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How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confusion, time hope, previous question
time hope, previous question, boyfriends: It is never wrong to be honest about what you want in a relationship. He may not go for it, but it is never wrong. What is wrong is to keep in a relationship that you do not want to be in. Part of life is going with different people. We usually end up with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dependency in Relationships, caring, behavior
caring, behavior, responsibilities: Hi Lexi, I can appreciate your concern here. Have you shared this with him? I am wondering what his explanation might be. The reality is we can become accustomed to things rather easily, and I can imagine him liking being able to rely on you. With...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Disrespect, back talking and step-sibling rivalry, sibling rivalry, intelligent daughter
sibling rivalry, intelligent daughter, disrespect: Dear Renata, I am going to give you some advice and it may seem harsh. First, you need to be consistent. Even in your post to me, you have vacillated on the topic. Let me help sort the issues that have arisen from the main problem and hopefully you can...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating dilemma, dating dilemma, offside
dating dilemma, offside, girl friend: Dear Mil, In answer to: A week ago, when I ask him what does he want with me- he said “ I want to be with you” and now this…..Is he just playing games with me?? In a word, I would say the answer is; yes. I m sorry to be so blunt, but unless he recognized...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating dilemma, dating dilemma, playing games
dating dilemma, playing games, 4 months: Dear mil, This is the deal. Men will say just about anything to get sex because sex is their number one need/desire. Can you see the advantage of waiting to have sex until after marriage? How else do you know if a guy really loves you or if he is just saying...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Just don't know what to do anymoree!, true intimacy, lifetime commitment
true intimacy, lifetime commitment, emotional level: Hello Stephanie, Yes, it is a good idea for more than one reason. Sex without the commitment of marriage gets boring and fools you into thinking (for awhile) that you are intimate. The problem is that true intimacy comes from the other part of your relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know how to teach my boyfriend how to kiss me the way I like., good kisser, kissing game
good kisser, kissing game, pet name: Dear Beth, Ask him to do a kissing game with you. Ask him to think of a way to kiss, and then it will be your turn to think of a way, and then when it hits on a good one tell him that you love that and then praise him in some way. Men need admiration and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i dont know if it possible, life isnt, perfectionist
life isnt, perfectionist, begining: Dear Curtis, Honesty is usually the best policy to make amends to family. If you want to repair this I would suggest that you talk to her about starting all over and leaving the past behind. Then I mean start all over. Call her up and ask her out on dates....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Fear of committment, fear of committment, independent person
fear of committment, independent person, boyfriends: Hello, It sounds like you are expecting way too much too soon. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to make a commitment so early in a relationship. It takes at least a year and usually more to really get to know another person to see if they are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Feeling Foolish, keeps breaking up
keeps breaking up: Hello Kori, Is there any way to save this? Sure, but it s not really up to you. He s the one who is so wishy-washy. It s been the same pattern for the last six years. Do you want to save this and just repeat the pattern? Do I think he ll come back? Of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Friends with my Ex. Is it worth it?, being strung along
being strung along: Hello Mayra, I guess I could be wrong, but from my point of view, you are being used. And, the truth is, he may not even realize he is using you. But, right now, you are filling a void. He has always been in a relationship. Now that he is not, you fill...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: girlfriend, casual relationship, greener pastures
casual relationship, greener pastures, moshe: Hello Moshe, Well, the truth is that she doesn t care about you the same way you care about her. She loves you like a friend--that is pretty clear. Someone in love doesn t act like that. So, either accept the friendship for what it is and stop telling...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help!!, many different things, serious relationship
many different things, serious relationship, three girls: Dear Elise, At your age you are really asking for trouble if you have just one boyfriend in a serious relationship. You will regret it later on because when you date that seriously that early you will probably end up pregnant and broke financially. It takes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help my 5 yr relationship, good qualities, realising
good qualities, realising, parenthood: Dear Charlene, You obviously love the man, but he s not demonstrating what you need in a relationship. Many relationships are like that, especially with men that are not so dominant. As relationships mature, sexuality becomes just a matter of a fact, as...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: can ii save this relationship ?, friends, counseling
friends, counseling, loss: Good for you Tashia, You know this is about you and wanting something you have not had before. When we don t have as many good things we are not used to it when we finally do. Sometimes we may panic and try harder not to lose it. But that is the problem...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: jelous thoughts, relationship experience, sex before marriage
relationship experience, sex before marriage, jewish school: Hello Richard, First of all, I commend you for not having sex before marriage. Wouldn t life be so different in our country if all followed that? No more venereal disease, no more children being born out of wedlock, and at least most children getting a...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to keep the flame going, long distance relationships, exact opposites
long distance relationships, exact opposites, joining the air force: Dear Darren, Unfortunately, no one can tell you what you want to know except you. The problem with long distance relationships is that communication is 80% body language, emotion that comes through the eyes, and the spirit emanating from the other person....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: She does not know what she wants, feeling smothered
feeling smothered: Hello Andrew, I believe her completely. She does not want to hurt you and she believed all the things she had previously said. She can t help how she feels, though. And I would bet she wished she didn t feel this way. But, you can tell yourself you feel...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Lets make this better? :/, friendship
friendship: Hello Catie, I can understand that you are concerned that maybe there s too much friends and not enough lovers in your relationship. You want to be sure you have that perfect balance. But, let me tell you, your position is 100 times better than the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Lost love? Or hope?, initial excitement, lifetime commitment
initial excitement, lifetime commitment, paranoid person: Hi. Taylor, The answer is that you can t go back and make things like they were. Many people make the mistake of thinking that you can have a relationship where you keep the original excitement going. So what happens is they go from relationship to relationship,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Marriage, open discussions, happy family
open discussions, happy family, word of the day: Dear Larry, This advice is going to sound simple, but I assure you it s easier said than done. The fact that her hormones are really not in a usual state may be having an impact on your relationship and discussions. Life may get back to like it was when...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Marriage, change in relationship...etc, strange thing, live forever
strange thing, live forever, spite: Dear Lindsay, The question is do you want to be with someone who could leave at any time because he has told you outright that he does not want the commitment or the responsibility of marriage. In other words, he wants to play at marriage and have all the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Shall I Marry Him, bla bla, bank accounts
bla bla, bank accounts, 4 months: Dear Nadia, It is hard to say exactly what is going on without really talking to both of you but here are some thoughts. When you took over the money and also started paying half, it sound like he might have then felt less of a man and that is not good....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my marriage, support, counseling
support, counseling, couples counseling: Hi Kenneth, that is quite an undertaking. If you both were in couples counseling, I would be looking at how you met, dreams/hopes, plans for raising the kids, how our pasts may have affected us, etc. These would give me an indication of where two people...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: marriage issue, boyfriend won't commit
boyfriend won't commit: Dear Cherise, Pick out two dates for this summer, then sit down and say to him, It is time for us to get married. Do you want to get married on June 6 or July 15th? Then shut up and do not say one other word and see what he says. If he gives you the old...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I messed up, boyfriend, text
boyfriend, text, trust: Hi Rene, I think it is a good start that you are owning your actions here. Of course, making contact with an ex could leave boyfriend worried, especially if you said that you would not. Trust can be broken but mended as well. I think it is too easy...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: new to relationships, clingy
clingy: Hello Darryn, How long have you two been dating? How old are you? How long did you know one another? What makes you feel you are being too clingy and rushing things? How is she reacting? Leon Scott Baxter America s Romance Guru http://www.couplescommittedtolove.co...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Problems please help!!, books on relationships, egos
books on relationships, egos, jerk: Dear Marisa, In order to stop arguing you must be more mature. Mature people (at any age) do not get their feelings hurt easily and go on the defensive. They have an attitude of--if there is a problem then we need to fix it. They do not react with an argument...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: personality issue, psychological ramifications, closest friend
psychological ramifications, closest friend, impasse: Hello, Here are several possibilities. Read them all before you judge what I say. The question is if your language is crude and full of four letter words then you are limiting your life. Many people feel that language is offensive to living life higher...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: pls help me :(, marry or not?
marry or not?: Hello Khushi, It looks as though you may have asked me a question on my website, but you didn t include an email address for me to respond. If you would like a response on my site, please include an email address. Leon Scott Baxter America s Romance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: pre-engagement problems., putting off engagement
putting off engagement: Hello Sam, Does she live with her mother, or is she out on her own? If she s living with Mom and Mom s paying bills and such, it makes sense that she has decided to follow her mother s rules. Even if she is not living with Mom, I think it s smart to wait...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship advice, counseling, trust
counseling, trust, alcohol: Hi Kelli, This certainly sounds like a lot to be going through. Even before the whole paternity question, I do not want to discount the trust and alcohol issues. While you do not exactly say that he is the one who has been experiencing the issues (and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship with gf, relationship, stop making mistakes
relationship, stop making mistakes: If I were 22 again, I would be mad at you too, because at that age most of us are still insecure and really don t want to be hurt. But now that I am older I can honestly say that there is nothing wrong with you going out and having a good time as long as you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The Rules of Taking a "BREAK", taking a break
taking a break: Hello Gina, It sounds like you two are thinking all of this through clearly, and I believe you are doing the right thing. A break has the potential to jar a relationship back on track. There are definitely rules with regard to breaks, but the universal...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I really need help, fast!, better off as friends, cant sleep
better off as friends, cant sleep, voice mails: Nicole, Anytime you feel so strongly that you can t live without a person you have given all your power away. Happiness comes from within, and until you are mature enough to feel more independent then you will be too clingy and give too much. Men feel...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship doubts, lifetime relationship, unrealistic expectation
lifetime relationship, unrealistic expectation, personality differences: Hello. I would back off completely and give him an opportunity to miss you and think about it. Then, the next time you talk to him ask him to describe what is to him, the perfect relationship. Then listen, listen, listen. Do not comment or react in any...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship fighting, fighting
fighting: Hello Eduardo, How long have you been dating? And, when did the fighting start? Is the fighting usually about the same thing? Have you had this same issue in past relationships? Why do you think this is happening? Get back to me so I can get back to you....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship problems, confident woman, relationship problems
confident woman, relationship problems, independent woman: Dear Tashia, People change a lot during the teen years and early twenties and instead of trying to get him back, which probably won t work anyway, Keep exploring and dating different guys while you continue to get your education and develop yourself. Become...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: reply to previous question, she needs space
she needs space: Hello again, Andrew, I am not suggesting you walk away from the relationship, but instead to take a step back from it. She feels she needs space to breathe. You are giving it to her, but she s not perceiving that. I would love it if you could co-habitate...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Strengthining my relationship., relationship, counseling
relationship, counseling, sabotaging: Hi David, good for you in taking ownership here. That takes a lot of courage and is not easy to face. As a clinician, I always want to get to the bottom of our behaviors. I believe that there is a method to our madness so to speak. For example, what if...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Stressed, counseling, concerns
counseling, concerns, list: Hi Maritza, I guess I am unsure as to why you broke up? Perhaps this is a good place to start. If there were concerns, write them out. Get down all the positives about being together as well as what the issues were. Be honest in getting it all down. Obviously,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can this be saved, trust, taking a break
trust, taking a break: Hello Leo, I m not feeling too comfortable for you in this situation, buddy. Look, it s a long-distance relationship and she s already cheated on you. She hasn t been truthful. It s not worth it! If you calculate the risks versus the positives, mathematically...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can this be saved, guilt, loss
guilt, loss, blessing: Hi again, Leo, what I am suggesting is that if she wants the break to truly reflect on the relationship and her actions, this could be most positive. I believe she is struggling more with the miscarriage than either you or I could imagine; we did not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: do i still love my grlfreind?, Loss of passion
Loss of passion: Hello Alex, First, let me just tell you, since neither of you have had sex before, please don t try sex as a way to save your relationship. People have different beliefs as to when to first share sexual intimacy with a partner, but if there are problems...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: A subject?, relationship, hope
relationship, hope, friends: Hi Jeni, As you share even this small bit of information, I am trying to figure out why you want to stay when you believe it is broken for good? I fear this may be you are wanting to have a long-term relationship and you are frustrated that you have yet...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is it time to let go?, anger issues, emotional relationships
anger issues, emotional relationships, serious relationship: Dear Erika, Men who are players seem to know how to choose a woman like you who will serve as his comfort relationship where he can go when he needs emotional support. They are not givers, but takers. He begs you not to take his security blanket away but...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Uncertainty!!!!, physical intimacy, self esteem issues
physical intimacy, self esteem issues, gut feelings: Dear Sarah, The important thing to do in evaluating any relationship is to accept what is and not create in your mind what is not. As nurturing women, sometimes we tend to see a man s potential, rather than what he is really like. The second thing to realize...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Walking on egg shells!, counseling, treatment
counseling, treatment, support: Hi Nicole, I totally agree with what you are saying and I appreciate that you are hoping for more. My hunch is that with his using he has probably never been able to truly take care of himself let alone someone else. He may not understand what a relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ?Wats Next, needy, rejection
needy, rejection, relationships: Hi Mantza. Sorry to hear you re upset, but it sounds as if your ex-boyfriend has already moved on. If he still considers you his girlfriend but already has another one, you need to decide if you want to be involved in that kind of arrangement. Obviously,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: She wants to take a break, heavy drinker, good relationship
heavy drinker, good relationship, physical attraction: Hello Darren, Well, this is a toughie. I almost need to talk to someone in this type of situation because there are many different possibilities of what is going on. The problem is that when someone is a little overweight and it is a mild irritant to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Am I wasting my time?, no initiative
no initiative: Hello Karen, Where s he living? Roommates? Parents? I m glad that you have chosen not to move in with him and start a family, until he shows responsibility. So, who pays his way now? Not you, right? You say he s a great guy, but you also say you want...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: what should i do?, relationship work, smart woman
relationship work, smart woman, fresh meat: Dear Rachel, You have already lost him and so finding out what he is doing won t cause you to lose him. He is already gone. If you want to maintain the fantasy that you have him then just be quiet and put up with it until you catch him with another woman....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend and I are going through a rough spot, balanced life, excitement
balanced life, excitement: Hello Kate, I d love to know how long the two of you have been dating. Also, you say that you ve gone through something like this before. I d love the details. I would guess that you two have been dating long enough to have moved away from the honeymoon...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break time?, dear summer, break time
dear summer, break time, bad behavior: Dear Summer, The problem is that he is not as committed to the relationship as you are or he would make a greater effort to correct his bad behavior. Now that you are taking steps to protect your self-esteem a bit he is threatening to move on rather than...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should this take a break?, OCD, taking a break
OCD, taking a break, long distance relationship: Hello Rei, I am pretty familiar with OCD, and I am wondering if this quandary you are in, is really valid, if it s the OCD talking. And, I really mean that. because I am not there and don t know you, I don t know if this is an unfounded fear or if it s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: break with my bf - is he my soulmate/not??, malaygirl, marriage and family
malaygirl, marriage and family, elder sister: Dear Malaygirl, It is my experience that if there is too much difference in strength the strong one ends up feel very lonely and feels during the marriage that they have no place to rest. It is better to have someone at least close to your strength or else...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I break old bad habits that I have for ruining relationships?, counseling, CODA
counseling, CODA, Al-Anon: Hi Carly! Good for you for sensing what is happening. Have you shared with your boyfriend? He needs to understand that what he is offering is a bit foreign for you and sometimes this can frighten us. If I was in your shoes, there would have to be the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I build a friendship with my boyfriend?, lifetime mate, college applications
lifetime mate, college applications, head over heels: Hi. The important thing about dating at your age is to date different guys so that you get what I call a dating education. It is only through comparison, while at the same time exploring life/learning so that you grow into who you really are, that gives you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, break up, second chance
break up, second chance: Hello Rana, First off, he may very well have been flirting with his coworker, but of course I can t be sure of it. But, flirting can be harmless. Usually after two and a half years, if a couple isn t actively working on keeping the excitement and passion...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The Ex, relationship, guilty
relationship, guilty: Wow Kathi! Good for you in touching base with his family. Sounds like you are already developing a relationship with them. That said, I don t think the line in the sand is the way to go. Instead, use your support. Have mom and dad talked with him about...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Follow up. Got in a huge fight., Maturity
Maturity: Hello again, Allison, He either really doesn t want to make this relationship romantic again, or he does, but wants to make you squirm a bit, or he thinks he only wants friendship, but when he calms down, will realize he still wants you in his life romantically....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The Ex, white elephant, responsible adult
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The Ex, white elephant, responsible adult, line in the sand

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I want my Boyfriend back
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I want my Boyfriend back

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how do i fix us?, pregnancy, communication
pregnancy, communication, marriage: Hello Tameka, So, there s a lot for me to comment on. First, if you ve been dating seven years and he s only talking engagement now that you are pregnant, it doesn t sound as if he s really into getting married, but maybe feels more obligated to tying the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: follow up-break with my bf - is he my soulmate/not??, strong man, soulmate
