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Marriage: fear of marriage
Hi Hemakshi~ If you don t take a chance on love, then how are you really going to know what love and even marriage is about? You have to take chances in life, you live and you learn from life s experiences. Marriage isn t for everyone and not all marriages...

Marriage: wife unhappy?
Hi Charles- You need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know how this is affecting you, and what you re willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. Ask her what she would like you to change about you....

Marriage: 21 years and not very happy, new wrinkle, active duty
new wrinkle, active duty, 4 months: Hi Dale~ Of course, you have every right to be upset about what she s just told you. It s devastating and shocking for anyone to hear. But asking questions all the time, isn t going to make you feel any better or or give you closure about the situation...

Marriage: I AM 23 YEARS OLD AND I HAVE..., high school sweetheart, marriage work
high school sweetheart, marriage work, least three times: Dear Candice, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I see many, many issues that need to be addressed in your message to me. First of all is the matter of your husband not telling you the truth. ...

Marriage: thank you for responding,..., woman and man, gass
woman and man, gass, 8 years: Dear Kiki, Thank you for the follow up to clarify your issues and thoughts. I do understand your frustration and anger. However, I believe that in any realtionship (not just marriage), that you must give freely of your heart with no expectations of...

Marriage: 2nd marriage, piece of crap, cross word
piece of crap, cross word, couple nights: Hi Cindy~ He had his own home prior to the marriage you re not entitled to that. And the home not being in your name either, you re not responsible for anything in the home either (or that has to do with the home). That s his problem and responsibility....

Marriage: 2nd marriage & not happy, choice in the matter, annulment
choice in the matter, annulment, university graduate: Hi Ali~ If you even remotely doubt about being with your wife. Do not have children with her. That will make the marriage that much worse. Adding children to an already unhappy and unstable marriage is just asking for trouble--and will only make things...

Marriage: 7year and not married, finite terms, reading between the lines
finite terms, reading between the lines, mother and father: Well, that is a loaded question. Some men are afraid of commitments. So are some women. Granted, in our society, men have more tendencies to play around than women. But both do. Again, go back to what I said before. Ask him what future he sees for...

Marriage: 9 years down the drain?, unhealthy relationship, abusive relationship
unhealthy relationship, abusive relationship, person change: Hi Amanda~ Don t waste one more moment in this relationship. As tough as it may be, you really need to get out of this unhealthy relationship. Be glad that you aren t married to him. First off you don t deserve to be treated the way you are, by being...

Marriage: Absentee Husband, high school sweethearts, drowning in depression
high school sweethearts, drowning in depression, heavy drinker: Hi Carol~ Is there any possible way that he could find another job, that doesn t require him to travel so frequently. You need to tell him exactly how this is affecting you. That you feel like you re starting to slowly drift apart, due to the fact that...

Marriage: Is this Abuse or an Act of Innocence, moment action, spur of the moment
moment action, spur of the moment, mental abuse: Dear Kirby, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I think the more important question here is not so much is this abuse but who has your wife been talking to that has put these ideas into her head?...

Marriage: Abuse or a bitch?, relationship changes, breaking things
relationship changes, breaking things, bullcrap: This is a perfect example of the need for a local counselor, a third party to listen to both side, sometimes this alone is enough to shock a nut back into shape. Generally if there is enough love left in a relationship changes can be made, but when this drags...

Marriage: Where's the Abuse --- I'm confused, abusive relationship, physical violence
abusive relationship, physical violence, false arrest: Hello Dermot, QUOTE: In her log she accuses a sibling of intentionally endangering life of wife & unborn child (Child born with brain damage). This written in her log 26 years after the alleged endangerment. I think you need to get with...

Marriage: Abusive or Not Abusive, saturn sc2, digit figures
saturn sc2, digit figures, dinner theatres: Dear Larry, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. As I m sure you already know, your wife is not being abused - mentally OR physiclly. It seems that your wife has some type of fixation on this fantasy...

Marriage: Addiction, sex with my husband, girl type
sex with my husband, girl type, high blood pressure: Probably through masturbation in his life before girlfriends and marriage, he has found an easier or lazier way of getting himself there. Now that there is a partner, he should have had to make a change, of course why he hasn t in 6 years is beyond me. All...

Marriage: Addtional to marriage/money, emotional stress, selfish person
emotional stress, selfish person, talking about money: Renee: Your husband seems to have a very significant self-esteem issue. There is no reason that a healthy adult should not be able to contribute to the financial well being of his or her family. It sounds like you are doing your part - he is not. First,...

Marriage: Adult Daughter wrecking our marriage, budget cutbacks, adult daughter
budget cutbacks, adult daughter, jealous type: It s a hard one for even me. When the tweetie birds don t want to fly away from the nest, I guess you have to find a way to shoo them off. Since the confrontational method hasn t worked, I guess you should try the more supportive one. Especially now when the...

Marriage: Adultry, going through the motions, mixed emotions
going through the motions, mixed emotions, s child: Hi Jana~ I assume that she s pregnant with your husband s child. Please correct me if I m wrong here. I come from a very similar situation. When I was married to my first husband he cheated on me several times (5 that I know for sure). The last one...

Marriage: Adultry, marriage counseling, old feelings
marriage counseling, old feelings, replays: Hi Yvonne~ It takes time and effort. When a person cheats on you, it makes you lose all the respect and trust you once had in them. He has to start proving to you that he s a changed man, and that he s not going to be tempted to stray again. I would...

Marriage: Affair with a married man, second marriages, sad reality
second marriages, sad reality, married man: Preeti: The bottom line on affairs is that they almost always end in pain, hurt, and damage to relationships. Without knowing anymore than you have shared with me, my advice to you is to get out of this relationship. I know it will be painful but...

Marriage: Affair with a married man, first affair, married man
first affair, married man, business person: I don t appreciate being rated a 1 in 3 different catagories. In fact I think that s rather rude of you to do. My reputation is impeccable with the ppl that ask me questions. If you read my profile, it stated that I give honest answers. So if you re not...

Marriage: Affair Thrown in My Face, dna test, angers
dna test, angers, 11 years: Hi Laurie/Pamela~ Wasn t sure which name you really go by, since there are two listed here for your question. He s doing this to get to you. Some times a person has tear someone down, in order to build himself up. That s what he s doing in this case....

Marriage: No Affection or Sex in Marriage, mid thirties, room mates
mid thirties, room mates, romantic feelings: Hello Brent, Are you headed for a divorce? Since she obviously is no longer interested in you and you are looking elsewhere,it would seem that way. Time to sit down with her and tell her you don t have strong feelings for her anymore and see what she...

Marriage: AGE difference in marriage life, age difference in marriage, marriage life
age difference in marriage, marriage life, life experiences: Hi Noorulimran, If 20 yr girl is form India too and you plan to live in India too and that too in some conservative village where they have caste and other fanatic people living there then it might become a problem. But if she is willing , her family is willing...

Marriage: Age Difference in marrage, marrage, old boyfriend
marrage, old boyfriend, judgement: Hi Tina~ Age difference doesn t usually matter in a marriage (or even relationship). It s how compatible you are together is what matters. And just be aware that there is a reason he s divorced twice, that should tell you something in its self. Just...

Marriage: Age difference, old adage, energy shifts
old adage, energy shifts, energy shift: Dear Adeel, I do not know if this is true. I have never heard of this energy shift . Age usually becomes a factor when one partner wishes to have a child, wants to retire or when their interests reflect different values and or morals. The old adage...

Marriage: Alcohol abuse and children, divorce bill, household bills
divorce bill, household bills, counceling: It s always better to try to work something out, then at least when you decide to leave you can say you tried. It isn t always fun being a single mother. Set a deadline for the counceling and see it is arranged. Sometimes being confronted by a third party...

Marriage: Ambigious, rude language, relationship issues
rude language, relationship issues, personal relationship: Dear Maggie, When my husband and I both read this (as he helps me with some questions) we arrived at the same conclusion. It s not right for a man who is involved in a relationship with you to still see his ex. It s just wrong! The fact that she invites...

Marriage: Anger, heart to heart talk, anger issues
heart to heart talk, anger issues, short temper: Hi Laurie~ He obviously has an anger issue. The only thing I can suggest to you is that he get some form of anger management or individual counseling, in order to help him cope with this. If you don t do something about it it s only going to get worse...

Marriage: Angry and hurt, having such a hard time, wedding clothes
having such a hard time, wedding clothes, feelings of love: Getting engaed and being married, at least in the beginning is supposed to be a happy time full of hope, promise, and wonder. If you are experiencing hard times now, it s time to hit the door. Life has plenty of problems for the most promising of marriages,...

Marriage: Angry and hurt, true heart, verbal communication
true heart, verbal communication, fiance: Hello David, You are understandably upset.Get a piece of paper and a pen out.Write down all the things she has done in the past that has irritated you or hurt you.Take a very good look at it.Then think about how for the last two months she has obviously...

Marriage: Arranged Marraige, pastor kim, family relationships
pastor kim, family relationships, different culture: K, Again, it s my opinion that you should not have to marry someone against your wishes. It can be a recipe for disaster. In other countries, however, I do not know what the consequences would be since it involves some religions that can be very harsh....

Marriage: Asking the parents, wedding expenses, promise ring
wedding expenses, promise ring, wedding plans: As a girl, don t forget your parents are likely the ones paying for some or all of your wedding expenses, so getting their approval is crucial. Explain that your engagement can be for as long as you want, usually engagements are for a year while wedding plans...

Marriage: Attention Deficit, fun flirty, arguement
fun flirty, arguement, touchy subject: Hi Janet~ Something definitely sounds fishy to me. What s he really up to?! If he s openly flirting and paying more attention to other women (and not you) then that should send up red flags, big time. He obviously has no respect for you, otherwise he...

Marriage: over achiever wife non ambitous husband, scholarship programs, career in nursing
scholarship programs, career in nursing, rough life: Hello Kayla, Eventually you will come to despise him,better to leave now.There will be others.Looks aren t that important to a good man.They will love you for your personality.Have faith in yourself. Of course he is romantic and does something nice...

Marriage: adultery, heart to heart talk, mixed signals
heart to heart talk, mixed signals, adulterous affair: Hi Bernadette~ He s giving you mixed signals and this is why it s so confusing to you. He says one thing one minute and then something else later! Anyone would be confused. You need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk with him. He needs...

Marriage: adultery, marriage work, one day at a time
marriage work, one day at a time, day at a time: Hi Melanie~ It s very frustrating for both of you to go through right now. And it s going to take some time to work through this process. I would strongly urge both of you to seek marriage counseling. This way you can figure out what lead him to stray...

Marriage: adultry, gut instinct, truth this time
gut instinct, truth this time, eveytime: Hi again Shante~ Yes, encourage him to go to individual therapy for himself. He should be able to get it for cheap or even free through the military. If you have any further questions please feel free to ask. I wish you much luck! And if you wish, please...

Marriage: any advise, realationships, suffering from depression
realationships, suffering from depression, whitch: Dear Phil, You are not nuts. You are not alone in being married to the one and only person you Have been intimate with. Unfortunately it does bring up some feelings that may need to be addressed. The first being trust. Trusting that your spouse will be...

Marriage: any advise, realationships, suffering from depression
realationships, suffering from depression, whitch: Hi Phil~ I don t think you are nuts. You probably shoud ve never agreed for her to meet an ex-boyfriend in the first place. But that s something you certainly can t change now. I think it s normal for you to wonder if anything did actually indeed go...

Marriage: Why am I so afraid to leave?, rocky relationship, counsler
rocky relationship, counsler, sexual relationship: Hi Rachel~ It s hard to leave b/c you love him. And taking the first step and actually going through with it, is going to be the hardest thing to do. But once you take it, it does get easier. You re hesitant to leave him b/c you re used to him being...

Marriage: age difference, it would be a problem?, morals and values, role of a mother
morals and values, role of a mother, s child: Dear Lilliane, You are both older and no longer children or young adults. This makes a big difference when age is considered in a relationship. If you were 20 and he was 40, I would be concerned. Now, you both know what you want in a partner so it is OK to...

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, sexual excitement, sexual needs
sexual excitement, sexual needs, sex drive: If I were your parents I would be very upset. You are too young to think about marriage, especially with a man this much older than you. Don t worry about his sex drive, move on to a young man your own age and finish growing up before you consider marriage....

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, sexual excitement, sexual peak
sexual excitement, sexual peak, consenting adults: Hi N~ Typically males reach their sexual peak in their late teens and through their 20 s. For women it s in their 40 s! It s not uncommon for men to be interested in sex until they are old (60 s and even above). It just depends on the males sexual drive....

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, personal maturity, sexual excitement
personal maturity, sexual excitement, failure rate: Dear n, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. It is hard for me to make recommendations with so little information to go by, but I will try my best to answer your question regarding marriage. I...

Marriage: age difference, cubic zirconia, great relationship
cubic zirconia, great relationship, marrie: Hi Zita~ I think you re over-reacting. If the only problem you have in the relationship, was that he didn t tell you the ring was fake and not real. Then you ve got it made! That would be the least of my worries. Sure, I d be upset that he didn t tell...

Marriage: age or fear of intamcy???, lack of libido, attachment issues
lack of libido, attachment issues, frequent sex: Susan, Thanks for the follow up. I think one area where we often err is not having an understanding of the emotional differences between men and women with regard to sex and love. Men make no connection between the two. A man can love a woman deeply,...

Marriage: does age matter in marriage, age gap, age matter
age gap, age matter, yonas: Dear Yonas, I was concerned with your first question since you had asked if there was something terrible going on. I felt as if there may be an intuition on your part that something may not be right. I just wanted to make sure you knew all there was to know...

Marriage: alone in a relationship, constant companion, pregnant time
constant companion, pregnant time, resentment: Brooklyn, I feel that you should try to find a balance between family unity and your happiness. The one thing that is going to unite your family and if your husband is willing is for you as a family to find a church you can attend. I believe that anyone...

Marriage: arguing getting worse, marriage counseling, stressful time
marriage counseling, stressful time, opposites: Hi Nadia~ I would suggest that you try some counseling for the issues in the marriage. A counselor can give you tips, hints and advice on what to do when you have disagreements, arguements, etc. It can also help you to deal with him when he gets upset...

Marriage: he asked me to marry him and now all we do is fight, planning the perfect wedding, rest of your life
planning the perfect wedding, rest of your life, resentment: Dear Ashley, After being together for 4 years, you both know whether you would like to be together for the rest of your life. Although there is an incredible amount of stress during the planning of a wedding, there should not be constant arguing between the...

Marriage: Babyish husband, dr jekyl, anger issues
dr jekyl, anger issues, grade daughter: Jennifer, I would tell you to not let his behavior influence you. As an adult woman you have the choice to tolerate certain behaviors. I wouldn t tolerate the name calling. Now how you do it is to disrespect your husband which of course is going to cause...

Marriage: Birthday Party, tone down, close friends
tone down, close friends, birthday party: Hi Paul~ I think you need to be somewhere in between both of these. Let me elaborate what I mean exactly. You should certainly be sensitive to her wants/needs, but at the same time being open and honest with her. For example: say something like Honey,...

Marriage: Bitterness , Resentment & Anger, professional counselor, bitterness
professional counselor, bitterness, resentment: Hello Billy, I think you both need counseling.Either with your minister or a professional counselor.She won t apologize and you need an apology.Obviously there is a very serious issue here that can t be worked out between the two of you.Contacting someone...

Marriage: Body language as a source of conflict, divorce marriage, marriage counseling
divorce marriage, marriage counseling, family gatherings: Dear Roger, One of the ways that a partner gains respect for their significant other is to gain respect and liking from that other s parents, friends, family members, co-workers, business associates, acquaintances, etc. This is why it upsets so many people...

Marriage: Breakup or not, max time, 3 things
max time, 3 things, rita: Hello Max, Time to break up.When people decide to get engaged,they usually: 1.Like the way the other person looks. 2.Age doesn t matter. 3.Social levels are insignificant. All the above is part of someones personality.You are not the one for her.She...

Marriage: Breakup or not, 3 things, personality
3 things, personality, marriage: Max, These are very significant issues that if you can not resolve then you should not be together. If you were enter into marriage I do not think that it would last very long. I have seen relationships like this in the past and it would not be very long...

Marriage: Breakup or not, 3 things, rest of your life
3 things, rest of your life, doubts: Dear Maxmalian, My motto is, If you have any doubts at all, do not do it! Every time a person follows their heart instead of their head, it does not work out. If you are having difficulties in being with this woman for the rest of your life, then there...

Marriage: The Burning bed except he doesn't use his fists, emergency brain surgery, brain tumor
emergency brain surgery, brain tumor, residential custody: Hello Laurie, Contact your attorney.Inform him of all this.Ask for supervised meetings with the children for him, because of the verbal abuse. Also,don t visit with him.If you can have a different place that he can see the children,have him go there.For...

