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How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship advice, relationship advice, grown man
relationship advice, grown man, 9 months: Hello Titanna, You say that you are having problems because of your attitude and the things he s been doing. I see what he s been doing, but tell me about your attitude. Is it in response to what s he s been doing or is it something else? As far as what...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Stressed Relationship., trust, marriage
trust, marriage, infidelity: Hello again, Brittanie, So, you both have past trust issues that you seem to have overcome as far as understanding your mistakes and growing from them. the problem is, although both of you appear to have realized your errs, the memories still linger for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Choosing my battles wisely, negotiating good relationships
negotiating good relationships: Dear Matthew, In any relationship you have to figure out and respect individual rights. Then you have to acknowledge and speak your boundaries. Rights: Any person has the right to live the way they want to live in their own space or home, if they own...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: doesn't have sex with me now, Husband lost interest after baby born
Husband lost interest after baby born: Dear Veena, Several things. First, make sure that you pay attention to him, spending time alone to him. Listening carefully to what he says and looking at him when he talks to you. Also, when he comes home make sure you look at him and greet him happily....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to fix the bond, family
family: Hi Crystal! Good for you in reaching out and wanting things to be better. Many times, if we are not addressing the core issues, too many other (even little) things will appear as problems too. For example, let s say he is having difficulty at work but...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: immaturity?, depression
depression: Hello Riley, It really does sound like he might be suffering from depression. Depression often manifests itself as a lack of motivation. I m sure he doesn t want to feel moody, lonely or have physical discomfort, but his depression may be his worst enemy....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is this just a phase?, stress
stress: Hi Alexandra! I am glad you are paying attention to this and addressing it now. What is your explanation for the ackwardness? Any recent changes or major stressors in either of your lives? What, if anything has he shared with you? Does he see the same...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: to make my relationship strong, anger, break
anger, break: Hello Garima, I wonder if he s always been like this or if he has gotten used to the relationship and is now taking it for granted. That s not to say he doesn t care for and love you, but what tends to happen after a bit is we become complacent with our...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why does he still want to keep in touch with me?, boyfriend lies
boyfriend lies: Dear Roxy, What kind of a life do you want? Do you want someone who lies? Someone who is not responsible? Someone who can t cope with life withour drugs? Someone that leans on you where you have to be the strong one all the time? Someone who wants you to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I think I messed up, girlfriends double standard
girlfriends double standard: Dear Tony, I do not think you have messed up at all. I think you have been wise to check her out. When someone doesn t trust you to the point that they have to check everything you say and do it could mean several things. One thing is that this person has...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Indecisive, depression, feeling attractive
depression, feeling attractive: Hello Cindy, I don t know the specifics of what transpired to make him fall into this depression, but right now you both are at the point where you are ready to be intimate again. You ve been wanting this for awhile and he s been struggling with his own...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: being patient, girlfriend confused
girlfriend confused: Dear Jordan, I am glad you backed off because it brought things to a head and that is good. It sounds like she really doesn t know what she wants. She wants you to behave like they are girlfriend/boyfriend, she wants to flirt some but then she kind of wants...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship, time, long-distance relationship
time, long-distance relationship: Hello again, Emily, So, it sounds like he s in the same boat as you. He s not happy having to work so much and be away from time with you. That s good, but now it s almost like you are in a long-distance relationship (LDR) because you have so little time...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: We almost broke up HELP!!, break up, frustration
break up, frustration: Hello Hannah, If you want this relationship to survive the two of you need to be really open and communicate more often and openly. I don t think he s so upset solely because you are late and on the phone. Those things bug him (just as some of his traits...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I get my fiance to put in her 2 week notice, age matters, first job
age matters, first job, month and a half: Hi Garret, She has a job. You should be supporting her in that. It may not be a good job and she may need to be looking for a better one but it would be immature to just quit one with out some glimmer of a new job. Second, you need to stop blaming...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I get my fiance to put in her two week notice, concentrating too much on girlfriend's problems
concentrating too much on girlfriend's problems: Hello Garret, Until you get a job she will more than likely not give up her job. Men and women have different needs that are a priority. Women instinctively need to know that her man can take care of her while she is having children. Many women have problems...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I get my fiancee to put in her 2 week notice, love
love: Hi Garret When it comes to the issue of relationship, financial security is very vital. And women feel more secured when there is a source of income they can hold on to. Its rather unfortunate that you are not having a steady job, because it would have created...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: nevermind
Hi Amanda, Good communication certainly can help. As well as a commitment to change. You don t want to push too hard, however, your husband needs to understand that you are his NUMBER ONE obligation. As you are his. And that relatives are second. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Possible to reconcile?, break up
break up: Hello Knotted, You can t beat yourself up over what has happened in the past. It s so much easier to know what you SHOULD HAVE done, that it is to know WHAT TO DO. In other words, we see our mistakes after we make them. The best thing we can do is not become...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: learning to trust again, boyfriend cheats
boyfriend cheats: Hello Tia, I am sorry. I filled out the form and answered this question but it is showing up that I did not answer it so don t know what happened. If you already got my answer then this will be a repeat. What I said was that you cannot trust him and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship
Hello Rene, Yes, sometimes we need input from someone else so will be happy to give some suggestions. While relationships need to change somewhat when children come into the relationship it is important to keep the relationship as a couple strengthened...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: what to do, ipad, yahoo messenger
ipad, yahoo messenger, taking the time: Hi Jennifer, I am sorry for taking so long to get back to you. Relationships are not really supposed to be all that difficult. Neither you or I believe that both the cell phone and Yahoo were on the blink at the same time. I suggest you talk with him....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: HELP!, long-distance relationship, health issues
long-distance relationship, health issues: Hello again, Jenna, Well, the first thing is that hopefully you have set up guidelines for your break. If you haven t, you may want to look this over (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/a/reports/taking-a-break/) and go back and be sure you both agree to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Possessiveness, arranged marriage
arranged marriage: Hello again, Tom, To be honest, that changes everything for me. I ll tell you why. You haven t dated. You haven t met. And, you ve known each other for only a month. You have to understand that I do not come form a culture of arranged marriages. Although...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, love
love: Hello First of all, do you think it is appropriate to send it through an open medium such as facebook? Would she not prefer a more subtle way of receiving such a sensitive material? You know her better than i do and i would suggest you think deeply before...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship and friendship
HELLO again, The first thing is to accept is that you can t change another person. The only thing I can think that might work is to tell her that part of loving each other is forgiving each other when you make mistakes and if both people want it to work...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship and friendship
Dear J, You may just have to settle for friendship for now. I don t know what made her want to break up and you say you made many mistakes. I d say, rather than push the relationship, just enjoy her company as friends, and see what develops. If you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship and friendship, girlfriend has moved on
girlfriend has moved on: Hello. Since she did not reply then I am sorry to say that there probably is not much hope of getting her back, even if you have been handling things in the best way by being there and contacting her briefly but not crowding her. You can try the video. That...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend behaviour, boyfriend backed off
boyfriend backed off: Hello again, It is always wise to do the unexpected. He expects you to be all upset and asking him where he has been and all worried, etc. I would act like nothing has happened. You might say something like: How s it going? I haven t heard from you for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confusion, friend, resource
friend, resource: Alexander, exactly what is she saying to you? Have you asked her, in this moment, what you can do to help? Let s be crystal clear on what we are hearing, saying and doing. Obviously, if she is showing positive signs, you have been on the right track. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Where to go from here?
So I am guessing she is experiencing chaos -- she is not sure what to do. If she were to date immediately, it is clear she would not be ready. Taking a break to reflect on things, think about my hopes and actions as well, could be most healthy. What would...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: no contact is it over, What happened?
What happened?: Hello again, Men often want to avoid any confrontation with women. Think of his not contacting you as closure. Remember, it is not what people say, it is what they do that tells the story. If he did talk to you he might make up something and it might not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: pregnancy test
Hello. I am so sorry I am slow in answering. I did not get your question in my email for some reason. Always respect your sweetheart s wishes and do not take it personally. Perhaps she has some fears she wishes to talk over that would feel awkward in front...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationships after divorcd
Hello Kelly, Am I understanding you correctly that this guy had a sexual relationship with his daughter? I may be old fashioned but that would be too much for me to think about and think of staying with someone like that. If I am reading this wrong...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Trust building, hiding cell phone
hiding cell phone: Hello again, Pregnant women tend to have emotional ups and downs because of hormonal changes taking place, besides the fact that their body is losing their shape. Just keep that in mind. Many times they act in a way that makes no sense but just because...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to approach dating differently, relationship, dating
relationship, dating, long-term: Hi David! Usually, when people reach out, they may lack the insight in to the true issue. It sounds like you have a firm grip on what s going on for you and this may make it a bit easier to take the next step. Clearly, you can develop relationships so...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I need your guide to get normal, neediness
neediness: HELLO MAIMA, Your problem is a lack of confidence. A well known show host, Steve Harvey, said it correctly. It is not your job to impress your guy. It is his job to impress you. No, he does not love you. He is using you. He feels your desperation and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Cheating?
Dear Ma, Whether she s cheated or not, that s a horrible thing to say to a man. These days, there are many images of male and female private anatomy, both available and accessible, so she wouldn t have necessarily cheated physically to make a comparison....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Past issues rearing their ugly head
Dear Courtney, This is a situation that has clearly affected the way you view yourself. Only you can determine what is needed to move past this. I can say forgive and move on, but those are just words. I m guessing y all were pretty young when this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is This A Relationship??
Hi, Probably. Men seem to be able to separate sex from relationships a bit better than women. Some men however become infatuated with even the thought of a sexual relationship. I don t think it would be a good idea. If you think he is stable enough...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is This A Relationship??
Dear Gloria, The fact that you are concerned about it, tells me you really aren t calloused, but evaluating how you want to socialize. As I read your concern, the old cliche kept going through my mind. Misery loves company. Some of us realize we don...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: will my relationship work ??, Will he forgive me
Will he forgive me: Dear shweta, We can t make another person change or love us but if you stay loving and kind to him perhaps his love will grow again. Love has to be free. It will take awhile to see if you two really have a solid relationship or not. It takes time to really...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Waiting Game, Does he love me?
Does he love me?: Dear Sarah, There is a natural progression in a relationship that should be followed in order to set up a lasting relationship. Friends first, then a little closer, then spending a lot of time togehter then I love you, then a lifetime commitment, and then...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Not sure what to do...
Feelings can be good and they also can lead you astray. A mother often doesn t feel like getting up with her crying baby or a man might not feel like going to work and would just like to loaf around. The mother does it because she loves her baby and the man...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Jealousy issues, jealous girlfriend
jealous girlfriend: Dear Jack, You do have some challenges in this relationship. When you are older and she is still young you might be the one worrying about her finding someone else. The problem is that there is a generation gap, which could cause problems because when you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Unresolved issues resurface
Hi Cara, Let s assume that he is telling the truth and that all that happened was a trip to a strip club. And that he with holds info so as to not hurt your feelings. Being untruthful is as much a habit as anything. It may take him a while to get use...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 3 month relationship and where to go from here
Hi again Kathy, I would suggest that you do believe in something. There are many philosophies that do not have a man like god, all knowing, all powerful in heaven controlling everything. The Source or the Universe represents an all pervasive energy that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: best friend and I, Does she have feelings for me?
Does she have feelings for me?: Dear Jason, There are all kinds of relationships--some temporary and some lasting. The lasting kind are based on love, caring, mutual respect, and sharing common values and goals. So, where does that leave you? Only you can judge that. You started out...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: follow-up, political and religious differences
political and religious differences: Hello again, Yes, I think you should involve him in the process. You might say something like: One thing I like about our relationship is the values we share such as, I think we both believe in honesty, or we both care about people, or some other value that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Am I wasting my time?
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Am I wasting my time?

