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Parenting K-6 Kids: attitude, jigsaw puzzle, younger ones
jigsaw puzzle, younger ones, eldest son: Hi Najwan Yes it is completely normal and both my boys are terribly competitive as well! My 14 year old is much better now at accepting that he won t always win, so don t worry they do learn this, it just takes time. I would suggest that you allow your...

Parenting K-6 Kids: going to the bathroom, toilet problems, uncommon problem
toilet problems, uncommon problem, going to the bathroom: Hi Drew This is not an uncommon problem for children of this age. I have a few pages with advice on this subject on my website: http://www.parents-in-a-pickle.com/toilet-problems.html Basically you need to make sure he goes to the toilet regularly....

Parenting K-6 Kids: The change in my child, gifted reader, behavour
gifted reader, behavour, happy girl: Hi Sally You will need to persevere with the behavior chart. If it is not working yet have you set too many targets? Does your daughter not fully understand what your expectations are? Is the treat which is on offer not enough of an incentive? Make sure...

Parenting K-6 Kids: childs perspective on death, life is a gift, gift from god
life is a gift, gift from god, truex: Hi Pat, First is important to understand that at 7 years old, children don t really understand death like an adult can. Further they often see heaven as a kind of Disneyland. Because the issue plays much in to faith and religion it is important to develop...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My Daughter's Behavior, lying, social pressure
lying, social pressure, strong will: Hi Colleen, I am assuming your daughter is the 8 year old. I understand the dismay that comes to a parent when lying starts. Every parent must face the issue at some point. Part of the issue may be the fact that social acceptance is becoming more important...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Destructive behaviour, destructive behaviour, private boys
destructive behaviour, private boys, wetting the bed: Hi Tammy-Jean, Its not unusual for four year olds to be bossy and a little unruly, but I do have some real concerns for your son s behavior and safety. A preoccupation with sharp objects and knives and the desire to cut things up...now progressing to live...

Parenting K-6 Kids: A difficult 6 year old, strong willed children, negative attention
strong willed children, negative attention, good behavior: Hi Linda The advice I would normally give you would be what you seem to have already tried! I can tell that you are feeling very frustrated. I feel that you could do with professional help to give you reassurance if nothing else. I would suggest two things:...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old crying and daydreaming, school holidays, grand daughter
Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old crying and daydreaming, school holidays, grand daughter, life time

Parenting K-6 Kids: A difficult 6 year old, new boundaries, nasty game
Parenting K-6 Kids: A difficult 6 year old, new boundaries, nasty game, foster parent

Parenting K-6 Kids: Peeing Outside, sibling, pee
Parenting K-6 Kids: Peeing Outside, sibling, pee, balcony

Parenting K-6 Kids: pulling down pants
Parenting K-6 Kids: pulling down pants

Parenting K-6 Kids: My five year old son, flash card exercise, literacy and numeracy
flash card exercise, literacy and numeracy, literacy and numeracy skills: Dear Brian, I think your anxiety is rubbing off on your five year old son! Without knowing the details of his everyday learning patterns at school, it seems unusual that his teacher would consider holding him back simply because he hasn t quite mastered...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should a good mother do this, hello children, odd days
hello children, odd days, stable environment: Hello, Children can have a very normal, stable upbringing even if her parents are not living together. Its all about how the parents treat her and each other. Changing homes frequently can be hard, but if the parents frequently remind her that she loved and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Keeping a 10yr old son focused and 'on track', school jackets, gifted classes
school jackets, gifted classes, natural consequence: Dear Mia, I can hear the frustration in your email and, in many ways, I can relate! I have boys, both now teenagers (19 and 18), and I have experienced many of the same frustrations you are telling me about. The endless sagas of lost lunchboxes,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: kids behavier, eating healthy food, discipline techniques
eating healthy food, discipline techniques, bad word: Hi Pami, Kids will often test out parents to see what they can get away with. And if they can get away with it, they will continue. Whatever interventions you have put into place, are not making an impact him. So you need to develope new discipline techniques....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Peeing Outside, inappropriate times, target
inappropriate times, target, instant success: Hi Theresa Sorry for the delay, I thought I had answered your question but I must have hit the wrong button! I believe the only way you can change the habits of your 4 year old is by getting your 14 year old to change his habits as well. I think that there...

Parenting K-6 Kids: pulling down pants, lunch recess, unacceptable behavior
lunch recess, unacceptable behavior, happy face: Hi Sarah, Did your son say why he did it? I would suggest a little shaming and a good spat on the moon would be appropriate. Help him understand that his body is private and that he shows respect to God, his creator, as well as you and himself by behaving...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sister in law is hitting children, hitting children, loving wife
hitting children, loving wife, truex: Hi Lisa, There is little you can do to change a person who doesn t feel the need to change. There are steps you can take to protect the children though. Is the father someone you can enlist for help? Can you take the kids to spend time with you sometimes...

Parenting K-6 Kids: social skill, guidance counselor, social skill
guidance counselor, social skill, truex: Hi Rica, I would suggest that you seek her teacher s help. The teacher can assist your daughter by putting her together with other children in the class. Its not easy for most people much less children to approach others, but if the teacher puts them together...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my son wonders, cute nicknames, male pets
cute nicknames, male pets, female birds: Dear mom Your son is acting like a very normal 8 year old. At this age (starting about age 7 and on up) children are very very interested in health issues and also how their bodies work...they want to know about how all the different parts of their bodies...

Parenting K-6 Kids: talking to much, behavior charts, piece of candy
behavior charts, piece of candy, fustration: Hi Christine, If her talking a lot is new thing, then it probably is related to something going on in her life. If she s always been talkative, then its who she is. But she needs to learn when she has to be quiet and certainly, she needs to stop back talking....

Parenting K-6 Kids: 11 yr old boy, easter egg hunt, childhood activities
easter egg hunt, childhood activities, family decision: Hi Donna, I m a big fan of prolonging childhood as long as possible, but the question of when to stop childhood activities is ultimately a family decision. It won t hurt him or stunt his growth to continue to play with toys or have an Easter Egg hunt. Many...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 4 year old Madi and behavioral problems, stay at home mom, madi
stay at home mom, madi, baby on the way: Hi Wendy, Many people don t realize that four year olds can be as challenging as two year olds. They tend to be bossy, whiny, aggressive and impulsive. That can make them hard to like. But she is only four. Its your job, as the grown-up to help her. The problem...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 5 year old daughter is stealing, talk to your daughter, problems at home
talk to your daughter, problems at home, family dynamics: Hi Jackie, I am no expert in this kind of behaviour, however I will share some experience that I have gained over more than 20 years teaching. Unless there is a specific reason for stealing (poverty, or some kind of compulsive disorder)I have found that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old boy, going to the grocery store, society pressures
going to the grocery store, society pressures, truex: Hi Ann, Its not usual for children to dress up ... even boys. Depending where you live or how you feel about it, you may want to set limits on it. For example, perhaps he can dress up at home, but not when you re going to the grocery store. But overall,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yr old BOY behavior problems, aggressive behavior, disobedient
aggressive behavior, disobedient, bully: Hi Cindi, It sounds like something has promoted the new behavior. Maybe he has seen someone get results that way, maybe he is being bullied and doesn t want to tell. In any case, the behavior is unacceptable and troublesome. With all you have tried, it...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 year old son with challenging behavior, school work, concentration
school work, concentration, teachers: Hi Jolynn, With the help of the professionals you have surrounded yourself with, narrowing down the issues will take a little time. Have you considered the possibility of vision or hearing issues? Spring is often a difficult time in school for everyone...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 year old stealing, causal event, pocket knives
causal event, pocket knives, drastic steps: Hi Lori, If your son has previously never had any behavior problems and this stealing is new, it could be indicative of something serious going on. Kids don t start having serious behavior problems out of the blue without some sort of causal event. If this...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 year old boy bad behavior, household chores, louise bates
household chores, louise bates, behavior question: Dear Donna, I am so glad you are trying to do more positive things...praise him for sharing that with you and for any improvement. Keep a close eye on him for a day or so to see if he is still tired or has any other symptoms. Some of us get very tired...

Parenting K-6 Kids: aggressive with animals, strong willed child, 4 year olds
strong willed child, 4 year olds, ponies: Hi Cammie, You are right that spanking isn t the best deterrent for aggression. But neither is time out your only option. This is a behavior you want to extinguish as cruelty against animals can lead to more serious behavior. With that said, 4 year olds can...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Bad Behaving Girls in Church, upscale neighborhood, house of prayer
upscale neighborhood, house of prayer, abusive behaviors: I have been in a similar situation on an airlne with two boys behind me kicking my seat on purpose ...repeatedly. The parents were seated rgiht behaind them. I took off my seat belt stood up and turned around and told them I did not like it at all that they...

Parenting K-6 Kids: out of control son, residential treatment programs, felony charges
residential treatment programs, felony charges, police property: Hello David, You are in a very difficult situation. I m wondering about your insurance situation? If your son has a diagnosed disorder, then treatment, including residential treatment should be covered by insurance. I m also a bit surprised that the resources...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 4 year old Madi and behavioral problems, homework, parents
Parenting K-6 Kids: My 4 year old Madi and behavioral problems, homework, parents

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 5 year old daughter is stealing, time dad, playdates
Parenting K-6 Kids: my 5 year old daughter is stealing, time dad, playdates, wits end

Parenting K-6 Kids: finger sucking and pacing, child counselor, even adults
child counselor, even adults, truex: Hi Chris, Finger sucking is like blankets and stuffed animals. It provides a source of comfort. Most kids outgrow it or replace it with something more appropriate (even adults have comfort items/acts). Being annoyed with him may only prolong the act since...

Parenting K-6 Kids: New nanny in the home., good manners, care teacher
good manners, care teacher, sweet person: Hello I have not to my knowledge ever answered any question from a new nanny having trouble with a five year old. But since this problem is unusual for a five year old...they are generally very cooperative...perhaps you need to take the child to her day...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sensitive 9 year old girl, sensitive person, sand box
sensitive person, sand box, coping strategies: Hi Christine, Providing reassurance and giving coping strategies can help. Because you have a similar issue, you can share with her how you know its hard, but important to deal with. You can provide her with some strategies that use. Building self esteem...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sensitive 9 year old girl, easily upset, cries easily
easily upset, cries easily, screaming: As the older child she probably has the responsibility to help with the younger. How does she get along with her brother. Is she bossy? Does she lose her patience with him? You mentioned that is also part of your way to express your dissatisfaction...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sensitive 9 year old girl, dear christine, sensitive person
dear christine, sensitive person, sand box: Dear Christine, I think you should set up a meeting with your child s teachers and discuss this to brainstorm possible ways to help her. It is also likely that the other girls are bullying here, but you cannot find this out without seriously having a meeting...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sensitive 9 year old girl, sensitive person, sand box
sensitive person, sand box, little brother: Hi Christine, It is very difficult to see our kids upset and particularly frustrating when we hear of incidents of bullying at school when we can t be there to help them sort it out. Let me start by saying that most children at some stage will experience...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my six yr olds tardiness at school tasks, overweight child, high achiever
overweight child, high achiever, God: Hi Sadaf, I feel your concern as a parent who conscientiously tries to teach their child correct principles. You are not a failure, but are feeling the overwhelming responsibilities to help your children be successful. The frustration of inconsistent successes...

Parenting K-6 Kids: sleeping arrangements, special education teacher, sleeping arrangements
special education teacher, sleeping arrangements, custody arrangement: Hi Alexis, It can be difficult to navigate through a new relationships with children. I think its important to respect her father s feelings (and he should respect yours) in a situation like this. When he has a new woman in his life, think about how you d...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Does my son have ADHD?, adhd diagnosis, child psychiatrist
adhd diagnosis, child psychiatrist, developmental milestones: Hi Heather, ADHD can only be diagnosed by having someone evaluate him. There is a set of criteria and observations that need to be met. I m of the opinion that pediatricians are not the best people to diagnose ADHD. If you re concerned, find a child psychiatrist...

Parenting K-6 Kids: One starting school and one on the way, unfortunate timing, undivided attention
unfortunate timing, undivided attention, late august: Hi Janelle I agree that it would be unfortunate timing if sending your son to full time prekindergarten coincides with the birth of your baby. On the other hand, a child of 4 benefits from contact with other children and adults and you would benefit from...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Does a ten year old have the right to complain when her father uses her to make millions of dollars?, truex, social services
truex, social services, pornography: Hello, I m not certain that in the United States that it is legal for a parent to pocket all the money earned by a child. While he can use some for her care and his fee if he manages her career, some of the money is required to go into a trust or savings...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Is this true or not. Yes or No, child custody battles, homework question
child custody battles, homework question, parenting plan: Hello, For some reason I m getting a huge number of questions with this same theme. Is there a course or something in which this is the homework question? I don t believe that 90% of the custody cases are solely around money. Many men do love their children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 1st grader guns, killing himself & urinating !, home schooling situation, water balloon
home schooling situation, water balloon, toy guns: Hi Kristin, Whether or not he actually intends to do such a thing, the fact that a 6 year old is saying that suggests that something isn t quite right. I m surprised a mother would write this off as being around older kids syndrome. The fact that she indicates...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old anxiety, causal event, neighborhood friends
causal event, neighborhood friends, separation anxiety: Hi Amy, While separation anxiety isn t unusual at this age, children s behavior doesn t do a 180 without some sort of causal event. This event doesn t have to a major in your mind. It just needs to be significant in her mind. It could be the change in teachers....

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old son and his negative behavior, happyhelping, negative attitude
happyhelping, negative attitude, garden of eden: Hi Terri, Perhaps this personal example will answer your question. At a family reunion of 50, I asked my 5 year old nephew to take his paper plate to the garbage can. He just wanted to leave it on the patio, so everyone could step over it, and go play....

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old daughter, coping with anger, guidance counselor
coping with anger, guidance counselor, effective discipline: Hi Dimarys, Is this behavior new? It is unusual for 6 year olds to be biting and spitting...usually they grow out of those behaviors by then. If this is new behavior, then its likely there has been some causal event. It could be anything even something that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 yr old copying movements of 4 yr old, happy face(s)token system, Debbie Preece
happy face(s)token system, Debbie Preece, blended family: Hi Connie, I would suggest that the new (brother) is somewhat the center of attraction,which would be normal for the situation. The 6 yr old is noticing the attention since he has always been the center of attention. He is probably feeling the lack of complete...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9yr old boyfriends daughter gets different treatment from the boys., old boyfriends, boyfriend lives
old boyfriends, boyfriend lives, little princess: Hi Jess, I wouldn t call the behavior normal, but I think its a need for reassurance and affection. If you re able to help her have that, then the behavior towards her dad should lessen. He can set some limits, but simply pushing her away, without somehow...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my destructive 5yr old, adhd diagnosis, adhd kids
adhd diagnosis, adhd kids, mental health professionals: Hi Catrina, Based on what you ve indicated, I m a bit surprised that he only received the ADHD diagnosis and medication. Did a medical doctor or psychiatrist see him? While medication can help calm ADHD behaviors, that s all it does. It doesn t help kids...

Parenting K-6 Kids: disciplining a nine year old, minor infractions, step dad
minor infractions, step dad, academic problems: Hi Deborah, It is important to help children do well in school. You didn t indicate whether or not he had any friends, which can go a long way to helping kids enjoy school more. Neither did you indicate the kind of grades he gets. Is he bored because he needs...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 1st grader guns, killing himself & urinating !, jum, grade 1
Parenting K-6 Kids: 1st grader guns, killing himself & urinating !, jum, grade 1

Parenting K-6 Kids: Major problems with my 4 yr old daughter!!!, dead bolt, toilet paper
dead bolt, toilet paper, 4 year olds: Hi B Mae, Four year olds can be difficult and interesting kids. Its not unusual for them to be overly dramatic and bossy. However some behaviors that you re describing seem a little bit more extreme than normal. Her constant leaving without regard to safety...

Parenting K-6 Kids: What should a mother do in this case, legal loopholes, professional legal advice
legal loopholes, professional legal advice, parenting plan: As a mother, all I can say is that I would want to be ABSOLUTELY certain there are no legal loopholes if the non-court arrangements turn sour. I think you need to be satisified that your husband will not change his mind, or decide he wants to move too far...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Protective Services for children, abusing drugs, half brother
abusing drugs, half brother, legal custody: Hi Angela, I don t know the laws of every state, but usually removal is not automatic simply because her previous children have been removed. She can t be punished for what she might do or hasn t yet done even if history shows that its likely. If social...

