse hotline, abuse counselor, google: Dear Chrissie, Yes, there is help. First let me give you the Domestic Abuse Hotline # 1-800-799-7233.They will be able to direct you to assistance and resources in your area. One, you are looking to feel safe. Two, you are looking for information. ...

Divorce Issues: divorce, stay at home mom, cock and bull
stay at home mom, cock and bull, first clue: Hi Jayne~ Well,I m here to tell you that he s just BS ing you! That s one of the oldest tricks in the book! Men that like to have control over a women,will tell them things and try to get them to believe it. Don t fall for it. Just b/c you don t have...

Divorce Issues: divorce, state divorce laws, financial security
state divorce laws, financial security, state laws: Dear Kim, I am not an attorney and state laws vary from state to state, but a marriage over ten years that has produced three children should not leave you destitute, at all. As I said before, you can ask for anything, the judge ordering it and your husband...

Divorce Issues: getting divorce, state divorce laws, specific resources
state divorce laws, specific resources, state bar association: Dear Nadia, No you do not need to hire a lawyer (Although I recommend one, just to make sure EVERYTHING is covered) or go to court. As I do not know what state you live in I cannot direct you to specific resources so here are some that may be of assistance...

Divorce Issues: divorce, clerk of the court, circuit clerk
clerk of the court, circuit clerk: Hi Kris~ In most state it s anywhere from 30-90 days after the divorce is finalized. You can find out by calling the circuit clerk of the court in the county that you obtained your divorce in. They ll be able to tell you for sure how long before you are...

Divorce Issues: divorce, rash decisions, separate way
rash decisions, separate way, young bride: Hi Alicia~ He can t use you being seen with another man against you in court. Most courts don t care about the adultery part of it,if it s involved. They just want to know the reason for a divorce,and dividing up the assets and property between a couple....

Divorce Issues: divorce, legal alien, immigration to the usa
legal alien, immigration to the usa, green card: Hi Yolanda~ No,he can remarry here in the US as long as he s an immigrant or is he s a legal alien. If he has his green card and you are a US citizen you are free to marry him. After that I would recommend that he become a permanent citizen of the US...

Divorce Issues: divorce, notary of public, opening a new account
notary of public, opening a new account, divorce proceedings: Hi Jeff~ You can go to a notary of public and have her sign a piece of paper that states that you are both responsible for the debts (from that date forward), and you won t be responsible for anything that she racks up debtwise. You can also close...

Divorce Issues: divorce, verbal threats, soul mate
verbal threats, soul mate, cheating spouse: Hi Barbara, I know how difficult it is to realize that your relationship as it was is forever changed. I unfortunately don t have the answers for you but I can tell you what I did that might help. Its going to be a slow process to realize that a cheating spouse...

Divorce Issues: divorce, annullment, reno nevada
annullment, reno nevada, annulment: Hi Helen~ No, you can only get an annullment if you were married a year or less. They ll have to go through the divorce process. If it s mutual and it s not contested, and since they have no children and not much property together. The divorce process...

Divorce Issues: divorce, last ditch effort, marriage work
last ditch effort, marriage work, last resort: Hi Michelle~ No one wants to go thru the divorce process it just sucks when you have to result in a divorce. Have you considered marriage counseling? I don t know if that is an option for you or not. But it certainly can t hurt to give it at least a...

Divorce Issues: divorce and my 2 yr old, angry teenager, bad temper
angry teenager, bad temper, fri: Hi Kori~ Yes, even though your son is in an environment where his father has less than civilized values and teaching. You can still get him (your son) to be responsible and respectful. Just keep raising him right and doing as you ve been; by expecting...

Divorce Issues: divorce, law guru, 50 states
law guru, 50 states, divorce: Hi Danielle, I do not know the law in all states, so you may have to ask an attorney that question. There is a site called Law guru that is free and you can ask one question without a charge. As far as I know, you may have a divorce even if the other person...

Divorce Issues: divorce, scheduele, sisters family
scheduele, sisters family, daycare: Dear Jennifer, You didn t happen to note if you are getting divorced or not, but in either case, the sooner you can talk about your child custody arrangements the better. It will be less stressful on your children and on each other. There are MANY books...

Divorce Issues: divorce, black sheep of the family, guilt trip
black sheep of the family, guilt trip, black sheep: My divorce took so long because my ex husband contested the settlement and my attorneys tried to bilk the divorce for as long as they could. I was naive and thought my attorneys were working for me but reality is they work for themselves. I was in a similar...

Divorce Issues: divorce, legal seperation, divorce proceedings
legal seperation, divorce proceedings, family lawyer: Dear Terry, I have no experience with divorce in Ireland. All I can suggest is that you speak with a family lawyer in Ireland and/ or call the circuit court where your trial is to be held and see if they have any information available to the public...

Divorce Issues: divorce?, clerk of the court, diana
clerk of the court, diana, divorce: Hi Diana~ Yes, he can file for a divorce at anytime, just like you can. You would have to know soon though, b/c once it s filed and it s ready to be served (depending on when he requests it to be served), you ll know when he s filed and has you served....

Divorce Issues: divorce?, divorce papers, good luck
divorce papers, good luck, diana: Hi Diana, as far as I know a copy of the papers filed in court will be sent to you. Usually you are served divorce papers and you also will have to answer the complaints in the papers filed. You also can all the courts to find out if papers have been served....

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce decree, settelment
divorce decree, settelment, custody of a child: Hi Suman~ Usually what s agreed to in the divorce decree is final. The only things you can come back to court to change and appeal is child support. For example: If the parent paying child support makes less money due to a pay cut, a new job that doesn...

Divorce Issues: divorce, legal publication, seperation
legal publication, seperation, formality: Hi Sharon~ No, you can t be just separated and considered divorced. You must go through the formality of a divorce and getting it finalized. You can either do the paperwork and represent yourself, or you can hire a lawyer (which I recommend) and then...

Divorce Issues: divorce, residency requirement, amount of time
residency requirement, amount of time, sandra: Hi Sandra~ He may file from there. But he has to live there a certain amount of time before he s able to file. In most cases the residency requirement is 90 days. But he needs to check to make sure. It could vary from state to state anywhere from 30-90...

Divorce Issues: How to get a divorce, divorce papers, case problems
divorce papers, case problems, full custody: Hi Heather~ You represent yourself in a divorce or hire a lawyer to represent you. I recommend the latter part, just in case problems should arise. You file the paperwork for a divorce, then your husband will be served divorce papers. He ll have typically...

Divorce Issues: divorce, betty sue, judge orders
betty sue, judge orders, wife name: Hi Betty Sue~ It s not likely she ll be able to take the house from him since he owned it prior to the marriage. All he d have to say is that he owned the house before the marriage, but when they married he put her name on the deed. Only the judge will...

