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Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: will be 3 in Feb, reinforcer, baby sister
reinforcer, baby sister, daily routine: Dear Julie: Absolutely do stop. For so many reasons I could go into and the most important one is it is ineffective in producing the results you want and only serves to reinforce violence as a coping mechanism in the child. Long term results are teenage...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3-month old facinated by TV!, tv habit, time mommy
tv habit, time mommy, eye muscles: Dear Jessica, At three months, having her watch while sitting with you, (maybe on your lap) and with you interacting with her or talking occasionally won t be harmful. BUT you do not want her to make TV watching a habit. First, there are many other hands...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 month old in foster care, james windell, home situations
james windell, home situations, foster parents: Hello Jan, Being in foster homes generally does nothing really great for infants, but sometimes courts have no choice. Obviously, having one consistent set of care-givers is best. Second best is the infant being in loving foster care homes where he is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 withConflict - mother inexperienced with children., situtation, disipline
situtation, disipline, bed time: Hi Phil~ You re absolutely correct, 100% that your daughter needs rules and structure in her life. As for your child acting out, this is totally common for a child to do. Children that are toddler through age 6-7 don t have very much self control. So...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 Year Old Hitting, james windell, day care providers
james windell, day care providers, expressing anger: Hello Sandy, How many four-year-olds, fives or sixes do you know who bite? I m guessing you probably answered none, right? Why is this? Because all children who are aggressive (through hitting and biting) learn self-control by ages four or five....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 Year Old Runner, monday tuesday, playtime
monday tuesday, playtime, pre school: Hi Erica, It seems you have a 3 year old who acts more like a four year old! So far, what you have tried is not working, so you need to find whatever is the MOST important thing to him and tie that in to your wishes for him to change his behavior. It...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 y.o. boy sucks on mommy's tummy, pacifer, 5 months
pacifer, 5 months, marsha: Hi Marsha, It is quite common for kids to stick their hands down their mothers shirts until about 2, it s normally just a phase or the mother reinforces saying no to stop the behaviour. This may be your son s case that he has substituted one behaviour for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 y.ol. daughter rude to Mom, stay at home mom, hugs and kisses
stay at home mom, hugs and kisses, conceptual knowledge: Dear Rachel, You have learned the hard way that children copy what adults do and say. You need to stop being hurt about this...she is not mature enough yet to even realize that words can hurt others or that she has hurt you. She is using many words but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old, james windell, parental tool
james windell, parental tool, own toys: Hello Jessica, Is there any reason why he might be mad at or resent his little sister -- or his parents? I certainly think that anger should be considered here. Just because he acts sweet doesn t mean he might not be harboring some anger about something...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old and my 2 year old..., seat of my pants, time outs
seat of my pants, time outs, loving children: Dear Tanya, I do wish parents would stop trying to use time out with children under age four. It s not your fault, but I wish I knew why or how this myth that time outs work miracles got started. Time outs are simply not effective unless the child can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old, new job, four months
new job, four months, good luck: Hi. Well the stealing, you should try to sit down and talk with him and tell him that if he wants to play with it, he should ask first. I am sure you have tried this and I am sure it hasn t worked. lol. But he needs to understand that we don t get things we...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3-year old, private montessori school, ballet class
private montessori school, ballet class, windell: Hello Claudine, The behaviors you mention are not so unusual for toddlers and young preschoolers. She sounds like an active child, who may be a bit high-spirited. I don t know that you are doing anything wrong. However, here are some suggestions: ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old...of 6 children is pooping his pants, future step, quitely
future step, quitely, 5 steps: Hi Niki, I am glad you have used this avenue to vent. I can only imagine the complexities and frustration at the moment, especially having to look after 3 children - who may be experiencing some anxiety or insecurity about the situation themselves. Age 3,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old acting up, last nerve, shoe box
last nerve, shoe box, fun thing: Ok few questions first. has there been any big changes in her life? eg.. moving, someone dying? something like that? If so that is completly normal. Otherwise yea its normal to an extent but I would say that ususally somethings triggered it if it just started...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old acting up, last nerve, brush teeth
last nerve, brush teeth, pajamas: This is normal for her age. The most important thing you can do is stay firm and do not give an inch because that is what she wants. Stay on routine with bedtime, get pajamas on, brush teeth, read books, and tuck her in. Do not let her run around and be in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old acting up, james windell, last nerve
james windell, last nerve, 3 year olds: Hi Neal, It s not at all unusual for 3-year-olds to act like toddlers -- which they still are. Typically, children start to act in an oppositional way from 18 months to about 3 years of age. Some kids just get a later start on opposing you. It s no big...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3-year old's adjustment to daycare, separation anxiety, beca
separation anxiety, beca, mothers day: Hi Mandy, He sounds sensitive and being popular with the girls would confirm this. I think it is separation anxiety as you pointed out, it hurts us more than them and children do get used to the environment. As you also noted he is happy and playing when...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old afraid to go on carnival rides, due time, carousel
due time, carousel, scar: Hi Jennifer~ You should never force your child do something he/she doesn t feel comfortable doing. Such as riding on a ride, giving someone a hug, etc. You could scar her for life and make her afraid of things. You can give her the option of going on...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old anger, battle of wills, daycare
battle of wills, daycare, stage of development: Hello Meghan, Toddlers and preschoolers can go along one way for a few months and then -- all of a sudden -- they re different. In many case it s difficult to know why. Here, at least, we have some idea. There have been several changes in your daughter s...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old attention getting behavior, toddler behavior, space children
toddler behavior, space children, being a nanny: Hello Connie, It s not easy being a nanny, but it sounds like you ve done a fine job of raising these children. You re right. It s no surprise that the older child has adjustment problems after a baby arrives in the home. However, it s also no surprise...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3-year-old bedtime battles, james windell, bedtime battles
james windell, bedtime battles, bedtime routine: Hello Erin, I understand you don t want your younger child to be disturbed by your crying three-year-old. But what choice do you have? I would say that you have to risk having your 20-month-old child s sleep disrupted while you train your older child...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old bedtime battle, brushing teeth, nightly routine
brushing teeth, nightly routine, rocking chair: Hello Pam, This is all quite normal. I think most of us parents have dealt with at least one child who wanted to stay up longer and get more of the attention of their parent by asking for water or something else. Parents do deal with this usually by just...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behaver problem, angry words, toy box
angry words, toy box, eye contact: Hi Erica, If she continues to do this, then put her back in diapers. Tell her something like, I can t hear you when you whisper and you try to tell me you need to go to the bathroom. Because of that you have to wear diapers like a baby because you are peeing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behavior, 3 year old behavior, toddler age
3 year old behavior, toddler age, typical behavior: Yes its totally normal behaviour for a 3 year old let alone have some kid come in his house and play with his things and have time with his mommy. I think its upsetting you way more than you should let it. As long as the mother is dealing with it then I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behavior, james windell, 3 year old behavior
james windell, 3 year old behavior, pregnancy birth: Hello Karen, There are various reasons for children to be upset about visits with a noncustodial parent. Just changes in the routing can cause some adjustment problems. But, I think there are greater problems here. For example, if the father tore him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behavior issues, 3 year old behavior, positive reinforcement
3 year old behavior, positive reinforcement, potty chair: Hi Deanne~ She s doing it for the attention. Attention is attention to children that are craving it. Whether it s good or bad attention, it doesn t matter. What you can do about the writing on things is to take all the writing utencils away from her and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old daughter-behavior, page tomorrow, two choices
page tomorrow, two choices, stable environment: Hi Misty, I do think that the change in your daughter s behaviour is age related and just a phase. The phase could last a while though (probably 6 months given her age) and you will need to find ways of coping with her in the meantime. I find some children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old daughters temper, james windell, parenting style
james windell, parenting style, tantrums: Hello Carrie, You may never know for sure if it s a phase or a reaction to stresses in her life (such as her mom being pregnant). At age 2-and-a-half, it s the right age for this kind of phase. It s best to handle her anger and tantrums with calmness...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old dauhter and separation, loving parents, happy kid
loving parents, happy kid, conflicts of interest: Hello Steven, Yes, separation is difficult to understand for little kids. Sometimes it s even very confusing for the adults involved. Since you re both good, loving parents, the schedule you have should work as well as any. There s no particular research...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old dishonest behavior/ drama queen, habitual liars, dishonest behavior
habitual liars, dishonest behavior, drama queen: Hello Amanda, You re right. Her behavior is not uncommon in toddlers and preschoolers. Young children typically lie because they are afraid of the punishment or consequences. Many people are adolescents or even adults before they feel secure enough to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3-year-old granddaughter, temper tantrum, mom dad
temper tantrum, mom dad, whines: Dear Kay, I am so sorry that you are in this frustrating situation! These kids of yours may actually have a child who has special needs that are escalating with this inappropriate behavior, and the child cannot get any help if the parents attitude remains...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old hates nursery, keyworker, reward system
keyworker, reward system, tuesday morning: Hi Joanne, This sounds quite normal, even if it did happen later and not in his first week. Sometimes children don t realise it s a permanent arrangement but then start reacting when they realise it is. Talk to him about the positives, ie. who did you play...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old hits. What is normal for her age, impulse control, aggressive behaviors
impulse control, aggressive behaviors, aggressive manner: Hi Renee, I have two ways of looking at how you can best respond to aggressive behavior. One, you should model the kinds of behavior you want your daughter to imitate. Three to five year olds do a lot of imitating of their parents. Do you want her to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old with odd problem., latch locks, sorry mama
latch locks, sorry mama, whits end: Hello Danielle, Of course, I can t tell if there is anything wrong with her thinking or emotions. However, she is not doing anything that is bizarre or very different from what lots of two-year-olds and three-year-olds do. When she says I want to be a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Our 3 year old prefers daddy all of the time, family cousins, cut time
family cousins, cut time, negative influence: First let me congratulate you in taking an interest in your child. It is rare I get questions asked by fathers, so kudos to you. As a mother I can also tell you how much it would hurt me if any of my children said this, so I appreciate your willingness to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old has no self confidence, james windell, self confidence
james windell, self confidence, something wrong: Hello Nicola, You indicate that your son witnessed you being abused for two out of his three years of life. And you think he should be confident about leaving you out of his sight? I don t think so! Children often feel insecure about leaving a parent...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old son shy around other kids, mom and dad, things in time
mom and dad, things in time, baby brother: Hi Missy~ It s totally normal for him to behave this way when he s in a new environment. It ll take him some time to adjust to a new daycare and the children. But he ll be just fine. Some children don t deal well with change at first, but later warm...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old son and mother issues., terrible 2, 30ish
terrible 2, 30ish, spankings: Hi Marc~ He s a kid and he s testing his boundaries with her. This also could have a lot to do with she s with him all the time. So he favors you b/c you re not home with him 24/7 like she is. Therefore he tends to listen to you a bit more (children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old son, bedtime routine, joy in my life
bedtime routine, joy in my life, different child: Hi Deanna~ All this behavior is very normal for a child his age. As for him hitting, and not listening to you, again normal. He does this b/c he s exerting his independence from you (and anyone else, but especially you b/c you re his mother) and is testing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old son a dream at home but trouble at school, teacher details, center time
teacher details, center time, daily basis: Hello Kat, How much carry-over do you think there is for a three-year-old having a discussion about his behavior before he goes off to preschool? My guess is that for most three year olds there s almost none. Probably most of what is being described...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old son's behavior, saran wrap, handling group
saran wrap, handling group, wont answer: Hello Anthi, I think you are getting a sense of what the problem is. Your son is shy and slow to warm up to strangers. In other words, this is his temperament. That being said, shy and slow to warm up children need help learning to be more sociable and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old tantrums, toddler temper tantrums, 3 year old tantrums
toddler temper tantrums, 3 year old tantrums, mommy mommy: Hello Adele, A well-behaved toddler? Something s wrong! Whenever I hear of a toddler (or a teenager) who is a perfect child and always agreeable and well-behaved, I know it s just a matter of time. It is normal for toddlers to have tantrums. If you haven...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old toddler, stay at home mom, nice voice
stay at home mom, nice voice, bouncing off the walls: Hi Laurie, Great questions. Ignoring. This is a very important discipline method. Especially for behaviors like tantrums. I think his behavior reinforces a point I m making. When a kid follows you around, more or less invading your space, when he is having...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old wanting to be held, shy side, daycare
shy side, daycare, shyness: Hi Jennifer, If she needs to be held at first when class starts, you may have to do this. However, if classes are starting soon, you can begin talking to her about what will happen when she goes to class. You can tell her that you ll walk her in, but you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old, james windell, childcare worker
james windell, childcare worker, sleep: Hi Kris, I think the best thing to tell them is that if children are rewarded and reinforced when they awaken during the night they will keep awakening on a regular basis. If they stop giving him a bottle during the night, he will learn to sleep throughout...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year olds, problems at school, 3 year olds
problems at school, 3 year olds, responsibilty: Hi Mistye, Offer her choice and decision making opportunities where possible. She may feel overwhelmed and out of control at 3 if she has gone through alot of change. She will need to feel in control of something so try give her responsibilty, if she wants...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year olds behavior problems, word autism, autism spectrum
word autism, autism spectrum, child potty: Hello Lori, Schools throw around terms like autism spectrum much too frequently and ill-advisedly as far as I m concerned. It does not shed any light on anything and it scares parents. If I were a parent and someone told me my child was on the autism spectrum...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 years and 6 months normal behaviour, toilet training, fraternal twins
toilet training, fraternal twins, disney cartoons: Hello Carmen, I guess you have a better perspective than most people about how different siblings can be. Your problem twin is like many 3 to 4-year-olds who are somewhat immature. Such children don t develop as quickly as other children the same age....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 years lod daughter, wetting her pants, disciplining your child
wetting her pants, disciplining your child, neutral party: Angela- thanks for the question. Sounds like you ve got your hands full. Let me address the punishment issue first. It sounds like you and your husband are on two different pages when it comes to disciplining your child. My suggestion is to sit...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr Old Behaviour, septmeber, small stones
septmeber, small stones, odd hours: Hi Komal, Fathers often are very good parents because they are usually good about not giving in and enjoying play with children. I think the two of them should spend more time playing. I m not trying to sell my books here, but I just came out with a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: almost 3 yr old becoming agresive and not listening, tries things, time outs
tries things, time outs, aidan: Hello Candy, Toddlers can be so wonderful at times, while at other times they seem to go out of their way to make us crazy. It sounds to me like Aidan is just being a toddler. In part he s testing you; in part he s learning about relationships and how...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old and bedtime, bedtime routine, evelyn
bedtime routine, evelyn, good luck: Dear Grant, Some of the latest research says that some children need to go to bed earlier than others and that this helps these particular children to go to sleep better and sleep more soundly. You might try that. I am glad you have and are following...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old behaivor, james windell, blowing off steam
james windell, blowing off steam, toddler behavior: Hello Joe, Accept this as normal and expected toddler behavior. Three year olds hit and they say mean words. But your goal is to reduce aggressive behavior and increase verbal behavior. That means when she hits to tell her that hitting is not right because...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old behavior, prosperous new year, losing sleep
prosperous new year, losing sleep, developmental assessment: Hekllo donna, You confirmed what I suspected. You have a child who is developing magnificently and is probably well ahead of schedule in various areas. An only child gets a lot of concentrated attention -- and that s a good thing for intellectual and cognitive...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old with behavior problem, wetting accidents, piano legs
wetting accidents, piano legs, parenting advice: Dear Leana, It is normal for 3 s to be very jealous of the time you take to talk on the phone. What you need to do is help them see your telephone time as a good thing instead of a bad thing. There are ways to do this. Let me tell you a story. When...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old boy., stay at home dad, potting training
stay at home dad, potting training, nutritious snacks: Dear DAD, If you are going to be a stay at home dad, you would be wise to learn more about what kinds of things to expect from each age...and how to cope properly with these behaviors. Time outs do not work at all well with children under age four. Praise...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr. old boy yells at parents, grumpy mood, home mom
grumpy mood, home mom, quality time: Hi Lori, Actually this is unusual for a three year old, as during that year they are usually more cooperative and eager to please than they are at age two or three. The exception to this, developmentally, is that if the child did not go through the usual...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 yr old does will not chew, eating junk food, two year old molars
eating junk food, two year old molars, hunger strike: Dear Lisa: Sounds to me like it is possible he hasn t gotten his two year old molars (yes they are the ones all the way to the back) in yet. It can be quite painful as are all teething experiences. However, I really think this is something physical. Your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old increased appetite and urination, increased appetite, daycare
increased appetite, daycare, stomach problems: Dear Tricia: Sounds like you need a doctor s visit? Have you checked this out with his pediatrician? It maybe there is nothing other than a very active colon however it is concerning you and you need to listen to yourself. If nothing is wrong physically...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old obsessed with feet, james windell, girls feet
james windell, girls feet, nephew: Hello Joan, Toddlers and preschoolers go through various phases, including times when they seem obsessed with things -- even feet. It s probably not much to worry about and the chances are it will be gone within a few weeks or months. Best, James Windel...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Getting my 3 yr old into her own bed..., bedtime problems, bedtime routine
bedtime problems, bedtime routine, parenting column: Jamie in over 20 years of doing a weekly parenting column for major newspapers, I ve been asked this question many times. I find it interesting that in my generation we never had any problems about bedtime. (I m 68) Our parents always started the bedtime...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old repetition while talking, obsessive nature, verbal behavior
obsessive nature, verbal behavior, best bet: Hello Michelle, Many boys are slightly speech delayed. But, as you ve indicated, the greater concern for you is his hyper-verbal behavior and the repetitions. Since he gets anxious when you mention it or try to get him to stop, don t try to correct his...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: almost 3 yr old who is shy, developmentally appropriate practices, library time
developmentally appropriate practices, library time, circle time: Angie, I would suggest that you go observe at school and see if you get more insight on the problem that way. You cannot really tell much without observing and visiting. Maybe this is not the right preschool for her; maybe it is. You will know when you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old sleep habits, kitchen light, sleeping on the floor
kitchen light, sleeping on the floor, three year olds: Hi Jen, It s usually very difficult to know why two- and three-year-olds do many of the things they do. Often there are fears, which they can t put into words. I think your concerns are legitimate, but chances are that as she gets older she will end up...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old sleeping issues, daycare, admissions director
daycare, admissions director, sleeping through the night: Chelsie- wow do you have a lot going on for you! I would ve been scared to death! There is the chance that maybe he does need shorter naps at daycare. There s nothing wrong with asking them to wake him after an hour to hour and a half. When I taught...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 yr old son is rude to his dad, bad mood, yell
bad mood, yell, kindness: Hello Alison, I understand that your son s behavior is upsetting to both you and your husband. However, it is relatively common for a child to seemingly reject one parent. Here are some things I would recommend: 1. Make sure his father always treats...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr. old son, hyper and acting out, short attention span, sahm
short attention span, sahm, tantrums: Hi Kimberly~ Keep using the 1,2,3 magic, if it s worked for you in the past. Even if he s repeating it back to you. Children do stuff just to annoy parents. It s seem as if it s their job. The best advice I can give you is to be patience (sometimes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old will not stay in bed..., short attention span, absolute angel
short attention span, absolute angel, typical behaviors: Hello Mike, You may have contributed to your son being somewhat more aggressive. Then again, a lot of three-year-olds are aggressive. The other behaviors you describe (not wanting to go to bed, not listening, having a short attention span, etc.) are all...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old toddler boy won't listen, mostly at bedtime..., wits end, hindsight
