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Parenting --Teens: Teenager - series of bad events, physical confrontation, explicit text
physical confrontation, explicit text, family relationship: Wendy, Your daughter is experiencing grief and is most likely depressed. I would suggest that you follow through on your plan. Keeping her focused through horse riding could be a great way to help her. I would suggest that redirecting of friends will take...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man, new zeeland, trouble with women
new zeeland, trouble with women, loving relationship: Hello, Everyone has the right to their opinion and their point of view. If he dislikes American women, that is his right. He doesn t have to marry one. If he wants a European woman, that is also his right. Obviously, half of all American men who get married...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, being a father, american women
being a father, american women, child support system: Hello, I wonder if this man is looking at his role in what may have led his wife to leave him and take his son. Often, there are two sides to every issue. It s easy to blame American women or the child support system; it s not so easy to look inward and...

Parenting --Teens: What to does this tell you about a man?, sole legal custody, family court judge
sole legal custody, family court judge, utah drivers: Hello, All this tells me is that this man likes to have relationships with several women and that he wants passive, submissive women in his life. He probably likes control and as long as the women and children in his life follow his rules and meet his expectations...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man who has five children with four different women if all five were planed by him but not necessary by the mothers, divorce trends, peter pan syndrome
divorce trends, peter pan syndrome, dianna thompson: Hello, I don t know if the countries you named are the only countries in the world with nasty divorces. But I am sure that nasty divorces are not always caused by women. In my experience with several hundred high-conflict divorces, it is usually difficult...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a mother?, mother daughter relationship, share custody
mother daughter relationship, share custody, baby daughter: Hello, This tells me that this woman is willing to share custody and co-parenting duties. The mother and father seemingly have an arrangement that works for them. As long as they can work together and make decisions regarding their child, that child will...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a murderer, child custody battle, lethal medications
child custody battle, lethal medications, criminal profiler: Hello, I don t know what factors criminal profilers may take into consideration, but I would guess that the person who committed this crime appeared to know enough about committing the crime and leaving few clues that the FBI believed he was likely involved...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a ten-year-old girl?, international child abduction, child custody dispute
international child abduction, child custody dispute, hague convention on the civil aspects: Hello, It tells me that she is a very bright 10-year-old and she knows international law. I suppose having this kind of knowledge about international child custody law is nice to have, but it isn t much use to most 10-year-olds. Maybe when she s an adult,...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an unwed British mother?, british mother, british woman
british mother, british woman, unwed mother: Hello, I think this says that this British woman is a good person and is less interested in child support than that her children have a relationship with their father. I don t know if we could say this about all unwed British mothers, but in this instance...

Parenting --Teens: * year old son stealing and lying, apology letter, crying wolf
apology letter, crying wolf, bouncy ball: Hello Leilani, Yes, it is acting out. It may be related to past or present events and circumstances in his life, such as the divorce, a new man in your life, a younger sibling, and your MS. Some or all of these things could be related to his stealing. ...

Parenting --Teens: 11 yr old headed for trouble, parents and grandparents, minor trouble
parents and grandparents, minor trouble, personal hygiene: Hello Doreen, Obviously this boy had a poor start in life with inadequate parents and a difficult home life. He, thus, did not learn emotional self-regulation nor did he learn to have respect for adults. He is oppositional and defiant at the present time,...

Parenting --Teens: 13 year old daughter, behavior changes, single parent
behavior changes, single parent, counselor: Dear Kathie, I am so sorry that I am a little bit late answering your question. I was away unexpectedly and I should have notified ALLEXPERTS. Please forgive me! First of all, my prayers go out to you and your daughter for your loss. I can t imagine how...

Parenting --Teens: 13 year old sexting..., teen sexter needs discipline
teen sexter needs discipline: Dear Crystal, This is a sensitive and difficult subject, and a tough one for me to answer. There are clear-cut laws and rules regarding this behavior, but if applied to the fullest extent of the law, you are absolutely right. It s trafficking in child pornography,...

Parenting --Teens: 16 yo son being "pimped" by his mother, pimping boys in the uk, illegal activity with son/grandson
pimping boys in the uk, illegal activity with son/grandson: Dear Marie, This is a horrible crime and a pox upon humanity, to say nothing about the permanent emotional damage that will be left upon all boys concerned. I am in the USA and have no way to help you beyond google searches, but here are some things I have...

Parenting --Teens: For his 16th he wants to eat at every fast food place in the area, Indulging birthday whims, fast food
Indulging birthday whims, fast food, food critics: Firstly, I must apologise for not answering you in a timely manner. Your question never arrived in my email; a rare glitch, but the AllExperts site corrected it. Now to the issue at hand. Your son is sadly misinformed if he believes Pizza Hut, Burger...

Parenting --Teens: 20 year old daughter, fashion design course, dole payments
fashion design course, dole payments, running away from home: Dear Christine, I m sorry you are having such a difficult time with your daughter. I know how upsetting it can be. It appears that your daughter is old enough to make her own choices. It might be in your best interest and the best interests of the rest...

Parenting --Teens: Why are American man more likely to allow mother, private catholic school, nine out of ten times
private catholic school, nine out of ten times, american man: Hello, Okay, so many people believe that strong women must be submissive in love relationships. Maybe so. And it may be that European women are raised to be strong but also submissive. And that American women are raised to be somewhat different than that....

Parenting --Teens: Why would an American mother do this when her husband is the better parent?, personal injury lawyer, dianna thompson
personal injury lawyer, dianna thompson, divorce trends: Hello, The nice thing about the U.S. and most western nations is that they are democratic with lots of freedoms for their citizens. Therefore, people are free to marry whomever they wish. That is certainly true in America. If you don t like American women...

Parenting --Teens: Why would many Americans have trouble understanding me, because I only speak proper English, arnold schwarzenegger, intelligent paper
arnold schwarzenegger, intelligent paper, english as a second language: Hello, Most Americans, it seems to me, do not speak proper English. There is so much slang and so many colloquialisms used by many Americans that it is almost frowned on to use appropriate English. Many individuals who have learned English as a second language...

Parenting --Teens: BULLYING....STILL!, weird brother, neighborhood kid
weird brother, neighborhood kid, rude questions: Hello Lisa, I don t think you caused others to bully your son, so it s not very productive or useful to blame yourself. The more important issue is what you can do to help him deal with any bullying or teasing he receives. It appears that he is bothered...

Parenting --Teens: Why would both girls hate their mother and never want to see their mother ever again and back there father 100 percent?, new england home for little wanderers, stephen fagan
new england home for little wanderers, stephen fagan, middlesex superior court: Hello, The father has presented himself to his daughters as self-sacrificing and interested only in their well-being. They have grown up believing this. They also grew up believing a lie -- that their mother was dead. I m sure there must have been other...

Parenting --Teens: boyfriends of teenage daughters sleeping over., m kay, illhealth
m kay, illhealth, popularity contest: Dear Mirella, Well this is not the first time I have had this question. My response is the same....teen pregnancy means grandparenting on top of having illhealth. While you state teenage daughters and I don t know how many this means more than one surprise...

Parenting --Teens: my brother and his friend were touching, homosexual experiences, sexual urges
homosexual experiences, sexual urges, innocent boy: Hello Sarah, These kinds of situations are tough ones for parents (and sisters). I think your father should talk to him alone, but I don t think asking him a lot of questions is the best thing to do. The problem with asking questions (such as, Did you ever...

Parenting --Teens: Concerned w/ 13yo Stepdaughter, 13yo, ending a relationship
13yo, ending a relationship, sarcastic comments: Hello Dan, What you are experiencing as a stepfather is rather common. That is, you are facing resistance and rebellion in your efforts to be a disciplinarian. However, in your situation, you are facing an even tougher challenge because you are only 21,...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, parental abduction, criminal justice system
parental abduction, criminal justice system, many different ways: Hello, These situations are more complicated than they often appear. It is very likely that she knows more or has heard more than what she has read on the Internet or seen in the media. Parents and other relatives will talk about the situation, drop hints,...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, parenting time, case question
parenting time, case question, world answer: Hello, There are many reasons why one parent may hate another. A reason could be related to how the other parent raises their child, but the greater likelihood is that it has more to do with feelings left over from the brief relationship and the reason...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, parenting time, vindictiveness
parenting time, vindictiveness, custody visitation: Hello, When couples cannot reach amiable agreements related to custody, parenting time, or child support, then it is more likely that one or the other of them (it isn t always the mother) will interfere with the relationship between the child and the other...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, private religious schools, private catholic school
private religious schools, private catholic school, europe belgium: Hello, Perhaps not. I think public schools in America are often very lax when it comes to discipline. And I m sure there are many countries that take a firmer approach to discipline. It would make sense that students who do well in private religious schools...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, case question, community answer
case question, community answer, emotional damage: Hello, When I said that things may not change much when the child becomes 18, I meant that her attitude may not change at that time. All of the damage has been done. The child has grown up without a father, and she has grown up with a mother who has undoubtedly...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, fathers rights, bias
fathers rights, bias, cooperation: Hello, I think that is true that men are more likely to kidnap their children when there is conflict and a lack of cooperation between co-parents. And I agree with you that any parent who denies access to the to the other parent is just as bad as the parent...

Parenting --Teens: Why would this be the case, international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects
international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects, case question: Hello, A 10-year-old girl is likely to believe what she has heard many times at home from her mother. She is less likely to believe what a stranger (who might be a lawyer) tells her. Most children are going to respond to what is most important to them. What...

Parenting --Teens: How would a child feel, because the only reason she is alive, adult matter, sex with women
adult matter, sex with women, mother and father: Hello, That depends on the child. It might depend on her age; for instance, is she old enough to understand what took place between her mother and father? It might also depend on what she has previously been told about her father and, therefore, what kind...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a child tell the judge that she does not want to see her America father, just to please her European mother?, hello children, back in the usa
hello children, back in the usa, parents and children: Hello, I don t think it makes much difference how old a child is, they still will try to please the parent they love and respect. It s just human nature and related to the bond and the attachment between parents and children when there has been a history...

Parenting --Teens: Daughter still cutting herself, james windell, self mutilation
james windell, self mutilation, adolescent girls: Hello Barb, Self-mutilation is a serious problem and reflects other adjustment problems. I would suggest that if her counselor says Well, what can you do? that you find a new counselor. Get a therapist for your daughter who is an expert in working with...

Parenting --Teens: My dad wants me to have a sex-change and I don't..., bullying fathers, trans-sexual changes
bullying fathers, trans-sexual changes: Dear Marie, Yes. Your father is a huge bully. Try to ignore him, or call his bluff. Say, Sure, Dad, let s go do it right now! No doctor in the world would EVER perform such a surgery without your approval and hours and hours of therapy to determine why...

Parenting --Teens: How do I get my daugher motivated, daugher, art lessons
daugher, art lessons, encouragement: Dear Rita, This maybe a sign she is depressed. I would get her to your doctor for a physical and a screening for depression. If there is nothing amiss then just pull back some as children cannot care more if you care so much more. M Kay Keller http://mkaykeller.blogspot.co...

Parenting --Teens: Follow-up to "Son keeps doing a disappearing act"..., Making and keeping rules, teen choices
Making and keeping rules, teen choices: Hello, Claire, Well, now it s easy. Praise him for his good sense -particularly regarding his waiting for a sexual relationship- but tell him you require being informed whenever he decides to cross the border, as this is another country, and if anything...

Parenting --Teens: 16 yo son being "pimped" by his mother, good job, dad
Parenting --Teens: 16 yo son being "pimped" by his mother, good job, dad

Parenting --Teens: My dad wants me to have a sex-change and I don't..., trans woman, bully
Parenting --Teens: My dad wants me to have a sex-change and I don't..., trans woman, bully, good luck

Parenting --Teens: Why would a father still want the Swiss mother who took his US born daughter back to Switzerland in the 1970ís?, parental abduction, swiss law
parental abduction, swiss law, good mother: Hello, I would guess that the daughter wants her father to forgive her mother so there is peace and harmony within the family. It might be difficult for him to forgive, and to treat the mother of his child with respect, because his pride and sense of right...

Parenting --Teens: My husband is being a bad influence on my son with his ostentatious behavior, vehicle distribution, poor background
vehicle distribution, poor background, sister works: Dear Belinda, My computer tells me you are in Germany, so I don t see how you can live in Ohio. If this is an English lesson for you, I will tell you, yes, you are doing a wonderful job. Your English is better than most American s can write. Even your grammar...

Parenting --Teens: Lying and Stealing, teenagers and parents, computer privileges
teenagers and parents, computer privileges, bad decisions: Denise, I don t think this is ultimately about lying and stealing. There is something else going on in this family most likely that is not being addressed effectively. Instead of loss of privileges you could suggest incentives for good behavior. A book I...

Parenting --Teens: Would a little girl be willing to see her daddy every weekend?, child support, little girl
child support, little girl, relationship: Hello, If she s a real little girl, she won t see her daddy just to please him. She has to enjoy seeing him. If he shows love towards her and they have fun together, then she will enjoy the relationship. Again, if she s real young, she won t know about...

Parenting --Teens: How can a mother determine if her three-year-old daughter wants to live with her daddy or her mother, adult decision, adult women
adult decision, adult women, three year olds: Hello, It depends on the child and the maturity of the child, but I would say that children of ages 15 and older might be able to make that decision. Again, until a child is very mature, parents should make these decisions about where a child should live....

Parenting --Teens: mother not giving teenagers keys to house, garage door opener, civil conversation
garage door opener, civil conversation, calm voice: Hi Sean, I m sorry you re having this problem, getting along with the ex after the divorce is such an important, yet amazingly difficult, part of helping your children adjust. You sound like a great dad to be willing to advocate for your children. First...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a mother tell the father if you do not want to pay child support you should either go to jail or go to Brazil, child support payments, child support enforcement agency
child support payments, child support enforcement agency, applying for a passport: Hello, Thanks for the article. But maybe things work the other way around. That is, while it might be suggested that child support legislation and policies create conflicts between mothers and fathers, maybe it is people who bring about legislation and policies...

Parenting --Teens: Why would many mothers in Europe allow a father to see his daughter that was a result of a one night stand, parenting decision, parenting decisions
parenting decision, parenting decisions, hello children: Hello, Children benefit in several ways from mothers and fathers working together and supporting each other in parenting decisions. Children find it upsetting when their parents are in conflict, and such conflict can have detrimental effects on children...

Parenting --Teens: Just need advice from another point of view, spoilt brat, delivery place
spoilt brat, delivery place, pizza delivery: Dear Emma, I have alot of experience with this sort of situation because with 4 daughters, they always have something to say about what someone else is doing! I agree with your mother 100%, you and your sister are 2 totally different people and must be dealt...

Parenting --Teens: Why would it be normal that this child does not want any contact with her American father?, government of austria, childs abduction
government of austria, childs abduction, european court of human rights: Hello, Change and transitions are upsetting to children. So, if a child heard that her father was planning to try to take her away from her mother and take her back to the US to live, that would be extremely upsetting to most children. It doesn t matter...

Parenting --Teens: obsessed teen, dealing with depression, running away from home
dealing with depression, running away from home, order of protection: Gina, I suggest you get an order of protection against this adult. Gather any evidence you have of how he is influencing your daughter in a negative way and present it to the court. Thus, if he continues to associate with your daughter there will be criminal...

Parenting --Teens: Q&A Site, m kay, abd
m kay, abd, own website: Thank you for the invitation. I realize however that I am giving my advice away for free at a value of approximately $75 an hour while these sites are shamelessly collecting advertising money. So I started my own website. Feel free to visit me at http://MKayKeller.blogspot.com....

Parenting --Teens: Son's behaviour in school is of concern, underwear obsessions, OCD
underwear obsessions, OCD, OCD hope: Dear Bernard- Honestly, I think I m being played again, which is most upsetting. I have a life, and I do this as a volunteer. If you are telling me the truth, (which I doubt, as no 45 year-old man would say he got a phone call off someone, but from...

Parenting --Teens: Son's drug addiction (but to prescribed drugs), coke cola, diet coke
coke cola, diet coke, night nurse: Hello Gavin, This is a concern and despite your son s adjustment in other areas of his life, obviously -- as he has admitted -- he is addicted to this particular prescription medication. It is not at all odd or unusual. Experts are finding that a great...

Parenting --Teens: Son's eating habits concern me..., james windell, styrofoam packaging
james windell, styrofoam packaging, hoarding food: Hello Marcus, This isn t about eating McDonald s food. It s about hoarding food which isn t being eaten. It is a concern and indicates some sort of psychological problem. It is typical for middle teens not to talk about problems with their parents. So,...

Parenting --Teens: Son keeps doing a disappearing act..., border crossing w/o permission, relationships
border crossing w/o permission, relationships: Dear Claire, Do you have rules in place specifying that your son can t go across the border without permission? He can t break a rule if none are in place. Perhaps you need to sit down with him and make some rules, discuss why they are important, and why...

Parenting --Teens: Son posting his personal details on Internet, personal phone number, bad situations
personal phone number, bad situations, school computers: Hello Victoria, We re dealing with a new generation of kids who have different ideas about what is proper and what is normal. Posting information about yourself on an Internet website seems to be very normal these days. The parallel from our time was that...

Parenting --Teens: My son's behavior at home, james windell, high iq
james windell, high iq, college acceptance: Hello Elsa, There is no doubt your son is gifted. After all, he has been able to manipulate you to make sure he gets to school on time all through high school. His problem with getting up in the morning might cause some difficulties in college. However,...

Parenting --Teens: son quit univ. wont get a job, waste of time, locks
waste of time, locks, good luck: Dear Lisa, I can imagine how difficult this situation is for your family. I think that there s a strong possibility that your son is depressed. Try and sit down with him and calmly explain that he needs to immediately schedule a counseling appointment. ...

Parenting --Teens: My son is sexting and I don't know how to deal with it!, Violating children, sexting the young
Violating children, sexting the young, evil in UK: The council may not do anything about it, but publicly exposing this man as a pedophile might embarrass him enough to end it. Even though your son is of age in the UK, you know he is still a child. If you lived here in the USA, where the age of consent isn...

Parenting --Teens: Does this subscribe the majority of American women today, yes or no, zsa zsa, star trek episode
zsa zsa, star trek episode, feminist voices: Hello, I don t know that I m any more qualified than you or anyone other man to say what a majority of American women are like. I do think that our opinions about women (or any other social group) may be formed and maintained by our life experiences. If,...

Parenting --Teens: Does this surprise you, yes or no?, strange dichotomy, one of these girls
strange dichotomy, one of these girls, born women: Hello, It does not surprise me that a good interpersonal relationship at home leads to less stress at work. If you are in a good, happy marriage (which might mean different things to different people), then you will experience less stress at work. But, I...