Divorce Issues: divorce and my 3 yr old, mommy and daddy, little devil
mommy and daddy, little devil, seven more years: Few moments more difficult than this one. I m so sorry. Know this: whatever you say, he won t be able to grasp it. There are some children s books you can read to him but even so the concept is beyond his capacity and will be for about another five to...

Divorce Issues: I have not divorce yet. I...
Hi Ladunn~ NO,your spouse can t throw you out of the house. That s illegal. You have legal rights to live in that house as much as he does. And he can t force you to leave,and vice versa. If you must live there with him then do so until you are able...

Divorce Issues: divorce, relationship counselor, belove
relationship counselor, belove, legal opinions: Probably not but I am not a lawyer. I am a psychologist and you have asked for a legal opinion. My legal opinions are not going to be much better than yours. Try divorcecentral.com My guess (and it s a guess) is that if you ve been seperated for two years...

Divorce Issues: divorce, mid life crises, lawyer fees
mid life crises, lawyer fees, habitation: Hi Missy~ You pay your lawyer to work for you and to get the job done. You may have to stay on him and bug him about getting it done quicker. The longer he stays on the case and the more drawn out this divorce comes, the more it s going to cost you in...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce paperwork, divorce decree
divorce paperwork, divorce decree, kelli: Hi Kelli~ If you have found where (the county) she filed for the divorce, and supposedly had it done. Then you can contact them and find out if it is indeed finalized. If it s finalized and then they will have it on record. And then they would be officially...

Divorce Issues: divorce, new direction, humility
new direction, humility, 17 years: Hi Kimberly, First of all, the connection between you and your husband is very strong and I don t think you guys would have worked so hard if it wasn t. You both seem to believe that you have found someone very important for your soul. So it s a shame you...

Divorce Issues: divorce, ssi disability, physical custody
ssi disability, physical custody, joint custody: Hi Wendy~ Keep trying to reach legal aid. They can be a tremendous help, if you qualify for their services. The only way he would not be made to pay child support, would be if he gets primary physical custody of the children, and if they lived with him...

Divorce Issues: divorce, common law marriage, man and wife
common law marriage, man and wife, barricade: Dear Katie Garcia, You may be separated, but you are still married to another person. I think you should at least consult with an attorney. This may simply be a matter of filing and publishing the information and having a divorce decreed. I do not know,...

Divorce Issues: getting over divorce, getting over divorce, goals and dreams
getting over divorce, goals and dreams, belove: Hello Omnia, I am very sorry about your pain. That is how it is. It could take you up to three years to get over it. But the early months are the most difficult. It is more difficult when you are younger, too. I suppose there are worse kinds of pain but...

Divorce Issues: divorce, cindy myers, wilderness program
cindy myers, wilderness program, wilderness programs: Hi Cindy, Sorry I can t help you with your question. It s a legal matter and I m a psychologist with an expertise in midlife relationships. You ll have to take it up with your divorce lawyer. These post-divorce parenting battles are so difficult and...

Divorce Issues: divorce, getting a divorce, credit score
getting a divorce, credit score, construction company: Get a lawyer! You are the owner of half of all assets (home, vehicles, and company). And don t sign anything until you have your lawyer s advice. Just because your credit score is still low does not mean that you do not have rights in the divorce process....

Divorce Issues: divorce, separate lives, divorce
separate lives, divorce, relationship: Hi David~ If you are separated, living separate lives, and are pursuing the divorce (and intend to go through with it). It s totally fine for you to move on and to start dating again. However, I would suggest that you take it very slow (in the dating...

Divorce Issues: divorce, affidavit of consent, certified mail
affidavit of consent, certified mail, divorce books: Hi Jessica~ What you should do is call the court house and see if that would be acceptable for him to do. If it s okay then go ahead and do that. A notary of public paper should be all you need though. Make sure before you go though just to be safe....

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce papers, divorce decree
divorce papers, divorce decree, hi lee: Hi Lee~ I don t really understand what you mean by that, since you didn t go into enough detail, when asking the second question. Do you mean can the divorce papers be amended by him at a later time, if he doesn t show up in court? If that s what you...

Divorce Issues: divorce, gun store, financial obligations
gun store, financial obligations, car payment: What a powerful and disturbing story you ve told. You asked whether he can quit making payments. He can quit. Many men do. But can he get away with it? That I don t know. I also do not know whether bankruptcy will protect him from his financial obligations...

Divorce Issues: divorce, irresponsible decision, marriage work
irresponsible decision, marriage work, household bills: Hi Nicole~ Ask him for half of everything, half the house payment, as well as half the daycare expenses. With him agreeing to do that, it ll help tremendously. Plus it ll look good for him in court that he didn t just up and leave you to pay for all the...

Divorce Issues: divorce, belove, legal aid
belove, legal aid, psychologist: I don t know. I m not a lawyer. However, it might be surprisingly easy. Contact legal aid and ask them. It might be a simple as filling out a form, paying the filing fee and showing up in court and swearing he s abandoned you. Let me know what happens and...

Divorce Issues: divorce, court hearings, valid reason
court hearings, valid reason, power of attorney: Hi Angela~ If you aren t able to go to court due to health issues, then you can t go. It s better to get your health stable, and then go to court. Ask your lawyer if he can represent you in court w/o you being there (often times a lawyer can go to court...

Divorce Issues: divorce, move back, filing for a divorce
move back, filing for a divorce, current state: Hi Jaime~ This is what I d advise you to do. Move out of state (wherever you planned to), then you can file for a divorce in the new state. As long as you re still legally married (and there s no court order stating otherwise) he has no say so in where...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce paperwork, support alimony
divorce paperwork, support alimony, army wife: Hi Michele~ I think that you should file for a divorce before he can. It ll be in your favor with him being in the military. The military takes care of their own, they are very family oriented. You need to talk to a commanding officer in his dept. Tell...

Divorce Issues: divorce, horrible names, girls ages
horrible names, girls ages, order of protection: Dear Toni, I am not an attorney and state laws do vary, but most states have made available an Ex Parte Order of Protection which is a temporary order in cases of abuse in which the abused party does not need an attorney. It is granted at the time and...

Divorce Issues: my divorce, divorce decree, emotional issues
divorce decree, emotional issues, adultery: Hi Macelanie~ Perhaps it s for the best if you stay divorced at this point. Then if in time things continue to go smoothly then you can consider getting remarried. Before you did such a thing though, you should get some marriage counseling. This way...

Divorce Issues: divorce, vulnerable position, auto loans
vulnerable position, auto loans, car payments: Lori, You are already in the most vulnerable position regarding the car loans you are asking about. You own both cars and are making both car payments. Filing for divorce can not make that situation any worse than it is. If you do file for divorce and...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorces, divorce
divorces, divorce, assets: Hi, you must have communal savings and you must have debt. I don t know anything about online divorces but have you agreed to the division of assets? Divorce isn t a simple task even if you haven t been married that long. I would still consult with an attorney...