wits end, hindsight, driving force: Mike, don t worry so much; I am sure your son loves you both and DOES appreciate your setting limits and being firm and consistent. That is what threes need most, the security of limits and consistency. They love rituals and routines, so adding some sort...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr.old won't dance, forwards, dances
forwards, dances, second time: Hi. It s good that you have your daughter involved in things like that. Like most young children..they are a bit shy. She may have done well with it at first but they do get shy. It s having everyones eyes on them. Maybe she doesn t like being told what to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 30-month old "issues", disney princess, toy story 2
disney princess, toy story 2, daycare provider: Hi Tonya, Yep, I think you re right. It sounds like the toddler stage to me. One of the classic responses of toddlers is to ask or demand something, then when they get it, they reject it. Why are they like that? Probably because they are indecisive...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 31/2 year old phobia of getting big, james windell, phobia
james windell, phobia, germs: Hello Lisa, It s hard to know at this point whether this is just a normal boy s concerns or whether it suggests he s a worrier or prone to obsessive-compulsive concerns. I would suggest that you offer him reasurance by letting him know that he is just...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 34 month old daughter and daycare, emotional behavior, toughie
emotional behavior, toughie, pediatrician: Hi Michele~ This is probably just a phase she s going through and it ll eventually pass. But it s going to take some time. She s just not used to being around and socializing with other children. So this could be overwhelming to her. Since they are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3year old & 1 year old, small plastic containers, eye hand coordination
small plastic containers, eye hand coordination, crisp vegetables: Dear Kathy, I would say that yes, there may be a physical problem with your three year old. If he goes to preschool, ask the staff to do some specific observing to see when and how ofen he trips and if there is a pattern to this tripping. You should also...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3year old kissing girls, james windell, nap time
james windell, nap time, sound sleep: Hello Lee, You don t say anything to a three-year-old who gets in trouble for kissing a girl. This is not bad behavior. Your son is probably a loving child. Children generally don t outgrow sleeping with their parents. It s something they enjoy and usually...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yo daughter hates school, seperation anxiety, tonsilectomy
seperation anxiety, tonsilectomy, new girls: Dear Suzanne: I am not very traditional about children going to school at a certain age. Not all children are ready for school at the same age and much has been made about children needing to be socialize. There are many people who were socialized at school...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old acting out, google search, angry feelings
google search, angry feelings, violence on tv: Dear Jenny: My point is that time out, punishing by removing items and especially spanking do not work. Why? Because it makes them ANGRIER. My point about your feelings and feeling like a failure are a seperate subject. You are a parent. You have not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old daughter., anger control, outrageous behavior
anger control, outrageous behavior, emotional issue: Hi Kerry~ WOW! It was dangerous and totally unacceptable for her to disregard what you said to her, and then she grabbed a knife?! That s very troubling behavior from a 3 yo. It would ve been perfectly acceptable for you to smack her on the bottom for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old humping things, james windell, private matters
james windell, private matters, private parts: Hello Amy, Masturbation in children of all ages is entirely natural and normal. However, like various other normal behaviors, children have to be taught that they are private matters and should not be done openly. That is, in the case of masturbation,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr. old Meltdowns- dealing with, neighbor girl, good goodbye
neighbor girl, good goodbye, lil girl: Laurie- thanks for the question. Isn t this fabulous? My oldest did this, and still does. It is SO frustrating! Horrible in public. I totally feel for you. Well, seperation anxiety is still there at age three. She could be displaying a bit of that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old probs., pj bottoms, abuse and neglect
pj bottoms, abuse and neglect, pood: You would know the girl better than I..and if you think she is telling the truth, you need to report that to the courts. That is abuse and neglect. If something is going on when she is there, she doesn t need to go back. Talk to the mother and tell her you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old stubborn, personality type, lunch time
personality type, lunch time, sugary foods: Hi Priti, Some children are so stubborn that they only learn through making mistakes themselves. However, if it is something dangerous or you have told her not to do something, then she may need to be put into time out for disobeying you after you have told...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old not talking, developmental delay, 15 months
developmental delay, 15 months, 9 months: Well. I know how you feel. My baby who is 15 months old..did not start crawling until she was like 9 months old. I was a little freaked out but I held off on talking with her doctor. Next thing I know she is walking. lol. I am sure your daughter knows how...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr sleeping, noise tv, body temperatures
noise tv, body temperatures, bath time: Dear Joanne: I have numerous posting on this site on the topic of getting children to sleep. Make sure to start about an hour or so before bedtime. Turn down his environment by shutting off the noise, tv, radio etc... Set the relaxing mood each evening...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old tantrums, jekyl and hyde, temper tantrum
jekyl and hyde, temper tantrum, 2 year old tantrums: Hi Jeanne~ She s doing this b/c she knows she can get a reaction out of you. And she knows she can push your buttons. A child this age doesn t have impulse control. So she s acting out however she feels at the time. The best way to deal with a temper...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old still having bad tantrums when being dropped off at daycare, day care center, tantrums
day care center, tantrums, new management: Hello Cathy, It appears that your daughter is a child who has difficulty with transitions. Each transition you mentioned involved adjustment problems. So, it is no wonder that she is finding life difficult now because she has moved to a new class and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old Misbehaving at School, james windell, mom and dad
james windell, mom and dad, school behavior: Hello Mike, It sounds like your son is active and maybe a bit impulsive. But many 4-year-olds have the same problems. I would suggest first of all that you not think strictly in terms of how you can provide punishment in order to get him to behave the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old hitting loved ones, cherished objects, dear jill
cherished objects, dear jill, time outs: Dear Jill: Never ignore violence. When I suggest ignoring bad behavior I am very clear we do not ignore behavior which can hurt a child or someone else. However, it is important at this age not to over react. I would simply grab his arm (watch him to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old son's defiant behavior, positive reinforcement, defiant behavior
positive reinforcement, defiant behavior, emotional child: Hello Cyndi, Your son has a lot of wonderful qualities. The only probably is that he is not always compliant. This is fairly typical for four-year-olds. In my book Children Who Say No When You Want Them to Say Yes, I wrote: Four-year-olds will have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old misbehavior at pre-school, james windell, misbehavior
james windell, misbehavior, proactive approach: Hello Jeff, No, there is no way around dealing with a child s occasional bad behavior. What you re handling now, at age 4, is just a preview of what you ll be trying to handle at age 7, 10 or 15. There will always be some issue to talk about and maybe do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-1/2 year old crying, pins and needles, karate class
pins and needles, karate class, child psychologist: Hello Tim, The fact that this behavior is of recent origin raises some question as to whether it is in reaction to some incident in his life. Typically, four-year-olds don t develop anxiety about being separated. I would suggest scheduling a consultation...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old misbehaving at preschool, prayer leader, line leader
prayer leader, line leader, circle time: Hello Melissa, The situation you re describing is not at all unusual in a classroom of threes, fours and fives. I hope that the teacher is an experienced teacher who is not making too much of this behavior. Experienced teachers know there are going to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 yr. son wants to paint his nails, james windell, parenting decisions
james windell, parenting decisions, toe nails: Hello Sarah, Letting a young boy paint his nails is not going to turn him into a homosexual. As you say, it is sharing some fun. Just because he doesn t have a man in his home, doesn t mean he will be any less of a boy or that the absence of a father-figure...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4.5 year old son out of control!!!, bad temper, little butt
bad temper, little butt, loving boy: Hi Cami~ I don t agree with spanking. The biggest reason is that I used to be a spanker. It actually made my children act much worse. Spanking shows a child that violence is the answer, when it s not. And using spanking and other violent means of punishment...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4 month old hates me, first time mom, playhouse disney
first time mom, playhouse disney, kick pad: Hello LeAnn, Thanks for getting back to me with such good information. Obviously you are a loving, caring mother. And you re doing so many things so well. As a result of you and your husband, your baby is developing very well. It seems that you only...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 month old wont sleep, baby massage, breast feeding
baby massage, breast feeding, tough job: Being a mother is a tough job..I know. My baby had colic. She was awake probably 22 hrs out of the day and when she did sleep it was in 15 min. intervals. Try cutting your 4 month olds last nap out. It won t be a quick fix. It will take time for her body to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 months old sleep disorder, wake ups, sids deaths
wake ups, sids deaths, mins max: Hi Lily~ I would suggest that you give her a pacifier (introduce it to her, if she s not taking one already). In studies pacifiers are good for a number of reasons. There is one report that they help prevent SIDS deaths. And pacifiers also help soothe...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 Year Old Tantrums, 4 year old tantrums, tantrum
4 year old tantrums, tantrum, wrong way: Julia- thank you for the question. Well, you ve gotten part of it solved, figuring out what s causing the tantrums! The thing is, she s wanting attention and is going about it the wrong way. The key to tantrums is to remain calm while they are melting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 Year old, day care center, cause of stress
day care center, cause of stress, single mom: Dear Steve, I think you have a good handle on this, and am frankly surprised that she does not understand her child s needs for limits if she works in day care. If her child is in her day care center, surely they are not putting up with this behavior there....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 year old, parental alienation syndrome, play therapist
parental alienation syndrome, play therapist, absent parent: Dear Autumn: Of course a 4 year old can be manipulated into saying something that isn t true if and usually only if it is repeated to the child enough that they no longer no what is true. Mostly children do not make things up as adults often want to imply...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old, gastroschisis, daycare
gastroschisis, daycare, belly button: Hello Ginger, Children don t like to be different. Other children, recognizing a difference, will bluntly ask about it. Some may tease her or make fun of her if they suspect she has insecurities about it. However, if she feels comfortable talking about...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old acting different than usual, fear of darkness, immense fear
fear of darkness, immense fear, panics: Hi Ana~ Yes, this could possibly be a stage. Have there been any signifigant changes in her life recently? If there have, then this could be a reason for her sudden behavioral change. She s old enough now that you should be able to sit down with her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old behavior problems, dear abby, libraies
dear abby, libraies, aggressive child: Dear Abby, Many hospitals now have classes for siblings who are going to become big brothers or sisters. Look into this. Also ask the preshcool teacher what she has done to help the child, since she does suspect correctly the cause of the problem. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old behavior problems, aggressive child, impulse control
aggressive child, impulse control, kitchen etc: Hi Abby~ His behavior is totally normal at this age and stage. He s acting out due to frustrations. A child this age has absolutely no impulse control. So when he s upset, angry, etc he act out how he s feeling at the moment. Which means hitting, pushing,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: almost 4 year old boy, public restrooms, bluesclues
public restrooms, bluesclues, mom and dad: Sometimes it is difficult for a young child to let go of a bowel movement, if the child is afraid that he is losing a part of himself/herself--especially if the child is in the thought mode that this part will be flushed away, never to be seen again. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old crying, undesirable behavior, doing the right thing
undesirable behavior, doing the right thing, deep breaths: Hi Rebecca~ There s really not much more you can do, other than what you re already doing. And you re doing the right thing, by sending her to her room. Sometimes it can be very frustrating when a child cries, fit throws, etc. The best thing you can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old crying, adult environment, pet fish
adult environment, pet fish, dis service: Hi Sharon, Your daughter is a more sensitive and easily upset child. She doesn t separate easily and is more attached to you than perhaps other children her age are to their mothers. She is likely a little more anxious and insecure than some other children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old daughter, james windell, simple games
james windell, simple games, language skills: Hello Clarissa, I m not sure how you are going about teaching your daughter. However, I can give you some guidelines that will help you -- and her. One of the best things you can do for her is to read to her every day. But it s not just reading. You also...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old exhibiting sexual behavior, james windell, sexual behaviors
james windell, sexual behaviors, sexual behavior: Hello Courtney, There is a wide variety of sexual behaviors that are normal. What you re describing is normal. This behavior is not something to be particularly concerned about. Try to handle his masturbatory behavior without overreacting or being angry...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old with grown up issues, class mates, wheel chair
class mates, wheel chair, grand mother: Hello Corinne, Of course, it s always possible with a child that there is another problem. Since I can t see him or talk to him, I d certainly recommend that you take him to the pediatrician and ask for a physical exam (with blood work). You can explain...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old and low loft bed, loft bed, bedtime routine
loft bed, bedtime routine, space problem: Hello Sheila, Here are some steps for helping children sleep in their own room and their own bed. It is a proven approach, but it takes patience on your part. 1. Make sure you follow the same bedtime routine or ritual every night. Put him to bed at...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 year old's obsessive behavior, obsessive behavior, wrong side of the bed
obsessive behavior, wrong side of the bed, lungs: Dear Maria, I hope you have talked to the child s doctor about this behavior...If not make a call or an appointment and do tell him exactly what is happening...even take him this letter you wrote me. I think your child needs help from a fmaily therapist...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old potty problem, continual problem, preschool program
continual problem, preschool program, bowel movement: Hi Ingrid~ When this happens to children who are potty training; it s usually he feels that if they have a BM he is in a sense losing a part of himself. So he ll hold it in as long as possible, or even poop in his pants. If this is becoming such a problem...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old sleep problem, good sleep habits, bedtime routine
good sleep habits, bedtime routine, long term solution: Hello Sarah, These are not unusual problems. Of course, after a separation of parents, it is probably not the best time to introduce changes because the separation has already produced a stressful change. Nonetheless, any time either of you allow them...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old sleep problem, bedtime routines, strange bed
bedtime routines, strange bed, power struggle: Dear Sarah: Quite bluntly, this much change in a child s life is not time for a power struggle over bedtime routines. She is 4 years old and her world as she knows it is coming undone. Her parents separated, then she was moved into her grandparents...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old not sleeping well, children watching tv, bedtime routines
children watching tv, bedtime routines, bedtime routine: Dear Christine: There are lots of postings here for you to read on bedtime routines. I absolutely am not in favor of children watching TV right before bedtime. It stimulates the brain is often not soothing to the nervous system. Do try to read and do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old socializing, james windell, kindergarten children
james windell, kindergarten children, play group: Hi Chris, I think you have to help his sister understand that it s okay if he likes more feminine pursuits. I doubt if this will be a problem in kindergarten. Children in kindergarten don t really notice those kinds of things. Besides children don t do as...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old son's behavior, chicken nuggets, wonderful child
chicken nuggets, wonderful child, french fries: Dear Mischelle, Either your son is very smart...so smart that he is totally manipulating you, OR there are some problems here that you really cannot deal with alone. To find out what is really going on, and also to get clear and step by step help, ask your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old Tantrums, stay at home mom, 4 year old tantrums
stay at home mom, 4 year old tantrums, wet clothes: Hi Kathy~ I can see why you are concerned about her behavior. Have there been any changes in her life recently? Anything traumatic happen (such as a death of a pet, family member of friend), etc)? Has she been sick recently and received special...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old temper tantrums, temper tantrums, temper tantrum
temper tantrums, temper tantrum, temper outbursts: Hello Ann-Marie, It is not unusual for four-year-olds (and even five-year-olds) to have temper tantrums or crying spells. It sounds like they only happen about twice a week. That isn t bad. Except that his teacher (and you) would like there to be no temper...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old not wanting to go to school, preschool centers, free brochure
preschool centers, free brochure, play group: Dear Robert, I hope you and your wife visited and observed for an entire session before enrolloing her and hpoe you like the school and think it is a good one. You can get a free brochure from the National Assn for the Education of Young Children about what...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old, tony dear, parenting skills
tony dear, parenting skills, dear tony: Dear Tony: I don t know that there is a timeline for something like this and there probably could not be. I would suggest you move from your heart. I sounds like you want to be a family and have a desire to do what is best for them. Children are rather...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old bad sleeping habits, bad sleeping habits, cheek to cheek
bad sleeping habits, cheek to cheek, bad habit: Hi Victoria, At 4 children know to a large extent what they are doing and can be responsible for their behaviour. This is going to be a long process to change the behaviour. I would use a reward system. Concentrate on trying to get the daughter to go to bed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old behavior..., behavior question, granola bar
behavior question, granola bar, hello mike: Hello Mike, Children, according to the latest brain research, aren t completely done growing and changing until late adolescence -- sometimes even into their early twenties. So, you have plenty of time to help him change and to become more compliant. I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Our 4 yr old boy's intensity, hyperventalation, answering your questions
hyperventalation, answering your questions, hyperventilation: Hi Ted, I think it s best to avoid some common mistakes related to tantrums. One, is giving in to him in order to avoid a tantrum. That could have very bad results in the future. Two, I would say is threatening or punishing while he is in the midst of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old out of c ontrol...help!, absolute angel, terrible 2
absolute angel, terrible 2, time outs: Dear Pam, I am delighted that you are trying! If the baby is hurt, the first thing you do is to take care of the baby, or get someone to help with that. Then I suggest that you very quietly put yourself eye to eye with the child and say in a soft and loving...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 yr old child, school environment, habit
school environment, habit, consequence: Leigh, He may be lying to avoid consequences, some children are harshly punished and lie to get out of the punishment or he wants to please. Encourage him to tell the truth and explain that he won t get into trouble if he does. Try this for two weeks (if...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old out of control..., absolute angel, terrible 2
absolute angel, terrible 2, time outs: Hi Pamela, Good questions! Many types of rewards can work. However, I, too, am not in favor of candy or food. Think first of attention and praise as rewards. For example, let s say she does something nice for her sister. You could give attention by just...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old's Defiant Behavior, defiant behavior, t effect
defiant behavior, t effect, circle time: Hi Tricia, Yes, behaviour charts (great as they are) have a short life, 2 weeks is right. Most times they need a break before they can be used again, so that is normal. I would have expected that if it was to do with the baby, the behaviour would have shown...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr. old developemental qestions, learning disability, speech delay
learning disability, speech delay, learning disabilities: Jill- thanks for the question. First off, it s always hard not to compare your second with your first. I do it all the time. They are completely different children and will do things differently and in their own ways. That being said, just a couple...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-yr old exposing himself to others, mommy daddy, preparing for kindergarten
mommy daddy, preparing for kindergarten, private parts: Hi Cheri~ Yes, it s very normal for children between the ages of 4-6 to start discovering their body parts. And sometimes they even share and explore them with other children the same age. So this isn t uncommon to happen. Not to mention that when around...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old son who has a baby doll, younger siblings, mommy and daddy
younger siblings, mommy and daddy, daycare: Hello Sheila, I certainly do not share your in-laws concerns. What kind of problems are going to appear in the future if your son plays with a doll? Is he going to become a homosexual? Of course, this is ridiculous. I agree with your point of view....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old son purposely urinating on bed, anger
anger: Hello Whitney, There is almost no particular behavior that in and of itself is an unfailing test of a serious problem. A child s behavior always has to be placed in the context of his life and other symptoms and behaviors. Typically, a child who has been...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old whinning/crying when she doesn't get her way, great memory, whinning
great memory, whinning, single mom: Hello angela, Four-year-olds can be bossy, determined to get their own way and persistent. And, especially if they haven t already gone through a stage where they had screaming temper tantrums, can show them at this age. I would suggest that you deal with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 4year old son in Pre Kindergarden, school phobia, playground areas
school phobia, playground areas, speech pathologist: Hi Rebecca, It sounds like you held your own in this meeting and pretty much got what is in your son s best interest. My guess is that as he gets comfortable with the teacher and other students, he ll do just fine. By the way, temper tantrums often go...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr. girl kissing another girl in school, james windell, loving nature
james windell, loving nature, seperate ways: Hi AJMommy, Should you be concerned because your daughter acts in a loving way towards other children? I hope not. Rather you should feel proud that you are raising a child who is kind and affectionate to others. I know what your concern is. But at...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr old, twin girls, stuffed animal
twin girls, stuffed animal, attachments: Elizabeth, Attachments to toys etc. are normal and may appear at any age. This attachment may have something to do with the move but I would not be too concerned. If you don t mind her carrying the toy around then let her. It should pass although there...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr old boy -behavior is out of control, bi polar disorder, anger depression