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: mixed, love
love: hello jane its important that you show him love at this most difficult period. As long as you can confirm that he has no extra marital relationship, it is so vital that you give him that trust and genuine love so that he can come out of his shell and love...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: reconnecting; differences; strengthening, relationships, love
relationships, love, need: Hi Kathy. There are several issues here that cannot be fully address in my answer, but here are some pointers: The true value of relationships (apart from being loved :o) is that they can teach us about ourselves - IF we know what to look for and how to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Am I wasting my time?, trust, internet cheating
trust, internet cheating: Hello Katherine, First, let me just throw this out to you. It came to me a week ago, and maybe you would be interested (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/a/2014/04/air-your-internet-laundry-or-not/), or maybe not. You say that he s technically not cheating....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: in love? or not ?, Feel denied love
Feel denied love: Hello Ameera, While it seems like you are being denied love, you are just experiencing what millions of young people experience all over the world. Almost everyone goes through liking someone where it doesn t work out. We are very capable of loving more...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: One sided love, make her love me
make her love me: Hell Abhijeet, First off, you can t lose her, because she was never yours. The only thing you can lose is your friendship with her. And, if that s your fear, it s valid, since you two have forged a friendship for two years. Once you state your romantic...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help, honesty
honesty: Hello again, Sammy, I don t think that you should hold back being honest if that s going to cause resentment. But, maybe don t respond immediately. Maybe with a ten-minute lag time you can soften your blows, and phrase your feelings in a way that will feel...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help, cheating, in love
cheating, in love: Hello Devan, I don t think you will like my advice, but I hope you will consider it. To sum up, you are contemplating either breaking up with Trey or moving in with him. That s an either/or situation, whereas you can actually test the water and hold off...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is there any hope, everything my fault
everything my fault: Hello Jonathan, It is hard to say whether this relationship is worth keeping or not. Sometimes when a person changes the way they react to things and learns how to acknowledge and speak their boundaries the other person starts respecting more and is okay...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is there any hope, disrespect, blame
disrespect, blame, judgement: Hi John. To be honest, it doesn t sound as if there s much love between you, and it s hard to build that if you don t have mutual respect. It also sounds as if you both have some unresolved issues that have nothing to do with this relationship. If you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Social situations
Hi Courtney, First thing you should do is to look at what he is doing to upset you. Is it the same kind of thing every time? Why does it upset you? And the last part is very important. Why are you upset? After you understand the dynamics of your anger,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Uncertainty? Fears?, Not sure if how to love someone
Not sure if how to love someone: Hello Hana, There is no formula for falling love. True love is a combination of feelings and using your head to choose a partner that is good for you. Someone who is capable of a mutually loving and giving relationship. The ideal thing is to get to know...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What's really happening here?, partner won't forgive me
partner won't forgive me: Dear Christopher, Sorry I was so slow in answering and hope this helps. It is important to really think about this because a negative pattern could develop. This is what happens in dating and why it is important to date awhile before marriage. It takes awhile...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I feel like he isn't as interested, but he says he is. What can I do to feel more secure?
Hi, Erica, Your boyfriend sounds like he put a lot of honesty into that answer, including his feelings, for example, desperation. If you were to assume that he is basically an honest man, then I would accept he is struggling, and not challenge it. Real...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My friend needs guidance, abusive girlfriend
abusive girlfriend: Hello Maria, The problem here is the real person has emerged. She is pushing him away for some reason. Women like men who are strong and he is too easily pushed around. He needs to get some self-respect and some strength. Another problem is that we cannot...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: will he ever leave her for me?
Yes. Walk out. He isn t really with you. He keeps you like a dear pet, taking care of you, but not being committed to you. And, think about this. If he is the kind of man who would live in such dishonesty and lies, how could you ever feel secure that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: long distance
Dear Carrie, The way it works with men is that are attracted to you. Remember what I said when I said that people do exactly what they want to do. He doesn t want to talk to you and is not attracted to you that much or he would be contacting you a lot...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Losing Hope, girlfriend, relationship
girlfriend, relationship: Hello Rickson! Believe it or not, there is some good news here. Your girlfriend is obviously invested enough to fear losing you. I realize we don t want the trust issue but we need to do some digging here. My hunch is these insecurities come from past pain....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is it mistrust?, boyriend disrespectful
boyriend disrespectful: Dear Jane, This guy is not good for you and if you keep being with him he probably would end up being abusive. He sounds very controlling. Guys who are abusive and controlling want all your attention and do not want you to even have family as friends. Sometimes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I still need you to resolve my confusion
Hello, You might try one message to her and tell her that you are not going to be friends with someone who is rude and disrespectful. Tell her that if she wants to respect you and treat you kindly then you can be friends. Tell her that she insults you and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Uncertainty, taking a break.
taking a break.: Hello again, Chelsea, As far as guidelines, you two need to come up with a timeline. Maybe the break will last a month or three months. Decide how long and then agree to come together to assess what s next. Finally, what are the rules of the break? can...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why cant we trust each other?, ladies man
ladies man: Dear Kim. Sorry so slow in answering. I have been having challenges with my email. I will be happy to answer your questions. One of the main mistakes that women make is that as soon as someone starts dating them they act like they are engaged to be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What does this mean, love
love: Hello Sara Sorry for responding so late. I went off duty from work and just returned some days back. To your question, i believe your friend may be a secret admirer. He may love you without your knowledge, and may be too shy to disclose it. I feel you should...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What do I make of this
Hi Sara, I know we can imagine his sister not being so excited about the two of you being together. What if this is not the case though? What if she would want the two of you to be happy and does not know your feelings for him? What is the worst thing...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What do i do, i feel so torn
Hey Curtis, I don t think you ll like what I have to say. I know you love her so very much and she is telling you she regrets what she s done, but from where I m standing, she s not ready to commit to you yet. She may very well decide to settle down with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Fiancee left 4 months ago
Hi Patrick, From my point of view, she s not ready to fully commit. It doesn t sound like she s at that point in her life, even though she has a child with you. You say she loves yo and I don t doubt it, but she s young and this family was not planned....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Friendship Issues, wants more friends
wants more friends: Hello again, Thanks for the info. Hmmmm. This is a difficult one to understand. I wonder if it is just a fluke and a matter of numbers. They taught us in sales to get the no answers out of the way first, as when you put in the work you have to be rewarded....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to make her move to next level?, one sided love
one sided love : Hello Ben, Long distant relationships are very difficult and really almost impossible. Communication is 80% body language and emotions shown through eye contact, and also just the spirit of the person comes through. Skyping helps a little as you can at...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: should i consider it as an end?, jealousy
jealousy: Hello again, He was right to talk to her and it shows that he can act professionally and put his emotions aside. This is a good quality. it is too bad that you reacted that way and tried to tell him what to do. I don t want to criticize you but it is childish...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: can't decide, Does he like me?
Does he like me?: Hello Sarah, There is no confusion here. He is only interested in your body and does not care one bit about you, except to make you think he likes you so that he can get your physically. If he cared about you he would respect you and would want to be where...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Does he want me?
Dear Sara, Your question does not seem to lead to a simply answer. I would definitely rule out the idea that he might have feelings for the old girl friend. I d say that s very unlikely. As for the death of his father, that is undoubtedly taking it s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is my college slowly fading out during summer break?
Hello Fiona, I wouldn t worry about it too much. Men do not do well in long distant relationships and women always tend to want to pin the guy down and that pushes him farther away. I would text him and just say a friendly hello and then tell him that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: silent treatment, The frog didn't turn into a prince
The frog didn't turn into a prince: Hello Suhana, I am so sorry to be slow in answering. I have put all experts in my address book and keep noting that it is not junk mail but they keep putting these emails in my junk file. A couple of things. Number one, you have to meet a lot of men before...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Wait or give up?
Dear Justin, Sorry I am slow in answering. I have had some problems to deal with these last couple of days. The main thing is that relationships have to flow freely. We can t make things happen the way we like. The best thing to do is just to be friends...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating a woman who just ended a realtionship, How to take it slow
How to take it slow: Hello BJ, Slow would be asking her to go some where with you perhaps once a week. Make sure you ask her formally a few days before the event. Take her public places for awhile. Only, perhaps, a little hug as you say goodnight unless she is not a hugger....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: A New Interest, Past issues
Past issues: Hello Quinn, The problem is that you do not really know her well enough to know if she is perfect for you or not. That is what dating is for, to see if you are compatible and to see how they treat you and others. People usually put on a good show at first,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What is the status of our relationship?
Hello again, Alison, So glad you are good with this, and even more pleased that you have more going on in your life but him. So, you keep doing what you need to do. Let him do what he needs to do. Support him the best you can. If he s had his eye on you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Caught boyfriend messaging other women and now I can't trust him, counseling emotional, couple
counseling emotional, couple, heal: Hi Kim, This seems like a most uncomfortable space to be in emotionally. I guess I would like to hear more of a plan from him on what is going on deep-down and how he would like to address it. I am not hearing much of that. Quite honestly, I believe...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: long story
Hi Courtney, I am sorry to hear that your ex had been cheating on you all the while you thought he was committed to his relationship with you. It s hard to get over someone after seven years, especially since the relationship started when you were just...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hope during divorce
Hello Andy, I now understand the scope for her anger and decision as regards seeking for a divorce. Its so sad to say the least, and i can equally see your hopelessness. I still believe you should still give her some time. She is emotionally down and out,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to improve the relationship, self-esteem
self-esteem: Hi Julie-Ann I think the first thing to do is to take a step back and let s focus on all the good about you. Let s face it. What a challenge to go back to school in the first place and yet there you are doing it. Good for you. Many never go back at...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Jealous bf, therapy, couple's therapy
therapy, couple's therapy, relationship: Hi Sarah! If this were a couple s therapy session, and the two of you had brought this up in our session, I would thank him for his honest sharing about his issue. It sounds like you are walking on eggshells, so to speak, and it cannot be this way if the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Did I scare him away
Hi S, So what is the downside of asking him? You could let him know you felt comfortable enough to tell him and it has truly bothered you that it happened and would be concerned in how he took it. You took a risk in sharing it and hopefully can learn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Separated and feel powerless
Hello Andrew, I m sorry to hear about your situation. She does seem a bit ambiguous with her comments about your future as a couple. Yes, she does hold all the cards, and yes, she could just call off the divorce. Maybe there s a part of her that hopes you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: passion, Relationship, self esteem
Relationship, self esteem: Hi Dave. I m sorry that you re experiencing this. I can only imagine your discouragement and perhaps the pain you both may be going through. It certainly sounds like a lot and yet hopefully something that can be addressed. I m glad that you tried the marriage...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 4 Yrs and problems, crucial decisions, self confidence
crucial decisions, self confidence, short message: Hello Delilah, The hardest part about what I do, is that I sometimes have to make pretty crucial decisions about a relationship, based on a short message. But, based on what you ve told me, you wouldn t be throwing away four years if you left him. You...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 6 years, 6 years, preacher
6 years, preacher, courage: Dear Jen, If you keep going back and forth with him the way he is doing with you, he will be doing that forever. It is up to you to decide whether you are really worth more than that or not. The only way he might possibly make up his mind is to tell...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 9 months.., figths, candels
figths, candels, computor: Dear Erin, Sometimes it is difficult to tell whether a man is bored, disinterested, or just comfortable. I think you need to quit analyzing him quite so much and start looking at whether or not you are truly comfortable in this relationship. It does sound...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 9 months.., figths, candels
figths, candels, computor: Dear Erin, Well, now you know he is a liar. Perhaps that sounds harsh but it is the truth. Can you ever trust a liar? No, you cannot. He is choosing porn over you and how you feel and how demeaning it is to a woman for their man to lusting after other...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, actions speak louder than words, louder than words
actions speak louder than words, louder than words, meaning of the word: Dear Kimberly, Well, this is the deal. Your guy is not verbally expressive when it comes to saying I love you. I don t think you are going to change that. Figure out what it is he does that to him means he loves you and then accept that. As to your...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Advice on whether it's time to enda 3 year relationship, couch time, first glance
couch time, first glance, emotional growth: Dear Jennifer, Ok, I see some traits there that might be contributing to this problem. I think you have a trait that makes others feel like you have it all together and are on top of things. In other words you don t put out vibes that you need help, and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Affectionless Marriage, computer sex, workaholic
computer sex, workaholic, separate ways: Dear Sad, Unfortunately you can t change another person but you can acknowledge and speak your boundaries. The terrible thing about this is the helplessness you must feel. I am so sorry you are going through this. First, are you sure there is not a...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Age gap and personality difference, age gap, boyfriend and girlfriend
age gap, boyfriend and girlfriend, uphill climb: Dear Andrew, People often make the mistake of too much too soon, and it crowds the other person. They feel smothered and leave the relationship. So, as you can see, that is not working for you. This is what I suggest: Tell her that you would like...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Alot of relationship problems.., sex etc, room mate
sex etc, room mate, weird girl: Dear Frances, First of all, if people are committed to staying virgins they shouldn t be feeling boobs or letting others feel their boobs. What this sounds like is that all of you need more wholesome activities in your lives so that you are not around...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ambivalence, sex before marriage, developing security
sex before marriage, developing security, few differences: Dear Kristen, Women s lib has really set women up to be used and abused. Women lose their power when they have sex before marriage, or at the very least--after a ring is on your finger and a date is set. It is just too easy for men, who are able to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Arguing, verbally abusive, no trust, hurtful words, arguement
hurtful words, arguement, eachother: Dear Miss H, If I read this correctly, you have had about 2 years out of 5 that were nice and the rest has been a problem or a separated time. The two of you will either have to determine that you are going to just not argue for a bit and break the habit...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Asking about a fib....., personal question, fib
personal question, fib, reality tv: Dear Todd, Dear Todd, Let it go. Because of what it is about, it is better left forgotten. Tell your friend to get it off his phone because she is obviously uncomfortable with it. Sometimes there are things you wouldn t tell, even your best friend....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Asking about a fib....., happy holidays, fib
happy holidays, fib, disclosure: Hello to you. Thanks for this question - it tells me you d like to get past this. My suggestion to you is to think about a time where you felt embarrassed and remember how it might feel for someone to find out. While it might seem strange that she can...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: abandoned, afraid of commitment, housework
afraid of commitment, housework, mold: Dear N/A, I thought I answered this but don t know if it went through or not. If so, I am sorry you if are receiving two answers. I am trying to remember what I said in the first one. WEll, dear, your boyfriend is either cheating on you, met someone...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: abandoned, afraid of commitment, housework
afraid of commitment, housework, mold: Sorry for the late response but I was out of town for awhile. It sounds like your bf is trying to get out of any kind of committment including getting the house. Its more like trying to scare you off. You are most likely better off without him since...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: abandoned, afraid of commitment, housework
afraid of commitment, housework, mold: Dear N/A, Are you actually telling me that you ve been going with this guy for 6 years and you haven t had sex? That you want to wait until you re married? If I understood it that way the believe me he s cheating on you. No man on earth in going without...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: abandoned, afraid of commitment, housework
afraid of commitment, housework, mold: DEAR N/A, It sounds like you are in a terrible situation right now. I think the best thing you can do is go to a couples counselor and get some ongoing help. That does not mean to go to your friends. They will not give you the support you need. If possible,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: abandoned, afraid of commitment, housework
afraid of commitment, housework, mold: Hi, Thank you for writing the letter to me. As you mentioned correctly the situation is hard, but as always human beings are complex so as all the situations too. The decision regarding when you do start having sex are all taken as a mutual decision ,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: affection grosses her out, dear bill, wile
dear bill, wile, father figure: Dear Bill, Either she is in love with someone else, memories of abuse have come to surface and causing her problems, or she has been raped or abused while you were gone and is not dealing with it. In any case, until she gets therapy and solves the issue...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Getting over anger in a relationship, getting over anger, breadwinner
getting over anger, breadwinner, inequity: Dear Elizabeth, I can understand your frustrations, and will not pretend that I can give you all the advice you need on how to go about rectifying all that is taking place in your relationship. It would be impossible in a single message. Your problems need...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: anger, snowmobile races, waste of skin
snowmobile races, waste of skin, strong woman: Dear Tessa, You need help right away. If you cannot afford it and no one is willing to help you, go to the closest police station and ask for directions to a local abused women s center. They will help you find it. It will not cost you anything. You need...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can you answer these questions?, lobes of the brain, frontal lobes of the brain
lobes of the brain, frontal lobes of the brain, difficult questions: Dear Daniel, I will do my best. Before I answer each question I would like to share some important information. First of all, it takes until about age 25 for the frontal lobes of the brain to develop and for a person gets close to knowing himself and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: army relationship, long distance relationships, long distance relationship
long distance relationships, long distance relationship, long term relationships: Hello Britney, Wow, what a difficult situation to be in for the two of you. Like any other long-distance relationship, I say to keep the lines of communication WIDE OPEN. The reason so many long-distance relationships fail is because of the little changes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: army relationship, long distant relationships, charitable activities
long distant relationships, charitable activities, army reserve: Long distant relationships are very difficult but all I know to do is to send pictures of what you are doing, little notes, etc. Also try to read the same things or watch the same movies and pretend you are together on a date, then discuss what you saw...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: availability hurting your attactiveness....., hugs kisses, bushel
hugs kisses, bushel, nice guys: Dear Todd, Being nice, thoughtful and kind to someone is not a turnoff. I am glad you are not a jerk Usually, being good to a woman is a plus. However, it is when you crowd another person and do too much too soon that turns them off and does make...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to avoid arguments???, physical relationship, intensions
physical relationship, intensions, female friends: Dear Aditi, Well, you do have a problem. Apparently he lied to you about quitting his other girlfriends. Now, when someone lies you really can t trust them, can you? How can you ever trust him? I don t think this is a good match if you can t trust...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Banging head against wall, going round in circles, barnes and noble
going round in circles, barnes and noble, hometown aol: Hi KW, I may just sound like I want to sell my book, but your situation is just the thing I wrote my book about - it gives a whole new way to talk with each other about problems, and includes a list of things that need serious discussion and agreements...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Belongings, scott baxter, dead roses
scott baxter, dead roses, airplane tickets: Hello Kai, You have the right to get back your belongings. If they are truly yours and not gifts, and she refuses to return them, she is breaking the law. You could get the authorities involved if you really wanted the items back. But, you say you don t...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Best Friend Hates Me!!, back rubs, romantic feelings
back rubs, romantic feelings, prostitute: Decide just what it is that you want from her and tell her. If you want to be just friends, no sex, no holding hands, no intimate contact whatsoever, tell her. No lies, no using her, no nothing. Be honest with her and see what she says. If you don t love...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Best Friend Hates Me!!, back rubs, romantic feelings
back rubs, romantic feelings, prostitute: Dear Phill, I will be honest with you. You call her your best friend and yet say you used her. I have a feeling when you get older you will appreciate the value of a friend more than you do right now. There is very little anyone can do when they have been...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Best Friend, list of strengths, one of the girls
list of strengths, one of the girls, musical gifts: Dear Lindsay, Thanks for your reply. I am so glad things have changed in regards to your friend. You keep up reaching out to others who you know are lonely and going through the tough teenage years, and even when you are older, and you will lay the groundwork...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Blended families and dating, anger issues, mom and dad