Divorce Issues: divorce, separation and divorce, divorce papers
separation and divorce, divorce papers, hi tommy: Hi Tommy~ First you have to file divorce papers (if you haven t already). Then you have to list that you want to go for custody of the children. There really aren t many steps to this. You ask the judge for custody of the children, child support, etc....

Divorce Issues: getting over my divorce, mental health department, local mental health
mental health department, local mental health, separation and divorce: I m so sorry. I know when life is all work it is very difficult to imagine being happy again. But with some cooperation on your part, a therapist could work wonders! It sounds like you might be financially pinched since you work two jobs, so my suggestion...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce web, marriage certificate
divorce web, marriage certificate, current state: Hi William~ Then you probably are still legally married. But you can still get a divorce here in the US. It helps if you have proof of the marriage that took place in Germany (such as a marriage certificate, etc). All you would have to do is to file...

Divorce Issues: divorce?, crappy place, dustpan
crappy place, dustpan, letitia: Of course you have the right to ask anything you want, but what if he chooses not to do what you ask? If you have to fight to keep a marriage together then I m not sure if it s what the BOTH of you want. If two people are having marital issues but they both...

Divorce Issues: divorce, legal divorce, divorce decree
legal divorce, divorce decree, divoce: Dear Betty, State laws differ and I am not an attorney, but I am pretty sure all states hold the judge s signature and seal to be what determines the divorce decree. If an attorney will not call you back, then call the court clerk and ask them if it is decreed,...

Divorce Issues: divorce, self employeed, divorce web
self employeed, divorce web, hi john: Hi John~ Your wife is simply not entitled to everything in the marriage. She s only entitled to 50% of everything incurred during the time of marriage. That means marital property and 50% value of the current property (ie--house, cars, anything of monetary...

Divorce Issues: divorce, retainer fee, legal aid
retainer fee, legal aid, seperated: Hi Natasha~ You should check with your local division of family services for a toll free number to Legal Aid. They will do an interview over the phone to see if you qualify for their services. You might have to provide them with a small retainer fee for...

Divorce Issues: divorce??, divorce proceedings, public divorce
divorce proceedings, public divorce, clerk of the court: Hi Joe~ I m not sure I understand what you mean. Do you mean a divorce by publication (in the case where you want to obtain a divorce from a spouse, but you don t know her current whereabouts?). If so, then that means you would have to do an ad in a local...

Divorce Issues: divorce, realestate business, contested divorce
realestate business, contested divorce, uncontested divorce: Hi Joe~ Not everything is split 50-50 after a divorce. There are many ways to split up possessions acrued during the time of the marriage. As long as both parties agree to it,then it s not a problem. It only becomes a problem if the parties are going...

Divorce Issues: my maybe divorce., marriage counseling, doing the right thing
marriage counseling, doing the right thing, appt: It may truly hurt him to seperate from you and his children. This may be why he won t file for divorce. Yet, he does not want to continue with the problems you two have with each other. His behavior seems to be in accordancy with your feelings. BUT you...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce web, local court
divorce web, local court, court house: Hi Julio~ It doesn t matter if you move, as long as the divorce process isn t currently going on at the moment. If there is one, then it wouldn t be a good time or idea to move. And you should wait until the divorce process is over and finalized. ...

Divorce Issues: divorce, legal divorce, legal marriage
legal divorce, legal marriage, marriage license: Hi Stephanie~ Her (his ex) current marriage would be null and void and wouldn t be a legal marriage, if she weren t legally and officially divorced. The same for you, if you were to get married, it wouldn t be a legal and binding marriage in the eyes of...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce actions, court house
divorce actions, court house, legal advice: Hi. You know I can t give you legal advice either. I m a psychologist. My guess is that you can always say you ve changed your mind. I know that at the final hearting the judge asks, are you sure? Why don t you write directly and talk to me about the...

Divorce Issues: divorce, three months, mistake
three months, mistake, marriage: Hi Carol~ He s not entitled to the car b/c you had it prior to the marriage. He s only entitled to what was community property during the marriage. Of course, you ll have to prove this to the court. And when/if you do, the court can order his name removed...

Divorce Issues: divorce, garage roof, reservation of rights
garage roof, reservation of rights, home improvements: Hi Melanie~ Don t let him intimidate you, that s exactly what he and his stupid lawyer are trying to do to you. And it s working. Don t fall for it. Tell him that you ll see him in court. No court in the US will grant something like that, just bring...

Divorce Issues: divorce, garage roof, anyhoo
garage roof, anyhoo, life estate: Hi Melanie~ No, he can t go back and change the reason. Irreconcilable differences just means that there could be a wide variety of reasons for the divorce. In other words it s a general description of why the he wants the divorce. So, no it won t make...

Divorce Issues: should i divorce?, ultimatums, financial stability
ultimatums, financial stability, alcohol: Hi Manny, I can t tell you what you should do. She didn t just become an alcoholic...you stated you gave her many chances. Did you see her drink before you married her? I will tell you this, people that have drinking problems have to want to help themselves....

Divorce Issues: divorce, retainer fee, uncontested divorce
retainer fee, uncontested divorce, sabrina: Hi Sabrina~ There really is no quick way to go through a divorce. The only way to speed up the divorce is to have an uncontested divorce. This way you can be divorced in as little as a few months (typically 3 months of so). But if your soon-to-be-ex...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce papers, wifes car
divorce papers, wifes car, final decree: Dear Debbie, Filed divorce papers are not the same as a final decree. If a divorce is not final, both parties can still be found liable or take whatever issues may arise into their single life in credit history, and legal issues. Divorces are not official...

Divorce Issues: Should I get a divorce, marriage work, living proof
marriage work, living proof, should i get a divorce: Trisha, Hi, Love is a living being fed by living beings. It s either nourished and grows or starved and dies. You re at a crisis point. You have two very young children and you are looking at being a single parent, which is incredibly difficult with...

Divorce Issues: divorce???, college sweetheart, romantic feelings
college sweetheart, romantic feelings, circl: Hi ABC sMom~ The problem stems from you not being ready to move on from your first marriage. You had (may still have) unresolved issues pertaining to that still. And you ended up jumping into another relationship/marriage before you had closure to your...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce web, hi mary
divorce web, hi mary, inheritance: Hi Mary Ann~ Spouses are not entitled to any inheritance money/possessions. With the exception of if the spouse that inherited the money, put it into a home (for improvements, as an investment in a home, etc) and did this together with their spouse. Then...

