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Molestation: Boyfriend was molested by older brother, little brother, exact same thing
little brother, exact same thing, classmate: I too know what it feels like to have gone through sexual abuse, although I m not sure if that s what really happened to me. Years ago, a classmate of mine forced me into his room, forced me to drop my pants, then he took a mini-plastic cone and stuck it...

Molestation: Boyfriend molesting my brother?, obscure question, occations
obscure question, occations, little brother: Itís not paranoid if you have a legitimate reason for worry. It sounds like you may; itís hard to say for certain though. You certainly have a tremendous responsibility on you, raising your brother and all that you two have gone through. I think itís reasonable...

Molestation: Brothers, sexual assault issues, legal offense
sexual assault issues, legal offense, law inforcement: Well, I can t help you on legal questions like that. I am not a lawyer or a law inforcement authority. Try www.rainn.org and see if there are some answers for you. Laws vary from state to state, so what may be considered a legal offense in one place may not...

Molestation: my baby girl, welfare services, legal options
welfare services, legal options, eft: Jullian, Your mother s instincts could be right, but have her checked by a pediatrician or your doctor for any signs of being abused. Go to www.rainn.org for legal options and more information about sexual abuse. They have local hotlines where you can call...

Molestation: my best friend, journal writing, 5 months
journal writing, 5 months, 8 years: Hello Dianne, I canít believe she has known you for 20 years and never talked to you about what happened. She sounds like one of those people who really tried to just ignore things and forget. Thatís too bad. Your friend has to want to help herself first....

Molestation: my bestfriend betrayed me, talking to the police, baby sis
talking to the police, baby sis, xactly: Stephon, Your sister needs to report this man for what he did to her. Talk to her and reassure her that you will be there for her at every step. Dont try to put words into her mouth, let her talk about it how it happened, and what did happen. I realise...

Molestation: Whose to blame, kids playground, parents family
kids playground, parents family, pointing the finger: Pam, I am not sure pointing the finger of blame is the best way to resolve this. You need to understand that no matter who was to blame, that person was most certainly not you. Looking to blame will not make what happened go away. It is clear you have...

Molestation: body memory, reminder notices, body memory
reminder notices, body memory, persistent application: Kathy, if you haven t had some real healing of this trauma, then your body will retain the memory of what has happened and often will serve up reminder notices that you need to pay attention to this unresolved issue. Sexual abuse of children has insideous...

Molestation: My boyfriend was molested by his mother, inappropriate relationship, converstaion
inappropriate relationship, converstaion, thoughts and feelings: Cindy, If your boyfriend has told you this information then he clearly trusts you with something that he has kept a secret. Allow him the time to open up fully and tell you his thoughts and feelings. Remind him that you are always there if he needs to talk....

Molestation: brother incest, brother incest, health groups
brother incest, health groups, back of my mind: Lisagi, If this has bothered you for this long it s possible that it was the event that lead to you not feeling so comfortable about men. (I assume that s what you mean by screwed up ) It probably felt like you were violated in some way to have him...

Molestation: brother molesting little brother, little brother, sexual offense
little brother, sexual offense, serious trouble: your older son shouldn t be doing this, it s molestation. Most of all, it s a sexual offense. If he is older, he could get into serious trouble. He needs to become aware of this and that what he s doing is wrong. If you found out about it, then you know that...

Molestation: brutal.., school counselor, health groups
school counselor, health groups, cousins: Hi there Lyndsey, What happened to you is called molestation. I m sorry to hear that it happened to you. Just please remember that you are not alone. When something like this happened to me I didn t tell anyone for years afterwards. You were pretty brave...

Molestation: Cant Remember & Dont know Whats Wrong, peaceful feeling, loss of interest
peaceful feeling, loss of interest, panic attacks: Kelly, I know that here is a general feeling that you MUST remember events from the past, before you can heal them. Fortunately, using healing techniques like EFT (www.emofree.com) you can work on the symptoms, which often will lead back to either a feeling...

Molestation: CHILD MOLESTATION, legal standpoint, sexual maturity
legal standpoint, sexual maturity, change phase: Maryann, have mom check the www.rainn.org site for more information on sexual assault. A 12 year old is just coming into their sexual change phase and it is very doubtful that he created his molestation voluntarily. Parents are often very uneasy about...

Molestation: Charges?, pressing charges, statue of limitations
pressing charges, statue of limitations, emotional side: You would have to speak with an attorney about this. The police most likely wouldn t be of any help either, or they may give you wrong advice. You need to know if its even something that could pan out, if theres a statue of limitations in your state/country....

Molestation: Child Molestation, child molestation, sexual feelings
child molestation, sexual feelings, sexual excitement: Jen, take some time to look through the information on this website: http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm In the bigger picture, your sister was at a higher state of sexual awareness than you were and she was using you to evoke and stimulate a...

Molestation: Child Molestation, training bras, adult theme
training bras, adult theme, explicit sex: if your father touched you sexually in any way, it s molestation. If he had sex with you, that s incest. I remember being molested by a classmate of mine when I was sixteen. I talked to someone about it for help and it was very emotionally depressing for...

Molestation: Child Molested, self help books, child molested
self help books, child molested, dear christine: Suz, Having sexual desires for the same sex is not uncommon, it also does not mean it is a direct emotion from the rape you suffered. You need to address the rape, and try to work through the emotions that you feel about it. It would be really useful to...

Molestation: Concerned mother, garden ornaments, plant pot
garden ornaments, plant pot, day care center: Danni, When she claimed the bee stung her in her arm did you ever find out what it was? I really would try not to worry about this. Children do have extremely active imaginations. Does her nursery have a picture of a bee? Maybe they have a fake one...

Molestation: Confused, creadit cards, wonderful father
creadit cards, wonderful father, peice: Melisa, Not knowing all the parties involved, I can only venture some suggestions about mom s personality traits... http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_know_if_someone_is_a_sociopath Might be a place to start in the evaluation of your mentioned behaviors....

Molestation: Confused, oh goodness, child sexual abuse
oh goodness, child sexual abuse, extreme level: Oh goodness no! It doesnít matter if you were 18 or 40, abuse is abuse. It doesnít get any easier as you get older. Well, perhaps, but I canít say that truly. You canít say it was more or less worse then someone else. All experiences are relative to the...

Molestation: Coping with molestation., impressionable age, traumatic incidents
impressionable age, traumatic incidents, loving relationship: Kathleen, As you well know, traumatic incidents and comments from the past can lodge in your mind, especially when you are at a young and impressionable age. You are not alone out there in the world of molested children, as your symptoms and feelings are almost...

Molestation: My Cousin, great feelings, mood swings
great feelings, mood swings, delima: Sarah, at your ages, the two of you are just still continuing to mature and grow, emotionally, physically and mentally. Understanding and personal growth are characteristics that take time and experience, which you cannot rush into. It comes with maturity...

Molestation: My Cousin, hotel pool, fiancee
hotel pool, fiancee, target: Well, Sarah... I have lots of thoughts about your situation in the moment. 1. Have a VERY LONG engagement, if you are planning to get married. Given your current situation and background, going into a marriage now would be a disaster, most likely. There...

Molestation: Crawling in my skin, fairy tail, wonderfull man
fairy tail, wonderfull man, crawling in my skin: That is absolutely awful you were abused by your brother in law and your family has done nothing. Is your sister still married to him? Do they believe you? Getting over what happened would be a nice fairy tail but not a very realistic one. It s not just...

Molestation: child abuse commited by a child, body awareness, boys and girls
body awareness, boys and girls, commited: Ana, please go to this website, which may help you understand that children have a great body awareness and curiosity about the differences between boys and girls and it is not child abuse or molestation, etc.... http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm...

Molestation: child molestation, poor self image, child molestation
poor self image, child molestation, lack of concentration: There is no simple answer to this question as to why adults molest children. Studies have shown that 80% of sexual offenders were sexually abused or exposed to sexual abuse as children. That is NOT to say that everyone who has been abused becomes an abuser,...

Molestation: child molestation, chat romms, molester
chat romms, molester, fiancee: I donít know that you ever know when to. Can you confirm it with the other child? I would go speak with an attorney and get legal advice. The police are not always the most helpful or knowledgeable of these things. An attorney would be your best course...

Molestation: child molestation, psych ward, stepdad
psych ward, stepdad, eft: Christie, I am not a lawyer and don t know the laws of your state, anyway. You have to report this to the authorities and/or check the www.rainn.org site for details about getting that kind of information and support. In some states, there is no statute of...

Molestation: child molestation, casey lee, indictable offence
casey lee, indictable offence, types of crimes: Hi Casey-Lee Thanks for your question, it s no trouble at all. Honestly, I do not see any good coming out of involving legal authorities in this matter, simply because without physical evidence it would become a war of words and the negative outcomes...

Molestation: child molestation, cabbage patch baby, doctor checks
cabbage patch baby, doctor checks, barbie doll: Please keep in mind that Iím not a professional and thee are only my *opinions* on the matter. Itís wonderful that youíre asking and making the attempt to keep your daughter safe. I wouldnít be able to tell you for sure if something is happening with your...

Molestation: child molestation questions, child therapist, private places
child therapist, private places, best bet: All you are doing is trying to protect your child and educate him. I think you have done the right thing. Your son will most likely be fine, he has taken control and stood up for what is right and what you taught him to do. Both of you have done well. ...

Molestation: child molestation, recipe section, sexual offenders
recipe section, sexual offenders, child molester: Michael.... this is a difficult question that has many, many components. I would refer you to http://www.rainn.org/ for more detailed information on sexual abuse. Usually sexual offenders have been assaulted in their childhoods. We specialize it de-traumatizing...

Molestation: a child could be in trouble, kids birthday parties, necessary investigations
kids birthday parties, necessary investigations, local authorities: Tee, Im very sorry, I have no internet connection at home due to a technical fsult and therefore have not been able to access this site to answer any of my questions. If you suspect that a child is being molested you can report it to your local authorities,...

Molestation: childhood abuse, left brain, definitive studies
left brain, definitive studies, childhood abuse: Veronica, I believe we addressed this earlier on a previous question, a few days ago. We don t know of any definitive studies or answers for those questions. The left brain is the logical part of your brain that would rather be right than happy. This...

Molestation: childhood molestation, sexual abuse issues, traumatic stress disorder
sexual abuse issues, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress: Sandi, for years people used to think that you just need to get over it and move on. It DOESN T work like that. It is a trauma and the resultant feelings and memories are PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) symptoms. Sexual trauma leaves deep roots...

Molestation: confused, treatment of child abuse, dark stage
treatment of child abuse, dark stage, bff: Sarah, After replying to you I found my copy of the book. It is Breaking Free, and is by Carolyn Ainscough and Kay Toon. I found it really useful, but you have to be willing to explore deep emotions and focus back to points in your life you d rather...

Molestation: My cousin, online support groups, sexual violence
online support groups, sexual violence, abuse issues: I am SO sorry it took this long to answer. I answered it the day I got it and I guess it never went through! What happened to you is called molestation. I m sorry to hear that it happened to you. Just please remember that you are not alone. It was not...

Molestation: crushes, penfriends, age groups
penfriends, age groups, new friends: Anita, I m not sure how your question relates to this topic, but you can search the web for all kinds of penpal groups.... Start with this one, which I just found. http://www.zen.org/~brendan/kids-pen.html Good luck on your search for new friends. Be...

Molestation: DDNOS and DID (differences explained), ego states, ego state
ego states, ego state, ddnos: Julie, you posed a challenging question for me as we really don t deal in psychiatric diagnosis with what we do here, in assisting people with emotional issues. I found some links on the WEB that might help you with some aspects of your question. http://www.sidran.org/didbr.html...

Molestation: How to Deal, racial identity, loving mother
racial identity, loving mother, virginity: Jennifer, Sexual molestation can be carried out by a woman as much as it can a man. What your cousin did was extremely wrong, and it was inappropriate. I do not think you are being a cry baby and this past is clearly effecting you in the here and now...

Molestation: DOESNT HELP!, rough time, little kid
rough time, little kid, helping others: I m sorry too, I see now why the other people here were unable to help you. You need far more help than anyone here can give you and I hope you get help soon. Nowhere did I state anything religious, nowhere did I proselytize, nowhere did I use the term faggot...

Molestation: Dont know what to do, rough couple, childhood friends
rough couple, childhood friends, little sisters: Natalie, it is so sad to hear about children being molested and abused, especially by family members/parents. As far as any legal action to be taken or possible, it depends on the laws of your state. Go to the www.rainn.org site and get some guidance from...

Molestation: Doubts about molestation, sense of doubt, emotional maturity
sense of doubt, emotional maturity, dim memory: El, there is not much reason to have this dim memory or feeling, unless there is some basis of fact behind it. Young childhood memories are easily distorted, due to a lack of mental/emotional maturity at that age. Your mind/body knows the answers, but they...

Molestation: My daughter, anti depressants, police dept
anti depressants, police dept, extra curricular activities: Yes what happened to your daughter is abuse. As far as pressing charges its the same here. It would have to be her choice and this can be a very ugly and diffcult process that may not come out well in the end. I would suggest talking to an attorney about...

Molestation: My daughter has been abused by her step dad, army mission, step dad
army mission, step dad, great relationship: J, My heart is going out to you it really is. You are doing the right thing in putting your daughter first. As far as your son, my opinion is that he doesnt need to know anything as to why, he is too young to comprehend it. Will you be allowing his...

Molestation: daughter admitting her father "touched" her, genitals, counselor
genitals, counselor, grandpa: I m not sure if the rocking would be a sign but it could be. Children behave strangely under stress. - If you re looking back and blaming yourself for not seeing any signs or knowing sooner, stop it. Abusers are manipulative very covert. Its possible for a...

Molestation: daughter &cousin, innocent kind, step dad
innocent kind, step dad, criminal investigation: Duncan, I would talk to your daughter and find out what she say s has happened. If an allegation has been made, it is likely to result in a criminal investigation, and therefore the law would establish the truth from your daughter. If nothing inappropriate...

Molestation: My daughter inappropriately touched by her half brother, socail services, sexual safety
socail services, sexual safety, sexual questions: Cheryl, Although danger isnt the word I had firstly used, yes something does need to be done with regards to this boy. I would make contact with social services and asked them how best your should approach this situation. Explain how he has already...

Molestation: Was my daughter molested??, playful relationship, inappropriate touch
playful relationship, inappropriate touch, 2 girls: Patricia, Im concerned as to why you would suspect your brother because of the playful relationship he clearly shared with her. My brother dotes on my child, has him over at his house, plays, tickles, bathes and tucks him up in bed. I have no concern...

Molestation: My daughter was molested by her step-father, reconcilliation, emotional support
reconcilliation, emotional support, eachother: Anastasia, I cant imagine how this must be for you and your family. As you will appreciate I cant tell you what to do with reference to your husband, only you and your family can decide. I notice your daughters main concern with reporting this to the...

Molestation: My daughter was molested, emotional rollercoster, sexual feelings
emotional rollercoster, sexual feelings, emotional wreck: H, I am sorry to hear of this sad experience for you and your daughter(s). These are trying experiences in life, but handled properly, can be a springboard for a new sense of family support and learning/growing together, so you can all help support each other...

Molestation: About my daughter, psychological help, stepdad
psychological help, stepdad, dissapointment: Hi Kelly. I do not think that you are overreacting at all. I do want to say that yes, some of your daughter s reaction may be just from yours. but, she s to young to understand this right now, and she likley will find ways of coping with it, and later in...

Molestation: ddnos, ddnos, personality states
ddnos, personality states, coercive persuasion: http://www.angelfire.com/psy/amanda/ddnos2.html DDNOS/Dissociative Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified Dissociative Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (DDNOS) is an inclusive category for classifying dissociative syndromes that do not meet the full criteria...

Molestation: is there a deadline when to tell police, solid answers, states in the usa
solid answers, states in the usa, statue of limitations: The law in regards to abuse I believe may vary a bit state to state, and country. You would have to check with your local law enforcement or an attorney (may be better) in your area to find out what the regulations are in your area. I think some have...

Molestation: how do i deal, step dad, sister jen
step dad, sister jen, keyworker: Sadie, I am from the UK, and although I am not familiar with the American care system, I am going to hope it is similar to that we have over here. Have you got a social worker (or keyworker)? If so are they aware of how you are feeling about your mom? ...

Molestation: in denial, girlfiend, charlene
girlfiend, charlene, counselor: Hi Abebi. Well, I can t really say that it s not okay to walk around in front of your children naked, because people all have different beliefs. I would say it s not necessarily normal. If your mother never touched you inappropriately or anything, though,...