Parenting K-6 Kids: School refusal, school refusal, staff change
school refusal, staff change, staying at home: Dear Cheryl I understand how you feel, but if you are SURE that nothing is wrong at school you probably need to tell her you are leaving but you will be right back...Then you do leave, but stay in the car and in a few minutes come back so she knows you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Separation Anxiety in 4 year old, Thomas the tank engine, Cinderella
Thomas the tank engine, Cinderella, fearful: Has there been a new person in her life? A new friend or a new group that you have taken her to? A new babysitter? It sounds like something has happened at night or something she relates to as being dark or fearful. I would be surprised if the jungle...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Six year olds growing anger issues, anger issues, time outs
anger issues, time outs, six year olds: Hello C, My suggestion is to work on building his self esteem which will lead to him being happy with himself, but also improve his behavior. One of the best ways to build self esteem is simply to spend time with him. I recommend all parents spend at least...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Talking back, talking back, hits
talking back, hits, screams: Hi Lisa, It sounds from what you tell me that the boys have been with the boyfriend a good portion of their lives. The question I have for you,as a Christian mother, is why are you not divorced and remarried so that the boys have a father in their lives that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: temper tantrums in 4 and a half year old daughter, temper tantrums, good manners
temper tantrums, good manners, loving child: Hi Sara, I have not read that book specifically and in reading the information and reviews, I m not sure its a better option that the two I gave you. I like How To Talk so Your Kids Will Listen and How to Listen so Your Kids will Talk because it give you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 and half y.o. girl acts up, temper tantrum, love
temper tantrum, love, devotion: Hi Lucas, I have been out of town, so I am sorry I am late getting back to you. It would be nice if our children listened and obeyed, but remember the Garden of Eden. There is opposition in all things. Adam and Eve were taught by God. They still opposed...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 year old who is manipulative and cruel to animals, adoption, blending families
adoption, blending families, sibling rivalry: Hi Dedra, I have been out of town for a week, so I am sorry I did not get to you sooner. I am sure that as a social worker you understand the issues at hand, and you are finding there is not a simple answer to issues of adoption or blending families. ...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 5 year old little girl, two little girls, brick wall
two little girls, brick wall, hannah montana: Hi Chris, The reality is that she may not be clear on what the problem is. Kids can react to changes negatively but not understand or communicate why. Odds are all she needs is time, understanding and lots of reassurance. You didn t indicate how the boys...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old Terror, smart mouths, potting soil
smart mouths, potting soil, loss of a loved one: Hi Bobbie, The loss of a loved one is significant in anyone s life. What makes it hard for children is the fact that they aren t capable of understanding much of it. I ve worked with kids who lost a parent at an older age and still ask me when when the parent...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 year old daugther, potassium deficiency, weeping
potassium deficiency, weeping, confusion: Hi V During the summer heat can play a part in some of these symptoms. When children play outside or do physical activity like swimming or running or just being outside more than when in school, they have a tendency to sweat. The electrolytes in the...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yo behavior at home what can I do?, diabetic, blood sugar level
diabetic, blood sugar level, sneaking around: Hi Tracey, Parenting is a challenging Calling isn t it? It can be a daunting experience especially when our children are struggling. The description of always being thirsty and going to the bathroom makes me wonder if he could be diabetic. Have you had...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 yr old daughter has me at a loss, lengthy time, family sports
lengthy time, family sports, self confidence: Hi Kim This is unusual for a seven year old...usually they are cooperative and want to be with peers in experiences and activities and are beginning to have some self confidence. Be sure that she is physically ok and that there is nothing medical that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 year old rebelling, positive reinforcement, having time
positive reinforcement, having time, truex: Hi Casey, It can be difficult for children to adjust to having a new sibling. While his behavior is attention seeking, what he s likely after is reassurance. Having time for him is important but what you want to make sure is that the time is really his. Is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: behavior issues, home alot, fighting fires
home alot, fighting fires, class behavior: Hi Linda, I m always surprised by schools that let you know the problem, suggest it could be ADHD but then don t enact school procedures to help him. I would have him evaluated by a professional (such as psychiatrist) outside of school and request a formal...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Changing Behavior Concerns, parental alienation, child psychologist
parental alienation, child psychologist, initial consultation: Dear D , This 8 year old boy is lucky to have someone like you is clearly aware that there are problems and who wants to help - you may be the only one who is able to offer support and help, as his parents don t seem to notice or care too much. I guess...

Parenting K-6 Kids: children being removed from home Alabama law on custody, foster care system, partial custody
foster care system, partial custody, alabama law: Hi Megan, Laws can vary from state to state, but the philosophy of child welfare is to keep children with their families whenever possible. Its not necessarily an automatic thing though. Often family members will be investigated to make sure they are suitable...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Very Emotional Daughter, succeeding in school, good mother
succeeding in school, good mother, randi: Dear Randi I sympathize ...but a book of any kind will not help you because they have to be written for the general population. They cannot help with specific cases which are so very individual, just like your kids are. First you should take your child...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Pre-K issues and fearing Kindergarten could be trouble, kindergarten teacher, enrichment services
Parenting K-6 Kids: Pre-K issues and fearing Kindergarten could be trouble, kindergarten teacher, enrichment services, vur

Parenting K-6 Kids: fear of rain, fear of rain, separation anxiety
fear of rain, separation anxiety, thunder and lightning: Hi Renee, Its not unusual for 5 year olds to get phobic about something. Usually they just need time and reassurance and they grow out of it. Getting some books that talk about rain, thunder etc where it comes from etc can help. If she understands that she...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Obesessive 5 year old...., OCD, anxiety
OCD, anxiety, needles: Hi Charity, What a dilemma you have. With the knowledge you have of other medical issues in your genes it is good to be aware of possibilities that may crop up at some point. It might be helpful for you to visit with a Dr to find out what symptoms to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Pre-K issues and fearing Kindergarten could be trouble, rare birth defect, toilet troubles
rare birth defect, toilet troubles, urinary reflux: Hi Christy, Clean slates usually only work when someone is aware and consciously making changes to make it work. At five years old, kids aren t able to do that. While some of it may be related to his previous experience, he s learned away of operating in...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How to reward my 2 yr. old?, piece of candy, long memory
piece of candy, long memory, time periods: Hi Heidi, Great job on the chart. I ve used them a lot with kids in school. What I find works best is that you engage your daughters input. What would she like to earn? This will get her invested in the chart too...she ll want to earn the reward. Because...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Scared/Embarrased ALL the time!, anxiety disorder, freaks
anxiety disorder, freaks, adhd: Hi Angel This is a difficult problem to overcome, made more so as it is so difficult to understand. The first thing is to accept your son s fears as real, however strange or contradictory them may seem to you. In many cases it seems he deals with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sensitive Child, mental health clinic, sensitive child
mental health clinic, sensitive child, loving boy: Dear Irene, I am sorry to tell you that this is NOT normal behavior, and you need to get him some professional help. Please make an appointment with his teachers at school to see if they are also seeing behavior like this or not. See if they think someone...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Socializing skills, sister age, girl age
sister age, girl age, socializing skills: Hi Sanjay, My first question to you is: do you REALLY want him to re-join this group? The kind of treatment your son is experiencing with these children is bullying - an unacceptable and inappropriate form of behaviour under any circumstances. Bullying...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my son of five, adult body, little girls
adult body, little girls, truex: Hi Bola, Kids body parts do work like adult body parts, they just don t have the same meaning as adults do. So yes, little boys can get erections and little girls will often rub or otherwise stimulate their vagina. It is normal and it doesn t necessarily...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Teaching my values under someone elses roof, changing clothes, girl friend
changing clothes, girl friend, modesty: Dear Sarah, I realise you are in a very difficult situation financially and I appreciate how hard it must be for you to be living with a group of people who don t share your values - particularly in relation to the values you would like to pass on to your...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 3 year old loves to dump stuff out!, laundry soap, dangerous things
laundry soap, dangerous things, developmental stage: Hi Ivori, Dumping is a common game and seen as a developmental stage in which kids begin to get the basics of cause and effect. He ll grow out of the dumping stage eventually. In the meantime, make sure that the dangerous things such as cleaning products...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old anxiety-divorce? changes?, separation anxiety, strange ways
separation anxiety, strange ways, truex: Hi Lisa, Young children don t always understand their feelings nor have the words to express them. Its not unusual to develop separation anxiety at 5 years old. But usually a change of behaviors that s sudden is related to something. If I were to guess, I...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old behavior, sibling rivalry, jealousy
sibling rivalry, jealousy, misbehavior: Hi Tandie, Your concerns are justified and as a parent it is difficult to see your child causing such disruptions in your family. Children like to push our buttons and they know which ones work best. We are often the last ones to figure out what those...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 year old doesn't listen to others, sit still, listen
sit still, listen, discipline: Hi Kelli, I can understand your frustration and concerns. It sounds like your son has recognized his ability to control the situation outside of home. That also seems to infer that he recognizes that you mean what you say as parents which is to your credit....

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 7 year old doesn't know how to play and says people doesn't like him, pepperoni pizza, suffering from depression
pepperoni pizza, suffering from depression, corn dogs: Dear Brenda, Being a mum myself, I can hear the pain in your message, but let me say you have done the right thing by changing your son s school. As a teacher as well, I can t believe the behaviour and callousness of his former teacher and that she has...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old granddaughter, baseball lessons, truex
baseball lessons, truex, granddaughter: Hi Margo, I don t see this as being a problem as long as she s happy. She s social and has friendships that are meaningful to her. That s terrific! And lets face it, grown-ups and babies can be boring to seven year olds. However, kids do like to spend...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 yr obsessed with food being old, childhood, obesity
childhood, obesity, calorie counting: Hi Cecilia, It can be annoying for your child to ask you these kinds of questions all the time, but in reality it is a good thing. It s good to know he is being honest as he is looking for something to eat rather than sneaking it. He could have learned...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Corporal Punishment, corporal punishment of children, effects of corporal punishment
corporal punishment of children, effects of corporal punishment, angry feelings: I am not in favor of corporal punishment as I don t believe it changes a child s behavior for the better and can easily become just a way for a parent to vent his or her angry feelings. On the other hand, most parents at one time or another will have smacked...

Parenting K-6 Kids: child behavior, changes in the family, destructive behavior
changes in the family, destructive behavior, child behavior: Hi Jesse, There are a number of things that can cause children to be destructive. If its a new behavior, its likely the reaction to something that is making her mad or feel her world is chaotic. But with out more information (is it new behavior, are there...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughter eating anxiety?, parenting advice, huger
parenting advice, huger, bowel movements: Dear Susie, I am a parenting advice expert but not a nutritionist. if nothing unusual has been happening in her life...no changes or crises, no problems with school or friends....then I think you need to get her a thorough physical to see if something is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: disrespectful + defiant = distressing!!, dissed, discourtesy
dissed, discourtesy, disrespectful: Hi Leanne, I understand disrespectful + defiant = distressing!! It seems that you have a strong willed soul living in the body of the darling, creative and fun little guy that needs to be addressed. As a teacher, you know the techniques, but sometimes...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Emily, punishment work, best of kids
punishment work, best of kids, acting one: Hi Kim, As you probably know, five year olds can be impulsive. Even in the best of kids, at that age its difficult to think before acting. One thing is for you (and her camp people) to try and pay attention to when her behavior starts to escalate. If you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my nephew, unhealthy relationship, separation anxiety
unhealthy relationship, separation anxiety, shy child: Hi Holly, Young children often react to difficult situations around them, but they don t understand why or how to express what s going on. The divorce is the most likely culprit but there could be something going on in the new program as well. Children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: If I put this in a report is this considered Plagiarism Yes or No, japanese immigration, arrest warrants
japanese immigration, arrest warrants, japanese citizens: Dear Questioner , If you are writing a report which obviously needs to be based on fact, you are able to use sources as long as you acknowledge them in your report. If you are copying the passage straight from a souce (whether it be from a government...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Six year old daughter is out of control!, family games, six year olds
family games, six year olds, nothing works: Dear Jamie This is very unusual for a six year old...Six s are usually more cooperative and enjoy helping out if they are praised for it, and enjoy fmaily activities like family games. If this is rather new behavior and is worsening, I would consider getting...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Stuttering? Or thinking?, complex sentences, jane fraser
complex sentences, jane fraser, american by birth: Dear Curtis, The way children become stutterers is from anxiety and resulting pressure by their parents about their developing speech. Do NOT worry about this at all...it is normal for many fours who are learning to make complex sentences (and especially...

Parenting K-6 Kids: separation with a five year old, child psychologist, gymastics
child psychologist, gymastics, best of intentions: Dear Shan, Well one thing you might have done before camp started was to find out who, if any, of his preschool friends were also going to camp. Five is very young to be away from all that is familiar and all that means home and family. If he had had...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My stepdaughter is verbally abusing my grandaughter., parent education class, sweetest little girl
parent education class, sweetest little girl, cusses: Hi Bethani, There is little that can be done to help your step daughter if she doesn t want help. You can suggest that you ve noticed how frustrated she gets and that maybe a parent education class could teach her more ideas that can work more effectively...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My three year old screams all the time, kick and scream, best bet
kick and scream, best bet, truex: Hi Ivori, Your three year old probably continues to scream because he knows it stresses you out. Perhaps it eventually gets him what he wants, which could be getting out of his room. But even if he s still punished, just knowing it pushes your buttons is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: unsociable daughter, neighbor friend, puppet theater
neighbor friend, puppet theater, age girls: Dear Peggy, I thnk perhaps you just have not as yet found the right foundation to build on with these efforts in socializing. You need to really observe and evaluate her talents and interest, and then try to find her some activities that match up with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Writing Problem with 6 year old, personal journaling, short poems
personal journaling, short poems, mathematics test: Dear Jay Perhaps the writing assignments are not meaningful to her and seem boring or useless. What needs to happen is to tie in writing with things that ARE meaningful to her. Get her a journal or blank book and help her start a daily journal...just...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 year old daughter, current boyfriend, car races
current boyfriend, car races, 7 months: Hi Allison, Simply saying she wants to leave after a short visit could be a function of boredom. Even though there are toys, they are not her toys and its not her house. Kids like to be in places that are known to them. Further, she may be concerned that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 yr old and separation aniety, behavior, time
behavior, time, seperation anxiety: Hi Valerie, I thought I had answered this question but I don t see my answer. I m sorry it took me longer to get back to you. Time is a concept little children don t get. But I know that if you tell them a certain time, like; I will be back at 3:00 just...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 5 year old and starting kindergarten, guidance counselor, lunch room
guidance counselor, lunch room, truex: Hi Julie, This is a difficult situation for me to assess without actually see her. It could be that she s simply socially immature. That s not do say she isn t smart or doesn t have friends, but that she doesn t have the social skills for kindergarten. ...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 1/2 year old cries in sports, competitive child, cries easily
competitive child, cries easily, thomas the train: Hi Frustrated Mom, I can empathize with you! We want our children to be successful and feel happy, but there are things and times we just can t always control. Part of the issue is lack of skills and coordination in certain areas. Maybe playing games together...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old body part talk, huge erection, camp friend
huge erection, camp friend, autistic son: Hi Beverly, Its not unusual at this age for kids to be curious about their bodies and engage in playing doctor . However, it is important to teach him about respecting his and other people s bodies. The key is to not make a huge deal out of it. We don t...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old body part talk, everyday routines, self pleasuring
Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old body part talk, everyday routines, self pleasuring, virginity

Parenting K-6 Kids: How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan, hague agreement, loss of a mother
Parenting K-6 Kids: How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan, hague agreement, loss of a mother, work language

Parenting K-6 Kids: Separation anxiety, bedtime, disneyland
Parenting K-6 Kids: Separation anxiety, bedtime, disneyland, full time

Parenting K-6 Kids: sleep, sleep patterns, vulnerable time
Parenting K-6 Kids: sleep, sleep patterns, vulnerable time, symbolic action

Parenting K-6 Kids: Do you find this offence as, an American woman yes or no, men are pigs, attention seekers
men are pigs, attention seekers, negative attitude: There is a part of me that wonders if this question is for real. I m not going to go through each item here. What I am going to say is that BOTH partners need to love and respect each other. That doesn t mean they never say anything negative to each other,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my friend has a behavioral child, uncontrollable child, out of control
uncontrollable child, out of control, kicking: Hi Lindsey. It seems that your friend doesn t mind that kind of behavior. All children will do what they want if let to their own devices. What they are really saying is that I don t know what you really want me to do. Sheep by their nature don t want...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should a good mother meet all ten requirements listed below?, men are pigs, attention seekers
men are pigs, attention seekers, negative attitude: My advice - live in a cave! You surely cannot be serious in sending this kind of personal critique on women and expect a serious answer. My field of expertise is parenting issues in primary/elementary children - I can t imagine ANYONE associated with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: punishment, stay at home mom, tv time
stay at home mom, tv time, better solution: Hi Melissa, I don t really agree with the 4 days in the room, but that s because punishment works best when it fits the crime. Having her do the laundry...cleaning up the mess would have fit better. And its not about the length of time for a punishment, but...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How you react as a American mother if you see this child in Japan, japanese citizen, japanese fathers
japanese citizen, japanese fathers, japanese father: Hello Jonathan, I don t agree with that. While a child may grow up to be well-adjusted without ever knowing one parent, he ll likely have questions and be curious about it. Even adopted children who grow up in loving homes, often are curious about their birth...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Self-esteem, math strategies, math 2
math strategies, math 2, baseball field: Dear Patricia, Math is a little like reading - sometimes it takes a little while to click for some children. I can understand you being concerned about her labelling herself with a no good at math sign, but it doesn t have to be that way - she...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Separation anxiety, dad son, transitional objects
dad son, transitional objects, play buddy: Hi Richard, Four year olds can be over the top in their behavior. I have a couple of suggestions. One is to make sure he has a night time object from his mother s home that comes with him to your home. Does he sleep with a special blanket or toy? These transitional...

Parenting K-6 Kids: scared child, child counselor, mom tips
child counselor, mom tips, cant sleep: Hi Marc, Children can develop depression and anxiety. Unfortunately at this age, they don t have the skills to tell you where its coming from. And its difficult for them to manage them. Even adults get overwhelmed by their emotions. I m going to suggest that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: self discovery, gentle reminder, self discovery
gentle reminder, self discovery, reporting entity: This happens to all of us sooner or later... our kids become interested in their sexuality and some display it more than others. We had this problem with my daughter. I told her she could continue her interest, but only in the privacy of her own bedroom, because...

Parenting K-6 Kids: sleep, sleep on the floor, cry at night
sleep on the floor, cry at night, yell: Hi Tammy, First of all, he probably won t continue to come into your room forever. While he is a bit old for this behavior, he ll soon be a pre-teen and will likely be too grown up for this behavior. In the meantime, what he gets from coming into your room...