Parenting --Teens: Trouble Tonight, cheerleading program, initial thoughts
cheerleading program, initial thoughts, friends houses: Dear Kim, This is a really tough situation and one that I m all too familiar with, unfortunately. First of all, don t pull the rug out just yet. I think it would be a great idea if you and your daughter could make an appointment with a counselor. Having...

Parenting --Teens: my teenage son lacks respect, lack of attention, private area
lack of attention, private area, teenage son: Dear Apryl, Well first of all he is 16 and he is quite capable of understanding boundaries. I don t think this is all about him. I think you are making excuses for him such as he has always had a lack of attention to detail. You need to tell him this...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an American mother?, michelle obama, submissive woman
michelle obama, submissive woman, american mother: Hello, This mother believed that it would be better to give up custody of her daughter and she believed that allowing her to be raised in Sicily would be better for her daughter. If that s what she believed, then, apparently, she acted on her beliefs. ...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a father?, schoolteachers, fiends
schoolteachers, fiends, medical problems: Hello, I would have to know a lot more about the father in order to say much about him. Since it is much more socially acceptable for children to have their ears pierced, the fact that he had her ears pierced doesn t say a lot about what kind of father he...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about the man who has set up this website?, born mother, website question
born mother, website question, european woman: Hello, Just because he doesn t like American women doesn t mean he couldn t be a good husband and a good father. It is very difficult for anybody to talk about a majority of people from any country. countries are too vast and multinational to say that...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a mother?, sex affair, best interest
sex affair, best interest, feelings: Hello, What this tells me about this mother is that she is willing to tolerate this kind of relationship. She may have the best interests of the children as her main focus. Or there may be other reasons why she tolerates this kind of relationship. But...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a mother?, child support laws, new zeeland
child support laws, new zeeland, non custodial parents: Hello, I would suspect these countries have similar child support laws because they have laws and customs that come out of English Common Law and British legal traditions. The English legal system seems to criminalize lots of behavior and believes that severe...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a smuggler, smuggler, police officers
smuggler, police officers, suspicion: Hello, A person who makes a living by smuggling had best be a good driver or he will always arouse suspicion. Maybe he was selected (self-selected?) because he is a good driver. Or perhaps he learned to be a good driver to be better at his craft (or crime)....

Parenting --Teens: 15 year old girl, troubled relationship, abusive man
troubled relationship, abusive man, smart phone: Hello Tammy, It is important that you maintain a relationship with her, although under the circumstances this might be difficult. Whether or not she comes back to live with you, you have to maintain some kind of positive relationship. I agree that counseling...

Parenting --Teens: 15 year old son, james windell, sexual pervert
james windell, sexual pervert, sexual curiosity: Hello Shirley, None of the behaviors you mentioned are particularly unusual for adolescent boys. They may have strong sexual urges and few ways of satisfying their urges and their curiosity other than through voyeuristic avenues. Obviously, you have to...

Parenting --Teens: 18 year old son becoming distant, blow ups, son watches
blow ups, son watches, dirty clothes: Kim, Let s be honest. When you adopted this son you were adopting a broken child. Unfortunate but true. While you have loved and provided and made attempts to heal the damage done, I don t believe you had the power to completely heal it. At some point this...

Parenting --Teens: 20 year old daughter, james windell, stundent
james windell, stundent, academic work: Hello William, There may not be anything wrong with your daughter. A lot of kids go through this in the middle teen years as they are focused on friendships rather than academics. Your daughter may have always been previously devoted to her academic work,...

Parenting --Teens: My 6 year old..., children using bad words, potty-mouth
children using bad words, potty-mouth, correcting children: Dear Michelle, What has she been exposed to lately that wasn t an issue before? Has she ever seen a man treat you badly, or call you such disgraceful names? Has she seen it anywhere (movies, TV, Internet?) What was her former school like? Did they have...

Parenting --Teens: Why would an American man complain?, living in bahrain, paternal rights
living in bahrain, paternal rights, born daughter: Hello, Filing criminal charges may be a way for a parent, who feels his child has been abducted and moved out of the country, to exact revenge or retribution for taking the child. But filing charges doesn t resolve the problem or make visitation any easier....

Parenting --Teens: Would an American man be more likely to allow his Belgium wife to move with her US born daughter to Belgium?, child support laws, custody rights
child support laws, custody rights, financial considerations: Hello, There are a lot of possibilities, but how often would a father be able to visit his child if they were several thousand miles apart? How much could he be involved in the raising of his daughter? What is most important for this father? Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Why are the Americans in Massachusetts is more European than the Americans Michigan?, michelle obama, divorce rate
michelle obama, divorce rate, socioeconomic classes: Hello, You seem to be suggesting that the type of people who can integrate into European society come from a certain socioeconomic class. Perhaps people from any place in the U.S. who come from a wealthier and higher social class are better educated, more...

Parenting --Teens: boyfriend, temper tantrums, adult presence
temper tantrums, adult presence, parenting issue: 1) Yes. I d also point out that she and her husband can t give permission for their son to smoke an illegal substance. Do they think a court of law would say, Oh, well, he had his parents permission, so it s okay. ? Geesh! 2) I d consider the possibility....

Parenting --Teens: Why would this be the case, international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects
international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects, case question: Hello, I always question what the child has been told and what she believes. The parent who was left behind may have every right to have the child returned, but a 10-year-old is probably not capable of putting things in perspective and understanding that...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects
international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects, negative feelings: Hello, Young children are not going to be able to really understand the complexities and nuances of international law. Most children will be most interested in trying to understand the impact of what her parents are doing as it impacts her life. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: How would a child feel to her father?, international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects
international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects, international divorce: Hello, A lot depends on the age of the child and her experiences with her parents. If all goes well when she spends time with her parents, she may not care about international laws and paternity suits, and so on. In other words, if her parents love her and...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a child feel more secure if she and her mother are, being held hostage, mothers arms
being held hostage, mothers arms, loving parent: Hello, Young children will always feel more secure if they are being held by a parent whom they love.They associate hugs with love and protection. There is reassurance in being held by a loving parent. Young children may not understand the potential consequences...

Parenting --Teens: Are children of highly educated parents more likely to be highly educated them selves?, successful marriage, hello children
successful marriage, hello children, parental expectations: Hello, Children of highly educated parents are likely to value education, particularly if education was held up as a valued standard as they grew up. Parental expectations and values are very important for what children value and aspire to. There is no...

Parenting --Teens: co-parenting a 16 yr., ece teacher, parenting class
ece teacher, parenting class, harsh punishment: Hello Deb, Arguing with your co-parent or disagreeing with him in front of her is not likely to help your daughter or change your co-parent. Since this situation has been going on for a long time, there is little or nothing you can do to change him. There...

Parenting --Teens: I Just Dunno...., religious viewpoint, local community college
religious viewpoint, local community college, fear of the future: Hello Nick, I can see why you turned to this website to ask for advice; it just doesn t seem like there is an adult in your life who is on your side and willing to listen. And there s no question that you have a lot on your mind as you contemplate the future....

Parenting --Teens: My daughter, james windell, adolescent girls
james windell, adolescent girls, identity crises: Hello Rachel, You may be right about her having an identity crisis. But what is involved in an identity crisis for an adolescent? The most important aspect of going from adolescence to adulthood is figuring who they are. Part of who they are has to do...

Parenting --Teens: Does this explain why?, hara estroff marano, judith wallerstein
hara estroff marano, judith wallerstein, children of divorce: Hello, The research and studies suggest that conflicted divorces, in particular, seem to have the most long-lasting, negative impact on children. Both mothers and fathers, following a divorce, often use their children as pawns in a game related to working...

Parenting --Teens: boyfriend, young adult services, effects of drug abuse
Parenting --Teens: boyfriend, young adult services, effects of drug abuse, drug addiction

Parenting --Teens: Puberty and curiosity, dry humping, little sister
Parenting --Teens: Puberty and curiosity, dry humping, little sister, hormones

Parenting --Teens: Why would filing criminal chargers cause conflict with the Egyptian family?, janet greer, abc news
janet greer, abc news, publicity campaign: Hello, Children don t stop thinking of the parent who is absent in their lives. There may always be a longing to see and have a relationship with her mother. If that need to have a relationship with her mother is strong enough, it may motivate her to search...

Parenting --Teens: What would a little girl think of her father when her mothers makes her see him every weekend, half brothers, good friends
half brothers, good friends, little girl: Hello, The girl may enjoy seeing her father or she may enjoy being around the other children. She could come to resent her mother or her father if she was made to see him against her will. However, it seems like there are reasons why she would enjoy these...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a man only finically support his baby daughter, child support payments, unfit mother
child support payments, unfit mother, custody of a child: Hello, I suppose it has to do with the need men may have to be independent and not tied down to 18 years of child support payments. They may feel freer to take custody of a child than to be obligated to pay child support. When countries criminalize the...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a man say that if a mother takes her US born children, fathers parental rights, anger resentment
fathers parental rights, anger resentment, child custody: Hello, This has to do with a battle between parents and they are overlooking what is best for their child. Taking a child to another country to take a child away from the other parent, is not about what is best for the child. It s about anger, resentment,...

Parenting --Teens: Please help me!, trust david, twitter
trust david, twitter, older guys: Lexi, I think what you have learned is that choices have consequences. You have learned the hard way. What I suggest is if you want sleepovers you start them are your home. So that would mean this girls comes over and spends the night with you. If this doesn...

Parenting --Teens: Puberty and curiosity, early bloomer, sexual diseases
early bloomer, sexual diseases, maturity level: Hello Julie, Your son s curiosity and behavior seems quite normal. Even his behavior with his younger sister is within the range of normal behaviors. Some experts contend there must be at least six years age difference before such behavior becomes a concern....

Parenting --Teens: Why would people more likely believe things that they see in writing, human nature, faith
human nature, faith: Hello, Many people do tend to believe what they see in writing. I think this is part of human nature. Perhaps we are taught as we grow up to put faith in the written word. However, there are a lot of skeptical people, too, who need to question the authority...

Parenting --Teens: REPEATED RULE BREAKING, blended families, sisters
blended families, sisters, make-up: If an 11 year-old is wearing make-up, she is under the mistaken belief that it makes her look older. You just need her to overhear the comment of one thirteen-to-fifteen-year-old boy about how silly she looks when she plays dress-up to make her crawl into...

Parenting --Teens: Sexual curiosity or abnormal behavior, sexual curiosity, porta potty
sexual curiosity, porta potty, pottys: Hello Melissa, I don t think this situation calls for getting your son in treatment. I suspect he would handle discussion with a therapist the same way he has handled it with you. Since he hasn t been abused and has not been exposed to sexually stimulating...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that with very Strong Women, Submissive Women, latin american women, michelle obama
latin american women, michelle obama, major premise: Hello, I think, to put things in perspective, it s well to look at the number of teens who come into the juvenile court system in the U.S. While most media attention is given to negative teen behaviors, the fact is that only about two percent of all American...

Parenting --Teens: Can a single father who is good with children still raise his daughter, michelle obama, american accent
michelle obama, american accent, single father: Hello, I m sure a single father can have an influence on the kind of person his daughter will be. However, parents don t have total influence on their children. Intelligence, temperament, and personality can be factors in whether a woman turns out to be...

Parenting --Teens: Would it surprise you, why, child support payments, custody arrangement
child support payments, custody arrangement, income changes: Hello, Those men -- those who get a lower paying job, stop working, or hide assets to avoid paying child support -- often have issues with authority and frequently have a misunderstanding of the child support system in the U.S. When child support is set...

Parenting --Teens: Teen daughter living with father, teen parenting, th grade
teen parenting, th grade, teen daughter: Dear Patty, Yes you are thinking clearly and I really believe you are on the right course. Now you see why they tell us to do journaling...writing out things in a blank book can really help you focus on the options and the advantages or disadvantages of...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage Siblings, teenage siblings, younger siblings
teenage siblings, younger siblings, marriage counseling: Hi Renee, So, as it turns out, it has little to do with them being selfish or self-centered, but more with other factors -- like the 5-year-old s behavior problems. I don t know any teenagers (or adults, for that matter) who look forward to being around...

Parenting --Teens: Teenager refusing to move, anger issues, rational conversation
anger issues, rational conversation, trouble with the law: Hello Karen, I think it is very admirable of you to want to help your nephew. It sounds like he needs a stable home and family at this time in his life. However, you have no legal standing in this matter. True, you are his aunt, but he has a mother and she...

Parenting --Teens: Time to spend some time with Dad, cause conflict, step brother
cause conflict, step brother, wkd: Jooles, Kids want their parents to be together even if they haven t been for years. So wanting them right now to understand this change is not going to be realistic. It may be realistic in about 10 years in their 20 s. You lay out a very logical argument...

Parenting --Teens: teen pregancy, unwanted pregnancies, teen pregnancy
unwanted pregnancies, teen pregnancy, birth control: Dear Sharvon, Thank you for your question! It made me think quite a bit about this difficult subject. I ll do my best to answer it! I feel that in this day and age, there should be no unwanted pregnancies, there s way too much education available to prevent...

Parenting --Teens: How would a ten-year-old girl feel toward her parents?, termination of parental rights, divorce agreement
termination of parental rights, divorce agreement, divorce decrees: Hello, Young children don t care about divorce decrees and legal documents. They do care about their parents and they care about being secure and loved. She would be sad that her mother doesn t see her; She won t understand about a legal termination of parental...

Parenting --Teens: What do you think about this, foreign women, western women
foreign women, western women, personal observations: Hello, I m sure there are many men who would agree with this. And I m sure there are other men who would not agree. Since there are many countries in the world and there are many available women in all those countries, most men could choose from the women...

Parenting --Teens: troubled adopted son 18, household chores, extreme depression
household chores, extreme depression, suicidal thoughts: Hello Kimberly, Thanks for clarifying some of the issues. Michael seems like a very fine young man who has overcome a great deal in his life already, but, of course, still has a lot more to work on. He must feel very grateful to have been adopted by you....

Parenting --Teens: under 18 overnights with boyfriend., james windell, old boyfriends
james windell, old boyfriends, juvenile laws: Hello Kathy, While I might not agree with what this person is doing, it reflects more of a parenting style or philosophy than a crime. In some states 17-year-olds are considered adults (at least as far as juvenile laws are concerned) and, therefore, while...

Parenting --Teens: unfair parenting ?, james windell, going to the prom
james windell, going to the prom, risky situations: Hello Chelsea, Like a lot of parents, your mother remembers what kinds of situations teens can get involved in and probably decided she wouldn t let her daughter run the risk of doing bad things. To protect you, she has very strict rules. However, while...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a 13-year-old girl have romantic feeling toward, a man in his late 20ís?, romantic feelings, adolescent girls
romantic feelings, adolescent girls, male teachers: Hello, Adolescents often have crushes and romantic feelings toward older males. This frequently happens between adolescent girls and male teachers. Girls often tend to idolize older men in positions of authority. This situation can be misinterpreted by...

Parenting --Teens: my 17 year old son, bro sis, serious relationship
bro sis, serious relationship, active way: Hello Kim, You re right. You probably can t stop them from seeing each other or having sex. And you have no control over her efforts to influence him in various ways. What you do have control over is the way you respond to him. That is, you don t have...

Parenting --Teens: 18 yr old son - OUT OF CONTROL, going to college, texting
going to college, texting, curfew: Hello Janet, Yes, I m sure this is a very upsetting situation for you. But it is not uncommon for adolescents who turn 18 to feel that they are adults and now can run their life as they see fit without rules from their parents. Fortunately, you have shared...

Parenting --Teens: Why would an American father more likely to pay child support, custody plan, italian mothers
custody plan, italian mothers, parenting time: Hello, If an American father was happy with the custody and parenting time arrangement, then he would be more inclined to pay child support. If she proposes a custody plan which satisfies him, then he may not mind court-ordered child support. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Why would an American man say that if a Japanese woman illegally retains his US born daughter, japanese mother, parents rights
japanese mother, parents rights, japanese law: Hello, This is about parents rights. The laws may not be good laws, nor are they necessarily in the children s best interests. When parents are upset about these kinds of situations, it s usually because they feel their rights have been violated. They may...

Parenting --Teens: Why do American man think this a disturbing ruling and only care about their parental rights under US law, hague convention, european convention of human rights
hague convention, european convention of human rights, swiss courts: Hello, Maybe many Americans still believe that the world revolves around the United States and that our laws are more important than the laws in other countries. If you are going to travel to other countries or take children to other countries, you should...

Parenting --Teens: Why do American women think it is fair that, japanese passport, us passport
japanese passport, us passport, child support: Hello, You re right. Some American women would prefer a man leave the country or be arrested for not paying child support. However, I know women who do not ask for child support nor do they threaten to have the man arrested. Some women feel very angry and...

Parenting --Teens: aggressive 6 yr old, positive reinforcement, negative consequences
positive reinforcement, negative consequences, aggressive actions: Hello John, I m sure there s no doubt that your son knows right from wrong and that he knows he is not supposed to hit others. However, he may be impulsive and doesn t stop to think about the consequences when he is irritated or annoyed by another child....

Parenting --Teens: Why would a Belgium national say that I will not pay child support for my German daughter unless a Belgium court say so, child custody laws, sole physical custody
child custody laws, sole physical custody, legal jurisdiction: Hello, I think the error in the argument is that if you don t have full custody you have no rights. Therefore, the argument continues, you should not have to pay child support because you have no rights. Obviously, there are many people in many countries...

Parenting --Teens: Chronically ill teenager, school part time, doctors visits
school part time, doctors visits, working with animals: Rosie, She wants help she simply doesn t know how to accept it or even ask. She most likely has learned to fight because of her illness which means she really has learned to rely on herself. She has become overwhelmed and whether she knows it or not she...

Parenting --Teens: Confused 15 year old daughter, lack of self esteem, girl at school
lack of self esteem, girl at school, ed school: Hello A, It may work to change schools, but sometimes it doesn t. That is, adolescents with adjustment problems often will seek out other troubled teens in whatever school they attend. You are taking a calculated risk moving to a new town and putting her...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case, ewen macaskill, juan lazaro
ewen macaskill, juan lazaro, russian spies: Hello, Children who experience disruption in their lives will be affected by that disruption. If they can be provided with a stable life afterwards, it may help to ease the turmoil that disruption causes. Having stable, consistent surrogate parents would...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, flame war, case question
flame war, case question, ridden society: Hello, I m sure many Americans would find this article offensive because they see America as always being right and as having a lock on morality and goodness. And many Americans would probably see it as unpatriotic to criticize the United States. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case with Canadian customs, canadian customs, legal age in canada
canadian customs, legal age in canada, ambassador bridge: Hello, They will make life difficult for you because they are human and because they can. Young people who go to Canada to drink or cause trouble will get harassed on both sides of the border. It can take an hour or more to have your car searched if they...