anger issues, mom and dad, good relationship: Dear Michelle, I totally admire your decision and applaud the stand you have taken. If he is in denial now, just wait until that pre-teen becomes a teen-ager!!! And a big boy that is mean to little girls is a scary matter, I don t care how gifted, he s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Books to read, massachusetts residents, hometown aol
massachusetts residents, hometown aol, good relationship: Dear Kristin, It may sound self serving or that I am blowing my own whistle, but I have just published a new book that I believe addresses what you are talking about. It is called Getting Through the Tough Stuff , subtitle - The Lover s How-To Book for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend, shoe was on the other foot, little kid
shoe was on the other foot, little kid, pretty girl: Do you best not to let him get to you and eventually your bf will stop having fun seeing you get upset. Also you can try to explain to him exactly how you feel about its treatment toward you and hope he stops and understands that he wouldn t like it feel...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Boyfriend :), brain chemicals, scott baxter
brain chemicals, scott baxter, leon scott: Hello Vanessa, I don t doubt that you are in love either. Take a look at this report about what love is (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/whatlove.html). I think that you ll agree. To keep thinks running smoothly, you re going to want to be ready...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend of 5 years does not talk about marriage, marrying type, single mom
marrying type, single mom, wake up call: Hello Allison, So, let me see if I ve got this straight. You ve been together almost six years. He won t talk to you about marriage. The last 3 months he s been blowing you off. But, when you try to break it off with him, he won t let you. First, if...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend in depression, what to do??!!, reult, life friends
reult, life friends, gay guy: Dear Nas, I have not worked much with Gay relationships and I think the dynamics are a bit different than heterosexual relationships. so, I feel at a loss a little bit, but I can say that we never can change another person and when we care about someone...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend loves the bar more than me?, married lady, 10 mins
married lady, 10 mins, couple hours: Dear Julie, Well, here you are at 19 just like an old married lady whose husband goes out every Friday night, only you aren t married so you really have nothing to say about it because there is no real commitment you can count on. People change a lot...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend is moving 30 minutes away, family marriage, meaningful relationships
family marriage, meaningful relationships, commitment issues: Dear Ellie, What choice do you have but to be supportive since he didn t discuss it as a decision you make together? Now, you are smart not to move in before marriage because it is important to create a solid basis for a relationship. Moving in should...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend and I, serious relationship, good habits
serious relationship, good habits, resentment: You both have been alot during the two years and that is normal. Couples get to learn about each others bad and good habits, attitudes,etc.. There shouldn t be any resentment if you both truly love each other. What you both might be feeling, is you both...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriends, relationship worth, abusive marriages
relationship worth, abusive marriages, daughter age: Dear Lexi, My kinds used to join church groups that do fun things together. They did not have boyfriends or girlfriends until they were older. They all recommend that. I know you would really like a boyfriend, but having a boyfriend at your age too easily...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Breach Of Trust, breach of trust, character defect
breach of trust, character defect, character defects: Dear Elizabeth, I wish I had better news for you but he is a liar and people do not change character defects. You can t trust him; why would you? To me, this is a deal breaker. Where can you go from here without compromising what you stand for and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break:, finks, bad mood
finks, bad mood, didi: Hello Didi, Well to answer your question, you and your girlfriend need to define the terms of your break. What are the rules? Do you communicate at all? What s off limits? Do you see others? When do you get back and discuss where the relationship is going?...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, R, That sounds pretty darn good to me, too. I m so pleased it went well for the two of you. It s appears that she s maybe realizing that you are the guy for her. Dating others is sometimes the best thing for a relationship, before full commitment...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, R, Wow, so do you think you ve changed much over these past few weeks? She obviously sees something that she likes. I don t think you re faking it either. What I mean is, I don t think you will fall back into the old patterns that may have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, Glad to know things seem to be falling into place. You said you thought she d fallen out of love with you. You should check out this report (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_3_outlove.html). Also, she says it s true love...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, Like I ve been saying from the beginning, don t get too over anxious. Let things progress slowly. So, she s cracked the door for you; let her open it all the way. Don t just barge right in, because our natural inclination is to just shut...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, Of course you re sad. You re losing what you have and love so much. But, you knew it was coming. So, it s not a surprise and it s not under bad circumstances. Yet, that doesn t lessen the pain. Playing house sounds like a great...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, If you ve never gone through an experience that you weren t sure how you were going to survive, well, here s your first. If you ve been through them before, you know that you always make it through, even though it seems like you won t....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, I know if feels like you may not be able to survive this, but if you can look past the feeling for a moment and focus on what you know , you know you will survive this. You know you will make it through. What you don t know is how....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, The easiest way for you to get over this jealousy is plowing right through it. Let yourself be worried and jealous if you have to (although, as you know, worry doesn t do anything but make you concerned about the future and keep you from...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, You really sound like you are maturing, Ryan. It s great that you are able to miss Kay without the jealousy that you used to experience. And, as far as the gorgeous guys comment, I think you realize that it was nothing more than a comment....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, Ryan, Great! If things are meant to be, they will work out. You need to believe that everything will work out in the end. It sounds like you two are truly in love. So, distance shouldn t take any of that love away. You two are doing the long-distance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now....., team basketball, basketball team
team basketball, basketball team, gorgeous girl: Hello again, R, You are welcome, R. Sounds like things went well, all-in-all. And, the comment about you hooking up, had nothing to do with you. Sounds like Kay is a bit overwhelmed right now. Have fun at the concert. Leon Scott Baxter America s Romance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, trust issues, third degree
trust issues, third degree, stumbling block: Hello again, Kai, Seeing that in South Africa it s customary to return the ring after an engagement is broken off, I m at a slight disadvantage assisting you, because of the cultural differences. Where I am from, it s customary for the woman to keep the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Broken relationship, broken relationship, loving person
broken relationship, loving person, grudges: Dear Erica, The first thing to realize is that we can never change another person. Your guy has the traits to hold grudges and hang on to the past for dear life. I don t see how you can change that but you can change your own behavior which might possible...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I have my baby?, infertility clinic, thanksgiving 2005
infertility clinic, thanksgiving 2005, donor sperm: Dear Sam, My heart goes out to you in your dillemma but I can t recommend you bring another baby into the world that will not be in a two-parent home with parents that are married and committed to creating a loving home for this child. I always think...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I let too much out the bag how do I fix this situation?, true feelings, 5 mins
true feelings, 5 mins, real reason: Hello Belia, It seems like two issues are compounded to create your situation here. First, your boyfriend was able to focus solely on you when you visited him, because his buddies were nowhere around. Also, somewhere between months 6 and 18 in a relationship,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I let too much out the bag how do I fix this situation?, true feelings, 5 mins
true feelings, 5 mins, real reason: Dear Jennifer, Things have already changed drastically between the two of you. You stated that you have gone from all day 4-5 days a week to a couple of hours 2-3 days. I would suggest that you make peace with the fact he s going to be other places besides...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I let too much out the bag how do I fix this situation?, true feelings, 5 mins
true feelings, 5 mins, real reason: Dear Melissa, Tell your guy that you are sorry he read the letter because you wrote it on a bad day when your close friends went away and he was spending more time with his friends. Tell him that you are happy he has friends and that you intend on getting...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is his battle my battle, signs of depression, famliy history
signs of depression, famliy history, books on relationships: Dear Gabrielle, Respect his wishes to leave him alone. Usually that works a lot better than keeping after him because he won t expect you to do it and will be unsure of you. Take the time to further your education. Read books on relationships and how...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How can we become closer and communicate?, generation gap, valid approach
generation gap, valid approach, intimate conversation: Dear Lori, It could be a generation gap that is too much to bridge. Communication is so important. the key to good communication is to ask questions that require more than a yes or no answer. If you expect intimate conversation, most men are not very...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How can I make it better, first mistake, two and a half years
first mistake, two and a half years, couple times: Dear Tammy, It always puzzles me to see a woman say how much she loves someone and just can hardly live without her man when he is so obviously not committed to the relationship. Men who love you, want to sit down and work it out. They do not get angry...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: His birthday, manliness, special friend
manliness, special friend, aftershave: Shelby, I m sorry I don t have a clue what to recommend for a gift, but a cake would be a nice friend thing to do that lets him know, he s a special friend. Get him a card that isn t too mushy, but more than a buddy. If you do things that are simply...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: bitch girl friend, scott baxter, life hell
scott baxter, life hell, leon scott: Hello again, Victor, Hey, I m glad to hear that she s starting to put some effort into this relationship. So, she s poking fun at you the whole time. Baby steps. She s moving in the right direction. Also, some people are just smart-asses and that s how...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: bitch girlfriend, gurlfriend, personality traits
gurlfriend, personality traits, guy friends: Dear Victor, Women sometimes will respond to emotion. Tell her you want her to be proud of you and that it makes you feel bad that she seems that she is not proud of you when she is around her friends. Then don t say anything more, just listen. That...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: blended family, good relationship, blended family
good relationship, blended family, pushover: Dear Cindy, I think you are setting Jack and your son up to have a real problem later. My advice is this: You need to sit your son down and tell him, for the past three years you have been spoiling him and his attitude and mouth are proof that you [his...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: blondiegurl37@Hotmail.com, sexual thing, nonsence
sexual thing, nonsence, seperate ways: Dear Heather, I think I already answered you and said that he is not heartbroken enough to really step up to the plate so I think you are wise in your decision. People say one thing and do another all the time--that is how you know if they really mean...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my boy friend is cheap, financial obligation, educational differences
financial obligation, educational differences, single mom: Hello Susan, It does sound like he may be hesitant to be seen with you right now. If I were you, I d try to get to the bottom of this. I d want to find out what he s afraid of. Is he just using you sexually like you implied? Or, is he just fearful for another...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What's up with my boyfriend?, marriage and kids, romantic relationship
marriage and kids, romantic relationship, true feelings: Hello Zaira, You ve got the makings for what could potentially be a wonderful romantic relationship. I m a staunch believer that friendship be an integral part of a romantic relationship. Why? Because romance s flames burn bright at times, and sometimes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: me and my boyfriend, last boyfriend, joycelyn
last boyfriend, joycelyn, group dates: Dear Jocelyn, The sign of maturity is to choose the best thing for you over and above feelings of love. That is using our intelligence. There are all kinds of love but true love should be based on mutual respect. If love was enough there would be almost...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend acts up in public, good relationship, charitable organization
good relationship, charitable organization, dork: Dear Nancy, Sit down and have a good talk with your boyfriend. Acknowledge how valuable he is to you and how much you care for him. Then tell him that he has behavior that seems so inconsistent with the rest of his personality that you are wondering if...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend and I have bene..., dr laura schlesinger, abusive stepfather
dr laura schlesinger, abusive stepfather, laura schlesinger: Dear Joanna, You are so smart to get this settled now before marriage. Under no circumstances should you allow your children to be around, either your boyfriend s mother or step father. If she is completely sober she could come and see you at your home...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my boyfriend changed, loving feeling, nice things
loving feeling, nice things, barley: Dear Suzie, I need a little more information. When you say you have been together what does that mean? Are you living together? Are you sexually active with him? Without that info this is the best I can do. First of all, when someone pulls away a...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my boyfriend doesnt want to spend as much time with me as i would like, stressful job, relati
stressful job, relati, having children: Dear monika, Why should he want to spend more time with you. He has it made. He gets the amount of sex he wants when he wants it. He has his freedom with no committment to you, except when he wants to. You are easy and easily controlled. He likes being...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend and friends, gut feelings, dear sam
gut feelings, dear sam, boy friend: Dear Sam, I am not sure I understand the whole thing but I can tell you some things. What ever gut feelings you are having are probably correct. If I am getting what you are feeling you are feeling he doesn t care that much about you. That is what...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend gives me a hard time, plausible reason, litigator
plausible reason, litigator, white flag: Dear Harriet, You are correct, it is not loving to treat you like an opponent in a courtroom. Now, with that said, it takes two people to participate in this kind of banter. So, it is up to you to cut it off at the first sign of it. You can t change...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend issues, drinking beer, expression of love
drinking beer, expression of love, intimacy: Dear Joanna, Religion plays a huge role in establishing how someone feels about their sexuality. If he has converted, then that is his choice and although he cannot force others to see his perspective or share his views, he is entitled to believe as he sees...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend lost his job...what should I do?, full time job, part time job
full time job, part time job, talking about money: Dear Miasia, Men do not respect themselves when they do not pay for everything, or at least most of the time and they do not respect you, either. It sounds to me like he is using you. A real man would not take money from you so you have a problem. Now,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend lost his job...what should I do?, full time job, part time job
full time job, part time job, talking about money: Hello Miasia, You re in a very new relationship and this is very disruptive for both of you. Understandably, he will be very stressed about the loss of his job and may not behave the way he would normally. At the same time, you are in a position in which...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to make my boyfriend open up to me, rough patch, pocket money
rough patch, pocket money, better man: Dear Mat-lisa, There are several problems here. What has happened to you is why I recommend that couples do not move in together before marriage. First of all, divorce rates are higher in couples who live together first. Secondly, if one party is really...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend has a problem with committment because of his past divorce, divorced man, different man
divorced man, different man, committment: Hello Dee, It sounds like your boyfriend was really hurt by the divorce and he hasn t been able to move passed it. In effect, this is affecting his level of happiness, your relationship, your level of happiness and I wonder if it is affecting his six-year...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend, lovey dovey, true colors
lovey dovey, true colors, truth of the matter: Hello Angelise, First things first, put off the wedding plans until you get this worked out. You would be doing yourself quite a disservice marrying someone who s already lying to you and is insensitive. The truth of the matter is that before marriage and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: We are on a break, what now?, long term relationships, separate ways
long term relationships, separate ways, misunderstanding: Hello Pinklady, I think you should ask him to clarify what he means by, I need time to figure things out. It s really only respectful to you. If he really just needs some time to clear his mind and get his bearings, sure, hang on. You ve invested six...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: On a break, what now?, taste of freedom, natural time
taste of freedom, natural time, 23 years: Dear Pinklady, There are some challenges here. If he has been your boyfriend for six years, this means that during the natural time when people are exploring and meeting all kinds of people so they can feel like they have lived their youth, you have been...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: When should I break up?, baby mama drama, age is just a number
baby mama drama, age is just a number, perfect person: Dear Rose, Break up with him now! You can t trust a liar and a would-be freeloader. Sure it will be awkward but so what? He needs to be making other plans. I get so frustrated sometimes when I see women give up their power so easily. Never, never...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I break up with my boyfriend?, relationship work, independant woman
relationship work, independant woman, 23 years: Dear Michelle, Love is not enough to make a lasting relationship. Yes, I feel it best you break up with this man. First of all, you are obviously not ready to settle down because of those feelings of what you want to do and be. You want to fly and he...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I break- up with my boyfriend for good?, financial disaster, money issues
financial disaster, money issues, exact answer: Dear Teresa, I want you to read the letter you just wrote to me as though it were your daughter who was asking you if she should stay with this guy. I wholeheartedly believe your answer would be--for heaven s sakes, no! Really look at what you have just...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I break up with my boyfriend that I am living with..., 1yr lease, man of my dreams
1yr lease, man of my dreams, myspace: Dear Molly, Oh my gosh, he might as well hang out the flag that he is not interested in a monogamous relationship. He has already moved on emotionally. He doesn t love you. When you love someone you don t hurt them or refuse to talk to them when they...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I break up with my boyfriend, abusive relationship, current boyfriend
abusive relationship, current boyfriend, looking for love: Dear Charlena, This guy is still married and you know he is. Get out now! Of course you feel stupid, but don t let that stop you from admitting the truth. You wouldn t be normal if you never made any mistakes. This is how we learn. Believe me, from...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I break up?, hard time, last time
hard time, last time, futures: Dear Rachel, Yes, you are being too needy. He really isn t into you that much so take the hint. Men rarely are able to break up with a woman, even when they want to do so. Not only are long distance relationships difficult but they are practically...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: breaking up with live-in boyfriend, overwhelming desire, great relationship
overwhelming desire, great relationship, chores: Dear Katherine, If I could I would be tempted to make it a law never to move in with someone unless you are married. I get so many letters with this type of problem. Well, if you were married I would say back off from the new guy. You made a commitment...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I breakup???, physical relationship, female friends
physical relationship, female friends, being friends: Dear Maria, I don t have a good feeling about this guy at all. If you are wondering if you should break up, if you have to ask if you should break up, then you should. What does he mean, he needs time to think about the marriage decision? Tell him not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: broken engagement, having faith, broken engagement
having faith, broken engagement, tuxes: Hello Tina, It sounds like your fiance loves you dearly, but right now he s unhappy or confused about something in his life. And, that something may not even have anything to do with you or the wedding. He s either fearful of something or there s something...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: broken engagement, dying of cancer, broken engagement
dying of cancer, broken engagement, local festival: Hello Polly, Your fiance is clinically depressed. All of us have upset moods or feel sad or down from time to time, but what your fiance is experiencing is well beyond that. I understand that this is all very confusing for you, but trust me when I tell...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: he's too busy, relationship skills, schedule time
relationship skills, schedule time, last resort: Dear Chria, It sounds like your jealousy is ruining the intimacy in your relationship. The first thing that would help you is to take responsibility for your own life and happiness. Get counseling and try to figure out why you are so insecure that you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Cancelled Wedding, new neighborhood, taking my time
new neighborhood, taking my time, single mother: Dear Stephanie, You and he purchased this home together and you have a child. It s time to sit down, and put your cards on the table and simply tell him, you aren t interested in the five year plan. The two of you have already been together for four years,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Change and getting the SPark back, break ups, ordeal
break ups, ordeal, drug use: Dear Mike, It is difficult to know how this is going to turn out for several reasons. First, you sound quite young and so often when people your age get involved in exclusive relationships for a long time during teenage years, almost always someone feels...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Choosing to break up, initial appeal, wonderful girl
initial appeal, wonderful girl, having children: Dear Nathan, You have to be honest with her and move on as you say, but do not leave her alone to fend for herself right now, until she is on her feet. That would be heartless and cruel. It is also cruel to move in with someone with whom you are not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Closeness, new couple, turbulance
new couple, turbulance, time cause: Dear Zach, In looking at your relationship I have to say I do not feel too hopeful for you. It is important for you to accept what she says. Too often, when we want a relationship quite badly we tend to not really accept the truth and she has told you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Commitment, garden path, greener pastures
garden path, greener pastures, four more years: Dear Laura, It is not enough to just get along so well if that is not what you really want. He has made it clear that marriage is not in his future. He is like so many men these days (it is our fault) who likes to have all the benefits and no commitment....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Commitment, commitment decision, time kind
commitment decision, time kind, true love: Dear Bryan, You must make the commitment decision. You are the one that decided to shop around. That feeling didn t have to be mutual, now did it? If you love her, tell her that, and let her make her own decision. Pressuring her will not help. She...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communicating with my significant other, military members, bad person
military members, bad person, wonderful day: Dear Mikelle, Stop and look in the mirror. Talk to yourself. You are a survivor. You made it through past relationships and you can do it again if necessary. People do it all the time. You can either let your past rule you or you can rule your past....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, good luck jack, barnes and noble
good luck jack, barnes and noble, girfriend: Dear Chuck, Your problem is not unique, and there is not a simple answer. I recommend you read my book. You will find many ideas in it that will enable you to improve communication with your partner. Getting Through the Tough Stuff by Jack Tannenbaum...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, childhood memory, girfriend
