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Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping, infant sleep
infant sleep: Thank you for the question- and also I can totally relate to your dilemma from a been there and done that perspective! My youngest child is a reflux baby, and so we fought a long and hard battle to get him to sleep somewhere other than on my chest, with me...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping habits of 3 month old twins, twins, sleep habits
twins, sleep habits: Zara- thank you for the question. I am not real sure what to say, as I have no experience with twins. You might need to invest in a second cot so they are separate and not waking the other. I would say, if you can get one to sleep in the swing, let him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleepless Night with Ear Infection, ear infection, night waking
ear infection, night waking: Jodi, Thank you so much for the question. My youngest son has been on a spree of night waking, so I can feel your pain in losing sleep- and being worried about your baby. Good for you for following your mother s intuition to take care of your baby...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: when to say no-no, sharing, playing
sharing, playing, toddlers: Dear Wendy: Good questions. I avoid saying no as much as possible because that is usually all children hear until they are 2 and then they repeat it back to parents who don t have a high appreciation for hearing no from their children. It is a catch 22....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: i am a single mother to a very aggressive 3year old boy(does not listen at all), acting out, smaking
acting out, smaking, hitting: Dear Sheila: He is 3 years old, totally out of control and what you are doing is not working. I strongly encourage you to see a specialist. Get to a counselor who deals with children 0-5 years of age and who coaches parents on how to handle strong willed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleep and authority, dr ferber, interrupted sleep
dr ferber, interrupted sleep, better success: Hello Suzie, Sorry about the long delay in answering your concern. And I m sorry to hear about your interrupted sleep and your child s inability to sleep through the night. I think you can achieve better success by making sure there is always a schedule...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my son seems to not like me, james windell, first time mom
james windell, first time mom, bad mommy: Hello Jessica, I know it s difficult when you are a first-time mom -- no matter how old you are. But in addition, you are a very young mom. So, you are probably trying very hard to be a very good mother, but like all first-time moms you are probably worried...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my sons ( 3 and almost 5), discipline
discipline: Thank you for the question. You definitely sound frustrated, and likely your boys know this. I will also commend you for realizing that your children are getting the upper hand, and for knowing that you must do something about this now. If you continue...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my sons behavior toward me, dad chris, anger issues
dad chris, anger issues, parenting skills: Hi Jenelle, Four year olds can be difficult and parenting is relentless. He is trying to be find how to be independent but also still needs to be dependent for some things, so be patient and it doesn t necessarily mean he will always be angry. Use words...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech, james windell, speech issues
james windell, speech issues, word 2: Hello Jennifer, Your child, at age three-and-a-half, is not supposed to be able to always successfully make the sounds that go with /s/ or /th/. These are later developing sounds and many children don t use them correctly before age 5 -- or even 6 or 7 sometimes....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My step- son, abuse and neglect, full custody
abuse and neglect, full custody, reguarding: Dear Tessa, My advice to you is to step aside and let these two parents work this out. STAY out of the line of fire. Either side can request an assessment of the child to determine what is happening with him and neither side should be afraid to do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Should I stop the pre-k class?, toddlers, seperations
toddlers, seperations, daycare: Dear Nancy: We are talking about a 2.5 year old here. Stop letting others tell you what is best for your child. You have good mothering instincts from what you write to me. Follow your heart. You won t have any regrets, not following your heart you will...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Are we too strict, bedtime, cuddle
bedtime, cuddle, strict bed time: Dear Ambur, The answer to your question is a bit complex ... you have to look inside and see what you truly believe your responsibilities as a parent are for each of your children. You can speak with experts who will defend different sides of this issue....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: THREATENED VIOLENCE AGAINST 3 YR OLD, violence, school
violence, school, teachers: Dear Liz: I am not an expert in the area of school administration. However, this is how I would handle something like this. If this were my child I would not allow her to return to school until the Principle takes appropriate action. If this is a public...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Three-year-old gets out of bed at night, bedtime routine, family changes
bedtime routine, family changes, family time: Hello Jennifer, It s not uncommon for children to try to prolong staying up or trying to interact with the the rest of the family after bed time. Here s what I suggest: Return to the rewards idea. Make a sticker chart and tell him that starting tonight...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler bedtime, bedtime routine, quiet music
bedtime routine, quiet music, freak out: Dear Lisa, It s really odd that his behavior changed so much after the 3 yr old was there...Do check with your doctor and consider getting him a physical, just in case he has an ear infection (some of these don t hurt very but are annoying and make the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler issues adjusting to daycare, daycare, crying
daycare, crying, seperation anxiety: Dear Angel: Feel free to peruse through previously answered questions in case I forget something. This is a common question. First of all a toddler s sense of time is so much different than yours. For you 8 hours is just 8 hours. For them being seperated...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler sleeping all night, sleep, sleeping
sleep, sleeping, night: Dear Susan: Well sometimes them sleeping with you can be a quick solution. However, if you are not inclined to co-sleep, there are numerous solutions posted here on my site. Many include the following: How to set up a consistent bedtime routine, ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Try to teach a 2 year old to chew, eating, eating habits
eating, eating habits, development: Dear Abby: Thank you for writing to me. You need to sit the mom down and make her show you how she feeds him. Don t allow her to say no. If she wants you to watch her child she needs to be concerned enough to make sure he is okay when he is not with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: tantrums of my 3+ son, four year old, tantrum
four year old, tantrum, emotions: Sucharita- thank you for the question. It does sound like he s entered into a routine that he s having trouble breaking out of. At this age, as well, they are striving for more independence and control. His tantrums are an attempt to get you to bend...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: three year old child in 3 yr. kindergarten, 3 year old, ready for school
3 year old, ready for school, structure: Dear Yvonn, Three is such a wonderful age! I know you must be having the best time with your son. Three is also a very tender age. They are really still babies. Because we see them day in and day out, we focus on their abilities and skills. Yet,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my toddler pulls at her nails, nervous habit, ocd
nervous habit, ocd, tantrum: Hi Angie, Lots of normal children do lots of things that don t seem normal. Do normal people pick at their nails? Sure, including many adults. It often starts out as a nervous habit, and then just becomes a habit. When you find her doing this, distract her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: trouble with naps..., sleeping, sleep
sleeping, sleep, nap: Dear Kacey: Kudos to you as you are already doing alot right. Now I have two more suggestions for you which may put him out sooner. MASSAGES! Remember what makes you sleepy. If he isn t use to them start with his feet and gradually work your way up and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Weaning the Binky, james windell, real good reason
james windell, real good reason, baby elephant: Hello Kelly, Just because a dentist is concerned about good dentition doesn t mean that he is the right person to make the decision as to when a pacifier is eliminated from a toddler s life. Children give up these so-called transitional objects at different...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: wetting pants, wetting panties, toilet accidents
wetting panties, toilet accidents: Thank you for the question. My first thought is to have your daughter screened for a urinary tract infection (UTI). That is usually the culprit when a child who previously has had to wetting accidents suddenly begins to have them. Watch your daughter...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: whining, NOOOOO, and pacifiers, cold turkey, appropriate response
cold turkey, appropriate response, tantrum: Hi Kris Your daughter may not be having the full tantrums (these may still come) of a two year old, but may be using the whining and Noooo in the same way as a tantrum. These are to tell you she knows she is a person in her own right but also these actions...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Should I be worried?, speech, motor skills
speech, motor skills, development: Shelby- thank you for your question. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. All kids develop at their own pace, some more slowly than others. Your son does seem to be a bit behind for his age. I would speak with your son s doctor about having...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How much is too much?, attention, spoiling
attention, spoiling, spoil: Dear Shelby: Your finding this hurtful concerns me. He is not hear to make you feel good. You are the parent. Children do many things that hurt our feelings if we let it hurt our feelings. He is not in the middle of a popularity contest. All children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 1. Taking the bottle away, cold turkey, nothing but water
cold turkey, nothing but water, blue murder: Thank you for the question. As much as I would like to give you something wonderful to take that bottle away without drama, I am afraid that drama is in store, especially given that sheis already pitching a fit over the bottle. There are a couple...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 1 year old getting up at nite, bed time, maid
bed time, maid, check in on child while at work: Dear Anou, Because this is your child, I would DEFINITELY check in on your maid sporadically throughout the day. Even have friends, church or synagogue members and other mothers in the area check in for you. For example, you can have the dry cleaner drop...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 13 month old with sever attachment issues, attachment issues, daycare
attachment issues, daycare, separation anxiety: Dear Charlene: Your 13 month old is not having attachment issues. He is having separation anxiety issues which is totally natural at this age and very common. What would be bad is if he didn t care whether or not you were around. This would be an attachment...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 17 month old son cries hysterically when I take him to daycare, church nursery, children at play
church nursery, children at play, whi: Thank you for the question, and I apologize for my delay in answering. Your son sounds much like my youngest child who loved going to preschool, then suddenly began to cry pitifully after I had left him there. There was no trigger that I could see other...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 18 month old grandson, duplos, care giver
duplos, care giver, grandmother: Dear Rose, Just remove his toys when he becomes rough...then when he calms down bring them back and show him how he is suppose to play with them. Do this patiently without much ado...he will figure it out. Also praise him when he does what he is suppose...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 18month old Toddler does not have 20-Word vocab, nurse practioner, speech skills
nurse practioner, speech skills, learning curve: Dear Brian; I understand being concerned about your child. She is however only 18 months old. The research shows both so it won t help. Some say it is good to expose children to other languages some say it is confusing. Lots of children are exposed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 19 month old twins (B/G), stay at home mom, diaper change
stay at home mom, diaper change, boy and a girl: Hello Rachel, You describe your twins as good, happy, and likeable children when they are not crying. Which means to me, that while they may cry frequently, they do not cry all the time. And I think that s a place to start. You have two, nearly two-year-old...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 2 year and 8 mo. old child, developmental stages, scary movies
developmental stages, scary movies, bedtime: Dear Janice. I suggest lots of massage and nurturing to make her feel safe again. In the future don t let her watch scary movies. Spiderman in my opinion is for older children. Try reading up on developmental stages of the ages of your children at www.talaris.org....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 year old, james windell, working mom
james windell, working mom, own toys: Hello Sheetal, If you read other questions and answers about two year olds, you ll discover that many toddlers develop strange and unusual behaviors. Sometimes they develop fears or anxieties or repetitive behaviors. Often they act like a different child....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old with sleep issues, bedtime routine, daycare
bedtime routine, daycare, soft music: Dear Brianna: Yes I do have some ideas. I think she needs a bedtime routine. A routine is not the same thing as a schedule. I suggest making sure you first turn down all the lights and the noise in the environment. Turn off the television, radios and computers...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old son with physical tantrums, minute timeout, transition times
minute timeout, transition times, throwing fits: Hello Mari, You indicate that he has always been challenging, although you haven t really said why. I understand that he throws tantrums during transition times and he doesn t like to talk about what he did wrong. The first thing I think you should do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: A 20 month old little boy, delayed speech, biting
delayed speech, biting, tantrum: Dear Rachael, Wow. You have a lot going on. Well, let s break it down and deal with one piece at a time. If you re game, we ll probably have to communicate back and forth a few times in order for me to get a clearer picture of what is going on. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 21 month old boy throws things and hits, newborn baby sister, glass bowls
newborn baby sister, glass bowls, priceless piece: Hello Emma, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but that s what two-year-old toddlers do. They throw things. It s fun. Why stop them from throwing things? They are learning. Your son is learning about actions; he s learning about cause and effect;...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 25 Month Old to Sleep in her bed?, sleeping problem, Darleen Claire Wodzenski
sleeping problem, Darleen Claire Wodzenski, Amma Academy: Dear Rose, Some things nature takes care of. Sleeping issues fall into that category. Some families have strict rules about children always sleeping in their own beds. And there are some very valid reasons that some parents insist on this. Meanwhile,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 2yr & 10month old boy doesn't want to go to school, smart child, concrete answer
smart child, concrete answer, school bus: Dear Deepali, Many children at the age of 2 and young 3 do not feel secure when they are away from home. Home and family are of primany importance. They also feel insecure if there are no consistent rituals and routines for daily life, such as meals and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old, temper tantrum, day care
temper tantrum, day care, violent: Dear Kayren, I wanted to get back to you quickly, because this is such a volatile situation. Children have a special built in mechanism that allows them to self manage when the going gets tough. They stuff their feelings, put their fears and sadness...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 yr old daughters aggression, toddler behavior at daycare
toddler behavior at daycare: Fiona- thank you for the question. First of all, I don t think you re failing her at all. By addressing the situation you are doing something. What I might suggest is getting her on another behavior program at the school. I would suggest a sticker...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old, positive reinforcements, bedtime routines
positive reinforcements, bedtime routines, toilet train: Dear Lynnjust: I have several thoughts. First of all the doctor has recommended an evaluation which means the doctor sees something to evaluate. Next, she is 3 years old. Eventually all children potty train just because they get sick of not being trained...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old, child psychologist, separation anxiety
child psychologist, separation anxiety, anxiety disorder: Hello Elizabeth, It is not strange at all that a three-year-old starts experiencing separation anxiety or has some sort of fears about separating from a parent. Often, though, we just don t know what triggers the new-found anxiety which leads to crying....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old disruptive during nap at daycare, nap time, car noises
nap time, car noises, behavoir: Hello Paula, I have to agree with your son s pediatrician. So, if your son doesn t want or need a nap, then he s ADHD or autistic! Ridiculous! Not every three-year-old still wants or needs naps. And if they don t provide programs or activities for him,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old Indecisiveness, beck and call, apple juice
beck and call, apple juice, indecisiveness: Dear Amy, Wow. Now I understand. It s so funny ... when I get these questions, I never know what I m dealing with. Some of the children are developmentally delayed, some I suspect have autism. Some are being abused by a family member. It s so dicey....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: why does my 3 year old son behave this way, speech therapist, computer etc
speech therapist, computer etc, counselor: Dear Suzanne: You said you took him to a speech therapist only you didn t say what they speech therapist said about his not talking? First I would check with your doctor to make sure he is okay physically. Then as worried as you are about him I would...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 yr old's bheavior around other kids, daycare, acting this way
daycare, acting this way, christmas present: Dear Nazish I apologize for taking so long to answer your question. Your question is important to me. I had an emergency and was offline for a few days. It sounds to me that your daughter is more comfortable being around adults and she may not know...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old dwindling choice of food, grilled cheese sandwiches, homemade baby food