Parenting --Teens: Would a child complain that her daddy takes her to Mexico when, world war 2, getting a tattoo
world war 2, getting a tattoo, relationship between parent and child: Hello, Some children would feel resentment, but if it was done at any early age, they might just accept their father s reasons for having it done. Children will do lots of things to please a parent. When there s a positive relationship between parent and...

Parenting --Teens: How would a child feel toward her mother and father when she sees this letter that her father gave her mother trough her mothers lawyer?, international divorce, divorce lawyer
international divorce, divorce lawyer, mother and father: Hello, It depends on how old the child is. If she is a young child, she won t be able to see the complexities of the situation. when she is older, much will depend on the relationship she has with both parents. If she gets along with both parents and they...

Parenting --Teens: How would a child feel toward her parents when she is told this?, family lawyers, german father
family lawyers, german father, baby life: Hello, I can t say that I know why this man feels the way he does and why he believes what he believes. I m fairly confident that he doesn t really understand children nor is he concerned about her feelings or her need to have a mother in her life. I m sure...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a child be willing to live with her father, just to please her daddy, child support, child abuse
child support, child abuse, good friends: Hello, Again, children want to please their parents. But even if a child found it uncomfortable to sleep with a parent they might agree to do this for various reasons. They may do it because that s what their parent wants; they may like sleeping with another...

Parenting --Teens: out control teen daughter, defiant teenager, residential treatment facility
defiant teenager, residential treatment facility, discipline strategies: Hello Lisa, I m sorry to hear that things have gotten to this state. I m sure it is pretty miserable both for you and your daughter. If she feels so angry that she doesn t care if she has to leave home, then she feels at much at her wits end as you do. ...

Parenting --Teens: out of control teen son, medical issues, frustrations
medical issues, frustrations, couple of days: Dear Holly, I m sorry that this answer has taken a couple of days, I was away for a couple of days and I forgot to tell ALLEXPERTS about this brief trip. Your son is lucky that he has such a caring parent. It sounds like things have been really difficult....

Parenting --Teens: Daughter, james windell, mature adult
james windell, mature adult, confrontation: Hello Aimee, Sounds like things went too far for both of you. It seems like you will both want to make up and put this behind you. I would suggest you be the adult, call her up and apologize. She may not answer her cell phone if she knows you are calling,...

Parenting --Teens: Dealing with 14 year old son, unpleasant experiences, typical kids
unpleasant experiences, typical kids, kids company: Hello CL, Like many teenagers, your son may not have serious social skills problems, but he feels comfortable with a small group of friends and is uncomfortable reaching out to others. And even when other kids at the cottage are reaching out to him, he can...

Parenting --Teens: Disrespectful Teen, parenting issues, great relationship
parenting issues, great relationship, acting this way: Hello Cassie, It is not uncommon for middle teenagers, like your boyfriend s 16-year-old, to have issues with their parents. They may be more disrespectful, less willing to spend time with their parents, and more likely to hang around with friends. However,...

Parenting --Teens: my daughter's boyfriend, bitch ass, next morning
bitch ass, next morning, dad: Hello Tamara, I sympathize with you and I share your concern about your daughter s relationship with this boy. However, I m afraid you are in a losing battle with your daughter. That is, you re fighting a battle you can t win. I understand that you would...

Parenting --Teens: my daughter's boyfriend, bitch ass, next morning
bitch ass, next morning, dad: Dear Tamara, I am surprised you all haven t found your way into family counseling yet. If you don t do it soon you maybe a grandparent before you planned on being one. I suggest getting all of you into family counseling now. Even though are getting a divorce...

Parenting --Teens: divorced mother of teen/preteen boys, 11 year old boys, yard pool
11 year old boys, yard pool, nice neighborhood: Dear Jackie, They are boys and he is their dad. Boys at this age prefer to be around their fathers. It isn t personal. Try and not personalize everything they do or you will be unhappy throughout most of their teen years and their adult years. Best...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this very effective in Germany durring World War two, british spies, street cop
british spies, street cop, world war ii: Hello, I suspect this was effective during World War II because people in Germany had certain stereotypes of both Germans and the English. As long as people met these stereotypes (such as that all Germans were friendly toward police officers), then they...

Parenting --Teens: Same Sex Experimentation, romantic feelings, successful relationships
Parenting --Teens: Same Sex Experimentation, romantic feelings, successful relationships, steamy scenes

Parenting --Teens: What TV shows can I record to show people in Europe, how American women behave?, mind women, classy women
Parenting --Teens: What TV shows can I record to show people in Europe, how American women behave?, mind women, classy women, ordinary women

Parenting --Teens: Why would a father tell a mother that he would only finically, family court judge, selfish man
family court judge, selfish man, full custody: Hello, If one is looking at this situation from a purely economic or business-like point of view, then one would decide which is the best deal. But if you re viewing it from the standpoint of what is best for the child, then you would make a different...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a Honduras grand mother take her US born granddaughter back to Honduras, with out her American fathers consent, grand mother, grand daughter
grand mother, grand daughter, granddaughter: Hello, I don t know why a particular Honduras grandmother would take her granddaughter back to Honduras without the father s consent. It may be that some grandmothers might want the grandchild raised in their native country or they want to get away from...

Parenting --Teens: What would happen if social services in informed that a 10-year-old girl got a permanent tattoo on her body?, police the police, child endangerment
police the police, child endangerment, legal dispute: Hello, If social services gets a report, they would have to investigate. Since it is illegal, they would likely have to turn it over to the police. The police, though, may use their discretion and decide not to send a complaint to the prosecutor. In effect,...

Parenting --Teens: Why is hitting children good?, james windell, discipline techniques
james windell, discipline techniques, hitting children: Hello JoAnn, I do not think hitting children is good. The reasons why hitting children is not good or appropriate are: 1. It means you do not learn to use other discipline techniques 2. When children become older, they will hit back 3. Children...

Parenting --Teens: Loosing my son., good kid, best route
good kid, best route, computer game: Mel, The problem I see from what you have said is that you have have spoiled your son and have allowed him to bully you into things that otherwise he shouldn t be allowed to do. As long as you remain weak and simply expect him to do things out of the goodness...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a little girl be comfortable sleep sleeping in the same bed as her father with his arms cuddled around her every night?, little girl, boundaries
little girl, boundaries, sleep: Hello, It s up to the adult to set boundaries, not the child. Because there are various factors related to why the child would not assert their rights or their wishes, the adult must decide when a child should sleep away from the parent. Just because the...

Parenting --Teens: Would a little girl complain, 24 carat, ear holes
24 carat, ear holes, adolescent girl: Hello, A child who is very independent and wants to do things on her own may complain or may resent the father s need to be in control in terms of what earrings she wears and his need to put them in and remove them. Children who are less independent may...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that because I lost a job due to internal politics (about five years ago), part time job, internal politics
part time job, internal politics, witch: Hello, I m not sure which question here is one I can really answer. I don t think I have enough background to understand enough to give any opinion about why certain things happened. Apparently you were a good employee, but internal politics often determines...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a mother who has a daughter in a one night stand to allow her to see her father every week, parenting decision, psychological development
parenting decision, psychological development, night stand: Hello, I would say that this mother is smart enough to realize by allowing the father of her child in her daughter s life that this will enhance her daughter s emotional and psychological development and result in fewer complications when the girl is older....

Parenting --Teens: How would a mother feel when her husband takes her ten-year-old, joint legal and physical custody, parenting time
joint legal and physical custody, parenting time, legal custody: Hello, I m sure most mothers would feel very angry if they had their child taken away from them. But, I also think that s true of fathers who lose parenting time with their child following a divorce. I believe most parents in the U.S. have joint legal...

Parenting --Teens: my mothers curse on me., james windell, angry mood
james windell, angry mood, handeling: Hello Karthik, I m sorry to hear that you and your mother are having serious conflicts. But that is to be expected as you mature and see her as a harsh woman who may be insulting to you at times. A curse will not come true unless you allow it to come true....

Parenting --Teens: I need help with my teenage daughter, james windell, poor choices
james windell, poor choices, negative consequences: Hello Kari, Your daughter needs lots of supervision and limits set for her. In addition, there must be consistent negative consequences for her worst offenses. Since she is lying and sneaky, you must spend a lot of time supervising her and monitoring her...

Parenting --Teens: Is this normal?, james windell, success rates
james windell, success rates, disapproval: Hello Mike, Yes and yes. It s normal for kids to feel apprehensive about telling their parents about making a mistake. And it s normal for parents to react badly to being told about one of their kid s mistakes. The reasons is emotions. Kids typically want...

Parenting --Teens: Obsessed with girlfirend, girlfirend, stepdad
girlfirend, stepdad, good kid: Hello Dwain, It is not unusual for teenagers to be obsessed with a new love. Of course, there s nothing much wrong with this as long as he is meeting his responsibilities -- which it sounds like he is doing for the most part. For us adults, while we can...

Parenting --Teens: Parenting a 13 year old son & an 8 year old daughter, sibling issues, younger siblings
sibling issues, younger siblings, loving person: Hello Jyoti, There may be many reasons why adolescents are not always kind and pleasant to their younger siblings. Perhaps the basic reason is that young teens, like your son, are experiencing changes in themselves which cause them to be insecure and unsure...

Parenting --Teens: Party U, night parties, s college
night parties, s college, searching the internet: Keith, I would specifically have a conversation with your son and let him know that payment for school is contingent upon his grades. Thus, take it quarter by quarter. You should have a GPA idea set up that you are going to require for payment by you to take...

Parenting --Teens: Possibly Dogmatic Parents, james windell, hello mike
james windell, hello mike, career choice: Hello Mike, What you re describing is probably fairly normal in a good many families. But not all. Some parents listen respectfully to the opinions of their children -- even if they don t agree with them. If you have parents who are more dogmatic and don...

Parenting --Teens: How can reading a lot educational in books and on the internet (non fiction) be very productive, work education, young adult
work education, young adult, thirties: Hello, Is your question more like this: Is it productive for a young adult to read a lot every day? Of course, the answer must be ambiguous. That is, the answer is that it depends. Lots of people read every day and it doesn t interfere with their lives....

Parenting --Teens: Same Sex Experimentation, james windell, sexual experimentation
james windell, sexual experimentation, stepson: Hello Maria, I would say that this is a good thing to keep to yourself. I don t see much good that can come from telling anyone about it. So, that means you remember it, but you don t share it. If you should find him continuing to engage in sexual experimentation...

Parenting --Teens: Sexual abuse allegations., sexual abuse allegations, stable relationship
sexual abuse allegations, stable relationship, husban: Hello Cindy, Of course, your brother s daughter could have made up the sexual abuse allegations. Teenagers sometimes do that. When they do, often it is because they were angry and it is a way of getting back at the adult. The problem, though, is that teenagers...

Parenting --Teens: shevonte, parenting behavior, 16 year olds
parenting behavior, 16 year olds, effective teaching: Dear Sevonte, I don t know too many 16 year olds who will respond to fussing although it is not the worst parenting behavior. If you want effective results have discussions with him. He can handle a discussion. Discipline means to teach. The most effective...

Parenting --Teens: My sons dating, time with family, hoops
time with family, hoops, muscles: Yes, Laura, you are right. This is w a y too much time together at that age, though if they are supervised the entire time with family members. not impossible. You could always try sports. A little one-on-one hoops with his Dad, perhaps? Using muscles...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Sport Issue, friday night lights, varsity letter
friday night lights, varsity letter, pure excitement: Lori, I understand you want your son to have no regrets in his life, but that will be virtually impossible. In this instance, I think it would be helpful to sit down with him and have a clear conversation with him about what friends aren t what life is about....

Parenting --Teens: Teenage son and girlfriend, real girlfriend, teenage son
real girlfriend, teenage son, 9 months: Hello Katrina, There is almost nothing you can do that isn t going to alienate him from you. Of course, I understand that he is letting other things in his life slip as he tries to maintain this relationship. Yet, if you blame her, then he will resent you....

Parenting --Teens: Trouble with 13 year old son, educational psychologist, child psychologist
educational psychologist, child psychologist, intelligence testing: Hello Carolyn, You describe your son in such positive and glowing ways, except when it comes to school work and academics. I understand that you had him assessed for learning disabilities. But I wonder who did the assessing and how was he assessed. That...

Parenting --Teens: What TV shows can I record to show people in Europe, how American women behave?, actuality film, accurate depiction
actuality film, accurate depiction, film example: Hello, I m not aware of any TV show that would serve as a fair and accurate depiction of how American women behave. Many reality shows use actors. And I am not familiar with any actuality films that would show a cross section of American women. James...

Parenting --Teens: teen dating, boyfriends and girlfriends, parental fears
boyfriends and girlfriends, parental fears, time teenagers: Hello Laura, There are no established guidelines for how much time teenagers should spend together. And normal amounts of time vary by family and culture. Also, determining what is best, will depend on the adolescents involved and their families....

Parenting --Teens: teenage daughters, parent time, teenage daughters
parent time, teenage daughters, karri: Karri, I would bet that they at some level feel a competition with one another over parental affection. Given the minimal amount of info you have given to me that is the best I can come up with. I think it would be an important thing to find out what each...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a 15-year-old girl?, sexual fantasies, sex incest
sexual fantasies, sex incest, schoolteachers: Hello, It may be common in some parts of the world, but not many. Most cultures find that being overly close with the parent of the opposite sex during mid to late adolescence is uncomfortable for both parent and child. After adolescents reach puberty, their...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, religious upbringing, unfit mother
religious upbringing, unfit mother, american mother: Hello, He places religion and religious upbringing over attachments. He has uprooted his daughter from her home, taken her away from her mother, and expects that his daughter will make an adjustment to another country, another culture, and another family...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man., income tax forms, support increases
income tax forms, support increases, us passport: Hello, I don t know if the American system is better or worse than most other countries systems. In my experience, courts try to give equal custody to mothers and fathers and the parent who pays child support is the parent who makes more money. In many...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, michelle obama, smart women
michelle obama, smart women, latin american: Hello, Many men are resentful if they have a female boss because they somehow believe that it is demeaning to be told what to do by a woman. Some time people hate their bosses because they resent anyone in authority who tells them what to do or they are...

Parenting --Teens: Do you think this is correct, many different cultures, european women
many different cultures, european women, cultural difference: Hello, Do I think this is correct? I think it is very difficult -- and dangerous -- to stereotype people. While some people will fit into that stereotype, a lot won t. That s the difficulty with stereotypes; sometimes that adequately describe someone and...

Parenting --Teens: What do you think of this website?, website question, european women
website question, european women, point of view: Hello, Your website has a point of view. And that point of view is very clear. Is it accurate? I think it accurately selects articles and columns that support your point of view. Statistics and facts are used to support this point of view. I haven t checked...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it when I toughed a child when I was volunteering some the mother complained, sexual abuse charges, coworker
sexual abuse charges, coworker, co worker: Hello, It is standard procedure in schools that when an employee is accused of some sort of misconduct with a child that that employee be placed on leave until the case is resolved. In most instances, the union hires an attorney to represent the educator...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it when I toughed a child when I was volunteering some the mother complained, many mothers, child abuse
many mothers, child abuse, witness: Hello, In matters of child abuse or inappropriate touching, a mother might be inclined to believe a witness who is also a woman. I suspect the reason is that many mothers would think that all women would see things the same way. That is, that if a man were...

Parenting --Teens: Uncontrollable anger, uncontrollable anger, hello paolo
uncontrollable anger, hello paolo, speedy answer: Hello Paolo, Of course, there may be factors in your son s background that could account for his suddenly violent and aggressive behavior. His experiences prior to going into foster homes, and his experiences in foster homes could aid in understanding why...

Parenting --Teens: 11 yr old boy with zero friends, learning disability, guitar lessons
learning disability, guitar lessons, friendships: Hi Karen, I think this must be so incredibly difficult for you to see your son in pain, I am so sorry for all of you. First of all, I think it would be a great idea to have your son evaluated by a professional to find out if there s anything going on that...

Parenting --Teens: 12 year old with severe temper tantrums, temper tantrums, temper tantrum
temper tantrums, temper tantrum, screaming bloody murder: Hello Chen, I think you are right about not giving in to her tantrums and the importance of her having chores and being responsible. I don t have any easy answers for you (not that you re looking for any), but I would suggest that you consider a new therapist....

Parenting --Teens: 17 year old with possible homicidal thoughts, mental health counselor, professional mental health
mental health counselor, professional mental health, homicidal thoughts: Dear Alex, I don t know as there is not enough information here for me to make a determination like this. For instance I don t know how he was raised or how he relates to his peers and the rest of his family. I would suggest if you have concerns about his...

Parenting --Teens: 17 yr old left home, family law attorney, legal responsibilities
family law attorney, legal responsibilities, child protective services: Dear Joy, From the sounds of it you don t have enough of a working relationship with him to make him move back home. There is someone else involved who has taken him in and the legalities are that someone can ask for childsupport until he is 18. If you...

Parenting --Teens: my 18 yo son's behaviour, minute conversation, radical changes
minute conversation, radical changes, hurry: Dear Gloria, I can only imagine what a difficult time you are having, I am so sorry. I really think that you are doing the only thing possible, keeping the lines of communication open and being there for your son. Even though he is your baby , he is 18...

Parenting --Teens: my 21 year old son smoking and dealing, good lad, bad behavior
good lad, bad behavior, rest of your life: Jan, You have to decide if you want this boy living in the house with you for the rest of your life or you actually want him to take responsibility for his life. Living with you allows him the freedom to not grow up and be mature and responsible. While he...

Parenting --Teens: My 9 yr old son is stealing and lying, step brother, formal charges
step brother, formal charges, family therapist: Hello Sonya, The psychology behind your son s lying and stealing may be simple; or it may not be. However, besides letting him know that you disapprove of his lying and stealing there may be littler you can do directly during your limited time with him to...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that American man only care about there parental rights, child custody battle, international child custody
child custody battle, international child custody, european man: Hello, I think it is hard to like anyone who is involved in a nasty child custody battle. Being involved in such a battle tends to indicate that at least one -- if not both -- parent doesn t really concern themselves with the well-being of the child. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Would an American man regret having sex with a Japanese woman?, mothers choice, japanese woman
mothers choice, japanese woman, american man: Hello, It depends on the man. He may want to have a relationship with his daughter. Or he may feel guilty that he brought a child into the world and won t be able to be part of her life. Or he may not care -- as long as he doesn t have to pay child support....

Parenting --Teens: What would an American man do when his wife is mentally, symptoms of mental illness, ill wife
symptoms of mental illness, ill wife, american man: Hello, Different men would handle this in different ways. Some American men may feel a sense of loyalty to their mentally ill wife and continue to be supportive of her. Others might feel that they are deprived of a spouse and co-parent and may want to...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that an American mother who raises her daughter to, parenting plan, visitation schedules
parenting plan, visitation schedules, italian mother: Hello, It s my experience that most American women are able to agree on a parenting plan with their co-parent following a divorce. There is serious conflict and disagreement about a parenting plan or other issues in less than 20 percent of all divorces in...

