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Lesbian Life: Blood, Sweat & Tears..., adult relationship, borderline personality
Lesbian Life: Blood, Sweat & Tears..., adult relationship, borderline personality, difficult decisions

Lesbian Life: being bi (going to high school), sophmore year, long time
Lesbian Life: being bi (going to high school), sophmore year, long time

Lesbian Life: Clitorus, penis glans, nerve endings
Lesbian Life: Clitorus, penis glans, nerve endings, clitoris

Lesbian Life: Communication in a lesbian relationship
Lesbian Life: Communication in a lesbian relationship

Lesbian Life: Confused, attension, chemical reaction
Lesbian Life: Confused, attension, chemical reaction, existance

Lesbian Life: Confused about my friend, cryptic messages, hoping that someone
Lesbian Life: Confused about my friend, cryptic messages, hoping that someone, sexual relationship

Lesbian Life: Crush on best friend who I think is straight, rubbish
Lesbian Life: Crush on best friend who I think is straight, rubbish

Lesbian Life: Crush at Work
Lesbian Life: Crush at Work

Lesbian Life: I am confused about my sexuality. Please help me!, neat categories, good advice
Lesbian Life: I am confused about my sexuality. Please help me!, neat categories, good advice, different times

Lesbian Life: crush on a woman 20 yrs younger, woman at work, gestures
Lesbian Life: crush on a woman 20 yrs younger, woman at work, gestures, clue

Lesbian Life: i don't know who i am, happiness runs in a circular motion, alice in wonderland
Lesbian Life: i don't know who i am, happiness runs in a circular motion, alice in wonderland, cheshire cat

Lesbian Life: I don't know if I'm gay/bi but am in love with my friend who I also don't know if she is gay/bi, business real estate, two girls
Lesbian Life: I don't know if I'm gay/bi but am in love with my friend who I also don't know if she is gay/bi, business real estate, two girls, do the right thing

Lesbian Life: I don't understand her insensitivity to our breakup, attractiveness, real reason
Lesbian Life: I don't understand her insensitivity to our breakup, attractiveness, real reason, tho

Lesbian Life: Ex-girlfriend issues, decison, second guessing
Lesbian Life: Ex-girlfriend issues, decison, second guessing, alon

Lesbian Life: Falling in love with a 19yo girl..., love
Lesbian Life: Falling in love with a 19yo girl..., love

Lesbian Life: falling in love with a 19yo girl, early adulthood, blood relatives
Lesbian Life: falling in love with a 19yo girl, early adulthood, blood relatives, extreme violence

Lesbian Life: falling in love with a 19yo girl, early adulthood, blood relatives
Lesbian Life: falling in love with a 19yo girl, early adulthood, blood relatives, extreme violence

Lesbian Life: falling in love with your very straight best friend, straight girls, lesbian friends
Lesbian Life: falling in love with your very straight best friend, straight girls, lesbian friends, head games

Lesbian Life: I feel humiliated, ankles, periods
Lesbian Life: I feel humiliated, ankles, periods, soles of your feet

Lesbian Life: am i a female, seperate issues, change of heart
Lesbian Life: am i a female, seperate issues, change of heart, gender identity

Lesbian Life: How do I get my Girfriend to fall in love with me again?, binding spell, loads of money
Lesbian Life: How do I get my Girfriend to fall in love with me again?, binding spell, loads of money, spell casters

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend left me to be a lesbian, lesbian experiance, dyke
Lesbian Life: my girlfriend left me to be a lesbian, lesbian experiance, dyke, suacidle

Lesbian Life: help newbie to the lesbian lifestyle, lesbians, good luck
Lesbian Life: help newbie to the lesbian lifestyle, lesbians, good luck, xxxx

Lesbian Life: Im getting mixed signals from a 'straight' woman, similar circumstance, kissable lips
Lesbian Life: Im getting mixed signals from a 'straight' woman, similar circumstance, kissable lips, secret lingerie

Lesbian Life: Infatuated with a much older woman, girlfriend, odds
Lesbian Life: Infatuated with a much older woman, girlfriend, odds, time lines

Lesbian Life: Intimacy issues, attractive option, lack of interest
Lesbian Life: Intimacy issues, attractive option, lack of interest, having sex

Lesbian Life: Involved with an older woman, open relationship, aswell
Lesbian Life: Involved with an older woman, open relationship, aswell, eachother

Lesbian Life: Jealousy, confussed, unconfortable
Lesbian Life: Jealousy, confussed, unconfortable, comming

Lesbian Life: Am I a Lesbian?, serbia, girlfriend
Lesbian Life: Am I a Lesbian?, serbia, girlfriend, searching for people

Lesbian Life: Lesbian Drama, lesbian relationship, month and a half
Lesbian Life: Lesbian Drama, lesbian relationship, month and a half, education

Lesbian Life: Lesbian dating, kissing jessica stein, dating
Lesbian Life: Lesbian dating, kissing jessica stein, dating

Lesbian Life: Lesbian daughter's relationship, anniversary card, planning to have a baby
Lesbian Life: Lesbian daughter's relationship, anniversary card, planning to have a baby, bottom of my heart

Lesbian Life: Lesbian Falling In love with straight best friend, straight friends, straight girl
Lesbian Life: Lesbian Falling In love with straight best friend, straight friends, straight girl, time frame

Lesbian Life: Lesbian
Lesbian Life: Lesbian

Lesbian Life: Lifelong lesbian falling in love with my straight best friend
Lesbian Life: Lifelong lesbian falling in love with my straight best friend

Lesbian Life: Long-awaited Meeting Now is Intimidating, fool, truth
Lesbian Life: Long-awaited Meeting Now is Intimidating, fool, truth

Lesbian Life: Am I a lesbian, intimate moment, satisfaction
Lesbian Life: Am I a lesbian, intimate moment, satisfaction

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, sexual desires, stupid girls
Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, sexual desires, stupid girls, pain and misery

Lesbian Life: Am I a lesbian, prejudices, feelings
Lesbian Life: Am I a lesbian, prejudices, feelings

Lesbian Life: Am I lesbian, bisexual,, outsider, believer
Lesbian Life: Am I lesbian, bisexual,, outsider, believer, fantasies

Lesbian Life: Can a lesbian be in love with a guy?, loving friends, sexual orientation
Lesbian Life: Can a lesbian be in love with a guy?, loving friends, sexual orientation, personal life

Lesbian Life: lesbians
Lesbian Life: lesbians

Lesbian Life: In love with a married woman, self fix, love and respect
Lesbian Life: In love with a married woman, self fix, love and respect, heart

Lesbian Life: Making and Keeping Friends, inner struggle, hidden thoughts
Lesbian Life: Making and Keeping Friends, inner struggle, hidden thoughts, friends are friends

Lesbian Life: Married but attracted to women and questioning my sexuality., sexual orientation, adulthood
Lesbian Life: Married but attracted to women and questioning my sexuality., sexual orientation, adulthood, teenagers

Lesbian Life: Married and Bi and wanting to explore
Lesbian Life: Married and Bi and wanting to explore

Lesbian Life: Married & a Lesbian, older woman, old woman
Lesbian Life: Married & a Lesbian, older woman, old woman, best interest

Lesbian Life: Married and in love with a woman, tv production company, intouch
Lesbian Life: Married and in love with a woman, tv production company, intouch, uk tv

Lesbian Life: Im bisexual and I have a girlfriend=problem, lesbian relationship, girlfriend
Lesbian Life: Im bisexual and I have a girlfriend=problem, lesbian relationship, girlfriend, good luck

Lesbian Life: I'm Confused About My Sexual Identity, boys and girls, joanna
Lesbian Life: I'm Confused About My Sexual Identity, boys and girls, joanna, drugs

Lesbian Life: I'm very confused..., bisexual person, monogamous relationship
Lesbian Life: I'm very confused..., bisexual person, monogamous relationship, insecure person

Lesbian Life: I'm finding it incredibly hard to accept i am a lesbian, strange thing, happend
Lesbian Life: I'm finding it incredibly hard to accept i am a lesbian, strange thing, happend, kisses

Lesbian Life: I'm torn, my heart is in bits, so is my head, right move
Lesbian Life: I'm torn, my heart is in bits, so is my head, right move

Lesbian Life: masterbation, exceptable, guilt
Lesbian Life: masterbation, exceptable, guilt

Lesbian Life: Need advice
Lesbian Life: Need advice

Lesbian Life: New to Florida, maderia beach, beautiful sunsets
Lesbian Life: New to Florida, maderia beach, beautiful sunsets, girls weekend

Lesbian Life: I need help, happend, xoxo
Lesbian Life: I need help, happend, xoxo, gf

Lesbian Life: I need help to cope, best of luck, 8 years
Lesbian Life: I need help to cope, best of luck, 8 years, laughter

Lesbian Life: need another point of view, outer person, maturity
Lesbian Life: need another point of view, outer person, maturity, intelligence

Lesbian Life: orgasm too quick, gf
Lesbian Life: orgasm too quick, gf

Lesbian Life: should I pursue her?, girlfriend, feelings
Lesbian Life: should I pursue her?, girlfriend, feelings, desire

Lesbian Life: Questioning my identity, liking, cheers
Lesbian Life: Questioning my identity, liking, cheers, mirror

Lesbian Life: a question, broken heart, apologies
Lesbian Life: a question, broken heart, apologies, lesbians

Lesbian Life: Re: dating sites, free adult dating site, fakes
Lesbian Life: Re: dating sites, free adult dating site, fakes

Lesbian Life: Who am I really attracted to?, slip of the tongue, symbiotic relationship
Lesbian Life: Who am I really attracted to?, slip of the tongue, symbiotic relationship, web of intrigue

Lesbian Life: relationship, memphis, friendship
Lesbian Life: relationship, memphis, friendship

Lesbian Life: Signs of Wife Interested In Women, quality relationship, roomate
Lesbian Life: Signs of Wife Interested In Women, quality relationship, roomate, wife having sex

Lesbian Life: no sex, bed and a bottle, romantic getaway
Lesbian Life: no sex, bed and a bottle, romantic getaway, first affair

Lesbian Life: strange feelings, kinsey test, homosexual experiences
Lesbian Life: strange feelings, kinsey test, homosexual experiences, weird feelings

Lesbian Life: strong feelings for lesbian friend, heterosexual lifestyle, curiosity
Lesbian Life: strong feelings for lesbian friend, heterosexual lifestyle, curiosity, feelings

Lesbian Life: troubled relationship, realtionship, 8 years
Lesbian Life: troubled relationship, realtionship, 8 years

Lesbian Life: Understanding lesbian women, u haul, wonderful day
Lesbian Life: Understanding lesbian women, u haul, wonderful day, few suggestions

Lesbian Life: Understanding my problems, slave system, adult industry
Lesbian Life: Understanding my problems, slave system, adult industry, coersion

Lesbian Life: How do u know a girl likes you more than a friend?, lesbian relationship, wana chat
Lesbian Life: How do u know a girl likes you more than a friend?, lesbian relationship, wana chat

Lesbian Life: unrequited lesbian love, feelings, friendship
Lesbian Life: unrequited lesbian love, feelings, friendship, desire

Lesbian Life: VAGINAL TASTE, mints, peppermint
Lesbian Life: VAGINAL TASTE, mints, peppermint, saliva

Lesbian Life: VAGINAL TASTE
Lesbian Life: VAGINAL TASTE

Lesbian Life: I want my ex back, sweet girl, few words
Lesbian Life: I want my ex back, sweet girl, few words, best wishes

Lesbian Life: i want to like oral sex, first time i had sex, singles scene
Lesbian Life: i want to like oral sex, first time i had sex, singles scene, adult life

Lesbian Life: whats wrong with me?, first love, promiscuous
Lesbian Life: whats wrong with me?, first love, promiscuous

Lesbian Life: could my wife (34 years) have lesbian tendencies, lunch crowd, loving sex
Lesbian Life: could my wife (34 years) have lesbian tendencies, lunch crowd, loving sex, best of luck

Lesbian Life: Is my wife Bi??, heterosexual relationships, women who love women
Lesbian Life: Is my wife Bi??, heterosexual relationships, women who love women, priorty

Lesbian Life: Is my wife Bi or what??, risk, heart
Lesbian Life: Is my wife Bi or what??, risk, heart, erotic experience

Lesbian Life: Is my wife gay?, 60 men, inteligent
Lesbian Life: Is my wife gay?, 60 men, inteligent, girlfriend

Lesbian Life: Is my wife gay, severe anxiety, exact situation
Lesbian Life: Is my wife gay, severe anxiety, exact situation, acquaintance

Lesbian Life: Is my wife a lesbian, bi or curious and how do I help?, sexual relationship, sexual relations
Lesbian Life: Is my wife a lesbian, bi or curious and how do I help?, sexual relationship, sexual relations, avoidance

Lesbian Life: Is There Anything I Can/Should Do?, kleenex, life experience
Lesbian Life: Is There Anything I Can/Should Do?, kleenex, life experience, tantrum

Lesbian Life: falling in love with a 19yo girl, age gap, time and patience
age gap, time and patience, teenage daughter: My dear, you are welcome to write any time and as much as you like. That s what I m here for. I will offer whatever insights I have and sometimes just getting it outside of yourself can help clarify things for you. Now, let s talk about this need to be...

Lesbian Life: falling in love with your very straight best friend, bisexual girl, straight girl
bisexual girl, straight girl, beautiful girl: Hi Sunny, She could just be a huge flirt. That s the way some people s personalities are. Is she flirting with you more or the same since the serious conversation. If it s the same, then it s probably just the way she is. If it has increased, then it may...

Lesbian Life: I feel like a horrible person.. SO TORN!, world of girls, serious relationship
world of girls, serious relationship, horrible person: I am going to be brutally honest with you. Not meaning to be rude....here it goes If you go back to her not only would you be selfish and inconsiderate to cheat on her, but just knowing that is a chance, you play with her emotions and that is not right. Also...

Lesbian Life: I feel humiliated, soles of my feet, tickling girls
soles of my feet, tickling girls, girls feet: Hi Jennifer, I think you were right to react the way you did. It really is down to personal taste and if you don t feel comfortable doing something then you should tell your partner and you shouldn t be made to feel obliged to take part in activities in...

Lesbian Life: Does she feel the same way?, sexual orientation, look in her eyes
sexual orientation, look in her eyes, true way: Hi Judy, I can tell you anything but there is no true way of telling when someone likes you. Yes we all like to guess and sometimes we are right and sometimes we are wrong. Its like a hit or miss. The problem is that you don t know her sexual orientation....

Lesbian Life: feeling guilty...made my gf cry, new girlfriend, changing the subject
new girlfriend, changing the subject, loudmouth: Oh my dear, you ve dug yourself quite a hole, haven t you. For starters you need to know that you re not unique in that regard. Yes, it s incredibly embarrassing but many people have stuck their foot in their mouths. You could not have known her history and...

Lesbian Life: Does she have feelings for me?, one of my best friends, questionmarks
one of my best friends, questionmarks, tight hug: It does seem like she has feelings for you but only your friends can tell you for sure how they feel about it because I am not around her to see how she acts when she is around you. From everything that has been said i don t see why she would come back time...

Lesbian Life: am i a female, gender identity disorder, female underwear
gender identity disorder, female underwear, share clothes: Hi i dont understand. if you are having fantasies about a women why not just be the boy that you are and mess with them. So, you want to be a female to only mess with a female? Most gender disordered people that want to be females want to mess with a man....

Lesbian Life: just a few more questions.....if you don't mind., glasses, passion
glasses, passion, wine: I would say you already have your answer. You ve tried it and found it doesn t live up to your expectations. Having fantasies about sex with women doesn t mean you re gay or bi. Preferring sex with women would be the guide, I would think. Since that isn t...

Lesbian Life: I cannot fight it anymore.....I want her!, finger nails, smile on her face
finger nails, smile on her face, visual contact: Oh girl, believe me!! If I could tell some of these people what I really think?? LMFAO that would be some shit really it would. That girl just had no common sense when it came to a relationship. Who the hell would put someone they care about through that?...

Lesbian Life: How do I find like minded people to talk to?, online discussion groups, e groups
online discussion groups, e groups, terrible person: You re welcome to write me any time, Diane, so you never have to feel alone. However, there are several gay organizations in Alabama that you might be able to connect with. Check out these websites for specific information on larger centers: http://www.bayareainclusion.org/...

Lesbian Life: finding a girlfriend, finding a girlfriend, ex boyfriends
finding a girlfriend, ex boyfriends, few answers: Hi Courtney, thanks for coming back to me. Well, to be perfectly honest, the only thing holding you back from finding a woman is your own courage:) If this is something that you are seriously considering, then you need to make the first steps in finding...

Lesbian Life: finding out, time melissa, bisexual female
time melissa, bisexual female, pet names: Melissa, It seems immediately obvious to me that this woman is in fact gay. My sole advice to you is to tell her how you feel before she loses interest. It s best to get it all out in the open rather than wondering and not doing anything about it! Go get...

Lesbian Life: first-time Lesbian/ curious, emotional stress, ups and downs
emotional stress, ups and downs, male friends: Hi Allison, thanks for coming to me. Well, being a lesbian, means different things to a lot of women who are. For me, its about being with a woman, sexually and emotionally, and only wanting to be with women. That doesn t mean that i don t have any male...

