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Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Took pacifier away cold turkey, daycare, many things
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Took pacifier away cold turkey, daycare, many things

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Gifted and Defiant 2 year old, intellegence, gifted child
intellegence, gifted child, verbal skills: Hello Jessica, I think your daughter is bright. And she s got a wonderful imagination. Her verbal skills and her stories should be encouraged. Hopefully, she ll start writing soon and can write her stories down -- or at least type them on a computer. Apparently,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Goldilocks behavior/development, walking in the woods, childhood growth
walking in the woods, childhood growth, development question: Hello, We don t know much about Goldilocks from the story except she is a young girl who has golden hair. And we know she goes walking in the woods by herself, When she sees a house belonging to someone else, she walks in as if she were entitled to do so....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Am i gonna lose my mind???, young children, support
young children, support: Nadira- thank you for the question. Wow, you will have your hands full! I think that you can do it. It will be hairy at times and definitely stressful, but you can do this. Make sure to take advantage of whatever resources you have available to you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Head butting, james windell, negative reinforcement
james windell, negative reinforcement, daycare: Hi Lilac, Toddlers develop various kinds of habits. Head butting you is one good example. I think your instinct to use negative reinforcement is the correct approach. But you have to stick with it. When he butts you, say No! No hitting me with your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Head butting, negative reinforcement, working with parents
negative reinforcement, working with parents, apparent reason: I am sorry Lilac but I have never heard of this problem in my 40 years of working with parents. Please make an appointment with your child s doctor just in case there is a physical problem, and also see what the doctor says. It seems this only happens with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Hitting, james windell, pajamas
james windell, pajamas, distraction: Hello Annette, I d say that this is not something you should be concerned about. It is not uncommon behavior for toddlers about the age of your son. Toddlers of around two years of age enjoy the motor skills they are developing. They can, for instance,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I handle my preschooler's behavior at school?, montessori program, preschool class
montessori program, preschool class, spanish class: Dear Candice You are obviously a good mom and a very observant one. Perhaps you can visit and observe her in the preschool before making a decision. I feel, however, that the class is too large and has not enough adults for truly good management with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Juvenile friction, child abandonment, hansel and gretel
child abandonment, hansel and gretel, goldilocks: Warm- thank you for the question. It s all hard to say. Since I m not the writer it s hard to guess at motivation for everything. If you look at all the nursery rhymes, they are all a little wacky when it comes to common sense. For example, look at...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: learning colors, learning colors, paint chips
learning colors, paint chips, paint chip: Cheri, Thanks for the question. For your question, there is a wide range of when a child should be able to name colors, numbers, and letters. Some children can name some of their colors, etc by the time they are three, but those children seem to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: not listening and ignoring, toddler, following directions
toddler, following directions: Rodne- thank you for the question. A couple of things came to mind with your letter. It could be simply part of who he is. Just someone who needs to hear things several times before it sinks in. It could be that he is a bit stubborn and wants to do...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: lot'sa pee, james windell, bedtime routine
james windell, bedtime routine, book reading: Hello Carm, It seems that she has been manipulating you to avoid going to bed. So, the first thing to do is to begin monitoring her intake of liquids during the two hours before her bedtime. Limit her intake with no drinksw within an hour of going to bed....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Messing in pants, reward system, messes
reward system, messes, set time: Thank you for the question. I am thinking, as you probably are as well, that the change in schools is what has prompted this change in his potty abilities. He likely seems like all is well, but he has been shaken up by this change. The first thing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: mental state, second guess, bad mother
second guess, bad mother, drop of a hat: Hello Penny, It is not easy at all being the parent of two toddlers. One toddler is very fatiguing, but two...! It simply means that you are on the go all the time. No wonder you are worn out! I think you need to acknowledge and accept that no matter how...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Negotiating Paternal Involvement for Newborn, losing sight, bad person
losing sight, bad person, spending time: Sharon, Thank you for clarifying that your current situation isn t physically threatening to you or to your baby. I am glad to know that. I am so sorry that you ve suffered that in the past, though. I am glad that you are in couseling for this, and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: napping 28 month old daughter, sweet song, nex
sweet song, nex, different time: Yishai, Thank you for the question. My thought is that if you only see your daughter for six hours one day each week that she simply doesn t want to waster he time with her dad by sleeping. And likely you don t want to spend your time with her watching...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: need some feed back please, lil friend, girl time
lil friend, girl time, little eyes: Nikki, I can see how you would be upset and frustrated by this behavior as it is not appropriate. My first thought is that she has been exposed in some way to adult sexual behavior, possibly through seeing shows on TV that are too mature in their content...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Open communication skills with 6 year old boy, james windell, open communication
james windell, open communication, going places: Hello Karen, Lots of kids don t like direct questions about school. To some young people it feels like you are grilling them; to others it feels like you re trying to find out too much. It s much better if you have general conversations at the dinner table...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: obsession with certain toys, james windell, first grade
james windell, first grade, tantrum: Hello Rachel, I would suggest that you indulge her need to have the same toy. This is obviously very important to her. In time she will learn that toys don t last forever. She will also learn as she gets into kindergarten and the first grade that she can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty training, wearing panties, clothes closet
wearing panties, clothes closet, wits end: Misty, Thank you for the question. I think you are right that it is a control issue for your daughter. Think about this- there is very little that a pre-school child can control in their lives, but when and how they go to the bathroom is one of those...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty training follow-up, going to the potty, weeing
going to the potty, weeing, boy pants: Wonderful news to hear he is finally going in the potty! I have to admit I have never been a fan of training kids by just allowing them to go without pants or a nappy- for the reason that you are mentioning. He will go when he has a naked bum, but not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does a parent coming in and out of child's life affect them?, supervised visitations, biological mom
supervised visitations, biological mom, acting out: Hello Elise, It s difficult to know whether your daughter s (I know she s your stepdaughter, but let s refer to her as your daughter) recent behavior is a reaction to her biological mom s coming and going or if it s just related to the fact that she s a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: pinching, toddler, good touch
toddler, good touch: Carla- thank you for the question. This is going to sound really bad, but have you tried pinching him back? Not hard enough to really hurt, but enough to gain his attention? People sometimes use that method with kids that are biters. It s possible that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty trained toddler peeing on floor., vicki lansky, peeing
vicki lansky, peeing, 10 months: Hi Emma Unfortunately this sometimes happens when children are trained too early. I ts sort of a rebellion...and is quite normal. Also this testing of you and the power struggles your child is initiating are part of being two and testing you to see if...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training, toddler, toilet training
toddler, toilet training: Jessica- thank you for the question. I would take her every half an hour and have her sit for you. Eventually she will get the hang of it. You can go online and look up the sign for using the bathroom. When she sits on the toilet teach her the sign...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training, toddler, toilet training
toddler, toilet training: Christina- thank you for the question. I think that you can probably try to start training her. Let her pick out some panties that she would like to wear and let her try them on at home and get the feel for them. Get her a little potty chair, or one...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training, toddler, toilet training
toddler, toilet training: Sheena- thank you for your question. What I did with both my girls is to literally take them every 15 minutes to half an hour and have them sit for awhile. Reward him when he goes with maybe a couple of M&M s, a sticker, a packet of fruit snacks, something...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: prb with my son pee, james windell, espacially
james windell, espacially, toilet seat: Hello Sehrish, Bathroom behaviors, particularly for little boys, are just part of the training that has to go on with toddlers. It often takes a few years before little boys get it right. Don t expect him to have perfect bathroom behaviors quite yet....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Repeating phrase, obsessive complusive behavior, best bet
obsessive complusive behavior, best bet, minuite: Hello Tamara, No, I don t think you need to see your pediatrician, but if you feel more comfortable doing so, then then by all means do it. I can pretty much tell you what most pediatricians will say: It s something he will outgrow. Others might advise...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: rebellious 3 year old son, grandma and grandpa, new boyfriend
grandma and grandpa, new boyfriend, reassurance: Dear Wendy, Atage 3 he may not even be able to understand that you have needs and need a boyfriend. All he sees is that you are not giving hem the attention he used to have and he is acting out his anger. Unless you can get him to LIKE this boyfriend, which...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: School, toddler, separation anxiety
toddler, separation anxiety: Kristina- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. My oldest child was very sick and I was not able to get to my computer. What I would do is continue to transition him into school by staying less and less with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: AM I BEING SHELFISH?, james windell, anxiety and panic attacks
james windell, anxiety and panic attacks, full time job: Tonia, Do you know your 18-month-old will cry and miss you? Or are you anticipating something that may or may not happen? Certainly, many young children do miss their mothers when the children are left in someone else s care. However, millions of children...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sibling rivalry and violence, sibling rivalry, giril
sibling rivalry, giril, verbal reprimand: Hello Henriette, I don t think you re doing anything wrong. That is, I don t think you caused your daughter to be jealous and angry with her baby brother. Many older children are jealous when a new baby comes along. And sometimes no matter how much parents...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping, toddler, restless sleep
toddler, restless sleep: Amie- you know, she might just be in delayed reaction to the changes. Ride it out and see what happens. You re right, she could be checking to see if you re still home as well. Kids sleep patterns are funny. I am constantly battling my youngest s inability...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping while travelling, close quarters, soothing sounds
close quarters, soothing sounds, bedtime: Anou- Thanks for following up and letting me know how things are going for you. I think given that May is still a little bit away that you will be fine. Just continue what you have been doing each night and try to shift more and more to just reassuring...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: SOS. Boyfriend... Dad not in picture, aske, naps
aske, naps, mommy: Hello Tristan, I take it you have not had much dealing with toddlers before, right? Well, let me tell you they are funny people sometimes. They like to be independent and they have their own ideas about a lot of things. They get set in their ways and they...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: SOS, gross motor skills, breaking my heart
gross motor skills, breaking my heart, hospital experience: Hello Jen, It depends on what the OT is going to specfically do with her. But if the aim is to help her with her motor skills, that might be useful for her. As for seeing a child psychologist, have you checked with the psychology/psychiatry departments...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Step-parenting, james windell, consistent relationship
james windell, consistent relationship, step parenting: Hello Daniel, You and your wife have been married for less than a year. This means that you ve been in your stepdaughter s life for a very short time -- and half of that time you ve been away. The first thing you need to do is to understand toddlers. They...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sudden onset of daily melt downs, toddler, tantrums
toddler, tantrums, illness: Wendy- thank you for your question. It sounds like your mom radar is going off. I firmly believe that all parents are given internal alarm systems for their kids and when something is wrong that radar starts to ping. It s important for you to pay attention...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: separation anxiety?, emotional concern, separation anxiety
emotional concern, separation anxiety, minute conversation: Hello Alisha, Sometimes we just don t know what events or experiences have influenced a child to become anxious or fearful. But, obviously something has. It would be nice to know what that something is. Perhaps a child at daycare said something about a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sexual exposure, child, sexual exposure
child, sexual exposure: Erica- I think you should use your judgement. If you feel that maybe talking with him about the incident and what s appropriate and what s not will suffice, then go for that route. You can address the school issue with them by saying you ve dealt with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleep problems, james windell, sleep problems
james windell, sleep problems, good night sleep: Hello Shelley, The problem perhaps is not so much your son being at his dad s, as much as it is a change in routines. It s probably inevitable that he must spend over nights with his dad, so it s best to help him get used to that now. If you try to stop...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleeping problems with toddler, james windell, daughter ava
james windell, daughter ava, separation anxiety: Hello Gia, Your daughter is not really experiencing a separation anxiety. If she were, she would cry with her father when she leaves you. She perhaps doesn t like sleeping apart from you when she is at home. However, again, since this apparently doesn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my son 3 years old, signs of a urinary tract infection, physical reason
signs of a urinary tract infection, physical reason, foul smell: Najwan- Thank you for the question. My suggestion for you since this is a sudden and new problem is to consider if he has any signs of a urinary tract infection. Many times when a child who has been sucessfully potty trained for some time begins to have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sudden separation anxiety, toddler, separation anxiety
toddler, separation anxiety: Colleen- thank you for the question. I think that there is some separation anxiety going on, and some learned behavior. In my honest opinion, I think he s dealing with the issue of being a new brother and not having everyone s undivided attention. I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Three Y.O. Vomitts on purpose!, nutritional concerns, negative attention
nutritional concerns, negative attention, binges: Hello Matthew, Since this behavior only occurs at home or with his parents, I think you have to consider how you might be reinforcing this behavior (vomiting). I certainly don t think anyone is intentionally reinforcing it, but there is some attention being...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: TODDLER SLEEPING PROBLEMS, toddler sleeping problems, daughter ava
toddler sleeping problems, daughter ava, bedtime routine: Ava, Thank you for the question, and I apologize for the delay in answering. The first thing I am wondering that you haven t really commented on is whether or not this behavior began for Ava when you and he separated, or whether or not it was happening...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler Anger Towards Parents, james windell, transition time
james windell, transition time, bad attitude: Hello Michael, It may be that he needs time to warm up to you after being away for part of the day. Maybe he feels anger and resentment at being separated from you; maybe he just needs transition time. Discipline in the narrow sense of correcting behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My Toddler And Compulsive Behavior, little ballerina, child psychiatrist
little ballerina, child psychiatrist, flu bug: Hello Noelani, There are various reasons that young children might develop some obsessive compulsive behaviors. One of those reasons has to do with illness or pain. It is difficult to predict how disruptive an illness or pain will be in a child s life. For...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toilet Training Regression DESPARATE Should i put her back in nappies??, wetting her pants, public toilets
wetting her pants, public toilets, nice weather: Dear Tracey This behavior is typical for children this age who have been trained too soon when they were not really ready. She is inconsistent partly because she has not yet mastered the control over the muscle that stops and starts the urine flow. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Took pacifier away cold turkey, james windell, cold turkey
james windell, cold turkey, soft music: Hello Tina, How about giving her back her pacifier! Children don t have to give up a comforting pacifier at any particular age. So, if she s unhappy about it and she s crying every day, why put her -- and you -- through this? All children give up their...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do i talk to my children about "bad touching", nieces and nephews, inappropriate behaviors
nieces and nephews, inappropriate behaviors, private areas: Hello Cassie, I tend to agree that this 6-year-old may have some serious sexual problems and that they are not likely to go away on their own. The fact that he was molested doesn t excuse his behavior with younger children, although it helps to explain why...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: teething, pediatrician, little bit
pediatrician, little bit, christina: Christina, Thank you for the question. Your baby could be sleeping a little bit more as an escape from the pain of teething, but it may also be just that she has learned to sleep a little bit better. My suggestion is that you watch for any other signs...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: terrible twos?, son caleb, little charmer
son caleb, little charmer, sensitive child: Hello Regina, Well, what works for one child, often doesn t work for another. However, you seem to be expecting him to have control over his impulses and habits. However, he s too young for that kind of control. Just because he s saying shut up and hitting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my three year old have ODD?, temper tantrum, defiant behavior
