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Marriage: Husband won't help support family, financial issues
financial issues: Dear Taresa, Thanks for writing. Try this. Write out the chores and expenses, your income and the assistance of your friend. Then show him -check off- what you are doing or paying. Tell him how exhausted, lonely and hurt you are that he isn t trying to help...

Marriage: help!young couple's problem, marriage life, unsatisfaction
marriage life, unsatisfaction, different situation: Hi Linda~ What he s doing to you is abusive, and when he degrades you and talks down to you that is NOT okay at all. And abuse of any type is not okay. He does this b/c you allow him to do it to you. Did you know we teach ppl how to treat us? It s very...

Marriage: My husbands ex, ex-wife
ex-wife: Cindy, You are absolutely right about your intuition here. The question is really about the intimacy between you and your husband, and I don t mean just sex. How emotionally close are you, and how long did you know him before marriage? You can contact me...

Marriage: life partner, self-esteem, envy
self-esteem, envy, giving: You only withhold love because you didn t feel you got enough, so that any thing you give will rob you. You cannot have any relationship if you are unwilling to give. Your criteria for a women are not relevant. It should be someone you feel close to and can...

Marriage: MARRIAGE, joseph abraham, marriage counseling
joseph abraham, marriage counseling, deceased wife: The issue is complex; involves your sex life. I cannot address the proper way to solve it without 1-2 hours of listening to you and your husband and assessing the entire picture . Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham, Online counseling, online marriage...

Marriage: Marriage Troubles, empty nesters, marriage troubles
empty nesters, marriage troubles, relationship status: Hi Tammy~ He s carousing dating web sites when he s a married man, he s lying about his marital status--calling you his sister or his GF, planning his future out with multiple women, he s pretending that he said another word at Scrabble and on and on it...

Marriage: marrg prblm, falling on deaf ears, willing participant
falling on deaf ears, willing participant, marriage life: Hi Rose~ Maybe after the marriage he just gave up and got used to being married so he s comfortable and now he doesn t have to work as hard, since he was courting you before marriage. And this is why he s acting this way and not interested in sex much,...

Marriage: marriage, self help books, worldly sense
self help books, worldly sense, b tech: The mental attitudes, beliefs, and values most often come from parental upbringing, either modelling or over-reacting to parental behaviour. An inner dialogue forms the foundation of our attitudes and actions. To gain deeper insight into unhealthy life patterns...

Marriage: To move or not to move, getting a divorce, home province
getting a divorce, home province, mid 20: Hi Katie~ I can understand you being depressed about not making new friends so quickly being in a new place and with his new job and all. Don t fret though, give it time and things should start to look up. You have to think of what s more important to...

Marriage: pOST-NUPTIAL AGREEMENT, joseph abraham, post nuptial agreement
joseph abraham, post nuptial agreement, marriage counseling: This is a legal, not a psychological question. Plz consult a legal expert. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham, Online counseling, online marriage counseling, marriage counseling, relationship advice, life coach and management consulting http://www.dr-joseph.com...

Marriage: Underage Marriage, thunder bay ontario canada, thunder bay ontario
thunder bay ontario canada, thunder bay ontario, legal marriage: Hi Danielle~ This should suffice and you shouldn t have any problems. If you have any questions though you need to ask the Canadians what their laws are and if this will ultimately be a legal marriage in the US. Some countries will not recognize some...

Marriage: Unsure, celebrity girls, naked celebrities
celebrity girls, naked celebrities, history of the computer: Your situation is too complicated for a short e-mail reply; 1-2 sessions are needed. See my website if want to proceed. Regards, Dr. Joseph Abraham, Online counseling, online marriage counseling, marriage counseling, relationship advice, life...

Marriage: Wife in misery, empty nest syndrome, kids grandkids
empty nest syndrome, kids grandkids, image issue: Hi Kenneth~ I think you re certainly going about it the right way. She s just missing the kids and the grandkids too. So she doesn t really have much in the way of family to take up her free time and entertain her. You re really doing all that you can...

Marriage: Wife wanna study/work abroad, living in the philippines, plane fares
living in the philippines, plane fares, emotional person: Hi Duke~ I can understand you being upset and even getting depressed about her leaving in a few months. Neither one of you have really fully decided what s going to happen in the future. So, of course, this is going to be unnerving and upsetting to you,...

Marriage: wants to get married, heart to heart talk, heart to heart
heart to heart talk, heart to heart, flower arrangements: Hi Jori~ Maybe he s overwhelmed with everything and setting a date a year in advance is too much for him to think about and this is why he s reacting this way. You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to...

Marriage: Child Support After Marriage, law expert, amazon
law expert, amazon, child support: This would be entirely up to the jursidiction where the intial action was filed. One cannot sign away one s rights. This is a question for a family law expert. http://www.amazon.com/Effective-Counseling-Skills-therapeutic-statements/dp/1442177993 ...

Marriage: confused, propsal, trust issue
propsal, trust issue, child ren: Hi Marilize~ If you re dead set on having children and being married, then you have to tell him that marriage and having a child or children is a drop dead deal breaker for you if he can t agree to it. Then you ll be forced to move on and find someone...

Marriage: dealing with an impatient hot headed fiance, heart to heart talk, heart to heart
heart to heart talk, heart to heart, real fight: Hi Mich~ It s hard to admit when you have a character flaw in yourself, but you took a huge step in doing this. That doesn t excuse the fact that he s his own person and he s responsible for his own actions just like you are. If you don t like that you...

Marriage: Family with step children, baby on the way, adult children
baby on the way, adult children, two boys: Hi Angela~ I agree with you that you need to take care of your children and leave, it shouldn t have to come to this but he s choosing his GROWN children over his wife and that s not acceptable. You have two small children that for now depend on you for...

Marriage: Husband Emotionally Attached to Friend "Girl", night affair, devistated
night affair, devistated, effection: Hi Constance~ He could very well be emotionally involved with her, which is way worse than him having a physical affair with her. An emotional bond is more involved and detailed to where they have a connection with another person, and where they even give...

Marriage: My husband is saying he going to lock me out, boyfriend and girlfriend, different situation
boyfriend and girlfriend, different situation, bank accounts: Hi Valerie~ Since you re legally married he can NOT kick you out of the home or to lock you out. You have legal rights to this home, if you purchased this together and are protected from this type of thing happening. It doesn t matter if your name is...

Marriage: Interreligious Marriage, muslim boy, convert to christianity
muslim boy, convert to christianity, steady relationship: Your question is difficult in a culture of arranged marriage and mixed religions. If her parents do not support your wish to marry, you may consider going off together although this would require more love and courage than the two of you may possess. http://www.amazon.com/Effective-Counseling-Skills-therapeutic-statements/dp/1442177993...

Marriage: inter religious marriage reg-, religious marriage, indian hindu
religious marriage, indian hindu, divorcee: Hi Harini~ It can be very difficult and trying given what you ve been through in the past, in convincing your families to let you get married and to even support the very idea of another marriage happening. Parents want what s best for their children,...

Marriage: Local war hero stealing - causing me concern, war hero, flying colours
war hero, flying colours, camisole top: Hi Carla~ I would be just as upset and disturbed by the local police refusing to do anything b/c he s a war hero big deal! He s obviously a pervert and perverts start out doing sick and twisted things like this, with their fetishes, and they could progress...

Marriage: lack of comprehensive communication, petty arguments, federal job
petty arguments, federal job, discontent: Hi Mr G~ It sounds like you have a few things going on here in your marriage. The stresses at work, home and life in general. You could ve also grown apart as the years have gone on too. As we age we mature and our thoughts and opinions on things and...

Marriage: Marriage, dear madam, musilm
dear madam, musilm, new religion: Hi Rickson~ If you love her and love and accept her religion as your own, then you must be prepared to do whatever it takes to be with her, if that is what you wish and are prepared to do. Love is about making sacrifices for those we love and want to be...

Marriage: marriage and back child support, income tax refund, income tax returns
income tax refund, income tax returns, legal obligation: Hi Ivette~ His CS has absolutely nothing to do with you or your income. They can not garnish your wages, period. You have no legal obligation or right to his children. So the state, etc can NOT come after you for CS that is in arrears and owed to his...

Marriage: marriage disagreement, good enough reason, reputable company
good enough reason, reputable company, waiting period: Hi Elizabeth~ I don t know what UK laws are but here in the US, he could take you to court, but he d have to pay court fees, and then there would be a waiting period for a court date too. So he d have those two things going against him. Not to mention...

Marriage: marriage trouble, disrespect women, marriage trouble
disrespect women, marriage trouble, control freak: Hi Teresa~ He s disrespecting you and teaching the children that it s okay for them to do the same, hence why they are noticing it and now doing you the same way. And that s not okay at all. They will eventually grow up thinking it s normal for men to...

Marriage: maturity problem or selfishness?, couple counseling, amazon
couple counseling, amazon, unresolved issues: There is something going on that he does not want to disclose: having an affair or pursuing gay men. You will have to look for signs of what his secret may be. He is not living apart from you because he loves his job and enjoys time alone. When you realize...

Marriage: Pre Marital Sex, pre marital sex, premarital sex
pre marital sex, premarital sex, self confidence: Hi Brittany~ I commend you for having decided to do this with your BF. In this day and age where everything seems to revolve around sex, not only in premarital sex, but on the tv, in ads, etc. It s pretty much become a normal part of what society does...

Marriage: to stay or move on?, nasty remarks, closing my eyes
nasty remarks, closing my eyes, girl friend: Hi Angel~ The most important thing here is you and the baby. Yes, it will take some time for you to ultimately decide what to finally do about all this, and you certainly can t afford to lose your job over this, especially if another one isn t so readily...

Marriage: Do i still love my Husband ?, treading on thin ice, holiday romance
treading on thin ice, holiday romance, facebook: Hi Molly~ You re treading on thin ice when you re taking an interest in a man that you ve not been with in several years and you virtually do not know him anymore. Besides he s not the same person that he was when you knew him from way back when. So he...

Marriage: Unhappy marriage, red flags, unhappy marriage
red flags, unhappy marriage, family of origin: Hi Candice~ If you are so unhappy and trapped in an unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage why do you stay? Hasn t he done this to you for long enough, meaning putting you through this for the last 6+ yrs? You don t have to validate your feelings...

Marriage: Should I be worried?, couple counseling, whole number
couple counseling, whole number, amazon: Of course it is reasonable for you to be protective of your wife, so I advise that you clearly voice your concern and objection. This sends her the message that you love her and are jealous for her. She will appreciate it as long as you are not angry or abusive....

Marriage: Age Difference In Marriage Does It Matter?, Age difference in marriage problems, age difference in marriage yahoo answers
Age difference in marriage problems, age difference in marriage yahoo answers: Age Difference In Marriage Does It Matter? Thanks for taking the time to write in. Also I am going to ask if we can share this answer so other will benefit from it. To answer your question, the short answer is no there are no disadvantages to this. If...

Marriage: Age difference, hopes and dreams, values and beliefs
hopes and dreams, values and beliefs, amazon: It s OK as long as both are wanting to go forward. The important thing is you are both attracted and both see the other as best friend, both have shared values and beliefs, hopes and dreams. But before up jump in, get to know his rleationship with father and...

Marriage: Asking for parents blessing, values and beliefs, amazon
values and beliefs, amazon, marriage: You could say, That something she and I will have to discuss. I understand that you do not want to give your blessing until we have been together long enough. How long do you think we need to be together? What the parents may really be saying is that...

Marriage: Child Support, child support money, childhood experiences
child support money, childhood experiences, allexperts: It is doubtful you can collect past unpaid support for your children who are now adults. I suggest you consult a lawyer, perhaps through allexperts. To explore and heal childhood experiences affecting adult life and relationships with self and others see...

Marriage: Child Support, child support money, income tax refunds
child support money, income tax refunds, collecting child support: Hi Anthony~ If the court order was never modified, then you ll only be able to collect on what was originally court ordered (whether it was the $300 per child or whatnot). You can take her to court and try to collect for how many ever years that the children...

Marriage: caught between love and family!, religious difference, brahmin
religious difference, brahmin, solid foundation: You say marriage is just not (in) him ? This means you should probably move on. I suggest that if there is a cultural or religious difference presenting a possible obstacle, that you consider converting to Christianity where you will find full acceptance...

Marriage: no confidence,low esteem., good lookin woman, lacking confidence
good lookin woman, lacking confidence, low self esteem: Hi Rajinder~ All you can do for her is try to be as supportive to her as you can. Keep giving her the compliments and being nice to her. Sometimes being a friend is the best thing you can do for someone. With her having a low self-esteem it s not likely...

Marriage: Internet Addiction / Seperation, painful reminder, internet addiction
painful reminder, internet addiction, professional therapy: Hi Jeff~ Well, I can understand her position on this and wanting some space with a trial separation. A separation can do one of two things though, it can do more harm than good and end up in divorce, or it bring you closer and by being separated can make...

Marriage: Love Problem :(, childhood experiences, free lifetime
childhood experiences, free lifetime, stable employment: One must be careful about the marriage choice. If you marry for love, be sure you know his family and whether or not he was close to his mother and father when he was a child growing up. His childhood role in the family is another factor as well as any history...

Marriage: Marital dispute, couple counseling, marital dispute
couple counseling, marital dispute, marital issues: I suggest that you tell your wife what you thought you overheard, and tell her that you feel very hurt and offended. If she denies saying these things, do not dispute or argue about it. Simply say the following: I do not want you to talk to other people...

Marriage: marriage, hopes and dreams, having children
hopes and dreams, having children, good friends: Some may want you to have an arranged marriage, and you will do best to have a love marriage. I advise that you wait for love and follow these steps: 1. get to know the person and family well 2. make sure you communicate well and do not fight or argue...

Marriage: marriage law, marriage law, phillippines
marriage law, phillippines, cousin: Hi Shelly~ I don t know about the Phillippines, but I do know that you can legally marry a cousin in New Zealand, so it s not illegal there. In fact, I Googled it and there was an article that said that out of any country around, it s the place where it...

Marriage: People in love need Guidance, muslim girl, marriage life
muslim girl, marriage life, religious perspective: If you love her and she loves you, you can accept each others differences and let your children decide what they want to believe. As long as you respect each others beliefs you can live and love together. Each should be open to the others point of view and...

Marriage: Pls Help Me With My Marriage!!!, disgusting sex, breadwinner
disgusting sex, breadwinner, sex life: Hi Caroline~ You need to take care of yourself first and foremost. It seems as though everything that you ve been through in this marriage over these last few years has taken too much of a toll and you and your husband. So much so now that it s affecting...

Marriage: Proposal, unresolved conflicts, holiday in august
unresolved conflicts, holiday in august, childhood experiences: I think it is very important to think carefully about such an important step. You really need to know yourself and your prospective partner very well. Some things you need to know are: 1. was she close to her father and mother during chilhood 2. are there...

Marriage: Remarriage - Ex husband, childhood experiences, meaningful relationship
childhood experiences, meaningful relationship, adult life: My advice is to remain friends only. A person with bipolar disorder is very difficult to live with. If you decide to get back together with him, it may be due to your own unresolved issues from childhood that result in a pattern of loss of caring and closeness....

Marriage: IS SHE THE RIGHT GIRL FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE ?, lifetime relationship, lil money
lifetime relationship, lil money, childhood experiences: Love is blind. Do not begin a lifetime relationship based on doubt. I suggest that each of you embark on a path of self-awareness to understand your childhood experiences affecting adult life and relationships with self and others. The goal is to live intentionally...

Marriage: My son is wearing bikinis, this is an issue for me., charity shops, local radio station
charity shops, local radio station, economic climate: Hi Julie~ I agree with you that you have to set some ground rules for him. And after all he is only 16 and still a minor. You should just stand your ground and tell him that he isn t allowed to wear them on holiday and that you can t support him wanting...

Marriage: Is my spouse cheating, concrete proof, professional relationship
concrete proof, professional relationship, having an affair: Hi Tamequa~ It sure isn t looking good. He may not be actually physically cheating with her, yet. But he s got some involvement of some kind with her. So far their interaction seems to be platonic, but that can change over time as they spend more time...

Marriage: Unhealthy Relationship, unhealthy relationship, good job
unhealthy relationship, good job, good reason: Hi Angel~ You divorced him for good reason the first time. And you ve done it once and you re strong enough to do it again. You are the only thing that s holding yourself back. You don t have any commitment to him any longer you re not married to him....

Marriage: Want to win my wife back, heart to heart talk, intimate life
heart to heart talk, intimate life, heart to heart: Hi Jesse~ Maybe she loves you but she s not IN love with you. There s a huge difference between the two believe it or not. And it s not uncommon for separated spouses to still be intimately involved with each other. It s more a convenience than anything...

Marriage: My boyfriend is a child, boy crying, little car
boy crying, little car, long face: Hi Sara~ RUN! No, I m just kidding, but seriously, his childish and immature actions/reactions to things are just a buzz kill (meaning a huge kill joy, and ruining the moment, etc). He needs to grow up or risk losing you. You need to sit down with him...

Marriage: How do I know if its right to leave my husband, egg shells, rocky marriage
egg shells, rocky marriage, single mom: Hi Jeni~ That s really a hard call to make for someone in your situation. But you re feelings for him have changed and his wanting to change all these many years later, are, well, a little too late it seems. You ve taken all that you can take from him....

Marriage: lazy husband, lazy husband, second marriage
lazy husband, second marriage, part time job: Hi Nona~ Shame on him for acting this way, but you ve let him treat you in this manner for a long time, and it s works for him, so of course he s going to continue to behave this way. There have to be some changes that you re willing to implement in this...