strong man, soulmate, second chance: HI. If he can find the strength to really be independent from his family and live on his own for at least a year, then it would be worth it. You do not want him to go from being dependent on his family to being dependent on you so he needs a period of time...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What is goin on??, Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving: Hi Diana, I would tend to agree with you that there are unresolved issues here. Could you have another conversation with his mother? Is it worth it? I do agree that he needs to have a role here and cannot explain his hesitation. I think I would start...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i am loosing my boyfriend, negativity
negativity: Hello CT, I want to know if that is only how you act with him or is this a pattern in your life? Have you acted like this with past boyfriends. family, friends? Do you feel like you are generally looking at the glass half-full in life? What I m trying...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is he lying, relationship, parents
relationship, parents: Hi Corie, I can certainly appreciate wondering if he and his ex are truly ending their relationship. Babysitting the children is wonderful and yet doing so at her house could be sending a mixed-message. I would ask him point blank and his and her hopes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Newlywed help, cheating, masturbation
cheating, masturbation: Hello again, Christy, Again, I think the best thing to do is ask if he s been masturbating. That would explain the new lubricant bottle. He s been using it because he s been avoiding passing what he thinks he has to you. So, he satisfies himself alone,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Phone Calls, communication, maturity
communication, maturity: Hello again, Jess, Well, here s the deal. You need to rise above his childish behavior, and not let him bring you down to his immature level. The good thing is that when you told him how you felt, he apologized, but you pushed him away when you told him...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Phone Calls, confused, sad
confused, sad, communicate: HI Jessica, Ok. Let s try to look at our hopes/expectations. Yours are clear. We see each other 1-2x/wk and communicate on the other days, with the expectation that he will initiate some of the planning and calls. Based on these expectations, we then...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Please help, existence, angry
existence, angry: Wow CTM, This really sounds discouraging and like a depressive existence. I like how you are wise enough to note the pattern though. It is like you are hoping he will take the time/focus to really find out what is going on for you. The problem is he...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Question, personal conversation, women women
personal conversation, women women, hes: Dear misskitty, I am amazed that you think it too soon to have a personal conversation when you are doing the most intimate thing you can possibly do and that is to have sex with him. Sex without a real relationship invites him to use you so there really...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Question, exclusive, dating
exclusive, dating: Hello Miss Kitty, It s perfectly okay to date other guys if you two have only been dating for a few weeks and since you two have not made this official yet. But, I have a feeling that you may be considering taking this to the next level with him, right?...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Question, girlfriend, wife
girlfriend, wife: Hi MK, I would think you could start with the general idea of his hopes for his future. What does he hope for in life? A career? What are his dreams if he could have them come true? This might help paint a picture of where a girlfriend / potential wife...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Question, misskitty, harms way
misskitty, harms way, having sex: Dear misskitty, By sleeping with him right away you have given him a clear message that you do not value yourself more than just a person to have sex with. So, this is the deal. If he is there just for the sex he will get tired of the relationship after...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Question, hes, conversations
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How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to reconnect with the women i love, Long distance relationship
Long distance relationship: Hello Bryan, You need to let me in a little bit more as to what s going on. What do you mean you got into trouble? Why can t you be together? How old is the baby? How old are you tow? How long have you been together? Why have you chosen to remain sexual,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What should I do in this relationship?, party schedules, relationship question
party schedules, relationship question, personality differences: Hi. It is always best not to talk about the relationship with your guy unless you are ready to either have it go somewhere or move on. Since he seems not ready for a full relationship your only choice is to follow my advice I said. When you ask if you should...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship has changed., facebook, sweet stuff
facebook, sweet stuff, infatuated: DEAR EILEEN, People change a lot during the teenage years and early adult years. It is very natural to fall in love with someone and then find he is either not what we thought he was but perhaps has just grown in different directions. We tend to build a fantasy...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship is dying, clean water, happiness
clean water, happiness, soap: Dear C.T. The problem is that you have not found happiness within yourself. You are 100% responsible for your own happiness but you are treating your boyfriend as though he is 100% responsible to make you happy. It is a very negative pattern of thought...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do i get my relationship back to the first time?, new girlfriend, new sport
new girlfriend, new sport, tomorrow morning: Hello, There is just something about most men that they need to be the hunters and need to be the one who asks and pursues the woman They also tend to value women more if you wait to have sex until marriage in spite of what they say. You haven t given...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship stress, long distance relationship, relationship stress
long distance relationship, relationship stress, lepar: Dear Stephanie, I hate to say this but maybe you have chosen another man who is abusive. Maybe not physically, but abusive men blame their partner for everything. If you were just different then he would be good to you. Abusive men want to isolate their...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I Stay With Him Or Go?, false pretenses, signs point
false pretenses, signs point, separate ways: Hi. It is very common to grow apart at your age. It is too bad that your boyfriend is hurt in the process and you might find that you miss him, too, but it is better to go separate ways than keep up false pretenses. Love can t be forced. That just doesn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Stressed Marriage, household activities, smile on my face
household activities, smile on my face, proper food: Dear Nicks, Hello. I would like to revise my answer to you. I have had you on my mind and am concerned about your situation. I know what I said before but I would like to talk to you a little more. Sometimes really loving someone can soften them and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Getting the spark back, take a break, intimacy
take a break, intimacy: Hello Ross, I am so pleased to hear that your relationship seems to have been made stronger through a break (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_11_break.php). You both appear to have the same goal in mind, and your connection sounds strong. But,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: last stage of our relationship., relationships, honesty
relationships, honesty, respect: Hi Nisha There are two things that we all have to learn if we want to have loving, lasting relationships: 1. We can never make another persona love us. 2. Only we can meet our own emotional needs; no one else can ever do that for us. So if your boyfriend...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to streghten a relationship, Getting a relationship to last
Getting a relationship to last: Dear Snethemba, There are several factors in keeping relationship. Often, there is too much too soon and the other person feels crowded. So, here is what I suggest: Be thoughtful in little ways and if you give gifts, gift small, thoughtful gifts. If...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how can i strengthen my bond with my boyfriend, nature change, serious relationship
nature change, serious relationship, beggining: Dear Shelley, When the girl is ready for a much more serious and committed relationship the guy feels smothered by all the contacting the girl does. Back off and let him be the hunter. Men need to be the hunter in a relationship and do much better when...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: another twist to my story, disrespect, infidelity
disrespect, infidelity: Hello again, Chris, Sure, she could be feeling guilty. Or, maybe she s just proud of herself and wants praise from you for not going through with it. But, regardless, I wouldn t drop everything because of this situation. She really appears to be incredibly...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how can i get use to my boyfriend, bored, growing apart
bored, growing apart: Hello Jane, There are several things going on. One is that you are still hanging on to your former boyfriend even though he cheated on you. The second thing is that your new boyfriend has a completely different personality and maybe your personalities don...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I want my Boyfriend back, 5 months, bf
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How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Advice in mending a relationship, trust, couples
trust, couples, counseling: Hi Samantha, While you do not mention what the issue was a few months back, I can hear that trust keeps coming up. Have you had the opportunity to address this in counseling? I ask because it can be so beneficial to get to the heart of past pains and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: he's angry, countless time, silent treatment
countless time, silent treatment, big mouth: Dear Sweetness, This situation is basically simple. If you know your man has issues with the impression you give other guys, then you have a choice. Either you change your behavior or you realize being yourself is going to anger him. It really comes down...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Bad moods, bad moods, verbal arguments
bad moods, verbal arguments, two occasions: Hi there, Thanks for the question. I wanted to let you know I spoke with my girlfriend and have included her thoughts as well. Kudos on keeping your cool when he is taking out his frustration on you. Keeping your cool and not feeding into an argument...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Bad moods, abusiveness
abusiveness: Hello Iris, I would be really concerned if he is already feeling comfortable enough with you to be acting this way only after four months. That s a sign that there will definitely be more to come and it may intensify as he gets even more comfortable...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Bad moods, bad moods, having a bad day
bad moods, having a bad day, cute message: Dear Iris, Tell him what you told me that you want to be there for him on his bad days but do not want to take the role of the dog getting kicked when he is in a bad mood. Tell him that if he is having a bad day you will be happy to talk things out with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my best friend suddenly hates me, good relationship, christmas present
good relationship, christmas present, rough time: Hello, A couple of things. First of all, guys do not do well in girlfriend roles. Men need to solve problems and when they can t they feel helpless and if you do not get your problems solved they get very frustrated and want to leave the situation. Girlfriends...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I have boyfriend problems, a little help?, ignores me
ignores me: Hello Jacqari, Before I offer any advice,let me know a few things that I think will make a difference: 1) How old are the two of you? 2) What s been both of your dating histories? Have either of you had b/f or g/f before? If so, for how long? How...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I have boyfriend problems, a little help?, frustrating, confusing
frustrating, confusing, relationship: Hi Jacqari, That does sounds frustrating....and confusing. I don t understand it either but we need to find out. Could it be he does not know how to take the relationship farther? Perhaps he fears what you want to talk about and decided it is the worst...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Conflicting feelings, counseling, growth
counseling, growth, responsibilities: Impressive Mariano, Good for you. Clearly, you have a sense of what is going on for you. With respect to her, I am convinced she wants this to work and may just be scared how to best to that --especially since we know things did not work out so well in...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Conflicting feelings, trust, abuse
trust, abuse: Hello Mariano, First off, I m going to give it to you straight. You need to step it up in the maturity arena. You are middle aged, have kids and a job, yet you re drinking, losing your keys, going to your girlfriend s family to help you get back into your...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Conflicting feelings, sensitive area, text messages
sensitive area, text messages, limo: Dear Mariano, The ball is in your court means, the next move is up to you. If the two of you have been together for 3 years and this is the first physical episode you ve had, then it s probably an isolated incident, but your girl friend is not as comfortable...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Conflicting feelings, sensitive area, text messages
sensitive area, text messages, limo: Hello, What she needs is consistency over a period of time to show her that you will not lose your temper again. To give her more assurance, you might sit down and ask her to help you make some relationship rules to prevent things from escalating should...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why is he so cruel?, committment, relationship
committment, relationship, flirting: Hi Beth, I am sorry you are going through this. I can only imagine your disappointment. My hunch here is that his intent is not to be cruel. What I believe is that being honest can be too difficult to manage sometimes. So, instead, we tend to act it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Failing relationship Please HELP, trust issues, the ex
trust issues, the ex: Hello Stephanie, First, let me scream this to you: DO NOT HAVE A BABY WITH HIM ANY TIME SOON! You two are not ready for that. Not in any way. It would be unfair to the both of you, but more importantly, for your child. So, put those thoughts on hold for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is she falling out of love with me or am i over thinking?, dear james, romantic dinner
dear james, romantic dinner, bad mood: Dear James, The two of you need a little time together. Make a date for just the two of you. If you can t swing a sitter, then I suggest you make a romantic dinner on her night off and surprise her. Something like that will mean more than just words. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How can I fix my relationship?, close friends, 4 months
close friends, 4 months, ex girlfriend: Arielle, I feel it is best for you to get a love reading to findout exactly what his feelings are for you and to see if this is really something that he wants to do in his life or move on. I rige psychic love readings. You can give me a call at 409-351-923...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My girlfriend feels bad about talking to her friends while I'm around., balancing friends and relationship
balancing friends and relationship: Hello Lucas, It s strange, but with high school relationships, sometimes things like this happen. There s this imbalance between partner and friends, and often it s hard for one or both people to know how to get everyone to fit into their lives. Talking...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: should i give up on marriage???, intimate moments, rest of my life
intimate moments, rest of my life, daily basis: Hello, Yes I can help you just from reading your information on your relationship. I would like to give you a reading first befor I give you any of my advice. Please visit my site @ www.psychicannabelle.webstarts.com Or call me at (409) 351-9235 Thanks...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: john, relationship, court
relationship, court: Hi Lauren, I like how you know now is not the best time for a relationship. Many people do not know this and rush right into something. Maybe the lack of contact means he has a lot going on right now. Maybe it means he is not in the best place. It could...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I'm past the honeymoon phase and it's sink or swim time! help!, behavior
behavior: Hi Blaire, I guess I am wanting to make sure here. Has he done anything that would lead you to worry or is it her behavior that is concerning? I always like to know the thought behind the concern. For example, there is a reason he wants to be friends....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to proceed, thyroid support groups, emotional extremes
thyroid support groups, emotional extremes, mental health professionals: Dear Slas, It sounds dramatically romantic, but also high pressure. I do like what you say and how you are expressing your responsibility, but . . . to be honest it is an expensive promise ring and after the ups and downs, I just don t know what to tell...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: RELATIONSHIP, pressure
pressure: Hello Yursa, What you need to do is make a decision based on what YOU want, need, and feel, not what you think others want you to say or do. You say HE wants you to tell your parents. Is that what you want? You say that they might refuse, but what do...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Ridiculous part of my love life, emotional attachment, returning to ex
emotional attachment, returning to ex: Hello again, Bela, Because he is emotionally attached to you does not necessarily mean that he still wants you. He may be very angry with you for some reason. because he has feelings for you, whatever he envisions you have done to him, hurts. So, he wants...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, lifetime commitment, trying to have a baby
lifetime commitment, trying to have a baby, trying for a baby: Hello Jackie, I am surprised you are trying to have a baby with someone who does not want to get married. After five years the only reason he is dragging his feet is that he really doesn t want to get married. Getting financially stable is only a big excuse...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, spark gone
spark gone: Hello Nicole, If you have been dating for a year and you are 13, this relationship has been a big part of your life, and it s completely common for the spark to start to fizzle. Read this for an explanation of why (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_10_fades.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Am i being Selfish?, free tutor, arguement
free tutor, arguement, wht: Hello Ricardo, No, you are not selfish, you are smart. She called you selfish because that is a way of manipulating you. She knows, either consciously or subconsciously, that you are not selfish and that being unselfish is very important to you and so it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I stay in this relationship?, trust, parenthood
trust, parenthood, responsibility: Hello Shan, It sounds to me that you two are not ready for a really serious, committed relationship, but because you have a son, you are playing house. I don t doubt that he cares for you or maybe even really loves you, but it s obvious he s not ready...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Update., relationship work, alison
relationship work, alison, salvage: Hello again, Ali, I am so happy for you. What I love most about your update is that you realize that even if this new relationship doesn t pan out, it has helped you to realize what you deserve in life and that you are worthy of more than you were giving...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is it me or is it her?, trust, infidelity
trust, infidelity, neediness: Hello Edward, That battle between heart and head is quite tough. The heart is strong, but often the head is correct. Edward, so you have been with JW for five months, and you said that the first six months are usually the toughest, but that s not the case....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend of 3.5 Years wants to move in together, change, graduation
change, graduation, relationship: Hi Claire, Congrats on the upcoming graduation. I like how you are being proactive here in thinking about all the upcoming change. It will indeed be a lot to deal with. The fact that so much will be going on could indeed impact the relationship. My first...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend is loosing interest, relationship, communication
relationship, communication: Hi Mahi, Ok. So he has not been in a previous relationship. That would explain perhaps not knowing how communication in a relationship can continue but I think there is much more when he says he does not want to share. This is a major obstacle. Bottom...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: canceling a wedding..., forgiveness, postponed wedding
forgiveness, postponed wedding: Hello Angela, First I am sorry for your lost. I lost my grandmother five weeks ago, and I don t think I could have celebrated on the day of her funeral. Your choice makes sense. Your wedding day should be your day, a day of happy memories. If you are mourning...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Exactly alike., long distance relationship, parents and grandparents
long distance relationship, parents and grandparents, beauty marks: Dear Brooke, Are either of you adopted? Who are his parents and grandparents and where did they live? Where did your parents and grandparents live? If you really are concerned do a little research on both of your families to see if they lived in the same...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to stop loving him, wanting,thinking about
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to stop loving him, wanting,thinking about

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: first love now a mess but i still love him, long distance relationship, university freshman
long distance relationship, university freshman, freshman year: Dear Agustina, You need to move on. Too much negative history and he already has another girlfriend, even if it is long distance. We tend to go back to the familiar because it is easier, not because it is the best thing for us. Long distance relationships...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Girls with morals?, kissing cuddling, nice time
kissing cuddling, nice time, morals: Hi. Morals do count and some guy will realize it and go for you. Right now, for whatever reason, most of the guys are out looking for sex and not serious relationships. I don t know if it is where you are meeting them or just your age bracket. This guy likes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: gifts, gifts
gifts: Hello Hannah, As you say, it s not important what others think of your relationship. So, it s obvious that what s really bothering you is not what others think, but just the fact that he s not taking into consideration, that a gift would make you feel good....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I get my girlfriend back and get our lives back on track, trust, affair
trust, affair, substance abuse: Hello Ryan, First off, I am so glad she declined your proposal. You two have some real issues and if you got married hoping that would fix the problems, you two would have not only been upset at one another, but tied together legally, too. I don t know...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Husband wife relationship, family, frustrations
family, frustrations, journal: Hi Sabi, I am glad you are reaching out. My hunch is that like for most of us, there are a number of things on his mind that bother him. It could be the family issues, work issues, etc. Unfortunately, when we don t address the problem, our frustrations...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why isn't he that interested any-more?, post-partum