Parenting --Teens: How can an American understand the following, barrack obama, mentality
barrack obama, mentality, supervisor: Hello, I don t know that many Americans can understand this. And, I suspect, many Americans don t care whether they could integrate into European society. Many Americans may not have a world view and see fitting into other societies as important. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, case question, productive employees
case question, productive employees, decency: Hello, Many businesses recognize the importance of good relationships between supervisors and employees. If a supervisor treats his employees well, those employees will be more highly satisfied with their jobs and be more productive employees. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Does a child suffer from a divorce, love and affection, good friends
love and affection, good friends, divorce: Hello, In the kind of situation you describe, the child may not suffer from the divorce. It is not divorce itself that causes children to suffer. Usually it is the conflict between co-parents that brings about the damage to children. I believe children can...

Parenting --Teens: Is this correct yes or no in the United States, child custody battles, child support laws
child custody battles, child support laws, government committees: Hello, The court system in this country has always been adversarial. And there have always been nasty court battles related to custody. Prior to the 1950s, the American courts were biased toward fathers. Then the courts began to favor mothers and give custody...

Parenting --Teens: My Daughter Lies to Her Friends, error in judgment, new friend
error in judgment, new friend, text messages: Hello Liz, Of course you are concerned about her lying. And her lying may lead to her losing friends. But you can t have it both ways. You can t tell her you know she is lying to friends without revealing where you got this information. I think it s pretty...

Parenting --Teens: Dealing with lying, college aspirations, algebra class
college aspirations, algebra class, cross country team: The first rule of dealing with kids is not to get angry! You can get mad, be disappointed, ashamed etc... but do not get angry. The confrontational hormones of a teen are in overdrive and are looking for any excuse to fight back and unless your husband is...

Parenting --Teens: Father/son relationship, james windell, adolescent years
james windell, adolescent years, good listener: Hello Sue, It is not necessarily normal for fathers and sons to have hostile relationships. It is common, but it can also be upsetting for everyone in the family. Often, both father and son contribute in some way toward the less-than-ideal relationship....

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that FBI agents whose primary job, law enforcement agencies, press conferences
law enforcement agencies, press conferences, fbi: Hello, The FBI has long been concerned with maintaining good public relations. And, FBI personnel who deal with the media, are trained to deal appropriately with the media. Local law enforcement agencies often do not place a priority on public relations....

Parenting --Teens: friendship, teenager girls, teen relationships
teenager girls, teen relationships, close relationships: Tammy, I don t think things are much different. I would say that your daughter is different than you. She may not need that close kind of friend that you may have needed. I think you need to make sure that you aren t wanting her to act a certain way because...

Parenting --Teens: How would a little girl feel toward her father?, obama barrack, barrack obama
obama barrack, barrack obama, birth mother: Hello, How she feels about her father will depend on how she felt about moving from her mother s house to her father s house. It will also depend on what she was told or believed about her father prior to the move. And, it will depend on how loving and kind...

Parenting --Teens: lying, college aspirations, algebra class
college aspirations, algebra class, cross country team: Melissa, Okay, there is a lot here so I will try to boil it down. First, based on what you have said I believe your son is spoiled. Secondly, that fact that your husband is unaware of much of this stuff is an issue as you must know as well. So with that being...

Parenting --Teens: lying, college aspirations, algebra class
college aspirations, algebra class, cross country team: Dear Melissa,,,,,,It sounds like you have been having a really difficult time recently and I think its wonderful that you re trying to get your son on the right track! I feel that you need to sit down with your son as soon as possible and have an honest,...

Parenting --Teens: lying/stealing, james windell, stormi
james windell, stormi, time outs: Hello Stormi, Since your daughter s stealing apparently has been going on for several years, it is an established habit. Therefore, punishments and consequences are unlikely to change this pattern of behavior. This may true of the lying as well. I would...

Parenting --Teens: Would a mother normally raise her daughter the same way she is raised, yes or no? Why?, personality factors, shortcomings
personality factors, shortcomings, parenting: Hello, Parents do not necessarily raise their children the same way they are raised. One reason for this is that many parents recognize some of the shortcomings of the parenting they received and want to be better parents. If, however, a parent thinks they...

Parenting --Teens: Could this be the reason why the world hates, american attitudes, sicilian food
american attitudes, sicilian food, provincialism: Hello, I m sure if Americans are disliked in other countries, there are perhaps a myriad of reasons. I m sure some of those reasons may have to do with American attitudes, American power, provincialism, feelings of superiority, and a lack of understanding...

Parenting --Teens: reconstructed family, james windell, intention
james windell, intention, no surprises: Hello Jessica, It s refreshing to hear from someone who is thinking about the effect of introducing a partner into their children s lives BEFORE they move in together. Since you have a year to prepare your children, I would say the best thing is to gradually...

Parenting --Teens: How to set a better influence for my younger brother?, middle brother, middle teens
middle brother, middle teens, college freshman: Hello Matt, I m sure your parents must be very proud of you to see you maturing and beginning to take responsibility for helping your brothers mature as well. As middle teens (usually between 13 %26 14 to 17) strive for more independence and freedom, they...

Parenting --Teens: Does it surprise you that because of this man do not think, american indian tribe, non custodial parents
american indian tribe, non custodial parents, government framework: Hello, The fact is that when men get equal or nearly equal parenting time, there is usually no problem with them paying child support. The men who get labelled dead beat dads are often men who have tried to avoid paying child support. They are not typically...

Parenting --Teens: Teen dating, friendly relationship, problems at home
friendly relationship, problems at home, difficult situations: Hello Cindy, These are difficult situations when parents don t accept the person their child loves. It is important to rebuild your relationship with your daughter. Obviously, it can t happen if there is conflict over her boyfriend. So, her boyfriend...

Parenting --Teens: Teen daughter stealing from family, ft myers florida, counselor support
ft myers florida, counselor support, waterford michigan: Hello Kristen, If she agrees to get help or if she agrees to go with you to a counselor/therapist. I would recommend Jerry Price or Judith Margerum at the Michigan Family Institute in Southfield. You can find their phone number and information about them...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage Advice, using tampons, teenage advice
using tampons, teenage advice, planned parenthood: Dear Kenneth, If she is not close to a femal that she knows and trusts to help her out with this then I would strongly recommend making an appointment with planned parenthood. They have trained counselors who will show her a video and then discuss options...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an American man?, parental abduction, american man
parental abduction, american man, psychological problems: Hello, This tells me that this man is not very sophisticated when it comes to understanding people. He seems to have no clue that a child who grows up thinking her mother abandoned her is likely to have psychological problems throughout much of her life....

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an American man?, brazilian woman, american man
brazilian woman, american man, sex with women: Hello, I suppose this says that there is something curious about a man who has sex with women based on the child support treaties that exist between their countries and his. He wants to father children, but doesn t want to be under an obligation to pay child...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a Canadian mother?, canadian mother, baby daughter
canadian mother, baby daughter, parental rights: Hello, This tells me that this woman needed to get away from the father of her child in order to protect her daughter. And she was fortunate to have a man come into her life who will be a good partner to her and a good parent to her daughter. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, mothers father, many man
mothers father, many man, financial responsibilities: Hello, That sounds like really skewed thinking: A family is only worth investing in if you don t have to pay child support. Following the logic of this thinking, one shouldn t have a relationship with your child unless you don t have any legal or financial...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, parental abduction, civil tort
parental abduction, civil tort, law violator: Hello, I think this tells me that this man has certain feelings and believes about parental abduction and does not want to get involved in such situations. He is within his rights to decline to help, since he feels this way. Declining to help is not a crime,...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, international divorce, divorce lawyer
international divorce, divorce lawyer, japanese mother: Hello, The child s father will not be his friend because he provided information that allowed his child s mother to abduct the child. The FBI may like him because he gave them information and acted in an open and accommodating manner with them. Some people...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an man?, american birth, danish court
american birth, danish court, american attorney: Hello, Depending on the age of the daughter, I m sure it would be relatively easy to convince a child that her mother was an evil person whom she should dislike or even hate. If the parent repeats negative messages about the mother and does not allow the...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a mother?, fathers parental rights, born women
fathers parental rights, born women, many man: Hello, No, it doesn t surprise me that many American women expect child support from the father of their child and will seek prosecution if he fails to follow court orders. Nor does it surprise me that some American men are interested in relationships with...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a teenage girl?, dependent relationship, peer relationships
dependent relationship, peer relationships, teenage girl: Hello, Adolescence is a time when children learn to relate to their peers and develop friendships outside of the family. Dating also usually takes place during adolescence. If a teenager is too close to her parents, then she doesn t learn to have friendships...

Parenting --Teens: Would an 11-year-old girl be willing to marry the man who, legal guardian, care giver
legal guardian, care giver, old girl: Hello, I don t think it is legal in any state in the U.S. for a man older than 16 to have sex with a child under the age of 16. This girl might be willing to have sex with her male care giver, but, again, states don t give that right to children. They are...

Parenting --Teens: 13 year old grandson, testosterone, young men
testosterone, young men, dad: Karen, Sorry for the delay. I think that this family needs to start some type of family therapy. I would also suggest that the 13 year old does move in with dad. Young men are full of testosterone and being with an older male is useful. It assists with identity...

Parenting --Teens: 14 year old Son and ADD/school issues, roller coaster, concerta
roller coaster, concerta, playing the game: Hello Shannon, If your son was adequately and competently diagnosed with ADHD when he was 8, then he still has ADHD. It doesn t go away. This means that he still very likely has all the basic symptoms of ADHD, which include impulsivity, hyperactivity, and...

Parenting --Teens: My 18 year old son, severe mood swings, outgoing child
severe mood swings, outgoing child, good relationship: Hello Faye, Your son has some serious problems and is not taking responsibility for his life or his future. He is not demonstrating any consideration or respect for others in the family. He s not taking his medication, doesn t think he has a drug problem,...

Parenting --Teens: 6 yr old son with behavioral issues at home, single mom, time outs
single mom, time outs, lashes: Hi Danielle, What you are describing is fairly common and most parents struggle with making time outs work and also taking things away, which you are correct, does not work either. What you have is a win-lose situation in your house. You can turn this...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that 9/10ís of child custody battles in the United States is purely about money (child support)?, child custody battles, custody arrangements
child custody battles, custody arrangements, contentious issue: Hello, I don t know if 90 percent of all child custody battles are about money. But I think many of them are -- or at least end up being about money. If child custody arrangements are satisfactory, then child support also tends to get worked out in a mutually...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a American mother still want to have the Saudi, visiting the united states, american mother
visiting the united states, american mother, saudi arabia: Hello, Losing a daughter through abduction to another country can be very painful to a parent. Therefore, some parents in this situation will want justice (which may be interpreted in terms of prosecuting the father) -- no matter how many years have elapsed...

Parenting --Teens: College in US, outgoing child, sports person
outgoing child, sports person, outgoing person: Dear Abhishek, It seems that you have a lovely and bright and very outgoing child. She is doing many interesting things, which will make her more well rounded, as well as studies, and I would not take these away from her as long as her grades are good....

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that when I have called the police for a series altercation, italian citizen, italian answer
italian citizen, italian answer, fbi director: Hello, As it turns out, a good way of relating to children is by showing them respect and treating them with decency. Many people patronize children; others think that the best way of relating to kids is by asking many questions. Neither approach shows them...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that a child that is born to a Italian mother, director of the fbi, federal prosecutor
director of the fbi, federal prosecutor, federal prosecutors: Hello, Yes, it surprises me and I don t believe it. I doubt that many federal prosecutors or federal judges would be mistaken for Europeans. And I doubt that many school teachers in the U.S. would be mistaken for Europeans. It probably would help to become...

Parenting --Teens: How would a child feel toward her father?, child support money, japanese father
child support money, japanese father, japan man: Hello, I don t how this child would feel about her father. How she feels about him is likely to depend on a number of factors. Those factors might include what else she has been told about him, whether she believes he has abandoned her, or if she has come...

Parenting --Teens: How does a child react to the fact that her mother has several permanent tattoos on her body?, permanent tattoos, outgoing child
permanent tattoos, outgoing child, embarrassment: Hello. I think the answer to this depends on the personality of the child. Obviously, having tattoos is accepted in the family, so this could mean that the child will understand that having tattoos is approved. But some children may like the idea of imitating...

Parenting --Teens: Daughter's Girlfriend, holding hands, girlfriend
holding hands, girlfriend, dee: Hi Dee,,,I think it s great that you recognize that you re uncomfortable with the situation and you re looking for help! That s the first step in resolving anything! I understand that the situation may be uncomfortable for you right now. For your relationship...

Parenting --Teens: daughter in jail, blink of an eye, person report
blink of an eye, person report, going to college: Hello Missy, You are right to be concerned. Heroin addicts need serious help to overcome their addiction, and, unfortunately, they often take advantage of those who love them or try to help them. Your daughter does need treatment and that should be a main...

Parenting --Teens: disrespectful step daughter, negative consequence, diamond earrings
negative consequence, diamond earrings, phone friends: Hello Robin, I m sorry to hear that your stepdaughter has been borrowing and stealing from you for such a long time. You didn t tell me how old she is, but I m going to assume she s about 15 or 16. Since this behavior has been going on for a long time,...

Parenting --Teens: Why would Eddy Murphy not seek a relationship with his daughter Angel?, spice girl melanie brown, former spice girl melanie brown
spice girl melanie brown, former spice girl melanie brown, girl melanie brown: Hello, I don t have any idea why Eddie Murphy wouldn t want a relationship with his daughter. Since I don t know Murphy and have never read anything about his personal life, I don t know what kind of person he is. However, just because he chooses not to...

Parenting --Teens: Estranged from my my childeren and want fix it., parenting styles, good relationship
parenting styles, good relationship, childeren: Hello James, I m sorry to hear that you are alienated from your children. Of course, there are various reasons for estrangement and alienation to take place for the noncustodial parent following a divorce. One of the more common reasons is that children...

Parenting --Teens: How would it effect a child that she no contact with any, ells, high expectations
ells, high expectations, little girl: Hello, It is typical for first children or the only child in the family to spend most or all of their time with adults. The effect this -- along with the high expectations adults have -- has is that first children and only children are more compliant and...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that the employees at T-Mobile USA have the, business mentality, quality surveys
business mentality, quality surveys, employee satisfaction: Hello, Maybe many European companies have learned that employee satisfaction and customer satisfaction are necessary for good business. It s also possible that many American companies get focused on profits rather than on customer satisfaction. However,...

Parenting --Teens: Just found promiscuous content on 14-year-old's cell phone., girl scout, special girl
girl scout, special girl, sports team: Dear Ami If you can think of an adult at church like one of the pastors (or a trusted teacher at school or leader) who she likes and respects, ask him or her to talk with her...explain the entire problem to that person. This secret life of hers is certainly...

Parenting --Teens: What happened to dating???, water under the bridge, rap songs
water under the bridge, rap songs, low self esteem: Hi Karen,,,I m glad my answer was helpful. I can t stress enough how lucky your daughter is to have such caring parents, keep up the great work! I have a feeling that eventually you ll laugh about it, but certainly not now! Ok, teens have a short attention...

Parenting --Teens: help with my mom, maternal grandparents, bad temper
maternal grandparents, bad temper, bitchy roommate: Desirai, Hear me clearly when I say YOU can t change enough to make her happy. This is her issue not yours. I think she has been able to convince you that her happiness is based on whether you meet certain expectations. This is not the case. You could be...

Parenting --Teens: help with my mom please, maternal grandparents, bad temper
maternal grandparents, bad temper, bitchy roommate: Hi Desirai,,,,,Wow, your letter brought tears to my eyes. You sound like an amazing, mature and accomplished young lady. Be proud of yourself! Love yourself! Ok, I m not a counselor, and I really think that a counselor would help you the most in the long...

Parenting --Teens: Isolated Teen, Compulsive TV Habits, Substance Abuse, etc., kids with special needs, tv habits
kids with special needs, tv habits, anti depressants: Hi Amy, Although individual therapy may help, I highly suggest you get Family Therapy with someone who knows how to work with families with kids with special needs. I am so sorry that this is happening to you and your son, but you need support as well....

Parenting --Teens: What would a mother do when her baby daughter, joint decisions, sole decision
joint decisions, sole decision, many mothers: Hello, Since it was the other parent s sole decision, some mothers would remove the earrings. However, there should be a discussion with the other parent about the necessity to make joint decisions and that neither should act independently when it concerns...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that Strong Submissive women have a better, submissive women, better relationships
submissive women, better relationships, american mothers: Hello, The questions you ask are based on premises that may or may not be true. I don t know that strong, submissive women have better relationships with their children than most American women have. Is there research that establishes, or at least strongly,...

Parenting --Teens: Does a single father have the ability to raise a little girl, michelle obama, submissive girl
michelle obama, submissive girl, submissive woman: Hello, Fathers have all the same abilities to nurture, love, and care for children as do mothers. How well behaved a child is depends on a number of factors that include both their temperament and parenting by one or both parents. I don t think the way...

Parenting --Teens: Twin Teen Boys Losing Confidence..., james windell, 14 year old boys
james windell, 14 year old boys, awake nights: Hello Lana, Many adolescents experience difficulties in various areas of their lives during the early to mid-adolescent years. These difficulties can include those related to peer relationships. I don t have many specifics from you in terms of why your...

Parenting --Teens: teenage masterbation, james windell, mature manner
james windell, mature manner, straightforward manner: Hello Lillie, You re right; teenage boys do masturbate. However, others in the family can expect that he will masturbate in private. If you or his parents observe him masturbating in a public area of the house, then you can casually and in a straightforward...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an 18-year-old girl?, biological father, nice man
biological father, nice man, young lady: Hello, This may suggest that this young lady is very loving and devoted to her father. But it may also suggest that he has made her very dependent on caring for him. While this sounds sweet, a goal of parenting is to raise children to enable them to be independent...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, michelle obama, us department of state
michelle obama, us department of state, european man: Hello, If you mean are European men more likely to have these kinds of standards, I would guess yes. But I don t really know. I m sure most men have some standards they are looking for in a woman; just like women have their own standards they seek in men....

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, psychological disturbances, custodial parent
psychological disturbances, custodial parent, having children: Hello, Many men feel they should have control of the raising of their children. And they like having control of their money. But many women feel the same way. Maybe the best solution is to marry a woman you love and stay married while raising children. ...

Parenting --Teens: What do you think of this as a American, sacred vow, american females
sacred vow, american females, russian roulette: Hello, No, it doesn t surprise me. Some American women may agree, based on their experiences and observations. But some American women are not all American women. Most people have a very narrow frame of reference. America is a large, diverse country with...