grilled cheese sandwiches, homemade baby food, chicken noodle soup: Dear Jennifer, Children will eat what is offered. If you don t want him eating these unhealthy foods STOP BUYING them. If they are not in the house and are not an option he will eat what is available. He may push his plate away for a meal or two but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old with bad temper, daycare centers, bad temper
daycare centers, bad temper, share toys: Hello Mandie, Are not sharing his toys and getting mad when he s told no new problems? If they are, all I can say is that I m surprised these problems have not come up before. Not wanting to share toys with other children and anger when told no are two...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old behavior issues, peer relationship problems, developmental milestone
peer relationship problems, developmental milestone, daycare: Hello Deanna, Because he likes structure and sameness in his life (almost every adult I know tends to sit in the same seat in classes, meetings, and at lunch), does not mean he has a social issue. Furthermore, I would expect four year olds to have peer relationship...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-year-old daughter with possible anxiety disorder or other?, separtion anxiety
separtion anxiety: Stacey- thank you for the question. I think, since you did make an attempt at your doctor s suggestion, that it is time to call in backup. You might want to seek out some help with her anxiety disorder. You can speak with your doctor about referring...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4 year old who loves school all of a sudden does not want to go and cries, cries at school, doesn't want to go to school
cries at school, doesn't want to go to school, picky eater: Dear Shaun, It really sounds like your child was seriously challenged by the lunch situation. If the school has such seriously strict rules about lunch, I wonder what other strict rules they my have. Are there other situations that may have upset your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old sleep prob, toddler, night waking
toddler, night waking: Renee- thank you for the question. You could try getting a dimmer lap, or switching to a night light if you think that there s too much light in her room. Or you could move the night light out into the hallway to help with the light. To be honest,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4 year old is still crying..., children at school, question thanks
children at school, question thanks, quick reply: Hello Cathy, Isn t that curious; that he would cry when separating from you, but not from his dad? Actually, I ve made a study of this phenomenon. Dads and moms do things differently when dropping kids off at daycare or school. They often don t walk them...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year olds in the bathroom, james windell, independent child
james windell, independent child, four year olds: Hello Michelle, Many children need help with bathing and shasmpooing far beyond age four. I sort of hate to admit this, but my mother washed my hair until I was in high school. But that s not uncommon. I see things like this going on in many families....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old anxiety, stomach virus, extreme anxiety
stomach virus, extreme anxiety, anxiety level: Lauri- Thank you for your questions. I am so sorry your son was so ill, and am glad that he has recovered from it physically. I too have spent time in the ER and hospital with a child who was dehydrated from a stomach virus, so I can relate. She was...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How to Get 4 yr old to Quit wetting his pants, wetting accidents, safe side
wetting accidents, safe side, young kids: Thank you for the question, and I apologize for my delay in answering. I have not had a child this old who continued to have accidents, but my now 10 year old did continue to have accidents well after she was fully trained, and for the same reason you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old sleep issues, daughter natalie, bad dreams
daughter natalie, bad dreams, bedtimes: Dear Judy, I guess if being the comforter is not helping and may be reinforcing the behavior because it is special attention....you need to stop doing that. Be the firm but loving mom that you have always been. Say she needs to get over this, and you know...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old sleep issues, daughter natalie, similar child
daughter natalie, similar child, bad dreams: Dear Judy, What a lovely and creative idea. I bet you have more! Can t wait to hear them ... Thank you so much. Do you mind if I share this with others? I ll give you credit, of course! I think parents are the most creative people on the face...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4yr old aggressiveness, social skill, aggressiveness
social skill, aggressiveness, jessy: Dear Jessy: It sounds like your 4 year old is having a hard time finding her words to appropriately express herself. I would get to the bookstore into the children s section and find books that teach children through stories how to identify their feelings,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4yr old boys school behaviour, full time school, class mate
full time school, class mate, good manners: Hello Dion, Since his behavior at school seems out of character for him in view of how he behaves at home and in most other settings, I think you need to find out what s really going on. The best way you can do this is to take time off work and spend time...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 Year Old makes in his pants in school, trouble on tuesday, stomach trouble
trouble on tuesday, stomach trouble, toys in the world: Hello Steve, Obviously, it is not a physical problem; it is a social problem related to his anxiety in social situations. I would suggest that you take him to a good, experienced cognitive-behavioral child psychologist who has dealt with this kind of problem...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old anxiety, Life Coach, Life Coach
Life Coach, Life Coach, counseling: Dear Trui, It really sounds like you ve got a great handle on the situation. I just want to point out an important fact: when a child is upset by something, they will sometimes TRANSFER their feelings from the actual CAUSATIVE factor, onto something...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old pooing in pants, james windell, behavioral psychologist
james windell, behavioral psychologist, child psychologist: Hello Heather, I m assuming you have taken your son to a pediatrician and that he has had a complete physical within the last few months. If not, this should be the first step. Make sure you can rule out physical problems. Next, see a good, experienced...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old talks about death & suicide, sweet kid, death of a parent
sweet kid, death of a parent, medical help: Dear Bella: I apologize for taking so long to answer you. I had an emergency and was offline for a few days. However your question is important to me please forgive me! No it is not okay for a 5 year old talk about death and wanting to die. I am not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6-month-old spit-ups, reflux, spitting up in infant
reflux, spitting up in infant: Scott- thank you for the question. I am right there with you. My youngest was still spitting up at like nine months. She had two nicknames- Puke Skywalker and Barf Vadar. :) If he s spitting up baby food as well as milk, check in with his pediatrician...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: acting out, toddler, step children
toddler, step children, family: Dear Valeri, Perhaps she needs some closer attention when other family members are around. She may be feeling a little off balance, since your focus shifts with step children and other relatives. If you can create a solid presence with her ... have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Babies Sleeping, infant, going to sleep
infant, going to sleep, trouble: Lindsay- thank you for the question. I do not feel that you are doing anything wrong with how you are putting him down or dealing with his waking and crying. Every child is different and every child goes through different stages in their sleep habits....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby boy, poor sleepers, eye teeth
poor sleepers, eye teeth, crankiness: Thank you for the question, and please forgive my delay in answering you. I definitely feel your agony with a sleepless child. I hesitate to claim that I ve finally gotten my youngest to sleep well, because as soon as I brag about that I will have a sleepless...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby not Independent yet!!!, infant development
infant development: Naaz- thank you for the question. I would relax my worries about the crawling and pulling up. Every baby develops at a different rate and he sounds ok for now. My youngest didn t crawl until almost 10 months, and didn t walk steadily until she was a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Sleeping Problem, separation anxiety, sleeping problem
separation anxiety, sleeping problem, unfamiliar place: Dear Lindsay, I am not a proponent of crib sleeping so I don t know if my answer will help you. I just don t have a problem with young children sleeping with their parents. Because you seem so determined to keep him in his crib the only thing I can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby sleeping problem, separation anxiety, sleeping problem
separation anxiety, sleeping problem, unfamiliar place: Hello Lindsay, Sometimes a disruption in the usual routine -- such as being on vacation or staying with a relative -- will trigger bedtime problems. Sometimes it may just be because they are a toddler and rapid changes are taking place in their world. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Biting one year old, child welfare services, home daycare
child welfare services, home daycare, physical acts: Thank you for the question, and I can definitely hear your frustration. I am assuming from how you are wording your question that you are the childcare provider and have other children in your home, so that is how I ll answer the question. If she is in someone...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I have a baby with social issues, clingy, infant behavior
clingy, infant behavior, Darleen Claire Wodzenski: Dear Lindsey, Yes, I have seen this behavior before. And it is quite difficult. Of course, I m reading just a short post from you, so I really don t have enough information to accurately explain what your daughter s situation is ... but we can talk...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior, grandparents, spoil baby
grandparents, spoil baby, spoil child: Dear Tasha, I m so glad to share information with you. I ll be here for you as you work this through. I understand how frustrating a situation like that can be, and I do have some powerful suggestions that may help you through it. Firstly, I want you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Is this behavior abnormal for a 23 month old?, anxiety disorder, diaper change
anxiety disorder, diaper change, shovel: Hello Dawn, It s great this boy has you to care for him. It appears his mother may increase anxiety -- rather than decreasing it. For the same reason, it s probably best not to bring your concerns to her attention. She will just hover more or be more anxious...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior towards my girlfriend from my 5 year old, seperate occasions, visitation time
seperate occasions, visitation time, watching tv: Hello Richard, There are a few possible reasons for your son s behavior. One possible reason is that someone else in his life has put some kind of pressure on him to avoid getting close to her. Another possible reason is that there really are things...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavorioal changes, bedtime routine, mom lives
bedtime routine, mom lives, time to come home: Dear Pamela: Two year olds often act out because they are changing. However if you are concerned that she has been touched, talk to her parents about getting her into the doctor right away or a counseling specialist who deals with children between the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Child social behaviour., startle reflex in infant
startle reflex in infant: Dennis- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in responding to you. I think it sounds normal still. It is called the Moro Reflex, or startle reflex. I read several articles on it before responding to you and the majority said that while...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Confused about my 3 yr old!!, preschooler, behavior
preschooler, behavior: Shoba- thank you for the question. I am intrigued to say the least. I would recommend having him screened for developmental issues. He does not sound delayed at all, but there might be something else going on. Seek help from your doctor as they can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Consistency vs Boundaries, new child, step child
new child, step child, different parenting: Dear Spence and Veronica, Congratulations on the beautiful family you have now, and the new addition who is on the way. Consistency is important. That is true. Creating life affirmative rules is also important. Getting enough sleep is a major issue...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying baby, sleeping through the night, crying baby
sleeping through the night, crying baby, military wives: Stefanie- Thank you for the question, and I apologize for the delay in answering. I had answered and thought it went through, and then got an alert that your question remained unanswered. So I do apologize for not answering you more quickly. I also...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Putting the child in a cot, working mom, psyche
working mom, psyche, first night: Thank you for more information. I don t think you sleeping out of the room will do the trick, because right now she is waking up and getting what she wants, which is motivation to continue waking up. I totally understand it being 3 am and you just want...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child always cries and whines, school age kids, fussy children
school age kids, fussy children, discipline techniques: Hi Donna, I m sure she doesn t hate you, however, she certainly can be learning to be manipulative -- although she isn t doing this consciously. There is no other way around the problem: You are going to have to let her cry at times when you can t hold...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My childs temperment, raising your spirited child, short fuse
raising your spirited child, short fuse, energizer bunny: Hello Margaret, Your daughter is a high-energy child, but it is likely that her energy level, her need for less sleep than other kids, and her temper are all related to her temperament. I suggest you read as much as you can about temperaments of children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: constant night waking -- 6-month-old, infant, sleep
infant, sleep, rolling over: Scott- thank you for the question. OK, sounds like your son is NOT a belly sleeper! :) It sounds like that s what this is. He s learned to roll from back to belly but doesn t like it all while sleeping so he wakes up and is frustrated. It happens to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Out of control tantrums, tantrum, 5 year old
tantrum, 5 year old, angry: Dear Linda, If this is a medical condition, she obviously needs medical evaluation and management. It would be a good idea to check in with her pediatrician for a check up and to talk about the event (don t let your daughter hear you discuss it with the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: counselor?, james windell, steve fischer
james windell, steve fischer, male therapists: Hello Wendy, Here are some suggestions for male therapists in your area: 1. Jerry Price, The Michigan Family Institute. 30161 Southfield Road, Suite 312. Southfield, MI 48076. 248-593-4784 2. Steve Ceresnie. Plymouth. Phone: 734-453-9290 3....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cry it out?, growth spurt, plain yogurt
growth spurt, plain yogurt, caloric intake: Thank you for your question Lorie. You are going through something that most parents go through, and often at about the same age. It is likely that your daughter is going through a growth spurt, and so she is probably a little more hungry right now....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: custody!, joint legal custody, parenting arrangement
joint legal custody, parenting arrangement, month old baby: Hello Lachelle, In most states, courts usually award joint legal custody. However, figuring out the exact parenting time arrangement can be tricky -- particularly when you live some distance apart. Many fathers aren t very much involved until a divorce...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My Daughter is eating very very less, won't eat, spits out food
won't eat, spits out food, toddler: Dear Paven, How did you come to give your child Pediasure? Did her pediatrician recommend it? The Pediasure may be interfering with her natural hunger and food preferences. When children transition from milk to foods, and are light eaters, sometimes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daugher fears getting dirty, castle moats, sand castles
castle moats, sand castles, messy face: Dear Rebecca, Our middle child was EXACTLY like that...did not want to go barefoot etc and also would not try any new foods...But yes, she grew out of it. The breakthough was actually at a sandy beach in July when she was two years and three months old....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: discipline problems 3 1/2 yo, temper tantrums, discipline problems
temper tantrums, discipline problems, time outs: Hi Elaine, She really knows how to push your buttons, doesn t she? But I think her response about cleaning her room is an indication of the state of things. She will defy you and then say she enjoys time-out. But I still think she does things for which...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Effects of shared placement, james windell, parenting young children
james windell, parenting young children, separation anxiety: Hello Thomas, Mothers often fear letting go of their young children for various reasons. They may believe that only mothers can nurture a toddler. Or they may believe there will be separation anxiety. Or that children need to be close to a mother, but necessarily...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Excessive whining and crying in 2 1/2 yo, sensitive child, time outs
sensitive child, time outs, whines: Hello Lauren, I know it is exhausting to put up with a two-year-old s crying, whining, and tantrums. However, all of this is part of the age. It gets better as they get older. As you indicate, lots of unpredictable things can set off a two-year-old. At...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Over emotional 4 year old, home daycare, mommy daddy
home daycare, mommy daddy, old mom: Dear Kelly: You won t like my answer. You won t like it because I know as parents we often have hard choices to make about our priorities with how we raise our children and living with the consequences is often hard to deal with especially us moms because...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Four year old balks at activities, activity, cries
activity, cries, classes: Dear Kirsten, Four years old is very young. They re barely more than babies. You know little ones want to be astronauts, cowboys, doctors, explorers and athletes. It is natural for a four year old to crave experiences that expose them to things that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Four year old child who will not listen at home, james windell, grandma and grandpa
james windell, grandma and grandpa, mom and dad: Hello Margaret, So, maybe he is used to getting what he wants when he wants it with his parents (and maybe some of his grandparents). Since he is well behaved everywhere except at home, then you have to suspect that the problem is at home. It might be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 17 month old son cries hysterically when I take him to daycare, broken femur
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 17 month old son cries hysterically when I take him to daycare, broken femur