Divorce Issues: divorce, dna test, divorce web
dna test, divorce web, allready: Hi Kenneth~ They can t legally kick you out of your own home, that you inherited! If you had the home prior to marriage, she s not entitled to it at all. Especially since it s yours by inheritance. They are definitely screwing you by doing this. My...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce web, legal divorce
divorce web, legal divorce, british citizen: Hi Susan~ Yes, you can still file here in the US, in NC and obtain a legal divorce (even if you don t know his whereabouts). During the divorce process you can also change your married name back to your maiden name (usually if this is done at the time...

Divorce Issues: divorce, getting a divorce, immigration status
getting a divorce, immigration status, clerk of the court: Hi W.R~ If you ve already been guranteed a 10 yr Visa,then it s probably safe to say you can legally divorce her. But you ought to check it out,and make sure that there s not a time limited before getting a divorce. For example~ Some state laws might...

Divorce Issues: about to get a divorce, dentist insurance, mental abuse
dentist insurance, mental abuse, child support: I never heard a judge refusing child support because a child spends an overnight with their father. Where do you live? I suspect you live outside of the US and I am not familiar with international laws regarding support. You will have to seek counsel to have...

Divorce Issues: divorce, jewllery, mutual consent
jewllery, mutual consent, huby: Hi Surabhi~ What name does she go by now? If she already has your husband s last name then continue using it, since you re still married to him (and on the off chance it does end up working out). Then as she grows older if you end up with her bio-father...

Divorce Issues: divorce, jewllery, mutual consent
jewllery, mutual consent, huby: Dear Surabhi, You are in a very difficult situation and I don t think anyone can give you the answer. You need to turn to God to help you decide what He wants for you. Obviously the marriage with your husband is not working out. Is this the man you want...

Divorce Issues: divorce, jewllery, mutual consent
jewllery, mutual consent, huby: I don t think you should be with your husband because your not satisfied with him. I also don t think you should be with a married man or one who cheats on their wife. I think you should be responsible for your child and yourself for awhile. It s wonderful...

Divorce Issues: divorce, brazilian citizen, massachusetts courts
brazilian citizen, massachusetts courts, immigration court: In order to divorce you have to go back to Massachusetts. You don t necessarily need an attorney as you can file for divorce yourself in the courts but, If you don t know what you re doing my advice is to get legal assistance. I don t know of another way to...

Divorce Issues: divorce, jewllery, mutual consent
jewllery, mutual consent, huby: Dear Surabhi, This sounds quite complicated. Right now you are living with your parents and if you return to your husband he doesn t support you and he doesn t really stay around that much. So, it sounds like you have more freedom when you are with him,...

Divorce Issues: divorce, traveling couple, marriage certificate
traveling couple, marriage certificate, sacramento california: Hi Ray~ She can t just clean the bank account and leave you with nothing. Get the records from the bank stating how much you had in the bank at the time she took these monies out. She is only entitled to half of that money, not all of it. She can get...

Divorce Issues: divorce, alienation of affection, civil matter
alienation of affection, civil matter, ruby: Hi Ruby~ Alienation of affection can be proven by the way the persons been acting. In ways that their behaviors have changed, how it s affected the marriage, etc. You might have to use witnesses that have physically seen and/or noticed a change in his...

Divorce Issues: divorce, texas council on family violence, matrimonal
texas council on family violence, matrimonal, professional counselor: Dear Angela, As you mentioned your husband is controlling and abusive. Perhaps you should speak with a professional counselor about how to better handle the situation so you can clearly decide what it is you would like to do. It is difficult to make decisions...

Divorce Issues: divorce, rigth, year2000
rigth, year2000, daugther: Dear Jessica, I am not an attorney, and you will need one for your divorce, so ask him the best way to protect a new car from being part of the divorce. Chances are, you have been separated long enough for it to not be an issue, but just to be on the safe...

Divorce Issues: divorce, amicable divorce, divorce web
amicable divorce, divorce web, current state: Hi Eric~ You would file in the current state that you reside in now which is PA. You can file anytime. As for the divorce time, that will vary widely. If it s an amicable divorce and you both agree on everything, your divorce can be done in as little...

Divorce Issues: divorce, percentage contribution, custodial parent
percentage contribution, custodial parent, spousal support: Dear Lori, I am not an attorney and there are varying state laws throughout our nation, regarding divorce and child support, but . . . all states do prefer that the responsibility of children, be taken seriously by both parents. If you make more than he...

Divorce Issues: divorce, divorce papers, maryland right
divorce papers, maryland right, mail: Go to http://www.equalityinmarriage.org/wd.html. I m very disappointed to find out that this free service has closed its doors, but the advice is very good and, if you go to the homepage, maybe you can ask the founder for a name in South Carolina. She knows...

Divorce Issues: divorce, alimony child support, divorce alimony
alimony child support, divorce alimony, adultery: Hi Amanda, adultery or not what difference does it makes. He is saying he is unhappy. He wants you to leave. He wants divorce. You are being told he is kissing some one else. He told you he wants to be someone else. All above you have said in your...

Divorce Issues: about divorce, divorce web, proper paperwork
divorce web, proper paperwork, divorce papers: Hi Sen~ Not in all cases does a person have to appear before a judge. If they have an attorney/lawyer then you can be represented by your counsel. If you choose to represent yourself, yes, you ll have to either go to court or go before a judge in order...

Divorce Issues: divorce, lord and savior, conservative church
lord and savior, conservative church, gift from god: Hi Carl, Your letter is very heartfelt. I know you feel you are in a situation that is pulling you apart. A friend of mine was in that same situation and I could feel her pain as she talked about loving one person, but feeling an obligation to another....

Divorce Issues: divorce, 1 corinthians 6, adulterous affair
1 corinthians 6, adulterous affair, nonbeliever: Hi Carl, You are allowing your feelings to dictate you. Right now I want to take a big Bible and come over and whop you upside the head with it!! You didn t hear anything I said to you yesterday. It all went in one ear and out the other, through the...

Divorce Issues: divorce, common law marriage, law divorce
common law marriage, law divorce, girfriend: Cathy: As far as common law divorce, well that doesn t exist, because common law marriage can still take place with a real divorce. So, the cheapest way to get a divorce is to do it yourself. If you don t have anything to fight over, and you just want your...

Divorce Issues: divorce by abandonment, divorce procedure, divorce laws
divorce procedure, divorce laws, single mom: Hi Susan~ You can file for a divorce in the current state that you live in. You can still obtain a divorce even w/o knowing the whereabouts of your husband. Divorce laws vary by state. Here is a great divorce website; it is: www.divorcenet.com click...