Parenting --Teens: Why would tiger wood allow his ex wife to move back to Sweden and take her US born children with her?, divorce agreement, tiger wood
divorce agreement, tiger wood, custody agreement: Hello, I don t know all the details of their divorce agreement and custody agreement, but I suspect he could not stop her from doing this. In addition, he has enough money that he could visit them regularly no matter where they live. He is an exception,...

Parenting --Teens: 11th grader with no motivation, playing video games, passing grades
playing video games, passing grades, wits end: Hi Robert, I can see why you are very concerned. Without having more information it is difficult for me to comment. What kind of student has he been in the past? Does he have a diagnosis? ADHD? or Depression? Has he been tested? Is he using marijuana,drinking...

Parenting --Teens: 14.5 yr old daughter and 15.5 yr old boyfriend, james windell, best of intentions
james windell, best of intentions, consequences: Hello Jill, Since teens in love are not always likely to listen to reason, getting through to her may not be the most important approach. It is more important often for parents to establish limits and rules. For example, if your rule for your 14-year-old...

Parenting --Teens: 16 year old son, scream mask, part time work
scream mask, part time work, personality disorder: Hello Renee, It certainly seems like your son is troubled by some things in his life. His misbehavior, for the most part, only occurs at home and appears to be more troubled than dangerous. However, that is not to say that you shouldn t be concerned about...

Parenting --Teens: How would a American little girl feel toward her mother?, italian standards, european man
italian standards, european man, good mother: Hello, At age 10 or younger, she might focus on the information that her mother is a good mother. That would be important to her. At 12 or later, she would be more likely to compare this information to her experience with her mother. If it coincides with...

Parenting --Teens: Why would an American woman who is born in the 1980ís with Indian parents have a different mentality than most Americans?, indian parents, indian man
indian parents, indian man, native languages: Hello, She may want to marry an Indian man because it is part of the family tradition. Or, it could be that there is pressure from her family to do this. Or, she may believe that marrying an Indian man will make it easier to retain her family s culture and...

Parenting --Teens: When did most Americans become aware of the American child support laws?, child custody laws, child support laws
child custody laws, child support laws, marriage and divorce: Hello, I think most adults, especially those who were getting a divorce or knew someone who got a divorce, were very much aware of American divorce and child custody laws. In fact, since Hollywood movies captured the imagination of the public beginning in...

Parenting --Teens: Family probs., step in the right direction, step dad
step in the right direction, step dad, two birds: Hello Megan, I m sorry to hear there are so many problems in your family. Teenagers have enough problems just being teenagers, let alone having all the other kinds of family problems that have occurred for you. I don t know what state you live in, but...

Parenting --Teens: Fighting, james windell, hello dawn
james windell, hello dawn, negative consequence: Hello Dawn, Not every mistake or bad behavior requires a punishment. You talked to him about it and I m sure you expressed your point of view that he could have handled this in a different way. That may be all that is necessary. However, if he frequently...

Parenting --Teens: What is going on with this family?, youngest daughter, older sister
youngest daughter, older sister, being friends: You need to understand that families have multiple dynamics in how they respond to each other. I really can t comment on what she said or he said only on how you should respond to what you ve heard: The best policy to remember is to only get involved when...

Parenting --Teens: guilt regret, overcoming guilt, anger
overcoming guilt, anger, blame: This one is EASY. It helped me so much, and others, that I recommend it for ANYONE suffering the guilt-thing, ESPECIALLY if you already admit it wasn t the fault of someone else. (A huge step; many people never get beyond the blame-game.) It is a book by Eckhart...

Parenting --Teens: how do I help my husband and son's relationship?, shooting hoops, good relationship
shooting hoops, good relationship, football basketball: Sabrina, If there is no relationship then there will be no desire to follow the rules laid down by your husband. As you describe it, I think you need to be the one setting the rules for him and your husband needs to support you. I think there may be a chance...

Parenting --Teens: Melissa, prayer journals, prayer journal
prayer journals, prayer journal, dick head: Hello Melissa, I m so sorry to hear about your sister. When there is stress in your life (coming from family events or other situations#, then you will not be at your best in dealing with teenagers. However, the incident you described above shows that you...

Parenting --Teens: I'm a student doing a article for my newspaper, james windell, defiant behavior
james windell, defiant behavior, delinquent behavior: Hello Justin, I d be happy to try to answer this question and contribute to your article. Many teens sneak out of their home because they don t like the rules or restrictions placed on them. Some sneak out because they are rebelling against their parents....

Parenting --Teens: Why would a man be upset when he looses custody of his 10-year-old, grand parents, south africa
grand parents, south africa, netherlands: Hello, I would think that the man would be upset because he believed he was capable of raising his children on his own. Losing custody of his children may have felt like the courts considered him unfit or incapable of raising his children. Best, Jame...

Parenting --Teens: How does mentality influence human behavior?, influence human behavior, yuppie
influence human behavior, yuppie, outlooks: Hello, One s attitudes and outlooks on life will certainly influence behavior. An individual s attitudes or beliefs may not have anything to do with intelligence, but may a have a lot to do with how that person acts and behaves. We all tend to act on the...

Parenting --Teens: a non- co-parenting father, and a very difficult daughter, daughter alex, bad mother
daughter alex, bad mother, piece of shit: Natalie, I think you simply sit with your daughter and CALMLY point out all these things you just pointed out to me and let her know that it seems she would be happier at her father s and you want her to be happy. So you are going to have her live with her...

Parenting --Teens: My Son Is So Strange, godspeed you black emperor, relationship killer
godspeed you black emperor, relationship killer, strong faith: Jenny, I imagine that just because your family is Christian doesn t mean you have been raising him in a church? If you had I wouldn t think there would be such extreme interest in other religions. As far as what is up with him...I think there is a possibility...

Parenting --Teens: How do I stop my teenager from lying about everything, apology letters, writing sentences
apology letters, writing sentences, high iq: Linda, This isn t a phase. It sounds like your son is very passive-aggressive. Some of it may be due to the fact that you both work outside of the home and maybe he hasn t had the supervision that he had needed. Regardless, I think you should so a few things....

Parenting --Teens: Teenage relationship, parent child relationship, romantic relationship
parent child relationship, romantic relationship, low self esteem: Hello Angie, Usually when parents try to intervene in a romantic relationship, their child does not appreciate what they are trying to do -- and the parent-child relationship (at least for a period of time) suffers. As you yourself may recognize from your...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a father?, child abuse laws, female lawyer
child abuse laws, female lawyer, emotional satisfaction: Hello, A lawyer, who knows something about child abuse laws and child protective services investigations, might be helpful. It sounds like this man may lack good judgment on his own and needs to get permission and approval from others because he is not...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a father?, sex parent, child abuse
sex parent, child abuse, adolescents: Hello, Teenagers may want a lot of things; just because they want something doesn t mean it is good for them or that it is right. Furthermore, adolescents are dealing with their developing sexuality, as they develop, their feelings should not be confused...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, parenting plan, good relationship
parenting plan, good relationship, unwed mother: Hello, I m not sure what this tells me about this man. It may say that he wanted to be a father without the complications of a relationship with a woman. As long as there is some distance from his co-parent, perhaps he is capable of co-parenting. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, barrack obama, child support laws
barrack obama, child support laws, neglectful parents: Hello, Children may consider a parent great, but keep in mind that children only have one mother and one father and these are the only parents they will ever have. Thus, they have no personal experience to make a valid comparison. Children of even abusive,...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a women, child custody dispute, child custody laws
child custody dispute, child custody laws, divorce lawyers: Hello, The bottom line is that you can t always tell in advance who is likely to keep their word after a child is born or after there are conflicts in a relationship. Different people (even divorce lawyers) have different views of child custody laws and...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a ten year old girl, like it when her baby sitter a man were to, baby sitter, rube
baby sitter, rube, adult female: Hello, My only questions are these: If he is interested in touching a female, why doesn t he touch an adult female? Why does he choose a young girl? The mother doesn t have to try to figure out this adult s intentions. She just has to know that no one...

Parenting --Teens: Violent and angry, james windell, medication reviews
james windell, medication reviews, filing a petition: Hello Madelyn, I m sorry to hear that your son is making life so difficult for you and your family. He is out of control with his anger and violence and you do need help. You said he was diagnosed at age 6, but you didn t say what that diagnosis was. You...

Parenting --Teens: 12-year-old Grandson going to be incarcerated, ODD, bad bahavior
ODD, bad bahavior, young deliquency problems: Dear Mary, Actually, you may rest easy, as this sounds as if he is FINALLY getting the kind of help he really needs. None of the other solutions tried were able to do anything to change his behaviors, and he was put in with the general population of regular...

Parenting --Teens: Blended family/preteen behavior, emotional breakdowns, parenting plan
emotional breakdowns, parenting plan, residential schedule: Hello Jay, I apologize for the delay in responding to your question. I understand your position and I understand and am sympathetic toward what you are trying to do. However, since I work with co-parents in moderate to high-conflict relationships I don...

Parenting --Teens: My daughters hate each other, scratch marks, conflict resolution
scratch marks, conflict resolution, brainstorm ideas: Hello Lorrie, As you have discovered, the traditional approaches (reprimands, consequences, and trying to settle the problem for them) don t work very well. The problem is that once you are not there, they start fighting or arguing again. My suggestion...

Parenting --Teens: First names with Daughter, mom and dad, wrong context
mom and dad, wrong context, aunt kathy: Dear Savi, You are probably not going to like my answer, I am from the south, and here we find it disrespectful for children to call their elders or adults by their first name (without Mr. or Ms.) in front of it. We also do not allow our children to call...

Parenting --Teens: rules/contract for 19yr old son, 13 year old boys, wont kick
13 year old boys, wont kick, stepdad: Hello Leanne, Clearly something needs to change. You can t allow your family to be destroyed without trying something different. It is easy to focus on your 19-year-old son as the problem, but I suspect he is just the symptom of the problem. Nonetheless,...

Parenting --Teens: teen bedtime, freedom independence, popularity contest
freedom independence, popularity contest, safe guard: Hello Marisa, I hope you haven t resorted to spanking to try to solve the bedtime problem. That might relieve your frustration and anger temporarily, but it won t solve the problem. Many children at many different ages have trouble with their bedtime....

Parenting --Teens: teen parenting, teen drug abuse, parenting question
teen drug abuse, parenting question, parenting techniques: I teach a parenting class here in my home county called the Parent Project (www.parentproject.com) that is for youth who do not respond to normal parenting techniques (grounding, lectures, etc.). The first thing I explain to my parents is that we do not control...

Parenting --Teens: I want to help my 13 year old daughter deal with issues that cause her stress, insulin dependant, stress level
insulin dependant, stress level, school assignments: Hello Joe, I m glad to hear that you and your daughter have such a close relationship. Given that she confides in you and she wants to do better, you have a great advantage in helping her. I think the first thing you can do is to be very supportive and...

Parenting --Teens: 14 year old son, boundaries and relationships, style choices
boundaries and relationships, style choices, negative consequences: What I can hear from your email is that you are wanting your son to grow up learning healthy boundaries and relationships with everyone regardless of his life style choices. This is a little out of my realm. I can tell you that behaviors that he is demonstrating...

Parenting --Teens: college son to meet serious boyfriend, parent, parent of teen
parent, parent of teen, parent - teen relationship: Hi Pamela, My first question to you would be, have you ever asked your son his feeling about you dating and eventually finding a new mate? I have no statistics, though I would guess that in families where there is a loving relationship between son and mother,...

Parenting --Teens: discipline and coping with a pre teen, raising teenagers, time visits
raising teenagers, time visits, mood swings: Hello Sarah, Isn t raising teenagers a wonderful experience?! Your son doesn t sound all that unusual as a young teen. Therefore, I think the first step for you is to accept that to some degree he may be like this for a while. That also means that you...

Parenting --Teens: heartbroken daughter, daughters, teen dating
daughters, teen dating, depression: Dear Marissa, You have not given me much information to go on, so I am going to have to make some assumptions. If they are not accurate you can reply and ask more questions. I am assuming that your daughter is a teen and in high school. I also do not know...

Parenting --Teens: social awkwardness, local youth group, social awkwardness
local youth group, social awkwardness, different girls: First of all this is not an uncommon issue and one that can have an easy solution but it depends almost entirely on your son s willingness to participate. It seems to me that he is voicing his desires to socialize but only to the extent to vent his growing...

Parenting --Teens: son 15, james windell, taking pills
james windell, taking pills, prescription drugs: Hello Brecca, I think you want to impress on him the seriousness of taking pills from other kids because he obviously has no idea what he s getting. While you may use punishment (perhaps taking away privileges or activities for a relatively short period...

Parenting --Teens: son 15, teen, teen drug use
teen, teen drug use, parenting of teens: Dear Brecca, This might sound strange, but I do not think that punishment from you is your first priority as parents of your son. It is way more important to figure out if this is a first time and luckily he got caught, or if this has been going on for...

Parenting --Teens: Vacation, halloween outfits, skimpy bikinis
halloween outfits, skimpy bikinis, sexy surprise: Shayna, The short answer is yes you are going to embarrass your son, regardless of what you wear or do, at 17, ALL parents are an embarrassment (it s actually a compliment in some circumstances). I embarrass my 23 and 25 year old sometimes with Halloween...

Parenting --Teens: 16 year old son, dress slacks, basketball practice
dress slacks, basketball practice, w basketball: Rhonda, First, thank you for following up. Doesn t sound like he is depressed, but displaying some typical adolescent behaviors. I would first suggest that you and your family sit down and set some rules on the privileges they are allowed to participate...

Parenting --Teens: 16 yr. old son, social welfare system, negative consequences
social welfare system, negative consequences, punitive actions: Kathy, People respond best to positive rewards, but they also respond to negative consequences. This is something that has been proven over and over again in studies so why would you go against this with your own child. I would suggest that earning the chance...

Parenting --Teens: 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!!, otc drug, car got stuck in mud
otc drug, car got stuck in mud, smoking pot: Hello Kristine, I m sorry to hear about your son and his problems -- and his lack of concern about his situation. Forget about a Scared Straight program. While there are some around, and while they make for great TV, there is no research that says they...

Parenting --Teens: 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!!, otc drug, car got stuck in mud
otc drug, car got stuck in mud, smoking pot: Kris, You are spoiling your son by continuing to give him chances. He knows that you view him as a good kid and thus is using it against you. He can t take responsibility for himself as long as there are other adults that prevent him from doing that. You...

Parenting --Teens: 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!!, otc drug, car got stuck in mud
otc drug, car got stuck in mud, smoking pot: Kris, Wow...I can read the anxiety in your email and understand how stressful this can be on a parent. I have a few suggestions for you. First, check with your attorney or local court system and see if they have drug court. If this is your son s first...

Parenting --Teens: 18 yr old son not worried about possible felony!!!, teen, drug rehab
teen, drug rehab, teen drug use: Dear Kris, I will start with the last part first. Scared Straight does not work and the bail bondsman is absolutely right. All my kids knew that if they got busted, they were going to be in jail until they either got RORed (Released on Own Recognizance)or...

Parenting --Teens: 19 year old son disrespectful, disrespect, teen problems
disrespect, teen problems, authority: Dear Teresa, It seems, from what you have written, that you have not had much authority over your son for many years and that he has not really had much concern for you for most of that time. If this is true than for you to be of the mindset that just because...

Parenting --Teens: Daughter Boyfriend, responsible adult, initial question
responsible adult, initial question, nothing works: Hi again, Let s start with the easy answer about control. With one month to go before she is 18, you are past any practical outside legal intervention based on her age. I have brought child abuse cases to the attention of the police where the kid was months...

Parenting --Teens: My father, james windell, loser
james windell, loser, 17 years: Hello Yuss, I m sorry to hear that your father doesn t appreciate that you are a good student who works hard to keep up good grades. I m sure it must be very discouraging to be called a loser when you try so hard to do well. However, many children have...

Parenting --Teens: Motivation, emotional blackmail, necessary cooperation
emotional blackmail, necessary cooperation, entrance exam: Nira, My apologies in the delay in answering your question, the email got lost in my spam box. I would first suggest that you and your family sit down and set some rules on the privileges they are allowed to participate in now (like hanging out with...

Parenting --Teens: older daughter hating younger, two thoughts, disdain
two thoughts, disdain, siblings: Betsy, Siblings have fought this battle for years. I think my older brother tried to sell me for grapes after I was born. I have two thoughts on this to share with you that may be helpful. First, while I didn t read any description of behaviors (on either...

Parenting --Teens: Rebellious Teen, juvenile detention center, smoking marijuana
juvenile detention center, smoking marijuana, single mom: Hello Jill, It is certainly no fun to have a teenager who is out of control. It s even worse for a single mother. I think your mother has three viable options. One, is to go to a therapist herself. This would give her support and a place where she could...

Parenting --Teens: Rights, full time job, tight work
full time job, tight work, stressful period: Hi James, I do not live in Oklahoma and am not familiar with the laws there and how the authorities deal with them. Generally, though, that close to 18 there would probably need to be a grave danger to the 17 year old for them to take any action. I am assuming...

Parenting --Teens: Step-Teen Talking Back, youngest teen, biological mother
youngest teen, biological mother, stepparents: Hello Renee, It s not easy to get along with stepchildren, and teens are usually the most difficult to form relationships with. Based on the fact that you have fairly good relationships with the older two children, I m guessing that you are a pretty good...

Parenting --Teens: Troubled 16 year old, smoking marijuana, single mom
smoking marijuana, single mom, police involvement: Jilleon, Your brother doesn t simply need a talking to. He needs direct police involvement. He is in a place in his life where he will not listen to any adult authority so it seems like he needs to be forced to listen to adult authority. This involves police...

Parenting --Teens: 12 yr old doesn't care, positive reinforcement, tangible proof
positive reinforcement, tangible proof, stepdaughter: Hello Angie, It certainly sounds like your stepdaughter has serious behavior problems. It may be oppositional defiant disorder or a conduct disorder. But that would be up to an experience child and adolescent psychologist to diagnose. More importantly,...

Parenting --Teens: 14 yr old grandson, rebecca rebecca, emotional troubles
rebecca rebecca, emotional troubles, private school: Rebecca, You need to lovingly and firmly direct him back onto a good path. This is done through incentives and consequences. If he has toys and gadgets then he shouldn t have them when he is rude. Those are privileges not rights. I would suggest you start...

Parenting --Teens: 15 years old and drugs, james windell, drugs and alcohol
james windell, drugs and alcohol, honour roll: Hello Debbie, When dealing with your adolescent, it s best to be straightforward and honest. For example, in this kind of situation, you could say, I heard there are going to be drugs at the party tonight and you are not going. Then, the excuses, attacks,...

Parenting --Teens: 16 year old daughter in love, free relationship, guideance
free relationship, guideance, part time job: Nicola, Stop caving in. You appear weak and she loses respect for you. Yes, she may not like it, but your alternative is to appear weak and then lose respect for yourself because you know you are not doing the right thing. I think a good conversation to have...