temper tantrum, defiant behavior, kicking screaming: Hello Tina, These aggressive tantrums and his defiance is perhaps not unusual given his history. He may have good reasons to be angry and to lack emotional self-control. He needs a stable, consistent environment in which there is help for him to learn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: three yr.old capablities, attitude problems, mom and dad
attitude problems, mom and dad, helpless baby: Thank you for the question, and I apologize for the delay in answering you. I am suspecting that if your 3 yr old has begun to regress that it is fully because of the new baby. I think this happens quite a lot because they see this helpless little thing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler behavior, james windell, long periods of time
james windell, long periods of time, toddler behavior: Hello Patsy, While it is not unusual for children younger than two to masturbate, it raises questions about why this behavior is so frequent and what you can do about it. One guess is that this may be a child who is left on his own or ignored too much...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: when do toddlers start to talk, toddler, speech patterns
toddler, speech patterns: Anthea- thank you for the question. Every child progresses at their own rate, but most babies start to babble and mimic early on. By a year they are usually speaking several words and over time that progresses to short sentences and then longer ones....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Working with your children, preschool, behavior
preschool, behavior: Victoria- thank you for the question. My first reaction is to tell you to see if she can be placed in another room so she is not with you. It is very difficult to not only work with your child in the room, it s hard on the child as well. I say this with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Worried my 15mo baby's deleopment., toddler development
toddler development: Tray- thank you for the question. The only real contact I ve had with little boys has been through the daycare setting, as I ve only got girls myself. But, I can say that boys do play a bit more rough than girls do, so the throwing and smashing could...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: waking up at night, toddler, sleep habits
toddler, sleep habits, night waking: Nevin- thank you for the question. I am going to be completely honest with you and tell you I have no idea. My youngest still gets up at least once a night, just to get up and I have to take her to the bathroom, put her back to bed and sit for a moment...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: weeing on floor at night, toddler, bathroom
toddler, bathroom, accidents: Libby- thank you for the question. I apologize for the long delay in getting back to you. My oldest daughter was very sick and I was unable to get to my computer. It sounds like she might be doing it in her sleep, but it could also be a little bit...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My two-year-old daughter is suddenly shy and insecure., princess dresses, beautiful dancer
princess dresses, beautiful dancer, sentances: Hello Soni, If she wants to go to dance class, and if she is really interested in dance, then you might let her go. If she doesn t join in or feels insecure, then don t push her to participate. Maybe just watching from the sidelines will help her gain the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: one year old suddenly not sleeping through PM, infant, sleep patterns
infant, sleep patterns, napping: Rachel- thank you for the question. Just a couple of things I thought of. The first is that yes, you can probably get rid of that morning nap and just try putting her down for a longer afternoon nap instead. The other thing I thought of is that she might...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 12 month old Inconsistent Sleep Habits, metro detroit area, waty
metro detroit area, waty, pat on the back: Hello Bryan, Almost every parent of a child is going to go through a period of time when their child has sleep problems of one sort or another. And there are various reasons for this. The most common reason is that while children are growing so rapidly during...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 15 month old son, not looking at my eyes, james windell, picky eaters
james windell, picky eaters, verbal skills: Hello Sarah, Not to worry! So what if he doesn t always look you in the eye? It s not a sign of anything -- except maybe that he likes to look at your mouth because he is so fascinated with words. You obviously have a very bright child who is going...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 16 mo. Temper tantrams, toddler, tantrums
toddler, tantrums: Lydia- thank you for the question. What a situation! My youngest can throw some tantrums like you ve never seen, but she s not a screamer. Neither was my oldest one. What mom needs to remember is that she s in charge and she is the one that lays down...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 Attitude, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior, acting out: Margaret- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. My Internet has been disabled and I was not able to get it fixed until today. Welcome to the wonderful world of two year olds. I swear I fight the same battles...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 1/2 year olds behavior problems., battle of wills, positive reinforcement
battle of wills, positive reinforcement, two and a half years: Hello Devin, You are right. It is very common for toddlers to say no. It begins during the toddler years as young children strive to be independent and assert their individuality. One of the problems is that parents don t like a child telling them no and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old fear, james windell, dance 2
james windell, dance 2, phobias: Hello Christine, My guess would be that she developed some fears related to the vacuum. Toddlers do frequently develop fears, some of which are almost like phobias. The bad news is that they come about unexpectedly (for instance, your daughter probably...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Could my 2 year old have OCD?, remote control trucks, matchbox cars
remote control trucks, matchbox cars, odd behaviors: Hello Shawna, I never encourage parents to be worried. Most of the time it doesn t do you any good. And in the case of suspected obsessive-compulsive disorder with a toddler, there s not much you can do to change things anyway. Also, it s awfully hard...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 yr old, james windell, relating to others
james windell, relating to others, five year olds: Hello Hayden, When my wife was teaching a kindergarten full of five-year-olds, I would stop in from time to time. And often I got to look at their drawings. Their drawings were little more than circles and squiggly lines. That s what was expected of four-...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behavior, 3 year old behavior, potty problems
3 year old behavior, potty problems, american sign language: Hello Dawn, Your son is only three and you are expecting a lot of him. As you wisely point out, he has had a few changes and stresses in his life (you didn t even mention the baby brother coming along when he was two!). Changes and stressors often result...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behaviour, control behavior, nursery school
control behavior, nursery school, lashes: Hello Mandy, You mention that he seems set on fast forward. This I would take to mean that he is an active, exuberant, and maybe intense child. He is very reactive to things and events around him, which leads to acting in an aggressive or violent way at...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old cries and lot while going to school, time school, time change
time school, time change, grandparents: Was this time change at the same school or did he transfer to a new school? This might account for some of his crying. He doesn t know anyone there well enough yet. If Dad has a little time when he drops him off at school, maybe he could take a few minutes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old - Lost Pacifier, Not Sleeping, temper tantrums, sad cry
temper tantrums, sad cry, windell: Hi GS, Of course, there are some issues. Dentists always think using a pacifier will damage children s teeth. And your friends and relatives will think you re not doing something right if your child is still using a pacifier. However, I don t poersonally...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old and nursery, mother and toddler groups, nursery school
mother and toddler groups, nursery school, friends family: Hello Tamsin, You can t always know what s going on in situations when you re not there. Perhaps by asking the staff some questions you may better understand what has happened. It could be that there is another child who bullies him or he was scolded by...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3-year-old with Down Syndrome crying in sleep, james windell, initial stress
james windell, initial stress, sleep patterns: Hello Gary, I m glad to hear that your daughter is adjusting well to her new preschool. However, every change brings stress and time for adjustment to young children. Toddlers, in particular, have a great many new stresses and challenges. And it take some...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old screams when he goes home, teenage mother, momma
teenage mother, momma, 10 months: Hi Jeanette, I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you to see your grandson crying like this. It is difficult to say why he is doing this, perhaps he does enjoy the individual attention he receives at your house, although it is not good that he...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old hitting, scratching etc, daycare, aggressive behaviors
daycare, aggressive behaviors, three year olds: Hello Amanda, I don t think this should require you to quit work and stay home. The chances are that whether you stay at home or continue working it will have no direct relationship to your daughter hitting and scratching at daycare. Of course, if you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 1/2 year old niece refuses solid food, james windell, solid food
james windell, solid food, baby food: Hello Luis, Many young children get fearful after a choking incident. Most of them will out grow this in a few weeks or months. In the meantime, it s okay if she avoids solid foods for a while. There are plenty of soft foods and soups which will be nutritious...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old son behavior issues (social), positive reinforcement negative reinforcement, washing dishes
positive reinforcement negative reinforcement, washing dishes, puzzles games: Hello Michelle, Since he does not misbehave anywhere except at home, it must be assumed that his behavior is to get attention from you. It may be self-defeating for you to continue to homeschool him. However, he does have a sound-substitution problem...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 year old stepson is peeing everywhere, target practice, portable potty
target practice, portable potty, potty seat: I take it from your comment about seeing the problem until he started going to school that he isn t doing this at school at all - is he going appropriately at school or having accidents? The intentional going at home, I m not really sure about. Given...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old obsession with garbage., Darleen Claire Wodzenski, Amma Academy
Darleen Claire Wodzenski, Amma Academy, afraid: Dear Gae, Children are so awesome, aren t they? I ve had a child who loved to throw out trash. At two, he couldn t say the entire word garbage so he would call it garbie like the doll Barbie but with a g. It was really funny and cute. So, I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old cries at church, million different ways, childrens choir
million different ways, childrens choir, holy spirit: Dear Louise, I found your question languishing in the question pool so whomever you posted to must have gone on vacation. I am happy to address this issue. First of all churches traditionally are geared towards adults not children. They are not at all...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr. old anger when told 'no' or things don't go her way, kicking screaming, timeouts
kicking screaming, timeouts, young lady: Hello Jessica, I m not sure from you ve said if your daughter s problems with transitions are due to her temperament or due to her just wanting things to go her way. Either way, though, it is a problem for you. Since most fives want to be recognized as...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 month old with recent disturbed sleep., cat naps, security objects
cat naps, security objects, good sleep: Dear Andrea, yes it is very likely the teething. Ask your doctor for something you can give her or rub on her gums that could help. Also ask what he/she recommends for the child during teethings, like what is best to chew on. Also young children NEED...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 month old problem sleeping, bedtime routine, relaxs
bedtime routine, relaxs, gas pains: Ryan you are doing well with this, and are being patient. You are vrey wise to put him into a bedtime routine and I hope you will stick with that consistently. I think your child is just having a little trouble putting himself to sleep...but that is something...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8yr old urinating in bedroom, james windell, child psychologist
james windell, child psychologist, frequent urination: Hello Rebecca, It is likely that there are other issues going on. Often there are emotional and psychological issues that are associated with children urinating on the floor at home. Since he s had a physical, I think the next step is to have him evaluated...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: attitude change, wet diapers, doctor asap
wet diapers, doctor asap, changes in bowel movements: Dear Ashley, This actually sound very unusual and if I were you I would make an appt with the child s doctor asap for a check up. Meanwhile, DO get a pad or notebook and log his behavior each day...tell the time of day these incidents occur, and also list...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby Acting Out, month old baby, mommy daddy
month old baby, mommy daddy, mommy and daddy: This is usually a stage children go through when they get a little bit older, however you may have a very bright little girl on your hands. The problem is, she doesn t know exactly how to communicate other than screaming and swinging at this age. A couple...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad behavior, loving leo, unwanted behavior
loving leo, unwanted behavior, dicipline: Hello Rhonda, Just last night I was observing my favorite toddler, who happens to be 24-months old. He started hitting his baby-sitter for no apparent reason. She said No hitting! and deflected his hand. Then she turned it into slapping hands and high-fiving...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bathroom, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior: Vikki- thank you for the question. I apologize for not responding sooner. My Internet was disabled and didn t get fixed until today. I have the same problem with my two year old. What I did was go to a local home goods store (Wal-Mart or K-Mart here...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Child scrweams when corrected, james windell, moving in the right direction
james windell, moving in the right direction, working mom: Hello Anou, I don t know where you saw these obedient 15-month-old children. It certainly wasn t at my house! And I haven t seen any one or two-year-olds lately who obeyed their parents. In fact, that should not be the goal of parenting. While this is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Comfortable with strangers, james windell, loving parents
james windell, loving parents, spending time: Hello Evelyn, Sometimes it seems children can t get it right. If they are shy and fearful of strangers, some parents get very concerned. if they are comfortable with strangers, then that can be a concern to some parents, too. You are obviously very loving...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Concerned over 26 month old language development, toddler, speech development
toddler, speech development: Melissa- thank you for the question, and thank you for all the back ground information. That really helps. I would give your son some more time and just keep working with him. Boys are sometimes a little slower in language acquisition than girls are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Crying Fits in my 3 month old, james windell, out of the blue
james windell, out of the blue, four months: Hello Cathy, Babies cry. Some babies cry for several hours a day. And often parents have no clue as to what might be wrong. There are various theories about why babies between birth and about four months cry so much, but no one knows for sure. Since you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crib bumpers, crib bumpers, congratulations on your new baby
crib bumpers, congratulations on your new baby, crib bumper: Peter, Thanks for the question, and I apologize for the delay in answering. Most of the books and articles I have read advise against a crib bumper. They are really more for decoration than for protection of your bacy. Most information given on preventing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: cries when wakes up, game one, wakes
game one, wakes, thunderstorm: Thank you for the question, and I apologize for the delay in answering you. My first consideration is whether or not this is a new problem for your daughter. Also, since you mention that she cries if you are not in the bed with her I am assuming that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Diagnosing antisocial behavior, toddler behavior, homw
toddler behavior, homw, aggressive behaviors: Hello Elaine, It sounds like normal toddler behavior to me! As toddlers learn how to be socialized, they show their inexperience and lack of sophistication by aggressive behaviors. As parents, our job is to continually teach them how to interact with others....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: development, toddler, development
toddler, development, speech patterns: Carol- thank you for the question. It does sound like he might be a bit behind. I will give you a link to a site that gives some basic milestones for his age. Remember not all kids progress at the same rate and that s fine. These are just a gauging...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: discipline, feeding chair, power struggle
feeding chair, power struggle, play pen: Dear Mobina, Letting your child feel that you are in charge, not he, makes him feel sucure. You should have been in charge of the way you want him to eat and go to bed from the START when you brought him home. It is only going to get far worse unless you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: discipline, expecting parent, feeding chair
expecting parent, feeding chair, newborn babies: Mobina, Thank you for the question. I m going to address your question regarding whether or not it is too early to begin enforcing rules. My answer for this is a very emphatic no! It is not too early to begin letting your son know what is expected of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: discipline, infant, eating habits
infant, eating habits, sleeping habits: Mobina- thank you for the questions. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. Our Internet has been disabled and I wasn t able to get it fixed until today. It might be that his seat is not what he wants. You could try a booster seat on a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: disipline, bedtime routine, feeding chair
bedtime routine, feeding chair, eating utensils: Hello Mobina, I m afraid that crying it out is the probably going to be the most effective approach. Since he has strong crying episodes, you may have to come in the room to calm him down, however, I wouldn t suggest picking him up if you can avoid it since...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Excessive Chewing, toddler, teething
toddler, teething, chewing: Cher- thank you for the question. It is possible that his two year molars are coming in and that s why he s chewing. I know they ve got a set of molars that come in right about two years to two and a half years. They could be moving up in the jaw which...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ear piercing doctors, hand sanitizer, inner skin
hand sanitizer, inner skin, earing: I ve never heard of a doctor doing ear piercing. Both of my daughters had their ears pierced at a place called Claire s in downtown Cleveland (Tower City). It s the only local place that I know of that does it anymore. I would not recommend a tattoo...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 1/2 year olds behavior problems., positive reinforcement, three teens
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 1/2 year olds behavior problems., positive reinforcement, three teens, preschool teacher