Molestation: I don't know what to do, bottom of my heart, private areas
bottom of my heart, private areas, matter of minutes: It hard to say but I would be really suspecious. Unless its some culutral difference I wouldn t think it was innocent. The fact of him having her get undressed and in bed with him is odd. What if she had taken off her underwear? Then to say he likes the...

Molestation: I don't know what to do..., stepdad, christmas shopping
stepdad, christmas shopping, panies: I m not a professional and I m not familiar with the laws regarding this sort of thing but I ll answer you to the best of my ability. Whether it will do any good or not to report this - by not reporting it you re liable to be charged with child abuse yourself....

Molestation: I don't know what to think, pee pee, behavior change
pee pee, behavior change, doctor visit: Itís certainly possible sheís been abused. At that age the touching herself is not necessarily unusual, perhaps the amount she does it but in the end they are curious. As well their imagination gets very active and they do get scared of the dark. Some of...

Molestation: don't know what it is, sexual trauma, supportive boyfriend
sexual trauma, supportive boyfriend, intimate situations: Hi Chris. Sorry it took so long to get back to you, but I was away over the weekend. It is definitely possible that abuse during childhood can cause the things you mentioned. One of the most difficult things for people to deal with is intimacy later in life....

Molestation: I don't remember, but I think I might have been molested as a child!, sex before marriage, childhood memory
sex before marriage, childhood memory, dry humping: Hello Mandy, I canít say if you were or were not molested. I can only say what it appears the answer may be from what you have said. I do find it odd that you were discussing sex at such a young age. There is no real reason for you to have knowledge of...

Molestation: Exaggerating Problems due to molestation, knownledge, freshman year
knownledge, freshman year, wrestling games: Hello Kitty, Wow, that was a lot of information! I couldnít pick out a question though so I am just going to make some comments. I think you may just need to change counselors. Are you ready for counseling? Do you really want help? Not letting go of...

Molestation: educational video, educational video, 11 years
educational video, 11 years, alex: I m sorry but I really don t know of anything age appropraite. You could do some searches but I would think the best would just be to talk to the child and explain it to them. It seems if you are in a position to show them that content I would think you...

Molestation: FALSE CLAIMS OF MOLESTATION, police detective, cigarets
police detective, cigarets, stable family: Riaan, these are tough situations and sometimes children are just willful about having their life experience in their own way, learning from the school of hard knocks until the finally get it, end up with a miserable life or die young. If she is over...

Molestation: False Accusation of Molestation, false accusation, deceased sister
false accusation, deceased sister, step explanation: Stephen, these are, of course, most difficult situations to deal with. Your sister could be suffering from some kind of mental illness or perhaps she was molested by someone else way earlier in her life and is confusing the facts as she has gotten older. ...

Molestation: My Family Doesn't Belive Me, lack of evidence, traumatic event
lack of evidence, traumatic event, eft: Amy, how sad that your family isn t behind you, in your need to heal this traumatic event in your life. Often, when there is no response or a negative one blaming you, then the situation has hit a button for them, which they don t want to admit or deal with....

Molestation: Was It My Fault????, early adulthood, scary situation
early adulthood, scary situation, whole time: I am guessing either this question has come from guilt you feel or ignorance of someone else saying this to you. It absolutely wasn t your fault. You were a child and granted so was he but you should be able to go over if you want and visit. Its unfortunate...

Molestation: Flashbacks, daycare, intimate relationships
daycare, intimate relationships, conventional therapy: Aly, I am a little confused about your timeline and those involved. If you were at daycare, I would think that other kids would be about the same age, which would be 2-5, perhaps. Given that scenario, I don t think that other 2-5 year old boys would be sexually...

Molestation: Forced Incest between Brothers, bad memories, male teacher
bad memories, male teacher, sexual acts: Sarah, your concerns are genuine both for twins living apart and that they were molested and not given treatment afterwards. Apparently the family lacks understanding of the dynamics of the situation and is ashamed or ill-equipped to deal with the reality...

Molestation: Forced Incest upon Brothers, parents and grandparents, bad memories
parents and grandparents, bad memories, sexual practices: Hello Sarah, that is very sad what has happened to your brothers. Whats more sad is the way your family has dealt with it! I can t belive they are/have let them just go on as normal apart. Its not their fault but in some way it seems like it is, or thats...

Molestation: Former Abuser, family gatherings, mom dad
family gatherings, mom dad, family mom: Albert, I have read this with a lot of thought and emotion. What you are going through must be so difficult. I can not guide you on what you should do now. This has to be a choice for yourself, one that you can live with, not one that you think should...

Molestation: Friend was abused...., psychologist psychotherapist, hard liquor
psychologist psychotherapist, hard liquor, abusive relationship: Hey Anna, I hate to say it but my first reaction is to tell you to run. You have only been dating for 10 days and maybe close to 2 weeks up on receipt of this letter. That s not long. Based on what you have said about him he is not looking for any help...

Molestation: Friend was abused...., psychologist psychotherapist, hard liquor
psychologist psychotherapist, hard liquor, abusive relationship: Anna, You do have a potentially serious situation at hand with someone who is focused on alcohol and sex for gratification purposes. If he was molested as a young child, then that may well have caused him to go into this current condition. Guilt and shame...

Molestation: Friend was abused...., psychologist psychotherapist, hard liquor
psychologist psychotherapist, hard liquor, abusive relationship: Hey Anna, Thank you for writing to me. Yes your friend does have some issues relating to the abuse he suffered. His constant references and seemed addiction to pornography are a testament that he has issues to deal with. Just know you will not be able...

Molestation: Friend's daughter makes claims against friend's son., rehab place, allegation against
rehab place, allegation against, poor behaviour: Patty, even if your son did do anything like that to her, it isn t/wasn t a crime and is part of the childhood development stages we all go through. Take time to read this link below thoroughly. http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm Part of...

Molestation: 2 year old - daycare molestation?, accusations, cousin
Molestation: 2 year old - daycare molestation?, accusations, cousin, stat

Molestation: could my 2 year old son have been molested?, gestures, instincts
Molestation: could my 2 year old son have been molested?, gestures, instincts, spirit

Molestation: She is 23, still being sexually abused, rape incest, assault and battery
Molestation: She is 23, still being sexually abused, rape incest, assault and battery, sexual abuse

Molestation: 4 Year Story about a Stranger, years of my life, 6 years
Molestation: 4 Year Story about a Stranger, years of my life, 6 years

Molestation: My 8 year old molested his 4 year old brother, professional experience, oral sex
Molestation: My 8 year old molested his 4 year old brother, professional experience, oral sex, heck

Molestation: Boyfriend molesting my brother?, alex, brother
Molestation: Boyfriend molesting my brother?, alex, brother, good relationship

Molestation: body memory, borderline personality disorder, music therapy
Molestation: body memory, borderline personality disorder, music therapy, flashbacks

Molestation: My boyfriend was molested by his mother, good intentions, kudos
Molestation: My boyfriend was molested by his mother, good intentions, kudos, boundaries

Molestation: brother molesting little brother, abusive behaviors, burlingame
Molestation: brother molesting little brother, abusive behaviors, burlingame, psychologists

Molestation: Charges?, law states, sexual abuse
Molestation: Charges?, law states, sexual abuse, age 18

Molestation: Child Molestation, terrible nightmares, sleeping pills
Molestation: Child Molestation, terrible nightmares, sleeping pills, behavour

Molestation: Child Molested, same sex attraction, sexual addiction
Molestation: Child Molested, same sex attraction, sexual addiction, living waters

Molestation: child abuse commited by a child, fondling, curiosity
Molestation: child abuse commited by a child, fondling, curiosity

Molestation: child molestation
Molestation: child molestation

Molestation: child molestation, desire, suicide
Molestation: child molestation, desire, suicide

Molestation: DDNOS and DID (differences explained), core personality, ego state
Molestation: DDNOS and DID (differences explained), core personality, ego state, dissociation

Molestation: How to Deal, female cousin, first cousin
Molestation: How to Deal, female cousin, first cousin, nightgown

Molestation: My daughter, district attorney office, talk to your daughter
Molestation: My daughter, district attorney office, talk to your daughter, instinct

Molestation: My daughter has been abused by her step dad, awile, wonderful mother
Molestation: My daughter has been abused by her step dad, awile, wonderful mother, occured

Molestation: My daughter was molested by her step-father, little angel, foster daughter
Molestation: My daughter was molested by her step-father, little angel, foster daughter, selfish needs

Molestation: I don't know what to do..., daghter, privit
Molestation: I don't know what to do..., daghter, privit, child porn

Molestation: Forced Incest upon Brothers, family therapist, twin boys
Molestation: Forced Incest upon Brothers, family therapist, twin boys, two boys

Molestation: Friend's daughter makes claims against friend's son., painful memories, emotional issues
Molestation: Friend's daughter makes claims against friend's son., painful memories, emotional issues, mom

Molestation: family still associates with molester, daycare, familly
Molestation: family still associates with molester, daycare, familly, manipulators

Molestation: My father doing stuff to my sister, proof god, horrible secret
Molestation: My father doing stuff to my sister, proof god, horrible secret, courage

Molestation: fingers in vagina, foster mother, adoptive mother
Molestation: fingers in vagina, foster mother, adoptive mother, tampons

Molestation: Having flashbacks, wonderful person, good luck
Molestation: Having flashbacks, wonderful person, good luck, time of need

Molestation: how to forget, thearpy, step brother
Molestation: how to forget, thearpy, step brother, embarrasment

Molestation: Help...., date rape drug, power of the subconscious mind
Molestation: Help...., date rape drug, power of the subconscious mind, sleep at night

Molestation: Helping your child deal with molestation, buetiful, time god
Molestation: Helping your child deal with molestation, buetiful, time god, niece

Molestation: homosexual male molesting a girl?, little kid, sexual abuse
Molestation: homosexual male molesting a girl?, little kid, sexual abuse, little girl

Molestation: Did my husband know what he was doing?, logical progression
Molestation: Did my husband know what he was doing?, logical progression

Molestation: How do I get my husband to understand?
Molestation: How do I get my husband to understand?

Molestation: incest /older brother, personal saviour, beautifull woman
Molestation: incest /older brother, personal saviour, beautifull woman, sister leah

Molestation: infant molestation, terrible twos, certian
Molestation: infant molestation, terrible twos, certian, caretaker

Molestation: How do I know if my child was "hurt", subconcious mind, unfortunate children
Molestation: How do I know if my child was "hurt", subconcious mind, unfortunate children, precious one

Molestation: Learning to Deal..., parner, arent
Molestation: Learning to Deal..., parner, arent, wedding day

Molestation: In love with a sexual abuse victim, anger and hate, feelings
Molestation: In love with a sexual abuse victim, anger and hate, feelings

Molestation: MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER, sleeping dogs, childhood memories
Molestation: MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER, sleeping dogs, childhood memories, happy family

Molestation: I was Molestated, god
Molestation: I was Molestated, god

Molestation: Molestation, poor daughter, victom
Molestation: Molestation, poor daughter, victom, denial

Molestation: Molestation by our mother?, repressed memories, hell
Molestation: Molestation by our mother?, repressed memories, hell

Molestation: Molestation and other abuse, black snake moan, damn girl
Molestation: Molestation and other abuse, black snake moan, damn girl, better person

Molestation: Molested by multiple people do they know? can they tell I'd been previously molested??, basket cases, weird reason
Molestation: Molested by multiple people do they know? can they tell I'd been previously molested??, basket cases, weird reason, john hagee

Molestation: Molested at a very young age., 35 years, shame
Molestation: Molested at a very young age., 35 years, shame, to tell the truth

Molestation: molestation
Molestation: molestation

Molestation: molestation by family member, getting a divorce, insanity
Molestation: molestation by family member, getting a divorce, insanity, promises

Molestation: molestation, suicide, school guidance counselor, innocent girl
Molestation: molestation, suicide, school guidance counselor, innocent girl, look in his eyes

Molestation: molested at 13, attractive woman, private parts
Molestation: molested at 13, attractive woman, private parts, body image

Molestation: I was molested by my father 12 years ago...., baseball bat
Molestation: I was molested by my father 12 years ago...., baseball bat

Molestation: molested by mother, grandmothers, inner fear, piece of meat
Molestation: molested by mother, grandmothers, inner fear, piece of meat, wits end

Molestation: molestion, lawyer
Molestation: molestion, lawyer

Molestation: I need to help someone cope..., signs of depression, sister in law
Molestation: I need to help someone cope..., signs of depression, sister in law, health department

Molestation: about my niece, little girl, parents
Molestation: about my niece, little girl, parents, love

Molestation: Oh My God!!!, authorities, mom
Molestation: Oh My God!!!, authorities, mom

Molestation: Please help!, sibling incest, adult survivor
Molestation: Please help!, sibling incest, adult survivor, red flags

Molestation: Did my pediatrician molest me?, chills, hello friends
Molestation: Did my pediatrician molest me?, chills, hello friends, female physician

Molestation: please help, bood
Molestation: please help, bood

Molestation: please help, lack of sexual desire, lack of interest
Molestation: please help, lack of sexual desire, lack of interest, tragic event

Molestation: Is it possible I've repressed memories of sexual abuse?, cognitive behavioural therapy, emotional freedom technique
Molestation: Is it possible I've repressed memories of sexual abuse?, cognitive behavioural therapy, emotional freedom technique, holocaust survivors

Molestation: Did I possibly sexually abuse my cousin and don't remember?, female cousin, lack of memory
Molestation: Did I possibly sexually abuse my cousin and don't remember?, female cousin, lack of memory, fond memory

Molestation: question., guidance counselor, registered nurse
Molestation: question., guidance counselor, registered nurse

Molestation: question for my baby, yeast infections, two doctors
Molestation: question for my baby, yeast infections, two doctors, time mother

Molestation: Rectal Infection and Molestation, male victim, shame
Molestation: Rectal Infection and Molestation, male victim, shame, benefit

Molestation: Is responding to my dad's touch my faught?, sexual person
Molestation: Is responding to my dad's touch my faught?, sexual person

Molestation: Sick of feeling like this, comparison search engine, discount coupons
Molestation: Sick of feeling like this, comparison search engine, discount coupons, shipping options

Molestation: Spouse of a molested woman, good luck, relationship
Molestation: Spouse of a molested woman, good luck, relationship, allies in healing

Molestation: My Step Father doesn't treat me right, dad, mom
Molestation: My Step Father doesn't treat me right, dad, mom, truth

Molestation: Stuck in a hole .... seems like i am drowing!, one day at a time, day at a time
Molestation: Stuck in a hole .... seems like i am drowing!, one day at a time, day at a time, google

Molestation: What do I say?, county budgets, wise family
Molestation: What do I say?, county budgets, wise family, heart to heart

Molestation: sibling molestation, mom and dad, control gain
Molestation: sibling molestation, mom and dad, control gain, half brother

Molestation: sibling to sibling molesting, stepdaughters, niece
Molestation: sibling to sibling molesting, stepdaughters, niece, signs of molestation

Molestation: What are the signs of child molestation?, pee pee, relationship abuse
Molestation: What are the signs of child molestation?, pee pee, relationship abuse, private area

Molestation: What are the signs of infant molestation?, subject matter, science
Molestation: What are the signs of infant molestation?, subject matter, science, education

Molestation: My son was molested, anl sex, e mail
Molestation: My son was molested, anl sex, e mail, boys and girls

Molestation: How am I supposed to deal with this
Molestation: How am I supposed to deal with this

Molestation: what am i supposed to do?!?, sexual molestation, getting tested for stds
Molestation: what am i supposed to do?!?, sexual molestation, getting tested for stds, countless amounts

Molestation: Twincest, girl in the woods, sister cassandra
Molestation: Twincest, girl in the woods, sister cassandra, incestuous relationships

Molestation: i think i was abused, but i can't remember, sammi, stomach
Molestation: i think i was abused, but i can't remember, sammi, stomach, having an orgasm

Molestation: My three year old niece said she's been touched by her half-brother, cps, molestation
Molestation: My three year old niece said she's been touched by her half-brother, cps, molestation, child advocacy center

Molestation: Wife molested by her stepfather before we met, relation ship, pedophile
Molestation: Wife molested by her stepfather before we met, relation ship, pedophile, molester

Molestation: I wonder if my husband is abusing our son, child pornography, s child
Molestation: I wonder if my husband is abusing our son, child pornography, s child, measurements

Molestation: one of my younger sisters molested the other, survivor
Molestation: one of my younger sisters molested the other, survivor

Molestation: the family afterwards, family functions, timely response
family functions, timely response, 12 steps: JoLee, I am very sorry I do not have any experience with EFT. I do have some experience with person centred therapy, and from the title sounds very similar (although I couldnt say for sure). Any form of therapy can be good, if it is something you want....