Marriage: another baby and marriage on the rocks, 6th week of pregnancy, marriage on the rocks
6th week of pregnancy, marriage on the rocks, week of pregnancy: Dear Kat, Everything happens for a reason and this may bring you an unexpected lesson in life that will lead you to your fate. It is possible that you were sabotaging yourself by reason of fear or rejection within the music industry. It could be that you...

Marriage: baby on the way and sooo distant, heart to heart talk, pregnancy losses
heart to heart talk, pregnancy losses, tragic losses: Hi Sandi~ It could be that he s put up walls so that he doesn t get hurt again since you lost 3 pregnancies prior to this one. And he doesn t want to set himself up for disappointment and hurt again. Thus this is effecting him with giving you the love...

Marriage: Am I a bad wife?, paycheks, old pals
paycheks, old pals, 10 months: Hello Mayra, You are not a bad wife,but he is a selfish,uncaring brute. He manages to save his paycheck for his needs but doesn t help with the bills?? If you are going to have to work to support yourself,get rid of him.You won t ever be secure with...

Marriage: drinking problem, or alcoholic?, real sad story, wedding vow
real sad story, wedding vow, point thanks: Hi Arthur~ I can relate to the accident story. My father was also once involved in an accident (not the first either). One night he was driving drunk and he lost control of his Bronco and drove through someone s house! Right into their livingroom, where...

Marriage: "for better or for worse", wedding vow, empty promises
wedding vow, empty promises, drinker: Arthur, Well being quite a drinker myself, I can tell you how much I like it, but I always seem to know when to stop. So what is her interest in drinking, does she like the flavor, or does she drink for a reason, to forget something, releave some stress,...

Marriage: big problems..., hostess bar, traffic accident
hostess bar, traffic accident, extra money: Hi Steven~ It doesn t sound like she missed you very much, to find comfort in another man. It sounds like she was pulling one over on you. Some ppl just aren t marriage material. She could be one of those ppl. She wanted you to believe that she loved...

Marriage: bitch or abuse, emotional scars, physical wounds
emotional scars, physical wounds, bad memories: Hi Lyn~ Boy, what you ve described to me in your question, sounds like my former marriage to an exact T! And does that bring back bad memories for me. Lyn--It s abuse, he s an abuser. His behavior is totally rude, crude and socially unacceptable....

Marriage: Am i a bitch?, heart to heart talk, hens nights
heart to heart talk, hens nights, bucks nights: Hi Chrissie~ No, that doesn t make you a bitch. He should hear you out as to why you don t want him to go. If he had any respect for you, then he would see where your coming from and wouldn t go in the first place. However, some guys don t see the big...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, pre marriage counseling, mutual attraction
pre marriage counseling, mutual attraction, female friend: If she is marring this guy just because of the money then I would say no. If she truly loves him and he loves her then they should be ok to marry. He may want their credit to be good as a couple and if he has the money to make sure it is then more power to...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, religious book, female friend
religious book, female friend, boy friend: Marriage is about love, marriage is not about helping someone with money. Although seems like the guy is saying he loves her but it s upto this female to decide if she thinks he loves her. If she thinks he loves he and she loves him and want to marry for his...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, female friend, convenant
female friend, convenant, boy friend: Hello CL: Based on what you ve shared with me, my answer is no . She should not marry this guy. So what if he wants to pay her debts? Anybody could do that. Marriage is a lifelong convenant that has nothing to do with money. It is about being a companion,...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, female friend, boy friend
female friend, boy friend, girl friend: Hi CL~ She probably shouldn t marry him, as it might be a huge mistake later. The reason I say this is he sounds very desperate and clingy. And he d likely get that much worse after marriage. Besides, she shouldn t marry someone that she s not 100% in...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, values and morals, meaningful relationship
values and morals, meaningful relationship, female friend: Dear cl, A marriage should never consist of anything else other than true eternal love and a meaningful relationship that two people will cherish and enjoy full of values and morals. This means that they will never have to worry about the other one being...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, debt issue, female friend
debt issue, female friend, money issues: Hi cl, I have to admit that your message is a bit unclear. If I understand correctly, this fellow wants to marry your friend, and he is offering to pay off her debts to do so? I don t quite understand the phrase about him sleeping with a girl before?...

Marriage: boyfriends reluctant to divorce, dating a married man, legal paperwork
dating a married man, legal paperwork, couple counseling: Assuming you can believe him, in his associating with his wife, which I kind of doubt, keeping yourself out of her sites is a good idea. A guy that leaves to find himself is a tincture better than a guy leaving for another woman on the forlorn woman scale....

Marriage: breaking up, smoking pot, illegitimate children
smoking pot, illegitimate children, emotional abuse: Hi Sim~ That s great to hear, when someone writes be back with a success. I m happy to hear that your life has changed for the better. And anytime I hear that I ve helped someone change their life then everything I do to volunteer my time to help a person...

Marriage: On the brink of leaving, last ditch effort, marriage counseling
last ditch effort, marriage counseling, ups and downs: Hi John~ Have you considered marriage counseling? If not, then I would seriously urge you to seek it. This way you can try to make a last ditch effort to see if the marriage can indeed be salvaged. And then you can do your separate ways knowing that...

Marriage: broken heart, candidacy exam, moving away from home
candidacy exam, moving away from home, living my life: Hi Justin~ I would strongly urge you to seek some marriage counseling. This way you can deal with any issues and problems in the marriage. You and your wife have to work together as a team to get past this rough time. Marriage is a constant work in progress,...

Marriage: Too many broken relationships, poor self image, broken relationships
poor self image, broken relationships, faithful man: Dear Robin, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. This is a very interesting question, but I am afraid you have me at a huge disadvantage. I really don t know very much about you or your husband or...

Marriage: How to build my self!, being a good wife, many different reasons
being a good wife, many different reasons, r m french: Dear Hadi, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can answer your question. There is very little to go on here. And I am afraid that I am a little confused about your letter. What I think the letter is saying that you are going to...

Marriage: Casual Porn Use?, hormonal problem, dangers of internet
hormonal problem, dangers of internet, speaking the truth: Hi Lucille~ I think it s certainly possible for a man to have casual porn usage. As long as he s not obsessed with it. However, I don t think any porn is a good idea at all. In fact, I m totally against porn viewing, etc. I think it s destructive to...

Marriage: Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me?, heart to heart talk, marriage counseling
heart to heart talk, marriage counseling, heart to heart: Hi John~ It sounds like you really did good for a while there. But then you let her sucker you back into trying to work things out. Bottom line is the choice is yours to make. It s a tough thing to do when you love someone very much. But she s already...

Marriage: CHEATING HUSBAND, cheating husband, good thoughts
cheating husband, good thoughts, having an affair: Jessica, It s possible to forgive him, sure it is. if you think you need him then you can also have him, but before you have hi for your own peace of mind you will need to forgive him in your own mind. Once you forgive nothing will come in between. So whole...

Marriage: Chance of a lifetime husband is against it, lifetime job, marriage retreat
lifetime job, marriage retreat, chance of a lifetime: Dear Joanie, There are many options, but before I mention those, you and your spouse may want to speak with a trained counselor or go on a marriage retreat togther- it s amazing how you suddenly hear each other when you have to explain it to a third party!...

Marriage: I Cheated, break ups, selfish man
break ups, selfish man, infidelity: Dear Sharon, Your husband sounds to me like a very selfish man. He thinks he has some kind of hold over you by mentioning your affair every time you have a disagreement. This is not fair to you and I think deep down he kind of likes the fact that you...

Marriage: Cheating father, selfish motive, intimate details
selfish motive, intimate details, infidelity: Dear Dodi, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. First of all, I would like to apologize for my delay in answering your question. I have had guests for the holiday and have not had an opportunity...

Marriage: Cheating spouse, cheating spouse, member of the family
cheating spouse, member of the family, family member: Hi Tonilynn~ A spouse cheating with a step-child?! That is just unacceptable for a step-parent to do, not to mention very inappropriate. Sure, you can forgive him for it, but you should not remain in the marriage. As he can t be trusted. He crossed...

Marriage: Cheating wife, divorce procedures, soul mate
divorce procedures, soul mate, cheating wife: Hi Stuart, I wanted to add something to what I had said after I read your response. I just need you to know that you should reconsider your belief that all women cheat. You just have not yet found the ones that do not. Men cheat, women cheat, it...

Marriage: Cheating, marriage counselor, marriage counseling
marriage counselor, marriage counseling, emotions: Dear Robert, I know this is incredibly hard to find out your wife has been cheating and to work on this to stay together. I really do not believe that a couple can say, OK, let s go to a marriage counselor, without caring a great deal about the other. Some...

Marriage: Back Child Support, personal bond, fianc
personal bond, fianc, state prison: Hi Cherie~ You should talk to the judge and see if you can make payment arrangements for the $2,000 that s currently owed. See if you can get the deadline extended for a period of time, in order for you to come up with the remaining amount (on the $2 grand)....

Marriage: Child Support Issues, joint legal custody, divorce decree
joint legal custody, divorce decree, physical custody: Hi Nick~ I m going to copy and paste your questions here and put my answers to them directly underneath them, since it ll be quicker and easier to do that way. **1. How hard is it to get 50% custody of my children in the California Court systems?**...

Marriage: Child Support, child support payments, gross wages
child support payments, gross wages, divorce decree: Hi Tiffany~ I m going to copy and paste your questions here. And I ll put my answers underneath them, this way it s easier for me to reply. **When we marry, can his ex try to increase his payments because of my income?** No, the state can t use...

Marriage: Closure/moving on, slap in the face, lastnight
slap in the face, lastnight, mixed messages: Hi Elizabeth, Well the one truth in what he wrote you is that you deserve better . As to feeling like a slap in the face,I understand.He is basically blaming you for his drinking,partying,and his lack of self esteem.It is all about him hon,you never...

Marriage: Closure/moving on, lastnight, mixed messages
lastnight, mixed messages, personal issues: He is trying to play his cards right, people don t generally leave someone to find themselves, usually they are running to someone else. Stand quietly by, the news will surface. It s hard not to feel hurt by all this, but remember it isn t something you...

Marriage: Closure/moving on, consquences, mixed messages
consquences, mixed messages, personal issues: Hi Elizabeth~ It could be a bit of both. Whatever you do do not take him back. He s the one that made the decision he wanted out. Now, he s going to have to live with the consquences, and be the one to deal with it. It s better if you cut your losses...

Marriage: Commitment to the Future, couples counseling, mental illness
couples counseling, mental illness, good times: Hi Suzii~ Maybe he s just not the marrying kind. Some ppl are afraid of marriage for some reason. You could ask him why he s not wanting to commit and marry you. I don t know that he d answer you honestly though. The only other option I could suggest...

Marriage: Common Law, purchase health insurance, health insurance provider
purchase health insurance, health insurance provider, health insurance company: Dear Melinda, The type of coverage matters. Some companies purchase health insurance that inlcudes domestic partners . If you are not married, and the company he works for covers domestic partners, then you simply have to obtain domestic partnership ...

Marriage: Communication problems, heart to heart talk, marriage communication
heart to heart talk, marriage communication, having a bad day: Hi Karin~ Just b/c he s having a bad day at work, or whatever doesn t give him the right to take it out on you. He needs to realize this and quick before it ruins the marriage. Communication is key in any relationship or marriage w/o it you don t have...

Marriage: Compromise or Asking Too Much?, aceptance, good face
aceptance, good face, siss: Hello, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. First it is very difficult to reply to your question because there are many cultural differences between our countries. The advice that I would give to...

Marriage: Computer addicted husband, video game system, playing video games
video game system, playing video games, crafty things: Hello Julia: This situation is a classic case of needing a compromise. I don t think it would be healthy for the relationship for you to insist he give up everything on the computer. On the other hand, he must understand how his obsession is impacting...

Marriage: Confused, kidney transplant, game on tv
kidney transplant, game on tv, good mood: Dear Mayra, Know that you are not alone, many couples find themselves in similar situations- where even the most trival things get blown way out of proportion. Perhaps speaking with a counselor, on your own, will help you find the strength to speak...

Marriage: Continue or not?, independantly, collage
independantly, collage, half years: Ziyaad, Marriage is something not to be entered into lightly. I am glad that you have found the girl for you in this world that is hard to do. People so often rush into marriage and it sounds like you have thought this through. If you want to experience...

Marriage: Contolling In-laws, second thoughts, rita
second thoughts, rita, excuse: Hello Tammy, I wonder if it is his parents or not.If he really loves you, why would he be ready to call it off? You need to talk to him about this and get the low down on what is actually happening.Is he having second thoughts?Maybe he is using them...

Marriage: Court ordered anger management, anger management classes, case senario
anger management classes, case senario, leagally: Hi Laura~ It s VERY important that you don t back down and drop the charges. Do NOT do that! If you do then he ll know he can to this again and get away with it. What if he did happen to hit one of the children in a fit of rage? Even though he s never...

Marriage: Credit cards, credit card purchases, credit card debt
credit card purchases, credit card debt, exact answer: Dear Gail, Generally, if the credit card is under both his and her name then he is just as responsible. It is usually recommended that he cancel the card and obtain a new one under his name to start building his own credit. If they do have the same...

Marriage: why cant i love him?, oppourtunities, decent job
oppourtunities, decent job, honest person: Hi Siedah~ You are two totally different ppl to begin with. If you weren t that attracted to him or in love with him when you met and married him,then what s to say you would grow to love him? You probably feel that you are too young to be married and...

Marriage: How much to care?, dear mr, females
dear mr, females, good luck: Dear Tarhini, First))) All females are different, May be it s because your wife loves you as she doesn t want any problem to come in between, and she thinks talking about problem is creating more problem so she is taking other route. Second))))))) talk...

Marriage: Will he ever change?, pornography issue, going to las vegas
pornography issue, going to las vegas, one of the girls: Hi Jessica: Thank you for sharing your pain with me. I would like to give you two responses if I may - good and bad. Bad first. At the ages the two of you are, given all you have faced already, and reading your story using the words like hatred -...

Marriage: cheating, necessary evil, three kids
necessary evil, three kids, 7 months: Hi Mika~ You have two options here. A) You can put up with it and continue to stay with him. Or B) You decide that you re not going to sit back and put up with his cheating ways. I can totally understand that you re hesitant b/c you don t have family...

Marriage: cheating bf, marriage, girls
marriage, girls: Amanda, This may seem simple, but think about this. If he is cheating on you before marriage then he will do it after you get married. He is trying to have his cake and eat it to. He will continue to cheat because he thinks that you are fine with it and...

Marriage: cheating, marriage minister, counselor
marriage minister, counselor, rita: Hello Just, Why is he still talking to her on the phone?Inform him that after almost after 20 years of marriage it s time to come clean.If he cheated,it s in the past.But he needs to quit talking to her.If he won t, time for a counselor to see what is going...

Marriage: back child support, child support arrears, income tax refunds
child support arrears, income tax refunds, prenup: Hi Rachel~ Maybe marrying him really isn t such a good idea. If he s not able to pay child support, then what will he do if you ever had children together and you unfortunately divorced him (it happens all the time in 50% of marriages). You have to take...

Marriage: child support and re-marrying, child support, wages
child support, wages, new husband: Hi Steven~ No, her new husband s wages have absolutely nothing to do with your children. He s not legally responsible to provide for your children. The court can base the amount of child support based on your income alone, or even your ex-wife s if the...

Marriage: having children, having children, responsiblity
having children, responsiblity, married woman: Hi Jackie~ Some ppl just don t want children, and that s perfectly fine. But for me I just couldn t see my life w/o them. Who s going to take care of me when I m old and gray and can t do things for myself? I d like to think that my children would be...

Marriage: Which one do I choose?, stable job, beautiful souls
stable job, beautiful souls, cross neclace: Hi Sandra~ If you feel like you are being pressured too much, then perhaps you should take a break from both of them. Tell them that you need time to think things over. This way you can get a break from both of them, and think for yourself which one would...

Marriage: Where is the common ground, on the decision about another child?, family finances, rest of our lives
family finances, rest of our lives, third child: Hi Dirk~ Maybe you could compromise with a certain time period. To say where you can get the family finances in order. Then you can seriously begin to discuss the option of having another child. Don t rule it out just yet. But tell her that you need...

Marriage: common law marrige, common law marriage, clerk of the court
common law marriage, clerk of the court, civil court: Hi Kathryn~ Common law marriage isn t a legal and binding marriage. In fact, currently only 11 states even recognize it. You d have to ask someone that knows the law, and see if it even applies in your state. You can find out by going to the circuit...

Marriage: communication issue, having dreams, communication issue
having dreams, communication issue, true feelings: Hi Crystal~ Wow! I bet that was very shocking, yet very flattering all at the same time! How did you respond to the friend when he said this? Has it changed the relationship, and how you feel around his friend? I most definitely think that you should...

Marriage: community property, divorce web, divorce laws
divorce web, divorce laws, current value: Hi Tina~ Divorce laws will vary from state to state. If you had the home prior to marriage he s not entitled to the home. However, he is entitled to 50% of what you incurred during the marriage. That s anything that is marital property (which is also...