Parenting --Teens: 18 year old son moving out 3 months before graduation, group counseling, counseling center
group counseling, counseling center, troubled teens: Janet, While this is distressing to you it seems that he is acting like he has been somewhat spoiled. I know this was a while ago, but If it continues I would encourage you to accept that he wants to be an adult and help him become one. This would mean stop...

Parenting --Teens: 5 year old son.., james windell, daycare
james windell, daycare, verbal reprimand: Hello Jennifer, It sounds like a serious overreaction on the part of daycare. But that is fairly typical these days. Given that he has not had behavior problems in the past, this incident does not seem like it warrants therapy. Obviously, there should...

Parenting --Teens: Why American women hate American man who do the following?, family court judge, italian mother
family court judge, italian mother, italian woman: Hello, I don t know what most American man would expect. As long as the Italian mother and American father are married, then there would be no reason for a family court judge to be involved. As it is, apparently the girl is well-adjusted and happy. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: BATTLING teenage sons, type 1 diabetes, teenage sons
type 1 diabetes, teenage sons, wits end: Hi Sharon, You do have your hands full! Your situation is fairly complex and I could not possibly answer or fix all of this in an email. But I can point you in a few directions that might be helpful. 1. Family Therapy (very effective but time consuming...

Parenting --Teens: I caught him in the act....Twice!, oral intercourse, different girl
oral intercourse, different girl, none of my business: Ah! You re in Australia. That didn t come through in your first letter, and explains the distances and other things. Without a religious basis it is difficult to change attitudes. I wish you luck with a counselor, who can hopefully at least get him to use...

Parenting --Teens: Disrespectful Teen, minor infractions, teenagers and parents
minor infractions, teenagers and parents, computer television: I can understand the frustration you must feel, this is a tough age for both teenagers and parents. A couple of points to remember when trying to change behaviors; it didn t break over night and more than likely will not be fixed over night either and it tends...

Parenting --Teens: delusional demons, james windell, school counselor
james windell, school counselor, what this means: Hello Kenzie, I m sorry to hear that your mother doesn t take you seriously. But I m glad that you are concerned about the demons that you see and hear. It s difficult to say what this means because I don t know you very well. However, you need to talk...

Parenting --Teens: Grandson's behavior, behavior question, older guys
behavior question, older guys, delinquents: Hello Celia, I don t meet with people because I m retired from counseling and therapy. The best I can do is to communicate by email with your son. Maybe you could find someone who understands the situation who could help your son. I don t know where you...

Parenting --Teens: moving out, school guidance counselor, teenage marriages
school guidance counselor, teenage marriages, foolish plan: Hello, Sarah- Are you the same Sarah who recently contacted me? Please don t get married at 18. Your brain doesn t have reasoning skills until you re in your early to mid twenties. You re likely to look at the guy six months down the road and ask yourself...

Parenting --Teens: need help with my family, family question, adult age
family question, adult age, rough time: I know that when issues such as this involve more than one child a parent can only feel torn. It is evident you love each of your children and want to be supportive to both in any way possible. If both of you children are of adult age (which I believe they...

Parenting --Teens: getting older, hormonal changes
hormonal changes: Getting older can be very confusing, even beyond your age the process of aging creates fear and confusion as our bodies and minds change. I will have to be somewhat general in explaining what your going through since each person is different and each experience...

Parenting --Teens: Single mom engaged, and is affecting the daughter, younger siblings, single mom
younger siblings, single mom, divorced man: Hello Patricia, It s much easier for young children to accept their mother getting married than it is teenagers. The problem is that the older you are and the longer you ve had a particular situation (living with a single mom without younger siblings, for...

Parenting --Teens: self-esteem 13 year old, self esteem issues, teenaged girls
self esteem issues, teenaged girls, behavior problem: Hi Suzanne, Just because she has self-esteem issues doesn t necessarily mean she needs to see a therapist. If she is chronically depressed, though, it might be a good idea to schedule her with a therapist. That s always a judgment call, and if you think...

Parenting --Teens: son, son growing up, communication with teens
son growing up, communication with teens: Hmmm, well it sounds as if he s just reached that stage where they realize they are going to be independent soon, and start making plans that don t include their parents. It s hard on us, but it has to happen or they end up living at home sponging off of us...

Parenting --Teens: TANTRUMS, family psychologist, criminal offence
family psychologist, criminal offence, education dept: Hello Bernice, I m sorry to hear about the problems caused by your son. I don t know if you have compulsory school laws in your country, but apparently you don t. So, that would mean he is not violating a law by refusing to go to school. I am also not...

Parenting --Teens: Teen and school, manageable pieces, doer
manageable pieces, doer, different reasons: Hi Luisa, Sometimes it is difficult to motivate kids, especially when it comes to school work. It could be that she feels overwhelmed. I would work on breaking down her homework in manageable pieces. The following are some ideas to get you going. You...

Parenting --Teens: teen mom, wise choices, teen mom
wise choices, teen mom, baby life: OK, then. You didn t tell me the father was in the picture. This is a whole different matter. You need to find the age of consent in your state, but I don t recommend marrying without your mothers involvement. With her approval, you can probably marry...

Parenting --Teens: my teenage son., james windell, behavior difficulties
james windell, behavior difficulties, support and guidance: Hello Julie, You didn t say how long he has been angry and displaying behavior problems, but I m guessing it s been at least a couple of years. Many young people with learning problems also develop behavior problems. Because so much of their life centers...

Parenting --Teens: 12-year-old Stealing Bikes with New "Friends", hanging with the wrong crowd, decent grades
hanging with the wrong crowd, decent grades, premonition: Hello Robin, His stealing or attempting to steal two bikes, texting about it, and showing declines at school do not bode well for the future. I think you have every reason to be concerned about his future. I would suggest that you respond with a consequence...

Parenting --Teens: 13 year old, normal or need major help?, mental health center, school mental health
mental health center, school mental health, united way agency: Shelly, Sounds like you have a lot of things going on. I think that you are in need of some resources to assist you in getting a handle on things both. If you allow the police to press charges and he is determined to be a Child in Need of Supervision (also...

Parenting --Teens: my 15 year old daughter, teen drug abuse, parenting techniques
teen drug abuse, parenting techniques, parenting class: Carissa, I teach a parenting class here in my home county that is for youth who do not respond to normal parenting techniques (grounding, lectures, etc.). The first thing I explain to my parents is that we do not control our kids, if we did there would...

Parenting --Teens: 17 year old son and POT, discipline approach, nut shell
discipline approach, nut shell, cigarette smoke: Hello Sunny, Your son does have serious problems which are escalating. He may have psychological as well as behavioral problems, but his psychological problems may be related to experiences during his first 14 months of his life. Since we can t know what...

Parenting --Teens: 18 year old violent nephew, abusive behavior, serious situation
abusive behavior, serious situation, nephews: Hello Deborah, This sounds like a serious situation that continues to get worse. Perhaps the only thing you can do is to try to persuade both your nephew s mother and father to put aside their differences, to recognize how serious their son s angry, abusive...

Parenting --Teens: Agressive 6 year old, meeting new friends, daycare
meeting new friends, daycare, french school: Hello Chrystal, While children of various ages may understand their aggressive behavior is wrong, and while they can tell you what they should have done differently, it doesn t always mean that they can control or inhibit their behavior later in interactions...

Parenting --Teens: Why would most American women who are US Diplomats and every woman, department travel advisories, state department travel advisories
department travel advisories, state department travel advisories, state department travel: Hello, Maybe it is related to how they are raised. Many Americans are not raised to be diplomatic, although most are raised to respect the law. Americans, by tradition, value independence, freedom, the willingness to speak their minds, and to live in a country...

Parenting --Teens: brother against brother, anger management classes, anger issues
anger management classes, anger issues, angry young men: Hello, I m sorry to hear about the anger and assaultive behavior of your son. It certainly takes away from family life to have a child like your son in the family. Because his anger issues have been going on so long, I don t think there is anything you...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, many different cultures, european profile
many different cultures, european profile, italian mother: Hello, People generally reflect the attitudes, behavior, and values that were prevalent in their families when they were growing up. You, and other men, prefer European women, or women raised in a European manner. I m sure there are many men who prefer...

Parenting --Teens: constant pot use, flat screen tv, pot smoking
flat screen tv, pot smoking, xbox live: Belinda, Normally, I don t like to be placed into a marital discussion such as this, however, I feel this is an important topic. I would like to share two things with you and your husband. First, as you both know, pot smoking is illegal. Should the police...

Parenting --Teens: Daughter's Dilemma, alcoholic boyfriend, teen pregnancy
alcoholic boyfriend, teen pregnancy, bad choices: If Charlie Sheen s antics of late haven t been enough to tune her in, I doubt anyone can convince her. We could show her the baby the drugged-up mother decided to put in the microwave, or 987,955, 874,863,597 similar horror stories. We could have her read...

Parenting --Teens: Daughter's Dilemma, full time job, personality changes
full time job, personality changes, choices in life: Lanette, The information was very helpful, thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. It seems that time is of the essence right now and the lives of two very important people (daughter and grandchild) are at stake. I know that in most of...

Parenting --Teens: Daughters dilemma, full time job, personality changes
full time job, personality changes, choices in life: Hello Lanette, I m sure you see all the dangers in this, just as I do. However, since she is in love, she discounts or minimizes all the potential problems and pitfalls. She is 18 and will make her own decisions. But what you can do is ask her questions...

Parenting --Teens: Disrespect, daughters room, loud music
daughters room, loud music, disrespect: Hello Bill, If you didn t talk to her for two years, then, of course, she had issues. She may have thought that you abandoned her, that you blamed her for the marital problems and separation, or that she was the cause of the marital problems. These problems...

Parenting --Teens: desparate dad, living arrangement, boy and a girl
living arrangement, boy and a girl, including family: Hi Allen, I hear how worried you are about your daughter and your relationship with her. Kids react to divorce differently..as you can see from both your kids. A few questions- what is the living arrangement? When do you spend time with your children?...

Parenting --Teens: Why would it be more difficult for an American to integrate in, greek parents, american parents
greek parents, american parents, greek americans: Hello, I suppose the answer is that parents have a certain amount of influence in the training of children. If parents choose to retain a European life style for their children, then they can encourage this so their children reflect the European mentality....

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that most Europeans like me only feel conformable in, barrack obama, child custody disputes
barrack obama, child custody disputes, career criminals: Hello, I m not sure I agree with your assertions here. I don t think that law enforcement officers are best at deciding if an individual can be trusted. Based on long-time experience as a police officer, officers do become cynical. This means they don t...

Parenting --Teens: Son shunned by long time friends, human logic, correlation
Parenting --Teens: Son shunned by long time friends, human logic, correlation

Parenting --Teens: grounding, grounding
grounding: Hi Kelly, I don t think that grounding is an effective punishment in it self. More effective is to assign a child or teen an essay about what you are trying to teach them. The child/teen cannot go out, etc. until the essay is handed in to you and discussed....

Parenting --Teens: Husband and son fighting, james windell, full time job
james windell, full time job, peace keeper: Hello Mary, It sounds like you have tried to be a peace-keeper for years. It s a very difficult role to play. It s often difficult because it is hard to be successful, you often can t please both sides, and you get no thanks for your efforts. What you...

Parenting --Teens: Mood Disorder NOS/LD, mood disorder nos, autistic tendencies
mood disorder nos, autistic tendencies, randy dean: Hello Renee, If your son is only mildly cognitively impaired, I think therapy is still an option. I assume that Dr. Dean is just prescribing the medication and only does medication reviews, however, there are several therapists in your area (perhaps in...

Parenting --Teens: mixed family, true teens, middle teens
true teens, middle teens, sweet daughter: Hello A, You didn t tell me how old your daughter is. I will assume, though, that she is between 13 and 15, but correct me in another email if I m wrong. You also didn t tell me how long your husband has been a part of the family or when her father left....

Parenting --Teens: Is this normal or does my son need professional help?, sexual predator, bestfriend
sexual predator, bestfriend, stepdaughter: it was by some one much older....I agree with your assessment of your personal issues with your son and although unfortunate I also agree that all will be well if you maintain close contact with your son and help him to understand the situation and more importantly...

Parenting --Teens: Secrative Son, chores, upwards
chores, upwards, live chat: Hello Sandra, Many teenagers are withdrawn and secretive. This can be part of the age as teens are concerned about peer relationships, the opposite sex, trying to figure out who they are, and trying to find out where they belong in social settings. Your...

Parenting --Teens: Son shunned by long time friends, long time friends, part time jobs
long time friends, part time jobs, playing video games: I do apologize for any misunderstandings from my last post. It looks from what you written that your son is attempting to move in the right direction and has started to look beyond those childish things , thinking about his future. All I can offer you...

Parenting --Teens: stealing and lying, fellow classmates, stealing money
fellow classmates, stealing money, family situation: Hi Roxanne, One more thing: If you think of a normal family as a biological father, a biological mother, and their child, then there are very few of these left in this country. A normal family is one that functions pretty well. Enjoy what you have. ...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Son, staring at the wall, behavior changes
staring at the wall, behavior changes, good character: Fiona, I can understand your worry and concern, behavior changes such as you have described can be very concerning and disturbing to parents. I can give you my opinion, but truly feel you need the advice of someone who had education in the field of psychology...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Son, staring at the wall, good character
staring at the wall, good character, school grades: When children have children the devastation of normalcy becomes very difficult to reacquire. Your son s life is now intertwined with the lives of his girlfriend and even more so with the lives of his kids. Despite his young age his attitude toward his children...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Son, staring at the wall, good character
staring at the wall, good character, school grades: Hello Fiona, Your son seems somewhat withdrawn, but he is still involved in a lot of things. And he is able to respond to his children and to your requests. However, keep in mind that middle teenagers are usually moody and spend a lot of time normally...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Son, Family, teen pregnancy
Family, teen pregnancy, twins: Hello, Fiona- Your son is no longer a 15 year-old student. He is a father. He recognizes his responsibilities, and probably wishes he were five to seven years older, as he should be, but isn t, so he s very conflicted. In these days of sex everywhere,...

Parenting --Teens: Teen can't get to school, anxiety problems, sleep disorder
anxiety problems, sleep disorder, academic concerns: Hello Laura, Maybe she does have a sleep disorder. But maybe there are other factors involved. Such as depression, social problems at school, academic concerns, learning disabilities, anxiety, problems with a teacher, and so on. At this point, of course,...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage Son, sexual intercourse, facebook
sexual intercourse, facebook, oral intercourse: Cheryl, I can hear the concern in your words and know how frustrating this behavior can be. Our kids today are exposed to so much sexuality in the media, over the internet and through their friends. Let s face it, once someone has had this experience...

Parenting --Teens: Teenager with no motivation, motivation question, scientific discoveries
motivation question, scientific discoveries, open relationships: Thank you for your follow up, I know this can be very frustrating. As a parent, we always want our children to excel, be goal oriented and have it better than us. That being said, I am reminded of a couple of my foster children who were just late bloomers....

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an 18-year-old woman?, true devotion, male influence
true devotion, male influence, female influence: Hello, A sacrifice is when you give up what you want to do in order to do what others want you to do. If she is living her life the way she wants to, that s fine. If she s doing mostly what her father wants out of devotion to him, then she may not be happy....

Parenting --Teens: Unsocial and struggling., adequate answer, kind of game
adequate answer, kind of game, social networks: Hello Andreas, Volunteering your time to help others is an excellent idea. I m sure there are many places you could volunteer that would love to have you. That may include hospitals, community centers, libraries, homeless shelters, soup kitchens, tutoring...

Parenting --Teens: Unwanted?, avoiding abuse, sociopathic parents
avoiding abuse, sociopathic parents, child abuse: Dear Alana, None of this is your fault. Your are being physically (slapping and hair pulling) and emotionally abused. Nobody should be treated as you have been, and you must get out of this situation as soon as possible. Nobody with a 4.0 GPA is going...

Parenting --Teens: 12 yr old girl....beyond out of control, drug addicted parents, long periods of time
drug addicted parents, long periods of time, heart talks: Hello Lyndsay, I m sorry to hear about the difficulties you re having with your daughter. I agree with you that she is out of control, but getting that control back will not be easy. You may not be able to do it alone -- or at least not without help and...

Parenting --Teens: 13 year old daughter, adolescent years, three kids
adolescent years, three kids, last word: Hello Desiree, Since you didn t give a lot of information about your daughter or your family, I ll respond based on what you ve told me. It is not uncommon for adolescents to keep things from their parents and to be rude to their parents. There is a major...

Parenting --Teens: 15 year old granddaughter, respect of elders, teen yelling
respect of elders, teen yelling, step-parenting: Dear Cheryl- Sorry, Grandma, but you need to step up to the plate here. By ignoring her back-talk, you have given her permission to continue it. At her first outburst, you should have come down on her hard. Not physically, but in no uncertain terms....

Parenting --Teens: 15 year old son going out of control, control question, problematic behavior
control question, problematic behavior, legal custody: Kavita, I am glad to see you are taking him for counseling this week. Youth who are in the beginning stages of drug usage can usually be turned around, but this too is going to take more effort on your part. Unfortunately, these efforts if not supported...

Parenting --Teens: 15 yr girl, abusive, pet guinea pig, horrible monsters
pet guinea pig, horrible monsters, mental illnesses: Hello Bonnie, I m sorry to hear about the distress your daughter is causing you. It certainly sounds like she has been a challenging child for a long time. I think you have two viable options. One is to try to find a skilled and experienced family therapist...

Parenting --Teens: 16 yr old daughter w/ 18 yr old boyfriend, teen daughter, old boyfriend
teen daughter, old boyfriend, further notice: Hello James, You are facing a dilemma and a problem that millions of other parents have faced over the centuries. There is generally no good solution to this problem from a parent perspective. All of us fathers want to protect our daughters and we generally...

Parenting --Teens: Depressed or manipulating?, tamtrum, apendice
tamtrum, apendice, bad mood: Those words and behaviors can be very scary and I know you fear for him as well as your family. There is a couple of things I read out of your email. One, is that he tends not to act out at your house except for some minor immature behaviors. However, when...

Parenting --Teens: Difficult Step-Teenager, getting a job, disrespect
getting a job, disrespect, bartender: Andrea, This is a difficult age to parent for anyone, I admire you for all you are trying to do for your step daughter. It is a testament to how much you care and love her. I always explain to the families I work with is that we cannot control our youth....

Parenting --Teens: grandsons defiant behavior, raging hormones, karate class
raging hormones, karate class, honeymoon period: Susan, I can hear the frustration clearly through your email. I know these teen years can be the most trying and confusing to both the child and the family as a whole. What may be going on with your grandson could be a result of the frontal lobe of his...