Lesbian Life: first time, joy of lesbian sex, first lesbian experience
joy of lesbian sex, first lesbian experience, new woman: Yes, Ellen, everyone has a first time. Not only that but everyone starts from the same place. Sexual skill is, like most things, something one must learn. I understand that at 42 it seems ridiculous to be so naive but you needn t fear. It s my opinion that...

Lesbian Life: From flirting to relationships..., pride events, statuses
pride events, statuses, one girl: Some people are very flirtatious, some not at all. I do not know enough about the girl to be able to tell you that. Have you considered the fact that she may just be bisexual? I would think the only way to go about this is to be her friend, get to know...

Lesbian Life: Is she flirting with me?, sexual harrassment, red flags
sexual harrassment, red flags, sexual advances: Hi Katie, First of all, it is understandable that some of this attention gets your blood pumping and might make you feel good. However, I would really caution you to move very slowly and with a LOT of thinking, no matter what it feels like. IF your boss...

Lesbian Life: follow-up, near death experience, finishing school
near death experience, finishing school, grad school: Hi Cha, What I meant was that her family may be as much or more concerned that HER feelings towards you are more than friendship, and it scares them. It may be that they think they are protecting her from herself. That s how a LOT of families react when...

Lesbian Life: follow up to prior, san leandro california, san leandro ca
san leandro california, san leandro ca, hayward ca: Hi Kim! I DO have a grandbaby...in fact I have TWO!! Which is why I didn t answer sooner...I m sorry about that! Don t apologize Kim...this is a good and safe place to be able to get mad, do a bit of yelling and get it out. I won t take offense... ...

Lesbian Life: just some follow up questions, nervous anxiety, emotional intimacy
nervous anxiety, emotional intimacy, sexual aspect: Hello again, Rachel. Of course I remember you. I see you ve made some changes. I can answer your question definitively this time because I had to process that very same predicament myself. I can tell you that what I concluded, for myself, was that I was...

Lesbian Life: I found the right girl! Now what?, long distance relationship, first girlfriend
long distance relationship, first girlfriend, right girl: Hi ashley well all you can do is make the best of the situation. If she is away in school just try to keep in contact with her. There are many people that have long distance relationship. Maintaining the is the only problem. Im sure its sucks that your family...

Lesbian Life: Am I a fraud, first sexual experience, stable family
first sexual experience, stable family, gay women: Your story is remarkably common, my dear. Surprised? I d surmise about one in ten lesbians I ve ever met has been in your shoes. One of my best friends still is. You re unique only in that you are more conscious of the reality of it than most. So I ll answer...

Lesbian Life: just a freak scared of intimacy?!, pinksofa, discreet place
pinksofa, discreet place, modicum: hi Bex, Thanks for coming back:) Well, the easiest way to meet people in a comfortable setting is to find an online chat room. Www.pinksofa.co.nz has a chat room where you can meet other people. Otherwise it is a matter of looking on the internet for chat...

Lesbian Life: How do I let my friend know I'm interested?, kisses on the cheek, lesbian lifestyles
kisses on the cheek, lesbian lifestyles, casual conversations: I think you have both been sending some pretty good signals to each other...and it sounds like she would probably be up to making that first really big move. You haven t rejected anything from her yet, so my guess is she is going to be the one to move on...

Lesbian Life: i like a a friend who is a lesbian., barking up the wrong tree, straight girl
barking up the wrong tree, straight girl, louder than words: I see what you re saying. Unfortunately, there s really no way to convince her of your integrity other than to stand by your word. It will take time but if you have the patience to stick with it she will begin to believe you. Actions speak so much louder than...

Lesbian Life: the friend, old boyfriend, bridesmaids
old boyfriend, bridesmaids, couple of days: Hi Lauren Thanks for coming to me:) Im sorry for not responding sooner, and I hope that I can help you as best I can. There have been a few technical issues with the All experts server. You seem to be very aware of who you are, and that is something...

Lesbian Life: friendship or more, little puppy, thismorning
little puppy, thismorning, running game: Relax No matter what you tell me. Everything is what it is. See, when i offer advice i do not take sides, which makes it difficult for me. I try to look at every aspect of the situation. Meaning that there is a slight possiblity that she is only running...

Lesbian Life: frustrated/ confused.. in love possibly, atleast, ex boyfriends
atleast, ex boyfriends, good friend: I don t know what you are asking me but I will tell you that if she disrespects your feelings, she is not a friend. Also, she is straight and with everything you had said, she isn t interested in anything else than what it is right now, so try not to get your...

Lesbian Life: In future....?, true dedication, friendster
true dedication, friendster, prob: Hi Lyle...I think being casual means that if you wanted a sweet, you should take it, if you weren t in the mood for one, you shouldn t. I think you need to not over think every act and try to figure out what signal it sends...just treat her like you would...

Lesbian Life: Gay or not?, magnetic pull, strange question
magnetic pull, strange question, crowded room: I understand what you re describing, Helen. I don t know if there s a name for it and many have tried to define it but so far unsuccessfully. However, it is a common experience among lesbians, believe it or not. I had a similar experience myself. It was...

Lesbian Life: General, lesbian friends, inclinations
lesbian friends, inclinations, grrl: Greetings, You asked: ?At what age do you begin to discover your sexuality? I ?would think it would be around puberty because that s when ?hormones kick in. A: It is an individual thing. I ve heard some tell that they knew as early as 5yrs that...

Lesbian Life: GF wants to make out with someone else?, shadow of doubt, trust issues
shadow of doubt, trust issues, dark shadow: Hi Amanda, Kris does seem like she is trying to rush into this, and it could be for any of the reasons you came up with. They are all possible because of the time frame of her visit. I m going to be honest with you here. Kris is not taking your concerns...

Lesbian Life: GIRLFRIEND., few short lines, intercourse
few short lines, intercourse, girlfriend: Hi Zoey, It s hard to tell what the problem may be from those few short lines. Answer these to yourself, or reply back to me about them, and I ll get a better idea of what may be going on here. How old are you and your girlfriend? How long have you...

Lesbian Life: How do I get my Girfriend to fall in love with me again?, moon stage, honey moon
moon stage, honey moon, attention whore: Definitely you want to sit down and talk with her. Maybe she s not getting the hint when you explain how you feel about her. If you sit her down, tell her how you feel make sure you let her know that this time in your life you NEED the attention. Let her know...

Lesbian Life: Girlfriend still thinking about her ex, legitimate reasons, guts
legitimate reasons, guts, gf: Over reacting? I hardly think so. I would ve been livid to hear those words coming out of my girlfriends mouth. How can she say she loves you then turn around and contradict that statement with Yeah, probably. That makes no sense. She cannot have her cake...

Lesbian Life: Girlfriend left, lesbian relationship, trust issue
lesbian relationship, trust issue, big lie: Hi Donna, thanks for coming back to me. Easy answer, you need to get on with your own life, and get her out of it. Start focussing on yourself now ok? youve already stated that you other ex s dont treat you like she does, so why would you want her in...

Lesbian Life: Great marriage--terrible sex, chris pureka, perplexing situation
chris pureka, perplexing situation, logical solutions: I m sorry I can t offer you much help. If you re really happy with her it s up to you what you do. You can obviously either stick by her and continue trying hard to show her how to please and maybe one day she ll get the hint or just bite the bullet and leave....

Lesbian Life: am i gay?, physical relationship, unhappy marriage
physical relationship, unhappy marriage, hubbies: Hello LInda, Woah, it appears that you two have too much in common...your kids are friends? How did this happen? Well, I wouldn t come out and just say that you are gay. I like to give people the 3 time rule. However there are people that believe if you...

Lesbian Life: am i gay or not????????, feb19, cuzin
feb19, cuzin, thinking the same thing: Hi Brittany..thank you for writing to me. It sounds like this is really hard for you, and I am sorry that you are hurting. I would love to give you a cut and dried answer, but I don t have one. It sounds like you have a variety of things going on and...

Lesbian Life: have I always been gay?, abusive relationship, woman at work
abusive relationship, woman at work, happy couple: You re welcome, my dear. I m happy to help. It sounds to me like you ve got this all under control anyway. You must be a pretty down-to-earth person to be able to overcome the obstacles you ve faced. You ve got a good attitude. If I can be of help at all feel...

Lesbian Life: am i gay? or bi?, male teachers, karma sutra
male teachers, karma sutra, curiousity: Hi Rachel, Hey don t feel bad there are TONS of people in your situation that are confused. I think with sexuality being so open one can easily see their selves with a man or woman because it can happen. Years ago it wasn t like that...you either had to...

Lesbian Life: gay friend in love with me..., frindship, one of my best friends
frindship, one of my best friends, staying friends: Hi there Jill Thanks for the questions. Erm...this is pretty hard. I dont think that you would be hurting her if you stayed friends with her. Youve said that you told her you arent interested in her. Well thats a good thing. If she was really uncomfortable...

Lesbian Life: my gay friend, sexual feelings, sexual orientation
sexual feelings, sexual orientation, nightshirt: You should understand that asking this question of a lesbian is going to give you a very different answer than if you had asked a heterosexual but you asked me and I will answer. I believe that there is no problem so big or so complicated that it can t...

Lesbian Life: Am i gay? this is my story tell me what you think?, male swimmer, karma sutra
male swimmer, karma sutra, lesbian relationship: I don t mind you writing again at all. That s what I m here for. I m not sure what your questions actually are but I ll do my best. You re wondering why all of a sudden you would be aroused by that book? I can only tell you that it never occurred to me,...

Lesbian Life: Am I gay?, better sex life, life style
better sex life, life style, having sex: Hi Holly, thanks for coming to me:) Well, to me, it does just sound like you are curious at the moment. The only way you will know for sure is if you eventually end up having sex with a woman. Are you able to discuss this with your boyfriend without...

Lesbian Life: genatil's size, ethnic backgrounds
ethnic backgrounds: Well there is never a average size. There is difference in ethnic backgrounds but importantly how big your father is. The father has alot to do with the size of his son. Now a generaly average is about 6-7 inches but i have seen some with 8-12 inches. It varie...

Lesbian Life: My gf has been dealing with health issues..., new lease on life, adrenal glands
new lease on life, adrenal glands, type ii diabetes: Hi LJ, thanks for coming to me. I guess you need to ask yourself a serious question. Do you really want to be with this woman? Its a hard question to ask yourself, especially given all you have been through with her. It might seem like a selfish thought...

Lesbian Life: My gf doesn't trust me and accuses me of cheating all the time, stupid arguments, drunken night
stupid arguments, drunken night, gfs: You cannot expect to give her an ultimatum and expect that to go well at all. She obviously has had issues with past relationships so it is hard for her to trust others. Unless you have given her a reason not to trust you, she really shouldn t do that but...

Lesbian Life: a girl....., clue, feelings
clue, feelings, circumstances: Hi Amanda, I m not really too sure how to answer this one. It all depends on how well you know this girl. If you know her well enough to write her a letter then that sounds like a good idea. Maybe just keep it short explaining that you were a bit apprehensive...

Lesbian Life: There's this girl..., shy girl, password retrieval
shy girl, password retrieval, contemplation: Hey sorry it took me so long to answer, I lost my password and the password retrieval wasn t working. Anyways, I sort of know how you are feeling. When I was falling in love with my girlfriend, I had no idea if she was straight, bi or gay. Of course, I...

Lesbian Life: About a girl at work, good relationship, ropes
good relationship, ropes, friendship: Cheryl, Everyone has crushes and everyone finds other people attractive whether they are in a relationship or not. Just because you are in a relationship, it does not mean that you re feelings for others are put on hold. In this situation you have to do...

Lesbian Life: a girl..., clue, love
clue, love: Hello Amanda, Now, how can i help you when you told me absolutely nothing abou this girl? lol. Like do you work with her...how did you meet her. I think when we dont know a person, the best thing to do is to get to know a person. Become a friend. Its very...

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend, many men, threesomes
many men, threesomes, doubts: Hi Bebel glad you came back. Unfortunately, there isnt a way you can keep her to yourself. If this relationship is meant to be, then she will make that choice to stay on her own, you cant force her to do so. If she truly wants to be with you, she will....

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend, experament, lesbian friends
experament, lesbian friends, bit of fun: Hi Jesse, thanks for coming to me:) From what you have said to me, it would seem that she doesnt quite know what she wants. And in all honesty, you would be better off not being with her right now. The fact that she is trying to hook up with her ex while...

Lesbian Life: girlfriend, first timers, 5 months
first timers, 5 months, awsome: Erica, you keep coming back to me because im awesome....lol. Well since you erase our previous conversation, I have no idea who you are? No offense but I get alot of emails a day. If you write me everyday its one thing but if its 1 wk here and 1 wk here,...

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend, mixed emotions, tracie
mixed emotions, tracie, denial: Hi Tracie, In order to help you out, I need a bit more information. How was the relationship before things went bad? What is she doing that tells you that things are wrong? Has she been with women before? What is the relationship like now? It s hard...

Lesbian Life: me and my girlfriend, having a bad day, wonderful women
having a bad day, wonderful women, sounding board: Hi Rose, thanks for coming back to me. Well, there isnt much else i can think of to add really. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stick to your guns and try and sort yourself out first. By the sounds of things, she is hoping you are going...

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend has a crush on co-worker...., sexual fantasies, benefit of the doubt
sexual fantasies, benefit of the doubt, point hope: I don t think you should drop it completely, however I wouldn t get too involved in it at this point either. We all have fantasies whether be with real or fictional people so I wouldn t be overly concerned about it just yet, however if you see something...

Lesbian Life: girlfriend/ex-husband, real jerk, divorce papers
real jerk, divorce papers, personal issues: Hi Holly, I read through your letter very carefully yesterday, but waited until this morning to write my answer. I didn t want to hurry through it, I wanted to really talk to you. Let s start with the very last thing you say in your letter (you also talk...

Lesbian Life: Could a girlfriend fancy me, living in a dream world, sperm banks
living in a dream world, sperm banks, lesbian affair: Hi, It doesn t seem obvious from what you ve told me that this girl fancies you. I think if she did she would not be so forward. Perhaps it s best to keep working on it and become closer to her and her friends to see what you can find out. I think this...

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend left me to be a lesbian, having a laugh, sexual thoughts
having a laugh, sexual thoughts, girly girl: You don t hate her and still cling to hope because you don t understand why she s behaving this way. If this was something you saw coming or could understand in some way you d be happy being angry and that would be that. I can t sort it out for you, Darren,...

Lesbian Life: My girlfriend came out to her parents, gays and lesbians, gay soul
gays and lesbians, gay soul, relationshop: Hi Leyna, My heart just ached as I read this. I m sorry the two of you are going through this...and I hope that I can help even a little. I can try to give you a full perspective that may not take away the pain of their reaction, but it might help both...

Lesbian Life: My girlfriend recently proposed..., wonderful news, fiancee
wonderful news, fiancee, lambda: Juanita, First let me offer my sincere congratulations! That is wonderful news. Now, about Atlanta... Yes it is true. Here is the URL that you can go check it out at: http://www.lambdalegal.org/cgi-bin/pages/states/record?record=10 This lists...

Lesbian Life: my girlfriend, sexuallity, sexual interests
sexuallity, sexual interests, girlfriend: Hi Quinn, thanks for the questions;) Well firstly, its really cool that you are willing to help your girlfriend;)) Talking to her and finding out from her exactly what she wants to try, is a good start. Let her know how you feel, and tell her that...

Lesbian Life: my girlfriends former best friend sucks, wingman, sports team
wingman, sports team, insults: Hi Julie, thanks for coming to me. Sorry for not responding quicker, but life has a habit of catching up sometimes;) Firstly, I dont think you should have to put up with insults and someone being mean. Its not right. If your girlfriend cant see that...

Lesbian Life: girls, straight girls, sure what your question
straight girls, sure what your question, girlfriend: Hi, I m not so sure what your question is... But it s okay to like to look at girls. That doesn t necessarily mean you are a lesbian. Even straight girls can appreciate the beauty of the female body. If you think it s something more than that though, that...

Lesbian Life: great sex, facial expressions, easy sex
facial expressions, easy sex, womens sex: Hi Tabby, thanks for coming to me:) I would like to send you to a website: www.the-clitoris.com This website is a fantastic informative website, all about womens sexual health, and womens sex. Have a read. It might help you out;) As for popping...

Lesbian Life: Hate crimes based on sexual orientation, tg butch, national gay and lesbian task force
tg butch, national gay and lesbian task force, gay and lesbian task force: Hi Cassandra, Go to: http://www.hrc.org and contact them. They track hate crimes and should be able to provide you with some information. Another resource would be the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Their url is: http://www.ngltf.org/ ...

Lesbian Life: HELP, deep breaths, good friend
deep breaths, good friend, few days: Hi Brandon, thanks for coming to me. First off, take a couple of deep breaths and try to relax! I can completely understand that you are scared, and I wish there was something I could say to make it easier for you. Before I suggest anything, I need...

Lesbian Life: Hello!I am 34 years old..., expiriance, lsbian
expiriance, lsbian, time out: Hi Elizabeth, thanks for the questions. Well, this is a hard one to answer. Ultimately, you need to do what is right for yourself. If you stay with your husband for the wrong reasons, he will end up resenting you even more. You might need to consider...