bi polar disorder, anger depression, parenting style: Hello Brandi, Sorry to hear about your son s behavior at home. Since he is not exhibiting the same behavior at school, you have to consider that there are things you can do at home which help bring about improved behavior. Sure, ADHD and bipolar could...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr old that cries/gets upset too frequently, preschool program, anger frustration
preschool program, anger frustration, tantrums: This is unusual, but fours do like to test you to see what their limits are and if they have changed now that they are bigger and more verbal. Be sure he knows your rules and give him simple and clear expectations. Make sure he knows what the consequences...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4yr old grandson is pooping and smearing it all over bathroom, strict supervision, crack house
strict supervision, crack house, wetting the bed: Hi Cynthia~ You might be surprised to hear that this is completely normal for a child to do. They start doing this at about 2 yrs of age up until age 4-5 even. Two of my four children have done this. And I can tell you from experience this is very, very...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr old's potty issue, full bladder, dry pants
full bladder, dry pants, power struggle: Dear Megan, No I have not had an experience like this with my kids or other four year olds I ve worked with. I would consider getting another opinion in case the problem is physical. If she is in preschool, she would want to conform with the other girls...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr old in pre-k, pre kinder, daycare
pre kinder, daycare, bad behaviour: Hi Teresa, Sometimes children adapt and then don t adapt to some settings as easily. I do think that the talking is working with him so continue with this. Try to encourage him to tell you how he feels, or ask him do you feel ..sad, frustrated, angry..etc...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 Month old Schedule, typical schedule, sleeping through the night
typical schedule, sleeping through the night, waking hours: that is based soley on the child. Every child is different when it comes to that. It will depend on what time you wake up.. and what time you consider your dinner etc. For example. if you get up at 7am and the baby is awake then feed her around 7-7:30am...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month developmental milestones, developmental milestones, mild support
developmental milestones, mild support, short periods: Dear Amber: All babies are different. Some babies do some things earlier than other and then do other activities later than others. If you are really worried then check with your pediatrician so you can quite worrying. Check out Talaris Timeline for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month old baby not sleeping through the night, james windell, 5 month old baby
james windell, 5 month old baby, month old baby: Hello Digi-Ana, It s every parent s goal to have a baby who sleeps through the night. But many don t. Often it s during the second half of the first year that babies learn to sleep for several hours in a row, particularly at night. Up to about six months...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month old sleeping...., white noies, vicki lansky
white noies, vicki lansky, bedtime routine: Dear Kristin Every single child is different, and every child also needs to learn to go to sleep and BACK to sleep when they wake up. You seem to be trying the right things..like white noies, (or music.) You can try a pacifier or baby bottle with water..just...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month old sleeping..., strange room, strange bed
strange room, strange bed, worrie: hi i know exactly how you feel about the sleeping situation as i have had the same thing with my second son who is now 7.5 months old and has only just this week started sleeping almost though he sleeps from 9.30 to around 4 am or up to 6 am. Up until now...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month old wont sleep, nursery rock, first few days
nursery rock, first few days, cold turkey: Oh, you sound exasperated, God love ya! Because of your baby’s age, my suggestion is that you ‘transition’ him from swing sleeping cold turkey. By this, I don t mean leaving him to cry it out, but just get rid of the swing and don t use it anymore. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month old, aahhs, ooo
aahhs, ooo, milestones: Hi Callahan~ This is totally normal. At about 6 months of age is when babies start saying their first real words (like mama and dada). Just keep talking to her and encourage her to say simple things. Eventually she ll catch on and will be able to say...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 Year Old Exerting Troubling Behavior, james windell, sensitive child
james windell, sensitive child, wits end: Hello Chip, Although many children show uncooperative behavior during the toddler years, some wait until four, five or six. The fact that she is showing the behavior you re most concerned about at home and not at preschool suggests that it may be a reaction...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old aggression, james windell, stay at home mom
james windell, stay at home mom, loving behavior: Hello Karen, Many children feel bad after they been bad or acted in an aggressive way. The problem for many children (and teens as well) is that their controls don t work very well. Good control over impulses comes with maturity. I think you (and his parents)...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old boy touching other 5 year old boys, pee pee, picnic table
pee pee, picnic table, typical behavior: Hi Susan~ This is actually typical behavior for this age. A child begins to discover their body parts between the ages of 2-6. They also learn what feels good to them (touching themselves, exploring body parts, other children s body parts, etc). It s...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old compulsive behavior, emergency operation, compulsive behavior
emergency operation, compulsive behavior, positive direction: Hi Robyn~ If she s doing it and it s becoming disruptive to her normal daily functions. Then yes, it could be a problem. She really could have OCD, even at this young of an age. If it continues and interupts her normal daily functioning, then talk to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old crying, luxuries, heaps
luxuries, heaps, young girl: Hi Steve~ It s never a good idea to spoil a child. If you do that, your child gets used to having whatever she wants, and then she comes to expect it. So spoiling her could be a portion of the problem. The other half is that this behavior is totally...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old girl-change in behavior, rewards program, jayme
rewards program, jayme, misbehaviour: Lisa, this sounds all to familiar for a child that is experiencing the change from pre-school to Kindergarten. Jayme has to find her place in this new environment. Ask her questions about being in time out and try to understand how she feels about her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5-year-old granddaughter's crying, james windell, temper tantrum
james windell, temper tantrum, reasoning strategies: Hello Eileen, I tend to agree with you. If she bursts into tears when she doesn t get her way, this is not a reason for punishment. Her crying should be ignored, and then when it s over life goes on. The only reason to use time-out or any other form...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old not sleeping by her self, mommy daddy, exact problem
mommy daddy, exact problem, daddy don: Hi Tabatha~ I m having the same exact problem with my youngest and she s 6! The only thing I haven t done is to force her to sleep in her own room, in her own bed. She s only done that (actually slept in her bed in her room a few times). This has been...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 5 year old son will not listen, kindergarten classes, kindergarten class
kindergarten classes, kindergarten class, kindergarten teacher: Hello Tamekia, You didn t give me quite enough information. For instance, if your son is five, I assume he is in a kindergarten class, which may only be a half day. Also, the majority of time in kindergarten classes, there is a lot of play and group activities,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old urinating on floor, economic reversals, computer privileges
economic reversals, computer privileges, changes in the family: Hello Kelly, There are only two reasons for this to be happening. One s physical; the other emotional. I would suggest that you have her get a physical exam from the pediatrician just to rule out physical factors. It s also possible that she is hyperactive-impulsive...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old daughter, relatives, drinks
relatives, drinks, sleep: First I want to apologize for not getting back to you sooner. For some reason I didn t recieve the email that I had a question waiting to be answered. So again I m extremely sorry. Now about your question. I would suggest that when you hear her crying that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old daughter, soft music, hmmm
soft music, hmmm, alot of people: Hmmm sounds like there is more to it.. have you knelt down next to her on her level when she s crying and asked her why shes so sad? Try that.. and if that don nt work.. and she is just lonely try playing some soft music in her room at night.. Alot of people...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 5 yr. old is kissing girls, kissing girls, three girls
kissing girls, three girls, germs: Hi Angie, I think this is normal for this age given my son s kindergarten has two or three girls in the class who are nicknamed the kissie girls . I would not make a big deal of it and hopefully it will pass as the curiosity wears off. I don t think punishing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old not listening to parents, day care center, hearing problem
day care center, hearing problem, chronic infection: Dear Heather It is unusual for a five year old to be uncooperative and defiant. Please have him checked thoroughly by a doctor. It is possible that he may have a chronic infection, such as an ear infection, which causes uneasiness but may not be painful....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old: "I'm going to kill myself, mommy", self destructive behavior, statistical relationship
self destructive behavior, statistical relationship, angry children: Hello John, Five-year-olds are typically unaware of their own mortality -- particularly in the sense of understanding the finality of death. That s a more abstract idea that children can t quite grasp until they are about eight or nine. However, that doesn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 50/50 custody, james windell, parenting time
james windell, parenting time, difficult transition: Hello Stacy, This kind of readjustment behavior is common for children who live in two different houses. It happens even with children spend a weekend at a different house. The reason why it happens is usually because 1.) it is a difficult transition...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5yr old poops in pants even though potty trained, positive reinforcements, plaing
positive reinforcements, plaing, power struggle: Does he have a usual time that he usual goes? If so put him in the bathroom about that time and have him try to go. My son also the same age has a problem of holding it in until he gets constipated, then we have to force him to go or give him laxatives. He...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 6 month old, stay at home mom, fussy baby
stay at home mom, fussy baby, sleeps 12: Hello Shana, Infants are often not quite adept at being independent and entertaining themselves. Then as they get better at this they are crawling -- and then you have to watch them carefully to make sure they re safe. So, the bottomline is that your life...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 month old baby and night wakings, 6 month old baby, month old baby
6 month old baby, month old baby, quarter cup: Hi, Well it sounds very familiar...He is probably waking hungry or its habit or both. I had similar problems with my 10 month old and my two year old. I would suggest you do a combo of two things. First I started giving my oldest baby food in place of the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 weeks old sleep problem, nap time, loud noises
nap time, loud noises, time schedule: Hello Lily, The goal is to help your baby learn to fall asleep on her own. This is true whether she is going down for a nap or it s her regular bedtime. The more you rock her and do other things to help her fall asleep, the more you are creating a situation...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 Year Old urinating in odd places, school playground, emotional level
school playground, emotional level, good behaviour: Dear Nikki I hope the teacher scolded him and said that that the behavior sas not aprropriate and not allowed. And you of course should say the same. First things first: Say No you must NOT do that. You know better. Why are you doing this? Sya you do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 yr old urinating on floor, james windell, child psychologist
james windell, child psychologist, bedroom floor: Hello LaDawn, It is very likely that your son is reacting to the move and the baby. Besides, he just entered first grade this fall. A lot going on for him. I think you and his father need to give him plenty of individual attention. He needs to be able...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old daughter, james windell, bottom teeth
james windell, bottom teeth, fussy baby: Hello Jeri, Since your baby had a fairly tranquil first six months, we can assume she is not a fussy baby. And she didn t suddenly become fussy. And the cause of any discomfort or pain for an infant is usually difficult to diagnose, since they can t tell...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 7-month old doesn't want to eat., old baby girl, month old baby
old baby girl, month old baby, picky eater: Dear Sandy: Sounds like you have a picky eater on your hands. First let go of any idea that she needs to eat just like the first one did, they are all different! :) Have you tried a different cereal? Maybe she just doesn t like the taste of this one....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old will not play alone, speech language pathologist, torticollus
speech language pathologist, torticollus, close proximity: Dear Natalie, I am not an expert in these problems, and it seems to me that your child s therapist should be able to advise you or get you a referral to someone who can. What about accupational therapists or another opinion from another PT? When I read...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old refusing to eat solids, temper tantrum, soft finger
temper tantrum, soft finger, self feed: Hello Michele, Children do go through stages. Since he was doing fine with solids for several weeks, it appears that there was some sort of set-back (we may never know what caused it). Now he wants to be breast-fed, which is emotionally comforting for children....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old sleep troubles, breastfed baby, new mom
breastfed baby, new mom, naps: Hi, I m so sorry to hear about your daughters sleep troubles. It can be very stressful for both you and her. Sometimes when something (such as cutting teeth) interrupts their sleep pattern it is hard to get them back on track. I would suggest talking to her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old sleep troubles, breastfed baby, new mom
breastfed baby, new mom, naps: Hello Audra~ I will first mention that if this is a sudden change, even if she is fine during the day, it is always a good idea to have her dr. take a look at her to rule out anything like an ear infection. With kids, of any age, you should always keep in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old son is throwing daily tantrums, silly faces, exersaucer
silly faces, exersaucer, 2 girls: I know how that goes. My 1 yr old does nothin but cry anymore. And it s just me and my 2 girls so I know how you feel. It is very hard and you get so fed up with it all and don t think you can live through it. lol. But you do. Then when they fall asleep and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 week old sleep patterns, sleep difficulties, sleep patterns
sleep difficulties, sleep patterns, gripe water: Hello JoAnna, I know this is very frustrating. And I know you are likely to feel you are doing something wrong. But the fact is, a significant number of infants have sleep difficulties. It is, of course, how you respond to your baby that determines when...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 week old sleep patterns, sleep patterns, gripe water
sleep patterns, gripe water, few suggestions: Hi JoAnna, I totally understand how exhausted you must be. Not only are you tired from the long nights but the frustration of the situation also adds to you exhaustion. My youngest had this same problem...she started it a bit later at about 9 weeks old....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 week old sleep patterns, reason doctors, baby swing
reason doctors, baby swing, sleep patterns: Hi JoAnna~ She might actually have colic. When a baby has colic, he/she can cry and cry, sometimes w/o reason. Doctors don t really know what causes this. But bouncing the baby up and down, rocking, swaddling (to resemble being in the womb), put her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 7 Year Old Son is Peeing In Differnt Areas Of The House....HELP!! Been going on WAY TOOO Long, hiding in the closet, son ian
hiding in the closet, son ian, riding bike: Hello Shannyn, I agree it has been going on too long. When children of Ian s age are urinating around the house, it usually indicates adjustment problems. I would suggest first that you have a complete physical with a pediatrician to rule out physical...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 year old girl, air fresher, step approach
air fresher, step approach, learning difficulties: Hi Kellyanne, Have you had your daughter professionally assessed? I would suggest, in the meantime, that you have a list or pictures of what you want her to do, this may help so you don t feel like you are nagging if she forgets things. We can only discipline...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 Month Old, loving voice, attention span
loving voice, attention span, silly stuff: Hi Neal, I presume you take her to an MD every month or two? Please do. He can tell you about the swallowing. The best way to teach a baby to talk is not to insist or try at all, just talk to the baby in a soft, loving voice. Tell her what is going...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 Month Old, late bloomer, attention span
late bloomer, attention span, silly stuff: Hi. My assumption is that your daughter is caught up on all her regular checkups. That being the case, your main worries have probably been eased. Medical problems can cause slow development. Though, if that were the case, you wouldn t be asking the question....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 Month old issues, attention span, silly stuff
attention span, silly stuff, facial features: Hi! Let me start by apologizing for the long wait to a response to your question. My computer has been down for a few days. When my daughter was 8 months old she was pre-occupied with things as well. I too tried to read to her but she wouldn t hear of it!...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 Month old sleep problems!!, bottle tooth decay, full time job
bottle tooth decay, full time job, nap time: I would suggest reducing his nap time maybe by 15-30 minutes to see if that helps. Or waking him up earlier. You didn t give me a detailed time schedule so i don t know if he is getting to much sleep during the day or not enough. You may also need to be giving...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 month old that grabs and hits, james windell, infants and toddlers
james windell, infants and toddlers, older girls: Hello Amber, As children develop some motor skills, they do exactly what you re describing. At six and seven months, we usually think it s cute that an infant can reach for our nose or our glasses (or my mustache). I m sure your older girls did this,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 month old sleeping habits, old baby girl, sleep patterns
old baby girl, sleep patterns, reasonable hour: Hi. Well lets see. Try feeding her baby food or something right before bed. Babies are like adults. They get sleepy and sleep better when their belly is full. You know, you could let her stay up as late as she wants one night and then get her up early in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 month old son, full body massage, bedtime routines
full body massage, bedtime routines, noise tv: Dear Zachary: Please due scan previous questions and answers on bedtime routines. Bedtime routines are very important to children to help them turn down their systems so they can sleep deeply. I suggest turning down the lights, noise (TV, computer,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: We have a 8 month old son, separation anxiety, 10 mins
separation anxiety, 10 mins, good luck: Hi. well let me say, I have an 8 month old daughter so I know. But I knew what to expect because I also have a 3 yr old. Babies go through a separation anxiety time where they don;t want to be without one of their parents. It usually goes away but if you react...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 8 year old is peeing in his room, james windell, child psychologist
james windell, child psychologist, psychological testing: Hello coral, Obviously, no matter what the previous counselor said, he is not fine. Something is bothering him. So, I suggest going to another counselor -- a therapist who has had wide experience working with children around eight years of age. Maybe a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 yr. old sons behavior, inquisitive child, noise sensitivity
inquisitive child, noise sensitivity, repetitive behavior: Hello Margaret, You indicate that you struggled with similar repetitive behaviors as a child, right? So, that means you understand how difficult it is to deal with the tendency. Therefore, I assume you used punishment when he has shown this tendency in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8mth Old Crying Uncontrollably, infant massage classes, baby cows
infant massage classes, baby cows, google search: Dear Tonesha: Poor little guy and you poor parents. Colic is so painful for babies. Realize this is terribly painful for him. I would strongly encourage you to take some infant massage classes and implement a daily or even twice a day infant massage with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 9 1/2 month old vomitting, potato chunks, small potato
potato chunks, small potato, small pieces: First I would recommended talking to your doctor. My son however was the same way everytime he coughed to hard we had a mess to clean up. He is now five and we havent had problem for about a year unless he has a cold. I would say wash down any chunky food...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 9&1/2 mths does not say mama or dada, james windell, saying words
james windell, saying words, target: Hello Maria, Do not get impatient with your daughter. You re making a good point about her real age. If you think of her as about two months younger than her actual chronogical age, your expectations might be somewhat more on target. If you think...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 9 month old likes to hit her wrist on things, squeak toy, high chair
squeak toy, high chair, activity center: Hi Cathy~ It s nothing to worry about. I ve seen babies do this before. I think it s just something that some babies do. She s not going to break any bones, if that s your biggest concern. It takes quite a bit to break bones. It s probably just a phase...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 9 month old sleeping pattern changes, bedtime routine, sleep problems
bedtime routine, sleep problems, bundle of joy: Jason- I think that sleep problems worry parents more than anything else that comes along. While sleep problems often seen to suddenly hit when you look back you can usually see something leading up to the changes- an illness, teething, a change in the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 9 month old waking early, morning nap, afternoon nap
morning nap, afternoon nap, early riser: Keri- thank you for the question. My oldest is an early riser and until she was old enough to fend for herself it forced me to rise early as well. Just a couple of things that I thought of. The first is, is there something in his environment that is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Abandonment/Behavior, babys mother, brother my brother
babys mother, brother my brother, wits end: Hi debbie, It sounds like you are a good care-giver and you have a good sense about how to handle kids. Therefore, you set guidelines and rules and your nephew goes along with things. Your brother has problems because he doesn t listen to you or follow...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggresive and irrational 3 year old, telli, lashes
telli, lashes, deep breaths: Hello Matt, Yes, this certainly could be a situation where he has strong emotions. And at almost three, while he has the emotions, he doesn t have the skills to control those emotions. Counseling isn t likely to help him. But I think they key lies in how...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive 3yr-old in divorce, spanked kids, aggressive child
spanked kids, aggressive child, visitation schedule: Hello Kristin, Many 3-year-olds have problems controlling their aggression when they start preschool. It is so common that it can be considered normal behavior. Research, however, shows that preschoolers are more likely to show aggression if they are spanked....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive behavior in 3 yr old son, nanny 911, discipline techniques
nanny 911, discipline techniques, control behavior: Hi Sarah, I ve actually dealt with many out-of-control toddlers and preschoolers. What I found works best (I always did this in a clinic setting where we had room options) is to just pick them up (usually from behind at the waist, which minimizes the chances...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive behavior, parenting methods, violence on tv
parenting methods, violence on tv, good parenting: Hello Jamie, I know the aggressive behavior of 3-year-olds can be frustrating, however, usually it is well within normal limits. In other words, there is no magic for making a 3-year-old less aggressive. Time and good teaching by parents usually does the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive Toddler, child discipline, daycare
child discipline, daycare, procedure time: Dear Sandra, Hold his hands immediately and tightly and look him right in the eyes up close and in his face..and say NO! No I will not let you hit me. No hitting. If he has a tanturm at this point, hold him on your lap with your arms wrapped around him...tightly......