Marriage: Too much computer time, good reply, harsh statement
good reply, harsh statement, playing my game: Greg, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Well, Greg, first thing I have to do is confess...I can really understand where you coming from since I spend about 50 hours a week online myself! Believe...

Marriage: Should I be concerned -- Paranoia ????, jekyl hyde, hyde personality
jekyl hyde, hyde personality, psychiatric medication: Hi James~ Yes, you really ought to be concerned by her strange behavior. It s a very serious matter when a person report things as abuse, etc to the police. When the accusations are false and w/o proof that anything has happened. Mental illness can...

Marriage: concerned about relationship, steady employment, mid ohio
steady employment, mid ohio, twin boys: Dear Kay, One approach may be to tell him that while you appreciate his willingness to please and for him to SAY the things he knows you want to hear, that instead he try saying what he thinks. Let him know that you value his opinion and that your marriage...

Marriage: confused and scared, pre marital counseling, marriage ceremony
pre marital counseling, marriage ceremony, doing the right thing: Steve, Noticing other girls is normal. The important thing is you do not act on it. I know how it feels to wonder. I was married at 17 and I have made it almost 20 years and I have had those times that I looked. The lusting after another woman is bad but...

Marriage: confused, aseam, words of encouragement
aseam, words of encouragement, desision: Dear Zuess Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Your letter is not suprising to me as I get letters similar to this on a regular basis. Your situation is more common that you might realize. I am...

Marriage: How to convince my parents, grave problems, freedom of choice
grave problems, freedom of choice, loving one: Hi Silpa, You may have some difficulty finding answers to your question because in North America, we do not subscribe to arranged marriages or anything that disallows freedom of choice like you do in India. Anyone saying that they will kill someone else...

Marriage: coping to live with in-laws, strange living, unreasonable request
strange living, unreasonable request, taking sides: Well you entered into an arrangement you knew fromt he beginning wasn t right, there is no perfect apartment. The sooner you extricate yourselves from this the better. From the parents point, I m sure you ve over stayed your welcome, they just won t say...

Marriage: counsling, marriage counsling, marriage counseling
marriage counsling, marriage counseling, deeper understanding: Dear Tony, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. While it is true, that often couples seek marriage counseling when there is a disagreement or problems in the marriage, it is not always necessarily...

Marriage: coworker gift, cognac hennessy, open honest communication
cognac hennessy, open honest communication, dear al: Dear Al, Sometimes women show little mysterious gestures to others only to get some affection from the one whom they are with. Not all, some some women will try to make the other jealous only to make the other show how much they care. If you have any intuition...

Marriage: Dating after separation, backwoods tennessee, shotgun wedding
backwoods tennessee, shotgun wedding, legal steps: Hi Carter~ Since she s separated from him now. She s moving on with her life, and she can date whomever she wishes (even though she s still married); there is no law that says you can t date when going through a divorce or separation. And he can t claim...

Marriage: Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :(, depression pills, restraining order
depression pills, restraining order, grandmothers: Hello Alejandra, What you are telling me is not good,not good at all.You need to stay away from him until his divorce is final. He needs to visit with his lawyer about this and ask about filing stalking harrassment charges against her. If he doesn...

Marriage: Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :(, depression pills, restraining order
depression pills, restraining order, grandmothers: Alejandra, I would have suggested that until he is divorced and the ex-wife is gone then you can pick up where you left off. He needs to be able to deal with his ex without you being around. If you stay with him right now you will most likely regret staying...

Marriage: Dealing with an Ex-wife., seventeen years, grown daughters
seventeen years, grown daughters, grown woman: Hi Rica~ They do have children in common. And unfortunately they ll be bonded b/c of that forever. There s really no way around that and they have to have some form of contact with one another. However, I do see your point as well. You have every...

Marriage: Dealing with HIS ex, 7 months, mother in law
7 months, mother in law, boot camp: Dear Nicole, Let me start off by saying everyone is right and wrong at the same time. When it comes to family, past and present add to that a dad and husband in a war zone cut everyone a little slack. Emotions always run high around the holidays and having...

Marriage: Dealing with a "goddaughter", sweet 16 birthday party, truck shocks
sweet 16 birthday party, truck shocks, emotional affair: Well if it is family money, yours and his, you should have a say in how it is dispensed. I wouldn t push the envelope here, but he should at least run these things by you. If it is something your family can afford, fine, if it is putting a burden on your family,...

Marriage: Dealing w/ ex-wife, heart to heart, crossing the line
heart to heart, crossing the line, hunch: Hi Holly~ I totally agree with you on this. She s completely out of line, by doing this. She s no longer with him anymore, why does she need to make/do anything for him to begin with?! My hunch is that she s trying to get back at you b/c she knows that...

Marriage: Debt, child support, state laws
child support, state laws, income taxes: Hi R~ No,they can t. What will happen though more than likely is that when you file income taxes. They will be garnished and taken to pay back child support if owed. And they will be taken every year until it s paid back. The only other option would...

Marriage: Debt, property lien, specfic
property lien, specfic, google: Dear R, Unfortunately, I am not a lawyer in your state so I will do my best to offer direction.- I typed in google the keywords Property lien + child support . This is one of the results that appeared. As I do not know what state you are in I cannot get...

Marriage: Define questions a little better., amount of money, allegations
amount of money, allegations, executive director: Pat, The plan that you have is most likely exactly what I would tell you to do. You are right to believe that with your past you deserve to be forgiven. If he was any kind of normal person he would have forgiven you and let it go. I know that I never bring...

Marriage: Desperate ex-wife, high school education, prenup agreement
high school education, prenup agreement, ms residents: Hi Hastings~ A prenup agreement would be a good thing to seriously consider, since you have a lot to lose financial wise if you were to ever divorce. And it s not a bad idea to protect yourself and your assets. However, his ex-wife is NOT entitled...

Marriage: Divorced, marrage, jail time
marrage, jail time, 5 months: As you know, marriage take a lot of work by both partners. When one or both aren t willing to do the work, the marriage is doomed. Jail time, infidelities, etc., each take their toll. If you both can sit down, make a list of problems needing solving, get...

Marriage: Don't think he wants a baby, burning desire, mother figure
burning desire, mother figure, son 11: Hi Ann~ If you want a child, then he needs to know what this really means to you. If you want one in the future, but you don t have one, you will end up regretting it. Some women have a burning desire to be a mother. And it s something that you don t...

Marriage: Doubts in marriage, tragety, 2 women
tragety, 2 women, married life: Dear Cara, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. This is a very difficult question to answer because I have such little information to go on. But I will give it my best try. In order to fully assess...

Marriage: dating after seperation, legal ramifications, serious relationship
legal ramifications, serious relationship, adultery: Hi Lori~ From the time of separation it s considered moving on with their lives. So they are free to date and live with whomever they each wish. No court really cares about adultery. They only care as to the reason for a divorce. Besides adultery has...

Marriage: is this a deal breaker?, letter in the mail, alterior motives
letter in the mail, alterior motives, way over my head: Hi Julie~ It sounds as though he has alterior motives. Since he changed the beneficiary, why should you trust him? He obviously has something up his sleeve, otherwise he wouldn t have done that to you. I think you re right for filing for a divorce. He...

Marriage: dealing with an ex wife, heart to heart talk, back pain relief
heart to heart talk, back pain relief, personal conversations: Hi Pam~ Some ppl, even if they are divorced, remain close to each other. I can totally understand why this is bothering you. Perhaps he does it b/c of the children?--The being nice to her and staying in regular contact with her. I think it s a bit unreasonable...

Marriage: depression, moral depravity, cause of divorce
moral depravity, cause of divorce, state pen: Hi Dana~ I think ppl are a product of their environment. So for you that means you grew up in a very dsyfunctional family! There is hope for you though. If you can admit that you have problems then they can definitely be worked on. I would suggest that...

Marriage: is it disrespectful to my boyfriend to remain friends with an ex?, old boyfriends, romantic feelings
old boyfriends, romantic feelings, platonic friends: Betty, I have to say that I would have a hard time if my wife to be was still really close to her old boyfriends. I do understand that you are just friends, but guys do not see it that way. Most guys do not have the ability to be close to a girl unless...

Marriage: divorce pondering, last ditch effort, profuse apologies
last ditch effort, profuse apologies, drunk tank: Steve, Well I guess my advice would be to ponder divorce out loud with her. Tell her you don t want to live like this any longer. It sounds like you ve made every attempt to support her through these cycles (hopefully you haven t driven her to drink)...

Marriage: divorce, getting a divorce, married man
getting a divorce, married man, wasting your time: Hi Kay~ I think it s a very BAD idea to get involved with a married man to begin with. Especially when he hasn t even filed for divorce yet. If he ll put off getting a divorce, then what does that say to you? Will he do the same to you, as he s currently...

Marriage: I don't want a divorce, long distance relationship, internet buddies
long distance relationship, internet buddies, fragile thing: Well trust is a fragile thing, even more fragile when so much distance separates you. Being apart for four years has taken it s toll. I don t think you can re-gain the time you ve been apart, but if you haven t been deceitful there is nothing to re-gain. I...

Marriage: I don't want to give up, mixed signals, stressful life
mixed signals, stressful life, bottler: Hi Jeane, You really need to stick to your promise about not yelling or nagging anymore.There is absolutely nothing that will upset a man or woman more, then to come home and be badgered. Ask him politely if and when he has time,could you please talk...

Marriage: i dont know what to do anymore., long distance relationship, heart to heart talk
long distance relationship, heart to heart talk, relationship question: Hi Drew~ Perhaps it s the distance in the relationship that s causing the problems for her. Even though you see her on a regular basis. And she doesn t know how to tell you. I would say sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with her about...

Marriage: I dont know what to do about my mother in law anymore, pieces of glass, hi thanks
pieces of glass, hi thanks, bad case: Hi Jennifer~ I think it s just a good idea to not even communicate with her, or give her the satisfaction of letting her affect you in any way. I would just continue to ignore her and only talk to her when you HAVE to, and be civil, not saying more than...

Marriage: dont want a devorce, mommas boy, devorce
mommas boy, devorce, monster in law: Hi Lynn, The only way to work this out is professional counseling.He will have to attend regularly and so will you.I doubt that you will get him to agree to this. It sounds like you are doing all the contacting.He lied to you when he said he wanted...

Marriage: drinking, divorce, serious drinking, wits end
serious drinking, wits end, rest of my life: Hi Jenn~ He s an alcoholic, there s no doubt about it. He can t control his drinking, and when he drinks he drinks to get smashed and drunk. An alcoholic is a person that can t control his drinking and drinks frequently to get drunk. Once an alcoholic,...

Marriage: drugs and other problems, drug and alcohol abuse, pot head
drug and alcohol abuse, pot head, normal sex: Hi Exhausted~ Your wife is a drug addict. It s the drugs talking when she s high and even when she s not. Drugs can take a huge toll on your life not to mention your body. You can t reason or even threaten her. She doesn t care at this point, the drugs...

Marriage: drugs here too, marriage vows, drug addict
marriage vows, drug addict, downward spiral: Hi Tired~ You ve said that you have known he s been like this all along. Did you really think you could save and fix him from his drug problem? Some women think that they can actually save a man and change him, and make him better. When the chances of...

Marriage: Elder Abuse or Abuse Fantasy, mother suffering, psychiatric medications
mother suffering, psychiatric medications, death of his mother: Dear Kirby, It seems apparent to me from your correspondence that there are many outside influences at work with regard to this elder abuse issue. From what you have told me it does not seem that anyone is guilty of any abuse except your wife. With...

Marriage: Emotional affair, emotional affair, ups and downs
emotional affair, ups and downs, honest statement: Dear Maggie, Thank you for contacting allexperts. com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. From your description of the situation, it is a little difficult for me to understand what is going on. Then you state that he had an emotional...

Marriage: Emotional Infidelity, emotional infidelity, betrayal of trust
emotional infidelity, betrayal of trust, loving marriage: Hi Keena~ Emotional infidelity is just as bad as physical infidelity. It s the ultimate betrayal of trust in a marriage or relationship. Why does he feel the need to talk to these women when he s married to you? And why does he keep avoiding the issue?...

Marriage: Engaged and 16, man god, youth minister
man god, youth minister, 5 months: Nessa, I know how you feel . I have to tell you that I met my wife when we were 16 and we have been together ever since. We got married young and it was a mistake. We had to struggle and really never were able to enjoy being young. The idea of waiting for...

Marriage: His Ex/Friend - her involvement, marriage work, tight bond
marriage work, tight bond, female friend: Hello Renee, Inform him that if there is a problem between the two of you,he needs to discuss it with you. That you like his ex,but that you wouldn t discuss issues between the two of you with your ex.Also explain to him that it is not good for your...

Marriage: My Ex Is Haunting Me..., extreme desire, complicated times
extreme desire, complicated times, having dreams: J, At one time or another we all fall victim to dreaming about the olden days. Things seemed so much easier and simpler then, we think. Perhaps they were, less complicated times, but for whatever reason we ve moved past them now. Think of where you are...

Marriage: Ex issues, mid life crisis, midlife crises
mid life crisis, midlife crises, grandmom: Sara, I am not sure what the situation is. It appears to me that you are divorced and your ex is trying to stay close to you, but wants to be out dating. I also am wondering when you got married and how long were you married when he left. I can understand...

Marriage: Ex issues, mid life crisis, combonation
mid life crisis, combonation, grandmom: Hi Sara~ He s your ex for a reason. He can tell you anything he likes to; but that doesn t mean he s indeed a changed man all of the sudden. That s the beauty about being apart from someone, he can tell you what you want to hear. And thus try to convince...

Marriage: Ex issues, mid life crisis, grandmom
mid life crisis, grandmom, younger women: Hello Sara, Ignore him and move on.He doesn t want or love you,everything is a game to him.There are lots of men in this world just like him.It s all about him.The younger women he thinks, makes him look like a BIG man to others.By keeping you dangling,he...

Marriage: Ex in the picture, glamourous, lack of respect
glamourous, lack of respect, qst: Hi Maggie~ Perhaps it would be better if you were to leave him. It doesn t seem as if he has any respect for you or your wishes, when it comes to talking to his ex-fiance. That s not acceptable for him to do. He had a past with her, and it should be in...

Marriage: Exes and holidays, good relationship, exes
good relationship, exes, kaz: Dear Kaz, You have every right to feel hurt and angry about this situation. Although, it sounds as if he is putting his son and previous family before you or anything else. He is most likely feeling the guilt that is associated with divorce and splitting...

Marriage: emails, message bd, mass email
message bd, mass email, college grads: Hi Shelby~ You can claims ground for divorce for just about any reason. The most common is irreconcilable differences (which a vague but yet wide variety of reasons to divorce). He s cheating on you and being unfaithful to you, even if it s only emotionally...

Marriage: emails, message bd, mass email
message bd, mass email, college grads: Well I m sure you ve heard the story, don t get involved with a married man. Well the reason is, only rarely do they leave the wife for these other woman. But plenty of woman are out there ready to risk it to attempt to steal anotehr woman s man. What...

Marriage: the end is near?, self confidence, three kids
self confidence, three kids, infidelity: Dear Lisa, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I am thinking that a good portion of the difficulty stems from control issues. From what you tell me, I feel that both you and your husband are very...

Marriage: ending a marriage?, ending a marriage, guilt trip
ending a marriage, guilt trip, 5 months: A marriage is a commitment, some can stay committed some not. In your situation, both of you have lost the committed desire. Sometimes marriage can be saved if the desire to re-commit is mutual and strong. In your case it doesn t sound like it. The grass...

Marriage: engagement rings, family heirloom, engagement ring
family heirloom, engagement ring, inheritance: Dear Amy, Generaly speaking, an engagement ring is a gift It is not legal requirement for marriage. Therefor, you would not be breaking any existing law by not returning the engagement ring. Where it can get a little sticky is when the ring is a family...

Marriage: my ex-husband, night mare, decisons
night mare, decisons, tight budget: Hey Jessica: Thank you for sharing your issues with me. Reading your story, my first inclination was to wonder why the two of you got married in the first place. It seems as though your ex has a fixation on his ex-girlfriend. That could not have been...

Marriage: ex is very successful, old flame, happy marriage
old flame, happy marriage, nature of course: Hi Sue~ It s not uncommon to retain feelings for an old flame. It s okay to reflect back upon the good times you shared together. However, if it becomes disruptive to the point where it interferes with your daily functioning and is consuming you. Then...

Marriage: the ex-wife, cup cakes, friends mom
cup cakes, friends mom, sad truth: Hi Trina~ Have your BF take care of this, it s not your place to argue with her and fight over what s going on with the children. He needs to tell her she can do the child s bday celebration however she wants. Whatever. And he and you will celebrate...

Marriage: ex wife, heart to heart talk, spectulum
heart to heart talk, spectulum, anticdote: Hi Joanie~ You just need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know that you do not feel comfortable hearing about his past sexual conquests. And that it really bothers you when he talks to you about it. Just ask him...