childhood memory, girfriend, undivided attention: Hi Chuck, I appreciate the communication as I sense you want to move past where you currently are. While you may feel like you have a huge mountain to address, I assure you that what you want is easy to do. First, I would suggest that you develop a list...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, girfriend, undivided attention
girfriend, undivided attention, barbecues: Dear Chuck, Women are usually more chatty and communicative than men, it s just the way we are all made. I would suggest that you tell her, you want to tell her everything she wants to know and will be glad to participate in a conversation, if she wouldn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, intimate communication, girfriend
intimate communication, girfriend, undivided attention: Hi Chuck, What a great question! You know I m often guilty of telling people how much alike men and women are in what they really want out of a relationship, but I sometimes fail to mention that there are several areas in life in which we re really different....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, girfriend, basic questions
girfriend, basic questions, undivided attention: Hi Chuck, I am sorry for the delay of my response. I have been into training session lately that even if I read emails I can t get the time to reply back. Anyways, with your query I understand that you are having hard time communicating with your girlfriend....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication Block, communication block, co workers
communication block, co workers, anxiety: Dear Tiffany, Thanks for the further info. I do think you should just accept that you are not the greatest communicator in the world but that doesn t mean you can t improve because you can improve. Now, this is what I suggest. I know that you want...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication block, communicating in relationships, communication block
communicating in relationships, communication block, lack of communication skills: Hi Tiffany, Few people, male or female, at your age, really know how to communicate, Tiffany, I know it will sound like I am just trying to sell you, but my book about communicating in relationships should be of great help to you, and to your partner....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Communication and Didn't Read Right, barnes and noble, quiet guy
barnes and noble, quiet guy, communication problem: Dear Jon, I am not sure I can be of too much help, Jon, but I would suggest you buy and read my book, which has many techniques for communicating that I think you will find helpful. Book name: Getting Through the Tough Stuff by Jack Tannenbaum ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication Issues, first principle, uc riverside
first principle, uc riverside, communication issues: Dear Jayden, Ok. There is a way to handle this if you have the courage to do it. Otherwise, you will be stuck in this pattern, perhaps forever, if you pursue a permanent relationship. First of all, I like to teach principles because when we understand...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication Loss, mid life crisis, anwsers
mid life crisis, anwsers, hair line: Dear Sahar, Well, it sounds like it is too late and probably not the greatest match for you. Now, how to pick a mate by looking at facial features. We are born with over60 personality traits that are in your DNA, in your brain, and also have a physical...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, woman dreams, expanded family
woman dreams, expanded family, hubbie: Hello again, Monique. My sense is that women often ask their husbands for things and expect that their partner will not do it, or will not do it properly -- worse still, some women will go back and re-do something they ve asked their husband to do. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communicationg with my boyfriend, polar opposites, low self esteem
polar opposites, low self esteem, assistant buyer: Hello Nicole, It appears that your parents relationship may be what s affecting you today. Very often children either become the carbon-copies of their parents or the polar-opposites. Your parents used to yell at each other, and that probably affected...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Concerned about relationship, egyptian man, jessie
egyptian man, jessie, family and friends: Hello Jessie, Well, dear, you are really asking for trouble. First of all, you have not gone with him long enough to think of marriage. Secondly, are you the same religion? Thirdly, love never conquers all. We marry families, not just individuals. Has...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confidence issue, long distance relationship, confidence issues
long distance relationship, confidence issues, confidence issue: Dear Maddie, One thing that is important. Joking often has serious meaning beneath it. This shows that the thought is in his brain which worries me. Especially since he has mentioned it various times. Secondly, how well do you really know him? Have you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Conflict, acting this way, pet names
acting this way, pet names, couple weeks: Hello again Marie, When you say that he doesn t tell you that he loves you and that he doesn t act loving toward you unless he s drunk, it worries me. These are not good signs in a relationship. It is possible that everything is fine and that the relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, rough patches, thoughts and feelings
rough patches, thoughts and feelings, good relationship: Dear C, Ok. Now it is time to ask yourself some hard questions. Is talking to your ex feeding your ego? Was he really that great? Is it your need for excitement and a challenge, rather than on a cool-headed decision that he might be best for you? ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, long distance relationship, long weekends
long distance relationship, long weekends, business man: Hello again, Mich, So, at this point, you ve pretty much stated your interest and intentions. My suggestion: pull back. It will be hard, but you don t want to appear desperate. That won t be attractive. If he wants this to work, he should have to work at...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: . Confused ., two different things, social anxiety
two different things, social anxiety, self confidence: Dear Samar, The problem is that you chose someone who already had a child and then you went ahead and had a child with him when he had made no real commitment to you. So, basically you gave away your power when you did this. I wish I had better news...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I am Confused, getting a job, half the time
getting a job, half the time, curfew: Dear Weston, Of course the mom is sick and the daughter is sick. Now it sounds like the whole family is sick--no it is not healthy. Why do you want someone who is not free to really love you? She never will be, if she follows in her brothers footsteps....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused but determined!, stunning woman, kind of woman
stunning woman, kind of woman, hangover: Dear TrentM, You sound like a very kind and thoughtful gentleman. I think you should be honest, but not aggressive about the relationship. Let her know that you realize she said she isn t ready for a relationship, but you do care for her and are interested...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused but determined!, stunning woman, kind of woman
stunning woman, kind of woman, 33 years: Dear Trent, It sounds like you are doing quite well in what you are doing. It is important to not be too needy or pushy but be friendly, tell you like her a lot but don t get too mushy too soon, or too serious. Don t try to pin her down and discuss the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused LDRelationship, long distance relationship, chicago one
long distance relationship, chicago one, family condo: If she doesn t return your call, I would be concerned that she wishes to end the relationship. Nonetheless, on the off-chance that she prefers email or text when she s feeling so upset, you should give her the benefit of the doubt and try text and email to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, innocent type, ups and downs
innocent type, ups and downs, first affair: Hello Inoka, Thank you for your question -- I am so sorry that you are going through this difficulty. First of all, I should tell you that I do not think that your beliefs are silly or strange. And I deeply respect your willingness to pay close attention...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confusion, brain chemicals, hormonal level
brain chemicals, hormonal level, emotional tie: Hello Jose, It sounds to me that your girlfriend has some unresolved issues with her ex. After over a year apart and being in a committed relationship with you for over 15 months, if she s considering getting back with him, she never cleanly severed her...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confusion, gut feelings, relationship work
gut feelings, relationship work, drunk woman: Dear Joanne, Usually, what people are angry about is not what they say they are angry about. Perhaps he feels like if you are out you will find someone better than he is. Communication is so important in a relationship, so that you can discuss things...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I call, is she interested?, physical closeness, nice cars
physical closeness, nice cars, time men: Dear Bruce, It is better if I know how old you are. Generally speaking, make sure that you ask her out to something specific. Plan the evening so that she is clear ahead of time what you are asking her to do with you. Also, never ask a girl out on the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: to make him care, friend emma, modivation
friend emma, modivation, realationship: Casey, Get some professional help like a counselor or therapist. Do not expect any swift solutions on the net. You need to have someone impartial (NOT YOUR FRIENDS!) to discuss this with over a period of time. Please do it soon. You can t MAKE anyone do...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: charlaine, togeather, airforce
togeather, airforce, out of the blue: Dear Charlaine, In five years, you have discovered that his name is not really what he told you. He was too busy to see you when you went to the trouble to go visit him. He has become a father with another woman. And I am sure these are just the highlights...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: chasing a stunner, mixed feelings, pressie
mixed feelings, pressie, separate rooms: Dear Jack, I would text her maybe once a week and call once a week. I am sure she enjoyed the moment but sometimes a person gets caught up in the moment and then regrets later. When she said she wanted to take it slow that is very significant. She will...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: being cheated on, lifetime commitment, sex before marriage
lifetime commitment, sex before marriage, companionship: Deaqr Ana, Good for you. Yes, I think he will regret it. My goodness--he wanted you and also to get his sex. This means that he probably would not be faithful to you in a marriage when the going would get tough, so you really deserve someone a whole...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: being cheated on, change of heart, odd reason
change of heart, odd reason, new situation: Dear Ana, As I mentioned, he may have had a change of heart, or the new relationship may be rocky. I truly cannot tell you what is on his mind or in his heart. What I can tell you, is to keep your mind on the facts and your heart well protected. If he...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: being cheated on, scott baxter, time is your friend
scott baxter, time is your friend, relationship work: Hello Ana, I can t tell you if he will ever regret what he s done to you. Hopefully he has a conscience, and if he does, he will realize he hurt someone he cared for and will hopefully learn from this experience/mistake. Getting over something like this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: cheating, sad excuse, paul dear
sad excuse, paul dear, sexual encounter: Dear Paul Evans, I never advise anyone to have sex outside of marriage, but I will be happy to discuss how you might curb yourself. Remember the anti-drug slogan? Just Say NO! First, it sounds like much of your relationship is purely physical, which is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: chetaing, real man, angers
real man, angers, jealousy: Hello again, Ashley, Does this woman NOT know that he was in a relationship with you at the time that he was with her??? (In effect, he was cheating on you with her and cheating on her with you!) Does she currently believe that their relaitonship is/was...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My child's father, old girlfriends, basketball shorts
old girlfriends, basketball shorts, water under the bridge: cDear Sunshine, I am so glad for more information. When I counsel people I teach them about the 10 acre principle. This means that each person is responsible for his own 10 acres in life and no one else has the right to tell him what to do on his 10...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: coaching program, introductory assessment, assessment session
introductory assessment, assessment session, blackstock: Dear Randy, Thanks for your inquiry. The best thing to do is to contact me at personalityconsultant1@yahoo.com and I can email you some information as an attachment, which will be more complete than I can cover here. Or, call me at 310-902-2213 and I...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: one more comment, bad habit, boy friend
bad habit, boy friend, feedbacks: Dear Sara, Sounds good. Keep that good head on your shoulders and be open to a man who is already on track, as to having a boyfriend. My daughter, age 26, is a very good example of how to handle a relationship. She has turned down many a guy because they...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: commitment, marriage work, afraid of commitment
marriage work, afraid of commitment, finace: Dear Isabela, Men who are afraid of commitment rarely marry so I don t hold out much hope for you. However, if he would consent to counseling fot the purpose of learning how to solve problems in a relationship or marriage then it could be empowering to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: his communication, frosting on the cake, trust the process
frosting on the cake, trust the process, self confidence: Dear Tasha, Your challenge is that you don t believe in yourself and you don t trust the process of life. Your boyfriend is more mature than you are and he could be realizing how needy you are and that is so not attractive to a man. Let me tell you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my communication, ton of bricks, reading the signs
ton of bricks, reading the signs, right choices: Dear Robert, I think you answered your own question. Men tend to fix when women only want sympathy and a hug to tell them that you understand and are listening to her. Here are some listening tools. When she starts to tell you how she feels. Stop, look...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: communication, making it last, schedule changes, difficult questions
schedule changes, difficult questions, naps: Thank you Josh, This is helpful. I recommend a couple of things. I know of successful lmarriages where they have a date night every week where the couple gets together one evening a week to be together with no TV or other interference. The couple might...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: communication, communication style, perfect in every way
communication style, perfect in every way, laid back: Hi there, Thanks for the question - it lets me know you wish to move forward. I think that there are some people who are talkers and others who are listeners. I can t speak for you as I don t know you or your boyfriend; however, I sense that you d be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to compromise, adjustment phase, homebody
adjustment phase, homebody, 7 months: Dear Matt, Sit down with your wife and tell her that you have a personality difference in that she is more of a homebody than you. Then ask her how you can compromise so that you can take your walk every day and get out and do things, yet spend time with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I backed away but now so has he...what do I do now?, talk 1, insightful
talk 1, insightful, having fun: Hello again, Sabrina, Sounds like you re damned if you do and damned if you don t. I m a bit perplexed from what you say about your boyfriend. One might think he were being difficult if he was trying to find a way to break if off with you, but it doesn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can I back away without compromising the relationship?, top priority, sabrina
top priority, sabrina, saturday night: Sorry Sabrina, You wrote How do I keep him interested in me and make HIM want to see me and make HIM want to call me all the time? Can I back away without compromising the relationship? I m confused because I know a relationship needs time and constant...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can I back away without compromising the relationship?, relationship terms, top priority
relationship terms, top priority, sabrina: Hello Sabrina, Two months is not a very long time in relationship terms, but it is certainly long enough for people to get a sense about whether the relationship is going anywhere. Clearly you both believed that it was moving along just fine. You both...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I backed away but now so has he...what do I do now?, talk 1, insightful
talk 1, insightful, having fun: Dear Sabrina, I didn t give you advice to manipulate him into a reaction. My advice was to actually get back to your priorities and give him some space. You are obviously still trying to control him. I am guessing by this post that you do just need someone...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: There is no comunication, talking to a ghost, dear ivan
talking to a ghost, dear ivan, adult conversation: Dear Ivan, I think you are wasting your time. This girl does not communicate and probably won t. When a person knows that what they do bothers their boyfriend or girlfriend and then keeps on behaving the same way, it shows that they really don t care that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: VERY confused guy in a confusing relashionship, relashionship, ups and downs
relashionship, ups and downs, stage plays: Dear Adam, If two people are not compatible there is no way to fix it. You see, what happens at your age is that people change a lot until about age 25 and it is very common to grow apart. The brain is not fully developed until around age 25 so this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confused, lonely, long distance relationship, army basic training
long distance relationship, army basic training, dear sarah: Dear Sarah, Happy to help you. I am glad you told me you are 18. My suggestions would be quite different if you were 28. First of all, do not contact the Army. You would regret this for the rest of your life. Let me tell you why. You are right to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He's so confused he said..., emotional roller coaster, true friendship
emotional roller coaster, true friendship, being friends: Dear April. I think you know what is the best thing for you to do. I must say that if a man loves you a little distance won t stop him. He is just not ready to take on another family. Believe me, you will get over this. It will take awhile but you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confused, aim screen name, question the answer
aim screen name, question the answer: Hey Briana, I m just following up to see how everything turned out. Did he say yes? Please write back soon. :) ~Faythe faythe1215@gmail.com --------------------------------------------- Briana, If you like the guy - go for it! Remember: If...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confusion, long distance relationships, nasty argument
long distance relationships, nasty argument, ups and downs: Dear Shenyka, You can t. Long distance relationships simply do not work. The only thing you can do is decide to just be friends until you can be together. That way each of you is not irritated because needs are not being met, etc. You argue because...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: why does he contact me now, serious relationship, first man
serious relationship, first man, out of the blue: Dear Anna, I think he just wants to be friends. Friends say I love you. If he loved you in the boyfriend sense he would be calling you and wanting to be with you. It might be that he respects you but right now is not ready for a serious relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: continued, last question, level position
last question, level position, business from home: Dear Eliza, Thanks for the additional info. Yes, it is important. His work hours make it very difficult. Is there any way he can change his job so he is working less hours? Could you run a little business from home so he could work less? This might also...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: contolling issues/emotions, sweet little baby, emotional person
sweet little baby, emotional person, blackmail: Dear LaToya, I would be happy to help you. One of the mistakes I see women make over and over again is thinking they can change a man by trying to explain things to him. They feel that there must be some magic way that if they just get their man to understand...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I be more controlling?, queston, garret
queston, garret, distractions: Dear Garret, I am not sure what she means by being controlling as usually people do not want the other person to be so controlling. One of the most important thing in relationships is communication. Tell her you would like to ask her a question and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I be more controlling?, scott baxter, leon scott
scott baxter, leon scott, queston: Hello Garret, Would you consider yourself passive and non-confrontational? If so, she probably wants you to be a bit more aggressive. If not, then I really don t know what she means. First, I d say you should ask her to clarify what she means. Ask for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: conversation and connection, lifetime commitment, sex before marriage
lifetime commitment, sex before marriage, playing video games: Dear Amanda, It helps me a lot to know how old you are but I will do my best. Let me start with marriage. I know this may sound strange but after all it is our dating time that we prepare for future marriage. Marriages last longer when there is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: conversation and connection, playing video games, games puzzles
playing video games, games puzzles, conversationalist: Hello Amanda, I m not exactly sure what you mean when you say you re so caught up in the lovestruck stage that things have gotten boring. Usually in this stage is when things are the most exciting. It s when we tend to be most passionate and playful. It...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: conversation, rainbows, shelby
rainbows, shelby, puppies: Shelby, I wouldn t force it, as you both may begin to feel bored or boring. Maybe the conversations need to be shorter and more to the point of plans for the week-end and how was your day?, then get off the phone, sort of leave him, wanting more. Sounds...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: courtship, courtship, rejection
courtship, rejection, shell: Dear Femi Labinjoh, You cannot make someone see what they refuse to to look at. And no one has a right to judge a person by a bad past experience with someone else. Maybe she simply needs to know, you have tried and are tired of rejection and refusal....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: some crazy shit, crazy shit, bus ticket
crazy shit, bus ticket, plane ticket: Hey B, It sounds like you ve been a hell of a guy. You ve been understanding and have provided for her and her children. I am so sorry to hear how she s been treating you. You have to know that you deserve better. The fact is that no one can make someone...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: crazzzy, current boyfriend, sweet heart
current boyfriend, sweet heart, rough around the edges: Dear A, Well, Are you so desparate to have a boyfriend that you would settle for one who really doesn t seem to care that much and another one who is doing things to mess up his life. Why not find a guy who is responsible in his own life and one who...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating., social gatherings, necessary thanks
social gatherings, necessary thanks, friend doesn: Take one step at a time means don t go fast, plan ahead. Start off as friends...if you fall in love then you commit to a relationship and if that person is your soulmate, then you set your lives together as one (marriage). Not everyone likes the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating/Communication, down in flames, lack of communication skills
down in flames, lack of communication skills, dear mike: Dear Mike, Men are frequently not as talkative as women. My advice is simple. Simply tell her exactly what you have written to me . . . A woman doesn t usually judge a man by his quietness, but she frequently thinks he is unhappy or dissatisfied in teh...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating dilemmas/problems, funny feeling, sense of direction
funny feeling, sense of direction, little girls: Dear Destry, Sounds like this gal has a lot of mood swings. Genetically, one side of our personality we inherit from our father s side and the other side from our mother s side. When those two genetic patterns are different we have personality mood swings....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating a divorced man, dating a divorced man, intimate relationships
dating a divorced man, intimate relationships, great relationship: Dear Susan, I don t think you are alone in your feelings, I just think most other situations don t pinpoint the issue as precisely as you have. I think many relationships are ruined or burdened by old relationships. It s still baggage, but so often there...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating a divorced man, dating a divorced man, great relationship
dating a divorced man, great relationship, jealousy: Dear Susan, One of the most difficult things to do in life is to live and enjoy the now. There are no guarantees and that is what you want and so you dream up problems that might be or that might happen. You want life on your terms not according to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating someone who can't get over my children, dear kelly, beginging
dear kelly, beginging, seriouly: Dear Kelly, If he knew you when you were still with your ex, then there is always going to be some reminder for him. Relationships that begin in the middle of a marriage, don t usually last, and if they do, there are many many issues. I m going to give...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating, john dear, necessary thanks
john dear, necessary thanks, dear john: Dear John, I need a little more information. Have you dated at all? Have you just been busy getting your education or are you just shy? I am sure I can help you with a little more information. Also, tell me a little bit about what you like to do and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dazed and confused, dazed and confused, important person
dazed and confused, important person, rest of my life: Dear Kate, I am proud of you. You have realized your problems connected with your abuse and seem to be moving forward in deciding not to let those events ruin your life. That is great. Now, as to this young man. It is not certain at this point whether...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :(, depression pills, restraining order