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 19 month old twins (B/G), crying time, light at the end of the tunnel
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 19 month old twins (B/G), crying time, light at the end of the tunnel, time out

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old disruptive during nap at daycare, fly on the wall, nap time
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old disruptive during nap at daycare, fly on the wall, nap time, dummies

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old sleep prob, good night sleep, 4 months
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old sleep prob, good night sleep, 4 months, hallway

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4yr old boys school behaviour, hyper child, little prince
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4yr old boys school behaviour, hyper child, little prince, fair go

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 Year Old makes in his pants in school, psychological help, humilation
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 Year Old makes in his pants in school, psychological help, humilation, going to the bathroom

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child always cries and whines, doing the right thing
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child always cries and whines, doing the right thing

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Effects of shared placement, mediation services, structure stability
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Effects of shared placement, mediation services, structure stability, loving environment

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Excessive whining and crying in 2 1/2 yo, four year olds, whiny
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Excessive whining and crying in 2 1/2 yo, four year olds, whiny, naps

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: pooping in pants, sensory integration issues
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: pooping in pants, sensory integration issues

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My four year olds syptoms..., temper tantrums, mom and dad
temper tantrums, mom and dad, kool aid: Dear Jennifer: Well first of all I hate to go there with what is happening at the sitters but the reality of life is that children are often hurt by people they love, know and or trust. So maybe it is time for a nanny camera or a tape recorder. Another...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My friends toddlers aggressive behaviour, herbal remedy, behaviour changes
herbal remedy, behaviour changes, aggressive behaviour: Hello Denise, Since you are feeling more and more uncomfortable with your friend s child, I think you have to say that you re not going to let them play together unsupervised. While the girl s aggressive behavior may not be all that unusual, her mother...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Good/Poor Parenting, congratulations on your new baby, poor parenting
congratulations on your new baby, poor parenting, conflicting emotions: Thank you for your question, and congratulations on your new baby. It sounds like you are very frustrated with the situation in which you find yourself. It sounds like a very difficult situation for you. I am sure that you love your Grandmother, but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Grandparents vs. Parents, custody, mother
custody, mother, grandparents: Dear Whitney, I m so sorry you and your child have gone through such a horrible ordeal. I really want to be here for you ... and I promise this situation will take some time to resolve. We can discuss things you can do TODAY to make things better ......