Molestation: my family is messed up., sister shannon, corn field
sister shannon, corn field, room id: Megan, You can not keep this secret just to protect your family name, or your parents. Abuse is many things, sexual abuse which is what your dad has carried out, physical abuse which your mother has carried out and emotional abuse which both your parents...

Molestation: family still associates with molester, family functions, friends family
family functions, friends family, acknowledgement: Hello K, That is AWFUL! So the abuser didn t even deny what happened and the family is still acting like it did happen? I don t know what to say. Your friend has every right to be mad with his family. Has he tried talking to them about how he feels...

Molestation: Can my family survive this?, mommy and daddy, finger prints
mommy and daddy, finger prints, bad trouble: Becky.... We are sorry to hear about such drama and trauma happening in your lives. Dealing with an alcoholic parent is challenging because they are such great manipulators. With sex offenses thrown in, they are a ticking time bomb. I know that many of...

Molestation: father convicted, exhusband, 3rd wife
exhusband, 3rd wife, custody battle: I am a bit confused but I think the idea is he molested your daughter, you two had a child, he married again later (2nd) had a son, and now is married a 3rd time with another baby? Wow. He s busy and defiantly sounds like he has some real issues. As far...

Molestation: My father doing stuff to my sister, back rubs, parents room
back rubs, parents room, family fight: Brian, From what you have told me your father is performing inappropriate touches towards your sister, and this has to stop. You need to speak to an adult whom you trust and can confide in, maybe your mother or another family member. It may initially...

Molestation: fear of not believing, reguards, exact age
reguards, exact age, close friends: I can t say how common or uncommon something like this is but it does happen. I think things tend to get a bit fuzzy when you look at the younger ages, espicially in reguards to abuse. You are tryin to forget something so it doesn t lend itself to crystal...

Molestation: feelings, having such a hard time, adva
having such a hard time, adva, impulses: Hi Miguel, I m sorry you re having such a hard time finding someone to help you; and thank you for contacting me. Let s work together and see what we can do. First, you are not ugly, or stupid or a whore, or anything else you feel yourself to be. Obviously...

Molestation: fingers in vagina, using tampons, sexual molestation
using tampons, sexual molestation, legal standpoint: Kay, I think intent is the key difference between sexual molestation for personal reasons and inserting her fingers to determine the status of your sexual maturity (or however you want to word that). Pretty odd action, for sure, and very invasive. Obviously,...

Molestation: Having flashbacks, baseball game, differant
baseball game, differant, sexual relations: Amanda, You don t have to tell your current boyfriend anything, he should respect that you are not ready for sexual relations with him, regardless of what the reason is. I do think you should consider telling someone legally about what happened. The...

Molestation: follow up question, gonna freak, specialised teams
gonna freak, specialised teams, hate 2: Stephon, Yes you can report this. She will however need to give a statement for a conviction. Speak to your local police station and let them help you and help your sister. they will have specialised teams who might be able to talk to your sister and help...

Molestation: follow up to 'scared and confused.', bad eating habits, self confidence
bad eating habits, self confidence, eating disorders: Rebecca, If you dont feel you can tell your parents, maybe print of the questions you have sent me and show them. That will be a foundation to talking to them. Eating disorders can be a result of the abuse, I suffered with eating disorders because...

Molestation: how to forget, fear anxiety, mind and body
fear anxiety, mind and body, miracles: I am no expert in miracles Kris. I wish that I had the power, to help you forget, but I don t. Wishing it away, won t make it disappear. While this may not be what you want to hear. The only way to get through this, is to go through it. It s sort of like...

Molestation: Was this a form of molestation, neighborhood boy, sexual ignorance
neighborhood boy, sexual ignorance, romantic relationship: Well it sounds like you have a lot to sort out in your life right now. What happened with you and the boy was indeed molestation. He certainly knew what he was doing and taking advantage of your youth and sexual ignorance. Sometimes being in situations...

Molestation: I just found out that my daughter..., sexual intercourse, private areas
sexual intercourse, private areas, including family: ANY unwanted touching is molestation. By ANYONE, including family members. Now, get her into counseling as soon as you can; she is, whether she knows it or not, traumatized by this event, and further, she must NEVER be alone with ANY of her cousins again....

Molestation: my friend, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress
traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder: Hi Jordan, Thanks for your question. Your friend is lucky to have someone like you who cares about her. This is unfortunately a very common situation with sexual assault and molestation cases where although there is no statute of limitations meaning...

Molestation: My friend that is 13 years old and her stepfather touches her in bad ways, smile on her face, stepfather
smile on her face, stepfather, asking this question: Nikki, What a fantastic friend you are to this girl, and thank you for asking this question! Sounds like she picked the right friend to confide in. This girl is obviously reaching out for help, by telling you she is releasing some of her burden. ...

Molestation: My friends hands are tied!, child advocacy center, mandatory reporter
child advocacy center, mandatory reporter, physical evidence: Deanna.... She probably needs a good lawyer, but check the www.rainn.org site for possible other options. Given the circumstances, she should petition for custody again or have them referred out to a close relative, if possible. Have the judge vacate the...

Molestation: My Girlfriend, holodays, snow storms
holodays, snow storms, time fashion: You re right that none of this is appropriate or healthy for her. A grandfather should never be acting that way. If she were a child you could report him and have it done with but since she is an adult she will have to make the decisions. The unfortunate...

Molestation: Girlfriend was Molested. How to deal with it?, lack of self esteem, best intentions
lack of self esteem, best intentions, charlene: Hi Hugo. I want to start out by saying how lucky I think your girlfriend is to have such a caring boyfriend. I think it s fine for you to ask your girlfriend about what happened, but just make sure not to push her. It s definitely not easy to talk about, but...

Molestation: Girlfriend was molested. How to deal with it, relashionships, deeper sense
relashionships, deeper sense, trust issue: Hugo, This is a process of learning to feel safe again. be patient, she ll get there. it took time for her to be able to look you in the eye, she has. when people are molested, remember it s a trust issue, and that trust was broken, and their bodies were...

Molestation: Girlfriend molested. How to deal with it, relashionships, molestation
relashionships, molestation, family member: HI Hugo. I am glad that your girlgriend has a very caring boyfriend who wants to help her. She is one step ahead of the gang already. You said you wish you could make them go away. I assume you meant the memories. I can tell you that that won t go away, not...

Molestation: Girls more likely to be molested why camping?, innocent girls, left brain
innocent girls, left brain, nakedness: Lindsey, I am saddened to hear that you have been molested by your father in this way and the circumstances around camping. Your left brain (which is logical and would rather be right than make you happy) has made the connection that it isn t safe to go...

Molestation: Grandfather molested daughter?, antidepressents, antidepressants
antidepressents, antidepressants, closure: Steve, I wouldnt make excuses for your daughter, tell them your daughter has things going on she needs to deal with before she comes round. Her memories might not be entirely accurate but she remembers pain and discomfort and she will remember clearly...

Molestation: My girl friends son, psychological help, volunteer work
psychological help, volunteer work, girl friends: Hi Brian, I would like to try and answer your question if it s ok. I believe that this is not a case of sexual assault, however to be completely sure I would get him a full medical done by your doctor. This kind of action among young males between...

Molestation: Was my girlfriend molested, sexual desires, sexual relationship
sexual desires, sexual relationship, adult store: Greg, I dont think the issue here is whether your girlfriend was sexually abused or not. Not everyone who is sexually abused has kinky sexual desires, and people that do have these desires haven t necessarily been sexually abused. You have been together...

Molestation: my girlfriend, therepist, theripist
therepist, theripist, eric eric: Eric, your concern for her is genuine and would be by anyone who knows about the negative effects of this kind of treatment. Go to the www.rainn.org site and see what kind of legal options there are for her. Unfortunately, in most cases, she is the one who...

Molestation: grandma abusing my 4y old little girl?, something out of nothing, private areas
something out of nothing, private areas, fungal infection: This is a very difficult question to answer. My instinct is to say that your little girl, last night, clearly needed the bathroom and was confused when she woke up. The discharge could have been a bacterial, or fungal infection. Thrush is common in little...

Molestation: My grandson, positive correlation, sexual experimentation
positive correlation, sexual experimentation, confrontational approach: Hi Sherry, I would like to take this opportunity to answer your question. This question required a little bit of thought but I think I can point out the problem and a possible solution. I would like to start off by correcting your sister in that all...

Molestation: My grandson, natural curiosity, younger siblings
natural curiosity, younger siblings, grandson ryan: Linda, while there is a natural curiosity for children to explore sexually, this kind of behavior could indicate that this was a learned behavior from someone else. Your daughter wasn t siding with Joshua, but helping him learn about boundaries, in my...

Molestation: HELP ME, step dad, case worker
step dad, case worker, tring: Amanda, Talk with your parents again and tell them how you feel. They will listen to you and try to reassure you. If you feel you need more professional help to get through this talk with your case worker for this matter and s/he will be able to find you...

Molestation: HELP!!!!, emotional wounds, mom and dad
emotional wounds, mom and dad, juvie: if he touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, that s harrassment, especially if he persists. Talking to your mom and dad was a good start on the path to security and you should talk to them to get their help for getting over this. However,...

Molestation: Help Me, self torture, sick to my stomach
self torture, sick to my stomach, moments of beauty: John, that s a good reason why we have movie ratings these days, although many parent s still don t seem to pay attention to what their children are being exposed to. At 6-7 years old, you were just trying to see what the thing you watched felt like. Normal...

Molestation: Help...., flash backs, finger tips
flash backs, finger tips, family doctor: Cindy, This question is some what vague, and I hope I can help you. Pregnancy is a key trigger to the memory for child abuse. When I was pregnant I had many flash backs from my abuse, which continued into the first months of my childs life until I faced...

Molestation: Helping your child deal with molestation, step brother, traumatic incident
step brother, traumatic incident, favorable results: Jessica, these kinds of events are heartbreaking, but can be worked through with lots of love, patience and understanding... and some EFT. Basically this is a traumatic incident that needs some de-energizing through use of EFT. If you want to treat this...

Molestation: Helping a sister-in-law, one time thing, home daycare
one time thing, home daycare, daycare center: I agree 100% on letting mom know. It is an obligation as an adult and caregiver to protect the children. I am sure the mom would like to know. If nothing else his history would be in your favor. Most likely he is still doing it, but to some of the children....

Molestation: healthly relationship with a woman that was abused as a child?, soul mate, reading articles
soul mate, reading articles, inability to orgasm: Chris, I am so sorry for the delay in replying, I have had internet complications. I am in no doubt that this lady is worth it, however, to be able to help her she has to want to help herself. She needs to be in a state of mind that wants to challenge...

Molestation: help, step dad, little babies
step dad, little babies, decesed: Hi Nana, I am sorry to hear about what happened with the people in your family. One person is awful but when its multiple its even worse. I can t give information about the sentencing or if it would happen. It varies by state assuming you are in the...

Molestation: hi is a 16 year old girl and..., old girl, little girl
old girl, little girl, legal advice: I am not permitted to give legal advice but I can tell you this in my opinion it is a crime there is no reason why a 43 year old man would need to be with a 16 year old girl. If you are the girl please talk to your parents. If you are the man get some help...

Molestation: homosexual male molesting a girl?, homosexual male, sexual stimulation
homosexual male, sexual stimulation, curiousity: Sally, just because this man is gay does not mean he isn t capable of such a thing. This little girl seems quite sure about how she came to be putting objects in her knickers. I will say however, 4 year old are at the age of curiousity where they want to...

Molestation: Someone in my house, taking a nap, privets
taking a nap, privets, two choices: Dear Ann, You are more than welcome. I think that you are dealing with this extremely well. I m sorry your husband has not been supportive, but I wouldn t take this too personally if I were you. Perhaps he just feels that he has let you down and it shouldnt...

Molestation: Did my husband know what he was doing?, hidden feelings, daughters room
hidden feelings, daughters room, molestor: First, what your husband did, is it something he does to you often? Is it typical for him to lay his head on you and run his hand down your back and into your underwear? If so then I suppose there is a chance, but then I also want to know if when you got...

Molestation: is husband a molester?, nieces and nephews, toilet train
nieces and nephews, toilet train, bedwetter: Summer, I always say go with your gut feeling, especially when parents are asking me questions with regards to their children. Its better to act and be wrong, than ignore and be right. However, I think in this case its slightly more different. I do find...

Molestation: How do I get my husband to understand?, sexual abuse survivor, wendy maltz
sexual abuse survivor, wendy maltz, survivors of child sexual abuse: HI. What your describing is very familiar to a lot of sexually abused women. Since sex was the tool they used to hurt you it only makes sence that sex would not be something you are to fond of. I can tell you from persoanl experience and from talking to thousands...

Molestation: How to get my husband to understantd, confronting reality, intimate relationship
confronting reality, intimate relationship, assault victims: Maggie... Denial is a powerful tool used by unconscious people to hide the truth or to keep them from confronting reality. This kind of accusation will rock the boat in almost any family. Two basic things can happen.. Everyone splits up and stays in denial...

Molestation: Incest??, sexual relationships, blood relations
sexual relationships, blood relations, sexual relationship: Christina, Incest is blood relations having sexual relationships. If these two adults are not blood related then it is completely legal. This law is, I think, applied to immediate family only, I am sure here in the UK even cousins can now legally be together....

Molestation: Incest Survivor Question, incest survivor, unresolved issue
incest survivor, unresolved issue, abuse issues: Dear TMS, perhaps you should investigate having some EFT sessions with a practitioner or learning to do it yourself from the EFT website: www.emofree.com where the free download is available. The problem with protracted hiding of abuse issues is that they...

Molestation: Incest, diffcult, pleanty
diffcult, pleanty, fater: There is no simple answer why he may have been molested but no one else. It may have been something about him, maybe he was perceived as weaker/stronger then the others at that time. Its diffcult to say. It doesn t mean it didn t happen. My situation is...

Molestation: incest /older brother, 3rd shift, boy friend
3rd shift, boy friend, demeanor: Hello Erin, First I donít think medication would help your trust issue. If they suggest meds I have to wonder if itís not for something else or if they just think it would help, just because. I have to agree though, no meds unless there is some other...

Molestation: infant molestation, signs of child molestation, sudden outburst
signs of child molestation, sudden outburst, terrible twos: Naimah, it could well be signs of some kind of abuse. Have a health professional evaluate her condition. She is moving into the terrible twos, so beginning to assert some kind of independent thought and actions, as part of her natural development. Here...

Molestation: Knowing when to believe, loud arguments, sexual nature
loud arguments, sexual nature, father figure: Peggy, this is a tough call, if she won t have a conversation with you (or someone) that describes what she feels she experienced. If it happened when she was really young, it could have been a father figure instead of her real father. Young minds are easily...

Molestation: How do I know if my child was "hurt", sexual sensations, sexual touch
sexual sensations, sexual touch, green eye: Eve, You dont say how old your daughter is. It is very normal for children to explore themselves and sexual touch. If she has touched herself she has probably felt all the sensations that we do as adults, and therefore explored it further. She was probably...

Molestation: LEGAL ACTION, alabama case law, rape myths
alabama case law, rape myths, mental child abuse: I am so sorry to hear this happened to you! I think it depends entirely on your area. (Which I looked up and couldn t find, sorry!) I ll be completely honest with you. I don t have a direct answer to your question but I ll try. Please don t quote me.....

Molestation: Learning to Deal..., legs and thighs, graphic dreams
legs and thighs, graphic dreams, family functions: Megan, it is hard to believe that your parents were not aware or concerned about your uncle s behaviors, unless they don t have any boundaries themselves. Anyway, it is obvious that this series of sexual assaults (it doesn t have to be rape to be an assault...see...

Molestation: He Lied..., first and last time, sexual thing
first and last time, sexual thing, vaginal sex: GET OUT! GET OUT NOW! That is the best advice I can give you for your personal health and potential safety. This is a horrible situation and you don t need to contiune to be involved in it. You won t be able to help him or change him. he will have to...

Molestation: how long??, perpetrators, time limit
perpetrators, time limit, 8 years: Hi, I don t think that there is a time limit within which you have to report the crime. I didn t report mine until 4 years after the abuse stopped and it was still taken very seriously, and went to court. I have known of people who don t report their abuse...

Molestation: In love with a sexual abuse victim, emotional roller coaster, sexual abuse victim
emotional roller coaster, sexual abuse victim, physical attention: I would have to say a lot of this is going to fall back on her and choices she makes. You can be as understanding as you want (which is what I would suggest) but in the end if she doesn t work on herself theres nothing you can do. She can t just continue...