depression pills, restraining order, grandmothers: Dear Alejandra, I agree with your idea. She is not his ex-wife, yet; regardless of how much he wants that. Perhaps he needs to use a different approach. Perhaps he should simply get the baby when she asks and include custody in his papers. It sounds like...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Difficult conversation, insulin pump, doubt in my mind
insulin pump, doubt in my mind, serious relationship: Dear Kristina, I think the man does care about you, but I do think he has some issues that may be from his diabetes or from his background or both. Sex can be an issue for diabetics, and if he is not on speaking terms with his father, there may be some abuse...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Distance. love and friendships, long distance relationships, long distance relationship
long distance relationships, long distance relationship, spirit www: Hi Maria; The main thing that makes a long-distance relationship work or not work is whether the two of you have strong, real, long-term goals, and whether you stay true to them. Also, you need to have a plan, of how long the separation will be, when will...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I Don't Know How to Talk to Him, new date, seven months
new date, seven months, 6 years: Dear Ranae, Your problem is that you are too easy. We each set up our relationships and teach others how to treat us. You make no demands and then feel bad (a woman thing) and then when we feel bad we think they will respond if they love us and do something...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating., private correspondence, physical relationship
private correspondence, physical relationship, term relationship: Dear Matt, If you would like private correspondence, you can reach me from my website which I will give beneath my name at the close of this post. If the two of you love each other and are enjoying each other s company, then that is a relationship. Just...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating someone who is divorced with children, fear of commitment, guard your heart
fear of commitment, guard your heart, commitment statement: Dear Suzanne, Give him the amount of time and space that you are comfortable with. He says he cares about you, but didn t expect to care so much? If the relationship has sex involved, then that says alot about his level of commitment and integrity. You...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating troubles, new haircut, professional musician
new haircut, professional musician, beautiful girl: Dear Anne, I think you should just relax and trust him a bit. He s made a point of the fact that you are his woman, and I have a great deal of respect for both of you for refraining from intercourse. So many people think that sex is the commitment, and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating, smart girl, spending money
smart girl, spending money, young lady: Dear Veronica, Smart girl. The purpose of dating is to see if the person is who you could live with for life. I know a young lady who married young and she took over the finances right off the bat and her husband let her do it. They are in their third...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to deal with a friendship going bad, genuine friendship, one thing
genuine friendship, one thing, worry: Dear Tony, If it is a genuine friendship, then find something you both like to do and just do it together. I would tread very lightly on the idea of just hanging out together. That can get complicated pretty quickly. If she really is your friend and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to deal with jealuosy, true principle, mood swings
true principle, mood swings, emotional issues: Dear Dawn, Sorry I am slow in answering. I wanted to give this question some time. First of all, it is important that you realize your value. Also, I do not call bi-polar being mentally ill. You have some challenges, that is all. Secondly, take...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I deal with our relationship breaK?, whirl wind, hindsight
whirl wind, hindsight, wonderful thing: Dear Jenny, Bless your heart. It is so important for you to be honest with yourself. Yes, it is very difficult to raise children but when they get older it is so rewarding. It isn t that you rely on them to make you happy, it is still having loving relationships...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: deception, wonderful guy, personal matter
wonderful guy, personal matter, 24 years: Have you thought he might be very embarrassed or even sensitive about these subjects? Not everyone is open about certain subjects regardless how the other mate is. You can approach your husband about the viagra he is taking or let him have his little...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: deception, erection problems, loving environment
erection problems, loving environment, health situation: Dear L; One of the reasons a spouse will withold some information or secret from the other spouse is a feeling that it would not be safe to tell. This can be overcome by making it very safe to communicate. Most likely, your husband is taking Viagra in...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: deception, sexual prowess, man ages
sexual prowess, man ages, sexual peak: Hi there, Thanks for taking the time to reach out and ask this question. I have a friend that was married to a man that was 16 years older than herself. She, too, struggled with a similar problem. Her concern was not that he was taking it (although...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: deception, wonderful guy, communication problems
wonderful guy, communication problems, communication tools: Dear L, I am not answering this as a therapist but rather I specialize in communication. It is obvious that you have major communication problems with your husband that need the help of a third person. You ask how to approach this, but I suggest you do...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: deception, feelings of inadequacy, loving manner
feelings of inadequacy, loving manner, wonderful guy: Hi L, Thank you for sending your question. I see that you are upset that your husband has not been forthright with you. Let me start by saying that you are not alone in this. I know that may not make you feel any better but this is a very touchy subject...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: After deployment, little kiss, time to come home
little kiss, time to come home, great stuff: Dear Kenenth, The old saying absence makes the heart grow fonder is not really true. It takes time and lots of experiences with the other person to make a relationship grow. So, I think it best that indeed you do take it slow; and so tell her that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: depression, fustration and love, fustration, tightrope
fustration, tightrope, legal troubles: Hello Zvonimir, First, it s not about the sex. Although you are only two years apart in age, that s a world of difference. In legal terms in many countries, you are an adult and she is a child. I do believe that love can traverse these legalities, but you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to develp better communication that pushes towards the future, funky way, future men
funky way, future men, emotional crisis: Nikita, It sounds like this relationship is really a lot of hard work on your part? Does he work hard for the relationship or are you the one who is always trying to fix it, understand it, work on it, and do better, etc? Were you engaged to be married...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dialogue, scratches on your back, none of my friends
scratches on your back, none of my friends, sweet heart: Hello Ana, To be honest with you, it s not obvious to me from this conversation that he was cheating on you. Don t get me wrong, though. It s also not obvious that he wasn t. There s more to this story that I have not been privy to. And, some of it just...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: in difficult times, embilical cord, attitude change
embilical cord, attitude change, dna testing: Dear Christi, What two selfless people the two of you sound to be. I really pray your relationship strengthens. It is rare for two giving people to find each other. Your question really is the answer. All of the things you asked about, is just what he...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: in difficult times, embilical cord, attitude change
embilical cord, attitude change, dna testing: Dear Christi, I am glad to hear that you are opening up again to being in a relationship. However, I am a little queasy about your wanting to be his counselor even anonymously. My experience is that relationships that start with one being the other s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: difficult to understand, married lady, high position
married lady, high position, strong force: Hello Ramba. You have asked whether it is possible to love more than one person at a time, and I would say that it certainly is possible: We humans are gifted with a great capacity for love, caring, and sexual expression. However, is what you feel for this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: distance, love and friendships, long distance relationships, long term relationship
long distance relationships, long term relationship, parting time: Dear Maria, Your brother is right. However, once in awhile a friendship will last many years. The problem is that when we are young we are not sure of who we are. As we grow in knowledge and experience our personalities become more refined and this means...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is this because of divorce?, monthes, first love
monthes, first love, new location: Dear Allie, Please forgive my delayed response, and I truly hope you have focused and attempted to analyze my correspondence rather than your relationship. Please Allie, you have a lot going on right now and at your age, life is full of change and things...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: why doesn't my boyfriend want to spend time with me, girl friend, self respect
girl friend, self respect, late at night: Dear Beth, It sounds like you have much more invested in this relationship than he does. His days are spent as he chooses and your days are spent waiting for him. I d say, the next time he says he wants to spend time together and doesn t, you need to be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why doesn't he understand my feelings?, better man, stephanie
better man, stephanie, alot: Stephanie, a break over the summer is probably a good thing for both of you. He may come back at the end a better man, but in the meantime, you should try to not think about that and move on with your life (otherwise you ll be stuck longing for him and you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: she doesnt care !!, marriage work, correct word
marriage work, correct word, selfishness: Selfishness can be a sign of many things. Before you go forward you need to seriously consider if she is ready to be married to you or anybody else. If her selfishness is already a problem, going forward without working this out will only make things worse....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: she doesnt care !!, lesten, logical point
lesten, logical point, correct word: Dear Yaseen, I am not sure what you mean. Do you mean that you get married at the same time as your brother marries his fiance? Also, I need to know other things that might show she is selfish. I think most girls would want their own wedding being it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: she doesnt care !!, lesten, logical point
lesten, logical point, personal day: Hello Yaseen, Weddings are very stressful events and people often loose some control over their emotions and their responses during preparation for a wedding. If she was a very selfish person before, you do need to be concerned. If her selfishness and self-centredness...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: she doesnt care !!, english native speaker, religious minister
english native speaker, religious minister, lesten: Dear Yaseen, Most people tell me the book is quite easy to understand. Of course, only you can make that decision. It would be interesting for me to know if it is helpful to you, and whether the language difference was a problem in understanding. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He just doesnt understand, lifetime relationship, relationship material
lifetime relationship, relationship material, abusive relationship: Dear Jennifer, No, you certainly are not being unreasonable. Personally, I do not think this guy is any where good enough for you. If he can t even give a little when you are with him most of the time then he is a very selfish person and you are a very...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I just don't know what to do anymore., realationship, stable life
realationship, stable life, first holiday: Dear Ang, I already told you why I think these things happen. People build a lot without the foundation of true commitment, and then when it gets shaky, nobody is sure where to stand. If he s willing to sell the house and move on, then that sounds like...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: don't know what to do anymore., preg, out of the blue
preg, out of the blue, little girl: Dear Shayne, I am sorry that you are getting to know each other after so many facts and without commitment. Perhaps you are right, in that the two of you do not have to be together to be parents. I am not an attorney and state laws do vary, but if you really...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend, breaking up with your boyfriend, pretty good guy
breaking up with your boyfriend, pretty good guy, selfish reason: Hello Marda, If you are absolutely sure that you no longer want to have a relationship with your boyfriend (which it sounds like in this correspondence) you must break it off with him for a number of reasons. First, you seem to respect him. You say he s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know whether to just give up or try some more, mood swings, premature labor
mood swings, premature labor, emotional changes: Dear Danielle, Please, please listen to me with all your heart. People make mistakes and you have made the mistake of getting pregnant with a violent and abusive boy, not even a man. If you will listen and learn you can avoid making more mistakes....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know what to think?, spa package, things in my head
spa package, things in my head, ups and downs: Hello to you. I appreciate your question. It lets me know you d like to move past this. I think if I was in your position I wouldn t be comfortable either. To me his giving and her accepting is a clear lack of boundaries. It s like gum on a shoe - it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ...i don't know what else to do, hypothetical situation, cloud 9
hypothetical situation, cloud 9, personal issues: Dear Woodrow, Well, actions usually speak the truth. What a person says is one thing but if the actions don t match then you are probably right. Unfortunately, you never can go back and capture what you had. You either build on what you have a then...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I dont know what to do., freshman year, eachother
freshman year, eachother, matter of time: Dear J. First of all, People change a whole lot between the ages of 15 and 25. It takes until about age 25 to really know your own mind and have your beliefs and goals in what you want in life. The fact that both of you cheated shows that big time....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I dont know what to do, month old baby, girl thing
month old baby, girl thing, few suggestions: Dear Latasha, It takes two people to argue. Stop arguing with him. Start listening to what he is saying. Then ask questions such as, what would you like me to do? Or, What do you want to have happen in this situation? Sometimes when you just stop and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dont know where to go from here, vet school, sense of direction
vet school, sense of direction, car payment: Dear Lynn, I am sorry for your situation. Your boyfriend is certainly not the first young man to return from Iraq without any sense of direction or motivation. I don t know if it s because the war itself has lacked actual definition or because young men...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i dont know what to do., prayer god, wisdom to know the difference
prayer god, wisdom to know the difference, cutest couple: Dear Grace, Stop getting mad about little things. If you can t control your behavior in those things how can you expect the other person in your relationship to change in any way to make your relationship better. Now, I will help you to change your...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I dont know where its going!, sensual evening, sensual massage
sensual evening, sensual massage, perfect moment: Hello Xtal, The good news is that you know his potential. You ve been together off and on for three years. So, you know he can be more intimate. Also, you know that this isn t a sign that he s getting ready to break up with you or that he s seeing someone...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I dont know what else to do, kissin, cuddles
kissin, cuddles, sexual contact: Hello Stephanie, This is a very confused and hurtful time for both of you. He appears NOT to want to re-invest in the relationship right now -- you talked about cuddling and kissing. Is that as far as it goes? Does HE initiate the kissing and cuddling?...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I got too drunk, romance ideas, hello bill
romance ideas, hello bill, wonderful woman: Hello Bill, First, if we were talking I d ask if you ve had alcohol related issues in the past. If so, this may be something to work on, before getting too deep into this relationship. You seem to understand your girlfriend s discomfort with the situation....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Emotional Security in a dating relationship, joanna smith, parenting experts
joanna smith, parenting experts, magazine journalism: Hello Joanna, I will share what I can with you. I am a Messianic missionary. I, live as literally according to Scripture as I can understand to do so. I am a married woman who actually believes I was made at birth to be the wife of my husband. Before,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Emotionally Unavailable Man, scott baxter, five love languages by gary chapman
scott baxter, five love languages by gary chapman, gary chapman: Hello again, Jackie, I am so sorry for how things have turned out. I know it hurts. It always does. But, keep this in mind when things finally start to settle down emotionally. One, if this is how things were meant to end, it s far less painful now than...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: End of my rope!, wonderful mother, wonderful weekend
wonderful mother, wonderful weekend, self worth: Dear Cheri, Thank you for sharing with me, concerning your revelation. Continue to seek your One True Father and He will reveal His plan for you. Please keep in touch with me and I will keep you in my prayers. If there is anything else I can do to be of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ex Girlfriend is now a friend and I want her back, serious relationship, female friend
serious relationship, female friend, gut feeling: Hello Ahmad, I am not sure how old your girlfriend is but being in a relationship for 2 1/2 years is a problem for people your age. What happens is that one or the other feels like their carefree teenage years have passed them by. This is why I never...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Expense-sharing question, housecleaning services, loving companion
housecleaning services, loving companion, objective perspective: Dear Ann, I don t think you want to hear this but if you have to ask this guy to pay his share then he is not much of a man. Let s see; he gets sex, a loving companion, housecleaning services, laundry services, a nice home to live in, food, liquor, plus...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: endless arguement, drinking beer, procreation
drinking beer, procreation, intimacy: Hello again, Joanna, Do you think that if he was able to conquer his early sexual release that he might be more apt to going against his religion and having sex again? If so, check out some sites on premature ejaculation. Many sites can offer suggestions...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How much is enough?, judith sills, pepper schwartz
judith sills, pepper schwartz, good luck chuck: Chuck, You say you are not experienced in relationships. from most of what you say, I can see that is true. To get some good basis for being in a relationship, I want to suggest 3 books that can be of great help to you. Relationships are extrememly complex...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to erase the past, happiness is a choice, belief in god
happiness is a choice, belief in god, feelings of guilt: Dear Janette, It is good you have a concience. It is our conscience that helps us to do things that are helpful to our growth and to the love and caring of one another. Now, I don t know what your belief in God is, but God wants us to live a good life...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I cannot escape my past..., trauma cases, childhood trauma
trauma cases, childhood trauma, those memories: Dear Kelly, I am so proud of you for reaching out for help and you have come to the right place. You can change this whole thing. It might take a little work but you can do it. The first thing to do is to look in the mirror, as soon as you read this....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Getting my ex back, lack of communication, girlfriend
lack of communication, girlfriend, feelings: Dear Eugene, I m sorry to have to be the one to tell you this, but if you have opened up to communicate and she doesn t want to reconcile, then perhaps your communication or lack thereof, isn t why she broke up. You love her, but she s not willing to participate...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my ex-boyfriend, scott baxter, leon scott
scott baxter, leon scott, affection: Hello Paula, The question is, what do you want? Do you think he s valid in saying the last relationship was too mushy? Do you know what he means by that? If not, ask him. You need to be clear on what he expects in this relationship so you don t have to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ex, red flags, first man
red flags, first man, self respect: Dear Ana, He certainly sounds like he is erratic in his behavior and therefore it would be very difficult for you to feel you could rely on him. I think you have a gut feeling that he isn t good for you, and gut feelings are usually correct. To answer...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Family problems, dillemma, having a party
dillemma, having a party, nephew: Dear Elizabeth, Tell your boyfriend about your dillemma and ask him if he has any suggestions of what you should do. Let him say. If he is the guy he should be he will suggest another weekend or a way to satisfy both. If he is very selfish he will demand...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Favor to ask Jack Tannenbaum from fellow author, due dilligence, fellow author
due dilligence, fellow author, south deerfield: Hi Aline, You can call me at 413 665-3552. Friday would be a good time in the morning. I live in South Deerfield, MA, so you can use that to figure the timing. I don t know where you live. If you want to email me, jackrap1@aol.com - use the same address...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Feeling Distant From My Boyfriend., cheerful attitude, relationship work
cheerful attitude, relationship work, smart woman: Dear Jenny, Honey, if you want a guy to chase you you have to run away from him. Stop caling himl stop being the one to make the relationship work, steop pestering him. Beh cheerful, happy and going places. Be a smart woman who has a life outside of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Feeling Like I Lost A Best Freind( its very long, sorry), bad shape, freind
bad shape, freind, sweatpants: Dear Ashlee, You are not confused. You know what to do. What would you say to your daughter if she was going with someone that abused her like he is abusing you? You know you should take my advice and leave him. How can you love someone who is so...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: FIANCE IS NOT WILLING TO MAKE THINGS WORK, rollcoaster, scary concept
rollcoaster, scary concept, do the right thing: Dear Jason, It sounds like she has an issue that has taken the break up to get your attention. To be honest, you, she, and I believe you would only be stopping for her, therefore it can begin again at any time, and she will be the reason. That is a...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Fiance ex wife is on the prowl, fiance, andrea
fiance, andrea, marriage: Dear Andrea, This is the deal. It is too bad he moved in with you before marriage because of all these problems but if you end up marrying this guy then you get the ex-wife to deal with and you have to know that he will put his child first, more than likely,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How To Fix Our Relationship, verge, relationship
verge, relationship: So you were engaged for about 3 months when conversation went cold. Whatever the issue its sounds as if she doesn t want to talk about it on the phone. My advice is to set a time to go to her as soon as possible. A face to face conversation may be the only...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Fizzling Love Life, romance intimacy, laura corn
romance intimacy, laura corn, tracey cox: Hello Marie, Sex is a lot like romance. At the beginning, whatever you do is fun, exciting, memorable and passionate. But, after awhile, things can start to become boring, hum-drum and run-of-the-mill. So, like romance, to keep things novel and fun, you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Flaming/Manipulative/Controlling/Jealous, hunky guy, big hug
hunky guy, big hug, couple hours: Hi Cynthia, Thank you for writing the email to me. Being in a neglected/rejected condition for any human being is a very vulnerable situation. From the writing of the entire letter it is very clearly visible that your heart is thumping towards getting...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Forgot What Being Happy Is Like, converstion, space and time
converstion, space and time, favorite things: Dear Jeff, Ok. My best advice is not to say anything about it but just say somthing like: Tomorrow won t work for me; or when you go to hang up from your converstion tell her you will call her two days later. For example if you are talking on Tues. tell...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Friends, blowing off steam, friend ship
blowing off steam, friend ship, trip to spain: Dear Tom, Your inquiry has truly touched my heart. I want to help you and perhaps this may sound trite, so please feel free to write back for further correspondence. I think the place to start is simply to be honest. Tell her, you have wanted more for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Friendship, buddhist culture, friend sam
buddhist culture, friend sam, kind of girl: Dear Richelle, I am not knowledgeable in the Buddha culture so I don t know if I can be o fmuch help or not. Your friend might just be an outspoken American female. She is annoyed by your not tipping generously and perhaps there are other differences...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Best Friend Hates Me!!
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Best Friend Hates Me!!