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Handling Toddler, grand parents, pediatrician
grand parents, pediatrician, grandparents: Thank you for your question. I can definitely hear your frustration in your question. The first thing I would ask you to do is to talk with both the teacher and her grandparents and see if they are seeing the same behavior. What concerns me most in your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Help with little girl crying on and off all day., james windell, sweet little girl
james windell, sweet little girl, family stress: Hello Georgene, I d like to hear what you ve tried so far. This is likely a temporary phase of separation anxiety, but it s not clear what brought it about. Has some family stress come along in the last three months? Did she have contact with her biological...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Hitting, situation visit, dear paula
situation visit, dear paula, preschool center: Dear Paula, That method is great if she is just playing incorretly or unsafely with a toy or material. But if someone is getting hurt you need to go further. First comfort the child who is hit or hurt and pay no attention to your child until the victim...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: head shaking and staring at hand, manic depressive disorder, children with hearing impairments
manic depressive disorder, children with hearing impairments, neonatal intensive care: Dear Lee: I have seen children without hearing loss do the same thing. I think you are worrying too much. Let her be and enjoy her more! Have fun with her and let yourself enjoy being a grandma as you well know you only get these years once! Kay ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: stubern behaveur, clap hands, extreme patience
clap hands, extreme patience, unaccepted: Dear Fatin: It sounds like you are both stubborn. He must get it from somewhere. Stop forcing the eating issue. Just let him fuss it out and the next meal he will be hungry enough to eat. Also make sure the doctor tells you there is nothing wrong before...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: hitting, dealing with anger, two solutions
dealing with anger, two solutions, one of my favorites: Dear Mia; I apologize it has taken me so long in writing back to you. I had an emergency and fell behind on my responses. Do forgive me please. What you are doing is not working. It sounds to me like that your husband is part of the problem. You cannot...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Mental development, james windell, long term memory storage
james windell, long term memory storage, eye hand coordination: Hello Jason, This boy may be very bright. Having the eye-hand coordination and visual-motor acuity to put together a difficult puzzle may certainly suggest well-developed skills in at least this one area. Many children are gifted in one or more areas. However,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Mommy obsessed toddler, mommy time, baby sitter
mommy time, baby sitter, bedspread: Dear Brent and Heather, I am so sorry you are having such a problem. Ususally the separation asnxiety happens at about 8 months and/OR 16-18 months. It is odd that she is hanving this problem when she is nearly two. you seem to have tried everything. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How to manage toddler's anger, month old baby, relaxation techniques
month old baby, relaxation techniques, sweet kid: Hello Anupama, Children don t have to be taught or shown how to react in this way; it s instinctual. But is it normal? Yes, it is a very common behavior for toddlers who are angry or frustrated. However, if he doesn t learn to handle his frustration...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: This is a mental question., sexual thoughts, eboys
sexual thoughts, eboys, question question: You can talk with an advisor in school. They are paid to discuss issues like this with you. You can even go to the school nurse with your concerns. I suggest that you talk with your parents. You are old enough to understand the importance of your parents...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: This is a mental question., sexual thoughts, eboys
sexual thoughts, eboys, bad mother: You need to stop worrying about all the bad things that could happen and you need to see a therapist immediately. Please consider what your worry alone will do to your family. You need to seek assistance quickly and immediately to help you with your thoughts....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Night time issues, toddler, night wakings
toddler, night wakings: Paula- thank you for the question. I apologize about the delay in getting back to you. My youngest has been quite sick and I ve not been able to get to my computer. One thing I would automatically suggest, if you are able, is to separate them. Put...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: obsessive-compulsive disorder?, james windell, obsessive compulsive disorder
james windell, obsessive compulsive disorder, repetitive behaviors: Hello Liz, And worry would do what for you? Okay, I know you re a mom and sometimes you need to worry. However, in this situation, worry is not necessary. Two-year-olds start to do many behaviors which are repetitive. Part of the reason for this is that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Pooping on the Potty, pain while going to the bathroom
pain while going to the bathroom: Laura- thank you for the question. I would first try putting more fiber in her diet which might make it slightly easier for her to go. Push fluids as well, that way her body has enough fluid to make it comfortable and not so hard. This might sound silly,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: passing of urine, grandma anne, dear grandma
grandma anne, dear grandma, docotor: Dear Grandma Anne, I do not think that this is normal. You could just call your own docotor or the nurse on call first, and ask, but I don t think this is normal and it could even be a precursor to a uninary infection. Try to find out and then if there...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: pooping in pants, bowel problem, nerve problem
bowel problem, nerve problem, toilet training: Thank you for the question and I apologize for the delay in answering you. I think that given the fact that your son is six that it is time to seek some professional evaluation. You use the phrase STILL pooping in his pants which leads me to believe...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Question about my 2 year old son, son noah, behavioral habits
son noah, behavioral habits, positive reinforcement: Hello BJ, You are trying to do things according to the book. However, which book is that? And did you read the book about what toddlers are supposed to be like? Everything you describe is pretty typical for toddlers. It s normal behavior. However, you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Ready to Have a Baby?, planning for a baby, financial costs
planning for a baby, financial costs: Cherie- thank you for the question. What an undertaking it is to have a baby! I honestly think that those that are truly ready, financially and physically and emotionally ready, are those that will probably not have children. I don t think you can truly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: refusing, temper tantrum, fingers
temper tantrum, fingers, won't use fork: Dear Kim, Great question! You are absolutely correct in taking a firm stand with these behaviors. Loving, cuddling and nurturing are wonderful things for the rest of the day. But, when these behaviors crop up, I m with you ... it s time for some...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: regarding diet and constipation in 14 month old female toddler, brat diet, seedless oranges
brat diet, seedless oranges, fruit vegetables: Thank you for the question. What a wonderful gift you are giving your granddaughter. The time she spends with you will be a fabulous thing. I am fortunate enough to live close enough to my parents and to my husband s father that my children see them all...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: From right to left, read, right to left
read, right to left, dyxlexia: Dear Demet, Your daughter sounds delightful. I know you re enjoying her enthusiasm about learning and exploring. You just may have a determined child on your hands. The fact that she prefers to do it HER way is an indication that she likes to create...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Self Abusive Temper Tantrums, mental health specialist, temper tantrums
mental health specialist, temper tantrums, infant mental health: Dear Stephanie: I apologize for taking so long to answer your question, these questions are important to me. I had an emergency and was off line for a few days. Please forgive me. As for your niece. I would be interested to know what you mean by consequences...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Six year old who threats to hurt himself, anger management techniques, james windell
anger management techniques, james windell, autistic spectrum: Hello Pam, It s not always clear when young children, sometimes as young as three years old, threaten to kill themselves or others, or state they want to die. I think the more important issue is that he has anger problems and your efforts should be aimed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleep, james windell, peaceful sleep
james windell, peaceful sleep, doing the right thing: Hello Stacey, I don t know that you re doing anything wrong. You were doing the right thing by establishing a regular routine for bedtime. However, as you discovered, even when you re doing things right, things can go wrong when you re raising a child....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleep disorder??, wont sleep, up all night
wont sleep, up all night, three years old: Dear Felicia, Wow, that must be so difficult for you. I hope you have some help to watch your daughter so you can get some rest ... it is critical for you to take care of yourself. She may have a sleep disorder. You will have to check with her pediatrician...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping between Dad & Mom's House, mae mae, heartbeat sound
mae mae, heartbeat sound, nap time: Dear Karyn: Children do need routines they don t need schedules...she can t tell time. She won t have a concept of time until she is about 8 years old...so throw out the schedules and get a routine...if all of you can agree on a routine then she will be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping in the dark, afraid of the dark, night lights
afraid of the dark, night lights, alone in the dark: Thank you for your question Sageda. Congratulations on nursing your daughter for so long. You are in the minority with that, but you are giving her such wonderful health benefits, and your self as well. So congrats on hanging in there! Three of mine nursed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sudden Change in Napping and Sleeping, bedtime, toddler
bedtime, toddler, won't sleep: Dear Octavia, This is a typical problem with toddlers. What are the reasons? - Could be a tummy ache or ear ache. You can have her check by her Pediatrician if you suspect a health reason. - The interruption of her sleeping pattern caused by...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Suddenly aggressive 3 year old, nap time, throwing fits
nap time, throwing fits, behavior issues: Hello Kathy, It is very difficult, if not impossible, to correct misbehavior that is occuring some place else. You know how to deal with his behavior at home. However, young children need more immediate attention when there is a problem. If you wait for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleep issues, baby bottle tooth decay, bottle tooth decay
baby bottle tooth decay, bottle tooth decay, banchee: Dear Jen Don t worry he will get over it if you let him cry and will still trust you if you treat him with love and cuddles the rest of the day. As for the bottle, it is like his security blanket. He needs it at this time to get to sleep. But what goes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleeping habits, infant sleep patterns, night wakings
infant sleep patterns, night wakings: Debbie- thank you for the question. I apologize for not getting back to you sooner. My youngest has been very sick and I ve not been able to get to my computer. The crying it out method is only for the strong. :) I ve tried it with both girls and have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: son urinating in bedroom & living room, james windell, sources of anxiety
james windell, sources of anxiety, child psychologist: Hello Lakshmi, When children urinate in inappropriate places after they are properly toilet trained and have control over their bladder at night, it suggests emotional and psychological problems. I would suggest that you take your son to see a child psychologist...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Am i spoiling my 7mo old?, first fire, kay
first fire, kay, friends and family: Dear Chay: First, fire your friends and family. Tell them to be supportive or to be quiet. You are doing just fine 7 month olds don t get spoiled. If you are worried about his development then get an assessment by your doctor, the expert. In the meantime...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sudden change in behavior, james windell, obsessional thoughts
james windell, obsessional thoughts, bad thoughts: Hello Jane, Since this obsessional thinking has been going on for only three days, I would tend to agree with you that he may have been overly influenced by the stimulation of the holidays. Of course, there are many reasons why a child might begin to have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Tantrum in my 14 month old, mother of twins, christmas eve
mother of twins, christmas eve, bladder infecton: Dear Dawn The tanturm age is closer to two, so I would bet there is something physical going on with her. Make an appt with her doctor for a thorough physical...it could be a bladder infecton or an ear infection that makes her crabby and frustrated and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Tantrums/Eating, temper tantrums, bright girl
temper tantrums, bright girl, animal noises: Hello Christa, Yes, she is a bright girl. A bright girl with a temper! Tempers are pretty common for two-year-olds. But here are some suggestions. First, try to ignore the temper tantrums. You have to make sure she is safe, but other than keeping an...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Terrible threes help!, toddler, tantrum
toddler, tantrum, violent: Dear Gretchen, The two and three years are terrific ones for toddlers. You do need some help to get things on track. If you have the time to invest, you can look through old posts I ve left for other families ... I feel that all the information you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler Agression, poor impulse control, sunday afternoons
poor impulse control, sunday afternoons, real reason: Hello Kimberly, Yes, his behavior is fairly normal. Toddlers engage in aggression for various reasons. However, the real reason is that they have poor impulse control and are not skilled at alternatives when they re angry. It sounds like you re trying...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler aggression with older sister, extreme frustration, dear paula
extreme frustration, dear paula, dear paul: Dear Paula, It really sounds like you re figuring it all out. Regarding your daughter: she knows the things she is doing to aggravate him. BUT, even if she doesn t, you MUST continue to encourage her to use her personal power and negotiation skills...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler too close to Grandma?, unfriendly environment, rule of thumb
unfriendly environment, rule of thumb, mothers and fathers: Dear Kim: As long as the child is comfortable with this relationship it is fine. What would not be fine is if the adult were initiating it to meet their own needs. They are living with grandma and therefore are closer to their grandparents than a traditional...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler making himself sick, good behaviour, guarentee
good behaviour, guarentee, background checks: Dear leanne: Well he is 2 years old. Many children have seperation anxiety at times and maybe this is his time. The other thing is have you questioned whether or not something has changed at the nursery. I don t mean to scare you however just because nurseries...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler Nightmares, james windell, short periods
james windell, short periods, sleeping habits: Hello Christel, Yes, I m sure this is a reaction to your being out of her life for a year and her anxiety that you will leave her again. The best things you can do are to be patient of her re-adjustment period and help her to learn to feel secure again....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler Potty Training, james windell, cheerful mood
james windell, cheerful mood, toilet training: Hello Sheila, It is not uncommon for children about this age to have problems with toilet training. However, I m wondering about his mood or temperament when he awakens. It may be difficult for your grandson to adjust and orient after sleep. I m assuming...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: teaching selfdefence, inlaws, good behavior
inlaws, good behavior, 19 months: Dear Motass: You won t like my answer. The best way children learn good behavior or to take care of themselves is by the parent s modeling. Why are you not speaking up her behalf either? I can t understand your watching this and keeping your mouth shut?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: tempormental 3 year old, spits, tantrum
spits, tantrum, three: Dear Christina, Very lovingly, I would like to suggest that the behavior you demonstrate to your child, is the behavior your child learns is correct and proper in the world. So, bottom line, I encourage you NOT to hit, bite and spit back at your child....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: terrible twos, temper tantrums, baby necessities
temper tantrums, baby necessities, book shelves: Dear Joy: I don t think Allie is your problem. I think you are totally overwhelmed. Do you have any help? You need and I don t care how you get it someone to come in and HELP you take care of these kids. Not that you are not doing a fabulous job you are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My three year old urinating on himself., wetting, day time wetting
wetting, day time wetting, 3 years old: Dear Cortney, Hmmm. I know three year olds are such fun, but wetting themselves is a bit difficult. Have there been any changes in his schedule or routine? A new school, a new teacher, has he gotten really involved with computer games or a TV show?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddlers, mental health specialist, emotional vocabulary
mental health specialist, emotional vocabulary, infant mental health: Dear Mary: An order can be changed if the judge deems a good reason to do so. I would suggest having your girls evaluated by a qualified infant mental health specialist. Having an evaluation will assist you in finding out what is going on and how to best...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unusual potty fear, potty chair, evelyn
potty chair, evelyn, toilet: Jody this does happen....It will pass. You need to keep reassuring her that it does not happen very often...show her how the toilet works...take the top off to show her why it might keep running. Can she use another toilet in the house? If not and if...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Visitation with Father for Pre-schooler, james windell, pre schooler
james windell, pre schooler, o shea: Hello Danelle, I don t have any literature on this topic, but I m sure you might be able to find things to read on the Internet. However, I do believe that a young child is better off with a parent than in daycare. And it doesn t matter whether it is mom...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Weaning a 2 yr old and 7 mo pregnant with 3rd, months of pregnancy, odd reasons
months of pregnancy, odd reasons, cold turkey: Thank you for your question. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and on having breastfed your son for so long. I am sure you know you are in the minority on that, especially since you are pregnant as well. My first thought is to wonder why you are wanting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: waking at night, dramatic changes, first thought
dramatic changes, first thought, one and a half: Thank you for your question, and I apologize for the delay in answering you. I can also very much understand your frustration, and your lack of sleep. My first thought is how she is doing during the day. Does she seem to be upset about anything in particular,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I am worried about my child's low tolerance for frustration, speech pathologist, mess in my head
speech pathologist, mess in my head, daycare centre: Hello Alia, You didn t say how old your son is but I m going to assume that he is about three years old. It is not uncommon for three-year-olds to be somewhat aggressive. It s the task of both parent and child to try to keep this aggression under better...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My two Year Old....help!, james windell, peanut butter sandwiches
james windell, peanut butter sandwiches, food fads: Hello Kara, Not to worry. Your child is eating more than many children who go through phases like this in toddlerhood. Some children only eat one food, such as macaroni and cheese or peanut butter sandwiches. The best thing is to let her eat what she...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 1 year old, one year olds, crying children
one year olds, crying children, lunch time: Hello Carolyn, I can certainly understand why you d be ready for a break from these children. Of course, this is not uncommon behavior for children between ages one and three. But it is stressful for their care-givers. Often such behavior is learned...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 13 month old yells constantly, james windell, bedtime routine
james windell, bedtime routine, fussy baby: Hello Sandy, It sounds like you have a fussy baby. However, I need to ask you some questions before I give you any advice or recommendations. 1. You say he cries, whines, and screams non-stop. Is this literally true? That is, taking a typical day, write...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 yr old has too much aggression, temper tantrums, horrible acts
temper tantrums, horrible acts, daycare: Hello Summer, This is not unusual behavior at all for a toddler. In fact, it is very common behavior. That doesn t mean that daycare staff know how to handle it or even that that they care to know how to handle it. Often, they d rather kick a child out of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old doesnt sleep, bedtime routines, bedtime routine
bedtime routines, bedtime routine, infant massage: Dear Shelby, There are many prior posts on this site about bedtime routines. Try infant massage! Who doesn t sleep after a good massage? Remember to have a consistent bedtime routine as she may actually be anxious about going to bed at night. I know...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old boy, short attention span, three year olds
short attention span, three year olds, wits end: Hello Sandra, You might read the previous posts I ve written (particularly to other parents with difficult three year olds#. In general, there are many two- and three-year-old children who have temperamental traits that make them tougher to handle. Sometimes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old defiance, time constraint, negative consequences
time constraint, negative consequences, reward system: Hello Laura, Yes, some young children seem to be defiant or noncompliant as part of their temperament or personality. Getting them to do what you want is always a struggle. And punishment or negative consequences seem to have little effect. Rewards may...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old son, toddler, not wanting to go down to sleep
toddler, not wanting to go down to sleep: Chloe- thank you for the question. I ve got a couple of suggestions to make that might help, but it might not. One thing that we utilized with my youngest daughter was a child safety gate. We put one up in her doorway when she went to bed which just...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old son disrespects teachers, positive reinforcement, negative perception
positive reinforcement, negative perception, negative experiences: Hello Angie, Let me assure you that millions of three-year-olds act that way. But there are some teachers/staff who are so clueless they don t know what is and what isn t normal behavior. And, of course, to make matters worse, they don t know what to do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year-old waking up at night, mommy daddy, sleep patterns
mommy daddy, sleep patterns, foster parents: Hello Dotti, It appears this three-year-old foster child is very disturbed by the presence of the baby. He is putting up a brave front during the day, but his poor sleep patterns and his wanting to sleep with your son and daughter-in-law represent a regression...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr.old and bad behaviors, angry little man, grandma and grandpa
angry little man, grandma and grandpa, control behavior: Hello Stephanie, It is not uncommon for two- and three-year-old toddlers to act like this. However, their behavior and aggression will be be made worse if you spank them. So, that s the first thing I recommend: stop spanking or using any physical punishment....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old + attitude, pre-schooler, attitude
pre-schooler, attitude: Cherilynn- thank you for the question. My first question would be is there anything different going on in your daughter s life that could have caused a change in attitude? Sometimes changes like a move to a new home, starting school, things like that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old Behavioral issues., sleeping through the night, three kids
sleeping through the night, three kids, tone of voice: Hello Meghanne, Yes, it does sound very frustrating for you. And I can see how stressed you would be with three children under age six. You sound like you re doing a lot of things right. But, I ll suggest an approach with several steps and you can decide...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old step son, fortune cookie, monotone voice
fortune cookie, monotone voice, writing ideas: Hello Katherine, Your stepson does have some strange, obsessive behaviors. Also, it seems he has been taught that meltdowns and obsessive asking getting him what he wants. The combination of both things suggests that perhaps an appointment with a child psychologist...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old having tantrums, hitting, and putting things in her mouth, junior kindergarten, kindergarten classes
junior kindergarten, kindergarten classes, tantrums: Hello Michael, Since your daughter has just begun junior kindergarten, I m going to assume that this transition is a bit difficult for your daughter and she is, as a result, regressing to earlier behavior. Therefore, her hitting, tantrums, and putting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Activity children, saying goodnight, bedtime ritual
saying goodnight, bedtime ritual, jesse dennis: Hello Emma, I m not sure what you mean by an activity planning tool. Are you asking if I can suggest some activities for three children? For a day, a week? Anyway, here are some suggestions for a typical day for each: Jack -- 9 months: Morning: eat,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attachment to mother, separation anxiety, wife works
separation anxiety, wife works, time schedules: Dear Sunbol: Attachment is a great thing for a child. It means she is healthy. Children often show preferences for one parent over the other and your daughter is at an age where separation anxiety is often common. I suggest to parent that they maintain...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Very active 4-year old trouble w/Pre-K, silly rhymes, talking to adults
silly rhymes, talking to adults, old trouble: Hi Sondra, I am glad you appreciate your son s active and playful side. It is of my opinion that we are asking children at younger ages to act older. He is not a kindergartner, he is a 4yr old with normal energy. I am so glad you are having a parent teacher...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: anxiety in toddlers, balance disorder, baby swing
balance disorder, baby swing, twitter: Dear Eleanor, I never advise medication and not being a medical doctor would not interfere with what anyone else suggests. I do advise having him screened for a balance disorder. He may walk fine however it sounds like motion is an issue for him. It...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavioral Crying?, cat naps, cradle mattress
cat naps, cradle mattress, fever pitch: Hello Carolyn, There is no doubt that this child is different from your first two children. She is more challenging and her inability to settle herself down and go to sleep is an indication of this. Babies need to be trained and taught good sleep patterns....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Breaking habits, own time, lori
own time, lori, kindergarten: Dear Lori, Your daughter isn t even two yet. How troublesome can these two habits be. I strongly suggest you allow her to outgrow these habits. I promise she will not go off to kindergarten with either of them if you relax and let them disappear on her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Children asking difficult questions about absent family members., mummy and daddy, initial questions
mummy and daddy, initial questions, difficult questions: Hello Katherine, I think it may be a bit easier to answer your son s questions because he is younger. His questions may be direct and to the point but he may not have many follow up questions if you answer his initial questions so he can understand them....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Children asking difficult questions about absent family members., estranged grandparents
estranged grandparents: Katherine- Thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I was thinking about the best way to go about answering your question. I think, that honesty is the best policy, but it s how you present it that s the issue. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Children asking difficult questions about absent family members., mummy and daddy, mom dad
mummy and daddy, mom dad, difficult questions: Try simple and honest...explain that Daddy s Mom & Dad weren t always nice and that because they became not nice, that is why you all don t talk to them. Tell the children what their names are and show them pictures, however explain that there were times...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Coping w/ a difficult toddler, high school freshman, shoe laces
high school freshman, shoe laces, young ones: Hello Griselda, You are expressing a common fear parents have. That is, your fear is that if you don t stamp out this behavior in your toddler, it will only get worse. And you can envision an oppositional teenager who is out of control and doing whatever...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Custody sharing effect on infant, mental health specialist, infant mental health
mental health specialist, infant mental health, legal advisories: Nancy, You need to get support NOW. First of all make sure your lawyer understand how domestic violence affects a baby if not get a NEW attorney who does. Next, check out the attachment parenting site as there are legal advisories about custodial issues....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cereal, twitter, cereal
twitter, cereal, barb: Dear Barb, Okay. Please remember this information was not available to me. It helps if more information is provided. Now, if he is being breastfed (again something I don t know) then he may want to eat more as he is growing. I don t suggest putting him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child’s parents Interview ideas, frequent temper tantrums, bedtime problems
frequent temper tantrums, bedtime problems, childs friends: Hi Emma, Here are some sample questions. You will be able to think of other questions you d like to ask. 1. When was your child born? 2. Was your child full-term? 3. How was her health in the first year? 4. Was she a quiet or fussy baby? 5. Did...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, daycare centre, childcare centre
daycare centre, childcare centre, cuddle: Hello Emma, You did not tell me the age of Eleni, but I m going to assume she is a toddler between ages two and three. It is not at all uncommon for toddlers to go through phases when they are more clingy and more resistant to separation from parents....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, emotional wellbeing, childcare centre
emotional wellbeing, childcare centre, visual stimulus: For children in that age range, the most basic emotional needs they have are to be loved, feel that they have attention, and be shown different textures and visual stimulus that will interest them. For the social, children in the younger range of that group...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, childcare centre, social evening
childcare centre, social evening, rough outline: Hello Emma, I can give you a rough outline, which you can fill in with details for your presentation. Orientation for Parents I. The philosophy of the children s centre A. What we believe is our mission B. What we strive to provide...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, childcare centre, childcare center
childcare centre, childcare center, social evening: The main safety issues in a childcare center relate to the environment the children are in...is it clean? is it enclosed? are the outlets covered so children can t get near them? Another aspect is the child to teacher ratio (in the childcare center I worked...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, dear emma, emotional wellbeing
dear emma, emotional wellbeing, childcare centre: Dear Emma, If you are a caregiver in a centre, it seems that you should have had training in these areas and that your centre should also do ongoing inservice training about these topics, and also have a library of professional books about them. I always...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, childcare centre, separation anxiety
childcare centre, separation anxiety, degree of separation: Having worked in childcare, I ve seen children cry for 10 minutes when the parents leave, some that have cried all day. It varies based on their personality as to the degree of separation anxiety they go through. Over time, as they get more comfortable in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: how to convince the child, neighbor lady, setting boundaries
neighbor lady, setting boundaries, new babies: Dear Priya, I can understand your concern. For him to be 7 and think it is okay to hit a baby is not a good thing. Jealousy is understandable. I suggest you find some books on new babies and read them with him. Help him with his feelings. Make sure he has...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying 4 year old, count to 3, mood one
count to 3, mood one, whits end: Hello Deborah, If a behavior is occurring at home but not at school, then you have to examine the interactions within the family to determine why. I think there is very likely a simple reason for her crying and her tantrums at home. My guess is that it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Difficulty with making playdates for my 2 1/2 year old, setting play dates for child
setting play dates for child: Kathy- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in getting back with you on this matter. First of all I understand that you are in a difficult position. A relationship such as yours is not always seen favorably in our world. One would hope...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Disciplining preeschool child, child psychologist, inappropriate behavior
child psychologist, inappropriate behavior, morsel: I would suggest perhaps a child psychologist simply for some guidance with his behavior overall, however for the eating issue - don t push so hard...my almost 5 yr old daughter is the same way and will only take a bite or two before saying she s done and doesn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Divorce and my Toddler, parenting role, parenting time
parenting role, parenting time, overnights: Hello Katherine, Children need to spend lots of time with both parents. That s why most courts award 50-50 parenting time and custody. Chances are when your divorce is final, you and co-parent will split custody in half. At this point, you may feel like...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How to deal with, rude behavior, tantrums
rude behavior, tantrums, chickenpox: Dear Soni, I would not give in when a child throws a tantrum regardless of whether or not they are sick. However, understanding she is sick and knowing she may feel more like throwing a tantrum may help you as well. Best Wishes! Kay www.twitter.co...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: disrespectful 3 year old, temper tantrum, violence against children
temper tantrum, violence against children, childhood memory: Dear Cheri, Thank you for your response! Your son is lucky to have such a parent who want the best for him. In lieu of what your follow up reveals I would like to encourage you to just check in with an Infant Mental Health specialist maybe find out what...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Emotional three-year-old, congratulations on your new baby, constant attention
congratulations on your new baby, constant attention, reassurance: Hello Sarah, Congratulations on your new baby. And on having a healthy three-year-old daughter. You describe your daughter as being dramatic, outgoing, and emotional. Therefore, she will act in an emotional, sensitive, and dramatic manner -- no matter...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: how ensure to the parents that the infants are safe and secure in the centre environment, day care center safety
day care center safety: Emma- thank you for the question. I would make it a point to provide parents with teacher/child ratios (for example two babies to every one teacher), all health regulations that you follow (hand washing, diaper changing, quarantining ill children) provide...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: excursion suitable for children, teacher student ratio, childrens interests
teacher student ratio, childrens interests, parent volunteers: Emma - it sounds like you are trying to write a business plan for a child care center you are running. I ve had many questions from you. Not that I mind answering, but perhaps we could discuss some of these if you don t mind calling long distance. 1-216-219-0637....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: excursion suitable for children, childrens interests, logistical nightmare
childrens interests, logistical nightmare, petting farms: Hi Emma, In the U.S. we call these field trips. Since these generally involve riding in a bus or a vehicle, parental permission is required. A permission note can be quite simple: I ______________ (name of parent), parent of _________________ (name...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Frightened behavior, gerd treatment, gas bubbles
gerd treatment, gas bubbles, infant massage: Dear Robyn, I have no idea. However ask your doctor and if there is nothing physically wrong then try infant massage. Maybe it is just indigestion or gas. Gas bubbles can be terribly painful. Best Wishes! Kay Follow me on Twitter! www.twitter.com/allfamilie...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, emma, babies
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childcare centre, emma, babies