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Could my 2 year old have OCD?, ocd symptoms, exsistence
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Could my 2 year old have OCD?, ocd symptoms, exsistence, hesitancy

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old screams when he goes home, salvatore, good luck
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old screams when he goes home, salvatore, good luck, turkey

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 year old stepson is peeing everywhere, time outs, exact same thing
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 4 year old stepson is peeing everywhere, time outs, exact same thing, stepson

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ear piercing doctors, piercing ears, ear piercer
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ear piercing doctors, piercing ears, ear piercer, pediatricians

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Granddaughter dont want to leave my home with her father, stepdad, granddaughter
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Granddaughter dont want to leave my home with her father, stepdad, granddaughter, niece

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I handle my VERY aggressive 22 month old, eye contact
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I handle my VERY aggressive 22 month old, eye contact

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Scared Toddler!, fears
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Scared Toddler!, fears

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech delay, downloadable materials, living in australia
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech delay, downloadable materials, living in australia, heaps

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: fussiness at the breast, congratulations on your new baby, infant food
congratulations on your new baby, infant food, paterns: Congratulations on your new baby, and on your decision to breastfeed her and give her the superior infant food that breast milk provides! You are giving her such a wonderful start in life. In your question you sound very frustrated, and perhaps a little...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Granddaughter dont want to leave my home with her father, many different reasons, recent deaths
many different reasons, recent deaths, separation anxiety: I will apologize for throwing so many questions at you to consider in regards to an answer, but there are many circumstances in this precious 3 year old s life that I am not familiar with, so am trying to cover many different views, guiding with questions...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I handle my VERY aggressive 22 month old, social niceties, aggressive impulses
social niceties, aggressive impulses, little learners: Hello Lindee, I hope you read some of my previous answers to other parents who have had the same concerns about their children. This is such a common concern about parents of toddlers that I have talked about this dozens of times with other parents. What...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: napping, infant, sleep patterns
infant, sleep patterns, napping: Veronica- Yes, an air purifier would work. We put Hepa air filters in our girls rooms because our youngest, at the time, had unknown allergies to something. We thought the air filter would work, and she got so accustomed to sleeping with it on that we...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Obsessive behaviour in 3 year old, obsessive behaviour, obssesive
obsessive behaviour, obssesive, compulsive behaviors: Hello Louise, It does become difficult for the whole family when a toddler develops obsessive-compulsive behaviors. However, it is not uncommon for young children to develop fears and obsessive-compulsive tendencies. Sometimes such fears and behaviors come...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Private area touching, james windell, natural curiosity
james windell, natural curiosity, genital areas: Hello Kristina, As you rightly point out, toddlers and other young children are very curious about their own and other s bodies.They may be particularly curious about genital areas. Many, if not most, children show an interest in exploring other s bodies....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: peeing, types of doctors, pee my pants
types of doctors, pee my pants, infant toddler: This is significantly out of the Infant/Toddler/Preschool range. Also, you did not explain what types of doctors you have seen, or if this has been an ongoing problem since childhood or a recent problem. If you would be willing to send me a little more detail,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Repetitive Talking, dodge ball, playing video games
dodge ball, playing video games, hi ed: Hi Ed There is no harm in it at least...he must have heard this somewhere and it somehow made an imporession. I would not make a big deal out of it but be patient. Also ask him what he thinks that means. That may give you the answer to where he heard...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Scared Toddler!, perceptual problem, year and four months
perceptual problem, year and four months, perception problem: Dear Amedeo, I would suspect it is a perceptual problem, nothing mental. You can have him tested (free) for a perceptual problem. Call or go to the school district to ask about early testing for possible problems or special needs in children 0-5. It...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Should I Suspect Neglect?, foster care system, signs of stress
foster care system, signs of stress, speech delay: Natasha, Thank you for the question, and thank you for being so interested in the well-being of your child. Because your child is in the foster care system, this is a really sticky situation. I m not sure what your legal rights are in this situation,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleep patterns, nanny 911, sleep patterns
nanny 911, sleep patterns, rare occasions: Poor Holly I feel so sad for you...you also have sleep deprivaton, even if she does too. But I think from reading the entire history that this probably DOES have to do with diet and allergy. Now that you wrote this out, you can read it and probably see...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleeping issues, vicki lansky, bedtime routine
vicki lansky, bedtime routine, sleep problems: Dear Nancy If you have kept up a consistent bedtime routine, this is unusual. Try to keep him awake more in the day and be sure he goes to bed early enough that he is not Overtired...being over tired will not help anyone sleep. Get the very practical and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Is my son smarter than normal, toddler, development
toddler, development, speech patterns: Jennifer- Thank you for the question. I think his verbal skills sound a little elevated for his age. Boys are typically a little slower in getting language acquisition than girls are, so having a vocabulary of over 15 words at that age is a bit advanced....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech delay, baa baa, nursery rhyme
baa baa, nursery rhyme, minor language: Hello Suba, Your son sounds to be within normal limits in terms of his speech and language development. I wasn t however, clear if you are speaking two languages in the home or just one. There s nothing wrong with teaching young children two languages,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Tantrums/Night terrors pls HELP!!!, toddler, tantrums
toddler, tantrums: Mimi- thank you for the question. I think, since you say it was a pretty rapid onset of symptoms, and that they seem pretty severe, I am going to recommend that you broach the subject with your doctor. I am not convinced that there s just an attitude...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Teething, front teeth, teething ring
front teeth, teething ring, teething rings: My 7 mo old son is teething, too, so I know exactly what you are going through. I wish I could give you an actual time frame, however teething is one of those stages that could last a few weeks to several months, depending on how her teeth are growing. Some...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Three year old troubles, initial act, two choices
initial act, two choices, untruth: Although he is entering this stage a little early, it is normal. He is, more or less, doing it to exert his independence and show is own mind and imagination. My 4 year old daughter is doing the same thing. She didn t paint the fridge door green, the dog...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler and worms, james windell, wings off flies
james windell, wings off flies, getting a divorce: Hello Jenny, The fact that your sister is getting a divorce may have nothing to do with the child s interest in squashing worms. On the other hand, it might reflect any anger he might be experiencing. However, boys of various ages enjoy playing with worms...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toilet Training, grape juices, laxative effect
grape juices, laxative effect, fruit juices: Marie, Thank you for your question. The answer to whether or not I can suggest anything to help her poop during the day is a complicated one. While it is unusual for anyone to have their usual time for a bowel movement to be during sleep time, it does...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toilet training 3rd follow up, toilet training, muscle control
toilet training, muscle control, short trips: It sounds like you are making wonderful progress! Congratulations on getting him this far- and for identifying why he is having accidents. You are right on track there. Most kids have the same problem- their play is just too important to them to be bothered...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: temper tantrums, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, bedrest: Hello Kim, It is very difficult to sort out in a toddler. But, perhaps the best explanation is that toddlers will throw temper tantrums, especially if they have good reasons for doing so. Your son has plenty of reasons for having terrible tantrums. Being...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toilet training, television time, taking a bath
television time, taking a bath, favorite book: Thank you for the question, however there really isn t enough detail for me to help you know why she has started doing this. It is possible that she has simply figured out that it takes a fair amount of time away from play or other fun activities to stop...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Weaning from bottle+Toilet training, weaning from bottle, toilet train
weaning from bottle, toilet train, toilet training: Hello again to you as well! Are you traveling yet? If so I hope it is going well. For your first question- I know that outside the US (where I am located)children often toilet train a little earlier than here. If you are able to do diapers just for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Wheat free diet, wheat free, behavior
wheat free, behavior: Tina- thank you for the question. As of this time I do not know any oatmeal bread that does not contain wheat. The issue is that when you have Celiac disease, you have to even eliminate oatmeal from your diet, so I ve not come across a loaf yet, and trust...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I want to be a father, mature brain, being a dad
mature brain, being a dad, having babies: Dear Ricky, Having a baby isn t about what you want. You are not ready to be a dad. If you were ready to be a dad you would be thinking only about what is best for a baby. It is never in the best interest of a baby to be born when parents are not ready....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 1 Year Old Not Talking, Waving or Pointing, gaze point, some consonants
gaze point, some consonants, repetitive behavior: Hello Jennifer, It s easy to become concerned since (I believe) this is your first child. When you start looking at developmental charts, then you see all sorts of things your child should be doing at his age, but isn t. Let me caution you about a couple...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Almost 15 months, but not talking, baby signing, 15 months
baby signing, 15 months, sign language: Dear Katherine, All children have their own timeline for learning to talk. However, I suggest using sign language to help his frustration and enable him to communicate his emotions. Check out some of the baby signing sites online and start right away....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 18 month old twin girls won't listen, impulse control, risk takers
impulse control, risk takers, twin girls: Hello Kristy, You really have your hands full with the twins! Besides being kept in a walker all day long, I don t know anything about their backgrounds. But I m going to assume they were more or less neglected by their mother -- which is why you have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 year old copies bad behavior from four year old cousin, mother talks, bad behavior
mother talks, bad behavior, nephew: Hello Cynthia, Sometimes our attempts to be kind and to help out others in need have negative side effects. It s certainly not uncommon for a well-behaved child to pick up bad habits from a poorly behaved child. The fact that your daughter s cousin is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old sleeping habits, toddler, allergies
toddler, allergies, eczema: Dan- Eczema is a rash on the body, usually torso and folds of limbs that looks similar to heat rash. It is extremely itchy. You can treat it with hydrocortisone. If that doesn t work than the doctor can prescribe something stronger. My daughter uses...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old Tantrums at bedtime, 2 year old tantrums, drink of water
2 year old tantrums, drink of water, naps: Jodi, Please know that as I answer this it is with my full understanding, empathy, and all the support I can offer you. I have fully been there and done exactly what you are going through with my own 2 1/2 year old son. We had somewhat similar circumstances...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 2 years son throw every thing, water toys, milk water
water toys, milk water, tone of voice: Samah, Thank you for the question, and please forgive my delay in answering My first thought is to suggest to you that you evaluate what precipitates your son throwing things. With food, is it that he is finished with his meal, so he throws it because...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 22 month old wakes up screaming, toddler, sleep habits
toddler, sleep habits, night waking: Jennie- thank you for the question. Hmmmm....I admit, I m stumped. It could be teething, but why only at night? Some night terrors and dreaming starts to intensify at this age so he might be having some bad dreams, thus the screaming. It could be that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2year old daughter picks at her index finger, james windell, open wound
james windell, open wound, index finger: Hello Brian, As to whether she has eczema, that should be for a doctor to decide. However, you are right -- toddlers do start many habits. Certainly you can put a wrap on it and that may discourage her picking at her finger. Sometimes these kinds of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 year old boy crying all the time, negative manner, time question
negative manner, time question, time outs: Hello Ahoora, You won t be able to tell if your son has a disorder for maybe three years. Young children are difficult -- if not impossible -- to diagnose because they are constantly changing and developing. Also, the symptoms that suggest ADHD or other...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3.5 year old doesn't follow directions, talks back, doesn't listen, three year old, development
three year old, development, concentration: Ana- thank you for your question. Montessori schools are renowned for pushing kids educationally. Not a bad thing, just it s common for them to have pretty high expectations. I think most three year olds have short attention spans, about three to five...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 mo old short-cycling naps, infant, sleep patterns
infant, sleep patterns, napping: Kristin- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I had a light sleeper in my second child. She also cycled like this. I don t think I can offer any real solution, just maybe some thoughts I had. I tried to get...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old closer to grandmom than mom, working moms, play group
working moms, play group, quality time: Dear Math, I think you son is lucky to have so many people in his life who love him. I think you need to get over feeling hurt and rejected and be glad he can attach and bond to others who love him. This will help him be a well adjusted adult. Parenting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3month old wont sleep in day time, infant, sleep patterns
infant, sleep patterns, napping: Moni- thank you for the question. I am not really sure where to steer you, unfortunately. Have you tried putting him down to sleep in either a swing or a bouncy seat with a vibration motor on it? Sometimes that was the only thing that put my youngest...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old mood swing?, clear blue sky, mood swings
clear blue sky, mood swings, worst man: Hello T, It s really early in your son s life to be worried about mood swings. I doubt that anyone could properly evaluate whether he has mood swings because young child change so frequently that it is nearly impossible to diagnose a young child. They are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 41/2 YEAR OLD ACTING OUT IN PRESCHOOL, daycare, new teacher
daycare, new teacher, serious health: Sorry I am late in answering...but we are having some serious health problems in our family right now. I think you should not agree to an apopintment or sent a date for one, until you have visited the preschool to observe there for a day and watch what...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old son is not listening, james windell, temper tantrum
james windell, temper tantrum, school kindergarten: Hello Alfred, Since this is relatively new behavior, that would likely mean that your son has experienced some changes or stresses that are upsetting and distracting him. If you are not aware of any changes or transitions in his life in the last several...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old granddaughter's behavior, child, behavior changes
child, behavior changes: JoJean- thank you for the question. I apologize profusely for not getting back to you sooner. I ve been out sick with a nasty strain of strep throat. I am also wondering if your granddaughter doesn t have a urinary tract infection. The sudden urination...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Acidic, orange/brown coloured stool in Toddler, orange brown, stool sample
orange brown, stool sample, parasitic infection: Thank you for the question. Since you ve seen these type stools before with teething, I am guessing that this is the problem. Teething can take several months, especially molars. However, since it has gone on for so long you might want to give your pediatrician...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Advise on my 21 Month Old, first time mom, temper tantrums
first time mom, temper tantrums, temper tantrum: Hello Stephanie, I m sure it s not anything you did. And I don t think you are making a lot of mistakes as a mother. It sounds like you have established a bedtime routine and everything goes well until a tantrum starts. You begin looking for ways to stop...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anger in toddlers, everyday occurrence, nap time
everyday occurrence, nap time, naps: Hello Net, I m happy to hear that for the most part your daughter is adjusting well. It is very possible that she was neglected and/or abused in her first two years. We don t know how she was awakened from naps or what she might have had to face. We can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: getting my baby to sleep, month old baby, breastmilk
month old baby, breastmilk, personal opinion: Congratulations on your baby- and on your decision to breastfeed. Thank you as well for the question. There is mixed thoughts out there about what age is right to night wean a nursing infant, but my personal opinion is that at the point that your child...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my baby wants my mother in law over me, mother in law, loving care
mother in law, loving care, caregiver: Monica, Thank you for the question. As I am reading over your question there are a couple of things that come to mind. First, you don t mention why you were not with your daughter in her early days, but you are likely right in that she has bonded...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My boy's language problem, delayed language development, nonverbal language
delayed language development, nonverbal language, language problem: Hello Michael, Many three-year-olds are resistant to being taught things. That is, when they experience pressure to learn and when they perceive that they are being pushed to learn, they rebel. That could be what is happening with your son. Since he...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bullying, day care centers, day care center
day care centers, day care center, discipline policy: Sammy, First make a call and say you are coming to observe in the day care. Tell your boss why you need to do this, and find some time to do it. See what is going on for yourself. ALSO talk to the day care director face to face and ask what policy they...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Chewing obsession, home daycare, gag reflex
home daycare, gag reflex, carrot sticks: Although I have no personal experience in this field in particular, I will attempt to give you some direction to go with this. Although I believe it may be too young to diagnose the child with a medical problem, there is a condition that you may want to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child peeing on toys, james windell, changing clothes
james windell, changing clothes, inappropriate place: Hello Bryan, There may be some other reasons for this behavior. One possibility is jealousy at the attention his younger brother gets. So, one way of approaching this is to make sure that he gets enough individual time from both parents. However, you can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My daughter, james windell, running the risk
james windell, running the risk, kids these days: Hello Lucy, This behavior might be normal. But if she is simulating sexual behavior with the dolls, then it must be assumed she has been exposed to some kinds of sexually stimulating situations. And kids these days have all sorts of opportunities to be exposed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Putting my daughter to bed, bedtime routine, taking a bath
bedtime routine, taking a bath, retraining: Hello Gail, It seems like you and your daughter have developed a routine which is not very successful for either of you. It becomes especially frustrating for you because you don t like what you feel and how you act towards her. But, you can change all this....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I get my daughter to like her caretaker/ nanny?, losing a parent, sleeping difficulties
losing a parent, sleeping difficulties, sleep patterns: Hello Nanah, Losing her nanny after a close relationship of year is traumatic for a one-year-old child. It s like losing a parent. She is not just going to switch her love and attachment to a new nanny. She will show all the signs of the loss -- with eating...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: development, legos, those kids
legos, those kids, paying attention: Don t panic. She may just be one of those kids that doesn t like to let you know exactly how smart she is. My oldest is the same way. If we asked her specifically about a color, she wouldn t say anything, just get quiet and smile. However, she knew her...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: eating issues, pediatric gastroenterologist, frie
pediatric gastroenterologist, frie, pediatrician: I m curious to know what his doctor has said about the problems he is having. Have you discussed this with the pediatrician? How much of the mashed foods is he trying before he throws up? How is his weight (is he gaining normally?). If the pediatrician...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old Tantrums at bedtime, bed time, tantrums
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old Tantrums at bedtime, bed time, tantrums

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3.5 year old doesn't follow directions, talks back, doesn't listen, pretend play, homework
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3.5 year old doesn't follow directions, talks back, doesn't listen, pretend play, homework, full of joy

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anger in toddlers, tonsils and adenoids, nightterrors
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anger in toddlers, tonsils and adenoids, nightterrors, violent behavior

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Problem with tantrums, chief concerns, pronouns
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Problem with tantrums, chief concerns, pronouns, tantrums

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler's odd behavior, facial gestures, outgoing child
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler's odd behavior, facial gestures, outgoing child, aspergers