Parenting K-6 Kids: sleeping, sleeping with parent, not sleeping at night
sleeping with parent, not sleeping at night, child discipline: Hi Tammy, It is time for your 10 year old to sleep in his own room. It may be that habits have been formed over the years that need to be broken. If he wants to sleep somewhere else, let him choose a different room or on his own floor. But again, to reiterate...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 2nd grader back talking a teacher, back talk, teacher
back talk, teacher, second grade: Hi Kay, It sounds like something is bothering him. It could be that dad isn t home and he misses him. Are you sure he isn t being bullied or teased by someone at school? Maybe the pressure of school work has frustrated him. The Happy Face Token System...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 4 1/2 year old is aggressive with other children. How do i stop it?, frustration level, daycare
frustration level, daycare, school equivalent: Hi Ann Marie, Before he gets out of time out, do you ask him to tell you why he was put in time out and what he needs to do different next time. Discipline is about teaching so leaving that aspect out lessens the effectiveness. Your son has anger management...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 y/o discipline, short fuse, positive reinforcement
short fuse, positive reinforcement, behavior issues: Hi Dishanta, Sounds to me like your little one has a very short fuse!! I can relate, because one of my sons (now almost 20)was quite similar to your daughter at the same age. If your daughter is very black and white , as we used to say - meaning she...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old attention span, chronic ear infections, kindergarten class
chronic ear infections, kindergarten class, attention span: Dear Karen, I really really think you need to have her hearing checked, just in case this is part of the problem or the entire problem...Often children have chronic ear infections that do not actually HURT but are distracting, and they also interfere with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 y/o wetting the bed, mental health resources, guidance counselor
mental health resources, guidance counselor, divorce situation: Hi Dee, Although its likely the bedwetting is due to the stress of the situation, its always best to have a medical evaluation to make sure its not a medical issue. Second, its important to not shame a child who bedwets. With that said, you can expect him...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yr old in trouble at school, discipline structure, school yr
discipline structure, school yr, minor incidents: Hi, There are a couple of things to consider and look into here. First, 5 years old is often too young to start kindergarten. Many children are not socially ready for it which is why you see so many 6 year olds in kindergarten. Starting too early can often...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year-old daughter acting out, reward charts, math tests
reward charts, math tests, hearing difficulties: Dear Laura, Something is obviously troubling your daughter if her behaviour has taken a sudden turn for the worse. It may not be a bullying issue; it may not be a change in household or family dynamics; but it could just be about her. Is your daughter...

Parenting K-6 Kids: anxiety with school tests, built in consistency, making friends
built in consistency, making friends, shyness: Hi Sherri, Shyness is inherited. It is difficult to overcome but it can be done very successfully. From what you have shared, I am assuming that the test is an oral test. As one who dealt with that issue all my life, individual performance is the preferred...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Book Reading....., j k rowling, cam jansen
j k rowling, cam jansen, snack time: Dear Leela, In a world where reading is almost a forgotten art, with Facebook, MSN etc the fastest form of communication, it s great that your daughter enjoys spending her time enjoying the written word - you may well have a budding J.K. Rowling on your...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Explaining puberty to 6 year old?, bodies, private parts
bodies, private parts, temple: Hi Mary, The best way is always the straight forward way. Children will learn all the ficticious names and ideas from each other. It is always better to tell it in the age appropriate ways that the child can understand. Telling your child what has been...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 y/o discipline, short fuse, anger management
Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 y/o discipline, short fuse, anger management, jumping jacks

Parenting K-6 Kids: Nudist Nephews, trunks, cousin
Parenting K-6 Kids: Nudist Nephews, trunks, cousin, genitals

Parenting K-6 Kids: What am I to do??, cranky kids, sugar crash
Parenting K-6 Kids: What am I to do??, cranky kids, sugar crash, medical issue

Parenting K-6 Kids: KINDERGARGEN TROUBLE, kindergarten, tantrums
kindergarten, tantrums, learning: Hi Denise, Children like things that are familiar and consistent. School is neither. Having to adapt is difficult and uncertain. He may have some issues with anxiety or shyness, but that is normal for most people in a new situation. I was a desperate...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Kindergarten teacher brings paddle to classroom, physical discipline, kindergarten teacher
physical discipline, kindergarten teacher, corporal punishment: Hi Sandra, I can certainly understand your concern here, and more often than not it is the child who is LEAST likely to misbehave who is the one to be more concerend and frightened by an underlying threat of physical discipline. Let me just say that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Long distance dad, truex, reassurance
truex, reassurance, johanna: Hi Johanna, Some things are just hard and difficult to understand for a three year old. The best that can be done is to reassure her that dad and everyone loves her and let her grieve her loss. Because kids can come up with crazy thinking (he s leaving because...

Parenting K-6 Kids: mommy and daddy aren't here so I can do whatever I want., social maturity, mommy and daddy
social maturity, mommy and daddy, group sessions: Hi Robert, Kids with ADHD are ADHD all the time, not just at school. Most likely your son is young and impulsive. Five is actually pretty young to start school. Many children don t have the social maturity at that time. That doesn t mean they aren t intelligent,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should a mother allowed her child to have an invisibal permainat tattoo on her body, noterized, ultra violet light
noterized, ultra violet light, intense color: Hi, I believe the age is 18 and any younger will need a parent s permission. Because its a permanent thing, my opinion would be to not let a child have a tattoo any younger than 16. Even at that age, kids brains aren t fully developed to understand the full...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Nudist Nephews, nudist vacations, birthday suits
nudist vacations, birthday suits, nudist lifestyle: Hi Carolina, I am no real expert in this, however I know how important it is to maintain the family network if possible, and it certainly seems that your son has made a strong connection with his cousin - despite the obvious differences in family lifestyles....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Oldest child's behavior, temper tantrums, loving manner
temper tantrums, loving manner, time outs: Hi Cyndi, Your son needs help learning to cope with anger. Its okay to be angry, just not to express it the way he does. He may have learned it from you or he may just have a temperament that has a short fuse. Because its gotten a bit extreme (choking his...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Physically accelerated children, physical aptitude, riding bikes
physical aptitude, riding bikes, focus question: Hi Rochelle, I don t know the research in this area, but it would seem that children who s parents are involved in their activities will likely be good in those activities. With that said, physical development can be limited by a child s physical aptitude....

Parenting K-6 Kids: My question is if a man gets women pregnant in Belgium in one night stand, as a mother not a lawyer, parenting plan, italy greece
parenting plan, italy greece, welfare states: Hi, I don t know what s going on in Belgium that I get questions like this so much. Is this a school project? I can t answer the legal question regarding this issue. If you re asking about what s best for the child, the answer is that ideally children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Resentment, boys clothes, daugh
boys clothes, daugh, warning signs: Hi Amy, There are a couple of things going on. First of all 13-14 years old is a difficult age and can be made more difficult by a family change and moving. On the other hand, there seemed to be warning signs that your new husband s expectations of your daughter...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Separation Anxiety in Son, guidance counselor, separation anxiety
guidance counselor, separation anxiety, new routine: Hi Lori, Has he always been like this? Or is this a new behavior? Some ideas at school include getting the guidance counselor involved to provide some counseling or small group work that can help your son adjust to school. Does he have friends at school?...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My son and I play toys for hours almost every day of the week, discipline problem, casual interest
discipline problem, casual interest, adult protective services: Hi Martin, No worries. Its difficult to prevent a 13 year old to develop normally if everything in his life is going well. He sounds well-rounded with school, friends and activities. The fact that he wants to spend time with you still is great and I d take...

Parenting K-6 Kids: stealing, integrity, good works
integrity, good works, honesty: Hi Carol, This problem you speak of is a difficult issue and one hard to teach unless children see a reason to be honest. In society it is often more easy to be dishonest and if caught easier to just say sorry and move on. The statistics for cheating at...

Parenting K-6 Kids: What am I to do??, food allergy, diagnostic issues
food allergy, diagnostic issues, colourings: Dear Amanda, I can certainly understand your frustration! I am not in a position to question your discipline with your son - only you know what code you have in place in terms of action and consequence at home, and if you feel you have been consistent...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my younger daughter overwhelms my older daughter, physical intimidation, genetic syndrome
physical intimidation, genetic syndrome, daugthers: Hi Annie, You have GOT to take control of this. The message your oldest daughter is getting is that she s not respected or valued. Kids like that often don t stick up for themselves. Whats the point? She s the odd one in the mix and she knows it. You can...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 10 year old boy that hits, angry outbursts, hour tv
angry outbursts, hour tv, step sister: Hi Michelle, This is a tough one! I am not sure what steps you have taken to overcome your son s hitting behaviour, but I am assuming you have tried a number of strategies and so far nothing much has changed? I also gather you have tried talking to him...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 year old out of control, small food, favourite book
small food, favourite book, inconsistency: Hi Gabi, I think you have already identified a really important issue that has created a huge difficulty for you - inconsistency. The only way to help a child modify his or her behaviour is by setting limits and enforcing them consistently. Without consistency...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 yr old accidents, full time job, step mom
full time job, step mom, emotional skills: Hi Heather, Do these accidents happen just at your house or at both parents homes? First of all, take her to a doctor and make sure there is nothing medically wrong with her. Second, make sure she s not shamed for the behavior. It is annoying and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 Year Old Daughter - Behavior Issues, separation anxiety, behavior issues
separation anxiety, behavior issues, social interactions: Hi Ray, Anxiety can show up in a variety of ways. Frequently it manifests in ways that don t make sense. For example, she may not really be worried about the bathroom, but since she can t articulate the issue, that s how it shows up. Five is also a common...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 Year old behavior problem, james windell, impulsive children
james windell, impulsive children, reward work: Hi Lasasha, Praise and rewards or gold stars that can be turned in after so many are earned for a reward work best. It would be wisest to make an appt. with the teacher and both of you plan the expectations you want and decide the rewards so you can reinforce...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old in SK and attention span/listening skills, selective hearing, attention span
selective hearing, attention span, five year olds: Hi Wendy, Teachers are usually pretty good at knowing when a child is distracted and the idea that she wondered if his hearing was checked would cause me to suggest that you have his hearing checked. At least then you d know if its a hearing issue or something...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old in SK and attention span/listening skills, attention span, long sentence
attention span, long sentence, listening skills: Dear Wendy I am in the US in Mich. I have no idea what SK is, but it probably is not relevant. I would definitely have his hearing checked asap. First reason, why not? It s a good idea and may even tell you that he has no hearing loss...so you will know...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 6 year old, separation anxiety, school situation
separation anxiety, school situation, teache: Hi Fizna, This is actually a problem that I had with my children. It sounds like you have two situations going on: shyness and a bit of separation anxiety as well. This is something that can be worked on and that he will be able to get over, but only with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6year old kid threatened to kill a class mate with a "real" gun, class mate, big trouble
class mate, big trouble, teenage years: Does he have access to a real gun? Sometimes I m going to kill you means I m mad at you! Find out what he really meant. Tell him that threats like this can get him in real big trouble at school and he could get punished. Help him understand he is angry...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6year old kid threatened to kill a class mate with a "real" gun, class mate, safe way
class mate, safe way, teenage years: Hi Kurt, Using words to defend yourself is good - he s not using words to defend himself, however, he s actually being threatening, even if he doesn t have a real gun. Our son was having issues with some kids at school who were taking charge over him....

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6year old kid threatened to kill a class mate with a "real" gun, expressing anger, class mate
expressing anger, class mate, ups and downs: Hi Kurt, Does your son have access to a real gun? While exaggeration isn t uncommon at this age, threats like this need to be taken seriously. In fact, schools now do take them seriously even in young children. Like everything in life, your job is to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yr Old Girl, abuse, neglect
abuse, neglect, selfish: Hi Tydus, Kudos to you for recognizing your past experiences can influence your present and being conscientious enough not to pass those bad things on to another generation. Many people never connect the two. Even so, it is mighty tough to learn new ways...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7yr old daughter with divorced parents, parenting styles, strained relationship
parenting styles, strained relationship, step parents: Hi Aprile, Your daughter does need to learn how to control her anger and frustration. From your side of the story it also sounds as if dad isn t as present even on visits and this along with tension in the relationship can cause problems in children. Children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 9 year old son.. I Need Help Please, learning disability, babytalk
learning disability, babytalk, fourth grade: Hi Maria, It s never easy dealing with situations like this. On one hand it breaks your heart because you want your child to be able to excel in school and to have friends, but on the other hand it can be extremely frustrating. First let me ask you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: angry 6 year old, rebellious teenager, building self esteem
rebellious teenager, building self esteem, drop of a dime: Hi Cathy, Children are born with temperaments that effect how they interact with the world. Some temperaments are more difficult than others. You can t really change it, but you can work with it. While providing focused positive time with children is important...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Connecting with 14 year old son, football baseball basketball, emotional man
football baseball basketball, emotional man, new camera: Hi Doug, The good news is that its not too late and you can fix this issue. I commend you for realizing your error and wanting to learn about your son. The thing is, you want to get involved ASAP as he s getting to an age in which kids spend less time with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: out of control short temperd 6 year old boy, horse gentler, unruly child
horse gentler, unruly child, disrespectful: Hi Laurie, I can feel the urgency with which you write. I felt much the same way as a young mother. Have you had him tested for Autism? It sounds like he may also have some attention deficit issues. It might just simply be that he has learned how to take...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Connecting with 14 year old son, drawings, paintings
Parenting K-6 Kids: Connecting with 14 year old son, drawings, paintings, parents

Parenting K-6 Kids: my four year old refuses to obey, bedtime blues, jim fay
Parenting K-6 Kids: my four year old refuses to obey, bedtime blues, jim fay, negative attention

Parenting K-6 Kids: my four year old refuses to obey, blatant defiance, morning tv
blatant defiance, morning tv, spanker: Hi Jenny, I m going to get back to you tomorrow morning - I have a friend who has a child who is very similar - the old soul , as you called it, and who may have some ideas that can help. I know how frustrating it can be to have a child who is so unique,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: moving right away, friends names, medical records
friends names, medical records, new location: Dear amy YES it is VERY important to go to the school and to the principal s office (call first) and explain the move and the new address and also the address of the NEW school if you have it now. If they will give you the child s records you can take them...

Parenting K-6 Kids: I need guidance.., emotional blackmail, emotional language
emotional blackmail, emotional language, pulling strings: Dear Susan, Your niece is certainly manipulative isn t she? I am no psychologist, but she is certainly pulling strings to gain attention - what the reason is behind that I am not sure. She is using emotional blackmail by making comments like You don t...

Parenting K-6 Kids: I need guidance.., defiant, strong willed
defiant, strong willed, hard headed: Hi Susan, Your niece is crying out for someone to take control. She may not know it, but she really wants someone to be in charge. And since no one is, she is taking control the only way she knows how. Trying to be friends with our children would be wonderful...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Question about the Rewards?, happy face tokens, rewards
happy face tokens, rewards, activities: Hi Christina, Children find a way around these things don t they? In the beginning you may not know how to price certain things because you don t know how often they are going to want to cash in on them. You may want to add on the weekend to sleep...

Parenting K-6 Kids: regarding my 9 yr old son, night mares, child counselor
night mares, child counselor, violent cartoons: Hi Sheela, If his games have violence in them, I d avoid letting him play them. Wii games like Wii sports is okay. You may try a light that isn t so bright like a nightlight (little bulb that plugs in a light socket) instead of a lamp. Or leave a light on...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Selectivily "forgetting"...., lying child, disobedient
lying child, disobedient, depression: Hi Tina, I understand your frustration with that statement. The problem is it doesn t just stop at 7. Unless it is addressed, your daughter will find it really works and will continue to use it. Even though she is only 7, she understands what rules are...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Trading Items in School, gumball machine, class mate
gumball machine, class mate, fair exchange: Dear C , This is a fairly common practice at school - and starts right from kindergarten. If it becomes an issue in the school, and parents or children raise issues about fairness vs unfairness of the trade or a persuasive trade, schools will often...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My ten year old, child counselor, child psychologist
child counselor, child psychologist, gain insights: Hi Nancy, You always want to take these kinds of threats seriously. Even if its just an outburst, its a serious one indicating something is very wrong. I would recommend taking him to a child counselor who ll be better able to assess the situation and help...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Is this how a wife and a husband should be, yes or no, class women, truex
class women, truex, women and men: Hello, I don t understand all these questions I get from you about husbands/fathers and wives/mothers from various countries. Is this for a class? Women and men should have marriages in which both feel safe, loved and respected. Traditional roles can be...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old impatient in classroom, frequent feedback, play school
frequent feedback, play school, class teacher: Hi Hailey, Some kids are not socially mature in kindergarten, although at six years old, he should have enough skill to sit quietly. But talking to kids about behavior is ineffective. They want to behave and they can recite how they are supposed to behave....

Parenting K-6 Kids: about my 6yrs old son, volume quantities, number puzzles
volume quantities, number puzzles, breakfast cereal: Hi Debjani, All children develop and mature at different rates and for many young children, formal learning is hard for them.I would not be too concerned that he doesn t seem interested in school learning - he WILL get there! In the meantime, what...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Why is it appropriate for Melissa Gilbert to lie on top of, physical affection, little house on the prairie
physical affection, little house on the prairie, melissa gilbert: Hello, I m not certain it was appropriate, but that would have been in the 1970 s in which child sexual abuse wasn t talked about very much. At that time teachers could hug their students too. Today we re very sensitive to the touching of children....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Behavior, boring spot, homework time
boring spot, homework time, single mom: Hi Jazlyn, Is this new behavior or has she always been like this? New behavior suggests that something has happened to impact it. If she s always been like this, then its become more of a habit. There are a couple of things you can do. First, make sure...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Behavior, franklin planner, covey
franklin planner, covey, tantrums: Hi Jatana, It sounds like you are experiencing what I call The combat zone! It is very frustrating when you try all you know to make your little one happy and it seems to backfire in the way you speak of. I didn t understand why that happened until I...

Parenting K-6 Kids: bossy 6 year old, homework time, low self esteem
homework time, low self esteem, boosting self esteem: Hi Cynthia, While bossiness is fairly common in children, by school age they begin to recognize that they aren t the center of the world. Continued bossiness that impacts the ability to make and keep friends is likely due to low self-esteem. Boosting...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Why is this the case?, many different cultures, michelle obama
many different cultures, michelle obama, greek parents: Hello, I think you re generalizing too much about the differences between women. I don t think you ve met enough American women as many are independent and have lives outside of relationships, choose a healthy lifestyle and have sex before marriage (even...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Discipline children, discipline children, gold star
discipline children, gold star, chores: Hello Connie, First of all, kids being kids doesn t mean they don t do chores. Often dads with visitation allow this because they don t want what little time they have with the kids to be marred by angst. However, setting firm boundaries and enforcing them...