Molestation: A loved one was molested years ago, persistent application, vulnerable situation
persistent application, vulnerable situation, emofree: Jay, obviously she is still carrying the trauma of her childhood experience and this is a pretty typical response when she is put into a similarly vulnerable situation of intimacy. I will steer you to the EFT site, for reference, but recommend that she...

Molestation: Minor on minor molestation, neighbor, adult
neighbor, adult: Yes the act is illegal. The penalty would depend on a judge. A child of 8 would not know to ask someone to touch him there on his own. You need to tell him it s illegal, immoral and you should call protective services. You as an adult should not have...

Molestation: MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress
traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder: TS, It is so sad to see and hear of this pattern being repeated over and over again: Children being molested by siblings or relatives and are manipulated not to speak up for themselves until years later. Believe me, you are not alone by any means. You can...

Molestation: MOLESTED BY MY BROTHER-INLAW, brother inlaw, afare
brother inlaw, afare, trouth: Hello Jen, I think it is possible for you to block this out for so long and only now remember it. I think something must have happened to trigger the memory for you but I don t think its wrong that you told your family. Thats what family is there for...

Molestation: Molestate in turn Molesting, step dad, daily basis
step dad, daily basis, stepson: I think you need to just sit down and tell them your concerns. If it causes problems in their marriage I would bet its less pain then the pain her kids will feel if he abuses them. When kids are at risk I say to bad about causing problems. Maybe the mother...

Molestation: I was Molestated, suffing, lord jesus
suffing, lord jesus, bad dream: I would talk to your husband about what happened to you and your fears of being barren. Prayer can be a powerful tool and I encourage you to continue to use that one to help you find guidance and strength. You canít truly block out the events that happened....

Molestation: Molestation, first recollection, uncomfortable feelings
first recollection, uncomfortable feelings, health treatment: Well, it sounds like Dad is having issues with his ability to control his sexual expressions around children, from what you describe. Why else would he take your son from you and into the shower, without at least asking/telling you about it. Sounds pretty...

Molestation: Molestation, grandpa john, miss taylor
grandpa john, miss taylor, private area: Tonya, Both your daughters have made a very serious allegation, and they should be treated as such. When reading your question, it was almost like looking back at what I experienced. I hope you dont mind but Im going to share with you some of how my family...

Molestation: Molestation, mother daughter relationships, toilet paper
mother daughter relationships, toilet paper, biological father: Itís always a possibility your daughter is lying but I have to ask, and ask yourself, how would she know he ejaculates on her/your stomach and wipes it clean? Sure ok, toilet paper by the bed, but if she is telling you something he does in the privacy of...

Molestation: Molestation, unresolved pain, face of fear
unresolved pain, face of fear, conscious memory: Ian, you may have had some kind of trauma or abuse, as a very young child that your body remembers, but you do not have a conscious memory of now. Anger is the face of fear. Fear comes from a lack of safety or an experience of pain. Unresolved pain makes...

Molestation: Molestation?, exploring the body, sexual nature
exploring the body, sexual nature, curiousity: Aubrey, You are not clear about what happened, but I would assume you meant the touching was of a sexual nature. As I am not aware of the circumstances it is hard to make a comment on this. As a rule, a minor that is inappropriately touched would yes, be...

Molestation: When Molestation Becomes Rape, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress
traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder: Shanaynay, See this site for some information about your question: http://www.rainn.org/definition.html The definition may vary from state to state and country to country. Sexual assaults, like these, produce symptoms that fall in the category of...

Molestation: Molestation hits too close to home, necessary procedures, whole truth
necessary procedures, whole truth, medical examination: Hi MC, Thanks for the follow up, Let s see if we can t nail down the situation at hand. I considered this at the office and it is no doubt a very complicated situation; I see this type of situation with patients quite often and I totally understand...

Molestation: Molestation hits too close to home, proper actions, necessary procedures
proper actions, necessary procedures, molester: MC, these are very trying circumstances, but it sounds like the proper actions have been taken, as far as caring for your niece and her welfare. Sexual assault can have devastating effects on young children, both boys and girls. Hopefully, she is getting quality...

Molestation: Molestation/Incest, rapist, auntie
rapist, auntie, sexual abuse: Diamond, is this information that you really need to know? How will it benefit you, now? Tread lightly when you attempt to enter someone s past, which may not be pertinent to the present..... You might reframe the question into: Is there a history of sexual...

Molestation: Molestation and Mental Health, candy toys, family households
candy toys, family households, moral aspects: Mary, this is one of the many heartbreaking stories that we hear associated with child abuse/molestation. Your fears and concerns related to food, panic attacks and other phobias are a common thread with this kind of trauma. You write well and are obviously...

Molestation: Molestation by our mother?, diaper rash cream, sick to my stomach
diaper rash cream, sick to my stomach, small girl: Sarah, What a difficult situation you have found yourself in. Firstlty I would suggest talking with your younger sister. Try make it not like a sit down talk. Maybe, when you are alone with her change your daughter, ask her if she could get you the...

Molestation: Molestation and other abuse, new boyfriend, teen years
new boyfriend, teen years, liar: when a child is a victim of abuse or a witness to it, he or she can become emotionally scarred. The damage of emotional wounds can take a lifetime to heal, some never are repaired at all. Even though you are a victim, you can still lead a normal life. Many...

Molestation: Molestation, full deck of cards, separation anxiety
full deck of cards, separation anxiety, stress response: Dale Lyn, I really can t comment on physical evidence that could or not could indicate abuse or neglect. For the older one, apparently there could be some stress response to the class environment. I would have a private quiet talk with her about how she really...

Molestation: Molested?, sexual assault victims, young punk
sexual assault victims, young punk, half brother: Chelsea, I am sorry to hear that you had that experience and that it has left a big mark on your psyche. This is often the case, in instances of sexual assault. You can go to the www.rainn.org site for information and support for sexual assault victims. ...

Molestation: Molested by chiropratcor..Please Help, wrong place at the wrong time, inappropriate areas
wrong place at the wrong time, inappropriate areas, guilt and shame: Hello Ashlee, First let me say its not your fault. In my eyes society has sort of put women in an awkward position. They seem to still favor men in many ways. I have seen (even in present day which is disturbing) people and professionals alike blame...

Molestation: Molested by father, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress
traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder: Joseph, Nothing is wrong with you, at all. You are experiencing one of the many symptoms and feelings associated with PTSD.. post traumatic stress disorder. It is sad that you don t get more support and/or understanding from your family, but at least...

Molestation: Molested or Imagined?, fantasy journey, childhood molestation
fantasy journey, childhood molestation, dreams and visions: Jon, it sounds like this news has been a trigger for you, perhaps to have you review some past experiences like that or perhaps to send you off on a fantasy journey with sexual overtones. Without knowing your own history it is a pretty tough call from here....

Molestation: Molested by little brother?, trauma release, parenting skills
trauma release, parenting skills, little brother: Katherine, Will your parents listen to you now? Tell them, if they don t get your brother to leave your sister alone, you will file a complaint with authorities and there will be BIG TROUBLE. See www.rainn.org site for sexual assault information. Hopefully,...

Molestation: Molested by multiple people do they know? can they tell I'd been previously molested??, distain, time thing
distain, time thing, abused children: I donít get people who have or admit to having been molested as much as you have. I suppose not so much Ďas muchí but by as many different people through their lifetime. You have had the particular hardship of being around people who would take advantage...

Molestation: Molested by Sibling, online support groups, sexual violence
online support groups, sexual violence, abuse issues: Hello there, Kami, Whether anyone believes you or not, you have the right to feel better about things. 1 year older, 5 years older, 20 years older, 3 years younger - What happened regardless of any age at all was abuse. You were the victim of something...

Molestation: Molested at a very young age., weird feelings, false memories
weird feelings, false memories, thoughts and feelings: Cassie, I am not a proffessional in child psychology so I can not give you an accurate answer, but I can tell you that I personally feel that events however young, do affect us. I dont remember anything before being 5 years old, I have some built up false...

Molestation: Molested, family friend, molestation
family friend, molestation, guts: Aly, It is never to late to press charges. You have been brave telling your mom and it must be so hard that she is pretending like it hasnt happened. Do you have another adult who you trust and can talk to? Maybe you have a teacher at school? I am from...

Molestation: Molestion, step in the right direction, little girls
step in the right direction, little girls, heartache: I would say the reason for the attraction is due to you being molested. I canít say itís an authentic attraction per se but more like you acting out, recreating what was done to you on another. I am sorry to hear you have done this to another. I understand...

Molestation: Multiple abuses, difficult to trust anyone now, shy person, sexual offenders
shy person, sexual offenders, religious person: Kevin, your child molestation experiences and subsequent fear of trusting others is a classic Sexual assault PTSD response. See the www.rainn.org site for more information, which relates to sexual assault, the aftermath and the support systems available there...

Molestation: I'm worried that my 10 year old nice is being molested by her father, heart to heart talk, real heart
heart to heart talk, real heart, disfunctional family: Susan, some valuable information is available on the www.rainn.org site concerning sexual assault. Given the information that you have shared so far, it is quite possible that your niece is being harmed in some way. You can try to have a real heart-to-heart...

Molestation: I'm not Sure, step dad, family patterns
step dad, family patterns, corner of my eye: Nick... If he did it once, chances are that whatever drove him to do it in the first place isn t healed within him, yet. He may have grown up in an abusive circumstance, himself, but his actions are not your responsibility. Tell him that you are concerned...

Molestation: minipulation and possible molestation, inappropriate behaviour, private parts
inappropriate behaviour, private parts, family doctor: Nina, I would certainly be very concerned about what your daughter has told you. You need to contact children services and ask them for advice and support. It is important you act on behalf of your daughter, and she will need to repeat this to the children...

Molestation: Was it molestaion if it wasn't violent or intercourse?, sleeping on the ground, sister and brother
sleeping on the ground, sister and brother, teen pregnancy: Monica, anytime anyone starts touching you inappropriately and without your permission, it becomes sexual assault and, as in your case, becomes a traumatic experience which needs healing. Maybe he was half asleep and got confused with you and your mom, especially...

Molestation: molestation, school counselor, back of my mind
school counselor, back of my mind, 17 years: Hey Nana, How are you doing? I hope everything is well. To your question...if you need to talk with someone I suggest you see someone that is able to professionally help you. You are 17, so you are still in school, correct? In that case you can speak with...

Molestation: molestation, victim support group, sick to my stomach
victim support group, sick to my stomach, sensativity: Stephanie, I can not imagine how horrific this must be to you and your family. It doesnt matter that so much time has passed, the police will still treat this as a very serious case. I would strongly recommend that you contact your local Victim Support...

Molestation: Is it molestation if...., female rape, sex crimes
female rape, sex crimes, physical evidence: Hello Jen, Is the person who was touching him someone he knows now? I image it would be traumatizing, itís a violation, it is sexual abuse. No matter how minor one action seems compared to another they canít be compared. Everyone has different ways of...

Molestation: molestation, stepdad, initial reaction
stepdad, initial reaction, doing the right thing: I can t make that call, but if it was me I would have to think that if I was in your place that I would want a divorce, and I would be cautious of having my child around them. What he did is wrong and you don t need someone like that in your life. How is...

Molestation: molestation, s child, old girl
s child, old girl, vagina: Piper, You are quite right this is not normal behaviour of a 5 year old. Children do experiement, and they will explore their own bodies, but I worked with children for many years and never experienced another child discussing or touching this kind of behaviour...

Molestation: molestation, high position, stepfather
high position, stepfather, fallout: Faith, Drinking can effect the memory, and depending how much he drank would depend on how he was effected. I have read this question a few times, and I am inclined to suggest it was a error of bad judgement all round. Is it possible the daughter misintreptted...

Molestation: molestation, pregnancy and childbirth, school photo
pregnancy and childbirth, school photo, abuse children: Michelle, The body and mind is a very powerful tool, and it can cloud memories so that you dont remember them for a long time. If you didnt want to remember it then it is possible to have blocked it out for many years, but sometimes triggers bring these...

Molestation: molestation, visiting grandma, privates
visiting grandma, privates, best interest: Scott, It would seem you and your wife have done everything right. There is little more you can do, unless you suspect something further is taking place. Your son my not need therapy from this incident, and it would be in your best interest after praising...

Molestation: Could this be molestation, awkward situations, strong sex
awkward situations, strong sex, sex drive: Ana, Im so sorry this answer is do late getting to you, I had a family problem I could not ignore which has kept me away from a computer for some time. Your daughter may just associate touch with touching, not specifically sexual touching. I really...

Molestation: molestation, masters of deceit, trust adults
masters of deceit, trust adults, easy prey: Amanda, if your boyfriend needs to know more about sexual abuse, have him go to the www.rainn.org site and study there instead of questioning you about why you acted as you did from age 11. He didn t have the experience, so he can never really know what...

Molestation: was it molestation, boyfriends, girls
boyfriends, girls: any unwanted touching that makes you uncomfortable is molestation. It is never the victim s fault no matter how much others say or think. It doesn t happen only to you, it happens to others, so you are right. It happens a lot. You re a victim, and you re not...

Molestation: molestation, skeletons in our closet, closet talk
skeletons in our closet, closet talk, first childhood: Hello Linda, I would guess your parents think you donít remember either if you havenít mentioned it to them. I say, if it bothers you, talk to them. I imagine they did say something, I canít imagine itís a coincidence that they moved away a few months...

Molestation: molestation, sexual feelings, pilow
sexual feelings, pilow, informative manner: Peter, this seems to have been the dawning of her sexual awareness and often those kinds of experiences are indelibly imprinted in your mind and body. At some point in time, we are all captured by the feeling of sexual response and choose to use or reject...

Molestation: was this molestation??, sexual feelings, sexual relationship
sexual feelings, sexual relationship, guilt shame: Chelsea, your mind/body certainly had retained these memories for the past 10 years, as you have discovered. Twelve year old boys are just getting curious about their sexual feelings and find various ways to initiate those powerful feelings with others. Choosing...

Molestation: molestation, stress and trauma, sole custody
stress and trauma, sole custody, legal expert: Jennifer, I am not a legal expert in these actions for wherever you reside. Please go to the www.rainn.org site for more guidance in this matter. If you filed a police report, you can talk to the local district attorney for a timeline on prosecution. Sole...

Molestation: molestation, yeah hes, unconditional support
yeah hes, unconditional support, goodness sake: From a healthy standpoint yes I do think she should. Her mom doesn t sound like shes in the best mental health herself but its a good tool to learn at a young age to express yourself. Especially when you are hurt. If you don t they may never know. Its...

Molestation: molestation, family reunions, family member
family reunions, family member, counselor: I have to say speaking with your counselor would be the best person to do this with since they have a much more intimate understanding of the situation and your relationship with your parents. That said I don t know how to make them listen. Sometimes people...

Molestation: molestation, professional counselor, legal guidance
professional counselor, legal guidance, abusive person: You really need to speak with an attorney. I would make an appointment with someone, (usually the first time is free) and see if they can recommend you to someplace that you can get services at a discount or pro-bono (free). I think they would be your best...

Molestation: molestation by family member, molestation, traumatic event
molestation, traumatic event, bathing suit: Molestation is any touching or advances unwanted/unwelcome by the victim. With very young children who are cautioned in school about this subject, the rule is, no one is allowed to touch you anywhere your bathing suit covers. (Except parents, of course.) Any...

Molestation: molestation by a family member, bad memory, guilty party
bad memory, guilty party, self loathing: Your sister will never admit to it, at least, not for a long time. Of corse, she has her own reasons for this; guilt mainly and self-loathing. The most important factor here is you. What do you do? First, write it down in a personal journal, and keep it in...

Molestation: molestation as a kid going crazy now, baby sitters, boy friend
baby sitters, boy friend, family doctor: Shavon, Im sorry your mom isnt being supportive at this difficult time. Maybe she is finding it hard to deal with. If she wont help and support you then you need to find the strength from within to support yourself. Once you have accepted and started to...

Molestation: molestation between kids, child psychologist, younger brothers
child psychologist, younger brothers, bullies: While you were right to remove him immediately from the school it would have been good to take him to a child psychologist as well. He still needs to get this out of his system, as the normal, albeit totally wrong, tormenting of the boys in his class is sadly...

Molestation: molestation, suicide, depresion bipolar, baby cousin
depresion bipolar, baby cousin, viscous circle: This is an awful situation for you to be in at your age. They probably donít believe you due to your other issues, which have probably come about due to the fact of what your uncle has done. Itís a viscous circle. I understand the not speaking and trying...