Lesbian Life: Hello!This is rather embarrasing,..., gay woman, hygene
gay woman, hygene, guidence: Hiya Becky, thanks for the question:)) Ok, firstly, its not embarrasing so dont worry about it;) Im normally pretty cautious when it comes to answering these sorts of questions, as more often than not it tends to be young guys just wanting a quick thrill!...

Lesbian Life: Hello, lesbian cause, honset
lesbian cause, honset, rural home: I m so sorry this is such a difficult situation. The only thing I can tell you to do is to be honset with Amber, tell her how you feel and tell her the truth. If she means this much to you, you should do everything you can to get her back, at least that s...

Lesbian Life: Help..., sholders, typical conversation
sholders, typical conversation, signals: Hi Kristy, Well, there is no way of telling if someone is gay...I mean there are signals but you can t just going around judging people. If she hasn t told you otherwise I would assume or try to assume. Also some people are just touchy like that. Of course...

Lesbian Life: Help with the ex.., insufficient evidence, credit bureaus
insufficient evidence, credit bureaus, five months: I m going to lay it out for you, Marie. Yes, she is playing with you, yes she only wants you around in between relationships and yes she will keep coming back and messing with your head as long as you keep jumping at the bait. You already know this is the...

Lesbian Life: Help! Im married and know i am a lebian, im too scared to leave, friend sarah, lebian
friend sarah, lebian, christian friends: Hi Kirstie, thanks for writing to me...I am so sorry for what you have gone through, what you are going through now. One of the saddest things about so many church s pray the gay away stand is that they are encouraging gays to marry straights, and then...

Lesbian Life: Help a newbie to the lesbian lifestyle, lesbian lifestyle, girls club
lesbian lifestyle, girls club, having a blast: Hi Anne Gee interesting story. You did a lot for someone that is just starting out. Congrats. This is going to be hard to call. Since you erased her number from the cell, the only way u can talk to her if you wait for her to call or go and check your bill...

Lesbian Life: Help!, sick to my stomach, heart races
sick to my stomach, heart races, gay thing: Hi again Rachel...it s fine, you can write as many times as you like--as many times as it takes to work through this. Let s start with the guy you liked. Yes, that is very normal to like him a lot and then when he likes you suddenly not like him as much....

Lesbian Life: Hey vicky,Here are the..., male friend, support person
male friend, support person, safe way: Hi Alison, thanks for coming back:) Well, if experimenting with a woman is something you want to persue, it is my humble opinion that you should at least try. In saying that though, even though you have mixed thoughts about your male friend, it might be...

Lesbian Life: Hey there, whiner, seperation
whiner, seperation, correspondance: Hi Kim, I would say that it is definitely a possibility, and it is also just possible that this girlfriend is just not where she needs to be to have a good and healthy and mutually beneficial relationship. You know, I was thinking about what you asked about...

Lesbian Life: Hi,Here's my dilemma...., minded community, gaydar
minded community, gaydar, acurate: Hi Brandy, thanks for the question:) Well, sometimes its much better to be honest than not. Perhaps you could just ask your friend if she/he could tell the woman that a female friend is interested in her? Or if thats too much...just asking her might...

Lesbian Life: Hi Vicky,Thanks for replying..., pride center, lesbian clubs
pride center, lesbian clubs, sex type: Hi Alison, thanks for getting back to me:) As I dont know much about where you are situated, ive done a wee search using Google to see if there are any places you can go to locally. Pride Center of New Jersey (in New Brunswick) (908) 846-2232 Northern...

Lesbian Life: Homosexuality, abnormal behavior, logical sense
abnormal behavior, logical sense, thousandths: Hi WIlliam I must say that you have very interesting questions. Personally I think no ones knows the answers. One can t bring up the claim of moral because God did not write the bible. The bible was written by rulers that saw the world they wanted it to...

Lesbian Life: Homosexuality, time sandra, judgement day
time sandra, judgement day, bible question: Hi Sandra, thank you for the questions:)) Firstly, I am presuming you are in the States, and i need to say that im not;)) But i will try and answer you questions as best i can. Id like to start with the Bible question. When someone quotes things from...

Lesbian Life: should i hang in there, honeymoon stage, trust issues
honeymoon stage, trust issues, new girl: You already know the answer to your questions, Gia, but I will try to explain the why. The dynamic between you was obviously destructive and resulted in the eventual break up. However, residual feelings don t leave so easily. Issues between partners aren...

Lesbian Life: i heard that its impossible..., sexes, side of the fence
sexes, side of the fence: Hi Juanita. Well there people that believe in both. I think its possible to be bisexual, however i feel like the individual needs to pick which side of the fence that they wish to be on. Because you can easily play with an individuals mind. One week you...

Lesbian Life: help, lesbian relationship, lesbian relationships
lesbian relationship, lesbian relationships, relationship work: Hi Rachel, You will have to communicate. If she likes you she will understand. We all been at our first steps and we all wanted someone understanding. So you will have to say something to her. And I m sure she knows if she knows that this haven t been with...

Lesbian Life: help, friends with benifits, confustion
friends with benifits, confustion, best thing in my life: Hi Stacy, thanks for getting back to me. Well, in all honesty, i think you should seriously consider moving on with your life. I agree with my colleague. This person just wants to be able to have sex with whoever she pleases whenever she pleases. Think...

Lesbian Life: help, short haircuts, ill look
short haircuts, ill look, gaydar: Hi Kim, Well you can either straight out ask your father if he received the email, or you can try again. His gf could be a problem though. You need to find a way to get it to him that she wouldn t have access to. Does he have a work email? Are you sure...

Lesbian Life: help, kiss girls, straight girl
kiss girls, straight girl, distinct categories: Hey there, first of all your best friend is dumb. Not to be mean, but she cannot tell you that you are not bi. She doesn t know who you re attracted to so she CANNOT tell you how to identify yourself. It s a personal identity and only you have the right...

Lesbian Life: help am i bi or gay???, lifechoice, womens bodies
lifechoice, womens bodies, penises: See, its harding the Am i gay or lesbian question because only YOU have that answer. Yes a person can be a lesbian but find faces of the opposite sex attractive..I think right now you are curious...really bi-curious and leaning towards a lesbian but you...

Lesbian Life: Do I help her more by leaving her alone?, adult life, s young
adult life, s young, life experience: Hi Marcia...thanks for writing to me... and I have begged her not to end up like so many women who end up married with children and twenty years later they divorce because they never stopped loving the woman they ran from. Wow...did that one ever...

Lesbian Life: help newbie to the lesbian lifestyle, lesbian lifestyle, girls club
lesbian lifestyle, girls club, having a blast: Hi Anne, thanks for the question:) Well, from what you have written, in my humble opinion, i dont think she is as interested as she made out in the beginning. If she was keen to get to know you, i think she would have returned your calls or at least made...

Lesbian Life: am i or not help please, breaste, sex with a man
breaste, sex with a man, better than sex: hi there, thanks for the question:) Well, to be honest, the only way you will know for sure, is if you actually go out with a woman. Youve stated that you fantasize about being with a woman sexually, and that you find women very attractive. To me this means...

Lesbian Life: help with a less sexual girlfriend?, dominance submission, gentle persuasion
dominance submission, gentle persuasion, self esteem issues: Hi Janine, thanks for coming back:) I dont think you are doomed! I think though, that this sort of thing takes a bit of time:) There is no way to make her trust you or gain confidence quickly. There are a couple of things i can suggest, and the first...

Lesbian Life: help me turn her head again, romantic gestures, hectic lifestyle
romantic gestures, hectic lifestyle, bedro: Hi Candy, Being in a relationship rut is something that happens in most relationships, and if you re willing to put in the effort to get out of it, there could be some very good fun coming up for you in the future! To start, is there a lot of small,...

Lesbian Life: help! I am turning into a geeky teen boy!, lesbian bars, uncharted waters
lesbian bars, uncharted waters, tomboy: Hi Astrid, You were cool and confident, and then you realized that maybe you re into girls. This can make someone nervous around women because you realize that this is what you really want, and you don t want to screw that up. It doesn t matter if you re...

Lesbian Life: It would help, adult organization, parents friends
adult organization, parents friends, lesbians: Hi Alyson, I have several urls for you to check out: http://www.gayteens.org/ http://www.outproud.org/ http://www.queeryouth.org.uk/ http://gaystudentcenter.student.com/ http://www.queerfuture.com/ This one is not peer oriented. It s...

Lesbian Life: hey, little bitch, gina kim
little bitch, gina kim, punching bag: I LOVE THAT SONG!! I absolutely LOVE Pink!! Good song, great idea, and yes, you are alive still, and you are Kim. Not a punching bag. :) I have to run, but I will be thinking of you the whole time you are gone...you and your daughter. I hope it...

Lesbian Life: hey, paraclete, bull shit
paraclete, bull shit, piece of shit: Actually Kim, human beings are the ones who say that we all pay for our imperfections. The Hebrew adjective for Jesus was Paraclete which means comforter . In Matthew, Jesus said Blessed are those who mourn (or cry now) for they shall be comforted. ...

Lesbian Life: hey Jen, dumb things, older lady
dumb things, older lady, constraints: Hi Mandy, Well it sounds like she might be into you. We all say really, really dumb things when we are drunk, and sometimes they reveal what we really want because we have no constraints on us. Also, she keeps taking you out. Does she try and pay for...

Lesbian Life: hey, school counselor, mom and dad
school counselor, mom and dad, glbt community: Thanks for writing again, Rose. I m curious how your aunt and your friends reacted. Are they supportive? Have you looked at some of the information I gave you last time? Have you told your parents yet? If not, do you have a plan with a backup? I don t know...

Lesbian Life: hi again!, inconvenience, girlfriend
inconvenience, girlfriend, christina: Hey, sorry I didn t mean to be rude or anything. I probably just got confused earlier. I don t think it means that she doesn t love you. How old are you and your girlfriend? She is probably just scared. Has she been with a girl before? It can be really...

Lesbian Life: hi, girly, parents
girly, parents, brother: Hi Jen, I wouldn t try to convince them just tell them and leave it like that. ITs not good but some parents always judge their kids by who they hang out with. ANd since your brother is gay they are probaly trying to make sure you are not. So, I would just...

Lesbian Life: hi again, few good friends, anxiety attacks
few good friends, anxiety attacks, social aspect: Hi Alison, thanks for coming back to me:) Im not entirely sure what you are after here, so if you could try and get some questions to me, that would be great:) I understand though, that you appear to be having a few issues trying to tell your parents...

Lesbian Life: hmm, soft butch, showing cleavage
soft butch, showing cleavage, stone butch: That s because it all feels so backwards for you right now, even though you are moving forward in ways that even I am surprised at. You won t be able to detect the progress you are making until you are farther down the road, but you are making progress Kim....

Lesbian Life: homophobic lesbian???, homosexuality, having sex
homosexuality, having sex, sexuality: Hi Lillian, thanks for getting back to me. Sorry to hear that you dont have a supportive family, heres hoping that they come around over time. i think, according to what you have said, that you are just lacking some confidence in yourself. Being out...

Lesbian Life: Is honesty the best policy??, religious tv, public arena
religious tv, public arena, catholic diocese: Hi Mary C, It appears that you are going through what alot of young adults go through. There are many support groups out there. First check your phone book and also online. You will find an outlet there. Getting your mother to believe you will not be easy...

Lesbian Life: just something i was hoping you can help me with, boy friend, couple times
boy friend, couple times, fun things: Dear Kaye, Wow this is a tough situation. You are right about why this girl will feel nervous being with you. I know love can never wait, but it might be easier for you, and her if she didn t have a boy friend. when she doesn t have a boy friend any longer...

Lesbian Life: horrible visit to the, men face, wetness
men face, wetness, gyn: Hi Allison, well its perfectly normal for you to get aroused when seeing the doctor. HOwever they do use lubrication while they are down there so maybe that was part of your wetness . Also deep inside the vagina is always somewhat wet... It doesn t make...

Lesbian Life: IM CONFUSED, infatuation, new job
infatuation, new job, having sex: Dear Jenii, No, this does not mean that you are Gay. Most women experience some sort of attraction to another female at one time or another. Some women have an experience with another woman and never return to it and some continue to live the lifestyle....

Lesbian Life: IM SCARED OF THIS NEW FELLING ...., long distance relationships, beatifull
long distance relationships, beatifull, gurls: Dear Lis, Discuss with this woman the situation you had before with your old gf. Tell her you feel uncomfortable moving that distance. Maybe you could suggest to her that she could move in with you. If she is not happy with this situation both of you pick...

Lesbian Life: IMP - please suggest, little fishy, duaghter
little fishy, duaghter, sticky situation: So long as you have made it perfectly clear how you feel about it and she still continues to do the opposite, I would end it. There is no reason to stay in a relationship if the other person cannot work with you rather than against you. I wish you the best...

Lesbian Life: Im getting mixed signals from a 'straight' woman, lesbian cause, blah blah
lesbian cause, blah blah, good feelings: The only thing I can tell you is that she is confused about her feelings. You know as well as I do when we first started getting these feelings, our head were going crazy! Not knowing how to deal with these feelings, if they were real and if they would last....

Lesbian Life: Infatuated with a much older woman, age gap, room mate
age gap, room mate, flirtation: Well this is an interesting situation. My first response to the age thing would be it is just a number it doesn t measure the quality of a person. But as I read on I noticed the comment you made of having to offer her something. You have you to offer. That...

Lesbian Life: Interest, head person, personal touch
head person, personal touch, beet: Hi Chris, thanks for coming to me. Well, unfortunatley, because i cannot see exactly what goes on, its difficult for me to base an opinion. From what youve said, it could be that she is interested in you, OR, it could simply be that she is being friendly....

Lesbian Life: Internet Chat, tg butch, cock size
tg butch, cock size, network with others: Kevin, There are various venues that you can check out. First is the chatroom at gay.com. Then you can download an IRC client and visit the various chatrooms available. There are too many to list but to say the least out of the thousands out there in...

Lesbian Life: Intimacy issues, intimacy issues, straight forward answer
intimacy issues, straight forward answer, stress at work: Hi April, thanks for coming back:) Thank you for answering my questions. Based on your replies, unfortunately, i see one definite outcome.This however, is just my opinion though ok? Ive read and re read your responses and what you added towards the...

Lesbian Life: Intimacy?, going all the way, orgasms
going all the way, orgasms, intimacy: Hi CC, thanks for coming to me. Best advice i can give you is to go to the following website, just copy and paste into your browser. www.the-clitoris.com It is NOT a porn site. It is a site all about womens issues and health and orgasms and just general...

Lesbian Life: Involved with an older woman, computer programming student, living in sydney australia
computer programming student, living in sydney australia, living in sydney: Hi Rosemary, I will do my best to answer your questions. Even though I have a degree in psychology I dont use it to give advice. I go on personal experiences and actually how I would handle a certain situation. So, I think there is too much things going...

Lesbian Life: no idea whether she likes me, cheeky smile, awkward position
cheeky smile, awkward position, sugar coat: I apologize if my answer wasn t good enough for you or I was not polite enough. I am here to tell you the truth about things you may or may not see. I don t sugar coat things nor do I lie to protect anyone s feeling...

Lesbian Life: im a dirrty lesbian, right decision, lara
right decision, lara: Hi Well whether or not you can do it or not is up to you. No one can answer that question but your self. YOu sound a little harsh on your self especially saying taht you are a diirty lesbian. Being a lesbian is not dirty. You just have to make sure that...

Lesbian Life: im in LOVE with one of my friends and i dont know what to do, extreme feelings, physical feelings
extreme feelings, physical feelings, emotional feelings: First thing I must ask you, have you ever told her how you felt? Before or after the changes in her personality? Do you know how she feels about homosexuality now? Have the two of you ever been intimate in any way, shape or form? I ask these questions because...

Lesbian Life: im a lesbian, two girls, lesbians
two girls, lesbians, good luck: Hi nikki The only place that i heard of is Porn Boulevard...i dont know the website but if you go to google or another search engine, you should be able to find it. There really isn t anything for free these days. However this site has many clips of just...

Lesbian Life: im scared and confused, religious upbringing, unavoidable pain
religious upbringing, unavoidable pain, exhusband: Hi Wanda, thanks for writing to me and no, you haven t confused me...it all sounds far too familiar because yes, I do know what it is like to live a double life. I didn t actually have a relationship while I was still with my exhusband, but for 20 years I...

Lesbian Life: impatient/unrequited?, nonverbal cues, ebb and flow
nonverbal cues, ebb and flow, physical attraction: Hmm, Well it appears that she is running some kind of game. One minute she is not waiting for this girl and next minute she is. I mean I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt and say that she is confused but damn it doesn t take 10 years. And like...

Lesbian Life: impending long distance ruining our new relationship, having a great time, impending move
having a great time, impending move, quality time: Well, Carly, you re not going to like what I have to say about this. Given that you ve been dating for such a short time, both of your insecurity issues and the distance involved I d say your chances of sustaining a relationship over three years are pretty...

Lesbian Life: iono if im gay or not, giving oral sex, intrusive thoughts
giving oral sex, intrusive thoughts, sexual orientation: Not at all, Dan. Oral sex is not something that every person enjoys--either giving or receiving. Again, as before, I would be the last person to tell someone else You are gay or You are not gay. But I think we have to look objectively, whenever possible,...