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My almost four year old son, emotional outburst, weekend basis
emotional outburst, weekend basis, emotional outbursts: Some of this behavior may have to do with how long you and Dad have been separated. If it was recent, he may not like or fully understand the separation and be acting out. If this has been a longer term separation and something that has been a regular routine...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Hitting, Slapping, pinching, hair pulling, discipline method, guidance techniques
discipline method, guidance techniques, diaper changing time: Hello Carissa, Yes, these behaviors are part of the stage children go through during the toddler years. Almost every child gets through the stage successfully -- without becoming an aggressive child. When you re looking for a way to guide your son, you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Impulsive and active 23 month old, temper tantrums, kisses and cuddles
temper tantrums, kisses and cuddles, swing park: Hello Tracey, No question about it! You have an active, energetic, and challenging two-year-old. Is he normal? Very much so. His temperament is such that he is an active, always-on-the-go, risk taker. He wants to be independent and do things his way. He...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Innappropriate Toddler Touching, james windell, stay at home mom
james windell, stay at home mom, pee pee: Hello Leilani, Children of all ages have sexual feelings and urges. And they figure out at an early age that touching or stimulating one s genitals feels good. Children enjoy the stimulation of riding on a parent s leg. I don t see anything wrong with...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My kids behaviour, learned pattern, facial expression
learned pattern, facial expression, breakfast lunch: Hello Vani, I think you and your older son have established a pattern with each other. What I think has happened is that he has learned that he doesn t have to do what he is asked or told until you get mad. So, he can delay responding until you are shouting....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: kids behaviour, medium tone, selective hearing
medium tone, selective hearing, breakfast lunch: Vani- I apologize, your first letter made it sound like it was his reaction to all conversation which is what led me to think he might not be hearing low level frequencies. I guess my thought it to unplug and permanently remove the computer, the games,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: kids climbing, james windell, coffee tables
james windell, coffee tables, self control: Hello Lynn, Telling a three-year-old (or especially a 14-month-old) to stop doing something that s fun and that they ve apparently been allowed to do is NOT going to work. Threatening or using time-out will NOT work either. Children at these ages typically...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: leaving 1 year old for the first time, old baby girl, object permanence
old baby girl, object permanence, concept of time: Rebekah, First, thank you for the question. Next, I love your name- it is the name of my second daughter, spelled like yours as well. Now, for your question. I could tell you not to worry, but that won t help any because I have told myself the same...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Managing opinionated 3.5-year-old, speech problems, pound on
speech problems, pound on, little brother: Hello Leah, Maybe you helped create some bad habits, but it seems to me his temperament may be that of a very persistent person. Which is not necessarily a bad thing -- if he can learn to channel it in positive ways. I think you have to retrain him so...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Motor Skills, james windell, developmental charts
james windell, developmental charts, six weeks: Hello Jennifer, Your daughter is not slower in any areas. If she was born almost six weeks premature, then she is really a three-month-old child. My best advice is to forget about any of the developmental charts you re consulting and just enjoy your baby....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: m 3 yr old, step dad, amazon
step dad, amazon, spanked: Melissa, I have been doing this for 40 years and am a mom or 4 and grandma of 4 and great grandma of 3. DO share this letter with your husband. You need to get a book at the library or book store that tells you very clearly what to expect from a 3 year...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: night sleeping, james windell, pleasurable sensation
james windell, pleasurable sensation, infants and toddlers: Hello Camilla, Infants and toddlers frequently awaken in the night. There can be many reasons for this to happen. One reason is nightmares or bad dreams. However, it is sometimes impossible to know why a child may be fussy during sleep or awaken. The best...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Problem with tantrums, james windell, word sentences
james windell, word sentences, wheeler bike: Hello Charah, From what you ve told me, it doesn t seem like there s anything unusual here. But let me ask you more questions: 1. Is it really true that he throws a tantrum for no reason? You mean that there is no frustration or situation with another...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Problems with 14month old, Darleen Claire Wodzenski, MMR
Darleen Claire Wodzenski, MMR, separation anxiety: Dear Vicki, Check back with her pediatrician. If you don t get a positive response to your situation, then seek the advice of a doctor that recognizes the long term impact immunizations may have on children s mental and health status. Meanwhile, it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: questionable abuse of 2 yo boy, diaper pants, sexual acts
diaper pants, sexual acts, playpen: Dear Pattie: I am so sorry you are hurting so badly. This is a heartbreaking situation. First, remind yourself how lucky this child is to have you in his life. Can you imagine if he didn t have anyone? Next, you need to get him to someone to have him...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Seperation, james windell, custodial parent
james windell, custodial parent, tantrums: Hello Mauritza, Since both of you want to help your daughter make a good adjustment to the separation and since both of you obviously care about her, then I do have some suggestions for aiding her adjustment. First, I would recommend that you get rid of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sex abuse of 2 yo male, diaper pants, sexual acts
diaper pants, sexual acts, playpen: Hello Pattie, I don t know anything about this social worker, what her background is, or what experience she has with children. She may well be quite inexperienced. I d still say to get another opinion from someone you know has many years of experience and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Shyness/Screaming, shy child, kay
shy child, kay: Dear Lona, His inconsolable screaming is worrying you for a reason. What is going on with him? Has something changed in his life recently? Has a new person come into his life or left his life? Has his schedule changed dramatically? Are his routines upset?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Siblings fight ALOT, ymca programs, fight alot
ymca programs, fight alot, children chances: Dear Kris, We had two children a year apart who also fought constantly as children. I wanted to believe that all sisters and brothers would be close friends forever and that they start being close as young children. I was wrong. Sometimes, not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleep, loud screams, security objects
loud screams, security objects, nite lite: Sherrie this seems rather unusual...have you tried security objects and nite lite, and soft music on tape? I would sy you should ask her doctor. maybe a physical exam would tell you something. Otherwise call a sleep specialist. One family I knew got the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleepless nites, infant rice cereal, infant death syndrome
infant rice cereal, infant death syndrome, infant cereal: Believe me, as a parent, the hardest thing we ever do is watch our children cry, especially when they are little. However, they do that. Learn her cries. You probably already notice the difference between a diaper cry and a feed me cry. You also have to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: self soothing, infant, night wakings
infant, night wakings, self soothing: Sara- thank you for the question. I think, at eight months, that she should be able to sleep on her own all night long. It sounds like she s just gotten herself into a pattern and is having trouble breaking it. She should be able to have a snack before...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: settling my 3 year old in nursery, confident boy, confident attitude
confident boy, confident attitude, daycare: Hello Lorna, Many toddlers dislike being separated from their parent and going to daycare or nursery leads to crying. Sometimes children get over this in a couple of weeks, but sometimes they don t. I think you have two choices: One, you can withdraw...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my son wont sleep, nap time, toddler beds
nap time, toddler beds, classical station: First off, let me say I give you credit for having a child that will stay in their room when they wake up in the middle of the night! My daughters are 3 and 4 and ever since they got toddler beds, they wake in the middle of the night and climb in our bed to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech in almost 2 boy, ball water, receptive language
ball water, receptive language, cat mouse: Dear Tina, All children do develop differently and I can tell from your question that you are still concerned. I would suggest adding in Sign Language. Sign Language has been shown to add to children s vocabulary in the long term. They may not talk as much...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: stubborn 3 yr old, loving child, diaper change
loving child, diaper change, nightgown: Dear Stacy, This 3 year old has alot to deal with due to all the labels attached to her. First of all get rid of the embarrassment. She will potty train on her own schedule. Drop it as your doctor suggested and tell family and friends to mind their own...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Throat issues?, water cause, throat specialists
water cause, throat specialists, panic attack: Dear Melissa, It is not uncommon these days for seven year olds to have panic attacks. But this may even be caused by an allergy. DO ask your doctor to get you an appointment with a specialist...we used to call them nose and throat specialists....this...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler afraid to fall asleep alone, lightning and thunder, security objects
lightning and thunder, security objects, power struggle: Dear Wendy, I am sure your are right...she is enjoying the attention and making the most of it. Your loving and caring is fine, but you do NOT want this to be an unbreakable habit. Stop the power struggle. You need to tell her firmly that she MUST stay...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Trauma after earthquake, anoying, google
anoying, google, margie: Dear Margie, In cities where earthquakes are common, there are usually specialists who will help you with this problem. Call your social services agency (see phone book or online) and use google as well to find this help from people who do this all the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my toddler, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior: Jennifer- thank you for the question. Two year olds are constantly testing their boundaries. They really want to know how far they can push the limits and what you will do about it. They are seeking consistency and rules. I would try a double attack...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler's odd behavior, letters of the alphabet, shapes sizes
letters of the alphabet, shapes sizes, strange behaviors: Hello Cora, Many toddlers do somewhat strange things. And it s not always clear why they do them. However, one reason that toddlers engage in obsessive-compulsive sorts of behaviors is to learn about the world and make sense of the world. For example, they...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler wants attention all the time, alligator tears, plastic bowls
alligator tears, plastic bowls, pots and pans: Hello Cassandra, Nothing to worry about. Except that you re feeling stressed by her need for your attention. Have you spoiled her with your attention? Maybe a little. But, on the positive side, she is able to attend daycare. You should keep in mind...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Should I worry about toddler's sudden shyness?, dear catherine, shyness
dear catherine, shyness, sudden onset: Dear Catherine, While it is true that all children go through stages and can change on a dime....I would wonder if something or someone new has been introduced to her environment that she is not comfortable with and is reacting to it. Can you think...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 10 months old daughter behavior, old baby girl, cook meals
old baby girl, cook meals, time mothers: Hello Thais, No need to apologize about your English; I can understand it perfectly well. I suspect that this is your first child and like many first-time mothers you are very loving and attentive to your baby. And you worry a lot about her. Also, you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 15 month old not talking, kitty cat, developmental screening
kitty cat, developmental screening, patty cake: Dear Carla, While all children develop at their own pace, you sound worried. I think you should consult your baby s doctor and possibly request a developmental screening to put your mind at rest. Best Wishes! Kay http://twitter.com/allfamilie...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 year old aggressive and jealous of year old, jealous, new baby
jealous, new baby, Darleen Claire Wodzenski: Dear Mike, It s great that you re taking immediate action to put an end to the abusive behavior. While a two year old is a purely wonderful and innocent being, it is also true that toddlers who are ALLOWED to terrorize and abuse other children and animals...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old copies bad behavior from four year old cousin, bad habit, reward system
bad habit, reward system, bad behavior: Hello Cynthia, It s perfectly normal for two-year-olds not to share and to imitate behaviors of older children. However, the real problem is with the 4-year-old who is obviously teasing and provoking your daughter. As you ve indicated, you could start...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 2 year old daughter, alwa, precious child
alwa, precious child, time outs: Hello Tara, Most toddlers I know are very active and always on the go. Like your daughter many other two-year-olds are active, busy, into everything, and always running, climbing, jumping, or moving. It is far too early (by about 3 to 4 years) to start...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old son, toddler, biting
toddler, biting, Darleen Claire Wodzenski: Dear Sara, I m sending a big hug. I understand how challenging this situation is for you, and how much you want your precious family to be loving and peaceful. Please allow me to share a different perspective on the subject. Just read the following...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2yr old birthday party, bj s wholesale club, sams wholesale club
bj s wholesale club, sams wholesale club, burger buns: The fact that she is looking at relatives only, I wouldn t worry about the guest list. I can understand where she is coming from on the food stamps issue...I m on those myself and my daughters both have birthdays in November (one week apart). It is a little...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2yr old is infatuated with butts!!!, toddler two, two year olds
toddler two, two year olds, social interactions: Hello Nikki, I think you are expecting too much of your two-year-old toddler. Two-year-olds don t understand all of the rules we have in our social interactions. Remember he is just a few months removed from infancy and if he were breast fed you didn t...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How can I make it so my 3 1/4 year old daughter cannot open her double hung window?, james windell, double hung window
james windell, double hung window, double hung windows: Hello Kimberlyn, Yes, this is a serious problem. Safety is the first order of business here. I m not an expert in double hung windows, but I think you can use a nail or a screw to insert in the lower sash of the window so it cannot be opened. You may not...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How can I make it so my 3 1/4 year old daughter cannot open her double hung window?, safety. home safety, windows open
safety. home safety, windows open, Darleen Claire Wodzenski: Dear Kimberlyn, I understand your concern, and it is absolutely founded. It is life threatening for your child to have access to low windows that she is able to open by herself. Another safety issue, faced by many households, are screens. When a window...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 YR OLD TEMPER, deep breathing meditation, short fuses
deep breathing meditation, short fuses, bad temper: Hello Kelly, I think you have a legitimate concern here. That is, without effective corrective measures he might grow up to be a boy with anger problems. The good thing is that your grandson is only three years of age. So you and his mother have plenty of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty training, typical toddler, chair time
typical toddler, chair time, revolts: Yes Ed but another GREAT resource for you to use is the potty training book by Vicki Lansky ..it is a classic and has helped millions..Go to BookPeddlers.com or see her books on amazon .com You will like the book. Kids need to be at a certain stage of muscle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 yr old daughter, james windell, unhappy mood
james windell, unhappy mood, paternal grandmother: Hello Monica, It is possible for three-year-olds to be depressed. However, there would have to be a reason for this. That is, most often a young child will become sad or depressed if there is some change in their routine or a stressor in their life. You...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old very mean to 10 mon old daughter, negative consequences, violent acts
negative consequences, violent acts, disciplinary approaches: Hello Julie, It is frequently the case that an older child is jealous of a younger sibling. And punishments and consequences often don t seem to have much effect on the aggressive behavior. Therefore, you need to combine a number of disciplinary approaches....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old behaviour, toddler, acting out
toddler, acting out: Lynette- thank you for the question. Wow, they ve gone through some pretty big changes in their family recently! It s no wonder that he s having some difficulty! My first suggestion is to develop a very predictable routine and stick with it as much...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-year old boy acting out and "touching", bedtime routine, nanny 911
bedtime routine, nanny 911, daycare: Hello Melanie, Before I make any suggestions, I have a few questions for you. 1. You said he doesn t do what he is told. Is this only in regards to bedtime, or are there other compliance issues at home? If so, what are they? 2. Is he, in your opinion...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-year-old boy Behavior, boy behavior, preschool class
boy behavior, preschool class, behavior issues: Hello Kristen, It would be my guess that social situations increase your son s anxiety level because of his discomfort in these situations. As a result, he handles his anxiety by hitting you. Of course, he wouldn t dare do this with his father. I m sure...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year-old playing in vagina, female god, god child
female god, god child, two fingers: My 3 yr old is going through a similar thing...she keeps shoving her hand down her pants (and is the same with the two finger sucking). It s a phase that children go through. Unfortunately, children don t have the same sense of public awareness that adults...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old poop accidents, fiber consumption, whole grains
fiber consumption, whole grains, fruit intake: Beth, Thank you for the question. My first thought is for you first of all to make sure she is having accidents and not failing to clean herself well after she does have a bowel movement. If this doesn t end up being the case then I would start tracking...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old son urination behavior change, james windell, couch cushions
james windell, couch cushions, h pylori: Hello, It s highly unlikely that this is a medical condition. It s more probable that this is a reaction to the anxiety and upset associated with his illness and hospitalization. Reprimands and punishment are perhaps going to make the problem worse. I...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 YEAR OLD TWINS-BITING, preschool, acting out
preschool, acting out: Kandace- thank you for the question. I would try putting them on a behavior chart and putting up a written list of etiquette for them to follow. They are old enough for this sort of thing. Start by devising a list of unacceptable behaviors and be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old scared of everything, parenting technique, childhood fears
parenting technique, childhood fears, good parenting: Dear Kim, With this additional information I would encourage you to seek an assessment and evaluation from what is called an Infant Mental Health specialist. She maybe showing early symptoms of anxiety. IMHs are trained to assess Mental Health issues (which...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 month old, sleep sack, infant massage
sleep sack, infant massage, breaking my back: Dear Karen, Where he was already sleeping through the night and had established a sleeping pattern I have to ask what interrupted his processes? I am wondering if he is teething? Or if something in his immediate environment changed? When there is growth/development...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 7 year old drawing inappropriate pictures in diary, more disturbing things, wholesome kid
more disturbing things, wholesome kid, open legs: Hello e, Your daughter sounds bright and delightful. Despite our best efforts to keep children in the middle years of childhood from thinking about or being preoccupied with bodily parts, bodily functions, and sexuality, many of them are anyway. So, while...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive behavior, negative consequences, aggressive behavior
negative consequences, aggressive behavior, self control: Hello Jennifer, I hate to tell you this, but you have a very normal toddler. Many parents experience exactly the same behaviors with their toddlers around the age of two. And, I have more bad news for you. Time-out is not going to change his behavior!...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Agressive 2 yr old, pinching, biting
pinching, biting, toddler: Dear Catherine, I can tell that you re a loving and gentle parent, so I can t imagine how he picked that up ... but children do pick up the most amazing behaviors. Mine included! I promise this will be a happy memory down the road, even though it may...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: aggressive play ruining play dates, bully, play date
bully, play date, two year old: Dear Tracy, You can bet your last dollar on it: this exposure to a bully will ABSOLUTELY train your child to either be a bully or a victim. I would STOP allowing them to play together unless a better arrangement can be made. If you would like to put...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: anxiety, fussy, won't go to sleep
fussy, won't go to sleep, cries for Mommy: Dear Jill, Children are unique beings. One time my two year old son saw a bear outside his second story window. He was clingy and afraid at night for months after that event. Who knows what he saw, whether it was a dream or a cloud passing by. But,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: attention span, stay at home mom, attention deficit disorder
stay at home mom, attention deficit disorder, m kay: Dear Orma, Just because you son is not showing an interest right now at the age of 9 months in books does not mean he won t show an interest later on. His muscles are growing at a fast rate and he sounds like he likes physical activity. Maybe put the books...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby crying for mother, social obligations, family obligations
social obligations, family obligations, working mother: Priya, Thank you for the question, and I apologize for the delay. We are in summer school break here in the US, so all four of my children are at home now, making time on email and computer much more scarce. I am thinking that your son s difficulty...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby not sleeping between 1am - 5am, wake with a smile, new routine
wake with a smile, new routine, old routine: Mai- Thank you for your question. I hope I ll be able to be of some help to you. I think that the reason this is happening is simple- your son learned a new routine with his cold, and now everyone is paying the price for the new schedule he has adopted....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Baby tantrum, cheerful baby, good boy
cheerful baby, good boy, housework: Thank you for the follow up to let me know how things are going! I always like hearing back, especially when it confirms the advice I ve given so I ll know what works well and can share it with others who are struggling in the same way. I think you have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Bad Behaviour in my 4 year old, temper tantrum, definite rules
temper tantrum, definite rules, definite ideas: Hello Reena, Young children go through various stages. But there are times when four-year-olds are oppositional and stubborn. They have definite ideas about what they want to do and if you say no, they may dig their heels in and insist they are going to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Breakfast habit before School, personal preference, morni
personal preference, morni, 21 months: Anou, Thanks for the questions again, and glad you had a good vacation. I m glad too that the sleep training you worked on served you well and you were able to come home again and get back on track. On your questions- 1- Do I think it is too early...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Brothers born 10 months apart, dealing with difficult children, old mom
dealing with difficult children, old mom, wits end: Hello Bridget, In dealing with difficult children, such as these two boys, you need a variety of discipline approaches. I suspect you already do a number of things; probably much more than you mentioned. These boys have had behavior problems, and it s...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby's odd behavior, odd behavior, twitter
odd behavior, twitter, grandsons: Dear Liane, There could be many reasons...the one that sticks out in my mind is he is trying to tell you something. Is there anyone who could be hitting him in the mouth? Have you asked his parents if they are concerned about his behavior. You don t mention...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Child terrified of crib, ferber method, queen size bed
ferber method, queen size bed, bowel movement: Hello Mary, This is not about her being terrified of her crib. She s not! The problem is that she is comfortable sleeping in your bed and she doesn t want that to change. There s nothing wrong with the Ferber method for this situation. You simply have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child support, long periods of time, attachment parenting
long periods of time, attachment parenting, american citizen: Dear Maki, I am not a attorney and cannot give legal advice. However, I can tell you that children under the age of 5 should not be separated from their primary caregiver (usually the mother) for long periods of time as children do not have the same sense...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: crying toddler, toddler, separation issues
toddler, separation issues, prefers one parent: Tumi- thank you for the question. I do not feel that you are doing anything wrong for her to prefer one parent over another. Children go through these phases where they attach to one parent and prefer them over the other. This is pretty normal development....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughter touched inappropriately by classmate - pooped her pants that night, james windell, daycare
james windell, daycare, classmate: Hello Jeff, They are very likely related. But in view of the fact that it wasn t a more sexualized type of touching, I m guessing the reactions of adults might have helped to increase her anxiety. It will take perhaps a few more days or weeks for her to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline, discipline strategy, feeding chair
discipline strategy, feeding chair, parenting experts: Kellie- Thank you for the question. Congratulations on your baby! How exciting for you! I d also like to commend you on realizing that your son knows you are the weak one, but also to acknowledge the truth in that realization. If it were a perfect...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daycare friend, new girls, sweet friend
new girls, sweet friend, holding hands: Thank you for the question. Let me reassure you that at 2 years old the behavior of your daughter is totally innocent and nothing to worry about. Instead be thankful that she has found a new friend when so many of her older friends have been promoted out...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How do I or can I discipline a 10 month old?, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, discipline techniques: Hello Stacy, Children who are still 10-months of age are still infants. Therefore, as you decided, time-out or other kinds of similar discipline techniques are inappropriate. You are using the right approach in trying to redirect her attention or distract...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: don't know what to do with my 4 year old, preschooler, temper tantrums
preschooler, temper tantrums: Chandrika- thank you for the question. You can always put him in time out right there where you are. Give him the opportunity to get himself together on his own, and if he can t, just park him on a bench or seat or against a tree and take a time out....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Extreme Clinginess, clingy, toddler
clingy, toddler, baby: Dear Lauren, Congratulations on your wonderful family. Your family is set up with you being the primary parent. So, your children have developed a reasonable dependence upon your being around to care for them. They are hooked in to you as part of their...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Formula Feeding, james windell, infant cereals
james windell, infant cereals, feeding infants: Hello Melissa, I m not an expert on feeding infants, so you d be better off talking to your pediatrician. However, typically infants eat two to three ounces of formula per pound of weight each day. By four to six months of age, you ll probably begin to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How can I make it so my 3 1/4 year old daughter cannot open her double hung window?, plexiglass, furniture
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: How can I make it so my 3 1/4 year old daughter cannot open her double hung window?, plexiglass, furniture