Marriage: two ex wives and kids in between!, divorce papers, ft sill
divorce papers, ft sill, second wife: Hi Malissa~ Maybe he doesn t like to hear what you have to say when you have heart to heart discussions. Most men don t like to admit when they are wrong or to face when there are problems/issues in a marriage. They figure if they ignore it or not talk...

Marriage: expecting a child and kicked out, personal belongings, pastor kim
personal belongings, pastor kim, expecting a child: Hi Cheryl, Your questions are legal in nature and I really can t give you an answer. You must speak with an attorney to see what you need to do. Make sure that you push for child support. He is responsible for paying for his child, so don t back down...

Marriage: Failing marriage, failing marriage, marriage counseling
failing marriage, marriage counseling, qustion: Dear Chad, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your qustion. I find it interesting that in both cases you mention that your wife brings up divorce and you do not. It seems to me that she has been thinking about...

Marriage: Family problems, long term relationship, question pool
long term relationship, question pool, angry all the time: Hi Jane, I found this question in the question pool and decided to give you my opinion in the hope that it will help you. From your message I can see that you are quite willing to commit your time and feelings to your partner, but it seems quite obvious...

Marriage: My Fault, What Can I Do?, wife and marriage, sex addiction
wife and marriage, sex addiction, internet pornography: Brian: First, congratulations to you on recognizing the wound in your soul and your willingness to heal it. Secondly, depending on how deeply your wife feels, you may not only be able to restore this marriage, you can do so in a way that will make it even...

Marriage: Feeling Special When She Did It For Him, strange guy, table dance
strange guy, table dance, one of the guys: Hello Bryant, Leave the past in the past.You say she is comfortable giving you a table dance,so let it go. You are special or she wouldn t be with you. In your last paragraph you state you want to pick our battles ,then you say you don t want to...

Marriage: Finances, studying accounting, mercedes benz
studying accounting, mercedes benz, money issue: Bet, The his money, her money, scenario never really works out simply because it is unfair. My advice is to have one account and each partner takes expenses for the week, based on bills and operating expenses. I usually have a $100 a week and my wife has...

Marriage: Find Trust in my relationship,, taking pills, trust issue
taking pills, trust issue, personalty: Hi Krystal~ In a sense he s contributed to your jealousy and not trusting him (by talking to other girls, flirting with them, etc). This has now become a huge issue for you. What does your gut instinct tell you? Does it say you can trust him just yet?...

Marriage: Forged Signature, signature cards, commonwealth attorney
signature cards, commonwealth attorney, agent group: Hi Jennifer~ Even if you weren t on the account, the taxes were done together with him, with you filing as joint/married for taxes. You are entitled to a portion of that check. He can t keep the whole thing for himself, period. You did the right thing...

Marriage: Friend's hubby is cheating on her, family counselor, one of my best friends
family counselor, one of my best friends, handsome couple: Dear Jennifer, Let me start off by saying I am not an expert but I can suggest that you speak with one- a family counselor. They should be able to tell you how to broach the topic with you best friend. One way to approach this question is - what if it...

Marriage: 20 years of marriage, it needs help, living my life, 20th anniversary
Marriage: 20 years of marriage, it needs help, living my life, 20th anniversary, marriage

Marriage: Abusive or Not Abusive, shred of evidence, r m french
Marriage: Abusive or Not Abusive, shred of evidence, r m french, time nurse

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, age is just a number, hapiness
Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, age is just a number, hapiness, 3 years

Marriage: age or fear of intamcy???, emotional satisfaction, unhappy life
Marriage: age or fear of intamcy???, emotional satisfaction, unhappy life, sanity

Marriage: another baby and marriage on the rocks, child of god, unborn child
Marriage: another baby and marriage on the rocks, child of god, unborn child, womb

Marriage: Too many broken relationships, debt maker, applying to law school
Marriage: Too many broken relationships, debt maker, applying to law school, marathon runner

Marriage: Cheating father, infidelity, 8 years
Marriage: Cheating father, infidelity, 8 years, guilt

Marriage: Computer addicted husband, video game addiction, marriage counseling
Marriage: Computer addicted husband, video game addiction, marriage counseling, dsm

Marriage: How to convince my parents, parents, threatining
Marriage: How to convince my parents, parents, threatining

Marriage: Dealing with HIS ex, future children, previous life
Marriage: Dealing with HIS ex, future children, previous life, backseat

Marriage: Emotional affair, abusive relationships, thinker
Marriage: Emotional affair, abusive relationships, thinker, beep beep

Marriage: the end is near?, caretaking, self centeredness
Marriage: the end is near?, caretaking, self centeredness, reassurance

Marriage: Failing marriage, marriage counseling, excuse
Marriage: Failing marriage, marriage counseling, excuse, divorce

Marriage: Am i failing her?, marriage
Marriage: Am i failing her?, marriage

Marriage: follow up on wife thinks I look at other women, marriage counselors, marriage relationship
Marriage: follow up on wife thinks I look at other women, marriage counselors, marriage relationship, marriage counseling

Marriage: Husband not, love
Marriage: Husband not, love

Marriage: Husband acting weird, home exercise, hidden secrets
Marriage: Husband acting weird, home exercise, hidden secrets, accusations

Marriage: Husband Doesn't Want More Children, r m french, marriage proposal
Marriage: Husband Doesn't Want More Children, r m french, marriage proposal, personalities

Marriage: Husband doesn't kiss me, emotional relief, affection
Marriage: Husband doesn't kiss me, emotional relief, affection, cold fish

Marriage: Husband doesn't want a child, marriage counselling, role models
Marriage: Husband doesn't want a child, marriage counselling, role models, r m french

Marriage: Husband drinking too much?, aa meetings, getting a divorce
Marriage: Husband drinking too much?, aa meetings, getting a divorce, hateful person

Marriage: My Husband Moved Away, best wishes, yoga
Marriage: My Husband Moved Away, best wishes, yoga, marriage

Marriage: Husband wants to separate, marriage counseling, pedestal
Marriage: Husband wants to separate, marriage counseling, pedestal, pina coladas and getting caught in the rain

Marriage: help save my marriage, e book, cousin
Marriage: help save my marriage, e book, cousin, marriage

Marriage: How to get my husband's ex-wife to get a life of her own, mild stomach, miserable existence
Marriage: How to get my husband's ex-wife to get a life of her own, mild stomach, miserable existence, alex cooper

Marriage: my husband loves me but does not like to be with me., first year of marriage, exact same thing
Marriage: my husband loves me but does not like to be with me., first year of marriage, exact same thing, honeymoon

Marriage: husband miserable and wants to move I don't, twenty years, friends and family
Marriage: husband miserable and wants to move I don't, twenty years, friends and family

Marriage: My husband has no respect for me, makeup, compromise
Marriage: My husband has no respect for me, makeup, compromise, counseling

Marriage: My husband and I never have sex, homosexuality, judgments
Marriage: My husband and I never have sex, homosexuality, judgments, feelings

Marriage: My husband spends too much time on his computer., flower beds, mommy
Marriage: My husband spends too much time on his computer., flower beds, mommy, r m french

Marriage: My husband wants to divorce, marriage statistics, domestic violence
Marriage: My husband wants to divorce, marriage statistics, domestic violence, computer engineer

Marriage: My husband won't move or change jobs for my health, does he love me,should I stay, or should I go?, wedding vows, career dream
Marriage: My husband won't move or change jobs for my health, does he love me,should I stay, or should I go?, wedding vows, career dream, humid places

Marriage: My husband won't have sex with me if I am on birth control., r m french, marriage counseling
Marriage: My husband won't have sex with me if I am on birth control., r m french, marriage counseling, honest relationship

Marriage: Lazy husband, high school diploma, breadwinner
Marriage: Lazy husband, high school diploma, breadwinner, daily chores

Marriage: Lusting young boys, 15 year old boys
Marriage: Lusting young boys, 15 year old boys

Marriage: lazy husband?, responsibilty, job
Marriage: lazy husband?, responsibilty, job

Marriage: loveless marriage, reformation
Marriage: loveless marriage, reformation

Marriage: Marriage and Alcoholism, dependance, vow
Marriage: Marriage and Alcoholism, dependance, vow, drinking wine

Marriage: Getting very mad at my husband, believer, emotions
Marriage: Getting very mad at my husband, believer, emotions, 10 years

Marriage: marriage, compromise, marriage
Marriage: marriage, compromise, marriage

Marriage: marriage counseling
Marriage: marriage counseling

Marriage: Should I marry him?, cheater, loser
Marriage: Should I marry him?, cheater, loser, creep

Marriage: marrying a girl older by 8 years, loving woman, oppurtunity
Marriage: marrying a girl older by 8 years, loving woman, oppurtunity, 8 years

Marriage: money problems, control freak, baby fine
Marriage: money problems, control freak, baby fine, jeopardy

Marriage: moving away from family, stay at home mom, adult conversations
Marriage: moving away from family, stay at home mom, adult conversations, christian counselor

Marriage: newlyweds living w/in-laws, r m french, wifely duties
Marriage: newlyweds living w/in-laws, r m french, wifely duties, hard feelings

Marriage: non-committed wife, lonely existence, room mate
Marriage: non-committed wife, lonely existence, room mate, perfect couple

Marriage: Ok for Husband to go out w/o me every weekend?, job, r m french
Marriage: Ok for Husband to go out w/o me every weekend?, job, r m french, self respect

Marriage: PLEASE answer - Sexless Marriage but VERY in love, r m french, sexual benefits
Marriage: PLEASE answer - Sexless Marriage but VERY in love, r m french, sexual benefits, relationship counselor

Marriage: pregnant again with old fashion husband, own two feet, financial disclosure
Marriage: pregnant again with old fashion husband, own two feet, financial disclosure, children up for adoption

Marriage: premartial debt, kidney operation, marilyn brown
Marriage: premartial debt, kidney operation, marilyn brown, marcus smith

Marriage: RE: Emotional Affair 5/7/06, r m french, bitter man
Marriage: RE: Emotional Affair 5/7/06, r m french, bitter man, old maid

Marriage: Seperation...is it the begining of the end?, better person
Marriage: Seperation...is it the begining of the end?, better person

Marriage: Sexless Marriage, wedding night, sex drive
Marriage: Sexless Marriage, wedding night, sex drive, c section

Marriage: Short Tempered Husband, familys, low self esteem
Marriage: Short Tempered Husband, familys, low self esteem, rejection

Marriage: Stepmother, marriage and baby, childrens behavior, exwife
Marriage: Stepmother, marriage and baby, childrens behavior, exwife, stepdaughters

Marriage: sex marriage , controling wife, losses, divorce
Marriage: sex marriage , controling wife, losses, divorce

Marriage: How to stop jealousy!, communicative situation, negativity
Marriage: How to stop jealousy!, communicative situation, negativity, insults

Marriage: I AM A UNHAPPY WIFE, counselor, happiness
Marriage: I AM A UNHAPPY WIFE, counselor, happiness, paragraph

Marriage: Unhappy wife, natural ebb, ebb and flow
Marriage: Unhappy wife, natural ebb, ebb and flow, apatite

Marriage: I am so unhappy in this marrige, housework, r m french
Marriage: I am so unhappy in this marrige, housework, r m french, joke

Marriage: Wedding night, silk lingerie, swift
Marriage: Wedding night, silk lingerie, swift, rose

Marriage: Wife thinks I look at women, loser guy, stealing money
Marriage: Wife thinks I look at women, loser guy, stealing money, nerd

Marriage: I want to get married...he doesn't., whole nine yard, sweetpea
Marriage: I want to get married...he doesn't., whole nine yard, sweetpea, diffence

Marriage: wanting to get out of the marriage, personal religious beliefs, split custody
Marriage: wanting to get out of the marriage, personal religious beliefs, split custody, negative answer

Marriage: what to do, compliment, dirt
Marriage: what to do, compliment, dirt, relationship

Marriage: Young Marriages, dork, having sex
Marriage: Young Marriages, dork, having sex

Marriage: Am i failing her?, living together before marriage, purpose in life
living together before marriage, purpose in life, togetherness: The only good thing about living together before marriage, is what you are experiencing, togetherness in the big world. Not every two people are compatable, at least you are finding out about it early. At 19, she hardly is ready to pick someone to live the...

Marriage: It was my fault but I want her back, relationship marriage, marriage work
relationship marriage, marriage work, mistake of my life: Hi Owen~ This all comes down to communication. Communication is key in any relationship. If you don t have communication you don t have much of a relationship/marriage. Then on top of that you thought it would be okay to lie to her about finances. Lying,...

Marriage: why I do I feel so along?, hug kiss, voice mail
hug kiss, voice mail, long long time: Hi Vanessa~ His behavior certainly isn t normal and he s not acting like a married man. He s basically out doing whatever he wants, when he wants, like he s a bachelor once again rather than a married, family man. That s unacceptable for him to be doing....

Marriage: feelings of resentment over long hours, animal rescue group, couple girls
animal rescue group, couple girls, work ethic: Hi Maureen, You sound like a girl that has her act together and this is a very common complaint among mostly women. As you know babies are a huge responsibility and they sometimes shock new parents because of how much work they are. Just as well, babies are...

Marriage: femicide, pregnant females, little bastard
pregnant females, little bastard, lousy job: Dear Dru, There are three reasons for this- (1)The guy is worried that the woman will give all of her attention to the new baby and he will be neglected. (2) The guy is worried that after she gives birth her cunt will be fucking huge and he won t...

Marriage: fight or let go ?, michele weiner davis, marriage retreats
michele weiner davis, marriage retreats, common law marriages: Dear Amanda, First, I want you to make sure you are common law. There are very few states that recognize common law marriages. visit unmarried.org and equalityinmarriage.org for more info on what your rights are if you are common law. If you are not...

Marriage: fix things, least resistance, good relationship
least resistance, good relationship, hardest thing: n, Unfortunately men tend to run off to someone else s waiting arms. There s probably no way to be certain except wait and watch. If this happens to be the case, it will be upsetting, but try to keep your composure and move on as soon as you can, being...

Marriage: follow-up question, credit card loans, divorce info
credit card loans, divorce info, marriage divorce: Dear Danielle, If you and your fiance decide together to keep your finances separate and in your own name it is still up to you to decide how safe you want to be. I m not talking about trust here. I m talking about liability. For example, let s say...

Marriage: follow up on wife thinks I look at other women, attractive women, previous question
attractive women, previous question, walking down the street: Hi Gopal, When I said to never get defensive, I just meant to never get mad if she brings up another woman that she believes you were looking at. When she brings up this issue, just tell her that it is not true and that she is the most beautiful woman on...

Marriage: follow up on wife thinks I look at other women, marriage counseling, previous question
marriage counseling, previous question, many men: Dear Gopal, The best thing for you to do is to make her feel loved and give her as much attention as possible, especially when those other women are around. Hold her hand, show her affection and smile at her without looking at the other woman. If you do this...

Marriage: follow-up, bitter custody battle, r m french
bitter custody battle, r m french, mild depression: Hi Andrew, Thank you for your patience with regard to my answering this question. My computer problems have been driving me crazy for the past couple of weeks. I think I have them solved now, at least I hope so. Ok, since you asked, let me give you...

Marriage: forge signatures, marriage null, minester
marriage null, minester, marriage contract: Hi Lalaine~ Do not tolerate him abusing you. You do not deserve to be treated like this. The marriage is still legal and binding. If you want to separate and divorce you can. You ve been married only a short time, that you can even file for an annulment....

Marriage: Is he too friendly... again?, good first impression, wealthy couple
good first impression, wealthy couple, ski trip: Hi Jackie~ I think he s being overly friendly with this family for a reason. What that real reason is remains to be seen. But from what you ve described it seems as though he s using this family for their money. For example--letting them invite him (and...

Marriage: Very frustrated with husband, day before christmas, christmas eve
day before christmas, christmas eve, short trip: Hi Jennifer, I imagine he is good at that. It is a common trait of people who like to exert control. No need to feel guilty about something you know is the right course of action for you. It is time he realized that life isn t about him alone. He ll...

Marriage: frustrated with lying and sneaking, private details, aging parents
private details, aging parents, soul mate: Hello Elizabeth, Yes!! You are doing the right thing. Let her take care of him. He wants to chat with her and she him,then they belong together. You can do better.You can t trust or believe anything he says or does,so why stay. There are still plenty...

Marriage: Should I give up?, marriage counselor, physical abuse
marriage counselor, physical abuse, verbal abuse: Hello Corina: If you live in most states in the United States, if the house was purchased after you were married, it becomes community property. Meaning you are entitled to half whether your name is on the deed or not. Verbal abuse is bad - physical abuse...

Marriage: Should I be given a Life Long Sentence, mild anxiety, social anxiety
mild anxiety, social anxiety, mind altering drugs: Hello Shelly, If this happened 9 years ago,is he constantly reminding you of it? We all say things at one time or another that upsets others.Most people don t report it to the police though.I don t see any abuse from him.The words you spoke must...