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive toddler hitting teachers!, ages and stages, typical behavior
ages and stages, typical behavior, time outs: Hi Radhika~ This is very common and typical behavior for a child his age. Children go through many ages and stages. The key here is you must have loads of patience and be consistant when you deal with him. I would suggest that you use the method of time...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Agressive Behavior Toddler Boys, aggressive child, altruistic behavior
aggressive child, altruistic behavior, verbal reprimand: Hello Stacy, Yes, boys will be boys. This means that boys are far more likely than girls to respond to provocaion with aggressive behavior. Nonetheless, we don t want our boys growing up to become aggressive or bullies. The strategies to prevent this...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Agressive/Sensitive 3 year old, child psychologist, speech delay
child psychologist, speech delay, three year olds: Hi Jill, Am I familiar with this kind of behavior from two and three-year-olds? Yes, because almost everyone of them engages in similar behavior. The real question is why can t summer camps, daycare centers and preschools know how to deal with it? ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Angry Toddler, stay at home mom, temper tantrums
stay at home mom, temper tantrums, typical toddler: Hi Stacy~ A child can sense when something isn t right around them. They may not understand or know the full extent of what the ordeal is. But they can quickly pick up on it. I d bet it s probably a combonation of the stress he s picking up off of you,and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anxiety and retaliation?, finger foods, favoritism
finger foods, favoritism, youngest son: Hello Kylie~ I understand your hurt feelings! My youngest son turned up his nose at me at a yr. old when I left him for 5 days to go to Vegas w/ my hubby for my cousins wedding. It broke my heart to return home to him expecting him to run into my arms....and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attached Twin, james windell, responsive parenting
james windell, responsive parenting, ill children: Hello Darrell, Yes, I agree. The need to be held probably started when he was ill. Children often need more holding, cuddling and nurturing when they don t feel well. However, it is often the case that at about this same age children don t want to be separated...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attachment Issues, daycare, attachment issues
daycare, attachment issues, sister works: Hello Karen, Let me see if I understand this: You placed your daughter in a daycare with her aunt when she was 2 months of age and 20 months later, after spending all day at least five days a week with her aunt, she often prefers her. Do I have this right?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attachment Issues, google search, daycare
google search, daycare, attachment issues: Well Karen let me just tell you that I can completely relate to this question. We also put my oldest daughter into daycare around the same age and it was also the daycare where her aunt worked. The same scenario followed. your husband is right in that its...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attachment Issues, daycare, attachment issues
daycare, attachment issues, sister works: I ran into a similar situation at the day care I wored in. My sister in law put her daughter in and she ended up with me. My niece didnt want to go to daycare and she screamed and because I was aunti donna I cuddled her and tried to make it ok.. etc etc etc......

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attachment Issues, daycare, work part time
daycare, work part time, attachment issues: Dear Karen, I feel very sorry for you because I know how you feel. It s too bad that so many parents have to be in this type of situation due to the fact that they both have to work. Many employers now let mothers work part time at the office and part time...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attachment Issues, daycare, attachment issues
daycare, attachment issues, sister works: Hi Karen~ This is actually very normal for a child her age. You re a mom, it s totally expected for your feelings to be hurt that your daughter prefers someone else. However, you shouldn t take this personally. In time this stage should eventually pass....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: adding to a question you already answered, play therapist, defiant behavior
play therapist, defiant behavior, neurological disorder: Hi Dee, I am so glad you have so much support and are so well balanced as a parent given what you are going through. As you have noted, you can forsee these tantrums and talk him not just out of it but through it to a better experience and that is fantastic....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Any advice about getting pregnant?, money problems, local restaurant
money problems, local restaurant, steak house: Sorry Loren, but as a great grandmom with lots of family and neices/nephews etc, and many marriages in the family of all types, I agree that you should wait until you re done with college. Having a child is VERY expensive these days, and your salaries now...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Any advice about our situation?, money problems, local restaurant
money problems, local restaurant, steak house: I am sorry it has taken me a while to get back to you. Been so busy lately. I was young when I got married myself. I was 17 and my husband was 18. He was in the USMC. We got pregnant RIGHT after we married. It was an unplanned pregnancy but we were still so...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Going against our mothering instinct, daughter olivia, professional journalist
daughter olivia, professional journalist, good parenting: Dear Melanie, (I put my credits at the end of this letter.) I agree with you completely; children should be encouraged to be independent about such things as dressing, undressing, hygiene and eating, etc. You can begin encouraging these things whenever...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: age for childcare, child care provider, month old baby
child care provider, month old baby, daycare: Hello Eliane, As you know, childcare and daycare remain controversial issues. With controversy comes research. I believe research indicates that there are deterimental effects on children -- in the short term and long term -- if you don t spend quality...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggression in a 28 month-old, aggressive acts, hapless victims
aggressive acts, hapless victims, toilet training: Hello Steens, Yes, toddlers -- even wonderful and advanced ones -- can be aggressive and resistant. It is frustrating, but at the same time it is quite normal. Yet, you don t want the twins to be the hapless victims of the 2-year-olds aggression. But...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggressive behaviourq, terrible 2, aggressive behaviour
terrible 2, aggressive behaviour, terrible twos: Dear Lou, Yes it IS the Terrible Twos and is normal. However, you must not allow hitting or pushing. Say NO HITTING OR PUSHING; HITTING AND PUSHING HURT and keep removing him immediately from the situation. Hold him tight and say no, and don t let him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggressive bx, fear,, preschool children, reassurance
preschool children, reassurance, robbers: Hello Mina, It is not uncommon for preschool children to go through phases when they develop fears. Usual fears include the fear of robbers breaking into the house, ghosts or monsters in closets and in the bedroom, and so on. It s usually best to try...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggressive vs passive child in play situations, aggressive child, playtimes
aggressive child, playtimes, playdates: Bonnie, you can take it BUT it will help her cooperate and save face if you stress that you will let her have it again as soon as _so and so___ has finished her turn, AND if you have some alternative toy or item she can use right now while you are waiting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggressive two year old, time out, frustration
time out, frustration, sentences: Hi Kris~ It s not uncommon at all for a toddler to go through this behavioral phase. It s b/c a 2 yo doesn t have very good vocab skills to say how he/she feels. So instead they act out, and bite, pinch, hit, etc out of frustration. When she does...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: agressive/repititive behaviour, james windell, affectionate child
james windell, affectionate child, developmental disorder: Hello Gary, So a doctor made a diagnosis of a serious developmental disorder without examining your child, right? Does that sound like competent medical practice to you? Hmmm.... Anyway, I need more information about your child: 1. How old is he?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: angry 4-year old, move something, time outs
move something, time outs, unacceptable behavior: Cindy- thanks for the question. It does sound as if he s angry for some reason. Has there been any major changes in his life since he turned two? By that I mean, divorce, a death in the family, new sibling, a move, something to that effect? If so, I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: not sure if you can answer this., gurgle, 3 month
gurgle, 3 month, spoon: If your husband wants to, he can do everything else besides nurse. And when spoon feeding starts he can even be the expert in that. You can make it easy for them to have fun and lovey dovey together, but you can t force it either. Encourage him to sing, play,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: antisocial toddler, louise bates ames, mom and dad
louise bates ames, mom and dad, ill behavior: Dear Ann, I think you are doing a great job and have a wonderful and normal 3 year old. You may want to get reassurance from the book Your Three Year Old ..one of a series of books that go brith to age 8, by Louise Bates Ames and Frances Ilg. Be patient...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: anxiety tantrums after new baby, mild success, speech delay
mild success, speech delay, negative behavior: Hello Leah, He s sleeping more? That s great. What a relief for you!:) As for the tantrums in the car, I think before you go in the car for the next few times, that you talk to him before leaving the house. Tell him you expect him to not be scared or...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: no appetite, dear james, entertaining show
dear james, entertaining show, picky eater: Hello Pam, Obviously, you have a very picky eater! I assume you are taking her regularly to a pediatrician and the eating problem has been discussed with the doctor. If the doctor doesn t think she is gaining enough weight, then he can do a thorough exam...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: appropriate discipline for 2.5 year old triplets, bedtime prayer, change diapers
bedtime prayer, change diapers, cold shower: Hello Alex, That s a new one for me. I ve never heard of it. But obviously it was effective. Was it too harsh? I don t think so. What it got across to them was that there would be a consequence they wouldn t like. If you did this regularly and they screamed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: appropriate discipline??, chicken nuggets, good mother
chicken nuggets, good mother, wks: Hello Jane, You are right, of course. The voice of experience prevails. When children are picked up from a sitter or from daycare, parents are usually in a hurry. And they come in, expect a child to stop doing what they re doing, and gladly leave the environment...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: how to aproach my toddler with the break-up?, james windell, delem
james windell, delem, legal obligation: Hello Britt, You should tell them one to two weeks before he leaves. The two of you should talk to them at the same time. Tell them that he is moving out and that you decided that you can t live with each other any more. Hopefully, he loves them enough that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: attachment, bedtime story, happy holidays
bedtime story, happy holidays, water play: Dear Jody, It s normal for children to seem to be attached to one parent or the other for various phases and times in the early years. When he s nearly 4 he will problably ignore Dad and be attached to you. Don t worry about it or get anxious. Your anxiety...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: attahcment to her stuffed toy, member psychologists, transitional objects
member psychologists, transitional objects, transitional object: Hello Maher, Almost every child has a favorite toy, most often a stuffed animal, that they love. They do exactly as your daughter is doing; carrying it everywhere, doting on it, sleeping with it, and treating it as family member. Psychologists call them...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby and her crying, bad habbits, breast milk
bad habbits, breast milk, bussiness: Hi Laurel, I appreciate the fact that you re willing to learn about babies, rather than just pretending you know everything. None of us do. I think your instincts are right. That is, when raising a baby you must be responsive to them. Letting them cry...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Development, dypers, baby development
dypers, baby development, doctor visit: HI! My general rule was buy one pack of jumbo newborn diapers, and a few packs size 1! Newborn diapers are generally for 7-11 lbs and size 1 is 8-15 lbs. The only reason I bothered with the newborn ones at all is because of the cutout for the umbilical cord....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby feeding, nutrition wise, breast milk
nutrition wise, breast milk, lack of energy: Hi. First let me say I am sorry it has taken this long for me to get back with you. My internet has been down. But as far as your child. I think he will be okay. If you notice signs of him being sick, such as constipation, fever, lack of energy and so forth,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby's green potty, good start formula, s green
good start formula, s green, best of luck: Hello Paul s mom, it sounds like Paul might have a bug.How long has this been going on for?To me it sounds like there is something wrong, you should get him into see a doctor as soon as possible. But whatever it is, I m sure it s not too serious. I really...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby hungry, little tummies, breast feed
little tummies, breast feed, small quantities: Nancy- thanks for the question. Most pediatricians would not recommend cereal at this young age. Their little tummies are not ready for it yet. Since you say she s not on breastmilk (which gets processed very quickly and would be the cause of two hour...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby kicks while sleeping, specilize, yelps
specilize, yelps, lying on the floor: Hi Valerie~ I honestly don t think that a baby (especially that young) can be accurately diagnosed with a form of Autism. He s simply too young. Now, when he s older like age 3-4, it can be correctly diagnosed. I think you should get a second or even...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Names, james windell, atticus finch
james windell, atticus finch, to kill a mockingbird: Hello Tyler, Atticus is certainly a distinctive name. It will make your son stand out. It is rarely used and thus will be unusual. The name Atticus, perhaps for most people, might be associated with Atticus Finch, the admirable character in Harper Lee...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Please sleep longer!, naps, bed time
naps, bed time, time change: Hi Dina~ You need to try and change his bedtime. Try moving it back and making it a little later. When you first do this, move it back by 15 minutes, then way it s not a huge change for him. If you move it up too much, then you risk totally messing up...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby refusing to feed except on the breast, month old baby, question pool
month old baby, question pool, concept of time: Dear Kanchan: I found your posting in the question pool. Hopefully it has not been her a long time. I volunteered to answer your question. She is missing you. Try sending her with a blanket, a sweater or any item which has your SMELL on it. You may...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Sleeping Help, bottels, sippy cup
bottels, sippy cup, baby sleeping: Comforting toys blankies etc, will help at night. My son always like to hug a stuffed animal when he was a baby, that his father would give him. It is true to let your child cry when they wake up, she will get used to it- a new routine in about a week. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Sleeping Help, baby sleeping, auto accident
baby sleeping, auto accident, tring: sorry that I have not answered you sooner my brother in law was killed in a terrible auto accident on eighth of this month and I have been out of town tring to get all his affairs settled and deal with our loss and just returned home yesterday. You need to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Sleeping Help, good luck with everything, sleeping through the night
good luck with everything, sleeping through the night, baby sleeping: Is your daughter eating any baby food yet? If not, now would be a good time to start her. Start with one meal a day then gradually work your way up. She will be satesfied and will sleep a lot better. As for her sleeping through the night, she should be, but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby's speech development, james windell, squeals
james windell, squeals, speech development: Hello Natalie, It s way to early to begin to worry about your baby s speech and language development. Typically, babies begin making varoius cooing and gurgling/babblimg sounds about six months of age. However, there is such a wide variation in the development...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My Baby stopped drinking Milk, cheese eggs, chocolate milk
cheese eggs, chocolate milk, flavored milk: Hi Fady~ I wouldn t worry too much about it. Maybe you could wait a few days and then try to reintroduce it to him again. He could just be tired of milk. Some children at about this age start to become picky b/c they notice that they can. It s probably...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby sucking on hands a LOT, rings beads, sharp teeth
rings beads, sharp teeth, teething rings: Dear Eric: Evidently it is harder on you than it is on him as he is showing a preference for his hands over the other teething toys you have offered him. Have you tried popsickles? Often popsickles are cold and tasty too. The coldness should relieve some...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby's sweaty Hands & Feet, heart issues, normal temperature
heart issues, normal temperature, sweaty hands: Dan- thanks for the question. Hmmmm....I m intrigued. Some questions came to mind, and I apologize if they seem like I m being insulting, just checking all the bases. How is she dressed? Are you over-dressing her for the season? Babies should be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Waking Frequently at Night, stay at home mom, power naps
stay at home mom, power naps, rice cereal: Hi, Well one question I have for you is are you feeding her solids yet? My youngest was a power napper even at night until I started putting rice cereal in her bottles and feeding her a good solid meal close to bed time. She would wake ever 2 hours about...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby that wants to be held all of the time, bouncy seat, natural skill
bouncy seat, natural skill, nervous wreck: Dear Sandy, What you are doing is not only physically impossible for you and getting even harder, it s not good for you baby either. The reason the bouncy seat, swing, etc is not working is that he is actually sleepy and needs a nap, not activity) Babies...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bathing one year old after meals and at night?, late evening, kessler
late evening, kessler, bathtub: Hi Geena~ Yes, it s perfectly fine to bathe her after dinner, and at night, even in the late evening. Just make sure that you never leave her unattended in the bathtub, not even for a second. If you have any further questions please feel free to ask...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bathtub Safety, james windell, bathtub drownings
james windell, bathtub drownings, american academy of pediatrics: Hello Shoneen, I don t know of any guidelines for leaving children unattended in bathtubs. It s possible the American Academy of Pediatrics has said something about this; so you might check their website. In my opinion, a child of four could safely be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bed weting, baby at home, having a new baby
baby at home, having a new baby, bladder problems: Hi Sharon~ It s not uncommon at all for a child to wet the bed at night, particularly at this age. I have a 5 yo that still does it and she s potty trained too. I just use pullups at night to prevent the hassle of accidents (when they happen). You could...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime, inappropriate behavior, big boys
inappropriate behavior, big boys, bedtime: Brenda: Your 3 year old is manipulating you. Look at all the steps you ve taken (just in one paragraph)to get him to sleep. You are actually enabling him to be afraid. Therefore, he will stay afraid as long as he can and will continue to have you jumping...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime, top of the stairs, smart child
top of the stairs, smart child, quiet time: you are doing all the right things basically. You have have to be a bit firmer.. forget taking things from her that obviously dont work. if you know shes come outta her room. tell her its unacceptable and put her back in bed.. no water not fixing covers. if...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime, ferber method, growth spurt
ferber method, growth spurt, throwing fits: Hi Kathy~ It s not uncommon for a child this age to go through this crying-while-in-bed phase. I m not sure what causes this, but it could be due to a growth spurt. You could let her keep crying it out, but use the Ferber method. That s when you let...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime battles, bedtime battles, doing something wrong
bedtime battles, doing something wrong, bright kid: Dear Kay, I don t have any answers for you. I know that your child is having a problem, as well as you have the problem. It s not easy to be edgy and wakeful, and needy and clingy. Something is bothering her. Bravo for you trying to stay loving and caring....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime Problems, bedtime problems, full time job
bedtime problems, full time job, dear paula: Dear Paula, Your husband is right. You made your mistake when you started allowing this habit to continue and now you are paying the price. BUT you MUST stop doing this, no matter how many hours of tantrum behavior she will exhibit. Just hang in there...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime vomiting, bedtime routine, evelyn