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-year-old boy Behavior, occupational therapist, good luck
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4-year-old boy Behavior, occupational therapist, good luck, diagnosis

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: anxiety, closeness, little girl
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: anxiety, closeness, little girl, sleep

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Obsessive Behaviour in a 2 year old, health visitor, sone
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Obsessive Behaviour in a 2 year old, health visitor, sone, wiggles

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My partner keeps saying my child has something wrong w/ her, but I don't think there is!, licensed marriage and family therapist, professional psychologist
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My partner keeps saying my child has something wrong w/ her, but I don't think there is!, licensed marriage and family therapist, professional psychologist, dangerous assumption

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unprovoked biting from 3 yr old, signs of autism, extreme aggression
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unprovoked biting from 3 yr old, signs of autism, extreme aggression, little hitler

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Water Discipline, spray bottle, co worker
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Water Discipline, spray bottle, co worker, amplitude

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: follow-up to your answer, educational psychologist, local school district
educational psychologist, local school district, developmental evaluation: Hello Charah, I believe there may be some developmental delay. Whether this means there is a disorder of some kind is difficult to say without an evaluation. I would suggest that you go to your local school district and request a developmental evaluation....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Group Babysitting Nights at a Youth Center, james windell, adult volunteers
james windell, adult volunteers, youth members: Hello Shane, It sounds like an excellent idea. However, adult volunteers should have some knowledge of children and child development. Children do have to be watched very closely because there will be parents who use your services, but who will be critical...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: inconsistent wake times, bedtime routine, 6am
bedtime routine, 6am, evelyn: Dear Mel So sorry to hear that but it is common at this age when your child is learing his/her own sleep pattern and learning to go back to sleep upon waking at night. Be patient and do keep the bedtime routine and its time consistent. Be sure the light...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: infant ideal weight and height, height weight chart, month old baby
height weight chart, month old baby, ideal weight and height: Weight should be somewhere around 15 lbs. As for height, I don t believe in what the doctors list as the height/weight chart. I believe that height should be considered based on family history (my son is considered short at 8 months, however so are his sisters...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Magic Word, james windell, homework time
james windell, homework time, classical symptoms: Hello David, I think what we re talking about here is a child who is somewhat oppositional and doesn t like to be told to do things (or even the implication of being told). Thus, when she voices her opposition and you say fine, that takes away the battle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Night awakening and juice drinking, thirsty at night, cows milk
thirsty at night, cows milk, sleeping through the night: Dear Ashley, She is waking up in the middle of the night thirsty because she is small. Often we don t realize a child s stomach is only as big as their fist. Next, her waking up in the middle of the night is not unusual....even adults wake up in the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: NURSERY problem, shy, preschool
shy, preschool, Darleen Claire Wodzenski: Dear Catherine, It is almost impossible to know the reasons behind such a complex behavior when I m so far away, and you ve shared just a paragraph. So please know that you may have to search farther to understand. However, there is a particular situation...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: newly aggressive at daycare - 3 1/2 year old boy, husband wife team, rewards system
husband wife team, rewards system, bedrest: Hello AJ, Just because someone runs a daycare doesn t mean they know how to handle rather routine but problematic childhood behavior. In addition, if there are stresses among the staff of the daycare, that may have an effect on the children or on how that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Obsessive Behaviour in a 2 year old, argos catalogue, nintendo wii
argos catalogue, nintendo wii, lively child: Hello Lois, Many toddlers around the age of two get obsessed with many different games, activities, or routines. And many of them do cry and just don t get easily distracted from the idea of the favorite game or activity. I think ignoring it and cutting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Pooping in his pants, james windell, toilet training
james windell, toilet training, step brother: Hello Marsha, If he has never really been toilet trained, then this appears to be a more difficult problem. Also, if his brother has a similar problem, then, again, this may suggest a more complicated situation. Obviously, a pediatrician has been involved...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My partner keeps saying my child has something wrong w/ her, but I don't think there is!, favorite toys, computer desk
favorite toys, computer desk, countless times: Hello Kimberlyn, Your daughter sounds like many two-year-olds and three-year-olds who do not comply with requests, orders, and directives. She sounds like an active, busy child, who may be more of an impulsive risk-taker than maybe other children around...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My partner keeps saying my child has something wrong w/ her, but I don't think there is!, step parent, romantic partner
step parent, romantic partner, toddler: Dear Kimberlyn, I m not there. I haven t seen your child s behavior. BUT, I can share information from my heart, and you can evaluate it to see how it matches up with your world. Here are some things I d like you to know: 1) A non-parental figure...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Recent out of control behavior for 2.5yr old son, daycares, control behavior
daycares, control behavior, happy child: Hello Kim, Just saying No biting! is a part of dealing with a toddler and his biting. Another part of it is to make sure you teach him alternative behaviors (such as how to ask for something he wants or how to let someone know he is angry with them). The...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Spoiled, bad mother, crys
bad mother, crys, tantrums: Hello Casey, It is much too early to worry about spoiling your child. What s wrong with being with you almost constantly? The only thing wrong with it is that you don t get much of a break. But please keep in mind that your son is only 4 months old. He...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Strong Willed, Aggressive and Energetic 4 Year Old Boy, play doh, mom and dad
play doh, mom and dad, negative behavior: Hello Jennifer, There are probably few physical problems or illnesses that could cause your son s behavior, but there could be neurological problems (such as a brain tumor) which could influence his behavior. Not that I think your son has a brain tumor....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Suddenly whiny 5 month old, red cheeks, sleep etc
red cheeks, sleep etc, tresillian: Thank you for the question, and how wonderful for you to have a new baby. I d also like to congratulate you on your decision to breastfeed, and to keep at it for so long. You are very right in your comment about babies becoming more awake and alert- especially...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Supervision for babies/infants, family memeber, first aid kit
family memeber, first aid kit, parent household: Hi David No matter what part of the world you are in, you need to make the decison about what is safe and what is not. Your wife is probably acting the way she is because her own parents were lax on this issue...(not because she is German) She grew up thinking...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sexual be4ahvior for a 4 year old boy, daycare, going potty
daycare, going potty, germs: This is a stage that children go through, although he may have picked it up from someone at the daycare. It can be somewhat embarrassing when he does it in front of people (and seem just downright gross). However, with it being a stage, the good thing is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: strange behavior, short goodbye, separation anxiety
short goodbye, separation anxiety, behavioural changes: Hello Joyeeta, I don t think you are doing anything wrong. But, your son has been with you all the time since birth. Now there is a change; he attends a playgroup and a preschool and apparently is separated from you for a short period of time. His behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Three year old acting hitting, pushing, etc., frustration, outburst
frustration, outburst, temper tantrum: Dear Donna, Hmmm. When he becomes frustrated, has he encountered a problem or challenge with what he is playing with? Have you carefully observed him to see if he s easily becoming frustrated when a block doesn t fit in place or a car stops rolling? ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler behaviour, pornography addiction, toddler behaviour
pornography addiction, toddler behaviour, child sexual abuse: Hello Christelle, I m sorry to hear about the concerns with your marriage which are leading to a divorce. Since your husband has an addiction to pornography, there would seem to be some indication of the potential for inappropriate touching of your daughter....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler denies to pee!!, Darleen Claire Wodzenski, Amma Academy
Darleen Claire Wodzenski, Amma Academy: Dear Antigoni, This is a potentially serious situation, and I suggest you contact your child s medical doctor. In the meantime, here is a suggetion that may help you through it. You may need to introduce something that your child believes will be...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler Repeatedly Hitting Head, developmental milestones, dear kelly
developmental milestones, dear kelly, palm of his hand: Ebony, Thank you for the question, and I apologize for the delay in responding. My first thought is that your son got some attention when he first displayed this behavior, and so he felt rewarded for his behavior. I am sure that was not your intent,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler removing diaper at bedtime, pajama bottoms, baby massage
pajama bottoms, baby massage, nightly routine: Dear Annette, If you friend is in need of assistance why did she not write herself? Just curious. Well children do all sorts of things to get a need met. She has obviously found one that works. Has she tried letting her sleep without her bottoms? Just put...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler Tantrum, toddler tantrum, temper tantrums
toddler tantrum, temper tantrums, temper tantrum: Hello Sue, I don t think your pediatrician will find anything physically wrong. But having a physical exam might ease your mind. This will be a gradual process over the next year of teaching him to calm himself during tantrums. There are various things...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Twin Toddlers bedtim, bedtime routine, challenging behaviors
bedtime routine, challenging behaviors, warm milk: Dear Jessica, I can imagine how trying these experiences are for both of you! First, it is easy when children present challenging behaviors to get into what I refer to as a negative pattern of interaction. That is to say where the parents are more focused...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I can't get my toddler to listen to me., son elliot, typical toddler
son elliot, typical toddler, verbal orders: Hello Mandy, Often first children are a bit more compliant and willing to please. However, second children are not always so willing to please. Yet, I think it is not just your son s position in the family. He is acting more like a typical toddler. Most...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my toddler, mom dad, negative behavior
mom dad, negative behavior, time outs: I raise my voice quite a bit, too. Don t feel bad - you re not alone. When you are in public with him, get his attention and start with redirecting his behavior (instead of pulling all the boxes off the shelves, why don t you help me find the box of rice...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler, dogs food, free time
dogs food, free time, redirection: Don t feel bad, my daughters are 4 1/2 and 3 1/2 and still do it. The main thing is consistency. Try some redirection - if he usually has some free time (like when you are making dinner) when he starts pulling this, try giving him some project to do like...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler obsessive thinking /worrying, obsessive thinking, hello jeff
obsessive thinking, hello jeff, bad thoughts: Hi Jeff, Play therapy can be very useful for many young children. It provides a way of expressing themselves with an experienced therapist. It couldn t hurt and it might be helpful for him to be able to be reassured by someone other than his parents. Best,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: unprovoked biting from 3 yr old, toddler, biting
toddler, biting, Darleen Claire Wodzenski: Dear Christina, Your problem is serious, and unfortunately not uncommon. I m afraid to say that my perspective may not please you. But, I m glad to share information and you can take it from there. Children were NOT made to be in daycare. Little...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Water Discipline, temper tantrums, temper tantrum
temper tantrums, temper tantrum, things and time: Hello Brandi, Spraying a face with cold water is a great technique -- to use with a dog or a cat. However, I don t recommend it for a child. There is something cruel about it. Imagine your boss at work doing it to you because you made a mistake in a report....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Weaning and Crying, acid reflux, time mothers
acid reflux, time mothers, sippy cup: You are so welcome for whatever help I ve been able to give you. With your daughter seeming to lose interest in nursing, it may be that she is going through somewhat of a nursing strike. Another thing may be that the quantity of solids she is consuming...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Wife at breaking point, post partum depression, genetic disorder
post partum depression, genetic disorder, maternal bonding: Dear Dan, I m sending YOU a great big hug. Life is going to be challenging ... and first and foremost, you ve got to get a strong support system together for YOU. YOU are your wife and child s most important asset. Please always remember that. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 13 month old's behavior!, little monster, time mother
little monster, time mother, bad behavior: Hello Ashley, I hate to be the one to break this to you, but this is the way toddlers act. And they do it up to age three or so. The good news is that you can handle his behavior and help him to become better at handling No and having limits put on him....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 16months old and still not walking unassited, full term pregnancy, developmental milestones
full term pregnancy, developmental milestones, cognitive change: Dear Phumlani, It s no fun when friends and family ask the question is she walking yet? and you find yourself trying to explain why she isn t. I think your instincts are right on. I would suggest you brag about your child who prefers not to get hurt and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 17 month old with lack of eye contact, inner ear canal, signs of autism
inner ear canal, signs of autism, hearing aides: Don t panic quite yet. Although the lack of eye contact is a common autism symptom, I don t believe it applies here considering he is showing no other symptoms. As a child, I used to watch my Mom s mouth a lot when she would talk (or especially sing)....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 year old bed wetter, toilet train, disposable diapers
toilet train, disposable diapers, bed wetter: Kristine, My original thought on this is that your son is becoming uncomfortable by his wet diaper, so he just takes it off- without making the connection that a wet bed will be even more uncomfortable. What to do about it? It may be that he is ready...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 2 1/2 year old wont stop crying and screaming, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, terrible twos: Hello Kim, You should be aware that your daughter is perfectly normal. Almost all two-year-olds act like this. That is, two-year-old toddlers really live up to the phrase that s applied to this part of their development: The Terrible Twos. Most toddlers...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2-year old, beautiful little girls, sweet personality
beautiful little girls, sweet personality, perfect child: Dear Lori, It is somewhat frustrating to have a really good child first and not be prepared for the second one s normal two year old s tanturms. All children go through this stage of trying to test you and show that they are people in their own right...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 year old is hysterical when he doesn't get his way, temper tantrums, handsome boys
temper tantrums, handsome boys, what to eat for lunch: Hello Tracey, Toddlers who have these kinds of temper tantrums are especially frustrating, but I have some suggestions for you. While children should be given choices about some things (what to eat for lunch, for instance), two-year-olds often don t handle...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2yearn old is uncontrolable, temper tantrums, temper tantrum
temper tantrums, temper tantrum, clock attention: Hello Lorraine, Welcome to the wonderful experience of trying to live with a toddler. Many two-year-old toddlers have sleep difficulties at times; most have temper tantrums at times as well. I suspect that you are operating under a common assumption; one...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3.5 year old negativity and hitting, lucky kid, negative behavior
lucky kid, negative behavior, wits end: Hello Aimee, You are not alone in wondering where your sweet, pleasant baby went. Lots of parents wonder what happened to their children. And the change can come at 18 months, two years, two-and-a-half, or three-and-a-half. It s simply a part of the toddler...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3.5-year-old -- smart and increasingly difficult, good little girl, power struggle
good little girl, power struggle, baby brother: Hello Mary, Many children have phases of defiant, stubborn, and oppositional behavior. These phases can occur at age two or three or even later. And they may last for any length of time. However, they are likely to last longer if there are power struggles...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3.75 year old won't stay in bed at bedtime, mom and dad, 3 year olds
mom and dad, 3 year olds, nightlight: Hello Sean, As you may have read in other advice I ve given, I often suggest an approach that combines many of the things you ve tried. That is, the approach should combine clear expectations, rewards, punishment, ignoring, and praise. Since this problem...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 Year Old Personality Post Divorce, james windell, sweet personality
james windell, sweet personality, difficult transition: Hello Karen, Divorce is a transition and it can disrupt a child s life. However, it need not cause any serious and long-lasting stress if his parents handle it well themselves. The most serious problems post-divorce come about because of co-parent conflict....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 Year Old son, lack of sleep, doors and windows
lack of sleep, doors and windows, toy bin: Some children don t deal with changes well. The fit is simply his way of expressing his displeasure in the changes he has recently gone through. Try getting him to talk (depending on how vocal he is) and try asking him, during a tantrum or just after it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old, preschool facility, unhealthy obsession
preschool facility, unhealthy obsession, upper legs: I don t really believe that it s something to be overly concerned about. It may not tie into your single Mom status or the daycare situation...he just is used to being able to cuddle with Mom - as all kids do. We, as Mom s, don t usually think much of how...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old discipline at bedtime, sleep difficulties, sleep time
sleep difficulties, sleep time, single mom: Hello Lisa, The first thing I would advise is that you pick an approach and be consistent with it for a few months. You describe a child who has always had sleep difficulties, therefore, nothing you try is going to have quick or easy results. But I can...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old out of control, personal rejection, rewards and punishments
personal rejection, rewards and punishments, grandaughter: Hello Caren, It s not unusual for toddlers to be jealous or angry. Nor is it unusual for three-year-old toddlers to act in an aggressive way. Often toddlers, for a time, have a preference for one parent over another. I would suggest that punishment is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr toddler and non custodial parent, parenting time, school childcare
parenting time, school childcare, custodial parent: Hello Carol, The reactions of a three-year-old should not be taken as evidence that anything happened. And a three-year-old should not be questioned about what happened because this may produce implications that may be more fantasy than reality. What...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 31 months and still not talking, dada shoes, attention span
dada shoes, attention span, speech delay: Hello Michelle, In view if the fact that my own son didn t talk until he was four, I understand your concern. However, at least your son says various words. My son said no words. But when children obviously understand and respond to the speech of others,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 week old strange eating behaviors, james windell, typical signs
james windell, typical signs, learned behavior: Hello Nicole, There are several possible things going on. However, it does not appear to be an allergic reaction because she is not showing the typical signs of an allergic reaction. And, babies typically do not have allergic reactions to breast milk. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old sleep habits, midday nap, afternoon nap
midday nap, afternoon nap, bedtime: My oldest used to sleep until 9 am with a 9 pm bedtime and no nap...now, with the same bedtime and still no nap, she is waking up anywhere between 7 and 8:30 am. This apparently is normal. Given her 7:30 bedtime, maybe you could try adjusting that...especially...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr. old boy's sexual behavior, james windell, pee pee
james windell, pee pee, mommy and daddy: Hello, This behavior is probably quite normal for a preschooler or even a somewhyat older child. And, of course, he probably knew on some level he shouldn t be doing this, but kids can t always exercise self-control over behavior they know will be deemed...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4yr old afraid everything will make him sick, share drinks, afraid of germs
share drinks, afraid of germs, tap water: Hello Chris, The pediatrician should have told your son he s not old enough to be afraid of germs! Anyway, your experience with your son obviously proves that four-year-olds are capable of knowing that germs cause us to be sick. It is not manipulation;...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 1/2 BOY LIKES GIRL THINGS., james windell, boy likes girl
james windell, boy likes girl, masculine traits: Hello Aline, It s always dangerous to ask young children about their feelings because you may get answers that only confuse and upset you. I know that you would like your son to grow up as a masculine boy, but just because he likes bright colors and wants...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old won't sleep due to thunder storm fear, thunderstorm at night, storm fear
thunderstorm at night, storm fear, irrational fear: Hello Marcia, At various times, children regress for a while. This may be one of those times for your boys. They really do need your patience at this time to help them get through the fears and the nightmares. They will get through this. And then maybe you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 year old repetitive questions, etc., james windell, parenting style
james windell, parenting style, parenting styles: Hello Mandy, Simply repeating questions over and over would not necessarily indicate autism. Autism requires other indicators. However, the repetitive questions could suggest other things. I will need to know some more about your stepson before I can offer...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anger issues between parent and toddler, anger issues, stressors
anger issues, stressors, young mother: Hello Casey, You do have a lot of things going on! And it doesn t take many to have major stress. As you rightly point out, you have several stressors in your life: You re a young mother; you have two children under the age of two; you are newly married;...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: angel at nursery, beast at home, dear sally, sweet kid
dear sally, sweet kid, inlaws: Hello again Sally! I hear your frustration! I think your son is using toileting to get everyone to engage with him, not using toilet gets a big reaction! At school it isn t as big because the adults don t have time to make such a fuss over one child....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby sleeping, old baby girl, wind chimes
old baby girl, wind chimes, time and patience: Dear Tina, Babies are not known for conforming you adult wishes or expectations. Helping them learn a schedule for sleeping that agrees totally with your own takes time and patience on your part....at least several weeks. Your baby is very very young...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavioral problems/OCD tendencies?, obsessive compulsive disorders, fussy babies
obsessive compulsive disorders, fussy babies, fussy baby: Hello Renee, You may have read other answers I ve given to other parents when they suspect obsessive-compulsive disorders in their toddlers. My usual response is that toddlers do many things that are obsessive or compulsive in nature. It s part of being...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavioural problem of pre-schooler, school age behavior issues
school age behavior issues: Rumana- thank you for the question. I apologize for the delay in responding, having computer issues here. I think a couple of things are in order. The first is to sit down with him and lay out a specific list of what is expected of him both at home...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: booster seat, car seat safety, daughter emma
car seat safety, daughter emma, petite girls: Susan, Thanks for the question. My first thought is that we as parents have to always defer back to safety rules to protect our kids. Seat belt and car seat safety laws were put in to place to protect our children and keep them safe. Most of the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my daughter hits, pinches, and pulls hair, two little boys, discipline children
two little boys, discipline children, self discipline: Well Steve I hardly ever advise this, but you had best think hard and fast about giving her some ultimatums. She needs rules and she needs to know you are in charge, not her. She needs to hear from you and her mom what her limits are and she needs very badly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: defiant toddler, james windell, age friends
james windell, age friends, patient teacher: Hello Lisa, Not to worry. This sounds like really typical two-year-old attention-getting behavior. The tip-off is that she looks at a parent or an adult, gets a mischeivious look on her face, and does what she s been told not to do. The first thing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: delayed speech, delayed speech, absolute importance
delayed speech, absolute importance, reading war: Hi Melanie, That s why it s better not to read those books or magazine articles that tell you what your child should be doing at various ages. Those charts are just averages. Unfortunately, there are very few children who are average in every way. Thus,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: disliking grandparenting, speech disorder, good relationship
speech disorder, good relationship, problem child: Dear Margaret, I totally understand how you feel...as a grandparent and great grandparent, I thank the Lord that His plan does not include my having babies at my age. But more and more grandparents are raising babies these days, not just baby sitting them,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I don't know what to do with my 6 yr old!, bad little girl, negative reinforcement
bad little girl, negative reinforcement, positive reinforcement: Hello Bonnie, Six-year-olds may be somewhat defiant with their parents, but they don t typically take things and hide them. I understand that you ve tried different approaches without success. I would suggest that you pick one approach and stick with it....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: ERECTIONS in 13-month old son!, james windell, physical sensation
james windell, physical sensation, little boys: Hello Ashley, A boy at literally any age can have an erection. The only urge he may have at one year of age is to do something that feels pleasurable. It is not sexual; at least not the way adults think of sexuality. It is just a physical reaction. And your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech, speech therapy, red flag
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech, speech therapy, red flag, pediatrician