Marriage: For good or for bad, the answer is no., healthy person, plane ticket
healthy person, plane ticket, frenzy: Dear Edith, It sounds like your husband is not willing to put much effort into the relationship. I cannot begin to speculate why. It could be that he doesn t know how to (i.e. child of alcoholic), that he doesn t think he should, that he is trying to avoid...

Marriage: grown children, heart to heart talk, heart to heart
heart to heart talk, heart to heart, josephine: Hi Josephine~ You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know exactly how this is affecting you. And he needs to know what you re willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. Perhaps you can come...

Marriage: Hard to find time together, finding time, christmas day
finding time, christmas day, something fun: Dear Kellie, You are very blessed to be loved so much. It sounds like everyone is fighting for a little piece of you. I can see how tiring it must be to keep up with all of them. The best way to handle an issue like this is to talk to every single person...

Marriage: Harrassing Ex, doorbell rings, false pretenses
doorbell rings, false pretenses, happy hi: Hi Frustrated GF~ She s probably extremely jealous of you and that he s now moved on to make a life with you and your infant child. Some ppl just don t know how to let go of things. So instead she s trying to make your life and his as miserable as she...

Marriage: HELP ME!!!!, angela roberts, health issue
angela roberts, health issue, health issues: Hi Angela~ It sounds as though he s just exhausted from work. Or it could be a health issue. You should encourage him to go to the doctor s to get checked out for health issues. I know that diabetes can make you very sleepy a lot. My brother-in-law...

Marriage: HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, counselor, rita
counselor, rita, marriage: Hello Crystal, Try talking to him again and tell him you want to work things out.Mention seeing a counselor with him.You can only do so much,it takes both of you to make it work.If he still doesn t want to work things out,then let him go and move on.I would...

Marriage: HELP!!, e mail address, panick attacks
e mail address, panick attacks, duragesic patch: Dear Joe, Take a deep breath and know that you are not alone and you can have a positive impact on yourself and your wife in the next three months. I am not a counselor so keep that in mind and I do suggest you find a therapist/ counselor to help you...

Marriage: Help!!!!!!!!, paycheck to paycheck, household finances
paycheck to paycheck, household finances, marriage advice: Dear John, Thank youi for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Your wife seems to have a rather misguided idea of what marriage is all about. Most people think that marriage is a 50/50 proposition but in fact,...

Marriage: Help, immense fear, britt
immense fear, britt, coming home: Dear Britt, It sounds as if he is nervous about this baby coming into your lives. This is extremely common in both men and women, but especially men. They have immense fear about becoming a father and if they will be good at it. They do not know what to expect....

Marriage: Help, thoughtful direction, first years
thoughtful direction, first years, courtship: Hi Renea, What worries me is the fact that you have been married for only 8 months and this has happened. The first years of a marriage are usually spent finding out about each other what we did not know during the courtship process. Marriage is a constant...

Marriage: Help me please, bad temper, busy at work
bad temper, busy at work, good qualities: Hello J, You already know what you need to do hon.You are afraid of his temper,he doesn t like your sister or cousin,and he procrastinates over everything.It has taken 7 years of your life to get this far. I am not saying that you should go for the guy...

Marriage: Help save my marriage!!, prozac xanax, pain meds
prozac xanax, pain meds, biological child: Hi Ruth~ The very first thing you should recommend to him, when you speak to him on Monday, is marriage counseling. There is no way you re going to fix and work on everything by yourself. You need outside professional help. At the very least you should...

Marriage: Help!!!!!!!, paycheck to paycheck, marriage counselor
paycheck to paycheck, marriage counselor, party perspective: Dear John, You are not alone in your situation. Expectations and assumptions cause big trouble in a marriage and now both of you are backed up against a wall. Consider speaking with a marriage counselor about your situation- when you have runout of ideas,...

Marriage: Hi. My husband and I have..., personal relationship, type forum
personal relationship, type forum, personal basis: Dear Kim, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I sympathise with your situation. However, I think that you and I both know that there is nothing that you are going to be able to do or say that is...

Marriage: Hi S,My husband and I disagree..., yos, married couple
yos, married couple, real reason: Hi Emily~ Perhaps they are just trying to be polite b/c you are friends with them. If you both don t really feel very comfortable then you can politely decline their invitation. You don t have to tell them the real reason why. You can say something like...

Marriage: HUSBAND NOT MOTIVATED, stay at home dad, serious medical condition
stay at home dad, serious medical condition, breadwinner: When things fall apart it is hard to get started again, but he is going to have to start somewhere, perhaps Home Depot. A problem for you will be if he is not home, who will watch the kids, daycare? But set a timeline for him to get back in the work force...

Marriage: Hubby doesn't want anymore children and I do now., interstitial cystitis, happy marriage
interstitial cystitis, happy marriage, broken homes: Dear Tiffany, Your husband feels guilty about the broken homes that both of your children have gone through. He may be thinking that the newborn child will have priority over all the other children. It is great that you have a man that is so sensitive about...

Marriage: Hubby wants a divorce and I am preg, home with the kids, best route
home with the kids, best route, three kids: Well these things are tough but they happen. Hopefully he s thought things through, leaving a wife and three kids will cost a fortune in child support. There isn t much you can do to get him back so try to relax and be you, find ways to cope, you can t force...

Marriage: Hurt and angry, marriage retreats, smartmarriages
marriage retreats, smartmarriages, angry all the time: Dear Jamie, You are not alone and you don t have to feel the way you do- it s up to you to make your marriage better. So many couples are where you are right now and the only way to move beyond this is to address it and come up with a plan to change it....

Marriage: Hurt, lonely and abandoned, going through the motions, relationship work
going through the motions, relationship work, wedding dresses: Hi David~ First off, know that all of these feelings you re experiencing are completely normal. Perhaps she has just distanced herself from you (for quite some time), and she was just going through the motions; with buying the wedding dresses, keeping...

Marriage: Hurt, lonely and abandoned, relationship work, wedding dresses
relationship work, wedding dresses, shaky ground: I m seeing a happy new beginning with someone else. Rather than spending energy wondering what you did wrong or could have done, let s start to wonder about what exciting new woman you might find. You ll gain a little experience with each relationship and...

Marriage: My Husband, seeing eye to eye, aquaintences
seeing eye to eye, aquaintences, stubborn man: Hi Shannon, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Your husband s reluctance to terminate this friendship concerns me. If for no other reason, he should be willing and anxious to do this to please...

Marriage: Husband not, marriage of convenience, last nite
marriage of convenience, last nite, stupid thing: Well I guess it s what you call a marriage of convenience, or not. At any rate, starting over with kids is hard for a woman so really think it through, considering all options. You may find you have to work with him to get back to some sort of normalcy....

Marriage: Husband Left Me, stay at home mom, anger issues
stay at home mom, anger issues, marriage counseling: Well certainly the counselor should have told you about the separation. But in the end you were too young to get married, and at least you have gotten to the separation with out a lot of game playing. There is a lot of financial responsibilities he will learn...

Marriage: Husband acting weird, mid life crisis, fulfilling relationship
mid life crisis, fulfilling relationship, words of wisdom: Karen: My first advice to couples in the situation you are in is almost always to work to save the marriage. In order to start that process, there are a few things you need to do; 1. Sit down with your husband and very calmly discuss what future he sees...

Marriage: Husband Doesn't Want More Children, dear hannah, point fingers
dear hannah, point fingers, feminist agenda: Dear Hannah, Despite the fact that you are not asking a question, I have chosen to reply to your comments on my advice. I do not apologize for my opinions or my advice. Naturally, I do not expect everyone to agree with what I have to say. Nevertheless,...

Marriage: Husband doesn't kiss me, dear jill, romantic side
dear jill, romantic side, marrie: Dear Jill, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. It seems that kissing is a matter of personal preferences and is much more often desired by the woman than the man in a relationship. Your situation...

Marriage: Husband doesn't want kids, insensitive jerk, job hunting
insensitive jerk, job hunting, abortions: Hi Emma~ If I were in your situation. I would tell the husband that having abortions aren t to be used as a form of birth control. And I would refuse to have another one for him, period. If he didn t want children then he should ve thought about that...

Marriage: Husband doesn't want kids, dear emma, abortions
dear emma, abortions, due date: Dear Emma, Discuss it again with your husband.If he still doesn t want the baby and you do, ask him if you can at least stay with him til after it is born. If you find a job,be truthful and tell them you are pregnant.Their insurance won t cover you...

Marriage: Husband doesn't want a child, months of pregnancy, husb
months of pregnancy, husb, major depression: Dear Amanda, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I realize that for many years you were under the impression that you could NOT have children, however, in ANY marriage situation, this is a topic...

Marriage: Husband drinking too much?, inappropriate manner, good relationship
inappropriate manner, good relationship, best intentions: Dear Michaela, Thank you for conacting allexpert.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Well, I m afraid that your husband sounds pretty much like the textbook alcoholic to me. I am very, very tolerant of people drinking alcohol and...

Marriage: Husband and family gatherings, family gatherings, deceased parents
family gatherings, deceased parents, family barbeque: Dear Lisa, Well, I missed giving you advice before Saturday, but I hope the following is helpful. Sometimes loved ones handle sitautions (functions) for so long as they can find ways to deal with them. Sounds as though your spouse has run out of ways...

Marriage: Husband and I fight all the time, swollen eyes, strip clubs
swollen eyes, strip clubs, one year one: Hello Lora, Time for a counselor.Either a minister or a professional.Your marriage is in deep trouble.Too many problems.Quit making allowances for his temper and the arguing. You are wearing yourself out.If he won t attend counseling,love or not,time...

Marriage: Husband's "friend"., trustworthy woman, trustworthy man
trustworthy woman, trustworthy man, emotional need: Tanda, It is my belief that a man and woman can be friends, but only casually....especially if one or both is married. In your case...your husband is taking this friendship too far. If he needs more emotional support, advice etc. he needs to find a trustworthy...

Marriage: Husband's health, exercise industry, case statistics
exercise industry, case statistics, exercise habits: Dear Emily, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with this question. You sound like a very intelligent and loving wife. Your husband is lucky to have you! The first thing to do is to discover what physical activity...

Marriage: Husband isn't interested in sex with me., thinking of divorce, flirting with men
thinking of divorce, flirting with men, couple web: Hi Sylvie~ I would urge you to consider not sleeping with another man or looking for affection from another man, until you decide if you want to divorce or not. When a woman is pregnant their hormones can really wreak havoc on their emotions. I can understand...

Marriage: Husband Likes Men Staring At Me, short skirt, class act
short skirt, class act, bodice: Well a lot of thoughts come to mind, but let s face it 25 years is a bit of a success story in itself. Something is evidently working well. Although most men are thrilled at the spectacle of a scantilly dressed woman, (I know I am) a bit more to the imagination...

Marriage: My Husband Moved Away, long distance relationships, volunteer work
long distance relationships, volunteer work, joint decision: Long distance relationships are lonely and sad. Thank heaven you have trust, without it you will not make a month. Talking on the phone regularly is an obvious one. Make video tapes of yourselves for the other. Just talking everyday talk and doing everyday...

Marriage: My Husband made me leave, legal separation, vets
legal separation, vets, 6 years: Amber, He is most likely concerned for your safety. The instances of violence against spouses has been widespread from vets returning from Iraq. They are on the edge and it does not take much to push them over the edge. Just give him some time and understanding....

Marriage: Husband's moods, sense of humour, eldest daughter
sense of humour, eldest daughter, silly things: Hi Helen~ Absolutely under no circumstances should you move back to where you once were. If he s not happy now, he ll never be happy wherever you live. You have to put your foot down and tell him, no, you refuse to be pawns in his personal war with himself....

Marriage: Husband and his mother.., mother thanks, hi thanks
mother thanks, hi thanks, financial situation: Hi Jennifer~ Good! I m glad to hear that you finally wrote out your email to her. I ll bet that lifts a big weight off your shoulders too. And even if she does reply back with rude remark (which I bet she will), then you can be the bigger person and...

Marriage: Husband and his mother..., medical transcription course, stay at home mom
medical transcription course, stay at home mom, work from home job: J, Well there are a lot of things at play here, but the simplest way to describe it is using the term family circle. If you can imagine a stone dropped in some water there are concentric circles migrating out. Your own personal self and wellbeing is in...

Marriage: Getting Husband to Pitch In, household chores, diapers etc
household chores, diapers etc, washing dishes: Well that s a hard one but you have to start somewhere. I think the best solution is to dangle a reward in front of him when a goal is acheived. We can have sex if I can get done with the dishes early enough, give me a hand. Once you can get a concession...

Marriage: Husband's parents live with us, independant woman, dealth
independant woman, dealth, single mom: Hi Christine~ It never works out when you live with in-laws or family of any kind. Even if the intentions were good in the beginning. It just doesn t work well. There will always be conflicts in the household. It s certainly taking a huge toll on...

Marriage: Husband does not provide, doctorate studies, electricity bill
doctorate studies, electricity bill, myfamily: Beulah- SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE. You need to realize that and your husband must realize that. Tell him that you are going to get a mobile phone so that you can talk to your family. Or ask him to use his - either way, you must calmly assert that you are...

Marriage: Husband's Selfishness, full time job, airline pilot
full time job, airline pilot, doctor appointments: Hi Marie~ It s better to do a divorce now and get it over with. The longer you wait and the older the child gets. The more resentful they become when a divorce happens. When they are young they can adjust to change better. Besides children are resilient...

Marriage: Husband says one thing & means another, second marriage, bad situations
second marriage, bad situations, type person: Hi Theresa~ You need to get through to your husband that marriage is about compromise. When he gives a little, then so do you. It s a two way street. He really should get a handle on the drinking before it gets out of control. When a person drinks to...

Marriage: Husband Troubles, secret messenger, daught
secret messenger, daught, baby weight: Hi Mandi~ For him to call disgusting is total BS!! You re the mother of his child. His behavior is just rude, crude and socially unacceptable. You shouldn t tolerate being belittled by his dispicable manners. And he should be ashamed of himself, plain...

Marriage: Husband thinking of leaving, awakening at midlife, fear anxiety
awakening at midlife, fear anxiety, anxiety and depression: Maureen, I know the lost feeling you are experiencing, but you ll have to decide when enough is enough and try to move on, whether under your own volition or through his. I know you can t afford one on one counceling, and it may be needed, but I would like...

Marriage: Husband thinks I am cheating, low self esteem, hypothetically of course
low self esteem, hypothetically of course, guilty one: Hi Amy~ He s thinking this for a reason. It s one of two things probably. He s cheating on you (speaking hypothetically, of course), and he s trying to blame you and accuse you of it (to take suspicion off of him, or trying to rid himself of guilt by...

Marriage: Husband Won't Leave, second marriage, cheap suit
second marriage, cheap suit, famly: Hi Audrey~ He keeps coming back b/c you ll take him back each time. And he knows this, therefore he comes back to you. You have to make up your mind that you really don t want him, and be done with him. It s not going to be easy when you do tell him...

Marriage: Husband does not want kids, finding a new job, happy marriage
finding a new job, happy marriage, old job: Hi Emma, You should never be forced to do anything that you don t want to do, even by your husband, especially if it is as important as keeping your baby. If you do things for others, you will always be weighted down with resentment. Your husband should know...

Marriage: Husband wants a divorce., better life, 3 years
better life, 3 years, anger: Hi Kim! Yes, you should let him have some time alone. Like the saying goes, Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Just play it cool. Call him, at the most once a week. Then when you talk to him, let him know how well you are getting along. Tell him that...

Marriage: Husband wants a divorce, breaking point, better life
breaking point, better life, 3 years: Hi Kim~ Unfortunately, that very well may just be the case, and it could be too late for the marriage to be saved. A person can only take so much of something before they break. It seems that all of these years have finally taken it s toll on him, and...

Marriage: Husband wants a divorce, better life, 3 years
better life, 3 years, rita: Hi Kim, I would email him and call once more. (Just tell him that you know he is hurt and that with counseling hopefully you will become the person he knew years ago.That if he doesn t want to work things out,you understand and will no longer email...

Marriage: Husband wants to lock me out., police sheriff, financial settlement
police sheriff, financial settlement, violating the law: Hi Rebecca~ Since you ve not been married that long, a judge isn t going to give you a settlement or alimony. The only thing the courts will do is to give you half of the value of the home (as long as you bought the house together; before or after marriage)....

Marriage: Husband wants nothing from me, itimacy, household bills
itimacy, household bills, meaningful relationships: Well you both been through some tough times and damages naturally occur, quite frankly quitting will be the easiest, having a good marriage is going to be starting over all over again and working at it. You have a good point, using substances to mask reality...

Marriage: Husband wants to separate, loveless marriage, communication issue
loveless marriage, communication issue, councelor: Dear Maureen, Thank you very much for the follow up. It totally clears up the picture for me. I can see what the problem is immediately. Your husband got married when he was 19 years old and has spent the last 19 years of his life raising and supporting...