bedtime routine, evelyn, habit: Dear Date, Yes, unfortunately I think it is really a matter of testing you and seeing who is more stubborn. Some children hold their breath and try to scare the parents that way....But I think he is trying vomiting. Ask your doctor first if this behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bedtime, bedtime routine, ocean music
bedtime routine, ocean music, whimper: HI! well it sounds like it could be the teething causing a problem or else it could also be the age! At about 9-10 months old babies go through a seperation issue. They are truly frightened without mom or dad. And if that were the case you could try to start...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior, neighbor girl, throwing fits
neighbor girl, throwing fits, calm state: Hello Jason, Tantrums and some aggressive behaviors are fairly age-appropriate for 3 and 4-year-olds. Often they just don t have the verbal skills to handle their emotions. She undoubtedly has language skills, but she may have trouble talking about her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior in 18 month old, new question, tantrums
new question, tantrums, wonderful world: Hello Jasmine, Welcome to the wonderful world of toddlers. They want what they want and throw a tantrrum when they don t get it. They can t tell you what they want, so you re left to guess. Usually, you ll guess wrong. The problem, besides the fact,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior, daycare provider, preschooler
daycare provider, preschooler, consistant: Hi Amber~ It doesn t seem he s acting out b/c of what s going on in his life. He s a typical preschooler. And if he s an only child, all this could stem from him not being very social with other children his age. What I would suggest you do is to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior of 3 year old, words of emotion, hitting children
words of emotion, hitting children, good manners: Yes this is normal behaivor. she does not know how to explain certain feelings she has in adult terms . Also hitting yoru child is not healthy for you your child or your family. It is proven that hitting children makes them lose their trust for their...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior of a 4 year old, having a bad day, fellow students
having a bad day, fellow students, 25 kids: Hi Kristy~ I think his behavior is totally normal. Boys can be a bit more aggressive than girls. Preschoolers just act out, as they really don t have much self control at this age. They act out how they re feelings. So if he s having a bad day, then...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior in 4 yr old, rude behavior, time outs
rude behavior, time outs, ages and stages: Hi Jess~ Children go through ages and stages. There is usually no reasoning with a child when they get upset (even at age 4). If the time outs work very well for you. Then I highly recommend that you keep using them. They are very affective when used...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior of an 8 month old girl, james windell, infants and toddlers
james windell, infants and toddlers, coffee table: Hello Angela, Yes, when we have an infant or toddler and we shows lots of love to that child, then the child does something (like slap us), we tend to take it personally. But, you need to get over this. Why? Because you re going to be a parent of this...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior change/ Separation Anxiety??, separation anxiety, couple ounces
separation anxiety, couple ounces, perfect sleeper: Hello Erin, Your daughter s behavior is not strange or entirely unexpected. She is a toddler. Toddlers go through many changes. Most of those changes are exciting and wonderous for parents -- walking, talking, for instance. Some are not. You are seeing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior change/ Separation Anxiety??, separation anxiety, couple ounces
separation anxiety, couple ounces, perfect sleeper: There could be a lot of things going on. One, she is testing her boundaries. You took her out of bed once and she noticed that this behavior gets you here.(In bed with you)So she continues to do it. I would let her scream 4-6 minutes or longer go in there...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior change/ Separation Anxiety??, separation anxiety, couple ounces
separation anxiety, couple ounces, perfect sleeper: Hello Erin~ It sounds to me like it isn t separation anxiety. She is kind of old to start that now. More likely she has reached the age where she knows what buttons to push w/ mommy and what works. If screaming til you let her sleep w/ you at 4am works...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior with divorce, divorce children, s tv
divorce children, s tv, little bits: Jessica- thank you for your question. I am sorry to hear of your divorce and your daughter s ensuing behavior. Most children act out in some way when their parents go through a divorce. Children feed off of the situation around them and they react according...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior Issues at school, stay at home mom, behavior issues
stay at home mom, behavior issues, constructive manner: Leigh- thanks for the question. Ok, I see a couple of things from your description. I see a need for independence and superiority and an attention seeking behavior. Now, none of this is bad, it s fairly normal. You say he s the oldest in his room,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior problem with my 4 year old, behavior problem, uncertain terms
behavior problem, uncertain terms, impulses: Brianna- thank you for your question. I, too, have a sensitive and orderly child. They re tricky sometimes! As far as the particular issues, try to keep a steady routine, which will help him settle. If something has to change, make sure you make him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior, nervous habit, bad habit
nervous habit, bad habit, taking a nap: Dear Aliya, I think you need to ask your family doctor or your child s doctor this question. It is unusual as a habit and I have not heard of it until now. Ask your doctors for ideas. Also, think about why he might be developing a nervous habit. What...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavioral Children 2 & 4, baby in two, toddler behavior
baby in two, toddler behavior, control thanks: Alex- thanks for your question. My first thought is that yes, they are both probably entering the terrible twos at the same time. Bad for you. :) On a side note, at least you get it over with at the same time. Ok, maybe not a good thing either... ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behaviour, dear danny, life and limb
dear danny, life and limb, good boy: Dear Danny, I can only give you the most general information, which is to remind you that a child that is not becoming socialized is having problems of his own. The best way to help him is to love him more, and more, and even more. You can t control him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Biting, gentle approach, consistancy
gentle approach, consistancy, loud voice: Hi B~ It s totally normal for a toddler to do this. They are testing their limits on what they can and can t get away with. It s also a way for them to show that they aren t happy with something. Since their vocabulary isn t that good, and they can t...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bottle breaking, ear specialist, chronic ear
ear specialist, chronic ear, ear infections: Ok first off.. its actually good for the child to be on the bottle with ear infections it helps the fluid and stuff in the ear move and not be so hurtfull. 2 of my kids had chronic ear problems when they were little as I did myself. Tubes have been the result...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Breaking bad sleep associations, ferber method, breaking my heart
ferber method, breaking my heart, overtired: First of all stop beating yourself up and blaming yourself because your little boy doesn t sleep very well. Well done you for breast feeding for so long, that is one of the best gifts that a mother can give her child. The first thing that we need to do is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Breastfeeding, google search, tooth decay
google search, tooth decay, intestinal tract: Dear J. There are two major schools of thought about breastfeeding, and the LaMaze group is very very positive about the values of breastfeeding. The even have support groups and regular meetings. At least they will know and have done research to prove...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Do babies sleep better on an incline?, crib mattresses, bottom of the incline
crib mattresses, bottom of the incline, reflux: Probably 90% of the babies I work with do have reflux, so I elevate crib mattresses and incline my babies on a regular basis. I also create a reflux nest in their crib so that they do not slide down the mattress. I do not believe and have not seen evidence...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: babies, old baby, healthcare providers
old baby, healthcare providers, sma: Hi. Well I would maybe keep her on the white. I m really not too familiar with the formula. I did look it up however. But Try cutting her feeding down. I m not saying you overfeed her. SOme babies store fat more than others. But know this. I understand she...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Having another baby!, miracle baby, wonderful child
miracle baby, wonderful child, raising kids: HI, Well first I would like to say congratulations and not to worry. I was in pretty much the same situation as you are now with a few exceptions. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years and was told I could not have babies. I had not been on birth control...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby, logical reason, second opinion
logical reason, second opinion, 9 months: Dear Kim: The doctor said she is fine, you say she is doing fine. Is there any logical reason you would need to focus on her head size? How about enjoying every moment with her you can as she will continue to grow and you will miss these moments someday!...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: putting baby to bed, first time mom, temper tantrum
first time mom, temper tantrum, separation anxiety: Well Congrats on the baby!! Motherhood is great...well sometimes.. lol. Alot of babies actually go through this. Most parents resort to letting the baby get into their bed and sleep with them. But I don t think that s the answer. I mean I guess it s alright...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: The baby bottle, work fulltime, permanent teeth
work fulltime, permanent teeth, neat experience: Hi Chris~ She shouldn t be going to bed with a bottle. If she does then it should only be a bottle of water, b/c anything other than water will cause tooth rot and decay. Which can potentially damage permanent teeth later (when they start to come in as...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby colic and screaming, baby colic, month old baby
baby colic, month old baby, screaming baby: Hello~ I am sorry to hear of your colic issues. I have heard how tough that can be. Unfortunately, none of my 4 kids were colic, so I don t know much on the topic. I do know that they don t start being colic all of a sudden. So if this is a new or recent...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby colic and screaming, playtex ventair, baby colic
playtex ventair, baby colic, month old baby: Hi, My first daughter had this and it was insane..I didnt think I was going to make it some days..some of the things that worked for us are.. I switched to Isomil Advanced ready to feed formula and put two teaspoons of Gerber Rice cerial per every 2 oz of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby colic and screaming, enfamil nutramigen, baby colic
enfamil nutramigen, baby colic, stomach ache: Hi. Well my daughter who is now 6 months old had colic for 3 and a half months. Colic is basically alot of gas so the baby has tummy aches alot and sometimes has trouble going to the bathroom. Did your doctor change your baby s formula? If not, Ask about Enfamil...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby constantly cries, attention span, dear tom
attention span, dear tom, sleeping habits: YES! That is exactly what I think has happened and you have confirmed it with these details. And it certainly IS possible for this to happen if that has been the constant interaction pattern from the beginning. Babies learn vey fast. You may need to get...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby crying & report, low lymphs, low mchc
low lymphs, low mchc, high rdw: Hello Raj Singhal, I am not a medical doctor and can not give you the answers you need for the problems. I often consult with a pediatrician, however, she is out of town and I won t be able to talk to her for at least a week. In the meantime, I think you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby game, crib toys, baby game
crib toys, baby game, primary colors: Satish- thank you for the question. At this stage, they are just becoming a bit more aware of their surroundings. The key is to play, but not overstimulate. Mobiles come in handy starting about now. I would choose ones that play music and are in darker...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my baby hates me 2, separation anxiety, coping mechanism
separation anxiety, coping mechanism, closer to one: Hi Lee~ Trust me, your baby doesn t hate you at all. He s too young to fully understand that at times mom can t be there for him. Some babies are just naturally closer to one parent at times. All babies/children go through ages and stages. He s at the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My baby hates me!, old baby girl, month old baby
old baby girl, month old baby, day care: Hi Felisha~ It s nothing to worry about at all. And it s nothing that you did wrong. It s very common at this age and stage for a baby to prefer one parent to the other. I think almost all children go through this phase. Try not to take it personally....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby on a plane, infant massage, traveling with a baby
infant massage, traveling with a baby, ascents: Dear Lilac: Is is safe as long as the doctor says everything is okay. You will want to check out the airlines requirements for baby carriers etc...they don t allow just anytype on the plane from what I understand. If you are breastfeeding sometimes it is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby and sleep, james windell, good sleep
james windell, good sleep, sleep patterns: Hello Malaphay, Your child is only seven weeks old, but you do need to begin to teach him good sleep patterns. The best way of doing this is to develop routines at bedtimes and naptimes. He should not always go down for a nap after breastfeeding. That...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleep, month old baby, bottom teeth
month old baby, bottom teeth, baby sleep: Hello Heidi~ I hope I can help, but I fear that you won t like what you hear. Not that it is bad, because it isn t. It sounds like you are doing everything right. But if he is waking at nite alot, or every 4 hours, wanting to be fed.....this is quite...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleep, month old baby, growth spurt
month old baby, growth spurt, dry diaper: Hi Heidi~ He could be goin through a growth spurt and he s wanting to eat more than usual. You can start by trying to feed him until he s full before you put him to bed (make sure he s got a dry diaper on, etc). Another thing to try is white noise ;...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleep problems, baby sleep problems, ferber method
baby sleep problems, ferber method, nap time: Lily- thanks for the question. Oh, I feel as if I m reliving the first 6 months of my youngest s life. I went through the same thing with her! She didn t learn to nap until she was roughly 7 months old. Let s see, some things that I did was make...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Getting baby to sleep, nap time, soothing music
nap time, soothing music, vaccum: Its good to try and get her on somewhat of a schedule.. for your benefit and hers.. yes feed her on demand but by now she should be somewhat predictable on when shes gonna be hungry. so you can try and hold her off for a tiny bit... i know its hard especially...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleeping, month old baby, sleeping through the night
month old baby, sleeping through the night, baby sleeping: Hello Heidi, The fact that your son can fall asleep on his own when he originally goes to bed indicates that he is learning to sleep on his own. However, there are various times when children awaken several times during the night -- usually we don t know...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby's sleeping habits, sleeping habits, consistancy
sleeping habits, consistancy, habit: Hi Jayne~ What you are doing by not putting him back into bed with you is correct. Also do not pick him up at all. He s come to expect that you will pick him up when he cries. If you keep doing this he should be broke of this very soon. The key here...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleeping with parents, james windell, naps
james windell, naps, 9 months: Hello Devona, I assume your baby has been sleeping in your bed for several months already, right? If my assumption is true, your baby will not want to make this change. That aside, you should think of making the transition gradually. For instance, the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleeping problems, baby sleeping problems, old baby girl
baby sleeping problems, old baby girl, month old baby: Dear Dan, You can go to my web site www.askevelyn.com and read other advice I have given on this topic in the column archives. But in your case, it sounds like it may be a physical problem. I would suggest a doctor appointment and good check up. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleeping, ferber method, growth spurt
ferber method, growth spurt, mom dad: Hi Deena~ It could be a growth spurt, that he s going through. It s not uncommon for a toddler to go through a phase where his sleep pattern becomes disrupted. You have to get him back into it, which is going to take a little bit of extra work on your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My baby's sleepless nights, family changes, toilet training
family changes, toilet training, expirence: Hello, Thank you for contacting mme regarding your special little girl. I also had this ame problem with my son when he was 18 months ( he is now 2 and 4 months ) and from my expirence i can assure that it is most likely a stage which she will soon grow...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My baby wants nothing to do with me, child rearing, chores
child rearing, chores, hard time: Glad to know I was of some help to you. Often I find that just getting it out- writing down my thoughts- helps me work through a lot. My babies never preferred my mother in law to me or I d share some things I would have said to her in the same situation....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby wont sleep, baby wont sleep, month old baby
baby wont sleep, month old baby, plain water: Marcia, it is perfectly normal for him to wake up like that. My youngest just turned 3 and she still wakes up for milk in the middle of the night. I can see how it bothers you though, you must be lacking sleep. Have you tried to keep him up later? If not,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby wont sleep, baby wont sleep, ferber method
baby wont sleep, ferber method, room darkening shades: Aida- thank you for the question. My two girls were both problem sleepers and my youngest had tendencies like you describe. My first thought is to examine her sleeping environment. Is it a good one to sleep in? Is it darker, would she need some background...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby wont sleep, baby wont sleep, month old baby
baby wont sleep, month old baby, plain water: Dear Marcia: I am currently recovering from a serious illness, and I am unable to devote the time and effort to answering your question that you deserve. I apologize for my limitations, and any hardship that they may cause you. Your concerns are very...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby, james windell, passive participation
james windell, passive participation, vision television: Hi Vivek, I support the American Academy of Pediatrics position. This is that there should be NO TV watching under the age of two years for children. Then, after that they sahould be exposed to only very limited TV watching. I m against basically any television...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My babys head circumference, dr appt, head circumference
dr appt, head circumference, month old baby: Dear Malissa: I can hear the terror in your letter. You need to ask your doctor more questions. Often when things are not explained appropriately and with great detail parents panic. I don t know what it means or what the doctor is thinking. You should...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad behavior, hugs kisses, acting out
hugs kisses, acting out, daughter works: Dear Linda: This little boy is 12 months old and we are worried about bad behavior? Something is definitely going on as he is only 1 years old. Sounds like he is not getting his needs met. He knows the word no and it sounds like that maybe his trigger....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad behavior 2, james windell, verbal reprimand
james windell, verbal reprimand, misbehavior: Hello, I sort of did answer that second question when I suggested ignoring. A lot of children s behavior ought to be ignored. Children s misbehavior should be viewed as either minor or serious. Serious misbehavior includes aggression against others, stealing,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad behavior in my almost 3 yr old, discipline strategy, school discipline
discipline strategy, school discipline, oppotunities: Hi Sandy, From a personality perspective, your daughter will be going through a few changes at this age. If this behaviour is new I would be asking her what is going on in her school environment and at home to see if there are external reasons for this behaviour....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad behavior not listing at all help, wonderful child, column archives
wonderful child, column archives, bad behavior: Dear Lila, You MUST address this problem now or it will just get worse. Your child needs rules, limits and consequences for bad behavior. He is acting out in these ways partly partly because he does not feel that you are in charge and that makes him feel...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad behavior, slaping, hugs and kisses
slaping, hugs and kisses, inconvenient times: Hello, I m sorry to hear that you are troubled by these two problems. Let s see if I can offer some suggestions. First, the toileting problem. Many children between three and four years of age have accidents. Sometimes the reason is that they get busy...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad night habit, baby twins, old baby
baby twins, old baby, naps: Hi Lydia, Perhaps I m not the right person, for I believe that it s up to each baby to work into his own routine with some help from his parents. I think that shoulds are oppressive, and when friends and family say should to you, that is not helping you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad sleeping habit, bedtime routine, music and lights