post-partum: Hello Jennie, Am I right in assuming that you two are a young couple? It takes men longer to mature than women, so often it s hard for a young man to understand deep love. There are three factors that might be at play here: 1) you ve been together for two...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: keepin the Flame Alive, dating a prisoner
dating a prisoner: Hello Kenya, Did you look at that like I gave you? I think your best bet is to just continue to get to know him via texts and phone calls. You two are in an unusual situation. You are still getting to know one another. You are not allowed to be together...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Please help, trust
trust: Hello Trudie, I think that by you two backing off a little is probably enough and a good idea. I m thinking neither of you were quite ready to go to the next level. He is still very insecure because of his past experience, and you are a bit insecure yourself,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Questioning my Relationship, neighbors mom, loving person
neighbors mom, loving person, playing a game: Dear Ali, Grownups get to make grownup decisions when they are grown up. When you live with your parents you are always going to have to deal with this. When you are self-supporting you can make your own decisions and move far enough away that your parents...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship problems, relationship, feelings
relationship, feelings: Hi Stella, There could be a number of things going on here but only he can answer for certain. One thing, since he was so in love that week, is that he may be finding it more difficult to be away from you. He may be sad and discouraged about this and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Role Reversal, understanding personality, personality trait
understanding personality, personality trait, crazy schedule: Hello Ty, Often, we choose people who have what we desire for ourselves, or think we need to have, instead of someone who is truly compatible. Then, when we do not get from them what we want for ourselves we resent it. Understanding personality trait differences...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, long distance relationships, favorite musical group
long distance relationships, favorite musical group, favorite candy bar: Hello Daniel, When the beginning excitement wears off in a relationship you either go into a deeper, more meaningful relationship, or it falls away because there is no depth to it. It takes about two years to really know someone under normal circumstances....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to stop loving him, wanting,thinking about, working on self
working on self: Hello again, Silky, I know it s hard to go cold turkey. But, if you are going to try and remove him from your life you ll need to fill your life with other healthy distractions. And, what I mean by healthy are things that are good for your well-being:...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Unsure., serious relationship, facebook
serious relationship, facebook, suzy: Dear Suzy, At 17 people and guys in particular are not ready for a committed relationship. This is the time to explore life and meet lots of different people. He thinks that having a relationship is seeing a girl once in awhile while he continues to have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Unsure., communication
communication: Hello Suzy, It sounds to me that you re just out to spend some time with a great guy, but you are not head-over-heels about him. And, based on what you have told me about him, he may be in the same boat, too. Since you two can t communicate very much,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Unsure., relationship, committed
relationship, committed: Hi Suzy, Relationships can be confusing....for all of us (smile). Ok. So please realize that since you are not expecting a serious relationship, that this is a wonderful opportunity to go out and have fun and just get to know someone. It seems a bit...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: update, woman control, independent man
woman control, independent man, elder sister: Malaygirl, The best way to move on from a relationship is to look at it realistically and look at how you, yourself, contributed to the problem. You feel he betrayed you but he was just being himself. You made a mistake in thinking that because he said...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i want to trust him..long distence relationbship, relationship
relationship: Hi Tylair, Where does he say he goes on these days? Indeed, this could just be his fun time. Have you ever asked to be included or asked him to do something specific on one of those evenings? For example, I might say, Hey! There is this cool show Friday...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What to do?, communication
communication: Hello Jess, It sounds as though the two of you are great when together, but it s the time apart that you are at opposite ends of the spectrum. What this seems to come down to is communication. You two need to sit down next time you are together and without...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 49, Unemployed and Depressed, socialable, computers networking
socialable, computers networking, attractive man: Hi. It is a good sign that he pretty much paid you back but it is not a good sign that he is into self-pity. That is being too much like a martyr. I would certainly tell him that self- pity will not get him anywhere and that if he has no more belief in himself...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Best Friend Problems, sophomore year, friend problems
sophomore year, friend problems, twitter: Dear Kyle, One of the main causes of unhappiness in this world is unrealistic expectations. You are treating this friendship like a marriage, instead of a friendship, which is making you unhappy because your demands are unrealistic. Friends accept friends...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: best friend?, initial excitement, rest of my life
initial excitement, rest of my life, falling out of love: Hello, Well, I can tell you that love/marriage without friendship usually ends up in divorce when the excitement wears off. If you are still attracted to him sexually then you are fine. All relationships loses the initial excitement and settles down into...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is my boyfriend loosing interest??, cheating?, distant
cheating?, distant: Hello Tracy, Could be a lot of things. What comes to my mind first and foremost is maybe the stress of being in the army. Is he on active duty? One concern is that you ve only been a couple for three months and he is already keeping things to himself....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: We broke up, acting weird
acting weird: Hello again, Miss A, I don t know if he is interested or not. But, if he s saying he hates you, then you catch him staring at you, something s not right. If he says he hates you, but really is interested and can t stop staring, then, in my book, he has...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Commitment phobe, Easter, feelings
Easter, feelings, fear: Hi Jay! I can hear your interest in the relationship and your motivation. Honestly, I had to check your name as I just received a similar e-mail about almost the very same issue and timelines. What I have learned over the years is that most of us do not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, feelings, relationship
feelings, relationship, friend: Hi Ramya, After being in a 6 yr relationship and it not working, I can imagine you not wanting to invest another 6 yrs into a relationship that is not viable. This may lead you (or any of us in this situation) to feel some pressure. I am concerned that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He doesn't know what he wants, sexual connection, passion
sexual connection, passion: Hello Katie, I think your maturity in the face of this difficult situation is to be applauded. Since you two got tied up so quickly as far as cohabitation, it makes things a little stickier. But, I think you should either move out or have him move out....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to fix a terrible relationship, anger, arguing
anger, arguing: Hello Alex, The good news is that she is very aware of what she is doing. She apologizes and promises it won t happen again. the even better news is that you love each other dearly. The cores of the two of you seem to be bonded. So, you definitely have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Having huge problems, millionth time, countless times
millionth time, countless times, rock bottom: Dear Alex, As I read this I thought of two things. If neither of these topics applies, then I m sorry, but perhaps one or the other will strike a chord. 1. Could it be a hormonal imbalance that she is unaware of? I m not just talking about the time of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: inconsistencies, relationship, counseling
relationship, counseling, encourage: Hi Kristen, I can appreciate the issue of letting go, as it is certainly a common one. I always say there is a method to our madness, meaning there is a reason for this behavior. Let s try and figure it out. First of all, having your ex around is a nice...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Long term girlfriend wants to be single again, term girlfriend, respectful relationship
term girlfriend, respectful relationship, rational basis: Hi. Timing is everything. It sounds like two good people who are just not together at the right time in their life. The problem when couples get serious and exclusive at a young age, almost always one or the other feels like their youth has passed them by,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Making things better, strained relationship, current boyfriend
strained relationship, current boyfriend, twin brother: Dear nava, Look at your past history. More than likely you give your heart, mind, and body away much too soon in a relationship. Women s power comes from making the guy work to get you. It makes better men of them. Of course he feels crowded and of course...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I have made serious mistakes in the past, and now my partner is suffering from them., guilt, suffering
guilt, suffering, jealousy: Hi Laura First of all, your partner is CHOOSING to suffer. He doesn’t have to; he could let this go, in a loving, compassionate way. But because he is choosing to suffer, he is trying to make you suffer too and he’s feeding your guilt about what you’ve...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: should i move on.., calling me names, horrible person
calling me names, horrible person, lot one: It is always hard to give up the familiar. What would happen if you just told him you were busy when he calls? After a couple of times he might give up. Then, if he keeps asking you tell him that you have thought it over and think that you are not compatible....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: New Relationship, socialable, computers networking
socialable, computers networking, attractive man: Hi Mechelle, Being out of work would not be a deal breaker if he were really out their hustling to get another one and not making excuses. I am glad he wants no assistance; that is a good sign, but being depressed and having so many problems might not be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The Parents!, the in-laws
the in-laws: Hello again, Ray, I know that it bothers you, and you can t ignore it completely. But, when it gets to you, have your say, then push it aside and get on with your life, your relationship and your pregnancy. You can t know what s going on in their heads,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: This is probably obnoxiously long and involved. I apologise., sexual experiences, current boyfriend
sexual experiences, current boyfriend, five months: Dear Gabby, Although I never recommend underage or uncommitted sexual relationships, I don t judge them either. One thing though, underage drinking is not just a matter of judgment or morality, it s a matter of law. People do what people do. Now, as to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, advice for relationships, expert relationship advice
advice for relationships, expert relationship advice, free relationship advice: Unfortunately this is part of the masculine energy. The worst thing you could do is call a guy out when he is wrong. Now I am not saying that you pretend he is right all the time. But make sure you pick your fights wisely. Let him win a few even if you know...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can it be a relationship or not?, sex with my cousin, ring fingers
sex with my cousin, ring fingers, hold hands: Hi. Ric, You know, life is a risk. If you really want to live your life you must take risks and I do not know of any way to try to make this more than a friendship without taking a risk that you might lose her friendship. So, I would just tell her how you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship is slowly falling apart, counselling, relationships
counselling, relationships, baggage: Hi Chantal I would recommend getting some counselling to resolve your issues. You can t have a healthy, loving relationship if there s stuff inside you (and him) that s preventing you from being fully yourself, baggage-free. Of course, we all have baggage,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Taking a "Break", taking a break
taking a break: Hello John, There are a few things that I think you should be familiar with It sounds like she started losing her passion for you after about 2 years into the relationship. Usually between 6 and 18 months, there s a definite lull in a relationship, and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I make things better?, gory details, distrust
gory details, distrust, transparency: Dear Matt, The only way she will trust you again is to tell her that she can call you any time to know what you are doing, and read your texts, etc. Ordinarily, you would maintain privacy but in this case, it takes complete transparency in order to regain...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Valentine's Day 2010 *emergancy*, distortion, self-identity
distortion, self-identity, neediness: Lauren, this is not really about strengthening your relationship since you don t really have one, yet, with this guy. The best advice I can give you is to just be yourself and do what feels right for you. Stop trying to second-guess him and don t try to cater...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: She wants to take a break..., initial excitement, meaningful relationship
initial excitement, meaningful relationship, friends with benefits: Dear Ken, The problem here, it seems, is that she has unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be. People need to understand that no matter how much you love another person there will be times when you are tempted to give in to the excitement...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is it over?, college experience, unrealistic expectations
college experience, unrealistic expectations, monday through thursday: Dear Alexa, This is the deal. People change a LOT between 18 and 25. This is the period of time when you are exploring who you are, your options, and really figuring out what and who you want in life. It is very, very common for couples to grow apart at...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 5 Year Rut, long distance relationship, pulling teeth
long distance relationship, pulling teeth, couple nights: Dear Leah, You have several issues here. The problem with getting into serious relationships too young is pretty much what you are describing. This is very common. Those years should be spent playing the field, so to speak, instead of in serious relationships....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Affectionateless Relationship, lack of affection, relationship question
lack of affection, relationship question, busy working: Hi. This is what often happens in choosing partners. We have unfinished business with one of our parents that we are trying to complete--or we are nurturers and so when we date someone we seem to wait for that feeling of being at home or being familiar with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: this awesome girl i met online, cool girl, friend of a friend
cool girl, friend of a friend, costumers: Dear Robert, Any number of things could be happening here. She might not be entirely through with another relationship or things just didn t click for her like it did you, or she has some other reason. I would try once again and tell her that you enjoyed...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend, color jokes, crude remarks
color jokes, crude remarks, moral standards: HELLO Lizzie, A very important thing in life, in order to be happy, is to acknowledge God given boundaries within yourself. Once you realize a boundary has been crossed then you decide what you will or will not do, and what you will or will not accept....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break in a relationship, balance of power
balance of power: Hi. It is hard to say what brought it on since he is not telling you. I have been thinking what I would do if this happened to me. I think you should respect this month away but make sure HE is the one who contacts you first. If you contact him then you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my boyfriend, trust, taking a break
trust, taking a break: Hello Faith, The biggest issue I m seeing here is trust. Trust is so easy to lose, and tough to regain. Please take a look at this report (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/report_12_trust.php). He cheated on you and you took him back. Now, not only...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend calls me immature for wanting to see him. HELP!, lack of time, flip flop
lack of time, flip flop, 22 years: HI. The problem is that you are already thinking that building your own life and not putting so much pressure on him is being spiteful and so it will not work. Read what I said again about the purpose of what you are doing. The purpose is to agree with him...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: get boyfriend to spend more time, relationship type, old shoe
relationship type, old shoe, wifey: Hi Tonash, Well, this guy is keeping you on the back burner for when HE is ready to make a further commitment. He sees you as a potential mate, but loves his freedom more. If you are having sex with him then he is just using you, for sure. Otherwise, he...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: a break, done for ever?, full time job, tight schedules
full time job, tight schedules, school schedules: Dear Glenn, Unfortunately there is not very much you do when one person wants space and backs off from the relationship. This happens often when couples get serious so young. As a person goes through those formative years they often change to where what...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Does a break really help a relationship get stronger?, formative years, faults
formative years, faults, annie: Hi. Annie, It is a breakup. Why, I do not know; but taking breaks almost always means the end. Often, when a relationship goes on too long without marriage it becomes stale. All the faults of relationships come out without the goals and projects that usually...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Controlling Personality, controlling personality, couple counseling
controlling personality, couple counseling, adult woman: Dear Diane, You can only make a relationship better when two people sincerely have a commitment to do so. Then differences can be worked out. The problem is that you have a completely different view of what a relationship should be than your boyfriend....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confused.., detective work, roommates
detective work, roommates, skype: Dear Kara, It is hard to say what is happening but guys who come back from the overseas often have problems. I suggest you get counseling together if he is open to it. Otherwise, I suggest that you stop arguing and start listening. When he says something...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confused and at lost...i hope you reply promptly, dear eve, easy target
dear eve, easy target, text msgs: Hi. When you take away something out of your life replace it as quickly as possible with doing good things. Think of things that make you happy and do those things. Sometimes doing volunteer work where you help others is a great place to forget your own troubles...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: culture difference,long distance relationship and bf doesnt have concrete plans, long distance relationship, culture difference
long distance relationship, culture difference, concrete plans: Dear Pearl, Your cultural differences are too much. He is not going to go against his family and really, what kind of life would you have if you moved in together without his family knowing it? He would feel guilty, and then if children came along, then...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Disappointment, scary, worried
scary, worried, distance: Good for you Dawn in sharing this. I can imagine it is not easy to do so. I always say there is a method to our madness, meaning we do things for a reason. We need to get to the bottom of why you do this. Realize that this is a great way to keeping distance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He Doesn't Know How to Commit?, relationship, counseling
relationship, counseling, emotion: Hi Reese, Clearly, officially ending a relationship is not easy. It sounds like it is finalized at this point so that is positive. Emotionally though, he may be scared about the reality here that marriage is again on the horizon and things probably didn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Forever or Never, long distance relationship, dairy farm
long distance relationship, dairy farm, best friends: Dear Joyce, Since the man is the main provider, he usually establishes himself where he can best fulfill that role and the wife should be the one who makes the changes. When you marry, your commitment is to him and friends and family second. If you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Frustrated, kiss, kissing
kiss, kissing, counseling: Hi Vanessa, Good for you in reaching out. That sounds confusing about the kissing. I am glad you asked and it would seem that he does have some issue here. Obviously, you are not happy and he may not be as well. When he says he is tired, what does...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Frustrated, time and patience, sexual time
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Frustrated, time and patience, sexual time, hard time

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How can fix a lie that is not true?, broken relationship, relati
broken relationship, relati, adequate time: Dear P R, Any time a person feels like he can t live without another person and will do anything to keep him, it is not love but is an addiction. I am not sure what happened to you that you have such low self-value that you would settle for this relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is there a future for my relationship?, fixing a relationship, things in my head
fixing a relationship, things in my head, mutual friends: Hello, Unfortunately, he is at an age where he wants to be carefree and explore life and you are ready to settle down. You are not going to change that. He is not planning the future but living in the moment only. Follow your gut feelings that something...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My GF and I, date ideas
date ideas: Hello Todd, I love it! Your question, Todd, is the kind that is so fun for me... ah, young love! Yes, I do truly believe that you are in love. This link takes you to one of my reports that supports your feeling of love (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/whatlove.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Girlfriend needs a break, friend girl, infidelity
friend girl, infidelity, health issues: Dear Tri Luu, I don t think you are going to like my answer, but I m going to be honest with you. From what you write, I have to tell you, I can see why your girl-friend needs a break. From what you write, it sounds like this relationship is sort of one...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Growing apart, nothing in common, racism, is this finally the end?, couples counseling, counseling