Lesbian Life: Jealousy, jealous type, rest of my life
jealous type, rest of my life, close friends: Hi Sam, thanks for coming to me:) To be honest, the only thing you can do, is to keep on reassuring her. It might take some time, but eventually she will be ok:) You see, you cant just ignore your friends for her. We all need other people to talk to...

Lesbian Life: Jealousy, male female relationships, male friends
male female relationships, male friends, loving caring: I m sorry to have to tell you this but you CAN T make her trust you. This is a difficult situation and one that can end very badly. It is she who must come to terms with her jealousy or it will ruin you both. Over time you will begin to withdraw from others...

Lesbian Life: keeping a friendship after I came out, devan, infatuation
devan, infatuation, time and space: You re a smart young woman, Devan, and you ve got a good head on your shoulders. I m sure you re capable of dealing with this situation with grace and charm. I suggest you sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that you ve noticed this behavior and it s making...

Lesbian Life: kissing, amazing kiss, cud
amazing kiss, cud, tounge: Hi, Well, I have to say that I have never had a kiss that involved the flicking of tongues. I like to think of kissing as something that should be slow, sensual, and passionate. When I think of kissing involving the word flicking it just makes me a bit...

Lesbian Life: when will I know?, hipocrit, lesbian scenes
hipocrit, lesbian scenes, sexualities: Hi Carolina, Some peopoe need to experience to sex to know while others don t. I dont think one needs to have sex with the same sex to know if they are bi but it can help. The experience does nothing but seal the decision for you. Well alot of lesbians...

Lesbian Life: How do I let them know?, lesbian symbols, rainbow flags
lesbian symbols, rainbow flags, lesbian event: Excellent question, Lynn. I understand your dilemma since my partner appears to be a straight woman too. She is happy to tell anyone and everyone and gets kicks from seeing the consternation she creates, though. Not many people have the confidence and courage...

Lesbian Life: How do I know my girl friend likes me, girl friend, formulae
girl friend, formulae, shannon: Hi Shannon, I m not sure there s a standard answer for this question. It depends on the people involved. The best thing to do is to try to talk to her more, and get to know her. That s all I can suggest I m afraid as there s no formulae or rules to apply...

Lesbian Life: How to let her know I'm Interested?, suggestive comments, combination of the two
suggestive comments, combination of the two, special interest: You can start by casually striking up a conversation with her. Ask about her class schedule, what courses she s taking or whatever else you may have in common. Take every opportunity you can get to chat with her. Then ask her to join you for a coffee in some...

Lesbian Life: I know that I'm a lesbian..., grown men, hard time
grown men, hard time, sexuality: Wow interesting. Girl believe me you are not alone. Being Gay is not a choice. Its not like we just wake up and say hey, this is what I will be today. We are born this way. And no matter how hard your friends try to fight it, it will always come back to...

Lesbian Life: I know it is time!, relationship material, setting time
relationship material, setting time, grieving process: Hey alexander...thanks for writing and thank you for the compliment. Most of what I do is kinda confirm what people already know deep down. They just need a sounding board, and I am glad I can be here to do that. Yes, what you are saying makes perfect...

Lesbian Life: How to let her know..., first woman, chicks
first woman, chicks, drinks: wow, you have chicks touching your under the table...go you. well, with any action there will be a consequence and as long as you are AWARE of them, you can make that decision to mess with this girl. I must tell you that everything isn t always what it looks...

Lesbian Life: knowing you're a lesbian, female homosexuality, lesbian experience
female homosexuality, lesbian experience, britannica online: That s a very good question, Christina. I remember the first time I met a woman who told me she d never been with a woman but she was certain she was a lesbian. I scoffed at the idea that she could possibly know without ever having had a lesbian experience....

Lesbian Life: Labels!, smile on her face, time in the world
smile on her face, time in the world, girlfriend: Hi Marie, Well, don t worry alot of people go through that. At the end of the day, its all about being real with your self and knowing what you want and don t want. It could be simply that you don t like going by labels. I hate being referred to as a lesbian...

Lesbian Life: LESBIAN DESIRES, lesbian desires, hook ups
lesbian desires, hook ups, womanline: Hi Sarah, Are you just looking for a hook-up? If so, you have many options. The first (depending on where you live) would be to go to a lesbian bar. There will be many single ladies around, but it s not really the place to go if you are shy. The...

Lesbian Life: AM I A LESBIAN?...., special feelings, friend ashley
special feelings, friend ashley, warm feelings: Hi kali, I m sorry but you are too young for me to go into great details. So don t get mad if my answer is very general. I like to help all people but some time ago I gave someone that was young, some advice and it backfired on me. Anyway, Just know what...

Lesbian Life: LEZ ALL THE WAY, rcfm, 2 girls
rcfm, 2 girls, straight girls: Hi... Well, 2 girls can have sex believe it or not. There s masturbation, penetration of fingers, hands, sex-toys. There s oral sex, there s anal sex, there s tons of sex toys...there s strap-ons... there s tons of things. Use your imagination. And as...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian, woman 3, woman 2
woman 3, woman 2, history teacher: Hi Alison, thanks for coming to me:) Well, i need to ask you a few questions firstly, so i would appreciate it if you would come back ok? 1. Do you think about being with women all the time, or do you only think about being with a specific woman. ...

Lesbian Life: Am I a Lesbian?, sick to my stomach, intimate relationship
sick to my stomach, intimate relationship, having some sort: Hi Jenn, thanks for coming to me. The most important thing in anyones life, is to be happy. How we choose to do this, is up to us:) There is no way we can make our families understand what makes us happy, especially if it is different to what they perceive...

Lesbian Life: Am I a Lesbian?, sensitive areas, atleast
sensitive areas, atleast, 17 years: Hi Anne, I hope you realize that its hard (atleast for me) to judge a book by its cover. I simply just cannot say you are gya because you never been with a boy or girl because that doesn t make you gay. You are young and alot of times you don t have to necessarily...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian..., physical intimacy, question pool
physical intimacy, question pool, mid 20: Hi, this whole question pool thing is a new one to me, so I hope that some other people have jumped in and given you their perspectives. You bring up quite a few complicated issues, so it is going to be tough to come up with a quick and simple answer....

Lesbian Life: Lesbian now what, pre nup, sure what your question
pre nup, sure what your question, sex with men: I m not sure what your question is, Tina, but right away I would suggest you connect with your local lesbian community. It s important that you normalize your feelings and you may also need the support of the community in coming out. I would also suggest...

Lesbian Life: AM I a Lesbian ?, sexual orientation, female friend
sexual orientation, female friend, sexual life: Hi Anjali, A relationship with no sex for 5 years... Anyway, You are suffering from, what most of us go through. Most of us commit suicide over this because it s a crazy battle. There is no one answer as to how to deal with this. I think you need to...

Lesbian Life: Am I a Lesbian?, 4th wedding anniversary, great relationship
4th wedding anniversary, great relationship, sexual relationships: Dear Renee, I can understand why you love your husband so much. He seems very understanding about this situation. You are in a tough situation. I have something that might work though. Many of my other questioners have wanted to have a threesome with a...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian "how to", use your imagination, writing notes
use your imagination, writing notes, sone: I don t know if there s any definitive way to tell if someone is interested in sex with you, Amanda, but there are definitive ways to find out. Writing notes as you ve done is one way. Coming right out and telling her you re interested and asking if she is...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian Drama, lesbian relationship, glori
lesbian relationship, glori, anyhting: Yes, April, I have seen this kind of thing all too often. It s about as unhealthy a dynamic as it s possible to have. I can tell you that she s transferring her own behavior patterns onto you - blaming you for things she s doing herself. It s a way to deflect...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian dating, fictional story, man and a woman
fictional story, man and a woman, inferences: Hi Michelle, thanks for the question:) To be perfectly honest, if two lesbians go on a date, its exactly the same as a man and a woman going on a date. the only difference is that there are two women.... The feelings are the same, anxiety, excitement...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian daughter's relationship, gay relationship, gay relationships
gay relationship, gay relationships, lesbian daughter: Thanks for letting me know, and I had a feeling you would find the right words. Your daughter and her partner are very blessed women, and it will be a huge support in their relationship to know they have you in their corner. I know a young woman in her twenties...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian Falling In love with straight best friend, hopeless cause, sad situation
hopeless cause, sad situation, sexuality: Hey I m really sorry, this is a really hard and sad situation. If she s straight, then she just doesn t like girls...it s not your fault or anything, but she can t help being straight, just like you can t help being gay. I m sure you want to keep her as...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian girlfriend married man, niece and nephew, lack of confidence
niece and nephew, lack of confidence, people pleaser: Hi Maggie...maybe we need a slightly different perspective on this situation than the one you ve had. Years ago I would have been the one called a people pleaser --someone who would go to any lengths to make other people happy, even if it meant losing my...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian (Some) Hostility To Males Generally:, heterosexual males, lesbian females
heterosexual males, lesbian females, homosexual male: TO Jalmillerjr, As I write your response, me and my lesbos sisters are getting ready to kidnap some virile, sensitive young male, beat him, rape him with a plunger, then have sex with his girlfriend, sound fun (sarcasm implied)...I can understand...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian parents, lambda legal, legal paperwork
lambda legal, legal paperwork, parent adoption: Hi Amanda, it s good you are finding all this stuff out now, instead of after you have the baby. You would be surprised how many people go the other way around. Here are some sites that have good information: http://www.thetaskforce.org/activist_center/act_locally/North_Carolina...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian question, lesban, straight girls
lesban, straight girls, momma: Hi Well first you have to do this for the right reasons. Discover why you want to do this. Its not something to play with and the person you would like to do it with, will want something more than a try out. Finding a woman is very easy because almost everyone...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian Reproduction, marie mcinerney, female parents
marie mcinerney, female parents, two females: Dear LeiAnn, I have heard of the research. And came up with this resource for you. It was done by using the PlanetOut.com news search for reproduction : New research promises babies with no father Marie McInerney, Reuters Wednesday, July 11, 2001...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian relationship with 9 yr age difference, couples counseling, age gap
couples counseling, age gap, lesbian relationship: I m not sure what exactly you re asking, Tina. Do you have a specific question? I have already addressed the age difference issue in previous answers but I will reiterate what I think for you. Age differences are irrelevant in relationships unless you...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian relationship dilema #2!, lesbian relationship, lifestyle issues
lesbian relationship, lifestyle issues, depth details: Hi Suli, If you truly do want to be with her, I say go for it! As you mentioned, you said Rosi fears she is disrespecting your ex. Does your ex know about the feelings between you and Rosi? Sit down with Rosi and discuss the whole situation, and ask...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian relationship dilema!, maturity level, age gap
maturity level, age gap, lesbian relationship: Hi Suli, Can you make big age gaps work? Yes, but I want to let you know right now that it s not going to be easy because you are so young. Age gaps get more socially acceptable the older we get, so the fact that you re 19 might bring on criticism from...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian sex/relationship/sex drives, lesbian relationship, sex relationship
lesbian relationship, sex relationship, relationship issues: Sex is one of the prime relationship issues whether you re lesbian or straight. It can make or break a couple. It sounds like you two have talked about this but not found any resolution to the problem. Although I applaud your willingness to even speak...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian sister, single parent home, lesbian lifestyle
single parent home, lesbian lifestyle, lesbian sister: Hi Courtney, thanks for coming to me. Well you are right, your sister is certainly a grown up now, but it doesnt appear that she is acting accordingly. The fact that they are open with each other regarding affection takes some getting used to, but, if...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian vs. Bi, straight females, sexual orientation
straight females, sexual orientation, male friends: Hi Emily, thanks for the questions:) well, unfortunately, i cant speak for all lesbians because we all think differently. Some lesbians dont like anything about men at all, some want to be men, and some just dont care at all. The thing is, for a lot...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian vs. Bi, straight females, fancy women
straight females, fancy women, sexual preference: Emily, There s no need to put yourself into a category. Being gay or bisexual is all about sexual preference. If you feel you fancy women then that s fine. If you also find men attractive then there s equally nothing wrong with that. Try going to a...

Lesbian Life: Lesbian, sleep 2, sexual preference
sleep 2, sexual preference, experimental phase: Hi Debra, thanks for the questions:) Just like with life, there isnt a test you can take to see where you are going to go, or how you are going to end up, or even what your sexual preference is going to be. If it were that simple, sometimes i wish it was!,...

Lesbian Life: Lesbians and Virginity, sexual fantasies, things take time
sexual fantasies, things take time, hymen: Hi Lily, thanks for coming to me:) I have the perfect place to send you, just copy and paste into your browser:) www.the-clitoris.com This is NOT a porn site ok? It is a site all about women, womens sexual health, sexual fantasies, all things woman!...

Lesbian Life: Lifelong lesbian falling in love with my straight best friend, plessure, legs and feet
plessure, legs and feet, girl side: My honest opinion is to leave it alone. If she ever wants something you will know. But trying not to lose her as a best friend should be the most important thing to you. Stop crossing boudaries you wouldn t normally cross with someone you have absolutely...

Lesbian Life: Living in a str8 marriage, unhappy relationship, granddaughter
unhappy relationship, granddaughter, 22 years: Hi Heather, Sorry for the late reply, I ve just moved and so had to wait for the internet to be reconnected! I hope things haven t all gone wrong. I would advise you to do what you want to do. It seems you ve been in an unhappy relationship all these...

Lesbian Life: LOTS older than me..., teacher student relationship, emotional maturity
teacher student relationship, emotional maturity, fun thing: Noelle, just about every young woman develops a crush on their teacher at your age. I had an amazing crush on a teacher I had in high school and it drove me crazy. It s a rite of passage, if you will. The thing is, it s fun and a little daring but that s as...

Lesbian Life: Long-awaited Meeting Now is Intimidating, wont answer, immediate gratification
wont answer, immediate gratification, speaking terms: I understand that you were hurt so you did what you did two fill the void. But understand that this girl betrayed you not once but twice...proving she doesn t really care. You were immature to do what you did because to wrongs don t make a right but again...

Lesbian Life: Looking for a female friend..., friend with benefits, sexual woman
friend with benefits, sexual woman, kind attention: I would suggest that you try looking online for local groups, either social or dating, and connect with a community there. That will give you more information on what might be available in the way of events and/or other opportunities to meet others like yourself....

Lesbian Life: Love Life Advice, lesbian issues, life advice
lesbian issues, life advice, defense mechanism: Hey Brook! If asking about lesbian love life isn t under Gay/Lesbian Issues then I don t know what is. *grins* So no worries on that score okay? Okay now about the grrl... *shakes head* She sounds like she s really scared about getting seriously...

Lesbian Life: Love or Lust?, long term relationship, serious relationship
long term relationship, serious relationship, wee bit: Hi Stacie, thanks for the questions:) Well, its perfectly alright to have those feelings, if youve grown apart from your current girlfriend. And for the record, there isnt anything wrong with you ok? Sometimes, couples get into a comfortable groove,...

Lesbian Life: Love, relationship, heart
relationship, heart, love: Hi Natty, She says your safe? what does that mean? Like our relationship is ok, so you don t have to worry...? Well its going to be hard to help you if I dont know what is going on. There is nothing i can say that will get her back to you. it usually...

Lesbian Life: Lovers and friends??, girl alot, betrayl
girl alot, betrayl, lovers and friends: Hello Me-Me Well i really dont know what to say because this is what happens when friends sleep with each other. It mess up the friendship. I am guessing that she likes this other girl alot which is why she is spending time with her. I suggest you pull...

Lesbian Life: Loving your best friend, loving your best friend, soul mates
loving your best friend, soul mates, troubled relationship: MC...I read your letter and wish I could come up with words that will alleviate the pain, give you something that can make a tangible difference in what you are going through. The truth is, there are no words that ease the aching heart when something like...

Lesbian Life: LTR Lesbian Break Up, lesbian relationships, sex life
lesbian relationships, sex life, having sex: Hi Jen, I m afraid to say this happens a lot in lesbian relationships. It happened to me too. I was with a girl for nearly 4 years and after a while we stopped having sex and in the end it felt like we were just living together as friends. It seems like...

Lesbian Life: In-laws, great relationship, christmas vacation
great relationship, christmas vacation, relat: Wow, you are in a situation quite similar to mine. My girlfriend of 4 years lives an hour away from her family and we see them at least once a week sometimes more but sometimes less..my family is 24 hours away and unfortunately I have not been able to go until...

Lesbian Life: How to lean in for a kiss with a lesbian, time place, distractions
time place, distractions, best time: Hi Monica, thanks for the question:) Well, kissing a woman and leaning in for the kiss, is pretty much the same as if you were to kiss a boy. Timing is everything;)) If you are sitting close together and the moment feels right, take her face in your...

Lesbian Life: Am I a lesbian, traditional lifestyle, anything more than that
traditional lifestyle, anything more than that, whole life: Hi In regards to sex andnot being interested in it...it can be because you are young. Alot of young teenagers are not interested in sex. Yes you are right about teh traditional thing. Its important to live your own life. YEs I was the same way when it came...