Parenting K-6 Kids: If you were to go to Europe, truex, obama
truex, obama, entourage: Hello, I m curious about all these questions regarding Americans and Europeans. Is this part of a school project? Are you asking if I personally would stand out or if Americans in general would stand out? I m not sure the Obamas wouldn t stick out....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should a mother ever regret bring in her daughter in the world yes or no?, son jesus christ, world answer
son jesus christ, world answer, conflict of law: I would feel devastated! However, as a Christian I would have to have faith that God has a plan and is able to comfort and provide healing through the atonement of His son Jesus Christ. Pray for your daughter and that someday you will be able to be together....

Parenting K-6 Kids: parenting 6 years old boy, volume quantities, number puzzles
volume quantities, number puzzles, breakfast cereal: Hi Rania, Your son is almost six, but he may not be ready to focus too heavily on formal learning yet! All children develop and mature at different rates and for many young children, formal learning is hard for them.I would not be too concerned that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: social behavior in 6 year old boy, bullying, hitting
bullying, hitting, school: Hi Karen, The difference is emotional maturity in the youngest child. In American schools, some people would call that bullying. Many children have been taught what that is, but maybe it s time to teach this to your son. If you see a teaching experience...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Do you think that this is true?, rocky relationship, lifetime commitment
rocky relationship, lifetime commitment, culture difference: Hello, As I mentioned in a previous comment to this question, I don t believe we can stereotype all women by their country of origin. But I m certain there are cultural differences between American and European women as their societies and traditions are...

Parenting K-6 Kids: violent outburst from 6 year old., violent outburst, causal event
violent outburst, causal event, step mom: Hi Teresa, A child s behavior doesn t make a drastic change without a causal event. It could be that she s feelings vulnerable and anxious about dad s new marriage. Or it could something else, even something more serious. At six years old she probably...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 year old misbehaving and tattling on himself, honesty, integrity
honesty, integrity, watching TV: Hi Donna, As a Christian mother, I would say Kudo s to his parent s for teaching honesty and integrity. It sounds to me like this child has a good sense of these things and it is important to help him feel good about his sense of right. It is something...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old boy getting into trouble, five year olds, joint custody
five year olds, joint custody, fellow students: Hi Jaclyn, Very few people, much less children, know why they do the things they do. At his age he s impulsive and hasn t yet developed the skill to think before he acts. You haven t indicated whether this is new behavior or if there were any significant...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 yr old son major behavioral change, guidance counselor, quiet kid
guidance counselor, quiet kid, truex: Hi Kristal, Children are unable to understand and therefore communicate their feelings. As a result, they come out in their behavior. Something, likely the move and living situation, has created feelings of anxiety or anger that your son is displaying at...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 9yo doesn't have many friends, friendship club, group counseling
friendship club, group counseling, single mom: Hi Mary, While I can understand your concern about stigma , having been a guidance counselor and run Friendship Groups , I can tell you that it s not something that labels your child. Instead, it would have been an opportunity for your daughter to connect...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should an American mother complain that her US born, italian passport, american passport
italian passport, american passport, italian father: Hi Jonathon, You have contacted me several times over the past year, but your questions are not so much questions as comments on your personal situation. The issues you raise are NOT ones you would raise in this kind of forum - because they simply cannot...

Parenting K-6 Kids: body parts, robie harris, amazon
robie harris, amazon, saltz: Hi Martina, Sometimes we re not ready for the talk - our kids spring it on us with very little notice! Children develop at different rates and their curiosity levels differ as well, but at some point all kids want to know more about themselves and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: clingy behavior, maternal grandmother, absolute center
maternal grandmother, absolute center, center of attention: Hello Jennifer, You didn t indicate how old Hannah is now, but it seems fairly obvious the reasons why she needs attention. But it s more than attention, she needs lots of love and reassurance. While you probably do spend time with her, I m going to suggest...

Parenting K-6 Kids: I think my little girl is a sociopath., mind foundation, psychopathy
Parenting K-6 Kids: I think my little girl is a sociopath., mind foundation, psychopathy, instincts

Parenting K-6 Kids: Why would a little girl be willing to live with her daddy, solicitor, little girl
solicitor, little girl, commentaries: Jonathon, This is the last time I will repsond to anything you send me - the four questions you have sent me this morning will remain unanswered. Each time you contact me with a question, they are nearly identical in nature - and totally unanswerable!...

Parenting K-6 Kids: parent using 6 yr old as messenger for anger, grandchild, grandparent
grandchild, grandparent, divorce: Hi Susan, You are in a very difficult position. As the grandparent, trying to stay neutral is your role and helping your grandchild see the world in a way that he can feel success in his world is something you can do that will make a huge impact on him....

Parenting K-6 Kids: stealing, aproach, first test
aproach, first test, close friends: Hi Alicia, Firstly, you should be very proud of yourself for admitting that you have done something wrong, but even more proud because you want to stop the behaviour and are asking for help! There s obviously a reason behind your stealing behaviour...

Parenting K-6 Kids: I think my little girl is a sociopath., sweet baby girl, fish tank
sweet baby girl, fish tank, taking a nap: Hi Jai, I can t diagnose your child through this forum, but hurting animals and the things you ve described are disturbing. I would definitely take her to someone who specializes in working with children. In fact, I suggest a child psychiatrist because they...

Parenting K-6 Kids: whats appropriate?, child experts, play doctor
child experts, play doctor, private parts: Hi Yanet, Five years old is about the age most child experts suggest that children stop sharing baths, rooms, etc with opposite sex siblings. Its not so much a matter of appropriateness in terms of sexuality, but at around five is when body curiosity really...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yr old boy with "sudden" yr 1 anxiety, long term vision, future school
long term vision, future school, year 1: Hi Sharon, It is unusual that your 6 year old is expressing concerns such as falling behind and struggling with Year 1, and that he is worried that Year 1 will be too hard! This kind of concern seems to stem from something he has picked up from an adult...

Parenting K-6 Kids: BAD behavior, definant child, hitting others
definant child, hitting others, teachers mad: Hi Eman, I m sure you feel at your wit s end to help your son. Obviously he is feeling a need for attention. Have you had his eyes, and ears checked to make sure vision and hearing isn t an issue with him? Have you considered getting him checked for A.D.D....

Parenting K-6 Kids: children's protection, dear angie, independent thinkers
dear angie, independent thinkers, canterbury university: Dear Shu Chun, To answer your first question - have children been over-protected in recent years? In general terms, children are far more protected than in past generations because the world has changed so much, and is not nearly as simple and caring as...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My daughter is collecting used plastic silverware., tally charts, lunch tray
tally charts, lunch tray, hi amy: Hi Amy, Collecting plastic silverware is unusual, but I can t say based on the information I have so far how much this is just an odd hobby or a sign of something more serious. How long has she been collecting the silverware? When and why did it start (what...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Lying and Hiding, lying, stealing
lying, stealing, teaching moral values: Hi Sheena, It sounds like you have good, smart, and polite children for the most part. How fortunate you are. Sometimes children experience things that they see other s do and even better, get away with. Sometimes cartoons, sitcoms etc show these things...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Need advice about my 4 year old boy, rules go out the window, waiting his turn
rules go out the window, waiting his turn, four year olds: Hello John, Children aren t that much different from adults. They need to be sufficiently motivated to do something, and will put off today what can be done tomorrow. The treasure box rewards aren t enough to motivate him. It might help to ask what would...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Strangely Suddenly Clingy, child counselor, guidance counselor
child counselor, guidance counselor, hugs and kisses: Hi Dan, I m not sure I completely understand the issue at school, but I can tell you that 1) it s not uncommon for kids to get clingy at that age, but 2) usually a child s behavior doesn t change on a whim. The fact that she started the kindergarten year...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old girl behavoir, good little girl, pull ups
good little girl, pull ups, heart to heart: Hi Twila, Enuresis (wetting) and encopresis (pooping) are not that uncommon in children, but its usually a sign of something not working. Punishing her isn t going to fix it by itself. You can require her to clean up, but don t shame her. First you need...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yr old son lacks reading confidence, practice patience, string of words
practice patience, string of words, word meanings: Hi Dale, Its not unusual for kids to struggle with reading confidence. Practice, patience and support are the key. You can t change behavior with one little chat. Instead you need to show him through your patience and support that all you want him to do...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old with a short term memory, short term memory, school psychologist
short term memory, school psychologist, memory issue: Hi Shannon, You re subject is about short term memory but your question is about attention span. If your child is able to do the work taught in class, then he probably doesn t have memory issue. He also shouldn t be held back if he s able to do the work....

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 7yr old boy is acting out of character, reward charts, time children
reward charts, time children, good behaviour: Hi Claire, Before I even got to the part where you explained that you d spoken with the teacher, I had the feeling that the problem was coming from the school. Most of the time children s behaviors change when they are having issues with kids at school....

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 yr. old boy, not following simple directions, not following direction, family responsibilities
not following direction, family responsibilities, chores: Hi Cathy, The issue you describe is where my combat zone began. Children learn selective hearing and understand how to interpret only the parts they like to do. What you are having your son do, repeat each command is exactly what you should do. It is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9yr boy, self esteem confidence, lacking confidence
self esteem confidence, lacking confidence, teacher notices: Hi Tammie, Sometimes children who are intellectually ahead of their peers have a hard time connecting socially with them. There are a couple of things you might try. First, is he involved in any fun recreational activities with his peers? This could be sports,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: advice needed regarding 4 year old girl, marriage play, girly girls
marriage play, girly girls, children test: Hi Kim, Young children don t get the varying magnitudes of bad words, but they do know that calling someone stupid is mean and hurtful. Add the n word to that list letting her know that its one of the worst words she could use. Let her know she s not...

Parenting K-6 Kids: anxious six year old, child counselor, cause anxiety
child counselor, cause anxiety, kindergarten teacher: Hi Ruth, Children s behavior doesn t change drastically without a cause. Anxiety can be a sign that something has occurred to make her feel unsure about the world. It could be something she saw or heard. It could be your going back to work. She may not be...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Different Parenting Styles, parenting styles, casual clothes
parenting styles, casual clothes, lunch time: Hi Cathy, Welcome to the nuclear family! There are so many divorces in today s society that there are many couples who find each other and bring with them baggage, often in the form of children. One thing I noticed in the email you wrote to me was that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my daughter, preschool teacher, follow ups
preschool teacher, follow ups, two thoughts: Hi Jenny, I did speak with my friend - she s also a teacher. We spoke about the situation and both of us have agreed that you may want to have your daughter checked for a speech or language processing disorder. There may be a possibility that your daughter...

Parenting K-6 Kids: diciplining a child, bad habbit, playing video games
bad habbit, playing video games, wet bed: Hi Lady-Q, You re in a difficult situation because you are not a parent, but rather like a step-parent. There are a number of things that could make the situation tricky, but let s help you guys to get a handle on the bedroom issue. First of all, at...

Parenting K-6 Kids: gifted 3 year old issues, behavioral psychologist, self discipline
behavioral psychologist, self discipline, emotional skills: Dear Maria, If the strategies you use at home work, it seems you really need to ask the teacher straight out if she will try some of them before you consider getting an evanluation by a professional. Most of the time, praise for Good behavior works FAR...

Parenting K-6 Kids: help!, disobedient, willful
disobedient, willful, war zone: Hi Joe, Children definitely test our long suffering don t they? Have you ruled out things like vision and hearing issues? How does he react after he eats things like candy, starches and Cheetos? Does he get hyper and disruptive right after eating? Is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: inappropriate touching, step siblings, welfare officer
step siblings, welfare officer, kindergarten teacher: Dear Candace, This a very difficult one to work through and is really outside my area of expertise. Having said that, I have a few sugestions. I guess there are two extreme scenarios here - one is the possibility that the child is experiencing some kind...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Keeping the Purity in Children, talking about sex with children, siblings
talking about sex with children, siblings, blended family: Hi Claire, While I am not an expert in bringing children to the family, I am an expert once they get here! This question is outside of my expertise,but I will give you some ideas. First of all, the answer to your first question is yes. You and your husband...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Kindergarten Anxiety, computer station, own pace
computer station, own pace, home environment: Dear MM, Actually no, I have never seen anxiety to this extent in a six year old, You and the teacher, however, are, in my opinion, doing all the right things. Keep it up and be sure to praise him a lot whenever he seems to be less anxious and more relaxed,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: losing patience with my 15 year old daughter, pms, pmdd
pms, pmdd, premenstrual cycles: Hi Teri, At the age of 15 the world is opening a whole new frontier. She is transforming right before your very eyes. Get a picture of her when she was 10 and look at the difference in appearance. She is morphing from a little girl to a woman so quickly...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should a mother complain yes or no?, dna test, paternity suit
dna test, paternity suit, paternity tests: Hello, First I m curious as to why you have so many questions related to fathers and their rights or roles and visitation? Second, while a non-biological father may pay child support, he s only the presumed father if the birth mother admits to having...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Normal?, guidance counselor, twin beds
guidance counselor, twin beds, six year olds: Hi Lucy, First of all, your teenager masturbating is normal. I would try to get him more involved in family activities, as it sounds like he s isolating quite a bit, but masturbation, as long as it s not affecting his life in an adverse way, he s being...

Parenting K-6 Kids: parents too involved in children's squabbles, jungle gym, church time
jungle gym, church time, five year olds: Hello, I m sorry it s taken me a bit to respond! As for the child who is not acting nice around your child, I would take two different approaches. First you spoke with the grandfather, which is good, but I d try to speak with the parents. Give them a...

Parenting K-6 Kids: separation anxiety for a six year old, separation anxiety, consistent schedule
separation anxiety, consistent schedule, loving environment: Hi Megan, What does your daughter tell you about going to bed? Does she have nightmares? Has she always had a difficult time going to bed or is it new (since split with dad?)? It sounds like you have good routine down until she s required to be alone....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Talkative Kindergartener, social maturity, personal spot
social maturity, personal spot, bright kid: Hi Saima, What sort of consequence does he have at school besides being moved? Children especially young children need to have consequences right away in order for them to work best. While you want to support and reinforce what happens at school, if his only...

Parenting K-6 Kids: thank you, last ditch, care taker
last ditch, care taker, process of elimination: Jenny - I m sorry I ve taken so long to respond to you, even though it seemed like you didn t want me to respond to you. But I do want to clarify a few things. I never once have questioned your perception. I know that parents know their child better than...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 10 year old son's behavior, bad seeds, responsible adults
bad seeds, responsible adults, wii: Hi Sara, I m glad that you emailed me about your son - thank you! I d say from what you ve written that your son is on the verge of becoming something that no parent wants their child to become - a bully. One misunderstanding that most people have is that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 11 Year old son is very angry, mental illnesses, angry today
mental illnesses, angry today, church kids: Hi Jane, Don t give up on getting help from others. They can be a great source of support and help. You just have to remember that you and your son need to not only accept the help, but do the work necessary so that the help works. It sounds like you re taking...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my almost 5 year old grandson, anger control, head over heals
anger control, head over heals, little girls: Hi Diane, Five year olds don t know about sex intuitively...unless they ve learned it from somewhere. However, 5 and 6 year olds are curious about their bodies. But seeing other parts isn t about sex its about being curious as to differences. Nevertheless,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old doesn't want to grow up, home mom, transition period
home mom, transition period, great books: Hi Margaret, Why would you want to mention growing up to your grandson? Sometimes we try to push our children (or grandchildren) too fast to grow up. You say that he s happy, and that he loves school. Those are two very important things and should be what...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 yr old kid behaviour problem, behaviour problem, art expert
behaviour problem, art expert, baby brother: Hello, Archana: I am not a childcare specialist, I am an art expert. I know about art, but not as much about children s behavior. But I will give you my advice. Here s what I would do as a parent: First: Go to your child s pediatrician and have a talk....

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yr old behavior in school and home, anger and aggression, truex
anger and aggression, truex, msw: Hi Rita, First, spanking isn t the best way to respond to a child who is acting aggressive. Second, what would the school do if you didn t work on campus? Whatever it is, that s how it should respond instead of bringing her to you. For one reason, it isn...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old, strong willed child, cranky
strong willed child, cranky, temper tantrum: Hi Dympna, I can understand how you must feel. I had a daughter that demanded my time the same way. It seems some children just come packaged this way and we have to figure a way to combat their behavior. She may be feeling a lack of attention and that,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 7 year old son is competitive and has to have everything "his way", soccer trophies, low self esteem
soccer trophies, low self esteem, poor sport: Hi Karen, I think boosting his self-esteem would help. The best way I know how to do that is play with him one on one. Sounds easy I know, but this focused time will make him feel important. Focus time is done every day for 15-20 minutes. He gets to choose...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 year olds controlling behaviour, compulsive obsessive behavior, controlling behaviour
compulsive obsessive behavior, controlling behaviour, child psychologist: Dear Lorraine, I composed a reply and the darn thing/the pc went off and I lost it. I will try to remember what I said. Sorry I did not address the friends issue before; here goes. You may already know your child very well, but if not observe and talk...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Accidents at age 5, painful bowel movements, regression problem
painful bowel movements, regression problem, dirty underwear: Hi Linda, It can be very frustrating to deal with a child who has a potty training regression problem. There could be a number of reasons why he is having these regressions. For instance, he may have had some painful bowel movements. These could make him...

Parenting K-6 Kids: behavior, guidance counselor, attitude change
guidance counselor, attitude change, hi amy: Hi Amy, Whenever a child has a severe attitude change, it s likely that something happened that caused the change. Has anything changed in your home or at school for him? Has he had a big falling out with a friend? I m someone who is all for discipline,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: would you make a big deal about that this, yes or no, spelling systems, american spelling
spelling systems, american spelling, piece of paper: As a teacher in Australia, I would correct a word which has been written in American spelling - for example, I would not accept aluminum for aluminium , or color for colour . I wouldn t make a big deal out of it, just remind the student about the different...