couples counseling, counseling, motivated: Tyron, Clearly, this does not sound positive. Unless you are going to be happy with just great sex (and not much more than that), this is a major issue. The fact that you note all this racism going on and she not helping you bridge the gap is a problem....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My girlfriend wants to move out, dear james, housework
dear james, housework, married couple: Dear James, No one really knows what goes on in someone s mind but she definitely needs to spread her wings a bit. It is a risk to let her go but there really is no other choice. She might be curious about other men. There is simply no guarantee. You...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help with my girlfriend, gut feelings, thoughts and feelings
gut feelings, thoughts and feelings, open conversation: Hi. It is hard to say what this fear in your stomach represents. Sometimes it represents things that are happening that are real and sometimes it is just your own fears and lack of self-confidence that causes them. The more you are confident in yourself and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help with my girlfriend, online relationship
online relationship: Hello again, Jonathan, I think the two of you may be using the internet for safety. You ve been cheated on and she s seen it in her family. You ve communicated in depth online, which is great, but it s really hard to truly connect with someone if you ve...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Hurt and Betrayed, being faithful
being faithful: Hello Latisha, I am so sorry to hear that you are in such pain. But, I need a little more information to help you. Were the texts messages general or were they flirtatious? What about the photos? Were they sexual in nature? Was he hiding this from you?...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help, self doubt, good relationship
self doubt, good relationship, neediness: Hi. You show your neediness and self-doubt when you keep asking her if she cares. You haven t been with her that long and so you should be concentrating on having fun together and doing things together to build a relationship, not talking about it. Having...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help me befor love end in same month, rushing into love
rushing into love: Hello Sad, I think you should slow things down a bit. The beginning of a relationship can be very intense. Feelings and emotions are amplified by the release of brain chemicals and hormones. Take a look at this report that explains this (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/love_romance.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I hope you can help., physical attraction, flirty
physical attraction, flirty, couple times: Dear Rae, It is hard to tell what is going on. I believe that you should still remain friends but if he moves to put his arm around you or do something that seem more than just friends, tell him that you do not do things like that unless you are on an official...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Interpersonal Relationships, moral differences, ulterior motive
moral differences, ulterior motive, human interaction: Hi Ricky, Sometimes there is no common ground between you and another person but usually if you are truly interested in them and what they believe and why they believe like they do, and do not have an ulterior motive, then you can connect with others. There...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: issues within my relationship, projection, relationship
projection, relationship, rights: Hi Olish, This sounds like a lot to be dealing with and living with family can add to conflicts for many of us. Ok. First, let me introduce you to the idea of a projection. When there is something about me that I don t like about me it is easier to focus...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: love, family versus love
family versus love: Hello Kamal, I can only answer your question from my cultural point of view. I know that in India the connection among social status, family and marriage is intricately intertwined, but not having lived it, I can only offer you the perspective from my position....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I love him and hate him at the same time. Please help!, physical fights, bad behavior
physical fights, bad behavior, insecurities: Hello, Perhaps there is something about working with his mother that is bringing out some insecurities. Now, let s say he is under pressure and is taking it out on you. What you do is take the reward out of bad behavior and simply do not allow it. Before...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Moving On, dear emma, friend emma
dear emma, friend emma, seperate bedrooms: Hi. Hope things continue to work out for you. Just make sure that you do not allow him to hold you back in life as to education, and doing things that develop yourself because you will regret it big time, later on. Just sweetly tell him that you need to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Oblivious Communication, communication question, unexpected question
communication question, unexpected question, intimate moment: Dear Jamal, You need to make sure you are not on the defensive but go on the offensive. Not in a judgmental or harsh way of bawling her out but kindly tell her that if she can t let the past go then this relationship will not work. While tempting to ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Official?, commitment
commitment: Hello Maria, We men are notorious for not committing unless we are put into the position where we must make a decision. It sounds like if you don t ask, he won t say. Two years is a long time to date without being fully committed. I d ask him: So, Charlie,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Opposites Attract, open person, actions speak louder than words
open person, actions speak louder than words, louder than words: Hi. Learning how to understand and work with differences sometimes takes some time. Since you know he withdraws for awhile, learn to accept it unless it is something that needs to be solved and so then just be open in handling it. Tell him that it looks like...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Please help me save us, I statements
I statements: Hello again, Sylvia, I think what you have written is strong and powerful and shows how very much you love him and care for this relationship. Will he take it the right way? I don t know, but you can only offer it the best way you know how, and this is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Problems with partner, long distance relationship, meditation camp
long distance relationship, meditation camp, friendly relationship: Hi Eva, It is not being jealous to dislike this arrangement, it is being smart. He is not emotionally finished with this marriage, period. It is obvious that he is really not ready for a new/committed relationship. She is still feeding his Ego in some way...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relatio nship, relationship, guilty
relationship, guilty, sad: Hi Teri, Well, if he is being genuine in sharing, it would certainly make sense about feeling pressured. His divorce is still in process and I can imagine his son acting out. He may feel guilty / sad for that or the end of that relationship and may not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, needs, attitude
needs, attitude, learn: Hi Jewell, Working on ourselves is indeed hard to do so good for u in trying. What I am hearing you say is that you really care about this guy but may be pushing him away at the same time. A break (even if it is for a few days, week, whatever) may be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, attitude problem, disagreement
attitude problem, disagreement, e mail: Wow Jewell, this sheds so much more light on the situation and yet it seems so confusing for me, so I can imagine how you would be confused as well. I wish I knew what was going on for him. I also wonder why he was back on his dating profile. I am not sure...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, taking a break
taking a break: Hello again, Jewell, I think your situation calls fro a clean break for the time being, meaning no contact for awhile. But, here s my report on how to take a break (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/report_11_break.php). And, it doesn t have to be July....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is my relationship dying?, fear, reaction
fear, reaction, interest: Hi Stacy, Over time, anything can become (let s say) stale if we let it. It is normal to be confused and wonder if am I missing something or should I be doing something else or more. You have been together almost your entire adult lives; this is a long...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship with fiance, good parenting, parenting skills
good parenting, parenting skills, eye to eye: Hello Jackie, The issues you are talking about need professional advice. Also, have you been thoroughly check out physically? If something is happening in your brain you might be feeling extra stressed because there is something physical that needs to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship need a bit of a boost, routine rut, rule of thumb
routine rut, rule of thumb, fiance: Dear Stacy, What you are describing, is sort of the rule of thumb for the 6th year of marriage. Since the two of you are already living together and engaged, my suggestion for romance would be to plan the wedding, do it, and take a wonderful honeymoon. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Strengthening a Relationship, still immature
still immature: Hello Lexi, So your boyfriend likes the idea of being with you long-term, but he doesn t sound at all ready for long-term to start any time soon. That doesn t mean he doesn t love you, but it may just mean that you two are at different levels in the relationship....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Strengthening a relationship, open relationship, putting the cart before the horse
open relationship, putting the cart before the horse, cart before the horse: Dear Teylor, This is yet another story of how very few people who live together actually get married. It is putting the cart before the horse. When you move in without a real commitment, it is too easy for the relationship to get in a rut and take each...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: sleeping with a broken heart, having an abortion, emotional consequences
having an abortion, emotional consequences, dys: Dear Kiki, That is very sad that you did not give the father the chance to know about it. You might have saved this baby. Having an abortion has serious emotional consequences and probably will always be a wedge between you and your boyfriend. It is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is texting cheating?, female classmate, school classmates
female classmate, school classmates, school texts: Hello to you.. I m sorry you re having a hard time....I don t know if I have any answers, however, I have a few ideas. I have to wonder if your boyfriend thinks you re stupid. I suggest that the amount of time he s spending with his classmate is more...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to make things right??, real person, eachother
real person, eachother, spending time: Dear Rhonda, It takes awhile to get to know the real person. The problem that you just want him to be the person he was... but you see, he is also the person who lies and cheats. That is part of him, too. The problem is that you give way too much too...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i took a break from my boyfriend, relationship, responsibility
relationship, responsibility: Hi Autumn, I am curious to how he responded when you said you felt like he was taking you for granted? Did he acknowledge this in any way? If so, this is a good place to start. I would ask him in what ways and ask if he noticed anything that may have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Not sure if it's worth fighting for, couples counseling, counseling
couples counseling, counseling, relationship: Hi Pamela, There is a lot going on here. I am guessing that you did not plan for the pregnancy so early in the relationship and wonder if this has come up for you. I also wonder what stops him from moving forward (I know I am not alone on this --smile)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I back off?, divorced woman, unrealistic expectations
divorced woman, unrealistic expectations, self respect: Dear Paula, How can someone who feels dead emotionally still spend the weekend with you? If you are having sex with him then that could be the reason why. He sounds immature and has unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be. Some people...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Bad Cycle, long term relationships, plan dates
long term relationships, plan dates, goals and dreams: Hi Lizzy, The problem is that you have been together through all the years that people are out exploring life and going with different people to see what life is all about. Almost always, someone feels like life has passed them by when in a serious relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend/dad problems, hugs and kisses, countless times
hugs and kisses, countless times, karate: HI. It would be great if your boyfriend would move out and stand up to his parents. it is just that it would be better just to be friends and help him but not marry him or even make plans for marriage until he is truly out on his own. Has he been tested and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break up with Boyfriend of 1 1/2 Years?, confirmation receipt, communication habits
confirmation receipt, communication habits, relationship work: Dear Heather, I hate to say this but it doesn t look good for this relationship. It doesn t look like two different communication styles, which can be worked out, but one who really does not communicate. Now, if he were after you to marry him and be with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Broken up but I want to make it work, trust, break up
trust, break up: Hello Brianna, To answer your question succinctly...wait. you need to let him get away from this, because right now, there s nothing you can do or say to convince him to try this once more. He s done that before and it hasn t worked. He s sick of the cycle...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: big mistake, trust issues, exhaustion
trust issues, exhaustion, kd: Dear Natasha, This does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. If you are off and on, and when you are together you are reminded how ok you were when you were apart, I think you need to do a bit more soul searching in regard to this relationship....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend help, passion gone
passion gone: Hello again, Stephanie, But, there seems to have been a change, right? Things were better before, weren t they? I mean, wasn t he more open with you? Didn t he hold you hand? Didn t he offer to do things with you more often? See, what I mean when I say...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend help, frieds, beacuse
frieds, beacuse, emberrased: Hi. What you say when he asks why you didn t call is that you have a life, too, and there is nothing wrong with him calling you. You can make a joke out of it a bit and say, Well, honey pie (or whatever cute name would be natural for you to call him), why...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: will a break up really work, I'm a taker
I'm a taker: Hello Bianca, I don t know if this break will help you realize this, because you already know it. I get the impression that this has been a pattern for you and that you ve known it for quite sometime. You said it yourself. You re a taker. You also said...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My broyfriend wants a break!, volunteer trip, volunteer work
volunteer trip, volunteer work, firm commitment: Dear Cindi, You need to acknowledge your boundaries. He is keeping you dangling while he explores the possibility of another relationship and you should not allow that. I think you should tell him that it is fine if he wants to take a break but tell...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Change, bf is cheating & I'm pregnant
bf is cheating & I'm pregnant: Hello Cortney, Darn it, Cortney, you re making it difficult to advise you. Let me explain why. You tell me your man has lied and cheated through this two year relationship. You also say that he virtually has told you that you are NOT the one for him, that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Coming to an end?, bad feelings, 22nd birthday
bad feelings, 22nd birthday, life moves: Dear Stephanie, It sounds like you are basically compatible but I think you have unrealistic expectations of what the relationship should be. He might also have that problem. The key to getting along and communicating is to stop trying to protect your ego...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication issues with GF, passive aggresive, anxiety problems
passive aggresive, anxiety problems, open dialog: Hello Sean, Okay. If your girlfriend thinks your communication is passive aggressive then you need to ask yourself some questions. You have stopped your anger, which is good, but perhaps there are still feelings there and you are manipulative in your talking...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused Ex, fun things, period of time
fun things, period of time, last time: Dear Warren, During these years lots of changes are happening, especially emotionally. This is the time when people get to know themselves and are struggling to know what they want in life. It is very common to go back and forth with feelings and emotions....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused Ex, counseling, relationship
counseling, relationship, family: Hi Warren, let s take her at her word then. My hunch is that she has been hurt over the years (perhaps not only in dating relationships but with her own family). A common way of coping is to keep our shields up and when someone gets too close to then end...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confusions, abusive relationship, fairy tale
abusive relationship, fairy tale, best behavior: Dear Esha, Things can never be the way they used to be. People put on their best behavior when you first meet them. That is why you get to know them. You now know the real person and it is not good. He is controlling to the point that you are afraid to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i cheated, counseling, couple
counseling, couple, marriage: Hi Tati, I think it will be important to know what he is going through right now. If he is angry let him know you can only imagine how angry he is. Let him know you want to make things right and how he may need to be angry / hurt right now. Truly, this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to deal with an uncomfortable situation, confidence level, lack of confidence
confidence level, lack of confidence, relationship issues: Dear Jess, Well, what can you do about it? Not much since she is free to come and go. So, your option is to believe in yourself enough to maintain your confidence level no matter what the situation or still feel threatened. The key is to not care so much...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What can i do different?, honeymoon stage, newness
honeymoon stage, newness, false sense: Dear Jessica, Too often there is too much too soon and relationships have no place to go. When you have sex soon in a relationship it creates a false sense of intimacy and seems like you are in love and feeling close to each other. It too often becomes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ex-wife, ex causing chaos
ex causing chaos: Hello Mikki, I admire you for loving these children like your own. Your husband s ex is obviously holding some resentment and maybe even some jealousy with this new relationship. But, when push comes to shove, you are doing nothing but loving these kids....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hw to develop communication, communication question, ordinary degree
communication question, ordinary degree, career history: Hi. Since the only way you will know whether he is afraid of rejection or does not want to be found out then you need to talk to him, if possible. I would tell him through a third party, as I mentioned in my answer before and let him know you are still interested....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: interest, likes and dislikes, narcissists
likes and dislikes, narcissists, lack of communication: Dear Zoran, Have you heard of people being a narcissist? Narcissists are people who are not capable of love. They live only for themselves. They demand more and more of you without giving anything. Yawning while she is with you? I hate to tell you this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: jealous my fault or his?, self confidence, consuela
self confidence, consuela, new sport: Dear Consuela, When we do not trust another person it is really ourselves we do not trust. You can never trust your boyfriend until you can trust yourself to be okay no matter whether you have this boyfriend or not. When you have confidence in yourself...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Keeping relationship, premarital sex
premarital sex: Hello Cornelia, If you see premarital sex as a sin and once you are involved with a man sexually your feelings for him diminish, then, you should stick to your guns and avoid premarital sex. There s pleasure for the moment, but then you feel guilt as well...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Love-struck, long distance relationship, party all the time
long distance relationship, party all the time, pity party: Dear Faith, Long distance relationships almost never work because they know through studies that 80% of communication is body language and eye contact so it is very, very difficult to really get to know each other. Also, to build a positive relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: at a loss, good conversation, goodnight
good conversation, goodnight, text messages: Dear Jason, The best thing to do is to date her as a friend. Give her a few days and then call her with a fun date already planned and ask her to go with you for a fun evening (wherever you decide to take her). Do not talk about the relationship but just...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: love, friends, happy
friends, happy, together: Hi John, I think it might be best to show her how you care in every way possible. Not just in words but also in letters, sweet little notes you can leave in her things or even send in the mail. Make a list of every single thing you can think of that makes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Need help please!, counseling, relationship
counseling, relationship, kids: Wow Amy! That does not sounds like a comforting environment. I know I am missing a lot of the specifics here but I guess the bottom line is what is leading you to stay? We need to be clear about this and, if there are numerous positives, perhaps we can...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What should I do, am I overreacting?, trust, texting ex
trust, texting ex: Hello Sadie, To answer your question, if I were in your situation, I would feel betrayed and not feel fully comfortable trusting my partner. Mind you, what s happened doesn t mean he was cheating or was planning to cheat (could be, but not necessarily)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: porn, full time job, part time job
full time job, part time job, volunteer organization: Hello, I can answer part of your question but do not give advice on sexual problems. As to porn, it is an addiction and you need to stop it and not watch it even once. Put restrictions on your computer, if necessary. Keep busy and get involved in a church...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: problems, relationship, committed
relationship, committed, dating: Hi Jak, Well, if one is not ready for a relationship right now (and not for a long while it would seem -- I am curious as to why 2yrs?), the decision comes down to what you want to do. You could certainly be dating the one who is interested and ready and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Re-connecting, bickering before wedding
bickering before wedding: Hello Stacy, A wedding can be a very stressful event to arrange. It s great practice for your life together as a couple. You have decisions to make, things to order, people to connect wit, and often a budget to contend with. If you can make it through planning...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship Help, relationship help, confident woman