Marriage: marriage on the rocks, marriage on the rocks, soberity
marriage on the rocks, soberity, high on drugs: Hi Anna~ You must put an end to his using, and if he refuses to stop using (and there is always the risk that he ll eventually relapse and will do it again if/when he stops) drugs then you need to move on with your life w/o him in it. He s currently bringing...

Marriage: married and seperated, heart to heart talk, marriage counseling
heart to heart talk, marriage counseling, heart to heart: Hi Landon~ There s usually a 50-50 chance that this could happen, by either going your separate ways or getting back together after a separation. A separation can end up pulling you further apart or it can actually bring you closer together. Now once...

Marriage: concerns about cheating, marriage counseling, drug addict
marriage counseling, drug addict, odd behaviors: Hi Kate~ It s hard to say if he is indeed cheating. I wouldn t be focusing on the cheating so much as his unexplained odd behavior that could point to drug usage again. Once an addict always an addict, doesn t matter if it s a recovering alcoholic or...

Marriage: He is engaged now, own accord, attempts
own accord, attempts, choices: Hi Mandip~ They can t force him to marry someone else. He has to refuse to marry this other girl, otherwise his parents may try to make him go through with a marriage. In Canada there are laws that protect a person s rights, including not being forced...

Marriage: immature 41 year old husband, childish behavior, capable person
childish behavior, capable person, precious son: Hi Julie~ You need to make a choice as to whether you re going to stay and keep accepting his abusive ways towards you and the negativity that he expel on your son. Or if you re finally tired of his crap and you re ready, willing and able to finally do...

Marriage: Lying, personality disorder or both?, forensic specialist, personality disorder
forensic specialist, personality disorder, wrongdoing: Shee needs to ask your forgiveness and apologize repeatedly to you. She also needs to assure you that she will never do that again and that she loves you and only you. I am wondering if her parent had an affair or otherwise communicated weak boundaries in...

Marriage: Manipulating,Hypocrite Mother in law, LOSS PRIDE & ENERGY, duaghter, fiancee
duaghter, fiancee, father and mother: Hi Angy~ You need to stop trying to hard with his family, including his mother and doing things for her. She s an ingrate and clearly does not appreciate anything you ve done or tried to do to help her along the way. And it s taking too much of a toll...

Marriage: Marriage, intimacy issues, childhood history
intimacy issues, childhood history, childhood experience: Your husband may be struggling with deeper intimacy issues that come from his childhood experience growing up. To understand this better requires knowing his childhood history. Please excuse me if I suggest a resource to understand him better (see chapter...

Marriage: marriage, marriage difficulties, drugs and alcohol
marriage difficulties, drugs and alcohol, amazon: Apologize sincerely and repeatedly. Tell her repeatedly that you love her. Ask her what you can do that would help her most. Say and do things that she accepts as loving (know her love language). For more understanding of what causes personal problems,...

Marriage: Marriage, inida, kind nature
inida, kind nature, nice girls: Hi Surojit~ The answer might be more simple than you realize. You should treat a person (including a potential wife) like you d like to be treated. That s with love, kindness, care, affection, etc. It can be a bit worrisome and awkward when you haven...

Marriage: Marriage, cheating, laziness, stay at home mom, full time job
stay at home mom, full time job, broken marriage: Hi TJ~ Are you saying she doesn t even do the bare minimal around the house, like trying to at least keep things/toys, etc picked up. I mean having kids is a never ending and a huge FT job, then you throw in having to take care of a house, cook, etc. ...

Marriage: Marriage and drugs, marriage therapy, stomach pain
marriage therapy, stomach pain, time at home: Hi Leyla~ What in all these 9 yrs you ve been together makes it okay for you to somehow convince yourself that he ll change? Which in reality he s not changed at all. He s become wise to your ways, he knows you ll continually put up with his nonsense...

Marriage: marriage proposal, marriage proposal, single word
marriage proposal, single word, couple days: Some men are emotionally illiterate. You have to accept him as he is or not, because it is unlikely he will change after you are married. I think he cares about you or he would not have thought of such a creative way to propose. If you are interested in...

Marriage: Married w/ children, but want to pursue my goals too!, silly reasons, college parties
silly reasons, college parties, finding a job: Hi Amber~ Do what you need to do in order for you to be happy. Whatever that may be. And that s not being selfish or unrealistic either. You have to ask yourself would this be a logical and beneficial decision to uproot a family, move to another state,...

Marriage: A Newlywed Incident, bond court, shirtless man
bond court, shirtless man, newlywed: The husband could tell his wife that he does not want her to dance with other men and that he is going back to the hotel. He should then not try to talk to her until she is sober. Then he should get her agreement not to do that again and not to get drunk again....

Marriage: A Newlywed Incident, bond court, shirtless man
bond court, shirtless man, newlywed: Hi Dylan~ I concur with you that, yes, it very well could be an invitation for a man to fight with another man that s dancing with his wife. However, this scenario really could do a few different ways and have different outcomes. A) The men fight over...

Marriage: Rushed Reconciliation.....Please help, blah blah, emotional affair
blah blah, emotional affair, silent mode: Hi Whitey~ You have to do what you have to do, if that means you have to do another separation then do it. Since you ve sold the house and he has now decided he doesn t want to do another separation or whatever, so be it he doesn t have to agree with you....

Marriage: Separation, proactive person, midlife crisis
proactive person, midlife crisis, personal problems: Hi Becca~ It s hard to say really. He could be experiencing anxiety or he could be going through, as you said, a midlife crisis. Maybe he s just confused as to what he really wants out of this marriage and life in general. I can understand why you d...

Marriage: turned boy into a man...now lost myself in process through his mother jealosy, duaghter, fiancee
duaghter, fiancee, father and mother: Your husband needs to mature in order to have a healthy adult relationship with you. He has experience significant loss of parental caring in childhood and will be unable to form a meaningful relationship with professioanl counseling help. You also need...

Marriage: what to do now, sister c, light sleeper
sister c, light sleeper, exact time: Here are some thoughts: 1. tell your wife what happened in order to avoid a special relationship with her sister 2. tell your wife I am very sorry and do not deserve your forgiveness. 3. tell your wife I did this when I was drinking, so I have decided...

Marriage: fallen out with my possessive and short tempered fiance, aggressive personality, friend circle
aggressive personality, friend circle, gold business: Maybe your husband was spoiled and lacked discipline as a child or perhaps he followed his mother s aggressive personality. He needs to embark on a path of self-awareness, and for that I recommend he read http://www.amazon.com/Effective-Counseling-Skills-therapeutic-statements/dp/1442177993...

Marriage: Help with cranky husband., cranky mood, arguement
cranky mood, arguement, rest of the night: Hi Jessica~ If this has become a habit and a ritual for him, then you ll just have to become accustomed to his being this way and that he s cranky 30 mins prior to retiring for the night (aka - just before bedtime) and just avoid him and let him get it...

Marriage: Iam married to a person who's sister is married to my brother, heart to heart talk, wife need
heart to heart talk, wife need, heart to heart: Hi Munawarah~ You re right to not to take anyone s side in their fights, etc. It sounds like their relationship was drama from the start. And unfortunately you re stuck in the middle when they fight and they have problems in their marriage. So much so...

Marriage: Marriage in Crisis, willing participant, work loads
willing participant, work loads, time energy: Hi Madness~ Sure, it absolutely can work. The catch here is though that he has to be a willing participant in all this, to be able to give this marriage another shot at working. Don t give up hope just yet. Remember that anything is possible if you have...

Marriage: Getting Married, fear of commitment, life patterns
fear of commitment, life patterns, adult life: There are real reasons why you have waited this long. It is important that you know your own life patterns as well as those of your prospect. Is she looking for a father she never had? To understand and heal childhood patterns and experiences affecting...

Marriage: Seperation, husband trusts, family doctor
husband trusts, family doctor, tantrums: Write or talk to your husband and try to reach an agreement by making a list of possibilities including things that may sound silly or ridiculous: 1. get no help 2. go through church only 3. talk to family doctor 4. talk to someone husband trusts 5....

Marriage: Do I stay in this marriage?, stay at home mom, goals in life
stay at home mom, goals in life, bleep: Hi Heidi~ You need to ask yourself some tough questions before you decide anything. Such as: Do you want the marriage to work? Do you still love and want to be with your husband? Can you see yourself still married to him (e.g for the rest of...

Marriage: Wife(facebooking to man she cheated with), slap in the face, waking hours
slap in the face, waking hours, facebook: Hi Frank~ That s got to be really hard to you to accept and to hear that from your wife. She mislead you into thinking that things were going to work out and in turn this has been a shock to you and hurt you badly, and understandably so. Then on top of...

Marriage: How to make my wife be more of a wife?, cuba trips, leave it to beaver
cuba trips, leave it to beaver, part time job: Hi Mike~ She may have agreed to it at the time, but she clearly isn t the type of woman who dotes over her husband and does everything for him, while staying at home taking care of the kids (or some day to be kids), etc. She sounds like an independent...

Marriage: engagement pressure, long term relationship, tax accountant
long term relationship, tax accountant, freak out: Hi Stacee~ If he s going to act this way around you and treat you with such disrespect what do you really think he ll do and what will happen should you actually marry him?! So, he s not good with stress, but marriage is stressful and so is life at times....

Marriage: engagement pressure, long term relationship, tax accountant
long term relationship, tax accountant, freak out: You need and deserve a relationship that is caring, supportive, committed, and affirming. Do not settle for less. If you had a daughter or sister you would advise no less. To understand your own patterns and why you attract certain men may I suggest this...

Marriage: engagement pressure, straight answers, cpas
Marriage: engagement pressure, straight answers, cpas, husband and wife

Marriage: Kissed a friend - did I mistake the sign?, longish hug, alcohol consumption
longish hug, alcohol consumption, friend guy: Hi LostLeo~ He must ve figured you crossed the line. And as uncomfortable and awkward as the situation is, you need to address this or the tension can eventually escalate. I think you should sit down with him and talk to him. I would apologize if I misunderstood...

Marriage: Marriage, heart to heart talk, marriage relationship
heart to heart talk, marriage relationship, heart to heart: Hi Maureen~ The old I love you but I don t know if I m IN love with you saying. That often means that while a person loves you that they aren t IN love with you anymore. And there s a huge difference between the two, believe it or not. He might have...

Marriage: marriage to a woman with another nationality other than US, marriage license in texas, google search
marriage license in texas, google search, military id card: Hi Tom~ I did a Google search by typing in what type of ID do you need to marry in Tx and this is what I found. In Texas, you will need one valid form of id such as drivers license, certified copy of your birth certificate, U. S. passport, military...

Marriage: Should i marry?, women in my life, conversation skills
women in my life, conversation skills, east india: Hi Rick~ I think you need to ponder and think long and hard why you feel this very way, meaning having developed a hatred towards women and thinking that they only are out for money, security, etc. What has made you come to this conclusion b/c not all...

Marriage: My boyfriend hits me but i can't leave him, short temper, cant sleep
short temper, cant sleep, abusive family: Sarah, You are not a doormat to be walked on and have other wipe their feet on you. You are a person and a child of God. You need to get away from this man, he is not good for you. He will continue to hurt you and might even go to far and make it something...

Marriage: Don't want to give up on marriage., female colleague, tea towels
female colleague, tea towels, honeymoon period: Hi LT~ You need to continue to move on with your life w/o him in it. He s the one that told you how he felt and now he has to deal with it. He honestly can not expect you to drop everything and move back in and take him back, only for him to change his...

Marriage: husband serial cheater, sexual boundaries, loss and grief
sexual boundaries, loss and grief, massage parlors: Your husband may not share the same sexual boundaries and values. You may be at risk for an STD. It is important to have an open conversation, but he may not be honest. Tell him you are afraid and have lost trust. It is a sad and tragic situation you are facing....

Marriage: Kids without marriage, traditional marriage, sex children
traditional marriage, sex children, ovulate: If he does not know you do not ovulate, you should tell him. Maybe your boyfriend is a postmodern man. This means he is one of many who does not believe in traditional marriage and the signficance of it. He thinks one can have sex, children, etc. and not...

Marriage: Major Insecurity Issues, jump drive, trust issues
jump drive, trust issues, old picture: Hi Michelle~ You obviously have trust issues. I think that you both need to look into some marriage counseling and even some individual counseling for yourself. So that you might learn how to cope and deal with all this. Also given his past and most...

Marriage: how to move on, bearer of bad news, having babies
bearer of bad news, having babies, pulling teeth: Hi Susana~ Okay, calm down and you must think this through. No one is saying you should just up and quit your job and move and give away all your animals. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do in order to move on in life. If that means you bide...

Marriage: Please Help..., saint patricks day, leg numbness
saint patricks day, leg numbness, piece of crap: You are describing a man who has what is called anti-social personality. His abusive language, multiple affairs, and lack of parental responsibility are signs of this. You are doing well to seek help. Standing up for yourself is very important. If you decide...

Marriage: Unhappily married, joy in my heart, unhappy person
joy in my heart, unhappy person, roomates: Hi Sudha~ What do you want in life? Your hopes, thoughts, feelings and dreams DO matter. And don t you think they ve fallen by the wayside for long enough? Marriage is a constant work in progress and no marriage is w/o it s problems and it s ups and...

Marriage: Wife wants kids but not mine, keeran, second marriage
keeran, second marriage, spermbank: Try empathizing with her as much as possible by saying, Maybe you feel left out because I have other children from another woman. It makes sense you would feel that way. What can I do to help you feel better? Reassure her as often as needed by saying,...

Marriage: Broken first marriage, long black hair, wonderful marriage
long black hair, wonderful marriage, datson: Hi Chris~ Sometimes finding forgiveness is not that easy. And there are some that can forgive easily than others. You ve been carrying this huge burden with you for too long and it s time that you give it up and move on with life. With that said I can...

Marriage: Court Ordered Insurance, dna test, court drama
dna test, court drama, ammended: Hi Jeniah~ You first have the burden of proving he is not the father. And the only way you can do that is through a DNA test, this way it s on paper and says he is not the father, and thus that protects him from further court drama with this woman. If...

Marriage: Insecurity, persian gulf war, strange living
persian gulf war, strange living, playing with my mind: Hi Henry~ What is it that you want out of this marriage? She s taken advantage of you for long enough. As long as you allow her to treat you like this, then she will do it. She will continue to lie to you, cheat on you, talk to other men, etc and do...

Marriage: Ironed out, own clothes, old mother
own clothes, old mother, what the heck: Hi John~ That might make it a little chilly or awkward going to work in your boxer shorts. If you don t like that she does that then why don t you iron them yourself? It s not rocket science here. She s doing this in rebellion and to get back at you...

Marriage: Kissing, happy relationship, glass of wine
happy relationship, glass of wine, bloodstream: Hi Clyde, I understand what you re saying, but do you? You say, We are SO happy, BUT ... AND He is so wonderful, BUT... My question to you, is, are you really THAT happy? It doesn t sound like it to me, and here are the reasons: 1. He wants...

Marriage: Marriage, Family and Moving, intimate relationship, good relationship
intimate relationship, good relationship, first mortgage: Hi Julia~ You should sit down with your husband and see what his suggestion would be on this issue. Go through the pros and cons of bring up this subject with your parents. It s never easy to live with family members, and this is why I d never suggest...

Marriage: marriage on the rocks, marriage on the rocks, romantic sms
marriage on the rocks, romantic sms, feeling unloved: Kate, You are right that you can t change him, but you can change yourself. You are viewing this situation from a skewed perspective. You said yourself that your FEEL like things are based on a lie. If you continue to give in to that feeling nothing will...

Marriage: Married, work sex, sex life
work sex, sex life, 4 months: Hi Nena, I am so sorry you are having a hard time with your reconciliation. It must be really disappointing for it have turned out this way. When I work with separated couples who are considering reconciliation, I ask that they not get back together...

Marriage: Unbelievable, own clothes, old mother
own clothes, old mother, what the heck: John, John .... Thanks for writing me. I must say, your letter isn t really clear -- doe your wife work, too? Whether she does or doesn t, who ever decided that SHE was the one to iron your jeans? Was that an agreement between the two of you, or have...

Marriage: anger toward husband, marriage, absent husband
marriage, absent husband, resentment: Hi Lori - I can understand your frustration. I suspect you mates have several simultaneous problems. Each can be resolved if you both commit to making some changes. 1] One or both of you may be a Grown Wounded Child [GWC]. Iff true, this is probably contributing...

Marriage: Not attracted to spouse anymore, time jen, negative associations
time jen, negative associations, cleanliness: Hi Jen, Not being attracted to your husband is a huge deal and not shallow at all. It is what it is. Unfortunately, this is very difficult to overcome once negative associations start piling up. It sounds to me like your husband may be depressed. Many...

Marriage: Confused on which to do in my marriage., pornograpy, masturbation
pornograpy, masturbation, masterbation: Sometimes looking at porn is a symptom of an intimacy problem in the relationship. Sometimes, it may have to do with sex addiction. You don t indicate how old you and your husband are, which might be relevant. You say it s causing you pain, but I m not sure...

Marriage: Cozy Co Worker, heart to heart talk, benefit of doubt
heart to heart talk, benefit of doubt, guilty conscience: Hi Prissy~ In a way you should be concerned a bit. Or at the very least cautious of what is going on. Let s give your husband the benefit of doubt and say he was innocent in all this, and it was the woman that was the aggressor here. And as you suspected...