Molestation: molestation, nice guy, good luck
nice guy, good luck, notion: Hi Tara. I am so sorry that someone you trusted hurt you. It s very hard to comprehend that you could be hurt in that way by someone who you cared about. Do not be ashamed at what happened. It is not your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of. By...

Molestation: was i molested?, emotional freedom technique, threatned
emotional freedom technique, threatned, guilt shame: Amanda, it is heartbreaking to hear stories like yours. I m surprised that your mother didn t take action on your behalf, confronting your brother and nephew. They all owe you an apology, but it may never come from them. They seem to have no idea how much...

Molestation: molested at 13, first sexual experience, trust issues
first sexual experience, trust issues, lying on the floor: I understand where you are. I had sort of the way of getting into a relationship and would lose interest. If you tried counseling with little or no success I have to ask if you were ready for it? Possibly not. Or, maybe the person you were seeing was not...

Molestation: Was I molested?, having dreams, dirty feeling
having dreams, dirty feeling, traumatic experiences: Jen, without knowing a lot more about your dad s history and your other experiences with men in the past, it is hard to sort out which has the strongest effect on you now. Abuse is abuse and once someone starts down that path, there seems to be little in...

Molestation: Was i molested..., adult penis, self esteem problems
adult penis, self esteem problems, stepdads: Hi J, Thank you for your question. OK, so after a careful analysis of your situation I can give you some insight into what s going on. Your case is very interesting because it requires a kind of evaluation that goes deep into your subconscious mind....

Molestation: molested, family friend, doing the right thing
family friend, doing the right thing, two families: Hello Bryan, Glad to hear from you, you are doing the right thing! I am a firm believer in people doing what they need to help themselves. You have suffered at the mercy of another persons actions for too long. This person has had a sort of control over...

Molestation: molested, drinking alcohol, serious relationship
drinking alcohol, serious relationship, biological father: Lois, I am sure your friend is indeed right and that you are a good person. To keep secrets like this is not uncommon. Once the secret is made the longer it is left the harder it becomes to speak out about it. It clearly has effected you for a long...

Molestation: Was I molested?, teenaged boy, harrassment
teenaged boy, harrassment, safeway: Carly, Personal invasion of one s body without consent is certainly wrong. Everyone has a right to say who can touch their body, and when, this clearly was not the case for you. As for molestation, I think this incident would be more clearly defined as...

Molestation: I was molested by my adoptive father, game of cards, adoptive father
game of cards, adoptive father, inappropriate behaviour: Daisy, You were not old enough to consent to your adoptive father. What happened to you was extremely wrong, and you are no way responsible for that. Your adoptive father knows very well that he was completely in the wrong and committing an illegal offence....

Molestation: Was molested as a child, self help books, secret survivors
self help books, secret survivors, one day at a time: What do I do to help myself? It was like I was brain washed and now it is coming back to haunt me. I understand. Its not something to ignore or try to forget. It doesnít work. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Anyway to get it off your chest? Try...

Molestation: I was molested and never dealt with it., legal age of consent, sexual stimulation
legal age of consent, sexual stimulation, unexperienced: Kate, The answer you need is in your question. You have never dealt with what happened when your were 13 years old. Sexual stimulation is never acceptable under the legal age of consent, and it is never acceptable unconsented at any age. To be able...

Molestation: molested or not? i dont know, step dad
step dad: Jamie, What you describe sounds to me as attempted molestation. Did happen again, or since? Could he be doing this to any other children in the family? I think you should make your mother aware, if she is not already, of what happened to you. What he did...

Molestation: I was molested by my father 12 years ago...., memories of my father, private areas
memories of my father, private areas, father daughter: I think more times then not people may turn to saying they lied about abuse to be able to deal with some self guilt. Many people worry about the effect the information will have on others and continue to disregard their own value. Go with your instincts....

Molestation: molested by mother, grandmothers, male perpetrators, sugar spice
male perpetrators, sugar spice, murder women: Dear Ron, I agree with you completely, the assumption is always that child abusers are male. It seems inconceivable to many people that woman are just as capable of these hideous acts. I think it comes from the stereotype that is built into all of us on some...

Molestation: i have been molested since i was 13 years old, criminal offence, duty of care
criminal offence, duty of care, stepfather: Kyrsten, As you do not specify where you are from I can not advise you best on who you can contact. I am not familiar with the legal system, however the police have a duty of care to you and any allegation made to them should be treated as with respect...

Molestation: was I molested?, loving relationships, sexual experiences
loving relationships, sexual experiences, sacred union: Melissa, this is a sad story that isn t going to have a happy ending unless you stop this kind of interaction with your family friend. If you go to the www.rainn.org site you will find many definitions for sexual abuse and sexual assault... Your play partner...

Molestation: Was I molestered?, creepy feelings, low self esteem
creepy feelings, low self esteem, flat chest: Morning Sez, If there was some medical reason for you mom to do something by touching you privately I am sure you would know but just because she said it didn t look normal and pulled doesn t sound normal to me. A rule you can often go by is if it feels...

Molestation: molestion, answere, molester
answere, molester, maw: unwanted touching in a sexual way is molestation, it gets even worse when it s done to a child. It s a serious offense, and the victim can be traumatized. The court should listen to a child no matter how young he is. He s a victim, he should not be going...

Molestation: Is this molestion and why is it still bothering me?, molestion, undershorts
molestion, undershorts, beautiful daughter: Hi Sandy, Not only were you sexually abused but also mentally and emotionally abused during the important formative years of your life. This, I imagine is the root of the issues that you are still experiencing to this day. Firstly, with regards to your brother,...

Molestation: molestion, sexual feelings, age of discovery
sexual feelings, age of discovery, choice in the matter: Lisa, certainly you were all in the age of discovery about sexual feelings and experiences back then. Where were your parents??? Even though you may not understood what was happening at that age, your mind-body remembers being used and actions that were...

Molestation: how to move on, mid thirties, type personality
mid thirties, type personality, those memories: Jennie, it is certainly understandable that you feel the way you do, as childhood molestation is a very serious trauma to experience and worse when you can t let the secret out, in order to help heal this deep wound. Congratulations for doing so well...

Molestation: Need advice/opinion, step dad, youngest girl
step dad, youngest girl, molestation: Hi Natalie, Ok, firstly, what you experienced was definitely molestation. I suspect that your stepfather knew exactly what he was doing. It happened to you and even you are unsure as to whether you are overreacting , so it is as if your stepfather was aware...

Molestation: I Need Help!!, grandmother lives, mother and grandmother
grandmother lives, mother and grandmother, prosses: Sharon, your son experienced a most unpleasant event, which is traumatic in nature and needs to be worked out as soon as possible. It sounds like you have been doing your best and as you mention, the shame factor appears to be diminished. Continue the dialogue...

Molestation: I need to help my brother, drug addict, mother figure
drug addict, mother figure, younger brothers: Sarah, sexual assault/molestation of children will definitely take its toll later on in life. He will continue to go down this long dark path, until he reaches out for help and clears the air about what happened to him. Going to therapy and not dealing with...

Molestation: I need to help someone cope..., absolute answer, proffessionals
absolute answer, proffessionals, sister in law: Jody, Could you not direct your sister in law to this site. We are not all proffessionals, just people like herself that have been through similar experiences. Talking to someone who understands often is a great help. You are right in that she needs...

Molestation: need help dealing with the nightmares, childhood traumas, ton of bricks
childhood traumas, ton of bricks, sleeping pills: Cindy, that is really a heart-breaking story and unfortunately one that isn t all that uncommon in today s society. Finding free help can be difficult, because counselors and therapists have to make a living, but often will take a client on as a way of...

Molestation: I need some help., false promises, step in the right direction
false promises, step in the right direction, painful memories: Hello Crystal, I am so sorry to hear about this. It makes me so angry when the victim is given blame for some problems in the family if they come forward. I think this is a terrible thing to do to someone for something that is not even their fault. ...

Molestation: i just need to know, sexual nature, e mail
sexual nature, e mail, best wishes: Oh my, I am never too busy for someone like you who is in the heat of a situation. If he is touching you as in groaping and making you kiss him it s abuse. If it makes you uncomfortable its abuse. No one has the right to touch you or ask you to do things...

Molestation: about my niece, grandad, niece
grandad, niece, granddaughter: Heather, Im so sorry to hear you are in this situation. Does your niece want to press charges? You could most certainly report what you know to the police, and they would have a duty to investigate. If you explain to them that it has happened before,...

Molestation: nobody has helped me, boyfriends, cousins
boyfriends, cousins, cheek: Hello Morgan, Yes itís a big deal. Thereís no excuse for what he did to you and no excuse other then just pure denial for what your family is doing. Heís not joking when heís being inappropriate, heís testing the waters to see if he can continue. I would...

Molestation: I have nothing absolutely..., loving mom, shitty life
loving mom, shitty life, nobodies: Miguel, I feel so much when I read your pain. I wish so much that my words could heal your wounds. I wish you could feel and not turn to drugs to drown out your pain. I fear this will only lead to so many more problems. Why are you so angry with your...

Molestation: what to do when nothing is being done, free consultation, go talk
free consultation, go talk, cps: Well you have gone down a lot of great avenues. I would say next you have to go see an attorney. They may want some copies or such that the places have but they can retrieve that. Go talk to a lawyer and find out what your rights are. maybe try a couple,...

Molestation: Oh My God!!!, abusive relationship, patty cake
abusive relationship, patty cake, family counseling: Mandie, it is so sad to hear stories like this, where young girls are never given the chance to have a normal life, where sexuality is their choice, instead of experiencing it as sexual assault. I would suggest checking the www.rainn.org site, among others,...

Molestation: Is Oral Sex by a Pedophile Sexual Abuse?, sexual abuse issues, drugs and alcohol
sexual abuse issues, drugs and alcohol, bottle of wine: James, you were under age to be sexually approached and under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Any police officer would have a long list of charges against this person, who took advantage of you in your lack of awareness and the trust that you had for him....

Molestation: am I obsessed?, day dream, naked woman
day dream, naked woman, virginity: Hello Brittany, I canít say conclusively if you were or werenít but it certainly seems like a possibility. I have experienced many/most of the things you have talked about other then when I lost my virginity. I was very curious about it but too scared...

Molestation: An old case being revisited, deferred adjudication probation, trauma resolution
deferred adjudication probation, trauma resolution, childhood sexual abuse: Jean, you will have to either check with the local/state officials on this question or check the www.rainn.org site for more legal guidance. I do therapy not prosecution... I would highly suggest that you all visit the EFT website: www.emofree.com and download...

Molestation: Was I too old for it to be wrong?, step brother, step sister
step brother, step sister, experence: Hello Becca, Sorry for my delay. I am moving and its been insane on my end. My apologies. You are never too old for something to be abuse. It may have been hard to say no due to the situation and also that he was older. Sometimes that can be intimidating,...

Molestation: Past Molestation, rape incest, doing my job
rape incest, doing my job, grandaughter: Kat, My heart goes out to you in the pain that you are feeling right now. Know that your recovery is possible and may come about sooner than you think. Read more below.... To learn more about the effects of sexual assault, rape, incest, and molestation...

Molestation: Please give advice, assault complaint, local authorities
assault complaint, local authorities, flashbacks: Leanne, you could get a TRO to be sure that he doesn t come around and/or file an assault complaint with local authorities. Check the www.rainn.org site for that kind of info. As far as taking care of you, I would check the EFT site to see if there are...

Molestation: Please help!, sorry in advance, judgements
sorry in advance, judgements, family doctor: Stephanie, Im really sorry this confusion has come into your life, and I hope it can be resolved quickly. This question is extremely vague for me to answer, so Im sorry in advance if you do not get the answers that you had hoped for. Signs that...

Molestation: Please help., youth group leader, back massages
youth group leader, back massages, first kiss: To press charges is a very personal decision. If you think it would help you then do it, if not then just the knowledge that everyone has may be enough. You are still very young, I would not worry about being how you feel towards guys right now. You...

Molestation: Is it Possible I was Molested as a Child?, worship team leader, principals office
worship team leader, principals office, pediatric nurse: Hello Lindsay, I have to say I donít think you are crazy but I do have to agree and I do think you have been abused. It sounds like a textbook example to me. If you donít remember details its ok, but whatís better is you have started trying to deal with...

Molestation: Possible molestation?, signs of sexual abuse, signs of molestation
signs of sexual abuse, signs of molestation, urine infections: Hi Jami, This is a very grey area. As I am sure that you are aware, children go through all sorts of phases as they are growing up. One of these phases will be the discovery and fascination with their genitals. These are normal signs of your childs development,...

Molestation: Post- Abuse, female coach, marlena
female coach, marlena, rebecca: HI Rebecca. GREAT question. What you have described is perfectly normal . I have heard it time and time again. Just because you missed the attention does NOT mean that you wanted to be abused. It means u miss the attention and thats all. A lot of times...

Molestation: Did my pediatrician molest me?, going through puberty, medical profession
going through puberty, medical profession, two fingers: Becky, 30 years ago the medical profession was very different from we know it as now. Ive never heard of a medical at 11 years, however I am from the UK and that may be one factor. Massarging the breasts for that duration does seem a little bit excessive,...

Molestation: my physical relationship with my wife, physical relationship, initial reaction
physical relationship, initial reaction, boil: Simon, I will try and answer these questions as they were presented. If your wife has dealt with her abuse and moved on from it, yes it is completely normal for her to act like nothing has happened. I know I could now go to a family function, and my...

Molestation: please help, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress
traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder: Kelsea, You are experiencing symptoms of PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), which is completely understandable, given your sexual assault and abuse history with your brother. One thing you could do is to print out your question to me and give it to...

Molestation: please help, sexual relationship, time and space
sexual relationship, time and space, emotions: Carol, Be there for him, and be his best friend. His emotions are likely to be all over the place, and right now a sexual relationship is obviously not what he needs. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you deeply. Allow him the time and space to deal with what...

Molestation: possible child molestation, going through puberty, acceptable excuse
going through puberty, acceptable excuse, stupid kid: Juliana, I know that this is disturbing for you to learn now, but it will be healthy in the bigger picture that everyone has spoken their truth about what has happened. Tell your daughter that you are her protector and that this kind of information is...

Molestation: Is it possible I've repressed memories of sexual abuse?, low self esteem, trust issues
low self esteem, trust issues, schoolwork: Holli..... All that message and you ask at the end.... Do I have a reason to be concerned? I think we both know the answer to that. Coming from parents who were abused, you could either be carrying the imprints and modeling of their reactions to their...

Molestation: Did I possibly sexually abuse my cousin and don't remember?, haunting memories, family gatherings
haunting memories, family gatherings, startling statement: Trevor, Earlier in this question you state that you had to apologise to Paul Jnr for what had happened between you. This must mean that at the time it was discussed with the family what had happened. You mention that he claims events took place after...

Molestation: Question that I cant find the answer to, sexual abuse history, negative feelings
sexual abuse history, negative feelings, survival mode: Manda, if you haven t found any mention on the web, apparently no one has done any research on the subject. I don t have any evidence or have inquired about this aspect of sexual abuse, however, when abuse does happen, you lose a strong sense of liking your...

Molestation: Questions?, emotional freedom technique, anxiety sleeplessness
emotional freedom technique, anxiety sleeplessness, body memory: Veronica, here are some links that may more fully explain the condition.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_memory http://www.bodymemory.com/introduction.html http://mindbodyguide.ca/articles/tissue-memory.php Hope you have checked in to the EFT site...

Molestation: Questions & Answers, cindy cindy, classic signs
cindy cindy, classic signs, emotional body: Cindy, there is a lot of information about sexual assault on the www.rainn.org site. What happens to most children who are sexually abused is that it tweaks their perception about relationships, love and loving. Basically, you are showing classic signs of...

Molestation: Questions, evil sex, serious relationship
evil sex, serious relationship, little kid: Morning Lacey, First all I can say is wow! Your grandma. I think your grandma never, ever, dealt with her abuse. She may harbor guilt for what happened to your mother as well. I think shes just lashing out and has let this expierence consume her in...

Molestation: question, reoccuring urinary tract infections, physical ailments
reoccuring urinary tract infections, physical ailments, urinary tract infections: Drugs really can t make anyone do anything that is against their will....so the drugs do not play a significant factor here. It is never too late for her to get treatment for any residual memories she may have, even those which she suppressed can be helped...

Molestation: question., school counselor, sexual abuse
school counselor, sexual abuse, local resources: You have to find someone. Depending on your age maybe a school counselor, maybe the law. I would try a hospital and see if they offer some sort of counseling for sexual abuse, or can refer you to a place/person that does. Maybe a friend? You have to...