relationship help, confident woman, trust issue: Dear Jessica, When we don t trust someone else it is really ourselves we do not trust. When you become a self-confident woman who knows who she is and what you have to offer then you will not worry so much about your boyfriend. Then you can accept life...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Reply to answer: Relationship nose dive, passion gone
passion gone: Hello again, Amy, Here are some suggestions. First, take a look at this report (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_10_fades.php). It offers suggestions as to how to get the passion back into your relationship and possibly why it has left. Also,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: rebuilding relationship, eating disorder, jenny
eating disorder, jenny, girlfriend: Dear Jenny, Since he has expressed that he is still trying to get over his ex wife that is a red flag for this relationship, besides his other doubts. His expression that it was going too fast also tells you a lot--and that is he is not ready for a seriously...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: rebuilding trust, husband, fiance
husband, fiance, death: Hi Cat, I feel your pain here and I am sorry. I cannot just expect you to get over it as trust takes time to build. When it is broken (or even just fractured), it will take both partners to help rebuild it. Has he shared what he has done to help do...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, Loss of passion
Loss of passion: Hello Susana, You are not ready yet to settle down. You may love your man fully, but having been with him since you were 17 or so, there s quite possibly a part of you that s saying, I haven t had my dating time yet. I haven t been able to go out and see...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship is falling apart., control
control: Hello again Claribeliz, Get the heck out now! Who does he think he is? He tells you he s going to leave you, but he can t just yet, because his car is in the shop? Leave his broke butt, and let him figure out how to get a ride to the mechanic. He is trying...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: resentment and arguments.., random girls, stressful lives
random girls, stressful lives, honest guy: Hello t, You are right. This is your problem, not his. This is your insecurity. Only you know why you are pushing him away. Perhaps it is the false idea that we can go through life without being hurt. That is not possible. All life is a risk. You take a...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Stressed out, differences between men and women, maleness
differences between men and women, maleness, common goal: Dear Stacy, This is a good opportunity to establish a positive pattern of working together for a common goal, difficult though it may be. The secret of working together is to outline who does what and then refrain from telling the other person what and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to strengthen my relationship, past abuse, cleaning up
past abuse, cleaning up: Hello Shantel, It seems to me that there are a few issues to be addressed here. First, because you ve been in a physically violent relationship, you are super-sensitive to that. You say that he s not violent, but it appears that you are expecting it, and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: why wont he move to the next level, relationship, friendship
relationship, friendship, anry: Hi Ashley, I am glad you are on all the ball here. You are right; he is scared. This is fairly typical though so you are not alone. The key is to get to the bottom of his concerns. Has he ever shared any specifics with you? For example, many might...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: what is wrong with me?, relationship, behavior
relationship, behavior, unconscious: I certainly appreciate your attention to detail and investment here. Good for you. How neat to have your family on board as well. At the same time though, this could put unconscious pressure on you to keep moving forward in the relationship. The first...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What to do?, postponed date
postponed date: Hello Jack, Not too lengthy at all, Jack. Here s what you need to do. Ask her if next Tuesday at 6pm or Thursday at 5 would be better for her (or, whatever day and times work for you). You give her two choices, not something open ended. Then, tell her to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 7 years..Still trying, old girls, happiness
old girls, happiness, tastes: Hello, This is what is happening. When you meet someone you create a fantasy around that person. You think that he is the same as your fantasy. Then reality hits you and then you must decide what to do. You can either keep trying to get him to fit the picture...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend drama, arguing
arguing: Hello Brittni, I d wager that it hasn t always been this way, has it, Brittni? Did you guys fight this much when you first started dating? I d like to now how long you have been dating. Also, what about your past relationships? Did either of you experience...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to make my boyfriend feel more interested, self confidence, 5 months
self confidence, 5 months, christy: Dear Christy, Your problem is that you lack self-confidence and are too needy. Love must flow freely. You can t force it. You can t make another person love you. It just doesn t work and usually the harder you try the more it pushes them away. I don t know...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boyfriend lies, trust, break up
trust, break up: Hello mark, How long have you two been dating? I ask because if you have an extensive history, and this is a rare instance, maybe you should be wary, but be willing to forgive him because everyone slips up sometimes. But, if this is a relatively new relationship,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend won't work on "us"., baby mama, facebook
baby mama, facebook, perfect in every way: Dear Kimberly, Very rarely does a player ever change. Many women have tried, much to their sorrow and now you are learning the same thing. Most men will say most anything to get sex. It is not being jealous to know that your guy is flirting with other...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: should i break up with my boyfriend, heart break
heart break: Hello Rachael, If you feel like this is not right after fie years, I m guessing this is not a rash decision, a choice you made on a whim. This is how you feel right now, and to be honest, it would be so incredibly unfair to him for you to pretend you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: would you buy an xbox for someone that lives miles away, infidelity
infidelity: Hello Jenn, So to answer your question, I don t think it s odd at all to buy an X-Box for someone living away from you. If that s what they re into, why not? I think the real question is why are you concerned? It s obvious to me that you are not over...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Casual to committed, committed?
committed?: Hello again, Sid, So, it seems like there are some things you want out of this relationship (like becoming more connected, seeing each other more often, and having him put out a bit more effort) that you really can t expect unless you two are committed...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Casual to committed, relationship
relationship: Ah Sid. I got it. He was probably delaying a meeting for fear of such a conversation. I wonder if there are ways you can support him from afar, meaning notes, voicemails, texts, just designed to encourage him through his difficulties, staying totally off...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Commitment-phobe and how to strengthen relationship, long distance relationship, commitment phobe
long distance relationship, commitment phobe, bad habits: Dear Dawn, It is a pretty sure bet that he is not capable of committing to a relationship that would lead to marriage. His never marrying in the past is a big indicator of that, plus he has told you he wishes never to marry. He enjoys your attention because...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused about how she really feels about me., supportive boyfriend, little contact
supportive boyfriend, little contact, gut feeling: Dear Rey, Well, you could take a break but that usually doesn t work because it kind of gives a person permission to explore other options while thinking the other person is safely waiting in case there is no one else that looks good. I would just back...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Continuous Fighting Cycle, something out of nothing, power play
something out of nothing, power play, waste of time: Hi. Thanks for the follow up. That gives me much more info to go on. I hate to discourage you, but you have a problem, here. Yes, I think you are a little too sensitive sometimes, but he is clearly abusive. Getting angry for getting separated and not speak...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dating Spark, work friends, type person
work friends, type person, first love: Dear Chris, I have an idea to rekindle the spark, but it s just a basic thought. You can take it and personalize it if you like. I don t know if you live on your own or at your parents, but if there is any way you can have a kitchen to yourself for an afternoon...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i dnt want to, lega, deported
lega, deported, housing: Hi Babyb, I am sorry for your predicament. The first thing though is to take care of you. Being deported cannot be an easy situation, and I want you to do what you need to in order to be safe and deal with what comes next. My hope is you have a place...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't think my girlfriend loves me anymore!, passion fades
passion fades: Hello Carlos, Sorry, Carlos, but her feelings ARE changing toward you. But, if it s any consolation, they are supposed to. Usually this change occurs, though somewhere between 6 and 18 months. Your girlfriend has jumped the gun a bit. Please take a look...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: has an emotionally cold girlfriend, long distance relationship, thanksgiving activities
long distance relationship, thanksgiving activities, breaking my heart: Hello Curt. You both have unrealistic expectations from a long distance relationship. They are practically impossible because about 80% of communication is body language and eye contact. So, in order for it to work so that it might possibly work out when...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is this the end?, 6th anniversary, true feelings
6th anniversary, true feelings, comfo: Hi. It could be that he finally got it that you were serious about the problem and thought he might lose you. If that is the case, it is okay. The important thing is that he responded and that shows he does care. Hopefully, he could sense that you were thinking...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Fed up trying to make the relationship like it was when we met, relati, time of the day
relati, time of the day, quality time: Dear Rahila, Tell him that you no longer will have sex with him until you are married and then see how he treats you. See if he starts treating you better. Stop fighting with you and tell him that you do not want to break up but that you feel like having...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to feel more Confadent about my relationship., are we ready?
are we ready?: Hello Jessica, As long as you have doubts like that, I think you re right. It will interfere with you wanting to be with him for life. It s normal to question being with someone for life, especially if you are young or haven t had many long-term relationships....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: feeling distiant in my relationship, relationship, feelings
relationship, feelings, doubt: Hi Melissa, It is interesting why you might feel distant when you are truly so far away (smile). Long distance relationships have additional quarks associated that could certainly affect anyone s feelings of connectedness. Since we are talking about...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Just friends?, touchy feely, living my life
touchy feely, living my life, louder than words: Dear Bette, Openness is usually good, but not pressure. If you contact him, I would tell him that the best foundation for any lasting relationship is friendship and that you are willing to be friends for awhile to see where this might go. Tell him that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: frustated, relationship, communicating
relationship, communicating, frustrating: I am sorry Neeru. That must be frustrating and discouraging as well. I am not hearing here how he has dedicated himself to making the relationship grow. In fact, hearing your summary, it sounds like you have to keep putting in all the effort and sacrificed...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my girlfriend and i, favorite candy bar, little things mean a lot
favorite candy bar, little things mean a lot, things mean a lot: Dear Cory, Several things. First of all, you can t make another person fall in love with you. Secondly, people don t actually fall in love that is a true and lasting love. We are attracted to another person but love grows from mutually loving and giving...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is he insecure?, first year anniversary, guy cam
first year anniversary, guy cam, realtionship: Hi. sounds like you chose setting boundaries and that is important and just might work, especially with the attitude that you care but just can t live with whatever is challenging your reasonable boundaries. Another tip. When you start to argue stop right...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I'm confused as to how she REALLY feels about me and how to move-on from here, listen, relationship
listen, relationship, angry: Hi Ray, It certainly sounds like you are invested here and this gal means a lot to you. Great. I hear your panic and confusion, and I want to help with this. Ray, you said she has had a lot to deal with herself of late? What is going on? Maybe she...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: In two minds?, abusive boyfriend
abusive boyfriend: Dear Justine, Thanks for the needed info. You need to get rid of this guy fast. Before you break up, call the police and tell them you are going to break up with your boyfriend and tell them of his threats; and ask them what you can do about it so that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I need help!, self confidence, private person
self confidence, private person, including family: Dear Jenny, It may be difficult, but absolutely stop calling him first, all the time. People that are too clingy and needy can become hard on a private person. You still need to have some things going on in your own life besides a boyfriend. Guys usually...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Partner is looking elsewhere, supportive relationship, chronic illness
supportive relationship, chronic illness, temptations: Hi Jen, I would be honest and open with him. Tell him that even in the best of relationships there are temptations periodically that pop up and that we either are a committed couple or we are not. Tell him that you expect to be tempted at times, as well...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: people's problem, outside pressure
outside pressure: Hello again, Aditya, If she is frustrated by what others are saying, I would think clinging to you and the strength of your relationship would help her, but my concern is that when things have gotten tough, she has chosen to abandon the relationship. That...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: no quality time!!!!, dear elizabeth, unusual things
dear elizabeth, unusual things, interesting places: Dear Elizabeth, Did I read it right that you have been with this guy since he was 16 or 17 and you are eleven years older than he is? If this is the case I am surprised it lasted this long. The problem is that when people get involved in serious relationships...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Relationship, mom and dad, correct terminology
mom and dad, correct terminology, guy friends: Dear Jessica, You are only 21 years old. I don t know how to ask this question with a politically correct terminology, so I ll just ask. Is your husband a legal citizen? Is this marriage one of his security and you thought it would be yours? Since you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship is falling apart!, man time, louder than words
man time, louder than words, future plans: Dear Stephanie, I see this pattern over and over again. The girl thinks than when the guy has sex with her that he is thinking forever like she is but he isn t. The relationship is just the way he wants it. Sex when he wants it and no strings attached--no...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship is falling apart!, man time, louder than words
man time, louder than words, future plans: Dear Stephanie, I think you really need to take some time alone and think things over. I m not talking about the time you spend missing him when he s gone, but just stop regardless of where he is in the world and think this out. If you truly want this relationship,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship is broken, abusive relationship
abusive relationship: Hello Cynthia, You may have bigger fish to fry than just this relationship. I think you have some serious self-esteem issues. You are drawn to me who treat you poorly. And, usually women stay in relationships like these when they feel they don t deserve...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: to make my relationship more stronger with my girlfriend, parents, human
parents, human: Ok Aditya, I guess if I wanted to pull out all the stops here, I would do everything I could to befriend her parents. Show them how valuable a human being you are. Show them about the good person Aditya is. Show them how good you are to their daughter....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Saving a long term relationship, long term relationship, taste of freedom
long term relationship, taste of freedom, different town: Dear Marius, I am sorry to say that your girlfriend sounds like she has emotionally left the relationship. Too often, when couples date exclusively from a young age results in one or both parties feeling like life/freedom has passed them by. She has had...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: saving my relationship, disocouraged, medical
disocouraged, medical: Well hi there! I am glad you are taking care of yourself with the medical care. Many do not, so good for you. With respect to the relationship, think about what you feel the need to control. I know that when we feel out of control, in even one part of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Taking a break, gender selection, married person
gender selection, married person, hormonal imbalance: Well Brooks, you are talking to the wrong person, perhaps. I believe that gender selection is pretty much a choice. I believe that only a very small minority are actually born with a hormonal imbalance that would make them truly Gay/Lesbian. We are created...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Thin line between being clingy and wanting just enough attention, long distance relationship, two and a half years
long distance relationship, two and a half years, thin line: Dear Maria, One thing for sure, if you keep getting upset over the same thing you will drive him away. The problem is that this is a basic difference in personality and needs (unless he really doesn t care for you as much as you care for him) that doesn...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Trust, marriage and kids, innocent conversation
marriage and kids, innocent conversation, rebuilding trust: Dear Mae, There are too many unanswered questions to answer this intelligently. What one person thinks is innocent conversation, the other might think it is flirting. His white lies could be that you flip out so easily over things that don t mean a thing...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can't seem to control my jealousy, dating, trust
dating, trust, support: I hear your concern MacKensie and I wonder why the ex is not aware of your relationship? Is this something the two of you have discussed and agreed to? You stated him lying to you about the contact with ex; this is not going to help your trust. I hope...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: trusting your partner, trust
trust: Hello Christy, So, there are few things I want to touch on with you. First, is he clinically diagnosed as bipolar or are you just saying that like some people use the word depression when it s just sadness? If he s truly bipolar, does he see a counselor...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to make my wife fall for me again, pushover
pushover: Hello again, Andy, I don t know if I would suggest moving away from her, especially since you have a daughter you share, but giving her space and room to breathe might be helpful. If the marriage issue comes up, feel free to discuss it, but don t shove...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Young love, holding onto a dream, deep feelings
holding onto a dream, deep feelings, shes to young: Dear Lauren, This is what we call a one-sided love. You care for him but he really is not into you. We can t change another person and get them to like us. Love has to flow freely. You are holding onto a dream. Think about this. Do you really want a guy...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: boy dont my boyfriend want to spend time with me?, changes, relationship
changes, relationship: Hi Alyse, Well that certainly sounds like it could be discouraging. What does he say when you calmly mention this? We need to know what his hopes and expectations are for the relationship. For example, maybe his hope is to talk every other day and see...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my boyfriend has changed, sex before marriage, best behavior
sex before marriage, best behavior, good qualities: Dear Megan, One of the things that causes most unhappiness in people is wanting something we can t have. Wanting something that is impossible. In a relationship, it takes about 1 1/2 years to really get to know another person. The nature of relationships...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: my boyfriend doesnt want to spend time with me, jillions, closeness
jillions, closeness, false sense: Hi. The added info helps a bit, but advice would still be the same. It is important to maintain some mystery and independence since it has moved into a relationship. My advice would still be the same. For some reason men seem to respond better when there is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My boyfriend thinks im obsess with him andhe dont want to spend a lot of time with me., confident woman, don t cry
confident woman, don t cry, self confidence: Hello Lilian, Treating you nice doesn t mean he loves you. He sounds like a nice guy who is telling you the truth. You are too needy and clingy and you lack self-confidence. If you would become self-confident then you would not have to cry that you miss...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Clueless, time flies, health care facility
time flies, health care facility, blushes: Dear Juan, In matter of love it is like playing a slot machine. You have to keep putting money in before you hit the jackpot. It is a matter of keeping searching and dating until you find the right person. Age is important to some people and not to others....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, electronic gadgets, intimate conversation
electronic gadgets, intimate conversation, life is an adventure: Hello, The main thing in communication is to ask questions that require more than a yes or no. For Example, instead of, Do you like school? you ask, What do you like most about school and what do you dislike about school? That makes it easy to start...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confusing Girl, physical signs, boy friend
physical signs, boy friend, text message: Dear Jonathan, If she is becoming more distant, of course there has to be some reason and she is not telling you why. Since it is close to summer and you will be gone perhaps she is afraid of becoming too attached, just to have you leave. With your being...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dealing with ex-girlfriends amung other things..., Taking a break