Lesbian Life: Not a lesbian??, strange fantasies, creative visualization
strange fantasies, creative visualization, sexual dreams: The answer is simple, Lain. Yes, you are still a lesbian. Having dreams or fantasies about heterosexual sex means absolutely nothing. Everyone has fantasies and some are MUCH more bizarre than yours. The thing about fantasies is that they are seldom anything...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian, physical intimacy, sexual fantasies
physical intimacy, sexual fantasies, lesbian character: No one can really tell you if you re gay or not, Katie. Only you can make that determination. However, some of the things you mention do suggest you at least bend that way. One of the things you mention is, The companionship of gay couples. One of the...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, girl kiss, long term relationships
girl kiss, long term relationships, baby on the way: Well, it looks like you have got yourself in a pretty sticky situation. Is she married with these kids or a single mother? How old are these kids? If she is married, I will tell you right off the bat, you don t want to ruin her family or be one of the reasons...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, long term relationships, t pay
long term relationships, t pay, bestfriend: The part about the rumors she was a lesbian because no makeup, hair up, always in jeans made me smile because you just described about 80% of the women in my town--a small ag community. People are so funny sometimes...in a not so funny way. But I think...

Lesbian Life: Am i a lesbian?, lesbian forums, egroups
lesbian forums, egroups, homosexual relationship: I ve known people who struggled for years with whether they were straight or gay and others who were absolutely certain as soon as they thought of it. There s no way to tell how or when you will come to your certitude, my dear. Trying an experience with a...

Lesbian Life: Am I a lesbian, traditional lifestyle, anything more than that
traditional lifestyle, anything more than that, whole life: Hi Heather, thanks for coming to me:)) Please dont be offended, but i think that you are too young to decide what you are right at this moment. The reason i say this is because you have yet to experience really being with a guy, as well as being with a...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, bad situation, transexual
bad situation, transexual, bf: Hi Travis. Sorry, to say but there is not much that i can help you with. You are in a really bad situation because you don t know what this guys reaction is going to be when he finds out. You probaly already know this but it is very important that you...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian, lesbian cause, lesbain
lesbian cause, lesbain, boys and girls: Hi Destiny, You are so young for me to offer detailed advice. But you are growing and you mind will tend to jungle around. I cant tell you if you are a lesbian or not because I don t know the whole situation and because you are young. However, I think you...

Lesbian Life: lesbian at 42 ??, childhood experience, naivety
childhood experience, naivety, deep sense: Don t beat yourself up for not cluing in sooner, Charlotte. We don t live in a society that allows us to make this discovery easily. That you ve come to it at all is testimony to your inner strength, my dear. I understand very well what you re going through...

Lesbian Life: lesbian, goodbye kiss, kissing girls
goodbye kiss, kissing girls, last september: Hi Sue, Unfortunately at the moment there s not a lot you can do. The more you ask the more she ll say no. Until she s ready to tell you herself I m afraid you ll just have to be patient and understanding. It may help if you are supportive and say how...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, vallery, clue
vallery, clue, girlfriend: Dear Vallery, In truth? I don t have a clue simply because you ve given me very little information. On the surface I d say it s possible but I d have to know more to say otherwise. The best advice I could give you, based on what you ve written in your...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?, great personality, outproud
great personality, outproud, sexual orientation: Hi Brittany, Thanks for writing. In answer to your question... it s possible you are. I know there have been many kids your age who knew what their sexual orientation was. So I m not about to tell you that you re not. However, rather than giving you...

Lesbian Life: am i a lesbian?!, long term relationship, sexual satisfaction
long term relationship, sexual satisfaction, emotional connection: Hi Nina...this is really an interesting question. There could be so much going on under the surface regarding issues with intimacy, trust, commitment, other things, that I am just going to take a stab at one possibility. It is very possible that you are...

Lesbian Life: Am i a lesbian?, men in my life, sex with women
men in my life, sex with women, sex with men: Yes, sex with women has confused you but I d say it s because you are a lesbian after all. Many women go through the whole men thing simply because we re taught to expect that s what we re supposed to do. I was married for eight years and had two children....

Lesbian Life: Am i lesbian, bi, curious or what else is there...?, life choice, gorgeous man
life choice, gorgeous man, cute guys: Hi nikki, well you can very easily fit into the bixsexual category if you wanted to but you haven t sleep with a girl yet to be considered. I think you need to figure out if this is a phase or a life choice. No one can help you with that but yourself. ...

Lesbian Life: Am I lesbian, bisexual,, self help books, sexual stimulants
self help books, sexual stimulants, sexual lifestyle: I ve seen a change in you just in the time we ve talked, Sherrie. You don t sound as desperate or confused. I think you have your head on more level than you think. You re smart, self-aware and willing to confront your fear. No one could ask for more than...

Lesbian Life: lesbian cheating with a man, sex joke, kamilah
sex joke, kamilah, genitals: Gee interesting. My gf did the same thing except she did it with a butchy girl. I was her first. She is very well into men and never imagined messing with a female. So, she always told me that I would be the her first and last and there was something about...

Lesbian Life: lesbian climax, first sexual experience, depth answer
first sexual experience, depth answer, dominant role: Hi, Well, this could happen in a number of ways. It all depends on what position you were both in. Sometimes during sex the female playing the dominant role can climax by rubbing herself on your thigh or by touching herself at the sametime. However there...

Lesbian Life: lesbian curiosity, spiritual satisfaction, lesbian couples
spiritual satisfaction, lesbian couples, inch cock: It may surprise you to know that every other man I ve ever met fantasizes about a threesome, Tom. My partner and I have been propositioned countless times by many such individuals. We refused, of course, since we re not interested in that but I m sure...

Lesbian Life: lesbian discrimination, police officers, discrimination
police officers, discrimination, lesbians: I think you would be better off doing some research on the internet because your question is VERY WIDE. YOu need to maybe focus on an area. Because lesbians are discriminated in so many ways. Plus there is really no difference in lesbian discrimination vs....

Lesbian Life: lesbian discrimination, tg butch, scottish descent
tg butch, scottish descent, cultural diversities: Brooke, I thought about where would be best to send you. I think if you go to: http://www.hrc.org/ you may find the statistical information you need. As to talking to someone in particular. I m 44, caucasion (Scottish descent) and have lost housing...

Lesbian Life: lesbian first, then bisexual, ms right, straight women
ms right, straight women, male friend: Hello. I have to admit I get very confused at what you are trying to say to me. So, lets get one thing clear. You are not discounting the fact that you are a lesbian but u are wondering about being bisexual. Well, only you can determine that. You can...

Lesbian Life: lesbian friend and her mom, lesbian relationships, european girl
lesbian relationships, european girl, lesbian friend: Dear Nishta, Wow this is a toughy. You probably already know that if you do not tell your girl friend you will be faced with much guilt throughout the relationship. Your partner s mother will always be in her life so there s not much you can do about it....

Lesbian Life: lesbian life, lesbian life, sexual orientation
lesbian life, sexual orientation, l word: Hi Aleicia, I wish I could give you an easy answer that didn t involve her knowing what you re interested in. But the truth is, lesbians everywhere struggle to figure out the sexuality of other woman all the time. The only 100% foolproof ways are to...

Lesbian Life: Can a lesbian be in love with a guy?, nothing but time, male friend
nothing but time, male friend, affections: Hello Allie, Well in my world anything is possible. Yes I have seen it before. You can love a man if you are a lesbian because there are different affections of love. You may care about him for a person and thats love and you can also be in love with him....

Lesbian Life: lesbian love, lesbian tendencies, paranoid thoughts
lesbian tendencies, paranoid thoughts, continuely: Hi Beth, Before you get any more paranoid thoughts in your head I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. This way you can be sure of her feelings. If she feels the same way then perhaps there is someway you can sort something out and then...

Lesbian Life: lesbian 'marriage' break-up after 16 yrs, traditional couples, lesbian marriage
traditional couples, lesbian marriage, domestic partnerships: Dearest Karen, My goddess... what a mess. Please know that my heart goes out to you and your son. As to a solution... go to National Center for Lesbian Rights and see if they can help you find legal help in your area. The url is: http://www.nclrights.org/...

Lesbian Life: lesbian question, pelvic thrust, male presence
pelvic thrust, male presence, sexual experience: Hi Dani, thanks for the question:) Well, to be honest, in my humble opinion, I do believe you are still too young to make that decision just yet ok? Dont get me wrong, you are growing up, but, you still have a way to go yet in the sexual department. ...

Lesbian Life: lesbian question, pelvic thrust, male presence
pelvic thrust, male presence, sex education: Hi Well, dont feel like any of your questions are stupid. You are young and it is normal to go through these things. For starters i cant really tell you anything that you dont already know because you have yet to do anything. And the examples that you use...

Lesbian Life: lesbian question, pelvic thrust, male presence
pelvic thrust, male presence, sex education: Dani, To begin questioning your sexuality is often a sign that you are confused or in some way unhappy in your current situation. Give it some more thought and you ll soon realise. This may not seem like good advice, but trust me, it s the easiest way...

Lesbian Life: lesbian relationship, relationship question, lesbian relationship
relationship question, lesbian relationship, diabettes: Hi Heidi, thanks for coming back to me. I wish i could tell you why she is doing this, but of course i dont know her so i cant say. I dont know why she isnt calling you, but, she is choosing not to, for whatever reason. That means that you need to just...

Lesbian Life: lesbian reproduction, information abt, having baby
information abt, having baby, lesbian rights: ML, The one site I know of that handles questions like that is over at: http://www.hrc.org Click on the Family tab and I believe there will be options for you to consider from there. Also check out the National Center for Lesbian Rights. I would...

Lesbian Life: lesbian sex, lesbian sex, women sex
lesbian sex, women sex, two women: Lesbian sex is defined as sex between two women. Sex can be defined as any activity that is erotically stimulating. If your girlfriend is going down on you then you are BOTH having lesbian sex. Your question about whether it s time you should go down on...

Lesbian Life: lesbian or straight, free drinks, female partner
free drinks, female partner, male sex: Hi Suzy, Well if you enjoyed the sex with the guys but you have also enjoyed having sex with woman that means you are more likely to be Bi-Sexual. But when you are Bi-sexual you often have to weigh the pros and cons. You said that you enjoyed the sex...

Lesbian Life: lesbian why????, phrase
phrase: Hi Szkhan, thanks for coming to me. Well im not too sure what sort of answer you are after. What trend do you see in the west? As far as i am aware, its a worldwide thing being gay. Its not just in the western world;) If you can perhaps phrase your...

Lesbian Life: lesbians, nifty org, google
nifty org, google, top of my head: Hi Nikki, thanks for coming to me. Unfortunately, in order to find what you are looking for, you will need to weed through the spyware/virus infested websites. There are very few free sites that are clean so-to-speak, and i dont know of any of the top...

Lesbian Life: lesbians, soft kiss, simplest thing
soft kiss, simplest thing, gurl: Hi AShlee, thanks for the question:) Well the simplest thing you can do, is be yourself, and do what you feel comfortable doing. If you feel like leaning in and kissing her, just do that. You could take her face in your hands and gently kiss her on the...

Lesbian Life: lesbians, guidance counsellor, hes
guidance counsellor, hes, lesbians: hi there thanks for the question:) it would appear that this boy is interested in you, albeit in a rather bizarre way! by doing something like that, hes just being stupid, and asking for attention. The best possible defense is just to simply ignore him,...

Lesbian Life: lets test your memory, good dreams, having hope
good dreams, having hope, sorr: Gina isn t right, she never was. You don t scare me or make me mad. You didn t cause me to stop looking at night, I just legally can t because of work...they don t let us. If I work at night I can t look. I don t think my listening to you makes you...

Lesbian Life: my life so far..., friend sasha, guidance counsler
friend sasha, guidance counsler, finding a girlfriend: I think as far as your mom goes, you just have to give her some time to get over the issues she is facing. Try to sit her down and talk to her again and be as honest as you possibly can be. Let her know that this is what you want right now and regardless she...

Lesbian Life: life after long-term relationship, long term relationship, double effort
long term relationship, double effort, brazilian web: Hi Thais, im glad i could help:) I wish you all the best, and if there is anything else i can do, please dont hesitate in coming back ok? Take some time out for yourself now. Its been 6 years with the same person...take some time to get to know who you...

Lesbian Life: A little confused, liking girls, shane west
liking girls, shane west, lots of girls: haha, 14 is very young. I m gonna be 21 on may 24th. Now that is old!!! I don t wanna be old!! well, anyways, my AIM sn is cntngstrs I think I might have ppl not on my buddy list blocked... lemme know when you have it installed and whats your sn...

Lesbian Life: Am I living in the past?, gay marriage laws, massachussett
gay marriage laws, massachussett, mid twenties: Hi Michelle, thanks for coming to me. I appologise for not responding quicker, unfortunately, life sometimes takes a hold;) It is perfectly natural to still feel things for ex lovers. It all depends on how you left things i think, as to how you end up...

Lesbian Life: long distance, long distance relationships, possibilty
long distance relationships, possibilty, joint effort: Hi Brittney Well you are already having doubts so thats not a good sign. You have to know that giving advice to young people and early relationships is hard because i dont want to say anything that you will react on or take too personally. A long time ago,...

Lesbian Life: looking for answers, google search, vitro
google search, vitro, girlfriend: Hi Baby J, thanks for the question. Best thing I can suggest is that you do a google search for In Vitro Clinics in your area, or perhaps the next city closest to your location. These clinics specialise in IVF treatment which is what your girlfriend...

Lesbian Life: so lost, gay relations, e mail
gay relations, e mail, college tuition: Hi Sonja, I m sorry that you ve been put in such a difficult situation. Parents are supposed to provide unconditional love, but sometimes that is not the case. What your mother is doing is wrong. You are 19 years old, and that makes you an adult. She...

Lesbian Life: I have a lot of lesbian friends, relationship issue, lesbian friends
relationship issue, lesbian friends, trans world: Well, kudos to you for wanting to understand your friends, Guy. Not many people would go to that length. I want to correct a misconception right off the bat for you. No one can be recruited into a lifestyle they don t fit into. That whole nonsense was...

Lesbian Life: Am I in love, household chores, hanging by a thread
household chores, hanging by a thread, tooth brush: She very well may be trying to keep you at arm s length or she may just be unsure how to proceed. That is why I suggest actually talking to her about it. It s a common mistake to assume you know what someone else is thinking and/or feeling. Most of the time...

Lesbian Life: I love her, but..., contingency plan, real heart
contingency plan, real heart, heart to heart: Hi Shay, Well, you have an even larger battle now that you had that fight. There is a good chance she won t even consider your thoughts about her friends and living conditions now because you two are not on good ground. You need to have faith that you...

Lesbian Life: Does she love me?, deeper sense, two theories
deeper sense, two theories, feelings: Well my dear, unfortunately you have not provided me with enough information about this for me to be 100% confident in my response to you. I have plenty of questions. You told her how you felt for her because you didn t want your friends to know? I m not sure...

Lesbian Life: Does she love me?, circus freak, ugly troll
circus freak, ugly troll, heart soul: This is much better information thank you! Let me say that if they were your friends..they would keep their nose out of it, sorry but friends don t do that to each other. If it was me I would reconsider those friendships right off the bat. As for your love,...

Lesbian Life: in love with amarried woman, woman relationship, mitigating circumstances
woman relationship, mitigating circumstances, good answer: Hi Debra, thanks for writing to me. I can t give you a good answer without a lot more information. There are so many factors to take into consideration before someone takes a leap like this--both for you and for her. Even just thinking about it from just...

Lesbian Life: In love with Bi/Les Woman. . ., heart heart, sexual preference
heart heart, sexual preference, female friends: Hi Mac, thanks for coming to me. I am sorry to hear how things turned out for you. Its not easy, but, things do turn out for the best in the end. Keep your chin up ok? From what you have said, I dont think that this woman knows what she wants at all....

Lesbian Life: How can I love them both?, intense feelings, open relationship
intense feelings, open relationship, abusive man: It s perfectly normal to love more than one person. I don t know where this perception in our society came from that we must love only one but I think it s silly and unreasonable. Unfortunately though, loving more than one can cause lots of problems, as...

Lesbian Life: I love her but I am curious..., first girlfriend, rough patches
first girlfriend, rough patches, wonderful girl: Hi Elle, thanks for coming to me. Its perfectly normal to feel and think this way ok? You are young, and its only natural to think about what things would be like if you were single, and to want to experience things. I do think though, that it would...

Lesbian Life: i love her/ my GF, different this time, day before yesterday
different this time, day before yesterday, stares: Hi Roo, The situation is back to causing you pain again, and I hate to see that. No matter how much you can say that your gf is detaching herself from the b, and no matter how much your friend says your gf thinks she does stupid things, the situation...

Lesbian Life: i love her/ my GF, hot babe, wonderful person
hot babe, wonderful person, new experience: Hey Roo, I have no idea what your gf is doing, but the fact that you two don t talk to each other , and writing you are the worst doesn t give me a good feeling about anything. If you think that she may be cheating, or was kissing that other girl,...

Lesbian Life: in love with a married woman, happy birthday message, playing the fool
happy birthday message, playing the fool, woman question: hi Daphne, thanks for coming back. Well, again, it is really your choice. What is your gut telling you to do? If your gut is saying send her a message, then send her a message! Whats the worst that could happen? If this is something that you really...

Lesbian Life: In love with a married woman, intense feelings, physical attraction
intense feelings, physical attraction, physical aspect: Hi Mel, thanks for writing to me. I would probably start by saying that I believe that sexuality is a bit more fluid for women than for men. While some of us fall far to one end or the other on the sexuality scale in terms of 100% straight to 100% lesbian...