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my four year old, james windell, stressor
james windell, stressor, four year olds: Hello Lindsey, While many toddlers of ages two and three may suddenly start being more aggressive in social situations, it s less usual for four-year-olds to act this way. I m wondering if there has been some stress or upset in his life in the last few months....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Hands in Pants, mental challenges, mental disabilities
mental challenges, mental disabilities, private areas: First off, my condolences in the loss of your daughter. Preemies are a little harder to figure out, especially when there are mental challenges. First off, I would recommend working with the mental challenges, but also treating her as you would any other...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: high maintenance 11mo. old, lousie, term job
lousie, term job, play pen: Dear Nicole As a parent your long term job will be to help your child/children learn to be independent and be able to make it on their own when they grow up. This is a long process...sometimes it s fun and sometimes it s not fun but as parents that is out...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Leaving the bottle+Toilet training, old baby girl, chocolate syrup
old baby girl, chocolate syrup, working mom: First of all, talk to her teachers at the school. The majority of teachers should be willing to work with your current potty training efforts. Given that your daughter hasn t been in the school setting before, however, expect that she might go through a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: negative language with toddlers, early childhood education, discipline policy
early childhood education, discipline policy, infants and toddlers: Michelle, You are totally and irrevocably correct. It is quite possible that this person has not had training in early childhood education if she uses these words. Using the two words Not and OK in the same breath simply confuses infants and toddlers. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: night time battle, temper tantrums, time habits
temper tantrums, time habits, time battle: Hello Dominika, You have quadruplets? Wow! I m sure you are exhausted. You didn t mention it, but I wondered if your daughter was doing well at bedtime prior to the birth of the siblings. My guess is that she probably was and as the babies came to take...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: obsessive 2yr old, obsessive behaviour, time care
obsessive behaviour, time care, care giver: Hello Paula, No need to apologize. I m happy to hear my first response was helpful to you. You don t talk to children bout night terrors because they generally don t remember them. So there s no need to burden them with the fact that they awakened you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty Trained toddler frequently peeing, toddler, bathroom issues
toddler, bathroom issues: Lauren- thank you for the question. My three year old, as well, has potty issues that sometimes make me crazy. I am there with you! I agree that it doesn t sound like he has a UTI or kidney infection, but if it worries you a simple check in with the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty training and aggression problems in 3.6 year old boy, low muscle tone, aggression problems
low muscle tone, aggression problems, pull ups: Hi Diane, His aggressiveness is not unusual for his age. The problem with potty training and stubborn kids is that when they feel like they are being pressured to do almost anything (to use the potty, for instance) they will get stubborn and resistant....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Potty training problem, mommy and daddy, attention problem
mommy and daddy, attention problem, daycare: It may be an attention problem or, if there has been a recent change in her routine, it may tie into that (perhaps a change in the schedule as to when she sees you and when she sees Dad). Try having the people that are with her at other times make sure...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Son getting into everything!!, rubbing alcohol, todder
rubbing alcohol, todder, dangerous objects: Hello Katrina, You should be following your son around. He is ONLY three years old. He cannot be trusted to do everything you would like him to do. Toddlers need constant supervision. Also, you must toddler-proof your house. I suggest you do that today!...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sooky Toddler, fussy babies, hungry baby
fussy babies, hungry baby, fussiness: Hello Belle, I wish I had some great advice that would work magic and change your daughter from a fussy toddler into an easy-to-raise child. But there is no magic I can give you; nor can anyone else. The fact is that some children are fussy babies, and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Speration Anxiety?, parenting style, separation anxiety
parenting style, separation anxiety, parenting time: Hi Larry, I would advise a sympathetic, but business-like tone when discussing issues. Also, it helps to use an I message when bringing up sensitive issues. For example you might start with something like this: I get very concerned when our son gets...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: screaming 2 year old, transition period, tantrums
transition period, tantrums, tantrum: It sounds like you are very frustarted with this situation. If your son has just begun these screaming tantrums since you have moved then I would agree with you that it is in fact because he is feeling very insecure since your move. However, given the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my son is about to turn three, james windell, going to the potty
james windell, going to the potty, potty chair: Hello Joshua, It is not uncommon for young boys (more so than girls) to resist using the potty chair for bowel movements. Also, boys are often somewhat delayed in their speech development (as compared to girls, for instance). If he is starting daycare,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my son is about to turn three, pee pee, pull ups
pee pee, pull ups, going to the potty: My daughters were the opposite - they were willing to poop on the potty, but not pee. Has he been put in underwear at all? Sometimes the difference in the feeling can affect whether the child will be willing to go potty...the diapers or pull ups will pull...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: speech, bee eye, speech evaluation
bee eye, speech evaluation, baby book: You are a great mom! I am happy to answer your questions, as the old saying goes, a smart person is not one who knows all the answers but where to find them. I am glad I could be of help, feel free to ask again sometime. Since I am new here, taking a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sudden aversion to daycare, high school teacher, separation anxiety
high school teacher, separation anxiety, evern: Dear Stephanie, You have really thought of and examined all the possibilities I would have considered..except for one. There is just a chance that this is stemming from a physical problem. Many preschool children and expecially boys, have chronic ear...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler aggression, feeling the same way, aggression
feeling the same way, aggression, toddlers: Hello Simran, Toddlers have a way of making the most sane, mature, and rational adult guilty or crazy! So keep in mind that you are not alone. There are millions of parents of toddlers who feeling the same way as you. Everything you ve described is fairly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler loves chasing the girls!, continual reinforcement, lion roar
continual reinforcement, lion roar, childminder: Hello Lou, Keep in mind that your son is still only two years of age. He s in the process of being socialized. You can t expect him to understand all of the niceties and etiquette of relating to others. I like the fact that your son is outgoing and friendly....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Toddler prefers dad, dad lives, separation anxiety
dad lives, separation anxiety, neutral location: Couple of ideas: Considering Aidan is already in the bathroom with you while you are trying to shower, perhaps you could use that as singing time with him (abc s, etc)...it would provide some more interaction than just telling him to close the curtain....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: three old toddler does not want to stay home., swimming pool toys, temper tantrum
swimming pool toys, temper tantrum, temper tantrums: Hello Candice, Your son may not understand that the neighbors have called social service, but what he may well understand is that he doesn t like to be yelled at by his parents. What would I have done if my son was about to jump off a couch? I probably...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler and appropriateness, appropriateness, 10 months
appropriateness, 10 months, t shirt: It depends on your level of comfort around your own child...personally, I wear at LEAST underwear and a bra around my daughters (unless I am helping them in the shower as they just started taking showers...and they are 3 and 4). However, around my son, who...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler tantrums at meal times, temper tantrums, toddler tantrums
temper tantrums, toddler tantrums, cheese crackers: Hello Julia, Sometimes a temporary change from the usual routine can disrupt a toddler s usual behavior. While you were helping him during his illness, it was very disruptive to his meal-time schedule. Usually it is best to ignore temper tantrums so that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toilet mess, boredom factor, bedtime ritual
boredom factor, bedtime ritual, disgusting habit: Hello Mandy, Good point. It depends on what time it is and if it is early, then take them to the bathroom and then they can go back to bed (and, hopefully, back to sleep) for a longer period of time. Feel free to get back to me with questions any time....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 10 month old refuses to eat solids, oatmeal cereal, rice cereal
oatmeal cereal, rice cereal, vitamins and minerals: Hello Jessica, It is not uncommon for young children to refuse food. In your situation, your son is still being breast fed so he is getting nutrition. The worry for most parents have when children refuse some or all foods is that they won t get the vitamins...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 11 year old and defacation problems, child psychologist, encopresis
child psychologist, encopresis, objective party: Hello Trent, A small percentage of older children, like your son, have primary encopresis. The place to start for an evaluation is with a pediatrician, however, your own pediatrician may not know much about various kinds of encopresis. If he or she doesn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 13-month old, separation anxiety, separations
separation anxiety, separations, moselle: Dear Moselle, His reaction is similar to separation anxiety. He is expressing it by punishing you for leaving. He is telling you he is really upset the only way he knows how. Keep spending time with him and he will adjust after awhile. Separations at...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 14 month old who refuses to eat, james windell, macaroni and cheese
james windell, macaroni and cheese, bloody murder: Hello Marni, I m not going to pretend to be a specialist. If your pediatrician thinks you should work with a specialist, I suggest you continue to do so. I will say that many toddlers have what seem to parents to be eating problems. Often the complaint...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 18 month toddler more attached to my mother than me, personal affront, distresses
personal affront, distresses, new baby: Hello Maham, An 18-month-old can have a range of feelings. That range of feelings can include anger. If you go away from him and come back with a new baby, he might be angry with you. However, toddlers can also have people they favor over others. Sometimes...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 19 month old refusing to nap, toddler, not napping
toddler, not napping: Angie- thank you for the question. It sounds like he might be going through a stage, a tough one at that. He still need to be getting at least an hour or hour and a half nap a day. You might try re-evaluating his sleep area. Is it too bright all of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 19month old developement, james windell, slow learner
james windell, slow learner, language stimulation: Hello Sheila, Whether your son is a slow learner or not will be determined in the future, after he begins going to school. In the meantime, we know that he is somewhat slower than other children in terms of his motor skills (such as walking) and his language...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2-Year-Old Consistent on Potty Until Pants Are On, james windell, boy underwear
james windell, boy underwear, two year olds: Hello Genevieve, Many two-year-olds are just not physically ready to be potty trained. That is, they can understand the concept of using the potty and they may not like the smell or feel of urination or bowel movements in their underwear, but they just don...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2-Year Old Masturbation, public masturbation, different languages
public masturbation, different languages, masturbates: Hello Chip, Children discover their penis or vagina at very young ages and they also discover that it feels good to masturbate. I don t know what percentage of young children masturbate, but my guess is that most do at one time or another. It is not anything...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2-year old behavior - masturbation, melissa payne, intellegence
melissa payne, intellegence, 2 year old behavior: Although I am aware that almost all children go through a stage similar to masturbation, which is a comfort feeling for them, I am a little concerned about him asking you to leave the room to have privacy to do this. The first questions that come to my mind...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 21 month old hitting, working mom, bed linen
working mom, bed linen, calm voice: Dear Anou, There are some great books out there. One of my favorites is one that explains hands are not for hitting, feet are not for kicking.... Great little book to read to children to help their behavior. I suggest getting some and reading and acting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 22 months old, little darling, pots and pans
little darling, pots and pans, wooden spoon: Hello An, This is a common problem. Many children get attached to a parent and do not want to be separated from that parent. And, yes, this can mean that you can t use the phone or go to the bathroom without your little darling being right there demanding...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 1/2 yr boy bad behavior, home daycare, bad behavior
home daycare, bad behavior, tantrum: It s possible, but given his long-term activity level, he may be hyperactive (try asking his doctor about having him tested for ADHD). Also, when he is at home, try giving him a small, maybe 10 minute activity, at which he HAS to sit still for (maybe coloring...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 Year Old - Sexual Behaviour, james windell, daycare
james windell, daycare, daily basis: Hello Alicia, While your son s behavior could be normal sexual/bodily curiosity, he seems a bit young for this kind of behavior. In addition, it seems like it suggests that s he s been exposed to sexually stimulating situations or pictures. I know you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 3 year old daughters behaviour, mummy and daddy, great girl
mummy and daddy, great girl, crazy person: Having a strong willed child is both a blessing and a curse...I know, my oldest daughter (will be 5 in November) is this way. As far as her talking to strangers (my daughter also does this), just keep reinforcing that there are both good and bad people....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old tells me she doesn't like me, parenting style, parenting kids
parenting style, parenting kids, harder time: Dear Jamie, I am sure it is very disheartening to hear your daughter tell you she doesn t like you. Deep down she does, she is just using the phrase as a response to something you have asked that she objects to. If you give it power by letting her know it...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old daughter, stay at home mom, holding hands
stay at home mom, holding hands, couple times: It sounds to me like she is a sweet little girl and may just have bad days, they happen. If something specific comes up, please feel free to ask again. It is natural for children to call attention to themselves and being one of three could bring this desire...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old girl loves books, but every so ofthen she ends up tearing them, valuable books, emotional control
valuable books, emotional control, first library: Hello Blanca, I can certainly appreciate that you want your daughter to have a love of books. And apparently you have helped her develop an interest in books, stories, and the things she reads. However, keep in mind that she is still a three-year-old...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3yr old with aggression issues, three year olds, time outs
three year olds, time outs, self control: Hello Tammy, What you are describing is not at all unusual for two and three-year-olds. They typically act out their frustration and anger because they don t put their feelings into words and because they are in the process of learning emotional self-control....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 and half year old boy in trouble, wet undies, medication for depression
wet undies, medication for depression, parenting classes: Hello Maureen, You seem to understand very well what is going on around your great grandson. Almost any child living in this kind of chaos, abuse, and inconsistency is likely to have behavior problems. Your granddaughter does not seem competent enough...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 Month Milestones, james windell, 4 month milestones
james windell, 4 month milestones, anxious mother: Hello Bonnie, Your baby is doing fine! And I m sure as a mother you re doing fine. I would suggest that you put the child development book on the shelf and forget about it. What difference does it make if your baby can blow raspberries or not? What difference...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old Boy potty problems, pull ups, reward charts
pull ups, reward charts, pee accident: Kaylene, I see just where your son got his smarts. You are a quick study. What a joy it was to read your response and feel your enthusiasm. Keep me posted,my guess the potty won t be an issue for much longer, it will be something else. He will keep you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old Hitter, anger control, impulse control
anger control, impulse control, playdate: Hi Monica, I can tell you what I did when I was a therapist in private practice. I made my own set of pictures to illustrate each step. I thought that a picture plus the words would help young children; and I think it did. You may not be an artist, but...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old won't poop in the toilet., body signals, playing video games
body signals, playing video games, poopies: Yes Janelle, most experts do say this. You are doing all the right things. But at least get Vicki Lansky s book on potty training for new insight and ideas...it s been a classic and practical help to moms for many years. Go to her webiste bookpeddlers.com...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 month old, high pitch, noy
high pitch, noy, those kids: At 5 months old, if she s that interested in her toys, I give her credit - I wish my 11 mo old son were that interested in his toys and not playing with me all day... I wouldn t worry given her age. She could be one of those kids that just winds up preferring...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 year old HELP, james windell, class clown
james windell, class clown, school atmosphere: Hello Wendy, I m sorry to hear about your concern about your son at school. However, it takes a while for some children to adjust to a school atmosphere; one in which they are expected to sit at a desk or table and perform tasks. If your son responds well...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6yr old son has temper and refuses to listen, bad temper, smart mouth
bad temper, smart mouth, light of my life: Hello Melody, I can understand that you don t like your son right now. But I think it would help if you used a discipline approach that was a bit more consistent. I would suggest first that you stop doing some things -- such as using threats. These certainly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggresive behavior, class mates, cooperative manner
class mates, cooperative manner, aggressive manner: Hello Michelle, Your son has a problem with aggression. Therefore, the goal is to teach him to respond in less aggressive ways. While punishment might help, if it were part of a more comprehensive program, by itself, punishments and threats of punishment,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Agressive, james windell
james windell: Hello Shahana, Your baby seems very active, but very normal. He may need to be fed more frequently. Let s see how he does after a couple more weeks. Get back to me in a couple of weeks and let me know how he is doing. And whether he...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anger for no reason in a 2 year old., temper tantrums, reasoning capabilities
temper tantrums, reasoning capabilities, baby on the way: Hello Rachel, Since two-year-old toddlers have limited language skills, we don t always know what they are thinking or why thery might get frustrated or angry. We do know that they are easily irritated at times. And that it is a confusing age for them....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Attitude in a toddler, temper tantrum, natural curiosity
temper tantrum, natural curiosity, visual perspective: Hi Tabitha, thank you for your question, I hope I can be of help to you. Separation anxiety is very common for a baby this age. They are just beginning to understand separations occur but they do not have the ability to predict when they will occur nor the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my agressive 2 year old...., perfect angel, many different ways
perfect angel, many different ways, attention seeking: Hi Rachel, It is difficult to know why this is happening suddenly, has there been any changes in her situation such as a new baby or has she been to daycare? I would recommend that if you are holding her and she does this that you say firmly that is...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: attachments in toddlers, children in foster care, dear elizabeth
children in foster care, dear elizabeth, attachment issues: Dear Carol, Bless you for an amazing spirit to go at parenting again. I am sure there are a lot of concerns for you and I know you have been through some challenging circumstances to get to this place. I of course can t be sure of anything but I think you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Babysitting 3 and 5 year old : crying and fights, james windell, band aids
james windell, band aids, problem solvers: Hello Cathy, You re smart to start asking people questions so you are a better babysitter. If a child hurts themselves, then try to soothe and comfort them -- after making sure they are not seriously hurt. It s best not to make too much of their accident,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Behavior, childrens behavior, important things
childrens behavior, important things, paying attention: Hi. For one thing, don t allow the nagging...it leads to more backtalking as they get older. If you are at home and this happens, send them to their room if they insist on nagging you. Remain firm that you have already answered that question or request...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Big Bad Toddler, toddler bed, medical issues
toddler bed, medical issues, out of sight: The screaming and crying when not attached to you is a result of being held so much. This will take time and some patience on your part when it comes to hearing her scream. Unfortunately, there s no easy way to break a child of this once it has started....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Brother smoking issues, hubble bubble, physical proof
hubble bubble, physical proof, type i diabetes: Hello Nada, I understand that you are concerned about your brother and his health. You are a loving sister. However, your brother is likely addicted to smoking a hookah and no matter what you tell him he will continue. Obviously, many people grow into...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: baby showing anger, bad temper, working mom
bad temper, working mom, anou: Hello Anou, Your daughter sounds like a perfectly delightful child. It sounds like your daughter has learned to listen to you obey your commends and requests quite well. This may not last very long as two-year-olds often want to be more independent and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behavior in a 3 1/2 year old, james windell, temper tantrums
james windell, temper tantrums, stubborn children: Hello Alyssa, Some children are a challenge. Often it s because of their unique personality and temperament. My guess is that your daughter is more persistent, more stubborn, perhaps more impulsive, and more emotionally reactive than your son was. So while...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My Child cries when she is not perfect at something, perfectionistic tendencies, preschool activities
perfectionistic tendencies, preschool activities, social settings: Hello Christina, Many children have perfectionistic tendencies. And their feelings about being imperfect can get in the way of their feeling satisfied when attempting new activities. This is not a discipline issue. It s more one of you providing coaching...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Child wont Sleep, parnter, night shifts
parnter, night shifts, settee: Try leaving a night light and a radio playing softly, either jazz or classical, to keep her company. Also, give her a choice at bedtime (I would try to make it around 9 pm) as to what stuffed animal she wants. We ve tried this with our children and they...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child masturbation, child masturbation, time out
child masturbation, time out, relatives: Dear Mary ...this is common at four, so you need to not be shocked or upset. Tell your son this is not something we do. Give examples of his dad, relatives, friends. Also ask you doctor for help on this. Call for an appointment. Ask the doctor to talk...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: child "performs" differently for each parent, daughter visit, speech motor
daughter visit, speech motor, unhappy child: Hello Sarah, Children may act to meet the expectation of their parents. So may therapists. That is, a therapist may find what a parent is suggesting is a problem. Unfortunately, where there is a custody battle, you can always find a therapist or mental heath...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Defiant 6 Year Old, independent child, deaf ears
independent child, deaf ears, perfect child: Hello Azim, It is not uncommon for 6-year-olds to be more independent and more angry toward their parents. However, this appears to have been going on for a long time, so it is not a 6-year-old problem. It would appear that her temperament is one that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: daughter refusing to go to washroom on her own, james windell, toilet training
james windell, toilet training, wits end: Hello Meghan, Your daughter perhaps really tried hard to please you in the beginning of toilet training and was able to keep dry. But it may be that she really doesn t have that much control over her bladder and bowel movements and now you can see that she...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: how to discipline my sons, stay at home mom, bad kids
stay at home mom, bad kids, boys ages: Hello Kerri, It s difficult to deal with one toddler, but you essentially have three of them! Plus a teenager -- and it s amazing how frequently middle teenagers act like toddlers! So you do have your hands full. I would suggest you go to Amazon.com and...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Erection in toddlers/infants, casual attitude, inappropriate times
casual attitude, inappropriate times, time and a place: Hello Ismael, No, I don t think there is a certain age at which you should start worrying. Typically children who do a lot of masturbation are doing it to cope with boredom or anxiety, or because they are left alone too much. If you keep your child busy...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Eye Contact, eye contact, letters and numbers
eye contact, letters and numbers, peer group: If she were younger, I would say to watch for autism, however given her age, this could pretty much be ruled out - especially given that she does speak and interact. As for the lack of eye contact itself, it may just be her personality...some children are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Eyesight for 2 yrs old daughter, james windell, poor eyesight
james windell, poor eyesight, developmental disabilities: Hello Sherrie, Visual impairment in a young child has nothing to do with any other developmental disabilities. Unless there are other definite symptoms of disabilities, I would recommend that you simply get glasses for your child and enjoy her. I would...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Not eating much food, ruth ruth, side dishes
ruth ruth, side dishes, brown bread: Ruth, Don t panic over his not eating. My oldest daughter is the same way. There are times she won t eat meat, but will eat her side dishes. A couple times she has told me that after I have put dinner in front of her, I don t want anything. Personally,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: eating habits, macroni and cheese, james windell
macroni and cheese, james windell, fruits and vegetables: Hello Katie, This is a very common problem for children from the toddler years and later. For whatever reason, children get the idea that they only like a certain food (with my son starting at about age four, it was macroni and cheese) -- and they resist...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: emotional 4yrs old, james windell, testosterone surge
james windell, testosterone surge, relaxation methods: Hello Karen, I wouldn t put much stock in the idea of a testosterone surge at ge four. However, kids at various ages can become whiny and easily upset. It might be a good idea to make sure there are no possible causes within the family or in your child...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Fighting sleep, dining room table, finding solutions
dining room table, finding solutions, profound impact: Hello Teva, Even though it has been some time, I remember the early days of parenthood and finding solutions to the sleep puzzle. I was convinced that the only way to sooth my oldest was to walk counter clockwise around the dining room table. Of course...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old tells me she doesn't like me, inlaws, bed time
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old tells me she doesn't like me, inlaws, bed time, mommy