Parenting K-6 Kids: daughter not focusing, nintendo, lazy
nintendo, lazy, wont listen: Hi Elsa, What you describe is very common especially if she is an only child. This is her way of playing and imagining. She acts out what she is learning from outside sources and pretends. Does she have dress up s to play with? Princess, mom s old dress...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Grandchildren, yelling, screaming
yelling, screaming, bossy: Hi Terri, Grandparenting is a pleasure isn t it. We ve been there, done that and can enjoy the fruit of our labors! I understand your frustration however. Watching our children raise theirs is a hard thing to do. I am assuming you live close enough to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Have you heard of these temperature scales, secondary science teachers, temperature scales
secondary science teachers, temperature scales, celsius and fahrenheit: I teach primary (elementary) school so I don t imagine any teachers at this level would have the need to use these forms of temperature measurement - I can t speak for secondary Science teachers, but my understanding is that Celsius and Fahrenheit are the...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Imaginary friends at age 11, family counselor, creative child
family counselor, creative child, blank book: Dear Chad, Before you start to worry too much, think about how smart she is and how creative or imaginative. This imaginary friends thing usually happens to 3-5 year olds, sometimes lasting to age 8. Even so, instead of worrying, try to channel this into...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Insecure 5 yr old, getting a divorce, behavior change
getting a divorce, behavior change, reassurance: Hi Angela, There are a number of things that could be going on. My first instinct would be to ask if one of your son s friends has parents who are getting a divorce. Generally, when children have friends whose parents are getting a divorce, they suddenly...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Am I too involved, time conversation, schoolbus
time conversation, schoolbus, third child: Hello Tara, One of the hard parts to being a parent is knowing when to intervene and when to let our kids learn to manage the world themselves. What does your daughter say? It seems clear that you ve presented the solution, move or deal with it. Now its her...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Private school vs. Charter, VPK, charter school
VPK, charter school, risk free guarantee: Hi Shannon, It sounds like you are having some difficult times right now. I suggest that if you have prayed about where you enroll your child then all will work. That your child is being taught by you at home about God is better than most. Home is generally...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Six year old with an attitude., grandparents, working mother
grandparents, working mother, disrespectful: I m sorry for your frustration in this matter. I do understand how you can feel that way. Children seem to know just what buttons to push and it looks like home is the place for that. It seems that your daughter has been able to have her way for too long...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Six yo granddaughter, step sister, s books
step sister, s books, playing a game: Dear Anne You are right to be concerned. The boy was there, possibly as an audience, but do not discount the very real possibility that he may have encouraged this, OR possibly already experienced this experimenting with his twin. Perhaps they wanted...

Parenting K-6 Kids: sandboxes, sand tables, free sand
sand tables, free sand, silica: Hi Rhiannon, This is a difficult question because there are many takes on this. Some people say that all sand is safe - that they played in it as children and therefore that makes it safe. Others say that it s not, and that you should get sterilized sand...

Parenting K-6 Kids: I have a six and a half year old boy who seems to have a hard time controlling emotions., loser loser, controlling emotions
loser loser, controlling emotions, sore loser: Hi Rhonda, I am so, so sorry that I did not get the chance to answer this earlier! The email to me must have gotten lost somewhere as I just received notice. It can be difficult to deal with a child who is a sore loser and who seems to want to have...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My six year old daughter, urine tests, doctor visit
urine tests, doctor visit, two girls: Hi Angela, Its not surprising that your daughter is having anxiety. Her parents are separated, she s in a new home and school, and you ve twice been hospitalized. My guess is that your illness is the biggest issue. At any moment you can be sick again. Or...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My six year old son - Suddenly clingy, homework time, cuddler
homework time, cuddler, home stay: Hi Shannon, A change in a child s behavior is an indication that something is going on. Children don t have the skills to understand their feelings or express them, so it often comes out in behavior. While I can t say for sure, it wouldn t be unreasonable...

Parenting K-6 Kids: son started kindy with a problem, bad influence, trouble maker
bad influence, trouble maker, follower: Hi Lilian, Isn t school fun? One day your child listens to you and only you, and the next they are listening to their friends more than they re listening to you! There are a few things that you can do. First, invite the friend and his parents over! This...

Parenting K-6 Kids: son started kindy with a problem, sensible decision, bad influence
sensible decision, bad influence, trouble maker: Hi Lilian, Your son is only 5 and he is not mature enough yet to make good choices in friends - don t feel you are overstepping the boundary by guiding him towards a sensible decision to move away from this new friend - as a parent you NEED to be switched...

Parenting K-6 Kids: son started kindy with a problem, bad influence, trouble maker
bad influence, trouble maker, truex: Hi Lilian, Although its nice to let children keep their friends, if your son is unable to behave around him, the consequence is that he can t be around that child. Children need consequences for their behavior so if he acts out he should be disciplined...

Parenting K-6 Kids: son started kindy with a problem, disrepect, trouble maker
disrepect, trouble maker, friends: Hi Lilian, Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. The world is full of things our children have to be aware of. Teaching children how to make good decisions is one of the first priorities when school starts. They have to learn to do homework first,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: son started kindy with a problem, teacher need, naughty boy
teacher need, naughty boy, bad influence: Dear Lil, At least the teacher does understand... So take this one step further and ask the teacher what child or children would be a good match as a friend of your son. Then get the teacher to help with a phone number so you can invite that child and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: no subject, daughter brooke, anger frustration
daughter brooke, anger frustration, truex: Hi Heather, Teenagers can be difficult. And when you consider the difficulty of having an ailing mother and having to move, you can understand why he may have problems. Kids (even teens) don t always understand their feelings or have the ability to express...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Transition goals elementary to middle school, resource room teacher, least restrictive environment
resource room teacher, least restrictive environment, dear angie: Hi Lisa, I am not an expert in this area, as special needs students assessments, requirements and individualised education programs are run by specialist teachers, trained in this area. As a mainstream classroom teacher in Australia, we usually identify...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How to teach 9yrs old kid, kid question, educational games
kid question, educational games, test paper: Hello, Again, this is something really his parents and the school need to be on top of. But since you have him for the summer, its great that you re willing to help. But he s going to be resistant to anything that appears that you are trying to teach him....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Unruly 5 yr. old, holy terror, child therapist
holy terror, child therapist, parenting tips: Hi Michelle, I would suggest seeking out a therapist for your child. A therapist will be able to figure out why your daughter seems to have so much anger and why she is being so defiant. It sounds like you have tried a number of things, including all of...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Worried six year old, tummy ache, separation anxiety
tummy ache, separation anxiety, unusual behavior: Hi Alexandra, This is not unusual behavior and could be separation anxiety. While it won t go away with a single intervention, you can help settle her. Kids with anxiety need lots of reassurance and support. And they need to be prepared for changes. If someone...

Parenting K-6 Kids: what do i do, positive reinforcement, younger siblings
positive reinforcement, younger siblings, great tools: Hi Nicole, Dealing with a child who is not listening can be a handful. You ve tried some great tools, but there are a few more things you may want to try to help you to get a handle on his disbehaving. And you re right - if you do not get a hold of it now...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old son jealous of his mother with father, duty navy, granparents
duty navy, granparents, nice dream: Oh Johanna, this is so hard for you when you are not here near the family..I am sorry. See if you can do that live video thing where you can talk with them all on the computer and they can see you...that might reassure them best. But maybe your parents and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 5 yr old son, kyla, stares
kyla, stares, randi: Hi Kyla, I m sorry it s taken so long to respond! You know how life interrupts sometimes! Do you mean that he doesn t answer you when you ask him a question? One way to combat this is to do the same to him. When he next asks you a question, do the same...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 6 year old, disrespect, rude
disrespect, rude, bad behavior: Hi Heather, It sounds like you are in the combat zone I found myself in about the same time in my life! I realized that the more I did for my children the more selfish and unruly they became. That didn t make sense to me, but I came to understand that they...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old emotional issues, little boy dear, wits end
little boy dear, wits end, grand parents: Dear Richard, My heart goes out to you and your child...This has been a very hard time for you and your son. I know, since I am dealing with the loss of my best friend and husband of nearly 50 years. By the time they found the lung cancer it was stage four...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old social skills, recreational soccer, play times
recreational soccer, play times, kid activities: Hi Stephanie, Reminding him to be a good friend may not work, because he may not know how to equate that with his behavior. He knows a good friend should be nice, but probably doesn t see how his own behavior isn t nice. It could be that he s just socially...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7-year-old son has outbursts at school, angry feelings, negative experiences
angry feelings, negative experiences, angry outbursts: Hi Sheila, It sounds like the change was a good one for him, but that he still hasn t managed to learn how to control his angry feelings. A counselor can help with this as well as work to gain insight over what s happening at school (as opposed to at home...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Bewildered at Bedtime, bedtime routine, bedtime story
bedtime routine, bedtime story, being held hostage: Hi Jason, The fact that she can go to bed without incident at other people s homes, even when you re there, indicates that she is capable of doing it. Its likely she changes behavior because she has some understanding of how her behavior is viewed and doesn...

Parenting K-6 Kids: MY CRY BABY 7 YEAR OLD, happy face token system, from combat zone to love at home
happy face token system, from combat zone to love at home, reward list: Hi Heather, It sounds like you have what I call an Intensive Care! child. I had one too. Is she your first child? We want to give our children everything they want because we want them to be happy. After all, that s what the golden rule is all about...

Parenting K-6 Kids: crying child, separation anxiety, wont eat
separation anxiety, wont eat, scared of school: Hi Laveena, It sounds like your son has separation anxiety issues. It sounds like he can deal with it, but as his mother you can help instill within him confidence to try hard things. Sometimes simple things like telling him you will be there to pick him...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughter is fixated on testicles., oh mom, christmas morning
oh mom, christmas morning, little brother: Hi Terri, Its not unusual for children to be curious about body parts. This age is loaded with butt humor. It does seem your daughter s interest is pushing beyond the normal curiosity. Not having met her or knowing more details of her history, I can t say...

Parenting K-6 Kids: dealing with a clingy child who isnt mine., low self esteem, sherly
low self esteem, sherly, truex: Hi Sherly, Well the child s efforts are working. She s getting attention. If you want it to stop, you have to set limits. For example, you might agree to give her a quick hug (clinging kids often have low self esteem and need a little reassurance), but then...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Emotional 8-year-old daughter, library book store, peer relationships
library book store, peer relationships, long long time: Dear Shari One thing you can do is read about what to expect from this age group in Your Eight Year Old by Frances Ilg and Louse Ames. See your library, book store, or amazon.com Eight year olds are really starting to bloom in the area of the big picture...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Fears, hygiene procedures, stomach tube
hygiene procedures, stomach tube, extreme anxiety: Hi Deborah, It sounds like you re dealing with a very difficult issue. I know it can be very frustrating, and I want to commend you for everything that you have to deal with. You re dealing with a very serious situation, and I agree with you that things...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Potty - training relapse, rough history, boy underwear
rough history, boy underwear, ample attention: Hi Jana, Potty training relapses are not uncommon particularly among boys. There are a couple of things you can do. First, make sure there isn t a medical issue related to the accidents, by taking him to the doctor. Second, understand that children like to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: shy 13 yrd foster son, shy, foster child
shy, foster child, P.E.: Hi Amanda, Dressing out for PE is a real issue for some. Since PE is mandatory he is going to have to do it so he might as well get used to doing things(that aren t against the law and harmful to himself)that he doesn t like. The world demands certain things...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Do you have the skills to proof read writing & correct spelling/grammar if it is writing in American English, english grammar rules, american spelling
english grammar rules, american spelling, british spelling: As I have already said, I can read and edit ANYTHING written in ENGLISH - whether it contain American spelling (to use your example harbor )or the standard English spelling ( harbour ). By the way, your example using British English and American English...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My sons, mom tested, kid approved
mom tested, kid approved, stepchild: Hi Kxmother, Kids have a way of coming into their own. Sometimes it takes being a follower to become a leader. There is usually a dominant personality and as values and character are developed the dominant of both good and bad show up. Help your sons ...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How can a women benefit of having a daughter that lives with her father, but sees her every week, instead of?, unwanted pregnancy, personal benefits
unwanted pregnancy, personal benefits, big hug: Again, you have consistently sent these kinds of questions to me and I have CONSISTENTLY and politely suggested you seek legal assistance or advice in matters like these - this is outside my area of expertise and it is IMPOSSIBLE for me to answer what is really...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 10yr old boy character change, telling me the truth, friends at school
telling me the truth, friends at school, better chance: Dear Cam, There can be any number of reasons why kids lie - sometimes it s for attention; sometimes it s because they may be concerned about a reaction to something they have done wrong; sometimes it s because they feel they are not liked and want people...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 2-year old anger mgmt, lousie, two choices
lousie, two choices, ower: Dear Chris Your child is acting pretty much normal for a two year old. But you need to take charge and tell her what is NOT acceptable. You must help her see that you are the one who sets limits. When children know that you are in charge and you set simple...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old situation, lying, manners
lying, manners, disobedience: Hi Pam, I m glad some things have been resolved. As to the lying, it is a normal thing for children to fabricate. It is my belief that children must be taught what a lie is and why it is harmful. Children make things up all day as they play. That is their...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 year old son not eating!, problems at school, baby on the way
problems at school, baby on the way, favorite foods: Hi Mom, I can really hear your anxiety and your frustration and it is completely understandable that you should be concerned about your son s sudden issue with eating. This is not really my field of expertise, but I can offer a couple of suggestions...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old son, Debbie Preece, From Combat Zone to
Debbie Preece, From Combat Zone to, Love at Home: Hi Monica, Temper tantrums are a way of holding a parent hostage! That is the reason I named my book From Combat Zone to Love at Home. I had the same problems. It is not an uncommon experience for most parents but it is sometimes very overwhelming and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old w/ behavior issues, consistent discipline, low self esteem
consistent discipline, low self esteem, behavior issues: Hi Jaime, I don t really have enough information (I can t observe and talk to your son) to let you know the seriousness of the issue. I can tell you that some children do have difficulty adjusting to school socially. This could be a maturity thing that he...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6yo Son Behaving Badly, star wars scenarios, rough and tumble
star wars scenarios, rough and tumble, downward spiral: Hi Tracy, You re correct in that children s behavior doesn t change drastically without a causal event. Just because you can t pinpoint it, doesn t mean its not there nor that its not serious. Further, children don t have the verbal skills or emotional understanding...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7-y-o daughter cries a lot, low self-esteem, low self esteem, i don t care
low self esteem, i don t care, parents work: Hi Debbie, If this is new behavior, then you ll want to try and pin-point when and why it started. Children s behavior doesn t change on a whim. However, if she s always been needy, then its time to set limits and stop letting her manipulate the situation....

Parenting K-6 Kids: a difficult move, neighbor kids, enormous change
neighbor kids, enormous change, additional family: Hi Jessica, Your son will grieve and it will be difficult for you to watch. You won t be able to eliminate it completely, but you can help him. I recommend you read Helping Children through Separation and Loss by Claudia Jewett. There are also some good children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: emotion/behavior problems 6yr old, violin lessons, playing soccer
violin lessons, playing soccer, son adam: Hi Sharon, The homework issue can be easily fixed by having a consequence for not having it. For example, ask the teacher for extra work or get appropriate workbooks at a store and if he forgets his homework, he still has to do work. Plus the next day he...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Should a mother complain that her son or daughter, private parts, body parts
private parts, body parts, 6 years: Body curiosity is normal for children up to about 6 years old. That doesn t mean 4-6 years old should be allowed to touch your breasts. Only that its normal for them to be curious about them and want to touch them. Its important to teach children from an early...

Parenting K-6 Kids: School problems, end of school, jitters
end of school, jitters, can't sit still: Hi Barb, It sounds like everyone is getting ready for school to end. I think you are right to give your daughter some time to develop the skills of learning to sit quietly and pay attention. It seems that in more cases than yours, that children aren t getting...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 1/2 year old daugter, brain fog, nap time
brain fog, nap time, baby behavior: Hi Ann, Reverting to baby-behavior isn t unusual especially if she has a younger sibling that she perceives is getting more or better attention. You need to start by not catering to it. Do talk to her like she s two and insist that she needs to talk normal...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old daughter, separation anxiety, truex
separation anxiety, truex, msw: Hi Melissa, Its not unusual for kids that age to have separation anxiety or be more emotional, but it is a bit unusual for behavior to change drastically quickly. I would suggest thinking back over the last few weeks to see if you can t discover something...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 year old is afraid to be alone, fearful child, goal setting
fearful child, goal setting, rewards: Hi Kristin, It does sound like something has happened to create fear in your little ones life. Has she always had this fear or is it new? Sometimes talking her though the total what if experience could be helpful. Ask her, what do you think would happen...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old lying, toilet seat, trivial things
toilet seat, trivial things, telling the truth: Hi Jaime, Lying isn t unusual, but does need to be addressed. One thing is to not set up your son to lie to you. If you know he did something, don t ask him if he did it. That sets him up to lie. Instead, just inflict the consequence. The challenge comes...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 yr old being rejected. What should I do?, friend alienation, new friend jealousy
friend alienation, new friend jealousy, competition: Hi Jennie, Letting our children grow and develop social skills and rejections is difficult. There might be a new kid on the block friendship happening right now between the two. Newness is a definite game changer in some cases. Does you daughter seem...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 year old with seperation anxiety, school guidance counselor, child counselor
school guidance counselor, child counselor, anxiety problems: Hi Jeannie, Some separation anxiety is common around the time kids start school or with children who have always displayed hesitancy in the world. But kids behavior doesn t change abruptly without some sort of causal event. I would think back to his 8th...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Behavioral issues with ten-year-old son, grandma, chores
grandma, chores, happy face tokens: Hi Sarah, It is the nature of children to be annoyed when parents try to help, correct, remind, or expect unless it suits their mood or position at the time! It s time to stop being held hostage and turn the tables on this combatant so he learns to respect...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Discipline now or later?, future crimes, visual perception
future crimes, visual perception, missing the point: Dear Curtis, Both of you have good points re the discipline now or later...but in focusing on this, you may be totally missing the point. What s the real issue? What is your goal? Your goal is to teach him responsibility by getting him to put the toys...