Divorce Issues: divorce abroad, dissolution of marriage, summary dissolution
dissolution of marriage, summary dissolution, marriage procedures: Dear Magda, As I am not a legal professional I cannot give you a specifc answer, however, I think that following may be helpful. This is a link from the US Embassy in Brazil http://www.embaixada-americana.org.br/index.php?action=materia&id=1942&submenu=7&itemmenu=58-...

Divorce Issues: divorce from absent spouse, private investigator search, absent spouse
private investigator search, absent spouse, using a lawyer: Hi Vanessa~ Yes,you can still file for a divorce. When you file just tell them your case and that so far you ve been unable to contact your husband. A judge can grant you a divorce still. There might be some other steps you ll have to go through,but...

Divorce Issues: divorce agreement broken, health insurance costs, divorce agreement
health insurance costs, divorce agreement, reciepts: Hi Noelle~ His job was right, he can t legally keep you on his insurance if you re divorced. He can still be obligated to pay for it, since it was court ordered. You can take him back to court to recoup your losses (that you had to pay out by reimbursing...

Divorce Issues: divorce agreement, income tax refunds, divorce agreement
income tax refunds, divorce agreement, refund checks: Hi again Ruth~ If you wish to represent yourself. You would just go file a claim against him in probably civil court. You can go to the circuit clerk of the court and ask what procedures you need to take, they can usually advise you what to do next. Or...

Divorce Issues: divorce & business ownership, greener grass, divorce papers
greener grass, divorce papers, concrete proof: Hi Jacqueline~ You owe half of the businesses. That means you re entitled to 50% of both businesses (actually what they re valued at). No, he can t take your name off of the businesses, it s community property. If your name is on the loan and on the...

Divorce Issues: divorce and child support, divorce paperwork, child support amount
divorce paperwork, child support amount, retainer fee: Hi Mandi~ You can request from the court that they grant you a temporary child support order. Yes, they can do that before the divorce process is finalized. You do NOT have to wait until the divorce is almost over in order to receive some form of support...

Divorce Issues: divorce and children, loveless marriage, two little girls
loveless marriage, two little girls, girls ages: Hi Vince, Thanks for writing. Loveless marriages are the result of persistence. It takes a while to squeeze the love out of a marriage. Usually the disaster happens inadvertently. Couples don t mean to kill their marriages, they really did mean, at one...

Divorce Issues: divorce claims on an and inheritance, property assets, blood relatives
property assets, blood relatives, divorce laws: Hi again Dale~ In the US (in all states), if a spouse had existing property before the marriage; i.e.-house, business, car, furniture, etc. In the divorce process the other spouse is not entitled to those possessions. The only thing that the partner is...

Divorce Issues: divorce cost, divorce paperwork, divorce proceedings
divorce paperwork, divorce proceedings, clerk of the court: Hi Lorraine~ You can either go to a lawyer and ask them to file for you. Or you can go to the circuit clerk of the court in the county in which you reside; and ask him/her how to go about filing on your own. He/She will be able to tell you how to go about...

Divorce Issues: divorce and credit cards, divorce agreement, theft by deception
divorce agreement, theft by deception, improving your credit: Hi Jennifer~ He can get into huge trouble for this! He can be charged with a form of identity theft, as in theft by deception. He deceived you and took cards out in your name. You should press charges against him for this. If you work with the credit...

Divorce Issues: divorce & custody, divorce papers, divorce custody
divorce papers, divorce custody, new girlfriend: Dear Renee, You can ask your attorney when you file, and I am not one, so all I can do is offer some general information. Chances are you cannot control your husband s social life with divorce papers, but you may be able to stipulate no over night guests...

Divorce Issues: divorce/custody, divorce proceedings, divorce custody
divorce proceedings, divorce custody, divorce decree: Dear Gerri, I am not an attorney, but I do live in Missouri. I don t know why your attorney has told you this, since you were from Texas and that s where your husband found you and married you. It s not uncommon for someone to return to their former surroundings,...

Divorce Issues: divorce and custody, award custody, parental rights
award custody, parental rights, divorce: Hello Tish, if you are not divorced yet, why would the court award custody to your husband? You have an attorney that should be fighting for your parental rights. If there is NO reason for the courts to award your husband with primary custody than it s unlikely...

Divorce Issues: divorce &dating, adultery, lawyer
adultery, lawyer, divorce: Hi Susan~ Yes, as long as he s out of the marital home. You re considered separated and you can date if you wish. There s nothing that he can do about it. He can t use that against you in court either. So it won t be considered adultery by the court...

Divorce Issues: divorce decree, social security number, divorce decree
social security number, divorce decree, social security: Hi J~ If you know her social security number, you can track her down through that. You can even do it over the internet. It ll cost you to do it though. Go to a reputable site to do a search. Here are a couple: www.investigateanyone.org www.nationalpeoplefinders.com...

Divorce Issues: divorce decree, divorce decree, full custody
divorce decree, full custody, retirements: Hi Jo~ She can t legally do that--get child support on a child that s not living with her! He can take her back to court and make her repay that child support, during the child the child was actually living with him. It would be in his best interest if...

Divorce Issues: divorce decree amendment, divorce decree, life insurance
divorce decree, life insurance, lawyer: Hi Steve~ It s very hard to get a divorce decree changed once you agree to it. It is possible to get is amended though. You have to plead your case to the judge and tell him/her why you want it changed and revised. You won t know if you don t at least...

Divorce Issues: ? on divorce decree, divorce decree, orange county
divorce decree, orange county, jefferson county: Hi Chris~ I assume that you are kmj,correct? If so,then yes your ex husband is right. You would have to pick the children up at his residence. I ll walk you through what I mean to clarify. However, it is ordered that if kcj & tmj live in the same...

Divorce Issues: divorce decrees, divorce decrees, divorce decree
divorce decrees, divorce decree, clerk of the court: Hi Lauren~ You don t have to present a copy of your divorce decree (proving your divorced) before you can remarry. That s not necessary. But if you want a copy of it anyhow (just to have for your records). You should be able to obtain a copy from your...

Divorce Issues: divorce didnt go through, divorce paperwork, divorce papers
divorce paperwork, divorce papers, news paper: Hi Maria~ If the divorce wasn t complete, then that means you need to refile for a divorce. The divorce paperwork is only good for one year from the date it s filed. You can try contacting his father as the old address, to see if you can obtain any...

Divorce Issues: divorce dilemma, divorce in canada, clerk of the court
divorce in canada, clerk of the court, country canada: Hi Stan~ You ll have to see if she can legally file for a divorce here in the US, since she s not a citizen, I m not sure if she can do this here or not. What you ll need to do is to check with the circuit clerk of the court in the county you reside in....

Divorce Issues: divorce dragging on, divorce papers, expecting a child
divorce papers, expecting a child, finalization: You can try to control things but you may not be successful. Firstly, how did the state say that without enforcing it in writing? If you get a child custody order he will have to pay what he owes. Even if he drags his feet in payments he will owe arrears after...