Lesbian Life: In love with an older woman, appology, good relationship
appology, good relationship, older ladies: Hi Rosemary, thanks for the followup. I think you get along so well with the older ladies (gad, that s ME!) because you have a very mature sense...so it makes sense that that is who you will be attracted to. On the question of the ex...I DO understand...

Lesbian Life: In love with my pregnant bi friend, custody issues, night stand
custody issues, night stand, dad: Hi again Brenna, I don t see how having the child will fix things with them. If anything, the stress of a newborn will probably cause them to fight more. They ll have little sleep because the baby will keep them up all night, and I can almost guarentee...

Lesbian Life: love?, messy relationship, luck wi
messy relationship, luck wi, atmoshpere: Hi Sally, thank you for coming to me. There is only one way to find out how she feels;) You need to talk to her:)) Perhaps create the mood or atmoshpere in your flat or if you dont have one, take her out to a nice dinner, pamper her thus setting the...

Lesbian Life: My lover, place in your heart, friend rachel
place in your heart, friend rachel, friend lisa: Hi how are you? Well i can t really tell if there is a chace of anyting because your friend can not decided. In life you have to make choices and usually can t have it both ways. Which is why bisexuals have such a hard time maintaining relationships because...

Lesbian Life: lust and friendship, self consious, loving boyfriend
self consious, loving boyfriend, female friend: Hi anna Well, First off to answer the one question that i remembered...Yes it would be cheating if you messed with your friend or any other woman for that matter. Some females like to think since if with another woman it is not considered cheating but it...

Lesbian Life: MARRIAGE, tg butch, civil unions
tg butch, civil unions, fiance: Hi Lindsey, Well Vermont is the only state that does legal civil unions. Everywhere else you have your wedding but it will not be recognized by the state or even county. Below however is a url where you can see what state does what: http://www.lambdalegal.org/cgi-bin/pages/states...

Lesbian Life: Making the first move, confidence, talking to girls, dating girls
talking to girls, dating girls, first move: Hello, It s perfectly normal to feel this way when you start to date women. It s not something that you would be used to and as you know, girls are a lot more complicated than boys! The thing to do at the moment is to take your time. Everythings still...

Lesbian Life: Making the first move, confidence, dating girls, gay scene
dating girls, gay scene, first move: Hi T, It s a common enough thing for young people to think that they re bisexual for a while before they realise that they are in fact gay. It seems like less of a big thing. Getting scared with other girls is all part of the learning process. You re...

Lesbian Life: Making my girlfriend comfortable, lesbian venue, lesbian relationship
lesbian venue, lesbian relationship, lesbian community: I m sorry but there is no way that I can help you prove that this is the life she wants. Neither can you prove such a thing because that is something she has to discover for herself. Having said that, there are things you can do to help her come to that conclusion...

Lesbian Life: Making and Keeping Friends, straight male
straight male: Chris, I would suggest not asking her! If she s A lesbian then she might not want other people to know or perhaps doesn t feel ready to be out yet. If she s not then she ll resent you for asking. If she was out and gay I m sure you would have been...

Lesbian Life: Marriage??, scary word, illinois legislature
scary word, illinois legislature, gut level: Hi Brook, thanks for coming to me:) In my humble opinion, marriage is definately a personal thing, and you are not wrong in thinking your way at all:) Its down to what you want, and what will make you happiest. If the thought of marriage is off-putting...

Lesbian Life: Married but attracted to women and questioning my sexuality., sexual encounter, one of my best friends
sexual encounter, one of my best friends, sex with my husband: If you read my profile you ll know that I was married with children when I realized I was a lesbian. I could have written exactly what you just did back then. You are not alone, Kate. As a matter of fact this phenomenon (women coming out in their thirties...

Lesbian Life: Married and Bi and wanting to explore, open relationship, fact women
open relationship, fact women, ego: Hi roey. Well this is different than wanting to be with another man because you want a woman...this is so much more. Bisexuals can not be loyal. They will want what they want. Personally i think all bisexuals really want to be with the same sex but find it...

Lesbian Life: Married and Bi, contrary to popular belief, true feelings
contrary to popular belief, true feelings, futer: Hi, I think that you should be satisfied and fulfilled by your husband and that you shouldn t need to search for something else. Contrary to popular belief, bisexuals do not need a relationship with both a man and a woman in order to be happy. If you are...

Lesbian Life: Married with kids/ think I may be a lesbian, sex with my husband, sexual preference
sex with my husband, sexual preference, sexual relationships: Hi Kate...I HOPE I can help you, it sounds like an extremely painful situation. The first thing you need to do is some really tough internal questions. I tend to believe we know, deep down we know, if we are gay or straight (or bi). It is coming to accept...

Lesbian Life: Married & a Lesbian, marrage, old woman
marrage, old woman, females: Hi Elda, thanks for coming to me. I would like to ask you a few questions ok? 1. When you are with this woman, how does it make you feel? 2. What worries you about dating a woman and having 3 children? 3. Are you resolved to divorcing your husband?...

Lesbian Life: Married and in love with a woman, exchange emails, sexual identity
exchange emails, sexual identity, fau: I understand your situation very well, Sharon. I want you to know that it was not your fault and you should not be doubting yourself as you re doing. You know very well what you want and why and that s not the issue. You re just trying to understand her behavior....

Lesbian Life: Married but want another Woman, special lady, possibilty
special lady, possibilty, first experience: Hi Debbie... Since you clicked on this email not to be private (meaning anyone can see this so you may want not not use your full name...maybe just debbie... Well, what you are going through is normal. Its just a matter to of figuring out how these feelings...

Lesbian Life: Married woman about to have first experience with a woman and scared!, two couples, secret affair
two couples, secret affair, how to make love to a woman: You ve come to the right place, Lauren. My advice is to go to google and search Guide to Lesbian Sex or Lesbian Sex Manual and you will have a list of as many books and articles as you can imagine. Be warned that half the search results will be pornography...

Lesbian Life: Married woman, absolute disaster, straight women
absolute disaster, straight women, married with children: Hi Franchesca...thanks for writing to me. I always, always urge (strongly) CAUTION about people at work--especially bosses! Man or woman, it is a recipe for absolute disaster on so many levels--including one or both of you losing your jobs. So many variables...

Lesbian Life: Meeting people, pet peeve, mother figure
pet peeve, mother figure, sexual orientation: Hi Andie How are you Yeah the choice part...gets on my nerve also. Who actually chooses this? Not me. I am also sick of hearing the other one... about your childhood making you the way that you are. Its the humans way of trying to understand something...

Lesbian Life: Meeting someone special, puerto rican woman, puerto rican women
puerto rican woman, puerto rican women, lesbian websites: There is a Latina Lesbian website with information on local events and resources. Visit http://www.lasbuenasamigas.org/ You can also connect with other New York area communities with diverse memberships in order to meet a variety of women. A New York...

Lesbian Life: Messy 3 way situation!, sexual fling, monogamous relationship
sexual fling, monogamous relationship, woman 3: Hi Lucy, thanks for answering my questions:) To be perfectly blunt, long distance relationships hardly ever work:/ sad fact, but true. The travelling will start to become an issue etc. Unfortunate, but true. It doesnt matter that its only a few hours away....

Lesbian Life: Mind Games..., long distance relationship, gogo dancer
long distance relationship, gogo dancer, lovey dovey: I d say you know exactly what the situation is. You say, I know for sure that I m the safety net and I love her dearly, and she knows this, I feel she s taking advantage of that. Her avoidance tactics are easier than admitting the truth - that you re...

Lesbian Life: Mind games with ex..., mind games, insufficient evidence
mind games, insufficient evidence, credit bureaus: Hi Marie, I m really sorry that you have had so much trouble with someone who you used to love so much. My heart goes out with you, as I ve dealt with manipulative ex s like her before. They are the worst thing to happen to our emotions and lives after...

Lesbian Life: Moony Q 1- why do I dislike them? (contnd), stone butches, outer appearance
stone butches, outer appearance, gay friends: Hi Moony, I won t be able to paste it to the previous question, they give us very little format control, but that s okay. It can stand as one on its own. I think you hit the nail on the head when you say that it s their lifestyle, just like I have my...

Lesbian Life: Moony Q 1- why do I dislike them?, social norms, moony
social norms, moony, cute boy: Hi Moony, thanks for writing to me...in fact, I love your questions...both the ones about yourself, and the ones about this bias. And yes, it is a bias, and yes, you will probably recover from it. Shall we start with the butch thing, and then go from...

Lesbian Life: How Do I Move On?, mundane issues, rocky points
mundane issues, rocky points, ex gf: Hi Sarah, thanks for getting back to me. The only way to truly move on from someone, is to be brave enough to try in the first place. Im not saying that you havent, but from what you have said, every time you do, you think about your ex and you end up running...

Lesbian Life: Moving from friends to, sophomore year, first kiss
sophomore year, first kiss, males and females: Hi Lynnae, Hey, dont worry about kissing or dating. You are still very young. Most kids your age dont have the interest or are just stuck trying to worry about their pimples or tits. What makes you think you are gay? Have you been with someone of the...

Lesbian Life: Moving past IM & E-Mail, time relationship, distinct possibility
time relationship, distinct possibility, unavailability: Hi Deb, It sounds like a couple of different things could be going on here. It is possible that she is very closeted, hasn t had a relationship with another woman before, and this is a safe relationship for her. Or, even if she HAS had a relationship...

Lesbian Life: Moving In?, first response, amount of time
first response, amount of time, kay: Hey, since you deleted the my first response, I have no idea of your situation. But to answer your question for most, 2 months is a short amount of time to move in with someone because its usually takes more time to get to know that person. HOwever you hear...

Lesbian Life: Mt relationship has ended...., gaydar, girl friend
gaydar, girl friend, paranoia: Hi Donna, Well, let me honest with you from the start. I have gone through the same situation as this. Recently too. I know how you feel when you still want to be with her, and you want to call or text her, but you really don t know what to do. Monday...

Lesbian Life: Is my Mum really a lesbian?, lesbian lifestyle, russian roulette
lesbian lifestyle, russian roulette, lesbian friends: Oh my dear Amanda, I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. Your whole world has been turned on its head and you are struggling to understand how this could happen. I ll try my best to help you understand and explain as well as I can what seems...

Lesbian Life: I'm BI I think., sexual preference, sexual experiences
sexual preference, sexual experiences, probley: Hi Carolyn, thanks for the question:) Well, i must admit you are rather young, but if you are already sexually active, then theres not an awful lot i can say really:) Basically if you are attracted to both guys and girls then there is a good chance...

Lesbian Life: I`m bi, best of luck, starters
best of luck, starters, cousin: Hi Amanda Thanks for the question:))) Ok, firstly, congratulations on your coming out, I know its not the easiest of things to do. Secondly, there are no right or wrong ways to come out. What you need to do is to just relax for starters, and then gently...

Lesbian Life: Im bisexual and I have a girlfriend=problem, secret relationship, serious relationship
secret relationship, serious relationship, weird cause: Yes, Lisa, I believe this relationship could have a future. The thing is, for that to happen you will both have to come to terms with what that means to you. You say you could never handle introducing her as your girlfriend and that it must remain a secret...

Lesbian Life: I'm Confused About My Sexual Identity, kinsey scale, romantic thoughts
kinsey scale, romantic thoughts, sexual action: Dear Nire.. (...or should that read Erin? *wink*) Anyway, have you ever heard of the Kinsey scale? It goes from 1 - totally straight to 6 - totally gay. If a person is say 3 or 4 on the scale that would mean that they re pretty balanced in their attraction...

Lesbian Life: i'm very confused, gay therapist, self hatred
gay therapist, self hatred, national hotline: Dear Rachel, Your feelings of sickness come from enviromental/societal imprinting. In other words you ve been taught to have negative reactions to anything involving same sex issues. Unfortunately this seems to be the norm in American life. What I...

Lesbian Life: I'm very confused..., emotional bonds, platonic relationships
emotional bonds, platonic relationships, time relationships: Hi, well maybe your problems are your insecurities followed by anxiety. It doesn t mean that you are a lesbian. You will just have to find better ways to deal with it. Maybe take deep breaths before you speak to guy. Again, you said your self that guys were...

Lesbian Life: i'm confused, walking down the street, fun time
walking down the street, fun time, having sex: Hi Rachel, thanks for coming to me:) Well, first off, i dont like giving out labels...so for now, to me, you just sound like someone who likes sex. Having said that though, the only way you will know if you like sex with a woman, is to experiment and see...

Lesbian Life: I'm curious on how to get my love life working..., raging hormones, lesbian style
raging hormones, lesbian style, girly girl: I m going to be completely honest with you. Experimental sex is not wrong in my opinion unless you are married. Again, my personal opinion. I would not want my girlfriend to go out and have experimental sex with anyone else. That would not only piss me off...

Lesbian Life: I'm finding it incredibly hard to accept i am a lesbian, gays and lesbians, constant fear
gays and lesbians, constant fear, sexual thoughts: Hi Carol, thanks for coming to me. I would like to ask you a few questions if thats ok? So if you could get back to me when you are ready, that would be great. 1. What made you decide you were gay? 2. Have you ever been with a woman sexually or...

Lesbian Life: I'm scared..., two females, different things
two females, different things, two women: Natalie, just because you get turned on by two females, does not make you a gay...we all get turned on by alot of different things and it doesnt mean that we will take on those activities. I think its just a phase as you are very young. hope this helps...

Lesbian Life: I'm torn, my heart is in bits, so is my head, ex girfriend, gay girl
ex girfriend, gay girl, chests: I m put it as simple as possible. If this is what she wants....let her go, if it is meant to be it WILL be. If she loves you sooooo much, sorry to say this wouldn t be an issue. It s not like you have cheated on her...that should ve been left in the past,...

Lesbian Life: I'm very unsure about my best mate..as i am myself...., touchy feely, singals
touchy feely, singals, hubby: I think what next depends on what YOU want...if a casual thing every now and then when she is in the mood, or he is encouraging it is okay with you, then just go with the flow. But if your emotions are engaged and you want a relationship, then finding out...

Lesbian Life: I'm not sure.., girl walk, different thoughts
girl walk, different thoughts, mile a minute: Hi Lilliana, Yes of course you are normal. You are at an age where your mind and hormones are racing a mile a minute so you will come up with different thoughts. I can t tell you if you are gay or straight because only you have that answer. Based up on what...

Lesbian Life: Who makes the first move?, lesbian lifestyle, straight person
lesbian lifestyle, straight person, bedroom eyes: Dear Nancy, It does sound like this women may want something, but you can never be positive about these things. Since we are not to sure about this I advise flirting and lots of it. Ex: hold her hind, kiss her on the cheek, tickling See how this goes,...

Lesbian Life: male/female roles, homosexual couples, heterosexual couples
homosexual couples, heterosexual couples, feminine role: Hi Zak, thanks for the question. well, its been my experience that one partner is a more dominant person, and the other slightly submissive. This is pretty much how a heterosexual couple are as well. As for the masculine/feminine role, i cant say ive seen...

Lesbian Life: Can I make it with a man if I think I'm gay?, unhealthy obsession, countless questions
unhealthy obsession, countless questions, romantic relationship: Okay, honestly you are not being fair to this man, him being in love with you and you not feeling the same. The only advice I can give you is to focus on yourself and let this man go before you ruining anything good between the two of you. If it was you head...

Lesbian Life: marriage and a baby, fertilization clinics, marriage partnership
fertilization clinics, marriage partnership, legal adoption: This is some of the information I found about Maryland s adoption law: Maryland Adoption Law Permits a same-sex couple to jointly petition to adopt? No explicit prohibition. Permits a same-sex partner to petition to adopt partners child or child...

Lesbian Life: marriage, marriage equality, same sex couples
marriage equality, same sex couples, same gender marriage: Hi Davida, The only state in the country that has equal rights when it comes to same gender marriage is Massachussetts. Unfortunately, you must be a resident to marry there, and right now the only state that recognizes same gender marriages is also MA. ...

Lesbian Life: married but in love with a woman, debt counselor, stable home life
debt counselor, stable home life, financial stress: I understand why you feel you need to return, Kim. It is important that children have a stable home life and financial stress is a hard one. HOWEVER, you probably don t want to hear this but you are doing NO ONE any favors. Your children will thrive and...

Lesbian Life: married but in love with a woman, lesbian lifestyle, woman something
lesbian lifestyle, woman something, happy woman: Then you are stuck between feeling that you cannot take something from him...and your happiness. You could always find another place to live that is not too expensive. Either way it seems like your marriage is ruined and I doubt there is a way to go back and...

Lesbian Life: married...but need to come out, lesbian relationship, bad person
lesbian relationship, bad person, alittle: Hi Heather, Yeah, alot of people go through that. I even went through that. You have to live and learn (speaking on the repress of feelings). The only complication now is the 2 yr old. Once you have kids and marriage it just throws a major wrench into the...

Lesbian Life: masterbation, physical desires, males and females
physical desires, males and females, sexual drive: Hi Maddy, thanks for writing to me, I hope I can help. I think you are describing a pretty normal reaction...as sexualized as our society seems to be at times, there is still a big shame factor about sex itself in our culture. Depending too on the attitudes...

Lesbian Life: masterbation, sexual orientation, self discovery
sexual orientation, self discovery, physical response: Monics, What makes you horny and gets you off may or may not indicate what your sexual orientation is. In truth, when it comes to masturbation, it s a mental excercise that causes a stimulating physical response. There are fantasies that some of us eventually...