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now.....
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break, who knows now.....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: broken engagement, fiance, insight
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: broken engagement, fiance, insight

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating a divorced man, loving gentleman, secret feelings
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating a divorced man, loving gentleman, secret feelings, oen

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :(, pathetic effort, car keys
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :(, pathetic effort, car keys, spare time

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Difficult conversation, straightup, good heart
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Difficult conversation, straightup, good heart, good looking guy

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why doesn't he understand my feelings?, something fun, fun things
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why doesn't he understand my feelings?, something fun, fun things, true color

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend, leon scott, good relationship
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend, leon scott, good relationship, bad advice

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Emotionally Unavailable Man, eagerness, jeopardy
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Emotionally Unavailable Man, eagerness, jeopardy, fears

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i feel like im so alone( its very long, sorry), old boyfriend, psalm
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i feel like im so alone( its very long, sorry), old boyfriend, psalm, bible

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fiance still friends w/ex girlfriend, boundries, being friends
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fiance still friends w/ex girlfriend, boundries, being friends, marriage

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Girlfriend, girls point, point of view
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Girlfriend, girls point, point of view

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!!!!, classic woman, having babies
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!!!!, classic woman, having babies, meal ticket

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help my boyfriend is not affectioned
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help my boyfriend is not affectioned

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: no subject, doubts, relationship
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: no subject, doubts, relationship, girls

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I keep my girlfriend interested in me?, tasty dessert, state of shock
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I keep my girlfriend interested in me?, tasty dessert, state of shock, bottle of wine

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Losing interest?, broken marriage, true friend
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Losing interest?, broken marriage, true friend, marriage

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Making a relationship stronger, tom leykis 101, puss
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Making a relationship stronger, tom leykis 101, puss, cheater

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: marital therapy, dr phil, connie
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: marital therapy, dr phil, connie, marriage

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: married 4 yrs blended family not working need to get out
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: married 4 yrs blended family not working need to get out

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: misunderstanding problem, personal diary, first date
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: misunderstanding problem, personal diary, first date, mistake

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: getting over the past, smile on my face, dr charles
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: getting over the past, smile on my face, dr charles, powerful man

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Regrets, loving relationship, wasting your time
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Regrets, loving relationship, wasting your time, new girl

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship with my boyfriend, Aaron, cosst, karma
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship with my boyfriend, Aaron, cosst, karma, pleasure

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Starting over! A fresh start!, love
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Starting over! A fresh start!, love

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: save my relationship, secrets de femmes, good friends
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: save my relationship, secrets de femmes, good friends, interactive approach

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: taking a break, guilt, excuse
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: taking a break, guilt, excuse

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: torn with emotions, patience is a virtue, male friend
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: torn with emotions, patience is a virtue, male friend, jesters

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: truth and encouragement, current boyfriend, worthlessness
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: truth and encouragement, current boyfriend, worthlessness, light at the end of the tunnel

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want her back, ex girlfriend
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want her back, ex girlfriend

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I want my boyfriend to want me., cheers, god
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I want my boyfriend to want me., cheers, god, jelous

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want my boyfriend to just want me!, freedom in the world, good nature
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want my boyfriend to just want me!, freedom in the world, good nature, six years

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want to get her back, old dog, handyman
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want to get her back, old dog, handyman, kindness

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: two year relationship, true love, relationship
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: two year relationship, true love, relationship, down fall