Taking a break: Hello again, Desiree, I don t doubt he loves you and doesn t want you to leave, and that he wants this to work out, but the truth is, he may want all of this, but emotionally he s just not ready. Sometimes, no matter what we want, we can t have it if we...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Dealing with ex-girlfriends amung other things..., moving to new zealand, romeo and juliet
moving to new zealand, romeo and juliet, friends houses: I do not read sexually explicit questions with bad language so I stopped reading it part way through. I just have one comment. He lives in the past and will never let go of it. If he keeps a folder with all that garbage in it then you will be living with that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Depressed, young adults, basi
young adults, basi, girlfriend: Dear Trisha, I hate to disillusion you but the odds of you waiting for him are practically zero. That is because people change a lot until around age 25 and sometimes beyond. Very seldom do we want the person we loved at 17 or 18 when we are a year or so...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Developing trust, all over again, break up, moving on
break up, moving on: Hello again, Becky, Well, first, it s good that you don t have another guy in your life right now to take your ex s place , because that wouldn t be fair to this new guy. Your heart is not fully ready to offer to someone new. You are still healing from...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Don't know what to think, pressure, daughter
pressure, daughter, marriage: Hi Liz, When anyone is honest enough to wonder if things are moving too fast, I definitely want to support them in this. It has indeed only been a few months so ideas of marriage and children may be a bit much. The fact that he is so busy and needs time...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: dating an older busy woman, woman question, piece of ass
woman question, piece of ass, busy schedule: Dear Jim, It is really very simple. We tend to read into things but what you see is what you get. People do what they want to do. If she wanted to include you into her life she would. She is keeping you separate from the rest of her life. Why, we do not...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: defensive difficult boyfriend, abusive boyfriend
abusive boyfriend: Dear Romy, Do you have a secret desire to punish yourself? Why would you think you deserve someone who: thinks only of himself, talks down to you, doesn t even attempt to fill any of your needs, leaves you out of his activities and his life, criticizes...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: don't know what to think about this, proper oral hygiene, late bloomer
proper oral hygiene, late bloomer, nonchalant manner: Dear Liz, Ask him. Tell him that you were pretty drunk that night and ask him if you said something to offend him. Guys are pretty straight forward so he probably will let you know. That is the only way you will know. I wouldn t mention his not seeing you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Engagment....already in trouble?, heart to heart, robert i
heart to heart, robert i, plan b: Dear Robert, I wouldn t say it is natural at all for her to behave this way. It is time to sit down and have a heart to heart talk. Tell her that you have noticed she is distancing herself from you and you have tried everything you know how to do and that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: emotionally unavailable man, commitment issues, first affair
commitment issues, first affair, boy friend: Hello Andrea, He controls it because he is isolating you. He likes the sex, you feed his ego, you make him feel good in the moment, and that is all he wants and he says the right things in the moment to help keep this little affair going; but that is all...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Friendship/Romance, friendship romance, honey don
friendship romance, honey don, good songs: Dear Julie, Sometimes it is easy to flirt with danger, so to speak, on the internet. Then, when it starts to become a reality, it really is not what we want. I think that is what happened. She have some needs that are unmet and was thinking this kind of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Should I forget about my first love???, first love, 7 months
first love, 7 months, good times: Dear Kayzel, Kids your age should be having fun and exploring life and all kinds of friendships instead of being in relationships that are exclusive. When you date just one guy you rob yourself of what I call dating education. You have to date different...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Half in /half not, guy friend, book titles
guy friend, book titles, good books: Hi Denise, If he tells you that he has never been full into a relationship that is not a good sign and not something you can really change. While there might be more effective ways to interact with him if there is a basic flaw in his character that will...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help, counseling, relationship
counseling, relationship, ex: Hi Sammy, What I believe is happening is that you have not had the needed time to grieve the end of your relationship with your ex. I would expect there are unresolved feelings / thoughts that need to be expressed. By entering into this new relationship,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: help to save my friendship, psychiatrist, counselor
psychiatrist, counselor, therapist: Hi Rizwan, I am sorry for your pain. Quite honestly, I would wonder if you were indeed both depressed. Perhaps he felt he lost your friendship when you went to school. Is he receiving help from a doctor or psychiatrist? Can you also see a counselor...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Indefinite break, communicating during separation
communicating during separation: Hello John, I would shoot her an email or test and ask what she would feel comfortable with. Let her know that you want this to work out, you don t want to lose her, but you also want to be respectful of what she wants and needs right now. Leon Scott...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insecurities, trust, acceptance
trust, acceptance, relationships: Hi Adria. You are right: your boyfriend s issues are to do with what s going on inside him and really have nothing to do with you. You are simply triggering these issues for him, bringing up his own lack of self-acceptance. We all lack acceptance of self,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: HOw to keep the sparks alive, spark gone, depression
spark gone, depression: Hello Vanessa, It sounds like he feels a bit stuck , not stuck in a relationship he wants to get out of, but stuck in a relationship that isn t what he expected and probably wanted. I mean, he s 23, works 12 hour shifts, and lives with his girlfriend s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Losing the Faith, abuse
abuse: Hello again, Karina, So, here s my armchair psychology : it appears that you have difficulty trusting completely. And it makes perfect sense that this only showed itself a little at first. We tend to push away the parts of our personalities we don t find...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Does he mean whatever he says, relationship, invested
relationship, invested, craving: Hi Nadia, What really stands out for me here is he felt I wasn’t interested to listen to him and he felt he couldn’t make me happy he felt I was so demanding, and that he couldn t see that it was ruining our closeness and our relationship. I am so glad...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Overnight/Work Differences, night shift job, overnight work
night shift job, overnight work, maplehurst: Dear Miranda, I don t think it is being selfish to want to spend time to build your relationship. However, if he works 8 hours and sleeps when you work 8 hours, that is still 8 hours that you can be together in the evening and building a good financial...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: personality clash, values, beliefs
values, beliefs, social: Hi Jen, I do think that partners need to have at least some interests that are shared. I also think that the more interests we have in common with our partner the better. Conversely, I believe that having very few shared interests could be problematic....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: personality clash, opposites attract?
opposites attract?: Hello Jen, I know that a relationship like yours can absolutely work out, but that s no guarantee that it will. Here, answer this. You ve been with this guy for 18 months already and you two love one another. So, far, Jen, are you able to handle the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: personality clash, go getter, happy relationship
go getter, happy relationship, outgoing girl: HI. Sometimes opposites work well together and sometimes not. Personally, I prefer that you be more alike because life gets tough and it is important to share time and companionship. Otherwise, marriage can be very, very lonely. I think you are wise to question...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: personality clash, identity, relationship
identity, relationship, compatibility: Hi Jen I think what’s most important in any relationship is to be happy and fulfilled in your life together. Presumably there are things about your boyfriend that you really love. The question is: why are you having doubts now? What is causing you to question...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Reasonable Expectations, second marriage, dog barks
second marriage, dog barks, french doors: Dear Lena, I am glad you wrote to me. Not only are you NOT being unreasonable you have let this go on way too long, which shows that you have difficulty in valuing yourself. I would not allow this dog in my house, period. Think about this. How does being...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship going nowhere?, counseling, frustration
counseling, frustration, jaded: Hi Lidia, Thank you for sharing. I am curious what his hopes were when the two of you moved in together? What were you hopes? I am guessing that you may have been hoping to live together for a bit with the idea of then getting married. My hunch is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationships!!!!, broken heart, back of my mind
broken heart, back of my mind, mths: Hi. It is natural to feel an attachment with someone who you have been with for a long time. Instead of trying to forget it face the whole thing. Get his picture out or write his name on a piece of paper and sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him thanks...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship, best guess, lashes
best guess, lashes, little girl: Dear LaToya, Your boyfriend is acting and thinking like a man, which is both good and not good. My best guess is that he has lost control in his life because he was unable to save his son. He feels like a failure. He lashes out at you because of these feelings....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship akwardness!?, amusement park, dilemma
amusement park, dilemma, girlfriend: Hello again, Danny, Anything with perceived danger or that is thrilling will work, even going to one of those race tracks at a miniature golf course or something. Good luck. Leon Scott Baxter America s Romance Guru http://couplescommittedtolove.co...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My relationship has lose all the sparks, he takes advantage of her
he takes advantage of her: Hello Izura, I think knowing how much time you have invested in this relationship would be important, but seeing that I don t know that, I will base my response on what I do know. Your boyfriend seems to be taking advantage of you, knowing that you will...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Summer struggle, step mom, bad attitude
step mom, bad attitude, occationally: Hi Sarah, Thanks for the added information. It sounds like you are doing what you can to be nice to her. It is tough but you are almost 18. I would take a course in something that will train you to make a living and get out on your own as soon as possible....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: seeing an older woman, relationship, attached
relationship, attached, patience: Hi Jim, I do think you are right believing she is holding back because she is scared. It just makes sense. When she says a lot of guys are there interested in the physical part of the relationship, this is her way of saying she does not want to rush...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Does he still deeply in love after all our problems, telecommunication engineer, multimedia store
telecommunication engineer, multimedia store, female friend: Dear Sarah, You can t get that spark back because it was based on a fantasy and false sense of intimacy. Having sparks and hot sex is like getting a new car. Pretty soon the new wears off and then you either like and appreciate the car because of what it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: TRUST ISSUES, trust issues, arguement
trust issues, arguement, sure things: Dear Shelly, I am not sure what can be done when one person has left and is not communicating very well. The problem is that sometimes when one does something wrong that breaks the trust they try to turn things around so that the other person is the one...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Worth saving?, economic strata, lack of education
economic strata, lack of education, graduate degrees: Dear Suzanne, The economic strata difference would not be important if it were not important to you but if you go to lengths of lying about it to others then it really is a big problem for you. Even though you love and admire many qualities about him, he...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: 7 year relationship.. make it or break it, together too long
together too long: Hello Heather, The biggest issue here, I believe, is that you two have been a couple for one-third of your lives. You two haven t had really any other significant relationship with anyone else but each other. In one way that s terrific. You have cemented...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Argument help!, issues, anger
issues, anger: Hi Claire, Very confusing here. My hunch is there are unresolved issues: either he had a bad day at work or he is upset with having the driving responsibilities come to mind first. Either way I can see it though, his response is not ok. Furthermore,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: amor e paixão, forgetting love
forgetting love: Oi Everton, Se eu o entendo corretamente, soa como você sente-se que você perde interesse e esquecer-se dos sentimentos que você teve no começo de seu relacionamento para esta mulher. Geralmente, perdendo algum entusiasmo e paixão são muito comum depois...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend, personal insults, nasty divorce
personal insults, nasty divorce, joint effort: Hi Lina, The first thing you should do is sit down with him and ask him what he really wants. You also need to determine what it is you really want. I would ask him outright what he really wants for the two of you. Ask him to describe the perfect relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Boyfriend and childs father never spends time with me, pregnant girlfriend, sex with a guy
pregnant girlfriend, sex with a guy, mysterious reason: Hello Larissa, You chose to have sex with a guy who is not a responsible adult but a boy who wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it. Years ago, if a guy made a mistake and got a girl pregnant, he would do the honorable thing and marry the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Busy, busy, busy., creature of habit, stressful job
creature of habit, stressful job, spac: Dear Picses, Too many young women want to get the relationship nailed down and into a full fledged relationship with high expectations way too soon. Mating is like a Spanish dance. The couples circle each other, move in close, then back off a number of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What is the best thing to do, communication, honesty
communication, honesty, trust: Hi Juan. I think being honest and open is the best approach, otherwise you re going to keep guessing about what s she s thinking and imagining all kinds of things in your head. You don t know what she thinks of you and you don t know what s going on for her...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Compromising and being more involved, Long distance relationship
Long distance relationship: Hello Rachel, So, it sounds like this distance is what s causing strain on this relationship. This is common for young couples in college. It can be quite a strain and it s difficult for many relationships to survive LDRs. But, it can be done. This link...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Conflict help!, bi polar disorder, good mood
bi polar disorder, good mood, coming home: Dear Claire, Well, it sounds like you are on your way to being financially independent and that is great. I can understand how you have to put up with some things while going to school. Yep. The hardest thing to do is to wait but it is the smartest thing...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is he cheating?, cheating, trust
cheating, trust: Hello Gaby, Your first question kind of trumps all of the others. You asked if you should just leave him or take a break. Gaby, you ve taken a break before, and look where it s gotten you. It s time to walk away from this guy. Is he cheating? I have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: communication, romantic text messages, communication question
romantic text messages, communication question, boyfreind: Hi. Try to think of fun things to do together where you just have fun and do not talk about your problems at all. Then back off a bit by letting him do some of the contacting and make sure you are not doing all of it. That means you will have to be very patient....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: am confused, we don't se one another
we don't se one another: Hello Nyasha, Do you two live close to one another, or is this a long-distance relationship (LDR)? If it s an LDR, then this might make sense, and I would suggest that you two look at this report for some guidance (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_9_away.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know what to do..., espically, something fun
espically, something fun, laugh: Hi Aly O, We all have to suffer the consequences of our behavior. If when you go back at them you give off an attitude of being superior or mean then they might say something. If you mean that you flirt with them all, then you might want to change that....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Just don't know how I feel anymore, hung up on ex
hung up on ex: Hello Kevin, Until you can get over your ex from ten years ago, you will never find someone who you will feel content with. It s easy for me to say that you shouldn t compare your current girl to your ex. You know that, but you probably can t help it. So,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: It dosen't seem like he wants me, Passion, Lust
Passion, Lust, Sex: Hello Jillian- First, if you don t mind, can you tell me how old you both are? Age and maturity can be playing a part in what you are going through. Also, are there any other changes that have happened recently like a new job or a move? Situations that...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: We are falling apart., boring existence
boring existence: Hello Claire, It sounds like you two have fallen into the old stand-by roles of a husband an wife. You take care of the child and home. He brings home the paycheck. You have a love for one another, but no more. The passion and excitement are gone. As...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do i get my fiance not to move out, playing video games, anything in this world
playing video games, anything in this world, serious relationship: Hello Ryan, I will tell you that trying to persuade her will not work, making her jealous will not work and probably backfire, being extra nice to her will probably not help unless you really have neglected her in some way. If that is the case then asking...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Healthy dating approach?, character personality traits, broken relationships
character personality traits, broken relationships, trip out of town: Dear Jeff, She went cold quickly because she didn t get her way, which was to develop a sexual relationship with her. She is not a true Christian in the sense that she really feels strongly about keeping the commandments of God and who realize the importance...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Helpp.?, he's so shy
he's so shy: Hello Aly, Well, if he is shy, he may get cold feet. I mean a summer can feel like an eternity. So, I think you should seek him out. Shoot him an email or an text him and ask how his summer s going. Pretend to be bored and ask if he s done anything exciting....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I hope he didn't meant it., communication
communication: Wow Alison, how cool about the journalist. I think this ties into the being scared and wondering about his future. Can you ask about the silliness sometimes? You can just say that it confuses you. If he is really that busy with work over summer, he may...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Lacking chemistry, guilt, relationship
guilt, relationship, doubts: Hi Sarah, I would certainly believe his move was an indication of wanting more in the relationship. That said, it is quite possible that he is having (and has had) doubts. This is quite normal, especially for such a major decision. Likewise, I would...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He's not in love with me anymore, doubting the relationship
doubting the relationship: Hello Kathy, You seem so understanding of this situation. So many others would be really angry and upset. I know you are hurt, but you seem to get what he s going through. I believe it s because you ve been there, too. I am of the belief that you really...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I'm loosing my best best friend, personality problems, music films
personality problems, music films, five months: Dear mohd, Sorry things didn t work out with your friend. The answer to being alone is that if you really like your old friends then go ahead and apologize and try to make friends again. Carefully think about why you left them. If you really don t like them...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: marriage, social occasions, having no friends
social occasions, having no friends, gregarious person: Hello Gord- Have you tried being open with your wife about this? If so, what was her response? She may be set in her ways and I know opposites have a tendency to attract but there should be some form of compromise. Was she ever the type to be social?...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: can this marriage be saved, finances, trust
finances, trust, children: Hello Terri, Lots of couples I know are experiencing problems right now in their relationships due to the financial crisis our nation has been facing. Feeling stressed about work or money can really take a toll on a relationship. But, those who are prevailing...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Physical fights & a 8 year relationship, physical, fights
physical, fights, counseling: Clearly, Cathy, you are a intelligent and insightful person. I agree that our pasts are indeed in play here, as there are some important issues to be addressed. Is he open to counseling too? Cathy, I would hope that there are so low-cost counseling options...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship, weight issues
weight issues: Hello Nolly, He s right. If it s destiny s will, then the relationship will work-out. But, destiny is not a genie in a lamp. Destiny or not, relationships that were destined to last require work and planning. He s using that excuse as a way out, if you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship boundaries, lies and cleaning up a mess, counseling, girlfriend
counseling, girlfriend, control: Paul, first let me say how impressed I am with your understanding of the issue and willingness to take responsibility; these tend to elude many of us. Girlfriend may feel inadequate with what the porn signifies. She may also fear she is not good enough to...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship problems!, dishonesty