Marriage: My Husband, seeing eye to eye, hello bill
seeing eye to eye, hello bill, aquaintences: S, Well I would have thought 2.5 years was long enough to get the gist of someone, but maybe not. If you don t have a level of trust in a marriage, I don t think you can have much of anything else. You can t control someone s actions if they don t know...

Marriage: Husbands female friend, female friend, christmas gifts
female friend, christmas gifts, brainer: Dear Margie, I apologize for taking so long to reply to this letter. I have been having serious internet service issues the past several days. It is obvious from your letter that your husband has developed some kind of infatuation with this girl. It...

Marriage: Husbands who gossip about their wives, dealing with anxiety, personality disorder
dealing with anxiety, personality disorder, good relationship: Dear Carol, It sounds as though you have reached your limit and it s time for some action. There are a few approaches. 1. you could suggest that you see a marriage counselor together (taking all of the blame off of him, even if he is the one with the problem...

Marriage: How to handle a break, pushover, guns
pushover, guns, relationship: Hi Cara~ You need to communicate with him better. He needs to know what you expect from him (whatever your expectations are). And then you have to stick to your guns and not waiver from what you told him you re going to do. Otherwise, if you do, he s...

Marriage: How to handle a, good options, pushover
good options, pushover, committment: Hello Cara, When I think of breaks I think of my days before marriage when a relationship wasn t working out and I just really wanted to get out but didn t know how to let go. Why does your husband want a break so bad? When you get married you make...

Marriage: hang in there or throw in the towel?, emotional roller coaster, mood swing
emotional roller coaster, mood swing, abusive relationship: Perhaps you can use the brother to advantage. Maybe hearing about what is going on from a third party, much like a counselor, will help put your discomfort in perspective. In the end though you have to decide what will make you happy, and move in that direction,...

Marriage: what has happened?, marriage work, soul mate
marriage work, soul mate, spanish culture: Dear Mary, First, You cannot blame yourself for other peoples actions or decisions, they have a mind of their own. What you can do is be supportive, in so far that you are healthy and safe. It has come to a point, as noted in your email, that this is not...

Marriage: I hate my husband, bottle of pills, personal choices
bottle of pills, personal choices, happy moments: Hi Karen~ You have two options here. You can A-stay in this unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage or B-you can separate from him and ultimately divorce him. You know deep down that this marriage has been over for quite some time. You just don...

Marriage: Am I healing?, self confidence, adultry
self confidence, adultry, shy person: Dear Mark, Yes, you are healing and growing as a person. There is such a thing as aggressive depression, although it is not normally stated that way. Depression is often a result of some real or imagined loss. Grieving over a loss involves several stages,...

Marriage: help, bad temper, busy at work
bad temper, busy at work, good qualities: Hi J~ If you are having any doubts about marrying your fiancee then don t marry him. What if it turns out to be a total mistake?! Then what, you ll have to end up divorcing him. And that can be a costly thing to do. It s better to call off the engagement...

Marriage: help me, younger siblings, wrong choice
younger siblings, wrong choice, sweet things: Hi Maria~ Easier said than done. This counselor is not the one that has to bear the load of what you re going through. I would most certainly disregard what this counselor said. I can t believe this person had the audacity to tell you you were being...

Marriage: help!, long dongs, rule of the road
long dongs, rule of the road, cave men: Well I get this question a lot, you have to understand men like looking at nude women and visa versa. If there was no society and cave men were the rule of the road, guys would go around banging any woman that would spread her legs. Well there is a society...

Marriage: help!, cheating men, adrenaline rush
cheating men, adrenaline rush, many men: Dear s, This addiction affects many men in our world. That is why pornography is so prevalent and makes so much money. Some men will do this behind their wives back because most women will not put up with it. It has nothing to do with you, but it is very...

Marriage: help, female relationships, sexual experiences
female relationships, sexual experiences, sexual relationship: Dear D, I know that you have a son and that you are trying to have a family unit, but if you get married, you will most likely become miserable. You gave me many hints through your letter that this is not the right thing for you, such as when you said that...

Marriage: help!!!!, wedding ring, many men
wedding ring, many men, different things: Dear Lynne, I completely understand your willingness to be married with stability for your family. I know that it must hurt deep down to have had a relationship for all these years without official commitment. I m sure that this woman is meaningless to him....

Marriage: help cont'd, butterfly conservatory, having a shower
butterfly conservatory, having a shower, lawer: Dear D, It sounds as if you are finding reasons so that you do not have to be emotionally close to him. He has got you wrapped around his finger because of his control by using your son. He threatens you(I truly thinks he knows you like women and doesn t...

Marriage: help a marriage, god daughter, loving parents
god daughter, loving parents, counseler: Hi Peter~ You are doing a nice thing for your friends. The whole point is to make sure they want to remain together as a married couple. If they don t love each other,or want to make it work,then you are probably not doing them any favors really. I honestly...

Marriage: help me please, bad temper, busy at work
bad temper, busy at work, good qualities: Well a few things come to mind. If you are not thrilled with a guy, you certainly don t want to marry him. Getting married should be a fantastic time, full of happiness and wonderment for the future together, not a dreary, dull, and boring time. Secondly be...

Marriage: help save my marriage, prozac xanax, pain meds
prozac xanax, pain meds, biological child: Dear Ruth, I have heard so many stories like this one! This situation is extremely common out there. I know you want him back and that you will do anything to keep him, but I really do think you need to let nature take it s course. I believe that you may...

Marriage: help me save my marriage, suicice, time part time
suicice, time part time, part time job: Hi Ruth, As to church,you don t have to attend every Sunday,it is always there just as God is always with you.Speak to a minister about these issues also.They are free and usually have a couple of years of psychology under their belt.I know you are tired...

Marriage: can you help?, kristin williams, chris hunt
kristin williams, chris hunt, grandmothers: It is very easy to geth wrapped up in another s problems, wanting to help, but in the end there is only so much we can do. This girl has what is called baggage and you can do only so much to help. Being a phone friend is nice, but let s face it, that s all...

Marriage: hi, matteres, deepika
matteres, deepika, inhuman treatment: Hi Deepika~ Beatings are never acceptable, period. That s abuse. Whether it s in the USA or in India. It s not ever right for a person to lay a hand on you. I realize that it may even be acceptable in India where the culture is different than America....

Marriage: homosexual marriage, same sex marriage, r m french
same sex marriage, r m french, same sex marriages: Dear Michal, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope I can assist you with your question. Recently there has been a lot of controversey about the status of same-sex marriages in the United States. Earlier in the year marriages were performed...

Marriage: honesty, lie detector test, lie detectors test
lie detector test, lie detectors test, terrible feeling: Dear Curtis, In addition to love in a marriage, trust is next biggest area that needs nurturing. If you have some indication, from a reliable source, that she is being unfaithful then you should be honest with her. If she denies it then you have choice-...

Marriage: i hope you can help me, marrige license, indaina
marrige license, indaina, marriage license: Hi Joseph~ You can get a marriage license anywhere really. It s most simple to do it in the county of the state you live in. At your local court house, you can go to the circuit clerk of the court and they can tell you how to obtain one. Hope this helps...

Marriage: hopeless, best buddies, low self esteem
best buddies, low self esteem, true statement: Hi Yvonne~ He probably has a low self-esteem and that s why he treats you with disrespect. Sometimes a person has to knock someone down in order to build himself up. You shouldn t tolerate the way he treats you, period. It s rude, crude and socially...

Marriage: husband, chess game, abusive relationship
chess game, abusive relationship, wits end: Hi Terri: The answer here is both simple and complex. Simple in that, in order for this to get better, your husband must develop a positive image of your former sister-in-law. He MUST or this will not get better. The complex side of this is making...

Marriage: My husband is accusing me of affiars I havent had, acting this way, unreasonable behaviour
acting this way, unreasonable behaviour, brandee: Hi Ann~ If he s cheated on the mother of his children. Then what s to say he won t do it again to you. And no you shouldn t put up with this from him. You know you re not cheating on him and he probably does too. You do not have to prove anything to...

Marriage: husband having affair, ounce, cheats
ounce, cheats, full time: Hi Vicki~ It was his choice and decision to leave and move 4 hours away. If he s already cheating on you with another woman--you definitely shouldn t trust him. If he ll do this to you once, chances are he ll do it again. At this point all you can do...

Marriage: is my husband cheating?, new email accounts, deep in your heart
new email accounts, deep in your heart, hidden keys: Dear Tammy, There is a huge trust issue here. I m not quite sure who is not trusting who, or if both of you do not trust. I would talk to him and be firm. Tell him that either he knocks this off and we get along like a normal healthy marriage should, or that...

Marriage: husband debt, debt collection agency, finding a lawyer
debt collection agency, finding a lawyer, phoenix az: Hi Ana~ This this debt was prior to your meeting him. It s solely his debt and not yours. They would have to go after him. Collection agencies will try to bully someone into paying, that has no obligation to pay them for a debt (such as you). Don t...

Marriage: My husband is depressed and wants to leave, life in limbo, depression meds
life in limbo, depression meds, second marriage: Hi Sherry~ I think that the counselor is crazy! He/She should be neutral and not bias towards either one of you. In other words not taking sides here. This has absolutely NOTHING to do with the 11 yo. It s all about your husband and his problems...

Marriage: my husband doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore, trial separation, life doesn
trial separation, life doesn, sex life: Hi Lisa~ You could do a trial separation for a bit. This way you can see if you really want to be apart or together. With a separation; it ll go one of two ways. You ll stay apart b/c it still won t work out. Or two you ll end up back together and not...

Marriage: my husband drinking im hurt, rude side, pastor kim
rude side, pastor kim, spiritual problem: Hi Michelle, I had a hard time understanding your letter. Please use punctuation marks next time, okay? If you are asking me what to do about your husband who drinks, all I can tell you is that he still needs help. He needs deliverance.This is a spiritual...

Marriage: my husband drinks too much, m 41, self worth
m 41, self worth, al anon: Hi Angie~ Wow. But this is your problem too, b/c it s affecting the marriage. So you either have to work with and support him or you have to cut him loose and say no more, I simply can t deal with this a moment longer (no matter how much you love him)....

Marriage: How to get my husband's ex-wife to get a life of her own, divroce, marriage help
divroce, marriage help, divorce papers: Hi Gina: It should not be too difficult to solve this issue. This calls for a meeting between the three of you - with your husband taking the lead role, not you. Your husband, not you, needs to tell his ex-wife at the meeting that she is interfering with...

Marriage: My husband has given up on our marriage., place hope, contemplations
place hope, contemplations, alimony: Well it sounds like he may have found someone else to play with during his 7 days of work. Since he isn t around anyway, the seperation phase is kind of mute. Find out what his view is for a next step, if he doesn t want to leave, what does he want to do?...

Marriage: My husband has no interest in intimacy, physical relationship, wits end
physical relationship, wits end, attractive woman: Hi Natalie~ He might have some form of sexual dysfunction and he s too embarrassed to tell you or bring it up in conversations with you. So he blows it off and doesn t have intimate relations with you or makes up excuses. I would strongly urge you...

Marriage: husband issue, sex at work, wits end
sex at work, wits end, self confidence: Hi Brandee~ He s insulting you by asking you this. And now it s taking a toll on your self-esteem. It s all due to him. Tell him that you re not going to even entertain him with an answer this question. I would tell him that he s insulting you and your...

Marriage: my husband and a job, low income housing, steady job
low income housing, steady job, sense of responsibility: Hello Jackie, If you have family close by,move back home.He doesn t have a sense of responsibility to you,the baby or his mother.Live with his mother if you have no other choice.When you are able to get a job,do so.Get help with finding your own place through...

Marriage: my husband loves me but does not like to be with me., candle light dinner, fairy tale
candle light dinner, fairy tale, courtship: Hi Mili, Let me guess.........He likes you to cater to him though, right? I think that you perhaps are being taken for granted. There are periods in marriage where one of the partners seems to believe that the courtship is over. You have to make him...

Marriage: husband miserable and wants to move I don't, stay at home dad, sole support
stay at home dad, sole support, getting a job: Dear Tami, It sounds to me plain and clear that your husband is miserable. He may feel strapped down and wants to start over in a new area. Many women become this way when kids come along. They want to move ahead and pursue their dreams, but of course, have...

Marriage: husband playing role play games, role play game, role play games
role play game, role play games, heart to heart talk: Hi Sue~ Of course it s not too much to ask him to stay at home with you on the weekends. If this game and spending too much time with friends playing these games is consuming him. Then perhaps he needs to step back and take a break from this. Otherwise,...

Marriage: My husband has no respect for me, nieces and nephews, tug of war
nieces and nephews, tug of war, 8 years: Hello Brenda: First, your husband has a couple of critical decisions to make. 1. Regarding his sister - his FIRST loyalty should be to his wife - his own family. Let him go to his sisters this weekend without you BUT with the stipulation that he tells...

Marriage: My husband's, marriage conseling, e mail
marriage conseling, e mail, enthusiam: Hi Christine~ Oh, but you do have a right to know when/if he sends her gifts and money. He should automatically do this out of respect for you (letting you know about the money he sends). I can totally respect his wishes for wanting to help her out...

Marriage: My husband and I never have sex, gentle advice, sweet man
gentle advice, sweet man, provocation: I m sure you ve told him the things you ve told me in some fashion, so my advice would be to get right down to it and let him know your sex life needs help. It may seem robotic at first but pick a night, Wednesday night, when you both get showered up and get...

Marriage: My husband spends too much time on his computer., mother and wife, staying home
mother and wife, staying home, child rearing: Dear Laura, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Laura, every once in a while I get a question that is very difficult for me to answer. The reason for this is that I know the person that wrote the...

Marriage: husband still not working, yr anniversary, anniversary gift
yr anniversary, anniversary gift, love letter: Hi Becky~ I think you re most certainly right in seriously considering divorcing him. He s got a very bad track record during the time you ve been together. And you can t babysit and raise him for the rest of your life. He s a grown up, it s not your...

Marriage: why does my husband think touching me sexually and inappropriate times is romantic?, spanish inquisition, financial struggle
spanish inquisition, financial struggle, strange town: Hi Lily~ What he s doing isn t flattering at all to a woman! It s an insult and degrading to you. His behavior is rude, crude and totally unacceptable. He thinks of you as a piece of meat. When he does that to you he has no respect for you, let alone...

Marriage: husband wants divorce, marriage counselor, dr appt
marriage counselor, dr appt, daughter graduates: You don t have to wait for further evidence. Confront him now. Ask him if he meant it when he said Forsake all others . Promises, especially marriage vows, are important things. Go back to my first response and ask him for just one hour of his time...

Marriage: My husband wants to divorce, marrying an american, marriage work
marrying an american, marriage work, computer engineer: Thanks for the vote Kanika. Leaving him, staying with him, she, him, etc etc. Forget everything. Don t expect much from him , just consider him as a good friend who cares and focus on your career for now. When he shouts, you laugh, change your behaviour,...

Marriage: My husband wants to separate, marrying an american, marriage work
marrying an american, marriage work, computer engineer: Hi Kanika~ Well, I m a Mrs, but that s okay. I ve been called worse before (just kidding). You re only entitled to 50% of what you incurred during the marriage. So if he had the stocks and bonds before you married, then you re not entitled to any of those...

Marriage: My husband wants to talk to other girls on the internet?, line girls, sexy clothes
line girls, sexy clothes, longer sex: Hello Amber, Yes,you should be worried.What kind of plans did he make with online girls after you were married??He doesn t want real live friends? You have reason to be concerned.Not talking,no sex and he says nothing works?What is he stressed out about?...

Marriage: My husband won't leave., mood swings, mars women
mood swings, mars women, men are from mars women are from venus: Usually the financial picture keeps people anchored together, but if he has a place to go, file for a seperation, or agree to a trial seperation and see how it goes. If there continues to be physical abuse, file for a restraining order, that is likely the...

Marriage: My husband won't move or change jobs for my health, does he love me,should I stay, or should I go?, work buddies, bad memories
work buddies, bad memories, construction job: Dear Eliza, If you tell your husband to change careers for you, he may resent you. I know your health is involved and if it is affecting your family this much, then he is probably thinking there is another way to resolve this so that he does not bring these...

Marriage: My husband won't have sex with me if I am on birth control., two little boys, quality kids
two little boys, quality kids, bad behavior: Dear Cindy, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. It seems odd to me that your husband is so determined to have a certain number of children. It has been my experience that most men would rather have...

Marriage: husband not working, yr anniversary, anniversary gift
yr anniversary, anniversary gift, love letter: Barb, You need to stop treating him like a teenage son first of all. He is probably depressed and thus unmotivated to seek out a job. Before divorce is mentioned i think you should seek out a competent marital therapist to help you talk about the things that...