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: excursion suitable for children, emma hope, miss emma
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: excursion suitable for children, emma hope, miss emma, childcare

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: when should a trilingual child start speaking, greek cypriot, little monsters
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: when should a trilingual child start speaking, greek cypriot, little monsters, three languages

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: follow-up to previous question, trouble potty, lap baby
trouble potty, lap baby, personality change: Thank you for giving me time to respond. Some of the upset may be related to the conversation about death, given the whole gone and never able to come back portion of explaining death. My oldest daughter went through this a little in relation to my Mother...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: HELP ME!!! I am losing my mind with my 2 year old., heart murmor, infants and toddlers
heart murmor, infants and toddlers, logical thinking: Hello Amie, I m sorry to hear that you feel like your toddler is ruining your life. Having four children with one being very challenging like your two-year-old would likely put stress on any parent! We don t know that there s anything particularly abnormal...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Hyperactive?, temper tantrums, attention deficit hyperactivity
temper tantrums, attention deficit hyperactivity, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder: Hello Heidi, Should you be worried? What will worry do for you or your daughter? Obviously, nothing positive. The difficulty at age three is that you often can t tell the difference between what is normal behavior and overly active behavior. Lots of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Out of hand 3 year old, temper tantrums, good boy
temper tantrums, good boy, wic: Dear Rachel, First of all he is not in some terrible stage. He is competing and probably is reacting to not being the center of your world anymore. 1st. He needs one on one time with you, then he need one on one time with his dad. Special time he doesn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: help children share ideas, safety factors, resource limitations
safety factors, resource limitations, relay race: Emma, The best way to address this issue with Sally is to have her write out the rules of the game, what is needed to play the game, and go through it once with her when there is a little time. By addressing the resource issues with her and limitations,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: infant feeding, infant, eating habits
infant, eating habits, sleeping habits: Lisa- thank you for the question. I don t believe you can put a baby on a schedule per se, but something close to one. Babies are going to do what they want no matter what you try. But, you CAN try to stick to something like a schedule. I would try...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: light sleeper, child, sleep patterns
child, sleep patterns, night wakings: Tiffany- thank you for the question. Just a couple of things that I thought of. One would be to alter her sleeping environment to assist in better sleep patterns. You might try room darkening shades and curtains. You could try some background noise...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: meet the emotional and social needs of infants, dear emma, m kay
dear emma, m kay, dr sears: Dear Emma, Meeting the emotional needs of infants and toddlers is fairly easy. They need to be recognized when they are communicating with eye contact, touch and responsiveness. I highly encourage you to visit a website www.talarais.org which has a developmental...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: messing pants, james windell, stressful conditions
james windell, stressful conditions, hyperspadia: Hello Clatre, It is true that some children take longer to potty train than others. The hyperspadia condition is certainly a good reason for the delay in use of the potty for urination, but should not affect bowel movements in the potty. Make sure that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I need help with my almost three year old, dear kelly, boy behavior
dear kelly, boy behavior, good mother: Dear Kelly, Being a good mom is not about how your child behaves. If you start this cycle he will be running your life in a bad way by the time he is a teenager. He is throwing tantrums because it works for him. He throws a tantrum in public and you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: nursery, outgoing child, wont answer
outgoing child, wont answer, home time: Hello Tina, It appears that you are depending on what your child says to you and a chance overhearing of what two other children said to come to some conclusions about your child s nursery school experience. You did not mention what the teacher or staff...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Planning observations of Michelle, temper tantrums, deficit areas
temper tantrums, deficit areas, speech therapist: Hi Emma, If you observe any problem areas or learn about any problem areas from her parents, then perhaps those are areas where she could be helped at nursery school. So, you have to determine what are deficit areas. Compared to other children her age:...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Pottytraining., disiplined, going to the bathroom
disiplined, going to the bathroom, prek: I like the way you are handling thbings with them. My daughters are about a year apart and I went through a similar thing with them. The oldest was a breeze, the younger, by age 3 was still going on herself. I did many of the same things you are. Dad took...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: PRE-SCHOOLER JUST STARTED HAVING PROBLEMES GOING TO SCHOOL!, stay at home mom, pre schooler
stay at home mom, pre schooler, infant massage: Dear Carol, The good news is that your daughter is attached to you and misses you. The bad news is that it hurts. I suggest giving her some article of clothing or a blanket that smells like you, a picture of you, things that she can touch or smell or...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: personality change, trouble potty, lap baby
trouble potty, lap baby, personality change: Dear Janet, I apologize for my delayed response, I had unexpected commitments last weekend. You seem to have a wonderful understanding of your son s needs and personality and I hear that his recent discomfort is disconcerning. This is hard for me to answer...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training 3yr old, toddler, bathroom
toddler, bathroom, accidents: James- thank you for the question. I ve worked a lot with the little ones and came to the conclusion that boys are harder to train and that going poop in the toilet is probably one of the last things to develop. He might just need a little more time to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How to push the right buttons, cars and trains, gymnastic class
cars and trains, gymnastic class, child behaviors: Hello Cat, You may well be right that he has received a lot of attention for immature or aggressive behaviors. However, I wondered as I read your e-mail about consistency, simplicity, and routines in his life. That is, it seems like your family is very...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: rebellious 4 yr old. HELP!, punitive approach, corner time
punitive approach, corner time, power struggle: Hello Amber, It sounds like you and your daughter are locked in a power struggle which results in her getting even with you by having a bowel movement in her bed at night and you feeling very, very frustrated. As you point out, what you re doing is not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Separation Anxiety??, identical twin girls, separation anxiety
identical twin girls, separation anxiety, school daycare: Dear Vince, Separation anxiety is common and more so when a child s routine has changed. You mention two very huge changes that your daughter is reacting to and doesn t know how to handle yet emotionally. The first thing is to make sure her routines...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping, lullabye, soft music
lullabye, soft music, different times: For one thing, if she is trying to potty train (has she been on the potty at all or shown any interest) she may be uncomfortable if she potties in her diaper when sleeping. Beyond that, try a night light in her room and/or some soft music playing (a children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping apart+Bottle as comfort, play school, twitter
play school, twitter, cot: Dear Anou, She is fine. She will not always want to sleep with you and she will not always want the bottle. I don t know of any children who take their bottles to school with the other children by the time they are in the first grade. Children outgrow this...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping Issues, nap time, preschool staff
nap time, preschool staff, sleeping through the night: Dear Crystal, I feel so sorry for you...YOU ARE DOING ALL THE RIGHT THINGS...and best of all not giving in to her on the TV or co sleeping and STILL it is not working...make me want to scream. Well, let s think of anything we may have forgotten. Could...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Slow development of two & half year old boy, language delays, language development
language delays, language development, peer group: Hello Steve, Few children develop in all areas at the same rate. And many children are delayed in one or more areas of their development. This does not mean that they have a disorder nor that something is wrong with them. As you indicate, your own...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleep issues, bedtime routine, clean slate
bedtime routine, clean slate, consistent routine: Hello Danielle, Although your son seemed ready to make the transition, apparently he wasn t. Since there is no great need to have him leave his crib and move to a bed, go back to the crib. You didn t say he has outgrown his crib, so he can go back to it....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My son started crying at school, not wanting to do homework
not wanting to do homework: Hello again. Sorry about the delay in getting back to you. Thanksgiving and I was horribly sick. I am always a little leery about little ones doing homework. I just don t feel that they have the attention span to do it. What I suggest is chunking the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler - difficult behaviour towards visitors, stay at home mom, baby days
stay at home mom, baby days, priviledge: Hello Noreen, By temperament, some children are more dependent, clingy, and uncomfortable in social situations. However, at age three, she doesn t need to be more outgoing, though at later ages it will make school difficult for her (and you) if she continues...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler not listening and eating, adult food, dry bread
adult food, dry bread, half of the time: The eating is just a phase, don t worry too much about that. Keep trying to introduce some more solid foods, gradually, but don t put too much on her plate and don t push her to eat them. She ll let you know when she wants more solid foods. As for the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddlers Interview ideas, childs friends, parent interview
childs friends, parent interview, favourite foods: You have a good idea of what you want to ask listed in your question. Write out a list of what you want to know-then try to create a format that will allow them to go through it quickly. Try to create some things that you can ask the child, also, so they can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Twins and sleep problems, dear jessie, strict routine
dear jessie, strict routine, sleep problems: Dear Jessie: I don t think you will like my answer. However, my job is not to tell you what you want to hear. I know you have your hands full however, this is not nonsense. The need to control the situation is what is causing the battle. Why on earth...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: talkative toddler in daycare, teacher staff, skilled staff
teacher staff, skilled staff, staff person: Hi Felicia, Great! With the right teacher, your daughter is going to do well. Little kids react to adults who don t know how to deal with them just like older kids do. Maybe if she s found the right teacher, there ll be no need to change daycares. Jame...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: testing boundaries & cries about everything, temperament tools, loving child
temperament tools, loving child, 2 year olds: Hello Freda, I think you understand the key issues here. One of those key issues is that your son and daughter differ in their temperament. Your son is more easy going; your daughter is more active and impulsive. Another is that learning about behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My toddler doesnt sleep during night, bedtime routines, bedtime routine
bedtime routines, bedtime routine, night question: Dear Sara, Get a regular bedtime routine. I have posted numerous suggestions here for bedtime routines. Start by turning down the environment by turning off all of the TVs, stereos, computers etc....then turn down the lights, bath time, reading time, %26...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: when should a trilingual child start speaking, three languages, delayed speech
three languages, delayed speech, language consultant: Hello Phumlani, It is very common for toddlers between about two and three years of age (and often even well beyond the toddler years) to be picky eaters. Toddlers suddenly don t like the taste -- or even the idea, sometimes -- of vegetables or other foods....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: type of play and they name that could be provided, james windell, jesse dennis
james windell, jesse dennis, artistic endeavors: Hello Emma, If I understand what you re asking, you want some suggestions for types of play for each of the three children, right? Sally -- age 11: Sports, reading, drawing or other artistic endeavors, keeping a scrapbook, or computer games. Jesse...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: understanding of children's interests and developmental needs, childs friends, childrens interests
childs friends, childrens interests, interview sheet: Hi Emma, Apparently there is no set format for yiour report. So, I would suggest you use the following format: Title: Child Observation Name: [Your name] Date of report: Name of Child: Age: [years & months] Birthdate: Date of Interview...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: understanding of children's interests and developmental needs, temper tantrum, professional manner
temper tantrum, professional manner, emma: Hi Emma, In terms of how you would report what you shared with her parents, you could say something like: I talked to her parents after my observations. I shared with them that I thought her play was age appropriate. I also indicated that she tended...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: understanding of children's interests and developmental needs, how to write a short report, emma
how to write a short report, emma, cooperation: Hi Emma, I need more information. For instance, what kind of project would you be doing? What will you need to ask permission of a 5-year-old for in the project? Is it simply a concern for obtaining the child s cooperation? What kind of report will you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I HAVE THE WORSE 2 YEAR OLD IN THE WORLD !!!! AND HE IS CHILD # 3, social emotional learning, losing my mind
social emotional learning, losing my mind, daylight hours: Dear Amie, First of all no child behaves in a way that does not get them what they want. So his behavior is working for him. First I suggest you talk to his pediatrician and have a complete physical to make sure there is nothing physically wrong. Then I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: water??, dear barbara, perfect food
dear barbara, perfect food, baby formula: Dear Barbara, Really? Will water hurt a baby? Formula has never been the perfect food only breastmilk. However, water will not hurt the baby. As the grandma remember to focus on being the grandma your grandson already has a mother. :) Have fun with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 1 year old Ajani, james windell, loving child
james windell, loving child, one year olds: Hello Raquel, This is very common behavior for one-year-olds. Why do they do this? Because it is fun! And they gets lots of reactions from other people. It s a game to a one-year-old. They don t understand that it is annoying to others. So, how should...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 11 1/2 month old baby crying at night., month old baby, relaxation cd
month old baby, relaxation cd, clay color: Could be the milk. How are her poops? Normal or constipated? Regular color or clay color? If those are not normal also, try switching her to Lactaid or Soy milk temporarily to see if things go back to normal. It may be a lactose intolerance. Otherwise check...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 18 month old, james windell, daycare
james windell, daycare, pincher: Hello Tracy, It s simple. He pinches and scratches because he s a toddler. Toddlers do all sorts of things (like pinching, scratching, biting, kicking, hitting, and spitting# because they have not learned to control their emotions or their behavior. They...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2: short attention span problem with connecting with child care staff, toddler, playing with peers
toddler, playing with peers: Heidi- thank you for the question. There are certain situations that may draw out certain characteristics in children that are not seen at home or with familiar playmates. It is possible that your child is showing these traits simply because it s not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 yr old without pacifier, bedtime routine, ligting
bedtime routine, ligting, power struggle: Dear Bonnie, My favorite question to parents is How is this working for you? Try a nuturing bedtime routine. This doesn t sound nurturing at all. Sounds more like the adults are in a power struggle with a 2 1/2 year old. Children will always win power...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: !2 month old baby vaccinations, 2 month old baby, month old baby
2 month old baby, month old baby, sideeffects: It can either be from the shots or from his transitioning to more solid foods. My son is going through something similar, but he is having white constipation. Try adding an infant vitamin drop to his daily schedule in case it is diet related. Otherwise, just...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 year old daughter, james windell, late bloomer
james windell, late bloomer, developmental charts: Hello Ana, Your daughter is only two years old. It is far too early to be concerned about her being a late bloomer or having any particular kinds of problems. It is very common for children being exposed to two languages to be somewhat delayed in their...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old doesn't want Daddy, mommy mommy mommy, strongest man in the world
mommy mommy mommy, strongest man in the world, ok job: First off, I m so sorry for your loss. I can honestly say I know what you are going through. I lost a daughter in 2006 at the same point in my pregnancy. My other daughters were 7 months and 1 1/2 at the time. I didn t push the big sister thing either, but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: can a 2yr old be OCD?, repetitive behaviors, wash clothes
repetitive behaviors, wash clothes, magical thinking: Hello Tarah, A young child could be OCD, but it is much too early to tell. The reason for this is that toddlers (between ages one and four) engage in many behaviors that look obsessive-compulsive. We don t always know why they do this, but one possible...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behaviour problems, sheer frustration, quiet places
sheer frustration, quiet places, behaviour problems: Dear Meghan, I apologize for not getting right back to you. I think you are very perceptive in saying he knows the behaviors upset you. The trick is to find strategies that do not show your anger. If he knows the behaviors have power then it is worth doing....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old behavior, difficult teenager, sore subject
difficult teenager, sore subject, gentle hands: Dear Cyndi, your letter shows frustration and anger and I can tell you feel immersed in a winless situation. I will tell you up front, my own discipline style does not include spanking, I belive it is fear based training and models aggression. I believe...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 yr old son, time and patience, behavior problems
time and patience, behavior problems, sense of self: Miranda, Don t let it discourage you. He is just starting to really feel his sense of self and realize his independence. At this age, all children go non-stop. It is also the age where they try to test you (then again as teens), but you have to stand firm...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old boy, child psychologists, attitude changes
child psychologists, attitude changes, hello jim: Hello Jim, Children are often confused and angry when they are removed from their parents. That s usually true no matter how dysfunctional the home is they came from. So, your grandson still loves his mother (and maybe his father and brother as well),...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old boy answering adults back, aggression
aggression: Claudia- thank you for the question. There are many reasons why children display aggression and it doesn t necessarily have to do with how they are being raised. Here s an article on aggression in children and some tips on how to handle it. http://www.essortment.com/family/aggressionyoung_tthy.htm...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4year old boys aggression, care attitude, school gates
care attitude, school gates, angry outbursts: Hello Helen, Your son may have a temperament that disposes him to cross moods. Or it could be that he is a boy who is very sensitive to stress and he reacts to stress with angry outbursts and disagreeable moods, attitudes and behavior. While time-out might...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anger Management, anger problem, angry feelings
anger problem, angry feelings, anger management: Hello Kim, Let s clear up some misconceptions first. One, there are no safe or healthy ways to release frustrations or anger. That is, hitting a pillow or punching a punching bag does not take away anger. You can channel anger, but that has to be taught...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bathroom behavior, sibling pairs, head scratcher
sibling pairs, head scratcher, brotherly bond: Hello Mariann, this is a head scratcher for sure. The short of it is, get eye to eye with him, tell him you know about it. Tell him the only acceptable place for him to urinate is the toilet. Ask him if it is clear (use age appropriate language you usually...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime battle, college degrees, two boys
college degrees, two boys, disagreement: Dear Rod, I raised two boys and a daughter myself. My sons are now 31 and 25 and I can assure you I do not go to sleep next to them each night! ;) As a matter of fact they started sleeping by themselves by the time they went to school. They are grown up...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Cause for concern?, perfect child, time outs
perfect child, time outs, tantrums: Hello JC, It s a bit early for you to be concerned about a toddler having her own identity. However, having said that, one way of younger children being different from older siblings is in how they act and respond to the world. Your daughter has certainly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child behavior changes, child behavior, behavior changes
child behavior, behavior changes, long stretch: Hello Kelly, There s always a danger if you introduce your children to a new person that that person may not be around very long. This is what you ve learned from your fiance. I think the better course at this point is to not allow your fiance to live...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: co-sleeping, child gates, mommy and daddy
child gates, mommy and daddy, peace of mind: This is a hard situation to fix. Our girls are 4 and 5 and by morning, they are in bed with us, sleeping peacefully, even though they went to bed in their own beds. Only thing that would prevent this would be to put child gates on their rooms, which then...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daycare, temper tantrums, breaking my heart
temper tantrums, breaking my heart, new routine: Hello Jodi, What you are seeing is the way most two-year-olds act. You don t have to interpret it as you not being strict, your son not adjusting to daycare, or you doing something wrong. He s a toddler; and that s how toddler s behave. I m sure he...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Defiante, disobidient out of control 4 and 2 year old, silly noises, bedroom floor
silly noises, bedroom floor, boys ages: Hello Nikki, It s not very comfortable for anyone -- including your two children -- when they are running the house. However, I think we can get things under control fairly quickly. The first thing you need to do is to adopt one approach and use it consistently....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daughter in bathroom, toilet training
toilet training: Fred- thank you for the question. I personally feel it is inappropriate, even though she is still young. That is my opinion though. As far as taking her into the locker room for swimming, if you are the only one with her, then that s how it has to be....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Extremely difficult 3 year old, stay at home mom, bad temper
stay at home mom, bad temper, negative attention: Hello Kris, Your little guy has certainly learned how to get all of your attention! But it s curious that none of the behavior you see ever happens at school. If you haven t already, ask the teacher specifically if he ever bullies others or gets frustrated...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: establish and maintain professional relationships, other interested parties, jot down
other interested parties, jot down, professional relationships: Hi Emma, Here are my suggestions: Task 1: Establish positive relationships with family members Here are some questions: 1. What will you do to ensure that a welcoming atmosphere is created for Mr Singh’s visit? Be prepared for his arrival. Make...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Father in and out of childs life when to say enough is enough???, parenting time, predictable life
parenting time, predictable life, supervised visits: Hello Kirsten, This is a difficult situation. It s almost a no-win situation for your daughter if her father continues to be erratic in his parenting time. Your daughter needs to have her father in her life. However, she also needs him to be a consistent...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Feeding, cognitive problem, one year olds
cognitive problem, one year olds, milk and water: Dear Melissa, First I suggest that you go online and find some sites on foods and feeding of babies one year olds or toddlers. Gerbers.com, iamyourchild.com, are two...just search for some sites in Google with good foods for one year olds or feeding...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daughter in bathroom, going to the potty, changing clothes
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daughter in bathroom, going to the potty, changing clothes, gym locker

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: establish and maintain professional relationships, mr singh, family member
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: establish and maintain professional relationships, mr singh, family member, caregivers

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my three year old gets frustrated easily, challanges, high priority
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my three year old gets frustrated easily, challanges, high priority, click and drag