bedtime routine, music and lights, 3 year olds: Dear Gaea: Be patient he will get back to normal. You may try to introduce him to massage after he gets a bath. Bathing him will lower his body temperature and the massage should be enough to put him out. Check your routine to see if there are any uppers...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bath/ potty training, bath time, peeing
bath time, peeing, bathtub: Hi Marie~ It s not uncommon for a child this age to refuse to take a bath (for various reasons). You just have to tell her that she s going to have a bath, and there s no bargaining or anything with her. You can do bath time, say, every other day to avoid...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: battles, nutritious snack, apple slices
nutritious snack, apple slices, dinnertime: Dear Melanie, i wonder if you could get some good advice from a nutritionist. His doctor can provide you with a reference. Meanwhile, my own inclination would be to do two things. Involve him in the preparation of supper in as many simple ways as you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How to become favorite parent ., nuturing, mothers and daughters
nuturing, mothers and daughters, caregiving: I apologize for the delay in responding as I am currently running for House of Representatives in my state. As a result, I have little free time. Okay. Regarding gaining favorite status, your husband needs to understand that your daughter is more attached...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: going to bed and bathroom problems, emotional thing, little tv
emotional thing, little tv, poopie: Hi Kristie~ Leave the gate up at night if that works. I can totally relate to what you re going through with her right now. I went through that phase with a couple of my girls. Just about all children do this at one point or another. When my youngest...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: beds, toddler bed, cot
toddler bed, cot, instincts: Dear Vikki: I think you know your child better than anyone else. Let your instincts guide you. If she seems to sleep well without falling out then go ahead an put her in a toddler bed. The rail might be a good idea if she thrashes around in her sleep....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: beds, bed rails, toys r us
bed rails, toys r us, toddler bed: I put my oldest daughter in a toddler bed when she was 2. She fell out a lot but it s only like an inch off of the ground so kids can t get hurt when falling out. I think it should be okay to go ahead and switch her just make sure she can t get out of the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime, time children, bedtime
time children, bedtime, kay: Dear Mike: I am not sure there are rules for what time children go to bed. I would determine how much sleep your child seems to need and then adjust accordingly. Some parents put their children to bed as early as 7 p.m. however you need to be prepared...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime, bedtime story, good sleep
bedtime story, good sleep, vicki lansky: Hi Pam Tyr the Vicki Lansky book, Getting Your Child to Sleep and Back to Sleep It should be on amazonl.com and in stores and also in the library. You are not a bad parent, you are a normal young woman who need sleep and intimacy. See what ideas...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime resistance, fear response, daycare
fear response, daycare, brain development: Dear Bronwyn: You may not like my answer and there are plenty of professionals who disagree with my philosophy. When a child cries they are trying to tell you something. When they are being manipulative they are trying to meet a need or a want or a desire....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime tantrums, teeth and gums, night kiss
teeth and gums, night kiss, blankies: I put my son in a toddler bed at 21 months old. This will eliminate your problem. She can get her own blankies if she decides to throw them, and you won t have to worry about her ever falling out of her crib since it CAN happen to any child, they can climb...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bedtime, bedtime routine, nightlite
bedtime routine, nightlite, soft sounds: Dear Kim Your son is still in the 2 yr old testing you stage and tantrums are also likely. YOU are in charge and YOU are the adult. You must make him understand that, and give him rules and limits that are simple. Do not play his games . You have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior, temper tantrums, special needs kids
temper tantrums, special needs kids, possable: Hello Crystal, I think I may need some more information, but let me try to address what you re facing first. A three-year-old is still going to have temper tantrums (usually they are pretty much gone by age five). So, that part is normal. However, you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior, air bubbles, swallowing air
air bubbles, swallowing air, young baby: Hi there Hayley, I have ben thinking about your question and i thought that even though i have asked you to give me a bit more information about your son which i would still like to hear from you if you dont mind just for me to be sure about my answer but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior issues, mom time, daycare
mom time, daycare, consistent plan: Nikki- Thanks for the question. I am so sorry it took me so long to get back to you. Busy weekend. Please do not feel like a bad mom. I ve been there with my own. Let s see.....Your four year old. She can mind, you say she can at school. I read...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior issuses, time mommy, kid time
time mommy, kid time, hot chocolate: Mindy- thanks for the question. I agree, I think she might be in need of some kid time. Mommy and me time is great, no doubt about it, but after awhile they need playmates. I believe in preschool, even if it s only half day, or a couple days a week....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior, temper tantrums, phase time
temper tantrums, phase time, time outs: Hi Crystal~ I remember when my oldest, now 10yrs. old, went thru that phase. Time-outs are great, but make sure that it actually does the trick. First of all, make sure that you explain to him, that time-out doesn t start until he is sitting quietly. The...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behaviors in 5 yr old boy, chese, bedroom floor
chese, bedroom floor, preschool teacher: Hello Stacey, Given the number of problems and delays with your son, I would suggest a good place to start is by having a child psychologist do a comprehensive psychological evaluation. A good, thorough assessment will help you better understand your son...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behaviour problems with my 3 1/2 years old son, arranging furniture, milk and water
arranging furniture, milk and water, behaviour problems: Dear A, I understand that you want help, and I don t mean to be flip. I wish I had a few easy answers to give you. You might as well be asking me How should I live? It s that complex. First- have you told all the details to his doctor? just to rule...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behaviour, terrible two, acceptable behavior
terrible two, acceptable behavior, time outs: Margi- thanks for the question. My do you have your hands full! At age two, they ve earned the nickname the Terrible Two s and it s not for nothing! All kids seek attention, in both appropriate and inappropriate ways. The trick is to get them to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Do you believe in letting babies "cry it out"?, babies, sleep
babies, sleep, parents: I think it would be alright to let her cry. See how that works out for a couple of nights. Or just go to your baby and put her back to sleep in her own room. Just let her know that your there if he/she needs you. I did that with my daughter and it seemed to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: "big boy room and bed", story music, baby on the way
story music, baby on the way, bassinet: Dear Heather, You are doing everything right...But just remember that this is a two and a half year old. He does not have the conceptual ability to imagine and put himself into a place in the future. He knows and understands the now and what he can really...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: biting!!, attention getter, middle kid
attention getter, middle kid, soothing music: First things first.. wow your busy.. I had a hard time with one kid lol.. anyways.. for the biting.. I won t recommend the biting him back ( even though it does work ) lol sorry had to say it cause its true.. I ended up doing it with my middle kid.. he was...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: biting, time outs, friends and co
time outs, friends and co, twin boys: I can only suggest what I said in the post you read.. I don t know what else to say.. I talked to a few other friends and they agreed with what I stated.. I know 12 months even 13 months is young.. some stated putting something in their mouths that they hate...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: biting, deana, mths
deana, mths, confrontation: Dear Deana: First run out and get a book from the bookstore. Believe it or not there are books for children on just about every topic and certainly ones on not biting. I have a small paperback book (can t find it right now) that talks about how teeth are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: biting, relaxation technique, poor ability
relaxation technique, poor ability, anger management: Hello Sherif, Your son is biting because he is a two-year-old toddler and this is how toddlers often try to interact with people. It may be intended as a friendly gesture or it may be a way of expressing frustration or anger. It is most often associated...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: biting, lap time, time outs
lap time, time outs, minute time: Dear Stacy You have been doing all the things I would do, except for the time out. Children that young do not understand the timeout concept and won t until age 3-5. You can use a hold very firmly in lap time out with a two having a tantrum until they can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bitting, short attention span, small dogs
short attention span, small dogs, mixed messages: Hi Kristin~ I m not an advocate of spanking, and I don t agree with it. It s degrading to a child, and then it also sends them mixed messages. Especially when he gets into trouble for kicking/hitting the dogs. You then spank him, and tell him not to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bottle breaking, formula milk, baby teeth
formula milk, baby teeth, sippy cup: Hi Chasity~ Are you putting him to bed with a bottle? If so, then you should stop doing that immediately. When you give a bottle to a baby at night for him to sleep with, the formula/milk in the bottle can/will cause tooth rot. If he insists on a bottle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bottle breaking, little girl, aisle
little girl, aisle, melissa: Hello Melissa, This is one of those wishes where they say, Be careful what you wish for, you may get it . Not always, but often, parents are sorry the child gave up the bottle! What about it bothers you? Because I m so old (married grandchild) I take the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bottle dilema, baby cereals, toddler diet
baby cereals, toddler diet, pediatrition: Dear Rachle, TALK with your Doctor or pediatritian, please, about this. I hope you have over the past 21 months used baby foods baby cereals and transition baby foods. There are MANY excellent transition finger foods that she would probably like and that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bottle feeding, isomil, cheri
isomil, cheri, bottoms: I have not dealt w/ formula for over 3 yrs. now, so bare w/ me here...... I can tell you if she has diahrea and it does not go away, or has been diahrea since she was born, that it is most likely the formula. I had this problem w/ my last 2 babies and both...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bottle feeding..., dear mike, sippy cup
dear mike, sippy cup, own pace: Dear Mike, Talk to your pediatric doctor about what looks like hunger causing wakefullness. Perhaps it s something else entirely. Remember that each baby is unique and develops at his/her own pace. That means each baby also develops individual habits of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: boundaries with a 4 year old boy, neighbor kids, negative consequences
neighbor kids, negative consequences, rote learning: Hi John~ Sorry I didn t get back to you sooner, we had my oldest son s b-day party last nite, so family/grandparents, etc...were here all day! Here are the things I can tell you...regardless of what you want your child to do....he won t just do it. You...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: boundaries, james windell, well meaning
james windell, well meaning, mindy: Hello Mindy, You run the risk of alienating your friends by telling them how they should raise their child. You and I can both see that there are bigger problems ahead if they don t set some limits and boundaries with their child. Most of us parents figure...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: CAR SEAT SAFTEY, car seat saftey, weight restrictions
car seat saftey, weight restrictions, silly question: Well I m not sure where u are from but where I am from if they meet the weight requirement then that is fine. Because its more the weight that they are concerned about. If you bought a forward facing seat with only that weight limitations then she would be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Cant get my son to sleep, bad habit, hyper child
bad habit, hyper child, sleeping habits: Hi Jennifer~ Have there been any recent changes in his life? If so, that could make him more hyper and interupt his normal sleeping habits. You don t want to get him in the bad habit of sleeping with you, b/c that will be very hard to break him of. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Cant get my son to sleep, sleep patterns, hyper child
sleep patterns, hyper child, 2am: Hello Jennifer, Many toddlers at about two or two-and-a-half begin to change their sleep patterns. These alterations are usually temporary, but they are upsetting to parents Taking him to your bed to help him go to sleep is not likely to be a good long-term...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Car Seat and Talking, booster seat, fun store
booster seat, fun store, point harness: Sorry about no responding sooner, The holidays keep us very busy. On the booster seat each state I believe has a policy on how big the child has to be before moving into a booster seat. Your best bet would get a booster with a five point harness. sometimes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Challenges Faced, sicknesses, paret
sicknesses, paret, newborn baby: Hi Nicky! There are many challenges a parent has to overcome in the early years. It starts right in the beginning with a newborn baby, they are up all night and you don t get much sleep. And then you have to decide on feeding issues, what to feed them, when...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Challenges of Parenting, challenges of parenting, child proofing
challenges of parenting, child proofing, bad idea: Sorry for the delay in answering, Teresa. I am currently running for House of Representatives in my state and don t have as much time as I d like. Here are my top five challenges: 1. Once they can walk, they get into everything. (Child-proofing the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Challenges parents face, temper tantrums, highs and lows
temper tantrums, highs and lows, parents face: Hi Teresa~ There are lots of highs and lows to parenting,especially when you have quite a few children. Even one can be a handfull though. I have a 3 yo right now. And there are times when she absolutely drives me crazy,but it all comes with being...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Challenges parents face, parents face, boys and girls
parents face, boys and girls, potty training: Hi teresa, Every child is their own person and unique, but potty training boys and girls, sleep patterns because of it, fighting with siblings, explaining their emotions, like saying i am very mad that you took my toy, instead of acting out emotions.....are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Challenges, baby sitter, 6am
baby sitter, 6am, nap: Hi. Well just a few of the challenges I face are things like not being able to find a baby sitter when i have to work aince she is not in school or anything. Then there is the sleeping. I work nights and get off at 6am she gets up at around 8:30am. Takes a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Chamomile Tea - 13 month old, low grade fever, wet diapers
low grade fever, wet diapers, stomach bug: At this age they can get dehydrated very quickly I recommended talking to the childs doctor. My son was hospitalized for having dehydrated at 13 months he ended up having rotavirus. Being dehydrated can lead to brain damage in infants. He needs to have three...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Change in Behavior- Separation Anxiety??, ferber method, separation anxiety
ferber method, separation anxiety, couple ounces: Hi Erin~ You really need to get out of the bad habit of letting her sleep with you. If you don t do it now, it ll be that much harder to break her later. So you should do it now while you can. You can try what s called the Ferber method. That s when...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Changing day-cares, socialization skills, stability reasons
socialization skills, stability reasons, day care center: Dear Nina: Let me start by saying I am sorry you have experienced a divorce. Being a single parent is a heroic situation. Here is my response to your question. Not only is it better to keep him where he is (providing he receives nurturing care in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Child regression, positive reinforcement, attention children
positive reinforcement, attention children, wits end: Hi Jennifer~ It s not that uncommon for a child to do that, even if they ve been potty trained awhile. If necessary you could take him to the doctor to rule out any health issues first, just to be on the safe side. He s probably just doing it for the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Children Inmunization, brain damage, mother in law
brain damage, mother in law, measles: Hi. I can see where you would be cautious. But to tell you the truth that stuff only happens in like 1 out of 100 babies. In fact i have not even heard of any cases but I do know that it can happen. I take my kids for theirs. Like you said. Its like leaving...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Chipmunk cheeks, chipmunk cheeks, james windell
chipmunk cheeks, james windell, son hunter: Hi Ginger, Nope. I ve never quite heard this one. However, let me say that there is such a great range in the variety of normal behavior that very little surprises me. Always, when kids are displaying unusual behaviors, the question becomes: Will we...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: CIO method, rice cereal, small babies
rice cereal, small babies, poor lady: Dear Karin: Oh, you poor lady! Eight months old is very, very old for still not sleeping through the night. I am amazed that you have been strong enough to keep this up for this long. You are a hero, girlfriend! But, as you have noted, it is indeed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: CIO method, james windell, long periods
james windell, long periods, baby cry: Hi Karin, I m not sure what the CIO method is; maybe you could email me back and tell me. If it involves letting your baby cry for periods of time, then you would probably want to use this for naps as well. The generally accepted ways of helping babies...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: CIO method, nap time, mother thanks
nap time, mother thanks, working mother: Hi. Letting your baby cry it out is fine as long as u go to your baby and let him know that you are there and you can hear him. My daughter is 19 months old and still wakes up from time to time but I just go to her and pat her and soothe her cries with the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Clinginess, james windell, toddler age
james windell, toddler age, closeness: Hello Allison, This is certainly a perfect example of how children can be different in personality and temperament, even though raised in exactly the same environment. Your daughter needs more closeness at this stage in her life. Normal or not, it is what...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Clingy 1 year old, typical behavior, same wavelength
typical behavior, same wavelength, babysitter: Hi Stacy~ This is typical behavior from a child this age and stage. A child can become very clingy or partial to one person (parent, sitter, etc). You can break him of this, and the sooner the better. If you don t then it s just going to be that much...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Clingy 2 mos old, baby mozart, constant thing
baby mozart, constant thing, new mom: Julie ~ First off I want to congradulate you on having a new little one. I m actually expecting my second in November so I know the excitement. Now for the question. This is a little abnormal for the age to be so clingy but not too abnormal. My daughter was...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Clingy 2 yr old, separation blues, aupair
separation blues, aupair, consistant: Hi Chris~ It s not uncommon at all for children this age to become clingy at times or prefer one parent/person to another. The best advice I can suggest to you is to just be consistant and patient. Eventually this will stop. You have to be firm with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Colic in 4 week old baby, colief drops, farleys
colief drops, farleys, bottle fed: Dear Sharon, I think it is possible that it is your water...try bottled water to make it. BUT also immediately ask your doctor for advice and help. It may be something other than colic. You need to be sure. Good luck and hope you get help and sleep soon....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Communication w/my 3 year old, shapes and colors, waiting periods
shapes and colors, waiting periods, behavioral specialist: Dear Tessa: It cannot hurt to have him evaluated for autism. Fortunately these test are not uncomfortable physically. As for the insurance, as long as it is not life threatening, it can probably wait 30 days until your insurance kicks in and is probably...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Compulsive behavior of 3 1/2 year old, compulsive behavior, verbal skills
compulsive behavior, verbal skills, tantrum: So sorry Tina, but this is a really unusual problem and certainly one that you need a family therapist or child psychologist to answer. I am a parenting educator but not a therapist or psychologist. Get some help and get her some help sonething is not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Concerns about a new baby, signs of jaundice, jaudice