Parenting K-6 Kids: daughter's temper, learning time, fun things
learning time, fun things, chores: Hi Elsa, I only just just answered your follow-up...check your email. Here is the answer to the first question: You don t want to ignore all the behavior, but I d ignore the comments that she hates you. She says it because she knows it upsets you. But...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How do I discipline for this?, closed head injury, nothing like the real thing
closed head injury, nothing like the real thing, screeching halt: Dear Charles, You are absolutely right to make a fuss and I am glad you did. Good for you! Maybe he will remember next time. But you could do one more thing to make a real impression, if this would be possible in your community. Get someone at your...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Mom sleeping with 10 year old daughter, church minister, sleepovers
church minister, sleepovers, good mother: Dear Dave, You are absolutely correct about this! You need to arrange for some counseling for your family or at least get stated by getting some help from your church minister or pastor...Someone who she feels is an authority must talk to your wife. This...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Mother Sleeping with 10 year old daughter, good mother, bed time
good mother, bed time, mother and child: Hi Dave, This is difficult to answer. Having a quality moment at the end of the day can be very good for both mother and child. Sleeping together while you re out of town isn t necessarily bad either. But of course, there should be some limits. Prayers and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My Nephew, worried, child
worried, child, sibling: Hi Bethany, Children behave irrationally most of the time! Often there is no rhyme or reason for the way they think. They are bombarded all day with things to think about. He is at the age where the behavior you describe wouldn t be unusual. He might...

Parenting K-6 Kids: return from summer camp, team gymnastics, child counselor
team gymnastics, child counselor, medical issue: Hi Shari, I can t really give any insight at this point without more information. It could be that she s tired. Being busy all the time can be exhausting even for kids. Or it could be a reaction to something that is making her depressed. Without being able...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 4 year old is scared of EVERYTHING, fearful child, anxiety issues
fearful child, anxiety issues, afraid of everything: Hi Alycia, Some children seem fearful of many things. Often it is because they are unfamiliar with the the look, sound, feel or taste of something. Sometimes surroundings or home environment can increase these feelings if there is contention or loss. ...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 year old daughter destroys to get even, truex, tantrum
truex, tantrum, frustration: Hi K, If you think she s destroying things to get at you, then its important that you don t respond to it. By getting upset about it she wins. However, you do need to give her acceptable ways to express her anger. Anger is often felt physically which is why...

Parenting K-6 Kids: HOW TO CONTROL MY SON ?, slang language, second chances
slang language, second chances, ajit: Hi Ajit, The fact that your son behaves at school shows he knows how to act. The fact that he doesn t behave at home shows he knows how to get away with it. Its up to you to put a stop to it. Let him know that his behavior (slang, teasing etc) is not acceptable...

Parenting K-6 Kids: concentration, long periods, six year olds
long periods, six year olds, truex: Hi Dipti, Six year olds do have a hard time sitting still for long periods. My suggestion is to have him work for the 15-20 minutes he can, let him take a short break, and then get back to finish his work. He ll eventually learn to sit and concentrate for...

Parenting K-6 Kids: one friend only, favourite friend, beach time
favourite friend, beach time, special friend: Hi Tia, It s difficult to get a handle on how our children view the world and each other sometimes isn t it? Whilst your son enjoys the company of just one special friend at a time, there are other kids who crave lots of attention from numerous friends...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my grandson, absolute angel, child psychologist
absolute angel, child psychologist, spiritual status: Hi Avie, From the outset I have to say that I am not a child psychologist nor a pediatrician, so the thoughts I share with you are based on what I have read and other similar situations I have dealt with. If the suggestions I offer don t work, then it would...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Overly competitive/overly emotional, boosting self esteem, shy side
boosting self esteem, shy side, rare occasions: Hi Patty, People shouldn t stuff their emotions, but neither should children cry at losing at 11 years old. Yes they can be disappointed, frustrated, and sad, but it shouldn t be to the point of tears except on rare occasions (i.e. the championship game)....

Parenting K-6 Kids: psychological help?, stepchild, remarried
stepchild, remarried, stepmom: Hi Tiffany, Kids go through phases as they grow. These are ways they can express their anxieties when they don t know words to define their feelings. I know of a child who used to eat newspaper, or school glue, or make balls out of everything he eats. ...

Parenting K-6 Kids: retaliation hitting, grown ups, wrong impression
grown ups, wrong impression, eye for an eye: Hi S, It seems like a child would only need to be hurt by your son once to learn not to bother him again. But of course the issue is how to get your son to react differently. First of all, your son is 6 so he s too young to truly think before he acts....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Talking to the kids..., court dates, good boys
court dates, good boys, visitation rights: Hi Tish, You re right not to bad mouth mom. Even though she s clearly letting the boys down, they don t need to hear it from you. They know it themselves. While they don t understand everything, they know enough to know somethings not right. But saying bad...

Parenting K-6 Kids: TOILET TRAINING, attention getter, bad habit
attention getter, bad habit, friends at school: Well it s like this. He knows he should not do this a preschool and he does not. So this means he DOES have the control to stop this soiling. He probably does like school, but is doing it at home as an attention getter and a bad habit. Explain firmly...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 11 year old sleeping on parents' floor, social and emotional development, parents room
social and emotional development, parents room, overnite: Dear MC No you are not wrong, children do need to have their own space, as do parents, and they also need to be free to have other kids over or go to other kids homes for overnite parties...this habit would hamper both social and emotional development in...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 4yr old, super hero, super powers
super hero, super powers, unconditional love: Hi Danielle, It sounds like you have a child that needs some super-hero power! What super hero does he like? Find the one that gets him excited and then let him dress up like that one. Everything he does comment on how Spiderman or Thomas s engines...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6-year having difficulty with reading, recognise words, sounding out words
recognise words, sounding out words, number recognition: Hi Chris, I think you are pushing too hard! Your son is going to school to learn, YOU don t need to do ALL the background work before he gets there!!! Many parents stress unnecessarily about their child s seeming lack of ability to read, recognise words,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Anxiety or ADHD, scritpures, close out
scritpures, close out, bizland: Hi Jennifer, I m sorry your son is having issues in school. It should be a pleasurable experience for him. It sounds like anxiety to me. Maybe he is worried about all the expectations school brings and performance anxiety is an issue for many children....

Parenting K-6 Kids: aggressive child behavior towards adult, aggressive child, child behavior
aggressive child, child behavior, truex: Hi Jacquelyn, Do you mean your daughter babysits or that she s raising her cousin? Second, if the cousin lied to her mom, would she believe her? And third, have your daughter and the cousin s mom discussed this issue? If your daughter doesn t have the...

Parenting K-6 Kids: anxiety, being a leader, 5 year olds
being a leader, 5 year olds, nightlight: Hello Renee, It s not unusual for 5 year olds to develop anxiety, although it doesn t usually come out of no-where without a causal incident. But if he was always shy and reserved, going to school can be a challenge. Odds are he ll grow out of it, but you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Child soiling pants, gifted program, medical issue
gifted program, medical issue, time outs: Hi Dawn, If its not a medical issue (you may want to take him to a specialist to be sure), then its likely a psychological one and counseling is the best option. If the counselor before didn t work, find one who will. Counseling takes time and its hard....

Parenting K-6 Kids: how to control and nurture my six years old naughty,adament,,angry son?, disobedient, naughty
disobedient, naughty, consequences: Hi Ajit, It sounds to me like your son knows he can get away with the behavior you speak of at home. What kinds of discipline do the teachers use that get him to participate successfully? I would guess they demand certain kinds of behavior with consequences....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Delay Kindergarten for Twins?, delay kindergarten, junior kindergarten
delay kindergarten, junior kindergarten, verbal instructions: Hi Heidi, This is a fairly common question and, unfortunately, we tend to determine our children s readiness for school based on their age rather than their capacity to cope with school. I think the advice you have been given is the right advice - and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Inconsistent behavior 8 year old, inconsistent behavior, model student
inconsistent behavior, model student, mean streak: Hi Cathy, If she s been like this a long time, then her behavior isn t really inconsistent. Like many children (and even adults) she behaves differently in different situations because she can get away with it. By not addressing the issue sooner ( brush it...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Preexisting relationship, school enrichment program, relationship question
school enrichment program, relationship question, one of the boys: Just the employee. The burden is on him to change the relationship while at work. Separately, they boys can be reminded of the rules or have consequences for breaking them. But when dealing with this issue, the focus should be on the adult doing what needs...

Parenting K-6 Kids: potty trained 6 yr. old starting to poop in underwear, medical issue, six year olds
medical issue, six year olds, truex: Hi Colleen, While its not uncommon to have accidents, children who poop long after being potty trained usually have something going on. First she should see a doctor to make sure its not a medical issue. If its not a physical issue, then her parents need...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sibling nudity, tokens, happy face
tokens, happy face, nudity: Hi Shanna, There comes a time when siblings need to be taught to respect the privacy of others. Now is the time. Your expectation should be that they will now use swim attire at all times and showers or baths will be in private, alone. The Happy Face...

Parenting K-6 Kids: sweet 8yr old boy, preschool boys, handfull
preschool boys, handfull, clams: Dear Tanya, I am sorry to say that this is not normal behavior for an eight year old...even though it is pretty common in preschool boys who like to play dress up. But your son is also not able to speak to you about this, even though you are approaching...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5-year-old with no focus or attention span, frequent feedback, attention span
frequent feedback, attention span, teacher need: Hi Rebecca, There may be somethings that can be done to help, but it could be that she s just not ready for kindergarten. Many five year olds have the intelligence, but not the social skills and attention span to be successful. The problem is, that it can...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old behavior issues now physical, discipline plan, working mom
discipline plan, working mom, y camp: Dear Alicia, You are NOT a bad parent..Your child has a problem and needs help. You have been doing all you can and doing it well. You are observant and clear in your descriptions of his good and bad behaviors and what is being done about them. Keep...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Agressive 5 year old, social maturity, having such a hard time
social maturity, having such a hard time, school psychologist: Hi Janene, Has she always been aggressive or is this new behavior? And what is her explanation for the hitting etc? Many children are not ready for kindergarten at 5 years old. That doesn t mean she isn t intelligent. I just means she doesn t have the...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old behavior issues now physical, lucky boy, tantrums
Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old behavior issues now physical, lucky boy, tantrums, different story

Parenting K-6 Kids: Small problems, taking liquids, different kinds of water
taking liquids, different kinds of water, sippy cup: Dear Jaya You really must encourage him to drink water juices and juices and other iquids...if he is dehydrated (as he would be if he s not taking liquids) he can get very tired and also grouchy and mean because of not feeling well. Ask your child s doctor...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My sons behaviour
Hi Angela, Its not likely that its Aspergers as you d have had clues earlier. However, only a doctor can help you determine this. Aspergers is a type of autism characterized by social awkwardness, not violence although they can get frustrated and act out...

Parenting K-6 Kids: troubled 6 yr old boy, a token economy, tokens
a token economy, tokens, reward list: Hi Helen, It is very frustrating as a parent when our little one seemingly refuses to heed our pleas. Has the teacher shared with you what kinds of disruptions are common with him? Sometimes rewards and praise are not necessarily what makes children tick....

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 4 1/2 yr. old daughter won't allow herself to poop!, pear juice, fruit juices
pear juice, fruit juices, large bowel: I am not a behavior expert, and don t claim to have the answers for you. But I will give you my opinion as a mother. I can tell from this description that because you care so much you have paid way way way too much attention to this problem. If she were...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5-year-old acting out only at home, behavior issues, time outs
behavior issues, time outs, misbehavior: Hi Leah, If the only change at home is cutting out of a nap, have you tried adding the nap back in? It s not usual for misbehavior to be rooted in fatigue and frustration. If that doesn t work, you need to find new tricks at home. Kids need to be invested...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Boy-girl friendship rules for 5-7 y.o., friendship rules, hypervigilant
friendship rules, hypervigilant, innocent age: Hi Jennifer, The real concern at this age is the game of Doctor or Show me yours and I ll show you mine which has nothing to to with sex and is completely normal, but kids need to be taught that their bodies are their own. For this reason, I think there...

Parenting K-6 Kids: One more chance at a successful child, homosexual man, 18th birthday
homosexual man, 18th birthday, physical abuse: Hi Gloria, I can see that this is very painful for you. If you re raising your current son the same way you raised your other children, it would be helpful to know what your older children mean by abusive . It doesn t necessarily mean physical abuse. ...

Parenting K-6 Kids: discipline for 5 year old, mommy and daddy, dairy queen
mommy and daddy, dairy queen, art activity: This is out of my area of expertise. I am an art activity expert, not behavioral. But I have an opinion as a mother and an educator. Please understand that is not a professional opinion: The difference in how you and your husband are handling things is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: split week custody, children of divorce, mom and dad
children of divorce, mom and dad, transitional object: Hi Jill, Well...I ve always thought that best interest of the child would be for the child to stay in one place and the parents move back and forth...but of course, that is not realistic. The reality is that kids can come through just about any shared...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 6 year old daughter, type clubs, daily basis
type clubs, daily basis, mommy: Hi Christy, Some children are just very sensitive as are some adults,but it appears that your daughter is experiencing anxiety because of all the changes she is experiencing. Children of her age usually need to know what to expect next,As a retired teacher...

Parenting K-6 Kids: behovore 7yr old, guidance counselor, behavior charts
guidance counselor, behavior charts, developmental stage: Hi Elizabeth, Children don t know how to use words to express their feelings. Much of the time they don t even understand their feelings. But we can see it in their behavior. The split with your husband is likely upsetting and scary to her. She doesn t understand...

Parenting K-6 Kids: DIBELS test - Kindergarten, automatic answer, s education
automatic answer, s education, reading readiness: Hi Dee, I am so sorry. I wish I could answer this question, but I am in GA. We do not have that test here. I am not familiar with the Ohio Testing System. I did not want to just send you an automatic answer. I love to see parents who care and interact with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Fire Drill Anxiety, anxious feelings, fear impact
anxious feelings, fear impact, fire drills: Hi Grace, This is difficult to provide help on. You feel anxious when you know a drill is coming, but what are those anxious feelings? Worried you ll get trampled? Worry you won t get out? If it started three years ago, what happened then that caused you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Self Deprecating Son, self deprecating humor, racial mixture
self deprecating humor, racial mixture, low self esteem: Hi Suki, This is hard for me to assess. I think you are right to be concerned. Teen development is about coming into their own. Issues that make them different can often lead to low self-esteem. On the other hand, it could be the same as a young woman hating...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Bullying, guidance counselor, school success
guidance counselor, school success, truex: Hi Gabi, First, whoever diagnosed him should be able to provide you tips based on specific observations of your son that can help you and him (since I have seen or met him, my tips will be somewhat generic). Second, meet with the school to 1) do something...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Hobbies, littlest pet shop, horse riding lessons
littlest pet shop, horse riding lessons, plastic toy: Hi Christy, Thanks for your your letter. At nine years old I would not be too concerned about her hobbies or interest,it appears she is still trying to find her place among her peers.However;I am concerned about the Baby fits She is a bit old for that....

Parenting K-6 Kids: kinder social skill, awesome mom, queen bee
awesome mom, queen bee, developmental phase: HI Cris, Thank you for writing. I am happy to see you are focused on your daughter and her development. As you know I am in the USA, but I believe this is a universal problem with little girls:):) It appears to you that you are raising a wonderful well...

Parenting K-6 Kids: shy daughter, fear of rejection, school cafeteria
fear of rejection, school cafeteria, smart girl: Hi Elsa, There are a couple of things that could be going on. One is that she is shy and may always be that way. But another is why should she learn to talk to others when you re always there? Odds are you step in, which means she doesn t need to speak up....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Helping to make a child feel loved. Help with new baby, legal guardians, emotionality
legal guardians, emotionality, friends at school: Hi Laura, I commend you for thinking about these issues in advance and understanding that Nathan needs extra love, support and time before he can truly trust that you are a forever family. Yes, this situation will affect your nephew, but it won t always...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 10 year old sons behavior, anger problem, angry child
anger problem, angry child, eduction: Hi Nathan, Spanking is a really ineffective form of punishment especially for an angry child because it comes from anger and frustration. But, sending him to military school seems a little drastic at this point. First of all, if he knows you re giving...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 yr old son says he wants to marry his best friend, gay tendencies, friendship
gay tendencies, friendship, love: Hi Bob, I think what s happening here is your son feels feelings of love for his friends. He is young and innocent and reflects things he knows. He knows marriage usually means love. Help him understand, as a Christian, that marriage is between a man and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 yr olds bday, birthday party, hyper
birthday party, hyper, finishing homework: My grandchildren love Chuck E cheese or Monkey Joe s. Sometimes just time with mom at his favorite place to eat is just great! The Happy Face Token System is a wonderful system to help work through the hyper issues. It helps the child focus on the task...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Angry 11 year old girl, drugs, run a way
drugs, run a way, defiant: Hi Beth, Sounds like things are a little crazy right now. It could also be a good teaching time about drugs, the effects they have on the one doing them as well as the innocent bystanders. When people say I m only hurting myself with what I do, the reality...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Anxiety in 5 year old?, car ride home, soccer dance
car ride home, soccer dance, orthodonist: Hi Kathie, Separation anxiety isn t all that unusual in children her age. While they often grow out of it, sometimes they need counseling. Support and love go a long way. Plus preparing her. It sounds like you do that some by letting her know the day s...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Out of control anger, control anger, pet peeves
control anger, pet peeves, impulsive behavior: Hi Lynn, You ve indicated that your son has an ODD diagnosis and is being medicated, but is counseling involved? One of my pet peeves with doctors prescribing medication is that they fail to assist the child and the family with the behavior changes that need...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughters controlling behaviour, mental health worker, controlling behaviour
mental health worker, controlling behaviour, mommy and daddy: Hi Michelle, It s not that unusual for four-year olds to be a little over-dramatic and bossy. However, it seems that she s overly attached to you. Keep the appointment with the mental health worker as she will better be able to assess, diagnose and provide...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughters controlling behaviour, survival guide, frustrated parent
survival guide, frustrated parent, sensory processing issues: Hi Michelle, I can understand your concern as a diligent parent trying to raise children the best you can! Parenting is difficult and uncertain because none of us has been there before! We are all learning as we go and what makes it an even more faith-filled...

Parenting K-6 Kids: HeLP, local grocery store, privleges
local grocery store, privleges, abusive relationship: Dear Toria, I am so sorry, but I don t think I have the expertise to help you. If this was just a case of your son not doing his homework, I could offer some advice and a few strategies. His lack of interest in school could have something to do with his...