Molestation: question for my baby, family doctors, supervised access
family doctors, supervised access, inflamation: Jasmin, Children of this age do this humping movement almost like a relax, when on all fours its a naturally movement for them, thats how they begin crawling in the earlier months. If you are at all concerned then take her to the family doctors, most...

Molestation: question, reoccuring urinary tract infections, man in my head
reoccuring urinary tract infections, man in my head, god on your side: Well, I am more in awe now than ever! And congratulations! THIS I can help you with. Since I am familiar with incest, as opposed to rape, when I had our first child, I started having panic attacks when he was the age I was first molested at. With our second...

Molestation: Re: I need help!, daughters ages, emotional issues
daughters ages, emotional issues, instincts: victims of molestation understand the pain they went through at their time, thus they do not try to repeat their experience. Although some do it anyway, most do not. My advice is to trust your instincts and your boyfriend if he says he would never hurt your...

Molestation: Recent molestation, nearby gas station, horror stories
nearby gas station, horror stories, legal options: Denine, these are hard lessons to learn in life. Underage drinking and hanging with the wrong people can put you in a world of hurt, more than you experienced the other night, so heed this warning from the universe. Stay sober, stay present and aware at all...

Molestation: Rectal Infection and Molestation, legal standpoint, incest porn
legal standpoint, incest porn, medical authorities: Autumn, it is pretty hard to not read a whole lot into the evidence that you have presented. Go to the www.rainn.org site and see what can be done from a legal standpoint. The boy needs a medical evaluation ASAP. Let the medical authorities take the lead and...

Molestation: Repressed memories, pieces of a puzzle, repressed memories
pieces of a puzzle, repressed memories, survivors of abuse: Hi Ruby, It is true that the mind will sometimes block out memories that are too painful for us to deal with. It is a kind of safety valve. It is possible that this could have happened in your case. You are right in saying that the behavior that you have...

Molestation: Reuniting w/ my Dad, having dreams, step dad
having dreams, step dad, childhood years: Hello Rachel, I think you have it right hen you say the little girl in you wants to be around him. We can have an innate desire to know our parents; even adopted children find this happening to them. Itís like anything, I have seen kids who are brutally...

Molestation: about my rape and my life since then, hi mary, trust issues
hi mary, trust issues, comming: HI Mary. A lot of survivors deal with trust issues. Have you tried talking to him about doing couples counselling? It probably would help to have a professional between the 2 of u. Maybe he will learn where your comming from and understand your untrusting...

Molestation: I am really confused, self help books, victim role
self help books, victim role, co dependant: Hello Maggie, Have you considered talking to your parents about what happened? You seem to be in the victim role and not yet the survivor role. It may help you work through some of your pain if you speak with them about it. Your dad may deny it or maybe...

Molestation: A realy hard life., sexual purposes, critical moment
sexual purposes, critical moment, falt: Hi Amanda, Thank you for your question. I want to get right down to it because this is a critical moment, what you do now could effect how you feel in the years to come. You realize that what happened is not your fault but it sounds like your trying...

Molestation: Will I recover and are there groups for survivors mates?, sexual abuse victims, sexual object
sexual abuse victims, sexual object, speed recovery: Lein, Recovery from childhood sexual molestation and abuse is one of the most difficult tasks facing therapists and healers. However, we have used EFT quite successfully to help speed recovery for many people. This is a case where you really want to start...

Molestation: Can one ever recover from incest?, secret survivors, anxiety problems
secret survivors, anxiety problems, sheer time: It seems you are in a very very tough situation. I have been where you are. Itís an awful feeling not being able to mix sex and love. To not know that feeling of intimacy. Sort of like its been robbed from you. I can tell you some of what helped me, other...

Molestation: Is responding to my dad's touch my faught?, natural response, power play
natural response, power play, night time: Hello Andrea, I am so sorry to hear about this. I would not be ashamed at how your body responded. Itís more of a natural response and being the adult he would know these things and know what to do. I think everything seemed fine as far as you sleeping...

Molestation: Scared and confused, natural sensation, sexual pleasures
natural sensation, sexual pleasures, counselling: Rebecca, Firstly you were not to blame before, and you are not to blame now. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You need to talk to someone about what happened to you with your cousin. You do not say how old your cousin was. It does not matter...

Molestation: Scariest night of my life.. I was 11 he was 16.., lyndsey, ptsd
lyndsey, ptsd, sexual assault: Lyndsey, hopefully you saw that speaking up for yourself, when you are threatened or assaulted right away is the best thing to do. Your mom should have taken action, when she found out that he was touching all of you then. Your cousin needed a stern talking...

Molestation: Sexualisation - sexual abuse?, borderline personality disorder, sexy underwear
borderline personality disorder, sexy underwear, revealing things: Hello Shiobhan, My first thought is if you have been getting therapy have you not spoken with your therapist about this? I would think knowing you much better they could give you some more personalized insight. All I have to say or think can only come...

Molestation: Shoving it under the rug, lie detector test, traumatic stress disorder
lie detector test, traumatic stress disorder, post traumatic stress: Mary, Sadly there are many stories like yours and often parents or the responsible parties are in denial about it all and think that even if it did happen, it was a long time ago... blah, blah, blah.... How unkind and inconsiderate of them! Unfortunately,...

Molestation: Sibling Molestation, blind side, remorse
blind side, remorse, sibling: Hello Alice, That is a really hard question. You may want to seek a professional opinion first. It really depends on the person I think, but I think just telling her you want to talk to her about something and giving her a comfortable environment to talk...

Molestation: Sibling molestation, gentle reassurance, sexual awareness
gentle reassurance, sexual awareness, internet 6: Greg, I know that these are trying times, especially when you are away. Your stepson is coming into his sexual awareness and apparently isn t receiving the support he needs to understand what it is all about, so is finding out on his own. Certainly, his conduct...

Molestation: Sick of feeling like this, sexual abuse survivors, secret survivors
sexual abuse survivors, secret survivors, goals and dreams: Your feelings are completely understandable. You did the right thing and you can t help it if your family responds the way they do. I understand not being able to afford therapy. I would seek it later when you can afford it just for general purpose. Next...

Molestation: Son reported inappropriate touching to us a year ago, now he's displaying this behavior, deviant behavior, warning sign
deviant behavior, warning sign, hindsight: Stacey, It s very difficult to see if an incident will affect a child in time to come. Some things they forget, and some they don t. I wouldn t have been possible at the time to foresee this happening. It has however happened, and action does need to...

Molestation: Spouse of a molested woman, sexual abuse victims, amazon
sexual abuse victims, amazon, inner circle: I am pretty sure there are books about partners/spouses/friends of sexual abuse victims. I would do a search for that. I am sure you can find some web sites if you do a search but I think a book would be better. Try www.amazon.com at least there you get...

Molestation: Step child abuse, emotional freedom technique, traumatic experiences
emotional freedom technique, traumatic experiences, low self esteem: Dear J., I can t think of ANY reason why you wouldn t want this child to be treated for her trauma and subsequent feelings of guilt, shame and low self-esteem. These are pretty much automatic PTSD responses to sexual abuse and molestation. That her mother...

Molestation: My Step Father doesn't treat me right, sexual harrassment, verbal abuse
sexual harrassment, verbal abuse, living at home: If he touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, that s sexual harrassment. If he threatens you, it s verbal abuse. My advice is to talk to someone you know and trust. If your mother doesn t believe you, try another person, such as a friend, a school...

Molestation: Step father, sexual molestation, step dad
sexual molestation, step dad, riding in the car: Tracey, obviously your story has struck a nerve with your mom, either triggering some deep suspicions in the past or some knowledge that she has been in denial about. To try to put blame on a child for instigating sexual molestation is beyond human understanding...

Molestation: Still dealing with molestion for over ten years, molestion, shy girl
molestion, shy girl, time delay: Janet, My apologies in the time delay for replying to this message I couldnt get on line! You have to be really ready to help yourself for counsellors to work. Many people do believe that by forgiving those that did wrong it somehow makes it easier to...

Molestation: Stuck in a hole .... seems like i am drowing!, drowing, hod
drowing, hod, fiance: Hello Lisa, I have never in all my time in social services, my personal therapy, and studies ever heard about what this therapist told you about your brain development. I do understand where they are coming from, and the idea that it may not have developed...

Molestation: Stunned and disgusted, adoptive brother, sick to my stomach
adoptive brother, sick to my stomach, inappropriate places: Annie, it certainly is a complicated story and I m not sure why your daughter was spending time with him, after what he had done in the past. I think that, perhaps, she should write down everything that she feels has happened to her, in as much detail...

Molestation: Surviving Hell, sick fetish, abusive childhood
sick fetish, abusive childhood, male friend: Dean, It is great that you have been able to work through what happened to you, and that you have found support from your wife. Don t feel weird about the possibilty that you liked what happened to you. As a child you had no control over what happened...

Molestation: What do I say?, school nurse, sister and brother
school nurse, sister and brother, initial reaction: Rita, My initial reaction to this question is believe her, and support her. However I know this must be hard given what she did a year ago. Is the family sure that a year ago she wasn t telling the truth? Could she not have taken back her statement because...

Molestation: scared and alone, post traumatic stress, step dad
post traumatic stress, step dad, having my baby: Hello Tamara, I donít really know what to say or where to start. You really need to have support from someone. I canít imagine all you are going through with a baby on the way and court. Two incredibly stressful events and you are still a child (ok to...

Molestation: 'scared and confused' again., professional basis, dependancy
professional basis, dependancy, going on holiday: Rebecca, I am sure you have once said you find a dependancy on alcohol, it could have stemmed from the time at your grandparents. Have you contacted your family doctor yet? I really think it is important for you to speak with someone of a more professional...

Molestation: sexual abuse survivors, sexual abuse survivor, sexual abuse survivors
sexual abuse survivor, sexual abuse survivors, best web sites: HI Danyel. There are lots of good web sites out there for Sexual Abuse. Rainn has a good site http://www.rainn.org I found that the best web sites were those written by survivors in their own words. It really helped me when I read them so I learned I was...

Molestation: sexual abuse, sexual abuse, parents
sexual abuse, parents: Rose, I would not worry at this stage if it will affect him, only time will tell. At the age of 4 he may not remember it for the long term, and it therefore might never become an issue for him. Should he continue to talk about it now, i would just try to...

Molestation: sexual child abuse, sexual child abuse, emotional scars
sexual child abuse, emotional scars, child sexual abuse: Pnina, When you are talking about child sexual abuse. In some cases the child has to go through counseling. They meaning the authorities look into the family setting being sure that the child is safe, in some cases they will take the child from the home....

Molestation: sexualisation - sexual abuse?, borderline personality disorder, sexy underwear
borderline personality disorder, sexy underwear, revealing things: Shiobhan, Im really sorry but I can not tell you if your father abused you or not. From what you have written he certainly acted inappropriately towards you. Encouraging you to buy sexy underwear, is not responsible behaviour from a grown man, a father,...

Molestation: sibling molestation, freshman year, half brother
freshman year, half brother, brother and sister: Jessica, You have many legal rights as victims of child abuse. No matter how much time has passed, you can still legally report this to the police and they will open an investigation. What your brother did was wrong. Your parents also have a duty to...

Molestation: sibling molestation, body memory, conscious memory
body memory, conscious memory, curious kid: This is a pretty gray area here, for a number of reasons. To begin with, I would want to know what/how you remembered, being molested at 3. Not a lot of people have much conscious memory of that age, but some do. Was this a one-time event or a series of...

Molestation: sibling to sibling molesting, step daughter, sexual activity
step daughter, sexual activity, little ones: they shouldn t be doing this at all. Sexual activity between blood-related people is incest. In more serious cases where it s done against the will of the victim, it s called molestation or even rape. They must stop this immediately because it s not right...

Molestation: sibling touching, stages of childhood development, religious overtones
stages of childhood development, religious overtones, sexual feelings: Dear worried mom.... please review some of these links to familiarize yourself with the various stages of childhood development, including sexual awareness and activities... http://www.ces.purdue.edu/providerparent/Child%20Growth-Development/SexualDEV.htm...

Molestation: What are the signs of child molestation?, sexual knowledge, heinous act
sexual knowledge, heinous act, sexual act: Casandra, 3 year old children certainly have active imaginations, but I would be extremely concerned by what you have wittnessed. Children often role play events they have seen in life, they role play shops and might incorporate an arguement, they would...

Molestation: What are the signs of infant molestation?, growth spurt, gut instinct
growth spurt, gut instinct, unnecessary heart: Dawn, Each child is different, and signs that could indicate to molestation could also mean a lot of other things, and some things that you need not worry about. Do you suspect a child is being sexually molestated? Looking for signs will often lead you...

Molestation: sister molestation, ho oponopono, birds and the bees
ho oponopono, birds and the bees, physical intimidation: Sue, these are trying experiences for parents and there are many factors to consider when dealing with a young child s open sexual acts in early puberty. There are a number of good links and related issues here: http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/parents/experts/carerra.htm...

Molestation: My sister just told me...., sister lorraine, crying all day
sister lorraine, crying all day, personal decision: Hello Karen, This is a time of high emotions. Try not to make any decisions right now. Denial is common; people will often blame themselves when something like that happens. With that in mind its makes them less likely to want to tell anyone. As...

Molestation: sitting in church with the perpitratior, christmas eve, step dad
christmas eve, step dad, family christmas: I don t think I can really answer this. I think it would depend on your personal beliefs. Based on mine I don t think it would cause any damage between you and god, I am catholic but thats just my opinion. I have usually been taught god is forgiving,...

Molestation: My son's friend, reprocussions, sleepovers
reprocussions, sleepovers, step mother: You havent stated how old these boys are, although it doesn t make that much difference. Firstly, do not blame yourself. You could not have known this was happening, be it in your house or any other. Blaming yourself will just make things worse and hurt...

Molestation: Is my son lying?, sexual exploration, hormonal changes
sexual exploration, hormonal changes, six year olds: Gina, six year olds pick up all kinds of information and language from peers, adults and other children and incorporate it into their lives to see if it fits and makes them be like big people. On the other hand, if they are raised with love and acceptance...

Molestation: My son was molested 3 years ago, mild tranquilizers, effects of molestation
mild tranquilizers, effects of molestation, couselor: He should probably try a different couselor; this one may not be helping him as much as he needs to be heldped at this time. Also, it might help him to talk things out with you and your husband so he is reassured none of this was his fault. Did you brother...

Molestation: My son was molested, anally, penises
anally, penises, mother in law: I have to say I think you could BOTH use therapy. More you possibly then him. Have someone seriously help you work through your guilt and all. You can t say for sure this wouldn t have happened, just that it may not had. We can never be 100% certain of...

Molestation: (no subject), counseling, protective agencies
counseling, protective agencies: Go to the www.rainn.org site, find out what laws apply to wherever you are and see if there is a local support number you can call for assistance and advice. Otherwise, you can contact the local child protective agencies and file a report. http://tools.rainn.org/counseling-centers/index.html...

Molestation: support group, emotional freedom technique, endeavor
emotional freedom technique, endeavor, support group: Eve, this sounds like a great idea. The way we support those in need of assistance and healing is to direct them to the benefits of EFT (emotional freedom technique) at the EFT site: www.emofree.com This is powerful and very rapid help for many emotionally...

Molestation: support group, abuse men, victims of abuse
abuse men, victims of abuse, classmates: Actually, I m a guy, although guys too can become victims of abuse. I know, because I ve been through alot of abuse in my life. I was always getting picked on at school, and one of my classmates even sexually assaulted me. So you see, women aren t the only...

Molestation: No support, baby of the family, bad kid
baby of the family, bad kid, self respect: Lorraine, What your brother did to you was completely wrong. I can understand the difficulty you must face daily having him at home and with your mother s support. The job of a mother is to protect their children, you mother is not doing this. She may not...

Molestation: How am I supposed to deal with this, school counselor, lack of evidence
school counselor, lack of evidence, accidently: I m sorry they are acting like that. Its always a mystery how people will react. I suspect your parents have some unspoken guilt as well. Maybe they don t even realize it, who knows. Their behavior is so crazy, first they are blaming you, then mad at you...

Molestation: what am i supposed to do?!?, nina nina, sexual molestation
nina nina, sexual molestation, 19 years old: Nina.... there are always consequences for actions that are not done with integrity. You took an action of having sex with someone other than your boyfriend (assuming you were having sex)of 4 years and now you are surprised that he s a little bit angry with...

Molestation: I have some suspicions that I was molested, explicit drawings, sexual exploration
explicit drawings, sexual exploration, arms and legs: Jaye, Sexual abuse is often handed down from generation to generation, by children modeling their parent s behaviors and attitudes about sex. Even when your conscious mind isn t able to retrieve details of an event, especially at an early age, your body...