dishonesty: Hello Justin, Yikes, couple of major faux pas, there, Justin. you ve been lying to your girlfriend for no apparent reason. Then, you fell off the wagon and came home sloshed after being sober for awhile. You got to see this from her point of view. She...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What does he really mean?, relationship type, serious relationship
relationship type, serious relationship, guy friends: Dear Alison, People are who they are and they do what they want to do. He is immature, is not the marrying kind and does not want a serious relationship and he also has told you that just because you go out and have fun doesn t mean anything more than just...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: realtionship, creative dating, cute card
creative dating, cute card, special relationship: Hi. Jay, Send her a cute card (one week ahead of time) that say Thinking of you on it. In it tell her that you are sorry and you know you really messed up and that you don t expect to get back completely with her right away but would she consider going...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: self esteem and trust, honesty, porn
honesty, porn, self-esteem: Hello Risa, You should know right off the bat, that when a man is looking at porn, it absolutely does NOT necessarily mean that he is unsatisfied with the relationship. It doesn t even have to mean that he s unsatisfied sexually. For most men, and some...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: shes not in love anymore, girlfriend boyfriend, playing video games
girlfriend boyfriend, playing video games, look into her eyes: Dear John, Bless your heart. Too many people these days think that they can fall in and out of love while love is really a choice and does not happen to you. I suggest that you have a talk with her and in a kind and caring way, tell her that when you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Why are we starting to act like friends?, freddy kruger, car one
freddy kruger, car one, 9 months: Hi. You need to negotiate some relationship rules that you both live by. Tell him that is what you want and ask him if he is open to that idea. Then go over your issues one by one and negotiate how you are going to handle them as a couple. Start with him...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how do i strengthen my relationship?, dear anne, difference between men and women
dear anne, difference between men and women, sensitive person: Dear Anne, I think the problem here might be unrealistic expectations of a relationship. One of the interactions people get into sometimes is that instead of simply asking for what they want in the moment, or being okay with the intentions of the other...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Getting Threw To The Impossible., stubborn man, 19 years
stubborn man, 19 years, scenarios: Hi Melissa, I need more detail before I can help you. How is he stubborn? Give me a couple of scenarios so that I can make suggestions. Are you trying to change something about him and he is rebelling or is he just stubborn about everything? Gotta know...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Update..., counseling, feelings
counseling, feelings, married: Alison, from everything you have shared, he does have strong feelings for you. I do not doubt it. From what we talked about before, he does not do the best job in expressing those feelings so it is almost like you have to read between the lines (smile)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: withdrawn angry boyfriend, therapy, counseling
therapy, counseling: Hello again, Emily, Try the Saban Free Clinic. This is the new name of the LA Free clinics. They have free medical, dental and short term therapy. They can also give you referrals. http://www.thesabanfreeclinic.org/ Give UCLA or USC a call they offer...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is it me or is it her, gaining weight
gaining weight: Hello Cormac, So, can you tell me a few things first? How old are the two of you? What does going on the pill have to do with losing the weight? Is it because when on the pill some women gain more weight? And, what does she want? Why has she given up being...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Do I let him go, break, depression
break, depression, loss of work: Hello Maggie, It sounds like there are a couple of issues working against the two of you right now. First, he may feel low of the self-worth barometer, due to his inability to find a job. I ve been getting a lot of requests for advice lately due to this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Advise needed PLEASE, disrespect
disrespect: Hello Sue, I think your boyfriend really likes you (if not loves you). But that s not enough, because I think he has feelings for you that are conditional. He likes part of what you have to offer, but the other parts he avoids or tries to change. He...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: army relationship, the
the : Hello Lisa, I think that in this circumstance I would suggest you hold off on telling him you love him. It could go either way, but I think you should let him know that you care for him deeply, and that you can t wait for him to come back and that you will...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Break up/break after heated arguement, arguement, time in the world
arguement, time in the world, last straw: Hello Daniel- This is a hard situation.. She is handling the news of her mother in what ever way feels natural to her. She may be avoiding you under the pretense that you will get her to open up when she may just want to pretend it doesn t exist right now....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Building love, guilt, friendship
guilt, friendship, self-esteem: Hi Ingrid, I am struggling with forgiving myself and struggling with my self-esteem. I was trying to please everyone, not hurt anyone but hurt all involved and myself most of all. This is indeed what it all comes down to. You are a good person...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: broken up, saying things, fourth year
saying things, fourth year, 6 years: Dear criselle, Sounds like he finally believed you after threatening him and telling him that you thought you should see other people. People don t realize that their words are real and others will finally believe them. I don t know if he will come back,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Commitment level, adult man, commitment level
adult man, commitment level, weeknight: Diane, I am not sure how he will take this, but if you are feeling stuck and frustrated, something needs to give. If a man is in his 40 s nearly 3 years into a relationship, and has the airtight excuse that his ex did him wrong, he s using that to control...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Crushed heart...another update., lose
lose: Hi Alison, He does care about you...a great deal. I think he is scared about committing right now and what he might see as moving too fast. I say this because he is so focused on work and yet not wanting to lose you either. I think he knows you are ready...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is he with me through choice or weakness?, insecurity
insecurity: Hello Sunshine, First, some questions: How long have you two dated? What indication has he given you that might imply that he is dating you merely for your age and looks? I d like to know if this concern of yours is based on his actions, or based on what...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know what to do, flirting, passion
flirting, passion: Hello Claire, You are incredibly mature to have the control not to confront her. Yes, what she did was wrong, but really the beef you need to have is with your boyfriend, not this other girl. If your boyfriend is fully committed to you, no amount of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't want to loose him, first moment, 33 years
first moment, 33 years, time in my life: Hi. Yes you are doing right. You want a partner that is equal where both of you are willing to work on the relationship and have compassion for each other. He seems more worried about his feelings and certainly does not recognize the terrible thing you have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Crushed heart...another update., wife material, self confidence
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Crushed heart...another update., wife material, self confidence, real friends

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know what to do, female coworker, man boy
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I don't know what to do, female coworker, man boy, mutual trust

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: fiance might not trust me?, frustrated, communication
frustrated, communication: Hello Kim, There s probably some other issue that s going on that you are not aware of. This incidental annoyance really probably is an overreaction to whatever the bigger issue is. He may or may not even realize what s really been bugging him, but he needs...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help, couples counseling, fear
couples counseling, fear, past: Hi Craig, Your honesty is wonderful. Have you shared this with her? What I am hearing is that you care about this person a great deal and want more. The fact that it is not happening as you would hope is making it difficult. Craig, it would not surprise...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help, Long distance relationship, flirting
Long distance relationship, flirting: Hello Craig, To be honest, that question can t be answered with a blanket statement. It really depends on the parameters, the comfort level, the history and the trust that has already been forged in a relationship. For some couples, her actions are incredibly...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help Us, distant lover
distant lover: Hello Khadija, How long have you been together? When did this change start? Was it slow or sudden? How do you know he loves you? What does he say when you ask him to make love? How is he distant? Leon Scott Baxter America s Romance Guru http://www.couplescommittedtolove.co...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: hi, long distance relationship, connecting with another person
long distance relationship, connecting with another person, solid foundation: Thanks for the clarification. My advice is still about the same. Be truly interested in her--what she thinks, what she feels, what she likes, what she dislikes. Listen with your heart. Give her specific and sincere compliments, not to flatter her, but to let...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insecurity, low self esteem, overthinking
low self esteem, overthinking, beautiful flowers: Hi Nat. Two things. When you do not trust a situation you do not trust yourself. The way to overcome your problem is to change your thinking and look at life differently. The first thing to do is to accept life as it is; and that is that when we came here...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Its Hard, trust, break up
trust, break up: Hello Michael, First off, it s hard to believe that she left you for a minor incident . What else has been going on in the relationship to bring you two to this level? Is it just the petty stuff you were tripping about, or was there more? Well, to be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Lack of communication, intimacy , in new relationship, trust, texting
trust, texting: Hello Sandra, The most glaring statement you made in your correspondence to me was you suspect him to be a cheater or a drug abuser. If this is a new relationship and you only communicate by text, and he s only texting you every few days and you think...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Long distance relationship., awkward silence
awkward silence: Hello Chris, Yes, I certainly do. My suggestion is that the two of you DO something as quickly as possible. When you are actually out and about doing you automatically have a topic to talk about and the conversation flows naturally if that thing you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Lost Interest in sex, sex drive
sex drive: Hello Kimberly, Sex is ALWAYS exciting at the beginning of a relationship, because it s new. you re with a new partner. And, often, it s something that we may not have been doing for awhile. As the novelty of the relationship wears off (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_10_fades.php),...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How much longer I should wait?, interpersonal problems, 9 months
interpersonal problems, 9 months, libido: Dear Lea, This is the deal. You have different goals in the relationship than your boyfriend. You want more than he can give. He is going to school and preparing to become financially stable and that is his priority, which is the way it should be at this...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i love my boyfriend but..., art house films, dear heart
art house films, dear heart, dumb person: Hi. No one ever is perfect or fills all our needs. Only you know whether you would get tired of someone who is not intellectually on your level. It will work if you accept him like he is and not try to change him. Love the socks off of him and he will love...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: i love my boyfriend but..., family, intelligence
family, intelligence, connection: Hello Ayley, It s great that experts in the field of love, like myself, offer insight to couples about what true love is, but to be honest, we write about what we have learned based large numbers of people and studies. But, what it really comes down to,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Marriage, dr laura schlesinger, laura schlesinger
dr laura schlesinger, laura schlesinger, professional counselor: Hi. forgive the misunderstanding. That puts a different light on things. I do think you have a legitimate complaint, however, and I think reading this book could help you tremendously. I think that developing self-confidence is important, and also if you are...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: In Need of Advice, stay at home mom, mother 2
stay at home mom, mother 2, stay at home: Hello Breanna, This is a VERY common problem. Generally the parent that goes to work really does not understand the work involved with raising children. The problem here is that the only way he can understand is to be left at home for a few days alone...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: what to do next, booty call, abusive relationship
booty call, abusive relationship, serious relationship: Dear Holley, The first thing you need to do to ease some of this tension is to tell your mother that you love her and always will love her but that you will not allow her to say anything negative about your boyfriend any more and if she does, you will get...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationship hanging by a thread and she wont talk to me to tell me why, relationships, honesty
relationships, honesty, respect: Hi Jamie. I think this calls for a good hard look at your values and at what really matters to you. Healthy, lasting relationships are built on honesty and integrity, so messing people around doesn t really fit with that picture. It s also important to be...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Relationships, dating in college/high school
dating in college/high school: Hello Claire, I am going to be perfectly blunt with you. The situation you two are about to embark upon is very tough. It s not impossible to survive, but is rather difficult. Although he physically won t be very far away, going to college is a big step...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy...?, wonderful man, reassurance
wonderful man, reassurance, financial security: Dear Sara, Moving in before marriage is always a very bad idea because of just what is happening to you but since you are already there perhaps this might work. Never tell a guy you want to talk to him as he immediately goes on the defensive. A man feels...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy...?, wonderful man, reassurance
wonderful man, reassurance, financial security: Hello Sara- This is a common issue so don t feel alone. The question here isn t about whether or not he is giving you continuous reassurance as much as it is about whether or not he is giving you reason to need it. Is he doing anything that is giving you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy?, wonderful man, reassurance
wonderful man, reassurance, financial security: Hello Sara- This is a common issue so don t feel alone. The question here isn t about whether or not he is giving you continuous reassurance as much as it is about whether or not he is giving you reason to need it. Is he doing anything that is giving you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy...?, wonderful man, reassurance
wonderful man, reassurance, financial security: Dear Sara, To be honest and blunt . . . stop worrying! You have a promising future and it sounds like a fairly stable relationship. I think all the change is just shaking you, not him. Besides, even if the worst happened and it doesn t last forever, you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy...?, vulnerable, feelings
vulnerable, feelings, honesty: Hi Sara, I appreciate your honesty with your feelings here. I hope he knows this as well. Share with him your feeling vulnerable. Let him know you are not used to this kind of situation and how much you value him and the relationship. Let him know you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How to get reassurance without seeming needy..., reassurance, dependence
reassurance, dependence: Hello Sara, It sounds as though things have been going well for quite some time. Now, that there are two new variables in the equation, you are perceiving that things may be going awry. The first variable is that you two have moved in together. That...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Can this relationship be saved?, frustrated boyfriend
frustrated boyfriend: Hello Diana, It sounds to me as though he feels as though he is being pulled in two different directions. His family obviously doesn t care for you. And, he has strong ties to them. He s had them for his entire life. It s hard to walk away from them. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What sort of relationship is this, karmic connection, abusive relationship
karmic connection, abusive relationship, feelings of love: Dear Madhvi, Your letter was addressed to Todd but I received it so I will go ahead and answer it. When you love a married man it appears to be much more than it really is. Since you do not live with him you do not see his faults like if you were married...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: tough love..., god parents, stubborn person
god parents, stubborn person, tough love: Hello Jeremy- Sometimes the best thing to do can seem like the hardest and in this case I think it will take some work on your part. I believe you need to find a way to give her some space so that she has the opportunity to figure out what she wants....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: tough love..., friend, friend zone
friend, friend zone, ex: Hello Jeremy- Sometimes the best thing to do can seem like the hardest and in this case I think it will take some work on your part. I believe you need to find a way to give her some space so that she has the opportunity to figure out what she wants. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: tough love..., angst, counseling
angst, counseling, family: Jeremy, I like how you said you are not ready. Good. Then please don t project your angst about the future onto her, meaning be focused on just a friendship and not more right now. There is obviously a deep connection here and any pressure she feels...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: unaffection..., trust, passion
trust, passion, flirting: Hello Tom, There are a lot of variables to look at in your situation. First, I would be a bit wary if my 24 year old girlfriend was spending the night at the home of a guy in his forties, one who has received a sexy photo of her. I know that he is going...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: What am I doing wrong?, Couple, Coaching
Couple, Coaching, Fighting: Personally I believe trust is the foundation to any long term relationship. Fighting is going to happen from time to time but you shouldn t feel as though you are constantly trying to prove yourself. I can not tell you if he will compromise or not, I can say...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Alone time, enlisted rank, personality traits
enlisted rank, personality traits, combat zone: Hi. Explain to him that people are born with over 60 personality traits. Some people have traits that incline them to have higher social needs than others and some people need alone time. It is nothing personal, but just the way people are genetically built....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Army Relationship, Long distance relationship, trust
Long distance relationship, trust, infidelity: Hello Kayla, Long distance relationships (LDRs) are notoriously tough, but not impossible. You just need to know why they are so difficult, and work around those obstacles. I think this link might be enlightening (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_9_away.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: advice for the past, control
control: Hello Marie, So, if you two come from the same circle of friends, he knew at least a bit about your past going into this relationship. Yes, I can understand him feeling a bit uncomfortable thinking that maybe one of his buddies has gotten intimate with...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: can I be with my BF forever?, trust
trust: Hello BigPanda, You are absolutely right. He s taking out what his exes did to him on you. They cheated, but he distrusts you. It s too bad, but it makes sense. I mean, if every woman he has been with has left him, how can he not assume that this is how...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend in law school, trsut
trsut: Hello Malorie, Have you talked with him about how you feel? That s your first step. You need to be sure to communicate your feelings so he can choose to react or not. The best way to do this is via I Statements (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_14_istatements.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused on feelings, couples, behaviors
couples, behaviors: Hi Angie, Now I am convinced that couples and/or parenting would be imperative with the different styles here. I do wonder if the little girl is acting out some anxiety about a future all together. That said, it is indeed up to dad to address her behaviors....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, Wary, status quo, serious relationship
status quo, serious relationship, trust issues: Dear Lynn, Him not deleting his membership on a singles site, or at least his texting someone from that is a red flag. However, without really knowing both sides and the intentions, etc. it is difficult for me to judge. I will say that relationships...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confused, ex, boyfriend
ex, boyfriend: Hi Fiona, I can only imagine how being hurt in the past would definitely come up here. Have you shared this past pain with your boyfriend? Does he truly understand your concern about moving into the flat he co-owns? Would it matter to you if the ex was...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confused, communication, moving in
communication, moving in: Hello Fiona, Well, you seem ambivalent about a lot of little things, but the big picture reveals that you are in love and are growing to know one another better. You should read this about what love is (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/whatlove.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Emotionally unstable, time passion, serious relationship
time passion, serious relationship, man kind: Hello Rena, Yep. You are wasting your time. Passion in the moment is not enough to hold a relationship together and this man is not willing to go beyond the current status. You made it easy for him to just have fun . If you want a serious relationship...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Faith?, holding onto the past
holding onto the past: Hello Ruben, It sounds like you met an incredible woman, but that was an amazing moment when two lives crossed for an instant. then, you both continued on your lives paths. Keep that moment as a memory and know that maybe one day your paths may cross again......