signs of jaundice, jaudice, yellowish skin: congratulations on the birth of your new baby, I too just had our new daughter six weeks ago so I know how you can worry about your new little one! doctors say that formula fed babies have no need for extra water because they recieve the water they need from...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Constipation and Colic, old baby girl, corn syrup
old baby girl, corn syrup, sleep deprivation: Hi Sarah.. I m sorry it has taken me so long to get back with you. my schedule is running short these days. Expecting a new edition to my family. Then with a 2 yr old running around...lol. I breastfed my daughter and her BMs were irregular also. Then sometimes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Couples conflicts, negative judgment, arguements
negative judgment, arguements, detriment: Dear Derek, NO they are both equally detrimental to your child...it depends on the unique way your individual children see and hear what you say. (some children are affected more by quiet arguements than yelling) No. Just plan a time for your discussions...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Cows milk and babies, cows milk, natural sugars
cows milk, natural sugars, breast feed: Hi Michelle, First you have to do something about his juice intake hun. He should only be drinking 4 ounces of juice per day, and i reccomend that that be diluted half with water. Proven studies show juice intake through the ages of 0-5 shows the childs...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crib Time, true thanks, emila
true thanks, emila, body language: Dear Emila: If your child is enjoying their play there is nothing wrong with letting them play. However, if you wait until your child cries to pick them up then guess what they will do each time they want picked up? They will cry. I would try and gauge...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying Baby, son cameron, honest to goodness
son cameron, honest to goodness, soothing music: Hi Tim~ I would say that it s probably gas as you ve mentioned. I would suggest Mylecon drops. I know those are some of the best gas drops on the market today. Make sure that you read the directions on them very thoroughly before you give them to him....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying Baby, son cameron, babysitter
son cameron, babysitter, gerber: Hi Tim, I know exactly what you are going through except my daughter was about 4 months old when she did it. She cried for two hours every night at the same time. It really isn t anything to worry about, but at the same time I know that it is hard on you and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying Baby, james windell, congratulations on your new baby
james windell, congratulations on your new baby, son cameron: Hello Tim, Congratulations on your new baby. But I m sorry to hear his crying is so puzzling. Of course, lots of things with babies and toddlers are inexplicable because they can t describe what they re feeling. One guess might be that he has difficulty...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying, crying,crying, and more crying, stomach flu, tummy ache
stomach flu, tummy ache, boonies: Hi Melinda~ It could all be related to him being sick. I can remember one time last year or so,that my daughter who was about 2.5 or 3 at the time was sick. She only wanted me,and was extra clingy. Even after she got over being sick she was extra clingy...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying, moaning, whining spells, dear michael, chronic infections
dear michael, chronic infections, question thanks: Dear Michael, If the simple things I suggested are not working, perhaps its more than a stage. Maybe he actually has a physical problem of some sort...many times young children have chronic infections without pain, but is a condtion that makes them crabby...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying, james windell, restless sleep
james windell, restless sleep, waking hours: Hello Melinda, Yes, it is possible the two are related. The problem with young toddlers is that they can not express what they are feeling -- so we are led to guess. We don t know, for instance, how much pain they feel when cutting teeth, or when they...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: CURIOUS 4 year old!, pee pee, potty chair
pee pee, potty chair, closed doors: Dear Courtney, You really have a good handle on the situation and how to deal with it...keep it up. What you are saying to him is very good. Fours are very curious about body parts and this is normal. You can get books from the library or book store about...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Curious two-year-old behavior, kind voice, overnights
kind voice, overnights, little guys: Dear Carolyn: Strained relationships with the parents always cause severe problems when it comes to doing what is best for the children. I am sorry the communication is not better. I cannot understand a parent not being concerned enough to have a child...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Custodial or Normal 4yr old behavior?, stable environment, wile
stable environment, wile, cook dinner: Hi Jennifer~ All this moving around and her spending 50% of time at two separate households is very confusing to her. She needs to be in a stable environment. Which would be your home, not her fathers. You don t have to have a professional tell you that....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: how to calm my daughter, james windell, time masters
james windell, time masters, degree student: Hello Amoi, Even at 18 months of age, some children have difficulty when their parents leave. I would suggest you leave something of yours (glove, clothing, photo, etc.) with her and let her know you ll be back after work or school. She won t understand...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I cant get my 8 month old to sleep thru, old baby girl, bedtime routine
old baby girl, bedtime routine, month old baby: Hi Janet~ You could try simply adjusting her bedtime at night. In order for her to adjust quickly, only push her bedtime back by 15 minutes the first time. Do this for at least the first week. Then you can eventually add some more time, on a as needed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cant get son to sleep, hyper child, nightly ritual
hyper child, nightly ritual, night music: This sounds just like my 2 boys. Here is what I did. You literally have to watch what sugar you give them.. nothing sugary past 5-6 if you can help it.. I know I know I am sure you have heard that many times before lol. Also if hes getting in and out of the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cant get my son to sleep, hyper child, nite time
hyper child, nite time, 2am: Hello~ Well, it sounds like he is just trying out the new sleeping options. As long as you let him get out of his bed/crib, or let him sleep w/ you....he will keep doing it. Same thing goes for staying awake late. Don t give him the control. He is not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My two challenging toddlers, fisher price, play group
fisher price, play group, fun activities: Hi there, Try giving your son 2 weeks of no numbers and letters, and then try to approach it again, if he still doesn t want to i would suggest getting the power touch learning system by fisher price what about having a partner to do learing with them...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: change in bedtime routine, bedtime routine, bumpy rides
bedtime routine, bumpy rides, daycare: Dear J. Each child is so different and unique that it s hard to say whether a totally positive time would have this effect...like make him want to grow up to be a carnival man. (smile) But that is frankly all I can think of as a possibility...If other older...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: change in behavior of 2.5 yo and sudden sleep issues, growth spurt, attention span
growth spurt, attention span, sudden change: Hi Sheila~ He could be going through a growth spurt and this has interrupted his sleep pattern. Or it could just be he s dreaming of something and have nightmares. Either way his behavior is totally normal for a child this age. I would suggest that when...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: change of behavior, verbal vocabulary, child care providers
verbal vocabulary, child care providers, regressive behavior: Dear Claribel: Any number of things could be triggering this change of behavior. Take a look at what changes are happening in his life. Has he recently changed child care providers, started in a new environment, is their a new sibling in the family, has...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Should I change her name, ash tree, camion
ash tree, camion, spelt: Hi Brandy. I am so sorry it has taken me so long to email back. I have been out of town and forgot to set my vacation dates so people would see that I was not here. first off....I like that name for you re daughter. Its different and I think thats great. I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: changes for a 2 year old boy, thank your lucky stars, naps
thank your lucky stars, naps, pjs: HI, Well..My daughter is 22 months old and has pretty much the same EXACT routine as your child. Her naps last between 1 and 2 hours a piece and she sleeps from around 7-7:30pm until 7 or 8 in the morning. Some children take less naps and some actually may...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: changes for a 2 year old boy, morning nap, pjs
morning nap, pjs, bed time: Hi Kelly~ As for the sleeping issues.....it could be that your son needs more sleep than some, or it could be that he is waking during the nite...that you are unaware of and therefore needing more sleep during the day. For now, I would keep him in the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: changes for a 2 year old boy, toddler bed, cot
toddler bed, cot, pjs: Hi Kelly~ If he s still taking two hour naps twice per day, take it and enjoy it. Because there will be a time (and soon enough) where you d wish he d take a nap, period. And same for sleeping in a cot. As long as he s sleeping well in it, let him continue...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: changes in sleeping, bedtime routine, flood problems
bedtime routine, flood problems, frequent checks: Hello Tara, When children s routines are disrupted they will show this by acting different. Any changes should be regarded as stress. Upset usually results in regression to a previous type of behavior. Often, sleep patterns do get disrupted easily due to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: changing a bad behavior..., negative reinforcement, positive discipline
negative reinforcement, positive discipline, time outs: Hello Michelle, I think your analysis of the situation sounds pretty accurate. The child learned a behavior from her mother; now she gets reinforcement from her siblings (even though it s negative reinforcement). I would comment, first, that the mother...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child behaviour, climbing frame, child behaviour
climbing frame, child behaviour, bouncy castle: Hi Jon and Rachel~ This is likely just a phase she s going through right now. Just leave her be and never force her to do something she doesn t want to. If you do, then she ll end up being more scared than before. She ll decide on her own when she feels...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child behaviour, james windell, adult caregiver
james windell, adult caregiver, count numbers: Hello Nithya, At ages 2-and-a-half and 3, children are in the early stages of learning to get along with peers and learn the niceties of social interaction. So, you can t expect your son to have mastered this yet. In playschool and daycare, many young...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child development, learning areas, son andrew
learning areas, son andrew, head start: My childrten both went to school starting from 6 months old until the age of three threw BHK Early Head Start, serving children ages 2 weeks old to 3 years old. Also this is a free school program. Now my kids are in Head Start, half day program. Early Head...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child's jealousy, showing affection, old girl
showing affection, old girl, jealousy: Hi JJ~ This behavior is typical in toddlers. They don t know how to use their words when they are feeling upset, hurt, angry, unhappy, etc. So they just act out in the moment on how they feel. It s just a phase and it ll soon pass. Just don t make a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I get my child to listen to others? And stop being so emotional over EVERYTHING!!!, preschool class, quick reply
preschool class, quick reply, mommy and me class: Hi again Kathryn~ I would suggest going ahead and talking to her and see if you can t work something out. If it s just too much for her to deal with or she won t deal with it. Then perhaps it s best if you do remove him from the class and put him in a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child molestation, penis infections, poor hygiene
penis infections, poor hygiene, mommy and daddy: Hello Trish, An interest in body parts and infections are not sufficient reasons to think sexual molestation has gone on; Neither does agression. The three together do not necessarily suggest that he has been molested. Even if he is overly interested in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child to sleep, sleeping through the night, grateful thanks
sleeping through the night, grateful thanks, july 17: HI. Well here is the thing. Babies don t know whats going on really. He is scared to be alone. Try letting him sleep in his crib but when he cries for you go to him. Let him know that you are near by. Aftyer a few nights of this he may get the hang of it....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: MY child just snaps......, wake up time, wits end
wake up time, wits end, knockdown: Hi Candi~ That s your biggest problem here--is that you and your husband aren t working together as a team. You must work together in order to parent well. Otherwise, this is exactly what happens. The child plays you against each other. She knows it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my child suddenly wont go to bed at night, bedtime routine, light music
bedtime routine, light music, naps: Dear Jodi, You might try shortening the naps or making sure he has lots of exercise and fresh air each day. Also be sure you have a consistent and pleasant bedtime routine. Maybe now that he is a bit older, he needs a little more ritual in the bedtime routine....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: children, babyhood, hardest thing in the world
babyhood, hardest thing in the world, second wife: Dear Pushpa, I only have an indirect answer for you. Ask yourself How is this boy feeling when he acts so unlovingly and uncaringly? I m guessing that he feels unloved and uncared about. I know that it is the hardest thing in the world to give more love...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: children, elder daughter, childminder
elder daughter, childminder, raising kids: Hi. Raising kids is never easy and if u can find someone who says it is...they obviously do not have them. lol. Try some after school activities. Have your son practice reading...but to his younger sister. Make it fun for him. Like he is doing a huge thing....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childrens curiousity, friends daughter, adult behavior
friends daughter, adult behavior, narro: Hello Sean, What they re both exhibiting is a very natural and normal curiousity. At their ages, very little bad can happen. And it s not likely to result in any trauma to either one. Most children find this kind of play enjoyable -- until they re caught...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childs aggressive behavior, james windell, positive reinforcement
james windell, positive reinforcement, changes in the family: Hello Asma, There are two issues involved here. One is that your toddler is a toddler. That means that a lot of behaviors -- such as unwillingness to share, aggression, jealousy, possessiveness -- are developmentally expected. Most toddlers are self-centered...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childs drinking, cows milk, hot weather
cows milk, hot weather, urine color: Here is some info that I found at http://www.dietitian.com/fluids.html I hope this helps... Another guidelines for those parents with only one child is, whenever you get a drink for yourself, offer some to your child. This includes offering a bottle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childs fear- dance class, children in time, halloween party
children in time, halloween party, dance class: Hi Deena~ Her behavior believe it or not is quite common for a child this age. She has to learn independance though from you. Is she an only child? This can be typical when a child is an only child and they aren t socialized very much with other children....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childs strange behaviour, climbing frame, strange behaviour
climbing frame, strange behaviour, bouncy castle: Dear Jon and Rachel, It is unusual for a child to change into this type of behavior without a reason. Have there been any other changes in her life, or new people in it? If she is in child care or preschool, could there have been an incident that preciptated...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: childs strange behaviour, climbing frame, strange behaviour
climbing frame, strange behaviour, bouncy castle: Hello Rachel and Don, The problem is that you have a toddler! Toddlers go in and out of phases. Some of those phases include fears and anxieties. Sometimes they appear to have phobias or to be obsessive complusive. Other times they say they want something...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: choking fear - she will not eat, bad feelings, play therapist
bad feelings, play therapist, chocolate milk: Hello Diane, I m sorry to hear that this situatiion has become complicated by the fight between her parents and the unfortunate things her father told her. Since it has been complicated, there are no easy answers anyone can give. I think taking her to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: clinginess, stay at home mom, home childcare
stay at home mom, home childcare, more time than others: Hi Pam, Thanks for your question. I hope this helps, just be very very consistent and give it a chance to work. I have seen this one work firsthand more than once. When you go to drop your daughter off, get down to her level eye to eye and calmly but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: clinging and dealing with a new move, nevaeh, eveing
nevaeh, eveing, undesirable behavior: Hi Phyllis~ This is totally normal behavior for a toddler at this age and stage. Especially when she s been uprooted and moved from the only place she s ever known. It s likely that your daughter will just have to ride this one out. As there s not much...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: "clingy" 2 year old, abandonment issues, gastroschisis
abandonment issues, gastroschisis, daycare: Hello Ginger, Your granddaughter has every reason to have abandonment and attachment issues. Therefore, you have to be patient and tolerant with her need to be clingy. If she needs to be close to you, then you must allow this. It will be through knowing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: clingy daughter, full body massage, google search
full body massage, google search, many different ways: Dear Marie; Sounds like your daughter is experiencing anxiety and if this is the case she probably will not grow out of it as much as she will learn to hide it. Not something you really want her to do, rather than dealing with it. Here is how you can support...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: clingy son, head person, half day
head person, half day, day care: Well there really isn t a way to get him to stop. He just feels comfortable with you. As we all do with our parents. When he starts day care, it will be hard at first. But he will get used to it. Talk with the head person in his class and tell them. They will...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cloth diapering, normal body temperatures, favorite sports team
normal body temperatures, favorite sports team, cloth diapers: Thanks for the question. I have been cloth diapering my fourth child since he was five days old. My oldest was in cloth diapers for a little over a month- and at that time it was only because I was given a diaper service. Fast forward to three children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: colicy?, discovering the world, peroid
discovering the world, peroid, arms and legs: Hi there, Thank you for geting back to about this issue and i hope that i can help as much as i can given my own knowledge. First of all from what you are saying it doent really sound like full blown colic yet as this crying and pain and flexing of limbs...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: how common is lying in preschoolers?, chocolate candy, four year olds
chocolate candy, four year olds, impulsiveness: Hello Alison, What you are describing is extremely common in four-year-olds. They do, in a word, lie! But, fours know the rules and they don t like being caught. So, they make up fantastic stories: I don t know how the chocolate got on my hands! Or,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: concerned about 23 months old, little rhymes, evaluation appointment
little rhymes, evaluation appointment, speech pathologist: Vidhya- thank you for your question. From what you are describing, I would most definitely keep the speech evaluation appointment. The kids that I work with are much older, and the speech problems are not as noticeable. It does sound like he s got some...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Should I be concerned?, speech and language pathologist, james windell
speech and language pathologist, james windell, local school district: Hello Katie, Yes, I think you re right to have some concerns. Many children, though by no means all, are speaking many words at 18 months. And given her ways of communicating, you should at least raise the questions you do. If you feel comfortable doing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: conflicting opinions, first time mom, month old baby
first time mom, month old baby, first three months: Dear April, This is a very tough situation, and I am so sorry that you have to live there until you save up more money to have your own place. You need to talk to your husband about this and how you feel about it. You need to say you do appreciate her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: consistently wetting underwear at age 4, james windell, pull ups
james windell, pull ups, eneuresis: Hello Lyn, I applaud your consistency in trying different approaches and sticking with them a sufficient length of time. As you point out, it doesn t seem to be for attention. Rarely, is the kind of wetting you re describing attributable to emotional problems....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: constant fighting in her sleep, google search, night terrors
google search, night terrors, step daughter: Oh, how sad for you all! It sounds to me like your step-daughter is having night terrors, rather than your average run of the mill nightmares. Age 3 is a pretty common age for these things to begin. Honestly, I don t know a whole lot about night terrors....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: constant waking by 9 month old baby, bedtime routines, month old baby