Parenting K-6 Kids: regarding my 5 yrs daughter, hperactive child, tokens
hperactive child, tokens, blessings: Hi Dipty, I don t know what you have tried with her hyperactive behavior, but have you tried cutting out the extra sugar in her diet? Limit her to fruit first before any candy and give protein snacks like cheese, sandwich meat and crackers (not just crackers,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Shy child?, shy child, confident person
shy child, confident person, social settings: Hi Jeff, Shyness is a temperament or character trait that is often a part of who people are. His behavior is not unusual or abnormal. And he may outgrow it. I would have liked the teacher to be more attentive...even in a large class. How can she be teaching...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 10 year old daughter stealing & lying, impressi, store owner
impressi, store owner, restitution: Hi Heather, First of all, if you know she stole something, don t ask her if she did. In that case you are setting her up to lie. Instead, just give her the consequence for stealing. Second, you need consequences that make a bigger impression. Is she paying...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 10 years old skips the talking, parenting, stewardhip
parenting, stewardhip, frustration: Hi Yolande, It seems that just when you think you ve got the layout for parenting working, plans change! Our job and stewardship is ever changing and unpredictable isn t it? Children are our pride and and joy but can also be our source of greatest frustration...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old son hitting, anger management, problems at school
anger management, problems at school, management groups: Hi Jennifer, It is interesting although not unusual that he s able to control his frustration at school but not at home. He needs help to recognize the signs of frustration and given options that are acceptable for showing it. He needs a compelling intervention...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old cries and lies, hi amy, charter school
hi amy, charter school, lung capacity: Hi Amy, There are many possibilities about what is going on. First, she is the youngest and often the babies of the family are indulged in ways, even subtly that older children aren t. The result can be a child who is more demanding and immature. Second,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 year old daughter very glass half empty, apple cart, childcare business
apple cart, childcare business, reward charts: Hi Alyssa, Some people, unfortunately, have a temperament in which they see the world more negatively than others. And I suspect that the child care service is making it harder because now she has to share you even more than with her sibling. I would suggest...

Parenting K-6 Kids: get my child to be more socially smart, steve biddulph, iq level
steve biddulph, iq level, raising boys: Hi Gauri, Apologies for the delay in my response as I haven t been near a computer in more than a week! Your 10 year old son is behaving in a way that is not uncommon with his stage of development - the period between 10 and 14 is known as the middle...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How to discipline a 5year old?, picky eaters, welcome thanks
picky eaters, welcome thanks, classmates: Hi Mohammad, Is your son diagnosed as hyperactive by a doctor? If so, what has the doctor recommended to help? If not, and you believe his behavior is beyond his control, you may want to have him assessed by a doctor who can observe and better provide help...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Without responsiblities for 10 years old, paper assignments, mother dear
paper assignments, mother dear, internet drafts: Dear Yolande, Generally kids leave things lying around because they always know that mum will pick them up!!! If they don t develop some kind of system then it can become a nightmare once they are in high school and the trail of paper, assignments, notes...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Violent, Destuctive 5 yr old, behaviour, violence
behaviour, violence, vandalism: Thank you for your question April. You are obviously going through an extremely difficult time, and it is good that you are reaching out for help from various professionals. You are right to be concerned that it will be much more difficult to control these...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4 yr old behavior, child discipline, behavior question
child discipline, behavior question, professional child: Hi Rose, Perhaps serious is too strong. But kids sometimes use wetting or spreading feces as a way to express strong anger or emotions. I m not saying your child has a serious behavior or emotional problem. But the behavior is a serious indication that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 6 year old son!!, parent education class, discipline techniques
parent education class, discipline techniques, many different ways: Hi Lisa, After three years, it sounds as if you ve lost some of the control of your son. But you are the mom and are bigger and it s time you take it back. You ve indicated you ve tried everything, but I would need specifics otherwise I ll probably tell you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 Year old Girl lacking Self Confidence/Crying, gaining self confidence, guidance counselor
gaining self confidence, guidance counselor, confident child: Hi Carrie, Some kids are just more sensitive and unsure. I think the teacher should continue to encourage her to participate and the buddy group is a great resource too. It gives her the chance to open up in a small, more supportive setting. I d be curious...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 8 Year Old Telling Lies, childhood, disappointment
childhood, disappointment, punishment: Hi Tish, As parents we would like to know our children do everything right! It is such a disappointment to realize they are human and make mistakes isn t it? Lying is a real issue however and, like you feel that it should be nipped in the bud right now....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Difficult 6 year old, old boyfriends, biological children
old boyfriends, biological children, male friend: Hello Neetu, The behavior can be changed, but maybe not by you. You are not her mother and she knows it. Plus there is so much inconsistency, if there is a chance she thinks she can get away with it she will. There are two things you can try. The first...

Parenting K-6 Kids: five year old boys, neighbor boy, boundries
neighbor boy, boundries, old boys: Hi Camas, First of all, if you keep reminding yourself that he behaves that way because of inconsistency at home, it can help to approach his behavior calmly. Second, if he poops in your yard, make him clean it up. Give him the tools, and let him know that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Son's behavior, positive reinforcements, term suicide
positive reinforcements, term suicide, emotional child: Hi Cynthia, While kids do strange things for attention, when it comes to talking suicide (or killing oneself) I always take it seriously. It s the one event that you don t want to be wrong about or cause the attention seeking behavior to increase because...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 2 year old, potty training, diapers
potty training, diapers, night : Children tend to stop wetting when they are ready. I find that if the baby wakes up at night, the first thing to do would walk to to the toilet and let her try. Her diaper might be wet, but she will learn she should get up. Then the first thing in the morning...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old, temper tantrums, baseball game
temper tantrums, baseball game, no boundaries: Hi Jennifer, This is a common issue in divorced families. First of all, are you sure that dad isn t following through. It s not uncommon for children to pit their parents against each other. Dad could have very well set limits around the words, but your son...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 Year Old, bad dreams, good night sleep
bad dreams, good night sleep, sleeping problems: Hi Shea, First I d recommend taking him to a doctor to check on anything that can impact sleeping. Sleeping problems are not unusual (my daughter didn t sleep through the night until she was six or seven either), but you want to make sure there isn t anything...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old granddaughter, children's sexual development, parenting
children's sexual development, parenting, assertiveness: I think this kind of behaviour is pretty harmless and normal at this age. It is best to not make too big an issue out of it, as the behaviour could then be reinforced. Your granddaughter has probably seen her mum and dad kissing as well as seeing children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6-year-old son having problems, child psychiatrist, group counseling
child psychiatrist, group counseling, problems at school: Hi Melody, There are several things that could be going on. First, you son could be immature and not equipped to control his impulses. If the school has a small group counseling on social skills, that could help. Have you tried giving him one direction to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: no more arguing, happy kid, personal hygiene
happy kid, personal hygiene, loving parent: Hi Dawn, While yelling might get him to obey, it doesn t teach him personal responsibility. There are lots of techniques that can be used...there is no one size fits all though. Consequences need to make sense, encourage the behavior you want, be immediate...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Child stealing and not minding, margie, chores
margie, chores, snack: Hi Margie, My recommendations is to stop giving chances. Sit him down during a calm time and tell him that he needs to learn to listen to so from now on, if he doesn t obey on the FIRST command, he will experience the consequence. He takes the chances because...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Defiant children, verbal cues, defiant children
verbal cues, defiant children, wits end: Hi Cheryl, It s difficult for me to answer questions like this because I can t observe how the boys behave or how you re implementing interventions. There could be several issues including: 1) Parenting by verbal cues alone. Sometimes you have to get active,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Reducing hyperness and remove shy tendendancy of a 5 year old child, shyness, confidence
shyness, confidence, self-esteem: It s great that your daughter wants to be social, even if she is rather shy. It s also positive that she likes her teachers, is active and also participates with her friends. These things can be fostered. We all have differing temperaments and your daughter...

Parenting K-6 Kids: resistant kids and potty training woes, parenting, joy of motherhood
parenting, joy of motherhood, children: Hi Natalie, I understand your frustration and desperation! I too had lost the light of excitement of Motherhood at about the same time as you. All I ever wanted was to be the best mom that I could be and I ended up feeling like I couldn t do it anymore!...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Not Sleeping, sleep problems, child therapist
sleep problems, child therapist, sleeping during the day: Hi Randi, You can be sure the issue will be resolve eventually. It s not likely he ll want to come to your room when he s 18 or even 14. That doesn t mean it will take four years, but it won t be forever. Although many debate having kids sleep with you,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Son's attitude toward everything, dr jekyll and mr hyde, hyde personality
dr jekyll and mr hyde, hyde personality, bad temper: Hi Cynthia, The question is does he really hate it or does he hate being away from you and home? He says he hates it, but that may be because he knows that excuse will work or he s having bad feelings (anxiety? fear?) that cause him to not want to leave....

Parenting K-6 Kids: no more yelling, yelling at my child, disrespect
yelling at my child, disrespect, refusal: Hi Dawn, I wanted to be the kind, loving parent who disciplines with respect and receives respect in return too. It seemed the more I did for my child hoping they would reciprocate, the less respect I got. I didn t get it either! I too had issues with yelling...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old's behavior, new babies, attention getters
new babies, attention getters, baby on the way: Hello Courtney, Middle children are notorious for being so quiet they almost disappear or they are attention getters. They don t have the attention or freedoms of an older child or the attention of a younger child. And that attention will soon be even less...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 yr old daughter n my girlfriends 6 yr old daughter, long periods of time, play date
long periods of time, play date, single parents: Hi Tom, It would be nice if two six year old girls could be friends, but being girls and same age doesn t necessarily give them enough in common to be buddies. Further, you aren t two parents getting kids together for a play date. Their parents are dating,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Almost 7 Year Old Behavior, boys wrestle, competition
boys wrestle, competition, softly: Hi Laurie, I can feel your frustration and anxiety. I understand that frustration! Boys are definitely different than girls in the way they think and behave. It s like young deer, who in the Spring, have velvet on their horns and have to get it off to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Almost 7 Year Old Behavior, example, encouragement
example, encouragement, consequences: The fact that they are wonderful for other people at school or church is a good sign. It means that they know how to behave properly. I think setting a healthy example and encouragement, are the two most important skills in parenting. I would suggest...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 Year Old Daughter w/few friends, jump rope team, stage 4 breast cancer
jump rope team, stage 4 breast cancer, treatment regime: Hi Amy, There can be several issues going on here. One could be that knowing you are ill, she wants to spend her time with you. Children can develop unusual ideas about their roles in the family and she may think her s is to watch out for you. She may not...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 Yr old boy, children, manners
children, manners, self esteem: Hi Kay, I m sorry you re feeling so overwhelmed. It sounds like there is something amiss for sure. Have you checked the obvious like vision, hearing? Sometimes these things can go unchecked and because the child doesn t see or hear well, tends to compensate...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Caught 9yo son having sex with 19yo cousin, child molestation, 16yo
child molestation, 16yo, loving wife: Hi John, I cannot change you or your family s thoughts around this issue. My experiences in this area are vastly different. And while I think children need straight talk about sexuality, parents need to understand that cognitive development needs to be considered....

Parenting K-6 Kids: defiant, stubborn 4.5 yr old, parenthood, parenting manual
parenthood, parenting manual, step-by-step: Hi Nicole, It sounds like there is too much explaining to the children and not enough parenting control. As long as your son gets what he wants, he wins. He is in control and has learned to take control by throwing tantrums, hitting etc. All he really...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Caught 9yo son having sex with 19yo cousin, truex, sexual oppression
Parenting K-6 Kids: Caught 9yo son having sex with 19yo cousin, truex, sexual oppression, masterbation

Parenting K-6 Kids: grandparent concerns multi-faceted, grandparents, parenting
grandparents, parenting, caregiver: Hi Judy, I can feel your frustration and desire to be a good influence on your grandchildren. I, too, am a grandmother and it s hard to watch what our children do with their own families at times. Since you have a unique position of caregiver during the...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Help, visitations, financial obligations
visitations, financial obligations, having an affair: Hi Jessie, You need to talk to a lawyer. Because you haven t been married very long, you might be able to get out any financial obligations put on you by your husband (i.e. not be responsible for his bankruptcy). But as far as visitation, odds are he...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Looking After with possible Pschyciological Issues?, bad temper, anger issues
bad temper, anger issues, professional intervention: Hi Maggie, Have you discussed his behavior with the parents? Have they given you any guidance on how to intervene with the children? I don t really have enough information here to provide sufficient help. I m not sure what game he was playing that didn...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Picky eating, pasta pizza, bbq ribs
pasta pizza, bbq ribs, picky eaters: Hi Jennifer, Some kids are just picky eaters. Some grow out of it. Some will try thing when they visit a friends house or because their friends enjoy it. My own picky eater now eats bbq ribs because she had it at a friend s house. With that said, not...

Parenting K-6 Kids: sexual behavior in 4 year old boys, s books, truex
s books, truex, sexual behavior: Hi Susan, This behavior is normal and not the result of his seeing you naked. Further, his touching himself isn t about sex as we understand it. To him it s like scratching an itch. It feels nice so he does it. With that said, he does need to know that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 11 year old handling stress, having a wonderful time, handling stress
having a wonderful time, handling stress, daughter rachel: Hi Judy, You may not be able to eliminate her initial reaction to new or uncontrollable situations, but you can give her the skills to cope. To do that, she needs to be able to recognize the feelings of stress and anxiety, and then use tactics that can help...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 4yr old not gaining weight from last 2 years, medical issue, gaining weight
medical issue, gaining weight, two year olds: Hi Aku, Because your son is eating, it seems like this would be a medical issue and not in my area of expertise. I would continue to talk to your pediatrician or other pediatricians about this issue. It could be that two year olds tend to have a lot of...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old son - over emotional and angry, sleep centre, gross motor
sleep centre, gross motor, favourite tv: Hi Nick, From what you have said, your son has always been a challenge. Some kids are like this, although parents don t always get the support they need. Three things impact child behavior, and most doctors focus on just one... environment. The other two...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6-year-old son cannot control his anger., lying child, tantrums
lying child, tantrums, motherhood: Hi Jared, Children learn they can control the family climate and which buttons to push with mom and dad very early in life. We, as parents, contribute to the behavior when we allow it to get out of hand or threaten the children within an inch of their lives,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 yr old son behavior problems, child psychiatrist, smart child
child psychiatrist, smart child, behavior problems: Hi Shannon, I know this kind of problem can be very frustrating for parents! When we see our kids with potential and they seem to be happy to waste it, we can become fearful that they will NEVER reach their potential. Let me just say that every child experiences...

Parenting K-6 Kids: agressive behavior, peditrican, catching a football
peditrican, catching a football, causal event: Hi Julie, Kids behavior doesn t change drastically without a causal event. If he was never aggressive or mean and now he is, you need to find out why. Children s behavior changes for many reasons...bully at school or neighborhood, something they saw on TV,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: compliments, self esteem in children, math problem
self esteem in children, math problem, bright colors: Hi Richard, Praise and compliments go a long way to build self-esteem in children if they are genuine and specific. Being called beautiful isn t bad, but if that is all the child is valued for, then it could be a problem. Being called smart isn t bad either,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Feeling guilty, child biting, sharing with friends
child biting, sharing with friends, broken toys: Hi Laura, I must commend your son for being such a good friend and honorable son. You have taught him well. Your willingness to reward him for his integrity shows him how you really feel. You could also tell him what you saw and that you are sorry for...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5yr old misbehaves at school - shld we punish at home?, summer daycare, smiley faces
summer daycare, smiley faces, tv toys: Hi Denise, Did he have these problems at preschool and if so, what did they do? Are there some times of day that are more difficult. For example, is he fine in the morning, but trouble in the afternoon (when he d be tired)? Discipline is best delivered...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my relationship with my six year old son, great relationship, special time
great relationship, special time, young mother: Hi La iqah, One of the best ways to build self-esteem in you son and create a great relationship is simply to play with him. Many parents get so busy with life, that they don t spend play time with kids. You spend time getting him to school or helping with...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 10 year old and cussing, impulse control, crude humor
impulse control, crude humor, adult themes: Hi Jo, Some kids just become overly fascinated by some things. It s like little kids who who think the word butt is hysterical. It sounds like your son is fixated on swear words. It may be a function of is mild ADHD or just a quirk. The best way to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 4 year old son, googlebooks, disrespectful child
googlebooks, disrespectful child, naughty child: Hi Shellie, I certainly can empathize with your frustration. Children seem to find our weakness and play to it. It would be nice to be able to turn the tables and be able to find what makes our children tick in good ways! It, unfortunately, is a little...

Parenting K-6 Kids: aggression in a 6 year old, spanking, temper tantrums
spanking, temper tantrums, cleaning: Hi Ceri, It does sound very frustrating for you! As long as the child feels in control of the parent and getting his way the behavior will continue. Obviously he has found your Achilles heel and knows which buttons to push. Have you tried spanking directly...

Parenting K-6 Kids: aggression in a 6 year old, early warning signs, physical aggression
Parenting K-6 Kids: aggression in a 6 year old, early warning signs, physical aggression, behaviours

Parenting K-6 Kids: My son won't listen, son wont listen, hearing test
son wont listen, hearing test, speech impaired: Hi Carol, It is good that you have done the preliminary testing for speech, hearing. Have you had his eyes checked? It s amazing how frustrating it can be when sight is impaired. He is reading well it sounds like, but distance could be an issue with him....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Unruly children, stay at home mom, positive reinforcement
stay at home mom, positive reinforcement, abusive relationship: Hi Cynthia, The challenge for me is that I can t be there to watch the boys and how you intervene. It s true that some kids are more challenging, but there are things you can do. But not seeing how you discipline, it s hard for me to pinpoint why it s not...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 5 year old TROUBLE, guidance counselor, friendship groups
guidance counselor, friendship groups, old trouble: Hi Charlotte, First, it is possible that your son wasn t ready to start kindergarten at five years old. Many children, particularly boys, aren t. That doesn t mean he isn t intelligent. It just means he hasn t matured socially to have the skills for school....