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old Boy potty problems
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old Boy potty problems

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: humping tables, sexual behaviors, neighbor
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: humping tables, sexual behaviors, neighbor, mom

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: HELP ME!!!!, james windell, two year olds
james windell, two year olds, self control: Hello Tina, Yes, it does sound like your two-year-old toddler is challenging. Many children at his age, however, have difficulties controlling their emotions. For most toddlers that is a major goal: to teach them self-control. The fact that he is developmentally...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: heeellllpppp, parenting tips, baby girl
parenting tips, baby girl, chores: For one thing, make sure that you have a little time for you now and then - it will help your sanity. Beyond that, give the older children some small chores to help you - being 4 years old, they can help you with the 18 month old (playing with her and occupying...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: humping tables, sensitive conversations, yeast infection
sensitive conversations, yeast infection, facial expressions: Hi Eva, I can imagine this behavior could cause some concern. First, I would suggest you find out that she does not have a health issue such as a yeast infection. You could sit down to talk to her asking her if she itches or if just feels good. I always...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: infant sleep pattern, james windell, infant sleep
james windell, infant sleep, sleep patterns: Hello Ryan, Young children frequently have a disturbed sleep patterns that come and go for little reason. At least little reason that we can figure out. Maybe it is nightmares or bad dreams or he had indigestion one night. The goal is to help him learn...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Life with my 3.5 year old is becoming exasperating, aggressive behavior, fun things
aggressive behavior, fun things, handful: Hello Ashley, I think you re on the right track with your son. It is important not to reinforce his aggressive or demanding behavior. However, you can t ignore everything. For instance, I don t think aggressive behavior, when he is hitting or throwing...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: listening issues and behavioral, james windell, constant attention
james windell, constant attention, punishments: Hello Evalyn, It s funny how small children can shake our confidence as parents, isn t it? But I think before I try to answer your question, I need to ask you some questions. 1. When you say she needs constant attention, what exactly do you mean? How...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Phobia in 3 yr old girl, phobia, old girl
phobia, old girl, bedtime: Given her age, I would consider significantly limiting what is seen on tv to cartoons and other age appropriate shows. I tend to be very strict on what my children are allowed to watch and even screen movies (yes, even children s cartoons) before they watch...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Playing with others, stay at home mom, aggressive child
stay at home mom, aggressive child, loving child: For one thing, I give you credit for raising such a loving child!! If the worst he is doing is hugging them nicely, I wouldn t leave out of embarassment - I would praise him for being kind to others. You can try explaining to him that he doesn t really need...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Preschooler fears, ace bandage, band aids
ace bandage, band aids, necessary task: Hi Mark, Yikes! This is a darned if you do, darned if you don t situation. Hmm, off the top of my head here are some ideas you might try to take the fight out of a necessary task. 1) Give him his own box of Band-Aids and see if he will do it for himself....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training, vicki lansky, potty chair
vicki lansky, potty chair, training pants: Dear Bobble, Go online to BookPeddlers.com and find the book on potty training by Vicki Lansky ...it is a classic and has helped moms for many many years...Easy to do ideas and practical. You can also find it in the library or book store or at amazon.com...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty training and behavior, james windell, diapers
james windell, diapers, old girl: Hello Filomena, It seems that she is capable of knowing when she has to use the potty. So it is just a matter of when she chooses to begin using the potty. Sine she is going to preschool in September, I think she will want to be like the other children....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: preschool/daycare, james windell, math and science
james windell, math and science, math science: Hello Megan, It could be that in their 3-day-a-week program they increase the efforts to teach math and science. And that could add some validity to the argument that a three-day-a-week program will help your daughter transition to a 5-day-week kindergarten...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Rude and arrogant behavior of 3yr boy, james windell, good sense
james windell, good sense, repetition: Hello Aarthi, Your son s behavior is not unusual at his age. Teaching toddlers is an on-going process which requires lots of repetition -- and patience. Let him know before he is with his cousin that you expect him to be kind to his cousin. If you are...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Saying words backwards, james windell, multi syllable words
james windell, multi syllable words, clap your hands: Hello Teressa, If it is just some words that he switches around, it doesn t sound like it s a huge problem. Since he has a large vocabulary, I assume he pronounces most words correctly. However, is it only multi-syllable words which are mispronounced?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Scared of slight noises., fear response, hearing sounds
fear response, hearing sounds, bin man: Dear Jen, I can hear your concern for your daughter s heightened reaction to sounds. She may be demonstrating an anxiety issue that I am not trained to handle. With that said, I can offer some suggestions to help narrow down just what triggers her fears....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: No Separation Anxiety, james windell, long periods of time
james windell, long periods of time, say mama: Hello Moselle, I doubt that you permanently damaged your son. Every child will have their own way of coping with the absence of their parents -- even for a relatively short period of time. Your child may have the kind of temperament that will lead to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: SLEEP HABITS, james windell, bedtime routine
james windell, bedtime routine, sleep patterns: Hello Colleen, Almost all toddlers have times when their sleep and sleep patterns are disrupted. It often seems to occur for no particular reason and remains for a few days, weeks, or months, and then disappears. I do have some suggestions, though. First,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping Habits, james windell, restless sleep
james windell, restless sleep, sleep at night: Hello Tania, Your baby s schedule is not an unusual one. Young babies spend most of their time sleeping and when they awaken they are hungry. Over the first six months, they begin sleeping longer at one time and require fewer feedings. By six months of...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Sleeping Issue's, james windell, nap time
james windell, nap time, blanky: Hello Jennifer, It s hard to say what may have caused the disruption in her routine. However, sleeping with her or removing her from her crib are going to be self-defeating for you and for her in the future. She has to learn how to soothe herself and go...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Slow toilet training., james windell, nappy
james windell, nappy, loo: Hello Angela, Children catch on very quickly when they go to school what other children are doing and she will want to be like other children. This will mean that she wll use the toilet like other children. Since the promise of a reward has not worked,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Strange beaviour with penis, scary episode, open eyes
scary episode, open eyes, open mouth: Although I ve never encountered this particular problem having worked in daycare with boys of that age, I would expect that the initial cause of this was that his fear caused a reaction with his nerves, which caused him to get stiffer. This probably frightened...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Strong-Willed Baby, goose eggs, parenting young children
goose eggs, parenting young children, pain tolerance: Hello Betsy, You have only had her for four months. I would expect that there would be adjustment problems and that along with adjustment problems would come the usual challenges of parenting young children. Certainly, it is not unusual for infants on...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: seperation anxiety at age 4, stay at home mom, gymnastic class
stay at home mom, gymnastic class, ballet class: Hi Debi, I can see where this is a difficult situation for your family. It is not easy to watch a child experience anxiety. I can t pretend to have the absolute answer for you but I am happy to share some thoughts and ideas. As caregivers, it is our...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleep, bedtime routine, brush teeth
bedtime routine, brush teeth, tickle time: I can sympathize with you. I went through it with my children at those ages also (my daughters will be 5 and 4 in November). At that point, they did the same thing with me. I would suggest putting a gate at their bedroom doorway (or doorways if they have...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleepless nights, rem sleep, calming music
rem sleep, calming music, night terrors: Try having him sleep tested...talk to the pediatrician about this. The diagnosis could be something called night terrors . I went through this as a child, however I was older than he is which is why I didn t suggest it before. Essentially, the way my Mom...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: sleepless nights, james windell, sleep patterns
james windell, sleep patterns, what this means: Hello Tracie, There are various events or experiences which will disrupt a toddler s sleep patterns. Your job is to make sure you do little or nothing to reinforce this new pattern. What this means is that you have to be aware that how you react when your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: tempers, bad temper, intriguing question
bad temper, intriguing question, nature vs nurture: Ok Great Melody, thanks for sharing some specifics. I have some ideas for you. First here is a strategy you can try when he is having trouble getting along with his peers. When kids are having disagreements, it is nearly impossible to accurately referee...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: three year old son, speech problem, violent person
speech problem, violent person, speech therapist: First of all - you are not failing as a Mommy. Spanking a child is a part of raising them. The thing is to balance the discipline with an explanation of why it is happening once he is calmed down. With the speech problem - is he seeing a speech therapist?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler bed, 4th month of pregnancy, nap time
4th month of pregnancy, nap time, question thanks: Hi Shawna, Yes, I agree. Try to gradually spend less time in there each night. Once you leave, don t return unless she is screaming, and then only go back in to briefly comfort her and then leave again. I also agree that dealing with toddlers is difficult....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler started waking in the night screaming!, new experiences, nightmares
new experiences, nightmares, bedtime: She may be having nightmares. Have there been any new experiences or something she could have seen on tv that could have scared her that she could be dreaming about? Try some soothing (jazz or classical music) playing in her room at bedtime, and possibly...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler tantrums, toddler tantrums, worm removal
toddler tantrums, worm removal, eatables: Hello Sneha, Be sure to check with your pediatrician to make sure there is no medical or physical condition leading to her strong appetite. However, there will be times when toddlers refuse to eat or only want to eat a certain food. Then parents worry...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddler wakes up screaming middle of night, sleeping through the night, life skill
sleeping through the night, life skill, ear plugs: Dear Patty, You know in your heart that the right thing to do is let them cry it out even if it takes several nights. You can comfort them briefly and be sure they are ok. You can give each a security object or night light, or even play a music/nature...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toddlers wake up screaming in middle of night, james windell, night terrors
james windell, night terrors, sleeping through the night: Hello Patty, I would suggest that unless your child is fully awake when you go to her, that she is more likely having night terrors. If they are night terrors, she should not be awakened. In fact, she should not be picked up or rocked. You can still comfort...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toilet, girl underwear, daycare
girl underwear, daycare, bowel control: Hi Vikki, All kids are different. Your two-year-old might be easier going in some ways. And maybe is more advanced in terms of learning bladder and bowel control. Just don t use this to put pressure on your older child. What I said before still stands. Putting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: toilet, wetting her pants, bladder infection
wetting her pants, bladder infection, physical reason: It sounds like you are thinking things through. If you try something different and it works, then you have found your answer, if not, try something else. I believe the less frustration the parent shows, the more success is likely. Sometimes little ones...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: trying to gain control of our 4 yr, consistent discipline, difficult transition
consistent discipline, difficult transition, step mom: Hello Michele, I don t expect that counseling is going to be nearly as effective as just good, old consistent discipline and guidance. Obviously, you well understand that this is going to be a difficult transition for him. So, as long as you know and understand...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Wakes up screaming, james windell, quiet comfort
james windell, quiet comfort, tempature: Hello Britnee, There are all sorts of reasons why babies may awaken from their sleep. However, what you do after they awaken is very important. Children must learn how to put themselves back to sleep. If you, however, pick your son up or rock him, then...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My two year old keeps getting out of bed and screaming, safety gate, nappy
safety gate, nappy, bed time: Hello Evette, Often things do change when children turn two (or thereabouts). And bedtime is frequently one of the events that changes. Unfortunately, we usually don t know why. So I can t tell you why she s doing this (other than the fact that she s a...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Our 1 year old doesn't want mom!, time transitioning, housekeeping tasks
time transitioning, housekeeping tasks, kind gesture: Dear Andrew, I can sense you are a big hearted guy who is concerned for both of your babes. It kind of takes away the satisfaction of having a close bond with each of them. First, your son is not rejecting his mother, I have seen kids want their mothers...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 11 Month Old Sleep Issues, toddler, sleep habits
toddler, sleep habits, night waking: Anne- thank you for the question. I apologize for being so late in getting back to you. I do think she is old enough to get through the night without needing to nurse by now. Have you tried giving her a snack right before her bedtime nursing session?...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 18 month baby doesn't eat her dinner and makes up 3 times at night to be fed. How to let her eat?, solid food, twin daughters