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Friendship, employment, counseling
employment, counseling, friends: Hi Jared, The economy has impacted so many of us. Since you have been the one to support your friends, it is quite possible they either 1) don t know the extent of your struggles or 2) don t know how to help since they are the ones used to asking for...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I fix my dying relationship?, trust, drinking
trust, drinking, marriage: Hello Sarah, First, don t marry the guy... at least not yet. He may be great and you may love him, but there are many reasons that marriage is not quite the right step now. Many couples believe that being married will magically fix any of the problems...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: When to give up or keep fighting, anger issues, therapy
anger issues, therapy, parenthood: Hello Dominique, It sounds like you really understand the importance of raising your daughter in a strong family unit, and if that means that it s stronger without dad, you are willing to make that compromise. You mentioned that you need some work also,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Help?, Long distance relationship
Long distance relationship: Hello James, Long distance relationships are so hard to survive, but not impossible. It s because the two of you change each day little by little. When you a re together, you accommodate for your partner s changes, and you don t even notice them, but when...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Honeymoon period over or just not compatible, police caution, honeymoon phase
police caution, honeymoon phase, honeymoon period: Dear Alexia; I am not sure about this. Some things I think you can work on and be okay but his temper/anger is a real red flag. As I really look at this, the main thing that bothers me about the whole thing is his appreciating you for who you are and your...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The hardest decision of my life, trust, taking a break
trust, taking a break: Hello Kerri, Why do you need to make such a drastic decision right now? You tell me you have a home together. You ve been together eight years, and overall you have had a good relationship. It sounds to me that the only problem is that because you have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Got in a huge fight..., punished, communication
punished, communication: Hello again, Alison, He doesn t have the right to punish you. He is not your father. So, if he wants to attempt to do so, he has that right, but you get to decide if it s a punishment or not. Once you decide then you have the control that you need. ...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Idk Help me, self-confidence, trust
self-confidence, trust, ambition: Hello Katie, It sounds like your boyfriend really has grown close to you quickly. From what you have told me I am assuming that he may have not had much stability in his life, and he s afraid that this relationship will not be stable either. If you have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do i know if he shares the same feelings?, friendship, feelings
friendship, feelings: Thank you Juliana. Let me generalize and say we guys do not do the best job showing our feelings. Most of us were not shown how to do so when we were young. In fact, we usually come to the conclusion that sadness is bad and that we should deal with our...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Is it too late to save??, hitting, infidelity
hitting, infidelity, saving my marriage: Hello again, Chris, You have been pushed too far, and as a result you went over the line. I know that you know this, but now that you know that she has pushed you to this degree, it s time for you to start to distance yourself from her. You want to save...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I'm loosing, relationship, counseling
relationship, counseling: Hi Lisa, Wow! 10 years in and there are still trust issues? That is definitely a problem. My hunch would be that these issues even existed before the start of your relationship together. This is not fair to you and I can only imagine your dilemma at...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I'm ruining our relationship, communication, relationship
communication, relationship, counseling: Michelle, there is so much here. First, I want to make sure whatever medical condition you are explaining is addressed. Please stay under the care of a physician. Access state resources if finances are an issue. Michelle, the relationship seems to have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Need Advice on new Relationship, 2nite, facebook
2nite, facebook, new girl: Dear Graame, I think you need to be open with her and tell her that you really like her and at some point would like to date her, when she is ready for a relationship, but tell her that you noticed she seemed to like your friend. Just ask her if she is...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Need advice, affair, was it love?
affair, was it love?, breaking up: Hello again, Madhvi, I think you should tell him what you told me. Your concern was that you don t see this relationship going anywhere because he has a wife and family. Ask him what he envisions for this relationship in five years and how does he propose...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Newlywed help, cheating, masturbation
cheating, masturbation: Hello again, Christy, Again, I think the best thing to do is ask if he s been masturbating. That would explain the new lubricant bottle. He s been using it because he s been avoiding passing what he thinks he has to you. So, he satisfies himself alone,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I need help with my relationship, bump in the road, accounting firm
bump in the road, accounting firm, doings: Dear Dana, Hello. A couple of things. He sounds like he is doing what he thinks he can to assure you that he is not cheating on you and to make up for his cheating. The circumstances of his cheating, however, seem quite frivolous. It is not like he was...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I need your help with my relationship., jealousy, opposite ender friends
jealousy, opposite ender friends: Hello Le a, It s so hard when you are a teen to accept that your significant other can have friends of the opposite sex. We tend to believe the only person they need of our gender is us. But, really, it s okay (actually, is really healthy) to have opposite...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I need a lot of help! FAST!!!, Loss of passion, attention
Loss of passion, attention: Hello Jansen, So, it sounds like she loves you, but is looking for the attention of someone else. that probably means that she feels that you are not paying the attention to her that you used to, or that the relationship is losing its passion and excitement....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Older man dating a younger woman, couple
couple: You are clearly wise Herbert. Try to do some reflecting of what you hear her say and then ask if this is correct. Let her know this is new for you but important as well. I might suggest even a few couples sessions together to have someone else in the middle,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Past Trauma, committed suicide, 19 years
committed suicide, 19 years, 9 months: Hi. it is hard to let go because you are a nurturer and want to fix him. You see his potential, even though he did not treat you so well. It is easy to get confused between compassion/caring and love. True love is based on respect and brings the best out of...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: please help me, rejection
rejection: Lester, She is reacting right now so I would not take this as rejection. Be patient. Ask her if there is something she would like from you. If things are calm, ask her what you are doing that is selfish. In the mean time, Lester, please think about...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: He's ready to change...now what?, trust, taking a break
trust, taking a break, languages of love: Hello Miranda, First off, you should know that after 6 to 18 months in a relationship, very often the passion fades and things can get kind of bland. Partners even turn into what we had never seen initially. It s all explained in this report (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_10_fades.php)....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: rebuilding confidence in my relationship, trust, cheating
trust, cheating: Hello Shannon, Trust is a tough thing to get under control. It s so easy to lose, but can be tough to get back. I can t tell you if he is trustworthy or not, but based on his past, you have every right to have your guard up at this point. He wasn t there...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: relationship advice, full time job, honeymoon stage
full time job, honeymoon stage, ups and downs: HI Amanda, Most unhappiness in relationships come from unfulfilled expectations. You built a dream and it just didn t happen and that makes you bitter. If you want to be happy take responsibility for your own happiness and don t expect him to fulfill you....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Sex less marriage, loss of sexual attraction
loss of sexual attraction: Hello again, Laxman, Do you not find her attractive because of her size? The women you fantasize about, are they smaller? Was your wife smaller a few years back when you found her attractive? It sounds as though she is still sexually attracted to you,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Stuck, think time
think time: Hello again, Sid, As for question number one, if someone is treating you poorly and you accept it and take them back, you absolutely are training them to continue this treatment, but I don t see giving him time to deal with the tour as well as wrapping...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Stuck at an impasse, commit, commitment
commit, commitment, boundary: Hi Sid, Yes. I am a little concerned too. Is there anyone else that he knows/trusts, perhaps within family, that you can reach out to and have them keep an eye on him? I am still wondering the about the need/will to sell his house. Sounds like something...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: seeking advice, facebook, mutual friends
facebook, mutual friends, red flag: Dear Tony, It is important to decide what you want and what messages you are giving her. If you are giving her messages that say, I love you and want to be with you, then she is getting the wrong message. Personally, I would not like her contacting...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: How do I get my significant other to be more affectionate, lost girl, serious things
lost girl, serious things, amazing sex: Hi Jamie, It is hard to say what is going on but you made everything so easy for him that he hasn t had to work for you and is now taking you for granted. By having sex and getting pregnant before marriage it puts you in the weak position where you have...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: should i stay or go?, new parents, cheating
new parents, cheating, family: Hello Dada, Let me start by telling you that although you should consider your family s opinions, ultimately being with him or not is YOUR decision. You are old enough to decide what s right for you or not. And, if you make a mistake, that s part of the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: will she text me, trust, communication
trust, communication: Hello David, You be patient and you wait and get yourself composed. Wait a few days. She should contact you. If she doesn t, then you contact her, and ask what s going on. I have to assume that there have already been trust issues in this relationship,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: A tough Situation , on break and away from college., long distance relationships, winter vacation
long distance relationships, winter vacation, hardships: Dear Aaron, So often, couples grow apart at your age and when going in different directions such as college, etc. The best thing to do is to have an understanding that you will still date but be free to date others. I know that is difficult but if you two...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: I want to trust him!
Hi. It is not him you do not trust but yourself. Another problem might be that you give all and really demand very little in return. You have two children by two different fathers which shows me that you have given way too much without asking what you should...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: is it me?, trust, communication
trust, communication: Hello Jess, If this is serious, and it sounds like it is, then you definitely need to communicate with him. Communication is one of the cornerstones of a strong and healthy relationship. you two want to get married. There will be tough topics throughout...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ADVICE NEEDED, sadness, hopeless
sadness, hopeless: I am sorry Sr. This is not easy I am sure. It sounds like the diagnosis from the recent doctor s visit has left him angry and depressed. He may not see hope. Was the diagnosis terminal is what I am wondering. Do you have contact with any others in his...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: ADVICE NEEDED, dr appointment, nationality
dr appointment, nationality, cancer: Dear SR, You need to know that men don t do well when they cannot control a situation. Some women do, also; but men tend to go into their caves when faced with such a serious situation while women tend to reach out to other women for comfort and support....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Boyfriend's ex-wife disregards boundaries, 9 year old girls, girls room
9 year old girls, girls room, spare key: Dear Sandee, I have really given some consideration to your question. I am not my husband s first wife and there have been many boundary issues. So, here is how I have handled my situation. First, children are separate from the ex. Second, the children,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Boyfriend & His View On Porn, sexual tension, vicky
sexual tension, vicky, second time: Dear Vicky, I didn t want to just give you a standard answer that has been around for years, but in my research and counseling experience, the standard answer is a component of the problem. Pornography can be an addiction. Actually any reading or viewing...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Bruce 12-2-69, astrology
astrology: Sorry Dina, I don t do that kind of romance advise. I can t read the stars or use numerology nor astrology. But, if you have any specifics you want to discuss with me, I d be glad to help. Thanks and good luck. -- Leon Scott Baxter (America s...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: To break up. Or not to break up., taking a break, creaking up
taking a break, creaking up: Hello Laura, As I read your post I was hearing all of the reasons you were giving me for breaking up with him. It almost sounded as if you were hoping I d tell you to end it with him: he s not as intellectually capable as you; he s loud, he s sexist, etc....

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Communication, communication
communication: Hello Emily, Why not call him or stop by his home? Leon Scott Baxter (America s Romance Guru) Author of A Labor With Love and Out of the Doghouse www.CouplesCommittedToLove.com Love is not what makes the world go round. Romance is. And,...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Confused, take a break, long distance relationship
take a break, long distance relationship, still maried: Hello Stephanie, There are many variables in this equation. Let me start by saying that you two were smitten at first, but he realized when the dust settled that he was involved with a married woman, and that is probably the what weighs the most on his...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: communication confusion, unhappy relationship, mixed signals
unhappy relationship, mixed signals, strange way: Hi RJ; It is very easy to flirt and have fun through the internet, etc. People tend to let their hair down, because it is safe without any commitment because it isn t real. So, you really don t know how she feels. You have let her know how you feel and...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: confusion, ex, confusion
ex, confusion, relationship: Hi Stephanie, I think you are most wise to be exploring possibilities here. Not knowing exactly about your past, the fact that you shared cheating by your ex is certainly going to affect us. Honestly, if that had happened to me, I would be experiencing...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: how to continue a good relationship..., effort, I statements
effort, I statements: Hello Matt, I love that you are putting out the effort in this relationship. You have control over that. You don t have control over her, though. So, at some point if you are the only one investing in this relationship, you may need to reconsider your investment...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Don't Know What To Do, relationship killer, look into your heart
relationship killer, look into your heart, resentments: Dear Rhiannon, If you both have different goals and really want different life styles that is pretty much a relationship killer. Look into your heart and see if you really want this or not because if you keep it going because you think you should keep it...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Drifting Apart for no apparent reason?, passion gone
passion gone: Hello Lauren, First I think it s interesting that although you both feel as though something is wrong neither of you blame the other. You both think that you are the cause of the problem. You both feel as though you are not fulfilling the wishes of the...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: My Ex, just friends
just friends: Hello Stephanie, You have every right to see someone else. Your life is not slated to stop because he has difficulties, but I do understand that you care about him. So, you don t want to flaunt it in his face that you are talking to someone else, but you...

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Forgiven, not forgotten, crotch area, sad thing
crotch area, sad thing, senior year: Dear Todd, First of all, this guy is probably just bragging about what he wished he could have done with your girlfriend and would like others to think. So, I would believe what your girlfriend says about the incident. The fact that he tried all week to...