Marriage: Newly Wed and in Having Problems, marriage work, marital counseling
Marriage: Newly Wed and in Having Problems, marriage work, marital counseling, free materials

Marriage: Guys, prefer preference older males
prefer preference older males: Hi - you re asking why you re attracted to older guys? I don t know enough about you and your situation to answer you. How about asking yourself why - specifically - you prefer older guys: name some specific traits, like wisdom, patience, humor, interests,...

Marriage: Honest Opinion, engagement, intimacy
engagement, intimacy, wedding: Jessey, Your concerns are valid, but I don t think it s merely a question of attraction or affection but of whether your needs are of equal importance in your relationship. You seem to feel that you re giving more than you re getting. If you re starting to...

Marriage: two lives one decision, career dilemma marry marriage choice choose priority options
career dilemma marry marriage choice choose priority options: Hi Samantha - a very tough decision. One option is to not decide now, and see what happens after you graduate and seek to put your education to work. Another option is for your partner to leave the Army some time after you graduate, and consider a civilian...

Marriage: Mother-in-Law issues, welcome home party, planning a party
welcome home party, planning a party, issue at hand: Hi Stephanie, First of all, thank you for husband s service to our country, and for your own personal sacrifice during his deployment. I know well the life of a military family, as my son was deployed twice to Afghanistan in the Marines. Unfortunately he...

Marriage: Newly Wed and in Having Problems, first year of marriage, wedding honeymoon
first year of marriage, wedding honeymoon, silent treatment: What I meant was that it s very involved. The silent treatment is a form of abuse. There isn t one way to respond and however you respond to the silent treatment doesn t solve the communication problem between you two, which you admit you contribute to it....

Marriage: question about affection, affection, frigidity
affection, frigidity, premarital counseling: There s no way of knowing what her problem is. Usually couples are MORE affectionate before marriage. I can only speculate that she may be feeling ambivalent about marriage - which may have nothing to do with you. You don t say how old you and she are. It...

Marriage: My husband's attitude is killing me, human instinct, sexual relationship
human instinct, sexual relationship, sexual attraction: Hi Suruchi~ He must not really realize what a huge toll this is taking on you. It s human instinct to want to be loved, cared for and most importantly to feel affection from our partners, this includes being intimate and having a good or decent sexual...

Marriage: My husband makes bad decisions, fly by night, bad decisions
fly by night, bad decisions, contracting company: Hi Chector~ What is it you want out of this marriage? Do you want to continue in this relationship when he treats you like this, and making everything out to be your fault? This isn t a healthy marriage for you to be in the way it s going. You deserve...

Marriage: Marriage after retirement, dream trip, two choices
dream trip, two choices, toughie: Hi Suzanne, I am so sorry for your distress. When one spouse retires and the other doesn t it can raise all sorts of issues. In your case, it sounds like he wants to roam, and you want to stay home. While most therapists would lean on you both to compromise,...

Marriage: need a suggestion, different town, relation ship
different town, relation ship, mother in law: Hi Karuna~ Talk to him about how this is affecting you and what it s doing to you. You can put forth the effort if you d like to phone his mother and make small talk with her by checking on her, etc. This might keep the peace with your husband and you....

Marriage: what next, counseller, work friends
counseller, work friends, cold weather: Damien, You placed yourself in a complex situation. This will be hard but you are committed to your wife and you need to talk to her what transpired between you and her sister. As you this, talk to her how you have been feeling. What your experiencing...

Marriage: confused, affection, mate
affection, mate, partner: Hi - I need to know more clearly what you and she mean by affection. Spontaneous touching and caressing? Sexual desire? Foreplay? Verbal endearments and love words? From your description, it sounds like you re resenting her not seeming to fully commit...

Marriage: my husband choose porn instead of me, sex, sexualo
sex, sexualo, desire: Hello Izure - I am not a sex therapist, but have some general suggestions. From what you write, you already have a marital problem. 1] ask him if he s happy to be a father and is looking forward to co-parenting with you. If not, having sex may remind him...

Marriage: My husband drinking rum 24/7 and causing me concern, downstairs toilet, charity fundraiser
downstairs toilet, charity fundraiser, social drinker: Hi Jana~ This not just a fascination with rum, it s an obsession as you put it. It s starting to take over his life and it s badly effecting his normal daily functions in life. That s a real problem for not only you but him as well. If I were in your...

Marriage: a little help, finance job, negative thinking
finance job, negative thinking, strong woman: Hi Lee, I hope this message doesn t reach you too late. It is difficult to tell you what will bring tears to your wife s eyes as all women are different. I suggest you ask her what types of things she most loves. One thing I know is that the amount...

Marriage: Marriage, codependency, assertiveness
codependency, assertiveness, marriage: Your situation is very painful and rejecting. If your husband won t join you in counseling, I urge you to go to counseling yourself. Also read my article on my website, www.whatiscodependency.com/blog, Breaking-Up: Should You Leave or Can You Get the Love...

Marriage: Marriage, mother, parent
mother, parent, courtship: Hello Lovita - I don t know your cultural rules about parental approval for marriage. Unless tradition prevents it, my opinion is you have the right to choose your own life partner regardless of your mother s concern. I would hope she would value your marital...

Marriage: strip clubs, marriage, marital
marriage, marital, distrust: Hello Ruthie - the marital issues you describe are... 1] grieving your loss of trust in your husband; 2] hurt that he would lie to you, and probably a need to accepot or forgive him; 3] loss of respect for him as a man and a partner (?), and... ...

Marriage: Abuse?, important decisions, 911
important decisions, 911, excuse: Hi Michelle, Sorry you are are having difficulties and are feeling confused. It s really difficult to answer your questions because there isn t a lot of detail here. What I can tell you is: 1. There is no excuse for the way your husband is acting,...

Marriage: child support, child support payments, s child
child support payments, s child, silly question: Hi Courtney~ He s sadly mistaken. No, CS does not stop when one of the parties gets married. He ll still have to pay CS for your daughter. The courts can not and do not go by what your fiancee or spouse makes. They only go by what the parents (meaning...

Marriage: Getting my wife to engage, relationship counselors, conflict avoidance
Marriage: Getting my wife to engage, relationship counselors, conflict avoidance, avoidant attachment

Marriage: Giving My Father-in-law And Brother-in-law Blowjobs/Oral Sex/Sucking Their Dicks/Sucking Them Off, handjobs, hypocrite
handjobs, hypocrite, last september: Hi Diana~ At this point in time, no, you really shouldn t tell your husband. It can cause more harm than good, I mean sure it ll give you a clear conscience but as you said what if your husband wants a divorce and makes a rash decision. What you did was...

Marriage: seperation, total disarray, selfish with my time
total disarray, selfish with my time, counciler: Hi David, I appreciate you writing to me, and I am sorry for your troubles. I read your question asking for help, but am not clear on specifically what you want help with, so please write me back with a more specific question that you would like to have...

Marriage: Getting my wife to engage, attachment, avoidant
attachment, avoidant, anxious: Hi Terry, Thanks for writing. I can see you are having difficulties in your marriage, and you have my deepest empathy. The first thing that entered my mind while reading your letter was; This woman doesn t sound emotionally healthy or mature enough...

Marriage: emotional affair, emotional affair, soul mate
emotional affair, soul mate, romantic weekend: Marie, Thank you for writing. Just reading your letter I can sense the pain and sadness. It sounds as if you are resigned to your fate and are trying to figure out how to grasp on to something for yourself. Well, let me tell you, what your husband is...

Marriage: Emotional affair or am I crazy?, first girlfriend, emotional affair
first girlfriend, emotional affair, aditude: Hi Joey~ I m very sorry that you re having to go through all of this. Love isn t supposed to hurt this way, but I suppose sometimes it does. In all honesty you shouldn t keep putting up with this nonsense from her. As for relationships fixing themselves....

Marriage: End of patience with party husband, college roommates, adult night
college roommates, adult night, college parties: Hi M, Thanks for writing. I am sad for you and the circumstances in which you find yourself. What causes me to feel even sadder is that you are seeking a way to fit a happy life for yourself around what your husband is doing. You are finding that this is...

Marriage: I'm lost, fianlly, sending gifts
fianlly, sending gifts, changed man: Hi Donna~ So not only is he a liar, he s a serial cheater. That s a doubly whammy for you to deal with. Should you trust him, no. Should you ever trust, no. He s lied about everything, and therefore everything that he stood for and represented is all...

Marriage: I'm lost, Divorce, cheating
Divorce, cheating, relationships: Thank you for contacting me and trusting me In your inquiry. By what you wrote, you are an independent woman who has accomplished a lot in your life. I praise you for that. You are capable in raising your children, having a roof over your head, and providing...

Marriage: Please help me understand., marriage work, divorce court
marriage work, divorce court, 4 months: Hi Kirsten~ It sounds as though he could be depressed. Depression can be a very ugly and unforgiving thing to cope and deal with. I would insist that he seek some counseling with me, if I were in your shoes. And, yes, a judge can most definitely order...

Marriage: Run or not, alienation of affection, wretched situation
alienation of affection, wretched situation, deepest sympathy: Hi Donna, Thanks for writing. Just reading what you wrote stressed ME out, so I can t imagine how horrible it would be to live in such a wretched situation. You have my deepest sympathy. Let s cut to the chase and allow me to answer your question at...

Marriage: taking a child acroos state lines when leaving your husband, grandmother lives, stable income
grandmother lives, stable income, older girls: Hi Walter~ If they are still legally married and there is NO court order stating that she can t leave the state, then she s free to go wherever she wishes, and he can do nothing (that means that same for him too). Once she s in CA, and has a stable income...

Marriage: age difference 3, customs and traditions, marriage life
customs and traditions, marriage life, virgin man: Hi Nadeem, Thanks for writing. I see you are from India and am well aware that your cultural customs and traditions are very different frokm here in the USA where I live and work. In the USA, your situation would be highly unusual -- in fact, I have never...

Marriage: age difference 5, marriage life, virgin man
marriage life, virgin man, successful marriage: Hi Nadeem~ He should treat her with love and respect, and treat her as you d like to be treated. Always communicate with her about what you re feeling and thinking. Communication is key to having a happy, healthy and successful marriage. Everyone has...

Marriage: Falling out of love, god views, intimate relationship
god views, intimate relationship, right reason: Hey Bryan, I m sorry about your dilemma. You need to ask yourself, do you want to repair what you had with your wife and kids? Can you really begin another relationship knowing that you have a lingering one from your past? It seems that you need to do some...

Marriage: should I leave, long term marriages, nut shell
long term marriages, nut shell, good wife: Hi Ed~ It s best to be honest with her and it s also unfair to her if you remain together and you don t live like a couple, rather than roommates or best friends. With that said it s not going to make it any easier to leave her either. She s going to...

Marriage: marriage, buyt, good man
buyt, good man, miriam: Dear Miriam, Thank you for your inquiry. How well do you know his heart? If he is already cheating on you, did you know more about his past before you married him? A woman s instinct is correct if she suspects something about her mate and his past. If both...

Marriage: marriage in crisis, low testerone, mid life crisis
low testerone, mid life crisis, hugs and kisses: Hi Tami, I am so sorry that you are distressed about your marriage. I can t imagine how disconcerting it must be for you to have a husband who is sometimes in and sometimes out of the marriage. It must feel like you are living in a fault zone where...

Marriage: Married and Maiden name proof, educational certificates, college certificates
educational certificates, college certificates, change of name form: Dear Hamzah, I am not a lawyer so this is not my area of expertise. I have done this personally in the USA by providing my past schools with a marriage certificate or change of name form. Contact the universities and ask what they require for the two names...

Marriage: Please help!!, Marriage, divorce
Marriage, divorce, abuse: Dear Noor, Thank you for inquiry. I greatly sympathetic towards what is happening to you. I feel that these questions are appropriate for you that you must ask yourself. Did you really know him? If he abusing you now, did he really show any signs of hostility...

Marriage: disagreement, uncomfortable night, many sleepless nights
uncomfortable night, many sleepless nights, fiancee: Jared, I m smiling because I think the bigger problem is that you have been together for 11 years and you call her your fiancee? When is the marriage? Is there a ring? Snoring is not the issue it can easily be taken care of through a small procedure. The...

Marriage: dont want to live with him, hard working woman, indian cultures
hard working woman, indian cultures, relationship marriage: Hi Swapna~ I know that most Indian cultures frown upon divorce. However, since it seems very obvious that your clearly miserable, then divorce might be the best option for you. You have to do what s right for you and what makes you happy. If that means...

Marriage: feeling disconnected, depression screening, intamacy
depression screening, intamacy, divorce rate: Hi Sonya, I am sorry You are struggling with what to do about your relationship. Combining families is a tough proposition under the best of circumstances. The higher than usual divorce rate for second marriages speaks to this truth. I always ask my clients...

Marriage: Feeling overwhelmed with inconsiderate workaholic husband, stillborn son, workaholic husband
stillborn son, workaholic husband, fertility treatment: Hi Jo, Just reading your letter I found myself feeling sad and depressed for you and your situation. It reads as a most miserable life story – very bleak and dark. All I know is that you deserve a better life and a more considerate husband. When a spouse...

Marriage: broken marriage, emotional betrayal, broken marriage
emotional betrayal, broken marriage, divorce papers: Hi Lynn~ No, you should not stay with him out of obligation or convenience. He s an abuser and he s using you for convenience as well. He knows that he can treat you like crap and you ll put up with it. At least for now b/c you have all those years....

Marriage: broken marriage, emotional betrayal, broken marriage
emotional betrayal, broken marriage, divorce papers: Lynn, You need to take of yourself. You should have called the police when he attempted to kill you. Not doing so is a bit confusing. I think you know everything you need to know about his intentions. He is interested in leaving the marriage. If you threaten...

Marriage: Confused, marathon runner, anti depressants
marathon runner, anti depressants, good mother: Hi Marie~ I m sorry that you have to go through this with him. It really sounds like he s battling a huge depression issue. Depression can be such an ugly and frustrating thing to cope and deal with. It seems as though he truly does love and care for...

Marriage: marriage has broken down, walking on eggs, marriage work
Marriage: marriage has broken down, walking on eggs, marriage work, head in the sand

Marriage: Husband and the Exes, baby on the way, irreconcilable differences
baby on the way, irreconcilable differences, old baby: Hi YC~ I think you need to confront him and talk to him about why he s doing this. He s being disrespectful to you by remaining in contact with his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend(s). He s married to you and he should be focused on you, not them. Now it...

Marriage: Lord Have Mercy, bathing suits, woma
bathing suits, woma, lord have mercy: Hi Angie, Thanks for writing. What a problem you are faced with! I feel for you, and am wondering, how long have you two been together? What I see is that this is about your comfort level, and he is asking you to participate in something that you absolutely,...

Marriage: marriage has broken down, emotional betrayal, divorce papers
emotional betrayal, divorce papers, roof over my head: Hi Lynn, Your marriage sure HAS broken down, and for that you have my deepest sympathy. Ending a long term relationship is one of the most difficult things in the world to do, even when it is the obvious thing to do. And in your case, it is the obvious...

Marriage: marry him???, heart ache, bathing suits
heart ache, bathing suits, nude women: Angie, I believe that you feel it in your heart what the answer you just need someone else to tell you this is wrong. I know that from a pastor perspective this would be a major deal breaker. I am not judging here just telling like it is. God sees this...

Marriage: omg!, mid life crisis, bathing suits
mid life crisis, bathing suits, tub parties: Hi Angie~ You have a right to be concerned about him wanting to pursue this once again. Maybe it never really left him and he s longed to do this all along. Of course, I m just speculating that this how he feels. Maybe he s going through a mid-life crisis...

Marriage: Please advice, frenchkissing, silent treatment
frenchkissing, silent treatment, dirty talk: Hello there, I am sorry that your marriage isn t what you want it to be. It sounds to me like your husband is too immature and self-centered to be married. I am wondering what he thought being married is all about? To me, if I marry someone and want...

Marriage: Annulment question, divorce in the philippines, google
divorce in the philippines, google, different lives: Hi Bernard~ I m not familiar with Philippine annulment/divorce. So I looked up divorce in the Philippines and these are a couple of sites that I have found for you. I will copy and paste the links below for your convenience. It looks like there is some...

Marriage: Too Early!, small concern, marriage
small concern, marriage, long distance: Hi BB~ If a guy talks seriously about marriage to you, then you can pretty much bet that he s really into you and he does care for you. I don t necessarily think he d talk about or be ready to commit to marriage just to try to get some (there are other...

Marriage: engagement question, deb deb, raisin bran
deb deb, raisin bran, marria: Deb, Marriage is to be based on love and mutual respect. I also want to add trust. You are showing great distrust by snooping and this is what this is. You stated quite well at the end of your question about the object not being important but the marriage....

Marriage: husband, heart to heart talk, heart to heart
heart to heart talk, heart to heart, affectionate person: Hi Jess~ Have you ever asked him why he doesn t like kissing and being affectionate in general? If not, then ask him. You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know how this is affecting you. And what...

Marriage: Husbands co-worker, marital counseling, level position
marital counseling, level position, co worker: Hi Kathy~ What are his views on this? Or is he indifferent and he doesn t care which choice you make (about whether or not to invite the secretary)? If he s okay with not inviting her to this party, then go ahead and do not invite her. Let her stew and...

Marriage: Limbo, cold shoulder, coldness
cold shoulder, coldness, limbo: Hi Peter~ It s been 1 yr since the separation, it sounds like it s really time to move on with your life w/o her in it and be done with it. If she truly wanted to work on this marriage, then she would be more receptive to getting back together, and not...