Divorce Issues: divorce and drugs, prayer works, god has a way
prayer works, god has a way, decent money: Hello Marilyn, If you can t move out, then you only have 2 options. You can live there with him, or somehow you have to convince him to leave. The only thing I can tell you to do is talk to an attorney and file for a separation and ask that you keep the...

Divorce Issues: divorce and the effects upon children, adult children of divorce, single parent families
adult children of divorce, single parent families, children of divorce: Judith Wallersein has done some research on the long term effects of divorce on children.The work lives of these grown children largely were unaffected by the divorce, but their personal lives included crippling fears of loss and disaster, fewer marriages,...

Divorce Issues: divorce and after effects, property in spain, last september
property in spain, last september, remortgage: Dear Mandy Taylor, If he can refuse to sign papers that you had written, can t you do the same? I think you need to speak with your attorney, which I think you refer to as solicitor. You do not want to be left homeless and you shouldn t. If you think you...

Divorce Issues: divorce and exposure to children, talking to a brick wall, lesser of the evils
talking to a brick wall, lesser of the evils, adult concepts: Jeannine, of course you are correct that the children should have time to adjust to one collossal shake-up in their lives before being asked to adjust to some new woman their father is dating. The chances of his instant new relationship lasting are incredibly...

Divorce Issues: divorce and friends, bob and joan, whole scenario
bob and joan, whole scenario, one of the girls: Hi Kate~ Just keep trying to get her involved with the group of girlfriends. This way at least she knows that you all care and are concerned about her, so that s why you frequently check in on her. If she says no,tell her okay, maybe next time. This...

Divorce Issues: how to divorce a ghost, quickie marriage, divorce proceedings
quickie marriage, divorce proceedings, countless websites: Hi Darci~ Yes, he can still obtain a divorce, even w/o knowing her whereabouts. He still has to file for a divorce. He can just say that he doesn t know her whereabouts. He can be granted a divorce in absentia. What a judge will have him do probably...

Divorce Issues: divorce grounds, divorce petition, divorce grounds
divorce petition, divorce grounds, separate lives: Hi Peter~ Yes, it should be just fine. Sometimes a couple has to continue to live together due to financial reasons, when filing for a divorce. This should have absolutely no bearing on filing your divorce petition. As long as you live separate lives...

Divorce Issues: divorce help, divorce papers, time charles
divorce papers, time charles, compromise: Hi Charles~ She can t file anything against you; such as divorce papers on her own. She can only respond to your filing of the divorce. And if she doesn t agree with what you re asking for, she can contest the divorce. All this does is prolong the divorce...

Divorce Issues: divorce-help, divorce help, parenting class
divorce help, parenting class, divorce papers: Hi Jennifer~ There s not really anything you can do to expedite the divorce. You can still get your divorce granted by a judge. Do you know his current address? If you do, then you can do what s called divorce by pubication. Which just means you ll...

Divorce Issues: divorce/house, quick claim deed, divorce papers
quick claim deed, divorce papers, mortgage company: Shawna: You can only ask him to buy you out if it specifies in the decree that you can be bought out of the house. If he got the house, then chances are you got something of equal value, so you would not have a claim to any monies from the sale or refinance...

Divorce Issues: divorce with a house involved, marital settlement agreement, marital assets
marital settlement agreement, marital assets, marital fault: Hiding property or assets are VERY difficult. Any person would know if you sold the house and then they would want to know where the money was. Also getting your name off an original deed will not make your wife not be entitled to 1/2 the house because the...

Divorce Issues: divorce & the house, judgements, hard time
judgements, hard time, assets: You may have to pay for a house that you don t live in because of the children, but you may not. Your asking me for an answer without giving me enough info. Does your wife have enough assets to buy you out? As stated previously a judge would have a hard time...

Divorce Issues: divorce ideas ??, stay at home mom, handicap sticker
stay at home mom, handicap sticker, medical retirement: Bill: I am sorry for your health troubles and your marital difficulties. As far as the money you had goes, if you can trace it back to being separate property, no matter what it was used for, it is yours and will come off the top of the estate as being owed...

Divorce Issues: divorce ideas ???, stay at home mom, handicap sticker
stay at home mom, handicap sticker, medical retirement: You must have a great retirement account as well as social security disability. If she is earning more than you then in my state NJ, you would be allowed alimony from your spouse. I don t have that much experience with divorce judges as most cases are settled,...

Divorce Issues: divorce ideas ??, stay at home mom, handicap sticker
stay at home mom, handicap sticker, medical retirement: You are a perfect candidate for a divorce mediator! This is a person who acts as a middle man between you and your wife to bring together a mutually beneficial severence package , if you will. For more information, go to www.divorce-support-help.com...

Divorce Issues: divorce ideas ?, stay at home mom, handicap sticker
stay at home mom, handicap sticker, medical retirement: Dear Bill, I am so very sorry. I am not an attorney, but usually if there is a financial reason, a life insurance policy is acceptable. If I were you, I d make sure you knew the premiums are paid. I think it s very sad that someone in nursing is so lacking...

Divorce Issues: divorce and impact on children, neil kalter, effects of divorce
neil kalter, effects of divorce, mom and dad: Kevin, your response to my answer is limited in length on the allexperts site, so I m not sure exactly what your complete comment was. If you look at my profile, you will see that it was cut off. However, I want to reassure you that my answer was geared for...

Divorce Issues: divorce and inheritance, divorce web, stocks bonds
divorce web, stocks bonds, divorce laws: Hi Patty~ He s not entitled to any inheritance money. However, since you put a portion of your inheritance money down on a marital home he may not have to repay that to you. Or he may have to reimburse you some of the money (even up to the fully amount)....

Divorce Issues: divorce inheritance put in our name, mother in law, inheritance
mother in law, inheritance, state laws: Dear Tammy, I am not an attorney and I am not familiar with all the varying state laws regarding divorce or inheritance, but if he put some of that land on a separate deed after you were married, then that 6 acres may be viewed as community or marital property....

Divorce Issues: divorce issues, divorce in canada, divorce issues
divorce in canada, divorce issues, canadian lawyer: Dear Stan, It is my understanding that one can only file for divorce in the state/ country in which you reside. As your fiancee is not a legal resident of the U.S. she would not be able to file here. Visit http://www.justice.gc.ca/en/dept/pub/divorce/...

Divorce Issues: divorce and its affect upon children's education, s education, life style
s education, life style, divorce: Hi Tahnee~ Divorce can most certainly affect a child of divorces education and even life style. It can make a child rebel and their grades could suffer. They could begin to hang out with the wrong crowd at school, etc. Mostly this happens in situations...