Marriage: My husband, happy marriage, communication issues
happy marriage, communication issues, therapy session: Hi Leigh~ It has to do a lot with communication (with his leaving). Even though you may think everything is fine and dandy, with him though, it s not. In other words, he s not fully communicating with you exactly how he feels. So you think everything...

Marriage: my husbands depression, traumatic time, psychological help
traumatic time, psychological help, marrage: Hello Tina, Yes,I would let him move out.However, I would ask him to seek counseling with you,even after he moves.He needs it and you deserve it.You weren t the one that went through the ordeal in Iraq,but with counseling maybe you can come to understand...

Marriage: my husbands drinking, right before my eyes, innocent life
right before my eyes, innocent life, drinker: Hi Georgia~ I know how you feel. My father s side of the family (almost entire family) are alcoholics. My father included (his brothers, parents, grandparents, etc). He died an alcoholic, it was very sad to watch him detoriate right before my eyes. ...

Marriage: me and my husbands sex relationship, getting a divorce, sex relationship
getting a divorce, sex relationship, rawson: I wouldn t over-react. As men get older it is harder and harder to get excited. These films help in that men love to watch a woman s nude body. I think we can all agree when we are having trouble getting there our minds wander to different scenes that help...

Marriage: IM IN LOVE THE WRONG MAN FOR ME, immigration status, jelousy
immigration status, jelousy, work authorization: Dear Jasmine, Thank you for your patience. I have had difficulty using the allexperts system. It sounds like you have had done what you can to make the marriage work. It may be time for you to consider getting help from a counselor. IF you feel that this...

Marriage: Im afraid to leave because i have a problem to., time of need, addiction
time of need, addiction, 6 years: Hi Erika~ If you don t mind my asking, what is your addiction? The first step is to first acknowledge that you have a problem. The second step is asking and accepting the help that you so desperately need for an addiction. If you don t ask for help from...

Marriage: Infidelity Pattern - Husband cheated twice, emotional roller coaster, self satisfaction
emotional roller coaster, self satisfaction, great memories: Hi Rubia~ He s a serial cheater. He s done is to you twice in the marriage, and once while you were dating. Chances are he s not going to change at all, ever. All of these feelings your experiencing are totally normal, really. You ll have your ups and...

Marriage: Too Many Issues to list!, loveless marriage, proposal of marriage
loveless marriage, proposal of marriage, fear of commitment: Hi Meka~ I think your fiancee has a lot of unresolved issues. And those need to get taken care of before you even can agree to marry him. Otherwise, if you married him you d be making a huge mistake, giving the way this relationship is currently going....

Marriage: im gay and wanna fall in love with a woman, possiblities, normalcy
possiblities, normalcy, ppl: Hi Dave~ What are your reasons behind wanting to fall in love with a woman? Not trying to judge or get personal with you here. Just trying to get a sense of your reasons, is all. Do you want to do this b/c you want a sense of normalcy? Or b/c that seems...

Marriage: im jealouse and she doesnt listen to my feelings, low self esteem, married couples
low self esteem, married couples, jealous guy: Dear Jay, I can not tell you how common this situation is for a newly married couples. It is usually the woman that tests the man and actually enjoys the fact that her man is jealous. Most of the time it is due to the woman s low self esteem, but in your...

Marriage: infidelity or not?, lap dance clubs, morals and values
lap dance clubs, morals and values, drug addict: Dear Jeanette, If your husband had visited lap dance clubs and asked for other girls numbers while you have been married, this still would be a form of infidelity. You do not have to actually have sex in order for it to be labeled infidelity. Any type of...

Marriage: infidelity?, heart to heart talk, benefit of doubt
heart to heart talk, benefit of doubt, nothing in mind: Hi Alicia~ If he s not given you any reason to not trust him, then give him the benefit of doubt here. I know that when I ve been completely bored, I ve done that. And I m a married woman. But I d never ever cheat on my husband or even think about it....

Marriage: Not being informed of important decisions, kim hi, important decisions
kim hi, important decisions, family vacation: Hi Kim~ Have they actually came both times that he s invited them to go along on your vacations?! I think that s totally rude and unacceptable for him to do this to you. It s a family vacation, not a vacation for other families and your family. This...

Marriage: issues with my husbands new secretary, clam, ppl
clam, ppl, many things: Hi T~ I can see your cause for concern, especially hearing bad things about her through other ppl. And on top of that, you ve already been through a previous affair. You really need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him exactly how this makes you...

Marriage: Jealous Husband, insecure feelings, topless tanning
insecure feelings, topless tanning, last lovers: There is a lot in play here, but let s figure it out. During the kid bearing years, the husband takes a back seat, some easier than others, even though you are exhausted you have to fit sex in with him somewhere, if you want him to be pleased. Most women don...

Marriage: Jealous husband, confused wife., oil rig, muddy boots
oil rig, muddy boots, old mom: Dear Confused Mama, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com I hope that I can assit you with your question. Well, it doesn t take a rocket scientist to figure out that your husband s bad behavior is directly connected to your weight loss. He is very...

Marriage: Jealous & Insecure Husband, insecure person, acting this way
insecure person, acting this way, mind tricks: Hi Mariah~ He definitely has big issues here. Sometimes when a man accuses a woman of cheating on him. It s b/c he s doing it himself and it s way to deflect the suspicion off of himself. So he accuses his wife of cheating on him. This happened in my...

Marriage: Jealousy and Insecurity., ill feelings, separtion
ill feelings, separtion, jelousy: Sabrina, It sounds like the problem is all yours. For whatever buried reasons you have self confidence problems that you need to address with a professional before you can have a healthy relationship with your husband. He feels and sees this negativity oozing...

Marriage: Jealousy and Insecurity., separtion, getting away with something
separtion, getting away with something, girlfreinds: Sabrina, What I m trying to say Sabrina is you have to set yourself free of all this. I think Jesus once said What I say unto others, I say unto you, Watch. SO be watchful but not a constant digger. And if he does something wrong, then you have to decide...

Marriage: Jealousy and Insecurity., ill feelings, separtion
ill feelings, separtion, jelousy: Dear Sabrina, You should have paid more attention to your 1 1/2 separation from him before you got married.This was definetly a warning sign .There is a great deal wrong with your relationship with your husband. You say you feel hatred for him and in...

Marriage: another questuin, anger management classes, anger management
anger management classes, anger management, insecurities: Hi Bryon~ You could be suffering from a low self esteem issue. And that s why you constantly need to be reassured by her telling you she loves you. But it s starting to upset her b/c you need to be reassured so much. It s sorta like someone repeatedly...

Marriage: jealous husband, carribbean islands, chiropracter
carribbean islands, chiropracter, jealous husband: Hi Marie~ He s very resentful at this point of your going places. Since he has to usually stay and work at the business, thus, leaving him with very little time off b/c he works so much. He needs to make it a priority to take some time off. If he...

Marriage: jealous, insecure doesnt trust, personal issues, counselor
personal issues, counselor, andrea: Andrea, If you are divorced, but continue to see each other then maybe you just wanted to fill you were free. If you still love each other and can commit to each other then just get back together. Work out your personal issues with a good counselor and...

Marriage: jealousy, little freedom, low self esteem
little freedom, low self esteem, jealous man: Hi Christen~ It seems as though he has a very low self-esteem and an insecurity issue. He has to right to control you or to tell you what to do. He should have enough love, trust and respect for you to do things for yourself. No, it s not wrong at all...

Marriage: Kids and Second Marriage, second marriage, twin girls
second marriage, twin girls, typical behavior: Hi Karen~ First let me apologize for taking so long to answer your question. My computer was messed up and I was unable to access my computer to answer my questions for over a week! I think this it typical behavior for your children to be having. I...

Marriage: Kneeling when proposing, white collar workers, generation gaps
white collar workers, generation gaps, economic ladder: Dear Steve, No. I truly do not know of an exact percentage, but I have known several men that have kneeled down on one knee. I also know that the number of men that propose on one knee has diminished drastically. It may have to do with status, age, generation...

Marriage: Am I killing her?, little trip, dream job
little trip, dream job, bad luck: Hi Luis~ Your wife has issues that go way beyond you. She s claiming that her life is over (or was almost over) b/c she didn t get her dream job?! I don t know about you but this isn t normal for a person to think and be like this. It sounds like she...

Marriage: Am I killing her?, little trip, seperation
little trip, seperation, bad luck: I would advise you both agree to a seperation for a month s time to clear your heads and come to some conclusions as to what you both would like in the future. Get back together after a month and put a plan in action. Every day unhappy is a waste of both of...

Marriage: kissing co-workers, party pooper, co workers
party pooper, co workers, cheek: Hi Keith~ If it absolutely bothers you, then yes, you should say something. It s perfectly fine and acceptable for you to politely ask your co-workers not to kiss on your wife (even if it just on the cheek). I m sure they mean well and it s nothing more...

Marriage: how to know if a relationship is worth, alot, parents
alot, parents, relationship: Respecting him as he is or accepting him as he is means to take the baggage that comes with him. If he insists that his family is this important to him, if he insists that you live with them, if he insists that he cannot live without their interference then...

Marriage: Large age difference, platonic friends, care taker
platonic friends, care taker, 3 years: I ve seen things like this work out and you seem to understand a few things. The only damage I can really see, and not knowing your goals, is the time wasted. Somewhere down the road 5 or 10 years you ll be back in the same boat, looking for someone again,...

Marriage: The In-Laws, weekends and holidays, nice surprise
weekends and holidays, nice surprise, guest bathroom: Hi Judy~ Honestly, I have no more suggestions for you. As you ve done everything within your power to fix this and/or make it work. It s just not. This is why it s not a good idea for family members to live together. Your MIL is stubborn, bull-headed/pig-headed...

Marriage: In-Laws, godparent, mother father
godparent, mother father, godfather: Well...the idea of godparents is to balance the honor so one relative from each family is perhaps fair-er. Once you are out of the house and on your own, most of your problems will go away. People that are right of the boat have a stronger sense of tradition...

Marriage: Lazy husband, sole financial support, daily chores
sole financial support, daily chores, budget shopping: Dear Lazy husband s wife, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can answer your question. Well, I ll tell you right from the start you aren t going to like my answer. Every once in a while I get a question like this and I know that...

Marriage: Leave Family Friends For Her Career, fbi career, bigger city
fbi career, bigger city, career question: Dear Bryant, No, you are not being selfish. In actuality, if you did move for her needs, you would resent her in the long run and this could cause problems in your future with her. Also, life changes constantly. Who is to say, if you move away with her, if...

Marriage: Leave or work it out?, prescription pills, marriage work
prescription pills, marriage work, part time job: Hi Frustrated~ Since he was abusing drugs (and hasn t stayed in rehab), it s unlikely he s stopped--or it s just a matter of time before he ll do it again. It might be a good time to cut your losses and move on with your life. As hard as it may be, this...

Marriage: When To Leave, marriage counseling, different parts of the house
marriage counseling, different parts of the house, salvage: Hi Laurie~ I would urge you to seek some marriage counseling before you decided to separate and ultimately divorce. At least you can see if there is any hope of the marriage being saved. Perhaps you could work out your differences, it s not impossible...

Marriage: Letting go?, correct conclusion, consession
correct conclusion, consession, having an affair: C, You never know what kind of a game a person is playing in these situations. Whether truly troubled, or having an affair, a person that asks for time on their own is suspect, and a limit needs to be put on the consession in some fashion for your peace...

Marriage: Letting go, trial separation, limbo
trial separation, limbo, current situation: Hi Cara~ It s a little challenging to take a break from one another when you re still living under the same roof. But there are plenty of couples that have to do it this way due to finances. Since he s wanting the break for a while. I would definitely...

Marriage: Living together before marriage, living together before marriage, smooth sailing
living together before marriage, smooth sailing, great relationship: Hi Joanna~ As long as you re both captable, you get along good, and can work out your differences. The relationship will be fine. Marriage is a little different and some ppl do change after they get married. If you have a great relationship with him,...

Marriage: Loan Fiancee Money?, pre nup, college payments
pre nup, college payments, credit card debt: Hi Scott~ If she s in debt for $30,000 in credit cards, then what makes you think she ll actually pay back a loan that you are willing to give her? It would make more sense for her to try and pay it off herself. Your credit will become her credit when...

Marriage: Loan Fiancee Money?, pre nup, credit card debt
pre nup, credit card debt, credit card interest: Scott, Yes your apprehension is smart, but I guess bothersome to her. When you hear about movie stars, rock stars, and moguls signing prenups, I always feel the same as she does, but on the other hand they no better than we, that the marriage probably won...

Marriage: Lonely., high school sweetheart, touchy feely
high school sweetheart, touchy feely, relationship changes: Hi C~ Sometimes a relationship changes after marriage, and not necessarily for the best either. A couple can lose the connection that they once shared, and the marriage can become predictable and even boring. You need to find something that will put...

Marriage: Long Term Marriage and loneliness, term marriage, lonely at times
term marriage, lonely at times, new experiences: Hi Lynn, I must admit that I am somewhat confused. Let me explain why. I get a lot of questions from people asking me what to do with issues of disloyal husbands, abuse, inconsiderate spouses, partners that are dishonest, partners that are unable to...

Marriage: Looking at girls, relationship questions, relationship expert
relationship questions, relationship expert, mr sharma: Hi Ajit, Let me clear first, i am a relationship expert, hypnotherapist and not a doctor (Dr.), as you have mentioned me as Dr. Sharma, Just Mr. Sharma is wonderfull. :) Now lets get to your problem. Sometimes females percieves thier man is looking...

Marriage: Lost Love, self mutilation, suicidal intentions
self mutilation, suicidal intentions, sexual aspects: Dear Chrissy, You had mentioned not seeing a counselor with your spouse because you felt it was too late. Perhaps seeing a counselor on your own may be helpful to you. Divorce can change your life in many ways that one is unable to plan for and speaking...

Marriage: Lost respect since he slapped me, temper tantrums, violent father
temper tantrums, violent father, getting drunk: Hi Trisha~ His putting his hands on you should ve been the deal breaker. No man (or anyone for that matter) has the right to place his hands on you, period. Not to mention that this has been an on going thing to where he s been abusive mentally, emotionally...

Marriage: Love, just don't really like, my husband, swiffer mop, chest of drawers
swiffer mop, chest of drawers, ass bitch: Hello Julia, You can love people and not like them.However in a marriage it isn t a good sign. If he continues to do this,ask him to attend counseling with you.Either with your minister or a professional counselor. Accidents happen and you did not...

Marriage: Loveless marriage, loveless marriage, condescending remark
loveless marriage, condescending remark, cast away: OK - so he has taken the first of the two roads we discussed previously - negative. But, wouldn t it be better to know that now than to have a loveless situation continue for years? If in fact he has hatred for you Emily, this relationship is over. ...

Marriage: Lusting young boys, dream dreams, wet dream
dream dreams, wet dream, young boys: Well that s quite a spread in years and because you are starved for sex in your marriage, you look elsewhere. You have a natural and normal attraction for someone nearer your age thus the uncontrolable orgasms you are experiencing. I would stay clear of the...

Marriage: lack of interest in sex, sex question, lack of interest
sex question, lack of interest, sex life: OK - thanks for that additional information. The picture is much clearer now. Weight gain is definitely in the top three issues I see in my patients experiencing a loss of sexual desire. 99% of enjoyment in sex is in the mind. By that I mean most people...

Marriage: In-laws. HELP ! HELP !, cash option, fiancee
cash option, fiancee, e mail: Hi Denise, Move the b/f into your apartment.Inform them that he is not doing anything else.Once the place is sold-THEY have to move.Call the brother back and tell him what your money situation is and if they want a better place then you can afford-have...

Marriage: In-laws, split decision, spats
split decision, spats, 21 months: Hi Tyfeny~ It sounds like your in-laws are the ones that have the problem. They seem like very nosey and controlling ppl. Also added to the fact that the age difference might be a problem for them (not that the age difference is a problem for you and...

Marriage: lazy husband, sole financial support, daily chores
sole financial support, daily chores, budget shopping: Hi Lazy Husband s Wife~ You need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk with him. Do this in a nonconfrontational way. If you do it when you re upset or angry it s likely he ll just clam up, become defensive and refuse to talk about this...

Marriage: lazy husband?, hurricane katrina, household chores
hurricane katrina, household chores, lazy husband: Well the division of jobs is always a tough one, and one best layed out in the early going. Generally men think working their job is enough, but times have changed. My advice would be assigning him something he can succeed at, compliment the success, and then...

Marriage: lazy husbund, control airplanes, heart condition
control airplanes, heart condition, ballroom dancing: Dear Rene, My motto is, If you have any doubt whatsoever, do NOT do it. When you find someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with, you will definitely know deep down in your heart that it is 100% right. It seems too good to be true and you...

Marriage: learning to appreciate, great relationship, upmost respect
great relationship, upmost respect, new boyfriend: Hello Kay: I am so sorry for the pain you have experienced. Thank you for sharing your story with me. You know, as I read your letter, I began to think that you have experienced so much as a young woman. You have seen and felt things that few people...