Parenting K-6 Kids: 7 yr old son-difficult behavior, strongwilled child, desperate mommy
strongwilled child, desperate mommy, ability to cope: Hi Dee, Children certainly give us a run for the money don t they? Strong-willed children can be a real challenge but they keep us in the know learning so much! Sometimes middle children feel like they are being ignored because there are others that demand...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Bullying 4 year old, power struggle, childminder
power struggle, childminder, wits end: Hi Polly, You shouldn t feel bad about undermining his behavior when it involves hurting others. Ultimately, it s his choice so he s the one creating the situation of feeling underminded, not you. If your intervention isn t working, it s because it s...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Difficult Brother, sweet kid, kids these days
sweet kid, kids these days, inanimate objects: Hi Lauren, Unfortunately you re in a difficult situation. You appear to be the only one concerned with your brother s behavior, but you have very little power to change it. I ll give you some tips, but much will depend on how your parents decide to respond....

Parenting K-6 Kids: please help 6 year old daughter and also 3 year old son, breast feed, crying child
breast feed, crying child, club foot: Hi Amanda, You certainly have your hands full! I am not a child psychologist or behavioural therapist, so the tips I offer are based on experience as a teacher, a parenting facilitator...and a parent! Your children are quite young at 6 and 3 and obviously...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Severe tantrums and harming himself, difficult children, survival parenting techniques
difficult children, survival parenting techniques, parenting application: Hi Lisa, It sounds like you are doing your best as a Mom! Keep hanging in there. I wonder if he s playing on your emotions. Kids learn very quickly how to control us and what buttons to push eventhough we may think we are not programmable! He might just...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My Son Likes His Daddy More, wonderful time, eyesight
wonderful time, eyesight, goodnight: Hi Lisa, Thank you for writing. I am sure you are a upset but, I do not believe you should be concerned that your son has the ability to love one parent more than the other. Lisa, how does your son know that daddy is working late?:):) If you feel that you...

Parenting K-6 Kids: my 5 yr old son, single mom, time outs
single mom, time outs, losing control: Hello Kristy, Thank you for writing. It seems like you have a lot going on. You stated that You think you are losing control of your 5 year old. Based upon your letter you Have lost control He appears to have taken total control at home and when...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Defiance or just being a 4 year old ??, smooth sailing, terrible twos
smooth sailing, terrible twos, good kid: Hi Desperate Mommy,:):) Thank you for writing. As I read your letter I had a big smile, because I fully understood all you wrote, and it reminded me of when my children were young. They are all grown up now and have children of their own, now they call...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Defiance or just being a 4 year old ??, bad behavior, siblings
Parenting K-6 Kids: Defiance or just being a 4 year old ??, bad behavior, siblings, little girl

Parenting K-6 Kids: Loss of parent, open casket, losing a spouse
open casket, losing a spouse, time children: Hi Lance, I m sorry to hear about you and your son s loss. Losing a spouse (even an ex-one) and a parent is difficult. As a parent, you are now faced with your own grief as well as your son s. One thing that adults try to do is protect children from death...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Bullying among 6-year old boys in a sexual manner, outgoing boy, sexual manner
outgoing boy, sexual manner, truex: Hi Jessica, If the other boys are six years old too, I wouldn t worry about it. That s the age in which just saying the word butt elicits lots of laughter and curiosity about the body starts. That doesn t mean you don t talk about it, though. You should...

Parenting K-6 Kids: daughter irritated almost all the time, few suggestions, matter of minutes
few suggestions, matter of minutes, first grade: Hello Parul, Thank you for writing. I have a few questions before I can offer a few suggestions. What has changed in the pass few months? Is she an only child? What have you tried other than the the 1-2-3 and time out? How is her behavior in school?...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Who's at fault-me or my 6 year old, cartoon episode, objectionable words
cartoon episode, objectionable words, defiant child: Hello Parul Thank you for writing. Have you taken him to his pediatrician. I would recommend that first to rule out any emotional issues. I am concerned about the changes that he has made.Once he is cleared by his pediatrician. You can write me back and...

Parenting K-6 Kids: motivating my 7 yr old, video game art, hello dawn
video game art, hello dawn, homework time: Hi Dawn, I am not leaving you yet:) No, you are fine, The more I know the more I can try to help with some suggestions. Okay, now I have a better picture of him he is a typical seven year old. Well, I would start by letting him know this is Homework time...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 10 years old, how to use the happy face tokens, what is the happy face token system
how to use the happy face tokens, what is the happy face token system: Hi Ketaki, Children know how to beat the system. They are very good at getting what they want. He knows you are tired and are gone all the time. He is using your guilt from being away from him to get what he wants. It s time to tackle the problem and go...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old girl, social anxiety, potential friends
social anxiety, potential friends, kind friend: Hi Jen, It s not unusual for children six and younger to have some trouble with friends. Sharing and being able to understand empathy (putting oneself in another person s shoes) are learned concepts. Without being able to see her myself, it s difficult for...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old lying, parenting class, divorce papers
parenting class, divorce papers, education decisions: Hello Jessica, Thank you for writing. Before I give you a few suggestions I have a few questions. I am not clear when you say he lies about things that happen at his dad s house? Do you ask him questions or does he just tell you things? Are you on speaking...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Difficult 4 year old, daycare, loving parents
daycare, loving parents, inlaws: Hi Chelsey, Four year olds tend to be bossy and impulsive. Add on top of that a move, a new sibling and being unsettled, it s not surprising he s acting out. Children who feel their lives are in chaos can t express their feelings or regulate their behavior....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Kindergarden and Jealousy, bank robber, kindergarten teacher
bank robber, kindergarten teacher, tug of war: Hi Lindsay, I don t understand what preventing children from reaching their achievement means . Sort of a strange comment. Is she interrupting? Being loud? With that said, it s not unusual for children her age to be preoccupied with fairness or to steal,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Advice needed about friend, head lice, frizzy hair
head lice, frizzy hair, truex: Hi Bel, I m surprised the school isn t involved in this case. I think you need to be honest. Tell her you like her and having her child over, but you can t any longer subject your family to the possibility of getting lice. Offer to provide help again...

Parenting K-6 Kids: The benefits of physical education..., benefits of physical education, gross motor skills
benefits of physical education, gross motor skills, benefits of physical activity: Hi Sarah, Children in the age range you quoted benefit massively from involvement in physical activity. I m not sure if you are referring to physical education as taught in schools, or simply physical activity. Children taking part in physical activity...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 3rd grade insecurity, popular girl, heightened awareness
popular girl, heightened awareness, good kid: Hi Christy, At this age it s not uncommon to have triads in which one feels left out. Odds are there are time when your daughters is in and someone else feels left out. Has the teacher indicated any concerns about this? Have you observed her withdrawing...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year with divorced parents is lying and has bad bahavior, lying, bad behavior
lying, bad behavior, coupon code: Hi Shelby, Divorce is always a difficult issue between ex-spouses let alone the children. No matter how we try there are emotional difficulties that often cannot be expressed in children and it comes out in various ways. Some are those you describe; blended...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 8 year old will not wipe., school counsellor, spurts
school counsellor, spurts, no doubt: Hi Sarah, I m sorry I can t really help you on this one - my area of expertise is parenting in education. This seems to be a behavioural issue which should probably be addressed by a specialist or perhaps the school counsellor may have a suggestion as to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: how to control and my 7 years old naughty,adament anti-attitude son?, slang language, ajit
slang language, ajit, beloved son: Hi AJIT, Thank you for writing. I am not sure of some of the words you have used as I am in the USA, but I will try to respond as best as I can. It appears that your son at seven is running the house. This behavior is something that you and his mom have...

Parenting K-6 Kids: HOW TO CONTROL MY SEVEN YEARS OLD NAUGHTY ADAMENT SON?, discourteous child, bad behavior
discourteous child, bad behavior, naughty: Hi Ajit, Don t be afraid to enforce the rules you have at your home. If you haven t established family rules consider some of mine: 1. Come the first time I call and ask how can I help you mommy/daddy? 2. We will say please and thank you to each other,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Controlling behavior, happy faces, interpersonal relationships
happy faces, interpersonal relationships, raising children: Try charting the behavior she exhibits that you want corrected. Make a red/yellow/green level that a marker can be moved to as her improvement shows. Check with the school teacher to find out what kinds of things are used to encourage good behavior and try...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 8 year old will not wipe., executive dysfunction
Parenting K-6 Kids: My 8 year old will not wipe., executive dysfunction

Parenting K-6 Kids: The Happy Face Token System, parenting, motherhood
parenting, motherhood, children: Hi Shiva, Thanks for asking. The Happy Face Token System is a parenting app that gives built-in consistency to the parent while getting happy, first-time obedience from the child. It is based loosely on the token economy, I like to call it Tokenomics because...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Jealousy in 5 year old, wet wipes, unusual behavior
wet wipes, unusual behavior, minute time: Hi Lorraine, This isn t unusual behavior. And it can be a little tricky, because is some ways the cousins are like siblings (in which being first is always an issue) and yet at the same, they aren t sisters which is why you serve the cousin first, as a guest....

Parenting K-6 Kids: What should a mother do?, tatoo, legal age child
tatoo, legal age child, body is a temple: It depends on what your rules about tatoo s have been. Personally, I feel that because tatoo s are permanent, they should be avoided. Our body is considered a temple from God s perspective and should be honored as a clean vessel representative of Him who...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sister Rivalry, love at home, from combat zone
love at home, from combat zone, happy faces: Hi Emily, Sibling rivalry can be a real problem and difficult to overcome, but it can be addressed and corrected to a great degree with the right tools and much diligence. Your children are young and most likely Ruby doesn t understand the feelings she is...

Parenting K-6 Kids: How to tackle 9 year boy's odd behaviour, shy kid, odd behaviour
shy kid, odd behaviour, softy: Hi Riya, Thank you so much for writing. I am sorry It has taken me so long to respond, but my computers are sick:):) and will not be well until Monday 3/12/12 I is my WiFi connection at home So, I brought the computer to the library to respond to you, I...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Wake up & Start Over, freak out, swaby
freak out, swaby, wits end: Hi Deb, Thank you for writing. This appears to be a question that you might want to address with her pediatrician. This is out of my area of expertise, I am a counselor. I hope you are able to get an answers to your situation. Thank you again for writing...

Parenting K-6 Kids: My 6 years old step daughter innapropriate sexual talk and behavior, step daughter, inappropriate behavior
step daughter, inappropriate behavior, how to kiss a boy: My experience tells me children of this age do not know these things. If they see a baby nursing it might come up, but the other things tell me she is probably being abused or has been exposed in an abusive way. How and when I cannot say, but it cannot be...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Hair pulling, decreasing stress in children, compulsive behaviour
decreasing stress in children, compulsive behaviour, parenting: This must be very worrying and frustrating for all of you. You are right not to scold him for it. I don t know much about this condition, but I had a look at PubMed Health online. It states that most people with this disorder also have problems with feeling...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Brother has a bad influencing girlfriend. What to do?, crazy reason, good kid
crazy reason, good kid, little brother: Hi Christina, I am proud of you that you are looking out for your little brother. How old are you? Are you male or female? I am not sure what you mean by If you take his phone or computer he will be depressed? He is 11 years old.I am wondering why he...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Sex talk, sex with girls, problems at school
sex with girls, problems at school, prude: Hi Cynthia, Thank you for writing, I can understand your concerns. First let me me assure you the boys are not ruined for life:) I think is was wise of you to stop the boys from playing with the neighbor s child. He certainly needs more guidance from his...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Social Skills/12 yr old, daughter rachel, 12 yr old
daughter rachel, 12 yr old, reading chapter: Hi Judy, Has your daughter expressed unhappiness at not having more friends? When she s at school, does she have lunch or free time with friends? Some children are just shy or don t need a lot of social interaction. If she s not unhappy, I wouldn t worry...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old son's mood swings, ebook, stressed child
ebook, stressed child, children: Hi Mary, Sometimes children act out when they are stressed or feel inadequate in some way. Is he in school yet? Children can be very cruel in school and for the first time our children are exposed to a whole new tough world of peer pressure. I have noticed...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 9 year old son is so self centered, family board game, gracious loser
family board game, gracious loser, sports and games: Hi Heather, Without being able to talk with or observe it s difficult to know where this behavior is coming from. Part of it may be temperament and part of it may be self-esteem. At his age and with developed behavior, it can be hard to make him see that...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Beyond Shy, happy medium, twin brother
happy medium, twin brother, temperaments: Hi Emily, Children are born with temperaments that are sometimes way off from the rest of the family. What s not clear to me is how this shyness effects her outside of the frustration it causes you. Does she seem unhappy? Her shyness is frustrating for...

Parenting K-6 Kids: OUT OF CONTROL 6 YEAR OLD!!!!, behavior out of control, biting
behavior out of control, biting, violent: Hi Jesssica, I m sorry you are feeling overwhelmed! Motherhood is such a wonderful experience, yet it can be one of the most exhausting and frustrating experiences as well. It sounds like you have a little one who is feeling resentful of the new one. It...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughter scared, new born baby, child counselor
new born baby, child counselor, guidance counselor: Hi Miriam, There are several things that might be going on. First, being a new and a new baby can be unsettling. Second, the TV and shark answer suggests she might have seen something or heard about something on TV that is sticking with her. When children...

Parenting K-6 Kids: dont know what to do, swaby, good behavior
swaby, good behavior, special time: Hi Jenna, I am sorry to hear you have this situation, but thank you for writing. I hope I can help. First, let me say that the 5 year old is watching her sister and when she sees her get away with thing,she is going to try it too. I would focus on the...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Son's friend, rare neurological disorder, little friend
rare neurological disorder, little friend, bad news: Hi Tiffany, In an effort to protect children, adults often make decisions about grief that don t help children. The problem is that, death, particularly the death of a child is very difficult even for adults. Your husband is right, children are resilient...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Anger in a 7 y.o., violent tendencies, sexual love
violent tendencies, sexual love, child behavior: Hi Curt, In this forum, when it comes to child behavior, it can be difficult to determine what s beyond normal. At seven years old, it s not uncommon for little boys to be in love (this is not a grown up sexual love) with their mother. This may be especially...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Anger in a 7 y,o. boy, active listening, I messages
active listening, I messages, communication: I wouldn t be concerned by this behaviour. It seems pretty harmless to me. If he is not taking any violent action on people or animals or doing anything dangerous, I wouldn t be worried. I do think communication is very important and your son needs to be...

Parenting K-6 Kids: behavioral problems with 1 out out 3 children, child counselor, daughter lives
child counselor, daughter lives, personality disorder: Hi Amanda, Children don t have the ability to know why they behave the way they do (many adults don t either). So asking him why he misbehaves isn t going to change the behavior. At that age, setting and enforcing limits is your best option. At the same...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughter not willing to go to school, school question, summer vacations
school question, summer vacations, month of july: Mrs. Parul, Thank you for your response: I better understand what is going on. First let me say we have the same grading system here. a,b,c,d,and f and it has the same meaning, However, we do not give those type of grades in 1st grade. We use U and s...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Daughter not willing to study and go to school, summer vacations, month of july
summer vacations, month of july, first grade: Hi Parul, It s hard for me to diagnose what s going on, but there are a few things you can consider. First, 5 /12 is young for first grade. In fact, for some children, it s young for kindergarten. That s not to say she s not smart, but that she may not...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Pocket knives, pocket knives, hard job
pocket knives, hard job, reward system: Dear Cynthia, Thank you so much for writing. Don t be so hard on yourself. It appears that you are a great Mom. Being a mom is a hard job, with a lot of decisions we have to make on a daily basis;some good, some not so good when we think about it later....

Parenting K-6 Kids: Pre school daughter spending time with a 6 yr old, socialising children, temperament
socialising children, temperament, encouragement: Hi Karen again, Keep up the good work of protecting your daughter and organising for her to play with other children on a regular basis. She may just be a naturally shy and sensitive girl. I wouldn t be telling her not to hang around you. If she leaves...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Son's sensitivity, sensitivity, depression
sensitivity, depression, anxiety: Hi Cynthia, I am not a psychologist, but I think your son may have a genetic pre-disposition to depression and or anxiety. I would suggest that you get him assessed by a psychiatrist or psychologist.It is possible that something traumatic or toxic has triggered...

Parenting K-6 Kids: We feel unloved, coping mechanism, behavior changes
coping mechanism, behavior changes, unloved: Hi Sarah, It s difficult for me to determine the cause of this. I can understand your hurt and frustration, but ultimately it s not your daughter s job to make you feel loved. It s your job to make her feel loved. So regardless of her response, you need to...

Parenting K-6 Kids: non complying child, stay at home mom, dirty basket
stay at home mom, dirty basket, giving me a hard time: Thank you Elsa for the additional information. Now we have to decide who the adult is in the family. An eight year old cannot run the house. The first thing I would do is make a mother daughter day where for an hour it is just the two of you. If you can,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Why would an 18-year-old girl have unprotected sex, sexual intercourse, age difference
sexual intercourse, age difference, immaturity: Here are some reasons that come to mind: not enough attention from her own father she is immature rebelling from overly strict parenting low self esteem the man made her feel loved in the moment she wanted to feel loved and cherished in the moment...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 year old doesn't listen
Hi P. Thank you so much for writing. Based upon the information you have provided this is something that you can change with a few simple New Rules It appears that your son knows how to manipulate you and dad.( I bet he is adorable) He is very much aware...

Parenting K-6 Kids: 6 Yr. Old wants to hurt himself.
Hi Mandy, I support your decision to consult with a counselor, although I might recommend one outside of school. You were right to seek your doctor s advice in case the fecal issue was a medical one, and while his spreading poo on the wall is a behavior issue,...

Parenting K-6 Kids: Grandson
Hello Rob, This is a learned behavior, which can be unlearned as well. He is only 4 years(almost 5)You may try sitting him down explaining that not only should he not smack his grandmother on her back, but he is not to hit anyone.( Including his mother)...

Parenting K-6 Kids: kissing, how to french kiss, 9 yr old
how to french kiss, 9 yr old, s books: Hi Melissa, These situations are difficult because children (particularly 6 year olds) are very interested in bodily functions. It has nothing to do with sex. However, children who are the victims of inappropriate sexual contact will often act out what they...