Marriage: Marriage, playing video games, bad attitude
playing video games, bad attitude, unhappy marriage: Hi Teresa~ At this point something has to be done in order to save this marriage. It s gotten so bad that it s causing a huge rift between you and your husband. I agree with your sentiments that he needs to grow up and become a father not a friend to...

Marriage: Marriage is “a contract with the government”?, mobility disability, long periods of time
mobility disability, long periods of time, ups and downs: Stella, You have painted yourself in a corner so to speak. If he will never marry, but you will stay with him until he marries you then it would seem you are both at an impasse. His statement about it being just a piece of paper is a sham. I view it as he...

Marriage: marriage in desire need of help, marriage vows, sex with my husband
marriage vows, sex with my husband, painful truths: Hi Sheila, Thanks for writing. You have gotten yourself into quite a difficult situation, and I suppose the first thing that came to my mind was, Why did she tell him that? Surely you had to know this information would be hurtful to your husband and difficult...

Marriage: Marriage and Family Relationships, jehovah god, prayers god
jehovah god, prayers god, huband: Hi Carmelita, In order for a marriage to work, especially in a god-fearing relationship it always helps to put matters in prayers. God is always listening to people who whole heartedly approach him in prayer. That being said, when you approach our Father...

Marriage: marriage money and vacation, marriage certificate, visa application
marriage certificate, visa application, vacation days: Good evening Eri, Thanks for inquiring with AllExperts. Congradulations on your nuptials. In regards to your inquiry, your boyfriend needs to advise his employer immediately, as a matter of courtesty. If he keeps his employer posted he is showing himself...

Marriage: Mother in Law causing marital problems in my young Christian Marriage, christian household, christian lifestyle
christian household, christian lifestyle, christian marriage: I am no expert on Facebook but you change the privacy settings so she can t see anything. Now with that out of the way. The only thing you can do is to make them sit down and discuss the relationship. You have to have your husband engage in this because they...

Marriage: moved out of state, hit with depression., foolish little girl, old job
foolish little girl, old job, familiarity: Stacy, It sounds like you moved because opportunity was better? There is always going to be adjustment when you move right? It seems though that instead of hating it you should be focusing on getting place and doing things to make your life better. What I...

Marriage: proposal..., joyful events, bad person
joyful events, bad person, nursing school: Hi Anthony, Thank you for writing. I can see you are in great distress over this situation and I hate this for you. Engagement and marriage are supposed to be joyful events in one s life, and it sounds as if all the joy is rapidly going away in your case....

Marriage: Abuse, thier parents, abusive relationship
thier parents, abusive relationship, losing my mind: Dear Veronica, Thank you for inquiry with All Experts. Nobody deserves to be abused in a relationship. Many times abuse is a product of a person emulating a dysfunctional past experience, mainly thier parents. Do you love him enough to continue and...

Marriage: crisis degrading attitude and more, addiciton, gotton
addiciton, gotton, piece of meat: Hi Kellie, Wow, your letter is filed with disappointment and the pain you are feeling in regards to how your husband is treating you. Certainly you must know that his behavior has fallen into the category of abuse? One thing I can assure you of is that...

Marriage: Abuse, blessings, reflection
Marriage: Abuse, blessings, reflection, relationship

Marriage: inter racial relationship, born muslim, relationship question
born muslim, relationship question, marria: For me it wasnt really a problem because my parents never really pushed me into any one religion or sets of beliefs. So I was able to decide for myself as I grew up. Obviously my dads family had some issues since my mother was not Muslim. But my father...

Marriage: marital problems, male performance anxiety, walking on eggshells
male performance anxiety, walking on eggshells, relationship work: Renita, Good for you that you are making attempts to do the right thing and work on this relationship. I STRONGLY believe that you both should seek out a marital therapist. This forum is not good for things that need more serious fixing. I think if you both...

Marriage: marriage, german embassy in manila, embassy in the philippines
german embassy in manila, embassy in the philippines, key word search: Hi Gerrous~ If you were married in the Embassy of German in the Philippines, the Philippine will NOT recognize the marriage as a same sexed marriage, but Germany will. I hope that makes sense to you. This can be a complicated scenario but I hope by the...

Marriage: Separation, dui accident, financial burden
dui accident, financial burden, drinker: Zak, You need to make a life change to completely remove alcohol from your life. It has gotten you to this place you are at now. You need to do it not for your wife or marriage, but for you. I think much of your bad behavior was fueled by alcohol in some...

Marriage: Sexual honesty, explicit sexual details, sexual lives
explicit sexual details, sexual lives, sexual woman: Hello again, All you can do is to ask her exact and specifically what she means and get her to describe it to you in a way that you feel like you completely understand. Keep asking questions and getting clarification. Some days she might one it one way,...

Marriage: My wife has changed massively, adult entertainment company, business management courses
adult entertainment company, business management courses, breast implants: Dear Paul, I am so sorry for the situation you are going through. You sound like a wonderful husband! You love her for how is, not how she looks. I don t think that she has necessarily changed, I feel that the industry has changed her and not for the better....

Marriage: What else can I do?, phone conversations, personal diary
phone conversations, personal diary, school friend: Hi Renita~ Since you said he was deployed, could you inquire about getting some counseling through the military (I m assuming he d still qualify for services whether he s active duty or not), it s something to think about and to check into, b/c you said...

Marriage: Bromance too much?, marriage, resentment
marriage, resentment, priorities: Hi Emily. From your description, I don t think you re crazy. I think you re feeling somewhat insecure and resentful that your husband won t honor your need for him to want to back off on his male friendship. Reading between your lines suggests your discomfort...

Marriage: Emotional numbness and sex problems in marriage, emotional numbness, low self esteem
emotional numbness, low self esteem, lack of sex: Hi Martina, I am so sorry for the situation you described. It must be very difficult! In answer to your question, yes, I absolutely think you are depressed, and why wouldn t you be? You live with a passive aggressive man who never or rarely responds...

Marriage: Emotional numbness and sex problems in marriage, lack of sex, no sexuall intimacy
lack of sex, no sexuall intimacy, sexual problems: Martina, You are very young and it s sad that you are foregoing your God-given sexuality. What is puzzling is that your husband says he has no one to talk to, yet you believe that you re both very close. I suspect there is more that he s unwilling to tell...

Marriage: Husband cheating & our daughter facilitating it? Or am I going totally crazy?, new business project, signs of infidelity
new business project, signs of infidelity, condom wrapper: Hi Sarah, Thanks for writing. You have my deepest sympathy for what you have been going through. It is a really terrible feeling to be left out of anything, and it sounds like in this case you are being left out of an alliance between your daughter and...

Marriage: Husband cheating & our daughter facilitating it? Or am I going totally crazy?, new business project, signs of infidelity
new business project, signs of infidelity, condom wrapper: Hi Sarah~ She very well could know of her father having an affair (if indeed he is), whether it was by accident, etc. If your gut instincts tell you he s having an affair, as well as based on the evidence you ve already found, chances are pretty high that...

Marriage: Husband want to break marriage, deepest sympathy, painful path
deepest sympathy, painful path, social person: Hi Amy, I am very sorry for your distress. Breaking up a marriage is a very painful path, indeed, and you have my deepest sympathy. It does sound like your marriage is not workable on any level. It seems that it is time to let it go. I think when things...

Marriage: Locked out and forgotten, initial free consultation, false allegations
initial free consultation, false allegations, true colors: Hi Sharin~ I m sorry that you re going through all of this. He can not lock you out of your own home and change the locks. You have just as much legal right to live there as he does. I would suggest you going to your local Division of Family Services...

Marriage: advice, couple time, stress levels
couple time, stress levels, convo: Hi Derrick~ Maybe she was just wanting you to be reassuring of her. She could ve been down in the dumps and thinking about what you said to her, and that s why she asked you. And as you mentioned she s been stressed about her schooling, studying and whatever...

Marriage: erection problem, sex, masturbation
sex, masturbation, impotency: Given your youth and inexperience, and that you are erect some of the time, it s undoubtedly performance anxiety. You won t be able to achieve erection if you re nervous. You re too focused on pleasing her or failing. Read the article on my website about Sex...

Marriage: loving transition to friends but exes, infidelity, stages of divorce
infidelity, stages of divorce, open marriage: My apologies. I misread your question. Part of my answer is the same. I don t know what type of man your husband is, but I sense your fear that he won t want to continue a relationship after a divorce. That is a risk you must take. Seems like the business...

Marriage: Marriage is Failing, hurdle, pms
hurdle, pms, no worries: My impression from what you wrote is when your husband said your decision not to social oize was no problem you didn t trust that he meant that. If true, that may occur becausae at times he doesn t honestly disclose some feelings and needs to you. I may...

Marriage: After a One Night Stand While On Vacation, pornography addiction, intense feelings
pornography addiction, intense feelings, economic barrier: Hi Andrew, Thanks for writing. It sounds like you have quite a mess on your hands. If I was seeing you and your wife during this crisis, I would tell you that it is premature to divorce at this time as it is never smart to make irrevocable, important decisions...

Marriage: nonsexual boyfriend, heart to heart talk, couple time
heart to heart talk, couple time, tough choices: Hi Kay~ I can see why this is a huge problem for you. Sex and sexual attraction is very important in almost all relationships. There is something going on here, whether he s willing to admit it or not. He might not be sexually attracted to you for some...

Marriage: Opposite Sex Friends in Marriage, heart to heart talk, opposite sex friends
heart to heart talk, opposite sex friends, heart to heart: Hi Alex~ You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know how this is affecting you. And what you re willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. If she refuses to hear you out, then you ll have...

Marriage: am i over reacting?, 3 carat ring, surprise dinner
3 carat ring, surprise dinner, carats: Hi Peter, Thanks for writing. It does sound you have found yourself with quite a woman, and no, I do not think you are overreacting!! I predict she will be a handful for you in the years to come if you do decide to tie the knot with her, and at this point...

Marriage: 16 yr old girl harassing me
Hi Steve~ That s not just sexual harassment, she s stalking you. You need to be short and to the point with her, and don t speak to her unless you have to. Refuse anything that she sends to you or the like. If it continues you might have to consider...

Marriage: fork in the road
Hi Amber~ You re already doing everything on your own as it is. You just won t have to keep supporting his butt in the process. He s already ruining your credit and your life to boot. This nonsense really has got to stop. It s already coming at a great...

Marriage: My husband doesn't want sex but tries, I need help please
Hi Marie~ I can certainly understand how this torments him and it can make him have flashbacks of what he went through. I can t imagine how awful this situation was for him to go through. How terrible and traumatic this must be for him. I could strongly...

Marriage: Husband leaving me (a follow-up)
Hi Julia~ He probably expects you to cower down to him and allow him to take your son to live with him and your mother. I would tell him absolutely no way in hell that s ever going to happen, period. He will try to use your son as a pawn in all this,...

Marriage: My husband is leaving me [long post]
Hi Julia~ I would be horrified if I were in your situation. And, as you already know, in no way, shape or form is this okay or acceptable for them to do to your dad, you and your family. That s simply awful and unimaginable. There are certain lines you...

Marriage: Husband travelling to Canada [further advice needed ?]
Hi Karla~ If I were in your shoes, I would be a bit leery and be wondering why was he hiding this from me too. I think I d have to sit him down and ask him some questions about it. I would try to do it in a nice, calm manner at first. And if I got no...

Marriage: Husband travelling to Canada - an update
Hi Karla~ Well, at least you finally got to the bottom of why he was doing it. As I said previously there s a reason for everything. It may not always be what we want or something that we can understand why. It s funny that you mention his half sister...

Marriage: Husband's trips to Canada - found out why?
Hi Karla~ But still he betrayed you in a way by keeping all this from you. I don t think he fully gets the depth of what he s doing and has done by not being honest and forthcoming with you from the beginning. There are blogs out there that really can...

Marriage: A question on parenting; my son joined Scientology, I need help
Hi Richard~ First off he s a minor and he s too young to join Scientology. Now when turns 18 then you can t do anything to stop him from joining them. Scientology is a notorious cult with many followers. They are very strict, terrible and shady in their...

Marriage: My son and a fetish (sorry if this sounds odd)
Hi Johanna~ Are the drugs that he got legal? I mean he could get into trouble for having them if they are not personally prescribed to him by a doctor. I don t know what Netherlands laws are, but here in the US that would mean legal trouble if he were...

Marriage: Is it time to walk away?
Hi Hayley~ You teach ppl how to treat you. Do you realize that? He treats you this way b/c he can, you continue to be with him and you tolerate it, so, of course, he s going to keep doing what he s doing. He obviously has issues with treating you like...

Marriage: putting us underneath everyhting, adult relationship, dissatisfaction
adult relationship, dissatisfaction: Hi Amber. I think you re being totally reasonable in wanted to feel acknowledged and respected as a person, partner, and a mother. You re not getting some important needs met in your relationship. From what you write, I believe that your partner has survived...

Marriage: Badly in need of advice please reply ASAP
Hi Darshan~ What if, just what if she can t get fat as you request her to be for you? Everyone is different in the way they look, act, etc in life. It s not about her looks or if she can ever get fat enough for you or your families standards. Being too...

Marriage: My children's father just showed up suddenly after years in obscurity and I have no idea what to do
Hi Patricia~ You should mention to your twins that he dropped by the house unannounced and wanted to see them. Then you leave it up to them to decide if they want to talk to and meet him, then they can. Otherwise, I d just be up front and blunt with him...

Marriage: I don't feel my wife is as committed to our marriage as I am., marriage, love
marriage, love, peace: She s selfish and controlling. You deserve more. We all deserve to be respected by our partners. Really we do. Having a loving healthy respectful relationship is not a myth. People really do have them and so can you. Question yourself: Take a look at...

Marriage: husbands return
Marriage: husbands return

Marriage: Handling smoking in a marriage?
Hi Julie Ann~ It might be time to have another heart to heart talk with him. Not only does he put himself at risk of some form of cancer, he puts you and others that he smokes around at risk of cancer too. Even if he s not smoking in the same room of...

Marriage: My husband's announcement shocked me
Hi Suzanne~ The question to ask yourself is can you live like this with him in the future, with him being a woman and being in a relationship/marriage with him. Before you make any further decisions you need to try and sit down with him and have a serious...

Marriage: Husband and injury dealing with it
Hi Marianne~ The accident obviously messed up something in his brain to make him think he s that old. Have you tried showing him his birth certificate as proof that he s not that old and you either? If not, you might try it. Can you take him to his work...

Marriage: Husband's obsession with Wikipedia ruining our marriage
Hi Jennifer~ You need to sit down with him and try to have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know how this is affecting you. And what you re willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. He might not care about how this is...

Marriage: Husband took up smoking recently
Julie, If this smoking is new then your husband must be under a GREAT deal of stress. Has he thought about other healthier ways of dealing with it. While smoking may help it is obviously an unhealthy way to deal with it. I would suggest you seek out a counselor...

Marriage: husbands return, cheating, infidelity
cheating, infidelity, marriage: first off;resolve why he cheated on you in the first place or it could happen again and again.do not be in denial,he s still hiding,locking and being sometimey with you,even after u took him back is a red flag,he maybe still chasing this other woman,trust...

Marriage: reconciliation after divorce
Hi Lynn~ If the marriage didn t work before, what makes you think the relationship will work, if there are the same issues in place that were before? He needs to be in your corner and be ready, willing and able to back you up as your husband, partner, lover,...

Marriage: Remarriage After Death of a Spouse
Hi Wayne~ I don t see why not, you can legally marry whoever you want, once you re divorce or if a spouse is deceased. The only church that I m aware of that frowns on this is the Catholic church on divorce (my father was Catholic, but not a practicing...

Marriage: how to handle wifes coconut/fb/photo addiction
Hi Steve~ Something has sent your wife over the edge. It s certainly not normal for her to be behaving like this and being so obsessed, if you will, by all things coconut. It does sound as though she s having some sort of issue with a mental breakdown....

Marriage: My husband's fetish worries me (is this an odd one)
Hi Dawn~ You have to talk to him more in depth about what exactly he means by in shock? Does he mean to simulate it, or does he actually want you to say, run him over with the car? He needs to clarify to you the difference between real and pretend....

Marriage: When the past comes back
David, You have no idea if this person is telling you the truth, knows that the child is truly yours etc... It is potential drama that doesn t even really need to dealt with. This woman could have contacted you throughout the years and she didn t. I would...

Marriage: Problem related to past life
Hi Rose~ I m not irritated with you at all. Some ppl just need a little reassurance is all. You really should work on your self-esteem issue. If a man sees that you re not very self confident he might see that as an opportunity to take advantage of you...

Marriage: Big Problem.., lucky woman, long long time
lucky woman, long long time, good answer: Hi Ronnie, I am always thankful when the questions here are brief,but yours may be too brief!! There just isn t enough information here for me to give you a really good answer as I would like. Since there isn t, I will just make a few observations ... if...

Marriage: I may be in denial, nina brown, nathaniel branden
nina brown, nathaniel branden, narcissist: Hi Trisha, Thanks for writing. I am so sorry, but I had to chuckle when I read your words, Please help me understand. I thought to myself, How can I explain the unexplainable? Let s cut to the chase here: Your husband is a mental case ... a bonafide...

Marriage: he dont care me, marriage, husband
marriage, husband, indifference: Hello Nikita - It sounds as tho you need to [1] respect yourself, and [2] assert some boundaries with your husband if he often ignores your feelings and needs. I m ignorant of your culture s values about marriage - i.e. whether it s normal for men to devalue...