Parenting --Teens: healthy vs. unhealthy sex drive, james windell, long periods of time
james windell, long periods of time, sexual desires: Hello Jacob, The sex drives of individuals varies markedly. That may mean that there are differences between individuals who are going together in their desire for sex. This, of course, can cause problems in a relationship. The positive is that you and...

Parenting --Teens: What kind of punishment can I give my son who is 17 yrs old for not coming home on a given time he was told to come home? It is now 4 in the morning and I specifically asked him to be home at 1am, parents guides, difficult decision
parents guides, difficult decision, tantrums: The only real punishment that can be exacted on a 17 year old is to take away privileges. if he has the use of the car, take away the keys. If he has a phone cancel his phone or remove other electronic devises from his room. Let him know that his actions...

Parenting --Teens: My Older brother, please help., anger issues, rage
anger issues, rage, drug abuse: Since your brother is technically an adult, there is little left for your parents but to kick him out of the home. By providing him a safe, comfortable place with free food, laundry service and a roof over his head, he is using them and throwing his little...

Parenting --Teens: Over protective parents, protective parents, school premises
protective parents, school premises, drinking alcohol: Hi Alexis, I hope my previous advice helps. But don t expect any magical transitions in your parents. However, if you can at least get some better communication and understanding going between you and your parents that would be a great start. If you continue...

Parenting --Teens: Why is it that a strong women, submissive women like Michael Obama, strange dichotomy, one of these girls
strange dichotomy, one of these girls, submissive women: Hello, Are there any studies that show that American women are not strong, submissive types? Is there any research that shows that such women (strong, submissive) have better relationships with their children than other types of women? James ...

Parenting --Teens: 18 year old very difficult and disrespectful at home, financial aid information, poor behavior
financial aid information, poor behavior, competitive program: My impression is that you have it under control. Your the only one who really knows what s right for your son and your the only one who really knows how to effect the positive changes your son needs. Based on what you said and shared you do have a plan for...

Parenting --Teens: 8 year old lying, lying
lying: Thank you for your detailed explanation. After reading your entry my first thought was to recommend a stringent plan of positive reinforcement but after further thought I suspect some issues that are more complex that may need professional intervention. ...

Parenting --Teens: Aggressive brother, free periods, school gym
free periods, school gym, swimming pool: Hello Eleanor, It s nice of you to want to help your brother and your family. Unfortunately, your brother has some serious problems which you are not going to be able to fix. Children may stop going to school after a traumatic or anxiety-arousing situation,...

Parenting --Teens: Why do American man think this fair?, ann nicole smith, parental abduction
ann nicole smith, parental abduction, national origins: Hello, I suppose many people of different national origins believe the laws in their country ought to be obeyed and followed by other countries. It would be a lot simpler if people who had children didn t get divorces. But that s too much to expect! ...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a American mother be upset if her daughter is raised properly under Italian rules?, irish children, italian man
irish children, italian man, american mother: Hello, Every country and culture produces people with some unique characteristics. Asian children may be different than American children, just as African children might be different than American children. Children raised in New Zealand may be very different...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a American women have a very negative view of a American man who does this?, child custody battle, born parents
child custody battle, born parents, born mother: Hello, When you say that most American women raised by a foreign-born mother turn out in certain ways, I think this is an overly broad statement that is certainly not reflected in the manners and behaviors of millions of Americans who have been raised by...

Parenting --Teens: Authoritarian parenting?, authoritarian parenting, line cook
authoritarian parenting, line cook, straight answer: Hello Taylor, You seem like a level-headed girl, who wants the best for her boyfriend. Your boyfriend s parents have seemingly not taken his needs or concerns into consideration -- and maybe this is what you suggest by the term authoritarian parenting....

Parenting --Teens: Why would many American man have children with a Italian women, fathers visitation rights, parenting plans
fathers visitation rights, parenting plans, parenting plan: Hello, People get divorced in every country. And in every country, people must come up with parenting plans after divorce. I think that most parents in most countries come up with reasonable plans for co-parenting following a divorce.I don t think Europeans...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a American women find this offensive?, child custody dispute, offensive question
child custody dispute, offensive question, parenting plan: Hello, Some people might agree with you. Some people might not. It is important to be a good father, but many would argue that it is also important to be a good husband. Can you really be a good father without being a good husband? Can a child be properly...

Parenting --Teens: how do I get better?, flight reaction, raising kids
flight reaction, raising kids, 13 years: Hello Kristy, Raising kids isn t easy. It certainly isn t easy when they are teenagers. And probably every parent of an adolescent has lost it with their kid -- or provoked them into losing it. Furthermore, most parents suck at discipline sometimes. But...

Parenting --Teens: 18 year old very difficult and disrespectful at home, adulthood, 18 years
Parenting --Teens: 18 year old very difficult and disrespectful at home, adulthood, 18 years, marvelous job

Parenting --Teens: Help - someone flipped a switch and my 13 year old daughter has changed
Parenting --Teens: Help - someone flipped a switch and my 13 year old daughter has changed

Parenting --Teens: Help - someone flipped a switch and my 13 year old daughter has changed, dirty clothes, step daughters
dirty clothes, step daughters, new chip: Hello Sherri, I think you ought to be concerned. Given that she is a girl who is a risk-taker, she is capable of using poor judgment -- and this is probably a good example of using poor judgment. The chances are that she planned to put this on the Internet...

Parenting --Teens: Would a little girl like her American father if he handles her like, sign of affection, child protective services
sign of affection, child protective services, chattel: Hello, Whether it is child abuse or not is another argument. However, would a girl like her father to do that to her? Some girls might like it. Some might interpret it as a sign of affection. Others might feel it is intrusive and inappropriate. James...

Parenting --Teens: RAISING TEENS, mouth fulls, previous engagement
mouth fulls, previous engagement, path of life: The simple answer is you need to start acting like a parent. Your kids have seen you stay in this terrible marriage and have learned from your acceptance of your husbands mistreatment. Your kids need you to leave and take charge of your life, regardless...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Son w/ ADHD, Bipolar II and OCD, violent outburst, russian special forces
violent outburst, russian special forces, bipolar ii: Hello Beth, Sorry to hear that you have such a serious problem with your son. I would suggest a couple of places that might be able to help out. The first would be Virginia Commonwealth University (perhaps starting with the children s medical center there...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage Daughter, impulsive behaviors, difficult transition
impulsive behaviors, difficult transition, medical difficulties: Hello Marcie, Your daughter is going through a stressful time and it can be said that she is in a particularly difficult transition and adjustment period. The fact that she is 17 (although I don t know what the laws are in your state# probably means that...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an American man?, legal consequences, japanese law
legal consequences, japanese law, american man: Hello, It sounds like you are saying that it is a man s right to father children without ever having to support those children. Furthermore, it seems like you are saying that a good woman is one who bears children but never expects the father of those children...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, saudi arabia, custodial parent
saudi arabia, custodial parent, child support: Hello, Without knowing this man,it just sounds like a person who needs to be in control. He may not trust anyone else to parent competently and he may view any child support he would have paid to the mother as somehow benefiting her rather than the child....

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a mother?, custody arrangements, child development
custody arrangements, child development, best interest: Hello, Just because a young child wants something or likes something (or someone) doesn t mean that making decisions based on these likes or wants is best in the long run for the child. A mother should be able to consider what is best for her child and what...

Parenting --Teens: threatening behaviour, hostel accomodation, emotional problems
hostel accomodation, emotional problems, yesterday morning: Hi Sallie, You re welcome. These are tough decisions, but he needs to deal with the old problems in his life. Just allowing him to live at home and display a bad attitude wasn t helping him deal with his issues. Moving on to another house might not bring...

Parenting --Teens: I want my 16 year old son to move out, james windell, juvenile justice system
james windell, juvenile justice system, live in australia: Hello Prue, It certainly sounds like you have a teenage son who is out of control. And I can understand how you would want him to move out. However, since I don t live in Australia, I don t know what the laws are in your country. But I am sure you have...

Parenting --Teens: 15 yr. olds son's behavior, planned pregnancy, bad acne
planned pregnancy, bad acne, behavior question: Hello Andrea, I m always in favor of using positive incentives instead of negative sanctions. Offering him a reward (a $60 item# for following your rules for a week makes sense. But I know that you, like other parents, worry that if you start doing this...

Parenting --Teens: 19 yr old unhappy daughter, unhappy daughter, solutio
unhappy daughter, solutio, adolescents: Hello Ginny, Your daughter is not in a position at this point where she can be objective. Nor is she capable of showing insight. It is typical for adolescents, even older adolescents like your daughter, to blame their parents for all the problems in their...

Parenting --Teens: Alienated 16 year old with defiance, mental health issues, stable home life
mental health issues, stable home life, hearing voices: Hello Karen, I m sorry to hear that you are the victim of parental alienation. While this can be very difficult for the parent, it s even worse for kids -- although they don t know it at the time. I don t think there is much you can do at this point. Until...

Parenting --Teens: What would an American mother do?, international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects
international child abduction, hague convention on the civil aspects, parental abduction: Hello, People dislike change and disruption in their lives. This may be particularly true regarding changing the country in which you live. Greece is the only country she has known; therefore, I assume she prefers to continue to live in the country she considers...

Parenting --Teens: Why would a American women have a very negative view of a American man who does this?, child custody battle, born parents
child custody battle, born parents, born mother: Hello, When you say that most American women raised by a foreign-born mother turn out in certain ways, I think this is an overly broad statement that is certainly not reflected in the manners and behaviors of millions of Americans who have been raised by...

Parenting --Teens: Would American women still go out with me and like me and hang out with me?, barrack obama, latin plural
barrack obama, latin plural, unwelcome person: Hello, If you want to be a playboy, I suspect that the rules and customs are different than they are for normal guys who want relationships with normal women. I further suspect that normal women are turned off by many playboys or would-be playboys. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Why could this cause, maria jose carrascosa, state department officials
maria jose carrascosa, state department officials, maternal grandparents: Hello, I assume she would have positive feelings toward her mother because she lives with her maternal grandparents, who have probably said many positive things about her mother. Having a good relationship with her grandfather may help her to be capable...

Parenting --Teens: How should a child feel to American women?, italian mother, italian father
italian mother, italian father, negative feelings: Hello, If this girl has grown up with the strong message that American women are only interested in money and that they try to drive the father out of their children s lives, then, of course, she may have negative feelings toward American women. Jame...

Parenting --Teens: Why can a child still have a very good relationship with her biological father if he is a career criminal?, style choices, good relationship
style choices, good relationship, biological father: Hello, Perhaps she has not had any direct experience with him carrying on his trade as a criminal. It may be easy to detach yourself from what a person is (or what he does) outside of the family when he behaves acceptably within the family. There could be...

Parenting --Teens: defiance, parenting of teens, teen defiance
parenting of teens, teen defiance, controlling teens: Welcome to the world of raising a teenager. It can be both fun and rewarding but only when you learn a whole new skill set. At about 12-13 years old, there is a significant shift in how a child interacts with the rest of the world especially her parents. Up...

Parenting --Teens: Disrespectful and disobedient 17 year old girl, james windell, part time job
james windell, part time job, smoking pot: Hello Jennifer, No, I don t think it is too harsh. It might be a good idea to tie in the privileges and benefits she receives at home with what she is doing (and earning#. For instance, she gets her cell phone back when she gets a job. As long as she...

Parenting --Teens: Driving from Pittsburgh to Florida at 17, james windell, suburb of pittsburgh
james windell, suburb of pittsburgh, rational argument: Hello Terri, I think there are enough facts in this email for you to make a rational argument. The fact is you are very uncomfortable with him doing this because (1.) the car is old and could break down; (2.) he is 17 and has never made this kind of trip...

Parenting --Teens: Son and daughter approaching loggerheads with son's girlfriend, gf
Parenting --Teens: Son and daughter approaching loggerheads with son's girlfriend, gf

Parenting --Teens: my fourteen year old son, hodgkin lymphoma, uncommon occurrence
hodgkin lymphoma, uncommon occurrence, remarrying: Hello Shannon, Your situation is not an uncommon occurrence in families. Sometimes the reason is because you have a teenager. Other times it is because you have a challenging teenager. And, of course, there can be other issues. For instance, a teen may...

Parenting --Teens: help for my family, abusive man, problems at school
abusive man, problems at school, aggressive behavior: Hello Ruth, It doesn t sound like your mother has the ability to handle your brother. However, since he is receiving counseling, it might be a good idea for your mother to receive counseling as well. Not only does she need support to cope with him, but...

Parenting --Teens: iam disturbed, normal 8, going to the bathroom
normal 8, going to the bathroom, younger brothers: Hello Neelam, I m sorry to hear that you get so upset and angry with your son. I suspect that you did not grow up with any younger brothers, right? If you had, you might be a bit more tolerant of your son. Your son sounds like a very normal 8-year-old...

Parenting --Teens: parenting teeage son, teens, parenting problems
teens, parenting problems, parenting by permission: Dear PS, I have good news and bad news for you. The good news is your 16 year old son is acting like a normal 16 year old son. When I first studied adolescent psychology a thousand years or so (OK, it was only 48 years), I was taught that teens want to...

Parenting --Teens: parents, how to be a good person, freedom and independence
how to be a good person, freedom and independence, stupid rules: Hello Jacob, Many young people about your age begin to resent the rules imposed by their parents as well as the intrusion in their lives by their parents. The reason usually has more to do with their growing up and wanting more independence and freedom than...

Parenting --Teens: Selfish, arrogant and irresponsible 21 year old, personal accountability, hair trigger
personal accountability, hair trigger, control switch: Hello Godette, We called one of the books I co-authored The Fatherstyle Advantage. Fatherstyle was sort of a word we made up. But we wanted to convey the idea that fathers have a different approach to parenting than do mothers. You described your husband...

Parenting --Teens: Sexual behavior, male family member, tight hugs
male family member, tight hugs, sexual behaviors: Hello J., I m not sure I understand about her visiting regularly with a male family member. Who is the male and who does she sleep with? If she is sleeping with an older (older than 6 years old) male, then this may be inappropriate and it could lead...

Parenting --Teens: Why can a single father raise his daughter in the same close nit family, police liaison officer, michelle obama
police liaison officer, michelle obama, private catholic school: Hello, It tends to backfire sometimes because some children don t want to be isolated or restricted. However, there are different degrees of isolation. The more restrictive and the more controlling parents are, the greater the chance they will be disappointed...

Parenting --Teens: Son and daughter approaching loggerheads with son's girlfriend, loggerheads, nasty things
loggerheads, nasty things, son and daughter: Hi Godette, I think this is a common problems for girls because relationships are so emotional for them. You probably can t stop her from being emotionally over-involved in peer relationships. As much as you d like to help her and protect her from these...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage daughter, teen girl, out-of-touch mother
teen girl, out-of-touch mother, values: Hello, Marcie- At seventeen, children, particularly girls, think they are completely grown up and able to handle anything and everything. In truth, they are so far from it, their minds will spin as they reach their thirty s, kicking themselves for their...

Parenting --Teens: MY TEENAGE SON WANTS TO LIVE WITH ME AND HIS MOTHER WILL NOT ALLOW, child custody, military child custody
child custody, military child custody, divorce: Dear Nicholas, Instead of writing to me, you need to get a custody lawyer as soon as possible. No expert would ever say your son is better off with her than you, especially since he has indicated he wishes to stay with you. Other factors include stability,...

Parenting --Teens: teenagers & step parents, step-daughter, brat
step-daughter, brat, serving others: It has taken me a long time to figure out how to tell you this without infuriating you, Lyn. I guess the best way is to just come out with it; the cold, hard, unvarnished truth. I m convinced 13 year-old step-daughters are the main cause of blended-family...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a American father?, american mother, custodial parent
american mother, custodial parent, shopping forum: Hello, I don t know how the daughter feels. She may resent his legal manipulations. Or she may believe he is right in doing what he did. He may have convinced her that he was right in taking her away from her mother. Some children would be resentful of this....

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about an American man?, child custody battle, expatriate children
child custody battle, expatriate children, parenting plan: Hello, Some men apparently believe that Italian women (and most European women) are superior to American women. And some people believe that European women are more cooperative and easier to get along with when it comes to co-parenting children. That could...

Parenting --Teens: What does tell about a European man?, parenting plan, european man
parenting plan, european man, born mother: Hello, Actually, it s my understanding that more than 80 percent of American men pay child support and also have a workable co-parenting plan. When the father pays child support, there is almost never any problems with parenting time by the mother of the...

Parenting --Teens: What does tell about a European man?, parenting plan, european man
parenting plan, european man, grand parents: Hello, I know that most American women are able to work out amiable co-parent plans because I work directly with families who have done so. There are a few women who are difficult to work out a co-parenting plan with -- just as there are a few men who would...

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about a man?, saudi arabia, custodial parent
saudi arabia, custodial parent, child support: Hello, Without knowing this man,it just sounds like a person who needs to be in control. He may not trust anyone else to parent competently and he may view any child support he would have paid to the mother as somehow benefiting her rather than the child....

Parenting --Teens: What does this tell you about this man?, arrest warrant, european women
arrest warrant, european women, child support: Hello, There are millions of parents -- both men and women -- who pay child support in the U.S. and do so without problems. So, a man who prefers to leave the country and give up seeing his child because he doesn t want to pay child support through the...

Parenting --Teens: 14 year old being picked on, james windell, middle teens
james windell, middle teens, good listener: Hello Mary, Giving advice to teenagers usually doesn t work. We all try to draw on our own experiences and expertise to try to give them good advice, but generally teens don t really want our advice. It s better to be a good listener and to be more sympathetic...

Parenting --Teens: 15 yr old son touching 11 yr old daughter, sexual urges, boys room
sexual urges, boys room, couple minutes: Hello, I think the way you handled this was fine. And I don t believe there is anything further you need to do -- aside from telling your daughter to sleep in her own room. Your son gave in to his urges and while it was inappropriate was not likely to...

Parenting --Teens: Behaviour of my child, indian neighbors, native language
indian neighbors, native language, classmate: I am sorry for the delay in responding to your question. I am having a hard time understanding the question. Here is what I think you are asking: Your son protects all his friends from bullying by other students but when he is being bullied, he remains silent...

Parenting --Teens: Why is this the case?, born mother, case question
born mother, case question, european man: Hello, The close-knit family is not unique to Europe. There are many American families which are close-knit and which feature discipline and supervision of their children. Most Americans do not have to worry about fitting into European society as they...

Parenting --Teens: Disrespectful Bi-Polar 18 Year Old, cigarette burns, garbage food
cigarette burns, garbage food, mental health hospital: Hello Kim, I understand that you are ambivalent about what you want to do to help your daughter and your family. However, the way you are looking at this indicates that you wish to avoid a serious decision. However, you cannot force your daughter to take...