Molestation: Talk to kids about molestation, child molestation, comquest
child molestation, comquest, information pages: Mary, There are good information pages and links at www.rainn.org and http://www.stopitnow.com/comquest.html A basic rule for kids is to tell them that strangers cannot touch them anywhere a bathing suit covers. Be sure to tell them that you love them and...

Molestation: Thanks again, dependancy, good luck
dependancy, good luck, rebecca: You re welcome ;) Opening up is a great way to start to get through this. If you cant talk to your family, or doctor, then print out the pages where you have wrote to me and show them, let them read how you feel because in words you wont have missed any...

Molestation: Trying to get my daughter to tell me if any abuse has occured., mental maturity, friends daughter
mental maturity, friends daughter, bad stuff: Victoria, this kind of situation can have all kinds of outcomes and it appears that you are aware of most of them, already. You could try to get the two of them together and then have the friend explain the game to you both. Or talk with the friend s...

Molestation: Twincest, kiss on the lips, family hug
kiss on the lips, family hug, private option: Hello Tom, The situation with your brother is a very sensitive one. I would say itís crossed the line of harassment. You two seem to have loads in common and I have heard twins can be closer then even your average siblings. Itís possible your brother...

Molestation: Twincest, kiss on the lips, family hug
kiss on the lips, family hug, private option: This may be a duplicate. ------------------ Hello Tom, The situation with your brother is a very sensitive one. I would say itís crossed the line of harassment. You two seem to have loads in common and I have heard twins can be closer then even...

Molestation: I can't forgive myself, curious kind, bottom bunk
curious kind, bottom bunk, 17 years: Kaelyn, My first reaction to your question is to remind you how old you were! You were only a child yourself. It doesn t excuse what happened, but it should offer you some comfort in that you have learnt it is wrong and that you would not do this as normal...

Molestation: I can't move on..., benefit of the doubt, doing my job
benefit of the doubt, doing my job, grandaughter: I understand and have been in the same place as you before. It took me a very long time to work through that feeling of freezing up. I think you should talk to you mom about it. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they will be more receptive to it...

Molestation: Can't Remember?, disgusting things, adult behavior
disgusting things, adult behavior, acting out: Lynn, we know of a number of cases where young children mimicked the actions of their mothers having sex or masturbating. They were under 6 years old and were just modeling what they were seeing as being normal to them. Most people have few early childhood...

Molestation: I can't remember, loving sexual relationship, fear of intimacy
loving sexual relationship, fear of intimacy, self destructive behavior: Else, You ask if these incidents are bad enough , well abuse of any kind is bad and effects people differently. Your emotions were effected all the same regardless of how the sexual abuse took place and for how long. You have suffered with these memories...

Molestation: someone to talk to, drinking and drugs, drinking with friends
drinking and drugs, drinking with friends, fucked up day: Hi there, Yes, i am a stranger, but i can and will listen. Did something happen to you? It wasn t real clear. Can you talk to me about what happened to you? Drinking and drugs probably only mask your emotions right now. If you feel comfortable, write...

Molestation: How to tell in a young child?, dysfunctional patterns, child counselor
dysfunctional patterns, child counselor, lousy job: Tanya, there is touching and there is sexual touching and it is hard for a 4 year old to differentiate, unless he is feeling like something is not right with this experience. In a perfect world, an experienced child counselor may be able to coax out...

Molestation: How can I tell?, erect penis, bathing suits
erect penis, bathing suits, womens feet: Aaron, Firstly, just because a person is abused as a child, it does not mean they will develop into the abuser, nor does the unabused never become the abuser. You did right in talking with your son about not having sexual contact with his younger brother....

Molestation: "telling", several times, best friend
several times, best friend: Hi Chris, I just want you to know that if this girl is your best friend she will love you no matter what. This wasn t your fault and you did not deserve it so there is no reason for her to dislike you. If anything she will be concerned and sad to hear that...

Molestation: thanks for the info :), statutes of limitation, childhood friends
statutes of limitation, childhood friends, bestfriend: Natalie, sounds like he s on the run and knows that he s in trouble for his behaviors. From the Rainn.org site: http://www.rainn.org/what-should-i-do/criminal-statutes-of-limitation/index.html#KY No statute of limitations! I think that is where you will...

Molestation: were thety molested? interesting case, sister becky, daughter tiffany
sister becky, daughter tiffany, brother nathan: Well, Nancy, this is quite a potpourri of personalities and agendas, and will take some sorting out. The kids do have a motive to lie, and I know that mothers can influence their kids to have false memories of abuse; however, it would behoove him to undergo...

Molestation: i think i was abused, but i can't remember, maternal grandmother, close proximity
maternal grandmother, close proximity, pubic area: Hi Sammi, Firstly, let me just apologise for the delay in my answer. I have been having a few problems with my computer. It is not impossible for a person not to remember being abused. The mind has effective coping mechanisms of keeping itself safe, one...

Molestation: I think my son's step-grandfather may have molested him..., sexual molestation, feet toes
sexual molestation, feet toes, peepee: Natasha, Your son certainly seem s to be upset about something. I usualy say follow your instinct, as a mother they are never far wrong. Im not sure what the other expert has said, but ask yourself would you prefer to report this and be wrong, or ignore...

Molestation: I thought I was over the whole thing, but now..., two different things, new memories
two different things, new memories, ptsd symptoms: Sandra, You are experiencing a lot of classic PTSD symptoms, related to being molested as a child for a long time. Dealing and healing are two different things, in this case. As you have seen, burying it and pretending that it didn t happen, doesn t work...

Molestation: thoughts of suicide.., obuse, shitty life
obuse, shitty life, emotionaly: Rachel, It is very important that you go and speak to your family doctor about receiving help for your emotional problems. The rape was not your fault, and no matter who tells you it was, it wasn t. No sexual act carried out without consent is legal,...

Molestation: My three year old niece said she's been touched by her half-brother, step niece, pee pee
step niece, pee pee, mommy and daddy: Sandra, with two accounts from this little girl, her mother either better get in the game or someone needs to be called in to evaluate the situation. She can be taken to a pediatrician for evaluation and any findings of sexual assault will not go down easy...

Molestation: My three year old just said something that scared me, abnormal behaviors, french toast
abnormal behaviors, french toast, reference page: Christina, it could well be signs of some kind of abuse. Have a health professional evaluate her condition, especially if she develops some discomfort in her genital region. She is moving into the age of communicating her feelings, real and imagined. She...

Molestation: a three year old, sexual abuse issues, friend doesn
sexual abuse issues, friend doesn, local authorities: That can cover a LOT of various infection sources. Either someone has to keep pressing the mother about the possibilities of what is suspected, or you will have to wait and watch some more, until it all dies down, continues or gets worse. Once some hard evidence...

Molestation: I just told my mom..., going through puberty, stupid excuse
going through puberty, stupid excuse, being a boy: Ashley, Honesty is the best policy and you have seen how sharing your story and fears has helped get your mother on your side. I think that the two of you should go to your grandmother together and tell her that you have some important information to share...

Molestation: When is touching actually abuse?, necessary police, police action
necessary police, police action, young girl: Kim, What you describe to me is abuse. This girl is 8, and surely would know if she was wet or not. He has no reason to be touching her clothing in that area. Just because he is touching over clothes, or it lasts only minutes does not make it right. ...

Molestation: I am trying to figure this out, but no luck., emotional wound, step dad
emotional wound, step dad, sexual offense: obviously, your molestation from your step-father scarred you emotionally. The damage of an emotional wound takes longer to heal than a physical one, some never heal at all. Molestation is a sexual offense and if no one in your family did anything about it,...

Molestation: trying to help a friend, counsler, bad decisions
counsler, bad decisions, desicions: Megan, It s funny how we dwell on the bad stuff and have such difficulty in being in the now and looking forward to the future, isn t it? Children s behavior comes from a combination of acting on their feelings, modeling the behaviors of others and from...

Molestation: my uncle molested me, flashbacks, little kids
flashbacks, little kids, grandchildren: You could tell her just what you told me. It doesn t sound like you re 100% certain that it was your uncle who did this to you. It sounds like it was someone you knew and her asking that confirmed it to you. That s a tricky situation to be in. It is entirely...

Molestation: no one understands, angry person, legitimate concern
angry person, legitimate concern, good relationship: You just have to get it out. You have to talk to them and your husband. He needs to give you support during this time. Its possible he just doesn t know what to say. Try to work with him. If you don t let this out and talk to your family and husband...

Molestation: Ways to move on, pupi, peepee
pupi, peepee, stepfather: Joy, I can relate to your question on many levels. What your grandfather did was completely immoral and illegal. Also as a mother the main role is to protect our young, your mother has failed to do this on a number of occassions. Even though this happened...

Molestation: Wife molested by her stepfather before we met, intimate situations, old memories
intimate situations, old memories, time offenders: Matt, Hard to imagine that her mom didn t know about this for over 7 years, but I hear these and worse stories, unfortunately. Your wife sounds like she is a strong woman, but to say that you are suddenly over it is rather naive. Look at some of the information...

Molestation: i want to know if my best friend is being hurt when she goes to her uncles every weekend, friend krista, having a nightmare
friend krista, having a nightmare, strangest places: Hi Stephanie, Thanks for the follow up. To answer your question, absolutely. There is no doubt in my mind that someone should be notified about what is obviously happening to this girl. The only thing you have to remember is that you may be saving...

Molestation: I want to know what to do, day care provider, diffence
day care provider, diffence, caseworker: Hi Kellie, I don t think living in Ca. should make any diffence. As far as your question regarding CPS and what should you do. I think you should not worry if you truly don t know where your daughter may have learned this activity. However, as a...

Molestation: I wonder if my husband is abusing our son, father having sex, scout leader
father having sex, scout leader, oulet: Twila, Downloading child porn is an offence itself, and should not be ignored. Respected adult or not, that does not make him immune to illegal activity, and I would be very concerned about the content you have found on your computer. I would strongly...

Molestation: wondering about my daughters safety, terrified scream, odd behaviors
terrified scream, odd behaviors, bath time: You re right these are odd behaviors for a child, especially if this isn t something that she has done before. You ve done a pretty good job of placing things together and it s good that you re concerned. Even if you ve talked to her about good and bad...

Molestation: Should I be worried?, childhood sex abuse, marlena
childhood sex abuse, marlena, bestfriend: HI Laura. Great question. I do beleive that it s natural for children to touch themselves but on the other hand its best to be safe not sorry. The key would be to watch and see if she exibits any signs of childhood sex abuse. Does she wet the bed? Is...

Molestation: is this wrong?, sexual expressions, pureintimacy
sexual expressions, pureintimacy, siecus: Kayla, perhaps you can share the information on the following websites with your grandma. Older generations, especially those with strong religious backgrounds tend to frown on the evidence of sexual expressions, even though it is natural at almost all ages....

Molestation: should I??, teen years, caution
teen years, caution, good luck: Hi Kim, Yes, This is normal. I want to say though, that if you do this, please don t do it alone. It can feel very impowering, but, remember the person that molested you, is sick. protect yourself, by being sure that you are not alone with him, ok? Also...

Molestation: ?, mental trauma, step dad
mental trauma, step dad, accurate descriptions: Amanda, you can do searching on the web for fairly accurate descriptions of sexual assault and molestation. www.rainn.org site has a lot of info and links. I think that molestation in the pure sense is physically touching someone else inappropriately and...

Molestation: why, forensic psychology, painful thoughts
forensic psychology, painful thoughts, sexual awareness: Cassandra, here is a link I found that helps explain some of the motivations of child molesters.... http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/forensic_psychology/22656 While there are trends and general indicators, you can really never know how it feels to be...

Molestation: Should I??, molester, unresolved issues
molester, unresolved issues, child molestation: It is absolutely normal and also helpful for you to vent your hurt and anger, however, it depends on who this guy is...if there is any possibility he could be dangerous to you then you would need to bring a friend with you, which would be a good idea anyway,...

Molestation: should I??, teen years, best of luck
teen years, best of luck, closure: I think if someone doesn t think its normal its because they aren t use to people being as brave as you are. I think it s amazing you want to do this and completely support it. You may want to consider having someone with you or waiting nearby for you for...

Molestation: what to do, panick attacks, kind eyes
panick attacks, kind eyes, molestor: I can try to help you. It s normal to feel a lot of what you are feeling, But you need professional help. Why can t or won t you try that? You ve been through so much, and these feelings and behaviors won t just go away. If you could get help,would you try...

Molestation: what to do, panick attacks, private question
panick attacks, private question, question button: Miguel, i ll help you as much as i can. But, hiding all of this from your family, will eventually come up. I m limited on what I can offer. but feel free to write, and I ll do what I can. I do not understand drugs. But, i know that you feel that they...

Molestation: What should I do??, state of denial, extreme state
state of denial, extreme state, old baby: Hello Kara, This is awful that your mother wonít believe anyone. I canít understand that. She seems to be in an extreme state of denial right now. What has happened to you is molestation, donít doubt that. Can you stay with your aunt? I would talk...

Molestation: What should I do??, multiple times, sexual assault
multiple times, sexual assault, simple steps: Alicia, it wasn t your fault and shame on your Mom for not believing you. Maybe she has some things to hide, related to that, too. Apparently, there is a history of sexual abuse in your family tree..... Go to the www.rainn.org site and read up on sexual...

Molestation: ?, game of truth, real desire
game of truth, real desire, vacation with my family: Amanda, I hope that you have learned to use more force and/or leave the situation, if your NO isn t being heard or recognized as your real desire! If you kept this up for three years, then one can say that you didn t speak up about what was happening and/or...

Molestation: was i?, rape charge, child protective services
rape charge, child protective services, short circuit: Kristen, if this story got to a counselor or child protective services, you could get pulled from your house and family. Your father is completely irresponsible for allowing a 16 year old to drink and to be in the unattended company of older men. I would call...

Molestation: should I??, teen years, confrontation
teen years, confrontation, feelings: Dear should I, Yes that is very normal to want to let this man know how much he affected your life. However, you may not get what you want or need out of this confrontation. He may laugh at you, he may get very angry, or he may victimize you emotionally....

Molestation: one of my younger sisters molested the other, sexual promiscuity, grey area
sexual promiscuity, grey area, train wreck: Ok, that gives a different picture. It no longer sounds like an innocent exploration of sexuality by a child. In young children however, sexually aggressive behaviour is usually learnt which would add credibility to C s claim of abuse. I find it quite concerning...

Monitor Problems: 19, dell e193fp 19, dell monitors
dell e193fp 19, dell monitors, vent holes: I can t find anything thats says if they are the same or not. I am still looking though. But on a good note I found the same dell monitor on ebay for under $30. It is stuck in power saver mode but that can usually be fixed by unplugging it for a few days...

Monitor Problems: Acer 22" monitor 1680x1050, optimal settings, latest graphics
optimal settings, latest graphics, older computer: Check the computer manufacture or video card makers website for updated video drivers. This will usually enable more display settings. Check and see if you have the display settings you need after the driver is installed. If still no You can still try using...

Monitor Problems: acer x191w, video manufacturer, default functions
video manufacturer, default functions, acer america: There are two ways. 1) use the buttons on the front (sometimes on the side) of the monitor to enter the monitors menu. There can adjust many of the monitors default functions. 2) Go to control panel and look for the icon for you video card. Enter the utility...

Monitor Problems: Computer monitor suddenly tinted green, photoshop wizard, grafic cards
photoshop wizard, grafic cards, wire pins: lets try to get this fixed by resetting the monitor manually. 1)purchase some canned air from an office supply store. 2)unplug the monitor from the computer and from and electrical socket 3) use the canned air to blow out all the cvent holes of the monitor...

Monitor Problems: Computer RCA Hook-up Blurry, computer case mod, rca tv
computer case mod, rca tv, flat screen monitor: basically exporting to a TV....well that is the result. TV work on a different display property than monitors do (i think the max TV setting is below 640x480). You never get a clear picture on a standard TV without a converter box. ther are converters avail...

Monitor Problems: Dell Flat Screen - Pink/Green rectangles, dell flat screen monitor, flat screen monitor
dell flat screen monitor, flat screen monitor, rectangles: Check your video card. If you have never cleaned out the computer itself, now is a good time. It the video card is an add on, remove the screw to remove the card. Replace it into the computer and check it. Also check for non functioning fans in the computer...

Monitor Problems: Dell Monitor died ??, dell tech support, acer monitor
dell tech support, acer monitor, dell monitor: Sorry about my lateness. First take computer and remove the side panel. Use some canned air (you can get at any office supply store) to blow out all the dust in the computer. Make sure you get the power supply good - just blow the air into the vents. If...