Marriage: help me to marry him, happy marriage, unhappy marriage
happy marriage, unhappy marriage, neighboors: Hi Kik8, Thanks for writing. Your letter really concerns me. The reason this is so is because you are practically suicidal over this relationship working out, when it is a relationship that sounds very unhappy and should probably end. In fact, I was...

Marriage: marriage/separation, marriage, problems
marriage, problems, separation: Hello Tricia - from what you (and he) wrote, I suspect [1] you each have inherited psychological wounds from your (unaware) ancestors, and [2] you two lack knowledge of effective communication skills, so you fight instead of problem-solve. See these http://sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm...

Marriage: The blame game, slam doors, patience of a saint
slam doors, patience of a saint, mom cause: Hi Marisa, So sorry for what you are going through. There is no excuse for your husband s behavior. What he is doing is wrong on so many levels that it could fill a book. I am certain he has taken on his mother s abusive and critical voice and now treats...

Marriage: divorce with unborn baby?, Abortion, Divorce
Abortion, Divorce, Marriage: Dear Mehdi, Let s get to the heart of the matter. Divorce and abortion Is not the solution. All marriages and children are sacred. Couples must learn to interact responsibly. That is difficult with the changing social climate. I would recommend counseling...

Marriage: divorce with unborn baby?, planning schemes, asking for a divorce
planning schemes, asking for a divorce, kind soul: Let her go with the child as she wishes. You are right to be concerned, so I advise trying to be involved in the child s life if possible. Maybe start with just monthly visit, or even quarterly, then adjust from there. Keep a fund for the child s future....

Marriage: Husband lured by gay friend?, wife, distrust
wife, distrust, husband: It sounds like you two have several problems: [1] you doubt/don t trust him; [2] you aren t able to problem-solve as partners; and [3] one or both of you may have inherited psychological wounds from early-childhood trauma. See these: http://sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm...

Marriage: Parents denying my relationship, healthy choices, values and beliefs
healthy choices, values and beliefs, delima: Do what you think is right an do not let your parents manipulate you. I recommend that you and the guy you love strengthen your faith as a foundation of values and beliefs that give hope, meaning, and direction for healthy choices. It would strengthen your...

Marriage: At wits end with Husbands lies and verbal abuse, smoking pot, breast cancer
smoking pot, breast cancer, facebook: Candace, My, my, what a mess! I doubt very seriously that you are crazy. When I was in graduate school and we were talking about people with addictions, the professor said: How will you know when an addict is lying? And the answer was: Whenever he...

Marriage: How to deal with an immature wife?, wonderful girl, bed sheets
wonderful girl, bed sheets, housework: Your wife has apparently been (unintentionally) deprived of the motivation to be responsible for her own adult life and the ability to be an effective partner. That s a subtle form of u major /u parental neglect. in my opinion. It might help if each...

Marriage: So lost, stepmproblemsother, stress
stepmproblemsother, stress, stepkids: Theresa - Like millions of other stepparents, you and your stepkids and other adults are stressed because you each have inherited psycological wounds and unawareness from your ancestors: http://sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm http://sfhelp.org/gwc/means.htm...

Marriage: asking father to marry daughter, marry, marriage
marry, marriage, parent: Hi Jordan. Typical fathers need several things from prospective sons in law: [1] mutual liking and respect; [2] assurance the young man will provide a good life for his daughter; [3] belief his daughter is able to live independently and is ready for marriage;...

Marriage: At a loss, hello doctor, stress reliever
hello doctor, stress reliever, suicidal thoughts: Hi Kristen, Thanks for writing. It pains me to see the mess of a situation you are in. The first thing I must say is that neither you nor your fiancé have any business getting married now or in the foreseeable future. Neither one of you is emotionally healthy...

Marriage: Divorce & Children, weekend dad, amicable divorce
weekend dad, amicable divorce, divorce children: Erin, Thanks for writing. You have my deepest sympathy for having to watch this sad and damaging scene unfold before your eyes. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about what dad does. If he chooses to put himself before the comfortable and secure...

Marriage: Lack of Intimacy, marriage counselor, physical intimacy
marriage counselor, physical intimacy, sexless marriages: Hi Fred, Thanks for writing. I feel really badly for you as you sound like a very loyal husband who is trying his darnedest to stay the course in this marriage. It is no surprise that you feel the enormous resentment you say you now feel. After all, your...

Marriage: Relationship Question, marry, marriage
marry, marriage, church: Hello Kaylynn - apparently you two have a major values conflict. Also, your cheating suggests one or both of you may have inherited psychological wounds from early-childhood abandonment, neglect, and abuse. If so, that is the primary problem. See these: ...

Marriage: Scared of getting married, mood swings, finace
mood swings, finace, aya: Hi Aya~ Marriage is a huge responsibility for anyone to take on. It can change for the better or worse in the relationship too. So if you already have problems with him and his mood swings and with him being dependent on you, it could end up getting worse...

Marriage: Separation, marriage, separation
marriage, separation, divorce: Hi Karen - it sounds like you ex s are psychologically divorced and stable. It sounds like your need for insurance (security# is stronger than your need for legal closure at this time. If/when you choose to try a new serious relationship, your partner #or...

Marriage: Fiance's strict views on visual nudity, contrary views, sexual scenes
contrary views, sexual scenes, fianc: Hi JT, Thank you for writing! I lived in San Antonio for many years so I know what you re talking about when you mention the blistering Texas heat ... oh my it is unbearable down there! I have been thinking about your question for a few days. I don t...

Marriage: Girlfriend wants to get engaged, but I am scared, successful marriage, great girl
successful marriage, great girl, ups and downs: Hi John~ Not everyone is ready for marriage when they get married. Marriage has a tendency of changing ppl. It s true and it s either for the better or worse. I can t tell you what it is that happens and changes a person but it does. Marriage is a tough...

Marriage: help, frat boy, strip clubs
frat boy, strip clubs, jeopardy: Sara, I think you are asking the wrong questions. You should be asking yourself how much longer will you tolerate this behavior. He is not acting like a loving, caring husband. He is acting like a frat boy who needs a place to crash. He is also probably a...

Marriage: How Do I get my husbaned to come back to me?, young kids, military training
young kids, military training, good advice: Hi Ashley, Thanks for writing and I am so sorry for how you are feeling. Your letter was really painful to read. I deal with situations similar to yours all the time, and I am about to give you really wise insight and advice. It is my fondest hope that...

Marriage: My lover believes he hasn't ever loved anyone, partner, love
partner, love, bonding: Hi Becky - from what you write, your partner sounds like a Grown Wounded Child [GWC] who has inherited psychological wounds. One of the wounds is an inability to bond. See these: http://sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm http://sfhelp.org/gwc/means.htm http://sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/bonding.htm...

Marriage: Offended, visual thinkers, snide remark
visual thinkers, snide remark, smart ass: Hi Somer~ You were justified in being offended and upset by his comment. Sometimes men do not stop and think about what they say before they say it. So I can understand how this would have made you upset. It also depends on how he meant to say it and...

Marriage: Sexless Marriage, sexual intercourse, dim lights
sexual intercourse, dim lights, confidant: Thanks for inquiring with All Experts. I think your wife is projecting her anxiety of the miscarriage incident to your sex life. She is scared Jesse and worried. Scared of being pregnant again and experiencing another miscarriage. This is where communication...

Marriage: My daughter joined a cult - long post, google maps, fellow classmates
google maps, fellow classmates, muslim girls: Hi Michelle~ Here in the US that s still a minor child. So parents are responsible for them until they are 18. I would be strictly supervising her and wouldn t let her out of my sight, if this were my child. Scientology is most definitely a cult here...

Marriage: Why is my husband travelling to Canada so often?, canadian banknotes, sears canada
canadian banknotes, sears canada, travelling to canada: Hi Karla~ I think I d be concerned too, if I were in your situation. I would be questioning my husband on why he was frequently going over the boarder to Canada. My suspicions would be another woman, if I m being honest here. Why else would he go there...

Marriage: Second marriage and kids
Hi Kam~ Having a blended family isn t easy. It s not easy for your new husband to be thrust into the position of a step-dad, and your children to have a new step-dad. It will take some adjusting but eventually things do get better. My children never really...

Marriage: Wife and hyperactivity issues, andrea true connection, heart to heart talk
andrea true connection, heart to heart talk, mid life crisis: Hi Matt~ Is she willing to sit down with you and have a serious heart to heart talk with her? Or do you think she s become mentally unstable? If it s the latter then you might have a bit of a challenge on your hands. I don t know how it works in the...

Marriage: Worry over husband's behaviour at social event, show food, food fair
show food, food fair, food show: Hi Becky~ Maybe he was just curious or wanted to see what you d say or how you d react to what he said. That doesn t make him gay. Just about everyone is curious at some point or another of the same sex, and they don t act out on it, or they aren t gay...

Marriage: Not able to accept him
Hi Jane~ I m very well aware of the fact that marriage is something taken very seriously in the Indian culture. That s why I mentioned that in my original response. The fact of the matter is that you can t help how you feel towards someone especially when...

Marriage: I am concerned about my husband and his employment plans
Hi Juliana~ I really highly doubt that he will even be accepted or considered for an underwear model at his age (and I mean no disrespect by saying that). Model agencies usually only hire younger and perfectly sculpted bodies for modeling (unless it s...

Marriage: divorce
Chelsey, You should go to someone that can provide you support. I m not sure why you are so eager to start this kind of life for yourself, but it is unfair to your children. They need stability and consistency. You divorcing and then living on your own...

Marriage: Why has my fiancee changed after accepting a new job?
Hi Matthew~ I was afraid that it was coming to that. Just as I had suspected it was physical. You see things like this on tv all the time. But when it personally happens to you or someone you know it s devastating. That sucks that she did this to you...

Marriage: A follow-up on my previous question about my husband and his employment plans
Hi Juliana~ I still find it hard to believe that this is a legit job and that it will pay as well as he says it can. They ve not met with him and interviewed him. A company or person can say anything they d like to on the internet and not be legit. What...

Marriage: Marriage, arranged, marriage
arranged, marriage: Hello Jane - you pose a difficult question, as a Westerner, I doubt that I can accurately understand the pros and cons of arranged marriages in your culture and your family. From an outsider s point of view, I m guessing you have at least three interactive...

Marriage: My son is not my husband's...cannot cope...need help
Hi Carlie~ It sounds like you ve been through a lot. I m not sure telling your son the truth would benefit him at all. In fact it might make him feel worse about himself and how his existence came to be. It s not incest if you re not blood relation. ...

Marriage: My Boyfriend not ready to marraige
Hi Sylvester- Have you asked him why he isn t ready to marry you? At the very least he owes you some sort of explanation as to why. You need to try to have a serious heart to heart talk with him about this very issue. It s important you know where you stand...

Marriage: Should I stay or should I go?
Marriage: Should I stay or should I go?

Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands? and be affectionate ?
Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands? and be affectionate ?

Marriage: married but keeping maiden name, marriage, maiden names
marriage, maiden names, conflict resolution: Hi Jared, Married but keeping maiden name_________________________ I understand how you feel. It does sort of feel like a rejection. There s a very important saying that will help you deal with issues in marriage (or in general with people) and...

Marriage: last name, last name, dispute
last name, dispute, marriage: Hi Jared - you two have a major values conflict, and she hasn t accepted your attempt to compromise. Have you two been able to compromise successfully on other disagreements? I would be concerned about whether she u really /u wants a committed (marital)...

Marriage: Should I stay or should I go?, marriage, divorce
marriage, divorce: Should I stay or should I go?______________________ I think you are doing the right thing to see a marriage counselor and discuss these things with them. I know that you feel you will be repeating saying the same things again, however, the therapist...

Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands .? and be affectionate ?, physical affection, women
physical affection, women, men: We get back what we send out. Your view of women is somewhat negative so you will tend to attract negative women. Change your opinion of women and you will find a different type of woman to be with. One who is more positive and wants to please you. ...

Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands ?and be affectionate ?, cuddling, affectionate
cuddling, affectionate, sex: women love variety or it gets boring,spark/romance.“displaying warmth” or “displaying affection”. The fact that the verb “display” is built into the definition tells us a lot — simply having warm feelings is not enough to create affectionate feelings, you...

Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands ? and be affectionate .?.
If the marriage is arranged, does this mean you do not spend any time with her before marriage? The only way to tell is to kiss the girl to see if she wants to kiss again. Ask if it is OK to kiss her, then after you kiss her, ask if she enjoys being kissed....

Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands? and be affectionate ?
I don t know the customs in your country. It seems to me a key factor is how well your parents understand the kind of woman you re hoping to match up with, and whose needs they put first - yours or theirs. I encourage you to ask the advice of older men you...

Marriage: Do wives like to cuddle their husbands ? and be affectionate ?
Hi Mauz- Each woman is different. You would have to take the time to get to know her to figure out if she s loving caring and affectionate. Generally speaking how a woman carries herself will give you an indication of her personality, watch how she interacts...

Marriage: conflict over future sexual frequency , sex, intercourse
sex, intercourse, frequency: Hi Jared - your core problems seems to be fear (of sexual dissatisfaction) and distrust (that you two- can find a comfortable compromise, not sex (intercourse). For mutual satisfaction, sex needs to be spontaneous, not based on shoulds. Having a baby will...

Marriage: Marriage proposal
Marriage: Marriage proposal

Marriage: Marriage proposal, healing, miracle
healing, miracle: Life is short,go for it,meanwhile let s pray for her father,with God all things is possible;Father God in Jesus name Jehovah-Ropheka, our Healer, the great Physician, I bring before You, my sick ones, praying for total and complete healing.I release the spirit...

Marriage: Query
Hi Sam- Here is a link that I googled. I got pregnant before marriage, she was planned too. I married at the age of 20. I had 3 children with my now ex-husband. We probably never should have even married because we just weren t compatible together, period....

Marriage: Question, divorce, unplanned pregnancy
divorce, unplanned pregnancy: Unplanned Pregnancy and Marriage | Divorce Source Blog www.divorcesource.com/blog/unplanned-pregnancy-and-marriage/ Mar 21, 2014 - Sadly, many marriages still end in divorce and statistics suggest marriages that occur as a result of an unplanned pregnancy...

Marriage: Depression and work in a marriage
Hi Kate- What in the hell does him being demoted have any thing to do with his previous job title in promotions have to do with strip searching ppl for drugs in their underwear?!?!? How does his boss think he can honestly get away with that at all?!?!?...

Marriage: sexlife after a child
Marriage: sexlife after a child

Marriage: Help understanding husbands behaviour and arguments?
Hi Jennifer~ First off, why would he feel the need to lie to you and his family? Second of all, how in the hell did he work under a pseudo name? How can he legally do that? B/c when you fill out an application they require proper identification such as...

Marriage: My husband cheated on me with an up-and-coming actress and she's only 18
Hi Tania~ I would tell him there is no way in hell he s taking the 16 yo with him, period. And she s old enough to choose where she wants to live and with what parent. He can not make her go with him, so don t let him do this and bully you and your daughter...

Marriage: I'm a Canadian marrying a US Citizen in NYC in March.. What do I need?
Hi Samantha~ I just Googled using key words what documentation does a foreign person need to marry an American . And several helpful links came up. There is a process you have to go through of course and these sites listed below should be beneficial...

Marriage: Should I marry her?, virgin, marriage
virgin, marriage, relationship: everyone has a past,with that being said,if you truly love her and want a life with her,her not being a virgin should not be a reason not to cherish her as ur soulmate.You were going to marry her and you loved her until you found out she isn t a virgin, she...

Marriage: reconciliation, marriage, infidelty
marriage, infidelty, cheating: he is going to have to communicate with u,i feel u forgave him by letting him return so the lease he can do is man up and be communicative with and to u.why did he have the affair and what happened that the affair also didn t last with the mistress? this shows...

Marriage: sexlife after a child
stop drinking and save ur relationship,get ur priorities in order and man up.Keep in mind that a decent sex life takes work, there is no quick fix. Just like having good health and a good body takes effort in the way of proper diet and exercise.While men feel...

Marriage: sexual differences, spice, romance
spice, romance, sex: http://xhamster.com/movies/191290/homemade_wife_and_husband_sex_video.html express to her how important this passion is to u and ur relationship.Most guys that struggle with this use a direct approach. They go ahead and ask Baby, can I put it in your butt?...

Marriage: sexuall differences
Hi Charles~ Try to sit down with her and tell her that you d like to try something new once in a while. And then explain to her what things, positions you d be interested in doing with her. Ask her opinion on it and see what she d be willing to explore...

Marriage: 17 yr old daughter and age gap ??
Hi Janet~ Maybe she s attracted to him b/c he s established in life and he also doesn t have the responsibilities that a man his age has, that is married and has children, etc. I m sure in time she will grow tired of him and will get bored with him, as...

Marriage: 21 year old daughter with married man
Hi Rebecca- She s of legal age and is an adult so unfortunately you can t do anything about who your daughter dates, etc. Unless you prove to a court of law that she can not make decisions on her own, and that you feel she needs a court appointed guardian...

Marriage: My college-age daughter having an affair with an older, married man(reply)
Hi Katherine~ In all honesty I would stay out of it. The more you try to give advice to her, the worse it could become, and besides you don t want to become involved in this. Now, if she s asking for your advice that s different, of course, offer her...

Marriage: My college-age daughter's affair with older, married male
Hi Katherine- Does she truly and honestly think he s going to leave his wife for her? Chances are he never will. Not to mention that relationships born out if an affair do not last. And also if he ll cheat with her he will eventually cheat on her. Bet she...