Divorce Issues: divorce/joint cust&child support, joint custody, child support
joint custody, child support, disability: Hi Jean~ Each state has a chart that they go by on child support. The chart goes by gross annual income, and how many children you have together. Since you are sharing joint custody of two of the children. It sounds like the judge will not make either...

Divorce Issues: divorce with kids, voice mail, adultery
voice mail, adultery, two daughters: Hi Michael~ No, she s not going to lose her daughter to him. That s absurd and absolutely ridiculous that he s telling her that BS! Once you move out and separate from a spouse, it s considered moving on with your life. All she has to do when she files...

Divorce Issues: divorce with kids, mommy and daddy, seperation
mommy and daddy, seperation, main goal: There is no easy way to handle this situation. The main goal is to keep the information on their level of understanding. At this age, you could keep the explanations vague. You could say that mommy and daddy being married is not working or it s not a good...

Divorce Issues: divorce - kids dealing with new boyfriend, thoughts and feelings, new boyfriend
thoughts and feelings, new boyfriend, wonderful man: Hi Laura~ Now that your BF if becoming closer to you, they are getting jealous of him. And they don t like that s he s taking more of your time and attention, b/c that means they feel like you re choosing him over them. I think before you go any farther...

Divorce Issues: divorce with kids, parenting issues, full custody
parenting issues, full custody, custody agreement: Hi Lisa~ Have you thought about taking him back to court to get more money, to help you out? I don t know if that is an option for you or not. Or perhaps you could sit down with him, and ask him if he can spare a little extra a couple of times per month,...

Divorce Issues: divorce law in Germany, dear madam, marriage life
dear madam, marriage life, divorce law: I know nothing about divorce outside of my state let alone another country, but I do know there are many ways to get a divorce in the USA. However you wasted a lot of years waiting for something highly uncertain. I wouldn t waste another second of my time....

Divorce Issues: divorce/lawyer, alternative dispute resolutions, divorce lawyer
alternative dispute resolutions, divorce lawyer, google: Dear Kirsten, There are many benefits to having separate lawyers. The number one being they are working hard for you and it is IMPOSSIBLE to have a lawyer look after both spouses interests. While it may be less expensive, I think you will be hard pressed...

Divorce Issues: divorce links, divorce issues, divorcesupport
divorce issues, divorcesupport, religious institutions: Dear Becky, There are several sites that have forums and chat rooms, but none that I know of are state specific. Divorcesource.com: http://www.divorcesource.com/chatmenu.html About.com: http://divorcesupport.about.com/mpboards.htm These two sites...

Divorce Issues: divorce and loss of home, home equity loan, joint accounts
home equity loan, joint accounts, financial debt: You need to file for divorce immediately. Until there is an order of separation, your husband may LEGALLY take all monies out of your joint accounts. However, it is highly unusual for a home equity loan to be granted without both spouses signatures. You...

Divorce Issues: divorce and medical insurance, national insurance law, health insurance policy
national insurance law, health insurance policy, divorce papers: Hi Michelle~ I ve never heard of this law before. I would advise you to ask an attorney what your rights are on this issue. The company could just be giving him the run around, so they don t have to fool with trying to place his children on his health...

Divorce Issues: divorce in mexico, proper paperwork, greencard holder
proper paperwork, greencard holder, cousin: Hi Angelo~ It might be quicker to do it in Mexico. I m not sure how quickly they do divorces there though. As long as you keep the paperwork from the Mexican court on your divorce; I don t see why they wouldn t honor it. A divorce is a divorce, as long...

Divorce Issues: How to divorce a missing spouse?, hiring a private investigator, withdrawels
hiring a private investigator, withdrawels, credit charges: Hi, when a person doesn t want to be found it s a little difficult to find them. I would have no idea how to go about tracing where credit charges are made from, where bank withdrawels or ATM s are used. My suggestion is divorce him pro se if you want but...

Divorce Issues: How to get a divorce when the other person refuses., divorce web, how do i get a divorce
divorce web, how do i get a divorce, camille: Hi Camille~ He can t refuse to give you a divorce. A judge can/will grant a divorce for you, whether he wants it or not. You need to go ahead and file for a divorce and then have him served with papers. It might take a little longer to get a divorce...

Divorce Issues: divorce but overseas, left hand side, state of illinois
left hand side, state of illinois, free advice: Hi Jennifer~ This may not be easy for you to do, if he s in another country. Is it possible for him to come back from Ireland to do the divorce? If so, then I would urge you to get him to come back just temporarily. I do know that you can get a divorce...

Divorce Issues: divorce pain, getting a divorce, marriage work
getting a divorce, marriage work, divorce papers: Hi Cliff~ There is a way that you can do that. But it s up to the judge to decide that ultimately. What you ll do is in your response to the divorce papers. You can recommend that you try one last time to make the marriage work. A judge can put the...

Divorce Issues: divorce paper, state divorce, google
state divorce, google, local bar: Dear Staci, The best place to ask what is a disclosure is the courthouse you just called. As I do not know what state you are in you could use google.com to find out what disclosure is and how to get it by typing in name of your state + divorce + disclosure...

Divorce Issues: After the divorce papers have been filed, property settlement agreement, divorce papers
property settlement agreement, divorce papers, kyle jones: Thanks for the clarification. No, you are not breaking any laws. In the state that I reside, judges do NOT care about the behavior of adults before during or after the divorce. Only lawyers pretend they do, so that they can exacerbate the arguing and animosity...

Divorce Issues: divorce and penision, separation day, getting a divorce
separation day, getting a divorce, case thanks: Hi Mike~ Her having two children outside of your marriage, won t have any affect on the divorce. Unless you want to get her on adultery, which you can use as the reason for divorce, if you wish. Other than that, the children won t have anything to do...

Divorce Issues: divorce phone records, extra marital affair, divorce settlement
extra marital affair, divorce settlement, phone bills: Gary, Issues like who will pay for the car and what will happen to post divorce are usually determined in the divorce settlement. Do they have teporary orders which outline who pays for what while they are in the middle of the divorce? I would say the...

Divorce Issues: divorce process, separation and divorce, divorce papers
separation and divorce, divorce papers, divorce laws: Hi Ken~ Do you know where she is so that she can be properly served with the divorce papers (assuming that she hasn t been served at all, since you said you have no contact with her)? Anyway, I ll try to answer your questions to the best of my knowledge...

Divorce Issues: divorce - property, social security disability, double wide mobile home
social security disability, double wide mobile home, medical prescriptions: Dear Pat, You have a few options, but first you should educate yourself on the laws of your state and speak with a financial advisor about what makes the most financial sense. Here are a few sites to start with: equalityinmarriage.org, divorcesource.com,...