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: frequent urination, frequent urination, daily routine
frequent urination, daily routine, pediatrician: Dear Nicole, There isn t much information here. She maybe regressing as something in her daily routine has changed. First I encourage parents to check with their pediatrician to rule out any physical problems. Then I encourage parents to look at the child...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Highly emotional five-year-old girl, sensitive temperament, personal insecurity
sensitive temperament, personal insecurity, emotional child: Hi Tim, I can t be sure what drives a sensitive temperament but I will offer my personal sense about it, related to my personal experience. Your daughter may be a perfectionist. If so, she sets very high standards for herself and interprets responses from...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ocd/autism?, stay at home mom, little cars
stay at home mom, little cars, repetitive behaviors: Hello Laura, Your nephew does sound like a bright, delightful boy. However, is he also obsessive compulsive or is he autistic? It is much too early to tell. Two-year-olds and three-year-olds often engage in repetitive behaviors which seem far too obsessive...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Parenting -Toddler, difficult toddlers, effective discipline
difficult toddlers, effective discipline, emotional regulation: Hello Piya, It is difficult being a single parent. However, whether you are a single parent or not, raising a toddler is very difficult. Toddlers are in the processing of learning how to control their emotions and their behavior. They don t seem to pay...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty Training Trouble, bowel trouble, lolly
bowel trouble, lolly, wees: Hi Christina, This is sometimes common for children not to want to do poops on the toilet. However, this does seem like a long time. What does she do when she needs to poop, does she go into a corner or another room etc? Does she know when she needs...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: pinching 18 month old, daycare, happy child
daycare, happy child, day care: Dear Tracy This is definitely a problem and the daycare people should be addressing it. Perhaps they are not sure what to do or whether the parents care. In some centers the day care will just ask the parent to leave, eg take the child out of the program....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty fear, splash down, generalities
splash down, generalities, good mood: Hi Rachel, it s possible that she experienced what we call in our home a splash down which scared her. I would suggest you talk to her about what frightens her. You can preface the conversations talking in generalities. For example, you could say some...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Restless Toddler, sensory input, answering questions
sensory input, answering questions, quirks: Dear Angie, It appears to me that you have a good understanding of your son s difficulty in self regulation. From what you have shared, I do not believe this is a manipulative behavior but rather physiological and intrinsic. What a wonderful job you have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: receptive language delay in a 2 yr old, expressive language skills, receptive language delay
expressive language skills, receptive language delay, receptive and expressive language: Hello Shawna, Your daughter is only 24 months old. That is too young to do a speech evaluation, except to make observations and record how many words she uses. Many children her age are similar to her; that is, they don t have many words and don t express...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: not responding when I call him, discipline method, hearing problem
discipline method, hearing problem, independent person: Hello Leah, As a three-year-old, he is working on becoming more of an independent person. Which means that sometimes he may purposely ignore adults. I would say that this is not a problem. Why does he always have to respond to adults when they call his...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sexuality, disorientated, bad dream
disorientated, bad dream, naked body: Hello, Young children do find pleasure in playing with their penis or having erections. Most of the time, they just discover on their own that touching or rubbing their penis brings pleasure. In trying to bring about this pleasure, they may act in ways that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Step-daughter crying for no reason, those shoes, delay tactics
those shoes, delay tactics, step daughter: Hello Con, You didn t say how long this has been going on. You also did say how long you have been involved in her life. However, even without this information, I think I can offer some suggestions. I would guess that this is learned behavior. It is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Super attached Eight Year Old, parenting relationship, visitation arrangements
parenting relationship, visitation arrangements, second guess: Hello Liz, without observing the child or his interactions with others I can not form an opinion regarding his emotions. Yes it is normal for children to be jealous of parents affection to a new significant other, he could also be trying to interrupt that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Super attached Eight Year Old, lots of feelings, three kids
lots of feelings, three kids, paying attention: Hi Liz, I would see this as quite normal behavior. You can set the limits of what you ll allow and what you can tolerate. As long as you are setting limits in gentle and kind ways ( I love you, but I want to hug your sister for a while ), the relationship...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: separation anxiety, separation anxiety, independent girl
separation anxiety, independent girl, comfort zone: Hello Nesreen, Many children seem to have great difficulty separating from their caregivers and parents. For these children like your daughter, it appears to be a temperamental trait rather than a behavior meant to frustrate you. Therefore, punishment...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My son only wants his dad, bedtime routine, seperation
bedtime routine, seperation, unloved: Dear Mariana, First of all let s seperate these two issues. There is the issue of your son showing preference for his father and then there is the issue of you feeling rejected and unloved by your son. 1. Your son was six months when you started back...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: out of state visitation of toddler, james windell, parenting time
james windell, parenting time, parenting plan: Hello Anchanette, Children need consistent parenting. His father has a problem being consistent with parenting time. That should be a goal; that is, it should be a goal that his father have regular, consistent parenting time with your son before overnight...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler not sleeping., toddler night wakings, tantrums
toddler night wakings, tantrums: Denise- thank you for the question. The first thing I thought of is when you mentioned that he always wakes up grouchy. I am wondering if the sleep that he is getting is not restful sleep. If it s not restful sleep that could account for the attitude...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler vomiting and sleeping problems, toddler vomiting, bedtime routine
toddler vomiting, bedtime routine, month old baby: Hi Leonie, This is not uncommon for 2 year olds to suddenly start not wanting to go to bed at their regular bedtime etc. You mention this started after a family holiday, did you share accommodation there or did she have her own room on holiday? If the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my three year old gets frustrated easily, dealing with frustration, stress level
dealing with frustration, stress level, sleeps 10: Hello Cathy, Most young children between one year and four years of age have problems dealing with frustration and anger. In effect, they don t know how to regulate their emotions. Often, they do not have the language skills to express how they feel and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: throwing up son, psychological reaction, family person
psychological reaction, family person, breakfast lunch: Hello Ummunabhan, I think you are probably right; his throwing up is likely a reaction to being separated from you. I think the best way to deal with this is to not make food (and his throwing up) a central issue. Neither his babysitter nor his teachers...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler defiance, harvey karp, long periods of time
harvey karp, long periods of time, parenting book: Megan, I am happy to be of help to you. First, your physician insists you stop bottles and pacifies because they can interfere with tooth development and stability, and oral soothing that continues leads to other forms at a later age, for example smoking,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler fears of strangers, school playgrounds, nervous laugh
school playgrounds, nervous laugh, chance remark: Hello Debbie, Toddlers around the ages of two and three frequently develop new and sometimes strange fears. Sometimes it is a chance remark by an adult or it may be some other precipitating factor of which you are unaware. But these fears tend to come and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler having a hard time with other children in the home, month old baby, pacifiers
month old baby, pacifiers, two pounds: Hello Janelle, you really have your hands full and I sense your concern for your son and the upcoming transition with the new baby. First, when children demonstrate extreme changes with their bodies such as loosing two pounds, it is best to consult with your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Unhappy Son, intermediate school districts, hospitials
intermediate school districts, hospitials, head start program: Dear Lisha, I feel so sorry for you....this is unusual. I think you need to take him to another doctor for a second opinion. I have known some children who were sleep deprived who acted like this...they just did not know how to get to sleep or get back...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unusual behaviour, preschool, behavior
preschool, behavior: Lucy- thank you for the question. I am also in agreement that something is not right here. The behavior with the repetition and tantrums suggests something on the developmental delay spectrum, along the lines of autism or something on that area. It would...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 year old gets out of bed, bedtime ritual, sleep disturbance
bedtime ritual, sleep disturbance, pattern changes: Hello Jennifer, This kind of sleep disturbance happens often with toddlers. Seemingly for no reason their sleep pattern changes. And parents are left trying to figure out how to re-establish a stable sleep pattern. Telling you it s behavioral is no help...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2.5 year old's behavior after hospitalization, aggressive behaviors, bone scan
aggressive behaviors, bone scan, wits end: Hello Janet, It is not uncommon for children to show aggression or other symptoms after a somewhat traumatic experience. However, he is also a toddler. The aggressive behaviors may have occurred anyway as part of him being in his stage of development....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 20 month old behavior concerns, grass areas, financial constraints
grass areas, financial constraints, day care: Hello Marissa, Toddlers and young children shift interests and activities frequently. The toddler years are years of great exploration and learning. They learn by touching and exploring all aspects of their environment -- both inside and outside of the home....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 20 month old favoring one parent, tantrum, stay at home
tantrum, stay at home, rejection: Hello Marissa, This is not an unusual situation at all. Many toddlers and preschoolers become more interested and attracted to one of their parents. Although this could last for a few years, usually it is of much shorter duration. And it can shift. That...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 21 month old still on the bottle (for milk only), creature of habit, sippy cups
creature of habit, sippy cups, chocolate milk: Hello Dee, Almost everything you ve said in your e-mail is correct. That is, no two children are the same. Some children (like your daughter# give up the bottle at 12 months; others keep drinking from a bottle until age three #or later#. Your son likes routine,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 Boy Doing Odd Things At Preschool, odd things, little pieces
odd things, little pieces, top of my head: Hello Michael, I am glad you are looking for ideas, I know it can feel disheartening and upsetting to think your child could be acting as a bully, especially when you are gentle and kind towards him. I am going to give you a suggestion off the top of my head....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3.5 year old biting, daycare, facing the wall
daycare, facing the wall, three year olds: Hi TC, I do think you are on the right track with dealing with this by doing what you are doing with her facing the wall or taking away what they or she was perhaps fighting over. The only other thing to offer is a sticker or reward system if she goes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: almost 3 year old hates grandparents, minor incident, pressing matters
minor incident, pressing matters, apparent reason: Hello Michelle, Sorry for the long delay in responding to your question. I ve been caught up in other pressing matters. Toddlers frequently develop fears for no apparent reason. It is possible that an incident occurred for your daughter at their house...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old looking at genitals, james windell, curiosity
james windell, curiosity, parents: Hello Kris, It sounds like normal three-year-old (or four or five or six, etc.) curiosity. Children are very curious about the bodies of other children; especially the bodies of the opposite sex. Telling her to never do it again, is probably not going...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old refusing time outs at daycare, battle of the wills, temper tantrum
battle of the wills, temper tantrum, physical struggle: Hello Angie, Sorry for the long delay in responding to your question. I ve gotten caught up in other pressing events in my life and have not been able to answer All-Experts questions as quickly as I would have liked. I have several suggestions for the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3-year old repeating self, repetitive talking, preschooler
repetitive talking, preschooler: Natalie- hmmmmmmm......I am not real sure what to answer here. Repetitious behavior is an ear mark of autism and some other developmental delays, but it could also be in reaction to a change in family structure after the new baby. I know you said it started...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr. Old daughter's recent obsession with smelling Mother's armpits., james windell, three year olds
james windell, three year olds, armpits: Hello Jamie, Many two- and three-year-olds develop obsessions about many things. We usually don t know how or why these obsessions develop, although we can guess at times. For instance, I would guess that she accidently got a whiff of your deodorant and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old boy who is out of control, food allergy, repetitive behaviors
food allergy, repetitive behaviors, narrow selection: Hello Kim, The things you mention about your three-year-old son do not seem so unusual. However, when you feel that a child is controlling the household, then most likely some changes need to be made. First, though, it is very common for toddlers to prefer...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3YR OLD DAUGHTER, sleep time, bit by bit
sleep time, bit by bit, down time: Hi Tiffany What time do you put your daughter to bed in her bedroom? What time is she actually falling asleep? What time does she wake up in the morning? Sorry for all the questions but it will help in assessing what the problem is. Some children aren...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yearoldgirl, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior: Angela- thank you for the question. The answer I m going with here is if it feels good, do it . She s probably just figured out that doing that feels pretty good so why not? What I would do is that when you see her doing it just go in and lightly tell...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6-month old cries constantly, physical distress, attention span
physical distress, attention span, high maintenance: Hi Sarah, You re welcome. Most children, no matter how difficult their infant years or toddler years, grow up to be healthy children, teens, or adults. But every child has different needs and an agenda that is perhaps different from the fantasy agenda...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ability to speek, two year olds, eleanor
two year olds, eleanor, grandmother: Hi Cheryl, It is not uncommon for some two year olds (especially boys) not to speak so I would not be too conerned and he is saying mama which is a start. Keeping in mind he is not two yet either, I have a 27 month old who does not talk and only recently...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggressive toddlers, drastic change, time outs
drastic change, time outs, inappropriate behavior: Hi Trisha, I am sure this is a difficult situation. Since the consequences you have tried have not been effective, he must be getting something more powerful for the behavior. Some kids can get onto a negative spiral and use inappropriate behavior to obtain...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Child crying at night, night time music, mama mama
night time music, mama mama, night question: Yes you are doing it just fine..keep up your reasurance with gentle touches and yes children need s security object like a stuffed animal or blanket at night..usually until they are 3 or 4 years old...the music is a good thing Merry Christmas, keep up the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Childs behavior, withholding bowel movements, pull ups
withholding bowel movements, pull ups, sweet little girl: Hello Tammy, There is likely a combination of factors leading to withholding bowel movements and urine. That combination may include the sluggish bowel, the enema, and the emphasis you have placed on her going to to the toilet regularly. So, in part -- perhaps...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Curiosity, stick person, intelligent children
stick person, intelligent children, casual manner: Hello Ada, I can understand your concern. Yet, this is not a concern that should cause you either distress or anger. Intelligent children will be curious about their own bodies and the bodies of others. This is human nature to try to understand how bodies...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: challenges with my 7year old, apology letters, logic workshop
apology letters, logic workshop, guilty conscience: Dear Renee, after reading your inquiry, it s clear you have an intellectual understanding of logic based discipline. The principles stay the same for all ages of development. They are, Children learn from making mistakes so parents can view problems that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child behavior, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, aggressive behaviors: Hello Angela, Your son s behavior sounds like the typical behavior of two-year-olds. To a two-year-old, scratching, grabbing glasses, or doing other things which we might see as aggressive are simply play to them. They do not understand that scratching...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child not listening, lack of sleep, half year
lack of sleep, half year, time and space: Hi Tara Does he go happily to his room or at least stay in there? I would say this is okay for him to use timeout in his room to play and calm down. If he is happy to be there and it lessens the stress or frustration which is why he may be acting out...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: children hurting infants, james windell, infant brother
james windell, infant brother, four year olds: Hello Kathryn, Young children often do many things that are malicious and seem to be unusual or abnormal. However, it is not unusual to want to hurt younger children. I would suggest you stopping asking why he does things. Four-year-olds don t know any...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: control between mom and 2-1/2 year old, temper tantrum, anger issues
temper tantrum, anger issues, jungle book: Happy Birthday Rachel! May I suggest when you find a moment when both you and your daughter are in a good mood you tell her your intent by supporting her and sadly she is not very fun to live with. Tell her you would sure like to see her make an effort...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Exhausting 14 month old, sleeping, acting out
sleeping, acting out: Dear Melissa, I can hear your pain and your exhaustion in your writing of this e-mail. First I suggest you get him to his doctor and have him screened to determine where he is in his developmental progression. See if he is approximately where he needs...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr. Old daughter's recent obsession with smelling Mother's armpits., armpits, ocd
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr. Old daughter's recent obsession with smelling Mother's armpits., armpits, ocd, crotch

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Pinching, baby sitter, eye contact
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Pinching, baby sitter, eye contact, babysitter

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unread answers, parents
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unread answers, parents