Monitor Problems: exactly half of monitor is red (right side), vent holes, canned air
vent holes, canned air, select factory: have you tried cleaning it? Purchase some canned air (get from a local office supply store). Unplug the monitor from both the wall and from the computer. Use the canned air to blow out the monitor by blowing out all the vent holes really well. leave...

Monitor Problems: acer x191w, bottom hand, bottom edge
Monitor Problems: acer x191w, bottom hand, bottom edge, top edge

Monitor Problems: Gateway FDP1830 LCD monitor blank
Monitor Problems: Gateway FDP1830 LCD monitor blank

Monitor Problems: Hp f2105 monitor, hp service, yr warranty
Monitor Problems: Hp f2105 monitor, hp service, yr warranty, typical symptom

Monitor Problems: hp 1502 lcd display flashes on off, hp 1502, flash mode
Monitor Problems: hp 1502 lcd display flashes on off, hp 1502, flash mode, repairable

Monitor Problems: No power(HP vs19b), electrolytic capacitors, putty knife
Monitor Problems: No power(HP vs19b), electrolytic capacitors, putty knife, printed circuit board

Monitor Problems: Wide screen monitor display, graphics media, acceleration
Monitor Problems: Wide screen monitor display, graphics media, acceleration, good luck

Monitor Problems: flickering screen, video card manufacturer, video driver
video card manufacturer, video driver, flat screen: Flickering can be caused by interference and incorrect or out of date drivers. First - use the buttons on the front of your monitor to set it back to the default setting or reset. Move any speakers away from the monitor if possible. If the monitor is a...

Monitor Problems: Gateway 700G Flatscreen monitor, screen saver tab, flatscreen monitor
screen saver tab, flatscreen monitor, power settings: If the zipzags are moving it may just be a screen saver. Right click the desktop and choose properties. The go to the screen saver tab and turn it to none. Check your power settings. start, programs, control panel, power options. Turn off hibernation, and...

Monitor Problems: Gateway FDP1830 LCD monitor blank, vent holes, crt monitor
vent holes, crt monitor, canned air: Purchase some canned air from an office supply store. Leave the monitor unplugged. use the canned air to blow out all the vent holes of the monitor really well. leave it unplugged for at least one day. Plug it into the wall and use the buttons on the front...

Monitor Problems: In-game graphics, video driver software, nvidia video card
video driver software, nvidia video card, internet explorer: I am going to assume you are running windows XP. Got to start, run and type dxdiag. make sure the direct X version is 9.0C or higher. The run the tests for video and audio. If everything checks ok, then we need to completely remove the video driver. Delete...

Monitor Problems: Hooking up laptop to external moniter, laptop system, old laptop
laptop system, old laptop, desktop items: the monitor is comming in as an extention of your desktop. See if you can right click and bring up the display properties. If so go in and make the external monitor the default monitor or primary. this should give you the main desktop then. let me know...

Monitor Problems: HP f2105 monitors do not turn on, radio shack, canned air
radio shack, canned air, erratic behavior: Chances are you didn t fry both monitors, maybe the one. Have you tried another socket? The canned air only works if you are getting power to the monitor. It is just to clear the dust and dirt, which can cause erratic behavior with the boards inside. If...

Monitor Problems: Hp f2105 monitor, hp f2105 monitor, future shop
hp f2105 monitor, future shop, sound speaker: magnets cause big problems with monitors. Is the monitor powering up (the power light coming on - any color)? If you just have no screen but have power; see if you can open the monitor menu using the buttons on the front of the monitor. if you can try reseting...

Monitor Problems: hp 1502 lcd display flashes on off, dell monitors, hp 1502
dell monitors, hp 1502, connection cables: First does any other monitor work ok? If so we can rule out the video adapter. Get some canned air (form an office supply store) and unplug the monitor from both the PC and the wall. Use the canned air to blow out all the air vents really well. leave it...

Monitor Problems: LCD Gateway monitor very dark., fn key, brightness function
fn key, brightness function, gateway laptop: there should be a FN key on your keyboard. There should also be brightness keys (the brightness function is usually a secondary function). Hold the FN key hit the brightness up or down keys. This should solve the problem. If not you ll need to contact gateway...

Monitor Problems: LG E700SH Monitor., factory default, monitor settings
factory default, monitor settings, monitors: use the buttons on the front of the monitor to open the settings. Most monitors have a setting to adjust the bevel of the sides. If your monitor does not have this setting (mine does not), try resetting the monitor. This setting should also be in the monitor...

Monitor Problems: laptop screen to TV screen, hp pavillon, laptop hp
hp pavillon, laptop hp, laptop manufacturer: First you need to download and install the most current video driver possible from the laptop manufacturer. Then you will need to get the video card to recognize the TV. You can do this through the display properties - right click the desktop. You can choose...

Monitor Problems: Monitor off center, arrow keys, right arrow
arrow keys, right arrow, sony monitor: I ll tell you how to move around on mine. Hopefully that will help. I have five buttons. auto , left arrow right arrow , menu power . I have to hit menu, to enter the menu. left and right arrows will move through the few icons in the menu. If i want...

Monitor Problems: Monitor not displaying, google search, hp product
google search, hp product, turn around time: If you press the buttons on the front of the monitor and cannot see the menu that comes up, your power inverter may be going bad, it could also be the backlight. These things can be reapired, but usually there is not a local place that does the repairs. You...

Monitor Problems: Monitor problem, flat pannel monitor, vent holes
flat pannel monitor, vent holes, canned air: Could be the monitor needs to be cleaned and discharged. Purchase some canned air from an office supply store. Unplug the monitor from the computer and wall Use the canned air to blow out all the vent holes on the monitor, get in there really good leave...

Monitor Problems: monitor display problem, left mouse button, button right
left mouse button, button right, taskbar: Right click the toolbar and click lock taskbar if it is checked. This will unlock it. It it is already unlocked see next step. Click the left mouse button on the toolbar and drag (while holding the mouse button in) it to the location you want it to be (top,...

Monitor Problems: monitor/PC compatability, maximum screen resolution, vga ports
maximum screen resolution, vga ports, compaq evo: I am assuming both have VGA ports. It should be fine then. The new monitor will work fine as long as it has VGA also. Some new monitors have both VGA and DVI. Just make sure it has at least VGA to work with the computer. I would also update all the drivers...

Monitor Problems: monitor problems, monitor problems, hp computer
monitor problems, hp computer, hdmi cable: Have you tried using the monitor setting? Use the buttons on the front of the monitor to enter the menu. You can change various display settings here. You can also change display settings in windows properties. Check the native settings for the monitor,...

Monitor Problems: monitor view rotated 90 degrees, video card manufacturer, driver nvidia
video card manufacturer, driver nvidia, microsoft driver: Some video cards can rotate the screen by holding ctrl+alt and pressing an arrow key. Different arrows will rotate it different directions. Also the windows XP machine may just have the default microsoft driver installed. this will not give you any display...

Monitor Problems: monitor won't turn on, indicator light, power inverter
indicator light, power inverter, monitors: usually. Contact the manufacturer to find the nearest servicer. Get a quote before you have it fixed and find some monitors on line for pricing (check newegg.com). That way you will know if it worth having fixed or just purchase a new one. the pfft sound...

Monitor Problems: No power(HP vs19b), vent holes, monitor hp
vent holes, monitor hp, canned air: Lets try the basic fixes first: Purchase some canned air from an office supply store. Unplug the monitor and leave it that way for about a day. In the meantime use the canned air to blow out all the vent holes of the monitor. After about a day plug the...

Monitor Problems: Having problem in monitor very dangerous...., optimal rate, computer manufacturer
optimal rate, computer manufacturer, display drivers: If I understand correctly, everything is squished to one side. First, use the buttons on the front of the monitor to set it to the default settings or reset. next, right click the desktop (if you can see it) and try changing the the display settings to an...

Monitor Problems: problems using Samsung LCD as monitor with Dell Lattitude laptop, dell lattitude, samsung lcd
dell lattitude, samsung lcd, vga connection: Hopefully the laptop has a DVI output that you are using the HDMI cable with. If the tv and laptop have a VGA connection you can use that also. You must identify the TV in the video card software. You can accesss the software through the control panel. there...

Monitor Problems: rmonitor problem, canned air, factory defaults
canned air, factory defaults, video drivers: have you tried cleaning the monitor? You can blow it out using some canned air. Then use the buttons on the front to set it to the factory defaults or reset. Also try getting updated video drivers for your video card. Let me know if the problem persist...

Monitor Problems: Screen looks like its breathing..lol, vent holes, compaq monitor
vent holes, compaq monitor, check performance: Try the baic fix. this will fix alot of things. Purchase some caaned air from an office supply store. Unplug the monitor from the computer and from the wall socket. We want no power going to it. Use the canned air to blow out all the vent holes of the monitor....

Monitor Problems: shut down, nvidia software, catalyst software
nvidia software, catalyst software, hardware wizard: Did you unistall all Nvidia software before installing the ATI card? This causes major conflicts. Go to ATI s website and download the newest driver for your card (make sure you download the full version with the catalyst software)- do not install. Go to...

Monitor Problems: stretched display, toshiba satellite, settings tab
toshiba satellite, settings tab, rebecca: right click the desktop and choose properties (personalization for vista). Go to settings tab. Set the settings to 1024x768. It that provides a nice desktop you can increase it. Just make sure you don t use a wdiscreen setting or you get the stretched desktop...

Monitor Problems: Using HD TV as monitor, sony vaio pcv, video card manufacturer
sony vaio pcv, video card manufacturer, hd screen: The TV identify feature in included in almost most new drivers supplied from video card manufacturers (free download from their website). The TV idenify will help greatly in getting a signal to output to the TV. It is only in the new drivers and not a seperate...

Monitor Problems: Viewing jpg on tv, dell laptop inspiron, google search
dell laptop inspiron, google search, computer tvs: Not much you can do. Unfortunately this is the result with using S video to hook to a TV. If the laptop has a VGA port for another monitor you can purchase a converter box to convert the signal so it will appear correctly. The problem with just using S video...

Monitor Problems: Wide screen monitor display, desk top pc, settings tab
desk top pc, settings tab, pc monitor: When you right click the desktop - choose properties. Go to the settings tab. There should be a slider with settings. There should also be a monitor at the top. As you move the slider the monitor should change shape. You are looking to get the monitor to...

Monitor Problems: Color screwed up, everything is Green!, dell trinitron, vent holes
dell trinitron, vent holes, ati control panel: Since it is a hand me down i assume no one ever cleaned it. Purchase some canned air from an office supply store. Unplug the monitor, use the canned air to blow out all the vent holes really good. Try to blow air inside as best as you can. Leave the montiro...

Monitor Problems: Compaq FS7600 problem, compaq fs7600, vent holes
compaq fs7600, vent holes, canned air: purchase some canned air from an office supply store. We most likely have a dust problem. Monitors hate dust. Unplug the monitor and use the canned air to blow out all the vent holes. Get in the really good. Leave it unplugged for about 1 day. Then plug...

Monitor Problems: cleaning my hpf2105 did not work, video card, screw
video card, screw, hpf2105: Check to see if you are using an actual video card or onboard video. If you have a video card, remove the screw and remove the card. Reinsert it formly. Boot up and check function. Lastly you can try a different monitor. The monitor may need to be replaced,...

Monitor Problems: i have a compaq v2000 presario and sometimes when i turn on the computer the screen is totally white, compaq v2000 presario, canned air
compaq v2000 presario, canned air, factory defaults: make sure the video cable is connected securely to both the monitor and the computer. Use the buttons on the front of the monitor to reset to the factory defaults. Purchase some canned air from an office supply store, open the computer case and blow out all...

Monitor Problems: DCLDC Monitor Trouble, monitor vista, default screen
monitor vista, default screen, two occasions: If you are using this with a laptop, it will not be the default screen in most cases. You ll have to boot to windows using the laptop monitor and then enter the display properties. In the settings tab you should see both monitors. You can set the external...

Monitor Problems: Display wraps around top to bottom, thin horizontal line, screen settings
thin horizontal line, screen settings, video settings: You may have installed an update for your video card that is not compatable with your screen. If you can find your way around to the screen settings you can adjust it to a lower setting this should fix the problem. If you have a disk for your video card or...

Monitor Problems: dark, section buttons, selection buttons
section buttons, selection buttons, menu button: Most monitor have three buttons. AUTO, a menu button and two selection buttons. Use the menu button and the section buttons to navigate the menu and adjust the brightness and contrast. Pressing auto may sometimes also fix this. There also similar settings...

Monitor Problems: display settings, change shape, settings tab
change shape, settings tab, screen mode: Right click the desktop and choose properties. Go to the settings tab. Move the slider to a screen setting that is normal and square. Apply the settings and everything should go back to normal. You will see the picture of your monitor change shape as you move...

Monitor Problems: Flip monitor to 'portrait mode', video card manufacturer, keyboard method
video card manufacturer, keyboard method, control panel icon: Most pc manufacturer drivers support the keyboard method. Hold CTRL+ALT and hit an arrow key, different arrow keys flip it different directions. If that doesn t work, go to device manager and check the manufacturer and model of the video card. Got to the...

Monitor Problems: Display wraps around top to bottom
Monitor Problems: Display wraps around top to bottom

Monitor Problems: frequency out of range, monitor settings, frequency settings
Monitor Problems: frequency out of range, monitor settings, frequency settings

Monitor Problems: Laptop Monitor, display properties
Monitor Problems: Laptop Monitor, display properties

Monitor Problems: Monitor Recovering from Sleep Mode, nvidia card, computer powers
Monitor Problems: Monitor Recovering from Sleep Mode, nvidia card, computer powers, sleep mode

Monitor Problems: frequency out of range, screen settings, safe mode
screen settings, safe mode, windows xp: It means your screen settings in windows are too high for the monitor. To reset them boot the comoputer and keep hitting F8 till you get a menu (you want to do this before windows loads). Choose safe mode. Go to display properties (right click the desktop...

Monitor Problems: hp f2105 monitor bad color when cold, vent holes, hp f2105 monitor
vent holes, hp f2105 monitor, canned air: have you tried cleaning and discharging it? Purchase some canned air from an office supply store. Unplug the monitor. Use the canned air to blow through the vent holes. get it really good. leave it unplugged for at least 1 day to discharge. then plug it back...

Monitor Problems: Iiyama Vision Master Pro 510, power fluctuations, iiyama vision master
power fluctuations, iiyama vision master, canned air: If it is not staying on the screen at all time it could be power fluctuations. Try putting on a UPS to see if it is the wall current or the power inverter. If it is on all the time cleaning and discharging might fix it. Purchase some canned air, unplug the...

Monitor Problems: Laptop Monitor, compaq presario laptop, fn key
compaq presario laptop, fn key, compaq presario: Sound like you may just have a bad connection wire to the display. You ll have to call compaq to have it fixed. As far as a monitor goes you can use pretty much any monitor you want as long as the laptop in question has a VGA port. This is usually blue and...

Monitor Problems: Laptop monitor goes black, dell inspiron 1100, notebook laptop
dell inspiron 1100, notebook laptop, dell inspiron: Go to control panel and enter the power options. Go to the hybernation tab and turn it off. then go back to the power schemes tab and set that how you would like it to perform. I usually set everything to never power off. I can plug in usually if needed...

Monitor Problems: LCD monitor w/ black screen and colored vertical lines, vent holes, canned air
vent holes, canned air, starlogic: Sound like the monitor has seen better days and will need to be replaced or repaired. You can try cleaning and discharging it sometimes this will perform miracles. Get some canned air from an office supply store. Unplug the monitor and use the canned air...

Monitor Problems: laptop monitor, vent holes, mobility radeon m6
vent holes, mobility radeon m6, laptop model: first check device manager and make sure there are no problems with the card or driver. When was the last time you cleaned out the computer? Purchase some canned sir and blow out the computer, blow out all the vent holes really well. Visit Toshiba s website...

Monitor Problems: laptop monitor, compaq presario laptop, disk defragmenter
compaq presario laptop, disk defragmenter, bluetooth stack: First. If you ca go online - go here: http://www.stevengould.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=29&Itemid=72 download the program and install it. then run it and say no to demo mode. Reboot and go to programs, accessories, system tool, disk defragmenter...

Monitor Problems: laptop video to tv, startup icon, sony vaio
startup icon, sony vaio, external connector: Your laptop will not output to the external connector by default. I am going to assume you are using XP. Go to control panel Look for an icon for your video adapter (intel, nvidia, ati, ect.). this is the easiest way. If there is a startup icon in the...