Parenting --Teens: Five year old boy sexuality, james windell, secret catalogs
james windell, secret catalogs, reading story: Hello Lisa, I think you are right that his curiosity about the female body is normal. I think the best approach is to not make a big deal out of it. Looking at a catalog is basically harmless. Just make sure you encourage him to have a balanced life having...

Parenting --Teens: Husband's behaviour is concerning my son, james windell, offshore bank accounts
james windell, offshore bank accounts, anonymous credit cards: Hello Juliet, I support your son and his good judgment and ethics. It s too bad your husband has some holes in his conscience. You should be supportive of your son. Let him know that you are proud of him for being strong enough to know what he things...

Parenting --Teens: Issues concerning son and business-systems lecturer, essay on poverty, husband don
essay on poverty, husband don, stockroom: Hello Donna, I ve been teaching regularly in a university for more than 10 years. If I made this kind of assignment with this kind of costume, not only would my students complain, but I would expect they would take it to my department chair or even the dean...

Parenting --Teens: my son, trucking company, 5am
trucking company, 5am, saving money: Hello Eduardo, I m sorry to hear about the difficulties with your son and how alienated you feel from him. There s no question that this older woman has had a tremendous impact on your son. However, he is an adult and you do not have any control over him...

Parenting --Teens: Son in dangerous cult and it's concerning me immensely, dangerous cult, group suicide
dangerous cult, group suicide, crop tops: Hello Simon, Of course, there is reason to be concerned. Teens can become over-involved in a cult and neglect other important parts of their lives -- such as family, friends, and education. However, there is no one answer for how a parent should respond....

Parenting --Teens: Summer vacation for college student, good relationship, couple weeks
good relationship, couple weeks, child support: Hello Teri, I understand that you feel left out of your daughter s life. However, you have more than many parents have. You talk to your daughter daily, you share a good relationship with her, and you meet for meals. So, you gave all this up because...?...

Parenting --Teens: teenage daughter, family disagreement, lap top computer
family disagreement, lap top computer, adult supervision: I normally do not like being placed in the middle of a family disagreement, but I think there is more at stake here than the boundary issues you described. I don t think the issue should be focused on where she is wondering around at in the house at night....

Parenting --Teens: What do you think about this?, feminine curves, obesity epidemic
feminine curves, obesity epidemic, liberation movement: Hello, What do I think of this? There s always a kernel of truth, but also much that is untrue or historically inaccurate. There has been divorces in the U.S. since the 1600s. But up until the mid-20th Century, fathers had all the rights. Then there was...

Parenting --Teens: 12 yr old angry daughter, good behavior, young teens
good behavior, young teens, trys: Hello, Children can buy into traditional stereotypes and roles, too. Dads are supposed to work; moms are supposed to be there at all times to take care of everyone. And beware if she s not! However, it s best not to take this personally. It helps...

Parenting --Teens: 17 Y.O. son with mental heath history threatened dad, anxiety and depression, pediactric
anxiety and depression, pediactric, outpatient program: Hello Debbie, You have every right to be anxious and scared about him coming home. He is showing signs that he could be violent, and you don t need that risk. Besides just allowing him to return home, you do have a couple of other options. One is that...

Parenting --Teens: 17 year old daughter asks to live with her step dad, james windell, step dad
james windell, step dad, adoptive father: Hello Heather, Since your daughter is 17, I don t think you can really stop her from going. However, since she has asked your permission, you can try to make it relatively painless for everyone. If your concern is to continue to be part of her life for...

Parenting --Teens: 17 yr old daughter lies, sneeks around, willing participant, good girls
willing participant, good girls, adolescent girls: Hi Sarah, Whether you let her do these things or not probably has very little to do with her relationship with this young man. But the relationship WILL fizzle out at some point -- unless you give her a reason for fighting to keep it alive. There s nothing...

Parenting --Teens: My 5 yrs old is curious, james windell, natural curiosity
james windell, natural curiosity, bathing suits: Hello April, Young children have a natural curiosity about the human body. It s part of their learning about the world and it is part of their attraction to the opposite sex. No matter what you do, your son will continue to be curious about the human...

Parenting --Teens: Adult son turning into a sponger, macbook, sponger
macbook, sponger, adult son: Hello Janice, It s relatively easy for many parents to fall into the position you find yourself in with your son. When children are going to school and working while living at home, it is difficult to know when to cut off the expenses you pay for. I think...

Parenting --Teens: defiant teen, james windell, age of majority in ontario
james windell, age of majority in ontario, parents rights: Hello Maggie, The age of majority in Ontario is 18. This means that your daughter is still a minor child and you can not force her out of your home. And if you use physical methods to get her to obey you, you could be charged with child abuse or assault....

Parenting --Teens: how to handle my teen, grade schooler, initiative organization
grade schooler, initiative organization, recognition days: Hello Joanne, Your daughter is responsible to some extent in that she wants to be a top student and she allows you to tutor her. The fact that she can t study on her own or that she doesn t take responsibility for other aspects of her life may have less...

Parenting --Teens: Overprotective Parents, trust, father-daughter relationships
trust, father-daughter relationships, restriction: Dear Chloe, I am very sorry your father is so controlling. Parents who are this way usually have issues with their own self-esteem, and were not very good communicators with their own parents. He also grew up in a time when boys took advantage of girls,...

Parenting --Teens: My son, social changes, wealth of knowledge
social changes, wealth of knowledge, teenage boy: Hello Jake, I m not sure what you expected to get from a relationship from a teenager, however, I m sure raising a teen is different than you expected. Most parents find this to be true. In fact, before having a teen many parents fantasize that there will...

Parenting --Teens: Son is heartbroken, james windell, good listener
james windell, good listener, loving relationships: Hello Carolyn, Being heartbroken now and then is all part of learning to have loving relationships. Of course, we don t like to see our children heartbroken. On the other hand, we can help them to see that while this is a crushing blow to them now, he...

Parenting --Teens: my son spends 24 hours a day 7 days a week with his girlfriend, james windell, separate rooms
james windell, separate rooms, mid afternoon: Hello Monica, You ve already let this go on too long. Your son is only 16 and his girlfriend is only 15. You need to be in control of him and what goes on in your house. Also, he should have rules and a curfew. You have not been imposing rules and limits,...

Parenting --Teens: teen stealing, fellow camper, apology letters
fellow camper, apology letters, material possessions: Loka, My advice would be to have a full psychological completed on your daughter. While counseling is good, you need to see what is truly going on with her. If this is an organic problem, there can be medications that might be able to assist you as you...

Parenting --Teens: teen stealing, fellow camper, apology letters
fellow camper, apology letters, material possessions: Hello Ioka, Your daughter s stealing has nothing to do with any material needs. It has a lot to do with her emotional needs and adjustment. It is always a concern when a child shows little remorse. A lack of remorse suggests that she feels she is entitled...

Parenting --Teens: Visiting friends at college, drug testing kits, poor decisions
drug testing kits, poor decisions, shenanigans: A couple of suggestions if you decide to allow your son to do this. One, you may want to spot check. Spot checking is showing up unannounced, could be a drive by to ensure he is where he says he is going to be, that there are no parties at the apartment or...

Parenting --Teens: Would watching give the people in Europe give a good idea on how Americans behave and how they live., national geographic channel, french tv
national geographic channel, french tv, true tv: Hello, I suppose watching any American TV channel would give others some idea of how Americans live and behave. But I also suppose that would work in reverse; watching British, German, or French TV would give some idea about people from those countries....

Parenting --Teens: 7 year olds curiosity or sexual?, james windell, underwear drawer
james windell, underwear drawer, mr wendell: Hello Ivonne, As far as I know, based on what you wrote, they did nothing sexual. They had their clothes off and were taking photos. To me that sounds like the curiosity children often have about each other s bodies. I think the best thing to do is to...

Parenting --Teens: jessica, criminal conviction, children of divorce
criminal conviction, children of divorce, good relationship: Hello Suzanne, I think your daughter has a serious behavior problem. This is not uncommon with some children of divorce. This can be especially true when one of a teen s parents has rather abandoned her. I don t think there is a lot you can do at home...

Parenting --Teens: my six year old boy keeps hitting and kicking, verbal reprimand, learned behavior
verbal reprimand, learned behavior, negative attention: Hello Natalie, Since this aggressive behavior only happens at home, then it is not a matter that your son has generally poor controls or has a problem handling aggression. This behavior only occurs at home and mostly with his brother. One way of looking...

Parenting --Teens: Son wearing crop-tops, cross-dressing, parenting by permission
cross-dressing, parenting by permission, teens: Dear Angela, It sounds to me that your son does not think that there is a problem with what he is wearing. At 17 years old and in college, I am afraid that your days of deciding how he presents himself are over. This is the hardest part of parenting teens....

Parenting --Teens: step daughter in trouble, caring for emancipated minors, relationships with
caring for emancipated minors, relationships with : Dear Stephen, I m thankful you care enough about this girl to want her cared for, but I doubt you are the best person, for obvious reasons. Girls of this age, particularly if they have not had a father-figure in their lives, are very needy emotionally,...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Stealing, kids stealing, teens stealing
kids stealing, teens stealing: Hi Mary, I see how frustrating and disturbing this must be. I would schedule a family meeting and without accusing your kids. Let them know that you love them. That you are incredibly worried and concerned about what you have been noticing (the stealing)...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Stealing, james windell, coin jar
james windell, coin jar, parenting advice: Hello Mary, It s probably not a good idea to get into the interrogation business or set a trap for the presumed culprit. If you catch one of the kids stealing, it probably doesn t mean they are the only thief or the one who stole previously. If the stealing...

Parenting --Teens: Teen Stealing, teens, teen stealing
teens, teen stealing, parenting problems: Dear †Mary,† You are right to be concerned about this behavior for a couple of reasons. I would, however rate the money ones at a greater priority than the gum one and, in fact, they could have been done by two different culprits. The gum is more a thoughtless...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage Son/lazy,lack of ambition, logic approach, scholarships college
logic approach, scholarships college, watches tv: Tracy, I can hear your frustration and anxiety regarding your son through your email. I know it is difficult to want something more than our children do. It also sounds like you have tried a lot to try to turn your son around. Maybe I can provide you with...

Parenting --Teens: Teenage son with no plan, frontal lobe of the brain, slip ups
frontal lobe of the brain, slip ups, impulse control: Andrea, My apologies for not answering sooner, apparently, the notification was hung up in www land and didn t make it to my box. Regarding your son, my first bit of advice is stop making things comfortable. Parents as well as their children often think...

Parenting --Teens: 12 year old step son, clean slate, question thanks
clean slate, question thanks, psychological evaluation: Diana, I would like to see him have a psychological evaluation. When I took care of adolescents who were wards of the state, the psychological evaluation would assist me in knowing what was truly behavioral problems (choices made by the youth) and what...

Parenting --Teens: my 22 year old son, enabling, alcoholic
enabling, alcoholic: Joseph, I am presuming from your question, correct me if I am wrong, that you are feeding and maintaining him as well as giving him a place to stay. If that is the case, the more appropriate question is Do I keep enabling him? rather than, do I keep...

Parenting --Teens: Help me please! Newphew scaring me, divorced parents, corner of my eye
divorced parents, corner of my eye, mother and father: I m sorry it s taken me so long to respond. I m not really sure how to advise you. This is very serious. Is there another family member you trust that you could confide in? Maybe if that person could observe him without his knowledge to witness what...

Parenting --Teens: Am I the only one, james windell, restriction
james windell, restriction, flesh: Hello Sue, It is important that you stick to the grounding and you end it on your terms. A grounding doesn t have to be for a long time -- in fact, it s better that it not be too long. The most important thing to come out of this is that your son learns...

Parenting --Teens: tantrums, proper behavior, tantrums
proper behavior, tantrums, tantrum: Let her have her tantrum....walk away from her and don t talk to her. Leave her where she is and if you have to drive away. Don t drive too far but far enough to let her have the impression that your gone. Keep an eye on her but do not let her manipulate...

Parenting --Teens: TEEN STAYING OUT TO WEE HRS, james windell, behaviour difficulties
james windell, behaviour difficulties, reasonable hour: Hello Des, You may not be able to convince her, because at her age she may believe that she has the right to set her own hours. The more important thing is to let her know that in your family there are rules that apply to everyone, including her parents....

Parenting --Teens: teen Urgent help! nephew making me stressed/uncomfortable, divorced parents, corner of my eye
divorced parents, corner of my eye, mother and father: Dear AR: The teen needs intervention and you need therapy to find out why you reacted like this, I thought it was maybe nothing and just made me uncomfortable. His behavior made you uncomfortable and that is enough! You were uncomfortable and you need...

Parenting --Teens: 10 year old son is looking at porn, Ten-year-old boy uploading and viewing porn
Ten-year-old boy uploading and viewing porn: Dear Lindsay, No. This is in no way normal and you, as his parent, were placed in charge of him to prevent this from happening. What in the name of all that is good in the world EVER possessed you to allow a CHILD the opportunity to upload filth onto...

Parenting --Teens: 18 yr old packed up and left, bad mistake, welcome back home
bad mistake, welcome back home, c word: Hello Sharon, You were doing fine until your text telling him he wasn t welcome home. Of course, you can t just tell a teenager he s never welcome back in the family just because he made a mistake (okay, it was a pretty bad mistake, but that s his pattern...

Parenting --Teens: I hate my mom, mothers
mothers: you have a good heart and I m impressed with your feelings toward your mother. Mothers never stop being mothers. to them being a mother is the greatest of all professions and it seems as through your mum is the CEO of mums around the world. Here is what...

Parenting --Teens: son experimenting with drugs/pills, smoking weed, chewing tobacco
smoking weed, chewing tobacco, right choices: Hello Traci, It certainly sounds like he has substance abuse problems and may well have addictive tendencies. If either or both of these are so, then you have perhaps done what you could in terms of dealing with his issues through discipline and parental...

Parenting --Teens: 12 year old boy not showing interest in learning new things!, math lessons, bright kid
math lessons, bright kid, sense of humour: Hello Becky, It seems like maybe you have allowed your son to get away with doing poorly. He has not had high expectations and what often accompanies high expectations: Structure and discipline. So he has become a somewhat lazy boy who makes excuses and...

Parenting --Teens: 21 year old daughter, mother daughter relationship, relationship troubles
mother daughter relationship, relationship troubles, inmature: Hello Martha, I don t get the feeling from your email that your daughter is asking you to help her. In fact, you point out that the two of you are unable to talk about important issues related to her. So, you want to help someone who doesn t really want...

Parenting --Teens: Abnormal Sexual Behavior or Curiosity, teenagers boys, baggy shorts
teenagers boys, baggy shorts, proclivity: Hello, I don t know that your son needs professional counseling. However, the latest behavior is a red flag and suggests that his behavior bears watching. If he has more incidents that cross the line of what s acceptable, then it might be useful to at least...

Parenting --Teens: angry 18 year old son, anger management classes, adolescent son
anger management classes, adolescent son, anger management: Hello Linda, I m sorry to hear that life is so stressful with your adolescent son. Most of the options you might think about probably would not last long given his anger problems. That includes the Marines. I don t see him at this point in his life being...

Parenting --Teens: Girlfriends ex wants to see his son, rotherham south yorkshire, waste of space
rotherham south yorkshire, waste of space, f king: Hello Matt, I would suggest that both of you ignore this man. If he comes back, do not let him in your home. If he insists on coming in, call the police. Furthermore, given what he said, I wouldn t suggest that you allow him to see his son. If he wants...

Parenting --Teens: obstinate 18 year old daughter, headstrong girl, outgoing girl
headstrong girl, outgoing girl, strong faith: Michelle, You have given a great description of a spoiled child. It s okay to acknowledge that you participated in raising a spoiled child. Once you say it then you can be ready to stop that spoiling. It s no wonder she has not friends, they probably get...

Parenting --Teens: My son is hiding things from me, james windell, having sexual intercourse
james windell, having sexual intercourse, sex with girls: Hello Mandi, Of course, I can t tell you why he is having sex and fathering children. But I doubt that it is just because you had a child when you were 16. If he has told you that he thinks he is gay, it is certain that he is willing to talk to you about...

Parenting --Teens: my stepson, james windell, drugs and alcohol
james windell, drugs and alcohol, stepson: Hello Jamie, You may have to ask him to leave your home. I assume he is living with you. But if he is, it is too much to ask of yourselves to have a 19-year-old living there when he is stealing, refuses to work, and is using drugs and alcohol. Any questions?...

Parenting --Teens: I think my son is hiding things from me, Out of control, sexually active
Out of control, sexually active, drug ise: Based on what you reported your son s actions are not necessarily a result of your having a child at 16. There are many factors at play here but the most important to understand is the sexual culture he finds himself. I would bet that he is fairly heavy...

Parenting --Teens: 18 year old daughter, bad choices, tatoos
bad choices, tatoos, bipolar: Dear Leslie- Hmmmmm. I am hoping the psychiatrists gave her the correct diagnosis, as this behavior can sometimes indicate bipolar illness, which responds differently to antidepressant drugs. If the behaviors are worsening, I d contact her psychiatrist...

Parenting --Teens: 18yr old boy no social activity, teens, self-interest
teens, self-interest, spoiled: I am not a doctor and cannot guess what is up, but his issues seem much more severe than a counselor can help. He needs a competent psychiatrist. Soon. His anxiety and panic attacks can be helped through good therapists who will ask, What would be the...

Parenting --Teens: Boyfriend & teenager, step-parent communication with teens, trust
step-parent communication with teens, trust, family love : Your partner first needs to understand he has no relationship with her, and probably never will. To her, he IS an outsider, IS taking you from her, and will never be able to correct or discipline her, so as long as this is understood from the start, it is...

Parenting --Teens: my daughter and her little sister, sweet elizabeth, little sister
sweet elizabeth, little sister, christmas tree: Victoria, I think that the first thing you should do is never let the older child be a parent to the younger child. This means not allowing the older to lead the younger by the arm etc...unless there is a safety issue involved. If what you describe is really...

Parenting --Teens: easily overstimulated toddler, james windell, sign of autism
james windell, sign of autism, communication disorder: Hello Rose, Lots of children are easily stimulated or overwhelmed by too much stimulation. Autism is basically a communication disorder and just because your daughter is overstimulated or anxious about noisy or crowded situations doesn t mean she has autism....

Parenting --Teens: should i leave my kid on her own to solve her probs?, tired, defiant
tired, defiant, unruly teen: Dear Aparna, With the additional information in this letter, it may be that your daughter is experiencing some difficulties resulting from her change into womanhood. A visit to a gynecologist and psychiatrist could be of great benefit to her. She should...

Parenting --Teens: Niece wants to move, drugs and alcohol, absent mother
drugs and alcohol, absent mother, huntington beach: Amber, I can hear the concern in your e-mail, I know that you are frightened about what may happen if the right road is presented to your niece. The age of 14 is so difficult under the best of circumstances, ,mix in grief, molestation plus an absent mother...