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fear of trusting again, eachother, several times
eachother, several times, girlfriend: Dear Angelica, Of course you cannot trust him again. He is not stable and he has no business in another relationship until he has truly taken care of his situation with his ex. Also, the fact is, he is the father of two children that need him. I...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i feel like im so alone( its very long, sorry), boyfreind, bad shape
boyfreind, bad shape, sweatpants: Hello again, Ashlee, Did you read the report I suggested? It will help you answer most of your concerns (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_11_break.html). You need to talk with each other about the break and what the rules are: how long...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why do I feel this way, and I'm wrong?, fairy tale story, monday nights
fairy tale story, monday nights, youth pastor: Dear Crystal, I want you to stand in front of the mirror and look at the woman who should receive a medal for staying in this situation this long. Your mother-in-law is dead wrong and is the one who doing her best to destroy your marriage so that she...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I feel weird about our differences, intelligent conversation, personal level
intelligent conversation, personal level, sixth grade: Ask yourself some questions. Do you love this guy? Does he treat you with respect and watch out for you? Just because a person has less education doesn t mean he can t be the greatest guy. If you both have stuff in common and have a great time being...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: why do i feel like this?, commited relationship, ring size
commited relationship, ring size, wedding planning: Hello again, Stacey, I can only imagine how much it s wearing on you. I am so pleased that you went to the therapist and have been able to pinpoint what s causing the tears. It sounds like the tears are the result of positive feelings you have, not negative...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: feeling equal, good relationship, rest of my life
good relationship, rest of my life, old woman: Dear Melissa, I am so glad you are becoming aware. Yes, you have it right. You had to do everything so you would be loved. Now, I hope you realize that you should be loved just because of who you are and that you don t have to kill yourself to get it....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fellings, divorce rate, ring on your finger
divorce rate, ring on your finger, older girls: Dear Brandi, Does he make excuses lots of times for different things? How old are you both? It is not natural for a person to settle down just to one person when a teenager. That is the time to explore, meet lots of people of the opposite sex because...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fiance and soon to be step son., town alot, money situation
town alot, money situation, care giver: Dear Natasha, You have a real problem that will not be easily resolved. Your fiance, obviously isn t really interested in a full 100% commitment with you. If he were, the two of you would be married by now, and he would not openly allow his son to disrespect...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fiance still friends w/ex girlfriend, men friends, good relationship
men friends, good relationship, akward: Debbie, If you are not jealous and insecure, then why are you having a problem with it? Is it OK with him to have a woman for a friend? Do you think he wants to keep her as a side thing? If he feels she is truly a friend and you trust him and the reason...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Do I fight for her or move on?, many mountains, open person
many mountains, open person, trust issues: Dear Sara, This sounds a little complicated for me to be able to help you in a simple answer on this website. It sounds like you are very confused in many ways and I don t know whether you are sure of who you are. I would suggest that you just be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Where do I fit in?, whole new thing, adjustment period
whole new thing, adjustment period, birth mother: Dear SaraJane, Well dear, you are treated like a piece of furniture because you so willingly took that role. No, you are not being too emotional. This guy is spoiled rotten. First let me tell you what doesn t work: Crying, pleading, whining, or complaining....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how do i fix this?, partner check, holding hands
partner check, holding hands, 4 months: Hello John, Couple of questions: how many relationships has your girlfriend had before this one? Also, do I understand you correctly? You two broke up because you kept a picture of her that she didn t want? I get the feeling that your girlfriend is still...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to fix my relationship., time committment, sex objects
time committment, sex objects, times women: Dear jess, How I wish I could help women before they get into such situations as yours. Women give their power away when they have sex without marriage, or at least a life time committment-I mean with an engagement ring on their finger and a date set....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: flame burned out, bad habit, sexy couple
bad habit, sexy couple, sexual attraction: Hello Ronn, It s not uncommon for there to be a loss of intimacy during pregnancy and parenthood. Children take up so much time and energy that we often neglect our partners romantically and intimately. If that pattern continues as long as the child remains...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: follow up, steady relationship, casual relationship
steady relationship, casual relationship, hi thanks: Greg, LOL. I m sorry. I suppose I didn t realize your age. She probably thinks of you more often than you think. Girls don t call ex-boyfriends unless they re thinking about them. If things were that great with you guys before, then there s a good chance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: four years and fading, understanding your personality, ambitious person
understanding your personality, ambitious person, new experiences: Dear Andy, This is the deal. When you choose a mate, you choose the package deal. By understanding your personality and hers then you can choose your own poison, so to speak. She is loving and a great person but instinctively you feel that when you want...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He's 'free' and I'm not, but is that what's wrong?, beck and call, dear sarah
beck and call, dear sarah, kind person: Dear Sarah, Unfortunately, he is free to come and go as he pleases and that is just what he is doing. Let me describe a man who really loves a woman. He can t wait to be with her. He is very concerned for her welfare. He wants to be with her and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My "friend", countless boys, mature relationship
countless boys, mature relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend: Dear Shelby, Guys like things to stay the same! So many times when people start sharing their emotions, feelings and discussion of relationship, it does change it. He likes things the way they are. Try being honest as friends, like you used to, only now...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: friendship failure with a woman, work colleague, mutual friend
work colleague, mutual friend, leper: Dear D, She could either be scared of her own feelings that she might fall for you, which probably wouldn t be too good where you both work together; or she could be nervous about someone having feelings for her, who works in the same place with her. In...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: G/F, freinds, girlfriend
freinds, girlfriend, relationship: Dear Chris, I am frequently puzzled by young people s usage of the terms boyfriend or girlfriend. It s like a label for another human being, rather than the other person in an actual relationship. If your girlfriend would rather be with other people, what...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Gallantry, gallantry, car door
gallantry, car door, many men: It all depends on the woman you are going out with, being just friends, etc. Some women enjoy being treated like a princess and others like to be treated that they are not helpless. I, on the other hand, call it respect. People should be nice and respectful...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Gallantry, women are the weaker sex, muscular structure
women are the weaker sex, muscular structure, car door: Dear Augusto, Well, this is a new one for me. It is a good question. I suppose that the tradition of helping a women comes from the idea that women are the weaker sex. Now, we know that women are strong in many ways. They seem to be more spiritual, as...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get back my GF ???, fun jokes, definite answer
fun jokes, definite answer, reason 2: Dear Ashvin, If you are serious about changing I think she will notice as you become more thoughtful, really listen when you talk to her, really care about how she is doing and have the attitude that you want to take care of her and make her happy. It...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: GIRL PROBLEMS, girl problems, teia
girl problems, teia, full attention: Dear Teia, Either she wants to wait to talk to you when she can give you full attention, or she just really isn t into you that much. She might be using you just to fill in when she is ready and feels lonely. Perhaps you should find someone who has time...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Girlfriend, brain chemicals, honeymoon stage
brain chemicals, honeymoon stage, change focus: Hello Zach, First, you probably both are justified in feeling that the other is changing. The reason is twofold. One, you probably are looking at each other differently. Somewhere between 6 and 18 months, the honeymoon stage of relationships ends. The brain...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Girlfriend of 2.5years, feels lonely, rough experiences, highschool friends
rough experiences, highschool friends, older sister: Hello Patrick, It sounds like you re dating Cinderella. She lives with two sisters who aren t the most respectful, and parents who expect her to do all the work. But, it also sounds like you care about her an awful lot. How wonderful of you to try to help...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Girlfriend problems, girlfriend problems, honeymoon stage
girlfriend problems, honeymoon stage, good relationship: Hi Anthony, Well, what I would suggest is that you start working on some activites that you like to do together but WITH others. It will allow you to work on common interests and also get out and interact with others and diffuse some of the tension between...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Girlfriend said she wanted to be friends for now!, relation ship, intimate friends
relation ship, intimate friends, back ground: Dear Adrian, The key is to do the unexpected. You showed a little spunk and that was good. Now, it is easy for you to get right back into the same pattern. This time when you go out with her do not talk to her about the relationship. This puts her in...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Girlfriend, guy friend, 22 years
guy friend, 22 years, free time: Dear Sanjay, I am just going to be straight out honest with you. This is not love. It is not love when you say you love someone who is abusive to you and treats you badly. It could be she is just young and not ready for a commitment or she is just not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Giving her the right amount of time..., valentine s day, happy valentine
valentine s day, happy valentine, second date: Dear Matt, It always is a mystery to me that people won t go out again after they get hurt by another person when that is the way dating goes with everyone. When one person sees that a relationship is not what they want they move on. This happens to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Growing apart..., little white lie, honest advice
little white lie, honest advice, personal things: Hello Lily, So, I don t know for sure the reason why he s acting this way. I can speculate, though. Could be that he s gotten to used to this relationship. The honeymoon stage is over and he feels he s already landed you. No need to try to impress you anymore....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Growing Stronger., compatible mate, pointless relationship
compatible mate, pointless relationship, double date: Dear Brandon, Your instincts are right. Going out just to make out is not only pointless but also dangerous as it might lead to problems with a capital P. First of all, at your age it is better to date more than one. I know that a lot of young...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: me and my gf are taking a break, arguements, football game
arguements, football game, nice guy: Dear Jeff, I am not comfortable with this for many reasons, but it is not my life, nor my decision, so . . . I do think you should set a time frame for this head clearing endeavor of hers. You two are very young, so perhaps some time apart would be good....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girl, advice women, church group
advice women, church group, impressing women: Dear hyper, Ok. Here are some suggestions. When you are around her ask her questions that require more than a yes or no. For example: Instead of asking her if she likes school ask her what is the best thing she likes about school and the worst. Then...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girl, fear of rejection, all the right moves
fear of rejection, all the right moves, shyness: Hi there, I clicked the wrong selection initially, so I want to send you an actual response--I appreciate your willingness to ask the question. I had a similar situation when I was in college with a girl that interested me--I thought about it quite a...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: another girl involved with relationship, self respect, single day
self respect, single day, mates: Dear Ruth, You certainly are right to not trust him. Now, we have to teach others to respect us. In order to do that we have to have self-respect so I want you to think about you and your own life. If you are a loving and giving person then what do you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I like a girl but it isn't mutual, sweet birthday, freshman year
sweet birthday, freshman year, friendships: Dear Cody, You never can predict what will happen. I have seen friendships turn to love and then I have seen them when one starts to love, but the other doesn t. The only hope you have is to tell her that your friendship is more important than anything...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my girl in texas, long distance relationship, internet relationships
long distance relationship, internet relationships, parents family: Dear Joe, I understand your concern and frankly, I have a problem with her behavior and style. As far as the pictures and calls and messages, it seems to be a bit of in your face rather than a solid sharing relationship. Not to minimize your situation,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my girl in tx, long distance relationship, parents family
long distance relationship, parents family, one nite: Hi there, Thanks for taking the time to write. I appreciate your question. You didn t mention your age, nor did you mention whether or not you BOTH discussed and made the decision to be exclusive. Unfortunately, more than 2,000 miles are between the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girl, summertime activities, ball games
summertime activities, ball games, type of girl: Dear Hyper, First!!! Don t try to impress her, just keep doing what you have been doing, but approach her. I don t know how old you are, but I am guessing, by your question, you are dating age. So, when something comes up that you would like to go to,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girlfriend, art lessons, brek
art lessons, brek, clue: Dear Tyler, When someone says that it is all them and not you, they are letting you down easy as possible. There could be a number of reasons why she is backing off. Sometimes people grow in different directions. Sometimes people are just not ready...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My girlfriend keeps thinking about her ex and thinks we should, perfect girl, hard time
perfect girl, hard time, rebound: Dear Chuck, I will do the best I can to help you understand how a woman s mind works in this, but my husband always says I don t think like most women, so that being said, here goes . . . You cannot get her over her ex. My guess is, she feels the relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girlfriend problem, long distance relationships, environment school
long distance relationships, environment school, school expectations: Hi Sal, I understand how tough this is -- long distance relaionships are very rough and extremely hard to maintain. Unfortunately, the failure rate si very high and when one partner goes off to college, most relationships fail. You re having new experiences,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girlfriend, break ups, indiscretions
break ups, indiscretions, russian girl: Dear Richard, So she s the girl for you if she can sort her head out . . . then I guess all you need to do is decide where your limits are. How many other men, how many break-ups, how much time, money and affection you can give without receiving, how long...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: when to give up, self help books, happy relationship
self help books, happy relationship, dear linda: Dear Linda, Start reading and learning how to create a happy relationship. Read books on marriage, etc. Read self-help books. Read books on how to communicate with the one you love. I commend you for trying to make a home for your little girl. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: growing apart, speed bump, terrific spot
speed bump, terrific spot, good relationship: Hi Isabela, You and your boyfriend are definitely in the midst of a change. Sometimes that can be a hard thing that leads to heartbreak. But, you re in a terrific spot. You both want this relationship to last. It sounds like you both care for and love one...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: growing apart, long distance relationships, long distance relationship
long distance relationships, long distance relationship, minor adjustments: Hello Mirnela, Long distance relationships are very tricky because we often grow apart. When we are together daily or almost daily, we grow, but we grow together. Everyday, we change a little bit. But, when we are with someone so much, we don t recognize...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: growing apart, busy guy, good relationship
busy guy, good relationship, going with the flow: Dear Isabela, Thanks for the added information. I think your assessment is correct that you are moving apart so think about this. Couples who really love each other would be working hard to get together. Now, your guy is afraid of commitment. You...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: can you guide me more, beautiful woman, quick response
beautiful woman, quick response, 6 years: Dear Lucas, I am trained thoroughly in personality traits so I recognize major trait differences from the information you just sent to me. They are difficult to overcome and so, if I am going to be honest, I would say that you two are really not a match...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: can you guide me, good sex, right decision
good sex, right decision, having fun: Have you actually sat down to talk things over about your relationship? If not, talk to her now. Find out why she is losing interest in the relationship. Talking things over usually helps understand each other plus you both put in a 5 yr investment. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Me and this guy were dating..., nasty messages, sweet person
nasty messages, sweet person, acr: Dear Charlaine, Absolutely, move on! He is with another woman and obviously not faithful to her. That passionate Saturday night . . . he gotcha! He wasn t going to let you get off the hook for the first break up or whatever you did to him when the two...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: guys.....they suck, planning a wedding, no mercy
planning a wedding, no mercy, friendships: Dear Amber, At the risk of giving a response that you may not like, I m going to say this. Your question sounds very emotional and very consumed, but not with your relationship, but rather your feelings. If your boyfriend is so inattentive, why has your...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hanging On by a String, night wich, trusting men
night wich, trusting men, relationship problem: Dear Madison, This problem is too deep one or two letters. For sure, I would make SURE you do not get pregnant with him. He sounds very unstable. Is he taking drugs of any kind? This is not rational behavior due to a relationship problem that normally...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: HELP, best bet, please answer
best bet, please answer, young lady: Hello again, Lexi, I can t tell you for sure what s going on in your boyfriend s head. But, seeing that you ve been together on and off for two years and it s only now that he s calling you Babe and saying he loves you, there s a good chance he s trying...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: HELP ME, bad moods, mental response
bad moods, mental response, objective decision: Hi Jamie, Thank you for sending your question. It is not uncommon that people get a high from the constant fighting only to be let down. This is both a physical (eg, adrenals always on high) and a mental response. Give yourself and him some time to adjust...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: HEY! You gave me some advice the other day., light switch, shelley
light switch, shelley, perception: Hello Mike, I m so very sorry that this has happened to you -- you sound like a very nice guy and this is a tough way to find out that she s not in the same place as you with respect to the relationship. No, not all women try to end/cool down a relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hello my name is Melissa...., two different things, anyday
two different things, anyday, rest of my life: Dear Melissa, I understand what you are saying about the responsibility you had with your child, while he got the rites part. He had visitation and freedom. You had custody. Now, I hear you saying two different things about your relationship now. You...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: -------------------------Hello..., rehabs, local authority
rehabs, local authority, lawns: Dear Sharon, Is this guy real? You mean to say that when you suggest he pay even a little part of his way he treats you like you are the one being selfish!? I think your feelings of cutting things off with him are correct. Do I think he should have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!!!, hand on my shoulder, course menu
hand on my shoulder, course menu, girl name: Dear Kevin, One of the mistakes people make sometimes is to think of relationships as either nothing or close girlfriend -boyfriend serious relationships. I would not give her a gift at this point; it is too soon. Giving her a gift might make her feel...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help, long distance relationship, two strikes
long distance relationship, two strikes, volunteer work: Dear Mercedes, Since you are long distance I suggest that you both keep in touch but do not try to keep your relationship so that you can t go out with other people. It is difficult to develop a relationship when there is so much importance in actually...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!!!!, paycheck to paycheck, household finances
paycheck to paycheck, household finances, marital counseling: John, You and your wife seriously need marital counseling. Stop wasting your time thinking some web expert is going to solve your problem with some instant solution. They won t. Your problems need some consistent help that will either get you to stay...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!, dr laura schlesinger, laura schlesinger
dr laura schlesinger, laura schlesinger, current boyfriend: Dear Joanna, The first thing for you to do is to own your feelings and depression. The battle for our behavior starts in our brain. Tell yourself that this is your problem and that you don t have a right to impose this problem on your current boyfriend....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!, insecure feelings, false allegation
insecure feelings, false allegation, trust issue: Dear Joanna, You are right, this will destroy your relationship. If you can t trust him, you must have a reason, even if it is within you. If he doesn t feel trusted and he s given you no reason, that is a false allegation that nobody wants to live with,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!, insecure feelings, telling the truth
insecure feelings, telling the truth, insecurity: Your insecurity is probably nothing more than a measure of how important he and your relationship with him is to you. Unless he has given you other reasons to doubt what he is saying, I would relax and enjoy your time together. As far as the other guys...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help, intense relationship, three kids