Lesbian Life: How do i meet someone/ not at a bar?, town atmosphere, internet dating service
town atmosphere, internet dating service, open relationship: Hi Sarah it appears that you have alot of preferences going on, which is not neccessarily bad. However you already mentioned that you live in a small town atmosphere so that is not really going ot help you gind the girl that you are looking for. ITs kind...

Lesbian Life: mess up again, stockholm syndrome, wimp
stockholm syndrome, wimp, boyfriends: Kim, it is the most natural thing in the world for you to miss Gina and want her back. No matter how crappy she treats you, you trusted her, you gave your heart to her. It is going to hurt to walk away, and yes, you are going to miss her. It is like the...

Lesbian Life: mind if i run a few things past you?, famous actors, lesbian relationships
famous actors, lesbian relationships, easter this year: I m not sure what you re asking, Rachel. What you re describing sounds like a perfectly normal process to me. It s not an either/or scenario. Peoples experiences range from one end of the spectrum to the other. You may be bisexual and enjoy sex with both...

Lesbian Life: misleading relationship, friend nat, physical relationship
friend nat, physical relationship, true interest: Hi I think you answered your own questions. You can dabble around but I wouldn t get that serious since you know (as you mentioned) that you know it wouuldn t work because of everything that is going on and if she doesn t have any interest in you...also she...

Lesbian Life: how do i come out without my mother thinking it's a phase?, lesbian support group, google search
lesbian support group, google search, scotland uk: I agree with you that coming out could endanger your relationship and I won t minimize that possibility. You seem to be a pretty stable young woman, Julia, and likely smart enough to do what needs to be done. I suggest you both connect with a gay and lesbian...

Lesbian Life: How do I move on?, realationship, everthing
realationship, everthing, bf: I see what you re saying now, Brooklyn. I hope you find the peace you re looking for. Perhaps she will come to see what she s lost and realize her mistake, perhaps not. Either way you have to look after your own needs in order to stay healthy. Good luck, my...

Lesbian Life: Need advice, first lesbian encounter, warm soapy water
first lesbian encounter, warm soapy water, sexless marriage: Hi Nancy, thanks for getting back to me:) I have tried to locate some support type groups for lesbians in your area, but to be honest, i am having a bit of trouble! The best advice i can give you is to locate a support group for gays/lesbians, and perhaps...

Lesbian Life: Nervous/Weird Feelings., weird feelings, girl crush
weird feelings, girl crush, two dreams: You re welcome, April, and thanks for the update. I understand what you re saying and you re probably right about it being a mess if she finds out how you feel. However, if she s also interested in you it might be a different story. Do you know whether she...

Lesbian Life: New to Florida, best clubs, plantation florida
best clubs, plantation florida, own website: No I do not as I don t live anywhere near there but you can indeed check it out over the internet and it should give you many search results. Also the best clubs should have their own website to kind of give you some pictures as to what the clubs are like....

Lesbian Life: New life, lesbian lifestyle, norhtern california
lesbian lifestyle, norhtern california, fear of the unknown: Never call yourself names, Tricia. That s one of my most passionate credos. Too many people are too ready to do that for you, my dear, so always refer to yourself in positive terms. You are NOT dumb. You may be inexperienced but that will take care of itself...

Lesbian Life: Newbie in love with a seasoned lesbian, deep feelings, deceased mother
deep feelings, deceased mother, coldness: Dear Denise, I have met many people like your girlfriend, and i can tell you what they are all about. Your girlfriend has a goal to make you beg(these kinds of people get the feeling that they are wanted more). By being angry at you even though you...

Lesbian Life: need advice, man grabs, one of my best friends
man grabs, one of my best friends, educated guess: Hi Sarah, Hmm, I think you have a lot going on. ITs hard to tell if you truly like this girl. It s very easy to fall for someone that you are spending alot of time with and it doesn t help that she is already a lesbian. THis makes it easier for you to like...

Lesbian Life: I need advice., hangups, chemist
hangups, chemist, butch: Hi Allyn, thanks for coming to me. I think you have the answer already:) You suggested that perhaps what you need to do is find a support group, and I humbly think that that is a very good idea! Its not easy starting out, and trying to find someone to...

Lesbian Life: I need help, 2 girls, good relationship
2 girls, good relationship, staying at home: Hi All I can do is tell you is to do what I told you. Some people just cannot be helped and just need to be left alone. There is nothing more you can do. Wait. Are you saying that you got her to stop drinking with these girls and now she is back doing...

Lesbian Life: I need help!!!, married woman, totaly
married woman, totaly, dating sites: Hi Crystal, So you are saying that you need something more...does that mean you are not getting enough from your husband? OR he is perfect but you just want to sleep with a woman? theres a big difference. So your husband has agreed (of course as long as...

Lesbian Life: need help, straight girl, sexual orientation
straight girl, sexual orientation, sexual identity: It s difficult to know what s going on from your short note. I could better advise you if I had some more background. Has your dating included sex? Has she said she loves you? Has she declared herself as straight? What reason did she give for breaking up?...

Lesbian Life: I need help, love poems, little sister
love poems, little sister, krystal: Hi Krystal, People are very hard to read, and what you re going through right now is questioning that most lesbians will go through many times during their lives. First off, does this friend know that you re a lesbian? If not, do you think she suspects...

Lesbian Life: i need help, tense situation, chivalric
tense situation, chivalric, gf: My dear, this sounds like a very unhealthy dynamic and to fight back with the same strategies is the worst thing you can do. It will only escalate the already tense situation and won t gain you anything. My advice is to find a healthier relationship before...

Lesbian Life: need help, weird cause, small kids
weird cause, small kids, having an affair: I have to be honest with you. This is not at all a good situation for you or her. She is married with kids, why would you want to come between a family? That s not fair and if it was you and your kids how would you feel? If you want to keep her, give her...

Lesbian Life: i need help!!, penny war, homeroom
penny war, homeroom, lok: Ok, Gaby, I think I understand now. If what you say about her behavior is true then I d say there s certainly some sort of feeling going on there. It s difficult to tell really. Unfortunately, the only way you can find out for sure is to talk to her. I...

Lesbian Life: I need help to cope, serious relationship, ups and downs
serious relationship, ups and downs, rough patch: I understand how much this hurts you. I also understand how difficult it is to accept that you must chose between what s bad and what s worse. There is just no positive outcome to be had here no matter what you do. As I see it you have two choices: you...

Lesbian Life: need help, couselor, lots of sex
couselor, lots of sex, homophobe: Hi:) Thank you for coming here:) First off, i need to express that i wont TELL you what you need to do, but just try and offer something that can be of some use to you, and that my opinions expressed here are just that, opinions ok? Its awesome that...

Lesbian Life: I need major help., vidio games, descision
vidio games, descision, wonderful feeling: Hi Pip, I think you really need to give this girl some time to think about what s happened and I think you need to do the same! You are quite likely to scare her off if you pressure her. So keep calm and just let her have some time to come to terms with...

Lesbian Life: need another point of view, hangups, local club
hangups, local club, no doubt: Wow, do I know where you are coming from...you are exactly the kind of person I wanted to be there for by joining this Q&A thing. Not because I am an expert --but because I have been where you are. Except you are addressing the issues much younger than...

Lesbian Life: new at the game, hick town, school doctors
hick town, school doctors, gay relationship: Wow, angel, I can actually relate to both of you (women) so well. 1st, I live in a very small, very HICK town. Cowboys with spurs in line in the post office, the best seller isn t a book, it is skoal. I ve always wanted to create a poster by taking a...

Lesbian Life: new to gay relationship- need sex advice, gay relationship, great relationship
gay relationship, great relationship, need sex: Hi Nancy, thanks for coming to me:) The best advice i can give you, is to go to the following website: (just copy and past the URL into your browser) www.the-clitoris.com This isnt a porno site. It is full of very usefull information for women. ...

Lesbian Life: new Long Distance g/f still speaks to ex, long distance lover, company entertainment
long distance lover, company entertainment, trust issue: I believe that you are a rebound and you are filling a void for her. If she isn t ready to defend you and focus on you then what is the point of continuing? It s not serious especially if you haven t met. Honestly, sorry to say but I think you are better off...

Lesbian Life: new to lesbian and inlove, friend natalie, long term relationship
friend natalie, long term relationship, wonderful girl: Hi Gracie, thanks for coming to me. In some ways, i think your sister is right. You need to just wait and see what happens first, before you tell anyone. Yes you can change your mind later on, but its best to be sure first. The reason i say this is because...

Lesbian Life: This is new to me..., cuddling, holding hands
cuddling, holding hands, young adults: Hi Kory, Well this is very normal. It can be a combination of you being lonely and jealous at the same time. However it can be possible with your age that you just are not into guys right now. Sometimes at young adults we go through those stages. Now and...

Lesbian Life: Orgasm or nogasm?, intimate time, mintues
intimate time, mintues, real sex: Hi Lindsey, thanks for coming to me. Before i get into any advice on this, i need to ask you a few questions please. 1. Are you of legal age? I also need to make sure that any advice i offer, isnt going to be used in an inappropriate manner, and that...

Lesbian Life: ok, ebb and flow, haunting grounds
ebb and flow, haunting grounds, tangible recognition: Hi Kim, a note just saying hi! doesn t sound dumb at all...it is good to get! You do realize that it is a milestone along the way to recognize that you miss being in love. That is pretty huge. It is a tangible recognition for you, and something you will...

Lesbian Life: ok, violent dreams, gray city
violent dreams, gray city, night answer: No you didn t cause all of everyone s pain. that s just what they want you to believe, but it is the other way around. You don t bother me... We have to leave to go to the next kid s house, but I will try to check in again tomorrow. One more day Kim....

Lesbian Life: ok oops, fucking mom, precious daughter
fucking mom, precious daughter, numbskull: No, you are rightfully screaming your lungs out! Your mom is a dipwad, to say the least. She is an irritating, irrational, inconceivably selfish idiot. Sorry, I know it is your mom I am talking about, but she is a numbskull. One more day, and feel free...

Lesbian Life: ok withdraw, flesh and blood, panic sets
flesh and blood, panic sets, chicken shit: Kim, of COURSE you want to run, duck, hide. Of COURSE you cringe as you tell me all these things and let me see you. There would be something seriously wrong with you if you didn t feel this way. You are admitting some pretty serious shit right now. You...

Lesbian Life: Your opinion, fulltime work, internet conversations
fulltime work, internet conversations, psychological markers: Unfortunately it s difficult to establish a clear perception of a person who may or may not filter what they tell you, perhaps unintentionally and perhaps intentionally. You may find that your friend in Brazil is actually a fifty year old man who likes to...

Lesbian Life: To many options, good girl, convo
good girl, convo, bf: Hi Sheneque...wow, this is a tough one. I don t think I can tell you what to do, who to choose. I think it has to come down to one thing--which one do you love passionately? I would say I have some cautions for you on two of them...even if there was no...

Lesbian Life: orgasm problems..., orgasm problems, couple drinks
orgasm problems, couple drinks, dutch courage: Hi Amelia, thank you for coming back:) THank you for telling me all this as well by the way, its not easy to do. Well, from what youve told me so far, im going to try and offer you some decent advice here. Firstly, you need to keep talking to your girlfriend,...

Lesbian Life: orgasm too quick, couple hours, orgasms
couple hours, orgasms, orgasm: Hi T, thanks for coming to me. Best advice I can offer you is to go to the following website. It is NOT a porn site, but instead, a site dedicated to all things women:) There is a section about orgasms and I hope this will help you. www.the-clitoris.com...

Lesbian Life: PDA, public affection, physical interaction
public affection, physical interaction, ubers: To be honest with you, my first suggestion would have been to talk to her about how you feel. Unfortunately you have done that time and time again and it comes without any change. I can completely understand what you are trying to say but as much as it may...

Lesbian Life: PDA delemia, innocent ways, physical interaction
innocent ways, physical interaction, ubers: Hi Randi...this is a very tough one, because neither one of you is wrong, and neither one of you should have to change for the other. This is a personality thing. It doesn t make you bad or selfish for needing to show affection in the very innocent ways...

Lesbian Life: Penetration, private question, feminity
private question, feminity, facination: I don t think there is anything wrong with you. It sounds to me that you want to explore your sexuality to the fullest extent and unfortunately right now you cannot do this. I don t know if you have ever done this in the past or not but it may be something...

Lesbian Life: Please help me here!, 7 months, out of the blue
7 months, out of the blue, 10 months: Hi Maya, So let me get this straight. You two had a few problems, she got carried away and decided it was over. You got back together, nothing changed, and you broke up again. You get back together, change, and she breaks up with you again. I really don...

Lesbian Life: Plz, friend issue, anxiety and depression, newfound sense
anxiety and depression, newfound sense, loyce: It s good of you to do this for your friend. It is indeed very important for her to connect with other lesbians regardless of whether she finds a love interest among them or not. It s crucial that she be among people who understand some of the struggles she...

Lesbian Life: Problems viewing answer, lesbian life, questioner
lesbian life, questioner, facade: Questioner: Anne-Marie Category: Lesbian Life Private: no Subject: Me thinking aloud.. excuse in advance! Question: Hi Maenad... I ve been mulling over your reply all day... especially the paragraph on what you ve learned looking back. I was really...

Lesbian Life: Is patience really a virtue?, dancing shoes, dream woman
dancing shoes, dream woman, one of these nights: MC, you are such a trip! Now that you gave me permission to let my partner read your emails, she asks if I got another letter from you, and then she says Did she have sex yet?! LOL...not intended to be bawdy at all, it is just that it is like watching...

Lesbian Life: personality type, wont ruin, couples therapy
wont ruin, couples therapy, crazy question: Dear Andrea, Jane sounds to me like she is really red zone )if you want to call it that) co-dependent. Over time if you decide to take her to couples therapy she could be helped. When people get to be a certain way for a long time, its usually very hard...

Lesbian Life: just a phase?, life choice, likings
life choice, likings, amber: hi amber there is not enough info here for a detailed answer but i will do my best. COnsidering you just left for school and in a totally different atmosphere this is very possible. It is nothing but a phase considering this is your first time experiencing...

Lesbian Life: please help, coworker, sexuality
coworker, sexuality, courage: Honestly I think it is a little bit of both. At least if it was me that s what it would be. When you look back at these times, did she seem at all flustered with the answers you gave like they weren t enough or was she straight faced about it? A lot of it...

Lesbian Life: plz tell, lesbian partner, lesbians
lesbian partner, lesbians, females: Hi Well, yes. I was hurt by a male in my teens. When i was 9 yrs old i was raped in this store and throughout my childhood, i was abused by my father. However, being lesbian alot of times has nothing to do with being abused as a teenager. However, there...

Lesbian Life: Can pregnancy make one a lesbian?, first time mom, advice info
first time mom, advice info, silly question: Hi Jessica, Pregnancy does a LOT of things to you physically and emotionally, not the least of which is to throw your hormones WAAAY out of whack! It is possible this is all coming up now because of some repressed feelings desires you have had in the past...it...

Lesbian Life: problems with gf being bi, old boyfriends, sugar daddies
old boyfriends, sugar daddies, guinea pig: Dear Jessica, It sounds like your girlfriend is sneaking around on you or at least thinking about it. I do not think you should move out yet, move into the spare bedroom, and tell me what her reaction is. I will give you more advice from there. Lola...

Lesbian Life: protection during sex, latex gloves, vinyl gloves
latex gloves, vinyl gloves, harmful bacteria: Hi Amy, thanks for the question:)))) The answer is yes you can have protected sex:) If you are not shy, go to a sex store and ask them for a dental dam. It is basically a latex sheet that you can place accross the genitalia and still give stimulating...

Lesbian Life: should I pursue her?, casual conversations, impatient person
casual conversations, impatient person, attatched: Hi Sonja, It sounds like something you really want, and to be honest with you, it sounds like she may want it too. If the feelings are so strong, I don t think they will just disappear anytime soon. If you re afraid someone might catch her eye before you...

Lesbian Life: Question about Sexual Orientation, physical closeness, intimate time
physical closeness, intimate time, sexual orientation: Hi Miranda, I have a sis that liked Lesbian porn but she is as straight as a line (as far as i know). Everyone has different taste. SO dont get bent up about you like lesbian porn. Yeah there are alot of females that like to fantasize about being with a...

Lesbian Life: Question, infatuations, firends
infatuations, firends, safe sex: Hi Ja Mere, thanks for coming to me:) In all honesty, there is nothing wrong with being confused. Especially at this point in your life. you are still young and finding out who you are. Defining your sexuality can take time. While you are trying to sort...

Lesbian Life: Questioning my identity, old feelings, subservient girlfriend
old feelings, subservient girlfriend, sex with a guy: Hi Ursula, thanks for coming to me. Firstly, you are NOT damaged goods! Youve just lost your way a bit, and I would like to suggest something that might get you back on track ok? I always think its a good idea to go to a counsellor/therapist, and try...

Lesbian Life: Questioning, interracial couples, two different things
interracial couples, two different things, age barrier: Dear Lemas, Just because you are male, I do not automatically assume anything about the kind of questions you are going to ask, I don t judge people s intelligence or anything else (except whether I am interested in more than conversation) by gender. First...