bedtime routines, month old baby, night answer: Dear Olay: You introduced diary and this interruption in his sleep started. Why not back off of the diary and see if all this goes back to normal. He will not suffer and neither will you if he is not ready for diary. Children are more likely to develop...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: constantly crying 9 month old, bedtime routine, developmental milestone
bedtime routine, developmental milestone, separation anxiety: How frustrating this has to be for you. My now 13 month old son is almost as bad, but I am thinking back to when my 4 year old was a baby. I definitely noticed much more clinginess and separation anxiety each time she got close to a major developmental milestone-...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: constapation, high fiber diet, pharamist
high fiber diet, pharamist, stool softeners: Hi Cindy. I understand. Some store with have infant stool softeners. It s an oral liquid. See if you can find that. Give him a high fiber diet. Cheerios and anything else he can eat that is high in fiber. It won t be a fast solution but over some time it should...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: constipation/collic/5 wk old/help/please, gut instincts, collic
gut instincts, collic, serious medical condition: Hi Anelle~ The soy formula is good, as well as the suppositories to help with the chronic constipation. This could be something that will pass on it s own as she gets older. I agree with the doctor, on the no water. Babies don t need water, unless it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: out of control 19 month old, temper tantrums, vocabulary skills
temper tantrums, vocabulary skills, medical issue: Hi Melissa~ Since she was a needy baby--with a medical issue. This could certainly make it more of a challenge to deal with her. Mostly her behavior is typical of a 19 month old. They throw temper tantrums, scream, yell, cry, etc when they don t get...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: out of control 2 year old, old baby girl, effective discipline
old baby girl, effective discipline, getting along with others: Hello Theresa, Toddlers are at a stage of life where they are trying to deal with a great many things -- their own emotions, self-control, learning the rules, regulating their behavior, dealing with speech, getting along with others, settling into a routine,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: out of control 2 year old, bath mat, far corner
bath mat, far corner, sweet girl: hi thank you for your question sorry i dint get back to you soon but my son has been very sick. ok now i am in the exact same position with my son and he is 2 and a half now. he has been doing the same things for about the past 6 months and is getting worse...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: out of control 4 yr old ....help, stone stairs, unfortunetly
stone stairs, unfortunetly, religious book: Hello again Pamela~ First of all, your friend you mentioned....you are probably right....she probably over spanks. It should only be used when absolutely necessary. Luckily your daughter is old enough to understand when You tell her that spanking is not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Out of control tantrums, short attention span, temper tantrum
short attention span, temper tantrum, impulse control: Hi Wanda~ His behavior is totally normal for a child this age. Don t continue to use time out until he s about 2.5 yrs old. The problem here is a toddler this age has absolutely no impulse control whatsoever. When he s upset and/or mad/frustrated he...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: couple conflict, conflict resolution skills, james windell
conflict resolution skills, james windell, couple conflict: Hello Daheem, That s a good question. And I m pleased that you are so observant and sensitive to your child. Children are capable of understanding, reacting to and remembering things in their environment by the time they are one hour old! So, if you and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: couples conflict, negative judgment, adequate answer
negative judgment, adequate answer, interpersonal relationships: Hello Derek, Thank you for your question. Since I work with hundreds of couples with moderate to high conflict, I think you ve come to the right guy with this question. The only problem is that there is no research that can provide an adequate answer...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crawling, pediatrician, 10 months
pediatrician, 10 months, best wishes: Dear Justin: Your daughter is roughly 10 months old and all children develop at different points in their individual lives. This is a something to be aware of now as she may continue to develop on her own timeline from now until she becomes an adult. The...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying 1 year old, shelia, older sister
shelia, older sister, full attention: Hi Shelia~ That s an awfully long day to watch her son for 11-12 hours! Wow! I can see why it s taking a toll on you and your son. I can t imagine how frustrating it is for either of you as well. It sounds like this is beginning to affect both you and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying, james windell, best bet
james windell, best bet: Hello Mark, Yes, some preschoolers respond this way. Your best bet is to ignore the crying and respond in a positive way to his more appropriate actions (like doing the task). Don t make a big deal of his crying, insist he do the task and once he has...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying baby, old baby girl, month old baby
old baby girl, month old baby, positive reinforcement: Dear Andrew, Life is all about learning how to get what you want, isn t it? The same for a child. It is the parents job to teach and show how to do this. The job is not to convince the child to not want, or to stifle needs, or to use unacceptable ways to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying at bedtime, nap time, throwing fits
nap time, throwing fits, nightly routine: Hi Shara~ It s not uncommon for children at this age to fit throw when being put down for a nap or for bed time. At this age they are beginning to learn and slowly show more independence. I know this can be very frustrating as well as a trying stage in...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying and grinding teeth, stressful jobs, tantrums
stressful jobs, tantrums, siblings: somewhere along the way he has learned that crying will get him what he wants. The key to ending this behavior is to be consistent and not to cave in when he begins crying. Let him know as you have been that he will need to wait to get what he wants. Another...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying, hi thanks, future years
hi thanks, future years, caregiver: Hi Zahra, Sometimes you have no real choice. Babies are not going to be permanently affected if they cry themselves to sleep once or twice (or even a few times). There may be long-term consequences when a baby often has to cry themselves to sleep or a care-giver...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Dangerous Toddler in Preschool class, parenting decisions, piece of the puzzle
parenting decisions, piece of the puzzle, preschool class: It sounds like you have a very frustrating situation on your hands. Because you are talking about a classroom setting I am guessing that in addition to this climber you also have other children you are responsible for, so this is a doubly tough situation....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughter very clingy with Mom, james windell, fear of strangers
james windell, fear of strangers, quiety: Hello Brian, What you re seeing in your daughter is a normal phase of toddlerhood. Toddlers do develop more fears and anxieties and there are a couple of times in an infant and toddler s life when they tend to be more clingy with their primary care-giver...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughter doesn't like to be affectionate with father, stay at home mom, inappropriate manner
stay at home mom, inappropriate manner, stay at home: Hi Nicole~ I think it s a stage that all children go through at one point or another. They begin to favor one parent over the other. Eventually it ll pass. I know it can be very frustrating for you and your husband. Just don t make a big deal about...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughter Screaming At Night, night question, lengthy description
night question, lengthy description, body temperature: Dear Theodore: You are very perceptive of her comfort level. You don t need to take the crib away. Maybe just taking off the sides or even keeping the mattress (It has her smell in it). Thereby adjusting her slowly to a new bed. Many parents actually put...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughter won't be affectionate with Father, james windell, stay at home mom
james windell, stay at home mom, loving dad: Hi Nicole, It s always a guessing game to try to figure out little kids. But I would suggest this: Mothers and fathers are different. Generally, fathers show affection and other things to their kids differently than do moms. Therefore, I would suggest that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughters fighting, stay at home mom, sibling abuse
stay at home mom, sibling abuse, girls age: Dear Jenine: Wow! Typically this type of violent behaviior is done first to the child and then they act it out. Is she exposed to any other children or caregivers who allow the children to act out like this? She needs a very strong message that physically...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daycare, lady spank, physical discipline
lady spank, physical discipline, older girls: Well first of all, You need to instruct your sister in law or your brother to report the abuse that they witnessed (if they did). If they really saw this stuff happening, they shouldn t just switch daycares and leave it be. What if something would happen to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daycare causing dificult naps, morning nap, afternoon nap
morning nap, afternoon nap, dificult: Dear Tanya, If she was a great sleeper before, she will adjust and be one again. Be patient, as she is still learning to adjust, and she is still getting at least close to the amount of rest she needs. She will be okay. Just be calm and reassuring, not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Dealing with 16 month old aggression, testosterone levels, mature language
testosterone levels, mature language, food toys: Hello Christina, I know what you re experiencing can be frustrating. Part of the problem when you have a very bright child is that you want them to respond fairly quickly. But it is difficult for toddlers to learn to inhibit their behavior or to keep their...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Dealing with Conflict Among Young Children, dealing with conflict, being a baby
dealing with conflict, being a baby, sister and brother: Dear John, I think you have thought this out very very well, and have looked at all sides of the issue; you ve even looked at your own motivation with great insight. I can agree with your wife about the 4 year old boy s behavior and what is causing it....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Defiance, james windell, dresser drawers
james windell, dresser drawers, closet doors: Hello Adrian, We have a 15-year-old and are still asking the same question: When should we expect him to start picking up his room? Just kidding, sort of. Anyway, for a child of any age to start picking up toys or doing simple chores, they have to be taught....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Desperate YOUNG mother, high blood pressure, wits end
high blood pressure, wits end, daily basis: Good question. Well, most likely he would see the difference between it being used in the house compared to in the car going bye bye....but if you are worried he may not see the difference, you can buy a used carseat or another new one and use that one for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Development, early intervention programs, early intervention program
early intervention programs, early intervention program, pediatric neurologist: Becky, Thank you for the question. I am sure that you are worried about your little boy. While I am expert in a lot of practical things I have not had a child with any type of developmental delays, so I can t fully address your question. Typically walking...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Developmental Info, jim windell, early childhood teacher
jim windell, early childhood teacher, psychology textbook: Hi Pat, It s always nice to hear from another volunteer here. And congratulations on having a baby on the way. My wife (who is a speech therapy and early childhood teacher and reading specialist) and I talk frequently about the concerns you re raising....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: DIDNT GET A RESPONSE.., respone, ingrediants
respone, ingrediants, behavior problems: Hi Stephanie, Feel free to ask as many questions as you like. My opinion is that she doesn t need a therapist. You may need a therapist (counselor or coach) to give you support and understanding when you need it. There will be times when you don t know...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Differences on raising children, mom thanks, pushover
mom thanks, pushover, wimper: Dear Catie, This is long question and you make it clear that you need help in handling your husband. I can t help you with that, except to recommend that if you read Dianetics , and learn how to Audit and be Audited, you may get yourself into shape to handle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Dinner/food battles, picky eaters, dinnertime
picky eaters, dinnertime, everynight: Hi Melanie~ You have two option here. You can make him eat what everyone else is eating for dinner. And if he refuses he can go w/o it. He ll learn sooner or later to stop being so picky. Or you can cater to him and let him have a sandwich of his choosing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline..., dr hope, extreme emergency
dr hope, extreme emergency, papa bear: Mike, Thank goodness he sees the humor in it. What could you be saying no to? Everything dangerous should have been taken away by now. Save your no and be like the Papa Bear who only says freeze when real danger is close. The cubs know that he only...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline, broken relationship, behavior training
broken relationship, behavior training, ruffian: Your son may be acting out because he is from a broken home. Young children are very sensitive to this and because they have trouble verbalizing at a young age, they act out instead: tamtrums, hitting, etc. He may be confused as to why his dad is not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline, positive discipline, day care center
positive discipline, day care center, broken relationship: Dear Ini, I agree that you must start to give clear guidance and positive discipline to children starting VERY young...they understand No before they are age one. You need to make expectation clear, short and simple. You need to let them know what you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline problems, discipline problems, acceptable behavior
discipline problems, acceptable behavior, pat on the back: Hello Kathy, First of all, give yourself a pat on the back for almost single-handedly raising a child who is doing well in most areas of his life. It s not unusual, however, that a child might do well most places and be a challenge for his parents. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline, battle of wills, day care center
battle of wills, day care center, defiant behavior: Hello Holly, Fours-year-olds can be fun as well as exasperating sometimes. And they like to play around with language. Strong-willed fours will be defiant -- as you re finding out. However, the danger is the battle of wills. The more battles you get into,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Disturbed behavior, james windell, violent tendencies
james windell, violent tendencies, 3 year olds: Hi Missy, There are many possible reasons a 3-year-old might do this. One reason might be that he has a sense of humor and at 3, he may have thought this was funny. Another reason might be that he has been exposed to violence on videos or TV and he is imitating...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Disturbing behavior, james windell, father acts
james windell, father acts, disturbing behavior: Hello Thyra, When young children are exposed to inappropriate ways to express their anger, they are likely to copy that. Also, when children are exposed to violence, they are prone to imitating that violence. The place to start is to advise others in the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Divorce and children, feelings of abandonment, visitation schedule
feelings of abandonment, visitation schedule, peeing: Hi Tiffiany, Is she stressed because she has seen him and doesn t want him to go? Or because she has to see him? Does she ask for him when he isn t there? I unfortunately don t have experience in the area of visitation or divorce, so would find it difficult...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Dogs and children, dogs and children, two year olds
dogs and children, two year olds, safe distance: Hello Heather, I m sorry to hear that the two-year-old you care for is frightened of your puppy. Two-year-olds typically acquire lots of fears, many of which are completely irrational. However, many times those fears go away or you can help a child overcome...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Doubt about my daughter's behaviour, sexual craving, self pleasure
sexual craving, self pleasure, undesirable behavior: Hi Neela~ This is totally normal behavior for a child this age. At this age they start to get curious and notice what feels good about self pleasure (they also start discovering their bodies, private parts, etc). Whatever you do do not yell and degrade...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: too much dairy?, druthers, going to the bathroom
druthers, going to the bathroom, healthy diet: Rebecca~ Its not bad to get a lot of dairy, but I would stick with the recommended servings in a day. It would be fine to have one or two more than the recommended amount, but if you get too much dairy it could cause him to have difficulties going to the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my daughter., james windell, bowed legs
james windell, bowed legs, vitamin deficiency: Hello Nisha, Of course, that s not something I can tell by just an email description. Some children do have bowed legs, particularly at a young age. You should consult a pediatrician who is in a better position to advise you about your daughter s legs. It...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daughter's behaviour, extreme court, parenting time
extreme court, parenting time, time weeks: Hello Kinga, I m sorry to hear about all of the stress you re experiencing that affects both you and your daughter. When you re dealing with courts that are making decisions about cusody and parenting time, you don t have much choice in the matter. You...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter's head swings from side to side during sleep, james windell, head swings
james windell, head swings, mamama: Hello Mamama, If your daughter doesn t wake herself by moving her head during sleep, don t wake her. If she is sleeping on her back and her head movements seem too energetic, you might make sure light pillows cushion her head. However, her head movements...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter kissed a girl, question children, red flags
question children, red flags, private parts: Miriam- thanks for the question. Children are always curious about their bodies, and from a young age want to know what makes boys and girls different. At your daughter s age, they are still very curious. It s possible your daughter witnessed two people...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daughter manipulated by another child, hero worship, neice
hero worship, neice, loving kind: Hi Genia, Your child is at the cooperative three s age and she also has a case of hero worship like most little ones with older siblins or cousins. Don t worry, as your child gains more self esteem and confidence she will hold her own with the cousin....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter pinches for comfort, mommy and daddy, best bet
mommy and daddy, best bet, pinches: Hi Philip, I can completely relate to this one. My daughter started twisting, twirling and pulling my hair for comfort when she was tired at about 3 months old. It continued with growing intensity until recently. She is 3. Your best bet is to explain to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter pinches for comfort, approch, behavour
approch, behavour, expirence: Hi thank you for your question and i will try to answer it as best as possiable for you. First of all please ler me assure that this is not strange behavour but a reasonably common occurence for this age group in my expirence. If your daughter is doing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter pinches for comfort, pinches, consistant
pinches, consistant, upper arm: Hi Philip~ You must break her of this and quickly or it could get worse over time. Just tell your daughter that she s not to pinch anymore. That it hurts and it s not nice to pinch her mom or you. You just have to be patient and consistant when doing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter is going through the terible 2s., power word, aggressive behavior
power word, aggressive behavior, 2s: Dear Amanda, This is NORMAL behavior for a two year old and all of them ..yes all of them...have to go through this stage. Some even say No when they mean Yes, because they have learned that No is a power word and they can say it too. BELIEVE ME, this will...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my daughter wants to be my son, highest form of flattery, carseat
highest form of flattery, carseat, form of flattery: Hi Susan~ The highest form of flattery is imitating another. In her view she idolizes her big brother. That s a good thing. She ll probably be very close to him as she grows up. There s nothing to worry about this, as it s a stage she s goin through....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter won't tell me when she has a poop in her diaper!, diaper rash, messy diaper
diaper rash, messy diaper, dirty diaper: Hi Rachael~ You can t rely on a toddler to tell you when she s pooped her diaper. Instead you could just check it more frequently (such as at least every hour) and also encourage her to use the toilet more often. Some hints of her needing to have a BM,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter, james windell, dehydrating
james windell, dehydrating, instincts: Hi Alicia, I know it s frustrating, but basically your daughter is acting normally given her age. It sounds like you have good instincts as a parent. And I know you worry about her becoming dehydrated. However, I would supervise her drinking juice. That...