Marriage: Why don't I divorce?
Hi Nadia Because it s easier said than done, trust me when I say that. Let me elaborate a bit. In my first marriage I stayed for 4.5 years. My marriage was horrible and very volatile. We had three children together. I grew up in a Christian home where marriage...

Marriage: Frustrated and Exhausted, No appreciation gratitude acknowledgement, unfairness frustration and exhaustion in marriage
No appreciation gratitude acknowledgement, unfairness frustration and exhaustion in marriage: Kristen, I m glad you reached out in an attempt to improve your marriage. Since you ve been trying everything you can to get the appreciation, acknowledgment and gratitude you d like to have, to no avail, the bigger issue becomes, Do you think that things...

Marriage: Mixed signals
Mixed signals from a spouse can be confusing and frustrating,he is being arrogant and selfish and playing games with your mind to see how u react,it has become a pattern,routine,something else is going on inside his head with u 2 relationship.just be happy...

Marriage: sexuall differences
Before you even experiment, I suggest that you communicate with her. Find out how she feels about receiving and giving oral sex. If you re unsure about how to broach the subject, you can always incorporate it into the foreplay game. During the first stages...

Marriage: Wife cheating with my dad, what next? (as well as divorce?)
Hi Martin~ When did her long term affair with your father begin? Are you sure that your son is in fact your son for sure? I know that you might not want to consider this is possible. Of course depending on when the affair first started. I mean she s...

Marriage: Winning husband
Hi Marie~ If this is all consuming to him, meaning that he s become obsessed with it, and it s now interfering with his daily life functions, then he needs to reevaluate his gambling habit. It seems to have gotten out of control and he can no longer really...

Marriage: Best friend with my mother , followup
Hi John~ I m sorry that you have to go through such an experience it s not fair to you to be put in this sort of position. On one hand you have your mom and the next your supposed friend a true friend would never do this to someone that he loved and...

Marriage: Should I call off the wedding?
Hi Qlee~ That s just the start of your problems when he lets his parents control and have input into the wedding, etc. It will become more and more frequent on how much more control he will give them. And that is not a good thing at all. Besides if you...

Marriage: Daughter in relationship/affair with best friends dad???
Hi Janet~ You truly don t know someone and how they are until you live with them and see how they act in private behind closed doors. She needs to consider several things before she moves in with him. The question here though is will she? Most likely...

Marriage: Husband left me for my niece, how to handle it?
Hi Jane~ If he had a child with your niece that would make that child a half-sibling to your child, and second cousin to your baby. Confusing I know. What he did was rude, selfish and totally unacceptable. He s only thinking of himself and his own gratification....

Marriage: Is this a midlife crisis?
Jennifer, What you describe does seem odd if it is out of character. I wouldn t think it s a midlife crisis. I wonder if it s more related to some type of depression. Maybe the two of you can talk to a therapist? He may be more willing to go if you talk...

Marriage: Midlife crisis? reply
Hi Jennifer~ I d still be concerned about his addiction to some of the things. When it begins to consume you and to interfere with daily functioning, then that s when it s become an addiction and problem. I m glad that you found my response helpful. ...

Marriage: Is this a midlife crisis?
Hi Jennifer~ That is very odd and seemingly out of character for him as you ve described. I think you need to try and sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know how this is affecting you. And what you re willing...

Marriage: My mum is having an affair with my best friend
Hi John~ How long has this affair been going on? Don t expect it to last either. Most unions borne of infidelity do not last. The changes are extremely small that they will make a go of it anyway, percentage is less than 5%. Besides if she ll cheat with...

Marriage: Obamacare causing rows in our family
Hi Julie~ Obama care is controversial enough as it is. But when you have someone that has become quite obsessed with it to this extent then that IS a huge problem. You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him about this....

Marriage: My Sister's 5 year anniversary caused a problem
Hi Julia~ While I can understand her being embarrassed by being bombarded with the rude questions and comments, why is she letting it control her life? Why is she letting it effect her marriage with her husband (if it indeed really is)? These people clearly...

Marriage: cousin marriage, Cousin marriage, Marriage among family members
Cousin marriage, Marriage among family members: Re: Cousin Marriage Hi Nelson, I would suggest you talk to a family law attorney where you live. Here in the United States, for instance, every state has its own laws about Family Marriage. Cousin marriage is permitted by some states and not...

Marriage: Relationship Issue
Marriage: Relationship Issue

Marriage: Relationship Issue, cheating, another woman
cheating, another woman, infidelty: move on;I love him he loves me I know he does so why is still with her and how long will he be with her?stringing u along;When you love someone so much more than they love you, you set the stage for that person to reject you. It s like putting pressure on...

Marriage: My best friend and my mother; further followup
Hi John~ Nothing good will ever come of their union. They are like the odd couple and I m predicting that their relationship will not last anyway. Let them be who they are and do what they want to do. There s not much else you can do. They will end...

Marriage: Dual Incomes in a Marriage
Always feeling like the doormat when it comes to making decisions with your spouse? Or perhaps it s you who always calls the shots and your spouse meekly obliges, to the point where you feel they no longer contribute enthusiastically to the relationship. Either...

Marriage: Dual Incomes
Hi Austin~ No, I don t think you re wrong for asking her to contribute some to the marriage and to the household finances. Part time is better than no time and going into further debt together. I m a stay at home mom. My children are older with the exception...

Marriage: Employment in a Marriage, employment in marriage, problem solving
employment in marriage, problem solving, conflict resolution: Employment in Marriage Austin, There is no right or wrong in a conflict of needs. There is however a need to compromise. How can the two of you work out a joint solution to the problem without one person winning and one person losing? There has to...

Marriage: Employment in Marriage
Austin, Difficult things happen in marriage. It doesn t automatically mean that you have married the wrong person. I think in this situation you should probably sit down with a 3rd party to help you guys figure out this dilemma. It doesn t sound like it...

Marriage: My husband told me something shocking last night. I need your help.
Hi Shantelle~ This is actually very normal for him to feel this way, especially after being married a while. It happens to just about every couple that gets married. Every marriage gets rough at one point or another and can have lots of ups and downs....

Marriage: Is it over?
Is it over? A better question might be “Am I done?”. If you feel you are tired of things the way they are, I suggest trying to change them before you go through a divorce. Perhaps you ve already tried. The two of you could benefit from Marital therapy....

Marriage: fear of marriage
Hi Hemakshi~ If you don t take a chance on love, then how are you really going to know what love and even marriage is about? You have to take chances in life, you live and you learn from life s experiences. Marriage isn t for everyone and not all marriages...

Marriage: wife unhappy?
Hi Charles- You need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know how this is affecting you, and what you re willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. Ask her what she would like you to change about you....

Marriage: My boyfriend's meeting my parents soon, need advice on this.
Hi Rani- You just need to be blunt and up front with them. That under no circumstances are you and your boyfriend going to y here house and much less him meeting them in his underwear. It s ssimply not an option and it s not up for discussion or debate...

Marriage: Handling the meeting-the-parents situation for my boyfriend, parents, controlling
parents, controlling, disrespectful: your parents is weird and i wouldn t tolerate anyone exposing themselves,they need to respect themselves and others,strangee;this is so rude,folk walking around in their panties/undies.where is the morals,u will lose friends if u bring them around such rude...

Marriage: Is my husband having an affair? Need guidance, affair, cheating
affair, cheating: signs that he is having an affair: 1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues. 2....

Marriage: Is my husband having an affair, how to understand his behavior? Seeking guidance
Hi Jessica~ It s really hard to say what s going on here with him. Maybe it s another woman or maybe it s not. If you really want to know but can t figure it out for yourself, then perhaps you could hire a P.I (private investigator) to see what he/she...

Marriage: My Husband and Sleep, marriage, sleep
marriage, sleep, addiction: Hi Vanessa - from your description, I d say your partner has developed an Internet addiction. If so, it probably means [1] he s carrying unexpressed inner pain, and doesn t know it or how to release it; and [2] he will protectively minimize or deny this. If...

Marriage: Marriage
Self-Esteem and Marriage. In any society there are far fewer wealthy people than average or poor. In our society they are called The 1%-ers . Meaning, 99% of the people are not wealthy. It is not accurate to say that you cannot get married unless you...

Marriage: marriage, marriage, sex
marriage, sex, gears: Hi Tony - if you have a marriage which allows honest disclosure of needs and promotes effective problem-solving as partners, the age difference between you is irrelevant. Beware of scaring yourself by trying to predict something you can t control. I encourage...

Marriage: Marriage difficult after having child, parenting, marriage
parenting, marriage, intercourse: Hi Jason - I can understand your frustration. I suspect yyou two may have two conmcurrent problem - both of which are fixable.[1] The symptoms you describe suggest your wife may be a Grown Wounded Child (GWC). If she is, you may be also, because GWCs often...

Marriage: short fuse husband
Renee, You and your husband need to see a Marriage Counselor as soon as possible. Email is not the appropriate treatment for your issues. This type of problem doesn t get better on it s own. It usually gets worse. Marriage Counseling would help the...

Marriage: traditional vs Modern
Hi Sanju- Perhaps it s not meant to be with her. If she ll avoid you and not talk to you now due to these differences, then how is she going to handle real problems in life with you.This might be a good thing so that you don t waste your time, energy...

Marriage: wanting to save our marriage, homewrecker, cheating
homewrecker, cheating, infidelity: its either reunion with wife or let go of drama relationship with the homewrecker.u cannot have cake and eat it too,ultimatums ;has to make a choice between wife and the other woman because ucan’t have them both.In My Opinion, True Victory Doesn’t Take Place...

Marriage: Marriage proposal, marriage, commit
marriage, commit, commitment: Hello Jared - Marriage is a voluntary pledge of mutual long-term commitment. Your question suggests your girlfriend values pleasing her father more than commitment to you (at this time). I suggest an important unspoken question for both of you partners to...

Marriage: Old Love
Hi Jen, It is extremely normal for someone to have brother or sisterly love for someone they have dated before, so I just want to make sure that you don t feel like your the only one that feels this way. We all get jealous of past boyfriends and girlfriends...

Marriage: Old love
Then that is a burden you choose to bear. Your jealousy puts you at risk of his fearing to be totally honest with you about some feelings. Do you feel he believes you firmly trust his fidelity and commitment? See http://sfhelp.org/relate/jealousy.htm for perspective...

Marriage: Marriage falling apart, marriage, fighting
marriage, fighting, immaturity: Hi Carlos/Dan - from your description, the reality seems to be that your wife - and perhaps you - are burdened by significant psychological wounds. One result is that she is enmeshed with er biological family and apparently is not motivated to live life as...

Marriage: arranged marriage.
Hello Abuja, Star signs do not rule anybody s future but they do provide a helpful guideline about general characteristics. So you re sensitive and this says that Cancer, Capricorn or Scorpio could be good matches. But again how a person is brought up...

Marriage: fantasizing, Sexual Fantasy
Sexual Fantasy: Mike, Fantasy is just that. Thoughts and images in one s head. It s not behavior. So, unless you act upon a fantasy there is no harm. Acting on or telling people about your fantasy is a different matter. Since your fantasy life is very personal and...

Marriage: Wife has gone to her mother with the kids
It s good you want to try to keep the family together. However, you say Break through her mindset ? You mean ignore her needs. That s how she would feel about you not accepting her desire to get divorced (and many, many other needs she may have had that...

Marriage: sex
Hi Kimberly- Why does he think that s okay to do these things to you? Does he just not care and doesn t want to bother to get a divorce? It s a shame that he refuses to talk to you about anything, or to try to work things out with you. So you now have to...

Marriage: Religion, religion, baptism
religion, baptism, dispute: Hi Jared - you describe a classic values conflict between you and your partner (and perhaps your respective families). Here are some ideas about resolving such dilemmas: http://sfhelp.org/relate/mates/priority.htm // http://sfhelp.org/relate/vc.htm...

Marriage: Does money or family = happiness
Hi Evan, You could have made this sacrifice easily if only the economy were to be buoyant enough. With job conditions tough out there, making a move so far away isn t advisable at all. You both will have to start with a vigorous job search plus may have...

Marriage: Money Vs Family
Evan, I apologize for the delay on this. I think you are young enough that moving now would not be a bad idea. Being around support is always a good thing. Not only for your wife, but also for your young child. I imagine they have similar positions to where...

Marriage: growing apart, move on, lovliness
move on, lovliness, unhappy: When Is It Over? How do you know when you ve finally reached the point of no return, when putting your relationship together again is simply too much of a stretch? In the end, of course, the answer is personal. But if your answers to the following questions...

Marriage: healing past hurt from critical arguments and bringing up past arguments, being critical, marital conflict
being critical, marital conflict: George, Your question is best answered in person with a licensed professional. Being a critical person and dealing with a 7-year relationship are not well served in an email. By going to therapy you are demonstrating to her that you are trying to...

Marriage: arranged marriage
Hi Sunita, You ve been brave as you took a decision which hurts but at least you had the courage to take a tough stand. I ll begin with the most valuable advice, never ever discuss your past with your future husband. Yes, he may be honest, supportive and...

Marriage: Husband slept with my son - how to cope?
Hi Julie- Divorce him and move on. I can t imagine what you must be going through. That s got to be both humiliating and devastating to you! All you can do is take it all a day at a time right now. As time goes on it might get a little better. Focus on...

Marriage: troubled marriage
Emily, You need to get to a place of safety while your figure out your marital relationship. This is something that he could have been arrested for. Your children need to be in a safe place as well as you. It seems from what you describe things are slowly...

Marriage: Future of Marriage in United States??.....
this is very lengthy so i will try to just grant my opinion. Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are...

Marriage: Handling a spouse that is inconsiderate, cheating, defensive
cheating, defensive, selfish: sounds like u need to check his cell when he s unaware cause sounding like red flag,possibly cheating from what i am reading into this post,check text msg [inbox and outbox,usually when a man is cheating he is very defensive and unexplainable whereabout.His...

Marriage: Inconsiderate husband
Traci, The bigger issue here is the lack of communication that is happening between the two in many other areas. This is something that if not figured out could cause you problems in the long run. I would suggest seeking out a marital therapist to figure...

Marriage: temptation, fantasy, temptation
fantasy, temptation: yield not to temptation,,So you need to develop a game plan on how to deal with tempting or enticing people outside your marriage who start to catch your interest. . You need to understand that being attracted to a stranger is not a new problem or one that...

Marriage: sex that means or doesn't mean anything
Hi Mike- You are dead on with what you told her. As you said there are two ways, no feelings involved for that said person, or there are feelings. It s not both, rather one or the other. Her views on it are askewed. Some people try to justify their actions....

Marriage: Unofficial Name Change?
Hi Ayla- It s traditionally done that the woman takes the man s last name, so it will be the same last name if they have children, etc. It s a show of faith and dedication to the husband. Of course, not every woman does that for personal reason, such as,...

Marriage: forgive & forget
Mike, I just ate dinner. Can you tell me when I ll be hungry again? Of course not. Forgiveness and pain are both subjective feelings. No one can tell how you ll feel in the future. How do I know if you ll have similar pain in the future? How do...

Marriage: Mid-western American Girls, Midwest values, reverse discrimination
Midwest values, reverse discrimination : S.E., In general, people in the Midwest are more conservative than people on the coasts. People are people though. I m sure that if you are a decent guy, you ll find someone. Be careful of reverse discrimination . That is, assuming someone doesn t like...

Marriage: Mid-western women
Hi Sia- Mid-western women can be a little more open-minded moreso than any other demographicly divirse women in general. However, keep in mind that the mid-west here in the US tends to be more of a Bible belt location. So depending on what type of girl...

Marriage: Relationship Issue
Gary, The biggest problem is that you made the choice to marry knowing the dog was part of the package but figuring it wouldn t be a big deal. You both should have had an agreement up front about it. If you did and it s not being followed then there should...

Marriage: Converting to Morminism for a girl
Commit this to memory: b It s not the differences between people, it s how they handle those differences /b . Religion is just one of many differences you will encounter in your relationship (and life). If the two of you can t constructively solve this...

Marriage: Marriage Concerns
Cassie, This is way too complex for me to answer in an email. I would suggest you see a Licensed Professional Therapist in your area. I would recommend that you keep a copy of this question to give to the therapist since it gives plenty of important background...

Marriage: relocating
Hi Deb- No, she s not being selfish at all. I will give you this advice though, if she s the main support of income he might try to ask for alimony, etc. And everything they incurred during the marriage is considered community property. Just so that she...

Marriage: 21 years and not very happy, new wrinkle, active duty
new wrinkle, active duty, 4 months: Hi Dale~ Of course, you have every right to be upset about what she s just told you. It s devastating and shocking for anyone to hear. But asking questions all the time, isn t going to make you feel any better or or give you closure about the situation...

Marriage: I AM 23 YEARS OLD AND I HAVE..., high school sweetheart, marriage work
high school sweetheart, marriage work, least three times: Dear Candice, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I see many, many issues that need to be addressed in your message to me. First of all is the matter of your husband not telling you the truth. ...

Marriage: thank you for responding,..., woman and man, gass
woman and man, gass, 8 years: Dear Kiki, Thank you for the follow up to clarify your issues and thoughts. I do understand your frustration and anger. However, I believe that in any realtionship (not just marriage), that you must give freely of your heart with no expectations of...