Marriage: should I leave?, post natal depression, severe depression
post natal depression, severe depression, ivf: Sounds affair-ish to me, where does he go when he leaves? Have you verified this/his location. There is medicine to combat his illnesses, is he taking it? I would lay down some rules for continuing, if there is no interest, then it s time to go. Bil...

Marriage: Should I leave him now or give him a chance, good feelings, second marriage
good feelings, second marriage, dinner with friends: Hi Siliva~ It seems as though he s very selfish and self-absorbed, and he doesn t take your thoughts or feelings into consideration. And that s not a good thing for him to do. I would strongly suggest that you talk to him about marriage counseling....

Marriage: Do i leave my husband?, high sex drive, convenience purposes
high sex drive, convenience purposes, sexual comments: Hi Carlie~ I m going to copy and paste your answers here, with my answers underneath them, for convenience purposes. **Is this the wrong thing to do?** Yes, I believe it s the wrong thing to do at this point by letting him stay, there in the same home...

Marriage: how do I leave my marriage, survival mode, life choice
survival mode, life choice, good mother: Hi Diane~ I ve found, in my experience, that it s better to do it immediately and to get the separation part over and done with. B/c the longer you take, the more hesitant one can become and to just decide to either put it off indefinitely or just prolong...

Marriage: How to leave my marriage, full time job, time student
full time job, time student, electronic devices: Hi Rebecca~ It sounds like you ve had your mind made up a long, long time ago that this marriage is over. You just haven t physically gone through with it yet. The hardest part is taking the first step and actually going through with it. I m not going...

Marriage: should i leave or stay, meesage, heart
meesage, heart: Hi Marshel~ She s saying she loves him?! Hmm...that s definitely not a good thing. And if he s cheated on you in the past, this isn t a good sign. He s not telling you the whole story here, b/c it seems like there is much more going on between them than...

Marriage: Should I just leave?, negative attitude, friedns
negative attitude, friedns, roomate: Hi Johnny~ Have you considered marriage counseling for both of you? If not, then you should seriously consider it. It can be a tremendous help when there are problems in a marriage. A counselor can give you tips and examples of what to do with the problems...

Marriage: I lied about going to bachelor/strip club, heart to heart talk, bachelor party
heart to heart talk, bachelor party, heart to heart: Hi Andy~ There s probably nothing you can say or do to convince her of anything. If she s made up her mind then that s what she s going to do. I know that s probably not what you wanted to hear me say. However, don t give up on the marriage that easily....

Marriage: lies, loving marriage, coal fire
loving marriage, coal fire, dishonesty: You ve heard it is what it is I m sure many times. She is what she is and you are not going to change her. You really haven t said what the effect of her dishonesty about her relationship with the ex has been. Is it just talk? Is she banging him on the side?...

Marriage: lies, habit
habit: Hi Faviola~ You stop letting him treat you in this manner. He has no right to be rude and inconsiderate to you, by lying. As a husband he s supposed to love, care, protect and respect you. Not to lie, be rude, disrespectful, etc. You have to put your...

Marriage: is the living situation causing problems?, vet school, furnature
vet school, furnature, fiance: Van, It sounds to me that you may need to just have a talk with your parents before I can really help in any way. It also looks like you kind of answered your own questions. If you have any questions after you get home and have the talk then please I am...

Marriage: living together before marriage, living together before marriage, smooth sailing
living together before marriage, smooth sailing, parents friends: Hello Joanna, What you have read is correct.Especially if the couple live together more then a year before marrying. You mention couple who is unsure that their partner is the one they want to marry? Are you beginning to have doubts?Or is he? ...

Marriage: living together before marriage, living together before marriage, smooth sailing
living together before marriage, smooth sailing, parents friends: Well I believe in taking one step at a time, in the right sequence, and most times when steps are skipped, problems result. Consider if you dated two years, became engaged for another, became married, and then moved in together. You would have 3 years together...

Marriage: I was so lonely, getting a job, female friend
getting a job, female friend, rest of your life: Hi Carson~ At this point all you can do is to be straight up honest with her. Tell her you re sorry for not being forthcoming about the contact and conversations you d been having with this former friend. And you totally understand that she s mad at you,...

Marriage: this is a long one, intimate relationship, time of the month
intimate relationship, time of the month, emotional state: Hi Alec~ I don t want to seem rude here. But I feel compelled to tell you the truth, she s a whore. She goes looking for love in any man that will give her attention. She s (by her own words) slept with many, many men. What would subject you to want...

Marriage: this is a long one, intimate relationship, time of the month
intimate relationship, time of the month, emotional state: My advice would be to steer clear of her. You cannot hope to heal all her years of abuse and the tons of baggage she is carrying. Although it may seem knightly to try and rescue this dame in distress, my prediction is you will be left in dismay. Find another...

Marriage: long-distance marriage, doctorate program, marriage proposal
doctorate program, marriage proposal, attractive woman: Grace - the answer is no. These are not normal for a long-distance marriage - or any marriage. A marriage is when two become one. There is no daylight between them. Not parents, not friends, not distance. I believe the best way to start the path to...

Marriage: how long do I wait?, best of both worlds, true colors
best of both worlds, true colors, time down: Nikki, Your husband is trying to have the best of both worlds. He is keeping you on the hook just in case he maybe wants to be married some time down the road. You need to make him make a decision. He will be forced to admit his intentions. Please do not...

Marriage: this is a long one, intimate relationship, time of the month
intimate relationship, time of the month, emotional state: Dear Alec, Sometimes we meet another who we fall in love with at a young age and we want to have a relationship with them, although it is not the right timing. It sounds like you both have loved and cared about each other for all these years, but it never...

Marriage: looking too much, male behavior, females
male behavior, females, shell: Some men do sneak/stair other females but not for sexual reasons. It just gives them pleasure or they admire other beautiful females. Not all females do watch other men though. But if you think you are really starring and are getting distracted on road then...

Marriage: Not in love, self help books, self medicate
self help books, self medicate, marriage counseling: Hi Nicole: My heart goes out to you. My daughter is 24 and I can t imagine having to watch her deal with the pain and issues you are facing right now. But there is hope. A LOT of hope. Even though you say you only married him because your friends...

Marriage: love, younger son, sister in law
younger son, sister in law, 5 months: Hi Maggi, This gets more complicated by the minute. I am beginning to feel that there are too many people involved in your love affair to make any sense of it. I don t understand how the parents can get your boyfriend to marry that to bond the family...

Marriage: In love with two different women, intimacy issues, peaches and cream
intimacy issues, peaches and cream, wonderful woman: Hi Rick~ You need to make a decision on whom you want to be with. Whether it s your wife or this other woman. It s not fair to you or these women that you re doing this. Whatever decision you make isn t going to be easy. I can t tell you what to do...

Marriage: love, sexual urge, family consent
sexual urge, family consent, survival of the species: Dear Robeert, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. In order to understand why your wife does not initiate romantic encounters, it is first necessary to understand the difference between how men and...

Marriage: loveless marriage, loveless marriage, man in your life
loveless marriage, man in your life, anyones: Dear Anu, I know your husband is a good man, but you must be happy and satisfied with the man you will be with the rest of your life. You do not want to live another 50 years married to someone you truly did not love and regret it. This is your life; not...

Marriage: loving behind the spolight, spolight, ups and downs
spolight, ups and downs, college kid: Rockin, I would say you need to sit and brainstorm with him about how you can either travel with him or stay connected while he is on the road. People make this work, but it definitely is not an easy thing to do. You need to talk with him directly and let...

Marriage: HOW TO GET A MARRIAGE ANULLED, proper paperwork, illegal alien
proper paperwork, illegal alien, free consultations: Hi Judy~ Yes, he can file for an annulment and end the marriage. He can probably file something with INS. He should check into that, since he was tricked into marriage. In order to obtain an annulment he needs to file the appropriate paperwork. It s...

Marriage: MARRIAGE STATISTICS?, marriage statistics, grateful thanks
marriage statistics, grateful thanks, writing a report: Hi Sheridan~ I don t know of any website to back it up on the statistics part. But the answers are the 50% of marriages fail. And the second answer is up to 50% of marriage fail in the first year. That is according to Dr. Phil. You may be able to find...

Marriage: Marital Problems, son zach, marital problems
son zach, marital problems, 7 months: Jen, Well Jen, somehow he has to get the message that his behavior is just not tolerable any more. Whether by you or a councelor, he has to be told that if he doesn t change, you are not interested in pursuing the marriage any further. You have to decide...

Marriage: Marital Stress, marital stress, watches tv
marital stress, watches tv, dear bill: Well #1 and then we ll go from there, open a seperate account for your inheritance money, so that only you can control how it is spent, in case you ever have to bail, pardon the pun. Let him know that that money isn t on the table right now until you see some...

Marriage: Marriage, dear sir or madam, long and happy life
dear sir or madam, long and happy life, r m french: Dear Amir, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that my answer can be of benefit to you. I would say that in a marriage, such a small difference in age will not be a consideration as to the happiness or sucess of your union. Personally,...

Marriage: Marriage??, scary word, illinois legislature
scary word, illinois legislature, gut level: Dear Brook, Whether you are heterosexual or homosexual, marriage is not a very easy subject when it comes to being with one person for the rest of your life. Everyone has different views about marriage. Some people want to latch on to their mate in fear of...

Marriage: My Marriage, i don t care, daytona beach
i don t care, daytona beach, living a lie: Hi Jason~ I know you re avoiding this b/c you don t want to face it and tell her. But you really must do this. The longer you put it off, the harder it s going to be for her. There s absolutely no easy way of telling her how you feel. You just have...

Marriage: Marriage, proper marriage, justice of peace
proper marriage, justice of peace, marriage certificate: Hi Caroline~ This varies from state to state. I think there are only 1-2 states (if that), that do allow a minor to marry (meanning to marry at 14). And even then states are constantly changing the laws and updating them. Otherwise, the minor has...

Marriage: Marriage, bringing home the bacon, singles bars
bringing home the bacon, singles bars, private time: Hi Pamela, I think that your husband believes he has a mother in you and not a lifes partner. As a man who truly loves and cherishes his wife, I would not even have the need to go out with the boys every weekend, and certainly not to singles bars....

Marriage: Marriage, marriage counseling, getting a divorce
marriage counseling, getting a divorce, pulling out my hair: Dear Nicole, Before you look into divorce, I would try some other alternatives, unless he is abusing you in any way. First of all, you should go to get marriage counseling. There have been numerous couples with severe problems within their marriage, that...

Marriage: Marriage, marriage counselor, dr willard
marriage counselor, dr willard, professional marriage: Hello Heather: First, these issues of him blowing up at you are more about him than you. He is apparently dealing with some issues of insecurity. Anytime a person degrades another, it is a reflection on the attacker. The relationship is wounded and needs...

Marriage: Marriage, marriage license, lewiston idaho
marriage license, lewiston idaho, local court: Dear Debbie, When someone marries they have to obtain a marriage license. A license is applied for at their local court house. You may want to contact the court house in Lewiston, Idaho to find out if a license had been obtained. It is a matter of public...

Marriage: Marriage, negativity, astrology
negativity, astrology, closure: Dear Riya, Thank you for the follow-up post. Unfortunately, I am not a guy, so I cannot give you the man s point of view. Also, as I mentioned in the previous post, there are cultural differences that make it difficult for me to assess the situation...

Marriage: Marriage, montgomery county library, susan piver
montgomery county library, susan piver, equality in marriage: Dear Sharon, This book is about a quarter inch thick and is 3 inches by 4 inches- sooo....there s not a lot to it and your library, I m guessing, won t have it. I think that you would be better served by The Commitment Conversation by The Equality in...

Marriage: Marriage, family crises, dynamic family
family crises, dynamic family, bad behavior: Hello Dave, Sorry for the delay in response this time, I was out of town at a convention for a week and just returned today. As for the stock phrase I love you but I am not in love you with you . Boy, I wish I had a dollar for every time a man has...

Marriage: My Marriage, improving communication skills, process communication
improving communication skills, process communication, decision making: Dear Melissa, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Newly married people go through a lot of adjustments. It is not easy being married to someone. Especially someone who might be from a different...

Marriage: Marriage, marriage relationship, russian girls
marriage relationship, russian girls, true intentions: Hi Sikander~ Well, I suppose that some of them could be. It just all depends on the type of woman she is, and what her intentions are in the marriage, etc. I would advise that you get to know a person before you decide to marry them. It s always best...

Marriage: Marriage and Alcoholism, marriage counselling, marital issues
marriage counselling, marital issues, playing poker: Dear Joanne, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Oh dear, Joanne. Every once in a while I get a letter such as yours that I know you are NOT going to like my answer. In fact, most likely you are...

Marriage: Marriage: Asking the Parents, respectful manner, 22 years
respectful manner, 22 years, resentment: Dear Corey, You sound like you care a great deal about your girlfriend. It also sounds as if you are in a difficult situation. It is definitely wise to ask her parents for their blessing. If you don t, they will probably have resentment towards you in the...

Marriage: Marriage anullment, military divorce, woman of my dreams
military divorce, woman of my dreams, old soldier: Hi MIchael~ You can file for divorce one of two ways. You can file through the military and get a military divorce (use JAG, etc), it d probably be cheaper for you. Or you can file for a regular divorce. As long as she doesn t contest the divorce, it...

Marriage: Marriage breakers, work ethic, 37 years
work ethic, 37 years, close friends: Hi Brenda~ Just tell your husband you let him go b/c of something you didn t like about him. If you have to make something up then do it, for example: like you didn t like his work ethic, etc. I m sure you can come up with some reason. Is he ever late...

Marriage: Marriage of convenience, empire state building, wiggle room
empire state building, wiggle room, marriage of convenience: Dear Lemas, From your letter, it sounds like you know yourself very well and you are ready to settle down but have not found the woman of your dreams. If you are unsure about this girl that you are contemplating marriage with, then she may not be the one...

Marriage: Marriage has gone down the drain HELP!, full time job, taking the pills
full time job, taking the pills, mood swings: Hi Luis~ Those diet pills could be altering her moods and actually be the cause of why she s acting strange. Diet pills are bad news all around. They aren t healthy for a person to take either. You should try and sit down with her again and have...

Marriage: Marriage Law, obtaining a marriage license, legal boundaries
obtaining a marriage license, legal boundaries, marriage law: Hi Jeremiah~ No, you don t have to consumate the marriage before it becomes legal. When you are married by law, then you are legally married. It s whenever you choose to consumate the marriage, there is no special time limit. In some religions consumating...

Marriage: Marriage Law, marriage laws, marriage law
marriage laws, marriage law, time limitation: Dear Jeremiah, Marriage laws differ from state to state and you did not happen to mention what state you are emailing from so I will do my best to direct you to where you can locate your answers. http://usmarriagelaws.com/ has all of the state s laws...

Marriage: Marriage- I'm ready- he's not, stress level, wonderful guy
stress level, wonderful guy, back of my mind: Hi Amy~ Each man is different when it comes to knowing if they are ready for marriage or not. Some men just seem to know when they are ready, it ll just feel right. And others they just don t know. There s really no right answer for this question. Except...

Marriage: Marriage and menopause, 22 years, menopause
22 years, menopause, swirl: Well hopefully he s worth more than that. Menopause effects everyone different, and somethimes not at all. The key is to know it s coming and to try not to take the swirl of emotions out on him. Try to keep whatever sexual schedule you have going, and he likely...

Marriage: Marriage Problems, first cousins, social atmosphere
first cousins, social atmosphere, marriage problems: Dear Bill, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Let me ask you a question, Bill. What was it that attracted you to your wife initially? Wasn t it the way that she was calm, quiet and never tried...

Marriage: Marriage Proposals, cracker jack box, marriage proposals
cracker jack box, marriage proposals, feminine world: Dear waiting to be engaged, From what I have heard there are two ways to go about it. 1. Ask her with ring in hand...or 2. Ask her without the ring but go directly to a jeweler to have her pick one out. or...this is a third option, you could give...

Marriage: Marriage problems, marriage problems, marriage
marriage problems, marriage, counseling: Hi Susan~ You should do whatever s right for you. If you feel that she d be better off with someone else, then let her go. If it s something you feel you can work on through, say, like counseling or something. Then try that before you leave the relationship....

Marriage: Marriage problems, marriage problems, gambling problem
marriage problems, gambling problem, trust issues: Mike: I feel for you and this must be a tough situation for you, your wife, and the twins. I wish I had the opportunity to speak to your wife. I could probably tell in about three minutes what the future may hold for your marriage. First, regarding...

Marriage: Marriage problems and a child, bad temper, marriage problems
bad temper, marriage problems, rocky relationship: Hi Carrie~ Wow, you are in a predicament aren t you?! Just know that you re absolutely doing the right thing. You can t be with your husband anymore. It s an unhealthy, unstable and stressful marriage. It s for the best that you re separated and finally...