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Grandaughter, race against the clock, granddaughter
race against the clock, granddaughter, pant: Hi Jackie, I have recommended to some people to try and play a game with their children, a race against the clock so if the mother sets a timer for 10 minutes and the daughter has to try to get dressed in this time to win a prize or simply be the winner of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: grandsons hitting and throwing at women in his life, women in his life, grandsons
women in his life, grandsons, tantrums: Hi Linda, He is quite young and it would be interesting to try to find what is leading up to these tantrums or outbursts, is he tired, hungry or frustrated that he cannot express what he wants or angry that he doesn t get what he wants. There must be a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Kindergarten for 18months old babies, kindergarten system, daycare
kindergarten system, daycare, moulding: I would be careful in making sure that everything threy have is non-toxic because children at that age are always putting things in their mouths. If this is a daycare that you are enrolling your child in, try talking to other parents (set up a time to meet...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Will not nap without me, bedtime routine, oh my goodness
bedtime routine, oh my goodness, 2 girls: Hi Tanya, You re right about parenting being tiring. Toddlers can tire you very quickly! With a toddler you have to be aware of them every second they re awake! I don t think you should start two transitions at the same time. Work on the sleep problem...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: night waking 6 months old, infants and toddlers, dear james
infants and toddlers, dear james, shorter periods: Hello Jennifer, Many infants and toddlers wake up during the night. And for some children night time awakening goes on from infancy into the toddler years. However, the great danger for parents is to reinforce the wakings. That is, you should keep any...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Pinching, toddler, pinching
toddler, pinching: Sarada- thank you for the question. I ve been thinking. I do not usually work with the little ones with developmental delays so it took some extra thoughts. This is going to sound cruel, but have you tried pinching him lightly and saying no when you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty, proteins, holly
proteins, holly, medications: Huma- thank you for the question. It doesn t sound normal. Is she taking any medication? Some medications will change the color of urine. Some foods that are being ingested may also do the same. I would check in with a doctor if I were you. It s possible...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Re-introducing mother into childs life, mom and dad, life question
mom and dad, life question, safety concern: Hello Ginger, I think you might have an agreement with your daughter that she can come to live with you but if you get any indication that she cannot maintain a sober life style that she has to go into a rehab program. You don t know at this point whether...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Response to another child scratching, biting mine, aggressive child, daycare
aggressive child, daycare, gouges: Hello Tiffany, Usually I get questions from the parent of the aggressive child rather than the parent of the victim. You re raising a good question and I think there are two approaches you can take. Since you are being really reasonable about this and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Shared Parenting, parenting arrangement, child out of wedlock
parenting arrangement, child out of wedlock, shared parenting: You are right but he won t believe you...you must get a professiional to back you up...like a teacher or doctor or early childhood professional...even a church person perhaps. Also you must be sure he can provide for her exactly and properly...being interested...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sipper for 2 yr old, sipper, happy new year
sipper, happy new year, doing the right thing: Dear Anou, I have had many questions from you over the last year. I want you to learn to trust yourself as a mother. Your daughter will be just fine. Whether or not you choose to giver her a sippee cup or not. Your fear is what is keeping you from relaxing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleep problems, travel cot, nap time
travel cot, nap time, new routine: Hello Julia, Toddlers often suddenly and apparently for no particular reason develop new sleep problems. Your job is to not change the routine you ve established and to calmly and patiently (I know you can be a very patient, mom, right?# help her go back...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: what to say to a 3yr old, children, parental visitation
children, parental visitation: Melissa- thank you for the question. I always go with the honesty is the best policy routine. I would be totally honest with her. Let her know that daddy has his own house and that she will go see him soon. You can make a calendar of sorts to help...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: seperation anxiety and anxiety about new change or situation or person, partner teachers, present school
partner teachers, present school, christmas songs: Dear Hema, Thank you for your detailed mail, I am sure this is of great concern and does impact on your day as much as your daughter s day. I have looked up separation anxiety on the web and found something that I think may be helpful for you to try and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my son, toddler, sleep habits
toddler, sleep habits: Phil- thank you for the question. My first response is to really not worry about molestation. Kids do things because they like them and they feel good. He s probably done it once by accident and realized the sensation felt good, which is why he does...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler asking me the same thing again and again, school tests, language issues
school tests, language issues, quot: Hi Michelle, I m interested to know what she does when you mention you and your husband are trying to talk? Does she ask for something or repeat what you both are saying or is she simply interrupting the conversation? I do think that she is realising...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: is TV safe...+laptop, american academy of pediatrics, capable children
american academy of pediatrics, capable children, proper guidance: Hi Veenu, There is almost no research about preschool children and computers; and there is no research related to infant and toddler exposure to computers and computer screens. Given that, it is best to err on the side of caution. That is, since we don...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: teaching young child respect, personality type, good behaviour
personality type, good behaviour, good behavior: Hi Regina, This is a difficult one as it is hard to know what is terrible two s behaviour and something he may grow out of and what is not? From a pure behaviour perspective, I would be saying that any time he hits or kicks or acts out at home, you need...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler scared to have a bath, swim ear, nose clip
swim ear, nose clip, iput: Don t panic. I have been the same way all my life. My daughters are, too. My son likes the water now, but is only a year old. I don t know what causes it, I have been told to see a hypnotist for it as I won t swim, and don t like rain much either. For me,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: trichotillamania, mental health specialist, infant mental health
mental health specialist, infant mental health, anxiety levels: Dear Shannon, I doubt you can control this in your child anymore than anyone else. However, I strongly encourage giving her massages to lower her anxiety levels. Also, what does her doctor say? If you are not able to control it in yourself, I would not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unread answers, late at night, questions and answers
late at night, questions and answers, wisdom: Hello Elizabeth, Welcome to All-Experts. Frankly, I never check to see if my answers are read. Of course, I d like them to be read and treasured, but I know realistically that isn t going to happen. I, also, know that many of the questions come in late...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My two year old runs the house, stay at home mom, learning disability
stay at home mom, learning disability, nothing works: Dear Lindsey, Firstly, most two year olds are demanding of time and it will be this way for a little while. It sounds like your older children accept this and compromise in order to keep the peace. I don t know about the star charts at this time it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my two year old son, bang pots, kitchen cupboards
bang pots, kitchen cupboards, dresser drawers: Hello JerryC, Of course, I don t know your son and haven t seen him or been able to observe him over time, but your description of him tells me that he is a bright, inquisitive, and probably very normal child. His behaviors are the typical behaviors of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 11 month old, toddler, dressing
toddler, dressing, fights: Kathy- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. My youngest was very sick and I was not able to get to my computer. Sounds like someone is trying to assert their independence and control! Dressing fights are pretty...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Getting an 11 month old to nap, infant, sleep patterns
infant, sleep patterns, napping: Jean- thank you for the question. What a tricky one. What you can do is start weaning her away from you slowly. Try the first day doing the nap on the boppy pillow on your lap, then the next day try the boppy pillow next to you on the bed, then take...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 17 month old gets scared, cries and then vomits, james windell, calming techniques
james windell, calming techniques, doctors office: Hello Angelique, Toddlers throughout the years from ages one to three or four often develop intense fears. Being afraid of the doctor and the doctor s office, of course, is not so unreasonable -- after all, that s where they get injections. As with any...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 year old "extreme" tantrums., temper tantrums, extreme madness
temper tantrums, extreme madness, couple examples: Hello Michelle, As you know, temper tantrums are common for two-year-olds. However, these severe tantrums started right after he had the flu. Therefore, I think they are a reaction to his illness. That is, a 5-day illness can be very upsetting for a young...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 yr old with I Do, temper tantrum, terrible twos
temper tantrum, terrible twos, tantrums: Good work Mama! I use my microwave time quite a bit as well. I like to set timers for the age of the child- so for mine and yours it would be for two minutes. We use it for clean up time to do a two minute tidy, two minutes until nap time or bedtime,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 2 year old is scared of the dark, bedtime routine, glow light
bedtime routine, glow light, glows: Dear Katie: She is 2 years old. She could be scared of the shadows. She doesn t have the mental capacity yet to tell herself that they are just shadows and they seem too real to her. Continue to soothe her and reassure her that she is safe. I would...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old sleeping habit, toddler, sleep habits
toddler, sleep habits, night waking: Dan- thank you for the question. Kids at this age are perfectly capable of having dreams and nightmares. It s even been shown in studies that a fetus, while in the womb, can dream! So it is possible that your daughter is having some sort of nightmare...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 year old son - anger vomiting, crying, mommy mommy, bedtime ritual
mommy mommy, bedtime ritual, little miracle: Hello Phillip, A lot of toddlers, as it turns out, can get so upset or angry that they vomit almost at will. But, for the most part this is learned behavior. And you have to take a learning approach (or a behavioral approach) to solving it. In other words,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 yr old seems to prefer an adults company, dear summer, family changes
dear summer, family changes, single mom: Dear Summer What your son probably loves is the attention of adults, and that is normal for twos...they are not really interested in peers yet, and won t want to play with others until age 3-4. Yes, he is apt to be even more needy for attention during this...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 yr old son's wild tantrums., temper tantrums, private place
temper tantrums, private place, tantrum: Hello Jae, All toddlers around the age of two have temper tantrums. It is best not to give into these tantrums by giving him what he wants. You can tell him that he doesn t get what he wants when he is crying and screaming. Tell him that when he stops...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 22 mo old son.., pots and pans, child proof
pots and pans, child proof, parents and children: Hello Mandy, Did someone tell you that two-year-olds listen and mind? If they did, it s obvious they never had a two-year-old or they have a serious case of amnesia! Your son is completely normal. But I realize parents have this need to have well-behaved...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2yr and 6yr old humping, inappropriate times, active family
inappropriate times, active family, home mom: Hello Vanessa, In general I agree with the advice given. The idea is to not tell the child she is being bad or wrong. Just that there are inappropriate times and places to do things. That should be the first goal of the mother; to teach the six-year-old...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old daycare aggression, anger issues, verbal expression
anger issues, verbal expression, daycare provider: Hello Dana, Of course, you re right. The best place to handle this kind of behavior is where it happens. That is at school. A good question for the daycare provider would be: What are you doing to help him with his behavior? However, as with many daycares,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old seems difficult?, music trucks, lunch boxes
music trucks, lunch boxes, mom and dad: Hello Paula, I don t see anything abnormal in what you told me about your son. Lots of little boys and girls act just like your son. Shouldn t he want to do what he is told? Of course, he should. Wouldn t it be wonderful if our children always did exactly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3.5 year old bully?, vocabulary problem, baby walk
vocabulary problem, baby walk, wits end: Hello Kay, I doubt there is anything wrong with your child. Lots of toddlers and preschoolers act like this. And I doubt that she will grow up to be a bully. And I certainly don t think she is evil. You are right, though. You must watch her like a hawk....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 Year Old Behavior Question, afternoon naps, 3 year old behavior
afternoon naps, 3 year old behavior, behavior question: Dear Jul, A third child can be challenging and time consuming especially when there is a fairly large age gap. Your daughter is probably getting more attention from her siblings when they are around and thus it makes her more needy when they aren t there,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior, acting out: Jessica- thank you for the question. At three they are still testing boundaries and seeing where everything lies and how much power they have in this world. It sounds like she s really testing your boundaries. What I suggest is to be pretty firm with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old acting out towards her dad, tantrum, grandma's house
tantrum, grandma's house, won't leave: Dear Danielle, Since we are communicating over the Internet, it s impossible for me to know with certainty the details of your situation. So, please keep in mind that you are the one who is there and must stay on top of things. I ll go over some theoretical...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old behavior problems, emergency c section, temper tantrums
emergency c section, temper tantrums, high functioning autism: Hello Jill, Your son is not so different from other toddlers who have temper tantrums and throw a fit when they don t get their own way. Obviously, the worse possible thing is to give in to these angry outbursts because that tends to reinforce them --...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old horrible tantrums, temper tantrums, language and understanding
temper tantrums, language and understanding, puffy eyes: Hello Michelle, Children are different. All of us who have had more than one child certainly realize this. You are seeing the same thing. And it doesn t mean you are doing anything wrong. Your daughter is much different from your son. There are a combination...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3mo. old sleep, infant sleep patterns, night wakings
infant sleep patterns, night wakings: Charlie- thank you for the question. I think she would be fine at any time to go to her own room. It s more of a question as to when you are ready. :) Move her any time you like. As far as the napping goes, have you tried swaddling her like she s...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old, mommy and daddy, intelligent boy
mommy and daddy, intelligent boy, daycare: Hello Jennifer, It sounds like your son is curious about bodies. In addition, he may have a lot of curiosity about sexuality and where babies come from. It s very common for young children to explore bodies with siblings and friends. They make up all sorts...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old starting school, few good friends, kindergarten teacher
few good friends, kindergarten teacher, time outs: Hi Jenny, It would sound like a simple settling in issue and pushing the boundaries or testing what he can and cannot do in this new environment. If he has settled in day care, he is probably just seeing where his place is in the new class and hopefully...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old withh learning problems, child developmental delays, psychologist psychiatrist
child developmental delays, psychologist psychiatrist, giberish: Mike, It definitely sounds like you are frustrated. My suggestion based on what you are describing is to have your son evaluated by a physician. His language skills, behavior, and his toileting skills all seem to be lagging based on what you are describing....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old anger management, school psychologist, management question
school psychologist, management question, sensitive child: Hi Lynn, Time-out is often over used; as if it s the only discipline/consequence anyone can think of these days. However, for the behavior he is displaying at school, which as I understand it, is mostly verbal, ignoring is probably the best way to handle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: afraid of dad, bedtime, kay
bedtime, kay, dad: Dear Katryna; I suggest adjusting her bedtime so that he can spend more time with her. Then I suggest that this time is spent with both of you at first so that you can encourage her to interact with him. Take your time as she needs time to make the adjustment....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: anger issues with my 15 month son, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, how to deal with frustration: Hello Kerrie, Since your son is a toddler, it is expected that he will have temper tantrums. Every toddlers has angry outbursts as they learn to deal with frustration and with the rules that are now imposed on him as he moves around more. However, in view...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cannot get my anwser, mail addres, private question
mail addres, private question, anwser: Connie- I hope you were able to retrieve your mail. I got a rating response so I think you were finally able to. If not, you can go onto the site, to my section and look at past asked questions and answers and should be able to see it there. If it was...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: attention seekers, privacy, independence in children
privacy, independence in children: Audra- Thanks for the question. I am wondering the same thing myself! One thing I thought of, and I will be honest and say I stole the idea from SuperNanny, was to use a street light system. You can do this a couple of ways. One way is to make a green...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby sitting a 3 year old- Who throws huge temper tantrums, temper tantrums, taking medicine
temper tantrums, taking medicine, three year olds: Hi Megan, You are the babysitter and she is probably testing the boundaries to see how far she can go, however, there is still the issue that her parents are away so that in itself is unsettling for her and the culmination of the two things is probably influencing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Am I a bad mother?, bad mother, bedtime
bad mother, bedtime, dora: Hello Tammy, This is not about you being a bad mother. I don t think you are a bad mother, by the way. It is about training her to sleep at night. Many toddlers, and your daughter may be one such toddler, get off their schedule with even one night at grandma...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime, dear anne, soft music
dear anne, soft music, soft toy: Dear Anne, Dont worry abou this. She can easily get down on her but anytime she wants to. She will just let go and sit, or use the bed to help herself down. Keep up your routine and be sure to say it is bedtime now while you get her ready. If you add a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavioural problems, odd time, behavioural problems
odd time, behavioural problems, bad behaviour: Hello Marie, Such behavior is not uncommon with toddlers. You just need to go back to basics and by doing this you will get some control and feel more effective as a parent. Here s the way you begin: 1. Stop the punishment, except when he has been aggressive...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Clingy 15 month old toddler, separation anxiety, play group
separation anxiety, play group, cup of tea: Dear Kim At 15 months this is really getting old...yes. I am so sorry and have to say that this separation anxiety does not usually last a long time like this. Please google separation anxiety to see if you can get any help from another source. I would...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Constipated and gassy baby, milk protein allergy, american academy of pediatricians
milk protein allergy, american academy of pediatricians, introducing solids: Thank you for the question! The first thing I m going to address is starting solids with your baby. Unless otherwise recommended by your baby s pediatrician, in most cases it is not recommended that you start solids of any type (including juices) until...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: choking, going upstairs, specialist doctors
going upstairs, specialist doctors, niece: Dear Tracy, Have you asked him what is going on? Often we miss the obvious by not communicating with our children first. Then if you can t get to the bottom of the issue by all means contact a specialist. Doctors often are not specialized in children s...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: communication skills delay in toddler, colors and shapes, developmental delay
colors and shapes, developmental delay, water play: Hello RJ, I think that while your son is communicating appropriately in some ways there is enough here to be concerned about his development in terms of communication. Therefore, I d suggest that you have him evaluated by an experienced child psychologist....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crib mattress, crib mattresses, crib mattress
crib mattresses, crib mattress, baby s r us: Thanks for the question. As a parent I can tell you that we used the same crib mattress for all four of our children because it remained in good condition. To my knowledge the rules that govern crib mattresses have not changed since we purchased our first...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My Daughter, violent anger, time outs
violent anger, time outs, two year olds: Hello Brittany, I m sorry to hear that this is so stressful for you. However, let me assure you that your daughter will probably be fine. And you have not exhausted all your options. I would suggest that you read back through other emails I ve sent to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline, Communication, Patience, Nothing Works!, healthy foods, vicious cycle
healthy foods, vicious cycle, infancy: Hello Jill, Your daughter is barely out of infancy. Many young toddlers like your daughter still want to be held all the time and want to eat on demand. And some children between the ages of one and two are still very dependent and attached to their primary...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: no dad, 3 year olds, first thought
3 year olds, first thought, little ones: Beth, Thank you for the question. I can only imagine how tough this is for you. My first thought is for you to actually get in touch with her father and let him know that she is now asking where her father is. While he may not want to take responsibility...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: discipline, 14 month old, time out
14 month old, time out, understands no: Dear Angie, He must be so adorable. At 14 months of age, they are just babies. It would NEVER work to use time out on a child of that age. Plus, time out rarely is an effective tool. So, what s happening is that your son is simply craving your attention....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Emotional 3 year old, james windell, emotional reactivity
james windell, emotional reactivity, emotional event: Hello Jasmine, Parents are more likely to see this sort of emotional reactivity to everything at around two and a half. So, you ve had a reprieve for six months, but now you have to live through it. Toddlerhood is a somewhat more emotional experience for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: emerging strange language pattern, social phobia, annoying habit
social phobia, annoying habit, daycare: Dear Carol, Sorry but I have never, in my own 40 years in the field, heard of this particular speech/behavior problem. Surely the speech specialists would know what causes it or be able to help you. You did not say what she is to be tested on, or what...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ex and his family ruining my hard work?, disablity, bad mouth
disablity, bad mouth, type questions: Dear Megan, Unfotunately, unless you get a lawyer and get it changed, you have to go with and live with whatever the court or judge said were the terms of the divorce. I am not sure if you could get social services to look into his finances to see if he...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Feedback on cot training, bedtime routine, sleep at night
bedtime routine, sleep at night, hubby: Thanks for writing back again- and I am glad to hear that you all are getting much more sleep at night. I think that once your husband is back home if you will continue what you have been doing that you won t have much change. You may want to try yourself...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Getting an 11 month old to nap, deep sleep, naps
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Getting an 11 month old to nap, deep sleep, naps, nap

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old daycare aggression, aggressive children, montessori school
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old daycare aggression, aggressive children, montessori school, day care

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old seems difficult?, early childhood education, degree in early childhood education
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old seems difficult?, early childhood education, degree in early childhood education, degree in early childhood

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old acting out towards her dad, loving environment, feeling safe
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old acting out towards her dad, loving environment, feeling safe, grandchildren

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old behavior problems, loud noises, daily routine
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old behavior problems, loud noises, daily routine, family doctor

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old horrible tantrums, blood tests, tantrums
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old horrible tantrums, blood tests, tantrums, tactic

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Am I a bad mother?, graco playpen, night terror
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Am I a bad mother?, graco playpen, night terror, mesh sides

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Restless Infant, avail, parents
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Restless Infant, avail, parents

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Violent child, two year olds, short time
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Violent child, two year olds, short time, parents