Marriage: 2nd marriage, piece of crap, cross word
piece of crap, cross word, couple nights: Hi Cindy~ He had his own home prior to the marriage you re not entitled to that. And the home not being in your name either, you re not responsible for anything in the home either (or that has to do with the home). That s his problem and responsibility....

Marriage: 2nd marriage & not happy, choice in the matter, annulment
choice in the matter, annulment, university graduate: Hi Ali~ If you even remotely doubt about being with your wife. Do not have children with her. That will make the marriage that much worse. Adding children to an already unhappy and unstable marriage is just asking for trouble--and will only make things...

Marriage: 7year and not married, finite terms, reading between the lines
finite terms, reading between the lines, mother and father: Well, that is a loaded question. Some men are afraid of commitments. So are some women. Granted, in our society, men have more tendencies to play around than women. But both do. Again, go back to what I said before. Ask him what future he sees for...

Marriage: 9 years down the drain?, unhealthy relationship, abusive relationship
unhealthy relationship, abusive relationship, person change: Hi Amanda~ Don t waste one more moment in this relationship. As tough as it may be, you really need to get out of this unhealthy relationship. Be glad that you aren t married to him. First off you don t deserve to be treated the way you are, by being...

Marriage: Absentee Husband, high school sweethearts, drowning in depression
high school sweethearts, drowning in depression, heavy drinker: Hi Carol~ Is there any possible way that he could find another job, that doesn t require him to travel so frequently. You need to tell him exactly how this is affecting you. That you feel like you re starting to slowly drift apart, due to the fact that...

Marriage: Is this Abuse or an Act of Innocence, moment action, spur of the moment
moment action, spur of the moment, mental abuse: Dear Kirby, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. I think the more important question here is not so much is this abuse but who has your wife been talking to that has put these ideas into her head?...

Marriage: Abuse or a bitch?, relationship changes, breaking things
relationship changes, breaking things, bullcrap: This is a perfect example of the need for a local counselor, a third party to listen to both side, sometimes this alone is enough to shock a nut back into shape. Generally if there is enough love left in a relationship changes can be made, but when this drags...

Marriage: Where's the Abuse --- I'm confused, abusive relationship, physical violence
abusive relationship, physical violence, false arrest: Hello Dermot, QUOTE: In her log she accuses a sibling of intentionally endangering life of wife & unborn child (Child born with brain damage). This written in her log 26 years after the alleged endangerment. I think you need to get with...

Marriage: Abusive or Not Abusive, saturn sc2, digit figures
saturn sc2, digit figures, dinner theatres: Dear Larry, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. As I m sure you already know, your wife is not being abused - mentally OR physiclly. It seems that your wife has some type of fixation on this fantasy...

Marriage: Addiction, sex with my husband, girl type
sex with my husband, girl type, high blood pressure: Probably through masturbation in his life before girlfriends and marriage, he has found an easier or lazier way of getting himself there. Now that there is a partner, he should have had to make a change, of course why he hasn t in 6 years is beyond me. All...

Marriage: Addtional to marriage/money, emotional stress, selfish person
emotional stress, selfish person, talking about money: Renee: Your husband seems to have a very significant self-esteem issue. There is no reason that a healthy adult should not be able to contribute to the financial well being of his or her family. It sounds like you are doing your part - he is not. First,...

Marriage: Adult Daughter wrecking our marriage, budget cutbacks, adult daughter
budget cutbacks, adult daughter, jealous type: It s a hard one for even me. When the tweetie birds don t want to fly away from the nest, I guess you have to find a way to shoo them off. Since the confrontational method hasn t worked, I guess you should try the more supportive one. Especially now when the...

Marriage: Adultry, going through the motions, mixed emotions
going through the motions, mixed emotions, s child: Hi Jana~ I assume that she s pregnant with your husband s child. Please correct me if I m wrong here. I come from a very similar situation. When I was married to my first husband he cheated on me several times (5 that I know for sure). The last one...

Marriage: Adultry, marriage counseling, old feelings
marriage counseling, old feelings, replays: Hi Yvonne~ It takes time and effort. When a person cheats on you, it makes you lose all the respect and trust you once had in them. He has to start proving to you that he s a changed man, and that he s not going to be tempted to stray again. I would...

Marriage: Affair with a married man, second marriages, sad reality
second marriages, sad reality, married man: Preeti: The bottom line on affairs is that they almost always end in pain, hurt, and damage to relationships. Without knowing anymore than you have shared with me, my advice to you is to get out of this relationship. I know it will be painful but...

Marriage: Affair with a married man, first affair, married man
first affair, married man, business person: I don t appreciate being rated a 1 in 3 different catagories. In fact I think that s rather rude of you to do. My reputation is impeccable with the ppl that ask me questions. If you read my profile, it stated that I give honest answers. So if you re not...

Marriage: Affair Thrown in My Face, dna test, angers
dna test, angers, 11 years: Hi Laurie/Pamela~ Wasn t sure which name you really go by, since there are two listed here for your question. He s doing this to get to you. Some times a person has tear someone down, in order to build himself up. That s what he s doing in this case....

Marriage: No Affection or Sex in Marriage, mid thirties, room mates
mid thirties, room mates, romantic feelings: Hello Brent, Are you headed for a divorce? Since she obviously is no longer interested in you and you are looking elsewhere,it would seem that way. Time to sit down with her and tell her you don t have strong feelings for her anymore and see what she...

Marriage: AGE difference in marriage life, age difference in marriage, marriage life
age difference in marriage, marriage life, life experiences: Hi Noorulimran, If 20 yr girl is form India too and you plan to live in India too and that too in some conservative village where they have caste and other fanatic people living there then it might become a problem. But if she is willing , her family is willing...

Marriage: Age Difference in marrage, marrage, old boyfriend
marrage, old boyfriend, judgement: Hi Tina~ Age difference doesn t usually matter in a marriage (or even relationship). It s how compatible you are together is what matters. And just be aware that there is a reason he s divorced twice, that should tell you something in its self. Just...

Marriage: Age difference, old adage, energy shifts
old adage, energy shifts, energy shift: Dear Adeel, I do not know if this is true. I have never heard of this energy shift . Age usually becomes a factor when one partner wishes to have a child, wants to retire or when their interests reflect different values and or morals. The old adage...

Marriage: Alcohol abuse and children, divorce bill, household bills
divorce bill, household bills, counceling: It s always better to try to work something out, then at least when you decide to leave you can say you tried. It isn t always fun being a single mother. Set a deadline for the counceling and see it is arranged. Sometimes being confronted by a third party...

Marriage: Ambigious, rude language, relationship issues
rude language, relationship issues, personal relationship: Dear Maggie, When my husband and I both read this (as he helps me with some questions) we arrived at the same conclusion. It s not right for a man who is involved in a relationship with you to still see his ex. It s just wrong! The fact that she invites...

Marriage: Anger, heart to heart talk, anger issues
heart to heart talk, anger issues, short temper: Hi Laurie~ He obviously has an anger issue. The only thing I can suggest to you is that he get some form of anger management or individual counseling, in order to help him cope with this. If you don t do something about it it s only going to get worse...

Marriage: Angry and hurt, having such a hard time, wedding clothes
having such a hard time, wedding clothes, feelings of love: Getting engaed and being married, at least in the beginning is supposed to be a happy time full of hope, promise, and wonder. If you are experiencing hard times now, it s time to hit the door. Life has plenty of problems for the most promising of marriages,...

Marriage: Angry and hurt, true heart, verbal communication
true heart, verbal communication, fiance: Hello David, You are understandably upset.Get a piece of paper and a pen out.Write down all the things she has done in the past that has irritated you or hurt you.Take a very good look at it.Then think about how for the last two months she has obviously...

Marriage: Arranged Marraige, pastor kim, family relationships
pastor kim, family relationships, different culture: K, Again, it s my opinion that you should not have to marry someone against your wishes. It can be a recipe for disaster. In other countries, however, I do not know what the consequences would be since it involves some religions that can be very harsh....

Marriage: Asking the parents, wedding expenses, promise ring
wedding expenses, promise ring, wedding plans: As a girl, don t forget your parents are likely the ones paying for some or all of your wedding expenses, so getting their approval is crucial. Explain that your engagement can be for as long as you want, usually engagements are for a year while wedding plans...

Marriage: Attention Deficit, fun flirty, arguement
fun flirty, arguement, touchy subject: Hi Janet~ Something definitely sounds fishy to me. What s he really up to?! If he s openly flirting and paying more attention to other women (and not you) then that should send up red flags, big time. He obviously has no respect for you, otherwise he...

Marriage: over achiever wife non ambitous husband, scholarship programs, career in nursing
scholarship programs, career in nursing, rough life: Hello Kayla, Eventually you will come to despise him,better to leave now.There will be others.Looks aren t that important to a good man.They will love you for your personality.Have faith in yourself. Of course he is romantic and does something nice...

Marriage: adultery, heart to heart talk, mixed signals
heart to heart talk, mixed signals, adulterous affair: Hi Bernadette~ He s giving you mixed signals and this is why it s so confusing to you. He says one thing one minute and then something else later! Anyone would be confused. You need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk with him. He needs...

Marriage: adultery, marriage work, one day at a time
marriage work, one day at a time, day at a time: Hi Melanie~ It s very frustrating for both of you to go through right now. And it s going to take some time to work through this process. I would strongly urge both of you to seek marriage counseling. This way you can figure out what lead him to stray...

Marriage: adultry, gut instinct, truth this time
gut instinct, truth this time, eveytime: Hi again Shante~ Yes, encourage him to go to individual therapy for himself. He should be able to get it for cheap or even free through the military. If you have any further questions please feel free to ask. I wish you much luck! And if you wish, please...

Marriage: any advise, realationships, suffering from depression
realationships, suffering from depression, whitch: Dear Phil, You are not nuts. You are not alone in being married to the one and only person you Have been intimate with. Unfortunately it does bring up some feelings that may need to be addressed. The first being trust. Trusting that your spouse will be...

Marriage: any advise, realationships, suffering from depression
realationships, suffering from depression, whitch: Hi Phil~ I don t think you are nuts. You probably shoud ve never agreed for her to meet an ex-boyfriend in the first place. But that s something you certainly can t change now. I think it s normal for you to wonder if anything did actually indeed go...

Marriage: Why am I so afraid to leave?, rocky relationship, counsler
rocky relationship, counsler, sexual relationship: Hi Rachel~ It s hard to leave b/c you love him. And taking the first step and actually going through with it, is going to be the hardest thing to do. But once you take it, it does get easier. You re hesitant to leave him b/c you re used to him being...

Marriage: age difference, it would be a problem?, morals and values, role of a mother
morals and values, role of a mother, s child: Dear Lilliane, You are both older and no longer children or young adults. This makes a big difference when age is considered in a relationship. If you were 20 and he was 40, I would be concerned. Now, you both know what you want in a partner so it is OK to...

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, sexual excitement, sexual needs
sexual excitement, sexual needs, sex drive: If I were your parents I would be very upset. You are too young to think about marriage, especially with a man this much older than you. Don t worry about his sex drive, move on to a young man your own age and finish growing up before you consider marriage....

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, sexual excitement, sexual peak
sexual excitement, sexual peak, consenting adults: Hi N~ Typically males reach their sexual peak in their late teens and through their 20 s. For women it s in their 40 s! It s not uncommon for men to be interested in sex until they are old (60 s and even above). It just depends on the males sexual drive....

Marriage: age difference & sexual needs, personal maturity, sexual excitement
personal maturity, sexual excitement, failure rate: Dear n, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. It is hard for me to make recommendations with so little information to go by, but I will try my best to answer your question regarding marriage. I...

Marriage: age difference, cubic zirconia, great relationship
cubic zirconia, great relationship, marrie: Hi Zita~ I think you re over-reacting. If the only problem you have in the relationship, was that he didn t tell you the ring was fake and not real. Then you ve got it made! That would be the least of my worries. Sure, I d be upset that he didn t tell...

Marriage: age or fear of intamcy???, lack of libido, attachment issues
lack of libido, attachment issues, frequent sex: Susan, Thanks for the follow up. I think one area where we often err is not having an understanding of the emotional differences between men and women with regard to sex and love. Men make no connection between the two. A man can love a woman deeply,...

Marriage: does age matter in marriage, age gap, age matter
age gap, age matter, yonas: Dear Yonas, I was concerned with your first question since you had asked if there was something terrible going on. I felt as if there may be an intuition on your part that something may not be right. I just wanted to make sure you knew all there was to know...

Marriage: alone in a relationship, constant companion, pregnant time
constant companion, pregnant time, resentment: Brooklyn, I feel that you should try to find a balance between family unity and your happiness. The one thing that is going to unite your family and if your husband is willing is for you as a family to find a church you can attend. I believe that anyone...

Marriage: arguing getting worse, marriage counseling, stressful time
marriage counseling, stressful time, opposites: Hi Nadia~ I would suggest that you try some counseling for the issues in the marriage. A counselor can give you tips, hints and advice on what to do when you have disagreements, arguements, etc. It can also help you to deal with him when he gets upset...

Marriage: he asked me to marry him and now all we do is fight, planning the perfect wedding, rest of your life
planning the perfect wedding, rest of your life, resentment: Dear Ashley, After being together for 4 years, you both know whether you would like to be together for the rest of your life. Although there is an incredible amount of stress during the planning of a wedding, there should not be constant arguing between the...

Marriage: Babyish husband, dr jekyl, anger issues
dr jekyl, anger issues, grade daughter: Jennifer, I would tell you to not let his behavior influence you. As an adult woman you have the choice to tolerate certain behaviors. I wouldn t tolerate the name calling. Now how you do it is to disrespect your husband which of course is going to cause...

Marriage: Birthday Party, tone down, close friends
tone down, close friends, birthday party: Hi Paul~ I think you need to be somewhere in between both of these. Let me elaborate what I mean exactly. You should certainly be sensitive to her wants/needs, but at the same time being open and honest with her. For example: say something like Honey,...

Marriage: Bitterness , Resentment & Anger, professional counselor, bitterness
professional counselor, bitterness, resentment: Hello Billy, I think you both need counseling.Either with your minister or a professional counselor.She won t apologize and you need an apology.Obviously there is a very serious issue here that can t be worked out between the two of you.Contacting someone...

Marriage: Body language as a source of conflict, divorce marriage, marriage counseling
divorce marriage, marriage counseling, family gatherings: Dear Roger, One of the ways that a partner gains respect for their significant other is to gain respect and liking from that other s parents, friends, family members, co-workers, business associates, acquaintances, etc. This is why it upsets so many people...

Marriage: Breakup or not, max time, 3 things
max time, 3 things, rita: Hello Max, Time to break up.When people decide to get engaged,they usually: 1.Like the way the other person looks. 2.Age doesn t matter. 3.Social levels are insignificant. All the above is part of someones personality.You are not the one for her.She...

Marriage: Breakup or not, 3 things, personality
3 things, personality, marriage: Max, These are very significant issues that if you can not resolve then you should not be together. If you were enter into marriage I do not think that it would last very long. I have seen relationships like this in the past and it would not be very long...

Marriage: Breakup or not, 3 things, rest of your life
3 things, rest of your life, doubts: Dear Maxmalian, My motto is, If you have any doubts at all, do not do it! Every time a person follows their heart instead of their head, it does not work out. If you are having difficulties in being with this woman for the rest of your life, then there...

Marriage: The Burning bed except he doesn't use his fists, emergency brain surgery, brain tumor
emergency brain surgery, brain tumor, residential custody: Hello Laurie, Contact your attorney.Inform him of all this.Ask for supervised meetings with the children for him, because of the verbal abuse. Also,don t visit with him.If you can have a different place that he can see the children,have him go there.For...

Marriage: another baby and marriage on the rocks, 6th week of pregnancy, marriage on the rocks
6th week of pregnancy, marriage on the rocks, week of pregnancy: Dear Kat, Everything happens for a reason and this may bring you an unexpected lesson in life that will lead you to your fate. It is possible that you were sabotaging yourself by reason of fear or rejection within the music industry. It could be that you...

Marriage: baby on the way and sooo distant, heart to heart talk, pregnancy losses
heart to heart talk, pregnancy losses, tragic losses: Hi Sandi~ It could be that he s put up walls so that he doesn t get hurt again since you lost 3 pregnancies prior to this one. And he doesn t want to set himself up for disappointment and hurt again. Thus this is effecting him with giving you the love...

Marriage: Am I a bad wife?, paycheks, old pals
paycheks, old pals, 10 months: Hello Mayra, You are not a bad wife,but he is a selfish,uncaring brute. He manages to save his paycheck for his needs but doesn t help with the bills?? If you are going to have to work to support yourself,get rid of him.You won t ever be secure with...

Marriage: drinking problem, or alcoholic?, real sad story, wedding vow
real sad story, wedding vow, point thanks: Hi Arthur~ I can relate to the accident story. My father was also once involved in an accident (not the first either). One night he was driving drunk and he lost control of his Bronco and drove through someone s house! Right into their livingroom, where...

Marriage: "for better or for worse", wedding vow, empty promises
wedding vow, empty promises, drinker: Arthur, Well being quite a drinker myself, I can tell you how much I like it, but I always seem to know when to stop. So what is her interest in drinking, does she like the flavor, or does she drink for a reason, to forget something, releave some stress,...

Marriage: big problems..., hostess bar, traffic accident
hostess bar, traffic accident, extra money: Hi Steven~ It doesn t sound like she missed you very much, to find comfort in another man. It sounds like she was pulling one over on you. Some ppl just aren t marriage material. She could be one of those ppl. She wanted you to believe that she loved...