Lesbian Life: My question :), questioners, good friend
questioners, good friend, sexuality: Hi Katie, I really don t think that your friend is trying to lead you on. I say this because besides asking questions about sexuality, she has not done anything else to make you believe that she may be interested in you in that sort of way. There s no flirting...

Lesbian Life: a question, grudge, sexuality
grudge, sexuality, alot of people: Hi Kasheita, Well, like alot of people parents love to be very acceptable as long as its not their own child. Its ok to know that Junior up the road, is gay but its a problem when its their own child. ITs just a different kind of feelings. Parents try to...

Lesbian Life: my question is, emotional addiction, glbt teens
emotional addiction, glbt teens, school counselor: The first thing you need to do, Dominique, is stop the weed. I m not opposed to marijuana per se but there is a time and place for it. Turning to drugs to help you cope, especially at your age, is the slippery slope to self-destruction. That is the WORST time...

Lesbian Life: My question, ovarie, stress at work
ovarie, stress at work, stress level: Definitely nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. I would have suggested so but most people don t take that too well especially coming from a complete stranger. With everything that has gone on in your life the past years or two, you could definitely use someone...

Lesbian Life: My question (again), everyday occurances, long term relationships
everyday occurances, long term relationships, sam s club: It is a possibility that with all of the stress could have led to the break - up as I have told you. If a person cannot be honest with you over the little things then in my personal opinion is they can t when the big things come up and there is no trust there....

Lesbian Life: question, female teacher, sexual orientation
female teacher, sexual orientation, chat groups: There is really no way to know for sure whether she is a lesbian or not unless you ask her and she chooses to tell you. An old friend of mine once said, If you don t say it then it doesn t stick. In other words, people may speculate or jump to conclusions...

Lesbian Life: another question from allyn, lesbian section, melissa etheridge
lesbian section, melissa etheridge, overnight trip: Hi Allyn! YES, I do remember you! It s good to hear from you again. Good questions again, all... Let s start with the Romans verses. The verse in Romans SEEMS to be the most cut and dried Bible condemns Christianity verse IF someone takes it out of...

Lesbian Life: question, bull by the horns, public highschool
bull by the horns, public highschool, bisexual girls: Hi Lizzie, thanks for coming to me. Coming out is quite a hard thing to do, and its also a very brave thing to do. There is no easy way to say to anyone that you are gay. But, if this is something you are sure you want to do, then the only way you can...

Lesbian Life: questioning at older age, physical intimacy, long term relationship
physical intimacy, long term relationship, female companionship: You shouldn t feel dense for not knowing your sexual orientation at 28, Wren. I didn t know mine until I was in my late 30s after a marriage and two kids. You probably share my envy of those who know from the start and can avoid all that nonsense. I think...

Lesbian Life: questioning it all, residential art, s college
residential art, s college, art school: Hi Emma, To be honest I really don t know what to say. I can t help recalling the mental illnesses you listed so its hard to give sound advice because I have to now consider your disorders. I defanitely think you kept your self away from the outside world,...

Lesbian Life: RE: Orgasm or Nogasm, inappropriate manner, sexual issues
inappropriate manner, sexual issues, private area: Hi Lindsey, thanks for getting back to me. Well, i would like to direct you to a website because i feel there is more to be gained from reading other peoples thoughts and experiences on this subject:) www.the-clitoris.com This is NOT a porn site,...

Lesbian Life: RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, something in my life, relationship problems
something in my life, relationship problems, wonderful women: Hmm. this is tough. It seems to me like you would benefit from talking to a therapist. This is a little out of my area of expertise since I m only 22 with no kids, and not living with my girlfriend. I do think that talking to a professional would really...

Lesbian Life: Re, long distance phone calls, online support group
long distance phone calls, online support group, error situation: Hi Alison, Thanks for coming back:) Unfortunately matchmakin sites are pretty much a trial and error situation. Its up to you to do a search online and see if there is a site that appeals to you. They are all pretty much the same, but what you really...

Lesbian Life: Re: answering your questions, sexual experiences, kissing women
sexual experiences, kissing women, answering your questions: Hi Alison, thank you for coming back and answering my questions:) Well, I dont know if you are or have been sexually active with men. But, i wont just say that you are a lesbian from the answers you provided. This is a choice you make when you have had...

Lesbian Life: Re: dating sites, free matchmaking site, dating sites
free matchmaking site, dating sites, key words: Hi Alison, thanks for coming back. the best advice i can give you regarding dating sites is just to search until you find one that you like. As there are quite a few out there, it might pay to put the key words free matchmaking site in your search engine...

Lesbian Life: Re: follow up Q to "Sex: straight girl falls for lesbian", sexual experiences, men friends
sexual experiences, men friends, straight girl: I m glad you included as much information as you did, Marla, because it gives me some insight into the situation. I ll just say something up front here and then go on to answer your questions, if I may. Sex is not in the genitals, my dear. What I mean...

Lesbian Life: Re: My special Friend, communication delay, anythign
communication delay, anythign, special friend: Hi Jasmine, glad I could help! Well, if you have no one else to talk to, I dont see why you cant keep in contact with your friend. it will help if you have someone you can bounce off. Just dont rub it in your husbands face ok? In other words, be respectful...

Lesbian Life: Re, lesbian club, well women
lesbian club, well women, possible resources: Hi Alison, thanks for the question:0) Well, women are like men, in that they do flirt:) The best place to meet women that enjoy other womens company is to go to a gay/lesbian club or pub. You dont have to go on your own at all, if you have a friend that...

Lesbian Life: Really coming out., online support groups, straight life
online support groups, straight life, best bet: Hey Liz, thanks for coming here. First off, you dont need to know anyone else in order to understand what you are going through, or to understand how you are. No one else can tell you how to feel or how you should be, only you. BUT what might help is if...

Lesbian Life: Relationship, gut instinct, great personality
gut instinct, great personality, spending time: Seeing that you are not in any form of committed relationship, I don t see that you have done anything wrong. You are simply, dating. If you ever feel that anything is going too quickly, it probably is, otherwise you wouldn t have that sensation. Perhaps...

Lesbian Life: Relationship Help, freshman year, softball team
freshman year, softball team, whole time: I think you already know the answer, Olivia, but if it will help to hear me say it then I will. There is very little chance that she will change her mind and you need to move on. I know why you think she s making the wrong choice but there s nothing you...

Lesbian Life: Relationship Woes, cheating girlfriend, hook up
cheating girlfriend, hook up, monogamy: One of the primary pillars of a good relationship is trust. One cannot build a solid house on a shaky foundation. If you and your gf want to build a solid relationship this trust issue must be resolved. Otherwise the relationship will fall apart like a card...

Lesbian Life: Relationship, sexual partner, ames
sexual partner, ames, little time: Hi Ames, thanks for the question:) Its unfortunate when a relationship stagnates and seems to just die, but, there is a way to make things work if you want to. However, you have already stated that you are not turned on by her anymore and that sex with...

Lesbian Life: Religious Conflicts, religious conflicts, giant package
religious conflicts, giant package, sense of shame: Hi Randi, So, I want to make sure that I have this clear and can give you my best answer. Are you the same Randi that wrote to me about the lessening of sex in your relationship? If so, this new information creates a whole new picture for me. If not, then...

Lesbian Life: Religious Conflicts, religious conflicts, dating girls
religious conflicts, dating girls, going to hell: First off, she needs to stand up to her family and explain to them the meaning of love and respect. If they loved her for her they would respect her decisions as she will only get to live this life once. I am catholic although I choose not believe or be...

Lesbian Life: Reply to "To be or not to be", doing the dishes, fantasy life
doing the dishes, fantasy life, emotional baggage: Hi Jane, I am pleased i was able to help you in some way:) Its good to hear that you did some serious thinking about which way to turn. I think, that you did the right thing staying with your fiance. From what youve written today, you ARE clearly in love...

Lesbian Life: Resources - Questioning your sexuality, words of advice, blue in the face
words of advice, blue in the face, mid 20: Here are a few resources, Charlie. I found these just by googling questioning your sexuality and following whatever looked interesting. I suggest that you do the same and see what you can come up with. http://www.pflagphoenix.org/quick_guides/guide-questioning.html...

Lesbian Life: Respect, conservative community, straight race
conservative community, straight race, race ethnicity: Good morning Veronica. Thanks for writing to me. I would say if your letter is any indication, then yes, you are a bit more mature than many people your age. That always has its advantages and its disadvantages. If you ARE more mature and other people...

Lesbian Life: Could this be real?, trust issues, way of life
trust issues, way of life, family and friends: Hi Julz, Being molested at any age can have a great impact on anyone. While there is no proof that molestation leads someone to turn gay, it is a good analogy and people like to use that to explain why they aregay or lesbian...especially if they were molested....

Lesbian Life: realationship problems, realationship problems, sexual aspect
realationship problems, sexual aspect, good relationship: Hi Patricia, thanks for coming to me:) It would seem that you already know the answer to your question as to what to do with your relationship. You have said exactly what I would have suggested. Move on, kick her out, and get on with living. This might...

Lesbian Life: Who am I really attracted to?, sexual feelings, relatioships
sexual feelings, relatioships, hot men: Do you feel any better now that you ve come to this conclusion? Do you feel any sense of relief at finally allowing yourself to be who you are? I m curious whether you decided you were gay because everyone says you are or if you realized they were right. ...

Lesbian Life: Am I really gay, lesbian relationship, shadow of a doubt
lesbian relationship, shadow of a doubt, trendset: Dearest Trendset, Forgive me for taking the allotted two days but I really wanted to think over my answer. First of all it sounds like you are really and truly in love with your lady. That to me says you re gay beyond a shadow of a doubt. However,...

Lesbian Life: a recent dream...something more?, sexual frustration, erotic dreams
sexual frustration, erotic dreams, erotic dream: Erotic dreams about a person of sexual interest is very common, Samantha. The mind is the primary sex organ and our experiences, wishes and desires are all determined by how we think about them. Your attraction to your co-worker is normal and it follows that...

Lesbian Life: relationship, pat answers, few words
pat answers, few words, sadness: Hi Kim, I don t know if anyone has packed so much pain, so many questions, and so much of life into so few words to me before... You are right about me not being able to answer any of this...because you need more than pat answers. That doesn t mean it...

Lesbian Life: relationship, relationship question, center of my world
relationship question, center of my world, traumatic time: Be friends eventually huh? That s a wonderful thing. So basically you have to sit around and wait for her to figure out where her life is headed just for a chance to be friends with her? If she was your friend to begin with honey she wouldn t walk away from...

Lesbian Life: relationship, life taste, intimate details
life taste, intimate details, can of worms: She opened up a can of worms and I take it she has no real clue about it. The best thing you can do is give it some time. This is something you will either get over and move on in your relationship or it will tear it up until there is nothing left. Once...

Lesbian Life: Can a relationship grow out of an affair?, grad school, 4 months
grad school, 4 months, current situation: Hello Megan, I want to say first that I have a great deal of experience when it concerns problems like this, however you may not like what I have to say... Your friends are right to an extent. Yes, once a cheater there is always that chance they will continue...

Lesbian Life: relationship problems, full time job, family gatherings
full time job, family gatherings, lesbian relationship: Hi Jay, Well I hate to say it, but your friends and counselor are most likely right. She seems to be the type of person who always needs to have many things on the go, and will put you on a waiting list. Of course all the things she s currently doing...

Lesbian Life: relationship problems, relationship problems, ups and downs
relationship problems, ups and downs, 4 months: Hi Jessica! You need to put your foot down and stand up for yourself! If you don t like this girl calling your phone, tell your girlfriend to do something about it. It s not unreasonable to ask that. And you should do something about her not letting you...

Lesbian Life: relationship woes, seasonal depression, sex life
seasonal depression, sex life, 4 months: Hi Bea, There are so many things that could be going on with your girlfriend, and I think that the depression may have played the key factor. Many people when depressed close themselves off to everyone in their lives, and there is no desire for sex or...

Lesbian Life: relationship, making love, breasts
making love, breasts, lesbians: Hi Jennifer, thanks for the questions:) Well, when you find a woman and start to have a relationship, the only way you will know what she wants is by talking to her ok? Every woman is different, and there isnt a specific way that i can suggest for making...

Lesbian Life: relationships, sex, physical relationship, relationships
physical relationship, relationships, love: I would say if it has been happening for about a year, is she with someone else? Is she married? Are you dating? What has the relationship been like so far? Just over the phone? Are you wanting her to open up in terms of talking and working things out?...

Lesbian Life: also, pizza place, one of the girls
pizza place, one of the girls, dumb things: Hi Amber, It is harsh that it had to come out that way, but sometimes people say a lot of dumb things when they drink. She was clearly embarassed by it, and decided just to go with it the next day and high five her friends. It was brought up infront of...

Lesbian Life: resources for lesbians, dv resources, stop gap
dv resources, stop gap, rainbowhope: Dearest Jen, There are options for your friend depending on her location and the size of the city and/or town besides the generousity of friends. The first obvious option of course is for your friend to try any of the local battered womyn shelters....

Lesbian Life: How To Save A Friendship, bisexual experience, devestated
bisexual experience, devestated, first move: Hi Jo, Don t worry about it being too long a letter...sometimes the more information I have to work with, the better. I read through your letter a couple of times to get a feel for the situation. It is really hard...I feel so bad for you. I don t know...

Lesbian Life: Saving My Relationship, lesbian relationship, adult child
lesbian relationship, adult child, seven year itch: Hi Renee, yes, there is hope. It sounds like we have two very loving people. In fact, with two virgos, we have two of MY partner. So I could relate to your situation extremely well on several levels. I m a Taurus, which means the two of us are both a match...

Lesbian Life: The Second Time Around, funny fun, mistrust
funny fun, mistrust, answer the phone: Hi Maddy, Awww, this sounds like a GREAT relay. I actually smiled reading this and I have NEVER done that before. I think the best thing you can do is talk to her about how this making you feel. and I m sorry if I had feelings for one girl, I wouldn t...

Lesbian Life: Seperating from husband...love my girlfriend, divorce issues, sexual love
divorce issues, sexual love, seperating: Darcy, First and formost you need to be able to talk to her. Tell her that you love her, and that you really want to savor each and every moment of this new avenue in life for you. express to her that you have been married and now you are experiencing something...

Lesbian Life: Sex, raw sexuality, heterosexual couples
raw sexuality, heterosexual couples, ways to have sex: Hi Sarah, thanks for the question:) Its not embarassing at all, and its a very common question indeed:) Check this website out: www.the-clitoris.com It has a LOT of very useful information on it, about how to pleasure a woman, self pleasure, and...

Lesbian Life: Sex, sex womens, adult themes
sex womens, adult themes, pleasurable experience: Hi Louisa, thanks for coming to me. I want to send you to another website please www.the-clitoris.com This is NOT a porn site. It is a site dedicated to womens sex, womens sexual health, fantasies, adult themes, and it is accessed by men and women,...

Lesbian Life: Sex with a married woman, sexual appetites, golf game
sexual appetites, golf game, married with children: I wish I could read a crystal ball and tell you what the future holds, my dear, but that s being unrealistic. However, the odds of eventually having what you want are pretty good if you re both working toward the same goal. I know there s a lot to lose but...

Lesbian Life: Sex, wild and crazy sex, hook up
wild and crazy sex, hook up, first sex: Well it could be the medication that your gf is on, however i dont know the side effects. the age difference can defanitely be a factor. Also that fact that you guys have only been together for 6 months can also be the reason. When people first hook up, they...

Lesbian Life: Sexual Identity, rare occurance, overnight summer camp
rare occurance, overnight summer camp, serious relationship: Hi Thea, thanks for the questions:) You have a lot of interesting questions:) First off, im not going to say that yes you are a lesbian. Its not as simple as that. I would hazard a guess and say that you are perhaps bi curious? Its also a good thing...

Lesbian Life: Sexual Identity, rare occurance, overnight summer camp
rare occurance, overnight summer camp, serious relationship: Hi Thea, I can see why you feel so confused. To start with, all the questions you asked about whether you would have been attracted to her if she wasn t a lesbian, etc, well, they can t be answered because you can t change what happened so you ll never...

Lesbian Life: Sexual Intimacy, sexual intimacy, counsellor
sexual intimacy, counsellor, mean time: Hi Mariela, thanks for coming to me. I would like to ask a few questions before i offer any advice if thats ok? If you could just answer them and get back to me, i would be grateful. 1. When did you start feeling the not turned on feeling? Was it when...

Lesbian Life: Sexual identity, rare occurance, overnight summer camp
rare occurance, overnight summer camp, serious relationship: Dear Thea, Thank you for so much emailing me, I realize that questioning your sexuality can be very confusing and I will do my best to try to help. The question of whether you are a lesbian or not is often very difficult to answer, but the answer does...

Lesbian Life: Sexual Orientation, sexual preference, sexual orientation
sexual preference, sexual orientation, traumas: Hi Cindy I think its different for each individual. Some have traumas like rape and abuse that can clearly make them want to be with the same sex from constant pain from men. Same thing goes for men. Also, The heart will want what it wants. I think people...

Lesbian Life: Should I Should Or Should I...Shant...?, person kind, personality type
person kind, personality type, initial reaction: Hi Terra, that is a tough one...something that every person kind of has to decide for themselves. Every parent reacts so differently. Some who have always said the things your mother says turn around and love and accept and support their kids, and others...