Divorce Issues: divorce property, home mortgage, different things
home mortgage, different things, twelve months: Hi Matthew~ Well, if she s not interested in it a couple different things can happen. #1 She just signs off on the deed and mortgage--if her name is on the home/mortgage papers (in order to get her name off it you ll have to refinance it--if it s not...

Divorce Issues: divorce property, property question, joint tenants
property question, joint tenants, home cars: Hi ReRe~ It shouldn t matter that he used half of the money from his mother to purchase the home. If you bought it together then you re entitled to half of the home. Of course laws on this will vary from state to state (since his mother gave him half...

Divorce Issues: divorce and property, first time home buyers program, time home buyers
first time home buyers program, time home buyers, first time home buyers: Hi Regina~ He can t sell the home w/o her consent. In order to get her off the deed to the home and the mortgage (unless the home is already paid for), she has to agree to sign off on the loan, and he ll have to refinance the home in his name only (taking...

Divorce Issues: divorce and property., probate laws, inheritance laws
probate laws, inheritance laws, inheritance rights: Dear Jeff, I am not an attorney and I do not know the probate laws and inheritance laws of California. I think most states do acknowledge that a widow does have some inheritance rights from a deceased husband, unless there is some sort of prenuptual arrangement....

Divorce Issues: divorce and property., different woman, beneficiary
different woman, beneficiary, currents: Hi Jeff, there are a few questions here so lets take them one at a time. Your children can claim your money when you pass on if you secure a will stating this. They can probably make a claim even if you don t have a will but it will take a long time because...

Divorce Issues: divorce and property, dear claudia, aaml
dear claudia, aaml, home condo: Dear Claudia, While you may not be able to buy him out, perhaps you could re-mortgage, offer him a payment plan over x number of years to buy him out or give something of equal value that he would want. Before negotiating any options towards keeping...

Divorce Issues: divorce by publication, divorce procedure, enormous bill
divorce procedure, enormous bill, explaination: Hi Cindy~ You have the right to fire your lawyer at any time you want. And you don t have to give him so much as an explaination either. Yes, you can finish the job yourself as well as representing yourself in the divorce procedure. Apparently this lawyer...

Divorce Issues: divorce ques, common law marriage, legal divorce
common law marriage, legal divorce, divorce web: Hi Mike~ Chances are you re still legally married, if you went through the proper process when you first got married. States change their laws all the time. And it can be confusing to keep up with all the new and revised laws. Anyway, go ahead and go...

Divorce Issues: divorce questions, divorce proceedings, divorce questions
divorce proceedings, divorce questions, separation period: Hi Ms J~ Yes, in some states there is a required separation period. The time of separation can also depend on what their reasons are for divorce (if it s contested or not). That will vary by each individual state s law. And since they ve been separated...

Divorce Issues: divorce and real estate, belove, legal question
belove, legal question, legal questions: Bonnie, thanks for your question. It s a legal question probably and I m a psychologist and so my answer can not be taken as expert advice. My field is midlife relationships and that includes divorces and especially new relationships after divorce. If you...

Divorce Issues: divorce records, shepherd clark, divorce papers
shepherd clark, divorce papers, divorce records: Dear Sara, As far as a name change- as far as I know that can be done at anytime- as long as you are consistent (ss papers, drivers license, investments, bank accounts, etc.- visit namechangelaw.com to get the info on this). As far as finding out if...

Divorce Issues: divorce and sadness, escrow papers, professional legal advice
escrow papers, professional legal advice, thigs: I can t answer your question because I don t have enough information. I don t know if it s legal for him to sign over money to his attorney but you have an attorney so why aren t you addressing this with her/him? You definitely need professional legal advic...

Divorce Issues: divorce, separation, permanent resident of australia, spousal visa
permanent resident of australia, spousal visa, divorce separation: Your partner has to be divorced in the country where the marriage took place. It is possible to divorce even if the spouse lives in another country. An attorney can assist in obtaining a divorce to a spouse in another country and she/he would be able to answer...

Divorce Issues: divorce sort of, emotional roller coaster, separation period
emotional roller coaster, separation period, day at a time: Hi Jennifer~ It s probably for the best that he does leave, and stay gone for good. If you can t trust him, and you suspect he s been cheating on you, then he probably is doing something behind your back. You don t need someone cheating on you and being...

Divorce Issues: divorce when spouse lives in another country, divorce papers, circumstance
divorce papers, circumstance, short time: Hi Lisa~ You should get a lawyer and let him figure out what s the best way to go about this, since your husband lives in another country. I d bet they can do a conference call and get his consent to do a divorce. I m not exactly sure what the process...

Divorce Issues: how to get a divorce when spouse is in prison, divorce papers, how do i get a divorce
divorce papers, how do i get a divorce: I don t think it matters where a spouse is located the procedures are always the same. You have to find out what you HAVE and what you OWE. You will need to divide everything thats jointly owned and then file papers. Have your husband served with divorce...

Divorce Issues: divorce and spouse retirement, separation and divorce, saundra
separation and divorce, saundra, lump sum: Dear Saundra, I am not an attorney and state laws do vary, but usually after 10 years of marriage, there is considered a common interest and investment in pensions. If you ve been working, also, then he would have the same entitlement that you have, or it...

Divorce Issues: divorce to stay together, patriarch abraham, medical bankruptcies
patriarch abraham, medical bankruptcies, economic climate: Hi Joe, What a poignant story. I hope the Kerry campaign hears about it. In todays economic climate lots of strange things make sense. The medicaid safety nets is being badly dismantled by the advocates of the ownership society, that being an ironic...

Divorce Issues: divorce and step children, good relationship, care and concern
good relationship, care and concern, stepson: Dear Chris, I am not an attorney, but I am aware that some states do recognize a step parent s relationship with the child. I would inquire gently about that in your state. I don t know what all the variables may be, but judges are usually very interested...

Divorce Issues: After divorce, should we still meet??, personal time, first few years
personal time, first few years, right decision: Hi Keith, I imagine that your wife is thinking that you are the one that betrayed the commitment and she got fed up and wanted out... A woman who has a husband who is Christ-like will not want out of the relationship. If you are meeting all of her...

Divorce Issues: divorce support groups in Harford County, MD, divorce support groups, harford county md
divorce support groups, harford county md, crofton md: Dear Susan, Thank you for your patience. I had to go out of town for a few days and was not near a computer. I hope the following helps: divorcesource.com has info on support groups- you simply type in your state and then your county. sassypinkpeppers.com...

Divorce Issues: divorce in texas, upper middle class, ablity
upper middle class, ablity, emotional abuse: Hi Angela~ I m not sure what you are wanting then,really. Do you eventually want a divorce? Or are you just staying with him b/c you feel you must (such as money reasons,and the children,etc)? I feel that you should never,ever stay in a marriage b/c...