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: fear of choking, psychology clinic, jamers
psychology clinic, jamers, s hospital: Hello Marcy, It sounds like your granddaughter may have anxiety issues in general. You might start by taking her to the psychology clinic at either Children s Medical Center in Dallas or the Cook Children s Hospital in Fort Worth. Best, Jamers Windel...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do you feel on this subject?, james windell, anxieties
james windell, anxieties, judgment: Hello Sharon, I don t know if passing judgment is the concern here. However, if a woman says she doesn t trust herself with her child, then this is a serious concern and the woman needs professional help. Many parents are afraid of saying they are fearful...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Growth Spurt?, growth spurt, magical age
growth spurt, magical age, hungry boy: Thanks for the question. It does sound very much like your son is having a growth spurt. That tends to happen at about 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 12 weeks, and so on. But those are just average ages- a spurt can happen atany time. I think you would be on the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Help with my 3 year old, temper tantrums, daycare
temper tantrums, daycare, calm voice: Dear Rebecca; Sounds like your daughter is having some anxiety around separation from you during the day. I suggest looking at your daily routine to see if it is consistent and predictable. I am not talking about scheduling. Schedules are all about...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Help with 5 year old, preschool class, monday mornings
preschool class, monday mornings, chapter books: Hello Maggie, Of course, your son could be making this up, but I tend to doubt it. I would suggest that you try to learn more about possible problems for your son in this class. Maybe when you meet with the teacher you can subtly ask about some of her practices...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Lengthening short naps, infant, sleep patterns
infant, sleep patterns, napping: M- thank you for the question. Does she stay asleep when the swing stops or does she wake up? If she stays asleep, try letting her fall back to sleep in the swing and then moving her. I see nothing wrong with her sleeping in the swing occasionally if...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Low water intake, baby bottle tooth decay, bottle tooth decay
baby bottle tooth decay, bottle tooth decay, long periods: Dear Anou, This is not my area of expertise...It is your child s doctor who should help with this question. Perhaps a nuitrtionist could also help you...You dont say if you use a bottle or sippy cup...maybe one or the other might help...Water is the best...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Milk rejection by my 3yr old, toddler, milk aversion
toddler, milk aversion: Subha- thank you for the question. I am going through this with my youngest right now. It is frustrating since both my other daughter and I are big milk drinkers. I discussed the situation with my pediatrician and here is what she suggested: Get the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Mood Swings, short attention span, positive reinforcement
short attention span, positive reinforcement, nap time: Jonathan- Thank you for your question. First, is it normal for an 11 month old to have mood swings? Absolutely! First of all, remember that at this age your baby s attention span is very, very short. She will become frustrated very easily, tired very...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Nightly crying, infant sleep patterns, night wakings
infant sleep patterns, night wakings: Shari- thank you for the question. Poor little mite! Well, because of the heart issues I m a bit more leery of letting him cry it out. I agree with your husband to an extent, see if he needs a snack before bed (like infant cereal and formula or a nursing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: normal or not, james windell, child rearing
james windell, child rearing, yell: Hello Robert, It s very difficult to give child-rearing advice to your spouse, but your wife needs some help with her son. You might ask her if she d like some help or suggestions in stopping the boy s screaming and hitting her. If she says yes, then you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: normal or not, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior, acting out: Robert- Thank you for the question. I see nothing wrong with being old school . That s how my husband and I parent. I don t think your step-son is too young for time out either. He needs to understand that his behavior is not acceptable. Mom needs...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty Training, confidence issue, stomach bug
confidence issue, stomach bug, toilet training: Sj- Thank you for the question- and the first thing you need to set aside is trying to compare yourself with other mums. I have four children mysef, and one thing I have learned is that each child is individual- and other mothers use their children s accomplishments...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Problems falling asleep, bedtime routine, seperate room
bedtime routine, seperate room, occasional night: Dear Christy, You have been doing everything right. You might try reading Vicki Lansky s book Getting Your Child to Sleep and Back to Sleep (bookpeddlers.com) just in case there is some clue or insight in there that might apply. You have probably tried...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty issues, toddler, bathroom
toddler, bathroom, training: Steph- thank you for the question. I am sorry it took me so long to get back to you! I think you could probably relax a little bit on the needing to be trained right now. Give it some time and see if she relaxes. You could try again periodically and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training, potty training, timing
potty training, timing: Cherisse- thank you for the question. Every kid is different in when they are ready to start. If she s showing interest in you going and is telling you that she s gone in her diaper I say go for it. Get her a little potty, or seat adaptor and start taking...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: preschool, james windell, those kids
james windell, those kids, mom: Hello DIPA, I m sorry to hear that your child cries before school every day. I would suggest you read some of my recent answers to other parents with similar problems. However, be aware that children who stop crying as soon as you leave and then have a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Regression with potty training....HELP!, daycare, vivid imagination
daycare, vivid imagination, happy child: Hi Helen, It is very difficult when children are advanced as they may not have the capacity emotionally to deal with the pressures of being with the older children that he will be exposed to now. I would say the regression in potty training and his crying...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Restless Infant, infant, sleep movement
infant, sleep movement, thrashing: Jeffrey- thank you for the question. I ll be totally honest and say that I ve not heard of this before. One thing I thought of is that she is more mobile now and she could be stretching those limbs in her sleep while dreaming and is practicing. If it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: re: bedtime, bedtime ritual, rituals
bedtime ritual, rituals, evelyn: Hi Barb. This is normal. Your daughter is using the rocking as part of her bedtime ritual ...children need routies and rituals for bedtime to feel secure and comfortable. You can start to change her routine if you do not like rocking her, by reading her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: regarding potty colour, leafy green vegetables, green bowel movements
leafy green vegetables, green bowel movements, kool aid: Bala, Thank you for your question. I am going to assume that you are worried about her bowel movements being green, and not her urine. If her urine is green in color then you need to have the doctor check her out as very few things will change the color...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sensory, james windell, speech delay
james windell, speech delay, sensory input: Hello Laurie, Your son sounds like a normal, active toddler to me. Toddlers love all sorts of experiences. They like to run, jump, touch, throw, and explore. They like to cuddle and they like to be touched. Just because his speech may be somewhat delayed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Seperation Anxiety at Bedtime, talking time, time tomorrow
talking time, time tomorrow, few suggestions: Hello Veronica, I m going to assume a couple of things. One assumption is that this has been going on for at least a few weeks. A second assumption is that you try to be a good, responsive mother by talking to her about her fears and anxieties; you do lots...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Speech delay or normal development?, face muscles, ball clock
face muscles, ball clock, development question: Hello Jen, Thanks for providing me more information. Based on the new information you ve sent me, it would appear there are some language delays. At this age, he should be saying more words and he should be able to at least try some words. For instance,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Stranger Anxiety?, stranger anxiety, toddler
stranger anxiety, toddler: Pat- thank you for the question. It does sound like stranger anxiety but I cannot be sure. I ve not dealt with stranger anxiety with my kids so I cannot really say. What I do think is that they might need to check in with a doctor just to make sure nothing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: separation anxiety /tantrum, kay lee, separation anxiety
kay lee, separation anxiety, mommy and daddy: Hello Kay Lee, His tantrums might be related to separation anxiety, but this is not the age when it is common for there to be separation anxiety issues. However, only children often get so accustomed to getting the full attention of adults, they may not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler wakes crying, james windell, restful sleep
james windell, restful sleep, bed pillow: Hello Laurie, Because of temperament, some children will awaken with difficulty or crankiness from night-time sleeping. But it is uncommon for this to happen just after naps. My guess would be that the problem may be the type of sleep he is getting during...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Is this Trauma?, car chair, happy child
car chair, happy child, breaking glass: Hi MG, She is dealing with the trauma so she must be given a certain amount of leeway in recovering. But I think you deal with some of her behaviors as if this event didn t happen. That is, a temper tantrum should be handled like you should handle a tantrum...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Trouble falling to sleep, toddler, sleep habits
toddler, sleep habits, night waking: Christy- thank you for the question. One thing that you can try, if you are not already, is to try getting her wound down for sleep about a half hour to an hour prior to her bedtime. Start calming her down, reading books, taking a bath, having a last...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler behavior, stay at home mom, child psychologist
stay at home mom, child psychologist, sweet little girl: Hello Aubrey, Let s start with breakfast. How would your husband handle it? I m guessing that you re saying to yourself: He d put them in front of her and if she got up and left the table, the pancakes would be removed. Why spend all that time trying...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler chew problem, little chunks, pedeatrician
little chunks, pedeatrician, household work: Dear Simmy, Slowly introduce little chunks. Mash food with a fork rather than puree the food. She may not like the texture but after a day or two she will eat it and hopefully after a week you can introduce small bits of corn or peas or soft fruit chopped...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler defecation, james windell, strong willed child
james windell, strong willed child, potty chair: Hello Amber, Toddlers do this -- unfortunately for parents! Usually it just happens a few times and then stops. For toddlers playing in their poop is fun and they certainly don t look at it the same way we do. I think indicating your disapproval for the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler dislikes preschool, free choice time, discipline policy
free choice time, discipline policy, group times: Dear Kat I assume you mean you are taking him to preschool and not to a child care center which you might have to do because you work full time. It is possible that the probable reason your child cries is that he is not ready to go to a structured preschool...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Violent child, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior, acting out: Dale- ummmm..it s hard to say. It could be something he will outgrow, it could be a sign of something further. I d have to really watch him and make observations to say more. You can always recommend a screening with early childhood places like Easter...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Whole Milk, brain tissue, whole milk
brain tissue, whole milk, protective covering: Thank you for the question. It sounds like your son isn t tolerating the switch to whole milk that well since he is more gassy and irritable since you have trying to change. It could be that he is lactose intolerant, or it could just be the introduction...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Just weird.. don't know what to think, imaginary friends, threes
imaginary friends, threes, imaginary friend: Dear Yesenia, Don t worry about this, and don t over react. You see, many threes, especially bright children with good imaginations and language skills, often have imaginary friends. Perhaps she is starting to have one too. Threes often carry on conversations...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 10 month old won't sleep through the night!!, heather heather, great vigor
heather heather, great vigor, neighbors: Heather, Thank you for the question, and let me assure you I can understand your frustration. First of all- quit worrying about your neighbors. They may be able to hear your son, but until they actually complain, don t let that worry you. You are likely...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 15 month old son, james windell, private area
james windell, private area, distraction: Hello Michael, There should absolutely be no concern about a child touching himself. Your son is a toddler; he is learning about his body (as well as just about everything else in his environment). The way he will learn is by touching, feeling, looking,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 years old behavior, james windell, sensitive child
james windell, sensitive child, indirect approach: Hello Chris, Your daughter may be a very sensitive child who is easily wounded by indications she has hurt someone. Okay, I know it s inconsistent that she then hurts you more, however, toddlers are rarely consistent. It may be best to stop play with her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 23 month won't sleep, room darkening curtains, naps
room darkening curtains, naps, bedtime: Thank you for your question, and I apologize for the delay in answering you. I also can understand your frustration at this as my youngest has only recently begun to be a good sleeper. My first suggestion for you regarding the waking up so early is to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2yr old, Wont go to sleep, night terrors, permanent change
night terrors, permanent change, sleeps 10: Megan, Thank you for the question. I think from reading the history with your daughter that the culprit is your move. You daughter possibly to begin with was fascinated by a new location, but now the new has worn off, and she likely misses her old bedroom...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3-1/2 year old behavior, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, temper tantrum: Hello Sud, If you have trained her to expect to get what she wants every time she cries, whines, or throws a temper tantrum, then she will continue to do this. At this point, you are going to have to bite the bullet and train her in a different way. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 y/o refusing to do avtivities that she has always enjoyed., two little girls, confident child
two little girls, confident child, achievment: Samantha, Thank you for the question. My immediate thought as I am reading all the information you have shared is that something has happened while she was away from you. It may have occurred while she was at a play group, but for whatever reason she...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old son, discipline and punishment, consistent environment
discipline and punishment, consistent environment, pullups: Hello Stacy, We know why he has regressed in his toileting behaviors and why he has become more aggressive and angry. Anytime a toddler has two such major things happen at about the same time in his life -- moving to new state and a new house and his father...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 31 months old toddler, mama and papa, developmental screening
mama and papa, developmental screening, pediatrician: Faiza, Thank you for the question. First of all, I don t think you allowing him to watch TV has delayed his speech. So rest easy and don t heap guilt upon yourself for having allowed so much TV. But to address your concern, I think that you are wise...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 31 months old toddler, mama and papa, speech development
mama and papa, speech development, child development: Hello Faiza, Many young children point to let adults know what they want. You can t always give in to this. When he points, you should say, Tell me what you want. If he doesn t say the word (let s use the example of him wanting juice) juice, then you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 31 months toddler, preschool, speech
preschool, speech: Faiza- thank you for the question. I do not believe that the television had too much to do with his speech delays. It sounds like he has the concepts of speech down, just not sure how to implement them. I think the jealousy is normal for that age. Make...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Almost 3yrs & Has Daily Tantrums, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior, acting out: Erin- thank you for the question. My almost three year old is quite similar. I agree, some days it s like you just look at them wrong and they go off. What I do is pick her up and remove her to her room and partially close the door. She is told she...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: is 3yrs old too young for my son to be away from me for a month with his father?, james windell, going to mexico
james windell, going to mexico, mini cam: Hello Heather, I don t think there is any evidence that a child of about three being away from a parent for a month will cause psychological damage. I suspect, based on what you ve written, that you and your son have had a close relationship, and that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old behaviour issues, mom and dad, swimming cap
mom and dad, swimming cap, behavior issues: Hello Sandra, So, you have a four-year-old who is somewhat shy and really doesn t like being separated from his mother and who has been an only child for four years. Now, he has to share mom and dad with a baby sister! Of course, he is upset and has behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Our 4 year old son, james windell, adult food
james windell, adult food, psychological issues: Hello Amy, Eating, mealtimes, and food in general only become psychological issues when there is intense and ongoing conflict between parent and child over eating. If your son has 12 to 15 foods he eats, that s great. It probably means he will get all...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 8 month old daughter cries all the time!, baby orajel, homeopathic teething tablets
baby orajel, homeopathic teething tablets, bad moods: Tyra, You definitely sound like a frustrated and upset mother. I think that you are wise too as you acknowledge that this ongoing behavior is not good for your marriage. Likely by the time your husband gets home you are ready to run out the door, but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 9 year old-peeing, james windell, family therapist
james windell, family therapist, no doubt: Hello Theresa, I have no doubt at all that he is mad at someone. It sounds like the family should go together with him to a family therapist to find out what is really going on and why he is angry at his mother (and perhaps at other people in his life)....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggresive 4 year old boy, boy behavior, aggressive side
boy behavior, aggressive side, summer vacations: Hello Kristin, Your son is too young to diagnose. Children need to be in regular school (at least First Grade) before an adequate diagnosis of ADHD can be made. And at age four, he should not be placed on medication. There are literally no medications related...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime with a two year old, wooden spoon, mom and dad
wooden spoon, mom and dad, parenting skills: Hello Lorraine, I m glad to hear that you and your husband are trying to work on your relationship. But, if this is a trying time for you and your husband, think of what it must feel like for your toddler. He will not be able to understand inconsistency,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Climbing 17 month old, head start program, cardboard boxes
head start program, cardboard boxes, strong cardboard: Dear Sarah Climbing is a very normal thing that this age wants and needs to do for physical development. BUT you and the preschool center or day care need to offer SAFE and sturdy ALTERNATIVES for climbing. if your day care does not have low safe climbers,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Concerned, short attention span, family counselor
short attention span, family counselor, children at school: Dear Evadney This sounds very unusual and is not normal for a five year old. If he has been in preschool for a few years or even one year, he should have developed the social skills he needed by this time. You need to go to the preschool (maybe even...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Considered about speach, james windell, word combinations
james windell, word combinations, speech problem: Hello Tina, Actually, your daughter is talking. She says the words that are common for her age. You should keep in mind that toddlers who are normal have a very broad range of when they have a large number of words in their vocabulary. Some children are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying 5 year old, separtion anxiety, crying
separtion anxiety, crying: Louise- thank you for the question. What I ve noticed, raising two girls, is that they are very emotional creatures! It seems that most everything in our house initiates tears. While it gets sort of wearing, I think it s all part and parcel of being...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: continuous fits, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, kinds of fears: Hello Angie, Why does your 22-month-old cry when you leave her or when you take her to your parent s house? The simple (and perhaps best) answer is: Because she s 22 months old! In other words, she s a toddler. And toddlers have various kinds of fears,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Devolopment Disabilities, james windell, terrible accident
james windell, terrible accident, baby talk: Hello Chance, I m glad to hear that you and your husband are recovering and that you have your children back. It sounds like there should be very limited contact with the grandmother, and probably only when there is supervision. Just seeing her make not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my daughter hate me, bad temper, work focus
bad temper, work focus, heavy heart: Jennifer- Thank you for the question. Let me reassure you that this is likely a phase. You have been fortunate to have had an 11 month leave, and during this time your daughter has become very attached to you. Now her world is turned upside down because...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my daughter only want me (mommyfied as i call it), restroom, grandpa
restroom, grandpa, six weeks: Hello Amanda, It is not unusual for toddlers to go through phases when they cling to one parent and seem to want nothing to do the other. Then, a few months later, they will switch and only want their daddy, not their mom. These are just temporary phases....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: discipline, favorite toys, mommy
favorite toys, mommy, expectation: Hello Elsa, As you understand, losing your patience and yelling is not making things better, and is likely contributing to the problems continuing. Here s a better approach, which you can start using today: 1. State your expectation: I expect you to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: drinking cups, straw lid, sippy cup
straw lid, sippy cup, wetting the bed: Thank you for the question. I think the answer for your problem is to just go cold turkey on him at bedtime. He is old enough to not need something to eat or drink during the night, and if he does have something at night is needs to be water only. For...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: extreme seperation anxiety, seperation anxiety, infant massage
seperation anxiety, infant massage, child answer: Hello Crystal, I don t have any magic for this, but there are three things you can try. And probably you should do all immediately. The first is to get a photo of yourself and send this with him to daycare. It should always be where he can see it. At the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 31 months old toddler, twin siblings, daycare
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 31 months old toddler, twin siblings, daycare, piece of advice

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 8 month old daughter cries all the time!, clon
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 8 month old daughter cries all the time!, clon

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty trained toddler peeing on floor., own accord, pee
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty trained toddler peeing on floor., own accord, pee, haha

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Took pacifier away cold turkey, daycare, many things
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Took pacifier away cold turkey, daycare, many things

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Gifted and Defiant 2 year old, intellegence, gifted child
intellegence, gifted child, verbal skills: Hello Jessica, I think your daughter is bright. And she s got a wonderful imagination. Her verbal skills and her stories should be encouraged. Hopefully, she ll start writing soon and can write her stories down -- or at least type them on a computer. Apparently,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Goldilocks behavior/development, walking in the woods, childhood growth
walking in the woods, childhood growth, development question: Hello, We don t know much about Goldilocks from the story except she is a young girl who has golden hair. And we know she goes walking in the woods by herself, When she sees a house belonging to someone else, she walks in as if she were entitled to do so....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Am i gonna lose my mind???, young children, support
young children, support: Nadira- thank you for the question. Wow, you will have your hands full! I think that you can do it. It will be hairy at times and definitely stressful, but you can do this. Make sure to take advantage of whatever resources you have available to you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Head butting, james windell, negative reinforcement
james windell, negative reinforcement, daycare: Hi Lilac, Toddlers develop various kinds of habits. Head butting you is one good example. I think your instinct to use negative reinforcement is the correct approach. But you have to stick with it. When he butts you, say No! No hitting me with your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Head butting, negative reinforcement, working with parents
negative reinforcement, working with parents, apparent reason: I am sorry Lilac but I have never heard of this problem in my 40 years of working with parents. Please make an appointment with your child s doctor just in case there is a physical problem, and also see what the doctor says. It seems this only happens with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Hitting, james windell, pajamas
james windell, pajamas, distraction: Hello Annette, I d say that this is not something you should be concerned about. It is not uncommon behavior for toddlers about the age of your son. Toddlers of around two years of age enjoy the motor skills they are developing. They can, for instance,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I handle my preschooler's behavior at school?, montessori program, preschool class
montessori program, preschool class, spanish class: Dear Candice You are obviously a good mom and a very observant one. Perhaps you can visit and observe her in the preschool before making a decision. I feel, however, that the class is too large and has not enough adults for truly good management with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Juvenile friction, child abandonment, hansel and gretel
child abandonment, hansel and gretel, goldilocks: Warm- thank you for the question. It s all hard to say. Since I m not the writer it s hard to guess at motivation for everything. If you look at all the nursery rhymes, they are all a little wacky when it comes to common sense. For example, look at...