Marriage: bitch or abuse, emotional scars, physical wounds
emotional scars, physical wounds, bad memories: Hi Lyn~ Boy, what you ve described to me in your question, sounds like my former marriage to an exact T! And does that bring back bad memories for me. Lyn--It s abuse, he s an abuser. His behavior is totally rude, crude and socially unacceptable....

Marriage: Am i a bitch?, heart to heart talk, hens nights
heart to heart talk, hens nights, bucks nights: Hi Chrissie~ No, that doesn t make you a bitch. He should hear you out as to why you don t want him to go. If he had any respect for you, then he would see where your coming from and wouldn t go in the first place. However, some guys don t see the big...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, pre marriage counseling, mutual attraction
pre marriage counseling, mutual attraction, female friend: If she is marring this guy just because of the money then I would say no. If she truly loves him and he loves her then they should be ok to marry. He may want their credit to be good as a couple and if he has the money to make sure it is then more power to...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, religious book, female friend
religious book, female friend, boy friend: Marriage is about love, marriage is not about helping someone with money. Although seems like the guy is saying he loves her but it s upto this female to decide if she thinks he loves her. If she thinks he loves he and she loves him and want to marry for his...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, female friend, convenant
female friend, convenant, boy friend: Hello CL: Based on what you ve shared with me, my answer is no . She should not marry this guy. So what if he wants to pay her debts? Anybody could do that. Marriage is a lifelong convenant that has nothing to do with money. It is about being a companion,...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, female friend, boy friend
female friend, boy friend, girl friend: Hi CL~ She probably shouldn t marry him, as it might be a huge mistake later. The reason I say this is he sounds very desperate and clingy. And he d likely get that much worse after marriage. Besides, she shouldn t marry someone that she s not 100% in...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, values and morals, meaningful relationship
values and morals, meaningful relationship, female friend: Dear cl, A marriage should never consist of anything else other than true eternal love and a meaningful relationship that two people will cherish and enjoy full of values and morals. This means that they will never have to worry about the other one being...

Marriage: should a boyfriend pay her girl friend's debt to ask for marriage, debt issue, female friend
debt issue, female friend, money issues: Hi cl, I have to admit that your message is a bit unclear. If I understand correctly, this fellow wants to marry your friend, and he is offering to pay off her debts to do so? I don t quite understand the phrase about him sleeping with a girl before?...

Marriage: boyfriends reluctant to divorce, dating a married man, legal paperwork
dating a married man, legal paperwork, couple counseling: Assuming you can believe him, in his associating with his wife, which I kind of doubt, keeping yourself out of her sites is a good idea. A guy that leaves to find himself is a tincture better than a guy leaving for another woman on the forlorn woman scale....

Marriage: breaking up, smoking pot, illegitimate children
smoking pot, illegitimate children, emotional abuse: Hi Sim~ That s great to hear, when someone writes be back with a success. I m happy to hear that your life has changed for the better. And anytime I hear that I ve helped someone change their life then everything I do to volunteer my time to help a person...

Marriage: On the brink of leaving, last ditch effort, marriage counseling
last ditch effort, marriage counseling, ups and downs: Hi John~ Have you considered marriage counseling? If not, then I would seriously urge you to seek it. This way you can try to make a last ditch effort to see if the marriage can indeed be salvaged. And then you can do your separate ways knowing that...

Marriage: broken heart, candidacy exam, moving away from home
candidacy exam, moving away from home, living my life: Hi Justin~ I would strongly urge you to seek some marriage counseling. This way you can deal with any issues and problems in the marriage. You and your wife have to work together as a team to get past this rough time. Marriage is a constant work in progress,...

Marriage: Too many broken relationships, poor self image, broken relationships
poor self image, broken relationships, faithful man: Dear Robin, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. This is a very interesting question, but I am afraid you have me at a huge disadvantage. I really don t know very much about you or your husband or...

Marriage: How to build my self!, being a good wife, many different reasons
being a good wife, many different reasons, r m french: Dear Hadi, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can answer your question. There is very little to go on here. And I am afraid that I am a little confused about your letter. What I think the letter is saying that you are going to...

Marriage: Casual Porn Use?, hormonal problem, dangers of internet
hormonal problem, dangers of internet, speaking the truth: Hi Lucille~ I think it s certainly possible for a man to have casual porn usage. As long as he s not obsessed with it. However, I don t think any porn is a good idea at all. In fact, I m totally against porn viewing, etc. I think it s destructive to...

Marriage: Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me?, heart to heart talk, marriage counseling
heart to heart talk, marriage counseling, heart to heart: Hi John~ It sounds like you really did good for a while there. But then you let her sucker you back into trying to work things out. Bottom line is the choice is yours to make. It s a tough thing to do when you love someone very much. But she s already...

Marriage: CHEATING HUSBAND, cheating husband, good thoughts
cheating husband, good thoughts, having an affair: Jessica, It s possible to forgive him, sure it is. if you think you need him then you can also have him, but before you have hi for your own peace of mind you will need to forgive him in your own mind. Once you forgive nothing will come in between. So whole...

Marriage: Chance of a lifetime husband is against it, lifetime job, marriage retreat
lifetime job, marriage retreat, chance of a lifetime: Dear Joanie, There are many options, but before I mention those, you and your spouse may want to speak with a trained counselor or go on a marriage retreat togther- it s amazing how you suddenly hear each other when you have to explain it to a third party!...

Marriage: I Cheated, break ups, selfish man
break ups, selfish man, infidelity: Dear Sharon, Your husband sounds to me like a very selfish man. He thinks he has some kind of hold over you by mentioning your affair every time you have a disagreement. This is not fair to you and I think deep down he kind of likes the fact that you...

Marriage: Cheating father, selfish motive, intimate details
selfish motive, intimate details, infidelity: Dear Dodi, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. First of all, I would like to apologize for my delay in answering your question. I have had guests for the holiday and have not had an opportunity...

Marriage: Cheating spouse, cheating spouse, member of the family
cheating spouse, member of the family, family member: Hi Tonilynn~ A spouse cheating with a step-child?! That is just unacceptable for a step-parent to do, not to mention very inappropriate. Sure, you can forgive him for it, but you should not remain in the marriage. As he can t be trusted. He crossed...

Marriage: Cheating wife, divorce procedures, soul mate
divorce procedures, soul mate, cheating wife: Hi Stuart, I wanted to add something to what I had said after I read your response. I just need you to know that you should reconsider your belief that all women cheat. You just have not yet found the ones that do not. Men cheat, women cheat, it...

Marriage: Cheating, marriage counselor, marriage counseling
marriage counselor, marriage counseling, emotions: Dear Robert, I know this is incredibly hard to find out your wife has been cheating and to work on this to stay together. I really do not believe that a couple can say, OK, let s go to a marriage counselor, without caring a great deal about the other. Some...

Marriage: Back Child Support, personal bond, fianc
personal bond, fianc, state prison: Hi Cherie~ You should talk to the judge and see if you can make payment arrangements for the $2,000 that s currently owed. See if you can get the deadline extended for a period of time, in order for you to come up with the remaining amount (on the $2 grand)....

Marriage: Child Support Issues, joint legal custody, divorce decree
joint legal custody, divorce decree, physical custody: Hi Nick~ I m going to copy and paste your questions here and put my answers to them directly underneath them, since it ll be quicker and easier to do that way. **1. How hard is it to get 50% custody of my children in the California Court systems?**...

Marriage: Child Support, child support payments, gross wages
child support payments, gross wages, divorce decree: Hi Tiffany~ I m going to copy and paste your questions here. And I ll put my answers underneath them, this way it s easier for me to reply. **When we marry, can his ex try to increase his payments because of my income?** No, the state can t use...

Marriage: Closure/moving on, slap in the face, lastnight
slap in the face, lastnight, mixed messages: Hi Elizabeth, Well the one truth in what he wrote you is that you deserve better . As to feeling like a slap in the face,I understand.He is basically blaming you for his drinking,partying,and his lack of self esteem.It is all about him hon,you never...

Marriage: Closure/moving on, lastnight, mixed messages
lastnight, mixed messages, personal issues: He is trying to play his cards right, people don t generally leave someone to find themselves, usually they are running to someone else. Stand quietly by, the news will surface. It s hard not to feel hurt by all this, but remember it isn t something you...

Marriage: Closure/moving on, consquences, mixed messages
consquences, mixed messages, personal issues: Hi Elizabeth~ It could be a bit of both. Whatever you do do not take him back. He s the one that made the decision he wanted out. Now, he s going to have to live with the consquences, and be the one to deal with it. It s better if you cut your losses...

Marriage: Commitment to the Future, couples counseling, mental illness
couples counseling, mental illness, good times: Hi Suzii~ Maybe he s just not the marrying kind. Some ppl are afraid of marriage for some reason. You could ask him why he s not wanting to commit and marry you. I don t know that he d answer you honestly though. The only other option I could suggest...

Marriage: Common Law, purchase health insurance, health insurance provider
purchase health insurance, health insurance provider, health insurance company: Dear Melinda, The type of coverage matters. Some companies purchase health insurance that inlcudes domestic partners . If you are not married, and the company he works for covers domestic partners, then you simply have to obtain domestic partnership ...

Marriage: Communication problems, heart to heart talk, marriage communication
heart to heart talk, marriage communication, having a bad day: Hi Karin~ Just b/c he s having a bad day at work, or whatever doesn t give him the right to take it out on you. He needs to realize this and quick before it ruins the marriage. Communication is key in any relationship or marriage w/o it you don t have...

Marriage: Compromise or Asking Too Much?, aceptance, good face
aceptance, good face, siss: Hello, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. First it is very difficult to reply to your question because there are many cultural differences between our countries. The advice that I would give to...

Marriage: Computer addicted husband, video game system, playing video games
video game system, playing video games, crafty things: Hello Julia: This situation is a classic case of needing a compromise. I don t think it would be healthy for the relationship for you to insist he give up everything on the computer. On the other hand, he must understand how his obsession is impacting...

Marriage: Confused, kidney transplant, game on tv
kidney transplant, game on tv, good mood: Dear Mayra, Know that you are not alone, many couples find themselves in similar situations- where even the most trival things get blown way out of proportion. Perhaps speaking with a counselor, on your own, will help you find the strength to speak...

Marriage: Continue or not?, independantly, collage
independantly, collage, half years: Ziyaad, Marriage is something not to be entered into lightly. I am glad that you have found the girl for you in this world that is hard to do. People so often rush into marriage and it sounds like you have thought this through. If you want to experience...

Marriage: Contolling In-laws, second thoughts, rita
second thoughts, rita, excuse: Hello Tammy, I wonder if it is his parents or not.If he really loves you, why would he be ready to call it off? You need to talk to him about this and get the low down on what is actually happening.Is he having second thoughts?Maybe he is using them...

Marriage: Court ordered anger management, anger management classes, case senario
anger management classes, case senario, leagally: Hi Laura~ It s VERY important that you don t back down and drop the charges. Do NOT do that! If you do then he ll know he can to this again and get away with it. What if he did happen to hit one of the children in a fit of rage? Even though he s never...

Marriage: Credit cards, credit card purchases, credit card debt
credit card purchases, credit card debt, exact answer: Dear Gail, Generally, if the credit card is under both his and her name then he is just as responsible. It is usually recommended that he cancel the card and obtain a new one under his name to start building his own credit. If they do have the same...

Marriage: why cant i love him?, oppourtunities, decent job
oppourtunities, decent job, honest person: Hi Siedah~ You are two totally different ppl to begin with. If you weren t that attracted to him or in love with him when you met and married him,then what s to say you would grow to love him? You probably feel that you are too young to be married and...

Marriage: How much to care?, dear mr, females
dear mr, females, good luck: Dear Tarhini, First))) All females are different, May be it s because your wife loves you as she doesn t want any problem to come in between, and she thinks talking about problem is creating more problem so she is taking other route. Second))))))) talk...

Marriage: Will he ever change?, pornography issue, going to las vegas
pornography issue, going to las vegas, one of the girls: Hi Jessica: Thank you for sharing your pain with me. I would like to give you two responses if I may - good and bad. Bad first. At the ages the two of you are, given all you have faced already, and reading your story using the words like hatred -...

Marriage: cheating, necessary evil, three kids
necessary evil, three kids, 7 months: Hi Mika~ You have two options here. A) You can put up with it and continue to stay with him. Or B) You decide that you re not going to sit back and put up with his cheating ways. I can totally understand that you re hesitant b/c you don t have family...

Marriage: cheating bf, marriage, girls
marriage, girls: Amanda, This may seem simple, but think about this. If he is cheating on you before marriage then he will do it after you get married. He is trying to have his cake and eat it to. He will continue to cheat because he thinks that you are fine with it and...

Marriage: cheating, marriage minister, counselor
marriage minister, counselor, rita: Hello Just, Why is he still talking to her on the phone?Inform him that after almost after 20 years of marriage it s time to come clean.If he cheated,it s in the past.But he needs to quit talking to her.If he won t, time for a counselor to see what is going...

Marriage: back child support, child support arrears, income tax refunds
child support arrears, income tax refunds, prenup: Hi Rachel~ Maybe marrying him really isn t such a good idea. If he s not able to pay child support, then what will he do if you ever had children together and you unfortunately divorced him (it happens all the time in 50% of marriages). You have to take...

Marriage: child support and re-marrying, child support, wages
child support, wages, new husband: Hi Steven~ No, her new husband s wages have absolutely nothing to do with your children. He s not legally responsible to provide for your children. The court can base the amount of child support based on your income alone, or even your ex-wife s if the...

Marriage: having children, having children, responsiblity
having children, responsiblity, married woman: Hi Jackie~ Some ppl just don t want children, and that s perfectly fine. But for me I just couldn t see my life w/o them. Who s going to take care of me when I m old and gray and can t do things for myself? I d like to think that my children would be...

Marriage: Which one do I choose?, stable job, beautiful souls
stable job, beautiful souls, cross neclace: Hi Sandra~ If you feel like you are being pressured too much, then perhaps you should take a break from both of them. Tell them that you need time to think things over. This way you can get a break from both of them, and think for yourself which one would...

Marriage: Where is the common ground, on the decision about another child?, family finances, rest of our lives
family finances, rest of our lives, third child: Hi Dirk~ Maybe you could compromise with a certain time period. To say where you can get the family finances in order. Then you can seriously begin to discuss the option of having another child. Don t rule it out just yet. But tell her that you need...

Marriage: common law marrige, common law marriage, clerk of the court
common law marriage, clerk of the court, civil court: Hi Kathryn~ Common law marriage isn t a legal and binding marriage. In fact, currently only 11 states even recognize it. You d have to ask someone that knows the law, and see if it even applies in your state. You can find out by going to the circuit...

Marriage: communication issue, having dreams, communication issue
having dreams, communication issue, true feelings: Hi Crystal~ Wow! I bet that was very shocking, yet very flattering all at the same time! How did you respond to the friend when he said this? Has it changed the relationship, and how you feel around his friend? I most definitely think that you should...

Marriage: community property, divorce web, divorce laws
divorce web, divorce laws, current value: Hi Tina~ Divorce laws will vary from state to state. If you had the home prior to marriage he s not entitled to the home. However, he is entitled to 50% of what you incurred during the marriage. That s anything that is marital property (which is also...

Marriage: Too much computer time, good reply, harsh statement
good reply, harsh statement, playing my game: Greg, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Well, Greg, first thing I have to do is confess...I can really understand where you coming from since I spend about 50 hours a week online myself! Believe...

Marriage: Should I be concerned -- Paranoia ????, jekyl hyde, hyde personality
jekyl hyde, hyde personality, psychiatric medication: Hi James~ Yes, you really ought to be concerned by her strange behavior. It s a very serious matter when a person report things as abuse, etc to the police. When the accusations are false and w/o proof that anything has happened. Mental illness can...

Marriage: concerned about relationship, steady employment, mid ohio
steady employment, mid ohio, twin boys: Dear Kay, One approach may be to tell him that while you appreciate his willingness to please and for him to SAY the things he knows you want to hear, that instead he try saying what he thinks. Let him know that you value his opinion and that your marriage...

Marriage: confused and scared, pre marital counseling, marriage ceremony
pre marital counseling, marriage ceremony, doing the right thing: Steve, Noticing other girls is normal. The important thing is you do not act on it. I know how it feels to wonder. I was married at 17 and I have made it almost 20 years and I have had those times that I looked. The lusting after another woman is bad but...

Marriage: confused, aseam, words of encouragement
aseam, words of encouragement, desision: Dear Zuess Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. Your letter is not suprising to me as I get letters similar to this on a regular basis. Your situation is more common that you might realize. I am...

Marriage: How to convince my parents, grave problems, freedom of choice
grave problems, freedom of choice, loving one: Hi Silpa, You may have some difficulty finding answers to your question because in North America, we do not subscribe to arranged marriages or anything that disallows freedom of choice like you do in India. Anyone saying that they will kill someone else...

Marriage: coping to live with in-laws, strange living, unreasonable request
strange living, unreasonable request, taking sides: Well you entered into an arrangement you knew fromt he beginning wasn t right, there is no perfect apartment. The sooner you extricate yourselves from this the better. From the parents point, I m sure you ve over stayed your welcome, they just won t say...

Marriage: counsling, marriage counsling, marriage counseling
marriage counsling, marriage counseling, deeper understanding: Dear Tony, Thank you for contacting allexperts.com. I hope that I can assist you with your question. While it is true, that often couples seek marriage counseling when there is a disagreement or problems in the marriage, it is not always necessarily...