solid food, twin daughters, dinner time: I would cut back on the fluids. You re allowing her to fill up on fluids to the point where she has no room for food, therefore no appetite. In the afternoons, try to space out her fluids to only when she has eaten (my rule with my children, even my 1 yr...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: My 2 1/2 year old, child psychologist, patient person
child psychologist, patient person, anger management: I would suggest having him see a child psychologist, perhaps someone that deals in anger management. At home, try getting him a bean bag chair and allow him to hit that when he feels he has to hit or bite. Explain to him he won t get in trouble for hitting...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 yr old hits/grabs, head bumps, attention seeking
head bumps, attention seeking, little friends: Dear Judy, it sounds to me like you have a pretty good understanding of why your child is doing this. You are probably right to think the behavior brings him to the center of attention. I will forever be baffled by children seeking attention with negative...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 2 1/2 yr old son hits and pushes, head bumps, attention seeking
head bumps, attention seeking, little friends: Hello Judy, Of course, a two-year-old is old enough to understand that you don t like certain behaviors. The real question, though, is: Is he old enough and mature enough to control his impulses and follow your rules about not hitting others? And the answer...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 21 month old acting out, inappropriate time, disruptive behaviors
inappropriate time, disruptive behaviors, best guess: Hi Lauren, Thanks for giving me a better idea of what might be the issue. The questions I asked were to rule out an intrinsic issue such as autism, and they did. You demonstrate insightful responses to her behavior, so first of all ease up on yourself. ...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?, attention span, highchair
attention span, highchair, toy box: Hi, I am so glad you asked this question and detailed your situation well. Your story strikes a nerve for me, I whole heatedly believe that there is nothing wrong with any child, each of us has life challenges and lessons at different times in our lives....

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?, attention span, highchair
attention span, highchair, toy box: Hello Kim, Anything similar go on with my children? You bet! All the time as preschoolers. They almost never listened to directions. My daughter smeared feces all over her bed and room; She climbed up in a cupboard and found medication and took several...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?, toddler, behavior
toddler, behavior: Kim- thank you for the question. Please be assured that most children, aged 2 to about 5 have lots of impulse control issues. They are testing boundaries, testing limits, trying things. It does sound, though, like your daughter may have some additional...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?, attention span, highchair
attention span, highchair, toy box: Dear Kim, The good news is this situation can be turned around. The bad news is, your daughter is in control of her life and yours and she is only 3. This is too much responsibility for a 3 year old. Your writing talks alot about how you feel when she...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Does my 3 1/2 year old daughter have a problem?, attention span, highchair
attention span, highchair, toy box: similar, yes. my almost 5 yr old hates to get dirty but played with her poop (painting the walls and crib) for a while. She outgrew it eventually. both she and her sister usually talk to me and fight with each other when I am on the phone (usually on business...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3.5 yr old daughter behavior problems, exotic dancer, provocative behavior
exotic dancer, provocative behavior, something girls: Hi Kirie, Certainly the tantrums etc will pass and probably try to ignore it although I can understand if you want to protect her from harm, however, most children don t hurt themselves that badly when throwing tantrums. The best thing at the moment is to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: my 3 year old, play group, son jason
play group, son jason, playgroup: Hello Jerry, I would suggest that you not give him the freedom of doing whatever he wants when he goes to the playgroup. That is, you should be there beside him and teach him how to play with and interact with other other children. In other words, your...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old behaviour, toddler, territorial behavior
toddler, territorial behavior: Wayne- thank you for the question. It sounds like your daughter was concerned with people coming and going and leaving her. It was probably a change in routine and the introduction of new people that got her worked up in the first place. I would keep...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year old out of control, stay at home mom, prayer mat
stay at home mom, prayer mat, hyper child: Hello Sobia, I so pleased I could be of help to you. I think you are right about her hitting and smacking her when she does hit. Research tends to suggest that you run the risk of making her more aggressive if you spank her for hitting. My guess is that...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 year says he touched me., baby dolls, scary place
baby dolls, scary place, thicket: Hello Jess, I am sure this is a scary place to be, like being blindfolded in a thicket of sticker bushes not know which way to turn or how to move through it without leaving wounds. If you are in the US every community will most likely have a safe place...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old constantly cryong and irritated, gag reflex, happy child
gag reflex, happy child, quiet voice: Hello again, It is clear to me that you are a very thoughtful parent who takes the time to be sensitive to your sons feelings and at the same time setting firm limits. I am so very pleased you checked in with your Doctor, ruling out physical issues is always...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 3 yr old son says he is sad, facial expressions, pee
facial expressions, pee, conversations: Dear Christine, I would like you to know, I am not trained in the medical or psychology field. I believe there are experts here that can give you more information on recognizing mental illness in children. I would encourage you to inquire with one of those...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 year old, dear marie, troubled child
dear marie, troubled child, reward system: Dear Marie, First of all she is FOUR yeas old. If her teacher sounds like she is a troubled child then maybe the teacher is having the problem. If you are concerned about her ask her doctor to see if they think there is anything. I think she prefers you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 4 yr old girl won't hug mom, good relationship, better sense
good relationship, better sense, cerebral palsy: Hello Laura, I think since you have a very good relationship with this child that you need to pass on whatever you can to her parents so they better understand their daughter and are more sensitive to her feelings and needs. Obviously, this little girl...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 5 yr old with anger issues.., anger issues, old baby
anger issues, old baby, baby sitter: Hi Amy, Are there times in particular when he is worse, ie. when tiredness, hunger may be a factor in his outbursts? Perhaps school will help and the structure. It would also be a good sign if he starts to calm down at school and listen to authority, then...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 month old light sleeper, daytime naps, light sleepers
daytime naps, light sleepers, good sleep habits: Hello Heather, I m sorry to hear that you are sleep deprived. We all need enough rest to function productively -- especially when you re a parent. However, you are making a mistake by sleeping with him. This is not going to teach him good sleep habits,...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 mth old baby, question baby, having trouble breathing
question baby, having trouble breathing, problem fixes: William- Glad to know that everything turned out all right. Prunes will do it every time! If your daughter can roll over on her own then she should be safe with a blanket. If you are still worried you can do one of two things. The first is to put the...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 6 year old, james windell, loving boy
james windell, loving boy, loving kind: Hello Yolanda, More often than not, I m answering questions about how to stop children from being aggressive. Very seldom do I have to give advice concerning the problem you present. I suspect that you have a loving, kind son and that you have encouraged...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: 8 month old and solids, infant, refusing food
infant, refusing food: Jennifer- Thank you for the question. There are a couple of things that jumped out at me. One is that she is cutting teeth, the other that she had a flu shot. It is possible that these things combined has totally turned off her feeding schedule. It...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Advice about sleeping...?, basinette, infant massage
basinette, infant massage, blink of an eye: Dear Ginger, The good news is your baby enjoys co-sleeping. He enjoys it alot. He is letting you know in no uncertain terms he is not willing to settle for anything less than contact comfort. Good for him. He is a smart 4 week old! :) In the bigger...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Aggressive toddler, social interaction, stuffed animals
social interaction, stuffed animals, role play: Hi, Your daughter is still quite young and you have done a great job of identifying what she is doing and when this happens. It appears she is trying to do the right thing by standing up for the younger child and seeing a problem that she wants to try to...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Anxiety after using the bathroom, bladder infections, yeast infections
bladder infections, yeast infections, throwing fits: Dear Jamie, Well this is a new one on me. I have two suggestions. 1. Let go. She will eventually have to pee. I know you are concerned about her hurting herself but think hard about it....eventually she will have to pee and probably will have an accident...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: bad sleeping, nap time, pediatric dentist
nap time, pediatric dentist, home remedy: There is a treatment called Melatonin which is a natural sleep herb. Try discussing this with your pediatrician. However, I would try talking to the daycare about cutting her nap time to 1 hour if they can (I know in some daycares, they will honor the request...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: behaviour problem of my 3 yr old daughter, behaviour problem, intelligent child
behaviour problem, intelligent child, pre school: If this is her first time in this setting, she s going to try to test her limits. Advise the teacher of how you deal with this behavior at home and see if she can follow suit in class. Also, explain to your daughter daily just before school that the behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: boyfriend with ocd trying to control kids, james windell, lazy slobs
james windell, lazy slobs, mental health professional: Hello Sue, You may love your boyfriend, but is it worth it? Unless he is willing to go to a mental health professional and get some help for his obsessive-complusive traits or features, I would suggest neither you nor your children need to be subjected...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: why my child crys for her dad, dads place, absent parent
dads place, absent parent, true gift: Dear Kay, I am sure it hurts your feelings to see your child show distress separating from her father. I will assure you though, she is not choosing one parent as better than the other. If you had two children, you would love them both but differently, you...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: co sleeping with parents, body rhythms, twin mattress
body rhythms, twin mattress, brain cells: Dear Dorothea, You are not alone with this issue just as you arn t alone in your bed. There are some big transitions that parents must find the gumption to do throughout your child s life. This is one of the first, sleeping alone, toilet training, first...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Daughter not playing with other kids of her age, temper tantrums, grand parents
temper tantrums, grand parents, regional language: I would not worry too much. It may be that she is just becomming aware of herself. It may prove that she is a very headstrong, independent person. If she remains aloof for more than the next year, I would consider possibly some therapy, but would not worry...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Discipline/DS Toddler, james windell, ds children
james windell, ds children, verbal directions: Hello Kim, Often DS children are responsive to the wishes of adults who are kind to them. However, I think that you should respond to this kind of behavior as you should with any three-year-old. You should begin by saying, No hair pulling. Then, show...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: disipline, james windell, discipline method
james windell, discipline method, kinds of gestures: Hello Paula, This is not unusual behavior by your daughter, although it might be embarrassing. I would suggest that you settle on one approach and follow it consistently. There is no one discipline method or approach that s going to change this behavior...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: I don't know what to do, abusive parents, constructive steps
abusive parents, constructive steps, child protective service: Hello, I m pleased that you finally brought this to someone s attention. You have been under a great deal of stress since your husband died and three- and four-year-olds can be very frustrating at times. However, you can t continue to abuse him -- for...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: Evidence that 50% of time with father/mother is best for toddler?, james windell, ross parke
james windell, ross parke, google: Hello Cordelia, I also agree that it makes sense that children have equal exposure to both parents. But I don t know if there s any specific research that can show evidence that this is true. However, if you go to Google or Google Scholar and put in Ross...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: emotions, teaching profession, engrained
teaching profession, engrained, asking this question: Hi Don, It is very difficult to answer and it would sound like he has always been this way which would indicate that it is his personality. I do wonder about his feelings of embarassment though due to your incident. However, I don t really think empathy...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: emotions, teaching profession, attention span
teaching profession, attention span, engrained: Hello Don, Parents certainly have an influence on some aspects of a child s personality, but they don t influence every part of it. Children are born with their unique temperament. One of your sons was born more out-going and lively. This son also was more...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty-training, good solution, suggestion
Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: potty-training, good solution, suggestion, worry

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: giving back the binky, transitional object, taking a nap
transitional object, taking a nap, binky: Hello Sarah, I know you had good intentions in taking away his binky at age three. Parents often think it s time for a child to give up a transitional object like a pacifier or something else they sleep with. However, it seems pretty clear that while...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: hand in a fist......toddler, early childhood intervention, early intervention services
early childhood intervention, early intervention services, dear elizabeth: Dear fbeck, I am glad you asked about your concern. What you describe indicates a need for either physical therapy or occupational therapy. Occupational therapists usually focus on fine motor or hand movement and physical therapists typically work with large...

Parenting--Toddlers/Infants/Pre-Schoolers: help me, rewards program, days of the week
rewards program, days of the week, whole life: Hello Amber, What you re trying to do is not going to be easy. What is the motivation for a toddler to stop sleeping in mom s nice, warm bed? Because you want her to is not going to do it! I have some recommendations, but first you need to understand what...