intense relationship, three kids, 5 months: Dear Steve, If she says you suck up to her too much then listen to her. Even if it doesn t seem like it to you, it does to her. She is not ready for such an intense relationship so just go out with her and have friendly dates. Get past your own feelings...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!, ed softball, softball league
ed softball, softball league, softball team: Hello Kayla, Have you spoken to your boyfriend about getting out of this rut? Is he up to getting out with you? That s going to be crucial to get this thing going. First, take a look at this report. It s about ways to keep things lively in a relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help me, egg shells, half the time
egg shells, half the time, deep breath: Hello Tiffany, Sure you can. You CAN stop fighting with him. It just takes practice and strength. I can tell you don t want to lose this guy. And, I bet when you get upset, you feel like you are just going to explode. So, you say the things, the first things,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!, newspaper clippings, marriage and family
newspaper clippings, marriage and family, curiousity: Dear Lisa, I can t tell from your post if you ve not heard from him since he spent the night or two weeks after that, but if after 4 years, he didn t acknowledge your birthday, he doesn t seem very interested in working things out. Actually, when he didn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help Before I Lose HIm, bulls eye, sugar coat
bulls eye, sugar coat, last question: Dear Miki, If you have issues with what you talk about then you may not be so compatible as you would like. I will be able to tell better when I can ask questions. There is a way to tell him that there are particular subjects that you don t really care...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help...I'm 53...he's 45, rocky times, temp job
rocky times, temp job, blah blah: Dear Debbie, Well, I am going to tell you some things you are not going to like but you need a wake up call. It is bad enough you are ruining your own life but you are also ruining your daughter s life and as far as I am concerned you should have had her...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!!!, hand on my shoulder, course menu
hand on my shoulder, course menu, girl name: Dear Kevin; I think it s obvious that she likes you. But I think that it is very important that you don t act TOO eager - or you might scare her away. Be nice, be gentlemanly, be sweet to her - but don t be too overenthusiastic. You don t want her to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Helping a "friend", buy gifts, second opinion
buy gifts, second opinion, creditor: Dear Lisa, It is usually never a good policy to give people money. There are exceptions when you see a person going to school, being a good parent, being responsible, etc. It is better to offer counseling or classes where she can better herself and take...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hey Kindred, i have a problem..., crayola crayon factory, term responsibility
crayola crayon factory, term responsibility, curfews: Katelyn, I wanted to apologize for the delay in my answer. I thought I had registered myself to be on vacation for 10 days. I just returned and realized, I had questions waiting. So sorry for the glitch and for your wait. Kindred Dear Katelyn, Maybe...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hi, I met this guy in the..., crazy jokes, cell phone number
crazy jokes, cell phone number, incoming student: Hi ( name?) Nothing seems to be too bold today. Women take the lead a lot. However, your questions suggest you have a lot to learn about relationships, dating, courtship and equality between women and men. I STRONGLY suggest you read three books that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hi there. I just need your..., partying, downside
partying, downside, privilege: Dear Asks, I am pretty adamant on this topic. If you are living together, but not married, you are suffering all the downside to a committed relationship without the privilege. That is just always how it works. I do not know how relationships work out...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hi, having a bad day, real button
having a bad day, real button, initial question: Dear Daniel, I am sorry you had a bad day. I am going to give you some very direct advice. That is something I rarely do, I usually try to lead and reason, rather than advise, but here goes. Tell your girlfriend that you are sorry. You just plain didn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Honeymoon period over?, honeymoon period, having a laugh
honeymoon period, having a laugh, watching tv: Dear Miis Great Britain, Well dear, dating is to see if you are compatible. There is a very important relationship trait called Interest. It is what mentally stimulates a person. People are either Things, Information, or People Interest. The People...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hurting Words, hometown aol, share feelings
hometown aol, share feelings, hurting words: Dear Nicole, Understanding each other s feelings is an essential ingredient in relationships that work. It is clear that you and your boyfriend do not have a way to share feelings without hurting each other. I strongly recommend you read my book, Getting...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: what's happening?, wont answer, answer the phone
wont answer, answer the phone, young girls: Dear Janeen, I don t know how old you are, but from your reference of school, I am going to answer this question presuming you are a minor. Jarrett sounds very undecided. Girls get much more emotionally involved in kissing and dancing than boys usually...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What is happening to my relationship?, lifetime committment, acting this way
lifetime committment, acting this way, mths: Dear Bernice, Your instincts are right. He is pulling away from and and he is either just not that interested or he has someone else. This is the problem: When a woman lets a man have sex any time he wants it without a lifetime committment, it more...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: happy married but want sex with other people, regreat, dear james
regreat, dear james, worthwhile causes: Dear James, Everyone has a conscience that is built in. The reason why you have to ask me is because your conscience is kicking in. I have never seen couples do this and remain happy together. Sex if more than just having a physical experience. People...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What the hell is wrong with me., current boyfriend, independent person
current boyfriend, independent person, self confidence: Dear Vanessa, This is a bit difficult for me since all seven of my children were not allowed to date until they were 16. The reason being is that there is a time and place for everything and things that need to be learned in each stage of life. The...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help!!!, hand on my shoulder, course menu
hand on my shoulder, course menu, girl name: Dear Kevin, You have been friends for a long time and both have matured since you attempted dating before. Don t make a relationship just enjoy the friendship you already have and let it grow, if it is going to. I would definitely make plans for New Years...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help, habbit, skool
habbit, skool, bus stop: Dear Moon, You were right to not allow him to swear at you. I know it hurts right now, but do you really want someone who does not respect you? I will say, however, that I think maybe you do all you can to make him mad and to test him. Do you really...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I help him?, afraid of commitment, good relationship
afraid of commitment, good relationship, different world: Dear Aline, It sounds as though your boyfriend has some things he needs to think through. He may be finding himself torn between wanting a commitment and afraid of commitment. Don t both of you become so obsessed with the discussion of the relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help, army base, mind reader
army base, mind reader, messes: Hi Laura, Yes, I can see that you are confused - and probably frustrated by your situation. The questions you ask can only be answered by a mind reader, and I am not one - nor have I ever met anyone who can do that. I don t mean to be humorous, but the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help me, losing my mind, final straw
losing my mind, final straw, fiance: Rocky, You moved away from each other and you said that she afraid of being hurt again and that you argued about everything. From all this, I m assuming that it was her that initiated the move out, but you ll have to give me some more information before...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help, person whos, jealous man
person whos, jealous man, wonderful woman: Hello again, Bill, It sounds like you have everything needed for a truly strong and long-lasting relationship. You started as friends (always a huge plus). You ve been dating for a few months. The time you spend together sounds like it s quality and I can...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help my boyfriend is not affectioned, anxiety medication, restraining order
anxiety medication, restraining order, boyfriends: Dear Ana, If he is giving you more attention by you backing off of the pressure, then give it some more time. If you truly love him, then you are going to have to accept who he is, without trying to change him. The two of you aren t married or even engaged,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help im in love, friendly relationship, co worker
friendly relationship, co worker, instinct: Dear ET, Don t worry about falling in love. And don t worry about trying to make this relationship go somewhere. You have a nice friendly, relationship with a friend that likes to laugh. Just enjoy that for now. Since he asked for your number and then...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help i need some advise, neighbor girl, afraid of commitment
neighbor girl, afraid of commitment, mixed messages: Dear Nancy, You are being used and abused. Really now! There is not mixed message here. He simply does not mean what he says when he is nice to you because his actions tell you otherwise. It sounds like he is addicted to Porn and his little suggestion...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help please, showing affection, boredom
showing affection, boredom, men women: Dear L, Yep. You sure did pressure and push him too much. It didn t work, either, did it? Women need to know the nature of men. Women gave their power away when they were sold the idea of Women s Lib that women should be aggressive, and be just like...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help me with my problems, scott baxter, leon scott
scott baxter, leon scott, guru: Hello Patti, Forgive me, but I m not exactly sure what you are asking. Is he hurting your feelings by going out with his friends, or are you okay with that and just want him to know it? Please clarify. Thanks. Leon Scott Baxter America s Romance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help, significant time, time off
significant time, time off, couple of days: Hi Krysta, It is very nice to hear that you did find my response good and useful. Your feed backs are always welcome. The reason on which you two of them separated initially are seems to be very trivial. Something happening in life is a risk that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: helping her with my previous marriage, low self esteem, sad mood
low self esteem, sad mood, finishing school: Dear Jon, You have a real dilemma on your hands. I hope the two of you can actually make the transition, rather than her just being your transition woman. If your girlfriend knew you were in the process of a divorce when you met, this obsession with your...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hey,i liked this guy at..., one of those guys, look in the mirror
one of those guys, look in the mirror, wise idea: Hello, Well, if you really dislike yourself and don t feel you have any value then go for this guy! You have it right; he is a conceited jerk and you can do much, much better. However, if you would like to get back at him a little bit, then go up to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hey.i want to keep it..., long distant relationship, hapiness
long distant relationship, hapiness, misunderstandings: Hey Shash, What I get is that it is mainly about how you communicate with each other. I understand your feelings of being dominated, and her statements about not doing it intentionally. Eventually those kinds of relationships wear both people down and partners...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hey.i want to keep it..., long distant relationship, hapiness
long distant relationship, hapiness, misunderstandings: Dear Shash, Boy is this girl playing games with you. I am not sure I understand why you would want someone who is rude, mean and unloving unless you want to punish yourself for some reason. My advice is to stop seeing this girl. She is not good for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hey.i want to keep it..., long distant relationship, hapiness
long distant relationship, hapiness, misunderstandings: Dear Shash, I would like to help you, but you have already told me you cannot accept my best advice, so I am not sure what to tell you. I guess you need to realize this is destructive and self-destructive. If you want to wait for her call, if she feels...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hey, loving feeling, chemical changes
loving feeling, chemical changes, jealousy: Hello Cody, I d love to know what broke the two of you up the first time, and what you two have planned to do so it won t happen again. You say you re jealous but don t want her to know it. Cody, she s telling you this guy is hot and that she d date...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hi Leon i need to strengthen my relationship with my girlfriend, initial passion, eatting
initial passion, eatting, guy friends: Hello again, Peter, Well, that 10 minute rule doesn t seem to really be working for you. The idea is that after 10 minutes, you drop it and move on, but she obviously is holding on to it by giving you the cold shoulder and repeating whatever . And,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hi,i have a problem in my..., unrealistic expectations, stupid stuff
unrealistic expectations, stupid stuff, 4 months: Dear Sierra, I need more information to get an insight to your personalities. There are lots of reasons for arguing. Give me an example of what the argument was about, tell me what you both said and also how old you are. Usually arguing has some ego...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is there hope for our marriage?, viscous cycle, pain in the butt
viscous cycle, pain in the butt, ups and downs: Dear Lori, To be really truthful, one letter won t solve this problem. You are right in reaching out for help and you may have found help here. I have a lot of training and experience in these kinds of problems but it will take some work. I want to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My husband, seeing eye to eye, marriage counseling
seeing eye to eye, marriage counseling, maturity level: Dear Mari; You re both right in what you say. You ll always bring some baggage into the new agreements unless you work some things out. DON T seek any more psychobabble counseling. DO seek some Scientology Marriage Counseling. For one thing, it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My husband, cars and cars, personality differences
cars and cars, personality differences, getting a divorce: Dear Mari, I don t agree about getting a divorce to clean the slate but that is up to you. The question is, even though he is not as mature you (generally men mature later anyway)is he willing to work on the relationship? If he is then there are some...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ideas on conversations, god fearing man, free long distance
god fearing man, free long distance, good looking man: Hello Kelii, It sounds like you met a great guy. I m so pleased you ve realized that there can be a strong connection between two people that age and ethnicity cannot hinder. And, it sounds like the two of you have made quite the connection. You ve already...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ideas on pillowtalk, pillowtalk, commonalities
pillowtalk, commonalities, last question: Hello George, It sounds like you just need some topics to help you two decide if you want to start a relationship. You are at the beginning stages of courting. This is when you two are feeling each other out , where you are trying to find out if you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ideas, basic military training, dear christine
basic military training, dear christine, favorite restaurant: Dear Christine, Everyone has a different definition of exciting, but I would suggest the things the two of you enjoyed the most at the beginning of your courtship. Like revisit some place you went on a first date or a favorite restaurant. All the things...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Im starting to HATE! HIM!, new years eve, happy new year
new years eve, happy new year, guy friends: Dear Tina, Well, dear, you are not in love you are addicted to this guy just like you would be addicted to drugs that would destroy your life. Those feelings you have are not love. Love is healthy and good it is not putting up with an abusice man....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Important Question, island louisiana, part time
island louisiana, part time, last time: Dear Nikia, You must stop talking to these people they are very bad people and if you went out there your life might even be in danger. I would call the police right away and tell them about this couple. They may have talked other women into going to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Important Question, island louisiana, part time
island louisiana, part time, last time: Nikia, I never did read a question, much less an important question. From what you have posted here, I think they were very clear about their intentions. If you knew you were not interested in moving there, as you said, and I can t imagine anyone would...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Important question, first cousin, sexual relationship
first cousin, sexual relationship, bestfriend: Dear Courtney, I don t know how to even begin this without upsetting you. How can he respect you when you have given him the most precious part of yourself without so much as a dinner in exchange. A prostitute at least gets paid something for her time...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Important question, first cousin, sexual relationship
first cousin, sexual relationship, bestfriend: Dear Courtney, I have thought about your question at great length, because I just wasn t sure what to say. I am sorry that things have gone this way for you. What I am going to say may not be encouraging for this situation, but it may help down the road....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Important question, first cousin, question question
first cousin, question question, sexual relationship: Hello again, Courtney, Let me ask you this: how would you feel if you didn t call or text him and he never called you again? Would you be upset with yourself thinking you lost something/someone important or would you be proud of yourself for discovering...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insecurity&Jealousy, hearted person, infidelities
hearted person, infidelities, underclothes: Dear Aqueelah, If you feel there is any danger follow your gut feeling. Make sure other people know you feel danger. You might want to see a local therapist who has much experience with women who are abused so that she can lead you step by step in how to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Intimacy, physical affection, many different ways
physical affection, many different ways, food boxes: Dear Geisa, Men need visual examples in order to get it. What is important to your husband--is it his car? Think about what is important to him and paing him a picture. An example would be if it is his car to say, Could I ask you a question? What...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Intimacy Issues...., first sexual experience, intimacy issues
first sexual experience, intimacy issues, sex before marriage: Dear Matthew, It may surprise you to know that people who wait to have sex until after marriage have a lower divorce rate than those who have sex before marriage. This whole idea that you have to see if you are sexually comopatible is not valid. Very...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Intimacy, boyfriend girlfriend, menstration
boyfriend girlfriend, menstration, getting a job: Hey Lucien, Okay -- I think I understand. You re not intimate sexually, but you want more intimacy in your relationship than is happening. It sounds to me as though your girl is struggling with other issues. Depression occurs for basically two reaasons...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Introverted and Alone With No Experience., personality traits, meeting women
personality traits, meeting women, life friends: Dear John, Being a virgin is certainly no drawback. To some women that would be a wonderful asset as there are women out there who want to stay virgins until marriage and marry someone who believes the same as they do. Now, as to your meeting women....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What can i do? Its making me Feel so ill inside!, new years eve, snow boarding gear
new years eve, snow boarding gear, side shelves: Hello Mark, Okay, before you do anything, you have to be absolutely sure that she took your money. If there is a slight chance of doubt, you ll have to look deeper into this. Because, the worse thing would be to accuse her and act on those judgments when...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ive been with my boyfriend..., dirty magazines, e mail
dirty magazines, e mail, intimacy: Dear Sophie, I would say this is really out of my realm, as I do not know how the internet and intimacy works. It is more than just looking at dirty magazines, if there are conversations, but it is technically not physical. I, personally would not be comfortable,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: im confuesd as to how she feels, combat boots, hardcore punk
combat boots, hardcore punk, thngs: Hi Ryan, It sounds to me as though your girl doesn t like the violence in your life at all. She s spiritual, and for her that means that each person has a soul and a presence beyond what you see on the outside. It sounds to me as though your girl does...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: im having a hard time, anthony trahan, happy things
anthony trahan, happy things, 19 years: Dear Anthony, I didn t answer right away because I wanted to take the time to think about this. I feel you will need more than just one question and answer and I am willing to help as best I can. First of all, I would tell your lady that you want to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Re: improving my relationship, marriage issues, jumping the gun
marriage issues, jumping the gun, wasting our time: Dear Jack, I agree and disagree. If you talk her into living with you then you would be settling for just that. You have been together long enough for her to know if she wants to marry you or not and if she does live with you then you would be stuck in...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: She isn't happy.., month old baby, initial excitement
month old baby, initial excitement, stateing: Dear Jesse, There is a problem with relationships these days. First of all, when the initial excitement wears off, some people think that the relationship is over. There are too many unrealistic expectations. I wish your girlfriend could know that it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: iso my wife, dear mike, unfaithfulness
dear mike, unfaithfulness, shakey: Dear Mike, I don t know what to say. You tell me you have had 16 very good years of marriage, but nothing you tell me about your wife sounds very good. I m not sure I understand what it is you want, other than to have life return to the way you thought...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: jealous, exploitation of women, paticular
exploitation of women, paticular, celebrity images: Dear Claire, You are upset and rightly so. Your conscious is telling you, when you feel ugly, is that your husband is bringing sex down to a very low level of exploitation of women and on an animal level rather than connected with loving commitment and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my jealousy, emotional intimacy, rommmate
emotional intimacy, rommmate, feminine perspective: Dear Anji, Your situation caused me to really put my thinking cap on. This is a somewhat unique situation. When we re single, most everyone has friends of both sexes, but I understand what you are saying. I don t think jealousy is the right term. I...